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From Madonna to Mariah, Beyoncé to Barbra— throughout the generations, gay men have been obsessed with divas. But why? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into the deep connection between gay men and our beloved divas, exploring: Who are the divas and what do they have in common? Why divas resonate so deeply with gay men How these women inspire us The diva anthems that have become the soundtrack of self-confidence What it means to channel your inner diva in everyday life. Who are today's divas? This isn't just about pop culture—it's a conversation about power, identity, and how divas have given generations of gay men comfort and strength. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson dive deep into the emotional layers of relationship healing. If you've ever found yourself guarded, even in a secure and loving relationship, you're not alone.Many of us carry the ghosts of past heartbreak—betrayals, abandonment, and emotional wounds that still shape how we see and respond to love today. We may enter a new, healthy relationship, yet remain stuck in old fear cycles, unintentionally pushing away the very connection we long for.In this episode, you'll discover:Why past pain shows up in healthy relationshipsHow to identify and work through your emotional raw spotsThe power of reassurance and vulnerability with a safe partnerWhy your brain is wired to protect (not connect)A simple 3-step script to ask for support without pushing your partner awayWhether you're recovering from betrayal or just learning to let your guard down, this conversation is filled with actionable insights to help you build deeper trust, connection, and security.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

The women in our lives have influenced us in ways we don't always recognize, but when we take a step back, their impact is undeniable. In this heartfelt episode, we're celebrating the uniquely beautiful relationships gay men have with women—from mothers and grandmothers to besties, sisters, and beyond. We're showing love to all the women who have supported us, shaped us, and often modeled the traits that helped us become who we are today. Some of the topics we'll explore: How our childhoods were shaped by the women around us The unique love and support between gay men and women What makes female friendships different from male friendships The role of empathy and emotional intelligence in these relationships How friendships evolve over the years Join us for a deep conversation about the power of women and how these relationships continue to shape us—today and always. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Talking about sex can be one of the most vulnerable conversations in a relationship—especially when desire doesn't align. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, certified sex therapists Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson guide you through the often misunderstood moment when a partner says no to sex—and how to embrace the ‘soft no' to enhance connection.You'll learn:How to talk about intimacy in a way that is connectingWhat is a ‘soft no', and how it can help preserve emotional and physical intimacyHow focusing on what feels good create a safe space for erotic explorationIf you are wondering how to make sex and intimacy expansive, this episode is for you.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

Do you find yourself putting other people's needs ahead of your own? Struggle to set boundaries? Feel responsible for keeping the peace even when it costs you your authenticity? In this episode, gay therapist Michael Pezzullo joins Michael to go deeper into the roots of people pleasing—especially why so many gay men fall into this pattern. We'll explore how people pleasing shows up in everyday life, why it's so hard to stop, and how the fear of conflict and rejection keeps us from showing up fully in our relationships. We'll also discuss: How to recognize when you're people pleasing (and why it's not the same as being kind) The impact people pleasing has on your self-confidence and relationships Why gay men are especially prone to it How to handle the fear of disappointing others What you can do to finally break the cycle If you're ready to stop performing for approval and start living with more authenticity, this episode is for you. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Website Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Bringing up boredom in your sex life can feel like walking through a minefield. In this episode of The Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how to talk securely about boring sex with your partner—without triggering shame, defensiveness, or disconnection.Many couples experience seasons where intimacy feels mundane or uninspired. But trying to address spicing up sex can lead to misunderstandings or hurt feelings. This episode offers a compassionate, attachment-based approach to navigating the “we are having boring sex” conversation with care and connection.

Many gay men struggle with saying no, setting boundaries, or engaging in difficult conversations due to deep-seated people-pleasing tendencies and fear of conflict. But staying silent often leads to resentment, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your true self. As recovering people-pleasers themselves, Matt and Michael have plenty to share about their own journeys toward becoming more assertive in their boundaries. In this episode, we dive into: The difference between people-pleasing, healthy compromise, and values-based choices Practical strategies to speak up with confidence and authenticity How to set boundaries and say no without guilt or fear If you've ever found yourself saying “yes” when you really meant “no” or avoiding confrontation at the cost of your own needs, this conversation is for you! Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Kim and Kyle dive deep into one of the most essential—yet overlooked—tools for emotional well-being: your gut. If you've ever struggled with how to trust yourself, this conversation offers powerful insight into why so many of us ignore our inner signals—and how we can begin to honor them instead.

In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Merle Yost, about how shame may influence sexual desire and arousal by eroticizing shame as a way of coping with it. Merle shares his story about being sexually molested by his father and the impact this had on his sexual development. Join us for this interesting topic that is often not talked about but deeply impacts many of us. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What does it mean to eroticize shame? How do shame and desire become intertwined? What is dissociation, and how can someone overcome it? Why is there so much sexual compulsivity in the gay community? What are some common ways people turn shame into pleasure in BDSM, kink, or other erotic practices? How can someone safely explore these dynamics without reinforcing negative self-perceptions? Can eroticizing shame be a healing experience? If so, how? How can someone tell if they are using this exploration in a healthy or unhealthy way? Today's Guest: Merle Yost Facebook Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Do you ever find yourself emotionally overwhelmed in the middle of a conversation, reacting in ways you later regret? This episode of Roadmap to Secure Love dives deep into emotional flooding—what it is, why it happens, and how to navigate it effectively in relationships.What You'll Learn in This Episode: 

Communication is at the heart of every relationship—whether it's with friends, partners, colleagues, or even yourself. But what does it actually mean to be a strong communicator? In this episode, we're diving into the key skills that make conversations more effective, engaging, and authentic. Join us as we discuss: What makes a strong communicator? The role of emotional intelligence in communication Common barriers that create conflict and misunderstandings Practical tips to improve your listening and speaking skills Whether you want to deepen your connections, set clearer boundaries, or simply get your point across without second-guessing yourself, this episode will give you insights to help you communicate with more clarity and impact. Related Link: Authentic Relating and Empowerment for Gay Men Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Kirsty sits down with Dr. Nima Rahmany, a previous chiropractor who is now a leading expert in shadow work, emotional regulation and healing attachment wounds. Together, they talk about his healing journey and how to create deeper connections in relationships.   Show Notes:  Take the Attachment Style Quiz! https://link.edgepilot.com/s/bc9a349c/PFxK6ZmAn0G3duKrpw-ZmQ?u=https://www.facebook.com/drnimarahmany/ https://link.edgepilot.com/s/1e7ada24/2qn_s2hN-0ehZRCgRfqoQw?u=https://www.instagram.com/drnima/?hl=en https://link.edgepilot.com/s/88ff8d41/x6fboMgJ6kyIV2a7lZ7FPA?u=https://www.youtube.com/c/drnimarahmany https://www.attachmenttheoryinaction.com/  https://www.tkcchaddock.org/events/atiawebinar/  https://shop.tkcchaddock.org/  https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19Xm5Nhk2K/  https://www.facebook.com/TKCChaddock https://www.linkedin.com/company/tkcchaddock/posts/?feedView=all https://www.instagram.com/tkcchaddock https://www.facebook.com/krugglesatchaddock https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstynolan84/

Parenting is one of the most challenging yet rewarding journeys—but what happens when your own childhood experiences shape how you show up for your kids? In this episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle dive into the realities of breaking generational parenting patterns and how self-awareness, emotional regulation, and self-care play a crucial role in raising secure, resilient children.Challenges Discussed:

They didn't teach us about gay sex in school… so we had to teach ourselves. From porn to awkward trial-and-error hookups, most of us pieced together our own “education”—for better or worse. In this episode, Michael is joined by porn star turned sex educator, Patrick Marano, to talk about the sex ed we should have had, how we've had to create it for ourselves, and why stigma and censorship still keep gay men in the dark. Some of the topics covered in this episode:

Is your dating profile truly showing the best version of you? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into the do's and don'ts of crafting a profile that is aligned with what you're truly looking for. On the apps, your profile is the first impression that counts so whether you're looking for love, fun, or meaningful connections, it matters. Some topics we'll discuss: What it means to show your authentic self without being cringy Choosing the best photos Crafting a bio that stands out. Common profile pitfalls How to be clear without being overly rigid Balancing confidence with humility How we communicate on apps Tune in for tips, insights, and takeaways to help you create a profile that attracts the right matches and reflects the real you. Join Michael's FREE one-time workshop where we'll give your dating profile a glow up: The Dating App Glow Up Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with men's coach Shay Doran about the psychology and mindset of erectile dysfunction. Did you know that some research indicates that gay men experience a higher rate of erection problems compared to straight men? This episode unpacks the reasons gay men experience erection problems and how to overcome them. If you struggle with erection issues or performance anxiety and feel ashamed and alone, then this episode can help you feel less alone and see a way out of the suffering. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: How do erection challenges show up? What are the three main unique factors in how it shows up for gay men? How does sexual performance anxiety come into play? How does perfectionism play a role in ED? The cycle of shame and secrecy caused by negative feedback loops How demisexuality plays a role in ED Exploring solutions to ED Related Links: Shay Performance Anxiety Quiz Matt Sexual Performance Anxiety and Erectile Dysfunction Research - Study published in the National Library of Medicine Research - Study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine Today's Guest: Shay Doran Website YouTube Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Website Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Join us as we take a deep dive into the impact of dating apps on both our personal lives and the gay community at large. We get candid about how these apps have shaped our experience of dating and relating with other guys. From mindless swiping and ghosting to feeling used and disconnected, we explore the darker side of app culture while offering practical tips to create healthier, more positive experiences on dating apps. Tune in for discussions on: The personal toll of app addiction The good, the bad, and the ugly side of dating apps How have the apps changed the gay community– for better or worse? Tips to maintain a positive relationship with dating apps. How to know when it's time to take a break Whether you're a fan of the apps or ready to delete them altogether, this episode will inspire you to reflect on how they fit into your love life and community connections. Mentioned in this Episode: 6 Signs It's Time to Take a Break from Dating Apps Addiction & Recovery Part 1 Addiction & Recovery Part 2 Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Bottoming is more than just a position. It's time to flip the script on the old, tired narrative that bottoms are the passive or submissive partners.  In this episode we're celebrating all things bottom and introducing the concept of the Empowered Bottom—someone who owns their pleasure, sets boundaries, and takes charge of the experience, whether they're submissive, bossy, or anywhere in between. We'll be talking about: The difference between power bottoms and empowered bottoms (and other types of bottoms) Power, control, and who's really in charge in bed Owning your pleasure without apology Bottom shaming Advocating for yourself Sexual health and feeling confident in your body Join us for an episode that challenges sexual norms and subverts stereotypes within gay culture. Related Link: Sexual Empowerment 101 Men's Group (starting April 3) Today's Guest: Pepper Rojas Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Have you ever had an intense emotional reaction in your relationship and wondered, Where did that come from? In this episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, we dive deep into relationship triggers and how past experiences—like childhood fears—shape the way we connect with our partners.Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the primal fears that drive our reactions, how our nervous system responds to emotional threats, and why self-compassion and curiosity are key to breaking unhealthy patterns. By understanding the root of your fears, you can begin to regulate your emotions, communicate more effectively, and build a more secure and loving relationship.Key Takeaways:

Welcome to Protecting Your Nest with Dr. Tony Hampton. Dr. Nima Rahmany is a leading expert in emotional regulation, trauma healing, and relationship transformation. After a distinguished career as a chiropractor, he transitioned into the field of emotional and somatic healing, developing his signature Overview Experience program. His work focuses on nervous system regulation, shadow work, and healing attachment wounds, helping high-achieving professionals, parents, and individuals break free from toxic patterns and achieve deep emotional resilience. In this discussion, Drs. Tony and Nima talk about: (00:00) Intro (02:17) What led Dr. Nima to transition from chiropractic care to emotional healing and trauma work (08:41) How the experiences of a baby in utero and in infancy can impact its health and emotional development (11:30) How to break out of unhealthy, stressful emotional cycles and understanding the anatomy of stress (17:24) How stress arises from harboring false expectations of reality (22:19) What “shadow work” is and why it is an important part of the work that Dr. Nima does (31:11) How shadow work can bring healing to your physical body (32:45) How unresolved trauma impacts the nervous system and can cause chronic illness in the body (39:20) What the “fawning” response is and how it breeds codependency and resentment (46:15) Grief, eating, and learning to operate your own nervous system (54:30) The value of coaching, group coaching, and community for building the skills you need to heal your nervous system (56:56) Outro, plugs, and resources   Thank you for listening to Protecting Your Nest. For additional resources and information, please see the links below.   Links: Dr. Nima Rahmany: Website: https://drnima.com X: https://x.com/drnima Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drnima/?hl=en Attachment Style Quiz: https://go.drnima.com/yrx93   Dr. Tony Hampton: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drtonyhampton Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/drtonyhampton/ LinkedIn Account: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtonyhampton/ Ritmos Negros Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ritmos-negros/id1534043495 Q Med: https://qmedcme.com Symposium for Metabolic Health Lectures: https://www.lowcarbusa.org/smhp-symposiums/san-diego-2022/ How Waking Up Every Day at 4:30 Can Change Your Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOEB1Fr0_MM • • Keto Mojo: https://keto-mojo.com/speakers/tony-hampton/

In this episode, we take a deep dive into the dynamics of monogamy in gay relationships. From unpacking the myths and stigmas surrounding monogamy to exploring the concept of devotion and intimacy, we're challenging assumptions and offer fresh perspectives. Some of the things we discuss: The benefits of monogamy and why some gay couples choose it. What it takes to make monogamy work, and why that may be hard for some people Is there a stigma against monogamy in the gay community? How monogamous relationships help you grow What the research tells us about gay relationships and monogamy Whether you're in a monogamous relationship, considering one, or simply curious about the topic, tune in for a thoughtful discussion that blends personal stories, cultural observations, and practical advice for navigating gay relationships. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author Tom Bruett about the struggles many gay men face with romantic relationships. Together they share decades of experience when it comes to understanding the relational challenges faced by gay men. From toxic shame to developmental trauma, they unpack what causes these challenges and how to start healing and empowering ourselves in our relationships. If you are someone who struggles in your romantic relationships with intimacy, vulnerability or codependency, this episode was created with you in mind. This is an excellent episode if you're seeking guidance in relationship challenges, but it will also help you feel less alone in struggling with two of the most challenging things about being human; emotions and relationships. The questions explored in this episode: Why do gay men struggle in relationships? What is required for gay men to develop secure attachment? What is the difference between secure attachment and secure relationship? What does a secure relationship look like? What are the stages of queer relationship development? Related Link: The Secure Attachment Handbook Today's Guest: Tom Bruett Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

What happens when friendship and intimacy collide? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're exploring the nuanced dynamics of friends with benefits (FWB) and friends with intimacy (FWI). But what happens when emotions sneak in, boundaries blur, or feelings start to change? We'll discuss: Defining FWB vs. FWI: What they mean, how they're different from dating or hookups, and what these relationships can look like. Boundaries: Essential skills like self-awareness, clear communication, and regular check-ins to keep things respectful and drama-free. The pros and cons: Why FWB might work for some and not for others, depending on emotional needs, communication skills, and personal priorities. As always, we'll be sharing our personal experiences—yes, even the times it didn't go as planned. Whether you're navigating an FWB situation or just curious about relational dynamics, this episode offers valuable insights to help you build connection structures that work for you. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

The first year after coming out can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—exciting, scary, and full of questions. How do you navigate this transformative time while finding your community, and embracing your authentic self? In this episode, we're talking about the unique challenges and opportunities that come with living out for the first time. We'll discuss: What was your first year out like? What are some common struggles newly out gay men face, and how can they overcome them? How do you figure out who you authentically are after hiding for so long? What's your advice for building a supportive LGBTQ+ community? Whether you're newly out, supporting someone who is, or reflecting on your own journey, this episode offers practical tools, heartfelt insights, and encouragement for thriving in this pivotal year. Free download: The Gay Man's Survival Guide For Your First Year Out Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist Dr. Frank Anderson. Let's be honest, trauma isn't the most glamorous topic to talk about, but it significantly impacts us as gay men, and our community is in desperate need of healing from the trauma of growing up gay that we each likely experienced. This episode is a raw and real exploration of the impact growing up gay can have on us. Many of us had the pressure and stress of being a young boy and having to carry our big secret on our little shoulders. This pressure likely lasted for decades, and we had to deal with it alone, without support. Remember that you are not alone if you are struggling with this trauma or the dysfunctional behaviours unhealed trauma can cause us to engage in. Matt and Frank created this episode as a guide to understanding your trauma and how to begin the healing process. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What are the different forms of trauma? What causes the trauma of growing up gay? What is the traumatic impact of growing up gay? How does “parts work” or internal family systems therapy (IFS) heal trauma? What are some of the parts gay men have to develop to deal with growing up gay? How can we begin to work with our wounded and protector parts to start healing? What's required for healing trauma for gay men specifically? What does life after trauma look like? How can we start to practice forgiveness and transcend our trauma? Related Link: MedCircle Interview Today's Guest: Dr. Frank Anderson Facebook Instagram TikTok Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Parenting can feel like pure chaos—diapers, bottles, sleepless nights, and the endless juggle between work and family life. In this episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, we tackle the heart of managing parenting chaos and explore how to stay connected as a couple amidst the stress.Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson share practical strategies, including:Seeing the stress as the problem, not your partnerUsing the "Name it, Tame it, Change it" method to navigate challengesCelebrating small wins to strengthen your partnershipExpanding your support network for more balancePrioritizing connection over perfection in your homeWhether you're struggling with sleepless nights or feeling disconnected from your partner, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you survive—and thrive—through the chaos of parenting.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Sign up for The Secure Attachment Path course to learn practical tools for building secure connections. (Link is in the show notes).Until next time, stay connected and keep listening with love.Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Enroll in the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships. Website Resources: Relationship Therapy Sex Therapy Relationship Articles Secure Sex Articles

Living in the closet is a unique experience that queer people must face. Yet each person's journey is shaped by culture, family dynamics, and social pressures. For some, living in the closet is about safety and survival. For others, it's the first step in a journey toward self-acceptance and authenticity. In this episode, we explore what it's really like to live in the closet and the complex emotions that come with it. We discuss: What was was like for you living in the closet? What did it take for you to come out? What advice would you give to someone who is in the closet but afraid to come out? Whether you're still in the closet, reflecting on your journey, or supporting someone else through theirs, this conversation offers empathy, wisdom, and practical guidance for navigating this deeply personal experience. Tune in for an honest and heartfelt discussion about courage, culture, and living your truth—at your own pace. Free download: The Gay Man's Survival Guide For Your First Year Out Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Through the lens of reflection, this episode of Roadmap to Secure Love dives deep into the challenges and growth of the past year. Kim and Kyle explore how embracing personal change, setting boundaries, and processing grief can lead to healthier, more secure relationships.Kim shares her journey of finding her voice and letting go of toxic dynamics, while Kyle discusses the power of resilience, community support, and self-compassion. This episode is a heartfelt look at how reflecting on struggles can inspire meaningful growth and connection.Key Takeaways:Using your voice with courageEmbracing grief to growBuilding resilience through supportLetting go of toxic tiesCreating space for meaningful connectionsFollow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Sign up for The Secure Attachment Path course to learn practical tools for building secure connections. (Link in the show notes).Until next time, stay connected and keep listening with love.Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Enroll in the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships. Website Resources: Relationship Therapy Sex Therapy Relationship Articles Secure Sex Articles

Coming out to our families can be one of the most difficult experiences we navigate as queer folk. Sometimes it can be made even more difficult if the people we are opening up to are challenged by it, or don't understand it. Other times, we may find ourselves in the company of people who do understand, or simply meet our openness with their own. Or, in this case, sometimes what we experience is a combination of both. This is a unique episode, because today our co-host Reno is sitting down with none other than HIS MOM to have a conversation about being different, growing up gay and queer, how she navigated his queerness as a parent, and how they both navigated his queerness as parent and child. Allison Johnston is a mother, grandmother, social worker, advocate, and sage. In this episode, we dive into… When she knew I was different. When she knew I was gay. What some of the signs were. Life growing up. Coming out. How she and my family and friends experienced my coming out. Whether she struggled with it or not, and who did. What some of my own struggles were. What it was like being the mother of a queer child. What wisdom we might offer family members relating to queerness. Today's Guest: Allison Johnston Instagram Today's Host: Reno Johnston Instagram LinkedIn Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Big things are on the horizon for the Gay Men's Brotherhood in 2025, and we can't wait to share them with you! In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on our vision for the future— including new opportunities and exciting changes you can expect in the year ahead including: Opportunities for local meetup groups  New virtual events  In-person retreats Leadership opportunities  We'll also talk about the ways you can step into the mission, make an impact, and help us shape the future of GMB. Whether you've been with us from the start or are just tuning in now, this is your moment to be part of something bigger. Your voice, your participation, and your unique contributions are what make this community thrive in 2025- and beyond. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Whether you love it or hate it, hookup culture is a part of gay culture—and if you look a little closer, it just might be a powerful tool for self-discovery. In this episode, we're diving into the real-life lessons our casual hookups taught us about confidence, boundaries, and self-love. We're going beyond the benefits and drawbacks of hookup culture, and sharing how these experiences have shaped who we are This episode is for anyone curious about navigating hookup culture with more clarity and intentionality. Some of the topics we'll be covering: The benefits and drawbacks of casual sex Practicing self-care before and after sexy encounters 3 questions you can use to check in with yourself Setting healthy boundaries Ways to discover what needs are motivating your hook ups Practical tips for making casual encounters align with your values Join us as we break down the skills that casual sex can build (yes, they're easily transferable to other areas of life!) and how you can approach hookups in a way that feels empowered, intentional, and true to yourself. Reflection Questions in the Show: Michael's 3 Questions (listen to the episode to learn when and how to use these!) Why am I seeking this experience? As I imagine moving forward, how do I feel? Tomorrow when I look back on this, how will I feel about it? Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

“I think people who are retiring now are first-generation retirement rebels.”Dan Haylett joins our host Ed Coambs from across the pond in today's episode. A sports enthusiast turned investment expert, Dan's sharing a treasure trove of insights about the power of empathy in the world of financial planning.Dan kicks things off talking about his unique journey from the cricket fields to navigating the complex emotional and psychological aspects of retirement planning. As the host of the top 50 podcast, Humans vs Retirement, Dan explains the need for a human-first approach in financial planning. He's a big believer in looking past traditional methods to address the deep-rooted emotions tied to money management.Dan also discusses the evolving role of financial planners as holistic advisors who go beyond spreadsheets and how great strides have been made to simplify complex retirement decisions for the average person. He talks about the nuances of financial therapy and how subtle shifts in language can profoundly impact client perceptions for the better!Finally, Dan gives his thoughts on the impact of the UK's healthcare system and inheritance tax on people's financial decision-making. With the full belief that retirement needs a rebrand, he's sharing how we can thrive in today's world as "first-generation retirement rebels!”Key Topics:Dan's Journey From Sportsman to Retirement Specialist (00:00)First-Generation Retirement Rebels (10:56)Financial Planning Beyond Spreadsheets! (16:45)Framing the Money Conversation in Today's World (25:05)The Two Questions You Need to Answer Before Retiring (33:48)The Impact of the UK's Healthcare System on People's Financial Decisions (36:48)What to Know About the UK's Inheritance Tax System (41:16)Resources:HumansvsRetirement.comDan Haylett on LinkedInConnect with Healthy Love and Money:Schedule your free 30-minute Healthy Love and Money Discovery Call Today.Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz.Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

On this week's episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Matt interviews the “dick doctor” Urologist Dr. Joshua Gonzalez. They candidly explore some of the most taboo topics related to the penis. From erectile dysfunction to circumcision, increasing your size to foreskin, we got you covered. Topics we discuss in this episode: Circumcision Foreskin Erectile dysfunction Premature ejaculation Masturbation All things cum Penis size Pelvic health Peyronie's disease This episode is filled with tons of great information on the causes and treatments of sexual dysfunctions many of us struggle with, as well as how to take care of your penis to obtain optimal health. Our hope is this conversation helps you feel like you are not alone if you have sexual dysfunction or shame about your penis. It is important to have these conversations so we heal penis shame and learn to love the one and only penis we are given. Related Links: Popstar Labs Book: A Headache in the Pelvis Matt's YouTube video on ED and Performance Anxiety Today's Guest: Dr. Joshua Gonzalez Facebook Instagram TikTok Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

“And I think one of the opportunities in having a close relationship with someone, it doesn't have to be marriage, is they're sort of a mirror for your relationship with money.”Our host, Ed Coambs, welcomes Dr. Brad Klontz, a pioneer in financial psychology and therapy, for an engaging discussion on navigating money matters in relationships. They explore the common challenges couples face when aligning their financial perspectives and emphasize the importance of honest communication. Reflecting on personal experiences and societal attitudes, they debunk the myth that a conflict-free financial discussion equals a healthy relationship, highlighting how disagreements can foster growth. They also challenge the notion that marriage is a poor financial decision by presenting statistics that show married individuals often have higher net worth.Ed and Brad examine the complex relationship between emotions and money. Personal anecdotes reveal how financial fears often originate from childhood experiences, creating subconscious scripts that influence adult relationships. Listen in as they explore how partners can act as mirrors, reflecting financial behaviors and beliefs, leading to personal growth and healing when approached openly. This episode underscores the potential for mutual understanding and development through shared financial insights and experiences.Ed and Dr. Klontz also discuss the intricacies of money dynamics within relationships, including how financial anxieties and different spending habits can impact partnerships. They encourage couples to confront financial realities together, taking ownership of their financial destinies. By understanding each partner's financial background and emotional experiences with money, couples can transform conflicts into opportunities for connection and healing. Don't miss this insightful conversation that offers practical guidance for achieving healthy love and money.Key Topics:Welcome, Dr. Brad Klontz! (00:00)Harsh Truths About Money and Relationships (03:27)The Importance of Communicating About Money in Relationships (05:19)Understanding Normative Male Alexithymia (07:59)The Emotional Connection between Money and Relationships (11:43)The Role of Partners in Financial Well-being and the Concept of Locus of Control (19:31)Practical Exercises for Improving Financial Communication in Relationships (35:56)The Impact of Empathy and Compassion in Financial Discussions (36:49)The Role of Interdependence in Financial Success (40:47)Wrap-Up and Reminder to Check out Brad's New Book (42:27)Resources:Brad's New Book: Start Thinking Rich!Connect with Healthy Love and Money:Schedule your free 30-minute Healthy Love and Money Discovery Call Today.Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz.Buy the Double Award Winning Book:

On this week's episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into The Sexuality Spectrum. From fluid attractions and shifting needs to understanding social conditioning and embracing different sexual dynamics, we're exploring the dynamic range of human sexuality and how it shows up uniquely for each of us. Some of the topics we'll be discussing are: Some of the aspects of the sexuality spectrum, including emotional needs, affection, and attraction How shame and social conditioning impact our sexual expression How we align (or don't) with different parts of the spectrum based on environment, mood, or connection with others. How our sexual needs evolve over time The role of emotional intimacy and vulnerability in sexual connection This episode is filled with personal stories on how our own sexual preferences have changed over the years, and what it means to get those needs met. Tune in for a nuanced conversation on embracing the fluidity of our sexuality, breaking down labels, and finding what truly works for us. Related Link: Types of Sexuality Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

“Sometimes, ‘good enough' is good enough. You don't have to be extreme. In fact, extreme is so confining. Those things that are the most rigid are most susceptible to complete collapse. Building in flexibility can sometimes make things sustainable over time.”New Healthy Love and Money team member Dr. Christine Hargrove joins our host Ed Coambs to share her unique approach to financial therapy through the lens of neurodiversity.Walking us through her unique journey from religious studies to becoming a pioneer in financial therapy, Dr. Hargrove walks us through her experiences working with individuals and families affected by ADHD.Achieving breakthroughs in people's financial lives requires an understanding of diverse money mindsets and a willingness to get personal, in order to navigate financial stress more effectively. She contrasts the often rigid advice of mainstream financial influencers with the adaptable strategies of empathy-focused financial therapists like herself.Christine and Ed also get into the emotional impact of financial trauma, using her personal experiences from the 2008 financial crash to illustrate how economic events can shape your personal identity and family dynamics, for better or worse. Recognizing and bridging the gap between financial intentions and behaviors between your relationships, she says, promotes not only understanding, but also positive reinforcement within yourself.Finally, Dr. Hargrove speaks on the concept of proactive relationship wellness. She encourages couples to seek guidance early to manage financial stress more effectively, which of course allows them–and even their kids–to enjoy healthier, more fulfilling relationships with money.Key Topics:Dr. Hargrove's Inspiring Career Journey (00:00)Why We Get Intimidated to Talk About Money (11:43)How Dr. Hargrove's Own Relationship with Money Has Changed Over the Years (16:10)Facing Our Shame Around Our Financial Struggles (28:25)How Financial Stress Impacts Our Kids in Their Formative Years (32:56)Working with Couples as a Financial Therapist (40:17)Why We Shouldn't Overly Focus on Consequence and Accountability (48:50)Dr. Hargrove's Parting Words of Wisdom (53:53)Connect with Healthy Love and Money:Schedule your free 30-minute Healthy Love and Money Discovery Call Today.Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz.Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

Curious about whether therapy or coaching is the best fit for you? In this insightful episode, life coach Michael Diiorio and therapist Michael Pezzullo team up to break down the unique benefits of each approach, guiding you through the key differences, overlaps, and the powerful results each modality can help you achieve. Both Michaels bring their unique expertise in helping gay men navigate life's challenges and find personal growth, and they're here to answer the big question: What's right for you? Join us as we explore: Therapy and coaching defined Core goals and methods of each How they're similar (and different) Signs whether therapy or coaching is right for you How a combined approach can also work to accelerate growth Stories of clients who've benefited from both Whether you're ready to tackle unresolved issues from the past or set inspiring new goals, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to choose your next step with confidence. Book a call with Michael Pezzullo (Therapist): Website Instagram Book a call with Michael Diiorio (Life Coach): Website Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

“Feelings plus finances equal flourishing. Then, there are stories in your statements, and those stories inform your strategy.”Our host Ed Coambs sits down with Dr. Preston Cherry, a financial wellness expert, and personal friend whose new book, "Wealth in the Key of Life: Finding Your Financial Harmony," challenges everything you thought you knew about love and money. Ed and Preston share personal stories and practical examples, like travel planning, to demonstrate how aligning financial goals can deepen connections and enhance your partnerships.Curious about how to transform potentially toxic financial discussions into constructive conversations? They explore this and more, breaking down the barriers often faced when emotions and finances intersect, examining the importance of curiosity and adaptability in dialogue, and ensuring discussions remain open and honest. By fostering an environment that embraces both analytical and metaphorical thinking, the aim is to equip you with the tools to nurture flourishing relationships through healthy financial conversations.Finally, Ed and Preston contemplate the relationship between religion, faith, and financial prosperity. Is wealth inherently negative, or can it reflect spiritual alignment? Our guest challenges this narrative, urging reflection and gratitude for financial opportunities as divine interventions. All this and more in this episode of Healthy Love and Money!Key Topics:Navigating Financial Intimacy and Communication (00:00)Frameworks for Financial Conversations (05:36)Overcoming Financial Conflicts and Building Trust (19:16)Faith, Religion, and Financial Wellbeing (29:13)The Role of Listening and Asking Questions in Financial Conversations (36:53)Wrap-Up and Resources (39:29)Resources:Life Money Balance PodcastAre Genx Parents Ruining Retirement by Supporting Their Adult Children (episode)@drprestoncherry on SocialsConcurrentFP.com for ServicesConnect With Healthy Love and Money: Schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

Financial planning isn't just about numbers; it's about understanding the behavioral aspects that come into play.Welcome to this exciting episode of the Healthy Love and Money Podcast, where our host, Ed Coambs, introduces Mary Lou Daly as a new addition to the team. With over 15 years of experience in technical financial planning and accounting, Mary Lou brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. She joins the podcast today to explore the intersection of financial planning and psychology, highlighting how communication plays a crucial role in managing wealth, especially for couples. Together, Ed and Mary Lou aim to assist individuals who are navigating the complexities of wealth accumulation and financial anxieties by merging technical expertise with an understanding of client psychology.They discuss the intricate dynamics of money conversations within relationships and their impact on marital satisfaction. The episode underscores the importance of personalized approaches to financial planning, tailored to individual and couple dynamics. The conversation also sheds light on the challenges couples face, from minor irritations to significant control issues, and the crucial role of financial therapy in bridging the gap between sound financial advice and practical implementation.Listen in as Ed and Mary Lou explore the importance of balancing present and future financial planning, and how envisioning our future selves can motivate effective financial preparation. They discuss the complexities of financial upbringing, family dynamics, and the emotional flashpoints that shape our financial beliefs and behaviors. Mary Lou's enthusiasm and expertise are the perfect addition to the Healthy Love and Money team!Key Topics:Financial Intimacy and Communication Challenges (00:00)Initial Impressions and Financial Planning Approach (02:20)Challenges of Financial Communication in Marriage (06:31)Financial Planning Tools and Techniques (11:25)Behavioral Financial Planning and Financial Therapy (19:51)The Role of Financial Planners and CPAs (21:53)Financial Planning for Different Life Stages (22:08)The Impact of Financial Planning on Relationships (22:25)The Importance of Financial Education and Awareness (28:24)Final Thoughts and Excitement for the Future of the Healthy Love and Money Team! (45:19)Connect With Healthy Love and Money: Schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, we dive into the fascinating world of new relationship energy and how our attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—impact the way we experience it. New relationship energy brings excitement and possibilities, but it can also uncover deeper insecurities and attachment patterns that may challenge us along the way.We explore:How secure attachment shows up in dating: Staying grounded, present, and true to oneself without rushing into the future.Anxious attachment's impact on new love: The tendency to become preoccupied, idealize the relationship, and struggle with insecurity.Avoidant attachment's approach: Keeping emotions at arm's length and often ghosting or avoiding vulnerability.The push-pull dynamic of disorganized attachment: Craving connection yet fearing closeness.This episode provides powerful insights and practical tips for recognizing our attachment patterns and nurturing healthier, more secure connections. Whether you're single or in a relationship, understanding how attachment shapes new relationship energy is essential to cultivating lasting love.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Sign up for The Secure Attachment Path course to learn practical tools for building secure connections. (Link in the show notes).Until next time, stay connected and keep listening with love.Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Enroll in the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships. Website Resources: Relationship Therapy Sex Therapy Relationship Articles Secure Sex Articles

On this week's episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into how to build trust in relationships. Many gay men report having trust issues in their relationships due to growing up in a world that felt unsafe and unaccepting of our authentic selves If you struggle with trust issues in your relationships then this episode is a must. Come gain more clarity around any barriers you have to trusting people, as well as what may be required for you to build trust with someone. Also what you can do to start to repair when trust has been broken in a relationship. Some of the questions we'll be discussing are: What is the relationship attachment model? What is important for you to get to know someone? What makes it hard for you to build trust in relationships? What is required for you to build trust with someone? Have you ever had your trust broken? What did it take for you to rebuild trust? Come spend an hour with Matt and Michael as they share their raw and real stories of distrust and how they have learned to trust again after betrayal. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

“Emotions drive money decisions all day, every day. If we can normalize that for clients and listeners, it resonates deeply for a lot of us.”Step into the world of financial therapy with our host, Ed Coambs, and Khara Croswaite Brindle, a leading voice in this rapidly growing field. Khara uncovers the emotional undercurrents that shape our financial decisions, urging us to recognize and embrace the "gray" areas where logic often takes a backseat to emotions. Through insights into frameworks like the Enneagram and attachment theory, Ed and Khara explore how understanding our emotional responses can lead to better money management and financial intimacy.Ed and Khara dig into how money influences everyday decisions, from the mundane to the monumental. Khara shares personal anecdotes that illustrate the complex dance between perceived value and actual quality, especially in the context of therapy and professional services. They also tackle the often tricky territory of setting professional rates, reminding us that the price tag isn't always an indicator of quality, and how financial therapy can aid in untangling these nuanced threads.Their discussion also shines a light on the personal journey therapists must embark on to serve their clients more effectively. Khara emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and supervision in maintaining a balanced therapeutic stance. To help listeners on their path to financial well-being, she introduces a practical workbook designed to guide you through the complexities of your own financial beliefs. Let's challenge those preconceived notions about wealth and nurture healthier financial mindsets together.Key Topics:The Role of Emotions in Financial Decisions (00:00)The Impact of Financial Therapy (08:10)The Importance of Values in Financial Decisions (12:41)The Framework of Financial Therapy (15:25)Emotional Neutrality in Financial Decisions (36:19)The Impact of Media and Cultural Influences on Financial Beliefs (38:38)Practical Tools and Resources for Financial Therapy (44:46)Final Thoughts and Advice for Listeners (46:23)Resources:Croswaite Counseling PLLCConnect With Healthy Love and Money: Schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

In today's episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, we dive deep into the power and challenges of vulnerability in relationships. For many, opening up emotionally can feel risky, especially with cultural messages suggesting that vulnerability, particularly for men, may weaken respect and attraction. But what if the opposite is true? Kim and Kyle explore how vulnerability fosters emotional safety, builds trust, and enhances intimacy in committed partnerships.Through an attachment lens, we discuss:The role of emotional safety in deepening connectionHow vulnerability strengthens respect and trustBalancing emotional support to avoid the parent-child dynamicWhy avoiding emotions can create distance in relationshipsHow open communication builds security and true intimacyWhether you're working to deepen your current relationship or seeking insight into healthier connections, this episode provides actionable guidance to navigate the often complex terrain of vulnerability in relationships.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Sign up for The Secure Attachment Path course to learn practical tools for building secure connections. (Link in the show notes).Until next time, stay connected and keep listening with love.Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Enroll in the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships. Website Resources: Relationship Therapy Sex Therapy Relationship Articles Secure Sex Articles

In this episode, we're shifting the focus from red flags to the positive signs that show up when dating—green flags. Join us as we reveal the positive traits and behaviors that indicate someone would be a compatible long-term partner. We'll discuss: What green flags we look for and why they matter The green flags that we bring to the table What green flags we see in each other How to tell if those green flags are genuine or just part of “the honeymoon phase” Whether you're new to the dating game or a seasoned pro, this episode is all about finding the good stuff that leads to real, fulfilling connections and healthier relationships. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, we're talking about those warning signs and signals to look out for in potential partners and how to manage these warning signs with care and confidence. We'll reveal our red flags, both in others and in ourselves, and how we respond to them when they show up in our dating lives. Some of the topics we cover in this episode are: Common red flags to look out for and why they matter Red flags we might bring into dating and how they affect relationships Strategies for dealing with red flags constructively Setting boundaries and knowing when to walk away Balancing awareness with compassion and curiosity in dating By sharing our own red flags and experiences, this episode equips listeners with practical approaches to navigate red flags, fostering stronger self-awareness, boundaries, and a healthy perspective on dating. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Are open relationships really about avoiding commitment, or is there more to the story? In today's episode, Michael is joined by Dr. Israel Martinez to unpack the common misconceptions around consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and explore how commitment and connection can flourish in open relationships. We'll be discussing: Common misconceptions about CNM and monogamy How to determine your ideal relationship style What is a relationship anchor and how to find it The role of trust, communication, and emotional intimacy in CNM Social conditioning around monogamy as the only valid type of relationship Dr. Martinez also offers self-reflection questions and takes Michael through an exercise to determine his own relationship style and anchor, giving you a practical tool to use in your own exploration. Whether you're curious about exploring CNM or already practicing it, this episode will give you the tools and insights to foster strong, lasting connections outside of monogamy. Today's Guest: Dr. Israel Martinez Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In today's episode, we're going deeper into the topic of resilience—what it really means and how we can develop it, especially as gay men and our unique challenges. We'll explore how the struggles we face, from feeling out of place to dealing with minority stress, can become powerful tools for personal growth. Resilience isn't just about pushing through; it's about learning, adapting, and thriving in the face of adversity. Some of the topics we're discussing today include: The difference between dissociating vs. productively handling stress Surrender vs. persistence: when to let go and when to push forward Using suffering as a tool for healing and personal transformation How to reframe challenges as a curriculum for building emotional resilience Recognizing the fine line between building resilience and burning out How community and connection can strengthen our ability to bounce back The importance of self-compassion in the process of resilience By the end of this episode, you'll have a fresh perspective on how to face your struggles head-on, using them to build a stronger, more resilient version of yourself. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt and Reno come together for their first duo episode to talk about their experiences with depression. They share openly about what causes depression in their lives and what they have done to deal with it. If you are someone who struggles with depression, we want you to know you are not alone. It is so important to normalize conversations about aspects of mental health that are still stigmatized. We hope this episode leaves you feeling seen, and offers you some ways to support yourself, and also ways to feel supported by others as you navigate your own depression. The questions we explore in this episode are: What is depression? What is your relationship to depression? How have you dealt with your depression? What advice do you have for someone who is dealing with depression? Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In today's episode of the Balancing Chaos Podcast, we're joined by the brilliant Thais Gibson, an author, counselor, and best-selling expert in the field of attachment theory. Thais is the founder of The Personal Development School and has dedicated her career to helping people understand their attachment styles and the ways these patterns shape their relationships, behaviors, and confidence. Her mission is to empower individuals to heal from past traumas and transform limiting beliefs by understanding the deeper workings of their subconscious mind. Through her work, Thais offers practical tools and insights that enable people to build more secure and fulfilling connections with themselves and others.During Kelley's conversation with Thais, she dives into her groundbreaking Integrated Attachment Theory, which combines elements of spirituality, science, and psychology to promote deep healing. They start by exploring the development of belief systems from early childhood and discuss how these impact our attachment styles in relationships. Thais explains the characteristics of the four different attachment styles (Anxious, Dismissive, Fearful and Secure) and how to recognize and heal perceived abandonment wounds. She shares techniques for reprogramming the subconscious mind and reveals the power of our memories in shaping who we are. The episode covers key topics like overcoming limiting beliefs, addressing people-pleasing behaviors, and the steps to set healthy boundaries. Whether you're new to attachment theory or seeking a deeper understanding for how to have a better relationship both with yourself and others, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable strategies to help you on your journey to self-discovery and relationship healing.To connect with Kelley click HERETo connect with Thais click HERE