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Palliative Care Chaplain Cody Hufstedler knows how difficult it can be for us all to acknowledge—much less talk about—the fact that we’re all born with an expiration date. He has helped countless terminally ill patients and their loved ones work through this most challenging of life’s realities. What he’s discovered over the years is the understanding, comfort, even joy that can come through intentionally facing our finish line. Not just for those who are fast approaching it, but for everyone young or old, sick or healthy. Cody began this podcast as a way to share these endearing and lovely stories of life, death, and dying. Far from morbid, these episodes are deeply alive explorations of life’s greatest mysteries and windows into the wonderful, human richness of living. All music licensed through Artist.

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    • Jun 19, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    "Was today the last day...?" — Rachel, An Encore Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2025 97:13


    Rachel was our first guest on Dying To Tell You who had ALS, and leading up to Season 3 we wanted to honor some of the guests who have been on the show and who have since passed on. Please enjoy this encore presentation of Rachel's episode, which originally aired in Season Two. 

    Redefining How We "Beat" Cancer — Nancy, An Encore Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2025 58:15


    Nancy was our second guest on Dying To Tell You, and leading up to Season 3 we wanted to honor some of the guests who have been on the show and who have since passed on. Please enjoy this encore presentation of Nancy's episode, which originally aired in Season One. 

    Festival of the Soul — Aaron, An Encore Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2025 54:11


    Aaron was the first guest on Dying To Tell You, and leading up to Season 3 we wanted to honor some of the guests who have been on the show and who have since passed on. Please enjoy this encore presentation of Aaron's episode, which originally aired in Season One. 

    By The Way - Connecting To Loved Ones No Longer With Us

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2025 3:17


    —Call ‪(720) 600-7056‬ and leave a message for your loved ones— Inspired by the beautiful idea behind Japanese wind phones, we want to welcome you to a new effort here at Dying To Tell You, a way for you to leave messages for loved ones who have passed on. It's called By The Way, and while it is a phone number and a voicemail box, it is also so much more.  You are invited to use this number to leave a message for anyone who is no longer with you. It can be a passing thought, a funny story, a remembrance...whatever you want to say to them, say it here.  We will share these messages with our podcast community, on our website dttypodcast.com as well as part of our episodes. But most importantly, we feel that just saying these things out loud has a kind of power and deep connection that goes well beyond words.  Please join us by calling 720-600-7056 and leaving your own By The Way for your loved ones. 

    "We are a resilient being" • Learning to grow from end-of-life challenges

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 31:06


    Lisa Pahl, LCSW shares how a patient she encountered early in her hospice career taught her how even the worst experiences can help us grow. Lisa is the co-creator of The Death Deck and The E•O•L Deck, tools that inspire meaningful conversations on what matters most in our lives and in our deaths. As a licensed clinical social worker with over 17 years of experience within hospice and emergency medicine, Lisa helps people cope with illness, dying, and grief. With a passionate belief that peace at the end begins with meaningful conversations over time, she engages people in talking about and preparing for this important stage of life. Learn more about the Death Deck at https://thedeathdeck.com --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives. Watch the full series here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6bIkZBcQvNH74IKCjIrRR_jCzZtS7WNw Listen to Seasons One and Two of Dying To Tell You anywhere you get your podcasts. If you'd like to be a guest on the show or know someone you'd recommend, please reach out to us at https://dttypodcast.com/share  

    Finding forgiveness in healthcare

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 27:58


    "In this line of work, you can't see death as failure. But in this case…very much felt like a failure. I hadn't controlled his pain.” A brief note of caution: as the title suggests, this episode contains a story involving death by suicide. Dr. Laura Kennedy, a palliative care physician, shares a tragic story with Cody from early in her practice—an experience that was, in her own words, "devastating." What she learned from it was that sometimes the established and careful route of treatment might not always be best for every patient. And that even when you think you've failed, it's ok to forgive yourself, learn, and move forward. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives. Watch the full series here. Listen to Seasons One and Two of Dying To Tell You anywhere you get your podcasts. And if you'd like to be a guest on the show or know someone you'd recommend, please reach out to us at https://dttypodcast.com/share

    Deanna & The Joys of Hospice

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 57:40


    This week, we check back in with former guest and irrepressible force Deanna! A few weeks back, we drove up to Casper, WY to meet Deanna in person for the first time. And during our lovely visit, we all decided it was time for a public update on Deanna, who was diagnosed with ALS at the start of 2024.  Deanna has moved to in-patient hospice in recent months and, along with her husband Oren, wanted to share her experience with us and the world. Her take on the emotional and physical benefits of in-patient hospice is truly eye-opening. Deanna, her friends, and her family are incredibly grateful that hospice allows her friends and family to—in a phrase we heard repeatedly—just love on her. Not physically care for her. Not worry about her meds. Not be on call to handle all of the challenging aspects of end-of-life care. Just...love on her.  Unbeknownst to Deanna, we also had a special surprise for her waiting in the wings. And it's honestly best to see it happen...so even if you listen to this full episode as usual, swing on over to our channel on YouTube to watch the surprise happen. And please check out Deanna's book "Embracing the End: Discovering Peace and Purpose At the End of Life" now available for sale on Amazon. It's a great, hilarious, and heart-lifting read. Because of course it is. 

    "He wanted people to know who he was, not who he is now."

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 19:38


    One question opened up a world of understanding for Dr. Andy Robinson early in his career: "What do you feel we should know that we don't?" It was asked by social worker to a reticent patient, who then exclaimed how nobody knew who we WAS; they only knew who he is now...a patient who was dying. This question and the response it created has stuck with Dr. Andy over the decades and underscored the importance of finding out not just what a patient has, but who they are. Dr. Andy has been an immensely important friend of the podcast, referring several of his patients as guests on the show, and we are deeply indebted to his kindness, understanding, and shared purpose of doing whatever he can to help others, especially at the end of life. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives. Watch the full series here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iiI_iRTJzpE&list=PL6bIkZBcQvNH74IKCjIrRR_jCzZtS7WNw&pp=gAQB And listen to Seasons One and Two of Dying To Tell You anywhere you get your podcasts. https://dttypodcast.com/  

    When Solving the Problem is the Wrong Solution

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 31:58


    Sometimes fixing the problem right in front of us creates harm down the road, especially in healthcare and with patients who are facing the end of life. Physician's Assistant Ryan English joins Cody this week on Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective to share the story of a patient that inspired him to get into palliative care, a patient whose situation presented the challenging decision to forego surgery to address an immediate concern in exchange for better quality of life as they faced their final days.  Cody and Ryan also talk about the rewarding joys of being palliative care professionals, and the very expensive question of "Tell me more about that."  --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    "It opened my eyes to the kind of nurse I wanted to be." —Hospice Nurse Julie

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 31:01


    Healthcare educator, social media influencer, and good friend of the podcast Hospice Nurse Julie shares the formative story of a patient who changed her perspective forever. Working in the ICU as a young nurse, Julie started to see a pattern that disturbed her, an unwillingness at times to help patients and their families face what seemed inevitable to everyone on the healthcare staff but was never said out loud—that sometimes prolonging life isn't the best answer. One patient in particular brought Julie to a tipping point, when she finally spoke up. Join Cody for this beautiful conversation with @hospicenursejulie on how healthcare professionals can most compassionately help patients and their loved ones at the end of life, even when it's incredibly difficult. Be sure to check out Julie's New York Times bestselling book "Nothing To Fear: Demystifying Death To Live More Fully" available wherever you buy books. And you can now pre-order her upcoming workbook "The Nothing to Fear Journal: Questions and Reflections for Demystifying and Preparing for the End of Life," an incredible resource for anyone...literally anyone, because we're all going to end up there eventually. More information at: www.hospicenursejulie.com --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    Giving Kids a Voice at the End of Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 26:54


    It can be a difficult idea to engage with, but children face terminal illnesses and life-limiting circumstances too. And it takes vastly empathetic healthcare professionals like Dr. Jared Rubenstein to help them navigate their experience with grace, intention, and peace. Dr. Rubenstein shares his perspective with Cody for this week's episode and talks about how his team came to institute Dignity Therapy Intervention for pediatric care and how some of his patients have reacted to discovering their own life stories. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    Are you ready for a good death?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2025 34:30


    Wellness Nurse, Life and Death Educator, International Speaker, and Author of the new book "The Good Death," Suzanne B. O'Brien, RN, has helped train over 360,000 people globally in how to care for loved ones at the end of life and how we can all prepare ourselves for a "good death." In this episode of Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective, Suzanne joins Cody to share what she's experienced by caring for literally thousands of people at the end, and to tell a story or two from the bedside. You can purchase Suzanne's book, "The Good Death," at thegooddeathbook.com or at your preferred book provider, and you can learn more about Suzanne's incredible efforts to promote holistic health, wellness & healing trainings for living a life of fulfillment, purpose, and service at suzannebobrien.com.  We also take a few moments at the beginning of this episode to remember Rachel Ling, a guest of the show who recently passed away. ♥️ --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    When End-of-Life Care Meets Simple Human Caring

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 41:51


    In this episode of Dying to Tell You: The Caring Perspective, (E07) Cody interviews his long-time friend Garrett Price about his journey from chaplaincy to becoming a licensed professional counselor specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. Garrett shares a touching story about his time as a hospice chaplain, including his experience with a terminal patient we'll call Doug. It reveals the powerful human connections formed in end-of-life care and the lessons learned through compassion and deep listening. More than anything, this episode emphasizes the role of chaplains in providing non-judgmental, authentic care and discusses the importance of embracing and understanding challenging emotions. Garrett is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in Idaho whose calling to help others emerged in his early 20s while caring for his dying grandmother. This profound experience sparked a desire to learn about care, leading him to train as a minister and work with youth. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

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    Honoring a Final Request To Die Outside

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 32:41


    Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective E06: Clinical Chaplain Aaron Aaron Metcalf is a board-certified Clinical Chaplain at a Level 1 Trauma Center nestled in Portland, Oregon. Aaron has lived in Oregon most of his life and enjoys the northwest outdoorsy life along with the intense and meaningful work of chaplaincy. He especially loves working with amazing nurses and doctors as they engage in the challenging world of healthcare. Aaron shares the story of a patient who, at the end of their life, expressed a desire to die outside. As you can imagine, that can prove to be challenging in a hospital setting. But Aaron and his team listened, understood, and started taking the steps necessary to make it happen. And, in Aaron's words, it was a beautiful death.  Aaron is the co-host of No Really, I'm Fine, a wonderfully informative podcast on how we all handle—or at least try to handle—stress in our work and our lives. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    On Her Deathbed, Not Dying

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 31:16


    Dying to Tell You: The Caring Perspective—E05 with Dr. John Mulder Dr. Mulder shares his incredible story of a patient who was at the end of her life but, beyond medical explanation, not yet ready to go. And how he stumbled quite by accident on what seemed like the answer. Dr. John Mulder currently serves as the Executive Director for Trillium Institute, Chief Medical Consultant for Hospice and Palliative Care for Holland Home, and the Medical Director of Palliative Care for University of Michigan Health-West in Grand Rapids, MI. He is a frequent speaker on end of life, ethics, and palliative issues and has been honored as the recipient of the 2019 Palliative Medicine Community Leadership Award by the American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine. We invite you to sit with Dr. Mulder and Cody as they discuss the deep reverence, compassion, and understanding it takes to serve in palliative care. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    The Caring Perspective E04—Hospice Halley

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 21:06


    This week, Cody sits down with @Hospicehalley, a Hospice Social Worker and co-host of the Death Happens, An Insider's Guide to Dying podcast with @hospicenursepenny. She previously hosted the Someday We'll All Be Dead podcast from 2018–2024. Halley tells the story of the very first time a patient of hers took Medical Aid In Dying (M.A.I.D.) and how despite her strongly held beliefs on personal agency and the right to die with dignity...it was still a difficult experience for her to witness. A NOTE OF CAUTION: There is a brief mention of suicide as it relates to this subject. Halley is an Army veteran, Pacific Northwest native, and licensed clinical social worker. She has been in hospice doing direct patient care for nearly ten years. In her free time, Halley enjoys spending time with her family and animals, watching movies, and listening to audiobooks. You can find her @HospiceHalley on most platforms. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    The Caring Perspective E03—Dr. Matthew Tyler

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 21:51


    Dr. Matthew Tyler on the "hidden curriculum" of healthcare professionals—lessons they learn about some of the most difficult parts of their jobs, lessons they learn not in a classroom but by simply living through them. Matt is board certified in internal medicine and hospice & palliative medicine with more than a decade of experience helping people living with a serious illness create personalized medical care plans centered around what matters most to them. He is a passionate educator who firmly believes that understanding your options and the trade-offs that come with them are the key to making tough choices with less doubt and regret. He is also the founder of How To Train Your Doctor, an online coaching platform designed to help caregivers confidently make medical decisions related to a serious illness and/or end of life care. He specializes in creating educational bite-sized videos that cover a variety of topics related to hospice and palliative medicine that you can find on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok.   -- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    The Caring Perspective E02—Dr. Jeff Manuel

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 22:48


    "She left this world feeling comfortable with who she was." Jeff Manuel is a palliative care physician in Denver, Colorado, and joins Cody to share his personal story about what he learned from one patient in particular—a young woman diagnosed with metastatic uterine cancer—at the end of her life. Jeff has been practicing as a palliative care physician and educator for 16 years. He has had roles as a palliative medicine fellowship director and medical director and is the president of the board of HealthEd Connect (healthedconnect.org) a non-profit that works with community health workers in Africa and Nepal. --- Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective is a series of interviews with healthcare professionals who sit down with Cody to share stories of patients and experiences that have changed how they practice, how they view death, and how they live their lives.

    Special Series—The Caring Perspective E01—Hospice Nurse Penny on how the body "does the work of dying"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2025 26:23


    This week on our very first Dying To Tell You: The Caring Perspective, Hospice Nurse Penny shares her experience with a patient whose spirit had seemingly left them but whose body was still there "doing the work of dying." This moment changed forever how Penny approached her patients, her practice, and even her own belief in the afterlife. Penny is a nationally certified hospice and palliative care registered nurse with over 17 years of experience who has created a massive and caring community on social media since starting during the pandemic. You can find her on most social platforms under the handle @hospicenursepenny. And she now has a book out!  You can (and should) order her book—Influencing Death: Reframing Dying for Better Living—from any online seller, including bookshop!  And you can (and should) watch this video interview on YouTube! It's right here!

    A Brief Giving Tuesday Request (and what's next for the show!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2024 3:01


    A brief (3 minutes!) update after our Season Two finale! It's Giving Tuesday and if you love the show, we have a humble request. If you believe in our mission to normalize death and dying and have the means, we'd like to ask for your support this Giving Tuesday. We are not a nonprofit, but even a small gift helps with production costs that include software licenses, stock music licensing, distribution platforms, and so much more. Cody also shares news about our upcoming inter-season YouTube series "Dying To Tell You: A Caring Perspective," in which healthcare providers discuss their own encounters with death and dying, and how that has shaped both their practices and their lives.

    A Very Dying To Tell You Thanksgiving (Video Finale!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2024 59:21


    For the finale of Season Two, we invited back a few previous guests for a very special Thanksgiving episode...with video!  Riyaz, Rachel, and Javeeda joined us live and on-camera to share how they're doing and what they're grateful for. Join us around the virtual Thanksgiving table for this lovely hour of reconnection, gratitude, and life. If you're listening to the audio podcast only, head over to YouTube to see the video version or watch it on our site: dttypodcast.com Thank you also for joining us as listeners for Season Two. We've interviewed more people living with an ever-greater spectrum of circumstances in more far-flung locations, and we continue to see the common threads connecting us all. We are deeply grateful that, with your support, we're able to keep sharing these stories with the world.

    I'm Still Me: A Reflection on Dementia, Aging, and Identity

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2024 6:44


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. Today, Cody reflects on his conversation with Jackie & Shannon, and what can happen to our identity—our sense of self—when we begin to lose memories, shift roles, and face what sometimes seems like a stranger in the mirror. What makes a person who they are? What do we do when our role in life changes? Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk."

    Jackie & Shannon: How Alzheimer's Is More Than Memory Loss

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 83:11


    Our final guests of Season 2 are Jackie & Shannon, a mother and daughter navigating the changes and challenges of Alzheimer's. Jackie has moved out of her home in California and now splits her time between the homes of her daughters in Colorado.  There is so much more to the story of Alzheimer's and dementia than just memory loss. The transformations of this disease impact almost every aspect of daily life. Jackie and Shannon share their challenges, their joys, their hopes and their fears in this wonderfully open and honest conversation with Cody.  >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    How a Cancer Diagnosis Becomes a Label: A Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 5:14


    "I'm no different than you." Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. Today, Cody reflects on his conversation with Javeeda and how a diagnosis can make you feel different. But people with diagnoses are still people, just like everyone else. We're all simply doing the best we can with what we have in front of us. Cody offers advice for how we can all treat "patients" as people, and how we're all in the same boat. Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk."

    Javeeda: Balancing Cancer Treatment With Quality of Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2024 79:28


    Javeeda lives in Toronto and has Adrenocortical carcinoma—a rare and aggressive cancer that starts in the kidney area. Her diagnosis has gone from 3-5 years to 1 year to "months not years." Today she is facing the reality of raising her daughter, planning ahead as much as she can while not knowing how long she has left. At the same time, she's balancing her cancer treatment—which can possibly extend her life—with the impacts it can have on her quality of life.  Javeeda's story is also one of the shared human experience. As she says, “I'm no different than you.” We all have our challenges in life, and a cancer diagnosis does not suddenly turn you into something Other. “I just maybe know what I'm going to die from. Maybe.” >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Faith in the Face of Challenge: A Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 7:31


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. In this reflection, Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Deanna, how we all turn to faith in our own ways in times of challenge and fear. And how we can all try to find the peace inside to know we're ok. We also share a remembrance from Beth Stevens of her grandfather, which will change how you see penny farthing bicycles from here on out.  Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk" and "Finding Rest" by Greg McKay. 

    Deanna: Answered Prayers & Time to Say Goodbye

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 121:44


    On the side of an ice-covered Wyoming highway, staring down an out-of-control semi, Deanna prayed and got a truly unexpected answer—she made it off that road alive but less than a year later was diagnosed with ALS, commonly known as Lou Gehrig's disease. What she sees now is that she was given time to say goodbye. >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Lee Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 5:32


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. In this reflection, Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Lee, who sees her tumor not as an enemy to fight, but as part of who she is. Tune in for his thoughts on acceptance, beautiful gifts in ugly wrapping, and the wisdom of Mike Tyson. And let us know what your thoughts are, either on social media or as a comment on the episode itself. Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk."

    Lee's Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2024 59:03


    Nearly fourteen years ago, Lee discovered she had an inoperable tumor at the top of her spinal cord, an astrocytoma that left her partially paralyzed. After initial medical options ultimately proved either too risky (radiation) or not an option at all (chemotherapy), Lee began down a more holistic path and hasn't undergone any additional conventional treatment for her cancer.  Instead, Lee has used traditional ceremonies like Ayahuasca and Dietas to diagnosis and process what's happening in her body. She has learned to co-exist with her cancer and sees it as an integral part of herself, not an enemy to fight.  >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Rachel Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2024 9:23


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. In this reflection, Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Rachel. ALS (aka Lou Gehrig's) is a disease of progressive, irretrievable loss. And unlike other diseases like dementia, you're only too aware of what you're losing.  But as Rachel has shown us and Cody reflects on—that loss doesn't have to mean you stop living while you're still alive. Included in this bonus episode is also a remembrance shared with us by a listener on social media about her beloved abuelo—a man who fixed many things.  Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk" and "Finding Rest" by Greg McKay. 

    Rachel

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 96:23


    Rachel has ALS, commonly known as Lou Gehrig's disease. Recently, she sat down to talk with Cody about her personal journey, what she's learned about valuing what we have now in life, and a ton of helpful information on ALS. Also on the podcast...Peach the bulldog!  >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Bob Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2024 5:41


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. In this reflection, Cody reflects on his conversation with Dr. Bob and the idea of faith and caring. In the most human sense, faith and caring are about compassion, empathy, and a commitment to the wellbeing of others. Quoting Ram Dass, Cody talks about what “walking each other home” really means. Music for this episode is from Trevor Ransom, "The Lamp Kept Us Warm But Now We Walk" 

    Dr. Bob

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2024 75:36


    Bob is a retired pediatrician with prostate cancer who has seen diagnosis and treatment procedures change dramatically over the decades. His devotion to his family and his deep understanding of the medical world open up a fascinating conversation with Cody around the themes of living well, facing difficult realities, and the importance of caring for one another.  >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Denise Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 10:05


    Between each episode, Cody offers a brief reflection on the themes he discussed with his guest the week before. In this reflection, Cody reflects on his conversation with last week's guest, Denise, and the beautiful, little parts of life that make it worth living.  We also share a lovely remembrance of a good friends' grandmother, who figured prominently in Cody's youth.

    Denise

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2024 53:50


    Denise says she doesn't see herself as brave. In her eyes, she's simply facing her cancer diagnosis directly and doing what she has to do. It's a special kind of courage, accepting the difficult things as they are and doing whatever you can in the name of what's most important, which for Denise means being here as long as she can be for her family. But her point still stands—is that brave, simply human, or both? >>Theme Music by Michael Shynes, "The Other Side"

    Sandra Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2024 8:15


    Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Sandra and an idea from Thich Nhat Hanh called Interbeing. This week we're also starting our Remembrances, in which we read remembrances from listeners of loved ones lost. Stick around to the end of the Reflection to hear them. 

    Sandra

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2024 77:50


    Silver linings. Looking for the good. These don't have to be ways of ignoring the challenging parts of our lives. They can be a way of accepting all of our experiences—the so-called good and bad—in a light of positivity and growth. This the lesson Sandra teaches us in her conversation with Cody, which took place in Sandra's backyard sanctuary on a lovely spring day in Boulder, CO. In addition to her silver linings and her personal story living with a brain tumor, Sandra also shares helpful information and advice on death administration—taking care of the logistics of dying so that your family and friends don't have to.

    Reflection on Riyaz

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2024 6:15


    Cody reflects on his conversation with last week's guest, Riyaz, and the meaning of the words "life happens for me, not to me." 

    Riyaz

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2024 82:29


    As a therapist, spiritual teacher, and member of a deeply supportive community of friends, Riyaz might seem well-equipped to handle a terminal diagnosis. And in so many ways, he is. He's also just like any of us. He's human. And when he was diagnosed with advanced stage lung cancer, it shook his world to its core, as it would for any of us.  Riyaz shares his wonderfully moving experience and insights with Cody in this illuminating conversation on how we can see illness and death not as mistakes of life, but integral parts of it.

    Reflections on Aimee

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2024 6:20


    Cody reflects on his conversation with Aimee and on the dance of ever-changing plans. 

    S2E1 Aimee

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2024 70:14


    For Season Two, we begin with an ending. Cody sits down with Aimee, the daughter of Linda from Season One, and her family to hear the story of Linda's final days this past April. It is both touching and wildly funny, a fitting tribute to Linda. As Aimee puts it and you'll hear for yourself, they could "make a whole sitcom" out of the odd experiences of those last days. It is an unfiltered, eye-opening window into the unexpected realities of a family saying goodbye. NOTE: This episode discusses Medical Aid In Dying (MAID) and the intentional ending of life.

    Hospice Nurse Julie

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2024 71:20


    We are between seasons here at Dying To Tell You (Season 2 is coming this summer so subscribe to get notified!), but that isn't stopping us from talking to amazing people. This episode is very special, a conversation with healthcare professional, internet star, and now author—Hospice Nurse Julie. Julie rose to fame during the pandemic and now millions of followers on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube tune in to hear her thoughts, stories, and advice on death and the dying process. Julie's book Nothing to Fear comes out June 11th and you can pre-order it right here! In the meantime, please enjoy this funny, thoughtful, and heartfelt conversation between Julie and Cody in which they talk about their professional healthcare experiences, Medical Aid In Dying, bad days, good deaths, and much more.

    Season One Finale

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2024 75:04


    Cody and Chris listen back to memorable moments from Season One and reflect on what they've learned from six guests, multiple episodes, and so many great conversations. 

    Reflections on Cia

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2024 5:02


    Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Cia and the difference between pain and suffering.

    Cia F

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2024 61:27


    When Cia beat breast cancer 12 years ago, she had no idea it could come back, this time in the form of angiosarcoma. Cia is equally fierce in her love and in her determination to do whatever she can to spend the most time possible with her family, and make memories that can endure beyond the time she has left.

    Reflections on Jessica

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2024 5:09


    Cody reflects on last week's conversation with Jessica Guthrie, and on how a terminal diagnosis can be something more than an ending.

    Jessica

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2024 68:45


    When her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease, Jessica became her full-time caregiver and advocate. For the past nine years, Jessica has cared for her and documented their journey through Career & Caregiving Collide™. Her story is one of deep family commitment in the face of illness and mortality, of adjusting to the unexpected curves in life's path, and of frustrations at a healthcare system that can sometimes fail people when they need it most.

    Reflections on Linda

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2024 4:36


    In this reflection on his conversation with Linda, Cody shares how Linda's motto of "Let That Sh*t Go" helped him through his own deeply personal loss this week.

    Linda

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2024 60:27


    Cody talks with Linda about her recent diagnosis with cancer, living a life of service, and letting sh*t go.

    Year One Done

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 31, 2023 33:46


    Cody sits down at the end of the year with his producer and co-creator Chris for a light-hearted holiday talk looking back, forward, and even a little bit inward. Thanks for listening to us in 2023 and we can't wait to bring you more in 2024.

    Holiday Follow-Up with Nancy K!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2023 28:36


    It's the end of the year, when our hearts long for peace, joy, and gathering. In that spirit, Cody sat down to catch up with Nancy K, whom he last spoke with not long after her diagnosis with pancreatic cancer (for Episode #2 of DDTY). Nancy has spent the past several months living her best life with the help of friends, family, and amazing hospice care. And it was a true honor and joy to talk with her again about life and dying.

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