Podcast appearances and mentions of michael reichert

Now is the best time in history to raise a boy. Michael Reichert makes that claim in his book How to Raise a Boy. At first, it may seem like he is wrong, since boys are falling behind their female peers in almost every area. But Reichert  says those statistics are what makes it a great time. Now that we're aware that boys are struggling, it only takes a little intentionality to help. We can make sure our boys have positive and godly mentors. We can steer our sons away from screens and towards outdoor activity. We can get our son the extra help they need educationally. And, most importantly, we can pray to our all powerful God for wisdom, protection, and a full, kingdom building life for our sons. For ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.

Current events find us talking more and more about the experiences of women and young girls, but what about the experiences of our sons and young men? How can we ensure that our sons are well-prepared and well-launched to manhood? How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men, by Dr. Michael Reichert, focuses on this question as a foundation to what we are missing when it comes to raising our sons.

Mom Enough co-hosts Marti & Erin found this discussion on raising boys with Dr. Michael Reichert to be one of the most thoughtful and important episodes they have done.   Drawing on his personal story of the death of his brother, his extensive research on boys around the world and his years of clinical experience with boys longing to be heard, this psychologist and highly respected author makes the case that, in his words, “Too many boys lose their intimate connections and emotional voices early in their lives.” But it doesn't have to be that way!   Dr. Reichert offers practical guidance whether you are the parent of a lively preschooler, a 5th-grader trying to succeed in school or a teenager trying to navigate the turbulent waters of romance and sexuality or grappling with disturbing pornographic images on the internet. Tune in to learn key insights from Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.   BOYS AND GIRLS ARE NOT AS DIFFERENT AS WE SOMETIMES THINK.   If you listen carefully, you are likely to discover that boys and girls are not as different as we sometimes think. We all long for trust, respect, connection. We all long for our needs and feelings to be heard and acknowledged. And when we provide those things to both our sons and daughters, the world will be better for the men and women they become.   REFLECT ON HOW YOU WILL BEGIN RAISING BOYS DIFFERENTLY.   This week's Mom Enough guest, Dr. Michael Reichert, says in this discussion, “The problem is not boys, but the boyhood we have built.” What examples can you think of that illustrate this point? What concrete steps could you take to begin to build a better boyhood for the boys in your life, whatever their ages? What one thing will you change in how you are raising your son(s), so they will grow up to be compassionate and caring adults?   WANT TO LEARN MORE? ❉  Check out Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men, to learn more about raising boys.   ❉ HELPING OUR CHILDREN BUILD SELF-COMPASSION: KEYS TO KINDNESS, GRATITUDE AND COMPASSION FOR OTHERS. We've all heard the question, “What kind of world are we leaving for our children?” But Dr. Shilagh Mirgain, a health and sport psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, turns that question on its head and asks, “What kind of children are we leaving for our world?” Whatever the ages of your children, don't miss this inspiring and practical discussion of how to help your children develop compassion for themselves and others, recognizing the common humanity, vulnerability and imperfection we all share. Learn concrete steps you can take today to help your children be more grateful, kind and mindful in their daily lives.     ❉ PROMOTING HEALTHY MANHOOD: WISDOM FROM THE AUTHORS OF THE BOOK OF DARES. Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague are devoting their lives to building a new kind of strong, healthy manhood where boys and men respect themselves and others, treat women as equals and stand up against violence and injustice. Tune in to hear how they are doing this through A Call to Men and an innovative new book for boys, The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold and Brave.    ❉ CUT TO THE QUICK: THE CONSEQUENCES OF RELATIONAL AGGRESSION AMONG OUR SONS & DAUGHTERS. We've all heard “mean girl” stories and many of us probably have lived them. But the social rejection and humiliation kids inflict on each other is not unique to girls; in fact, this episode's Mom Enough guest cites evidence that relational aggression is equally common among boys and girls.

In this episode of Real Talk, KJK Student Defense Attorneys Susan Stone and Kristina Supler are joined by Dr. Michael C. Reichert, an Executive Director of the Center for the Study of Boys and Girls at the University of Pennsylvania and a Supervising Psychologist at the Haverford School.  They discuss how to raise boys.  The conversation includes how Dr. Reichert pioneered a groundbreaking discovery about boys and the key to their learning, why time and society along with it has revolutionized gender stereotypes and the fundamentals of raising a boy that every parent should know. Links Mentioned In the Show: KJK Student Defense Dr. Michael Reichert's Website https://www.michaelcreichert.com  Show Notes: (03:11) A shocking commonality that Dr. Reichert and Niobe Way discovered about boys and their relationships (03:37) How a theory of voice education was pioneered (04:04) The essential factor required for boys to engage in learning  (04:42) A shocking finding about boys and relationships that baffled even educational and psychological veterans with 50 years of experience combined (07:22) Transformative relationships: do boys become too dependent on their friends? (08:00) How culture and society has caused the context of title IX cases involving males to evolve over time. (09:40) How Kristina and Susan utilized their certification in restorative justice as a means of conflict resolution (11:14)  Why masculinity has historically grown to be weaponized involving title IX cases  (12:38) The turning point of society: finally acknowledging the humanity of males (17:07) Breaking the stereotype: the shift in parenting and their expectations from their male children (21:32) What every parent, particularly mothers, needs to do for their sons before sending them off to college and throughout it.  (22:10) Why the, “Mama's Boy Myth,” has been busted.  (23:58) What every single mom raising a son needs to bear in mind (25:00) We are living in the era of redefining emotional strength Transcript: Susan Stone: Today's podcast, Kristine and I are going to, again, explore how to raise boys. Now I know you guys out there who pay attention to our podcast are wondering didn't you just do that with Niobi Way talk about boys. Didn't we?  Kristina Supler: We did. But you know, we've really had the pleasure of reading quite a few books recently on this topic. And given that in our law practice, while we represent male and female students, we tend to see and deal with cases with boys mostly.  Susan Stone: Yeah. I mean, you have to wonder, especially in hazing cases we represent mm-hmm fraternity members. We have never met, represented a, a sorority sister.  Kristina Supler: Not true. We have, what did don't forget that? Oh, you did.  Susan Stone: oh my gosh. Showing my age, showing my age. Kristina Supler: But you are correct in that 99.9% of the time, our hazing cases are male students.  Susan Stone: Yeah, thanks for calling me out there. That's awesome. But why don't you introduce our speaker? That is your job.  Kristina Supler: Today, we are joined by Michael Reichert, who is a psychologist who has worked in a variety of clinical school, community and research settings over the course of his career. He serves as the executive director of the center for the study of boys and girls lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania. And he is also a supervising psychologist at the Haverford school, which is outside of Philadelphia. Susan Stone: Very pretty area, Kristina and I were there gorgeous  Kristina Supler: area, gorgeous, fine institutions in that area of the country. Michael has writing has been published in many prominent. Periodicals the Atlantic New York times, Washington post. And today he's joining us to discuss his book, entitled how to raise a boy, the power of connection to build. Good men. Welcome.  Welcome. So we're gonna start with the first question, Michael, in how to raise a boy, you address society's narrow conception of what it means to be a real boy. We had Niobe Way author of Deep Secrets. Talk about how boys crave real friendships, which fade over time as boys hit their teenage years. Can you add anything else to that concept and maybe give us a fresh look about boys, maybe something we don't know about them, even though you guys are 50% of the population. Dr. Michael Reichert: good morning, Christina. Good morning, Susan. thank you for having me. And I'm glad to be here and, and particularly glad to be following my good friend and colleague Niobe. You know, um, I was talking with Niobe recently and we were, we're getting ready to host a webinar. We began the conversation with each other, talking about what has surprised us in our research. What led us to the positions that were, were both in respectively and Niobe's way Niobe's study was about friendship and what she discovered that surprised her was that boys indeed have tremendously intimiate relationships with each other relationships that they would die without they feel my research that, that wound up in a very similar destination came from a very different source. I investigated teaching and learning in schools around the world. and we began our large scale survey, 18 countries, 1500 boys ages 12 to 19, and about a thousand of their teachers. And we asked a very simple question. We asked what's worked, trying to build a theory of voice education inductively from the ground up. And what we found was completely unexpected. Not mentioned at all by the teachers that we interview, we, we surveyed and interviewed, came exclusively from the boys themselves. And essentially what the boys said was we depend upon a connection with our teacher or our coach in order to engage in learning. The vulnerable act of learning from somebody requires that we believe this person cares about us and wants to help. now my part, my research partner, and I, we had 50 years at that point between us in the trenches of boys education, we were unprepared for how powerfully boys described themselves as relational learners. And we realized that there was this fog of stereotype that kept us from seeing boys clearly, not just us, but folks in the trenches and some of the finest boys schools around the world. we all had trouble naming this phenomenon that boys are relational. Fundamentally Niobe found something similar. She found that we have this shroud of, of, of misconception that, you know, what she calls false stories that keep us from recognizing how capable of intimacy boys are in their friendships. I arrived at a similar place looking at boys' relationships with their teachers and coaches. Kristina Supler: That's interesting because this, this subject or this topic of relationships, Susan, and I see it so often at the beginning of episode, Susan mentioned fraternities and hazing, of course, but there's a lot of positive that can come from fraternities in those relationships. And in your book, you talk about this idea of brotherhood being a distinct and integral. Facet in boyhood and you discuss how it's ever present in institutions of boyhood like recess, sports teams, clubs, fraternities. When we represent young men in college title IX cases, we do that work across the country and typically our clients are accused male students. And so often Susan and I have these really difficult conversations. With our clients, these young men who are absolutely heartbroken and shocked when they not only receive the news that, they're respondent in a Campus Title IX case, but they learn that they've been asked to leave or been kicked out of their fraternity. And they're friends with whom they thought they had this deep connection. They're now on an island alone. What can you tell us about this? Or what are your thoughts on why that happens. Susan Stone: Other than the legal aspect? Because we always wonder. Is it really the boys or the boys that succombing to pressure from their chapters saying, mm-hmm we, we don't want our charter revoked. You gotta get that kid out and suspend them and it  Kristina Supler: make it begs the question. How real are the friendships? Yeah. And then that's a painful, uh, ugly dose of reality that these young men are, are navigating on top of everything else. So, Michael, what are your thoughts?  Susan Stone: Are boys really good time, Charlies?  Dr. Michael Reichert: Well, you're saying you're packing a lot into your question. So it, I, I think I need to unpack it a little bit or answer from different angles. Number one boys friendships are uh, transformative just as their relationships with teachers and coaches can be transformative. You know, that's what Niobe Ways research established was that these are relationships in which boys can live. They can breathe, they can be themselves and absent those relationships. Their mental health is, is considerably diminished they're alone. So you know, the feeling that your clients have expressed when they get canceled by their fraternity. Of being at a complete loss. I think that's very real and painful. That's number one, but number two, you know, we are in an era, almost a pendulum swing era in which the realities of title IX and me too are seeping into the culture in ways that I think are largely. There's been this culture, this bro culture that has existed in uh, male development that has been tacitly the dominant, a dominant theme for generations and to be called out now historically, uh, about where aggression in intimate, uh, relationships crosses a line. I think that's actually really healthy and important. And, and it, you know, it sets a bar that I think boys need to recognize and take account of, I think a lot about integrity and what what enables a, a young man to retain his human integrity, his humanity. In the context of a culture that does so much puts on puts so much pressure on boys to lose themselves, you know, this idea, for example, that for most boys, their introduction to their sexuality is in pornography. You know, we're not really, some folks are talking about that, but it's not nearly a pervasive enough conversation, particularly in families raising boys. I, I think that. These, the implementation of title IX rules on campus is I think that is in my mind, historic swing. Do boys at the same time as they're being called out, need to be called in, in some restorative justice context? I do believe that I feel strongly about that. Susan Stone: So do we, you should know that many, many years ago. Uh, Kristine and I went to Swarthmore, your neck of the woods, and we were certified in restorative justice. And you know, we talk about it for years. Kristina Supler: It's a wonderful approach to conflict resolution, repairing but  Susan Stone: harm. But I will tell you by and large, we don't get to employ those skills. We're typically hired to be advisors in a more traditional hearing setting, but we always pitch it. And I'm still waiting for the day where someone's gonna ask us to serve as advisors in a restorative justice setting. Hasn't happened yet. When did we go to Swarthmore?  Kristina Supler: Oh gosh, years ago. I don't remember, but it, it's interesting to see academic institutions embrace restorative justice more for title nine, of course, now that that's permitted with the regulations or student general student misconduct cases, but it's, it has not caught on everywhere. And there's still many students who are very, very resistant to the idea and, and view it as a process that isn't going to help resolve whatever the, the harm in question is. Susan Stone: But we're not, we're not given up on that. Michael, we, we believe in it. ,  Dr. Michael Reichert: My son went to Swarthmore, by the way. And maybe during the time that you were taking your training, your certification,  Susan Stone: you have to ask him and did he see two fabulous women walk across campus? Cause I'm sure it was us. I'm sure Dr. Michael Reichert: The arc of history here is really important to acknowledge, you know, that's really what I was trying to say. Mm-hmm and I do look forward to a time. I believe there will be a time in which you will be asked less to defend young men in these accusations and more to help restore some kind of res you know, some resolution to  I think I mentioned in my notes before your interview today that I'm launching a new study of younger men, 18 to 30 years old in partnership with an organization based in DC, Equa Mundo. We're about to launch a state of American men survey. Probably, uh, within a month or two.  We're very aware of the fact that we're taking, we're undertaking this study in a context in which Senator Holly is coming up with a new book. Uh, and Tucker Carlson is coming up with a new book, both about men and both about sort of celebrating traditional masculinity. The weaponization of masculinity is unfortunately one of the characteristics of our time and your legal practice, my work as a developmental psychologist, a consulting psychologist, and an a researcher it's taking place in this historic context, what I will say. And one of the reasons we're focusing on 18 to 30 year old guys is I don't think there's ever been a better time to be a young man. To be raising a son or educating a son. I think it's actually the first time I, I get grandiose here, Kristina and Susan, and I say, I think the first time in all of human history, in which we're really able to acknowledge the full humanity of male male beings. And in particular, the relational and emotional natures of males I think is for the first time really coming under popular scrutiny. All of these athletes, for example, who are saying, indeed I struggle with anxiety or depression or whatnot, the legitimation of males as people who have deep feelings in relationships have intimacy needs who have lots and lots of feelings and need to express those feelings. I think that's how I. This historic time and we're in a contest for what view of men is going to prevail. We're gonna have a, kind of a militaristic masculinity, you know, a throwback masculinity touted in the public square from some very loud voices. And, uh, I think that in your work defending young men who have been called out fairly or unfairly I'm I'm sure. You know, you get, you get both.  Susan Stone: We do get both. Um, and we see that there is no one flavor of a male respondent. We've had many men tell us that they don't like hooking up. They want the relationships to be deeper than sex. They don't like partying. We've had that. We've had situations where there was rough sex and it was not introduced by the male. It was introduced by the female. So we do see a lot of young men cry. Oh  Kristina Supler: yeah. I mean, it's Michael, it's so interesting to hear you say, uh, that it's such a wonderful time to examine these issues and raise young men because when Susan and I are meeting with young men every day and talking to their families, the constant refrain we hear from parents who are sitting in our office, you know, in tears about whatever the situation at hand is, because they're just in this nightmare that they never envisioned involving their child is it's such a hard time for young men on college campuses in particular.  Susan Stone: I'm gonna throw a question that I we've prepared our questions that occurred to me. um, and this is gonna be a really controversial question. I'm seeing almost the opposite where it used to be, that people would say that their boys need to toughen it up and their girls were allowed to be vulnerable. And lately we're almost seeing a shift in parenting where parents of girls assume that the girls are competent and will take care of things. And that their boys are so fragile that if Kristina and I push hard, for example, when we do mock cross examination to get students ready for a hearing, we hear their boys are gonna break. And so we're actually seeing wouldn't you agree like eggshell males and warrior women?  Dr. Michael Reichert: I love that.  Kristina Supler: yeah, it it's it. You never know that. And that's actually, what I love about what we do for a living is you never know what you're gonna deal with on, on the day to day something new comes in. And just when you think you have a certain conception of how someone acts or responds to a situation you're confronted with something new. But I mean, what are your thoughts, Michael?  Susan Stone: Yeah, because I'm gonna tell you what we're speaking. We, we get asked to speak at the during his places and Wednesday we've been invited into someone's home with a group of young men and their moms before they go off to college, it's coming up, summer's almost over. And we're gonna talk about things that they should be concerned about. Of course we will give you credit, Michael, but can you give us a little something extra to share that we can talk to these boys and their moms about before these boys go off to college?  Dr. Michael Reichert: I'm still thinking about pondering your phrase eggshell boy, eggshell men and warrior women, Susan. I like that. That was  Kristina Supler: a good one. A little. Yeah.  Dr. Michael Reichert: In a nutshell, what I would say is this in a, in a survey that launched. Boyhood campaign global boyhood initiative. Equa Mundo did a survey and, uh, focus group research project. And when they surveyed parents of boys, what they found was that one of the values that parents placed cherished most importantly in their sons is something that they called emotional. and there's different ways of defining that, that I think really does illustrate my point. That there's never been a better time to be a boy to raise a son. Traditionally, emotional strength has been defined as stoicism. Suck it up. Don't show any feelings. Keep it to yourself. Rise above it, be rational. The problem is that that doesn't work particularly well. It comes at a tremendous personal cost that we've just hidden, we haven't really openly acknowledged it's coming out now that football players and star basketball players and all kinds of public figures, have been suffering and quietly believing that they need to some. Rise above that suffering. When in fact, the solution as a therapist, someone in clinical practice for a long, long time, what I know is that the solution to those kinds of struggles is the opposite of keeping it inside. It's letting it out, getting it off your chest, relieving yourself of de tension by finding someone that can quote unquote, hold you, listen to you care about you understand. We're built to cleanse our minds of suffering and struggle, but not by keeping it inside and what the current generations are doing. What younger men are figuring out is that they need to be able to do that. They need the right, the permission to do that. I teach an emotional literacy course that, that boys school outside of Philadelphia, the Haverford school mm-hmm , I've been doing it now for close to 30 years. When we first started out it was suspect. And only a kind of a self-selected few would find their way into the voluntary program. Now, 2022, that program has become what the boys call the best program in the school. The room fills with people coming. And maybe they're coming for the pizza, but I believe they're also coming for the opportunity and it's a drop and a bucket opportunity, you know, but the opportunity to talk to their friends in a real way, and the kinds of profound ways that boys will share stories about what's going on in their lives. Kristina Supler: Your comments are making me think about, of course we're located in Cleveland, Ohio. And so I'm thinking of the Cavalier's player. Kevin Love, who is, well, I'm thinking of Julia. Yes, huge. And everyone loves him for a variety of reasons. But when he came out about his struggles, I. Believe it was depression and anxiety. He, number one, it was so brave of him to share and be vulnerable with the whole country and talk about that. And I think he drew a lot of attention to the issue, but it was also curious to hear people talk about like, gee, how could this. famous, rich superstar athlete have these issues. That's so shocking. And I know Susan, I, I mean, I heard people making comments along those lines and I thought like, of course they do. I mean, this is what we see every day is a certain, you know, conception of masculinity they're struggling and they have these issues and challenges.  Susan Stone: Yeah. I just wanna circle back Michael to our talks with moms and boys, from what, tell me if you agree with this. From what I'm hearing, we really need to say that we know the transition to college is gonna be difficult. So for moms and parents of males going off to college where you are alone, and it's a long haul, that freshman year is hard to make sure that there are outlets for those males to express home sickness and loneliness and fear. Is that the message you think we should send on Wednesday night and in future talks?  Dr. Michael Reichert: Yes. I would say it a bit differently. Would I say to parents who are about to launch their sons to college freshman years? I say what you want is for your son to have you in his hip. If the attachment process in these primary relationships has gone well, so that the boy has a secure sense of being quote unquote, well held by his mom or his dad or both. What we want is for that boy to have easy access to the resource of that relationship, no matter what he's facing. Now the fear is always, you know, we have this phenomenon that Kate Lombardi Stone wrote about in her book. Mama's Boy Myth. We have this fear that many moms carry that if they keep their sons too close, they'll somehow undermine his, his individuation as a masculinity. They'll turn 'em into a mama's boy. And what I say to moms, when I talk to him, Susan, is that's nonsense. It's just the opposite. boys will want to be autonomous and independent and strong, but we don't understand separation any longer in developmental psychology as turning away from relationships or giving up on them, we actually grow in relationships, not out of them. And so boys will use their mothers as sounding boards or as stress relief valve. When they need to provided that the channel for communication is kept clear. Now, a lot of moms do, they're the ones that initiate the calls. They, they can't deal with the separation at their end. That's a different phenomenon. yeah. That's a different conversation. well,  Susan Stone: I actually am reflecting because I have two girls and one boy, and ironically, I do speak to my son more than my two daughters combin.  Kristina Supler: that is true. You say that it's very true. Yeah. Just as an outside observer.  Susan Stone: Yeah. I'm thinking and reflecting. I, I was a single mother raising three kids, and I will say, I always believed in my mind that it's much harder for a mother to raise a son without a dad present that it is a daughter. And there are a lot of single mothers out there. Do you have advice for single mom?  Dr. Michael Reichert: Okay. I have to, um, refer you to a wonderful book written by a famous Ackerman Institute, family therapist, Olga Silverstein. The book is titled the courage to raise good men. And it's a book that's based on her experience as a single mom raising her son. But essentially Susan, what she says that I, I wholeheartedly agree with is. You build this relationship with your son in which essentially you promise him, that you will always be in the background of his life there for him supporting him, loving him, knowing him, willing to hold him when he needs, needs to reveal something that's hard. And there's nothing about becoming a man that requires that your. To turn away from that or give up on that or somehow go without that strength comes from connection, not from separation. And that's the thing. I think that we, psychologists folks like Niobe Way and myself, what we're trying to redefine is what is emotional strength. And it actually is having the courage to acknowledge. I'm scared. I feel bad. I'm upset. And, and acknowledge that in the face of a culture that might derogate you if you reveal those feelings. But that's the good news here, you know, less and less. That's true. It's an exciting time.  Kristina Supler: Well, Michael, this has been a really wonderful, oh my God episode. It's really such a pleasure to talk with you and hear what you have to add to the discussion that you put in your book, how to raise a boy, the power of connection to build good men. And we encourage our listeners to check out the book and thank you so much for joining us today.  Susan Stone: Michael, we could talk to you further, but I think it's really good to end on a note where my mind is just racing because with all the pain going on the world, mm-hmm, leaving on a note that this is a great time to raise a boy. It's a great time to be a male in the face of everything. And that men are more comfortable being more emotional, that bodes well for both men and our daughters and women. So  Dr. Michael Reichert: thank you. Yeah. Yeah. Good luck in your parenting um, thank you both. Thanks for talking with you. Thank you. Susan Stone: Thank you.

How can parents raise their sons to be kind and respectful men? Psychologist Dr. Michael Reichert joins us to talk about his book, “How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men”. He's the Founding Director of The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives at the University of Pennsylvania and is a leading researcher on the journey from boyhood to manhood. His website is https://www.michaelcreichert.com/ Note: This episode has been previously aired. Thanks to our sponsor of the episode!: Everlywell is digital healthcare designed for you — all at an affordable and transparent price. With over thirty at-home lab tests, you'll be able to choose the test that makes the most sense for you to get the answers you need, like the Metabolism Test or Food Sensitivity Test. Everlywell ships products straight to you with everything needed in one package. To take your at-home lab test, simply collect your sample and use the included prepaid shipping label to mail your test back to a certified lab. Your physician-reviewed results get sent to your phone or device in just days! If you've been experiencing symptoms and don't know where to start, Everlywell is committed to listening and supporting your journey towards better health and wellness. For listeners of Nobody Told Me!, Everlywell is offering a special discount of twenty percent off an at-home lab test at everlywell.com/nobody. That's everlywell.com/nobody for twenty percent off your next at-home lab test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychologist Dr. Michael Reichert talks about his book, "How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men". He's the Founding Director of The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives at the University of Pennsylvania and has been described as a leading researcher on the journey from boyhood to manhood. In this interview, we talk about how good relationships between parents and their sons can lead to a boy turning into a kind, respectful man rather than an abusive and violent one. Note: This episode was previously aired. Thanks to our sponsors of this episode! CASTUS is a team of business development experts that enables B2B e-commerce to streamline the relationship between wholesalers and resellers. They create custom digital storefronts that cater to both your products and buyers to drive online orders and strengthen brand loyalty. Their in-depth expertise working in back-end logistics to front-end consumer experiences, and everything in between makes them the perfect full-cycle partner for your business growth. Visit their website, castusglobal.com/nobodytoldme to set up a no-obligation, one-on-one consultation with one of their experts and learn more.  FEALS is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant and it works without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. CBD naturally helps reduce stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Finding your right dose of CBD is important and Feals offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. Joining the FEALS monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You'll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping.  Ora Organic's Trust Your Gut probiotic and prebiotic supplement contains some of the world's most powerful probiotic strains, along with prebiotics to help the good bacteria thrive in your gut so your probiotics work smarter, not harder. Trust Your Gut helps optimize your digestion and support common gut health issues like constipation and bloating. A healthy mix of probiotics in your gut has also been linked to having a strong immune system and can even impact your mood! Trust Your Gut is available in a capsule or powder format. With its variety of products, Ora is your one stop shop for clean, quality, plant-based nutrition that works! You have nothing to lose. Try Ora's products and if you're not happy for any reason within 60 days, get a full refund. No questions asked. Get 30% off your first subscription when you text TOLD to 64000. (sixty-four thousand) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy for parents of a boy to reason that their number one job is to turn him into a good man. And while the heart behind that sentiment is pure, it can lead to approaches that are less than helpful in achieving that goal. We carry with us the way we were raised, and what we see presented culturally and historically as the journey from boyhood to manhood. While some of these methods are good and right, others are ineffective or even hurtful. This conundrum called out to Dr. Michael Reichert, our guest today. He has spent over 35 years researching the things that allow boys to flourish in their families, schools and communities, all while applying his findings in his clinical practice and several published books. He brings those findings and his experience to us today to help us understand the deep connection that is required to raise boys well.  

This week's guests are Dr. Michael Reichert and Rowena Pinto.

In this week's edition of Where Parents Talk with Lianne Castelino on 105.9 The Region, Dr. Michael Reichert, clinical psychologist, author and father of two discusses better understanding and managing your teenager's emotions, and Rowena Pinto, Chief Program Officer at Unicef Canada discusses a new report by Unicef, entitled The State of the World's Children 2021.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and […] The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and […] The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society's where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it's a loss for us and it's a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man's self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys' education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys' school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society's where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it's a loss for us and it's a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man's self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys' education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys' school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Welcome to Episode 17 of Series 2 where we dive into toxic masculinity: What does it mean? What are its ties with toxic femininity and is that even a thing? The short answer is no, it's not, it's a "men's rights" dog whistle but we digress. We talk about how kind, caring, nurturing little boys grow into unemotional but overly aggressive men and what the signs/markers are for toxic masculinity. We dive into how toxic masculinity affects the corporate workplace and who stands to benefit from this seriously detrimental mindset. This is a deep and nuanced subject so a single episode isn't sufficient to cover it - we'll drop Part 2 next week and we hope it helps you further explore this complicated conversation. - April 2019 Atlantic interview entitled " Raising Boys With a Broader Definition of Masculinity" with psychologist Michael Reichert about how boys are bombarded by societal expectations. - Top 10 Toxic Masculinity Behaviors shared on a July 2019 article on Aurora as discussed- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use (though not on this episode) here

Mom Enough co-hosts Marti & Erin found this discussion on raising boys with Dr. Michael Reichert to be one of the most thoughtful and important episodes they have done. Drawing on his personal story of the death of his brother, his extensive research on boys around the world and his years of clinical experience with boys longing to be heard, this psychologist and highly respected author makes the case that, in his words, “Too many boys lose their intimate connections and emotional voices early in their lives.” But it doesn't have to be that way, and Dr. Reichert offers practical guidance whether you are the parent of a lively preschooler, a 5th-grader trying to succeed in school or a teenager trying to navigate the turbulent waters of romance and sexuality or grappling with disturbing pornographic images on the internet. Tune in to learn key insights from Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.   BOYS AND GIRLS ARE NOT AS DIFFERENT AS WE SOMETIMES THINK.   If you listen carefully, you are likely to discover that boys and girls are not as different as we sometimes think. We all long for trust, respect, connection. We all long for our needs and feelings to be heard and acknowledged. And when we provide those things to both our sons and daughters, the world will be better for the men and women they become.   REFLECT ON HOW YOU WILL BEGIN RAISING BOYS DIFFERENTLY.   This week's Mom Enough guest, Dr. Michael Reichert, says in this discussion, “The problem is not boys, but the boyhood we have built.” What examples can you think of that illustrate this point? What concrete steps could you take to begin to build a better boyhood for the boys in your life, whatever their ages? What one thing will you change in how you are raising your son(s), so they will grow up to be compassionate and caring adults?   WANT TO LEARN MORE? ❉  Check out Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men, to learn more about raising boys.   ❉ HELPING OUR CHILDREN BUILD SELF-COMPASSION: KEYS TO KINDNESS, GRATITUDE AND COMPASSION FOR OTHERS. We've all heard the question, “What kind of world are we leaving for our children?” But Dr. Shilagh Mirgain, a health and sport psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, turns that question on its head and asks, “What kind of children are we leaving for our world?” Whatever the ages of your children, don't miss this inspiring and practical discussion of how to help your children develop compassion for themselves and others, recognizing the common humanity, vulnerability and imperfection we all share. Learn concrete steps you can take today to help your children be more grateful, kind and mindful in their daily lives.     ❉ PROMOTING HEALTHY MANHOOD: WISDOM FROM THE AUTHORS OF THE BOOK OF DARES. Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague are devoting their lives to building a new kind of strong, healthy manhood where boys and men respect themselves and others, treat women as equals and stand up against violence and injustice. Tune in to hear how they are doing this through A Call to Men and an innovative new book for boys, The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold and Brave.    ❉ CUT TO THE QUICK: THE CONSEQUENCES OF RELATIONAL AGGRESSION AMONG OUR SONS & DAUGHTERS. We've all heard “mean girl” stories and many of us probably have lived them. But the social rejection and humiliation kids inflict on each other is not unique to girls; in fact, this episode's Mom Enough guest cites evidence that relational aggression is equally common among boys and girls.

Michael Reichert leads the latest discussion on relational teaching, unpacking what it means to become a relational boys' school. Get expert advice about putting relational learning at the center of school life. Offering encouragement to teachers facing relational challenges with the boys they teach, he shares strategies for schools as they recover relationally from differing levels of pandemic-induced disconnect. Miguel Dionis of Viaro Global School (Spain), Peter Coutis of Scotch College (Australia), Kathryn Barnes of Upper Canada College (Canada), and Guy Logan of St. Bernard's College (Australia) contribute their global perspectives to this essential topic. IBSC Exploring Boys' Education music composed and performed by Tom DiGiovanni. Michael Reichert · IBSC

Michael Reichert leads the latest discussion on relational teaching, unpacking what it means to become a relational boys' school. Get expert advice about putting relational learning at the center of school life. Offering encouragement to teachers facing relational challenges with the boys they teach, he shares strategies for schools as they recover relationally from differing levels of pandemic-induced disconnect. Miguel Dionis of Viaro Global School (Spain), Peter Coutis of Scotch College (Australia), Kathryn Barnes of Upper Canada College (Canada), and Guy Logan of St. Bernard's College (Australia) contribute their global perspectives to this essential topic. IBSC Exploring Boys' Education music composed and performed by Tom DiGiovanni. Michael Reichert

When you look at the little boys or young men in your family and community, do you ever think about the opportunity they will face to build a better world for both men and women? Do you think about their potential to build a new kind of strong, healthy manhood that will allow them to respect themselves and others, treat women as equals and stand up against violence and injustice?   This week’s Mom Enough guests, Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague, are devoting their lives to this effort through their work with A Call to Men and an innovative new book for boys, The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold and Brave. When Marti & Erin ask the guests why they focus specifically on boys, they describe the limitations that have been put on boys, and they note the fact that males die earlier and perpetrate most of the violence. As they say, “The liberation of men will be the liberation of women.” As parents, we need to start early in raising boys to a healthy manhood. So, whether you have a toddler or a teen, tune into this inspiring conversation and focus on the steps you can take to support your son in becoming the respectful, authentic, emotionally engaged man he can be.   WHAT DID YOU LEARN ABOUT RAISING BOYS WHO EMBRACE HEALTHY MANHOOD? This week’s Mom Enough guests note that boys learn early on to be in the “Man Box.” What does that mean? And how can we invite the boys in our life, at any age, to step out of that box? Using the ideas of The Book of Dares, think of two or three dares you could pose to your son that would encourage him to think in new ways about how both boys and girls benefit when boys step out of the “Man Box.”    WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT RAISING HEALTHY BOYS? ❉ A CALL TO MEN. This organization works to promote healthy, respectful manhood by offering trainings and educational resources to organizations, such as schools, businesses, and community organizations.   ❉ HOW TO RAISE A BOY: A CONVERSATION ABOUT THE POWER OF CONNECTION TO BUILD GOOD MEN. Dr. Michael Reichert offers practical guidance whether you are the parent of a lively preschooler, a 5th-grader trying to succeed in school or a teenager trying to navigate the turbulent waters of romance and sexuality or grappling with disturbing pornographic images on the internet.

We know gender stereotypes hurt girls. But what are they doing to boys? From a young age, our society tells boys they must be dominant and tough. They learn not to show vulnerability or ask for help. That emotional suppression makes it hard for boys to cope with, well, everything—and it’s painful for the people who love them, too. So this week on Tilted, we’re talking about how toxic masculinity puts boys in “man boxes” and how we can help them get out. We’re joined by two experts on the topic: Peggy Orenstein, author of Boys and Sex, and Dr. Michael Reichert, author of How to Raise a Boy.Sign-up for LeanIn.Org's newsletter here. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In Episode 149, I’m talking with repeat podcast guest Stephen Gray Wallace about his new book, Impact: An Introduction to Counseling, Mentoring, and Youth Development. The book offers insightful commentary on the important role of mentors in the lives of children and teens. While it specifically addresses camp counselors, Impact is equally relevant for all key youth influencers, including parents, teachers, and coaches. Ep. 27: Raising Teens who Thrive with Stephen Wallace Ep. 92: Creating Strong Relationships with Teens Stephen has broad experience as a school psychologist and adolescent/family counselor. He is president and director of the Center for Adolescent Research and Education (CARE), a former associate research professor at Susquehanna University, and the past national chairman and chief executive officer at SADD (Students Against Destructive Decisions/Students Against Driving Drunk). Stephen also works with the American Camp Association (ACA) as a feature magazine writer, media spokesperson and faculty member at its e-Institute for Professional Development. Review of IMPACT Decades of experience and research are packed into Wallace’s guide for leaders at summer camp. Wallace communicates the responsibility and life-changing impact counselors can have and the many facets of their role, which go far beyond what most people think of when they hear the job “camp counselor.” Covering a multitude of topics that are critical for counselors to understand, with discussion questions at the end of each chapter, the book is user-friendly and can be quickly incorporated into staff training. Lists that offer key takeaways of each concept on topics including developmental stages, disciplinary dos and don’ts, leadership styles, and effective teaching techniques (to name just a few) are instrumental as both a reference and training tool for camp staff. IMPACT needs to be assigned reading for every camp counselor, as the guide clearly communicates the magnitude of the responsibility counselors have for the physical and emotional well-being of other people’s children, the critical importance of developing positive relationships with each of the campers they serve, and an understanding of what to expect and how to handle the different challenges they will face. Camp leaders wanting to be informed and have a positive impact (without having to read the scores of books and articles Stephen Wallace has read) need to read IMPACT and keep it as a resource to refer to when planning training and coaching staff. - Audrey Monke, camp director, speaker, & author of Happy Campers: 9 Summer Camp Secrets for Raising Kids Who Become Thriving Adults Big Ideas   Quotes   Resources/Links   One Simple Thing Ep. 133: What's Working (and What's Not!) During COVID-19 My Favorite Related Posts & Episodes Ep. 27: Raising Teens who Thrive with Stephen Wallace Ep. 92: Creating Strong Relationships with Teens Ep. 81: The Power of One with Travis Allison Ep. 87: The Impact of Camp Experiences with Laurie Browne, Ph.D. Ep. 123: Connection Comes First Ep. 89: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men with Michael Reichert, Ph.D. Ep. 121: The Power of Showing Up with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Ep. 68: 12 Parenting Tips for Happier, More Connected Families 10 Parenting Tips from Camp Counselors

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During the coronavirus epidemic, many families are spending lots of time together. Families with teenagers may notice extreme highs and lows – and it’s not just because of the global crisis. Once they reach adolescence, kids land on an emotional rollercoaster and even question their own extreme reactions. As parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors, how can we help teens communicate and navigate the intensity of their emotions? Leading experts on girls, boys, and the neuroscience of the adolescent brain shed light on this perplexing – and exciting – decade of development. Hear from Lisa Damour, Leah Sommerville, Michael Reichert, and Lori Gottlieb. The views and opinions of the speakers in the podcast do not necessarily reflect those of the Aspen Institute.

Show notes & links available here. In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Chris Thurber, a legendary trainer in the camp industry and a clinical psychologist who works at Phillips Exeter Academy, about how important it for parents to connect with their teens. Chris has developed online training programs for educators and youth leaders around the world and many of the best practices and concepts he teaches apply to parents. We also discuss how the skills kids learn at camp can help them to thrive in life. Big Ideas Even one summer working at a summer camp can be so valuable for the experience gained and training in relational, leadership, and communication skills. Much of the training camp counselors receive is helpful for teachers and parents. Thurber's Tic-Tac advice: Expend as little energy as possible, “no more energy than a Tic-Tac.” Take a break from lecturing or nagging and instead use the low-energy responses of a look, a point, or just saying the child’s name. In our society today, it is harder than ever to be an adolescent. One big reason is the competitiveness of education. Colleges are getting more applications from students around the world as high school graduation rates continue to climb. Parents and students should consider alternatives to college such as apprenticeships and vocational training. Parents need to have more conversations with their kids--girls and especially boys--about their emotions.  Expressing empathy helps to alleviate the pressure that kids are feeling these days. When parents minimize or downplay their feelings, kids do not feel connected. Quotes: Chris: "The reason I think Happy Campers is a brilliant book is you've taken the lessons that we get to practice in a very intense way as camp professionals for, you know, seven, eight, nine weeks with constant feedback about whether it works or not. And I don't mean that kids were filling our questionnaires. I mean, they're either listening or they're not, or they're being compliant or they're not...It's a wonderful laboratory and classroom for parenting." Chris: "We have an untapped resource in a sense at camp. Everyone who is lucky enough to be a staff member at a camp is going to be that much better as a parent. The rest of the world can benefit from what we've understood about child development and behavior management, leadership, supervision, physical and emotional safety." Chris: "Instead of having high school graduates who are excited about going to college or university, they're starting to feel the pressure, even in elementary school or early middle school, to set themselves apart from the crowd, to develop a unique talent, to begin preparing their resume for college." Chris: "It's creating a tremendous amount of pressure for adolescents and that's a problem. They're more anxious, more depressed. It's taking an emotional toll.  Also, we're not thinking creatively as adults about education broadly construed. You don't necessarily need a college degree." Chris: "Apprenticeship is the model we use at summer camp. We have younger leaders apprenticing with older leaders or younger counselors with older counselors so you're learning on the job. We should be applying that to more things." Chris: "It's awesome if you get a bachelor's degree in English literature or physics or computer science, but not everyone wants that, needs that or has that as a career path. And I think we have, as a society, fallen victim to the perceived prestige of a college or university degree and completely overlooked expanded opportunities for vocational training and apprenticeships." Audrey: "You know that what makes a thriving adult is not a test score or even a degree from us particular place. It's these character traits and these interpersonal skills and this emotional depth and all these things that actually can be counter to when we're so focused on these specific metrics." Audrey: "What do you want to be building and growing in yourself and in the kids you work with? You want people who are going to be great friends, who are going to stop and help someone who needs help. When you're so busy climbing your way up to something, you make decisions and sometimes you're not your best self." Chris: "I recommend camp because it's the ideal complement to a traditional or non-traditional classroom setting. You take kids from being mostly inside and bring them outside. You take kids from mostly sitting to mostly running around. You take kids from doing things that have a lot of numbers, quantitative marks associated with them and put them in less structured, less evaluative circumstances." Chris: "It's a way of stretching your brain and building resilience that will not only relieve stress and boost your mood, but also make you more resilient to future challenges. Camp is not the panacea, but it's a huge part of robust youth development." Chris: "Ask better questions. Students here, like students at a lot of schools, are really sick of parents asking, what were your grades? Or if we want to steer clear of performance markers, what'd you do today? How was school? Those are well-intentioned questions. They're benign but they're not nurturing a relationship." Chris: "There are many students here with wonderful relationships with their parents. And I think a big key to that is taking an interest in your child as a person and how are they unique and how are they evolving, developing rather than continuing to try to fit them into some mold." Chris: "Kids need, people need room to be creative and be themselves. I want parents to encourage, to say that it's okay, who knows what it will lead to, but it doesn't need to lead to anything if it feeds your soul. The most authentically happy people in the world are the ones who tap into one of their signature strengths in service to other people." Audrey: "I think there's a lot of value in adults and parents showing kids what it's like to tap into those things even if it's different. If they see you doing something you enjoy, they learn that adults do things they enjoy and they're having fun and they meet other friends that way. So that modeling is really important." Chris: "Model this kind of humility and show your kids, not tell them, how to live. Show them what it is to balance work and play and sleep and get a little exercise and model what it's like to bounce back from failure. If you say something that you realize didn't have the intended effect or was the wrong thing to say, don't move on and pretend like nobody heard it. Talk about it, fix it. If you're enraged, that's not the time to debrief it, but you can always circle back." Chris: "Talk with your kids about what your vulnerabilities are. It's such an important thing to be able to do. For well-intentioned parents who make missteps, you shouldn't view your kids as fragile. They can bounce back from something you said or didn't say or forgot. They need to see you trying hard. They need to see you learning from mistakes." Chris: "Provide empathy but when you get to the end of your empathic statements, full stop, let it sink in. Let your kid respond. Let them just process the fact that you acknowledged some of the dimensions of their emotional experience. We are all tempted to immediately follow our empathic statement with problem-solving. But when someone is in distress, whether it's they didn't like the news they heard from a college or the grade they got on a test or the fact that you know their significant other just broke up with him by text message, or whatever it might be, they don't want to hear the solution right now and they probably know what the solution is anyway."   About Dr. Chris Thurber Dr. Christopher Thurber enjoys creating and sharing original content for business leaders, independent educators, and youth development professionals. He is a board-certified clinical psychologist, educator, author, and father. Chris earned his BA from Harvard University in 1991 and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from UCLA in 1997. A dedicated teacher from a young age, Chris has more than 30 years of experience working with camps and independent schools. He has written numerous book chapters and scholarly articles on leadership, homesickness, and youth development. An award-winning contributor to Camping Magazine and Camp Business, Chris has also shared his opinions and expertise on national and international radio, television, print media, podcasts, and webinars, including The Today Show, Martha Stewart, and CNN. In 1999, after a two-year post-doctoral fellowship at the University of Washington School of Medicine, Chris accepted a position as psychologist and instructor at Phillips Exeter Academy, a coeducational, independent school in seacoast New Hampshire. Combining his love of research, teaching, and clinical work, Chris’s work at Exeter has grown to include publications and presentations for The Association of Boarding Schools (TABS) the British Boarding Schools Association (BSA) and the Australian Boarding Schools Association (ABSA). Chris has keynoted conferences for all three associations and has delivered guest lectures on the differences between Chinese and American public education, as well as the complementary nature of schools and camps at schools in Beijing, Shanghai, Hangzhou, and Wenzhou. In 2000, Chris and his lifelong friend, Dr. Jon Malinowski, co-authored the critically acclaimed Summer Camp Handbook, hailed by psychologist and parent, Dr. John Weisz, as “a remarkable accomplishment…the best in its field…required reading for every camper’s family…the most comprehensive and scientifically sound coverage of the camp experience available.” The Summer Camp Handbook has since sold tens of thousands of copies, won a Parenting Press Gold Award, and been translated into Chinese. As part of his lifelong effort to enhance the camp experience for young people, Chris has been a guest on The Today Show, Martha Stewart, CNN, Fox, CBS Morning News, and NPR. Chris is the Founder and CEO of CampSpirit, LLC,  which provides consultation and training to professional educators and youth leaders around the world. As he traveled across five continents to present in-person staff training workshops, Chris realized that no directors of summer youth programs had enough time with their employees to provide all the necessary training prior to opening day. The increased complexity of health regulations and accreditation standards, as well as heightened awareness of child abuse and risk management, made training demands higher than ever, especially for seasonal employees and volunteers. But with a fixed period of time during which to conduct on-site training, an innovative educational solution was imperative. Resources Mentioned Chris Thurber Prep4Camp.com Expert Online Training David Brook's Road to Character Bill Pollack's Real Boys Michael Thompson Related Posts/Podcasts Why Teens Need Summer Camp More Than Ever Ep. 89: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men with Michael Reichert, Ph.D. Ep. 92: Creating Strong Relationships with Teens Ep. 32: 10 Benefits of Summer Camp for Teens Ep. 27: Raising Teens who Thrive with Stephen Wallace 11 Ways to Help Kids Create REAL Connections

Ep-60  In this interview I speak with psychologist and author of How to Raise a Boy, Dr. Michael Reichert,on what boys need to become the best and most complete man they can become.

Mom Enough co-hosts Marti & Erin found this discussion on raising boys with Dr. Michael Reichert to be one of the most thoughtful and important episodes they have done. Drawing on his personal story of the death of his brother, his extensive research on boys around the world and his years of clinical experience with boys longing to be heard, this psychologist and highly respected author makes the case that, in his words, “Too many boys lose their intimate connections and emotional voices early in their lives.” But it doesn’t have to be that way, and Dr. Reichert offers practical guidance whether you are the parent of a lively preschooler, a 5th-grader trying to succeed in school or a teenager trying to navigate the turbulent waters of romance and sexuality or grappling with disturbing pornographic images on the internet.   BOYS AND GIRLS ARE NOT AS DIFFERENT AS WE SOMETIMES THINK.   If you listen carefully, you are likely to discover that boys and girls are not as different as we sometimes think. We all long for trust, respect, connection. We all long for our needs and feelings to be heard and acknowledged. And when we provide those things to both our sons and daughters, the world will be better for the men and women they become.   REFLECT ON HOW YOU WILL BEGIN RAISING BOYS DIFFERENTLY.   This week’s Mom Enough guest, Dr. Michael Reichert, says in this discussion, “The problem is not boys, but the boyhood we have built.” What examples can you think of that illustrate this point? What concrete steps could you take to begin to build a better boyhood for the boys in your life, whatever their ages? What one thing will you change in how you are raising your son(s), so they will grow up to be compassionate and caring adults?   WANT TO LEARN MORE? ❉  Check out Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men, to learn more about raising boys. ❉  Helping Our Children Build Self-Compassion: Keys to Kindness, Gratitude and Compassion for Others, click here. ❉  Cut to the Quick: The Consequences of Relational Aggression Among Our Sons & Daughters, click here.

Breaking the Boy Code began in March 2018, or the summer of 2017, or April 2014 depending on your parameters. But some part of it has its roots in an underweight boy with too many bracelets and long blonde hair—because if you had asked me when I was young what I thought about gender stereotypes and rules about masculinity, I would have had a lot to say.I learned at a young age that some things are not allowed for boys, and some things result in violence that I wasn't ready for. I was told I was doing it wrong. I was told I was a girl. I was called a fag before I knew what a fag was. As I navigated the winding path of both resistance and adherence to the rules of masculinity, I went to great lengths to hide or change parts of who I was. And while I had some great teachers, I also had teachers who were unprepared to intervene on homophobic violence in their classrooms.I'm now an educator, and I've seen firsthand the impact of committed and authentic relationships with boys. Boys are saying: ‘We want change. We want these kinds of conversations about masculinity, about mental health and relationships, we want to be supported by committed educators who spend time with us and help us create a space to explore who we want to be.' So as parents and educators we are part of something better than what we experienced when we were young.“There is a systematic mistreatment underlying boyhood, and those of us responsible for its design and maintenance—not boys themselves—must fix its flaws. We will find ready partners in boys themselves, who have a keen interest in being seen as they are, hearts beating loudly behind the masks they must wear.” — Michael ReichertTogether, we are breaking the boy code.SourcesMichael Reichert, How to Raise a Boy →LinksIf you thought this episode was worthwhile, support it on Patreon .Email breakingtheboycode@gmail.com to get in touch. Connect with @boypodcast on all mainstream social media. Follow the publication on Medium for more writing and the blog on Tumblr for more masculinity research and occasional podcast-related updates.Supported by Next Gen Men .

Dr Michael Reichert is a world renowned psychologist and author of several books including 'How to Raise A Boy' which aims to help boys grow into strong and compassionate men. Based in Philadelphia, Michael runs a practice specialising in work with boys, men and their families and is involved in a number of research projects.  He has conducted global studies for the International Boys' School Coalition in relation to effective practices in boys' education and served as the supervising school psychologist at an independent boy's school.  Today, Michael explains how the paradigms about boys needing to be stoic and ‘man like' can actually be destructive and the key to changing the culture lies in how parents, educators and mentors help boys develop socially and emotionally. 

**Follow us on Twitter - @InstantRel** Welcome to the 3rd Season of the Instant Relevance Podcast! Denis (@MathDenisNJ) and Raymond (@blended_math) interview research psychologist, speaker, and author of 'How to Raise a Boy’ - Michael C. Reichert (@michreich). The hosts talk to Michael about his global research on boy’s lives and how to create relational classrooms and schools to end the crisis of boyhood. More from Michael C. Reichert: -- michaelcreichert.com/ Check out more from Denis: -- denissheeran.com/ Check out more from Ray: -- blendedlearningnetwork.org The Instant Relevance Podcast is a member of VoicEd.ca and the Education Podcast Network - www.edupodcastnetwork.com/

Psychologist Dr. Michael Reichert discusses the unique challenges of boyhood, pressures boys face to conform to masculine ideals, and the power of relationships to fortify boys in response. He shares strategies parents can use to cultivate their connection to their sons and help them hold on to their authentic selves. Get our ABC Guide to Body-Positive Parenting. Join our body image group for parents. Read the full show notes for this episode.

Michael C. Reichert, PhD (http://www.michaelcreichert.com/)is founding director of the Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives at the University of Pennsylvania and a clinical practitioner specializing in boys and men, who has also conducted extensive research globally. In his recent book, How to Raise a Boy, he shares powerful stories and research about the behaviors, roles and expectations we place on young boys and how that often locks them into ways of being that are destructive not only to their own lives, but also potentially to their relationships in all parts of life and to society writ large. In our conversation, Reichert also addresses a number of societal myths and offers more constructive, science-backed reframes. At a time when we’re all reexamining questions of gender, identity, behavior and the way we bring ourselves to the world and our roles in teaching those who look to us as models of behavior and values, this topic has never been more important.Check out our offerings & partners: Mailchimp: Now what? Mailchimp, that’s what. Learn more at mailchimp.comBen & Jerry's: Dig into your own favorite flavor anywhere ice cream is sold, or find a new favorite at benjerry.comThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/GOODLIFE now to find your perfect-fitting bra... and get 15% off your first purchase!Everlane: Right now, you can check out our personalized collection at Everlane.com/GOODLIFE plus, you’ll get free shipping on your first order.

How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men, by Dr. Michael Reichert, paves the way for a constructive re-imagining of how a boy becomes a good man.

How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men, by Dr. Michael Reichert, paves the way for a constructive re-imagining of how a boy becomes a good man.

How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men, by Dr. Michael Reichert, paves the way for a constructive re-imagining of how a boy becomes a good man.

In this episode, Roy welcomes Dr. Michael Reichert, a psychologist and author whose new book, "How To Raise A Boy: The Power of Connection To Build Good Men" is receiving widespread acclaim. Dr. Reichert drew on his decades of experience working to counter societal conventions of how boys become men. Roy and Dr. Reichert discuss ways that those who work with boys and young men can help create compassionate, self - aware, and healthy men.  Click here for more information "How To Raise A Boy" at Amazon.com.  Dr. Reichert's interview on CBS This Morning.  Roy has established Today's Teenager as a non-profit organization dedicated to covering the expenses of therapy sessions and other mental health services for teens and families that would otherwise be unable to afford them. Visit todaysteenager dot com for more information. Dr. Dore and her staff embrace their orthodontic patients like family. In addition to traditional metal and ceramic braces Dr. Dore enjoys using Invisalign clear aligners, and she is an Invisalign “Preferred Provider." Call her today for a free exam and Live Life Smiling at (337) 267-SMILE, or click here to learn more about Dr. Dore and her practice. 

Have any sons? Listen to the highly esteemed, Dr. Michael Reichert, author of HOW TO RAISE A BOY. We had the best conversation about how boys feel pressured to be “brave,” how to parent boys in the best way, and how loss affects everything. As a mother of two boys, this conversation was priceless for me!

Hey my friend! Next week I'm teaching a FREE workshop on independence, for your child and you, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group: click this link to take part or scroll down right here in your podcatcher to find out more!   When I first saw How to Raise a Boy, the book today's guest, Michael Reichert, PhD, wrote, I knew I was in for a treat. Dr. Reichert 's writing is a skillful blend of personal stories and relevant, amazing research, and before I knew it I was highlighting, marking pages with Post-it notes, and pumped to speak with Dr. Reichert! And, our conversation does not disappoint. If you've got questions about:  - Your son turning into a "mama's boy"  - How to (in the words of one of our WTOO Facebook group members) "empower boys to be their best selves without being jerks"  - Or even if you have questions about why – if you're raising girls and not boys – you should care; You'll find this conversation relevant and compelling. I'm so thankful to Dr. Reichert for coming on the show today, and I hope you enjoy our conversation, and learn from it, as much as I did. Plus in Parenting News: I've just learned of an amazing new resource for parents, the Revive Show, a live Internet radio show, and you need to hear about it too. I learned of it when I was invited on as a guest, and I think you will love the show! Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/285 for: A cheat sheet on highlights from this wonderful conversation Key links we talk about in this episode The video of the week: OFF this week for the July 4 holiday, returning July 11, so hang in there : ) And thank you so much for listening! I am teaching a FREE, weeklong workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you! We will address: how to stop being a helicopter parent, how to get kids to amuse themselves, independence with potty training and hygiene, food issues, and more, so join us if you need help with any of this! This free workshop takes place all next week, July 8-12, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group… Click here to join the group!

In this episode we start by talking about the ISTE Edtech Conference in Philadelphia June 23-26‎.  We will all be there and are very excited. We are joined by Dr. Michael Reichert (@ReichertMC), Director of Technology and Instruction at Salesianum School in Wilmington, Delaware.  He talks about using podcasts as a professional learning tool.  Learn more about Dr. Reichert on his website (http://about.me/camreich) and blog (http://camreich.wordpress.com/). Send us your feedback at feedback@k12ccc.com, or call our voicemail line at 346-FAQ-HELP! 01:00 ISTE Conference discussion 03:22 ISTE Technology and Literacy 9:05 Dr. Michael Reichert joins us 14:00 Coffee EDU 15:00 Sustainable Professional Learning Models 21:40 Biggest Challenge of Building an Infrastructure 24:30 Blogging About Technology 28:00 Where People Can Find Dr. Reichert's blog.

Scott Gediman talks about the history of Yosemite National Park, Michael Reichert discusses his book about raising boys, Randel McGee explains the life of a professional ventriloquist, Gail Miller tells us about living a life of service, Meg St. Esprit gives advice for a modern photo album, Stanley Pierre-Louis and Emily Rose Jacobson update us on the latest video gaming trends.

Join Basecamp for Men and host Tony Rezac for this lively discussion about raising our boys. Our guest is Dr. Michael Reichert, author of the best-selling book “How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men“.

On this week’s episode of Nina’s Got Good News, host Nina B. Clarke is joined by her Good News VIP Guest of the Week, Dr. Michael Reichert! Michael is an applied and research psychologist, as well as a best-selling author. Nina and Michael discuss his book, “How To Raise a Boy”. Producer Dan Bahl begins with questions on what happens once a boy goes off to college, and the effects that relationships with girls have on young men. They also discuss the impact of the #MeToo movement and technology on young boys and more! ——————— Follow Nina on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ninabclarke/ Follow Nina on Twitter: twitter.com/ninabclarke Visit Nina’s blog: www.ninabradleyclarke.com Visit Michael’s website: https://www.michaelcreichert.com Buy How To Raise A Boy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077CQ85K4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ep_dp_X6h8AbJEBW3M5

Dr. Michael Reichert talks about his new book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men. He suggests that we rethink our understanding of boys and recognize that strong relationships with parents, coaches, and teachers help them succeed at school and in life. We discuss how to talk to boys about the #MeToo movement and gender equality.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We’ve talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women’s movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society’s where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it’s a loss for us and it’s a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man’s self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys’ and Girls’ Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys’ education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys’ school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We’ve talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women’s movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society’s where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it’s a loss for us and it’s a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man’s self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys’ and Girls’ Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys’ education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys’ school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

On this week’s episode of Nina’s Got Good News, host Nina B. Clarke is joined by her Good News VIP Guest of the Week, Dr. Michael Reichert! Michael is an applied and research psychologist, as well as a best-selling author. Nina and Michael discuss his book, “How To Raise a Boy”. They talk about Michael’s career as a youth psychologist, and what he’s observed as a father and a brother. They discuss the importance of educating young boys on social and emotional intelligence through an emphasis on listening, having role models, talking openly about feelings and much, much more! ——————— Follow Nina on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ninabclarke/ Follow Nina on Twitter: twitter.com/ninabclarke Visit Nina’s blog: www.ninabradleyclarke.com Visit Michael’s website: https://www.michaelcreichert.com Buy How To Raise A Boy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077CQ85K4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ep_dp_X6h8AbJEBW3M5

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society's where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it's a loss for us and it's a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man's self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys' education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys' school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Michael Reichert, PhD. We've talked quite a bit about girls on this show—and how many things are changing for girls due to the momentum of the women's movement. But what about the boys? How do you raise boys to become great men? How do we raise boys to feel connected to himself and feel connected to others? For many of our sons, while the world of girls seems to be expanding, the world of boys seems often to be contracting—restricting who boys can be in society's where masculinity and all its attributes, fits in one tightly guarded box—the man box. Our next guest feels that this is a loss- it's a loss for us and it's a loss for the boys. He asks; what can be done to ameliorate the loses of boyhood? How can we protect the boys in our care from threats built into boyhood? How can we ensure that our sons are well prepared for and well launched to manhood? The answer has to do with connection—something that our boys are losing—and at an early age. And our guest feels that we have an opportunity, right now, to change things around and help boys do boyhood right. Michael Reichert writes, in his new book, “How to Raise a Boy” that boys are really in need of something that seems to counter the toughness and the independence touted by the man box—and that is “a relationship in which a boy can tell that he matters … A young man's self confidence is not accidental or serendipitous but derives from experiences of being accurately understood, loved, and supported.” Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has immersed himself in clinical, research, and consultation experiences that have afforded a deep understanding of the conditions that allow a child to flourish in natural contexts: families, schools and communities. He has created and run programs in both inner city communities and in some of the most affluent suburban communities in the world. He founded and continues to lead The Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives a research collaborative at the University of Pennsylvania and has conducted a series of global studies on effective practices in boys' education. Since 1984, Dr. Reichert has maintained a clinical practice outside Philadelphia, PA.,  specializing in work with boys, men and their families and continues to serve as the supervising psychologist at a nearby boys' school. He has published numerous articles and several books, including Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Lessons About What Works—and Why, I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners, and the just-released How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men.  The post How to Raise Boys to Become Good Men with Michael Reichert, Phd appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

“Give yourself the gift of listening to a boy and don’t be put off by boys that seem like they don’t want your gift, they can’t help themselves. They will want it sooner or later.” Michael Reichert, Ph.D. In this podcast episode, I interview Michael C. Reichert, Ph.D., founding director of the Center for the… The post Ep. 89: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men with Michael Reichert, Ph.D. appeared first on Sunshine Parenting.

On todays show we have a slight change of format as I chat with Janet Allison about teaching and raising boys. About Janet Allison (https://boysalive.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Janethead.jpg) Educator After receiving her degree in Elementary Education from the University of Maine at Farmington (cum laude), Janet Allison began her teaching career in a Waldorf School with a class of 10 boys and 2 girls. She quickly realized she had NOT been prepared for the differences in the way boys learn and the way girls learn. Through trial and error, extensive reading and research, and sheer determination, Janet was at last able to understand those parts of her boys that were hard-wired (and therefore unchangeable) and the things that she could change – by making lessons more active and interactive and providing plenty of outside time and movement in the classroom. With her many years of classroom experience, she is able to ‘talk the talk’ with teachers in both public and private schools – including those following Waldorf and Montessori principles. Coach Concurrently, she did extensive training in communication skills and life coaching (Neuro-Linguistic Programming – NLP) and began to hear from parents and other teachers about how much they were struggling with “boy energy.” From there she created The Language of Parentingcurriculum which soon after evolved into the Boys Alive! program. Because parents asked, she also began  Family Coaching (https://boysalive.com/coaching/)  – providing one-on-one help to families struggling with their boys. Author and Host Wishing to reach more people with this vital message, she wrote  Boys Alive! Bring Out Their Best (https://boysalive.com/product/boys-alive-bring-out-their-best-book/)  and has collaborated with many international experts to create virtual educational summits, interviewing experts and sharing wisdom with thousands of parents and teachers. She hosted BOY TALK for several years, interviewing parenting experts and expert parents on a monthly theme. Podcast – ON BOYS: Real Talk about Parenting, Teaching, and Reaching Tomorrow’s Men Along with Jennifer LW Fink of Building Boys, Janet co-hosts  a weekly podcast. (http://on-boys-podcast.com/)  With Janet’s educational expertise and 20+ years of working with parents and advocating for boys combined with Jen’s 20+ years of raising four boys and writing for national magazines on boy-friendly topics – they never lack for things to talk about!  In addition, they’ve interviewed top-selling authors and parenting experts including: Rosalind Wiseman, Dr. Warren Farrell, Katherine Reynolds Lewis, Michael Reichert, and Maggie Dent. Janet has two grown daughters and lives in Portland, Oregon. She is available for speaking engagements, training sessions, podcast interviews and media outreach. Contact her  here (https://boysalive.com/contact/) . http://boysalive.com (http://boysalive.com) http://boysalive.com/anger (http://boysalive.com/anger) – Your boy and anger Social media information boysalive/ (https://www.facebook.com/boysalive/)   Join private group:   groups/boysalive (https://facebook.com/groups/boysalive)   Instagram: @boys.alive  Twitter: @ParentAdvisor  LinkedIn:  linkedin.com/in/janetallison/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/janetallison/)   Show Sponsor (https://www.educationonfire.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/NAPE_2.2-1400.png)           (https://nape.org.uk/) Our aim is to achieve a higher priority for the education of children from birth to 13. High quality learning in the early years of life is vitally important to the creation of an educated society. Young children are not simply preparing for the future, they are living a never to be repeated time of life and the best way to learn is to live.

Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has long been an advocate for children and families. From counseling youth involved in the juvenile justice system through experiences leading treatment teams in a psychiatric hospital, all the while managing an independent clinical practice, Dr. Reichert has tested his understanding of children with practical, even life-saving, challenges. Every single kind of problem was transformed based on relationship. It’s the adult’s job to be the relationship manager. Live up to your goals. Relational breakdowns. How do we promote the relationship between the boy and the teacher. Breakdowns happen all the time. It’s the responsibility of the relationship manager to monitor whether it has broken down. The boy that simply checks out and underperforms. Book I Can Learn From You: Boys as Relational Learners I won’t learn from you You may have to develop new skills out of your repertoire to reach kids. Every type of boy can be reached. When a teacher reaches their end of their rope, they need to reach out for their help. You recognize that this is really challenging and it is frustrating. You have the power to change this boy’s life, and I know it is hard, If you can bear with him and continue to check in with him, you can reach him. How to be a transformative principal? Understand that you are asking your teachers to do this emotional work and validate the challenge that it is while saying boys are relational learners first! Schedule a call with Jethro Are you feeling like you are always behind at school? Do you feel like you need about 2 more hours each day to accomplish everything? Here’s how I help principals work manageable hours: Create your ideal week, so that you can leave work at work and enjoy your life! Please take a moment to rate this podcast in iTunes or on Stitcher.  Please follow me on Twitter: @jethrojones for the host and @TrnFrmPrincipal for the show. Buy Communication Cards Show notes on TransformativePrincipal.com Download Paperless Principal.   Take Control of your email Web Site Transformative Principal on Stitcher Refer A Principal Best Tools for Busy Administrators Survey    

  Michael Reichert is an applied and research psychologist who has long been an advocate for children and families. From counseling youth involved in the juvenile justice system through experiences leading treatment teams in a psychiatric hospital, all the while managing an independent clinical practice, Dr. Reichert has tested his understanding of children with practical, even life-saving, challenges. The stereotypes of women has changed significantly in the last 40 years. There’s been very little to counteract stereotypes of men and boys. Stereotypes shape boys’ lives early on. We cannot say that women are limited because of biology, but we still say that about boys. When Boys become “Boys” - Judy Chu Started out as direct, authentic and able to articulate themselves. Traveled from presence to pretense by way of posturing. Inauthentic and less willing to articulate their feelings. Conditioning comes from everywhere: teachers, parents, peers. A man box study - messages about being a man. Stoic, unemotional, strong, etc. Men more associated with man box stereotypes were more prone to negative behaviors, including suicidal ideation. Schools play a profound role in organizing the messages about what Men are. Every school is occupied by a hidden curriculum. Most educators feel as though they can’t get their arms around it. Boys have very little efficacy over the hidden curriculum. Policed by other boys. Often receive subtle and not-so-subtle redirection from adults and other boys. Student-teacher relationship and significance One-dimensional type of masculinity that is rewarded in school cultures. 1500-member study of boys and 1000 of their teachers. Tell us a story about a relationship that went well and oe that didn’t go well. So reassuring that the mask can be taken away when they do have a relationship. Relationships are transformative in three ways: practically, psychologically, existentially. Schedule a call with Jethro Are you feeling like you are always behind at school? Do you feel like you need about 2 more hours each day to accomplish everything? Here’s how I help principals work manageable hours: Create your ideal week, so that you can leave work at work and enjoy your life! Please take a moment to rate this podcast in iTunes or on Stitcher.  Please follow me on Twitter: @jethrojones for the host and @TrnFrmPrincipal for the show. Buy Communication Cards Show notes on TransformativePrincipal.com Download Paperless Principal.   Take Control of your email Web Site Transformative Principal on Stitcher Refer A Principal Best Tools for Busy Administrators Survey    

As the mother of two teenage boys, I have to admit that, on occasion, I find it hard to connect with them. I find myself walking a fine line between wanting to show interest in their lives and respecting their privacy. Between showing them love and smothering them with it. Between letting them be themselves and raising them to be good men. Which is why I was so thrilled to speak with Dr. Michael Reichert this week, the author of How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men. Dr. Reichert has some of the most perceptive and profound insights into parenting that I've ever heard, and I mean that sincerely. If you're raising a boy, or even have one in your life, I just can't recommend this episode highly enough. 

Is it possible that this moment in our culture is the best possible time to be raising a boy? According to today's guest, it definitely is! Tune in to hear Meg talk to Dr. Michael Reichert, a psychologist and author whose new book How To Raise a Boy: the power of connection to raise good men confronts conventional wisdom about the ways we raise boys and how we need a total shift in thinking when it comes to boys, men, masculinity, and relationships.Find How to Raise a Boy on Amazon or wherever you shop for books.You can find Meg on Facebook, Twitter, or InstagramVisit sortaawesomeshow.com for show notes on this and every episode. And don’t forget to find us in the Sorta Awesome Hangout on Facebook or @sortaawesomeshow on Instagram, and @sortaawesomepod on Twitter!

We're excited to talk to psychologist Dr. Michael Reichert on this episode about his new book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Raise Good Men.  He's the Founding Director of The Center for the Study of Boys’ and Girls’ Lives at the University of Pennsylvania and has been described as a leading researcher on the journey from boyhood to manhood.  In this interview, we talk about how good relationships between parents and their sons can lead to a boy turning into a kind, respectful man rather than an abusive and violent one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feliks Banel on the 1965 Seattle earthquake, as recounted by the late Frosty Fowler // Feliks Banel with an update on the missing Seattle Center gargoyles // Aaron Granillo on legislation to protect the local orca population // Mike Lyons on the president's veto/ the war in Yemen // Hanna Scott on a tax to create a long term care program/ ending the Daylight Saving time change // Dose of Kindness -- Jeff Glor's feature on a pair of singing police officers // Sports Insider Danny O'Neil with the details of Russell Wilson's contract/ the Mariners' two streaks // Dr. Michael Reichert, author of How To Raise a Boy  

Michael C. Reichert, Ph.D., is founding director of the Center for the Study of Boys’ and Girls’ Lives at the University of Pennsylvania, and a clinical practitioner specializing in boys and men who has conducted extensive research globally. From counseling youth involved in the juvenile justice system through experiences leading treatment teams in [...]

Last season on Inflection Point, we explored the concept of empowerment for women. And one of the many things we learned is that we can’t hope to achieve equality if only one gender is doing the work. Since I recorded that episode a new report came out from the American Psychological Association about the harms of ‘traditional masculinity.’ Yet not everyone is ready to accept this finding. So... what else needs to change in our culture, to enable boys and men to see women as their equals, and for women to see men as our allies? My guest today is Dr. Michael Reichert, a psychologist with a specialty in work with men and boys, author of the new book, “How to Raise a Boy” and the co-founder and Executive Director of the Center for the Study of Boys' and Girls' Lives, which is connected to the University of Pennsylvania. The study of gender--especially masculinity--as a social construct is "radical" because it challenges the entrenched belief that “boys will be boys.” Then again, it was considered radical to study the earth's orbit around the sun because it challenged entrenched belief that the earth was the center of the universe. But it turns out that boys--like most humans--are just really really good at adapting to their environment...an environment we adults create for them. So...while we are spending lots and lots of time and energy ‘empowering’ women---are we writing off the good that men are capable of because we believe ‘that’s just how they are’ or can we help empower men as well--but in a new way? That will take a radical shift in thinking. Contribute to our production at inflectionpointradio.org/contribute.