Podcasts about end self sabotage

I dive into Carl Jung's concept of the Puer Aeternus—the eternal child, or what we might call the “man-child.” I explore how this archetype shows up in our lives through procrastination, fantasy, and avoidance of responsibility. I share myths like Icarus and Peter Pan, the shadow side of this archetype, and practical steps to move from the eternal boy to the integrated man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 – The Puer Aeternus: Eternal Child02:42 – Fixation on Youth vs. Responsibility04:12 – The Provisional Life07:01 – Myth of Icarus08:12 – Peter Pan and Neverland10:33 – The Seduction of Youth13:24 – The Shadow Side16:34 – Step 1: Accept Limitations18:47 – Step 2: Embrace the Ordinary20:14 – Step 3: Facing Failure21:50 – Step 4: Commit to the Process23:29 – Step 5: Seek a Mentor25:28 – From Eternal Boy to Integrated Man26:21 – Brutal Honesty and Feedback27:43 – Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Sandy to explore how childhood experiences and family dynamics shaped the way he shows up in his marriage and new role as a father. We dive into themes of complex trauma, feeling alone, and learning how to connect in the moment rather than after the fact. Together, we work through practical exercises on presence, nervous system awareness, and building safety in relationships. This is a raw, vulnerable dialogue about healing, fatherhood, and not carrying old patterns into the future.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction00:37 – Childhood patterns and family role04:07 – Struggles in marriage and fatherhood07:34 – Feeling unseen as a boy11:17 – Working through tension in the body15:51 – “I'm not alone anymore”23:58 – Understanding complex trauma31:08 – Daily connection practice with partner36:50 – Breaking the freeze cycle42:05 – Learning from fatherhood44:30 – Closing reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Today, I discuss the common belief that men are intimidated by successful women. We explore where this narrative comes from, why it persists, and what's really going on beneath the surface. Instead of intimidation, attraction often breaks down when certain traits and behaviors enter the relationship dynamic. Tune in for an honest look at success, gender roles, and what makes relationships thrive or fail.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Are men really intimidated by women?01:04 – The origins of this narrative01:58 – Success vs. attraction in relationships03:52 – Clarifying the message about women's accomplishments04:38 – What men actually get frustrated with06:59 – Influence, power, and attraction dynamics07:42 – Traits that push men away08:32 – Why “intimidation” isn't the real issue10:14 – Relationship struggles with role balance11:00 – Closing thoughts and reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

What if the next four months were the most transformative season of your love life yet? In this episode, Keshia Rice invites you into The Great Lock-In—a soul reset from now through the end of 2025 designed to help you release what no longer serves you and finally attract the kind of love you've been praying for. If you're tired of repeating old patterns, settling for "almost" connections, and watching the calendar flip with no real progress in your dating life... this is your sign to lock in and do love differently. Inside This Episode: What The Great Lock-In and Winter Arc challenges are (and why they matter) How to reset your emotional energy before January 1st A month-by-month breakdown to align your life, mindset, and heart with love The journaling prompts that will shift your entire dating experience Why fall is actually the best time to find love (not January) Daily practices to boost your confidence and start attracting real love, now Need Support Along the Way? Keisha's coaching program From Toxic to Thriving is open now. If you're ready to heal your love blocks and meet your purpose partner with clarity and confidence, apply today. Click here: https://keshiarice.com/from-toxic-to-thriving-coaching-program/ Connect with Keshia:

I dive into the archetype of the Trickster—the part of us that thrives on chaos, sabotage, and disruption, yet also carries the medicine of transformation.I explore how the Trickster shows up in mythology, film, and our daily lives, and why learning to embrace him can free us from stagnancy. You'll discover how to build a relationship with this shadow energy and use it as a source of creativity, humor, and growth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 – Introduction to the Trickster Archetype02:38 – The Joker as Chaos Embodied03:47 – Loki, Hermes, and Bugs Bunny05:29 – Chaos as Medicine07:29 – The Trickster Breaks Taboos10:16 – Growth Through Disruption12:02 – The Trickster in Religion and Myth14:08 – Denying vs. Embracing the Trickster16:54 – Trickster Heroes: Iron Man and Jim Carrey19:21 – Recognizing the Trickster Within21:44 – Confronting the Inner Saboteur23:40 – Why We Need the Trickster Today25:08 – Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down why quitting weed is so damn hard and the science behind it. From brain rewiring and withdrawal to the skyrocketing potency of today's cannabis, I explain the real reasons people struggle. I also share a proven step-by-step strategy to help you prepare, manage cravings, and quit for good. If you've tried before and slipped back, this roadmap is for you.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why quitting weed is hard01:09 – Reason #1: Brain rewiring05:02 – Reason #2: Withdrawal is real06:58 – Reason #3: Potency of modern weed10:25 – Reason #4: New side effects12:42 – Reason #5: Social acceptance & access13:45 – Stage 1: Prepare & track usage16:56 – Stage 2: Managing withdrawal22:13 – Stage 3: Therapy & nervous system support24:38 – Step 4: Reward progress27:16 – Medical support options28:22 – Final thoughts & accountability***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

True mastery isn't just creating your own freedom, it's learning how to teach others to create theirs. In this episode of Brokers of Secrets, William Lam reveals the next stage beyond the emperor's path: becoming a leader who mentors others to master their mind. He explains how designing life with clarity, resolving hidden loops, deeply reflecting, and making full decisions align the subconscious with conscious goals, unlocking effortless success. In a time of AI and quantum transformation, William shows why upgrading the mind is the ultimate skill not just for personal freedom and legacy, but for guiding others to break free and thrive.Chapters(00:00) Introduction(03:31) Teaching Others to Design Their Reality(06:11) Mental Mastery in the AI Age(07:55) Clarity of Design and Subconscious Alignment(10:34) Resolving Loops to End Self-Sabotage(13:57) The Power of Rumination (21:21) The 90-Year Plan and Collective GrowthIf the next level of mastery is guiding others to design their own success, how do you see yourself stepping into that role? Share in the comments.Take the Loop Quiz: https://loop.upgrd.com/Learn more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upgrd.comFollow us on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/theupgrd

Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks, an internationally recognized men's movement focused on holistic well-being, personal success, and fulfillment. He authored “Men's Work, A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self Sabotage, And Find Your Freedom”. Connor blends emotional intelligence with practical strategies, helping men overcome challenges, build stronger relationships, and lead more fulfilling lives. His work has been featured in major media outlets, and he frequently speaks on topics like masculinity, mental health, and personal development. Connor is passionate about guiding men toward purpose-driven lives, empowering them to unlock their true potential. Known for his direct and empathetic approach, Connor has organized and led numerous impactful workshops and retreats. He has shared platforms with influential speakers such as Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, Chris Williamson, Gabrielle Bernstein, and Danielle LaPorte.   Key Topics: ⭐ Fears And Concerns About Becoming A Father ⭐ Preparing Children For A Rapidly Changing World ⭐ The Crisis Of Meaning In Modern Life ⭐ Teaching Men Self-Leadership ⭐ How To Cope With Social Media Overload ⭐ Developing Nervous System Regulation ⭐ Embodiment As A Tool For Modeling Masculinity Through ⭐ The Father Wound And Its Impact ⭐ The Four Key Pillars For Raising Sons ⭐ Screen Time In Childhood Development ⭐ Tips On How To Create Confidence Through Building Competency ⭐ Teaching Resilience Through Boundaries And Rejection   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance Waitlist: https://forms.gle/oFyNbPmugYKtjQpRA   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect with Connor: Website: www.mantalks.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ManTalks

You keep asking, "Does he love me?" Sis, the harder question is... does he even like you? In this episode, Keshia Rice breaks down the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a man is emotionally unavailable, using you for convenience, or just coasting while you're over there calling it a relationship. In This Episode: 5 major red flags he doesn't really like you Why convenience relationships can still last years How to tell the difference between clout love and actual love The emotional and spiritual cost of being a placeholder Why "transactional love" isn't love at all If this relationship isn't rooted in safety, love, and peace—it's not God's plan for you. Period. Need to talk this through? If this episode hit a little too close to home and you're ready to stop settling and finally attract a relationship that's healthy, reciprocal, and real, Keshia's here to help. → Schedule your call here Connect with Keshia:

Connor sits down with storyteller Jameson Olsen to dive into the myth of Hercules and uncover its relevance for modern men. From the legendary labors to the tragedy that shaped his journey, Jameson unpacks how these ancient myths reflect the struggles of responsibility, temptation, betrayal, and redemption men face today. They explore the crossroads between vice and virtue, the weight of personal choices, and the timeless lessons hidden in myth. This conversation challenges men to confront their own trials, learn from archetypal stories, and find meaning in bearing the burden of life's hardships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction00:36 - Retelling ancient stories for modern times02:57 - The trials of Hercules and lessons for men04:52 - The Choice of Hercules: virtue vs. vice08:15 - Modern vices and distractions13:13 - Hercules' origins and fatherless upbringing15:43 - Tragedy: Hera's curse and the loss of family20:25 - Redemption through the labors22:57 - The Nemean Lion: confronting the impossible29:27 - The Hydra: breaking destructive patterns40:16 - Cleaning the Augean stables44:40 - The mares of Diomedes: consequences of carelessness48:42 - Hippolyta's belt and the gender divide54:07 - Bearing the heavy burden of disaster58:22 - Redemption, atonement, and moving forward01:03:20 - Using stories as mirrors for personal growth01:06:05 - Where to find Jameson Olsen***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at

I dive into why many men feel invisible to women in the dating world and relationships, exploring the concept of sexual marketplace value. I break down the reasons behind this invisibility and share practical steps to stand out, from auditing your personal presentation to building a strong social network. Join me as I discuss how focusing on self-improvement naturally boosts your attractiveness and visibility to women.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction to Male Invisibility00:52 - Understanding Sexual Marketplace Value03:11 - Why Most Men Are Invisible04:43 - The Choice Paradox in Dating05:32 - The Storefront Analogy07:23 - Importance of Presentation09:20 - Value Dynamics for Men and Women11:44 - Social Networks and Social Skills13:12 - Actionable Steps to Stand Out14:41 - Building Scarcity in Interactions16:38 - Investing in Long-Term Assets19:17 - Improving Physical Presence20:38 - Signaling Value, Not Selling22:09 - Overcoming Mediocrity***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Let's be real, you're not confused. You're just trying to justify staying in something that already isn't enough. In this episode, Keshia Rice breaks down why "situationships" are just emotionally dressed-up dead ends and why you deserve more than someone who can't even define what you are. In This Episode: What a situationship really is (and how it's different from casual dating) The sneaky psychological traps that keep women stuck in romantic purgatory Why staying "just in case" keeps you from the real thing How situationships destroy your self-trust, boundaries, and standards What it actually means to date with intention Key Reminder: You're not hard to love. You're just surrounded by people who don't know how. Ready to Break the Situationship Cycle? Let's fix that. Book a 1:1 call with Keshia and start creating the healthy, loving relationship you actually deserve. Want Help Breaking the Pattern? Let's rewrite your love future, not your past.

Listen to this episode for a raw and powerful conversation about loss, grief, and reclaiming self-trust. Together, we explore how childhood wounds shaped his sense of worth and authority, and what it means to step into becoming the true authority of your own life. This is a deeply moving dialogue about forgiveness, healing, and learning to finally trust yourself.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome and introduction00:49 Confronting grief and loss07:10 Childhood trauma and its impact14:30 Speaking to his mother22:50 Reclaiming voice and feelings29:10 Inner child connection33:00 Choosing a new authority36:28 Owning self-worth and power44:12 Reflections on authority and healing47:39 Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

This is a Fan Fav episode. Regardless of where you are located, your educational background, or your financial situation, we tend to have similar emotional and personal struggles, yet feel so isolated and alone dealing with them. Everyday stress and avoidant behaviors and habits leave you fearful, disappointed, and lacking enough significance in your own life to even prioritize YOU! Marissa Peer's mission is to help people realize there are simple, rapid and effective techniques that can change life for the better. She is sharing these tactics here with Lisa and with you to understand the power that your words and thoughts have over your life. Put an end to your self-destructive behaviors and habits, get to the root of the feelings sabotaging you, and start telling yourself a better lie. “Thoughts dictate feelings, your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” Marisa Peer Check out Marisa Peer's latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: ⁠https://amzn.to/39U2M7w⁠ SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Marissa Peer 0:25 | Control Your Thoughts, Not Your Feelings 23:29 | Start Practicing This! 42:49 | Find What Lies Beneath 59:23 | Bonus: Stop Feeling Trapped Follow Marisa Peer: Website: ⁠https://marisapeer.com/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg⁠ Original air date: 6-26-22 CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off https://bioptimizers.com/impact ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I explore the character of Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings as a model of virtuous masculinity. I break down how he embodies the protector, the healer, and the humble king, and what that means for us as men today. Aragorn shows us how strength and gentleness, ambition and humility, can coexist—and why the world needs more of that balance right now.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction00:27 – The hands of the king03:13 – The protector king06:22 – The humility of power08:24 – Strength with purpose11:11 – Brotherhood and bonds13:39 – Magnanimity and greatness16:55 – Humility at the Black Gate18:26 – Strong and gentle19:23 – Redefining greatness22:04 – Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

How do I stop sabotaging my attempts to quit drinking?  Jane's story will hit close to home for anyone who's ever wondered why they can stick to other healthy habits but struggle with alcohol. She exercises regularly, eats well, and maintains discipline in other areas of life, yet finds herself repeatedly breaking her commitment to quit drinking. In this honest coaching session, Jane opens up to Coach Tabbin about the internal dialogue that leads her from nail appointments to wine purchases, and how emotional triggers consistently derail her best intentions. Together, they uncover how unprocessed grief and the need to control uncontrollable situations drove her to use alcohol as emotional suppression. This episode provides practical insights into understanding the subconscious mind's role in drinking decisions and developing the self-compassion needed to break free from self-sabotaging patterns. In Jane's session: Struggling to stick to decisions about not drinking Dealing with anxiety about future alcohol-related situations Using distraction techniques for alcohol-free days Coping with self-criticism and feeling like a disappointment Understanding alcohol as a form of self-sabotage Building trust in alcohol-free living Learning to practice self-compassion The cognitive dissonance between conscious desire to quit and subconscious urges Finding support in community and relationships and more… Coach Tabbin is a Senior Coach with This Naked Mind, certified in ALP (Affective Liminal Psychology) and Grey Area Drinking. After years of battling alcohol, including a period of over seven years of not drinking interrupted by major life events, she found lasting freedom through This Naked Mind in 2018. Now a full-time coach, she helps senior professionals, especially those aged 45+, rewire their brains to live alcohol-free. With a background in advertising, Tabbin understands the pressures of high-powered careers and brings compassion and expertise to those navigating similar struggles. She is also a speaker, the host of The Alcohol Debate podcast, and the author of the Amazon best-seller Bottling Up Trouble. Learn more about Coach Tabbin: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/tabbin-almond-alpc/ Related Episodes: Why do I keep sabotaging my sobriety? - Alcohol Freedom Coaching – E728 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-728-readers-question-why-do-i-keep-sabotaging-my-sobriety/ End Self-Sabotage with Self-Love - Alcohol Freedom Coaching - E742 - https://thisnakedmind.com/end-self-sabotage-with-self-love-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e742/ Learning To Trust Yourself Again - Alcohol Freedom Coaching - E746 - https://thisnakedmind.com/learning-to-trust-yourself-again-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e746/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com/nakedmind Quince: For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/naked for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Hungryroot: Get 40% off your first box + a free item for life at Hungryroot.com/nakedmind with code nakedmind Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at Shopify.com/mind

I sit down with Roger for a powerful conversation about intimacy, leadership, and the courage it takes to be fully honest in a relationship. We explore how childhood wounds can carry into adult partnerships, and the work it takes to break free from old cycles of shame and avoidance. Roger opens up with deep vulnerability, and together we unpack what it means to step into responsibility and create real connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Opening & Welcome00:52 – Roger's Relationship Struggles04:08 – Intimacy & Connection Challenges07:56 – The Cycle of Avoidance13:29 – Childhood Roots with Mom20:05 – Healing the Inner Boy28:22 – Facing the Partner with Honesty35:30 – Learning to Be Okay with Disappointment42:35 – Separating Self from Validation47:29 – Commitments for Change52:19 – Micro Moments of Leadership53:18 – Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into how your shadow self might be quietly sabotaging your love life — and what you can do about it. Drawing from Jungian philosophy, I explore why we're drawn to partners who embody the very traits we've disowned in ourselves. I share practical ways to spot your shadow at work in your relationship and how to begin integrating it for deeper connection and intimacy.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome & Jung's insight on fate00:50 Your shadow's hidden intelligence02:37 What is the shadow?04:20 How to know when your shadow is active07:13 The nice guy/people pleaser dynamic09:18 Nature abhors a vacuum in relationships11:57 Relationships as mirrors for self-reclamation14:17 Steps to integrate your shadow15:19 Closing thoughts & final Jung quote***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

You're not stuck in a cycle because you're “bad at love.” You're stuck because you're trying to heal childhood wounds with adult relationships. In this episode, Keshia breaks down the real reason so many women feel unseen, unheard, and unloved in dating—and what it has to do with the people who raised you. In This Episode: Why you keep attracting the same kind of toxic relationships The truth about “dating your parents” How childhood wounds show up in your adult love life Why validation isn't love—and what to do instead The shift from rewriting the past to building your future Want Help Breaking the Pattern? Let's rewrite your love future, not your past.

I sit down with Anthony Rispo to dive deep into social cognition, human behavior, and the cultural shifts affecting men and women today. We explore how disagreements can fracture relationships, the erosion of nuance in public discourse, and the role social media plays in polarizing people. Anthony also shares his insights on gender dynamics, the state of therapy for men, and the growing narrative around being “better off alone.” This is a thought-provoking conversation that isn't afraid to push into complex and sometimes controversial territory.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Anthony's background and journey into psychology04:20 – Research interests and social cognition explained08:51 – The impact of disagreement on relationships14:14 – Political polarization and identity formation26:09 – Gender differences and dating dynamics29:09 – The brain's role in social cognition38:39 – Therapy, masculinity, and practical approaches for men49:23 – Dark traits, therapy, and ideology53:49 – Being alone and cultural narratives57:52 – Consequences of rejecting traditional structures01:04:35 – Anthony's personal story and standing against groupthink***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you're trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence08:23 The Emotional Impact on You10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

If you've ever looked at a conference, a coach, or even a relationship and thought, "This is the thing that will fix my life..."—this episode is for you. Keshia dives into the influencer culture, the rise of Christian women's conferences like Woman Evolve, and the sometimes uncomfortable truth: you have to be your own rescue mission. In This Episode: Why no conference, coach, or partner can do the work for you The truth about emotional outsourcing in the self-help world Why idolizing influencers (even Christian ones) can be dangerous How to stop waiting for permission and start owning your growth The difference between guidance and dependence—and why it matters Want to go deeper? Ready to stop consuming and start transforming?

I dive into the modern traps that disconnect men from their masculine core, like the "nice guy" culture and procrastination, which drain your inner fire. I share practical steps to rebuild momentum through small, daily habits, helping you reclaim your strength and direction without relying on motivation. Join me as I explore how to balance empathy with assertiveness and take action toward your goals.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(00:00) - Introduction: Feeling Disconnected(01:04) - The Nice Guy Trap(02:46) - Conflict Avoidance and Inner Fire(03:46) - The Procrastination Paradox(06:41) - Building Momentum(07:47) - Daily Habits for Masculine Energy(09:31) - Finding the Middle Ground(10:48) - Call to Action***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationshipsSo many men fall into a very specific (and usually confusing) trap. They're asked to "be more vulnerable", they go way too far with it, and it ends up pushing the partner into the mother/caregiver/therapist role way too often.I've talked about this before, but let's go deeper. Here's how to interpret what's actually being asked of you.(00:00:00) - What a woman does NOT mean, and one of the paradoxes of dating(00:07:48) - What does she want, really?(00:09:01) - What can't be filled by romance—and what it actually takes(00:12:14) - Don't project spiritual meaning onto sexual instinct***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Not all gold diggers want your money—some want your emotional energy. And sis, that kind might be draining you without you even realizing it. In this episode, Keshia breaks down what an emotional gold digger looks like, how to spot them, and how to finally stop over-functioning in one-sided relationships. In This Episode: The real definition of an emotional gold digger How to tell if you're the "one-stop shop" for someone's emotional needs Why you keep attracting draining people (hint: it didn't start in adulthood) What emotional dumping actually costs you—and how to protect your peace The sneaky difference between being supportive... and being used Need deeper support? It's time to stop attracting emotionally unavailable people—and start attracting real love.

Talking points: masculinity, cultureMuch like open pit mining, our culture has ravaged certain aspects of maturity and masculinity—and it's getting harder to remember what used to be the core components. Here are the most important principles I think most of us have forgotten to implement in our lives.I'd also love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram or if you're listening to this on Spotify, drop a comment!(00:00:00) - Learn to love and embrace the unknown(00:04:45) - Embrace discomfort(00:08:10) - Take responsibility and ownership almost to a degree that feels uncomfortable(00:10:04) - Build a brotherhood and honor your people(00:12:19) - Have dominion over your impulses(00:16:04) - Become emotionally sovereign(00:18:52) - Honor the feminine without resentment. Or pedestaling***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I was asked recently what I'd say to men who've been thinking about giving up. Who are at the end of their rope. Not an easy topic, and I don't have a magic bullet or tactical steps for you this time.But I do have a gentle reminder.(00:00:00) - Intro, and choice(00:07:42) - On suffering and gauging what you can truly change(00:15:31) - The risk of convincing***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Ever prayed, "God, remove who's not for me"... and got an answer way quicker (and messier) than expected? In this episode, Keshia dives into three powerful (and often uncomfortable) signs that a relationship isn't aligned with your purpose—and what to do about it. In This Episode: Why "just being uncomfortable" is often all the confirmation you need What the "ick" really means (and why you shouldn't ignore it) How your body may be trying to tell you it's time to walk away Real-life stories of divine redirection (like hives from a boyfriend... literally) The truth about growing apart—and why that's not a bad thing Journal Prompts: When was the last time you felt "off" around someone—and did you listen? How often do you confuse time invested with God's confirmation? Am I drawn to this person from peace... or guilt, habit, or fear? Let's Go Deeper: Feeling the nudge to release what's not aligned and call in the kind of love that is? Schedule a free breakthrough session and learn about the From Toxic to Thriving coaching program. → Book your call here Follow Keshia:

Dr. Andrew Holecek discusses his journey from a Catholic upbringing to exploring New Age and spiritual practices, including Transcendental Meditation and Tibetan Buddhism. He emphasizes the transformative power of dark retreats, which involve spending extended periods in complete darkness to facilitate deep introspection and spiritual growth. Dr. Andrew explains that these retreats help individuals confront their inner selves, break down dualistic constructs, and achieve a state of non-duality. He stresses the importance of proper preparation, including meditation, to handle the intense experience effectively. Dr. Andrew Holecek discusses the transformative power of "shadow work" and dark retreats, emphasizing the feminine quality of darkness in Buddhist tradition. He explains that darkness represents emptiness, a feminine dimension, while light symbolizes masculine energy. Dr. Andrew describes dark retreats as a practice to confront and integrate repressed elements of the unconscious mind, likening it to a detox and a form of spiritual initiation. He highlights the importance of overcoming distraction and engaging with one's deepest self to achieve spiritual growth and liberation. The conversation also touches on the broader implications of these practices for personal and societal transformation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/next-level-soul-podcast-with-alex-ferrari--4858435/support.

Talking points: parents, anger, unavailabilityMy guest this week came to work on how can't see any path other than "it's all on me", as well as a feeling of emotional distance from his father. But why? What's hidden in the shadow that connects the two? This is an excellent episode to get a feel for the work in action—and how we so easily bury certain parts of ourselves and others in the unconscious. (00:00:00) - Intro, what my guest is struggling with, and his family situation(00:10:30) - How my guest's teenage self felt in the moment(00:19:16) - What's really going on(00:27:01) - What my guest has realized***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: mindset, nervous systemThere's good, there's great, and then there's real mastery. I've had the privilege of working and talking with many extraordinary men. Masters of their craft. There's something that all of them do well—and it's what separates the great from the exceptional. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:05:51) - What separates good from great, and great from exceptional(00:10:35) - The best part, and the crucial part(00:14:25) - The importance of slowness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Dating shouldn't feel like a mental chess game. If your mind is constantly replaying texts, tone, and timing—this one's for you. Keshia shares how to stop overanalyzing and start dating from a place of peace, trust, and actual joy. In This Episode: Why high-achieving women tend to overthink in dating (and how to undo it) How to shift from analysis mode to connection mode The truth about anxiety vs. reality in relationships Why your worth is not defined by a man's attention How to date with clarity instead of control Dating Homework: Journal this: "Am I reacting to reality or to my anxiety?" Do one thing this week that moves you forward: message a match, go on the date, or speak a boundary Ask yourself: If I truly believed I was already chosen by God, how would I show up in dating? Ready for deeper support?

Talking points: anxiety, attention, mindsetWhat if the jitters aren't just from the extra coffee this morning? What if you're taking in too much info, courtesy of the never-ending scroll? There's something underneath it all, team, and building resiliency against that can be an absolute game changer. Here's how.(00:00:00) - What's underneath all anxiety, and what it does(00:03:01) - Why this is relevant to men(00:06:38) - The Cheesecake Factory Effect(00:09:15) - So what do you do, and what real freedom involves(00:15:33) - Do it scared, and do it to completion (with a caveat)(00:19:43) - Find the joy in the process, NOT the outcome***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationship, attachment, cultureI love Stan because he's able to cut through so much of the modern BS around relationships, and get straight to practical, tactical perspectives and advice. We covered a TON of ground here, from the importance of social contracts and mutual protection, to the need for shared vision and purpose in creating equitable and collaborative relationships. This is definitely a convo that will spark some discussion, so listen in, team.(00:00:00) - Intro and the nature of secure functioning(00:05:52) - Human Nature and Relationship Dynamics(00:10:01) - Impact of Technology on Relationships(00:23:35) - Creating Secure Functioning Relationships(00:35:06) - Predictability and Prevention in Relationships(00:36:51) - The Importance of Quick Repair(00:43:02) - Mutual Protection and Solidarity(00:47:20) - Compatibility and Relationship Agreements(00:51:59) - The Role of Attachment in Relationships(01:00:42) - Final Thoughts and Practical AdviceStan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a renowned expert in human behaviour and couple relationships, known for developing the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He is a global speaker and teacher on secure-functioning relationships, with his insights reaching over 1.7 million viewers through his TEDx talk. Stan has authored six bestselling books, translated into multiple languages, and has published numerous academic articles.In 2010, Stan co-founded the PACT Institute with his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, to train therapists in integrating psychobiological approaches into their practices. His work has earned him the Educator of the Year award from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA in 2014.Stan leads couples in creating healthy attachments through his clinical practice in Calabasas, California, and Wired For Love Couple Retreats. He has held academic positions at UCLA and serves on the boards of Lifespan Learning Institute and Relationships First. A former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter, Stan is trained in various psychotherapeutic techniques, including Adult Attachment, Facial Action Coding System, and Vipassana meditation.Connect with Dr. Tatkin-Website: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation |

Talking points: relationships, infidelityNot the happiest of talking points today, team, but it's always worth discussing. There's no universal reason for it, but from my own experience and years of working with men, I've seen some common themes. Here's a quick breakdown of the top reasons, plus the underlying motivation for almost every man that's knocked on my door.(00:00:00) - Intro, and the underlying motivation for a majority of men(00:03:40) - Reasons that fall into this category(00:10:53) - One of the main drivers for my own infidelity, and how attachment styles can play into it***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

In this episode of the Love Stories podcast, I had the immense pleasure of welcoming David Waldy, the fierce empathy coach, to discuss the transformative power of empathy and self-love. David, a husband, father of four, and former corporate leader, has dedicated his life to helping high-performing men and entrepreneurs break through self-sabotage and lead with courage, clarity, and purpose.Throughout our discussion, we touched on the critical idea that many people struggle with self-love because they often prioritize the needs of others over their own. David emphasized that true self-love is not selfish; rather, it is essential for being able to give love to others. He encouraged listeners to treat themselves with the same compassion they would offer to a loved one, highlighting the importance of understanding and forgiving oneself for past mistakes.IN THIS EPISODE:- (10:25) The Turning Point- (20:23) The Importance of Loving Yourself- (30:03) Behavior Follows Identity- (33:05) Moving in with a New Partner- (39:05) Manifestation vs. Identity- (45:45) Breaking Free from IllusionsRESOURCESCheck out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE My FREE eBook The Magnetic WomanApp rec: BumbleFeminine Embodiment HERECONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentrainingWork with me HERECONNECT WITH DAVIDOn Instagram HEREHis Links HERE

Ready for a bold shift? If you want to attract the love, life, and relationships you've been praying for, you have to be willing to die. This episode is all about letting go of the things that no longer serve you—and yes, that includes breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, societal expectations, and even old mindsets. In This Episode: The spiritual concept of "dying daily" and how it applies to your life and love life Why you can't serve two masters—and how it's impacting your relationships Letting go of the idea that a man will complete you or make you happy The societal pressures around relationships: marriage by a certain age, having kids, etc. Breaking the "good girl" myth and learning to speak up in relationships Why it's time to let go of sunk cost fallacy and stop trying to "fix" unworthy partners The problem with obsessing over the destination instead of enjoying the journey Work With Keshia:

Talking points: mental health, masculinity, cultureWhen Movember reaches out, you answer the call. I'm grateful to have interviewed Professor John Oliffe on a recent report co-authored by him—and spearheaded by the Movember Institute for Men's Health. Some of the stats they've released left me a little surprised; like 2 in 5 men in Canada die prematurely, and from largely preventable casues. Listen to this one, team.(00:00:00) - Intro, and the premature mortality of men(00:10:29) - On co-constructed masculinity, and how modern complexity affects how we perceive manhood(00:16:26) - On “protest masculinity”, and what's causing men to die early?(00:22:34) - Depression, suicide, and getting upstream of the risk factors(00:32:120) - Why hiding what you're going through so common, and why some men dismiss the healthcare system(00:40:06) - What Dr. Oliffe would say to the man reluctant to see a therapist(00:44:49) - The changes and diversity of modern masculinityDr. John Oliffe is a Professor and Tier 1 Canada Research Chair in Men's Health Promotion at the School of Nursing, University of British Columbia. Founder and lead investigator of UBC's Men's Health Research program, his work focuses on masculinities as it influences men's health behaviours and illness management, and its impact on partners, families, and overall life quality. Findings drawn from his research offer guidance to clinicians and researchers to advance men's health promotion in the areas of psychosocial prostate cancer care, smoking cessation and male suicide prevention.For those of you in Vancouver, check out the formal launch of John and Movember's work here: https://nursing.ubc.ca/community/events/2025/launch-real-face-of-mens-health-reportConnect with Dr. Oliffe-Website: www.menshealthresearch.ubc.ca-LinkedIn: http://ca.linkedin.com/in/johnoliffe***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or

You're a high performing, self-aware, intelligent woman. You've done the therapy, you've listened to the podcasts and read all the books, you've done the journal prompts, and yet even though you KNOW better, it's not translating into DOING better. WTF? Today's guest, Bizzie Gold, has some answers.  Bizzie Gold is a pioneering force in mental health innovation, reshaping the field with a data-driven approach to behavior prediction and rewiring. As the creator of Break Method, she has spent the last 11 years mapping tens of thousands of data sets, uncovering a groundbreaking truth: self-deception follows predictable patterns that can be accurately diagnosed and rewired without relying on a client's self-awareness or narrative. In today's episode, we're diving deep on the subconscious patterns that keep us "knowing better without doing better," the difference between instinct and intuition, and the tools to break your self-sabotage patterns for good. Find Bizzie Here Bizzie's IG Get 10% off the Break Method with code EMILY Check out Bizzie's newest book, "Your Brain is a Filthy Liar" For the high-achieving hot girls that want to recover better, support glowier skin, and promote longevity through better cellular health, get 20% off your first order of Mitopure and make wellness easier than ever. Fitness, health, and holistic wellness for $22/month Interested in a luxury 1:1 online health coaching experience? Look no further than FENIX ATHLETICA, where we fuse science and soul for life-long transformation (inside AND out). For the high-achieving hot girls that want to recover better, support glowier skin, and promote longevity through better cellular health, get 20% off your first order of Mitopure and make wellness easier than ever. Follow me on Instagram Follow EMBody Radio on Instagram  

Talking points: relationships, cultureThis might bother some of you, but I think it needs discussing, because I get it all the time in comments, emails, and DMs: serious disappointment and frustration with dating. From men and women both. There are a lot of reasons for this, both surface-level and deeper, but here's what I'm seeing the most. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:05:04) - What we're not actually teaching young men(00:08:14) - Where do we go from here?(00:11:04) - A gap I see in most relationships(00:13:37) - Have the conversation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

This isn't the episode Keshia planned—but it might be the one you needed. If you've ever found yourself attracting emotionally unavailable partners, inconsistent friends, or draining connections, it might be time to pause and ask: what is God trying to show me about myself through these patterns? This heart-to-heart is a holy wake-up call. In This Episode: How every relationship is a mirror—and what it's reflecting back at you The connection between inconsistent people and your own self-abandonment Why discipline and self-trust are spiritual practices, not just productivity hacks What to do when your singleness feels heavy, and your loneliness feels loud How to stop asking for the perfect partner before becoming the peaceful version of you This isn't just about getting the relationship—it's about becoming the version of you who can actually keep it. Let's go deeper, together. Work With Keshia:

Talking points: inner child, fatherhood, abandonment, the shadowFair warning, there's a lot of F-bombs in this one. We've kept them in because I want people to get a sense of how deep a father wound can go. My guest has struggled with a kind of dualistic life. One day, he's crushing it and confident. The next, he feels uncertain and lost. This is a heavy one, team, but absolutely worth checking out. ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: fatherhood, psychology, mindsetA while back, I put up an episode on the mother wound, aka healing your mommy issues. But there's always more to the story. There's also the "father wound", and it can have massive impact on everything from self-worth to relationships to skill at work. Listen in for a serious look at what it is, what creates it, and what to work on.(00:00:00) - Intro and defining the “father wound”(00:04:47) - The kinds of fathers/childhoods that create this(00:13:53) - Symptoms of father wounding, and why they're important to know(00:23:52) - Common “archetypes” of fathers that create a father wound(00:26:40) - So what do you do? (00:32:09) - On fathering yourself***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: culture, psychology, masculinityI've covered the data behind this multiple times. A lot of men—not just in North America but globally—are struggling. Today I want to spark some dialogue by bringing some attention to what I think are just a few of the underlying reasons.And I want your thoughts, too. Comment if you're on Spotify, DM me on Instagram. This is worth talking about beyond the usual blame games or "it's always been like this" deflection.***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: sex, relationships, cultureEditor's Note: FYI team, had some audio snafus that we did our best to remedy. Thanks for your understanding! Grateful that Jamie and I sat down to talk all things intimate relationships. From how culture keeps shaping what men and women respond to, desire, and miss out on, to helping both yourself and her feel not just comfortable but welcome. This is a great ep to listen to with a partner, my friends. (00:00:00) - What most men need to know about women's desire(00:05:41) - Helping a woman feel like all of her is welcome(00:13:58) - Helping a partner who isn't fully comfortable with themselves(00:30:18) - For couples that find themselves stuck in monotony or dead bedroom(00:37:58) - Common challenges women face in the “tragic phase”, and how men can move to support them(00:44:04) - Become a gardener, not a consumerJamie Elizabeth Thompson has developed a holistic body of work to support women, men, and couples with letting go of limiting patterns around sex so they can have a fulfilling intimate life and taste their most exquisite erotic expression. She is a radical contributor to the field of Sex Education and is a pioneer in creating original and lasting solutions for challenges in sex & intimacy. She speaks about sexual transmutation, the spark of erotic life force in all things, sex magic and how creative life force can be channeled into manifesting your truest desires.Connect with Jamie:-FREE 'Reset Ritual' before your ‘Sexy Date' (for women): https://awakenedwoman.life/datenight/-Website: https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners,

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure. (00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you're in the cycle(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you're contributing(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you're at(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: masculinity, mental health, friendshipShort but important one, team. I'm sure you've seen the memes that go something like "Is the cure for male loneliness pickleball?" Maybe you've rolled your eyes at them more than once. I have. Nevertheless, the data is clear, and a lot of men out there are starved of quality friend time. Here's how to change that.(00:00:00) - Intro and why friendships are so important(00:02:11) - The challenges, and tips to overcome them(00:05:05) - The value of reciprocity and shared interests(00:10:00) - Conflict is a part of it***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationshipsYes, that's a provocative title. Yes, listen to the whole thing. No, this isn't men being mad at women. This is what I've seen time and again, plus what I've been told by multiple women and couples I've worked with, and it's something both parties are responsible for.(00:00:00) - The factor good men are missing(00:04:24) - Defining “emotional containment”(00:08:30) - The big caveat, and an exampleSo like I said, listen to the whole thing. ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: psychology, attachment theoryWe've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now. (00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy (00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment (00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tacticsFor EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.com/attachment-guide***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: psychology, masculinityIf you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projectionsA Man's Guide To Self-Worth: https://lnk.to/sRB9v6How To Lead In Relationship: https://lnk.to/8xv131***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram