Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Damona breaks down the 5 core dating “loops” that keep singles stuck and the step-by-step strategies that lead to lasting love. With over 15 years of experience coaching thousands of daters, Damona shares how clarity, mindset, and follow-through can radically shift your dating outcomes. If you've been swiping without success, burning out on first dates, or unsure where to even begin, this episode offers a simple and strategic path forward. What you'll learn: The five most common dating loops and how to break them How to avoid burnout by dating with clarity and purpose Where to actually meet the right people (online and IRL) Why your dating mindset matters more than your profile This is a special masterclass edition of our Rewind Series, where we revisit some of the most powerful and timeless conversations from the Dates & Mates archives. Subscribe to get every rewind episode and our Spring special bonus episodes the minute they are available. Want to go deeper? Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com Join the Dating Accelerator Program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite, Dr. Orna Guralnik, renowned psychoanalyst and host of the hit Showtime series Couples Therapy, shares what decades of clinical work have taught her about love, connection, and unconscious patterns in relationships. In this conversation, Dr. Orna also opens up about the societal shifts reshaping modern intimacy, the difference between psychoanalysis and surface-level self-help, and why listening, real, curious listening, is a radical act in partnership. What you'll learn: How your unconscious motivations shape relationship patterns Why privilege must be acknowledged for real connection to happen How to create transformation in a partner without “fixing” them Why curiosity is the first step to emotional healing This episode is part of our Rewind Series, where we revisit some of the most powerful and timeless conversations from the Dates & Mates vault. Subscribe to get every rewind episode and our Spring special bonus episodes the minute they are available. Catch Dr. Orna in Couples Therapy (streaming now on Showtime) Follow her @ornaguralnikNYT Essay – “I'm a Couples Therapist. Something New Is Happening in Relationships” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nick Viall, TV personality and host of the hit podcast The Viall Files, gets real about modern dating—from DM slides to ghosting games—and why the story we tell ourselves about love might be holding us back. In this candid conversation, Nick reflects on his years in the Bachelor franchise, what finally made love stick, and the overlooked ways women can help men feel safe, seen, and emotionally available.  Plus, in a special Dear Damona & Dear Nick segment, the two team up to answer your toughest love dilemmas—from long-distance moving logistics to mixed signals that never quite become dates. What you'll learn: How to slide into DMs without overthinking it Why the “how we met” story isn't as important as we think What men wish women knew about emotional safety How to handle a situationship that keeps circling back This episode is part of our Rewind Series, where we revisit some of the most powerful and timeless conversations from the Dates & Mates vault. Subscribe to get every rewind episode and our Spring special bonus episodes the minute they are available. Listen to Nick on The Viall Files podcast Follow him on the socials @nickviall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Former First Lady Michelle Obama and her brother Craig Robinson, co-hosts of the IMO Podcast, join Damona for a compelling conversation on navigating connection in the digital age. Together, they share insights into how they maintain strong family bonds across long distances and the role of technology in bridging that gap. What You'll Learn: How Michelle and Craig keep connected with loved ones despite busy schedules and miles apart The surprising benefits of texting vs. phone calls in sustaining relationships How to bring spontaneity back to phone conversations without overwhelming your schedule Why FaceTime and family Zoom calls became a lifeline during the pandemic—and how they continue to use them to stay close Practical tips for setting communication boundaries that promote genuine connection This conversation isn't just about tech—it's about purposefully using it to deepen the relationships that matter most. Subscribe to get every new Dates & Mates episode as soon as it drops, and don't miss Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson on the IMO Podcast, where they explore life, love, and everything in between with candor and warmth. Follow Michelle Obama @michelleobama Follow Craig Robinson @craigmalrob More about the IMO Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite, Jennifer Cook, bestselling author, and autism advocate shares her experience as the on-camera expert from the hit Netflix series Love on the Spectrum. In this conversation, Jennifer also opens up about her late-in-life autism diagnosis, the challenges of dating with a neurodivergent brain, and the surprising tools that can help anyone date with more clarity and compassion. What you'll learn: How neurodiverse and neurotypical daters alike can build intentional communication Practical tools for managing sensory overwhelm on a date The subtle power of “tell me more” Why preparation and presence are the keys to connection This is the first episode of our Rewind Series, where we revisit some of the most powerful and timeless conversations from the Dates & Mates archives.  Subscribe to get every rewind episode and our Spring special bonus episodes the minute they are available. Catch Jennifer in the latest season of Love on the Spectrum (streaming now on Netflix) Follow her @JenniferCook_Author More at: JenniferCookAuthor.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Master Class episode, Damona explains the effect that text-based communication has had on dating today. But rather than thinking of it as us losing the art of communication, she proposes that we consider it as gaining another language and expanding our skills. Prepare to develop a communication code of conduct that will hopefully lead you to a deeper, more meaningful connection! Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Day, New York Times bestselling author, shares the insights within her upcoming book, “The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future”. Her transformational tools will put you back in the driver's seat of your life and lead you to healthier relationships with others and yourself. Our Dear Damona question of the week: Where do you draw the line between being too picky and settling? Pre-order your copy of Laura's book,“The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future”, set to be released April 29th, by visiting lauraday.com/shop/ Follow Laura on Instagram @LauraDayIntuit  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona shares a rare peek behind the curtain of one of her private coaching sessions, with the client's permission of course! Hear firsthand how she teaches her clients to use their own intuition in dating and beyond. Plus you'll get to see exactly how Damona uses her own intuition while coaching singles in love from how to tune in, what to look and listen for, and exercises to get started yourself. Whether you've been ignoring your gut or just want to sharpen your instincts, this episode is going to help you reconnect with one of your most powerful dating tools—you. Interested in booking your own solo coaching session? Email Asst@DamonaHoffman.com or DM @damonahoffman on Instagram or Facebook! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Francesca Hogi, TED speaker and host of the Dear Franny podcast, introduces her new book, “How To Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships.” Plus, she will break down her new definition of true love, dive deeper into the Fairy Tale Industrial Complex, explore her meet-cute mindset and so much more! Our Dear Damona question of the week: Dating apps keep feeding me the same old matches, so how do I meet someone IRL? Grab your copy of Francesca's book, “How to Find True Love: Unlock Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships”, by visiting FrancescaHogi.com/Book Follow Francesca on Instagram @DearFranny  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing a new show from our friends at Higher Ground, hosted by Michelle Obama, called IMO. On IMO, Michelle and her big brother Craig Robinson bring candid perspectives to the everyday questions shaping our lives, relationships and the world around us. Each week, they're joined by a guest to tackle real questions from real folks just like you offering practical advice, personal storytelling, and plenty of laughs. And a lot of their questions are about dating and relationships. Michelle and Craig share stories about being there for each other throughout their lives, from first crushes and fraught college years, to landing at the White House, to losing their mom. For six decades they've been each others' most trusted counsel—and now, they want to be that counsel for you. In this episode, renowned life coach and podcaster Jay Shetty joins Michelle and Craig to puzzle through a listener's question about professional ambition and dating. The trio discuss money in relationships, finding balance between work and romance, and Michelle shares her advice for choosing a life partner. They ask: Is the pursuit of perfection—in work or dating—worth it? You can hear more episodes of IMO at https://lnk.to/imomichellecraigDM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of their 18th wedding anniversary, Damona's partner-in-life-and-love, Seth Hoffman, is joining her on the mic to do something they've never done before—answer your burning dating and relationship questions together! From first dates to commitment, conflict to chemistry, they're bringing  you the raw, unfiltered truth straight from the front lines of a long-term partnership with questions like: How heavy should outside opinions weigh on my relationship decisions? How do I get over my freeze response when attending singles events? What do I do when it feels like my partner isn't listening anymore? How can I encourage a more positive mindset about dating in my friend group? I lost my spouse years ago and sometimes miss the companionship. How can I open up my heart to love? Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amanda Pendleton, Zillow's Home Trends expert, examines whether shacking up with a partner actually saves you money—or if the emotional costs outweigh the benefits. Plus, we'll explore how to decide when—or if—it's the right time to merge your spaces and your finances. And later we answer this Dear Damona question of the week: How can you set up a new long-distance relationship for success? VisitZillow.com for all of your home buying needs.  Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program The Dating Accelerator, for $50 off this month ONLY:  DamonaHoffman.com/program Use the code: MARCH50 Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Beatriz Victoria Albina, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, breaks down the ways a dysregulated nervous system might be getting in your way romantically, how to tune into the cues your body is sending you and how to heal ourselves for happier, healthier relationships. Then the Dear Damona question this week is: 15 years later, I find myself back in the dating pool. Where do I begin? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program The Dating Accelerator, for $50 off this month ONLY:  DamonaHoffman.com/program Use the code: MARCH50 Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mercury may be retrograde but we are moving forward on a new path to love with an All-Dear-Damona episode. This week's questions came in from all over the globe: I've been told that men should do the chasing. Do I really have to sit around and wait? How do I keep my cool when matches ask questions that I've already answered in my dating profile? I've done a lot of inner work. How much can I reasonably expect a male match to have done? A famous singer-songwriter reached out to me on Instagram. How do I know if it's the real deal? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program The Dating Accelerator, for $50 off this month ONLY:  DamonaHoffman.com/program Use the code: MARCH50 Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this jam-packed Master Class you'll learn why apathy may be the reason you're feeling burned out in dating and how empathy is the antidote. Damona shares why empathy makes you more attractive, how to cultivate it, and exercises to strengthen both self-empathy and relational empathy. Plus, our Dear Damona questions for the week include: Why are so many people less emotionally available than they say? How can we utilize roster dating for less burnout and better turnout?  I used to find joy in dating. Now it feels like a chore. How can I find joy again?  How can you get a nervous first date to open up and relax? We are giving away 3 audio book copies of F The Fairy Tale in celebration of 550 episodes of Dates & Mates! To enter, just share this episode on your social media and tag Damona @DamonaHoffman and you will be entered for a chance to get the F The Fairy Tale e-book.   If you're tired of dating burnout then it's time to identify your dating loops and move on in love. For the entire month of March, we are giving you $50 off the Dating Accelerator! Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/Course and enter the code March50 Coming up next in the Dates & Mates lineup, we have an all Dear Damona so send in your questions! Submit them on any of the socials @ DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Johnny Fernandez, life and love coach, joins Damona to answer the question: is dating really harder today? This is a hot debate and it continues as Johnny and Damona put their four decades of collective experience to work. Whether you're feeling like dating is impossible, or just wondering if you're doing it all wrong, if you're intrigued by masculine/feminine dynamics or not, this episode is for you! Then we have this Dear Damona question of the week: After coming on strong, communication with my match has slowed. How do I know if he's busy or lost interest? Book your tickets to an upcoming Love Breakthrough Live at radianceandcourage.com. The direct link will be in the show notes. You can learn more about Johnny and his wife Lara at @JohnnyAndLara LAST CALL for questions for the February Dear Damona episode! Submit your audio or written questions asap on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or on voicemail at 424-246-6255 TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Modern Dating Challenges (00:00:00)   The Role of Love Coaching (00:01:06)   Johnny's Journey into Love Coaching (00:02:20)   Expectations in Modern Relationships (00:06:12)   The Impact of Choice on Satisfaction (00:10:16)   Effort Required in Today's Dating Landscape (00:12:16)   The Importance of Romantic Relationships (00:13:18)   Choosing Your Hard (00:15:04)   Introduction to Modern Dating (00:15:13)   The Rhetoric of Comparison (00:15:50)   Awareness of Desire (00:17:02)   Fundamentals of the 3D True Love Method (00:17:59)   The Paradox of Choice in Dating (00:19:57)   Societal Programming and Commitment (00:20:59)   The Importance of Distinction (00:22:29)   Focusing on Healthy Relationships (00:24:37)   Authenticity in Dating (00:27:07)   Quality vs. Quantity in Dating (00:29:28)   The Reality of Romance (30:25) Accepting What You Allow (31:16) Understanding Self-Sabotage (31:28) Love Breakthrough Live Overview (31:57) Breaking Through Self-Limiting Beliefs (32:21) Unpopular Opinion on Hustle Culture (34:19) The Importance of Emotional Connection (35:00) Closing Thoughts and Resources (35:56) Listener Question Introduction (36:45) Advice for a Listener (37:17) Navigating Grief and Relationships (39:59) The Importance of Mutual Interest (41:24) Empathy and Understanding in Dating (42:30) Possibility of Future Love (45:04) Closing Remarks (46:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lindsay Jill Roth, award winning television producer, shares her new book, “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions”, how these questions and ultimately the communication they foster can determine the trajectory of a relationship. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Is it time for a talk? My man keeps updating his online profile. Get the book: “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions” and follow Lindsay on Instagram @LindsayJillRoth  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Relationship Questions (00:00:00)   Host Introduction (00:00:13)   Lyndsey's Background (00:02:29)   Creating the System (00:03:51)   Importance of Communication (00:06:08)   Finding Comfort in Asking Questions (00:07:43)   Starting Points for Conversations (00:08:29)   Timing for Relationship Discussions (00:10:35)   Therapy Before Problems Arise (00:11:17)   International Romance Story (00:11:44)   Pivotal Moment in the Relationship (00:13:37)   Creating the System from Experience (00:15:09)   Vulnerability in Relationships (00:16:35)   The Challenge of Modern Dating (00:17:06)   Initial Connection Over Text (00:18:44)   The Disappointment of Zero Chemistry (00:19:20)   Researching a Potential Partner (00:20:04)   Deliberate Communication Choices (00:21:12)   Importance of Getting Offline (00:22:00)   Book Structure and Relationship Progression (00:23:06)   The Role of Money in Relationships (00:25:03)   Communication as a Foundation (00:27:12)   Understanding Conflict Styles (00:28:37)   Self-Discovery Through Relationships (00:31:20)   Future Aspirations and Relationship Impact (00:32:51)   The Importance of Structure in Relationships (34:05)   Defining Spirituality in Dating (34:41)   The Value of Self-Reflection (35:51)   Using Books as Relationship Tools (37:11)   Revisiting Conversations in Long-Term Relationships (38:05)   The Evolution of Relationship Conversations (39:00)   Permission to Not Have All the Answers (39:30)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (41:10)   The Need for Open Communication (41:39)   Listener Question on Relationship Insecurities (43:21)   Navigating Undefined Relationship Spaces (46:05)   Taking the Initiative in Relationship Conversations (48:40)   Exploring Serious Relationships (00:50:59)   The Power of Vulnerability (00:52:07)   Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:52:15)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Devyn Simone, Tinder's Resident Relationship Expert, joins Damona in celebration of Valentine's Day to test Damona's online dating knowledge in a Tinder Trivia showdown! Whether you're feeling the love or dodging Cupid's arrow this year, we've got something for you. Then in a special Dear Damona and Dear Devyn, our questions this week are: My matches want to skip getting to know each other and get straight to the date. How do I deal with this? I keep getting ghosted. Am I coming on too strong? You can find Tinder in the App Store or the Google Play Store, and you can find Devyn on Instagram @DevynSimone *This is NOT a sponsored episode* Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Welcome to Dates and Mates (00:00:06)   Introducing Devin Simone (00:02:05)   Catch-Up Between Friends (00:02:41)   Tinder Trivia Game Introduction (00:03:52)   The Evolution of Online Dating (00:04:54)   Importance of Hope in Dating (00:08:06)   First Trivia Question: Tinder's Activity Day (00:09:07)   Burnout in Dating (00:11:27)   Maximizing Dating App Time (00:12:21)   Momentum in Online Dating (00:14:14)   The Importance of Phone Calls (00:14:28)   Trivia Game Begins (00:15:26)   Benefits of Tinder's Passport Feature (00:16:34)   Changing Dating Parameters Post-COVID (00:17:05)   Misconceptions About Dating Options (00:20:49)   Investment in Dating Apps (00:23:44)   Study on Men's Perceptions of Women (00:24:18)   Reality of Men's Relationship Goals (00:27:08)   Understanding Individual Relationship Seriousness (00:28:33)   The Importance of Online Dating Opportunities (00:29:25)   Trivia Game Introduction (00:30:08)   Loud Looking Trend (00:31:14)   Shift in Dating Culture (00:32:11)   Self-Reflection in Dating (00:34:34)   Profile Photo Selection (00:39:31)   AI Photo Selector Tool (00:42:42)   Tinder Data Insights (00:43:24)   AI Tools for Profile Building (00:44:13)   Using Data for Dating Ease (00:45:07)   Support Beyond Profiles (00:45:42)   Confidence through Tools (00:46:11)   Quality of Relationships (00:46:59)   Listener Questions Introduction (00:47:38)   Handling Men on Dating Apps (00:48:43)   Importance of Pre-Screening (00:49:33)   Communication Methods (00:50:49)   Scheduled Mini-Dates (00:52:12)   Ghosting and Quality Connections (00:52:28)   Assessing Dating Patterns (00:53:25)   Self-Inquiry in Relationships (00:54:01)   Defining Quality in Partners (00:56:00)   Closing Remarks and Appreciation (00:56:54)   Closing Remarks and Thanks (00:57:25)   Valentine's Day Episode Mention (00:57:25)   Upcoming Guest Announcement (00:58:32)   Valentine's Day Wishes (00:58:32)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valentine's Day is around the corner and Damona dedicates this week's episode to YOU! Whether you're navigating dating apps, dealing with relationship questions, or just trying to avoid all those pink hearts in the grocery store…February can be a tricky time! Set the record straight in this all Dear Damona episode with your top questions like: A hot new match has convinced me the dating apps are worth a second go. How do I do this? My dates aren't taking the time to get to know the real me.Where can I meet matches dating on a deeper level? Is my dating groove too strong? I have two love interests and both work in the same building. Friends say I should put a pause on dating, but I don't want to. What do you say? And, my identical twin ex couldn't peel away from his brother for our relationship. Did I ignore red flags? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Listener Questions Begin (00:02:14) Listener's Dating Experience (00:02:17) Mindset and Dating Strategies (00:04:09) Clarifying Dating Goals (00:07:27) Anonymous Listener's Dilemma (00:09:40) Advice on Age and Compatibility (00:11:57) Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:14:16) Empowerment in Dating Choices (00:15:19) Navigating Real-Life Dating Challenges (00:16:28)   Empowering Self-Expression in Dating (00:19:44)   Seeking Connection Amidst Life's Responsibilities (00:23:10)   Understanding Dating Mindset (00:26:13)   Defining Relationship Goals (00:31:39)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the Dateable Podcast, share the knowledge and insights from their brand-new book, “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” Whether you're stuck in the dating rut or just looking for that spark of clarity, they've got the tools to help you date smarter and connect deeper. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Now that I've stopped chasing unavailable men, I can't seem to find anyone that I am attracted to. What do I do? Go to HowToBeDateable.com to grab a copy of “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” And you can follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast l LAST CALL to JOIN US LIVE - if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is ALMOST SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it's gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“What To Do When You Get Dumped” author-illustrator, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman take on heartbreak in a refreshing way in their new graphic novel. Discover tips on healing from a breakup, moving on, and leaning into love again. Plus, we have this week's Dear Damona question:  Why do my Hinge matches like my profile but then never write to me? Grab your copy of Suzy and Hallie's graphic novel, “What To Do When You Get Dumped” by visiting: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/what-to-do-when-you-get-dumped-9781639731893/ Let's get real! Dating feels harder than it should be right now leaving many feeling emotionally drained. That's why Damona is hosting a special open call: Dealing with Dating Burnout TOMORROW Wednesday, January 22nd at 4p.m. PST / 7p.m. EST. Learn quick tools to protect your energy while staying open to connection, how to recognize if your dating patterns are draining you, and simple shifts to make dating feel more aligned with your values. Visit DamonaHoffman.com/DatingBurnout And if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is almost SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it's gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Breakups (00:00:00)   Divorce Month (00:01:06)   The Inspiration for the Book (00:03:30)   The Role of Tarot (00:04:51)   Navigating Trauma (00:05:53)   The Healing Process (00:08:25)   Collaborative Writing Process (00:10:16)   Depth of the Story (00:12:38)   Advice and Wisdom (00:15:53)   Encouragement in Writing (00:16:37)   Daily Meditations (00:17:52)   Writing Through Pain (00:18:50)   Forgiveness vs. Moving Forward (00:20:27)   Finding Peace (00:22:50)   Behold the Badger (00:23:10)   Reclaiming Spaces (00:28:14)   Rewriting Memories (00:30:06)   Making a "What Was True" List (00:32:28)   The list of issues (00:34:07)   Personal truths in healing (00:35:47)   Rewriting the script (00:37:21)   Counseling for recovery (00:38:50)   Grief and awakening (00:39:30)   Rediscovering desire (00:41:17)   Unpopular opinions on dating apps (00:43:06)   The value of being single (00:44:26)   Closing thoughts and book promotion (00:46:40)   Dating Apps and Burnout (00:50:56)   Understanding Dating Mechanisms (00:52:20)   Perception of Dating Experiences (00:53:32)   Introducing the Fairy Tale Online Retreat (00:56:08)   Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:57:21)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Orna & Matthew Walters, founders of Love On Purpose, share the knowledge and insights from their new book, “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love”. You'll learn how you might be standing in your own way when it comes to love and what you can do to get yourself back on track. And our Dear Damona question this week is: I want to pay for Premium on one app? Should I choose Tinder, Bumble, or OKCupid? Grab a copy of “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love” by visiting: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/ Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. Enrollment is NOW OPEN for The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat but spaces are limited. Get your ticket now at  DamonaHoffman.com/retreat  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Guests Introduction (00:00:56)   Background of the Guests (00:02:10)   Discussion on Title Choice (00:03:22)   Challenges in Dating (00:03:41)   Dating in the Modern Era (00:04:25)   Myth of Effortless Love (00:05:03)   Conflict in Relationships (00:06:54)   Understanding Triggers (00:09:25)   Authenticity in Communication (00:11:56)   Patterns in Relationships (00:12:33)   Brain Science of Attraction (00:14:13)   Personal Experiences with Love (00:15:17)   The Impact of Past Trauma (00:15:50)   Contrasting Upbringings (00:16:13)   Subconscious Patterns in Relationships (00:17:23)   Understanding Love Imprint (00:18:36)   Evaluating Relationship Needs (00:20:01)   Misinterpreting Feelings (00:20:56)   Commitment Before Understanding (00:21:56)   The Danger of Rushing Relationships (00:22:41)   Tools for Self-Discovery (00:23:54)   Visceral Responses to Love Imprints (00:25:15)  Meaning in Past Experiences (00:26:10)   Chemistry vs. Love Imprint (00:28:21)   The Complexity of Love Imprints (00:29:16)   Broadening Relationship Perspectives (00:30:34)   Understanding Casual Alcoholism (00:31:16)   Realizing Personal Responsibility (00:31:36)   The Love Imprint Concept (00:32:30)   Navigating Relationship Myths (00:33:36)   Recognizing Relationship Intentions (00:34:39)   The Fantasy of Being Chosen (00:35:36)   Growth Through Relationships (00:37:11)   Using Dating Apps Effectively (00:38:07)   The Reality of Dating (00:39:36)   The Importance of Clarity in Relationships (00:42:37)   Manifestation in Relationships (00:45:40)   Love Imprints and Relationship Dynamics (00:46:25)   Self-Discovery in Relationships (00:47:56)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (00:48:28)   Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:49:52)   Optimizing Dating Profiles (00:55:00)   Choosing the Right Dating App (00:59:33)   Fairy Tale Therapy Retreat (01:00:44)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer, returns to kick off 2025 with her annual love forecast in an episode packed with guidance and revelations. Whether you're single and searching, navigating a partnership, or simply curious about how the stars align for you, this episode will illuminate your path to love by highlighting the times you should lean into love, when you should play it cool and when to follow up on old flames. Plus, our Dear Damona question of the week: What's up with all this lovebombing on dating apps? Map out your year and your journey in love with a Personal Success Calendar from Carol Allen. Head to DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar to get 60% off your personalized astrology daily forecast. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Vedic Astrology (00:00:13)   Understanding Vedic Astrology (00:05:46)   Auspicious Dates for Love (00:11:23)   The Importance of Venus (00:12:42)   Transits and Their Impact (00:15:08)   The Sati Sati Cycle and the US (00:16:09)   Impact of 2020 on Relationships (00:17:15)   Transitioning Relationships (00:18:22)   Rahu Periods and Global Chaos (00:18:55)   Commitment to Joy (00:19:24)   Venus in 2025 (00:20:20)   Venus Retrograde Dates (00:21:05)   Revisiting Past Connections (00:22:20)   Upcoming Venus Favorable Periods (00:24:40)   Navigating Tricky Times (00:25:58)   Mars Retrograde Impact (00:26:21)   April Challenges (00:27:33)   Mercury Retrograde Overview (00:28:40)   Mercury Retrograde Dates (00:29:58)   Jupiter and Marriage (00:31:07)   Jupiter Retrograde Timeline (00:32:21)   Winter Weddings Warning (00:33:05)   Engagement Timing (00:33:20)   Wedding Chart Insights (00:34:25)   Personal Success Calendar (00:34:27)   Astrological Techniques for Love (00:35:07)   Jupiter and Mars Relationship Technique (00:36:32)   Celebrity Astrology Examples (00:37:47)   Taylor Swift's Chart Analysis (00:40:13)   Beyoncé's Astrological Insights (00:42:27)   Personal Success Calendar Benefits (00:44:08)   Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:46:01)   Listener Question on Love Bombing (00:47:59)   Understanding Love Bombing (00:50:09)   Patterns in Relationships (00:51:19)   Recognizing Manipulation (00:52:22)   Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:53:17)   Importance of Offline Interaction (00:54:30)   Evaluating Reactions to Boundaries (00:55:55)   Sorting Out Emotional Manipulation (00:57:29)   Upcoming Fairy Tale Retreat (00:58:36)   Astrological Calendar Offer (00:59:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona offers a visualization to guide you through the ups and downs of this year and plant seeds for a 2025 full of love in this special minisode. Then, she shares her word of the year along with an exercise that you can try today to begin transforming your love journey. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona shares reflections on the swiping stats from 2024 based on Tinder and Bumble trends from their year-end reports. Then she looks forward to the future to predict what you can expect in the world of dating and relationships in 2025.  Are you feeling burned out on dating—like you're giving so much but getting nothing back? Then join Damona on February 1st for a one-day virtual retreat - Fairy Tale Therapy, where you'll reconnect with yourself and a community of hopeful daters who get it. Together, you'll set powerful intentions for your love life, uncover new dating tools, and recharge your self-love battery so you can step into the new year with clarity and confidence. Apply asap, spaces are limited and each attendee will be hand-picked by Damona: DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Stassi, author and host of the Dating While Gray podcast, reveals how many of our dating challenges and solutions remain the same, regardless of age, gender, or sexuality. And Laura joins Damona for a special Dear Damona segment to answer your questions, like: I'd like to move to Tennessee and meet a Southern gentleman. Should I start dating long distance in the meantime? I have a medical issue that is lowering my self esteem. How can I move past this and begin dating again? Listen to the Dating While Gray podcast wherever you get your podcasts and be sure to follow Laura on Instagram @DatingWhileGray Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Guest Introduction (00:01:15)   Laura's Background (00:02:19)   Podcast Journey (00:05:41)   Media Representation of Older Daters (00:06:21)   Dating Trends and Challenges (00:10:34)   Dating Attitudes Across Ages (00:11:57)   Learning from Dating Experiences (00:14:04)   Shifting Dating Etiquette (00:15:38)   The rigidity of dating (00:16:16)   Compromise in dating (00:17:22)   Dating models and etiquette (00:18:36)   Older daters' routines (00:19:47)   Generosity in dating (00:20:46)   Communication in dating (00:22:12)   Meeting people offline (00:24:52)   Overcoming fear of being alone (00:27:57)   Reconnecting with past acquaintances (00:29:00)   Long-distance dating considerations (00:31:01)   Exploring Relocation for Love (00:31:59)   Importance of Community (00:32:21)   Dating as Discovery (00:34:13)   Listener Question on Self-Esteem (00:36:20)   Vulnerability in Sharing Challenges (00:37:26)   Stigmas Around Health Issues (00:39:46)   Navigating Disclosure in Dating (00:40:57)   Redefining Sexual Intimacy (00:42:28)   Intentional Dating Post-Pandemic (00:44:01)   Comfort with Oneself (00:45:18)   Closing Remarks and Resources (00:46:14)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aleeza Ben Shalom, celebrity matchmaker of Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking, shares actionable advice to help you find your path on this dating journey with wisdom from her new book “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”. And the Dear Damona question this week is: What are the signs that someone is interested in you? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00)   Finding your personal dating playbook (00:01:03)   Meet Aleeza Ben Shalom (00:02:14)   Aleeza's journey as a matchmaker (00:02:50)   Date them till you hate them (00:04:02)   The three-date rule (00:05:30)   Clarity in dating decisions (00:06:37)   The importance of staying curious (00:07:25)   Navigating difficult conversations (00:10:30)   Rejection as a form of protection (00:13:20)   The five-day challenge (00:14:42)   Five Day Challenge Explained (00:15:04) Clarifying the No Touching Rule (00:15:49) Tips for the Challenge (00:16:36) Importance of Connection in Dating (00:18:39) Dating Dynamics and Tests (00:19:47) Rules for Same-Sex Couples (00:20:33) Calculating Relationship Compatibility (00:21:06) Interests vs. Core Values (00:22:44) Significance of Family Values (00:24:22) Understanding Timelines in Relationships (00:26:53) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:29:16) The Five-Year Relationship Evolution (00:29:50)   The 555 Dating Rule Explained (00:30:23)   Building Momentum in Dating (00:31:04)   Chemistry and Intentional Dating (00:34:13)   Soulmate Clarity Concept (00:37:38)   Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:40:41)   Dating Gestures and Vibes (00:45:35)   Small Moves in Dating (00:46:29)   Attraction Beyond Age (00:47:22)   Investing in Clear Signals (00:48:52)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode is dedicated to YOU! The holidays are here, bringing all the cozy vibes, family gatherings, and… yep, those inevitable relationship questions. Damona answers all your pressing holiday love questions, from family expectations to finding romance under the mistletoe.She will answer your top questions like: I have been dating a wonderful man for 7 months now and STILL don't feel a physical connection. Is it time to call it quits? I got ghosted after 4 months of dating, is it something I said? I am interested in some of the singles in my triathlon club. Do I shoot my shot or is it too risky? She made the reservation but then asked for my credit card to reimburse her the deposit. Is that a petty red flag? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00)   Uncertainty in Relationships (00:00:01)   Light-hearted Commentary (00:00:03)   Holiday Dating Dilemmas (00:00:06)   Listener's Voice Memo (00:01:55)   Annie's Relationship Concerns (00:02:01)   Ghosting After Four Months (00:07:58)   Communication Issues in Relationships (00:09:00)   Conflict Resolution Advice (00:12:22)   Triathlon Club Dating Dilemma (00:16:24)   Breaking the Ice in a Club (00:16:46)   The Benefits of Physical Activity (00:17:18)   Navigating Group Dynamics (00:19:50)   Using Dating Apps (00:22:02)   Addressing Gender Roles in Dating (00:23:55)   Finding Common Ground (00:26:12)   Preparing for Holiday Conversations (00:29:38)   Closing Thoughts and Future Episodes (00:30:52)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lauren Frances, Love and Relationships Expert, talks all about first dates from when they start (it's not when you think) to how to graciously end one that's just not working for you. And our Dear Damona question of the week is, “My match is great, not a single dealbreaker, and I STILL can't wrap my head around commitment. What now?” Want to join Lauren's incredible Love Magnet Makeover? Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/lovemagnet Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Timestamps Intro (00:00:00)   The First Date Starts Early (00:00:09)   Preparation for First Dates (00:00:14)   Value of First Dates (00:01:05)   Introducing Lauren Francis (00:02:05)   Persistence in Publishing (00:03:09)   Timing in Dating (00:04:38)   Transitioning to Phone Calls (00:05:53)   Setting Up Phone Conversations (00:07:25)   Importance of Privacy (00:09:10)   Breaking the Ice (00:11:21)   Choosing the Right Date Venue (00:12:18)   Being Seen on Dates (00:13:06)   Creating the Right Vibe (00:15:02)   Understanding Enthusiasm in Dating (00:16:35)   The Enthusiasm Gap (00:20:37)   First Dates as Your Party (00:21:37)   Heartache Prevention Tips (00:25:12)   Compatibility and Actions Over Words (00:30:07)   Ghosting and Relationship Alignment (00:31:02)   Rejection Reasons (00:32:58)   Ending Dates Positively (00:34:04)   Creating a Great First Impression (00:35:02)   Love Magnet Makeover Introduction (00:36:01)   Details of Love Magnet Makeover (00:37:04)   A Listener's Commitment Question (00:40:04)   Navigating Relationship Fears (00:41:07)   Understanding Commitment (00:42:19)   Empowerment in Relationships (00:48:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alfiee, psychologist, host of the Couched in Color podcast and founder of the AAKOMA Project, dives into attachment styles, how depression can impact a partnership, and the ways our traumas and triggers can become unearthed in new relationships. Then this week's Dear Damona question is: I married too young and stayed too long. Can you please help me get back into the dating game? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Timestamps Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Attachment Styles Overview (00:00:59)   Expectations in Relationships (00:03:30)   The Desire to Change Partners (00:05:04)   The Fantasy of Relationships (00:06:13)   Effort vs. Work in Relationships (00:08:01)   Unpacking Emotional Baggage (00:08:35)   Understanding Attachment Styles (00:09:55)   Cultural Context of Attachment (00:12:04)   Personal Experiences with Attachment (00:14:23)   Embracing Attachment Nuances (00:15:17)   Understanding Family Dynamics and Attachment Styles (00:16:50)   Personal Reflection on Attachment Styles (00:17:42)   The Impact of Community on Relationships (00:18:26)   Navigating Triggers in Relationships (00:19:55)   Mental Health and Medication Statistics (00:20:37)   Stigma Around Mental Health in Communities (00:22:13)   Dating with Mental Health Challenges (00:23:05)   Recognizing Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:23:43)   Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy (00:25:51)   Generational Differences in Mental Health Views (00:27:06)   Healing from Trauma and Relationships (00:28:08)   The Process of Healing and Trauma Management (00:30:25)   Distinguishing Good and Bad Butterflies (00:32:22)   The Importance of Self-Reflection Before Dating (00:33:14)   Understanding Triggers in Relationships (00:33:50) Disclosing Trauma in Relationships (00:35:17) Trust and Safety in Sharing Trauma (00:36:12) Empowerment in Relationships (00:38:17) Unpopular Opinions on Relationships (00:39:46) Finding a New Relationship After Marriage (00:41:23) Going Where the People Are (00:43:24) Strategic Socializing for Dating (00:45:38). Creating Momentum in Dating (00:49:04) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're navigating cuffing season, gearing up to meet someone's family for the holidays, or figuring out how to take your dating game to the next level— Damona dedicates this week's episode to YOU! She's answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I struggle to find matches in my area and while I am willing to travel, many men aren't. So what now? My matches keep removing their profiles once we exchange numbers. What's going on here? When should daters consider sleeping together? Are gender roles changing or do men still have to be the initiator? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact Bad news…we filled our last spot for the year.  Good news!! We opened ONE BONUS for VIP coaching this fall. Last chance to get one on one coaching with Damona and her team. Want to snag our lucky last spot? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall asap! TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Does This Mean He Likes Me? (00:00:01) Am I Ever Gonna Meet Someone? (00:00:04) I'm Tired of Swiping (00:00:06) Cuffing Season and Relationship Dynamics (00:00:08) Adrian's Dating App Dilemma (00:01:43) Changing Location Filters in Dating (00:04:25) The Importance of Compatibility (00:05:39) Long-Distance Relationship Insights (00:06:53) Dating Apps and Long-Distance Features (00:09:24) Caution Against Exchanging Phone Numbers (00:11:28) Identifying Catfish and Scammers (00:12:38) Maintaining Momentum in Communication (00:13:38) Sue's Experience with Catfish (00:14:41) Navigating Online Dating Safely (00:15:54) Introduction to Possible Soulmates (00:17:59) Guidelines for Intimacy (00:19:01) Understanding Sexual Health (00:20:22) Pacing Your Relationship (00:24:23) Women Initiating Dates (00:25:28) Mutual Interest in Dating (00:26:46) Being True to Yourself (00:29:04) Closing Remarks and Engagement (00:30:19) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Esther Lee, Deputy Editor of The Knot, breaks down the stats released in the website's Relationship & Intimacy Study, and spills the tea on where singles are finding love, what they're actually looking for, how they're spending their time on dates, and those dating dealbreakers we just can't shake. And, this week's Dear Damona question is: Is a bra an appropriate gift for a young couple? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program LAST CALL - Just 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Timestamps Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Damona's Welcome (00:00:13) Introducing Esther Lee (00:01:04) Damona's Personal Wedding Experience (00:02:11) Evolution of Wedding Planning (00:02:49) The Knot's 2024 Study Overview (00:03:46) Key Findings of the Study (00:05:01) Dating Apps vs. Real-Life Connections (00:05:54) Generational Perspectives on Dating (00:06:41) Changing Standards in Attraction (00:07:56) Being Easy to Talk To (00:09:14) Fostering Connection and Communication (00:09:47) Listening as a Key Element (00:11:40) The Chemistry Myth (00:12:10) Importance of Sexual Attraction (00:12:59) Married Couples and Sexual Chemistry (00:14:00) Comfort and Chemistry in Relationships (00:15:54) Commitment After Marriage (00:16:51) Importance of Attraction (00:18:05) Subjective Sense of Humor (00:19:29) Humor as Relationship Tool (00:21:01) Video Game Dates (00:21:48) Meeting Through Gaming (00:24:00) Creative and Affordable Dates (00:26:06) Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:29:59) Chemistry vs. Values (00:31:00) Long Distance Relationships (00:32:48) Communication in Long-Distance Relationships (00:33:14) Intentionality in Relationships (00:34:05) Finding Love Beyond Geography (00:35:36) Unpopular Opinion on First Dates (00:37:17) Navigating Intimate Gift Missteps (00:39:20) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Benjamin Camras, The Flirt Coach & host of the Flirtations Flirtcast, joins Damona for our annual Halloween Dating Horror Stories Special. You'll laugh, you'll scream, and you'll get useful advice to survive your next bad date. Stories include: Blindsided by a Blind Date The Vegetarian Variation The Creepy Car Concert The Deskside Date The Freudian Movie Man Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program Only 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Halloween Horror Stories (00:00:00) Listener Engagement (00:00:07) Benjamin the Flirt Coach Introduction (00:02:18) Costume Reveal (00:02:30) Personal Dating Horror Stories (00:04:10) Listener Story from Amanda (00:07:07) Discussion on Movie Dates (00:11:40) Activity Date Preferences (00:12:40) Candy Smuggling at the Movies (00:14:31) Vegetarian Red Flag Story (00:15:47) Flirty Late Night Snack Decisions (00:16:31) Libras and Perspective (00:17:09) Boundaries and Alcohol-Induced Choices (00:19:20) Dating an Older Guy (00:20:01) Red Flags in Dating (00:21:11) Avoiding Generalizations in Dating (00:22:13) First Date Conversations (00:24:49) Exploring Physical Intimacy (00:26:11) Flirtation as Foreplay (00:27:28) Listener Horror Story Introduction (00:28:44) Zoom Date Disaster (00:30:24) Multitasking on Dates (00:31:57) Check-in Date Tips (00:33:04) Pre-Date Communication (00:33:50) Slow Dating Trend (00:34:13) In-App Calling Features (00:37:13) Age and Dating Preferences (00:38:28) Horror Story Introduction (00:39:55) Uncomfortable Date Behavior (00:41:32) Lying About Height (00:43:01) Closing Remarks (00:46:18) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Erika Wasserman, Your Financial Therapist, is shifting the narrative around money and using those sometimes-tough conversations to build deeper trust and better communication with your partner and tackling the tricky financial situations singles often find themselves in while dating. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I have social anxiety. Do I need to focus on making more friends before pursuing a romantic relationship? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Relationship Stress (00:00:00) Host's Opening Remarks (00:00:14) Introduction of Erika Wasserman (00:02:26) Erika's Journey to Financial Therapy (00:03:19) Dating and Financial Transparency (00:04:08) Challenges of Financial Conversations (00:09:15) Gamifying Financial Discussions (00:10:01) Reality of Debt in Dating (00:12:04) Understanding Debt and Relationships (00:14:46) Understanding Debt and Readiness to Date (00:15:46) Differentiating Rich and Wealthy (00:17:32) Wealth Beyond Money (00:19:51) Influence of Family Background on Money Beliefs (00:21:20) Communication About Money (00:22:40) Fear of Financial Loss in Relationships (00:23:25) Pricing Themselves Out of the Dating Pool (00:24:12) Contributions in Relationships (00:25:35) Navigating Different Financial Backgrounds (00:28:00) Frugality vs. Spending Comfort (00:32:01) Coupon Encounter (00:33:03) Financial Conversations (00:34:06) Creating Financial Intimacy (00:35:38) Side-by-Side Conversations (00:36:27) Vulnerability in Conversations (00:37:08) Joyful Spending (00:38:38) Unpopular Opinions (00:39:50) Divorce Edition Cards (00:40:24) Impact of Financial Relationships (00:40:55) Listener Question on Social Anxiety (00:42:00) Building Connections (00:44:38) Taking Baby Steps (00:47:39) Engaging with the Audience (00:48:42) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Michelle, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this Dates & Mates Method graduate from finding the relationship she desires. Listen in as Michelle comes to a realization about the men she's been dating and why it hasn't worked out. And help yourself along the way as Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas. Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Coaching Insights (00:00:59) Michelle's Experience (00:02:47) Appreciation for Coaching (00:04:41) Transformational Skills (00:05:50) Dating While Pregnant (00:06:05) Desire for Partnership (00:06:53) Impact of Solo Parenting on Dating (00:08:47) Understanding High Standards (00:10:15) Trusting Oneself (00:11:00) Freeing Yourself from Pressure (00:11:32) Encouragement to Freeze Eggs (00:12:11) Embracing Options in Dating (00:14:39) Current Dating Life (00:15:26) Effective Screening Process (00:16:15) Invitation to Continue Conversation (00:17:13) The Importance of Boundaries (00:18:11) Mindset for Successful Conversations (00:18:27) Challenges with Dating Separated Individuals (00:19:14) Physical Attraction and Curiosity (00:20:23) Recognizing Anxiety in Dating (00:21:20) Discovering Availability Issues (00:21:40) Misleading Profiles and Aliases (00:23:32) Learning to Say No (00:24:38) Exploring the Other Camp (00:25:07) Signs of Attraction and Availability (00:26:05) Disappointment in Dating Dynamics (00:27:17) The Complexity of Attraction (00:28:19) Nurturing vs. Romantic Dynamics (00:31:01) Finding the Right Words (00:32:08) Navigating Emotional Intensity (00:33:57) Testing Attraction in Early Dates (00:35:12) Belief and Self-Responsibility (00:37:02) Inheriting Stories (00:37:50) Rewriting Personal Narratives (00:39:14) Mindset Shifts and Mantras (00:41:10) Attraction Dynamics (00:43:10) Navigating Dating While Parenting (00:46:07) Reflection on Progress (00:48:21) Encouragement and Support (00:51:07) Coaching Transformation Invitation (00:52:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Meghan Keane, the founder of NPR's Life Kit, shares her new book, “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner”. Listen in as she peels back the layers of our complicated feelings about being single and dissects the ways that singlism could be dealt with in your own life. It's time to embrace your single life or the singles in your life so that we can all thrive together regardless of our relationship status. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I recently reconnected with a casual long term friend. How do I figure out if he likes me without making a fool of myself? Fun little announcement, my meditation program is now back on the Dates & Mates website. If you want to meditate and visualize your way out of stressing about your singlehood. Let me help you. Look for my meditation collection on the homepage of DamonaHoffman.com today! Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Singlehood (00:00:00) Embracing Singlehood (00:01:03) Interview with Meghan Kane (00:02:54) Navigating Societal Expectations (00:03:18). Understanding Singleism (00:06:24) Confronting Single Shame (00:09:30) Transforming Thoughts: From Why to What (00:10:41) The Power of Storytelling (00:14:50) Intimidation in Dating (00:16:54) The Complexity of Strong Women (00:17:01) Reframing Intimidation (00:18:00) Questioning Marriage (00:19:00) Voyeurism in Dating (00:20:00) Building Intentional Friendships (00:21:54) Diversity in Friendships (00:22:36) Making the First Move (00:23:15) Finding Friends with Shared Values (00:24:56) Lowering the Stakes in Friendships (00:25:50) Digital Connections (00:27:18) Mindset Shifts After Relationships (00:30:32) Radical Acceptance in Singlehood (00:31:52) Values Work and Radical Acceptance (00:33:01) Life Values Inventory (00:34:04) Building Goals Around Values (00:34:50) Changing Scripts in Dating (00:36:35) Unexpected Partnerships (00:37:25) Maintaining Individuality in Relationships (00:38:53) Supporting Single Friends (00:39:34) Self-Work and Future Relationships (00:41:46) Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:42:14) Understanding Dating Apps and Intentions (00:49:25) Challenging Negative Narratives (00:50:23) Creating Your Own Love Story (00:51:33) Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:52:45) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona dedicates this week's episode to YOU! Whether you're in a relationship or looking for love, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I feel like my partner isn't matching my efforts. How can I get him to be more of a caretaker? I want to stay friends with my exes but I find it incredibly painful. Am I self sabotaging? I thought we had fun but they said they didn't feel chemistry…what went wrong? An ex once said my lack of questions was a red flag, but I think it's a difference in communication styles. What do you think?  Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact Only 1 spot left for VIP coaching this fall. Is it you? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall and find out! TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Managing expectations in relationships (00:01:28) Communicating needs in relationships (00:02:02) Are love languages real? (00:05:25) Self-sabotaging in friendships (00:06:44) Navigating chemistry and attraction (00:10:50) Flirting techniques to enhance attraction (00:12:17) The impact of date venues on chemistry (00:15:49) Communication Styles in Dating (00:18:11) Questions as Indicators of Interest (00:19:13) Nervousness and Connection (00:20:12) Red Flags Revisited (00:21:22) Interpreting Signs and Signals (00:22:26) Inclusivity in Dating Advice (00:23:35) The Importance of Follow-Up Questions (00:24:43) Engagement in Conversations (00:25:51) Listener Interaction Invitation (00:26:59) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kiaundra Jackson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, unpacks how therapy language is influencing our dating lives and shares why it's essential to move beyond labels to truly thrive in our relationships. She also shares the telltale signs of toxic relationships. Our dear Damona question this week is: I've used them all, but none seem to be a good fit. Is it me or the apps? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator for a limited-time-only for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Toxic Relationships (00:00:00) Guest Introduction (00:02:05) Rise of Dating Burnout (00:02:25) Importance of Healthy Relationships (00:03:10) Modeling Healthy Relationships (00:04:18) Personal Accountability in Relationships (00:06:10) Elements of Healthy Relationships (00:07:24) Taking Inventory of Past Relationships (00:10:10) Signs of Toxic Relationships (00:11:37) Understanding Narcissism (00:12:42) Manipulation vs. Healthy Goals (15:13) Setting Boundaries (17:20) Handling Triggered Reactions (19:28) Recognizing Relationship Dynamics (24:30) The Importance of Slow Love (28:47) Healing from Toxic Relationships (00:31:11) Unpacking Emotional Luggage (00:31:32) Rushing into New Relationships (00:31:54) The Process of Unpacking (00:32:33) Recognizing Healthy vs. Toxic Traits (00:33:18) When to Share Personal History (00:34:06) Finding the Right Time to Share (00:35:00) Ongoing Conversations About Baggage (00:37:54) Unpopular Opinion on Relationship Work (00:39:03) Perspective on Relationship Challenges (00:39:57) Invitation to Deeper Connection (00:40:17) Navigating Dating Apps (00:41:42) Understanding Dating App Experiences (00:42:11) Adjusting to Online Dating (00:43:17) Common Experience on Dating Apps (00:44:16) Finding New Dating Opportunities (00:45:21)  Navigating Dating Apps (00:46:17) Understanding App Dynamics (00:47:18) Managing Expectations with Dating Apps (00:48:19) Addressing Dating Burnout (00:49:13) Upcoming Dear Damona Episode (00:50:13) Halloween Dating Horror Stories Call (00:50:13) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Staci, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this single mom from experiencing the relationship she desires. Along the way, Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas. Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona's signature online program, The Dating Accelerator today for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Coaching Session (00:00:00) Damona's Experience (00:01:00) Staci's Introduction (00:03:14) Goals for the Session (00:04:08) Staci's Dating History (00:05:10) Burnout from Dating Apps (00:06:43). Impact of the Pandemic (00:08:17) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:09:13). Shifting Perspectives (00:10:21) Dating App Dynamics (00:11:35) Choosing vs. Being Chosen (00:13:56) Dating After 50 (00:15:25) Challenges in Conversations (00:17:10) Understanding the Texting Trap (00:18:08) Developing a Texting Strategy (00:18:46) Breaking Free from Canned Responses (00:20:01) Recognizing Exhausted Energy (00:20:57) Exploring Offline Dating (00:25:01) Finding Connection in New Experiences (00:26:14) Mindset and Clarity on Dating Goals (00:27:48) Affirmations and Attraction (00:28:35) Visualizing the Ideal Partner (00:32:31) Exploring Fitness as a Dating Venue (00:34:04) Flirting Skills (00:37:08) Flirting Formula (00:37:41) Roleplay Practice (00:39:19) Challenge Accepted (00:41:01) The Power of Touch (00:41:33) Living Vision (00:44:53) Flirting and Connection (00:45:59) Feeling Inspired (00:46:42) Closing Thoughts (00:48:31) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mayday! It's a dating burnout crisis! Damona gives a master class about the causes, the current stats, and THE FIX for the apathy and frustration that many daters are feeling today. In this episode, you will learn: The #1 secret weapon for building connection How to reclaim your power and replenish after burnout  Top tips for avoiding burnout on dating apps Insider secrets or offline dating Protecting your peace with friends and loved ones And, how to reframe your dating burnout and turn it into fuel for romance Want to learn more? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Dating Burnout (00:00:00) Defining Burnout (00:00:57) Complexities of Modern Dating (00:02:07) Zombie Dating Explained (00:08:11) Dating Hygiene Tips (00:09:25) Addressing Apathy with Empathy (00:11:57) Forming a Connector Circle (00:13:10) Saying Yes to New Experiences (00:14:14) Creating a Comprehensive Dating Plan (00:15:28) Tracking Progress in Dating (00:17:48) Finding a Dating Accountability Buddy (00:18:50) Quieting Naysayers (00:19:53) Reframing Dating Burnout (00:21:07) What's inside the Book "F the Fairy Tale" (00:21:07) Listener Review Highlight (00:22:05) Encouragement to Share the Episode (00:22:05) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona dedicates this week's episode to YOU! Whether you've listened to 12 seasons or 12 episodes, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I'm stuck in a first date rut. How do I turn things around to find lasting love? How do I delicately tell my match that family is important, but relationships need to be a priority too? There's a big drinking culture where I live. How do I meet singles who share my more laid back vibe? And, I've done the work, but I can't seem to attract someone who's done the same. Is it time to lower my standards? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact And, are YOU tired of being comfortably single? We are enrolling NOW for Damona's signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! Sure, you've been fine on your own but just imagine how the RIGHT person could add to your life… If you're ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don't miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don't give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern? Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.com Look out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October. And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona's signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you're ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don't miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Intimacy (00:00:00) Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09) Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13) Brendan's Background (00:02:05) Location and Energy (00:02:41) Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19) Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00) Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05) Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07) Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23) Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23) Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26) Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49) The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00) City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18) Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17) Presence in the Moment (00:20:22) Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51) Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08) Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46) Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09) Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35) God Exists in Everything (00:34:00) Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46) Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52) Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40) Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51) Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49) Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02) Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39) The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26) Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Guenther, AKA TherapyJeff on Instagram, joins Damona in the premiere of Season 12 of Dates & Mates for a state of the date address! They cover all phases of the dating journey from clarifying what you're seeking to first dates, defining the relationship and even planning for the dreaded breakup. The Dear Damona question this week is: What's the best way to reach out to someone new on LinkedIn? Be sure to follow Jeff on Instagram @TherapyJeff and grab a copy of his new book, Big Dating Energy, on shelves now! And get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Season 12 (00:00:00) Overview of the Episode (00:02:06) Introducing Therapy Jeff (00:04:29) Jeff's Book Release (00:05:00) Collaborating with an Ex (00:06:47) Personal Insights in the Book (00:08:48) Clarifying Deal Breakers (00:12:04) Understanding Relationship Needs (00:15:18) The Role of Fears in Dating (00:18:31) Dating Apps Discussion (00:20:07) The Impact of Dating Apps on Love (23:20) The Shift in Dating Dynamics (23:41) Boundaries with Technology (24:27) The Need for Healthy Relationships (27:48) Imagining Ideal Dating Apps (28:16) Cultural Changes in Dating Apps (29:39) Tips for Long-term Relationship Survival (30:19) Navigating Conflict in Relationships (31:59) Communication After Intimacy (33:10) Creating Sexual Energy (35:24) Understanding Breakups (36:45) Ethical Breakup Practices (39:05) The Value of Planning in Relationships (41:38) The Intimacy of Breakup Conversations (43:09) Listener Question on LinkedIn Outreach (44:02) Introduction and Connector Circle (00:46:04) Sliding into DMs (00:46:59) Approaching on LinkedIn (00:48:11) Navigating Online Connections (00:49:19) Promoting the Dates & Mates Method (00:50:16) Call for Listener Questions (00:51:13) Wrap-Up and Guest Teaser (00:52:06) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all hope to feel something special on that first date, but true love takes time, and so does trust. Damona debunks The Chemistry Myth and The Soulmate Myth while offering real solutions to today's dating troubles. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Carol Allen & Katherine Woodward, in one of the top panels from the F the Fairy Tale Forum last year. Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and get a special discount on her annual personal success calendar at DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar And, be sure to follow Katherine on Instagram @KatherineWoodwardThomas and check out her work at KatherineWoodwardThomas.com Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode  (00:01:07) Transition to Communication and Trust  (00:02:04) The Chemistry Myth  (00:03:05) Introducing Guests Katherine and Carol  (00:03:56) Insights on Communication  (00:06:45) Astrological Compatibility Discussion  (00:10:10) Understanding Relationship Dynamics  (00:14:23) Scarcity Mindset in Dating  (00:18:08) Listener Questions and Support  (00:19:13) Dating Fatigue at 26  (00:20:10) Late Bloomers in Love  (00:22:19) Faith and Trust in Dating  (00:24:09) Top Dealbreakers in Relationships  (00:25:42) Self-Reflection in Relationships  (00:27:54) Abundant Mindset Tips  (00:29:31) From Wallflower to Proficient Dater  (00:30:12) Strategic Dating Approach  (00:32:27) Promoting Personal Success Calendars  (00:33:20) Book Reviews and Community Engagement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's tempting to date by a list of preferred qualities and a set of prescribed rules, but these myths prevent singles from discovering more fulfilling relationships. Damona debunks The List Myth and The Rules Myth and offers real solutions to today's common dating problems. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Orna and Matthew Walters and Evan Marc Katz. Be sure to follow Evan on Instagram @RealEvanMarcKatz and check out his work at EvanMarcKatz.com And, be sure to follow Orna and Matthew on Instagram @OrnaAndMatthew and pre-order their new book at Barnes & Noble, Getting It Right This Time by visiting: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/getting-it-right-this-time-orna-walters/1145412458 Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode  (00:01:05) The Goals and Values Pillars  (00:02:10) Breaking the Rules Myth  (00:03:18) Introduction of Guests  (00:06:12) The Importance of Values  (00:08:03) Engaging Conversations  (00:11:01) Understanding Love Imprints  (00:12:36) The Role of the Subconscious  (00:14:03) Client-Centered Approach  (00:15:50) Masterclass on Attraction  (00:16:26) Listener Questions Segment  (00:16:50) Evan's Jdate Experience  (00:18:07) Crafting a Great Profile  (00:19:57) Storytelling in Profiles  (00:21:09) Best Dating Sites for Older Women  (00:22:11) Pressure on Dating Apps  (00:23:40) Women's Standards in Dating  (00:24:46) Meeting Men Outside Comfort Zones  (00:26:47) Investment in Dating  (00:28:22) Closing Remarks and Book Promotion  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The idea of one perfect match is attractive, but the pursuit of soulmates actually prevents singles from moving into committed relationships AND from staying when things get tough. Damona tackles The Soulmate Myth revealing how it leads to an either or mentality and outlines how to approach dating with an abundance mindset instead. Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you'll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Soulmate Myth  (00:01:06) The Soulmate Myth Explained  (00:02:27) Shifting Mindsets  (00:04:37) Listener Question on Soulmates  (00:03:29) Statistics on Belief in Soulmates  (00:05:59) The Impact of Dating Apps  (00:07:15) Probability of Finding a Soulmate  (00:08:42) Destiny vs. Growth Mindset  (00:10:13) Myth Origins and Beliefs  (00:11:16) Invitation to Join the Book Squad  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the  true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person? Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you'll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth  (00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth  (00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry  (00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love  (00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines  (00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries  (00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad  (00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn't mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections. Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you'll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”. Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro (00:01:06) The rules myth  (00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi  (00:04:34) Defining love  (00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules  (00:09:08) Evolution of relationships  (00:13:13) Existence of soulmates  (00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps  (00:18:02) The potential of organic connections  (00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset  (00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight  (00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility  (00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you date by a list? How's that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead. Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you'll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series. (00:01:09) The list myth  (00:02:21) Narrowing the list  (00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews  (00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn't work for me. How do I meet my match IRL? Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium. Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you'll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth. We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with: Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do? Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian's relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship Get Damona's bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:03:40) The romance rollback  (00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki  (00:14:52) The myth of the one  (00:20:34) The concept of "the one"  (00:23:50) Reasons for being single  (00:30:04) Challenges in building trust  (00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape  (00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching  (00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women  (00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety (00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices