Unf*ck Your Relationships

Unf*ck Your Relationship may be for the girlies (mostly) but this one? This one's for the boys. Okay, real talk, this podcast is for everyone. (Love you all, proud of you for being here, XOXO.) But today, we are going to be having some guy talk…because we have an actual guy on the podcast. That's right: the elusive man has appeared on Unf*ck Your Relationships. Everyone please welcome Jack Bohannan! Jack is a certified somatica relationship coach who combines the experiential approach of somatica with elements of the Ideal Parent Figure, or IPF, protocol by Daniel Brown, which is a method developed to treat attachment issues. He supports women in healing their relationships with men and empowers men to relate better to women and themselves. This one's going to be juuuicy, friends. I can feel it. And don't worry…I know you've got questions for the man in the room. Jack's going to help us get to the bottom of some of the greatest mysteries surrounding men…and maybe even turn the tables on me a little bit.   WORK WITH JACK: Are you an anxiously attached girly? Struggling to connect with an avoidant partner? Get Jack's FREE webinar now: polarityunscripted.com/heal  Ready to release old attachment patterns + create happier, healthier connections? Work with Jack: polarityunscripted.com    CONNECT WITH JACK: Connect with Jack on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polarityunscripted/    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

I've said it before, I'll say it again, I'll say it every fucking time I have a guest on the podcast: I am so fucking excited to introduce you all to one of my beautiful clients, Kellie Irene! Kellie has done Awakening Her, The Experience, and my retreats, so she's been in my world for a while. She absolutely embodies main character energy. She's bold, courageous, vivacious…I love being around her, and I have to bring her magic into this space so you all can experience it, too. But Kellie didn't start out this confident. And this is one of the most f*cking impressive “how it started vs. how it's going” stories you'll ever hear. But I'll let Kellie tell the story…   CONNECT WITH KELLIE: Be the first to listen when Kellie launches her podcast, THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS: https://www.instagram.com/thewomanofyourdreamspodcast/  Follow Kellie's wrestling journey: https://www.instagram.com/iamskylarcruize/  Connect with Kellie: https://www.instagram.com/kellieirenee/    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

“I'm too needy. I ask for too much. I'm too emotional.” “I'm not strong enough. I'm not confident enough. I'm not cruisy enough.” Too much AND not enough…all at the same time? Yes, it is possible…and no, you're not the only one. I see this shit every day in my work. Women who feel simultaneously like they are too much, too needy, too difficult, while also feeling like they aren't enough to be chosen and cherished.  That pendulum swing? It's no fucking joke—and until you figure out how to regulate it, you're going to keep swinging until you're so dizzy you can't even think straight. Tired of your too-muchness? Ready to kiss not-enoughness goodbye? Let's get it done, love.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I can't believe I'm about to say this (well, I actually can) but… WELCOME TO THE 200TH EPISODE OF UNF*CK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! Fuuuck, has this been a JOURNEY. Most podcasts don't even break double digits, let alone triple, let alone hit fucking 200. Can I just take a second to brag on myself? Way to go, Michelle. I'm so proud of you. And I'm proud of YOU, my loves; every single one of you that has shown up wanting to do the work. Wanting to learn. Wanting to reconnect to yourself and to others. I see you. I'm so fucking proud of you for being here. You've given me the gift of my dream come true…so I want to give something back today. I reached out and asked for your relationship situations you could use a little coaching on, and you all DELIVERED.  Today, we're playing a little game called TRUTH OR TRIGGER. Let's see if those stories you're telling yourself about your relationships are ACTUALLY the truth…or a story your triggers are trying to disguise as the truth.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

So. Let's review. You're a high-achieving, self-aware woman. You've clocked your patterns and traced them back to their cause. You've been in therapy. You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've done breathwork, meditation, EFT tapping, all the things… And you haven't made any real fucking progress. Why? Why have you done all the things, but aren't getting “better?” Because mindset work isn't enough. Because awareness without embodiment is just you doing mental cartwheels AROUND your trauma, not actually integrating it. Let's talk about how to fix that.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

When I tell you this particular guest of mine is one of the most joyous, radiant, embodied women that I know…I hope you know that I fucking mean it. And I'm not just saying it because she's my client. Meet Chené O'Brien: a client of mine, an embodiment coach, and the owner of the hottest f*cking accent ever. Chené's healing journey started from a place of constant self-abandonment…but she clocked that pattern, embraced the pieces of herself that kept trying to throw her needs to the curb, and is now out here helping others connect to their own embodied wisdom. Her story brought me to tears. Genuinely. And now it's your turn. So without further ado…let's turn the mic over to Chené, shall we?   WORK WITH CHENÉ: Want to work with Chené? Uh, yeah you fucking do. Head to her website now to get started: https://embodieddelight.carrd.co/   CONNECT WITH CHENÉ: Follow Chené on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodied_delight?igsh=MTFpM2pnNHZiMzJ2MQ==   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It all happens so fast. One minute you're living your best life. You're hitting the gym. You're journaling. You're doing your embodiment practices. You're going out with your friends. You're going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love… And then you meet someone. It is astonishing how QUICKLY I've seen women go from their glow-up era to “Wait, did I say the right thing? Did I mess up? Oh, he wants to hang out Friday—I'd better cancel my plans. Did that come across as too needy? Was I too much? What if he—” GIRL. TAKE A BREATH. Even when you're a self-aware human, it's easy to get swept up in the excitement of a new relationship. You can easily end up abandoning yourself without even realizing it's happening…because when it does happen, it isn't anything catastrophic. It just…happens. A little here. A bit more there. Until suddenly, when something finally goes wrong in the relationship and you bother to look up at your life for the first time in a while, you realize that you don't even recognize the person you've become. But WHY do we do this—and how can we stop?   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Everybody talks about wanting a man who COMMUNICATES, who's HONEST, who CHOOSES YOU wholeheartedly… Until one actually shows up. And you go running like your f*cking ass is on fire. If you grew up without a secure attachment, your brain is wired to read insecurity as desirable. Which means your brain basically can't tell the difference between a bear attack and a man telling you he really, really likes you. Sound ridiculous? Yeah, no f*cking kidding. But it's true. And until you learn how to teach it otherwise, you're going to keep treating every emotionally available man like he's trying to eat you…and not in the fun way. So. Let's get you recalibrated, shall we?   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you've ever been ugly crying into your pillow, your chest aching like someone f*cking ripped your heart out, and said to yourself, “What the FUCK? I should be over this by now!” …Then this episode is for you, babe. Welcome to the fucking club. I've worked with hundreds of women, and all of us—including me—have experienced a similar feeling while going through a breakup: the feeling that we're taking too long to heal. That we “should have been over this by now.”  Yeah, so, bad news…grief doesn't give a shit about your schedule. You try to tell it that you're on Step 5 of your healing journey, so it's time for it to see itself out? It's going to tell you to fuck off with its WHOLE chest. Healing isn't pretty. It isn't quick. Hell, it doesn't even go in a straight line. But it does happen…even if you can't tell it's happening. Let me tell you how healing ACTUALLY works.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Do you ACTUALLY want him… Or does he just trigger your daddy wound? Ouch, right? But we really need to talk about it.  I was the QUEEN of daddy issues once upon a time. So trust me when I say I get exactly how addictive this pattern can be…and how f*cking fast we need to clock it, own it, and clean it tf up. If you're always dating the guy who's hot and cold with you, the guy who's there one second and gone the next, the guy whose attention and love you need to EARN… Congrats. You've probably got a gaping daddy wound that needs some stitching up…and this is where it starts.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

This one's going to sting, loves… But we need to talk about feminine energy. Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy. We're seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that's fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I'm also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment. And if you don't know the difference (or don't know shit about the feminine, period) don't stress. We're going to fix that right tf now.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

“You're too much.” “You're too emotional.” “Your standards are too high.” “You're too picky.” “You're asking for too much.” RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up. Listen to me very, very, very closely. You are not too much. “But Michelle, they said—” I don't give a shit. “But Michelle, I asked for—” Did I fucking ask? You are not too much. Period. Done. End of conversation.  And if people keep telling you you're “too much” then…maybe the problem isn't you. Maybe the problem is that you keep dating the wrong people.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

I hope you have a mirror on hand, babe…because you're about to take a good, long, hard look at yourself in it. Here's the thing: if you feel like you're always attracting the same emotionally unavailable men, I have good news and bad news. The good news? It's not bad luck—you're not just shit at picking men. The bad news? It's actually wired into you to want these kinds of men. “Wait, that sounds worse!” Yeah…sorry. But it's true. This pattern is wired into your system…and until you figure out how to get the wires uncrossed, you're going to keep repeating that pattern. But I have more good news—and more bad news. There is a way to break this pattern…if you sit down and acknowledge the actual common denominator in all of your failed relationships. You.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Buckle up and grab the burn cream, everyone… This is the story of how I got f*cking ROASTED by Dr. Gabor Maté. As most of you know, I recently went through a breakup, and there are a lot of f*cking complicated (and even “contrary”) emotions that come with that. So when I got to go and hear Dr. Gabor Maté speak—and then got the incredible opportunity to ask a question—I asked him how to navigate the clash of deep compassion and intense anger toward my partner. And what he had to say? I'm talking third-degree burn shit. Even though it was painful…it was something I really, really needed to hear. And I'm betting a lot of you need to hear it, too.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

So—we've talked before about how butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, etc. are actually signs of some fucking MAJOR dysregulation, not being in love… But what happens when you DO start avoiding that feeling…and you end up dating someone who's boring as batshit? On one hand, it is super fucking easy to mistake “safe” for “boring” when you're used to dating in dysregulation. But on the other…as my guest says on today's episode, we're not out here to do charity work. You don't need to date someone you don't have any interest in. So how do you tell the difference between obsession, boredom, and actual healthy love? The infamous Sabrina Zohar, relationship and dating coach and absolute brilliant badass, is here to lay it all out for us. You're going to want to take notes, babe.   WORK WITH SABRINA: Website: https://www.sabrinazohar.com/    CONNECT WITH SABRINA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Dsp24A82JkYRXytiA2qRt?si=gCgNRBDiSZOKkTGh8r_-SA&nd=1&dlsi=0d638797b2134735    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I got introduced to a new phrase (but not a new idea) by a recent Chappell Roan interview: Walk Away Energy. When asked how she stays so chill despite all her success, Chappell Roan said it was because she has “walk away energy.” And I absolutely had to sit down and talk about that. “Walk away energy”  is similar to the detachment idea we were talking about here recently. It's the idea that you are never, ever willing to stay in something that is past its expiration date; it's the concept that you trust yourself enough to walk away from something when it's over, or when someone isn't treating you the way you deserve. It's taking all those thoughts of “But what if this is the best I can get?” and throwing them the f*ck away.  If someone isn't meeting your standards, you don't have to stick around and tell them that you deserve to be treated better.  When you have walk away energy, you don't waste your time begging for the bare minimum. You just walk away. It sounds easier than it is…but once you master it, you'll find it's your most powerful tool for attracting the kind of relationship you ACTUALLY deserve.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It is truly so exciting to watch one of your clients blossom…and my guest this week, Abigail, is a perfect example. Just a short while ago, she was living in her spare bedroom, trying to “fix” herself for the sake of other people…and now, I've witnessed this woman blossom and come into her own as she embodies what it means to be a high-value woman. Too many of you think that these kinds of transformations aren't possible for you…which is why it's important to hear these stories from people who have actually DONE the thing.  This work, this change…it's for everyone. For me, for Abigail…and for you.   WORK WITH ABIGAIL: Arrange a boudoir photography session with Abigail: www.gingerephotography.com Get one month FREE working with Abigail in exchange for an honest review! Use coupon code “michellepanning” now:  www.abigailknows.com   CONNECT WITH ABIGAIL:  Listen to my guest episode on Abigail's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7l69B9CLs9KeY6zCytd5s1?si=t1WOYUQfQX-_S7L8Kgdr2Q  Abigail's Instagram: @kaizenlearninglabs, @gingerephotography Abigail's TikTok: @kaizenlearninglabs, @bosscamp101 The Kaizen Learning Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/64pxVLoQM8DjmjGtK2YgWF?si=_Mo_sEAmSvqAGthC1DqZEg    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Here's what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready? Let them. I'm serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won't pick their shit up off the floor even when you've asked a hundred times… Just let them. The “Let Them” theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is literally that simple. People are going to do what they're going to do whether you try to change it or not…so just let them. You'll be amazed how much weight lifts off your shoulders. However, as amazing as this framework is, I think there's a piece missing—and that piece is shadow work.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When you hear “detachment,” what do you think it means? If your mind went straight to the idea of apathy, not caring what happens or what you're doing, etcetera…you're not the only one.  But you're also wrong.  Detachment isn't apathy. Detachment is power. And when you master detachment…it's going to transform your whole motherf*cking life. Here are some of the things you need to detach from—and how to begin to let it all go.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Want to experience a profound transformation that lasts a lifetime? Sign up for the Retreats BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/alchemy-retreat-bundle-2026/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Well. We broke up. You probably got that from the title. But in case you were wondering…no, it's not clickbait.  My partner Drew and I have decided to split up. It's sad. And right. And so, so hard.  I'm grieving. I'm excited. I'm struggling. I'm hopeful. There is such duality in breakups, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the relationship might have been…and navigating them in a regulated, healthy way is a fucking BEAST. So it's a good thing I'm here to give you the play-by-play, yeah? Snap those headphones on and get ready to listen. Let's talk about my breakup…and everything that's changing behind the scenes.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Want to experience a profound transformation that lasts a lifetime?  The Retreats: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/alchemy-retreat-bundle-2026/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Two words: Pretty. Privilege. It's thrown in the faces of people who happen to be conventionally attractive to imply that they have no right to complain about their struggles, particularly if they struggle with confidence. “Well, you have the perfect body, so you can't be insecure.” “Well, you're pretty, so what do you have to feel bad about?” You know what's really not cute? Invalidating the experiences of other people based on their external reality. I've got my bestie Caitlin back on the podcast today, and we're going over all things CONFIDENCE: our own struggles with insecurity, why your external reality actually has fuck-all to do with how confident you are, our absolute cringiest moments (yeah, we're getting fucking real today), and ways to actually start boosting your confidence that have nothing to do with dieting, skincare, or anything else. Because it doesn't matter if you've got “pretty privilege” or not…insecurity can still eat you alive if you don't do the work.   WORK WITH CAITLIN: Website: https://completebycaitlin.com/    CONNECT WITH CAITLIN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin?igsh=eDVwdGx0a3h5c3Vr   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  This is not your average confidence course. Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Trying to be the perfect woman is killing your love life. I mean it—this little perfectionism thing you've got going on? It's not protecting you from anything, babe—it's actually keeping you stuck in the same patterns you've been playing out for your whole dating life. Perfectionism is not a protector—it's a prison. And until you get up the courage to show up as the person you actually are, not whatever kind of woman would be the perfect match for the guy you're seeing this month, you're not going to find that secure, healthy relationship you want so badly. So how do you clock this, own it, and clean it up? Here's what you need to watch out for…and what you need to do to quit the perfection game.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  This is not your average confidence course. Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Here's an exciting little secret for you… Did you know that you've been cast as the MAIN CHARACTER in your love life? In fact, you're not just the main character. You're the screenwriter. The casting director. The costume designer. The credits have YOUR name all over them, babe… So why are you still acting like the f*cking side character? Too many of you are out here acting like you have to apologize for wanting the spotlight + taking up space on the stage…when you OWN THE F*CKING STAGE. This is YOUR life. YOU are the writer, the actor, the EVERYTHING. And if you don't like how this little play is going for you… Maybe it's time to rewrite the script.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mce-feb-25/  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's 2025.  I don't know about you, but I'm so fucking excited it's a new year—and I don't plan to finish it as the same person I was when it started. I want to be UNRECOGNIZABLE by 2026…and I want to help you get there, too. I want this year to be your ultimate fucking glow-up. But first, we need to go over some pretty crucial perspective shifts. You CAN become the most confident, iconic, badass version of yourself. But not if you keep doing life the way you've been doing it…and not if you sit around refusing to take action to actually create some fucking change. Let's get to work.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mce-jan-25/  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

This one's for the anxiously attached girlies…and everyone, honestly, because there's some fucking gems in here. But if you have an anxious attachment style, these lessons go double for you, mmkay? Anxious attachment can feel like a life sentence. But the truth is, your attachment style IS something you can heal…but you have to start taking steps toward security. In today's episode, we're going to go over 24 lessons I want you to take out of 2024 and into 2025. And once you learn these lessons and put them into practice, you'll be shocked how quickly things can change for you. Like I always say…when it comes to changing our patterns, we have to learn to clock them, own them, and clean them up. And these lessons are a great way to start. Here's to 2025, bitches. Let's get you on your way to a secure relationship.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Ready to finally take action to transform your life in 2025? Apply for one-to-one mentorship with me: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's a question as old as relationships themselves...   "How do I know when it's time to break up?"   We've all asked ourselves this question one time or another...but almost no one really knows the answer.   It's not easy to look at a relationship and decide whether it's fixable or totally f*cked. But there are some symptoms that will start to pop up when things have taken a turn for the worse...and some questions we can ask ourselves to figure out exactly where we stand.   Stay and fight, or turn and run? Only you can answer that, love...but I can help you get there. Let's go over some of the signs that might be time to call it quits.     WORK WITH MICHELLE:    Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    Ready to finally take action to transform your life in 2025? Apply for one-to-one mentorship with me: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram:http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In 2025, we're not settling for f*cking crumbs anymore, babe. In 2025, it's time to become the center of your own love life; to become That Girl. That Bitch. The Dream Girl.  Whatever you want to call her, she's yours for the taking—if you can actually get off your ass and do the work to become her. No more putting everyone else's needs over yours. No more leading with your insecurities…or masking them with false perfection. No more criticizing your man into the ground, then wondering why he doesn't do what you ask him to do. Have no f*cking clue how to make that transformation? Welcome to this episode of UFYR, my love. Let's make it happen.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Ready to stop obsessing over texts, chasing unavailable men, and feeling like you're always one step away from being abandoned? Sign up for my FREE masterclass, CLINGY TO CONFIDENT: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/clingy-to-confident/    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

“He was everything I've ever wanted. How am I supposed to get over him?” Uh…you mean the guy you dated for two weeks, tops? Yeah…we need to chat about this, babe. Look, I'm not going to tell you that the timeframe of a relationship determines its emotional impact. It doesn't. What I AM going to tell you (because I've had to tell myself a million fucking times over) is that there's no way in hell you know this man well enough to say he's “the one” after two fucking weeks. “But we had so much fun together!” You went out for cocktails. Of course you had fun. I could have fun with a fucking broom if it took me out for drinks. “But we had such great chemistry!” Contrary to popular belief, chemistry ain't rare, babe. And telling yourself that story is going to get you into a heap of shit faster than you can say “the one that got away.” You're allowed to grieve the relationship you THOUGHT you were going to have. But if you're sitting around pining after a man you only knew for a couple weeks…hit play, girl. It''s time for a reality check.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Ready to stop obsessing over texts, chasing unavailable men, and feeling like you're always one step away from being abandoned? Sign up for my FREE masterclass, CLINGY TO CONFIDENT: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/clingy-to-confident/    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Today's episode is inspired by a question a client recently put forward… And the answer is not going to be easy for most of you to hear. This client said that she always gives people the benefit of the doubt, trying to offer the most generous assumptions when it comes to their behavior…but when it comes to her partner, she immediately thinks—and says—the worst about his behavior. Why does that happen? This is extremely common in relationships, particularly longer-term relationships. You've not only moved out of the honeymoon phase—when everything they do is the most adorable shit you've ever seen—but you've been with them long enough to build a level of safety and trust. Why are you more critical of your partner than anyone else? Because you think you can say whatever you fucking want and get away with it. Don't think that's true? Hit that play button. I'll show you what I mean.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I have a complicated relationship with vulnerability. When I first started this work, I couldn't even say the f*cking WORD. And even though I've gotten so much better about it…it's still terrifying. I don't want people to see me as less than perfect. I don't want them to see me struggle. Because what if they see I'm not perfect, that I don't have it all together, and I lose my credibility? What if they don't want to work with me anymore? But I choose to be vulnerable anyway. Even on one of the scariest platforms to be publicly vulnerable: social media. Social media is a GIFT. I wouldn't have the business I have if not for social media. But I also can't help wondering what kind of damage it's doing to us to have perfection shoved in our faces at every turn…and how we can take the good without getting caught up in the comparison game.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When you're fighting to win the argument, not to reconnect with your partner…everyone loses. We all looove winning an argument…at first. It feels f*cking great to get the last word. The high of nailing that last comeback is addicting… And so, so fleeting. It feels good in the moment to “win”...but the thing is, you haven't actually “won.” In fact, odds are good that both your partner AND you have lost something through this conflict. If you're struggling with unresolved conflict in your relationship—as in, there's an issue or an argument that just keeps coming back up between you and your partner, and you guys just keep going around and around and around on the fucking conflict carousel… You need to decide whether you're willing to compromise, or if you need to get off the fucking ride.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Access my FREE masterclass, CLINGY TO CONFIDENT, a masterclass made for my anxiously attached babes: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/clingy-to-confident/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I am on the edge of my fucking seat today about getting to introduce you to my newest guest: one of my OG clients from all the way back in Connected Woman circa 2020, Steph Normoyle! Steph Normoyle is a somatic practitioner and the founder of Club Soma, a wellness space for women seeking true embodied transformation—without the bullshit. As a somatic practitioner, she helps women connect with their bodies, rediscover their desires, and express themselves with boldness and integrity.  But back in 2020, Steph couldn't even get connected to HER body, let alone help other women connect to themselves…and her transformation since is absolutely fucking beautiful. You have to hear Steph's story…and hear about the work she's been doing since.   WORK WITH STEPH: Join Steph's free workshop, SOMA & SIP: https://www.clubsoma.com.au/soma-sip Join Steph's group program, A TASTE OF YOUR OWN MEDICINE:  https://www.clubsoma.com.au/group-program   CONNECT WITH STEPH: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_clubsoma/  Website: https://www.clubsoma.com.au   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

People have some intense fucking beliefs surrounding anxious attachment… “Anxious attachers are unstable.” “Anxious attachers are just way too fucking emotional.” “My anxious attachment means I'll never have a relationship—I don't deserve it.” No, no, and fuuuucking no. Anxious attachment causes some wild behaviour…but none of it makes you unworthy of love. And like all behaviours, we can find ways to clock them, own them, and clean them up. Let's go over seven myths about anxious attachment…and whether it's possible to heal your attachment style.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Here's a question for you: Are you a controlling partner? If your gut reaction was “FUCK no! I'm not controlling at all!” or “Not a chance, my partner's the controlling one!” or some other fucking enraged denial… Let me change the question. Have you ever cancelled plans with your friends to meet up with the guy you've been on a couple dates with? Have you ever apologized first in a fight…even if you're not at fault? Have you ever dropped everything in order to be there for your partner, regardless of your own needs? Then I had to burst your fucking bubble, babe, but yeah…you're a controlling partner. You're just getting away with it by using the sneakiest bitch in the controlling behavior pile: covert controlling. Never heard of it? I'm about to change that.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I'm going to be honest… People love to joke about something being healing to their inner child. But if you're not ACTUALLY doing the work to heal your inner child, well… Bad news. She's actually going to f*ck up your love life for the foreseeable future. I'm not saying this to put you down—it's just the truth. If your inner child is acting up, it's going to ruin your ability to have a secure, stable relationship…and a lot of other important things, too. You wouldn't let your six-year-old self behind the wheel of your car. Don't let her drive your love life, either.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's no secret that shadow work is the most popular girl in school when it comes to the personal development world. It's trendy. It's everywhere. Everyone's talking about it, including me… But before you get into shadow work, you have to spend some time with her less sexy sister.  Everyone, say hello to ego work…and say goodbye to your aversion to vulnerability. Because without vulnerability, you actually can't form fulfilling, deep, intimate relationships with others…romantic or platonic.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

What do getting attacked by a bear and your partner not answering your text have in common? Absolutely f*cking nothing…but according to your dysregulated nervous system? It can't spot the differences between those two pictures. When you're living with a dysregulated nervous system, everything is a threat. And when everything is a threat, you're always living in one of four modes: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. None of which will allow for a healthy, connected relationship. Your nervous system is fucking cooking your body and brain, babe. And until you learn to regulate that shit, it's going to keep on blocking you from the love you want so badly. So how do you know when your nervous system is dysregulated…and how do you start getting it to chill tf out? Let's go over it together.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

We talk all the time about why you need to do the work…but what happens AFTER you do the work? One of my long-time clients, Ashley LaButte, is here to share her story. From realizing something needed to change, to committing herself to actually DOING THE WORK, to finally manifesting something she's been working for years to manifest…her story truly displays how f*cking beautiful your life can get when you actually commit to doing the thing. You can't just throw money or intention at something and expect it to work. You have to show up for yourself…or nothing's ever going to change for the better. If you're just fine with your life the way it is now, then I want you to ask yourself this… Are you really fine with life being “fine?” Does “fine” feel like all you're meant for? I think I know the answer. But if I can't convince you…maybe Ashley can.   WORK WITH ASHLEY: Website: ashleylabutte.com   CONNECT WITH ASHLEY: Join SNAIL MAIL SISTERHOOD: snailmailsisterhood.com  Listen to POWER UP YOURSELF: https://open.spotify.com/show/6GrGUbBJll3Y3Q0JXImh29    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Have I got a fucking treat for you this week, my loves… Please welcome the incredible Riley May onto the podcast! Riley is a business and mindset mentor who supports women in becoming the most intelligent versions of themselves so that their lives reflect what they desire, not what they unconsciously settle for. And while we talked about a fuckton of fascinating things (the words “That needs to go on a t-shirt” were uttered more than once between the episode we did for her podcast and this one), it all came back to one common thread: standards. The ones we set for ourselves. The ones we torture ourselves with. The ones we use as excuses. The ones we use to boost our egos. The difference between standards and values…and which we should be using to weed through our friendships, relationships, etc. Standards can be used in a lot of ways. But they shouldn't rule our fucking lives. I'll let Riley tell you why.   WORK WITH RILEY: Website: https://rileymaycoaching.au/   CONNECT WITH RILEY: Listen to Riley's podcast, Influential CEO: https://open.spotify.com/show/7BtdnRq7i0KjFJAMIQZ89a?si=-zPE26xURAigf7Llcv1Mpw&nd=1&dlsi=297cffddcdbb421f    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's my favorite time of year… HAPPY CONNECTED WOMAN SEASON, LOVES! This is my signature course for a f*cking reason, y'all. It is all about you connecting to YOU first and foremost—the romantic relationship is just a bonus on top of that. Whether you're coming into this program single, married, divorced, dating, or anything in between, transforming your current or future relationship with a partner into something healthy and fulfilling comes as a result of you connecting to you… And the vehicle that I use to get you there is embodied shadow work. If you're like “Um, wtf is shadow work?” then pause right here and go to my free three-day shadow work course, SHADOW HUNTER…but if you know what shadow work is, and you're going, “What does EMBODIED shadow work mean?” then hit PLAY and let me tell you all about it.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Take my FREE 3-day shadow work course, SHADOW HUNTER: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

You might not know it…but if you're a people-pleaser, your need to be liked is seriously f*cking with your confidence. How do I know? Because once upon a time, I was also a people-pleaser. …No, seriously. I was 100% a people pleaser.  I don't come off like one now. I've done a lot of f”cking work to clean up that pattern. But let me tell you…until I did, my confidence was f*cked. If you're not willing to be totally, courageously yourself—and you've got a bad habit of trying to chameleon to whatever expectations or desires other people have for you—then you're going to be in for a rude awakening when you can no longer keep up that mask. And there's only one way to kick the habit.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

There's one thing we can all agree on: if your partner has an affair, that's a dealbreaker. Relationship f*cking over. Not so fast, loves. I don't think it's quite that black and white…I think there are plenty of shades of gray hiding in there. And if you're wondering how tf a relationship could ever come back from infidelity, don't worry…you're about to find out. I am so thrilled to have one of my star students (not to mention a badass self-love and relationship coach in her own right) Ashlee Tegen on the podcast! Ashlee has been married for thirteen years, has two beautiful kids, and has what looks like the perfect relationship from the outside…but that relationship wasn't just handed to her. She had to work her ass off to get it...in fact, she had to work her ass off to REBUILD it after infidelity burned her marriage to the ground. But here's the great thing about something getting burned down: sometimes, it rises from the ashes twice as strong as it was before.  That didn't happen on its own. It took some serious communication, taking responsibility, and healing her relationship to herself and her own body to rebuild her marriage + her health…but I'll let her tell you how it happened.   WORK WITH ASHLEE: Connect with Ashlee on Instagram: @ashlee.tegen   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you've been listening to me chat about confidence these past few weeks and you've been like, “Great…but where do I start?” You start right here, my loves. I have seven steps to share with you today to work on building your confidence—and you don't have to wait forever and a day for them to start working. If you start doing them consistently (and we are big supporters of ALL kinds of consistency here at UFYR—not everything has to be done on the daily to be “consistent”) you WILL see your confidence grow very quickly. How do I know? Because I've f*cking lived it. Yeah, that's right—I didn't just wake up like this. I practiced my confidence. I built it with my own motherf*cking hands. And these seven steps are going to help you do the same thing. So let's get started.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Hey, people-pleasers… I have something to say that you're not going to want to hear. But you need to hear it anyway, so listen tf up: People-pleasing is the most selfish thing in the f*cking world. Did I just send your ego into a f*cking tailspin? Then this episode is for you. People-pleasing actually has nothing to do with other people at all. It has everything to do with you. And if you don't believe me, great. By the end of this episode, you're going to have your whole world rocked. (Trust me: that's a good thing.)   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Let me ask you a question… What's stopping you from being confident? “Well, I'm super shy. I'm afraid to make my voice heard.” “I don't like being in the spotlight.” “I don't know how to assert myself; I don't know how to take up space.” Um…who said you had to? Look, my expression of confidence…it's loud. It's bold. I take up space. It can be triggering for people to look at… But if you aren't like that, that doesn't mean you can't be confident…because that's not what confidence IS. That's just my expression of it. I want you to be confident in who tf YOU are…and I want you to know what's ACTUALLY holding you back from being the most confident, badass bitch in the room.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Have you ever gone out and INTENTIONALLY tried to get rejected? Uh, no? What kind of psycho would go out and intentionally suffer through rejection? …It's me. Hi. I'm the psycho, it's me.  If you've been following along on Insta, then you already know I'm in the middle of a thirty-day practice where I go out every single day and do something to intentionally get rejected. And while I've experienced a surprising amount of “yeses” to my requests, I've also experienced plenty of “nos”...and a few “no, buts” that ended up being even cooler than my original request. Rejection is not easy. A few of those “nos” have really stung. But here I am, still doing it…and if you're wondering why, here it is: I'm not going to ask you to do something I wouldn't do. So if I'm going to teach you how to be the most confident bitch in the room, then I have to show you what it takes to actually be confident—and for this month, that looks like putting myself in a position to get rejected. Even when it really, really f*cking hurts.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you're doing “the work” in order to get a man…you're missing the point. I'm not saying you can't do manifestation work to manifest a partner—of course you can. I'm talking about when you're doing the internal work to reconnect to yourself in order to attract a man. When women do the work to get a man, it usually comes from a place of deep self-loathing and a sense of incompleteness…and they think a relationship will provide them with a sense of fulfillment they can't achieve on their own. Spoiler alert: it will not. If you're doing the work to get a man, you're missing the point…so what exactly IS the point? Let's go over it together.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you look at me and think, “Well, it's easy for her. She's always been embodied. I'll never be like that…” LOL. No, bitch, I fucking was not. I was living so deeply in my own head that I had no idea how disconnected I was from my body until I signed up for a feminine embodiment retreat. The practices we did there were triggering tf out of me. That retreat kicked my ass… And it was the exact thing I needed.  That retreat is why I do what I do now. In fact, I wouldn't be hosting my own feminine embodiment retreat this year if I hadn't done that. When you've disconnected from your body, it's incredibly difficult to get reconnected. But it's sooo f*cking worth the work. So if you're like I was and you're thinking, “Um, why tf would I go to a feminine embodiment retreat?” then sit down. I'm about to tell you exactly why.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

So. You're having doubts about whether you're in the right relationship for you. Here's the good news: you're not alone. Almost everyone goes through a phase of doubt…either when the honeymoon phase ends, or when you're about to take the relationship to the next level. We are designed to attach to the people we're in a relationship with. Our bodies flood with all kinds of “love drug” chemicals that cause us to pay attention to all the ways we're similar, not all the ways we're different…until the chemicals fade away, and we suddenly start noticing all the little things that annoy us or set us apart. This is totally normal. In fact, I'd call it healthy. But it is NOT a sign that you need to jump ship on your relationship and look for someone “better.” Maybe your doubts are valid. Maybe they're just a manifestation of your fears. Either way, I'm going to walk you through how to handle sudden relationship doubt…without burning your relationship to the ground.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

“I just don't want a relationship right now.” Did your heart just drop? You're not alone—I've gotten this from men I dated in the past, and fuuuuck it hurts.  It's totally normal for it to hurt. Attachment happens fast as fuck—our bodies are designed to flood with chemicals to get us to bond with someone when they show us interest.  But even though it's normal, there's still some shit we need to get straight…like what you should and ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT do in order to get a guy to commit to you. I'm going to cover both sides today. So take a breath, brace yourself, and get ready for some tough love.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Recently, I talked about friendship breakups, and how to go about “getting back together” with an ex-friend…but I didn't share who, exactly, I was reconnecting with. However, as a certain someone says in this episode, you all just proved that I attract Swifties in my audience…because a lot of you did some intense f*cking detective work and figured out who I was talking about anyway. So please welcome my dearest friend, whom I recently reconnected with: Caitlin Hosking, a shadow-work certified business coach I've been friends with since all the way back in 2018…with the exception of last year. Neither of us have seen people chat about the complicated, painful process of breaking up with a friend, then trying to reconcile, so I'm sooo f*cking thrilled to have her on today. We're going to walk you through our story…and the best way to go about navigating reconciliation with an ex-friend.   WORK WITH CAITLIN: Take Caitlin's FREE training: https://academy.shadowalchemycoaching.com/wealthy-worthy/   CONNECT WITH CAITLIN: Follow Caitlin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin/    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com