Just Cope With It

In this episode, I reflect on what the last few weeks of protest have meant to me and highlight some podcasts that you can subscribe too so that you can continue your education and growth in this topic. I am so thankful that so many people have been investigating and learning for themselves what white privilege is, systemic oppression, and the struggles of being black in America. Let's not let the conversation be a month of June only conversation, subscribe to one of these podcasts and listen weekly so that you are always aware. Honorable Mentions:Natal Podcast 1619The United States of AnxietyCafe con chisme

In this final episode of the enneagram series, Rhianna and I talk about:What wings areHow to find out what wing you lean towards and challenge yourself to utilize the wing that you don’t lean towardsMental frameworks we have about ourselves and how to address those using your enneagram numbersAll the resources that Rhianna has about all things enneagram The surprising way that Rhianna found out about her numberBook recommendations and Show recommendationsHonorable Mentions: Enneagram Spectrum: This is Jerome Wagner’s Website (the Enneagram method that Rhianna was certified with). Jerome is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist who has been studying the Enneagram for almost 50 years. He is one of the first students of the Enneagram in the US and Rhi recommend his test because it is statistically valid (12$). His website has a lot of great information and resources!The Enneagram Institute: The Enneagram Institute is a very user friendly website that has a lot of information that complements the work of Jerome. The language used to describe each number differs from Jerome but it is still very accurate and helpful. A favorite feature is when they talk about the strengths and problem spots of numbers in relationships. Their test is also $12.The Wisdom of the Enneagram BookThe Enneagram Spectrum BookInstagram enneagram accounts that Rhianna loves: @Ninetypsco--Steph Barron Hall and @YourEnneagramCoach--Beth McCordPodcasts: The Liturgist Podcast has a few episodes specifically on the Enneagram (they interview the authors of The Road Back to You)Music: Rhi didn't include this in the podcast either but the band Sleeping at Last has a song for every Enneagram number. They also have a podcast where they talk about each number that is really good--she highly recommends it. Rhi has heard that when people listen to their type's song it will often times make them cry.

Have you heard about Enneagram or people talk about their "numbers" and wondered what that was? Or maybe you know of the enneagram, your number, but never really went in depth of what that means in time of stress and potential for growth?Enneagram is one of the personality typing test that acts as a roadmap for self growth, relational health, and so much more. It dives into deep rooted insecurities, fears, and how numbers tend to respond in times of stress. I think we can all agree that during this time of COVID-19 and quarantine, we have experienced stress and overwhelming feelings. Honorable Mentions: Podcast Survey - please take 1-3 minutes to fill out the podcast survey and help us map out the direction + content for season 2Enneagram Institute to learn more about the enneagram between part I and part II

Have you heard about Enneagram or people talk about their "numbers" and wondered what that was? Or maybe you know of the enneagram, your number, but never really went in depth of what that means in time of stress and potential for growth?Enneagram is one of the personality typing test that acts as a roadmap for self growth, relational health, and so much more. It dives into deep rooted insecurities, fears, and how numbers tend to respond in times of stress. I think we can all agree that during this time of COVID-19 and quarantine, we have experienced stress and overwhelming feelings. Honorable Mentions: Podcast Survey - please take 1-3 minutes to fill out the podcast survey and help us map out the direction + content for season 2Enneagram Institute to learn more about the enneagram between part I and part IIBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.

In this episode, I chatted with Olivia Clarke from Humor Beats Cancer to discuss how dark humor and laughter helped her cope with her cancer journey and how she has created a platform for other cancer survivors/patients to share their experiences. This episodes teaches us all a larger lesson: though life may be tough and dark at times, humor does not lighten the mood but instead allows us to continue on living despite the darkness. Olivia Clarke is the founder and president of 501(c)(3) nonprofit Humor Beats Cancer and is a PR manager at a global law firm. Humor Beats Cancer shares joy and humor with those facing cancer, particularly those in their 20s, 30s and 40s. This is done through an active blog where those facing cancer share humorous stories from their journeys, and through social media, humorous care packages to those in treatment and a grant program to help young adults pay medical bills.Humor Beats Cancer website, instagram, facebook, and twitter Honorable Mentions:Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies by Tara SchusterOpen Book by Jessica Simpson

Happy Nurses Week!!! I have never been more proud to be a nurse than during this pandemic season, I am PROUD to be alongside all my fellow nurses because we are a unique community. So in honor if all the nurses I love, and the community I am proud to be apart of, I sat down with Cat Golden from Nurses Inspire Nurses Movement and had a candid conversation about what being a nurse means in today's pandemic world. Cat's passion for helping nurses is to find the confidence they need to create their own schedules, take a chance on their dreams and maintain self-care sparked her movement, Nurses Inspire Nurses. She runs the Nurses Inspire Nurses shop and hosts monthly events and coffee talks, as well as, provides free resources to support nurses no matter their location. She’s shipped thousands of Nurses Inspire Nurses merch out to nurses across the U.S., Canada, Europe and Australia and built a six figure business in under a year.She takes nurses through her ninety day mentorship program, the LEAP LAND LIVE Method to help them look inside themselves and uncover what they’re truly passionate about. She believes that if nurse’s embrace their true BEing they will uncover their purpose and be able to live a life they’re obsessed with. Her motto is LEAP LAND LIVE.Leap, take a chance on yourself. Land, confidently on your own two feet. Live, a life by your design.You can find Cat Golden at her Instagram and the Nurses Inspire Nurses instagram account!The Nurses Inspire Nurses ShopResources for Nurses and Self Care during COVID-19

You've heard the saying "West Coast, Best Coast"??In this light hearted episode, we break down the question "is the west coast actually the best? Or does the Midwest have something going on?"After moving from Los Angeles to Detroit, Stephen and I had a lot of midwest culture learning to do so I sat down with my good friend (from the Midwest), Betsy DeBoer, to help me break down some Midwest slang and words. And there was a lot of things that this LA girl taught her Midwest friend too. We laugh a lot and question some cultural practices of the Midwest. Honorable Mentions:Ask Again, YesAccidental Presidents: Eight Men Who Changed America

Who wasn't obsessed with Marie Kondo's tidying show in Netflix?? I know I was!Cleaning and organizing is my love language, so when I met someone who helps people clean and tidy for a living while incorporating spiritual practices, I had to learn more. Join me as I have conversation with Jacqui Chiari about her life, story, and how Tidy for Good was born. She shares about her struggles with post college life, anxiety, and imposter syndrome and how she ultimately found healing.Honorable Mentions: BetterHelp - online counseling platform Tell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send me a DM on instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast on apple iTunes!

In this episode, my friend Brittney Cunningham, and I talk about how we both ended up being re-deployed to a COVID ICU within our hospital system. Brittney and I are both Neonatal Intensive Care Nurses, which means the largest patients we take care of are 9lbs.In this episode you will learn about a hospital's "disaster protocol" in redeployment of nurses and how 2 NICU nurses ended up being permanently redeployed to adult COVID ICU and how those first few shifts went. Tell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send me a DM on instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast on apple iTunes!

In this episode, Stephen Wertheimer and I reflect on how community building has gone for us in Detroit. Three years ago, we moved across the country from Los Angeles to Detroit and have learned so much on what it means to make new friends and keep old friends. We share what went right in building community and what we could've done differently.Tell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send me a DM on instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast on apple iTunes!

I sat down with my friend, Kait Harras, to talk about prenatal and postpartum stress. Kait is a wife, fellow NICU nurse, grad student, and new mother We had a candid conversation about: Kait's surprising answer on Dartmouth's Stress Test and whether she thought it was accurateHer pregnancy stress in relation to her grad student studiesHer delivery experience and that time the L&D unit told her there’s no room in the inn because of a “birthquake”Her experience with postpartum depression and anxietyOur thoughts on societies obsession with the postpartum bodyThe things Kait tells herself to say that she’s a good motherIt's a beautifully honest conversation about how to best love our new mothers in their delicate postpartum experiences.Honorable Mentions:The Silent Patient

I had a conversation with Laura Anderson, LMFT & PhD candidate and psychotherapist to talk about trauma. Trauma is a hot topic buzz word right now, especially as it relates to our very uncertain and changing world amidst the pandemic. Laura is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, Professor of Psychology and an Approved Supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and is in the final stages of writing her dissertation and completing her PhD in Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University.In this episode, we talk about what trauma is, the different types of trauma, what living healed means, and the steps to take towards trauma healing. It's a complete basic guide to peak your curiosity into the world of trauma and what trauma informed means.A breakdown of the episode in minutes: (06:10) Laura’s speciality as a psychotherapist + her research as a PhD candidate(13:07) Trauma terminology (24:00) Trauma informed person vs trauma informed clinician vs trauma trained(34:10) How to start the process of healing from unresolved trauma(37:10) Laura’s instagram following and why she started this page(40:39) Being a better trauma informed friend and how we can respond(48:10) Books that Laura is reading nowHonorable Mentions:Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by RoutledgeThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van ker Kolk, M.D.You can find Laura and learn more about her work on Twitter, Instagram, or her website.Don't forget to leave a rating and review on the podcast! Follow me on Instagram and tell me what you liked about the episode!

Stephen and I sat to talk about the different theories about why children are not as affected by this virus as adults and to dispel rumors that promote chaos and paranoia in this pandemic. We lay out in this episode:The 7 different types of Coronavirus the similarities between COVID-19 and SARS and childrenthe three theories scientists have come up with for why children are not as impacted by this disease as adultsand a general PSA to please stop sending rumors via text and email that cause more chaos and paranoia Honorable Mentions: Possible Biological Explanations for Kids Escape From Covid-19Coronavirus is mysteriously sparing kids killing elderly understanding why may help defeat virusTell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send me a DM on instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast on apple iTunes!

In this episode, I have my very special guest (Stephen Wertheimer) talk about what it means to be a healthcare professional on the front lines of this battle against COVID-19 and how that truly impacts our mental health.We talk about:the comparison between COVID-19 and the 1918 Spanish Flu pandemichow we feel what being on the "front lines" means as healthcare professionalshow to practice KINDNESS during a season of social distancing Tell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send me a DM at the instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast on apple iTunes!

We all celebrated International Women's Day this past Sunday on March 8th, but do you know where its roots are from? Do you even know what you're celebrating? After an encounter and a soapbox moment I had over the weekend, I thought I'd share about it here. This is my little PSA for you all, men and women! Tell me what you thought about the episode at hello@justcopewithit.com or send us a DM on our instagram.Don't forget to rate and review the podcast!

In this weekend quickie, I brought my viral advisor on for a quickie about the panic surrounding the coronavirus. We talk about things like should we panic? Why is the toilet paper all gone?Have people not been washing their hands before this? If there are any lingering questions you can email me or reach me on instagram.

Join me as I have a candid conversation with my dear friend Kylie Hempy about podcasting. We both recently launched podcasts and get real about imposter syndrome, how it manifests in our lives, the value of having hobbies, and ways in which creativity inspires others. This was an enlightening interview for me and I found so much joy when recording this. You can find detailed episode notes on my webpage, including the usual honorable mentions (the books mentioned the code for Buzzsprout).Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.

Self care can look like different things for different people, in this short episode I get real about how I practiced self care this week and give permission for you to practice the same in your own life.

I sat down with my friend Amanda to talk about her postpartum experience. It includes an unexpected preterm delivery, NICU life, and her husband struggling with postnatal depression. Listen for the ways in which she finds her strength as a NICU mom, practices self-care, supports her husband, and finds the resources they need so he can thrive. Honorable Mentions:"Sad Dads" Research StudyPaternal Postpartum Depression Study in The Journal of Pediatric Health CarePaternal Postpartum Assessment Tool to figure out if you or someone you know may be struggling with PPDNDepression During and After Pregnancy - CDC website devoted to maternal PPDThe Happiness Project by Gretchen RubinTell us what you think about the episode or if you have any questions or stories to share at http://justcopewithit.comFollow us on Instagram @justcopewithitpodcast

In this episode, you hear stories of baby Kim and Stephen in our first year of marriage and how we learned the importance of fighting fair. We prepare in so many different ways for marriage and the wedding, but do we give space to learn how to fight? Fighting fair is an art and does not come naturally. And productive fighting is essential for any lasting relationship.I share the 4 practical tools to apply today to your marriage/relationship so you can start fighting fairly. I also lay out the conversations that should happen between the two of you so that you can create your own rules and boundaries for productive fighting. Honorable Mentions: The Festival of Lupercalia as the origin of Valentine's Day celebrations

This episode dives into the nitty gritty of unresolved trauma healing and the ways in which it can manifest in coping strategies decades later. Sydney Williams is the author of Hiking My Feelings and travels around the country speaking of her experiences and finding healing on the Trans-Catalina Trail. This is a jam packed episode containing topics such as trauma, death, loss, grief, unhealthy coping strategies, and sexual assault. Sydney does not stray from speaking of her experience and ultimate healing from a sexual assault experience and how she finally was able to share of her experience decades later. Following Sydney on instagram @hikingmyfeelings and @sydneyunfilteredHonorable Mentions: Hiking My Feelings, a signed copy of the the book with 10% off using the coupon code JustCopeWithItPlaying Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead by Tara MohrRape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)

In this short episode I share my experience with resentment in my marriage. Being married to a man in medical school is not easy and no one prepared me for this resentment. You will hear the ways in which I recognized resentment and utilized gratitude to combat this lingering emotion. I share other useful tools that I have discovered over the years and that have worked for my grappling with resentment. And these emotions and feelings are not exclusive to medical marriages, there are tidbits here for anyone in an intimate relationship.Disclaimer: my husband is the most incredible man in the world, and has never said or acted in a way that made me feel angry or like a martyr. My resentment stemmed from my own internal narrative given our situation and my inadequate way of transitioning. I am thankful for the ways that he has given me space to process all these emotions. Honorable mentions: Resentment. (2019, March 5). Retrieved from https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/resentmentJharris@ustravel.org. (2020, January 13). National Plan for Vacation Day. Retrieved from https://www.ustravel.org/events/national-plan-vacation-dayMarried to Doctors, Lara McElderry "10 thoughts to make me feel better when Stephen is working" Kim's 10 thoughts to make me feel better

Cierra Collum (RFMTI) and I dive deep into our own personal experiences of taking medication for our mental health and how we coped with the shame. We get raw, vulnerable and honest about these personal struggles including how we worked through the shame and ultimately found relief. Cierra also brings her professional experience as a Family and Marriage Therapist intern into the conversation so we can all learn a few tidbits from her.My hope with this episode is that you, my listener, does not feel alone or ashamed in this struggle with figuring out mental health. It's a journey that takes time and I'm rooting for you!Honorable Mentions: Healing Wounds You can keep up with Cierra on her Instagram account.

In this weekend quickie, we answer a listener's question about the previous episode. There are some solid wisdom tidbits from Stephanie. Hope you enjoy!

I have the sweetest treat for you all today, this interview with my friend, Stephanie. Stephanie is a teacher, dog owner, and wife of a cop. Today, we are talking all about how she has learned to cope with her husband working as a police officer in a dangerous city. When I was navigating my struggles with being married to medicine, I found a lot of camaraderie with Stephanie. Though our husbands are in two very different fields of service, we both struggled with loneliness and helplessness. This is when I learned that these feelings and emotions are not exclusive to medical marriages and I have found community with spouses of different demanding careers. This is an inspiring and encouraging interview that made me admire the grit and strength of the families of our police officers and I know you will feel the same after hearing Stephanie speak. In this episode you will hear Stephanie and I talk about: The rigorous process of becoming a police officer and the journey Stephanie's husband took to join the force ( 3:18)On managing loneliness and expectations in medical and law enforcement marriages (13:32)On fear, coping, and communicating through a recent tragedy at her husband's precinct (27:40)On hurtful and helpful things to hear as a cop wife and ways in which she feels support (38:05)MENTIONS:Podcast: Code for CouplesBooks/Devotional:Ammo and GraceBulletproof Marriage It's Not Supposed To Be This Way **For the protection and privacy of my friend and her family, I will not release her last name or the city in which her husband works.

In these weekend quickies, I'll answer Q&As from the previous episode. There are so many ways to send questions to me, instagram, email, and the webpage when it becomes live. In the meantime, enjoy this weekend quickie!

This episode will dive deeper into the premise of the podcast and what listeners can expect from this community. It will also explore a recent therapy session I had where I discovered why I think the way I think. And it all stems from my cancer season 10 years ago. Listen along as I reveal some painful truths I learned about myself and the ways in which I am still grieving and coping that season to this day. Because it is okay to still be coping with things that happened years ago, especially traumatic seasons in our lives, those seasons can take years to untangle.

Welcome to the trailer for the Just Cope With It podcast! In this short teaser you will hear what the purpose and mission is for the podcast. My hope is that this podcast will serve as a space for us to process and figure out how to navigate life's significant life stressors. Because you just don't get grit, you earn it!Subscribe today and get excited because there is some exciting content in store for the future!