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Welcome to season 5 of the Dear Patriarchy Podcast -  we're back, baby!Season 5 is the beginning of our evolution of the Dear Patriarchy offering. A year and a half ago, we stepped away to start healing and we're bringing back what we've learned and want to continue the healing journey with you.Our first conversation is with the incredible Kat Courtney, founder of Plant Medicine People, who has been involved in the plant medicine and shamanism communities for the last 2 decades. She is a loving source of wisdom and this episode is an outpouring of her knowledge, gained through 20+ years of experience in ceremonial healing. In this episode, we discuss what plant medicine actually is, specifically focusing on ayahuasca, and discuss Kat's journey with this beautiful medicine. Kat deep dives into her experiences of finding patriarchy within plant medicine & shamanism communities, and gives us a guideline of how to find safe retreat spaces, including things to look out for and red flags to be aware of. She shares her decades-long experience of sitting in, and holding, ceremony space and how plant medicine can not only heal, but also offer support and wisdom in helping you find purpose in the work that you're most passionate about. Towards the end of the episode, she offers up a powerful process for transmuting anger into purpose which we hope will help you as profoundly as it has helped us.We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode once you've listened - share with us on Instagram or at patriarchypod@gmail.comIf you want more Kat Courtney in your life (because of course you do!), find her here:Discover the Plant Medicine People communityDive into excellent articles by Kat here & hereRead Kat's fantastic book "Plant Medicine Mystery School Volume I"Connect on Instagram with Kat here and with Plant Medicine People hereRetreat scholarship information

Welcome to the ninth episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, Lisa chats to the fabulous Nila Varman, host of the Nila Extract, an award winning radio show and educational platform that amplifies the voices of those from minority ethnic communities, dispels stereotypes and navigates socially pressing issues that are not spoken about enough. Nila has won many awards for her work, including a Diana award, Frontline 50 award, and SRA & BBC Award for Best Student Radio Presenter. We dive right into how Nila's journey into activism was accelerated by the surge in global awareness of social justice issues at the start of the pandemic. Nila shares how, as a “British Tamil gal”, clearly seeing the everyday racism directed towards Tamil and South Indian communities, as well as occurring inside them, made her eager to speak out about its impact as well as other “taboo” topics.Nila is a passionate creative and speaks beautifully about how her work affects her own life and the lives of those around her. She talked about the constant pressure to create and how she finds balance on platforms that demand continuous content production.Listening to Nila, it's impossible to miss the joy that infuses her work which, a lot of the time, is focused on heavy, hard issues. Nila consistently brings lightness to these important conversations, an invaluable skill which sets her apart as a truly joyful activist.You can find Nila & her award winning work here:- Nila's website - Find Nila on Instagram at @the_nila_extract and on TikTok at @thenilaextract- Listen to The Nila Extract podcast, available on all major streaming platforms!-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the eighth episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In honor of Beltane (roll on summer!), this week's episode is a re-release of our amazing conversation with Shifra Nerenberg (she/ her), owner of Spiral Intuitive & an intersectional feminist based in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. With more than 20 years experience as an Intuitive Advisor, Shifra guides clients all over the world in connecting with their own powerful inner wisdom. Shifra does her best to increase the kindness & hope in our world. Her work is centered around helping intuitive folk trust themselves & shine their individual lights, spreading more of the bright light needed in the world. We talked with Shifra about the importance of connecting back to our bodies and grounding ourselves so that we can connect to our communities and work against capitalism and oppressive systems of control, which work best when we are isolated and alienated from each other. We discussed how knowing yourself and leaning into your intuition is an important tool to battle patriarchy, systemic racism, heteronormativity, ableism, and xenophobia.  We end by working through Shifra's techniques and strategies to keep from getting stuck in heaviness while remaining rooted in your power and plugging back in to your community with love.- All things Shifra:Find her on Instagram: @spiralintuitiveSpiral Intuitive Website-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the seventh episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.Due to the unprecedented onslaught of anti-trans legislation and the steep rise in anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric in the United States of America, we're re-releasing our last episode in the hopes that it will spread some much needed truth about trans youth and the support they require. In this episode we speak to the incredible Joshua Jernigan, a trans rights activist and philanthropist based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Josh started the GEN (Gender Education Network) organization which helps transgender and gender diverse kids aged 12 and younger. As you'll hear in the episode, Josh is a born educator and is deeply passionate about ensuring every child has a safe and loving home to nurture their growing identities.In this episode, we're breaking down myths about the experiences of trans youth: What does gender affirming care REALLY look like for kids 12 and younger? What can adults actually do to actively support trans youth? Josh also dives into where he sees parents of gender diverse kids get tripped up or stuck when trying to educate themselves and support their kids as well as giving advice to parents and family members of gender diverse kids in order to help them survive and thrive. We talk about the importance of trans kids having a consistent affirming, loving adult presence in their lives and how we all have it in us to be that person. With the rise of anti-trans policies being brought forward in the United States, the UK, and around the world, Josh shares his hopes for the future: That we all be cycle breakers for our children and parent our children in ways which are right for them, ignoring what doesn't fit or is outdated and dangerous. We hope this educational episode sparks your activism - trans and gender diverse kids need your voice!How you can find Josh & GEN:Gender Education Network website (donation link at the top of the page!)GEN on Facebook - Josh mentions the Gender Spectrum website during our conversation which is a fabulous resource for parents, educators, therapists, WHOEVER, to learn more about how to support the health & wellbeing of gender diverse children & teens.-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the sixth episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, we're hosting the incredible Joshua Jernigan, a trans rights activist and philanthropist living in Charlotte, North Carolina. Josh started the GEN (Gender Education Network) organization which helps transgender and gender diverse kids aged 12 and younger. Josh is a born educator and is deeply passionate about ensuring every child has a safe and loving home to nurture their growing identities.In this episode, we cover big topics: What does gender affirming care look like for kids 12 and younger? What do parents of gender diverse kids get tripped up by or stuck on when trying to educate themselves and support their kids? Josh expertly breaks these topics down and gives advice to parents and family members of gender diverse kids and also what gender diverse kids need in order to survive and thrive. We talked about the importance of trans kids having a consistent affirming, loving adult presence in their lives and how we all have it in us to be that person. With the rise of anti-trans policies being brought forward in the United States, the UK, and around the world, Josh shares his hopes for the future: That we all be cycle breakers for our children and parent our children in ways which are right for them, ignoring what doesn't fit or is outdated and dangerous. We hope this educational episode sparks your activism - trans and gender diverse kids need your voice!How you can find Josh & GEN:Gender Education Network website (donation link at the top of the page!)GEN on Facebook - Josh mentions the Gender Spectrum website during our conversation which is a fabulous resource for parents, educators, therapists, WHOEVER, to learn more about how to support the health & wellbeing of gender diverse children & teens.-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders-  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collectionDear Patriarchy Podcast Website- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the fifth episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, we're hosting Jessica Olzak and Shannon Collins, creators and co-hosts of Rainbow Connections from the Abington library, a program designed to give youngsters a safe space in which to discuss LGBTQ+ themed books and topics.We started our love fest by chatting with them about the origins of their ground-breaking youth program: How & why they set it up, the challenges they faced, and how you, too, could get a program going in your community. We spoke with Shannon about their Youthphoria program and how they use photography as activism. We discussed how they keep their cups full while doing their important work, the statistics for LGBTQ+ youth & how just one affirming adult in the life of an LGBTQ+ child is a game changer. We hope you love the episode as much as we do: It's an emotional & gratitude-filled journey. Abington Library website Rainbow Connections Next EventRainbow Connections LGBTQ+ ResourcesLink to the Rainbow Connections Webinar via the PLA Jessica Olzak contact - jolzak@mclinc.orgShannon Collins contact - shannon@shannoncollins.com Youthphoria website Rainbow Connections Guests include:03/2022 - Vanessa & JR Ford, authors of Calvin05/2022 - Lily Freeman, teen trans activist and creator of the IG campaign, @projectuncensored07/2022 - Lindz Amer, CEO of Queer Kid StuffIG:  @lindzamerQueer Kid Stuff website08/2022 - Amy Schneider, 40-time Jeopardy champion and writerTwitter: @Jeopardamy10/2022 - C.K. Malone, author of A Costume for CharlyTwitter: @CKMalone211/2022--Kyle Lukoff, authorKyle's website11/2022--Gavin Grimm, trans activistTwitter: @GavinGrimmVA -  Pick up our new book here:International ordersNorth American orders-  Check out our website to pick up our new book or via our IG: @dearpatriarchypod

Welcome to the fourth episode of series 4, where we've been focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. However, because this week is Trans Awareness Week, we're taking a short break from hosting guests to focus on the trans community and how cis people can be better supporters and allies.We're using information from the excellent Schuyler Bailar, the Human Rights Campaign, and PFLAG to guide this conversation and we've linked back to all of these educators & organizations (and more) below. We start off by running through Schuyler Bailar's "cheat sheet" about how to re-frame the language you use when talking about, or interacting with, transgender people. We then move through a list of disinformation, anti-trans tropes and rhetoric that many people believe to be true, and dispel the myths around each item.  We discuss the importance of moving away from the patriarchal gender binary and how we can support each other, and the trans, non-binary and LGBTQ+ community in general by leaving behind harmful and false heteronormative gender expectations.If you learned something from this episode, please share with those you know and love who may need more education on this important topic. Have the hard conversations, spread love, and reach out to the communities that need your support.- Schuyler Bailar:Find Schuyler (and his Trans Awareness Week Cheat Sheet) on IG: @pinkmantaraySchuyler's website- Human Rights CampaignMyths & Facts: Battling Disinformation About Transgender RightsBe an Ally: Support Trans Equality- Trevor ProjectA Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender & Non-Binary Young PeopleAdditional Transgender, Non-Binary & LGBTQ+ Resources:PFLAG websiteMarsha P. Johnson Institute websiteWe mentioned Alok V. Menon in the episode as well who is an excellent gender educator and author - find them on IG @alokvmenon-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders-  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collectionDear Patriarchy Podcast Website- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the third episode of series 4, where we're focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, we're hosting Shifra Nerenberg (she/ her), owner of Spiral Intuitive & a lifelong feminist based in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. With more than 20 years experience as an Intuitive Advisor, she guides clients all over the world in connecting with their own powerful inner wisdom.  Shifra does her best to increase the kindness & hope in our world. Her work is centered around helping intuitive folk trust themselves & shine their individual lights, spreading more of the bright light needed in the world. We talked with Shifra about the importance of connecting back to our bodies and grounding ourselves so that we can connect to our communities and work against capitalism and oppressive systems of control, which work best when we are isolated and alienated from each other. We discussed how knowing yourself and leaning into your intuition is an important tool to battle patriarchy, systemic racism, heteronormativity, ableism, and xenophobia.  We end by working through Shifra's techniques and strategies to keep from getting stuck in heaviness while remaining rooted in your power and plugging back in to your community with love.AND - the best way to use that power and help your community is to VOTE!! We're looking at you USA!! If you're struggling with getting info on where to cast your vote, who to support and where you stand on measures, please check out the following resources:- You better vote b

Welcome to the second episode of series 4 where we're focusing on the educators, activists and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, we're hosting Gonzy, the fabulous owner of sustainable, feminist British brand Sasspatch. Gonzy's designs uplift you while keeping you grounded, and she specialises in Sassy Positivity: Sweet designs mixed with savage honesty. We talk about the struggle to balance motherhood with paid (and unpaid) work, how all parents need to get therapy, preferably before becoming parents, and how important equity is in everything we do. Gonzy is a passionate intersectional feminist, proponent of slow fashion and speaks beautifully on how much both matter to her and to the company ethos of Sasspatch. Gonzy closes our short (but very sweet) conversation with the perfect words: The good stuff is always worth waiting for.- All things Sasspatch:Find her on Instagram: @sasspatchworldSasspatch Website-  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy: The Gaslit Women's Guide to the (Corporate) WorldInternational ordersNorth American orders-  Check out our website AND our new feminist merch collectionDear Patriarchy Podcast Website- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to the first episode of series 4 where we're focusing on the educators and activists who inspire and guide us.In this week's episode, we're hosting the incredible writer Uju Asika. She's based in London, runs the “Babes About Town” social media accounts and is the author of two incredible books: Bringing up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced World and A World for Me and You.We discuss creative processes, particularly writing processes, and how the fear of writing about charged topics (like systemic racism, patriarchy and other oppressive systems) can be debilitating. Uju talked us through how she keeps herself balanced, feeds her activism and connects with her work in pursuit of change. In her (beautiful) words: This work is more important than your discomfort.- All things Uju Asika:Find her in Instagram: @babesabouttownWebsiteBringing up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced WorldA World for Me and You- During our discussion, Uju recommended two  books by Natalie Goldberg:Wild Mind Writing Down the Bones -  Continue the conversation by picking up our book Dear Patriarchy :International ordersNorth American orders- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author.- Find out more about Nubefy, the amazing artists behind the graphics we use, here.

Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 3! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We talk about the short-sightedness of the term imposter syndrome, the differences between how both us prepare and gather information for new episodes (research vs. anecdotes), and whether we feel there is a shift taking place which is slowly moving us away from the entrenched patriarchy of societal structures.  We close the episode talking about how to pre-order our book (dropping October '22!) and exciting new things on the horizon in the Dear Patriarchy world. We hope you've enjoyed the journey of season 3 as much as we have & we look forward to bringing a new series of thought-provoking and conversation-starting topics to you very soon.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

Welcome to episode 19(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on eugenics and how it relates to reproductive healthcare, specifically forced sterilization. She starts by explaining what eugenics, and scientific racism, is at a high level, touching briefly on Margaret Sanger & Planned Parenthood as well as the inherent ableism of eugenics. She goes on to talk about how, in the wake of SCOTUS overturning Roe vs. Wade, many people are suggesting that boys & men (presumably cis-het) should be given vasectomies until they are “fit” to be a father and how this idea is on the slippery slope to eugenicist beliefs. She runs through the recent history of forced sterilization in the USA & Puerto Rico (including that it is still legal to forcibly sterilize disabled people in 34 states) and how allowing systemically racist, ableist government systems to determine who is “fit” to be a parent is taking a massive step backward. She closes with a reminder that being branded with the title of “wokeness” should not deter us from actively working to be on the right side of history. We need to continue to educate ourselves, try to always use inclusive language (because words & language matter), and put in the work every day to protect the civil rights of all those around us, not just the people who look like or identify the same way as we do. We hope you'll continue on in this fight.These articles were used to inform this discussion:- Eugenics & Scientific Racism- Margaret Sanger's Connection to Eugenics- America's "Forgotten" History of Forced Sterilization - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to series 3, episode 18 where we talking about the overturning of Roe vs. Wade by the US Supreme Court. We talk about how we got here, starting with the election of Donald Trump who was voted in overwhelmingly by White women. While the Democratic Party needs to clean their house, White women (us included) need to look at and accept the responsibility we carry because we have historically chosen not to have uncomfortable conversations with each other. We talk about the insidious stigma surrounding abortion and how there does not need to be sexual violence preceding an abortion in order to make it acceptable. We discuss the statistics behind who get abortions and how the intersection of heteropatriarchy, systemic racism and ableism meet and impact different groups of people who have marginalised within our social construct. We  must all change our mindset and our language when it comes to abortion to make sure we are viewing it as inclusively and intersectionally as possible. That means including trans men and non binary people into the definition of who needs access to abortion, that means appreciating that those at the intersection of heteropatriarchy, systemic racism and ableism are the voices that need to be loudest in this fight. This is not just a White woman's fight and we need to start addressing it as such. We end by sharing abortion resources and funds to donate to and use.We used the following sources to inform this conversation:- The Paradox of Disability in Abortion Debates- Access, Autonomy & Dignity- Who is Most Affected by US Abortion Changes- Meta Pixel Tracking Tool Links to Anti-Abortion Clinics- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 17 of series 3 where we're talking about how to raise good kids, which involves educating them (and yourself) about diversity, inclusion and consent. Jenni shares an experience she had with her daughter and Lisa talks about raising White boys, who need a lot of education to ensure they are informed enough to reject the White supremacist, heteropatriarchal and ableist messaging they receive from our social construct. We share books and other great resources for parents and caregivers that can support this educational journey. The importance of raising kind, inclusive children who expect to see and exist within diverse communities can't be overstated. The bottom line is that if you don't educate your kids on diversity, inclusion and consent, someone else will undoubtedly show them something different and it will make your job of forming their path to being a good human much harder. Here are some of the educational resource that we use:- 'Let's Talk About Race' by Julius Lester- 'Anti-Racist Baby' by Ibram X. Kendi- 'All Are Welcome' by Alexandra Penfold- 'I am Enough' by Grace Byers- 'The Pronouns Book' by Chris Ayala-Kronos- 'Inclusive Ninja' by Mary Nhin- 'Roxy the Racoon' by Alice Reeves- The Black Curriculum is an excellent resource for people based in the UK - check out their Instagram account @theblackcurriculum as well as at The Black Curriculum- Upgrade Accessibility is a disability rights and justice platform which regularly hosts workshops and events based on disability awareness, as well as on the intersection of LGBTQ+ and disability rights - check out their Instagram account @upgradeaccessibility as well as at Upgrade Accessibility- Stonewall is a UK-based LGBTQ+ charity who provide excellent resources for educating and providing support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers  and can be found at Stonewall- The Trevor Project is based in America but is the world's largest crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ+ young people under the age of 25 and provides education and support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers. It can be found at The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives

Welcome to episode 16(ish) of series 3 where Jenni does a mini-breakdown on social media allyship. She starts by running through how important an inclusive mindset is to have and how “un-learning” is the place we all need to start from and continue with as we amplify and share the work of other educators and activists. Jenni goes on to discuss how the systemic foundations of discrimination built around us work to keep us separated and that the right-wing denigration of “PC” and “wokeness” should not deter us from actively working to be on the right side of history. We need to learn more, speak up, and put in the work every day to protect the civil rights of all those around us, not just the people who look like or identify the same way as we do. We hope you'll join the fight.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 15(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on the connection between mass shootings and the Patriarchy. There is a clear link between toxic masculinity, misogyny and violence and this mini-sode focused on connecting the dots between them all. Instead of offering thoughts and prayers, we want you to come away from this episode with daily actions that can be applied to yourself, your children (if you have them), and your wider community.  If we want to stem the tide of systemic discrimination and the violence that results from it, we need to make it part of our every day lives. We hope you'll join us.- Research sources backing the connection between domestic violence, misogyny and mass shootings can be found here, here, and here. There is much more out there, please take the time to look into this further.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to series 3, episode 14, where we're talking about all things reproductive and social justice. We start by discussing the potential impact if Roe vs. Wade is overturned, particularly the impact on Black women and women of Color, which leads nicely into breaking down what reproductive justice is, where the term originated (Sister Song) and how we can work for it collectively. We talk about the weight and expectation of activism and how doing the work can sometimes feel like an un-winnable war. We close by exploring how education is the best foundation for activism and that we need to remember we are part of a greater community that is working to uphold and expand the freedoms of ourselves and those around us. Every little bit of work we do helps to unravel the inequity around us. Just keep pulling the thread.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

Welcome to series 3, episode 13 where we're discussing the toxicity of the girlboss mentality and how it sets out to use feminism as a cloak for capitalism. We talk about how prominent “girlboss” companies and figureheads successfully weaponised guilt and shame to force women deeper into hustle culture and dispensed advice from a place of privilege that is inaccessible to most women. Jenni dives into her experience of how the impact of the pandemic has pushed women and carers even further away from regularly accessing the resources and support needed to achieve “girlboss goals”. We explore the meaning behind the phrase “Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss” and how it's an intentional label intended to be un-intimidating and to uphold the corporate tradition of systemic racism and misogyny.- We used information taken from Alex Abad-Santos' June 2021 article for Vox entitled "The Death of the Girlboss" in our discussion.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

Welcome to episode 12 of series 3, where we're discussing what success and achievement look like, particularly for people who identify as women. We break down what society says women need to have to "have it all" and discuss our experience of what having it all does to you on an individual basis. We talk about how the disproportionate care and domestic workload that women are expected to shoulder creates an environment that is incompatible for women to achieve substantive career goals and why continuing to hold us to this "traditional" standard is so damaging. Bodily and individual autonomy are at the core of this discussion and breaking free of historical expectations of what women are supposed to be is the only way to secure this for the girls and women who come after us.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 11 of series 3, where we're breaking down internalized misogyny, often misnomered as “toxic femininity.” Before we started our main conversation, we discussed Debanhi Escobar and the global problem of femicide as well as the growing disappearance of girls and women not just in Mexico/Latin America but around the world as well. We then moved on to the hostility women and girls can often exhibit towards other women and girls and the patriarchal reasons behind it. We break down why toxic femininity is not a real thing as it is the internalising of systemic discrimination. We go on to share our personal experiences with internalised misogyny, how we have dealt with it in the past and how we attempt to deal with it now. It's important to remember that the patriarchy wants you to view other women as competition, not as sisters, so choosing to love those who identify as women (and girls) is a revolutionary act.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 10(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of Imposter Syndrome and why its use as a catch-all term is  problematic. Lisa discusses a tweet posted by @theconsciouslee from Juana Hollingsworth (@jewelsfromjuana) about how Dr. Amanda Tachine (@atachine) explained that the original concept of Imposter Syndrome was theorised in 1978 by two White women (psychologists Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes) to describe how a large majority of women, disproportionately Black women and women of Colour, are marginalised within the corporate environment. While the tenets of Imposter Syndrome may ring true for many women, for Black women and women of Colour, this term erases or, at the very least, minimises the impact of systemic racism and the many obstacles it presents them with in the workplace. It makes systemic issues the fault of each individual woman, forcing her to endure and try to resolve them each and every day that she shows up to work. The hope is that the information discussed today will help to inform how we look at the experiences of Black women and women of Colour in the corporate world and how the White-centric focus of academia, which influences the terminology we use in the workplace and wider world, can further marginalise those who exist outside of that focus.- The February 2021 Harvard Business Review article entitled "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey informed this episode - please read it! - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 9 of series 3, where we're closing out our "Get a Job Your Way" series. We open the discussion by breaking down the perception that setting out your requirements and coming from an empowered place where you know what you deserve, and won't accept less, can be perceived as privilege. We move into the final stages of hiring, closing out negotiations, running through work contracts and how to spot (and respond to) red flags. We hope this series has given you the tools you need to get the job you want, for the pay you deserve. If you take one thing away from this series, let it be this: You're worthy of great things, never let the corporate world tell you otherwise.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to episode 8(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of White Feminism and why it's so problematic. All the information used to inform this conversation is from @everydayracism_ on Instagram and we urge you to follow this account so you can learn from Naomi & Natalie as we have and jump on the pre-order for their upcoming book, The Mixed Race Experience. Check out our social media to find the original source material - we hope this mini-breakdown gives you extra perspective on why intersectional feminism is the ONLY way forward. Tune in to next week's full episode - part 3 of The Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to episode 7 of series 3 where we're (still) talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to follow up after an interview and a few ways to stand out from the crowd. We share personal stories about how we've navigated the hiring process and obstacles to success in the working environment. We discuss the mental pitfalls women can face when negotiating  their salaries and how to get your head right when it comes to asking for what you deserve as well as where to look to fact-check your salary range. Tune in to next week's episode for part 3 - there's so much more to say!- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to episode 6 of series 3 where we're talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to lose the mindset that companies are owed our labour and be aware of the obstacles that exist for those who identify as women and disproportionately impact on Black women and women of Colour. We discuss the tools and processes we use when we job search and how to spot red flags during the interview process. We discuss pay inequity, negotiation mindsets and how to protect yourself from potential future exploitation. Tune in to next week's episode for part 2!- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to episode 5 of series 3 where we're discussing the current attack on LGBTQIA+ children and adults by conservative lawmakers in the United States and how that manifests in the workplace. We say gay, you should too.- We discussed statistics and research from McKinsey on how the corporate environment treats those form the LGBTQIA+ community, find it here.- We recommend that if you live in the US, you check out the Human Rights Commission's State Scorecards Index and see how the LGBTQIA+ community are being treated, find it here. - Find out more about the Marsha P. Johnson Institute here.- Find out more about the Trevor Project here.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to episode 4 of series 3 - we kick off with discussing how women get penalized for their own sexuality because, within a patriarchal construct, they're not “allowed” to be in control of their bodies and own their own sexual power. We talk about the shame and responsibility that is placed on women's bodies from a very young age in order to control the emotions and sexual urges of boys and men, instead of putting that responsibility where it belongs (on boys and men). We then move on to the restrictions of the gender binary: How it defines what it is to be a man OR a woman (nothing in between) and how patriarchal systems of control encourage girls and women to view each other as competition, not allies, under the false guise of there being a limited amount of seats at the table for women. We share personal anecdotes about how mothers who also choose to work outside the home are held back within the corporate world because they “chose” to take time off for a family, aka the motherhood penalty. We close the episode with a deep dive on the male gaze and its influence on women's mindsets and how they view themselves and the wider world.- The article we reference recording the Wodaabe men and their dance. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-39070587.amp- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to episode 3 of series 3 where we're discussing the policing of women's bodies, in particular the bodies of Black women and women of Colour.We start by discussing the treatment of Mary J. Blige in the aftermath of the Super Bowl half time show and define some important terms that relate to the hyper-sexualised scrutiny that disproportionately impacts Black women/girls and women/girls of Colour. These are the Politics of Respectability (first defined by professor and author Evelyn Higganbotham), Adultification Bias and Misogynoir, the intersection of misogyny and racism. We go on to talk about how, in the workplace (and the wider world), your worth is tied to attractiveness and how women can effectively do everything right and still have a target on their back. We share some personal anecdotes and end by tying up why making the corporate world more accessible for bodies deemed to exist outside the narrow confines of what's “normal” is so important.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to our second episode of series 3 where we chat about it all: Childcare deserts, the patriarchal systems in place that negatively impact and marginalize anyone who isn't a White man, the lack of matriarchal lineage and equal representation  of women in history and so much more. We hope you enjoy listening to the mishmash as much as we enjoyed talking through it.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

 Welcome to our first episode of series 3 where we discuss the return to work. We run through the new statistics coming through on the mass exodus of women from the workplace and the lack of infrastructure which is, particularly in the United States, one of the key reasons behind the loss of women from the work environment. Jenni dives into the closure of care settings, particularly nurseries and schools, which lead to women leaving (or being forced out of) the workforce as a result of the emergence of COVID-19 in 2020 and having yet to return. We discuss how differently the media covered the “Shecession” (women leaving the workforce) and the Great Migration (women and men leaving the workforce) before detailing our struggle in breaking the cycle of patriarchal conditioning in the home. Lisa talks about how her new work environment has been impacted not only by COVID-19, but the revelations that have come about since her sabbatical.- We used the statistics on women leaving employment in the United States set out in the November 5th 2021 Guardian article entitled "‘I don't have a choice': childcare cost preventing US women from returning to work"- We used the statistics on the rise in childcare costs within the United States as set out in the June 5th 2020 Guardian article entitled "The pandemic exposes US childcare for what it is: ‘a crisis within a crisis'"- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to our Holiday Burn Out episode (version 2.0): We've re-purposed episode 10 because the issues we're discussing are just as relevant today as they were a year ago. COVID-related stresses and strains, the emotional and mental load heaped onto those who disproportionately take on domestic tasks & unpaid care work (typically women & mothers) during the holiday season and the inevitable body image issues so many of us battle. We hope our suggestions for bringing balance back to the forefront help you focus on what's important and leave the superficial things that drain and derail you behind. Good luck and we look forward to bringing you series 3 (have you subscribed yet?)…- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 2! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We discuss the beauty of saying "no" to what no longer serves you or makes you happy, how soul-crushing jobs can sometimes feel like the easiest road to travel, and why you deserve more.  We hope you've enjoyed the journey of season 2 as much as we have & we look forward to bringing a new series of thought-provoking and conversation-starting topics to you very soon.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

Welcome to our penultimate episode of Series 2,  Episode 19, where we dive into the subject of asking for a raise. This is a topic which is emotionally loaded for many people, particularly women, who tend to be raised to not ask for more and/or be happy with what they've been given. Asking for a raise can bring up oppressive conditioning, imposter syndrome and feelings of being "less than" when it should be an encouraged part of a working environment. We talk through how to ask for what you need, red flags and common gaslighting tactics to look out for as well as our personal experiences with pay and performances reviews. We hope this conversation helps give you a clear headspace about how to go about getting what you deserve in the corporate environment.- The June 2018 Harvard Business Review article entitled "Research: Women Ask for Raises as Often as Men, but Are Less Likely to Get Them" provided the discussed statistics on the success rate of  women vs. men asking for raises.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 18 of Series 2, where we finish our dive into toxic masculinity on a high by having our very first interview with the awesome Alex Shafiro. We talk about his experiences in the corporate world, specifically how his work as a designer in the construction industry has put him in front of very toxic behaviours. We asked how he makes space for women in his workplace, what he feels like toxic male behaviour in the workplace looks like and how he it makes him feel when he runs up against it. Alex gives us his views on, and understanding of, toxic masculinity and we were so grateful to him for his candor, his sense of humor and his patience. We hope you love listening to this conversation as much as we loved having it. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 17 of Series 2 where we dive into toxic masculinity: What does it mean? What are its ties with toxic femininity and is that even a thing? The short answer is no, it's not, it's a "men's rights" dog whistle but we digress. We talk about how kind, caring, nurturing little boys grow into unemotional but overly aggressive men and what the signs/markers are for toxic masculinity. We dive into how toxic masculinity affects the corporate workplace and who stands to benefit from this seriously detrimental mindset. This is a deep and nuanced subject so a single episode isn't sufficient to cover it - we'll drop Part 2 next week and we hope it helps you further explore this complicated conversation. - April 2019 Atlantic interview entitled " Raising Boys With a Broader Definition of Masculinity" with psychologist Michael Reichert about how boys are bombarded by societal expectations. - Top 10 Toxic Masculinity Behaviors shared on a July 2019 article on Aurora as discussed- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 16 of Series 2 where we're discussing the reasons behind why huge numbers of people are choosing to leave the workforce. We discuss our personal experience of stepping away from unhealthy work environments and feeling set free because we recognise that we want, and deserve, better for ourselves and our families. We dive into the prevalent issue of people not being paid a living wage, much less a thriving wage, and how that and the impact of COVID-19 on an already faulty infrastructure supporting working parents has resulted in reduced childcare places and higher costs of living all around. We dive into how coming from an empowered place of "I don't need this job to make my life work" sets you up for a workplace that enhances and supports your work-life balance because you've been made the priority. Don't let the fear of not being enough set you up to fail in the corporate world - you deserve better!

Welcome to Episode 15 of Series 2 where we dive into what it means to be a woman. We talk about why the patriarchal ideas of femininity are both inaccurate and exclusionary, how gender non-conformity is both normal and ancient across global communities and discuss the fundamental misogyny of Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminism/Feminists (TERFs). We break down the danger posed to the transgender community by "biology" based anti-trans rhetoric and speak about why thinking of gender on scales instead of a spectrum is more accurate for some. We close out the episode with our core principles: If you identify as a woman, you are one; we will endeavour in every way to create as inclusive a space as possible; we will get things wrong sometimes and though you don't owe us an education, we hugely appreciate when you share your lived experience with us so we can learn from you. - Find PBS' map of Gender Diverse Cultures here.- Suzannah Weiss' February 2018 article for Teen Vogue entitled "9 Things People Get Wrong About Being Non-Binary" has been a valuable educational resource for us, we hope you'll read and share it.- Sam Killerman's piece entitled "Why Think of Gender on Scales Instead of a Spectrum?" has helped us conceptualise gender differently and, we hope, more accurately.- We used Katelyn Burn's September 2019 article for Vox entitled "TERFs: The Rise of Anti-Trans “Radical” Feminists, Explained" during our discussion about Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists/Feminism, the story of Aimee Stephens' and Ann Hopkins' ground-breaking Supreme Court cases.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 14 of Series 2 where we're discussing how to leave a toxic culture or environment. Jenni discusses a recent trip back to where she and Lisa grew up and how, for some people, going back to where you came from can be really difficult. We talk about  "tortilla gate" and other racist incidents connected to our hometown and how dangerous and insidious intolerance is in a closed environment. We discuss how educational travel has been for us and how looping ourselves in to anti-racism and anti-bias culture changers has helped us fundamentally evolve. We go into the difficulty of separating yourself from biased environments, whether they pertain to family, friends or work, and how an overnight change isn't always possible. We close out with a discussion about listening to and nourishing the little voice that leads you and how building a loving, tolerant community can sometimes mean a lack of "hometown" support. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 13 of Series 2 where we're discussing fatphobia in the workplace. We talk about the lack of government protection against weight-based discrimination, dive into statistics of how people with larger bodies are viewed and treated in the corporate world and how sexism and racism intersect with this. We discuss the taking back of the word "fat" as a neutral descriptive term and how weight-based discrimination often slips under the radar in a patriarchal society where women are pressured to be as skinny as possible. We close out the episode discussing the impact fatphobia has on people's experiences with the medical community and share the words of Naomi Wolf who says that neither capitalism nor the patriarchy benefit from women who reject the impossible beauty standards of today's society. We hope you're one of those women. - Janice Gassam Asare's January 2019 article for Forbes entitled "The Discrimination No One Talks About: Weight Discrimination" for base survey information and legal protections for weight-based discrimination in the workplace- November 2020 article for Nylon entitled "How Fatphobia Has Cemented Itself in the American Workplace" for base research and statistical information on weight-based discrimination in the workplace- Angelina R. Sutin, Yannick Stephan and Antonio Terracciano November 2015 report entitled "Weight Discrimination and Risk of Mortality" for the statistics and medical impact of weight-based discrimination-  Rebecca Puhl and Kelly D. Brownell's study entitled "Bias, Discrimination, and Obesity" for further research into weight-based discrimination - Margaret T. Hicken, Hedwig Lee, and Anna K. Hing's March 2017 study entitled "The weight of racism: Vigilance and racial inequalities in weight-related measures" for research and statistics on the intersection of racism and weight-based discrimination- Check out @fatfabfeminist on Instagram- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 12 of Series 2 where we're discussing what working women and working mothers need from their partners in order to survive & succeed. We work through 8 key points, starting with acknowledging that all mothers work (whether or not they get paid for it..!) and finishing with the need to show up every day for that partnership. We talk about how hard it is, particularly for women, to ask for what they need in a relationship with society's  heteropatriarchal expectations resting heavily on them and making them question if they're being selfish. We close the episode discussing how we are currently working to bring equality into our partnerships so that our mental load as working mothers is diminished. We hope it helps you too. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 11 of Series 2, we start with a brief discussion of important statistics for Black women, women of Colour and women from LGBTQIA+ communities. Due to a technical error, they were not included in last week's episode, Shecession. Next, we define what gender contamination is, what it means as a marketing term and how it draws from a hetero-patriarchal socio-political system. We dive into specific brand examples of gender contamination (prepare to be angered!) and why its deep foundation in the patriarchy makes it such a powerful tool. We talk about how this results in the harsh treatment of teenage girls vs. teenage boys and how we as a society view women's “things” in general. We discuss how this phenomenon translates to the workplace and how many women who do manage to succeed in the corporate environment have had to take on “male” performance characteristics. We close out the episode discussing how gender contamination harms men as well as women and lay out some integral touchpoints for being an ally/accomplice/advocate in the wider world as well as the workplace and how to maximize that advocacy in your professional leadership.- Jill Avery's November 2012 report for the International Journal of Marketing entitled "Defending the Markers of Masculinity: Consumer Resistance to Brand Gender-Bending" is pivotal to the discussion of gender contamination and provided the foundational information for this episode- Carmen Nobel's November 2013 article for Forbes entitled "Gender Contamination: Why Men Prefer Products Untouched By Women" provided specific brand information on the subject of gender contamination - Libby Copeland's August 2013 for Slate entitled "Is Diet Soda Girly?" provided specific brand information on the subject of gender contamination- Dorothy Neufeld's March 2020 article entitled "Female Breadwinners Have Doubled, But Barriers Remain" was used for the statistics on women holding the title of breadwinner in the U.S. pre-pandemic- Becky O'Connor's March 2020 article for Royal London entitled "Rise of the female breadwinner: Woman earns the most in one-in-four households" was used for the statistics on women holding the titled of breadwinner in the UK pre-pandemic- Emily Contois' November 2020 article on Nursing Clio entitled "Diners, Dudes and Diets" is a fascinating breakdown of the role of masculinity in both the brands we buy but the food we eat and is an incredible take on gender contamination- Emily Moss' September 2019 blog for Community Business entitled "Masculinity in the Workplace" breaks down how toxic masculinity and the workplace intersect as well as key points for being an advocate/ally in the workplace, no matter your level of leadership- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Welcome to Episode 10 of Series 2 where we're focusing on the so-called "Shecession", which is the massive loss of women from the workforce post-pandemic. American media are doubling-down on the story that people in America don't want to go back to their low paying jobs  after having it “so good” on unemployment when really, the missing infrastructure of childcare and other much needed supports for working women is a huge reason behind people, disproportionately women, having to leave the workforce and not return. We discuss the cycle of debt and poverty and how having "rainy day savings” is a privilege for many. We go through important statistics from the recent Deloitte "Women @ Work" report which detail women carrying the bulk of household tasks while still working, how many are losing faith in their career prospects and explore some of the reasons why more than half of the women polled are looking to leave their jobs in the next 2 years. We explore the pervasiveness of harassment, microaggressions and non-inclusive behaviour and how many examples of these behaviours are so innocuous, most women won't report them for fear of sounding melodramatic or experiencing career penalties. We question if what we're seeing is a rise of the patriarchy and we close out the episode talking over why the idea that women and men were nearly equal before the pandemic is a lie.- Deloitte Global "Women @ Work" Report, READ IT!- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to Episode 9 of Series 2 where we're diving into our own personal experiences working in an abusive/toxic environment. Lisa discusses how her own poor boundary setting lead to an exploitation of that weakness which, over time, negatively impacted her mental health to the point of constantly feeling trapped, crying at inopportune moments (like Zoom calls!) and leading her to complete lose her sense of joy. We highlight two important choices working women/mothers have to make: Choosing not to die on the altar of unending work (i.e. the 24 hour/7 day work week) and choosing to recognise your own merit so that you’re never begging someone else to see it as well. Jenni speaks about what it looks like to watch someone struggle through this from the outside and how when you’re in the thick of a toxic situation, you can’t see the wood for the trees. We close with a discussion on  how the antiquated idea of 9-5 working alienates women with unpaid care responsibilities from the workforce and how partnerships where both people are choosing (or stuck in) unsustainable working patterns can really suffer. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to Series 2 Episode 8, the subject of which we think will resonate with many of you: Having a Hard Time. We start off by discussing the impending  lunar eclipse (Super Blood Flower Moon) and how it can represent and/or bring about closure and evolution. We discuss abusive work relationships and how hard it can be to drop what doesn't serve you as well as divest yourself of the old trope that "this is just the way things are". Lisa goes on a bit of a dark one from the 6 minute mark and questions what the point is of even trying to make it work as a woman in a male dominated industry. Jenni then discusses how her recent abdominal surgery brought to light how little care and attention women receive post-childbirth and how the promises of the diet industry do a number on recovering moms. All in all, this episode is about finding ways to get through the maelstrom and firmly close that door behind you in order to welcome in the new. It's scary but we think it's worth it - we hope you do too.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to Episode 7 of Series 2 where we're discussing how to take back your power. While this is not an issue solely limited to women, the constant struggle to earn, hold and maintain our own power is unique to women both in the workplace and the wider world. We discuss how childhood trauma and ancestral/generational trauma combine with toxic stress to render many women more susceptible to feeling incapable of wielding their own power or speaking out in defence of it. We discuss our personal experiences of attempting to hold onto or maintain our own power in male-dominated environments and what things (and people) you should avoid in order to preserve your energy. We hope this episode helps those who are feeling forgotten, disrespected or trivialised within their workplace - you deserve better!- Signe Dean's April 2018 article for Science Alert entitled "Scientists Have Observed Epigenetic Memories Being Passed Down For 14 Generations" was used while discussing ancestral trauma. - December 2020 California Surgeon General's report entitled " Roadmap for Resilience" was used while discussing the effects of adverse childhood experiences (ACE's) and toxic stress.- Alexandra Harra's December 2017 article for Huffpost entitled "Women Only: 7 Steps to Reclaim Your Power" was used while discussing ways to reclaim your power.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to Episode 6 of Series 2, we're sharing our recent guest spot on the "Things That Keep Us Up At Night" podcast with Abby DesJardien. We spoke about a variety of topics ranging from why we do what we do, the Patriarchy and activism, the weight of expectation on working mothers (because all mothers work, right?), how we take care of ourselves and how little sleep Jenni is actually getting. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it.- Find Abby's excellent podcast, which is devoted to empowering women through better sleep, here.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here.

Welcome to Episode 5 of Series 2 where we are talking about when to call it. We start by breaking down what a toxic workplace is and what some major red flags are that you're working in one before diving into reasons why some women may feel that they need to quit a job they still really love. We discuss a few of our own experiences when we had to call time on an abusive relationship with a workplace before closing out the episode by examining a few key signs that it's time to leave your job. While quitting your job in an unstable job market may not seem like the safest choice to make, the most important thing we need you to remember is that you deserve the best. If your worth is not being recognised at your workplace, it might be time to call it!- Brigid Schulte's April 2018 article for Slate entitled " The Way We Work Is Killing Us" details the initial statistic quoted regarding 120,000 deaths annually in the U.S. due to workplace stress- April 2021 article for Appreciation at Work entitled "Toxic Workplaces Can Kill You (Really)" was used for its breakdown of the major signs of a toxic workplace- Liz Elting's August 2019 articled for Forbes entitled " Why Women Quit" provided the key statistics on working mother's financial and unpaid care burdens- Amanda Riojas' 2021 article for Fairy God Boss entitled "5 Reasons For Leaving a Job: Why Women Quit Even When They Like Their Work" was used in the discussion about why women may need to quit a job they love- Kathy Caprino's February 2017 article for Forbes entitled "5 Undeniable Signs It's Time To Leave Your Job" which provided a list of key experiences that mean you might need to quit- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to Episode 4 of Series 2 where we start by talking about global racial injustice, specifically what’s happening in the U.S.A. & the U.K. We talk about the unending police shootings in North America, the Sewell Report in the UK, racist Dr. Seuss books and how disappointing it is to see so many social media accounts ignore the inhumanity of what is taking place prolifically around the world. We discuss why no one doing anti-racist work should expect a pat on the back for it and then break down a list of common phrases used in the office (and the wider world) that are racist. We also talk about the healing power of being uncomfortable, apologising and learning to do better. - Marguerite Ward & Rachel Premack's March 2021 article for Business Insider entitled "What is a microaggression? 14 things people think are fine to say at work — but are actually racist, sexist, or offensive" which was the basis for our discussion about racist, offensive phrases not to use in the office.- We love the June 2020 Huffpost article by Kelsey Borreson entitled "6 Things White People Say That Highlight Their Privilege" as it quotes Myisha Hill (who we love along with her wonderful work on Check Your Privilege) and breaks down a lot of pervasive tropes about racism commonly used by White people.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

Welcome to Episode 3 of Series 2, where we explore joy. We examine some of the reasons why women struggle to retain and engender joy in their lives and discuss how we personally feel joy is lost during the day as a working woman. We talk about the ways in which people and pressures can strip joy from daily life and what can be done to lighten your load and help to make space for the pursuit of joy as an integral and vital part of your personal journey. - The May 2009 paper "The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness" by Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers. - Anne Petherick's May 2016 article for The Guardian entitled "Gains in women’s rights haven't made women happier. Why is that?" which breaks down some of the reasons why women have struggled with happiness over the last four decades.- Dr.Erin Leyba's April 2017 article for Working Mother entitled "10 Quick Joy Fixes for Weary Working Moms" whose contents and suggestions we discuss in the episode.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.