It's A Mess, Sis!

Hello, Hello!Welcome back to the conversation. This Episode is all about being “weird”. We define it, discuss the impact of “being weird” in our lives, like the good, bad, ugly, and weird. Then round it out with how we cope.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!  OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Mother's Day just passed and we used our recording time to not only discuss our beautiful mothers but also to explore how we are "Mothering" ourselves in life and carrying on their work.So, join us.... as we have conversation about “Mothering” and  what it means to be a mother to oneself,  the impact of stepping into that maternal role as we learn to care for ourselves and conclude with how we are coping and intend to cope moving forward.  OH, and if you vibe...we tribe! Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Y'all are back!!!...and we love y'all for that!... This episode we have conversation about “healing” and “ambition” (define), how the two correlate (aka impact), and how we (cope) moving forward.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!  OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

 Question: If the World was Ending, Would You Want to Know? This episode we  have conversation about “knowing” talk about the impact and how we cope with having so much access to information, knowledge, and each other. We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you! Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Back with a lighter conversation for you all!We've all done it. Thought about something unsavoryr...illegal... a crime and said "no, I could never, it would cost too much, it's too much of a risk...but what if it wasn't? What if you had a real "Get out of Jail" card?That's what we talk about in this episode...if there were no consequences, what crime would we commit, why, and what would be the impact?Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

What do y'all think?As the title implies, this week we talk about Black "Excellence" vs "Mediocrity" and find our selves on opposite sides of the spectrum. So give us a listen, hit us up on social media, and join the  conversation!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

BOOM, you're suddenly 25, 29, or 32...or whatever age and you look up and ask yourself, "Damn, where did my friends go?"This is your episode.Alot of us spend our years going through "Growing Pains" at different stages in our lives. When we are children, we go through physical growing pains from our bodys shifting and changing, as teens we tackle independence and sense of self as we learn to make our own decisions. And in our 20s (and 30s and ongoing really) we continue to grow as we hone our relationships as we transition  from our school age years, surrounded by friends, to seeing our socialization  needs and behavior change as that number of people dwindle down when enter our adult years. Suggested by a lovely listener (Jessica, You Rock!...see what we did there), This episode we explore friendship, growth, and releasing (aka "The Great Shed" as social media calls it) in our mid 20s (and beyond), the impact in our lives, and how we did/will cope.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you! Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Ever hear of Pride and Prejuidice? Well today we bring you "Failure and Punishment"...LOL.Seriously,  this episode we are talking about.....failure in our lives and the ways in which we punish ourselves, and the impact of it all.This is a topic I think everyone actively avoids in both  action and thought. Even in describing this episode, I feel like I am failing to fully capture the weight of this theme in our lives.So, if you have ever felt like you failed, feel like youre failing...wonder if you failed...wonder what it feels like to fail...check out this episode. This is one of our deeper and more vulnerable topics spanning two areas of our lives.Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Hey Everyone!We're a week late and a few dollars short (we literally forgot to record and post last week)...and you know what?... we accept that!And that is what our episode is all about.ACCEPTANCE.This episode we seek to explore our definitions or acceptance, analyze how acceptance shows up in our lives, and how we intend to cope. So listen in and feel free to contact us using the info below. Don't be shy!If you vibe, we tribe...right?Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

“Freedom is never given voluntarily by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed." - MLK   You know when you open something with an MLK quote...or a quote in general, we are about to be on 10!   On this MLK day (when recorded), we decided to discuss one of the pillars of Dr. King's movement and that was...FREEDOM.  Or maybe this topic came up because we found ourselves at work one day, commiserating with a fellow colleague, and exclaimed why must we work for a living and if FREEDOM is an illusion?   You'll never know unless you listen to the episode...so just stop reading and go on and do that!   But if you must continue to read, this episode we define freedom, discuss the impact and why talking about this is even important, and lastly, we discuss how to cope with all of this.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!    Oh, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Here's to Another Year Y'all! ( Entering Year 4...We 80 episodes DEEP!!!!)And back with our favorite recurring episode where we set our INTENTIONS for the new year, discuss last year's intentions, and share how we intend to cope in going forward. We welcome you to listen in and join us in setting intentions of your own!We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!  OH, and if you vibe...we tribe! So don't be shy and hit us up using the contact information below!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Since Time is Money, and talk is cheap... Let's get straight to the point...This conversation we talk about money, the perceptions of it, where those perceptions came from and what money is really about for us personally.Give us a listen, and let us know your thoughts using our contacts below!  OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

We're Back!And grateful to be back!  This episode our conversation centers around what what it means to be grateful, what we are grateful for and how gratitude has been a powerful tool in our lives. And by now you should know that we organize every episode by DIC'ing it down which stands for Define, Impact, and Cope...and if you don't know, now you know!Give us a listen, give us your input (using the social media and contact infor below)and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Hey Y'allBack w/ another conversation. This time the topic comes from one of listeners wanting to hear us DIC down and explore the our thoughts on the perceptions and  expectations of black men in relationships and under societal gender norms. For example ( via the abyss that is the twitter verse): Does a black man sleeping on his stomach make him less of a protector? Does  having a nose ring/ septum piercing mean he's gay?  These are the stereotypes and expectation we dive into in the episode.I promise...this episode isn't the dissertation it sounds like. Listen in on the convo,  give the topic a thought for yourselves, and let us know your view!The agenda for this episode: As always, is to DIC' it down, which stands for:  Define, Impact, and CopeThis conversation we define  what "gender norms" and "masculinity" are to us, discuss the our perceptions and interactions w/ masculinity, and decide how he would like to cope going forward.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!  Oh, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Time to break the shackles off my feet so I can HEAL or whatever MARY MARY said... This really should have been the title but we were playing...Randomness asideThis episode is about breaking generational curses, cycles, etc so that we can break free of trauma and usher in the lives we desire.The agenda for this episode: As always, is to DIC' it down, which stands for:Define, Impact,  and CopeThis conversation we define what the term generational curse is on google and to us, possibly identify a “curse” we are dealing w/ personally. Then discuss the impact of these “curses” on our lives and how we intend to cope. We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

Hey Everybody!So, we've all felt guilt about something, right?  But, What do you do with it? Do you just let it consume you? What's the right amount of time to feel guilty before you move on? Do you avoid it? What does it REALLY mean?  Is it valid ? Can it be helpful? How do you release it? These are questions we tackle in this week's conversation centers on "Guilt".The agenda for this episode: “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This conversation we define “Guilt” and what that means for us, discuss the impact of it inand on our lives, and how we cope  or deal with “guilt” from here on out.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.com Comments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube: It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

I don't know if it's mercury being in microbraids, or what, but there seems to be this feeling of change in the air? Have you felt that you are on the verge of beginning something, or even starting something...again?Do you have a desire to start something? Are you figuring out how to resume with like anew following changes in your life? or something that makes you feel like you are embarking on new beginnings? Guess what? So are we! and that's why we are having this episode's conversation where the agenda : “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope.  This episode we define “Beginning” and what that means for us and/ or what it means to “begin again”, what it looks like, and how we know when it is time to "start. Then we discuss the impact of "beginning" on our lives, and how we cope with “beginning” as we continue....existing?We do a thing where...We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube: https://youtu.be/duKuYdHJPFc

Hey Hey Y'allBack with another episode and this one is all about Monogamy...which was often confused with "Monotony" throughout the conversation...Could it have been a Fruedian Slip...possibly...how about you give the conversation a listen and find out!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope". This episode explores the definition of Monogamy, the impact in our lives, and how we cope with our understanding of the topic going forward.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube: https://youtu.be/rsmLTLBWajk

Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired?"Quiet Quitting" is the new term taking over Tik Tok, Twitter, Linked in, CNN, all the media sites for everyone's likes. Some deem it the perfect merger between life and work and others chalk it up to a vow of inadquacy that will do more harm than good.So what do we think? That is what this episode is all about. Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired.The agenda for this episode: THE DICReena: “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This conversation we define “quiet quitting”, discuss the impact in our lives,  explore our thoughts on this emerging theme, and how we intent to incorporate this theme into our lives.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here: Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube: https://youtu.be/xOFzsKAHJVA

Well, well, wel...come BACK!Have you ever felt ...distracted? Fidgety? Unfocused? Uninterested?  Described as flighty or immature?  and recently felt like your life and personality traits have been read for filth by a tik tok or instagram influencers with no credentials outside of a blue check serving as their only source of validity..? and yet it has made you question...Do I have it?ADHD that is....Sameand that is what this episode is about...so join us as we explore ourselves and do some research on ADHD, develop our understanding of the term and explore the impact it has had on our lives and functioning, and what we plan to do about it.This Episode's Agenda:Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what ADHD is,  identify the role it plays in our lives aka the impact, and end things with how we cope with it in the future.NOTE* This episode is not intended to be used to diagnose anyone but if you feel that based on the information provided (obtained from the CDC, NIMH, and mayo clinic websites) that you may have ADHD and would like to address it...please reach out to a mental health provider by either contacting your insurance compay for an in-network referral, reaching out to your primary care physician. or using a site such as Psychology Today or Therapy For Black Girls to find a practitioner.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode: https://youtu.be/ydlF6-DdbVE

Ah..."Commitment"What comes up for you when you hear that word? Does it provide comfort and a steady knowing? Does it make you slightly cringe with a coat of apprehension? A mix of both?Why?If you find yourself pondering the above, give this episode a listen so you can see what comes up for you and find your "Why"?This Episode's Agenda:Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we attempt to break down what commitment is, why we should even do it, the role it has played in our lives in the past/ present, and how we cope with it in the future.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode: https://youtu.be/mz0fDzgkD74

Hey Everyone!This episode is all about "Leaving" and we're just going to leave it at that.But no, really.This episode we engage in a conversation about the impact "Leaving" has had on our lives, the confusion, the excitement, and the grief that has accompanied it as well as the relief and clarity it can sometimes provide.If you have ever found yourself grappling with idea of leaving, whether is is a person, place, thing...all the nouns... and want to process the impact on your life and how to go about it in the future, this conversation is for you! The agenda for this episode: Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. In the simplest of terms, this episode define what it means to “leave”, the impact “leaving” has had on our lives, and how we cope with the idea of leaving from here on out.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode:https://youtu.be/OM7Qs-5UczY

Hey!Are you all still there? ....with your intentions you set at the beginning of the yearYes? No?  It doesn't really matter. If you've set an intention and it's gotten away from you, maybe you never got around to setting an intention at all, no worries...you're not alone and you still have time...to listen to this episode and reclaim your intention!This Episode's Agenda “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we revisit the intentions we set for ourselves at the beginning of 2022, define and/or redefine our goals for ourselves, discuss the impact of our intentions on our lives so far, and how we cope and continue throughout the rest of the year.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode: https://youtu.be/6fexOj30UX4

Hey Hey Everyone!Back with another episode featuring a conversation for us and for you!This episode we DIC down Define, discuss Impact, and process how we cope with the concept of time and the idea of being too late.So if you ever felt like it was too late to do...anything...this  conversation is about time...literally and figuratively and I'm glad you  took the time to join us! We know it's precious...Another thing...We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode: https://youtu.be/ulcIaPhhz7I

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH Y'ALL !!!!This episode is pretty self explanatory.   This conversation explores how being proud in your queerness has impacted your life...so listen in and join us, bring in friends, or just DIC it down for yourself! The agenda for this episode:  “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope". This episode we define what it means to be “proud” or to have “pride”, discuss the impact having pride in our sexuality on the totality of our lives and then round it out with how we cope.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)This episode: https://youtu.be/5wCx25-8U3k

Mercury is in Retrograde, the world is a MESS ... I can't make a decision on how to go about describing this episode, which  not so oddly enough, is all about making DECISONS and SELF-HONORING ones at that!My Life coach would be so proud, she only yelled that at me during every session for two years. So, take a look at our agenda and decide for yourself if this episode is for you!The agenda for this episode: “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what a Decision is and how we go about making them. Then we get to the impact of making decisions…or not making them in our lives. Lastly, we discuss how we cope from here on out, do we keep doing what we're doing or make changes. We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/ab_Zgknc45c

Welcome Back to the Podcast!This episode's conversation is all about the "HELP", when we need it, why we need it and what to do about it. So, if you've ever questioned your relationship with "Help" and wondered if you needed more and what that would look like, feel free to "help" yourself to this episode and follow along with us as we break this topic down for ourselves.The agenda for this episode“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what “help” is, and when, where, why and how you need it? then discuss the impact of giving and receiving, help or even the impact of not giving or receiving help. And lastly, how do we cope with “help” in our lives from here on out. We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you! Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/cIgpnrUH_bY

What would you do if all your "needs" were met for a year?  All your needs to get by... ( If you don't hear Tammy Terrell and Marvin Gaye when you see this phrase, I don't know what to tell you).So, What do you need? What changes would you make?What would you explore?What would remain the same?These are all questions we tackle in this episode's conversation.The agenda for this episode “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what a “need” or “needs” are and what we would do if all of our “needs” were met for a year. Then we discuss the impact of our “needs” on the structure of ourselves on our lives and how we move and process, and how we cope with and establish our “needs”.We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!SPECIAL MENTION: As promised, this is the IG for Devon the Black Air Bender. Check him out! With all love and respect.  https://www.instagram.com/theblackairbender/?hl=en Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode:https://youtu.be/_wM-P7uB2Es

Welcome this week's conversation...You know how they say children are the most honest beings on this planet and teenagers are the hardest of all to please?So, what if you dared to ask your 16-year-old self aka "inner child" what they would think of you today and if they would be proud of who you've become?And that my friends, is the focus of this episode! So please join us as we consult with our teenage selves to see what they would think of us.The agenda for this episode:  “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what it means to be “proud”, the impact of this notion of being proud of ourselves on our lives, and how we cope with our feelings of being “proud” or not.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode:https://youtu.be/ZKQAnmDRnFk

We're Back!!!!! Did you miss us and our conversations? We're going to assume you did! We appreciate you sticking with us after a little hiatus and much needed rest and are excited to restart the conversations with you all!This time we are rounding out Women's History Month with an episode about FEMININE ENERGY!!!! Why? Because it's an under utilized and often unappreciated source of energy that we all would benefit from tapping into to balance things out. Is it the weaker energy or is there more strength to it than we realize? The agenda for this episode:  “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define FEMININE ENERGY, what it is and how it is used, then discuss the impact of feminine energy in our lives, the benefits, the stereotypes, the perception of it and lastly, we round it out with how we cope with possessing and using feminine energy from here on out.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/XK5u2mo7Q3I

Welcome back to the Podcast!With the month of March being Women's History Month, it is only fitting that this episode be an ode, an homage, a dedication to the one of the most prominent and distinguishing factors of womanhood since the beginning of history...the Reproductive System...the vagina and all that comes with it and how we deal with our Reproductive Health.Listen in as we incoherently DIC (Define, Impact, Cope) down our "womanhood", as we assess our understanding of Reproductive Health and ask ourselves the question WTF...is going on down there?Seriously, If you all have any resources, know of any professionals, products, have any tips on how to handle these womanly parts... do not hesitate to contact us at: whatsthemesssis@gmail.com“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we "Define" what reproductive organs are and reproductive health is...right? Then we  discuss the "Impact" being a “female bodied” person (got that term from EP 59...so go check out what that's all about) with reproductive organs and it's effect on our lives. Lastly, talk about how we "Cope" with all of the above.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/Wl9gOcV4u6I

Hey Y'all!!!As we wind down from the after effects of Valentine's Day, we thought why should the talk around passion and love stop there! We are so excited to for you to listen in on our latest conversation with black queer Mental Health Therapist, Community Organizer, educator, sexuality professional and kink aficionado, Shanae "HonestlyNae" Adams, MA, LPCC, CIGT. This episode Shanae talks with us as we DIC down "sex". This episode we aim to break down "sex" to the basics, demystify it, and learn what "Sex" is or can be for us by our own definitions. You do not want to miss this one!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we aim to define "SEX" and what it is, what it means, who is it with, why is it important. Then we discuss the impact of sex in our lives. Lastly, we talk about how we cope with sex in our lives, what we want to do better, different, release, etc.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.For more on our guest:Website: https://www.honestlynae.com/IG: @honestlynae and i_amsyre (Secret Page Password: ThankyouSyre) Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCopvQyGi8HGqFJeQjXxRm_QTwitter: https://twitter.com/honestlynaeHit her up for sessions, education, merchandise and moreMentions During Episode:Goody HowardWebsite: https://www.askgoody.com/IG: @askgoody Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/5rapHGvRc7E

HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH !This episode kicks it off with a conversation about support, especially in the black community. So join us as we explore support, what it means, the benefits, obstacles, and how receive and show support as part of the black community.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define support, what it means, what it looks like etc. which segues into a discussion about the impact of support in our lives, when and how we receive it and our experiences with support as we defined it. Lastly, we ask what we do from here, do we give more, ask for, and/or set a boundary around our support…what do we do from here as a way to sum up how we cope with the subject of support in our lives, We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/5rapHGvRc7E

As the title implies, this episode explores How to Take a Break. Our Guest PMKester is a scientist, writer, journalist, mother and  host of How To Take A Break the Podcast and is devoted to advocating for our human need to take a break and facilitating discussions on how to use breaks efficiently and effectively to build the lives we want. If you find yourself needing to take a break but don't know how, when, where or why...you need to listen to this episode.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC “Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we aim to define what it means to “Take a Break” and identify ways to go about taking a break.Then we discuss the impact of taking a break, our views on taking breaks, benefits and barriers etc. feel free to add any personal stories you may have about taking a break. Lastly, we talk about how we cope with taking a break and what our plans and intentions are regarding taking breaks from here on out. We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you!How to find our Guest:Podcast: How To Take a Break The PodcastIG: @PmkesterLinktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/pmkesterWebsite: https://www.pmkesterenterprisesllc.com/How to find us:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/tDhl4uH5qAMWe love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here: Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. 

Welcome to our First Episode of the New Year!!!!We wanted to start the New Year off right and follow up our intention episode with an episode about what we hope to MANIFEST in 2022. So, if you are looking to try to manifest something this year, don't know what to start, wondering what manifesting is all about... check out this episode!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what it means to “manifest” and what we hope to manifest or bring into 2022.Then we discuss the impact of manifesting, and go into our hopes, dreams, and visions for 2022. What do we want, what are the barriers, what are we affirming, etc. And lastly, we talk about how we cope our visions and manifestations in the new year.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/blJ5iBvw2SA

Hey Tribe!We're back with our end of year tradition of setting intentions for the New Year (2022). This is something we both look forward to as a way of closing out the year and setting the tone for the next. So, whether you are joining us for the first, second, or third time, take a listen and DIC down your goals for 2022 with us. The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we once again define what an intention is, means to be intentional , and give you our personal intention for the year.Then we discuss the impact of setting intentions, what we've experienced with last year's intention and what we hope to gain from this year's intention.And lastly, we talk about how we cope…with it all.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/RaH4qFHyH_E

Hey Y'all!Remember waaayyyy back in 2021 when all us black folks were supposed to get Superpowers....well that didn't happen...well at least we don't think it did, but the memes reminding us of our unactivated potential have resurfaced and thus is the inspiration for this week's episode. So, vibe with us as we DIC down what it means to have  Superpowers and you never know...maybe you'll discover that you have a "Superpower" after all...FYI *Go to 20:45 to skip the MESS and get straight to the topicThe agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what a superpower is and what it means to have one, which one we would want, and which one we feel we have.Then we discuss the impact of that superpower, why we want it, what we could do with itAnd lastly, we talk about how we cope…with our own superpower and how it gets us through life.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/7qpWB4nS1sk

Hey Y'all,We hope you all are HAPPY and surrounded by people and plates that bring you joy! This is the time of year where almost everyone takes the time to reflect on the things, people, places, all the nouns, that we are thankful for and this  episode is all about that, Thankfulness aka gratitude. So, join us as we review what we have found ourselves thankful for over the past year and maybe take some time to ponder for yourselves.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “being thankful” and throw out some things we have been thankful for receiving over the past year.Then we discuss the impact of “being thankful”, what we have received, and how it intersects.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with being thankful, that should be easy, or better yet, how we use being thankful to cope.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/XWj2Ckfei0Y

Drop it , Drop it Low Girl! as Jess would say...Winter is coming and maybe you start to feel your mood... Drop it , Drop it Low,  Girl! as Jessica would say... What do you do when you feel "Seasonal Depression" begin to  kick in?Maybe you don't know what to doMaybe you don't know if you have itMaybe you don't know what it isEither way, that's what we attempt to DIC down in this episode!So let's get into it, yuh!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “seasonal depression” aka Seasonal Affective Disorder or simply, SAD.Then we discuss the impact of “seasonal depression”, the signs, how it presents for us, socially, emotionally, physically, etc.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with “seasonal depression” what we can do for ourselves and how we prepare to take care of ourselves during this time and when experiencing bouts of depression and intense emotional feelings in general…ya know.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!Shout out  to CLOUDY CLOTHING, a  BLACK OWNED DMV BASED LUXURY STREETWEAR BRAND and their ice pink trucker hat that @sneakerreen was wear in this episode. IG: @cldyclothing Check out their clothing and accessories here: https://www.cldyclothing.com/or just follow and show support. As a black business, we want to be the energy we want to see reflected in the world and support other black businesses. Stay tuned as we share more black owned businesses. If you are a black owned or queer business and want to collab or want us to promote your product/service, contact us using the info below.We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/Ub5IbSEVX48 

Welcome to our HALLOWEEN EPISODE!!! We have a question:  Are you afraid of YOUR DARK? Have you heard the term, "Shadow Work"? Ever wonder what it is?  Or are you in the process of beginning your own journey and want to know if it something you want to truly traverse...then this episode is for YOU!In this episode we define "Shadow Work", name a Shadow aspect we fear/ are exploring, discuss the impact of doing shadow work on our lives, and lastly  how we cope with the darker shaded sides of yourselves are we continue our growth.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “shadow work” and provide one example of what we fear about our shadow self. Then we discuss the impact of shadow work and acknowledging the shadow self.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with  the concept of shadow work and our shadow self.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/wXpAeJ-EW-M

YO! You ever get suspicious of yourself,  and end up wondering, Am I as good as I think I am? This is the episode for YOU!  This time around we ask ourselves what's the difference between Self-Confidence and Delusion, how it plays out in society and how that impacts our sense of self. We are going to tell you now, we don't have the answers, but if you too are pondering this question, you don't have to think on it alone. You can DIC it down with us! The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what is means to have “self-confidence” and to be “delusional”.Then we discuss the impact of those definitions on our view of our confidence in ourselves.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

With Cuffing Season quickly approaching, social media debates surrounding who is bring what to the table, and all the expectations and anticipation that comes with relationships in general, we decided to ask ourselves a very important question:Would YOU date YOU?and for a little fun we also answer the hypothetical question "Fuck, Marry, Kill"? as it pertains to how we see ourselves aligning in a romantic relationship.We had SO MUCH FUN this episode.  We were both confused, and  it was clear that we don't have the answers, which is great because not only does it allow us to explore our authentic feelings about our "dateability"...but it will leave space for you, the listeners, to do the same.We hope you enjoy!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what it means to “date”, assess what we bring to the table by asking ourselves if we would date ourselves and explain why or why not?Then we discuss the impact of our outlook on dating ourselves on our view of and relationship with ourselves and others.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here: https://youtu.be/zFupVehitoQ

Hey There!We are back and this time we are talking about "Hustle Culture". This episode  challenge ourselves to define what it means to "Hustle". If you have ever asked yourself the questions,   Do I want to hustle? Do I have to?  and What does it mean if I don't? this episode is for you!  We hope you sit through this convo, DIC down what it means to "Hustle" for yourself, and leave with a little clarity on your personal approach to the "Hustle". The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition what it means to “Hustle” if we feel like hustling is necessary, what's the point? And what it means if we choose not to hustle?Then we discuss the impact of Hustle Culture on our lives.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of work, hustling and life, how we wish to proceed in the future.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here:https://youtu.be/LnJFHNlq5SA

Long title...I knowBuuuuuttttt Welcome Back Y'all!Ever feel  tired, drained, ...just through and find yourself wondering what is going on and what to do about it?! Well, this episode is for you! This episode is all about RECHARGING, when we need it and what it looks like for us. Hopefully you'll listen alongside us and leave this episode with insight on when YOU need to RECHARGE and what recharging looks like for YOU!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition what it means to us to “recharge” and how we go about doing so.Then we discuss the impact of recharging and our methods on our lives.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of recharging ourselves, our methods, and how we wish to proceed in the future.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here: https://youtu.be/dzD4oOL1UYQ

Hey Tribe!We're back with another Episode!Annnnnnd.....Question?Y'all ever come across someone crying...hysterically...or have you ever been that person that thinks that they are "too emotional" and try to control their feelings so that you aren't labeled  "dramatic" or "unhinged" ? Well, this episode may be of interest to you! The MESS we aim to tackle in this conversation is all about our perceptions and responses  to other's emotions when they are need. Long story short,  in this episode we we pose the question "Why do we hesitate when helping the "Overly Distraught"? The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition of “overly distraught" and what it means to "hesitate".Then we discuss the impact of  seeing others being overly distraught while in need and how that has affected view of helping and needing help. And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of the meaning of these words , the impact on our lives and discuss how we will proceed when  in the future.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here: https://youtu.be/xIpCpBSAtRk

Hey Everybody! Thanks for listening in to another episode. This time around we are exploring what it means when we say something is "Good" or "Bad".  Are "good" and "bad" universal terms or are they subjective? Can we definitively label something as "good" or "bad"?   All questions we aim to answer for ourselves, so,  listen in as we dive deep and explore how these words make us feel and how they impact us, and  how effects how we approach or perceive something.  Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you're dealing with it. If you'd like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com .The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition of “good” and “bad”.Then we discuss the impact of using those words in our lives, how it makes us feel, how we react to situations when we attach these words under our personal definitions. And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of the meaning of these words and discuss how we will proceed when using these words in the future.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here:https://youtu.be/R1ZembZVLGQ

Hey Hey Y'allThis time we are talking ALL about RISK. In episode we challenge ourselves to review the risks we've taken in our lives and dissect what that risk meant to us, how it impacted our lives, and how it allowed us to move forward. We DIC down this topic with y'all in hopes of not only inspiring ourselves to take more leaps but to help facilitate the conversation with yourselves so that you too can leap towards the lives you desire.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition of “risk” and describe the biggest risk we've taken so far in our lives.Then we discuss the impact of the outcome of that risk on our lives.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above and how we would like to proceed going further.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.  Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works! We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Instagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest episode (video) here: https://youtu.be/goHTlo4ErTQ

Hey Hey Everyone!We've reached the middle of the year. Things are slowly  settling back into a new "normal" now that COVID restrictions are lifting, we're becoming more social, commitments and responsibilities are returning and the pace of life is starting to pick up. With all of that said, we, your hosts, of It's A Mess, Sis felt it would be a good time to revisit one of our earlier episodes of this season and ask ourselves, and YOU...Are you STILL being intentional?Have you kept sight of the intentions you have set at the beginning of the year? Have they changed? Where are you putting your energy these days? Theses are questions we tackle in this episode!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC it down. Define, Impact, Cope". This episode we will explore and define what an intention is and reflect on the intentions we set for ourselves at the beginning of the year.Then we discuss the impact of our intentions so far.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above and how we would like to proceed going further.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Follow us so you don't miss all of these exciting things we have in the works!  Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down on the podcast!  Contact information: Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest episode here: https://youtu.be/jzes5kxIGu0

HAPPY JUNETEENTH! HAPPY PRIDE!We have an exciting episode for you all. With June being  a month celebrating blackness and gayness we thought it would be fitting to dust off one of our previous topics, but this time with a twist! Previously we posed the question are you BLACK or WOMAN First? This episode we sit down with the talented guys (Kerel, Dawon, and JerrelI) of the MinoriteaReport Podcast and ask them, Are You BLACK or GAY First? We had an amazing time DIC'ing (define, impact, cope) it down with these guys and we hope you enjoy listening to the conversation as much as we enjoyed having it.MinoriteaReport is a weekly Queer podcast that leaves no TEA untouched. MinoriteaReport manages to tackle current events, sports, culture, history, activism, advocacy, etc. in their episodes, ensuring that there is something for everyone on the spectrum of black queerness. We were honored to be able to share space and collaborate with another BLACK QUEER platform

HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE!This episode is all about labels and exploring what goes into the ones that we affix to ourselves. As we dive in and DIC (Define, Impact, Cope) it down we implore ourselves (and YOU) to consider the labels you hold, where those labels came from, and if they stick? And if they do stick, who stuck 'em there...I know... grammar police...be graceful.The agenda for this episode: THE DICIs always to DIC' it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define what labels are, especially in the queer community, and provide a description of our personal labels. Then we will discuss the impact of labels on our lives.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings concerning labels and their impact on our lives.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. ALSO,  be sure to tune in  for our "After Podcast" where we break down this topic on IG LIVE 6/13/21 @ 9:30/6:30 PM ET/PT and have the conversation with you! SO, Join us and lets talk labels and how they impact us in the queer community. Follow us so you don't miss it!OH, one more thing! Be on the look out for our collab episode on 6/24  with The Minoritea Report,  a black queer perspective on social issues, hot topics, and life in general. We are excited to DIC it down with these guys.  Check out and follow the Minoritea Report IG: @minoriteareport. Also be on the look out for our guest spot on their podcast! Follow us so you don't miss all of these exciting things we have in the works!  Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down on the podcast!  Contact information: Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (look it up in search)Latest episode here: https://youtu.be/QL5bGpRXROk 

It's SPRING Y'ALL and you know the saying, April showers bring May flowers.  So, with that being said, this Episode is all about the seeds we have planted over the years, how they have taken root, and what has bloomed as a result. We wanted to take time and give ourselves our flowers for the seeds we have planted and he hope you all are able to do the same as you work through this episode. The agenda for this episode: THE DICIs always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define what it means to plant seeds and what it means for them to bloom. We will also let you all know what seeds we have planted personally concerning our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being and how they are blooming for us. Then we will discuss the impact of planting the seeds and the blooming result.And Lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. ALSO,  be sure to tune in  for our "After Podcast" where we break down this topic on IG LIVE and have the conversation with you! WE ARE BACK to our SUNDAY Schedule. So, the next IG LIVE will be on 5/30/21 @ 9:30/6:30 PM ET/PT. Be sure to follow us so you don't miss it!  Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down.   Contact information: Instagram: @itsamesssispodcast Facebook: itsamesssispodcast Twitter: @itsamesssis YouTube:  It's a Mess, Sis! (look it up in search)Latest episode here: https://youtu.be/pI9v20kFstM