The Single Girl’s Guide to Life

-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Feeling lonely? Ironically, you're not alone (ironically). But here's the thing... loneliness can make you a magnet for the wrong people! The ones who don't have your best interests at heart. The ones who seem too good to be true at first… ... because they are! In this episode, I'll be talking about how certain types of people sniff out loneliness and use it to their advantage. If you've ever found yourself swept up in something that felt amazing at first but later left you drained, confused, or questioning yourself - this is an episode you'll want to make sure you arm yourself with, before you find yourself caught up with a tricky character in dating. You can expect to hear about:

We're always told that success = happiness. More money, more freedom, more security… right? But what if that's not actually true?In this episode, we dive into a shocking revelation from YouTube giant MrBeast, who admitted on Diary of a CEO that he feels more unhappy than happy - despite having a billion-dollar empire, insane levels of success, and even a recent engagement. If someone who seemingly has it all still struggles with happiness, what does that mean for the rest of us?So today, I'm exploring:

One of the biggest fears I had about getting into a relationship was losing my independence. I've spent years building a life I love - my own space, my own routine, my own decisions. And yet, society makes it seem like true commitment means merging your entire life with someone else. Moving in together, sharing everything, and eventually ticking off the next milestones like marriage and kids. But what if you don't want to rush that? What if you love your independence but still want a strong, committed relationship?In this episode, I'm sharing my own experience of navigating this balance - being in a happy, long-term relationship while still keeping my autonomy and independence. I've lived on my own for five years, and despite being in a serious relationship for the more recent years, I've chosen to keep it that way! I'll be diving into how I've made that work, the conversations I've had to have, and the boundaries I've set to make sure I don't lose myself along the way.Here's what I'll be unpacking:

If you're anything like me, you pride yourself on being a strong, independent millennial. One that can take care of themselves, works hard, and has set their life up to work for them. And when it comes to dating, of course you take that with you. But during my time, articles I read and commentary online started to suggest that being this strong, independent character could put people off, and might be reducing my chances of finding a gentlemen. So on today's episode, I'm bringing what I think about my strength and the impact it has on dating, whether it's more harmful than it is useful, and what to do if you're that type of girl in dating, and how to make it work for you, without losing your spark.-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

If there's one thing that comes into question in the current state of the world, it's how to remain a truly strong, independent woman in a cost of living crisis. If you live on your own, you entirely rely on yourself - which is great... until a crisis makes everything cost that little bit more. There isn't the security of leaning on another half like couples do. And you still have to take the bins out yourself every week! So whilst I can't help with the latter, I've put together my best approaches to navigating these challenging times including ways to make money, save money and spend less. -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Solo adventures are one of my favourites - and going to the theatre alone is just one version of that. And just last week, Kate Maltby's article "Adopting a 'no seat should be left lonely' policy stigmatises solo theatregoing" in The Stage caught my eye - and I wanted to wade in on the conversation.Whether it's theatre and cinema going, or the solo person council tax discount, I wanted to reflect on the frustrations of solo adventures, the challenges posed by policies and how we can keep loving single life, even if it costs us more at times! -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever felt the pressure to DO something on Valentine's Day (even as a single?)Whether it's treating yourself to a bath, going on a solo dinner date, or writing yet another self-love list, as I make my return to The Single Spark, I promise to unpack the problem with carrying out these token gestures on what can be a really difficult day if ou're single! Rather than doing something that might be "a bit nice", something that doesn't actually help with the fomo of not being with someone on Valentine's  (and doesn't make you feel any less lonely) I'm sharing what you can do this Valentine's Day that will have an impact long-term... and it won't just be for Valentine's Day!PREVIOUS VALENTINE'S DAY WEEK EPISODES:Ep 31: A Single Girl's Guide to Surviving Being Single on Valentine's DayEp 84: Why Getting Into a Relationship Won't Make You Happier-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

For some if us, the idea of a relationship would be the gamechanger. If I just had a partner, I'd have someone to go as my plus one with me.If I was in a relationship, I'd be able to go on holiday with someone. If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't be lonely. If I was married, I'd just be happier. And sure, relationships can bring so much joy, laughter, fun and happiness to the table, as well as the depth and intimacy of a connection that's harder to achieve with friends. But with the ever-problematic issue of chance coming into play when it comes to fate, it's a dangerous rope to be treading when we bundle our state of cotentment and happiness in something that you could be waiting on indefinitely. So in today's episode, I'll be exploring this deeper, to make sure you know the real realsons you can't wait around looking for a relationship to make you happy, and how you can bring about your own sense of happiness before a relationship is on the cards.-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

Today, we delve into the age-old question of... Am I ready to date again? Some of you totally wanna date again - but are jumping the gun, ready to repeat all the same stuff that happened in your last relationship!And others of you are tentative - and rightly so - but you don't want that to stop you forever. Has it been long enough to date again? Is it too soon to date again? Am I ready to date again?Beacuse there's a tonne of advice out there that could have you confused over this:Is it 6 months after a break up? Is it as long as you're "over your ex" (whatever that means?!) Or is Trust me, there'll be no specific time scales given in this episode. But instead of listening to all the cliche stuff, I'll tell you the real tests you can do to find out if you're actually ready to get out there and date again. -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

You've been told to “play it cool”, “match their energy” and leave the same amount of time they take to reply to reply back to them. But despite all those things, you feel stressed, increasingly annoyed and spend the entire time clock-watching - whether that's for when the last replied, eagerly awaiting their next reply, only to be disappointed when you check and there's still no response… or you're ticking down the time that you've limited yourself by to reply. Surely if this worked, we wouldn't have to feel this way every time we were chatting to someone?! This was my exact thoughts when I was dating. It wasn't meant to be this hard and stressful was it?! And I'm pleased to tell you, it doesn't have to be! Sure, some people would've found a magic solution after implementing these things… but if your stress levels are sky high, and that sneaky anxious attachment is creeping in, this might not be the best way to date (and might even be keeping you single!) So join me for todays episode where we stop playing the dating games and start dating with more calm, ease and confidence - and still find the good ones! -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

September is here, and it's the start of Autumn creeping in. Having worked with singles over the past three years, September always has a single shift. Gone are the highs of all those sunny days, and in come the lows of the short, dark days. With Christmas items already appearing in stores, I'll be sharing the importance of preparing for the colder months ahead with practical advice on maintaining positivity and making the most of this period for self-improvement and future readiness.Let's get you ready as winter is coming... -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

In today's epsiode, you're getting my approval to be out and proud about being single… AND want to be in a relationship at the same time. I've noticed a narrative in the single space that being single means you have to embrace singlehood only. And sure, there's a time and a place to take a break from dating. For some, that break never ends! But for other singles, getting happy and accepting being single is one thing. To stay that way forever? That wasn't on their lifetime bingo card! So move over being a single spinster forever *if that doesn't suit you*.There's room for being your own version of single, whether it lasts just a chapter or two, or takes us tight to the very end of your story. So hear me out on this week's episode to get your dose of single life empowerment, however you choose to live it! -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

You're over your ex, you're ready to take a step into dating... but you don't want to get hurt again. And I get it. The last time you were dating, it ended up causing you upset. You felt hurt, had to work through a bunch of emotions and you ended up exhausted from the whole experience. So this episode is designed to remind you that doesn't have to be your reality. Getting hurt is a risk - but one you can minimise the possibility of doing through a number of key approaches that I share with you on this episode. All so that ending up hurt again doesn't have to be your future. And for anyone who's ready to take this to the next level, to get their single spark back, get dating again and find one of the good guys, I'll be working with women to make it happen THIS AUTUMN. Head here to register your interest for when it all starts! -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

Looking back at Episode #9, there's a bunch of ways you can find new friends... but depsite the strategies shared in that episode, it can feel hard to find friends when you don't have that bestie like other people do. You yearn for someone that you can be as close as... But some friendships aren't meant to be forever. We certainly can't force that kind of friendship to occur. But our focus on those relationships means we overlook some of the best friendships that can fill up our lives, and that's situational friends. They're the ones you have a singular exprience with, probably to never see again, but you have an absolute blast getting to know at a festival, on a trip, whilst you're on a train. So in today's episode, I'm taking a deep dive into these alternative friendships to share the postive impact they can have on your lives (and how not all frienships are meant to last forever)-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

It's hard to believe that it's been 5 years since my separation... in 2018 I was getting married, but by the following summer in 2019, I was back home living with my parents. At the time, it felt like my whole life was up in the air. Everything I'd worked for in my late teens was gone in a flash. It was what needed to happen... but that didn't make it any easier. So 5 years on, I'm sharing my biggest life lessons now that time has passed, the divorce is well and truly in the past, and my life looks a whole lot different to five and six years ago! -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.-----Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!------life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such c...

In today's moment, I'm jumping back to Episode #57 with a question that you need to be asking yourself every 90 days to check in with yourself, to work out if single life it really for you, and to make sure you're truly happy with the path that you're on. (And this even applies when you aren't single! But matters MASSIVELY if you are single - to make sure you don't just accept being single, if it isn't really what you want!)-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

If you've been dating for any length of time, then you've probably been ghosted in that time too. It's an all-too-common experience in today's dating world, and it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and unsure of what to do next. When someone you've been dating suddenly disappears without a word, it can be tempting to reach out, send a text, and get closure or answers. But is that really the best move?In today's podcast, we dive deep into this dilemma and explore how to evaluate the the best course of action when you're left hanging.What You'll Learn In This Episode:The potential risks and rewards of reaching out to someone who ghosted youStrategies to move on and regain your confidence after being ghostedHow to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself in future dating experiencesJoin us as we unpack this modern dating conundrum and offer insights to help you navigate the tricky terrain of ghosting.4o-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

I know it's easy to think that your life needs to be on hold whilst you wait for the right relationship to come along. We tell ourselves we'll start living fully once we have a partner to share it with, won't go on that solo trip, won't see that show, can't go on holiday. But what if the key to finding happiness is embracing and enjoying your single life RIGHT NOW?!In today's podcast, I tackle this issue head-on and explore how you can thrive and find joy as a single person.What You'll Learn In This Episode:The benefits of embracing your single life and living it to the fullestHow to build a fulfilling and exciting life on your own termsPractical steps to stop waiting and start doing what makes you happy nowWays to cultivate self-love and independence that attract healthy relationshipsTune in as we discuss how to break free from the waiting game and start making the most of your single life today!-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

"When you find someone that you genuinely care for and want to be with but have hesitation simply because you're concerned about giving up freedom and individuality." This was a comment made in our Facebook group when I asked the question "What have you been finding a challenge with in your single/dating life recently?" and in today's podcast I go into this dilemma of giving up some elements of your freedom and individuality as you start to date. What You'll Learn In This Episode- The advantages to single life that you have to consider when moving into dating- The elements that become compromised when you're on the cusp of a becoming a couple- The way to maintain freedom and individuality alongside being in a relationship-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

I know I talk *a lot* about loneliness. If you're single, we know it's a risk factor, and that makes sense - you don't have that person to go home to, you can be left out of invites from your coupled up friends who “didn't think you'd want to be invited” and you can feel that sense of not being a priority to anyone… But I always want to emphasise that getting into a relationship doesn't take that sense of loneliness away at times, of not feeling involved, not belonging… and here's a very personal share of how that still exists in coupled up life. -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide- Join the FREE Facebook Group - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Just because you're single doesn't mean you're lonely… but we know being single makes you more likely to experience loneliness, which can lead to all kinds of knock on effects to your mental health. It can make you feel like you don't matter as much as other people, like no one would notice if you were gone, and like everyone else has other stuff going on all the time and there's you, at home, wasting your evenings away on apps and box sets.But I'm here to share with you the real reason you're feeling lonely, something I discovered during my own personal development journey of finding myself again and understanding what loneliness really was so I could tackle it head on. -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide: - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

It's easy to that that going on more dates will equal a higher chance of you finding that ultimate relationship. But there's a reason why going on more dates might actually be preventing you from having success in dating and why "dating is a numbers game" is a nuanced myth! And take it from someone that only went on 16 first dates scross the three years of dating, with one of those sixteen leading to the relationship I'm in now. If you're a serial dater, who's finding yourself on dates week-in, week-out but never quite getting to a serious relationship stage, then this one's for you!What You'll Learn: - Why more dates doesn't lead to success in dating and finding a relationship- How to date more effectively so you can actually find the perfect partner for you- The truth behind what you really need to find Mr Right!-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide: - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Taken from the inspiration of Episode 4, I share a moment I experienced in my personal development journey, when I started to question everything around me. And one of the things I had to look back at in my past, to work out where I got this skewed understanding of it from, and actually find out what it really meant was “what is love?”.So today, I'll share with you the theory from Sternberg that changed my understanding and allowed me to apply it to my friendships and relationships, so I could get to the bottom of what love really was - instead of having the Disney princess version of love as the blueprint. -----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide: - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Welcome to the BRAND NEW episode of the new era of this podcast, The Single Spark. We say goodbye to The Single Girl's Guide to Life to welcome in a fresh era the The Single Spark. Don't worry - it doesn't mean we're entirely changing. This is still the podcast for singles, but this time we're in our 30s - Chantelle turned 31 this very week and life in your 30s is very different to being in your 20s, and even more so when you're single. And to kickstart this new series, we're looking at helping you get your spark back after going through the end of a relationshop. After a break-up, your life is completely turned upside down. You're moving house, leaving behind a life you thought was going to be your future, and you're single - something you weren't expecting to happen as you started to settle down and plan what your life was going to look like. And it isn't just the practicalities of your life. With the loss of the relationship and the person you spent so much time with, you lose a little part of yourself too. And this episode is there for you to get that you, that spark back again.------REFERENCES:Ep 19: How to Get Over A Break Up-----RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide: - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoachAnd if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s----- DISCLAIMER: The podcast and content posted by Chantelle The Coach is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Being in your thirties, you might not think the menopause is on your radar just yet... But imagine approaching your forties, noticing changes in your body, and having no clue what's happening. That's what happened to Marie Frost, our special guest from Nutricore Health, who started experiencing perimenopausal symptoms after having a baby. Join us as Marie bravely shares her deeply personal journey through perimenopause, shattering misconceptions about menopause, and emphasising the importance of recognising and understanding the often overlooked symptoms of this critical phase in a woman's life, and sharing how we, as women in our 20s and 30s, can start to understand and prepare for the inevitable transition through the perimenopause. The ever-fluctuating hormones during this phase often lead to misdiagnosis, making it crucial for women in their twenties and thirties to be aware and proactive about their health.This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, offering insights into navigating this mid-life stage before you actually get there, learning to taking better care of yourself *now* to ensure longevity and quality of life. Tune in for a conversation that empowers every woman to take proactive steps towards their health as perimenopause gets closer every year.LinksFollow Marie on Instagram: Marie Frost - Nutricore Health InstagramJoin Marie's "Women's Health Hub" FB GroupAttend Marie's "All About Perimenopause & Menopause" Event on Thursday 16th November,  7.30pm - 9pm in Chelmsford, £15 inc a drink.References:Maisie Hill: Period PowerMariella Frostrape: Cracking the MenopauseSupport the show-----The Single Girl's Guide to Life was created by Chantelle Dyson. Please send your feedback and questions to Chantelle on Instagram, join our online community for discussion and support, follow Chantelle on TikTok, keep up with the Single Life blog, or check out the resources in The Single Girl's Hub.And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for future, weekly episode of single life living. FOLLOW: Instagram // Facebooklife coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s

Buckle up, because today's episode of Single Girls Guide to Life lays out the complex jounrey of getting divorced in your 20s, with a deep dive into the emotional, legal, and personal growth aspects of navigating through a divorce at this age. I tackle the unique challenges it presents, and the need for the divorcing couple's cooperation for their well-being, whilst sharing the brighter side of divorce that exists.I dissect the intricate process of leaving a marriage, the emotional turmoil that accompanies it, and how to navigate the maze of financial ties. Struggles are part and parcel of this path, but you're not alone. We're here to help you understand these challenges, whether emotional or legal, and navigate through them one step at a time.Above all else, getting divorce in your 20s might be a challenge, but it could also be a period of self-discovery and personal growth, and I discuss how a divorce can redefine your views on marriage and relationships, and help you prioritise your own needs. So, whether you're single by choice or circumstance, join us as we explore the less-discussed side of going through a divorce in your 20s. It's not necessarily an ending, but perhaps a new beginning.Support the show-----The Single Girl's Guide to Life was created by Chantelle Dyson. Please send your feedback and questions to Chantelle on Instagram, join our online community for discussion and support, follow Chantelle on TikTok, keep up with the Single Life blog, or check out the resources in The Single Girl's Hub.And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for future, weekly episode of single life living. FOLLOW: Instagram // Facebooklife coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s

What if one day you woke up, and instead of feeling like a lonely singleton, you were absolutely in love with your single life? Today, we take you through my personal journey from navigating the trials and tribulations of the dating scene to stepping into a relationship and eventually becoming a step-mum. Join us as we crack open my story of evolving from an independent single gal to a step-mum. We talk about the pressures of societal norms, the quarter-life crisis it spurred, and how I learned to make conscious decisions based on my core values. We venture into how the stepping stones of courage, ambition, and personal growth have played a significant role in creating a life that I'm in love with. With this episode, the first after a 4-month break, we aim to equip you with the tools to design a life that you cherish while single and prepare you for a potential relationship when the time comes. So, let's get ready to celebrate singlehood, take on the world, and stop wasting precious time with people who aren't right for us. Brace yourself for a compelling conversation infused with personal experiences, invaluable life lessons, and much more!Support the show-----The Single Girl's Guide to Life was created by Chantelle Dyson. Please send your feedback and questions to Chantelle on Instagram, join our online community for discussion and support, follow Chantelle on TikTok, keep up with the Single Life blog, or check out the resources in The Single Girl's Hub.And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for future, weekly episode of single life living. FOLLOW: Instagram // Facebooklife coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single women, divorced in your 20s

Breakups can be incredibly challenging, leaving us feeling lost, hurt, and overwhelmed. In this episode, I want to assure you that you're not alone. Join me as I recount my personal journey, exploring the twists and turns that come with post-breakup life.Together, we'll unpack the heartbreak, confusion, and anger that often accompany a breakup. I'll share practical strategies and insights that helped me process my emotions and begin the healing process.Throughout this episode, we'll delve into the stages of grief and the importance of self-compassion during this vulnerable time. This episode is your safe space to understand the rollercoaster of emotions you're experiencing and find hope in the midst of it all. Remember, healing takes time, but I'm here to remind you that brighter days are ahead.So, grab a cup of tea (or your preferred beverage), find a comfortable spot, and join me as we embark on this transformative journey of healing and finding strength after a breakup. Let's navigate this emotional rollercoaster together and reclaim our power to create a brighter future.Support the show

Feeling stuck in your love life, or struggling to find the confidence to believe in yourself and your relationships? Join us for our special 100th episode, where I tackle the complex world of self-confidence, trust, and beliefs. I'll debunk the myth that you're "too old" to find love, and help you question and challenge limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.Together, I'll examine how fear and lack of bravery can often be mistaken for a lack of confidence, and explore the role our beliefs play in our single lives. I'll also provide you with valuable tips on how to stay confident and positive in tough times, including the use of positive mantras and the power of connecting with others. Discover the potential of polyamory and how marriage is more than just a piece of paper and a ring.By the end of this episode, you'll have a fresh perspective on worthiness, relationships, and success, as well as the tools to help you challenge and undo limiting beliefs around being single. Don't miss out on this empowering celebration of single life, and the chance to build the confidence you need to flourish in love and all aspects of your life. Cheers to our 100th episode and to a future filled with self-assurance and stronger connections!Take the Single Life Confidence quiz now to find out what you can do to improve your self-confidence as a single. Click here to take the quiz.Support the show

In this eye-opening episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, I challenge the prevalent dating advice that suggests loving yourself first before entering a relationship. Join me as I explore why the notion of self-love first is inaccurate and potentially limiting in the context of dating. Delve into the importance of receiving love and validation from others as a crucial aspect of personal growth and relationship development, instead of focussing on the love you have for yourself alone. Whether you're a seasoned dater or new to the scene, this episode will empower you to reframe your mindset and embrace the journey of finding love without relying solely on self-love. Tune in to discover a fresh perspective on dating and uncover the true path to building meaningful connections.Support the show

Welcome to a special episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life! Today, we're diving deep into the world of single life and tackling the anxiety that comes with it. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, we're exploring empowering strategies to manage anxiety and find inner peace.Join me as I share my insights on handling the anxieties of being alone, dating, and the outcomes of relationships. Together, we'll uncover practical tips, self-care practices, and mindset shifts to conquer anxiety head-on to navigate the ups and downs of singlehood and empower ourselves to thrive.Let's break the stigma surrounding single life anxieties and transform our relationship with anxiety. Get ready to cultivate a fulfilling single life during Mental Health Awareness Week and let's conquer single life anxiety together!References:Mental Health Awareness Week: Anxiety (15-21 May 2023), from The Mental Health FoundationMental Health Awareness Week ReportAdamczyk K, Segrin C. Perceived Social Support and Mental Health Among Single vs. Partnered Polish Young Adults.  Curr Psychol. 2015;34(1):82-96. doi: 10.1007/s12144-014-9242-5. PMID: 25774079; PMCID: PMC4348549.Support the show

Are you single and looking for some inspiration to transform your life? In this episode, I've curated a list of 5 must-read books that will help you improve your mindset, gain new perspectives, and develop positive habits around being single. These are hand-selected books, all of which I've read, that will help you in the early stages of becoming single. From addressing your fears around being out of a relationship, to cultivating the mindset to be comfortable with being alone, these books cover a wide range of topics and are perfect for anyone who wants to make the most of their single life. Tune in and discover which books made my list and why I think they're essential reads for anyone who's single and looking to level up their life. Get ready to transform your single life with these 5 books!Support the show

In this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life, I tackle one of the most hotly debated topics in the dating world - the pros and cons of dating a man with kids.I'll be discussing the unique challenges and benefits that come with dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, thanks to my own internal debate when deciding whether to date someone with children, and now currently in a relationship with someone with children. I'll explore some of the common concerns that people have when entering into a relationship with a single parent, and the realities of the pros and cons it brings, referring to personal experiences of dating men with kids, providing valuable insights into the joys and challenges of blended families, with more to come in future episodes. Whether you're currently dating a man with children or just curious about what it's like, this episode is a must-listen. So, join me as I delve into the world of single dads and explore the pros and cons of dating a man with kids.Support the show

As a single, millennial woman, you may be questioning the traditional norms around dating and relationships, and wondering if there are alternative options out there. It's important to explore the options as so many of us are given traditional ideas as a default. And polyamory is one such option, and this episode aims to open up the conversation around this fascinating and diverse relationship model.Through my own exploration of the idea and understanding the concepts and terminology involved, I'll be sharing what I learnt about the models and experiences with polyamorous relationships, and what the pros and cons can be. Whether you're curious about polyamory or already considering it as an option,  join me as I explore the possibilities of opening up to new relationship models and embracing the diversity and inclusivity of modern dating.References: Feeld MultiamoryThe Ethical SlutThe Smart Girl's Guide to PolyamorySupport the show

Marriage is seen as the ultimate expression of love, the biggest commitment you can make to another and the desire and hope that it will last forever. As someone that's been married and divorced in their 20s, and experienced my own parents getting divorced as a child, marriage has been an interesting subject to explore, and the more I've explored and experienced, the more I've felt it necessary to share some of the realities of what marriage means in today's day and age. From personal experience, to looking at the stats, marriage needs to be a well-informed decision as opposed to the assumed trajectory of life. It doesn't guarantee you happiness, and it isn't always the answer to a fulfilling life, and it certainly isn't the only way to be happy and at ease with your life. Listen in to hear about the perspectives on marriage to consider for if and when the questions comes. *DISCLAIMER - The information provided in this podcast is for information purposes only based on my own experiences and research. Whilst every effort has been made to represent accurate information, you should always consult a professional in each context. Each case/individual is individual and therefore, specific information should be sought, particualrly so solicitors for legal matters concerning marriage and divorce, and refer to your individual pension providers for the conditions surrounding your pension. *Correction: I mentioned that the Teachers Pension wouldn't go to anyone unmarried, however there are some conditions detailed that would allow for this to happen. Please see this link for futher info.Support the show

Back when I first started dating, I had to learn ALL the basics. No matter how much dating content you consume, some of the lessons you learn ahead of time can't easily be applied in the moment. There's how you feel, all the "what if"s and you're dealing with the unpredicatbility of another person you don't really know. And as I soon learnt, dealing with not getting a reply in dating is one of the trickiest to balance - you don't want to look needy but you want a reply. You don't want to be left on read but what if something's genuinely happened to them.There's no exact right or wrong here, but two years on, I've come to my conclusions about how to deal with being left on read and not getting a reply in dating. Rerecorded from Episode 4 - What To Do When You Don't Get A ReplySupport the show

Being in a situationship SUCKS! It's confusing, often frustrating and it's so, so painful. You fall into the trap of getting into a routine with the guy you like, and keep refraining from bringing anything up in case he doesn't feel the same way about you back... but he's friendly and flirty, so surely he likes you, but how can you know?! And before you know it, you're knee-deep in a year-long situationship that you finally build the courage to ask about and it's not good news... In this episode I'll talk about identifying the signs that your situationship isn't progressing, understanding your own wants and needs, and having honest conversationsan with yourself and your love interests. It's important to remember that your happiness and emotional well-being matter too. Moving on can be scary, but I hope this episode inspires you to take the necessary steps towards a happier, healthier future.Join Back To Dating ProgrammeNo BS Guide to DatingReferences:Dr Stever Peters - Interview on Diary of a CEO, E215Ep 87 - Letting Go of The Guy You Never Dated Support the show

When you're in your 20's, its easy to get caught up in the "everyone else is doing it, so its what I have to do" mentality. You start believing that because everyone is heading towards the same goals as you, that you're doing everything right. In this moment, Chantelle discusess why you don't have to follow the same path as everyone else in life - and how whether or not you achieve your goals isn't necessarily dependent on exactly what actions you take. Listen in if you're trying find a path of your own while avoiding feeling like a failure.Listen to the full episode here.Watch the episodes on YouTube.Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.Support the show

Theories of attachment styles have been around for decades, originally being developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. They were originally based on the idea that we develop attachment styles based on our early childhood experiences with our caregivers. But what if it's not just about our early childhood? What if there are other origins for our attachment styles? In this video, I talk about the alternative factors that contribute to the development of attachment styles, which might give you the answer to why you've got an insecure attachment style even if your childhood upbringing was absolutely fine!Listen in for a deep dive on where your attachment style could've come from, and let me know what you think by dropping me a DM on Instagram.Support the show

After reflecting on our time during lockdown, which included virtual dating for some, Chantelle shares her observations of how we had the time to prioritise ourselves and how we should continue to apply that in dating. It's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires in favour of pleasing a potential future partner however, it's crucial to remember that prioritising ourselves is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.Listen to the full episode here.Watch the episodes on YouTube.Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.Support the show

Leaving a long-term relationship is SCARY. You don't know what's going to happen once you intiate the ending... and as soon as you do, the doubt creeps in. You wonder if you made the right decision. Or you're on the edge of leaving, trying to make sure you make the right decision as to whether to break up with him or not. I'll share some of the more subtle reasons you were right to make the decision to leave, as well as clarify the more obvious ones (though they're not always obvious to us before) to give you a variety of perspectives on why the relationship might not have been the right one for you. And through it all, I used my experience of leaving my 7-year relationship to get divorced after just a year of marriage to give you examples of how I knew it was the right decision for me to leave. Don't second guess yourself - learn why breaking up can be the right decision for your happiness and growth.References:#89 - The 5 Compatibility Checks To Do In Dating To Ensure Long-Lasting RelationshipsSupport the show

From the very first episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, Chantelle explores the mindset shift you need to enjoy your single life and stop obsessing over dating. She dives into the pressure we experience when we're single to get back out there and date when we've only just got ourselves out of a relationship. It seems like everyone associates being in a relationship with being happy - and it just isn't true for us all and has limiting effects on how we can enjoy our single life if we stick with that mindset too. Listen to the full episode here.Watch the episodes on YouTube.Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.Support the show

With summer just around the corner, many of you single women are excitedly thinking about planning your solo travel adventures, and as a seasoned solo adventurer, something I maintain whether I'm single or in a relationship, I'm here to help you come up with solo ideas to embrace your independence and adventure. In this episode, I'll share practical ideas insights to help you decide on what plans to make for an empowering solo travel experience. For braving it on your own to wanting to do things with others,  I'll provide you with inspiration for a successful solo girl summer. Whether you're a seasoned solo traveler or embarking on your first adventure, this episode is sure to inspire and equip you for an unforgettable summer ahead. Tune in now and get ready to embrace your independence and adventure with confidence!Join in at Wellnergy Festival where I'll be running solo festival-goer workshops and 15 minute coaching sessions too. Buy your ticket here (affiliate link - I'll earn a small commission if you purchase through this link at no additional cost to you)Volunteer/Work at Festivals via Hotbox Events - check out their website hereReferences:Camp Bestival DorsetCamp Bestival ShropshireCreamfields SouthTomorrowlandSupport the show

In this episode of The Single Girl's Gudide to Life, I'll be discussing the 5 compatibility checks that are crucial for building and sustaining a long-lasting relationship that you can look out for in dating. Join me as I delve into the key factors that make a relationship work, from shared values to communication styles, and provide tips for the elements you need to consider early on. With this episode, I hope to equip you with the knowledge and confidence you need to navigate the dating world successfully and find a compatible partner for a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Tune in now and discover how to ace the 5 compatibility checks in dating!*Correction - Chantelle stated the first stage in Matthew Hussey's beliefs of stages was Attraction. This is corrected to Admiration.References:- Matthew Hussey,  The Four Stages of a Relationship- Esther Perel, Love Stories vs. Life Stories- Sternberg's Triangular Theory Link- What is Love Episode #5 (Explaining Sternberg's Triangular Theory)- Values training- Love Languages1. VALUES2. COMMUNICATION STYLE3. SEXUAL COMPATABILTY4. LIFESTYLE5. RELATIONSHIP INTENTSupport the show

In this week's episode, I share my personal journey of transforming my anxious attachment style into a secure one.After becoming a single, millennial  woman following my divorce, I found I struggled with anxiety in my relationships. I would feel an overwhelming sense of worry when I didn't hear responses, and when someone ended a dating phase with me, I'd find it hard to process. My past experiences had left me feeling insecure and fearful of being vulnerable with others.But through a combination of therapy, self-reflection, and practice, I was able to overcome my anxious attachment and move towards building a healthy, secure relationship, based on a more secure attachment style.In this episode, I share my insights into the challenges of dating with an anxious attachment style and the importance of recognizing and understanding your triggers. I also discuss the significance of communicating your needs and boundaries, and the value of practicing self-compassion.Through my experience, I share actionable tips and strategies for millennial single women who are looking to break free from their old patterns and build a secure foundation for their relationships.Join me for this insightful conversation and learn how you too can transform your anxious attachment style into a secure one in your dating life.(And if you want to discuss your next first step to moving from an anxious attachment style to a more secure one, you can book your FREE 15-minute dating gamplan session here)Support the show

Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated? In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated. By following these strategies, you can gain emotional clarity and heal from the pain of unrequited love. Whether you're struggling to move on from a crush, a casual fling, or a complicated situation, this podcast episode is for you. So tune in now to learn how to let go and find the love and happiness you deserve.Download the No Contact Rule Tracker here.Download the No-BS Guide to Dating here.0:18 - Introduction  1:09 - The No Contact Rule - What it is, and How and Why It Should Be Used4:47 - The Emotional Stages of a Break-Up5:15 - Cutting off the love hormones 6:43 - The "Enough is Enough" point 9:30 - The Challenges of The No Contact rule14:41 - Cutting Off All Contact (Even if they keep messaging you)20:31 - Tips for Success in Executing the No Contact Rule25:15 - The No Contact Rule Q&A28:08 - Stay away from a FWB situation 29:40 - Applying The No BS approach to dating Support the show

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In this episode, I explore the many myths and misconceptions that surround the single life. Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a death sentence; it is a lifestyle choice that can be just as fulfilling and rewarding as being in a relationship. And getting into a relationship isn't the silver bullet for success and happiness either!Looking at the work from author and social psychologist, Bella DePaulo, I delve into the understanding of why single life isn't the be all and end all of our lives, and help spread the findings from DePaulo's research to debunk common misconceptions around the single life and provide guidance and encouragement to those who have chosen to embrace it. Whether you are single by choice or circumstance, this episode will help you see the many advantages of living a happy, fulfilling life without a romantic partner.What no one ever told you abouy people who are single | Bella DePaulo | TEDxUHasselt Find out what area of your single life you need to focus on to improve your life by taking the Single Life Confidence quiz here.Support the show