Is This All There Is?

This episode is all about pivots. Specifically, I unpack the challenging decision of making a career transitioning and how to cope with the internal and external criticism. I explore the below topics: Recognizing the signs that it's time for a career change Understanding the importance of timing in career transitionsBeing open minded to unusual opportunities for growthDismantling negative self-talkUnderstanding how the mind uses negativity to keep us safe from change, and combatting this cycle.Thank you all for tuning in for over a year! I look forward to reconnecting after my podcasting break is over. I am rebranding my business and keen to work with equestrians on how to find calm and confidence in their riding practice, so if you know anyone who could do with the coaching, please send them my way. And thank you for the podcast reviews! Please keep them coming to help other like minded people find the show. Let me know how the episode impacted you at amanda@amandaryanfear.com and if you feel group or private life coaching could be impactful, please get in touch. LINKSOverwhelm Audit: https://amandaryanfear.as.me/overwhelmauditSave an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaulProduced by Wowow Podcasts

In this episode I am joined by dating and relationship coach Jenny Richardson to discuss all things conscious and mindful dating. Jenny opens with discussing how loss led her to examine habitual patterns affecting her own relationships, and how this process inspired her coaching journey. We unpack the importance of mind and body connection, particularly through somatics and meditation. Jenny illustrates the importance of understanding one's personal values and gaining awareness of one's contributions to the pattern of relationships. We touch on navigating dating post-divorce or loss, especially when children are involved, and examine the challenging role of self-awareness and compassion in dealing with strong emotions while dating. We also detail the importance of being present, learning from past experiences, and enjoying the journey of self-improvement.Thank you for the podcast reviews! Please keep them coming to help other like minded people find the show. Let me know how the episode impacted you at amanda@amandaryanfear.com and if you feel group or private life coaching could be impactful, please get in touch. LINKSGuest: Jenny Richardsonhttps://www.jenrichardson.co.uk/abouthttps://www.instagram.com/jen_thedatingcoach/Overwhelm Audit: https://amandaryanfear.as.me/overwhelmauditSave an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaulProduced by Wowow Podcasts

In this episode I am joined by April Dávila, an accomplished author, meditation instructor, and founder. We delve into April's journey from her beginnings as a writer learning her craft to a skillful writer's coach incorporating mindfulness into her practice. April sheds light on the extraordinary influence of mindfulness on creativity and we discuss how writers can manage conflict, navigate discomfort, and overcome common mental hurdles. Tune in to discover how mindfulness can transform your writing process and enhance the depth of your stories!   - Key Takeaways:    - Leveraging mindfulness in writing    - Importance of equanimity in writing    - Integrating mindfulness in daily life    - The role of discomfort in the writing process    - Strategies to handle conflict in stories    - Handling mental hurdles while writing Thank you for the podcast reviews! Please keep them coming to help other like minded people find the show. Let me know how the episode impacted you at amanda@amandaryanfear.com and if you feel group or private life coaching could be impactful, please get in touch.  LINKS   Guest: April Dávila   https://aprildavila.com/write-more-suffer-less-2/   https://www.instagram.com/aprildavila/ Overwhelm Audit: https://amandaryanfear.as.me/overwhelmaudit Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul Produced by Wowow Podcasts

In this episode, I give discomfort a much needed rebrand. We're so used to viewing discomfort as a feeling to avoid, and as an indicator that we must be doing something wrong. In this episode I flip this paradigm on its head: what if we used discomfort as our north star? Discomfort is an important indicator that we're heading in the right direction, and I take the episode to explain this. I share personal stories and insights on how to shift our thinking and embrace discomfort as a part of the human experience. I discuss reclaiming the words selfish and lazy and shifting our mindsets to view discomfort as a positive indicator. I end the episode offering a free Overwhelm Audit for those who want to make a necessary shift in their lives.   Thank you for the podcast reviews! Please keep them coming to help other like minded people find the show. Let me know how the episode impacted you at amanda@amandaryanfear.com and if you feel group or private life coaching could help kickstart your 2024, please get in touch.  LINKS   Overwhelm Audit: https://amandaryanfear.as.me/overwhelmaudit Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

Today's episode is all about the power of saying 'no' and setting personal boundaries. I explore how the fear of being seen as rude or unlikable, coupled with societal expectations of compliance and people-pleasing, can result in chronic over-commitment and burnout. I detail practical advice on how to navigate this saying no: this includes taking time to reflect before responding, being aware of one's feelings and thoughts when asked to do something, and being brave enough to decline when necessary. I highlight the importance of these skills in preserving personal wellbeing and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.   Please continue to review my podcast and share it with likeminded people, and let me know how the episode impacted you at amanda@amandaryanfear.com. If you feel group or private life coaching could help kickstart your 2024, please get in touch.  LINKS Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul Produced by Wowow Podcasts

In this episode I explore the subject of confidence: what it is, what it isn't, and how to build it authentically and sustainably. I break down the 3 pillars of true confidence, explaining their importance and gentle ways of incorporating them into your daily life.I also break down some misconceptions about confidence, such as the false equating of arrogance as confidence, and delve into why confidence is vital in both leadership and our relationship with ourselves. Thank you for tuning in for 50 episodes! Please continue to review my podcast and share it with likeminded people. If you feel group or private life coaching could help kickstart your 2024, please get in touch.    LINKS Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul Self-Trust Video: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/selftrustclass  

With 2024 on the horizon it felt prudent to discuss resolutions, why they fail, and how to make better ones. At the core of every goal is desire and good intention. Despite this, many of us don't stick to them. There is a self-critical narrative around failed resolutions but the truth is that not sticking to them isn't a personal failing - it's a structural one. In today's episode I discuss how our approach to resolutions set us up for failure and self-blame. I outline the common pitfalls of goalsetting while offering  a more fool-proof, affirming methodology. I invite you to adjust your thinking, examine your desires, extend your timelines and restructure the methods used to achieve your goals. I discuss self criticism, perfectionism and critical vs. affirming goalsetting.   This is the last episode of the year,  thank you for your listens, support and podcast reviews! If you feel group or private life coaching could help kickstart your 2024, please get in touch via my website.    LINKS Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul  

  Holiday season is in full swing and as we all know, the fun, festivities and family time comes with its own flavor of stress. In today's episode I discuss three ways to manage holiday stress, that (spoiler alert) work all year long:   * How to ditch perfectionism by making peace with ‘good enough',   * Understanding how to stop you brain's natural tendency to spiral into negativity,   * And, how to be more present and why that's so important (and offer a few mindfulness exercises to assist in this).   Thanks for all the podcast reviews - please keep them coming on Apple Podcasts to help like-minded individuals discover the show.      LINKS Save an Hour Each Day AND Have More Energy for What Matters Most: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/freetodolistoverhaul   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

You get to decide each day how you will live your life.   Many people think life is just something that happens to them and it's their job to keep up.   But living that way is exhausting.  It's like you're reacting to live rather than living on purpose.   In this week's episode of Is This All There Is? I teach you how to stop reacting to life and start living it.  In this episode, I cover:  1. My life update one year after my emergency open heart surgery and lessons I've learned; 2.  How your identity isn't as fixed as you think it is (you don't always have to be the anxious one); 3.  How, over time, your thoughts become your beliefs and your beliefs become your identity; and  4) How acting as your future self, the one who has accomplished everything you want, can help you reach your goals faster. Enjoy! Ready to break free from the fear of failure and build authentic self-confidence? Join my course, "The Confidence Revolution", linked below. If you join before 11/26/2023 you'll get a free one on one private coaching call with me, so tell a friend to tell a friend! Thanks for all the podcast reviews - please keep them coming on Apple Podcasts to help like-minded individuals discover the show. Confidence Revolution Course - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/confidencerevolution Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

Today's episode is about confidence: the benefits of it, the consequences of lacking it, and how to cultivate it authentically. This topic is much more complex than one might first imagine due to the conflicting messaging we've received about it, women especially. We are encouraged to be confident but then programmed to outsource our power and intuition to others. We're reminded to be authentic but then told to ‘fake it til you make it'...So which is it? I address common misconceptions about confidence, emphasizing that it is not about arrogance but rather a healthy belief in our abilities and worth. I delve into the three cornerstones of confidence: our thoughts and beliefs, managing our emotions, and developing a healthy self-image. I briefly touch on how to develop the skill of failure tolerance and discuss the importance of creating a fail plan to anticipate and embrace potential failures as opportunities for growth. By reframing failure, we can build resilience and a healthier mindset (more on this in Episode 33). Ready to break free from the fear of failure and build authentic self-confidence? Join my course, "The Confidence Revolution", linked below, and please rate and review my show on Apple Podcasts to help like-minded individuals discover and benefit from it.   Confidence Revolution Course - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/confidencerevolution Metamorphosis Group Coaching - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Nobody teaches us how to actually feel an emotion in our body.  We resist it, we avoid it, we react to it by overeating, drinking alcohol, taking drugs, spending money or other means of escape.  We think if we're feeling an uncomfortable emotion like disappointment, guilt, or shame that something has gone wrong and we need to "fix" it.  But there's nothing to fix.  Uncomfortable emotions are part of being human.   Once you can accept this and learn to process your emotions in a healthy way, you'll become so much more calm.   An emotion is simply a sensation in your body, similar to hunger or thirst and they usually only last about 30 seconds. But since we think we need to "fix" the emotion, we keep going over the thoughts that caused it in the first place, causing it to occur over and over again.  In this week's episode of Is This All There Is? I'll teach you how to process an emotion in your body so you can be more like Elsa and let it go.   If you're interested in delving deeper into this kind of self-discovery work I invite you to join my Metamorphosis coaching program through the link below. Please rate and review my show on Apple Podcasts to help like-minded individuals discover and benefit from it. Metamorphosis Coaching - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

44. You 2.0 - Creating Your Identity From Possibility    So, who is You 2.0? Who is the person you want to become? How is she different? This isn't the time to go into a perfectionist fantasy of telling yourself that future you is going to be 50 lbs thinner and a marathon runner and only eats vegetables and lean meat and never drinks and never swears and gets up at 5am every morning to meditate and drink a green juice and sets perfect boundaries and is a really good friend and never wears sweatpants and crocs outside of the house and sends everyone birthday cards on time… you get the idea.   You 2.0 is you, only amplified. I don't want to say better because there's absolutely nothing wrong with you right now. But you 2.0 is the person you are 100% capable of becoming and really want to be.   Perhaps You 2.0 takes time for piano lessons because that's something you've always wanted to do.   She schedules time on the weekends to simply do nothing.   She sets boundaries around her time and energy and says no to things that aren't a yes. She asks for what she wants.   She lets herself dream.   She is more comfortable in her skin.   She starts her own business.   Think about it. 5, 10, 15 years from now what will be important to you? What are you doing now to cultivate that? How do you want to show up when you walk in a room? You get to be that person.   In this episode you will learn how to create your identity from the future, not from the past.   If you're keen on doing more of this transformative work, join my 3-month group coaching program, Metamorphosis starting the week of October 23rd. See you there! Please rate and review my show on Apple Podcasts to help more like minded people find it. https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Picture this: you're yearning to make a change in your life, you know what you want and why you want it, but you don't act because you can't guarantee your success. This is a common narrative in many people's minds: that we must have all the steps figured out before taking a risk. Besides the fact that this is totally unrealistic, it's also a form of self sabotage in that we delay and even put off our progress entirely because of our fear of the unknown. In today's episode I coach you on how to dismantle this stifling belief one risk at a time. One of the main shifts is learning to narrow your focus to the next logical step and nothing else. The second one is learning to tap into your intuition for guidance on when to leap and when to pause. I then share my story of a risky career change to highlight all the above. I close by introducing you to a new course I've developed precisely through taking a leap of faith: Equine Assisted Coaching. In this program we use experiential play and the horse as a “twelve hundred pound bullshit detector” to help you connect with your authentic self. I have an in-person workshop coming up on 10/14/2023 (details below). If you want to find out if you're a good fit for this coaching book a discovery call via the link below and let's explore this. And please review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Equine assisted Coaching Program (workshop on 10/14/2023, 9am-12pm):  https://www.amandaryanfear.com/eac “Leap First” by Seth Godin https://a.co/d/5QsWrqe Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

As women we have been conditioned to doubt ourselves, second guess and constantly default  to others for guidance. Asking for opinions isn't inherently problematic, but an overreliance on them can result in accidentally outsourcing your power and weakening your intuitive muscle. I call this ‘living from the inside out'. In today's episode I discuss this gendered conditioning and detail how it might be holding you back from living the life of your dreams. I then outline how to begin trusting yourself to make the right decisions, how to shift your intuitive centre from your head to your heart space, and how to begin changing your life without adjusting a single external circumstance. This is the work we do in my group coaching program, Metamorphosis (beginning 10/23/2023): I help you understand how your mind operates and then teach you how to work with and around your thoughts, limiting beliefs and emotions to create the life you deserve. So if lightbulbs went off listening to this episode, you might be a good fit! Book a consultation call via the link below and let's explore this. And please review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Metamorphosis Group Coaching (10/23/2023) - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

You've done the courses, read the books, gotten the degree and yet you're still not where you want to be. And it's not because you're lazy; it's ironically because you've worked too hard and overrepresented passive action. In today's episode I reveal how to work smarter and not harder by leveraging massive action. Many of us remain in our comfort zone of passive action which is only 50% of the success equation, so I begin the episode by defining and differentiating passive and massive action, and explaining their appropriate contexts. I discuss the importance of embracing failure as the cornerstone of getting comfortable with massive action, and detail when to push outside of our comfort zones and when to rest. I end the episode with a practical exercise that will teach you how to break down your goal into passive and massive action points, and how to organize and execute them systematically. I invite you to do a 30 Day Challenge putting these steps into use. I'd love to hear about your progress via email or social media, and if you could do with more guidance along this journey, book a discovery call with me below. Please remember to review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

We're all too familiar with the sociopolitical glass ceiling holding people back based on their gender, race, age, disability and more. Today, however, I want us to turn our gaze inwards to address the often unchecked INNER glass ceiling: limiting beliefs.  Limiting beliefs are our brains' way of keeping us safe from the unknown, and unfortunately we've repeated them so many times that we can't separate their fact from their fiction. In this episode I offer three steps to circumvent your brains well meaning but stifling habit of negative self-talk, that are identifying, unpacking and seeking help. However, asking the very mind that is holding you back to objectively observe and dismantle its own negative beliefs, is tricky at best. This is where one benefits from coaching because an objective third party is challenging your beliefs and facilitating the growth. So if you'd benefit from one-on-one sessions then book a discovery call below and let's see if we're a good fit. Please remember to review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.     Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

When we want to affect serious changes to our physical health we hire coaches to give us a systematic plan for how to get from where we are to where we want to be. Life changes require the same deliberate planning and strategy which I unpack in this episode. All change begins with mindset shifts, and mindset shifts can only occur when you identify and take accountability for your limiting beliefs. Learn my 5 step system to re-training your mind so that you have thoughts and actions that support your goals rather than sabotage them. This episode is a snapshot of what to expect in the Mindset Gym, an intensive online coaching program that teaches you how to identify, unpack and shift limiting beliefs. I explain in detail what this program entails and also outline the ‘Mindset Intensive' course, which includes several hours of one-on-one coaching. You can sign up via the link below. If you want to chat more to see if the programs are a good fit for you, book a discovery call below. And finally, please review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

Most of us have tried and failed to achieve work-life balance at the expense of our health and interpersonal relationships. Work-life balance is an oppressive ideal that has women doing ‘the second shift': working full time, just to come home and do it all again in the domestic sphere. In this episode I encourage you to shift from ‘wanting it all' to identifying what genuinely matters to you, and then pursuing that. The bad news (or rather, the reality check) is that you definitely can't have it all. But the good news is that you can identify what makes life worth living and then pursue it systematically. I break this process down into 3 steps: the first is learning how to identify what's important to you, the second is understanding how to allocate your energy and the third is to begin positively shifting your mindset without needing your physical circumstances to change. The tools used to achieve these 3 steps are hacking confirmation bias (see episode 36), energy management (see episode 28), the Bucket Exercise and the Life Wheel Exercise. This mindset shift is no small feat, so if you could do with some support on this journey, get in touch via the link below. Please also review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.     Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

We all have those days where we just can't bring ourselves to be productive. Maybe we're coming down from the high of a holiday, or had bad sleep the night before, or we've woken up on a Friday and simply have nothing to give. Unproductivity can freak us out because we think that its the beginning of the end; that its confirming our deepest fear that if we break the habit of being high functioning, we'll never get on that horse again. So we beat ourselves up and end up and don't lean into the respite our body is demanding. In this episode I debunk this fear of rest begetting chronic laziness. I walk you through 4 steps to make your ‘rest days' less anxiety ridden and more self-compassionate . If you want to further flesh out why you're guilt-ridden for resting then join the Mindset Gym via the link below and together we can unpack this and flesh out a more compassionate approach to rest days. Please also review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

We've all experienced confirmation bias. It's the tendency to search for, interpret and favor information that confirms our prior beliefs or values. Think back to that one teacher you felt was hard on you, or a colleague who always took credit for your work, or the in-law who always undermined you at family gatherings. It's true that bad actors exist, but our minds also play a role in interpreting their behaviour in a way that fits our narrative. This phenomenon is true for our self-perception too: the idea that we're bad public speakers, shy in groups, not risk takers, disorganized - all of these beliefs have some foundation in truth but its our confirmation bias that keeps these beliefs very much alive. In this episode I break down how confirmation bias works, and look at its biological function as a mental reflex. I illustrate how belief precedes evidence, and how to take control of your thinking in order to produce the thoughts - and therefore evidence - that supports the more positive version of yourself and your life. This is the work we do in the Mindset Gym, so if you feel this episode barely scratched the surface, join the Mindset Gym via the link below. Please also review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

You heard me! Stress is entirely unnecessary, and in this episode we're digging deep and interrogating our unchecked belief systems around stress fueling productivity. I begin by differentiating between occasional stress and long term stress, and explain the evolutionary role stress played in keeping us safe. I then dive into the widely held belief that our anxieties, insecurities and fears about failure, lack and ill-health are what drive us to achieve. The truth is that we achieve despite these stressors and not because of them. I end the episode with some pertinent questions that will help you reflect on what you believe fuels success - stress or self-belief. In the Mindset Gym we focus on unpacking the inner critic that's holding you back. We tend to the fallout from white knuckling your way to success, and replace shame and guilt with affirming self-talk and intentional actions. If this sounds good to you, join us in the Mindset Gym via the link below and please review my show on Apple Podcasts so more like-minded people can discover it.   Consultation call - http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

  For most of us success is never a fluke. Its building blocks are the decisions, habits and mindsets that help us crystalize a vision and then break it down into smaller goals, and then break those goals down into actionable steps.  Understanding the anatomy of a good goal and a realistic roadmap to achieving it, is crucial. Today's episode is a practical one so have a pen and paper ready! We are going to be building the tools needed for consistent goal setting through my “30 Day Goal” challenge. In this episode you'll learn:  *The crucial role mindset plays in goal setting *Ways to circumvent procrastination and how to build self-trust along the way *How to manage the inevitable discomfort that comes up throughout the process If you would like more personalized help with your goals join me in The Mindset Gym so we can work on this together. If you've found this episode valuable, please leave a review to help like-minded people discover it.   Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Most of us have an unrealistic relationship with failure. We avoid it but desire what's on the other side of it: growth, opportunity, self-development. Today's episode is all about flipping this script. Prepare to be challenged! I begin by illustrating the difference between the comfort zone, the learning zone and the danger zone and how recognizing these will inform you when to take risk and when to avoid it. I then define failure as being the feeling of not meeting your own expectations, because its easy to think of failure as an objective experience that's shameful and embarrassing, but I encourage you to take control and adjust your perception. What if failure was a sign that you were one step closer to your goal? I emphasize this by outlining the consequences of avoiding failure and assert that it deprives us of vital experiences that prepare us for what our goals require from us. I end the episode by differentiating two types of failure: failure due to pushing past your comfort zone, and failure due to not trying at all. If you feel this episode only scratched the surface of your failure-avoidance, join the Mindset Gym and let's work on this together. If you've found this episode valuable, please leave a review to help like-minded people discover it.                          Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Your mind is the most powerful tool on the planet.  Yet, if you're like most people, you probably spend very little time reflecting on how you think.  After all, who thinks about thinking?  But the way you think influences your emotions, which influence your actions (or lack of actions) which give you your results.  If you don't learn to manage your thinking, you let default thoughts run the show and limit your potential.   In this episode I unpack this truth and give you the tools to manage your thoughts. I begin by establishing that circumstances are inherently neutral, and that it's our thoughts about them that are charged and colour our experiences. We think the same deeply entrenched thoughts over and over again because we formed them when we were young and impressionable. The problem arises when these thought patterns are disempowering: so I spend time equipping you with knowledge of how the brain works (illustrating the primary motivations of pleasure, pain avoidance and energy conservation) and then give you the “Thought Download” tool to help you reprogram your thoughts.  Join the Mindset gym (linked below) to get one-on-one help reworking old thought patterns, and if you've found this episode valuable please leave a review to help like-minded people discover it.                         Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today I'm joined by friend and coach Jess Johnson to discuss all things emotional regulation. Jess is an emotional wellbeing coach for entrepreneurs and specialises in body-based emotional regulation. We begin by exploring her body-centred techniques for releasing trauma and negative stories through EFT. We spend the rest of the episode bouncing between several emotion-based topics; understanding the role of emotions, the importance of allowing and experiencing our emotions with nonjudgement, dismantling old stories and limiting beliefs, accepting the messiness of the human experience, self-trust, sitting in discomfort and allowing yourself to want more from life. If this chat resonated with you, please let me know on socials and feel free to book a one-on-one session to delve further into the topics that piqued your interest. Remember to join my Self-Trust challenge linked below, and if you've found this episode valuable please leave a review to help like-minded people discover it.                          Guest: Jess Johnson   Website: http://www.jessjohnsoncoaching.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/seekingagreatperhaps1/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jess.kissane.77   Self Trust Challenge (June 19-24)-https://www.amandaryanfear.com/self-trust-quiz-1 Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Good relationships are the bedrock of a good life. So today I'm introducing a fundamental truth that will transform all of your relationships for the better: your thoughts – not the actions of others – are the foundations of all relationships. It is not what our friends, partners or kids say or do – but how we feel about what they say and do, that inform how harmonious or dissonant our relationships are. This is why it's pointless trying to control others, and more fruitful to address our thoughts about them. I unpack this concept in depth and walk you through two tools to help you separate fact from story, objective reality from feelings. The second tool is a practical one that will help you rationally assess your judgements and reprocess them, so have a pen and paper handy! For more guidance you can join my Self Trust Challenge linked below. You might also find it useful to check out my previous episodes on emotions: 11, 13 and 21. If you'd like more help with reorienting your thoughts for healthier relationships, book a free consultation call via the link below. And if you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.     Self Trust Challenge (June 19-24)-https://www.amandaryanfear.com/self-trust-quiz-1 Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today is all about nervousness. Nervousness is an inescapable part of life, dreaded by most and avoided by many. But avoiding situations that make us nervous is self-sabotage: nerves indicate risk, and growth is at the other side of risk. So at the very least, I'm going to help you make peace with nerves, and at best – I'm hoping to encourage you to move towards them and embrace them. Strap in as I walk you through the 3 steps to follow in order to understand, manage and appreciate your nervousness. The first step is to create space for them. The second step is to ground yourself in the feeling and knowing of safety, and the final step is to invite more nerves into your body as a teachable moment; to show yourself that you are ultimately in control of how much angst is and isn't manufactured in your body. This all results in first-hand experience of how much control you have over your emotions, and with this knowledge, anything is possible! If you'd like more guidance on this journey, book a free consultation call via the link below. And if you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.   Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Every day you wake up with the best of intentions to complete your unending to-do list. But as the hours turn to days and the weeks into months, some tasks just don't get done. Grab a pen and paper, today's episode is interactive! I'm going to demystify that lack of productivity is often not a discipline or time management issue, but an energy management issue. I introduce the concept of ‘energy' management and distinguish it from time management, and then explain why shifting your organizational perspective from time units to energy units is a game changer. I illustrate how to combat overwhelm and feelings of inadequacy, and give you a practical framework to help you get stuff done, through the “Do, Delegate, Dump” method. If you could do with an organizational reset, book a free consultation call via the link below and let's see how I can add value to your journey. And if you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.   Energy Management Tool: https://www.amandaryanfear.com/energy-management-tool Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/reset.to.joy  Produced by Wowow Podcasts

It's always an appropriate time to discuss boundaries! I begin by defining boundaries and conveying that they are a tool for connecting, rather than dividing. I explain that they aren't a means to control or manipulate, nor are they a set of rules to dole out to others. Rather, boundaries are a standard you hold yourself to, and their violation triggers a response you and you alone are required to uphold. I illustrate the benefits of healthy boundaries, and detail what a lack of them looks like. I walk you through the steps of healthy boundary setting and how to communicate them effectively, and discuss the best frame of mind to be in when expressing your boundaries. Ultimately, the responsibility of creating, maintaining and enforcing boundaries and their consequences - is yours alone. If boundary setting makes you feel mean, bad or guilty then you might have people-pleasing tendencies that need to be addressed. Feel free to book a consultation call via the link below and we can explore if coaching would help you with this. And if you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.   Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today's episode is going to be the permission you've been waiting for to dream big. I'm talking about how to approach and build your Next Level Life. I define your Next Level Life as the life of your dreams. The active word is “your”: not the dreams your parents, partner or friends hold for you, but the dreams you have a deep knowing about and might be too afraid entertain. I begin the episode explaining how the transformational part of goals is the journey one takes to achieve them (more on this in Episode 12). I detail the importance of making heart-led choices and explain how to check in with your heart and use it as ‘true north'. I walk you through a method to help you discover your dreams and remind you of the ones you've forgotten.I then illustrate how your job is not to uncover and plot out the entire process of achieving said goals, but to simply follow the next heart-led step in front of you. If you would like one-on-one coaching on how to live your Next Level Life, book a consultation call via the link below. If you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.     Consultation call:  http://www.amandaryanfear.com/consultation The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Saying “sorry” when you actually mean, “excuse me”. Prefacing a question with an apology. Apologizing to service providers who have messed up your order as if you are an inconvenience. Sound familiar? For many of us women, this will. At best, many of us use “sorry” an unintentional filler word, and at worst, we over-apologize because of a deep-seated desire to shrink themselves. Over-apologizing can seem like an innocuous turn of phrase but it is often rooted in people pleasing and self-minimization. This ends today! In this episode I detail 3 steps to help you stop over-apologizing immediately: noticing, questioning and adjusting. If you enjoyed this bite-sized coaching on over-apologizing and feel your life could do with more behavioral change, get in touch for some one-on-one or group coaching via the link below. If you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.     The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Too many women hold themselves back from the lives of their dreams not because of money itself, but because of a poor money mindset – no pun intended! Today I'm inviting you into a money mindset masterclass I held where we looked at money using my 5 point framework. Through listening in to the coaching session you will gain the tools to clear limiting beliefs, examine unhelpful emotions around money, delineate your real vs. perceived drama around money, and learn how to trust yourself with financial decisions. If you enjoyed this group coaching session, why not join in on the next one via the link below. If you've found value in my podcast then please leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help like-minded people discover it.     The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today I invite you into my world. What exactly is feminist coaching, how is it different to therapy, and do I need it? All questions I get on a weekly basis. I hired a coach at a very pivotal moment and they changed the trajectory of my life for the better. In this episode I share about this journey and how it inspired me to become a coach myself, and why I chose to get further training in feminist coaching. I explain the difference between therapy and coaching, and then discuss what coaching with me looks like. I illustrate how I help you identify limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and facilitate the process of rewiring your brain and adopting more empowering belief systems. I help my clients reclaim their power through the act of separating facts from stories, using methods of radical questioning and the “Five Point System”. Feminist coaching recognizes and unpacks the nuanced intersections of personal identity so that your path forward - that we cocreate - is personalized to your specific lived experience. Sound good? Give coaching a try via the Metamorphosis link below, or enrol in the 6 week Mindset Gym to get a taste of what more long term coaching with me will look like. See you there!   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Episode 22: Overwhelm   Most of us feel that overwhelm is out of our control. That it's the result of demands that outstrip our capacity, resulting in stress, anxiety and feelings of failure. But what if I told you that there is one single cause to overwhelm and it also happens to be the one thing you can control? If you've been here a while, you know that with me the answer is almost always mind mastery. In today's episode I discuss the root cause of overwhelm and walk you through my three tools for combatting it. I first detail my history with overwhelm as an overachieving child and adult. I then assert that there is a version of you that doesn't succumb to overwhelm, and that this life begins with acknowledging our mind's role in conjuring overwhelm itself. I expand on how and why the brain does this, and then give you tools for emotional resilience, acceptance and decisive decision making to combat overwhelm. If you could do with more elaborate coaching on how to temper overwhelm, sign up to my 6 week Mindset Gym coaching and we'll work on it 1-on-1. Looking forward to seeing you there! Join via the link below   Overwhelm Workshop - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/managing-overwhelm The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today we're getting into the nitty gritty of emotional ownership. Who is responsible for how we feel? And how can we better manage our emotions? I begin with distinguishing between empaths, and the result of being socialised as a woman – which is heightened empathy. I discuss how we can be empathetic to a fault, leading to emotional co-dependency. I illustrate how many of us feel it is our responsibility to make sure everyone is comfortable, and how this can be a trauma response. I then introduce you to the idea of emotional childhood vs. emotional adulthood, and discuss how to transition from the former to the latter, using an anecdote of my marriage to illustrate the same. If you struggle to know where your emotional responsibility begins and ends, join my 6 week Mindset Gym coaching and we'll work on it 1-on-1. Looking forward to seeing you there! Join via the link below

How much do you trust yourself... To make good decisions?  To figure things out?  To not beat yourself up for all of the things?  Self-trust is the secret sauce to living a life free of anxiety, overwhelm, and lack of fulfillment. It's the belief deep in your bones that whatever comes in your way, you can handle it.   For most of us,  myself, included, self-trust can be tricky.   Many of us second-guess ourselves.  We don't listen to our gut, or we hang on to negative memories or regrets from the past.   This makes it difficult for us to trust ourselves.   But you're not alone, lack of self-trust, while debilitating in many ways, is quite common.   So how do you stop doubting yourself and start living your most fulfilling life full of self-love, confidence, and truth?  Join me for this week's podcast to find out.   If you're ready to bolster your self-trust and stop feeling overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and anxious once and for all, you need to join The Mindset Gym.  You'll learn all you need to know about working with your brain to get more of what you want from life and less of what you don't. Join via the link below:   LINKS Self-Trust quiz -  https://www.amandaryanfear.com/self-trust-quiz-aa7f6535-c915-41ad-a1fe-192c2b065460 The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow Podcasts

Today I am joined by Elizabeth Sherman for my final episode in my 4 part series. She's a coach who helps her clients achieve their health goals alongside menopause without the toxic diet culture that often accompanies this. Her podcast, Done With Dieting, tackles the same issues with the help of experts across multiple fields. Today's conversation is packed with ‘AHA' moments about gender based conditioning, the pitfalls of perfectionism and unlearning behaviours that don't serve us. Specifically, we talk about examining our whiteness and leaving behind learned behaviour that keeps us separate from ourselves and fellow women. We discuss the crucial difference between being nice and kind, and how this strongly feeds into the ‘Good Girl Syndrome'. We define this term and explore how it prevents us from operating from a place of compassion and honesty for fear of being perceived as “bitchy”. And finally, we illustrate how alienating the pursuit of perfectionism is, both for ourselves and for those around us. We touch on the ”gap and gain” theory as a method to help us achieve with self-compassion and unshakeable trust in the process.   LINKS   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Connect with Elizabeth: Website/Blog - https://elizabethsherman.com Done with Dieting Podcast - https://www.elizabethsherman.com/podcast   Book recommendations:  The Gap and The Gain, Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy https://a.co/d/grdJQc3   White Women:  Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better, Regina Jackson https://a.co/d/grdJQc3     Produced by Wowow

This week, we look into the intricacies of perfectionism and examine the reasons why it is so common among high achieving women, especially if you are already self-critical. I explain where perfectionism comes from, how it affects all areas of our life, and why it never works. I also share my coaching strategies for overcoming it and starting to be able to accept yourself where you are. All of this is expanded on in great detail in The Mindset Gym, and we'll get to tease apart your specific goals and limiting behaviours in the 1-on-1 coaching. Looking forward to seeing you there! Join via the link below   LINKS   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

In today's episode I break down the road block preventing your dreams becoming reality: procrastination. I do this through three key concepts; reframing procrastination, discussing resistance and persistence, and providing practical behaviours to combat procrastination. Procrastination is an emotional management problem, rather than a time management issue, and as such, I discuss mental and emotional self-mastery, the motivational triad, and how to approach lack of motivation. I illustrate how to accept discomfort and break away from the shackles of perfectionism. The second half of the episode is packed with practical tips on how to break through inertia, and how to apply my popular coaching method, the “butt-in-seat” hack.    If this work interests you, and you're looking to improve your mental fitness, join me inside of the Mindset Gym.  It's like having a personal trainer for your brain.  We'll work on achieving your goals with less stress as well as getting rid of those limiting beliefs that are holding you back once and for all. Looking forward to seeing you there! Join via the link below:   LINKS   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

  The myth of "Having It All" has left an entire generation of women feeling overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and insecure. In this episode learn how to have it all on your own terms, the one decision you need to make in order to do so, and the three things you need to stop doing in order to create a life you're excited about. Plus, learn how people-pleasing behaviors are a waste of energy, how to identify them and how to overcome them.   LINKS   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

Hey listeners, it is so good to be back after months off! Today I'm talking about my hiatus and the health scare that lead to it. I share my physical and emotional healing journey and discuss how I've been coping. The second half of the show is about the invaluable life skill of managing your mind. I define what this means and walk you through the benefits of being the master of your own mind. I detail ways to accomplish this, with examples, and also illustrate the challenges one may face when on this challenging but rewarding journey. I conclude the episode by introducing my new course, “The Mindset Gym”. This is one of my most popular courses as it gives my clients actionable guidance on how to better manage their emotions and achieve mastery over their mind. Also included are several one-on-one coaching sessions with me where we get granular with your specific issues. The link to join is below, I look forward to seeing you there!     LINKS   The Mindset Gym - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/the-mindset-gym Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

As we approach the holiday season we also approach the “unavoidable” aunts and uncles, the “offensive” siblings and “insufferable” old friends. This episode will equip you with the tools to navigate these relationships, but probably not in the way you expect. For one, we aren't going to villainize people, as much as you might feel justified in doing so. In this episode I ask you to challenge yourself, to consider distressing dynamics and open up their hood to see what's underneath…which is You. I explain that what makes relationships challenging isn't so much the behaviours of others but our perceptions of them and the emotions that ensue. I discuss how the fundamental issue is that we don't see our thoughts as choices, and that the first step to improving relational dynamics is to accept this. Then, we need to notice our desire to change people and instead, soften this focus and turn it inwards with the intention of taking responsibility for how we think and feel. In doing this, we experience how accountability for our feelings moves us from a state of victimhood, to a position of power. I then guide you through an active exercise to help you gain practical understanding of this concept, and encourage you to stop expecting different behaviours from people who've never shown capacity for the same. I leave you with the thought experiment of deciding ahead of time how you want to handle upsetting interactions that are historically guaranteed to happen, as a way of protecting your peace and returning your power to yourself.   LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page   Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/managing-your-inner-critic-challenge Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

  You've heard me say this before: we pursue things because we believe we will feel better for having them. Today we're deconstructing this truth, we're unpacking our relationship with negative emotions, and learning how to sit with them. Needless to say, this episode might be a bit uncomfortable if you're used to avoiding them! I explain that the root of all our pursuits is primal – we move towards pleasure and try to avoid pain. This avoidance can lead to unwanted behaviour like overspending and overeating, but the good news is that if we sit with difficult emotions long enough, they give us information about ourselves that we can leverage for better outcomes. I explain how to do this through the N.O.W acronym of Naming emotions, Opening up to them, and Witnessing our bodies inhabit them. I detail how to allow negative emotions to pass through us by observing them with compassion and non-judgement, and how to practice thought-swapping. If you're ready to understand, embrace and manage your emotions so they align with what you want in life, get in contact for a coaching session.   LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page   Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/managing-your-inner-critic-challenge Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

Goals, goals, goals. We love them, we hate them and we keep making them despite how conflicted they can make us feel. For many of us, goals are a lose-lose. When we achieve them, we don't celebrate but think “if I could do it, anyone could”. If we don't achieve them, we berate ourselves and our self-confidence pays the price. In today's episode rewrite this script and challenge you to see goals themselves as a means to an end – one that has personal development at its centre rather than an external outcome. I set the tone by discussing a marathon goal I had and how halfway through it, I realised I was doing it for a very common, but dangerous reason: external validation. I use this anecdote to make broader observations about the importance of feeling valuable outside of productivity and achievement. I dispel the myth that if we don't' have goals we become stagnant, and offer tools to help you reframe goal setting as a ‘journey driven' activity rather than a static destination. I help you reimagine goals as the activity that helps you stretch and grow into the person you want to be. If this feels like the tip of the iceberg for you, reach out and let's work on this together through my one-on-one coaching below     LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page   Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/managing-your-inner-critic-challenge Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

If your partner folds laundry haphazardly despite you showing them umpteen times how to do it the way you like, it's upsetting. The reasonable solution to avoid you being upset by this, is to insist they correct their behaviour, right? Wrong. Today's episode is going to ruffle some feathers, but it's for the better, I promise. Today I challenge the idea that what other people do causes us to feel upset, angry, or any other unpleasant emotion. It is not what people do but the meaning we ascribe to what they do - that is upsetting. I challenge the widely held belief that changing external circumstances results in a more peaceful inner state. It is both impractical and impossible to control people and external circumstances. What is practical, and very possible, is to observe and adjust how we interpret these things. After all, what is upsetting isn't badly folded laundry, it's the assumption that badly folded laundry means that our partner has no regard for our standards and, by extension, our feelings, and by extrapolation - us. I illustrate flawed thinking this through several relatable examples and then detail two practical tools to help combat this behaviour. The first assists with separating actions from the symbolism we give them, and the second is called “the manual”. Whether you find this information freeing or affronting, this episode will leave you with an understanding of where your reactions come from, and knowing how to reclaim some of that power. If you want to further this work through one-on-one coaching, contact me below     LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page   Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/stopselfcriticism Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow  

Every day, I speak to women who want to stop procrastinating but don't know how.  When they get a new project at work at first they're excited, but then when it comes time to do it they just can't get started.  There are so many other things to do instead, like scroll through facebook, have a snack, fold socks… Then as the due date gets closer, panic sets in and they get to work.  Some even believe that they do their best work under pressure but that simply isn't true.  They're just motivated by the fear of not completing the project on time rather than the fear of actually doing it.       This throws them into the unnecessary emotional spin cycle of procrastination and stress.   They end up having to spend late nights at the computer working, time that should be spent with friends and family.  They give up sleep in order to get the work done.  They snap at their partners and kids because they're under so much pressure.   But that's all unnecessary.   Here's the bottom line: if you don't get this habit under control, the emotional roller coaster will only get worse.   But it doesn't have to be this way. While most high achieving women struggle with procrastination, a small handful are quietly beating it at its own game.  They're able to manage their thinking and get work done without the drama.   In this episode, you will learn: What causes procrastination  Why you think you work best under a deadline A tool to identify WHY you procrastinate How to beat procrastination  Plus, you'll get a special gift at the end!       LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow  

To Quit or Not to Quit, that is the question. In this episode I get personal and discuss my winding career path and all it taught me about when, why and how to quit my job. I explain that the act of leaving a job is the smallest, and probably easiest part. The real work is the inner work. I use a personal anecdote about my competitive horse-riding to explain the importance of witnessing our brains enter into anxious states, learning how to manage this process, and the importance of not catastrophizing this experience. I discuss how easy it is to gaslight ourselves into remaining in unfulfilling roles and how this process of ‘managing your mind' can help you get out of that cycle, and quit with calm, clarity and conviction. As always, this kind of self-development is intertwined with inner critic work. If you're inspired to do some, join my free Inner Critic challenge on October 10th-14th 2022, link below. If you want consistent coaching to help reach your personal and professional goals, join my Metamorphosis Coaching, link below.     LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page   Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/managing-your-inner-critic-challenge Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

Inner Critic work is central to living authentically, so in this episode we take a deep dive into what it is, what function it serves, and how to live a joyful life alongside it. I begin by defining what our Inner Critic is, and explain that it's ultimate goal is a benevolent one: it wants to keep us safe. Historically, and even today our inner critic plays its part. It helps us pre-empt disaster, apply scepticism and prioritize critical thinking. The shadow side of this executive function, however, is that there is no room for empathy for self, expansive thinking and creativity, because all of these things require risk taking and stepping into the unknown, which the Inner Critic does not allow. I illustrate more limitations our Inner Critic imposes and posit that in order to live the most expansive version of our lives, we need tools to subdue it. I then walk you through 3 tools you can implement immediately: giving your Inner Critic a personality, recognising your Inner Critic as merely a thought which can always be changed, and acknowledging, thanking and ‘relieving' your Inner Critic from the duty of mental bodyguard. If you want to do active Inner Critic work, join my free Inner Critic challenge on October 10th-14th 2022, link below         LINKS   Playing Big by Tara Mohr:  https://amzn.to/3LX5Xug. Metamorphosis Coaching https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Stop the Constant Self Criticism - Manage Your Inner Critic 5 Day Challenge https://www.amandaryanfear.com/stopselfcriticism Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/ Produced by Wowow

In this episode I discuss the double-edged sword that is overthinking. As humans we are hardwired to perceive danger and prepare for it. But in these modern times of luxury and civility, overthinking becomes less of a safety mechanism and more a self-saboteur. I address how critiquing overthinking can feel ironic to overachieving women: their excessive planning, calculating, creating contingency plans and preparing for the unpreparable, is the very thing that earned them their achievements. But somewhere along this road, overthinking inevitably turns into insecurity, intrusive thoughts and self-doubt. I detail how to avoid this by keeping your mind in check through delineating facts from stories we tell ourselves. I illustrate the importance of quiet as a way of slowing down the mind which allows it to process your feelings unburdened by overthinking, and I leave you with a potent tool to help you override your brain's default mode, in order to ‘think on purpose'. If this resonated with you, join Metamorphosis, my 6 month group coaching on thought work, beginning October 17th. Link in bio   LINKS   Metamorphosis Coaching - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/metamorphosis-landing-page Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

So little time so much to do, the age-old dilemma. In today's episode I discuss a topic that all of us have wrestled with and most of us have lost: not for lack of trying but because it seems like a logically impossible problem to solve. If I have more to do than time available to do it in, something's gotta give, therefore peak productivity Is fundamentally unachievable. My response is Yes…And no. Get a pen and paper ready because this is an information and resource-rich episode with time management tools you can action immediately. I start by defining and differentiating ‘living by default' vs. ‘living by design'. I then explain the pitfalls of viewing goals as a thing we do to receive an emotional reward (like feeling proud of ourselves), and discuss how reframing goals as a conduit to become a better version of ourselves is a more fulfilling practice. I do this by uncoupling your inherent value from your sense of accomplishment and help you reframe time management as energy management. I end with giving you advice on how to delegate and even slash tasks from your to-do list altogether, and detail robust exercises to reprioritize your energy for maximum efficiency.   LINKS   Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow

We all know the saying “we are our worst critics” and to a large extend, many of us have made peace with that truth. But aren't you fed up of being your biggest saboteur, heckler, hater? Confronting our inner critic is at the core of my coaching because there is a version of your life that's waiting for you where your self-doubt is kept in check. In today's episode I detail a few common manifestations of our inner critic, as well as examples from my life and the lives of my clients. I close the episode with practical tools you can implement today to begin shrinking this negative inner voice down to size. If you feel you could benefit from a one-on-one session to further establish your inner critic kryptonite, get in touch!   LINKS Join the Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/amandaryanfearcoaching/?ref=share_group_link Work With Me - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/site/contact Website - https://www.amandaryanfear.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandaryanfearcoaching/   Produced by Wowow