Podcasts about mistakes were made but not by me

Sin is really hard to deal with honestly. We've all seen the fake apologies from politicians or celebrities that did something wrong and got caught. Sometimes the non-apologies are easy to spot: “I'm sorry you were offended.” That's rookie stuff. Sometimes they are a bit more sophisticated: “Mistakes were made.” A phrase like that gently moves responsibility off of the speaker without it seeming like that. This is a phenomenon related in a really fantastic book Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me). In the book, the author, though writing from a non-christian perspective, points out all the ways that we justify ourselves when we do something wrong. It is so automatic, subconscious, and universal, all of us can feel seen in a book like that. Seriously, I read that book and questioned everything I was thinking for weeks (or was I?).    However, once we look at our passage today, I think you will be able to see the roots of this sort of response to sinful actions. Right after the first sin on Earth is committed, the first appearance of shame and blame begin. Shame and blame are two ways of dealing with sin that when used in the wrong way just lead us even deeper into sin. We will see the wrong way of dealing with our sin, and then we will see how Jesus' work saves us from both. 

What if the most difficult part of restoring a relationship wasn't mending the broken bond, but rather admitting that you were wrong? This episode is a deep dive into the human psychology behind being wrong and how our denial can often lead to more heartache and destruction than the initial mistake. We examine the compelling story of a cult from the book "Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)," whose faith in their leader only strengthened after their doomsday predictions failed. Admitting our mistakes is a difficult yet necessary step in restoring our relationships and maintaining our sanity.Relationships, like ships, require constant attention and direction. An unattended ship will inevitably head towards an iceberg, much like unprocessed emotions can bring about the downfall of a relationship. Despite the effort required, we argue that working to restore relationships is a worthwhile endeavor. But what happens when a relationship is damaged beyond repair? We've got you covered there too, offering insights on navigating these choppy waters.As we wrap up, we look towards self-awareness as our guiding star. Drawing from the teachings of Jesus and interpretations of Dallas Willard, we provide a fresh perspective on mending relationships through self-awareness. Moreover, we discuss practical steps to help nurture this skill, emphasizing the importance of approaching this journey with humility and grace. We believe self-awareness, though often overlooked, is a key ingredient in fostering connection and restoration. So, join us as we uncover the power of admitting our wrongs, nurturing our relationships, and embracing self-awareness. No matter how broken our bonds may be, remember, it's never too late for restoration.Support the show

ABOUT CAROL TAVRIS AND ELLIOT ARONSON Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson are distinguished social psychologists, bestselling authors and distinguished lecturers. Together, they authored the definitive book on self-justification and cognitive dissonance, Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me). Their work and research has been featured in The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Scientific American and many other publications. Carol and Elliot joined host Robert Glazer on the Elevate Podcast to discuss why we justify and double down on poor decisions, the mental traps we walk ourselves into, and how better understanding of these tendencies can improve how we learn, work and lead. Show Notes

In this episode, I share the highlights and key takeaways from the books I read In August 2022. The insights within this month's reading list provide valuable insights on the subjects of economics, psychology, productivity and even provide recommended science fiction books. Want to leave a COMMENT or watch the VIDEO edition?► https://youtu.be/DeE9wOxtkdo

Building on a previous episode that covered productive disagreement, here we look at how difficult conversations come about, especially for leadership. Although we tend to grapple with difficult conversations, we shouldn't avoid them.   We use real-life examples to illustrate there are ways to learn how to navigate and deal with such dialogue in a way to enhance your life.   When it turns to tears we discuss the impact raw emotion and crying can have on conversations, the benefit of writing emails or recording voice notes that you never send, and how to avoid a dispute at an event becoming beer-gate!   Please continue the conversation, rate and leave a review, or share your thoughts and ideas by connecting via Twitter, Instagram or LinkedIn.   And finally, for regular news updates and details on our Coaching Retreat, subscribe to our newsletter here.   During this episode we refer to the following resources: Difficult Conversations: How to discuss what matters most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen https://www.stoneandheen.com/difficult-conversations Podcast S4 E2 How to be heard with productive disagreement https://calmedgedrebels.com/how-to-be-heard-with-productive-disagreement/ Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavis and Elliot Aronson https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Made_But_Not_by_Me_

Why do we need accountability and why is it so hard? In this episode, Jenni looks at how accountability can cause chaos, its impact on trust, and the reasons behind it being critical to employee engagement. She also suggests ways to improve accountability, for you and others, and strengthen the link to organisational culture.   To keep the conversation going, connect with Jenni on LinkedIn and Twitter; ask questions and share your thinking!   Throughout the episode, Jenni shares a host of helpful resources:   Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavis and Elliot Aronson https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Made_But_Not_by_Me_ Blog: How RASCI can help you gain clarity and calm https://redefiningcomms.com/how-rasci-can-help-gain-clarity-and-calm/ How to be heard with productive disagreement podcast by Calm Edged Rebels https://calmedgedrebels.com/how-to-be-heard-with-productive-disagreement/ The positive practice of productive disagreement blog by Calm Edged Rebels https://calmedgedrebels.com/the-positive-practice-of-productive-disagreement/ Brené Brown podcast: Unlocking Us I'm Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters, Part 1 of 2 https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters-part-1-of-2/ I'm Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters, Part 2 of 2 https://brenebrown.com/podcast/im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters-part-2-of-2/ Dare to Lead by Brené Brown https://uk.bookshop.org/a/9752/9781785042140 Frey admits lying; Oprah apologizes to viewers https://www.today.com/popculture/frey-admits-lying-oprah-apologizes-viewers-2D80556017

This is the audio version of a blog post I wrote in May 2021.Everyone eventually reaches a point in life where the need to question assumptions arises; this may manifest in different ways at different points in life.  Whenever I pass the apartment nearby my girlfriend's house where the teenager loudly plays the electric guitar, I like to joke, “You don't understand me, mom!”  My girlfriend says the teenager and the mother actually seem to get along quite well.A lot of people might look around in their twenties and say, “Why are all these people doing this?” Or, they might pose this question's twin sibling, “Why am I not?”  Cultures, beliefs, assumptions evolve over decades, centuries, millennia.  The end result for beings who can think and feel is, ultimately, the perpetuation of the human race, the reward of evolution.  So, if you feel like something is “missing” or if you aren't happy, maybe it's time to take a step back and evaluate, because evolution doesn't necessarily reward us with happiness.Karen Horney was a psychoanalyst.  I, decidedly, am not, nor am I a psychologist or a therapist; I'm just a person trying to figure things out.  I excitedly read Karen Horney's 1950 book Neurosis and Human Growth after finding it as a footnote in another book by a social psychologist named Carol Tavris (I would recommend both her books Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion and Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)).  I really liked Neurosis and Human Growth, though I am told by Dr. Tavris, whom I emailed about it, that psychoanalysis has fallen out of vogue and is quite dated.  But, I still find a number of things Ms. Horney has to say to be extremely compelling.She talks about our expectations of life, of others, and of ourselves, dubbing this, “The Tyranny of the Should.”  This is how things “should” be, as we esteem them, as individuals, societies, and cultures; I “should” be doing this, you “should” be doing that, you “should” be treating me a certain way.  She illustrates what she calls a “neurotic claim” (Dr. Tavris also informed me psychology students today would no longer use the word “neurosis”) with an example about a train not being available when she wants to take it, and the resulting frustration that can result.  The train “should” be available at 2:30PM, when I want to take it; how stupid that it is not available then!  Certainly some injustices in our day-to-day life are more grave than others, but when you learn to see how you think about little things such as the dawdling pedestrian crossing the road or the driver who is having a hard time parallel parking, you can start to calm down a bit and go through life giving other parties a bit more benefit of the doubt.People often assume they are omniscient, as any connoisseur of Fox News or CNN might notice.  We think we have all available facts, that if you just do X, Y, and Z, life will fall into place, and a magical happiness and utopia will result.  And in a lot of ways, if you do the things you “should” do, you might be setting yourself up for success.  But, evolution didn't reward human happiness; it rewarded the conditions that led to seven billion humans on Earth, a number that has increased over 10-fold in the last 500 years.  If you've ever been to the natural history museum, humans are really old;like hundreds of thousands of years old.  So, you don't have to be a math whiz to gather that modernity and civilization are, relatively speaking, kind of a new thing.In light of this, if you are feeling unsatisfied, unfulfilled, unhappy, maybe that, actually, makes quite a bit of sense.  Modernity isn't quite as soul-crushing as history was, so we have a lot more time to think, take it easy, and ponder what exactly is going on.  If you are feeling “something is missing,” maybe a personal re-evaluation of your philosophy of life, your “shoulds,” so to speak, is in order.  My friends are all doctors, lawyers, engineers, are having children, have expensive real estate, and here I am holding a uniform from Hot Dog on a Stick and I live with my parents.  To a certain extent, a lot of “should” can put humans in a place where they can achieve happiness; it is easier to be happy when you have a little extra money in the bank.  But if you become addicted to a certain kind of lifestyle, that potential for lasting and intrinsic happiness can morph into a form of slavery, and then you're stuck making boat payments.To be sure, many people genuinely like having a boat, others maybe would be just as happy without one.  I am sure there are just as many satisfied and happy parents as there are parents who wished (or think they wished) they had never had children; and surely their answers will differ ten and twenty and forty years from now.  Different things have different meanings for different people; what do you want your life to mean for you?Jonathan Haidt and Carl Rogers both point out how inescapably social creatures humans are; if we did not care what others thought, we would be sociopaths.  But, as you get older, you can start to question some of the assumptions that are core to our historical human function.  Yes, it is impolite and rude to fart loudly on the subway, and we really ought not to shoot other people in the head for cutting us off in traffic; I think most people, on any given day, would feel these to be simple truths.  But humans are no longer on the savanna with prehistoric creatures, and a lot of the impulses and feelings we evolved with have overstayed their practical welcome.  You might start to question, as you get older, the up-keeping of appearances, and start to do the things that you want to do.  Social isolation can be lonely, but it is fair to assume we will still have friends and be allowed at the grocery store if we pull up in a Nissan Versa instead of a BMW.  Carl Rogers said, “When an activity feels as though it is valuable or worth doing, it is worth doing... I have never regretted moving in directions which ‘felt right,' even though I have often felt lonely or foolish at the time.”Learning to trust what you want from life doesn't have to mean a descent into booze-fueled nihilism coupled with a fast car and lots of drugs.  A lot of the post-WWII pop-psychologists like to talk about listening to your inner dictates, being your true self, self-realization, so on and so forth.  What they're really saying is that you need to do some things with your life that you genuinely want to do.  Rob Kurzban is a psychologist who writes about the “modular mind,” and how we evolved with different brain “modules” that achieve certain evolutionary goals; there is no “self” in there, in our brains, running the show.  This is another way of saying that all of the potential things which could be considered humanly good do not necessarily add up to all being compatible.  There is no final life solution.  Life has paradoxes.  There is nuance.  And, there are tradeoffs.What do you want from life?  What do you want from the World?  These are big questions.  Humans are sexually reproductive creatures.  If you want the pretty girl, a BMW might help.  Others will tell you that if you are relying on the fancy car to get the girl, you're getting the “wrong” kind of girl.  Do you want to start a family?  If you aren't sure, maybe you should put the idea on ice until you've better sorted out your personal life philosophy.We have some modern society-wide assumptions that go like this; you should go to college, you should have nice stuff, you should have a family, and you should get a good job.  And if you want things from the world, and from other people, a lot of these things will be mutually complementary.I did all of the things.  I was married at 23, I had a mortgage not much later, and a graduate degree in marketing.  And all I wanted to do was to sock away enough money so that we could pay off the mortgage so that I could “stop working.”  I felt this deep hatred for my work, which for me was a career in internet marketing that eventually became somewhat lucrative.  Eventually, couples therapy failed, my marriage went kaput, and I entered a fumbling figuring-myself-out in my late twenties; things people like my own parents had to figure out while being married to one another and having two young children.  And it took about ten years of fumbling and doing the same thing until I finally had saved enough money to say I could quit my job, if not forever, at least for a good long while.  I had had enough and wanted to embark on “something else.”My something else wound up entailing a lot of reading.  I started with “Winners Take All” by Anand Giridharadas.  I read a lot of non-fiction books, books about politics, something which I had an undergraduate degree in and had always been interested in.  Then I found my way from political books to pop-psychology books, since politics involves people, as well as philosophy.  I eventually wound my way to literature, having previously deemed the genre of fiction as mind-smut, and non-fiction as the way one learns things.  And in the course of all this reading, I accidentally found my own, better, personal philosophy of life, and realized some life lessons of my own.Dostoevsky, a Russian literature author, pointed out that existence is in fact slavery, and while this sounds like a bleak assessment on the surface, it is objectively true, in a sense.  We have to eat, thus, we need to get food; it so happens that now food comes from the store and not from the savanna.  I think a lot of the modern discontent which exists is a rejection of this fact, a desire to spit in its face, the dislike of reality.  Philosopher Karl Popper wrote of, “a deepfelt dissatisfaction with a world which does not, and cannot, live up to our moral ideas and to our dreams of perfection... a reaction against the strain of our civilization and its demand for personal responsibility.”  The “Closed Society” of history is gone; our roles are not predestined, we must find them for ourselves.  Humans have capacities and need to use them.  We want to work, even if it's not what we think of as “work,” as George Orwell pointed out.  A lot of political philosophy revolves about how we will re-make the World to somehow better link what we want to do with our lives versus what we must do economically in the World that has evolved.  This usually involves the bloody death of those deemed to be evil.  Suffice it to say, a paradox of “work” exists.There might be some fortunate people who find productive work which is both economically and personally rewarding.  I imagine things like physical therapist or medical doctor to be amongst these professions.  I cannot say what it is like since my profession is on the more soul-sucking/evil end of things.  But, I have come to embrace that which provides me with a roof over my head, food in the fridge, and have learned to better appreciate my fortune. Not all things which are economically productive in life are going to be rewarding, and vice versa; this is an irresolvable conflict in a society which has any form of freedom.  Ultimately, the question of whether you get to lead a happy life or not, resides with you.  People adopt philosophies of life, and if your current life philosophy is coming up short; you need to figure out a new one.  Australian “spirit master” Barry Long said, “The truth is you are responsible for your life.  If you're not responsible, it's not your life; and that's absurd.  Similarly, if you blame something else for what happens to you, you're giving up responsibility by giving it to others.  To be responsible is to be responsible for everything that happens to you, unfolding as your life.  Indeed, there are continual difficulties you have to face.  They may seem to have been caused by other agencies.  But you have to do your best to sort them out.  That's life.”I never wanted to have a family because I saw it as an elongation of my slavery, manufacturing something which needed to be supported via doing those things I already hated doing so much.  Perhaps it is a decision that I will regret in older age, though I think I have mostly moved passed living with regrets.  I quit my job to do what “I wanted to do,” and that was to think about “fixing” politics, and to try to help people, somehow.  I came to realize one of the best ways I could do something to “help people” was to lend financial assistance to young children in my own extended family who had the misfortune of being born with no fathers in the picture and are being raised by their grandmother; this very same something that I had previously found to be a very frustrating financial burden.  The idea that somehow people can be okay with bringing children into the world and then not loving or taking care of them has always been deeply troubling to me; I always viewed having children as an enormous responsibility.  So, I can do what I can to try to right this wrong, however inadequate.Leo Tolstoy's character Pierre, near the end of War and Peace, gave good color to the need for perspective in life.  As a political prisoner of the invaders from Napoleonic France in his own native Russia, he discovers the Aurelian truth that all is perspective.  Pierre suffers from blisters on his feet from marching as a prisoner of war.  Tolstoy writes, “While imprisoned in the shed Pierre had learned not with his intellect but with his whole being, by life itself, that man is created for happiness, that happiness is within him, in the satisfaction of simple human needs, and that all unhappiness arises not from privation but from superfluity. And now during these last three weeks of the march he had learned still another new, consolatory truth — that nothing in this world is terrible. He had learned that as there is no condition in which man can be happy and entirely free, so there is no condition in which he need be unhappy and lack freedom. He learned that suffering and freedom have their limits and that those limits are very near together; that the person in a bed of roses with one crumpled petal suffered as keenly as he now... and that when he had put on tight dancing shoes he had suffered just as he did now when he walked with bare feet that were covered with sores... He discovered that when he had married his wife — of his own free will as it had seemed to him — he had been no more free than now when they locked him up at night in a stable. Of all that he himself subsequently termed his sufferings, but which at the time he scarcely felt, the worst was the state of his bare, raw, and scab-covered feet. (The horseflesh was appetizing and nourishing, the saltpeter flavor of the gunpowder they used instead of salt was even pleasant; there was no great cold, it was always warm walking in the daytime, and at night there were the campfires; the lice that devoured him warmed his body.) The one thing that was at first hard to bear was his feet.”Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and author of Man's Search For Meaning, implores his reader to ask, what does life demand of you.  Not to ask, what is the meaning of life.  Because, the meaning of life cannot be known to humans.  So, we must make our own meaning.  Our greatest freedom is the choice of how to respond to life.  The determinists, those who think all is pre-ordained and nothing can be changed, would say we do not even have this freedom.  But if we do not have this freedom, why should we live?In my quest to do “something else” with my life, I strangely find myself back in a similar place, doing internet marketing part-time so that I can fulfill financial obligations to help my family.  But I do not think of it as I thought of it before.  I can think of no better use of my time to contribute, financially and spiritually, to two young children in my own family with no fathers.  I still do not like my line of work, not genuinely, but it provides me with financial freedom and time to write things such as this.People make decisions.  A lot of people choose prisons of their own making, maybe inadvertently, maybe on purpose.  The determinist says people don't make decisions, “[W]ith them one is always a ‘victim of the environment'--and nothing else!” Are our own abilities to evaluate our lives a product of our social environment?  It surely plays a role, but we must play the cards we are dealt.  If you can learn to trust yourself, your “inner dictates,” a sea of anxiety and self-mistrust can begin to wash away, in time, and you can begin to live your life more in accordance with what you think you should do.  I believe this because I feel it myself; I recognize my good psychological fortune in having been raised by two loving parents in a small rural Ivy League town.  I like to have time to ride my bicycle and read books; riding my bike brings me great joy, and provides me with a source of happiness.  Helping my family brings me a source of meaning, and one day I'd like to try to help others figure out how to better succeed at life in ways that I have.  I do not accept that the only way to contribute to humanity is to have children, that there is something wrong with me because I am in my late 30s, have no car, and live with a cat.  I am not here on Earth to somehow preserve someone else's standards for living. 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American social psychologist Dr Carol Tavris explains cognitive dissonance and how it works in the world of politics. Host Rafael Behr talks to Dr Carol Tavris about the mental obstacles that stop us from admitting that we may have made a mistake. Dr Tavris is a pre-eminent social psychologist specialising in the field of cognitive dissonance and co-author of “Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)”, a seminal book on the subject that was recently updated to include a chapter on Donald Trump's support base. Carol has written articles, op-eds, and book reviews on a wide array of topics in psychological science for the TLS, Wall Street Journal, Skeptic magazine, Los Angeles Times, and many other venues. This episode was recorded just before Christmas 2020 and touches on some of the reasons why few people have changed their minds about their support for (or opposition to) the idea of Brexit, and why the reality in 2021 is unlikely to trigger mass conversions. Links to interesting stuff mentioned in this podcast https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2018/oct/23/sarah-silverman-apologises-after-louis-ck-masturbation-comments https://lincolnproject.us https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leon_Festinger https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doomsday_cult https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elliot_Aronson https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Made_But_Not_by_Me_ This podcast is hosted by ZenCast.fm

Dr. Klug has practiced holistic and functional medicine since 2003 after it resolved health challenges that conventional medicine could not address for her. She is known for taking time to listen and to tease out the root causes that when addressed lead to more vibrant health. The name of her practice, HealthSpan, was inspired by her wish for everyone to enjoy lifelong vibrant health, instead of a long life plagued by chronic disease. Her practice is located in Prairie Village, Kansas. SHOW NOTES 1. Healthspan On The Web: https://www.healthspankc.com/ 2. Healthspan on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Healthspankc/ 3. "Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me" by Carol Travis 4. "Estrogen Matters" by Carol Travis & Avrum Bluming

Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson are the co-authors of Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me), a book which explores the science of cognitive biases and discusses how the human brain is wired for self-justification. In this episode, Carol and Elliot discuss how our desire to reconcile mental conflicts adversely affects many aspects of society. The two give real-world examples to demonstrate the pitfalls in attempts to reduce mental conflict, or dissonance. The examples reveal that no one is immune to dissonance reduction behavior, how intellectual honesty can be trained and lastly, how to think critically in order to avoid engaging in harmful dissonant behaviors. We discuss: Carol and Elliot’s respective background, collaboration history, and their decision to write Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) [4:00]; The theory of cognitive dissonance, and real examples of dissonance reduction in action [11:15]; How Elliot advanced the theory of cognitive dissonance [23:00]; The evolutionary reason for dissonance reduction, and cultural differences in what causes cognitive dissonance [30:30]; The great danger of smart, powerful people engaging in dissonance reduction [35:15]; Two case studies of cognitive dissonance in criminal justice [39:30]; The McMartin preschool case study—The danger in making judgements before knowing all the information [43:30]; How ideology distorts science and public opinion [56:30]; How time distorts memories [58:30]; The downside of certainty [1:05:30]; Are we all doomed to cognitive dissonance?—How two people with similar beliefs can diverge [1:09:00]; Cognitive dissonance in the police force [1:21:00]; A toolkit for overcoming cognitive dissonance [1:27:30]; Importance of separating identity from beliefs, thinking critically, & and the difficulty posed by political polarity [1:30:30]; How to impart the lessons from their work into future generations [1:48:00]; and More. Learn more: https://peterattiamd.com/ Show notes page for this episode: https://peterattiamd.com/caroltavris-elliotaronson/  Subscribe to receive exclusive subscriber-only content: https://peterattiamd.com/subscribe/ Sign up to receive Peter's email newsletter: https://peterattiamd.com/newsletter/ Connect with Peter on Facebook | Twitter | Instagram.

Welcome to our first themed season, “With Friends Like These: Converts.” We’ve always been interested in why and how people change their minds about what they believe — mostly because it just doesn’t happen that often. Once we we make a choice about who we are or what we want to do, we start ignoring the evidence that might prove us wrong: that’s what “confirmation bias” is. Social psychologist Carol Tavris joins us to discuss the phenomenon, offer examples of it, and delve into the mystery of why some people seem capable of resisting the habit of rationalization and some people don’t. Further reading and sources: “Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me),” by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson Ezra Klein discusses confirmation bias and how the self-reinforcing effect of polarization this previous episode about his book, “Why We’re Polarized.” We discussed the ways we push each other into further and further away once we decide what we believe in this episode with Lilliana Mason, “When Ideology Is Identity”, about her book, “Uncivil Agreement: How Politics Became Our Identity.” One of the most influential accounts of extreme rationalization in action: “When Prophecy Fails: A Social and Psychological Study of a Modern Group the That Predicted the Destruction of the World,” which tells the story of a doomsday cult whose members’ certainty about their beliefs only increased after the apocalypse failed to occur.

Why is the need to be right so strong? Why is it so hard to admit our faults? In the course of discussing the book Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me), Dr. Sarah Townley and I discuss many of the issues surrounding the cracks in our nature. The book addresses issues at the fascinating nexus of philosophy, psychology, and the hard facts of daily life. Our discussion touches on cognitive dissonance, determinism, marriage, parenting, professional misconduct, and the secret of conflict. If you'd like to learn more about Sarah's coaching practice, check out her website: https://www.afuturebydesign.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/thehinterlands)

Estrogen Matters: Why Taking Hormones in Menopause Can Improve Women's Well-Being and Lengthen Their Lives -- Without Raising the Risk of Breast Cancer. This brilliant, groundbreaking book, co-authored by Avrum Bluming MD and Carol Tavris PhD. tackles the confusing and often controversial subject of HRT. Realising there was so much misinformation out there, they decided to set the record straight and this book is the result. It is so well researched that it’s every scientists dream, but it’s written so that every day folk, like me, can digest the information and feel comfort in their expertise. The show today answers many questions women have about HRT, it’s implications on heart health, breast cancer, osteoporosis and alzheimers. Dr Bluming has spent the past two decades studying the benefits and risks of hormone replacement therapy administered to women with a history of breast cancer, with over 60% of his work focused on breast cancer. Carol Tavris received her PhD in social psychology from the University of Michigan. Is the author of numerous books, including,Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) and and has received numerous awards for her efforts to promote gender equality, science, and skepticism. I was delighted to have them on the show, in this clear, witty and informative chat on why Estrogen Matters. Are you enjoying the podcast? Would you like a FREE copy of my 12 Week Core Program, ABS ON FIRE? All you need to do are 2 simple steps: To claim, simply leave a review on iTunes or Google Play Email me directly amanda@fitnchips.com to grab your free workout plan. Much Love, Amanda x

In this episode, Avrum Bluming, hematologist, medical oncologist, and emeritus clinical professor at USC and Carol Tavris, social psychologist and author of Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me), discuss their collaboration on their recent book, Estrogen Matters. Their book takes on the very polarizing and confusing topic of hormone replacement therapy for women suffering with symptoms of menopause. In many ways, the story and history of HRT is in striking parallel to the bad science that led up to the dietary guidelines being set forth in 1980. Carol and Avrum make a compelling case that most women benefit greatly from being on postmenopausal hormone replacement therapy, and can do so without increasing their risk of breast cancer. We also cover the history of HRT, the impact of the Women's Health Initiative, and take a deep dive into each of the clinical conditions for which HRT should be considered, such as cardiovascular disease, neurodegenerative disease, and osteoporosis, to name a few. We discuss: The background of Carol and Avrum, and the impetus for writing Estrogen Matters [8:45]; The sad early history of hormone replacement therapy, treatments for prostate and breast cancer, and the difference between the treatment of women vs. men [14:00]; What hormones do, and why they drop off rapidly in women compared to gradually in men [20:15]; Mistreatment of women leading to great skepticism [23:45]; Breast cancer vs heart disease: Comparing the incidence and mortality in women [27:00]; Case studies of women suffering symptoms of menopause [30:00]; What are Carol and Avrum’s true motivations in this endeavor? [32:45]; The changing perceptions of HRT, the impact of the Women’s Health Initiative (WHI), and the problems with the WHI [37:45]; Is this one big conspiracy? The uncanny resemblance of the story of HRT and how the dietary guidelines were created [46:00]; Why people (falsely) think estrogen causes a 25% increase in breast cancer, and a lesson in absolute vs. relative risk [57:15]; The truth about progesterone and cancer risk, and the best types of estrogen and progesterone to be taking [1:09:00]; The Women’s Health Initiative: the reported findings, walking back their bold claims, and their hesitance to admit they were wrong [1:17:45]; Brain benefits of HRT, Alzheimer’s disease in women, and estrogen as a preventative treatment for AD [1:22:45]; The impact of HRT on heart disease, the ideal time to start HRT, and the risks associated with HRT [1:26:45]; The benefits of estrogen on bone health, and the incidence and mortality of hip fractures [1:33:15]; Colon cancer: Can HRT reduce the risk of colon cancer? [1:38:15]; Diabetes: Can HRT reduce the risk of developing diabetes? [1:40:30]; The downsides of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) [1:41:30]; How to approach your doctor who may already have a very strong point of view about HRT [1:42:15]; What kind of research needs to be done to answer the remaining questions about the benefits and risks of HRT? [1:48:30]; Cancer: Our evolving understanding and the future of treatment [1:59:15]; Welcoming the critics: Avrum and Carol want to start a conversation [2:02:00]; Are there racial differences in benefits and risks with HRT? [2:04:15]; The reactions to Estrogen Matters, and why it is a must read [2:09:15]; HRT after a diagnosis of breast cancer [2:13:45]; and More. Learn more at www.PeterAttiaMD.com Connect with Peter on Facebook | Twitter | Instagram.

Episode Summary In this episode Dr. Sean Stephenson, the “3-foot Giant” shares remarkable success principles and strategies, many of which you won’t hear from anyone else.   Show Notes The interesting backstory of Sean’s book Sean’s website: SeanStephenson.com Sean’s foray into the world of comedy 3FootChef.com Sean’s “INSPIRATION” comedy skit Sean tells the story of his 2-minute video that went “Mega Viral” with 250,000,000 views! Lessons from Sean’s quarter of a billion times viewed video What Sean has done “right and wrong” with his videos A better “call to action” Sean could use with the videos “The One-minute Sean Videos” – where Sean posted them The Genius Network’s “WHERE ARE YOU” Tool “Progress = Happiness” (Tony Robbins) Sean’s journaling process How to be in a great mood Focusing on your vision Re-read your goals every day How Sean mixes up his goals (short-term and long-term) together on the same page Sean’s huge goals How Sean’s mother’s question, “Is this going to be a gift, or a burden in your life?” changed the trajectory of Sean’s life 10Kspeeches.com (Sean’s seminar) Sean’s marketing strategies and tactics (14+ of them) Sean’s STRONGEST marketing tool revealed. Steve Martin’s famous quote: “Be so good they _______ ignore you.” Sean’s personal growth plan How to become REmarkable What Sean offers to build his email list today How Sean feels about the term “Hard Work” Sean’s life’s purpose: “To rid the world of ______________.” How Sean plans his day How Sean’s days are like a “3-Act Play” Sean’s major shift this year: “Stop trying to _________ things.  Improve instead of ________.” How to love yourself   People Mentioned Joe Polish Steve Sims Paul Colligan Mindy Kniss Benjamin Hardy Tony Robbins Jack Canfield The Dalai Lama Steve Martin Books mentioned Get off Your ‘But’: How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself by Sean Stephenson. Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson   Rich Cleaner is a program for Cleaners, Restorers and other entrepreneurs who want to take their business to a higher level of success. It’s the place you can go for collaboration, contribution, and connections.  Members get marketing strategies, business building tools, tactics for exponential growth and more.  It’s easy to join, and very affordable.  You can learn more about the Elite Cleaners at www.RichCleaner.com

For the first full episode of Mindscape, it's an honor to welcome social psychologist Carol Tavris. Her book with co-author Eliot Aronson, Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me), explores the effect that cognitive dissonance has on how we think. We talk about the fascinating process by which people justify the mistakes that they make, and how that leads to everything from false memories to political polarization. [smart_track_player url="http://traffic.libsyn.com/seancarroll/carol-tavris.mp3" social_email="true" hashtag="mindscapepodcast" ] Carol Tavris received her Ph.D. in social psychology from the University of Michigan. She is the author of numerous books, covering topics such as gender, biology, and emotion, and is a frequent contributor to a variety of newspapers and magazines. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, the Association for Psychological Science and the Committee for Skeptical Inquiry. Carol Tavris on Wikipedia Social Psychology Network profile Amazon.com author page A lecture on "Dissent and Dissonance: The Science and Art of Argument." Download Episode

Brea and Mallory talk about spooky nonfiction with special guest, Ross Blocher, from Oh No Ross and Carrie! Use the hashtag #ReadingGlassesPodcast to participate in online discussion! Email us at readingglassespodcast at gmail dot com!   Reading Glasses Merch Links -   Oh No Ross and Carrie http://www.maximumfun.org/shows/oh-no-ross-and-carrie   Kid Lit Says No Kids In Cages Pre-Order Mallory’s Book! The Lady from the Black Lagoon Reading Glasses Live Event 7/1 NoveList Plus Reading Glasses Transcriptions on Gretta Reading Glasses Facebook Group Reading Glasses Goodreads Group Apex Magazine Page Advice Article   Amazon Wish List Books Mentioned - Gulp by Mary Roach Night Shift by Joanna Angel   The Singularity Is Near by Ray Kurzweil Stories from the Messengers by Mike Clelland The Alienist by Caleb Carr Abominable Science! by Daniel Loxton and Donald R. Prothero Stiff by Mary Roach Ghost Hunters by Deborah Blum   The Poisoner’s Handbook by Deborah Blum   Ghostland by Colin Dickey Trolls by John Lindow Scream by Margee Kerr   The Demon Haunted World by Carl Sagan   Flim Flam by James Randi   Death from the Skies! by Philip Plait Abducted by Susan A. Clancy From Here to Eternity by Caitlin Doughty The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson   Caesar’s Last Breath by Sam Kean Psychic Blues by Mark Edward Conspiracies Declassified by Brian Dunning Dealing with Demons by Bob Larson Paperbacks from Hell by Grady Hendrix   Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson   The Martian by Andy Weir The Girl with All the Gifts by M.R. Carey    

The mainstream media has an ongoing obsession with trying to find remorseful Donald Trump voters. Salon's Amanda Marcotte talks to psychologist Carol Tavris, author of "Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)," about why we're unlikely to experience mass Trump regret any time soon.

John discusses Elder Uchtdorf's 2013 October Conference talk, “Come, Join with Us.” Book mentioned in this podcast: Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mormonexpression/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mormonexpression/support