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How to really know what your audience is thinking.To be a great communicator, you have to get out of your own head. But that's not all, says Matt Lieberman. According to him, you also have to get into the head of someone else.“Mind-reading is this remarkable ability that humans have,” explains Lieberman, a professor of psychology, director of UCLA's Social Cognitive Neuroscience Lab, and author of Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect. But even as we engage in perspective-taking, Lieberman says our attempts to mind-read often miss the mark. Instead, he advocates for “perspective-getting” — where we don't just intuit what others think, we ask them directly. “That is where more productive conversation comes from,” he says.In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Lieberman and host Matt Abrahams explore insights from social neuroscience that can help us communicate more effectively. From understanding how our brains process social interactions to recognizing our own assumptions, he reveals why successful communication requires both humility and genuine curiosity about how others see the world.Episode Reference Links:Matt Lieberman Matt's Book: Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to ConnectEp.24 Feelings First: How Emotion Shapes Our Communication, Decisions, and ExperiencesEp.39 Brains Love Stories: How Leveraging Neuroscience Can Capture People's Emotions Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (02:14) - The Social Brain (05:15) - Neuroscience in Business (07:14) - The Science of Persuasion (11:46) - Social Pain & Connection (15:04) - Tackling Loneliness (17:56) - The Final Three Questions (24:01) - Conclusion  ********Become a Faster Smarter Supporter by joining TFTS Premium. 

Today, Dr. Bray delves into the fascinating realm of social neuroscience, connection and what happens in your brain when you feel isolated or left out. Dr. Bray will share why our brains are inherently designed for social interaction, especially during the holidays. The need to connect with others is a primary driver of human behavior, as vital as our basic needs for food or shelter. This idea is supported by neuroscientific research, showing that social connections are deeply rooted in our neural circuitry. Dr. Bray will also discuss the impact of social pain and pleasure and the parallels between physical and social pain, illustrating how social rejection activates similar neural pathways as physical pain. This finding underscores the intense impact that social experiences can have on our wellbeing. Conversely, positive social interactions trigger pleasure centers in the brain, underlining the joy and satisfaction derived from meaningful connections. Lastly, he will examine the implications of our social nature in various aspects of life, including education, work, and mental health. If you need some connection or more oxytocin released in your brain, you want to hear Dr. Bray's tools and tips to increase connection. To learn more, buy Dr. Matthew Lieberman's book, "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect."

In this episode of "Coping," Kevin and Kathy delve into the concept of labeling emotions productively and destructively in the context of grief. They introduce a helpful tool, the Feelings Wheel, to aid in identifying and expressing emotions, which can help you to explore and acknowledge feelings related to grief. Kathy: Welcome back for another episode of “Coping”. Kevin: Last episode, we talked about ways we can begin to get our grief out, and we talked about the method of linking, linking our losses and the way that our brain naturally does that. Kathy: Yes, if you recall, we discussed the benefits of linking as well as externalizing our inward grief. And in this episode, we're gonna talk about another way we can begin to get the grief out. Kevin: Recently, we purchased a gift for our daughter and that gift is a label maker. She's become so preoccupied with this label maker, assigning all the different things in her room, especially her desk area, making sure everything in her room is neat and tidy, and she knows exactly where it is because of these labels that she's making. So in today's episode, we're gonna discuss this idea of labeling and see how it relates to our grief. Let's get started. Kathy: Yes, so when we were thinking about ideas for our daughter's birthday, she had come across a vintage label maker at her work, and then became very interested in an idea of having one herself. So that's what she's been doing since she's gotten it, making labels and labeling everything like around her room and all of that. Kevin: That's right. And you may be like our daughter obsessed with cleaning and organizing and even own a label maker yourself. I guess the question really is, "how does labeling relate to our grief?" Well, let's start with the definition of labeling. Kevin: Labeling is the simple act of noticing and naming something. I'll say that again. Labeling is the simple act of noticing and naming something. So for example, our daughter, she labels a bunch of things in her office. Like what? What do you see her labeling? Kathy: So she's labeling boxes and just items so that she knows what's in different things and then creating labels for all of us to put on our things as well. Kevin: Exactly. So the label maker is making it easy for her to know at a glance where something is. She knows what it is. She can notice it, name it and grab it right away. Kathy: Right, exactly. I have a question for you. Do you think labeling is always helpful? Kevin: You know, when it comes down to it, I think there's really two types of labeling. First, there's this productive labeling, which we'll call "naming", where you're naming something. This is pretty common in talk therapy where you're encouraged to name the emotions that you're having by noticing them and naming them and helps you get some. control back over those emotions perhaps, but there's also a destructive labeling and we'll call that "shaming." Kevin: So the biggest difference between naming and shaming is its effect on us and how we're using what we're labeling. So destructive labeling or shaming, Webster's dictionary says it's "assigning something to a category, especially inaccurately or restrictively." So this kind of labeling leads to prejudice and marginalization of entire groups of people, where we're using the labeling as a way to marginalize people. This is really like the root of racism, sexism, any anti-LGBTQIA views. It's really at its core, naming something or a people group as a way to shame and to "other" them. This shaming as it relates to grief is called grief shaming. Kevin: Grief shaming is the act of blaming, minimizing, or judging one's expression of grief. And this is pretty common in society. We've all heard this or experienced this in some way, but let's take some time to break it down a little bit. Kathy: I know we've all experienced some of these moments and phrases of grief shaming. Some of them sound like, "well, you weren't even married." "I thought you'd be over it by now." "Miscarriages happen all the time" and "you're still wearing your wedding ring." "Why are you so upset? You didn't even get along with your mom." Or simply grief shaming of silent treatment when a statement is made and there's dead silence. Kevin: What you can see from these phrases, not only does somebody who's grieving have the difficulty of the loss and the grief experience, they also have on top of that the negative experiences of others' negativity and comments or distance that can build their experience of shame and grief being harder than just the actual experience itself. Kathy: Right. Kevin: What I think it's also important to name here is that grief -shaming can also be initiated by us, that we shame ourself in the midst of our own grief, that we judge and blame and criticize ourselves for our experience of grief. Now, self -shaming is the act of blaming, minimizing, or judging one's self -expression of grief. So, you can take those same phrases that somebody's directing at you externally, and you can externalize those things and say things like, "why do I still feel this way?" "I just need to move on. We weren't even that close. Why am I sad that they're gone? Wait, am I sad enough?" Or "others had it way worse than me." My grief is nothing in comparison to what they've been through. Kevin: That type of labeling, it can be unproductive and really stunt your healing experience. You're placing this judgment and criticism on it, which really can stunt it and prevent it from being processed, as we've discussed in other episodes. Kathy: Yeah, both seem to be a cutoff, a cutting off of either you're being cut off by someone or you're cutting yourself off, not allowing yourself to process or have the feelings. You're not giving, there's no permission. Kevin: Yeah, it leads to unresolved grief symptoms in the body, in the mind, the heart, and the spirit. Kathy: Right. So when it comes to loss, what's the other side of this? What does productive labeling look like? Kevin: So one way we can productively label is by naming our feelings. Like I said before, naming feelings is something that we learn in therapeutic relationships where we're called to notice how we're feeling, how something made us feel, reflect on it, and name the emotion attached to it. Kevin: This term in psychology is referred to as affect labeling. In other words, putting feelings into words. Studies have shown that affect labeling reduces activity in our brain's amygdala. That's the part of the brain that has that fight or flight response. It really helps lessen the intensity of any experience, especially as it relates to grief. There's this one psychologist, Dr. Matthew Lieberman. He's a professor, but also an author of a book called, "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect". Kevin: He says, “putting negative feelings into words can help regulate negative experiences. In other words, naming our feelings won't put the brakes on that emotion, but will help us get into the driver's seat of the experience.” I love that quote. So good. Kathy: It's very helpful. But I know as an introvert that I always have a hard time naming my feelings. So that all sounds excellent, but for most of us, I think that we don't know how to access that tool of naming our feelings. Do you have any tools or strategies? Kevin: Yeah, I think that's a good point. I think whether you're introverted and you're not really sure what you're feeling, because the emotions are so intense. For extroverts like I am, sometimes you're feeling so many different things you can't quite pin down one feeling. You feel like you're feeling all of the feelings all at once. And so in our workshops we have used a tool called a Feelings Wheel. It's been such a helpful tool for us in our own individual lives, but also in the times that we've taught on the Feelings Wheel to help you articulate the specific emotion that you're having and then describe for yourself how you're feeling, but then also use that language to connect with other people to name how you're feeling. Kathy: Yeah, this Feelings Wheel is fantastic. It really helps. You go from that -- you start in the center and it will give you some main feelings and then you can work your way outward to identify more specifically what you're feeling and it really helps to name what we're talking about today, the feelings. Kevin: Yeah, exactly. And we've found this to be so helpful in our workshops. We want it to be a resource for all of you. So we're gonna put a link in the notes of the podcast so that you can get to it pretty easily but you can also just Google Feelings Wheel and I hope that it can be as useful of a resource to you as it has been for us. Kathy: Yeah, that would be excellent. Kevin: Yeah. All right, so let me just give a summary of what we talked about so far: When we notice and name our feelings, we connect our head, our thinking selves with our heart, our feeling selves. And this language, the naming of our feelings, the productive labeling, gives us language that allows us to articulate our experience to ourselves, but also to others. But most importantly, it gives us language to affirm the experience that we're having. When we can see the words on the page that describe exactly how we're feeling, it can be a very affirming experience. Kathy: Thanks, Kevin. This is super helpful. So to end this episode, we wanted to give you some time right now to think through your feelings as related to your grief. So would you pause with me a moment? Take a few moments to pause. Kathy: And I want you to narrow in on one particular loss for this exercise. Which loss is most prominent for you right now? in your life. I want you to begin to think now how it makes you feel. Why is the loss so heavy for you? Does the loss make you feel sad, angry, fearful? Sit with your loss for a moment and think about the main feelings that arise for you. you It's okay to have more than one feeling as you think on this loss. Kathy: Finally, give yourself permission to sit with the loss and the feelings that come up for you. you. If you need extra support and help with this process, feel free to reach out to us at Be Well, and most of all know that you're not alone. Thanks so much for joining us for this conversation, and whatever you may be coping with today, blessings to you.

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Belonging and Self Care"Fitting in is the opposite of true belonging – Brene.""True belonging doesn’t require that we change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. – Brene"“Connection: Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment. Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Leadhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13588356-daring-greatlySebastian Junger in his book Tribe says your tribe is “The people you feel compelled to share the last of your food with.” We all desire this – it’s part of the reason why we love shows like Seinfeld and Friends, Saved by the Bell, and Boy Meets World now his daughter in Girl Meets World. They all have TRIBES.Junger also notes that, “Lack of social support has been found to be twice as reliable at predicting PTSD as the severity of the trauma itself.”https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40940205-tribe?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=2ZlikgI9Km&rank=1Lieberman says, “Often, a friend’s primary value is the comfort of knowing we have friends. Despite the various ways friends can be directly useful to us, the fact that our friends are our friends is often an end in itself.”Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17237217-social#:~:text=In%20Social%2C%20renowned%20psychologist%20Matthew,about%20the%20social%20world%20%E2%80%93%20othDan Pink’s book When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing. In it he talks about choral singing. He asks a choir member why human sing in groups. The man replied “It makes people feel like they’re not alone in the world.”https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/35412097-when?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=z09VA8JTbx&rank=1Quotes from Pink:“Human beings rarely go it alone. Much of what we do – at work, at school, and at home – we do in concert with other people. Our ability to survive, even to live, depends on our capacity to coordinate with others in and across time.” pg.180“Synchronizing makes us feel good – and feeling good helps a group’s wheels turn more smoothly. Coordinating with others also makes us do good – and doing good enhances synchronization.”Welcome to Season 2 of the Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. podcast series.Join Betsy Kindall, Nicole Fairchild, and Stacy Moore as they discuss issues related to mental health in education. Their conversations are witty and relate-able, simultaneously shedding light on issues that can sometimes be hard to confront or understand. These episodes are chunked into small bites and packed with information that would be helpful to educators, parents, children.....anyone! We want to help make everyone more A.W.A.R.E.!Project A.W.A.R.E. is a grant program funded by S.A.M.H.S.A. (the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). The Sandy Hook school shooting happened in December of 2012. In 2013 the White House initiative "NOW IS THE TIME" came out with 2 key goals:1. Make schools safer and more nurturing.2. Increase access to mental health services.The "NOW IS THE TIME" initiative laid the foundation for federal grants like A.W.A.R.E. Arkansas applied for and received the second round of funding for A.W.A.R.E. in October of 2018. Our project is dedicated to Advancing Wellness and Resiliency in Education.Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. website: http://bit.ly/AWAREwebsite Produced by Arkansas O.M.I. for Arkansas A.W.A.R.E.Music: https://www.purple-planet.comMore information: http://arkansasomi.com/podcasts-and-communications/

Social PainThink of the most painful experience of your life.Not only is social pain literally painful. Praise is literally pleasurable.Social pain motivates us to be together and work together.Historically – belonging was necessary for survival – but is it really any less so today?Social rejection looks the same (from a neural perspective) as physical pain.Social pain is the same in the brain as physical pain. Social pain is “the pain associated with the actual or potential threats to one’s (actual, potential, or imagined) social connections.”If you give people Tylenol then you don’t see the pain areas in the brain light up. Social isolation has been used as punishment and torture.Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17237217-social#:~:text=In%20Social%2C%20renowned%20psychologist%20Matthew,about%20the%20social%20world%20%E2%80%93%20othWelcome to Season 2 of the Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. podcast series.Join Betsy Kindall, Nicole Fairchild, and Stacy Moore as they discuss issues related to mental health in education. Their conversations are witty and relate-able, simultaneously shedding light on issues that can sometimes be hard to confront or understand. These episodes are chunked into small bites and packed with information that would be helpful to educators, parents, children.....anyone! We want to help make everyone more A.W.A.R.E.!Project A.W.A.R.E. is a grant program funded by S.A.M.H.S.A. (the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). The Sandy Hook school shooting happened in December of 2012. In 2013 the White House initiative "NOW IS THE TIME" came out with 2 key goals:1. Make schools safer and more nurturing.2. Increase access to mental health services.The "NOW IS THE TIME" initiative laid the foundation for federal grants like A.W.A.R.E. Arkansas applied for and received the second round of funding for A.W.A.R.E. in October of 2018. Our project is dedicated to Advancing Wellness and Resiliency in Education.Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. website: http://bit.ly/AWAREwebsite Produced by Arkansas O.M.I. for Arkansas A.W.A.R.E.Music: https://www.purple-planet.comMore information: http://arkansasomi.com/podcasts-and-communications/

Social Cognition Maslow had it wrong. Food shelter water are on the bottom. But infants can’t get those things on their own. They need a committed caring adult to consistently provide them. So SOCIAL NEEDS must be the very bottom of the pyramid. According to Maslow it’s the 3rd tier up – as if it’s optional, or just nice. For every primary need on the bottom of the pyramid there is a corresponding Pain. Hunger, thirst, and the need for shelter is to rest and recover from pain that would otherwise occur. “Food, water, and shelter are not the most basic needs for an infant. Instead, being socially connect and cared for is paramount. Without social support, infants will never survive to become adults who can provide for themselves. Being socially connected is a need with a capital N.”“Real pain (that is, physical pain) serves an essential role in our survival. For every need with a capital N there is a corresponding physical pain with a capital P that we feel when the need is not being met. A lack of food leads to thirst, which when unquenched can be similarly painful and motivating.”Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17237217-social#:~:text=In%20Social%2C%20renowned%20psychologist%20Matthew,about%20the%20social%20world%20%E2%80%93%20othWelcome to Season 2 of the Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. podcast series.Join Betsy Kindall, Nicole Fairchild, and Stacy Moore as they discuss issues related to mental health in education. Their conversations are witty and relate-able, simultaneously shedding light on issues that can sometimes be hard to confront or understand. These episodes are chunked into small bites and packed with information that would be helpful to educators, parents, children.....anyone! We want to help make everyone more A.W.A.R.E.!Project A.W.A.R.E. is a grant program funded by S.A.M.H.S.A. (the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). The Sandy Hook school shooting happened in December of 2012. In 2013 the White House initiative "NOW IS THE TIME" came out with 2 key goals:1. Make schools safer and more nurturing.2. Increase access to mental health services.The "NOW IS THE TIME" initiative laid the foundation for federal grants like A.W.A.R.E. Arkansas applied for and received the second round of funding for A.W.A.R.E. in October of 2018. Our project is dedicated to Advancing Wellness and Resiliency in Education.Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. website: http://bit.ly/AWAREwebsite Produced by Arkansas O.M.I. for Arkansas A.W.A.R.E.Music: https://www.purple-planet.comMore information: http://arkansasomi.com/podcasts-and-communications/

The Need For Belonging"Maslow’s hierarchy and the layer underneath"Maslow had it wrong. Food shelter water are on the bottom. But infants can’t get those things on their own. They need a committed caring adult to consistently provide them. So SOCIAL NEEDS must be the very bottom of the pyramid. According to Maslow it’s the 3rd tier up – as if it’s optional, or just nice. For every primary need on the bottom of the pyramid there is a corresponding Pain. Hunger, thirst, and the need for shelter is to rest and recover from pain that would otherwise occur. “Food, water, and shelter are not the most basic needs for an infant. Instead, being socially connect and cared for is paramount. Without social support, infants will never survive to become adults who can provide for themselves. Being socially connected is a need with a capital N.”“Real pain (that is, physical pain) serves an essential role in our survival. For every need with a capital N there is a corresponding physical pain with a capital P that we feel when the need is not being met. A lack of food leads to thirst, which when unquenched can be similarly painful and motivating.”Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17237217-social#:~:text=In%20Social%2C%20renowned%20psychologist%20Matthew,about%20the%20social%20world%20%E2%80%93%20othWelcome to Season 2 of the Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. podcast series.Join Betsy Kindall, Nicole Fairchild, and Stacy Moore as they discuss issues related to mental health in education. Their conversations are witty and relate-able, simultaneously shedding light on issues that can sometimes be hard to confront or understand. These episodes are chunked into small bites and packed with information that would be helpful to educators, parents, children.....anyone! We want to help make everyone more A.W.A.R.E.!Project A.W.A.R.E. is a grant program funded by S.A.M.H.S.A. (the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). The Sandy Hook school shooting happened in December of 2012. In 2013 the White House initiative "NOW IS THE TIME" came out with 2 key goals:1. Make schools safer and more nurturing.2. Increase access to mental health services.The "NOW IS THE TIME" initiative laid the foundation for federal grants like A.W.A.R.E. Arkansas applied for and received the second round of funding for A.W.A.R.E. in October of 2018. Our project is dedicated to Advancing Wellness and Resiliency in Education.Arkansas A.W.A.R.E. website: http://bit.ly/AWAREwebsite Produced by Arkansas O.M.I. for Arkansas A.W.A.R.E.Music: https://www.purple-planet.comMore information: http://arkansasomi.com/podcasts-and-communications/

In this episode, we talked about the neurobiology of human connection and why connection is important. Episode 2 Transcript Link: https://tinyurl.com/yy4zrr3o Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectingacrossborders Twitter: @crossculturalmh Instagram: @connectingacrossborders Show Notes and Additional Resources: Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are. Center City, Minn.: Hazelden. Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. New York: Gotham Books. Keltner, D. (2018). The Evolutionary Roots of Compassion. Lieberman, M. (2013). Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect. New York: Crown Publishers. McGonigal, K. (2013, June). How to make stress your friend. Music from YouTube Music Library

By now we all know that once you complete one thing there is always another when it comes to business and mom life, but what if you could have this ONE THING at the core of what you do that could help you succeed in all the things.  Yes, I'm talking about the thing that is critical to a successful business, motherhood, and marriage on today's podcast episode on Multipassionate Mompreneur.   What is the ONE THING you need to succeed?  The one thing we need to succeed is Connection.  In the book, "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect" we learn that from award-winning neurologist Matthew Lieberman on how social interaction and connection to others is more valuable than money and other extrinsic motivators.  It's no new news that social interaction is important and we know that we are social creatures, but did you know this social aspect can relieve physical pain?  As humans, we want to move from pain and towards pleasure so understanding this could help us to provide insight on how we run our businesses and validate the time inputted to connecting with people.   Why is this information useful for online marketers? Knowing who you are serving and knowing their motivations is essential to generating leads and making sells, but it also will help you to make lasting connections in collaboration and growth as an entrepreneur.  I believe that connection to yourself, others and God are the foundations on which we can feel centered and happier overall.   What is that is the SCARF MODEL? The S.C.A.R.F motivation model is an easy way to remember the five major domains across which people are making assessments as to whether something is moving them closer to pleasure or to "good" stimuli or way from threats or "bad" stimuli.   This model was developed by David Rock and is a brain-based model that is used as a tool to help people work effectively with one another and collaborate.   The acronym "SCARF" stands for status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness. How can I use this in building a community that drives motivation to engage? Status- Relative importance to others     Ex: this can show up in a facebook group as edifying and empowering people.  Show them that you see their contribution to the community and have value.  Ask them to go live in your community, to share their experiences and even to have a role as a moderator to help others in the group.   Also, you can ask their opinions on things in your life and business and value their opinions with polls. Certainty- concerns being able to predict future outcomes Ex:  People want to envision the future outcomes of working with you, participating in the group etc.  This is one reason why testimonies are amazing for Facebook groups.  This could also be fostered by you showing for certain that you are going to show up and build on the certainty of what to expect in the group with it being super clear in the title, description, and content on what the group is used for.  Autonomy-  provides a sense of control over events.   Ex: People want to feel like they have control on what could happen in their lives.  In a facebook group this motivator could be fostered by doing a group challenge with a small win to show them that they can do it.  This builds confidence and autonomy and allows them to go more "all in" with you, because they can see how they can control and change their lives.   Relatedness- sense of safety with others-able to decide if you are a friend or foe.  Ex: Be vulnerable.  This could look like showing something that you messed up on or a time where you felt unsure or less of an expert.  This could even be showing behind the scenes and those less than perfect life moments.  The perfect place for this is IG stories to me, but can be done in Facebook groups in the forms of Facebook lives, posts, and showing up authentically.  Fairness- The need for justice and honoring right vs. wrong and fair exchanges among others.  Ex: Set rules and stick to them in your group.  Don't allow someone to share and promote and not others.  Show the process for how to winners of giveaways are decided by either using the Facebook insights that show you the most engaged people or by showing a video of the winner being called in a random name generator tool.     Status, relatedness, and fairness are more "social" in their applications to me but I felt it important to make sure you were aware of them all.  I'm sure you have seen where starting small with a little win to build autonomy with a client to build their confidence has impacted their motivation to even try though right?  This core factor could be huge in getting your clients to try and the certainty factor is them being able to envision the future which is huge in this too.   Human behavior is driven by these factors so use them in your life and business and prioritize connection and engagement.    Facebook Engagement Accelerator Now you know why we should care about connection and engagement in our businesses and life.  So now what?  If you want to foster a community around these five domains and a plan and strategy to connect, nurture and generate leads using Facebook then shoot me a DM on facebook or instagram and get on the waitlist for extra bonuses on my upcoming course.   Need energy? Check out my free enneagram energy guide here :FREE ENNEAGRAM ENERGY GUIDE  or check out my instagram bio for the freebie as well Let's Connect! Learn–> www.angelmcelhaney.com Connect –> info@angelmcelhaney.com Join the Sisterhood —>Multipassionate Mompreneur FB community Work with Angel–> FB GROUP CONNECTION PLAN    

Погоня за своей мечтой и любимым делом ни к чему хорошему Вас не приведут. А эти слова "Выбери себе работу по душе, и тебе не придется работать ни одного дня в своей жизни", говорил даже не Конфуций. Книга Хватит мечтать, займись делом! Почему важнее хорошо работать, чем искать хорошую работу. Автор (Кэл) Кел Ньюпорт. Не гонитесь за мечтой! Вступление 01:20 So good they can't ignore you. Why skills trump passion in the quest for work you love. 01:42 Dr. Кел Ньюпорт, выпускник MIT. Автор бестселлеров В работу с головой, How to become a straight-A student и др. О книге 01:57 Книга состоит из 4 правил: Не гонитесь за мечтой; Хорошего работника нельзя не заметить (или Все дело в мастерстве); Откажитесь от повышения (или Как важно быть свободным); Скромные планы – большие дела (или Значение миссии) Цель выпуска 03:09 Не поймите книгу неправильно 04:44 Успешные люди добились всего работая и жертвуя всем, а не просто потому что изначально любили работу 05:05 Отсутствие трудностей = отсутствие смысла жизни Плохой пример Стива Джобса 06:14 Речь Джобса в Стэнфорде (ссылка) 07:15 Стив Джобс искал себя, а не преследовал мечту. Смотрите на то что он делал, а не то, что говорил. 09:46 Систематическая Ошибка Выжившего Ошибочная гипотеза: Соедини работу и то, что любишь. 11:12 Настоящие факторы которые делают нас довольными работой: 1) Автономия 2) Компетентность 3) Связь с окружающими 12:28 Книга. На самом деле это было в книге "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect", а не в книге "Никогда не ешь в одиночку" 13:01 "Follow your passion" набрало популярность только после 1970 13:17 Про цитату не Конфуция: "Найди работу которую любишь, и тебе не придется работать ни дня в своей жизни." 13:39 Откуда это якобы было взято: “知之者不如好之者，好之者不如乐之者。”【толкование】 孔子说：“懂得学习的人比不上喜爱学习的人;喜爱学习的人比不上以此为乐的人”。 14:01 Настоящий автор слов Arthur Szathmary в 1982 г. и в 1985 году в журнале Computerworld её впервые приписали Конфуцию 15:18 Только 45% Американцев считают свою работу удовлетворительной. В 1987 году это было 61% 15:53 Книга. Барри Шварц "Парадокс выбора" А что же делает людей на работе счастливыми? 15:58 Подкаст. Ведущий Бен Шапиро и гость – ведущий передачи "Грязная работенка" Майк Роу 17:36 Процент разводов: Америка 40-50%; По договоренности 4%; Индия 1% разводов. 18:02 "Мусульманские девушки на 30% счастливее в браках, чем христианские" 18:48 Выпуск Coffernado #6. Про "Больше альтернатив – меньше приверженности" 19:11 Книга. Дейл Карнеги "Как завоёвывать друзей и оказывать влияние на людей" 19:13 История. Женились по расчету, а прожили в любви 20:20 Заключение словами Майка Роу. 20:40 Истрия про мелодии на будильник Siemens A57 21:15 Проверяйте свои мечты Соц. сети: instagram.com/coffernado/ youtube.com/channel/UCa5_sf-nMTGtAm0C8aIEuuA twitter.com/coffernado Vk.com/coffernado

Amy Alkon's HumanLab -- The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science.Dr. Matthew Lieberman's new book is "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect," and it's filled with fascinating findings on how surprisingly driven we are by our nature as social beings. For example, there's a finding by his wife and research partner, Naomi Eisenberger and her colleagues that taking acetaminophen (think Tylenol) actually diminished the pain of being socially excluded. Lieberman explains, "Our sensitivity to social rejection is so central to our well-being that our brains" react to social wounds (and ways to heal from them) much like they do physical ones. We'll be discussing many such interesting and unexpected findings on tonight's show, and discussing ways we can each capitalize on what Lieberman has learned from the research.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun from 7-7:30 pm PT and 10-10:30 pm ET, here at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support this show by buying my new science-based and funny book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence.

Amy Alkon's HumanLab -- The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science.Dr. Matthew Lieberman's new book is "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect," and it's filled with fascinating findings on how surprisingly driven we are by our nature as social beings. For example, there's a finding by his wife and research partner, Naomi Eisenberger and her colleagues that taking acetaminophen (think Tylenol) actually diminished the pain of being socially excluded. Lieberman explains, "Our sensitivity to social rejection is so central to our well-being that our brains" react to social wounds (and ways to heal from them) much like they do physical ones. We'll be discussing many such interesting and unexpected findings on tonight's show, and discussing ways we can each capitalize on what Lieberman has learned from the research.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun from 7-7:30 pm PT and 10-10:30 pm ET, here at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support the show by buying my science-based and funny book on how we can all behave less counterproductively, "Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck."

MATTHEW D. LIEBERMAN (https://www.edge.org/memberbio/matthew_d_lieberman) is a professor of psychology at UCLA. He is the author of Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect. The Conversation: https://www.edge.org/conversation/matthewdlieberman-latitudes-of-acceptance

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.Dr. Matthew Lieberman's new book is "Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect," and it's filled with fascinating findings on how surprisingly driven we are by our nature as social beings. For example, there's a finding by his wife and research partner, Naomi Eisenberger and her colleagues that taking acetaminophen (think Tylenol) actually diminished the pain of being socially excluded. Lieberman explains, "Our sensitivity to social rejection is so central to our well-being that our brains" react to social wounds (and ways to heal from them) much like they do physical ones. An important underlying point in his book is that self-esteem is not just "from within." It's deeply affected by whether we're liked or esteemed -- or bullied -- by others (which research finds even affects our IQ).We'll be discussing many such interesting and unexpected findings on tonight's show, and discussing ways we can each capitalize on what Lieberman has learned from the research.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.

Why is it that the pain of rejection in High School often stays with us for life?  Not being asked to the prom, not making the team, or that first broken heart. All seem to imprint us in ways that scar us for life.  And what is the connection between those experiences and our seeming insatiable appetite for social networks?  As we look at the evolution of technology, from cave paintings to the printing press to the telephone to Facebook and Twitter, all are advancing the effort to connect.  Maybe, we need to reassess  Maslow's hierarchy of needs, in a way that makes social connection as important to our well being as food, clothing and shelter?Neuroscientist Matthew Liberman has been studying this and in Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect has come to some very powerful conclusions.My conversation with Matthew Liberman: