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Bio: Jenny - Co-Host Podcast (er):I am Jenny! (She/Her) MACP, LMHCI am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Certified Yoga Teacher, and an Approved Supervisor in the state of Washington.I have spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. I have come to see that our bodies know what they need. By approaching our body with curiosity we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us. And that is where the magic happens!I was raised within fundamentalist Christianity. I have been, and am still on my own journey of healing from religious trauma and religious sexual shame (as well as consistently engaging my entanglement with white saviorism). I am a white, straight, able-bodied, cis woman. I recognize the power and privilege this affords me socially, and I am committed to understanding my bias' and privilege in the work that I do. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively engage critical race theory and consultation to see a better way forward that honors all bodies of various sizes, races, ability, religion, gender, and sexuality.I am immensely grateful for the teachers, healers, therapists, and friends (and of course my husband and dog!) for the healing I have been offered. I strive to pay it forward with my clients and students. Few things make me happier than seeing people live freely in their bodies from the inside out!Rebecca A. Wheeler Walston, J.D., Master of Arts in CounselingEmail: asolidfoundationcoaching@gmail.comPhone:  +1.5104686137Website: Rebuildingmyfoundation.comI have been doing story work for nearly a decade. I earned a Master of Arts in Counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and trained in story work at The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. I have served as a story facilitator and trainer at both The Allender Center and the Art of Living Counseling Center. I currently see clients for one-on-one story coaching and work as a speaker and facilitator with Hope & Anchor, an initiative of The Impact Movement, Inc., bringing the power of story work to college students.By all accounts, I should not be the person that I am today. I should not have survived the difficulties and the struggles that I have faced. At best, I should be beaten down by life‘s struggles, perhaps bitter. I should have given in and given up long ago. But I was invited to do the good work of (re)building a solid foundation. More than once in my life, I have witnessed God send someone my way at just the right moment to help me understand my own story, and to find the strength to step away from the seemingly inevitable ending of living life in defeat. More than once I have been invited and challenged to find the resilience that lies within me to overcome the difficult moment. To trust in the goodness and the power of a kind gesture. What follows is a snapshot of a pivotal invitation to trust the kindness of another in my own story. May it invite you to receive to the pivotal invitation of kindness in your own story. Listen with me…     Danielle (00:17):Welcome to the Arise podcast, and as you know, we're continuing on the intersection of where our reality meets and today it's where our reality meets our resilience. And how do we define that? A lovely conversation. It's actually just part one. I'm thinking it's going to be multiple conversations. Jenny McGrath, LMHC, and Rebecca Wheeler, Walston. Join me again, look for their bios in the notes and tag along with us. I thought we could start by talking about what do we see as resilience in this moment and what do we see, maybe like I'm saying a lot now, what do we see as the ideal of that resilience and what is actually accessible to us? Because I think there's these great quotes from philosophers and our ancestors, but we don't know all their day-to-day life. What did it look like day to day? So I'm wondering, just kind of posing that for you all, what do you think about resilience? How does it intersect with this moment and how do we kind of ground ourselves in reality?Rebecca (01:33):Rebecca? Coffee helps. Coffee definitely helps. It does. I have coffee here.(01:42):Me too. I would probably try to start with something of a working definition of the word. One of the things that I think makes this moment difficult in terms of a sense of what's real and what's not is the way that our vocabulary is being co-opted or redefined without our permission. And things are being defined in ways that are not accurate or not grounded in reality. And I think that that's part of what feels disorienting in this moment. So I would love for us to just start with a definition of the word, and I'm guessing the three of us will have different versions of that.(02:25):So if I had to start, I would say that I used to think about resilience as sort of springing back to a starting point. You started in this place and then something knocked you off of where you started. And resilience is about making it back to the place that you were before you got knocked off of your path. And my definition of that word has shifted in recent years to a sense of resilience that is more about having come through some difficulty. I don't actually bounce back to where I started. I actually adopt a new normal new starting place that has integrated the lessons learned or the strengths or the skills developed for having gone through the process of facing something difficult.Jenny, I love that. I feel like it reminds me of a conversation you and I had many moons ago, Rebecca, around what is flourishing and kind of these maybe idealistic ideas around something that isn't actually rooted in reality. And I love that that definition of resistance feels so committed to being in reality. And I am not going to erase everything I went through to try to get back to something, but I'm actually going to, my word is compost or use what I've gone through to bring me to where I am. Now, this will not surprise either of you. I think when I think of resilience, I think somatically and how we talk about a nervous system or a body and what allows resilience. And so one of the ways that that is talked about is through heart rate variability and our ability for our heart to speed up and slow down is one of the defining factors of our body's ability to stay resilient.(04:42):Can I come to a state of rest and I think about how rest is a privilege that not all bodies have. And so when I think about resilience in that way, it makes me think about how do I actually zoom out of resilience being about an individual body and how do we form kind of more of a collective sense of resilience where we are coworking to create a world where all bodies get to return to that level of safety and rest and comfort and aren't having to stay in a mode of vigilance. And so I see resilience almost as one of the directions that I'm wanting to move and not a place that we're at yet collectively. Collectively meaning whoJenny (05:41):I say collectively, I'm hoping for a world that does not exist yet where it gets to be all bodies, human and non-human, and the ways in which we allow ecosystems to rest, we allow a night sky to rest. We allow ourselves to become more in rhythm with the activation and deactivation that I think nature teaches us of more summer and winter and day and night and these rhythms that I think we're meant to flow in. But in a productive capitalistic society where lights are never turned off and energy is only ever thought about and how do we produce more or different energy, I'm like, how do we just stop producing energy and just take a nap? I'm really inspired by the nat ministry of just like rest actually is a really important part of resistance. And so I have these lofty ideals of what collective means while being aware that we are coming to that collective from very different places in our unresolved historical relational field that we're in.I would say there's a lot I'd love about that, all of that. And I, dear use of the word lofty, I feel that word in this moment that causes me to consider the things that feel like they're out of reach. I think the one thing that I would probably add to what you said is I think you used the phrase like returning to a state of rest when you were talking about heart rate and body. And if we're talking about an individual ability to catch my breath and slow it down, I can track with you through the returning to something. But when we go from that individual to this collective space where I live in the hyphenated existence of the African American story, I don't have the sense of returning to something because African hyphen American people were born as a people group out of this horrific traumatic space called the transatlantic slave trade.(08:15):And so I don't know that our bodies have ever known a sense of rest on us soil. And I don't know that I would feel that that sense of rest on the continent either having been there several times, that sense of something happened in the transition from Africa to America, that I lost my africanness in such a way that doesn't feel like a place of rest. And sometimes we talk about it in terms of for certain people groups, land is connected to that sense of rest for Native Americans, for indigenous people, for certain Latin cultures. But for the African American person, there's not a connection to land. There's only maybe a connection to the water of the transatlantic slave trade. And then water is never at rest. It's always moving, right? So I stay with you and then I lose you and then I come back to you.Danielle (09:25):That feels like a normal part of healing. I stay with you, I lose you and then I come back to you. I think resilience for me has meant living in this family with my partner who's a first generation immigrant and then having kids and having to remind myself that my kids were raised by both of us with two wildly different perspectives even though we share culture. And so there's things that are taught, there's things that are learned that are very different lessons that I cannot be surprised about what might be a form of resilience for my child and what might be a struggle where there isn't groundwork there.(10:22):I remember when Luis came to the United States, his parents said to him, we'll see you in a couple weeks. And I used to think my young self, I was like, what does that mean? They don't think we're going to stay married or whatever. But his dad also told him, be careful up there, be careful. And if Luis were here to tell this story, he said it many times. He's like, I didn't come to the United States because I thought it was the best thing that could happen to me. I came to marry you, I came to be with you, but I didn't come here because it was the best thing to happen to me. When his family came up for the wedding, they were very explicit. We didn't come here, we're not in awe. They wanted to make sure people knew we're okay. And I know there's wildly different experiences on the spectrum of this, but I think about that a lot. And so resilience has looked really different for us.(11:23):I think it is forming that bond with people that came here because they needed work or a different kind of setting or change to people that are already here. And I think as you witness our culture now, handle what's happening with kidnappings, what's happening with moms, what's happening with people on the street, snatching people off the street. You see that in the last election there was a wide range of voters on our side on the Latinx Latina side, and there was a spectrum of thoughts on what would actually help our community. But now you're seeing that quickly contract and basically like, oh shit, that wasn't helpful. So I think my challenge to myself has been how do I stay? Part of resilience for me is how do I stay in contact with people that I love that don't share in the same view as humanity as me? And I think that's an exercise that our people have done for a long time.Rebecca (12:38):Say that last sentence one more time, Danielle.Danielle (12:42):Just like, how do I stay in contact with people that I love that don't share my view of humanity, that don't share the valuation of humanity? How do I stay in contact with them because I actually see them as human too. And I think that's been a part of our resiliency over many years in Latin America just due to constant interference from European governmental powers.Rebecca (13:16):That partly why I think I asked you to repeat that last sentence is because I think I disconnected for a minute and I want to be mindful of disconnecting over a sentence that is about staying connected to people who don't value the same things that I value or don't value or see humanity in the way that I see in humanity. And I'm super aware, part of the conversation that's happening in the black community in this moment, particularly with black women, is the idea that we're not going to step to the forefront in this one. We are culturally, collectively, consciously making a decision to check out. And so if you see any of this on social media, there's a sense of like we're standing around learning line dances from Beyonce about boots on the ground instead of actively engaging in this moment. And so I have some ambivalence about whether or not does that count as resilience, right?(14:28):And is it resilient in a way that's actually kind to us as a people? And I'm not sure if I have an answer to that yet. In my mind the jury is still out, right? There are things about black women stepping to the side that make me really nervous because that's not who we are. It's not historically who we have been. And I am concerned that what we're doing is cutting off parts of ourself. And at the same time, I can tell you that I have not watched a news program. I have not watched a single news recording of anything since November 2nd, 2024.Danielle (15:13):I can just feel the tension of all of our different viewpoints, not that we're in conflict with one another, but we're not exactly on the same page either. And not that we're not on the same team, but I can feel that pull. Anybody else feel that?Rebecca (15:35):Does it feel like, I would agree we're not on the same page and in some ways I don't expect that we would be because we're so different. But does that pull feel like an invitation to clash or does it feel like it is actually okay to not necessarily be on the same page?Danielle (16:06):Well, I think it feels both things. I think I feel okay with it because I know you all and I'm trying to practice that. And I also think I feel annoyed that we can't all be on the same page some sense of annoyance. But I don't know if that annoyance is from you all. I feel the annoyance. It feels like noise from the outside to me a bit. It is not you or Jenny, it's just a general annoyance with how hard this shit is.Rebecca (16:45):And I definitely feel like one of the things I think that happens around supremacy and whiteness on us soil is the larger narrative that we have to be at odds with one another that there isn't a capacity or a way that would allow us to differentiate and not villainize or demonize the person that you are or the community that you are differentiated from. And I think we haven't always had the space collectively to think about what does it mean to walk alongside, what does it mean to lock arms? What does it mean to pull resources even with someone that we're on the same team, but maybe not at the same vantage point.Jenny (17:47):I have two thoughts. Three, I guess I'm aware even my continual work around internalized white saviorism, that part of my ambivalence is like where do you each need me? Are we aligning with people or are we saying f you to people? And I can feel that within me and it takes so much work to come back to, I might actually have a third way that's different than both of you, and that gets to be okay too. But I'm aware that there is that tendency to step into over alignment out of this savior movement and mentality. So just wanted to name that that is there.(18:41):And as you were sharing Rebecca, the word that came to mind for me was orthodoxy. And I don't often think of white supremacy without thinking of Christian supremacy because they've been so interlocked for so long. And the idea that there are many faith traditions including the Jewish tradition that has a mid rash. And it's like we actually come to scripture and we argue about it because we have different viewpoints and that's beautiful and lovely because the word of God is living in all of us. And when orthodoxy came around, it's like, no, we have to be in 100% agreement of these theologies or these doctrines and that's what it means to be Christian. And then eventually I think that's what it means to be a white Christian. So yeah, I think for folks like myself who were immersed in that world growing up, it feels existentially terrifying because it's like if I don't align with the orthodoxy of whiteness or Christianity or capitalism, it viscerally feels like I am risking eternity in hell. And so I better just play it safe and agree with whatever my pastor tells me or whatever the next white Republican male tells me. And so I feel that the weight of what this mindset of orthodoxy has done,Rebecca (20:21):I'm like, I got to take a breath on that one because I got a lot of stuff going on internally. And I think, so my faith tradition has these sort of two parallels. There's this space that I grew up in was rooted in the black church experience and then also in college that introduction into that white evangelical parachurch space where all of that orthodoxy was very, very loud and a version of Christianity that was there is but one way to do all of these things and that one way looks like this. And if you're doing anything other than that, there's something wrong with what you're doing. And so for me, there are parts of me that can walk with you right through that orthodoxy door. And there's also this part of me where the black church experience was actually birthed in opposition to that orthodoxy, that same orthodoxy that said I was three fifths of a person, that same orthodoxy that said that my conversion to Christianity on earth did not change my status as an enslaved person.(21:39):And so I have this other faith tradition that is built around the notion that that orthodoxy is actually a perversion of authentic Christian expression. And so I have both of those things in my body right now going, and so that's just my reaction I think to what you said. I feel both of those things and there are times when I will say to my husband, Ooh, my evangelical illness is showing because I can feel it, like want to push back on this flexibility and this oxygen that is in the room through the black church experience that says I get to come as I am with no apology and no explanation, and Jesus will meet me wherever that is end of conversation, end debate.Danielle (22:46):I don't know. I had a lot of thoughts. They're all kind of mumbled together. I think we have a lot of privilege to have a conversation like this because when you leave a space like this that's curated with people, you've had relationships over a long time maybe had disagreements with or rubbed scratchy edges with. When you get out into the world, you encounter a lot of big feelings that are unprocessed and they don't have words and they have a lot of room for interpretation. So you're just getting hit, hit, hit, hit and the choices to engage, how do you honor that person and engage? You don't want to name their feelings, you don't want to take over interpreting them, but it feels in this moment that we're being invited to interpret one another's feelings a lot. But here we're putting language to that. I mean Jenny and I talked about it recently, but it turns into a lot of relational cutoffs.(23:55):I can't talk to you because X, I can't talk to you because X, I don't want to read your news article. And a lot of times they're like, Danielle, why did you read Charlie Kirk? And I was like, because I have family that was interested in it. I've been watching his videos for years because I wanted to understand what are they hearing, what's going on. Yeah, did it make me mad sometimes? Absolutely. Did I turn it off? Yeah, I still engage and then I swing and listen to the Midas touch or whatever just like these opposite ends and it gives me great joy to listen to something like that. But when we're out and about, if we're saying resiliency comes through connection to our culture and to one another, but then with all the big feelings you can feel just the formidable splits anywhere you go, the danger of speaking of what's unspeakable and you get in a room with people you agree with and then suddenly you can talk. And I don't know how many of us are in rooms where resilience is actually even required in a conversation.Rebecca (25:15):It makes me think about the idea that we don't have good sort of rules of engagement around how to engage someone that thinks differently than we do and we have to kind of create them on the fly. When you were talking Danielle about the things you choosing to read Charlie Kirk, or not choosing to listen to something that reflects your values or not, and the invitation in this moment or the demand that if someone thinks differently than me, it is just a straight cutoff. I'm not even willing to consider that there's any kind of veracity in your viewpoint whatsoever. And I think we don't have good theology, we don't have good vocabulary, we don't have good rules of engagement about when is it okay to say, actually, I'm going to choose not to engage you. And what are the reasons why we would do that that are good reasons, that are wise reasons that are kind reasons? And I think the country is in a debate about that and we don't always get the answer to those questions and because we don't get it right then there's just relational debris all over the floor.Jenny (26:47):I'm just thinking about, I am far from skilled or perfect at this by any means, but I feel like these last couple years I live in a van and one of the reasons that we decided to do that was that we would say, I think I know two things about every state, and they're probably both wrong. And I think for our own reasons, my husband and I don't like other people telling us what is true. We like to learn and discover and feel it in our own bodies. And so it's been really important for us to literally physically go to places and talk to people. And I think it has been a giant lesson for me on nuance and that nobody is all one thing. And often there's people that are on the completely opposite side of the aisle, but we actually look at the same issues and we have a problem with the issues. We just have heard very, very different ways of fixing or tending to those issues. And so I think often if we can come down to what are we fearing, what is happening, what is going on, we can kind of wrestle there a little bit more than jumping to, so what's the solution? And staying more in that dirt level.(28:22):And not always perfectly of course, but I think that's been one of the things in an age of the algorithm and social media, it is easy for me to have very broad views of what certain states or certain people groups or certain voting demographics are like. And then when you are face to face, you have to wrestle. And I love that when you said, Daniel, I see them as human. And it's like, oh yeah, it's so much easier to see someone as not human when I'm learning about them from a TikTok reel or from a news segment than when I'm sharing a meal with them and hearing about their story and how they've come to believe the things they've believed or wrestle with the things they're wrestling with.Rebecca (29:14):Two things. One, I think what you're talking about Jenny, is the value of proximity. The idea that I've stepped close to someone into their space, into their world with a posture of I'm going to just listen. I'm going to learn, I'm going to be curious. And in that curiosity, open handed and open-minded about all kinds of assumptions and presuppositions. And you're right, we don't do that a lot. The second thing that I was thinking when you mentioned getting into the dirt, I think you used the phrase like staying in the darker sort of edges of some of those hard conversations. That feels like a choice towards resiliency. To me, the idea that I will choose of my will to stay in the room, in the relationship, in the conversation long enough to wrestle long enough to learn something long enough to have my perspective challenged in a real way that makes me rethink the way I see something or the lens that I have on that particular subject.(30:33):And I don't think we could use more of that in this moment. I think probably our friendship, what started as a professional connection that has over the years developed into this friendship is about the choice to stay connected and the choice to stay in the conversation. I know when I first met you, we were going to do a seminar together and someone said, oh yeah, Jenny's getting ready to talk on something about white people. And I had 8,000 assumptions about what you were going to say and all kinds of opinions about my assumptions about what you're going to say. And I was like, well, I want to talk to her. I want to know what is she going to say? And really it was because if she says anything crazy, we right, we all have problems, me and you, right? And the graciousness with which you actually entered that conversation to go like, okay, I'm listening. What is it that you want to ask me? I think as part of why we're still friends, why we're still colleagues, why we still work together, is that invitation from you, that acceptance of that invitation from me. Can we wrestle? Can we box over this and come out the other side having learned something about ourselves and each other?Jenny (32:10):And I think part of that for me, what I have to do is reach for my lineage pre whiteness. And I have this podcast series that I love called Search for the Slavic Soul that has made me make more sense to myself. And there's this entire episode on why do Slavic people love to argue? And I'm like, oh, yes. And I think part of that has been me working out that place of white woman fragility that says, if someone questions my ideas or my values or my views, I need to disintegrate and I need to crumple. And so I'm actually so grateful for that time and for how we've continued to be able to say, I don't agree with that, and we can still be okay and we can still kind of navigate because of course we're probably going to see things differently based on our experiences.Danielle (33:16):That is exactly the problem though is because there's a lot of, not everybody, but there's a lot of folks that don't really have a sense of self or have a sense of their own body. So there's so much enmeshment with whoever they're with. So when then confronted and mesh, I mean merging, we're the same self. It adds protection. Think about it. We all do it. Sometimes I need to be people just like me. It's not bad. But if that sense of merging will cost you the ability to connect to someone different than you or that sees very different than you, and when they confront that, if they're quote alone physically or alone emotionally in that moment, they'll disappear or they'll cut you off or they'll go away or it comes out as violence. I believe it comes out as shootings as we could go on with the list of violent outcomes that kind of cut, that kind of separation happens. So I mean, I'm not like Jenny, that's awesome. And it doesn't feel that typical to me.Rebecca (34:36):What you just described to me, Daniel, I have been going like, isn't that whiteness though, the whole point, and I'm talking about whiteness, not the people who believe themselves to be white, to quote taishi quotes. The whole point of whiteness is this enmeshment of all these individual European countries and cultures and people into this one big blob that has no real face on it. And maybe that's where the fragility comes from. So I love when Jenny said, it makes me reach back into my ancestry pre whiteness, and I'm going, that needs to be on a t-shirt. Please put it on a t-shirt, a coffee mug, a hat, something. And so that's sort of Taishi Coates concept of the people who believe themselves to be white is a way to put into words this idea that that's not actually your story. It's not actually your ancestry.(35:43):It's not actually your lineage. It's the disruption and the eraser and the stealing of your lineage in exchange for access to power and privilege. And I do think it is this enmeshment, this collective enmeshment of an entire European continent. And perhaps you're right that that's where the fragility comes from. So when you try to extract a person or a people group out of that, I don't know who I am, if absent this label of whiteness, I don't know what that means by who I am now I'm talking like I know what I'm talking about. I'm not white, so let me shut up. Maybe that means Jenny, you could say if I misunderstood you misquoted, you misrepresented allJenny (36:31):The No, no, I think yeah, I'm like, yes, yes, yes. And it also makes me go back to what you said about proximity. And I think that that is part of the design of whiteness, and even what you were saying about faith, and you can correct me, but my understanding is that those who could vote and those who could own property were Christian. And then when enslaved black people started converting to Christianity and saying, I can actually take pieces of this and I can own this and I can have this white enslavers had a conundrum because then they couldn't use the word Christian in the way that they used to justify chattel slavery and wealth disparity. So they created the word white, and so then it was then white people that could own property and could vote. And so what that did was also disable a class solidarity between lower socioeconomic white bodies and newly emancipated black bodies to say, no, we're not in this together struggling against those that own the highest wealth. I have this pseudo connection with bodies that hold wealth because of the color of my skin. And so then it removes both my proximity to my own body and my proximity to bodies that are probably in a similar struggle, very disproportionate and different than my own because I have white privilege. But it also then makes white bodies align with the system instead of co-conspirator with bodies working towards liberation.Rebecca (38:32):I do think that that's true. I think there's a lot of data historically about the intentional division that was driven between poor people in the colonies and wealthy people in the colonies. And I say people because I think the class stratification included enslaved Africans, free Africans, poor whites, native American people that were there as well. And so I think that there was a kind of diversity there in terms of race and ethnicity and nationality that was intentionally split and then reorganize along racial lines. The only thing that I would add on the Christian or the faith spectrum is that there's a book by Jamar TBE called The Color of Compromise. And one of the things that he talks about in that book is the religious debate that was happening when the colonies were being organized around if you proselytize your slave and they convert, then do you have to emancipate them?(39:43):Because in England, the religious law was that you could not enslave or in put a believer into servitude in any form, whether that's indentured servitude or slavery. Well, I got a problem with the premise, the idea that if you were not a Christian in medieval England, I could do whatever I wanted to. The premise is wrong in the first place. The thought that you could own or indenture a human to another human is problematic on its face. So I just want to name that the theological frame that they brought from England was already jacked, and then they superimposed it in the colonies and made a conscious decision at the House of Burgess, which is about a mile from where I'm sitting, made a conscious decision to decide that your conversion to Christianity does not impact any part of your life on earth. It only impacts your eternity. So all you did was by fire insurance, meaning that your eternity is now in heaven and not in hell, but on earth I can do whatever I want. And that split that perversion of the gospel at that moment to decide that the kingdom of God has nothing to do with what is happening on earth is something we're still living with today. Right? It's the reason why you have 90 some odd percent of evangelicals voting for all kinds of policies that absolutely violate every tenant of scripture in the Bible and probably every other holy book on the planet, and then still standing in their pulpit on Sunday morning and preaching that they represent God. It's ridiculous. It's offensive.Danielle (41:38):I just feel like this is proving my point. So I feel like other people may have said this, but who's kept talking about this exchange for whiteness? Bro, we're in the timeline where Jesus, their Jesus said yes to the devil. He's like, give me the power, give me the money, give me the bread. And if you want to come into their religion, you have to trade in how God actually made you for to say yes to that same temptation for power and money and whatever, and erase your face's. One comment. Second comment is this whole thing about not giving healthcare to poor families.(42:20):I hesitate to say this word, but I'm reminded of the story of the people that first came here from England, and I'm aware that they were starving at one point, and I'm aware that they actually ate off their own people, and that's partly how they survived. And it feels the same way to me, here, give us the power, give us the control, give us the money. And we're like, the fact is, is that cutting off healthcare for millions of Americans doesn't affect immigrants at all. They're not on those plans. It affects most poor whites and they have no problem doing it and then saying, come, give me your bread. Come give me your cheese. Come give me your vote. It's like a self flesh eating virus, and(43:20):I am almost speechless from it. There's this rumor that migrants have all the health insurance, and I know that's not true because Luis legally came here. He had paperwork, he was documented, got his green card, then got his citizenship, and even after citizenship to prove we could get health insurance, when he got off his job, we had to not only submit his passport, but his certificate that was proof of citizenship through the state of Washington, a very liberal state to get him on health insurance. So I know there's not 25 million immigrants in the country falsifying those records. That's just not happening. So I know that that's a lie from personal experience, but I also know that the point is, the point is the lie. The point is to tell you the lie and actually stab the person in the back that you're lying to. That just feels dark to me. I went off, sorry, that's kind of off the subject of resilience.Rebecca (44:36):No, I have two reactions to that. The first one is when we were talking just a few minutes ago about the exchange for power and privilege, it's actually a false invitation to a table that doesn't actually exist. That's what, to me is darkest about it. It's the promise of this carrot that you have no intention of ever delivering. And people have so bought into the lie so completely that it's like you didn't even stop to consider that, let alone the ability to actually see this is not actually an invitation to anything. So that is partly what I think about. And if you read the book, the Sum of Us, it actually talks about Sum, SUM, the sum of us. It actually talks about the cost, the economic cost of racism, and each chapter is about a different industry and how there were racist policies set up in that industry.(45:49):And basically the point the author makes is that at every turn, in order to subjugate and oppress a community of color, white people had to sacrifice something for themselves and oppress themselves and disenfranchise themselves in order to pull it off. And they did it anyway because essentially it is wealthy white, it's affluent white male that ends up with the power and the privilege, and everybody else is subjugated and oppressed. And that's a conversation. I don't understand it. The gaslighting is got to be astronomical and brilliant to convince an entire community of people to vote against themselves. So I'm over there with you on the limb, Danielle,Jenny (47:16):Yeah, I am thinking about Fox News and how most impoverished white communities, that is the only source of information that they have because there isn't proximity and there isn't a lot of other conversations. It is exactly what Tucker Carlson or all of these people are spewing. And I think fear is such a powerful tool, and honestly, I don't see it as that different than early indoctrination around hell and using that to capitulate people into the roles that the church wanted them. And so it's like things might be bad now, but there are going to be so much worse quote because of the racial fear mongering of immigrants, of folks of color, of these people coming to take your jobs that if you can work, people who are already struggling into such a frenzy of fear, I think they're going to do things drastically vote for Trump because they think he's going to save the economy because that's what they're hearing, regardless of if that is even remotely true, and regardless of the fact that most white bodies are more likely to be climate refugees than they are to be billionaire friends withRebecca (48:59):So then what does resilience look like in the face of that kind of fearmongering?Jenny (49:24):This is maybe my nihilistic side. I don't know that things are going to get better before they get far worse. And I think that's where the resilience piece comes in. I was like, how do we hold on to our own humanity? How do we hold onto our communities? How do we hold onto hope in the reality that things will likely get worse and worse and worse before some type of reckoning or shift happens,Rebecca(50:23):Yeah. There's actually, I saw an Instagram post a couple months ago, and I want to say it was Bruce Springsteen and he was just lamenting the erosion of art and culture and music in this moment that there's not art in the Oval Office, that there's not, and just his sense that art and music and those kinds of expressions, actually, I don't think he used the word defiance, but that's the sentiment that I walked away with. That is a way to amplify our humanity in a way that invites proximity to cultures and people that are different than you. This whole argument that we're having right now about whether this election of Bad Bunny makes any sense and the different sort of arguments about what the different sides that people have taken on that, it's hilarious. And then there's something about it that feels very real.Danielle (51:31):Yeah, I had someone told me, I'm not watching it because he's a demonic Marxist. I was like, can you be a Marxist and be in the entertainment industry anyway? Clearly, we're going to have to talk about this again. I wrote an essay for good faith media and I was just, I couldn't wrap it up. And they're like, that's okay. Don't wrap it up. It's not meant to be wrapped up. So maybe that's how our conversation is too. I dunno. Jenny, what are you thinking?Jenny (52:13):I have many thoughts, mostly because I just watched one battle after another last night, and I don't want to give any spoilers away, but I feel like it was a really, it's a very million trigger warnings piece of art that I think encapsulates so much of what we're talking about and sort of this transgenerational story of resilience and what does it mean whether that is my own children or other children in this world to lean into, this probably isn't going to end with me. I'm probably not going to fix this. So how do we continue to maybe push the ball forward in the midst of the struggle for future generations? And I think I'm grateful for this space. I think this is one of the ways that we maybe begin to practice and model what proximity and difference and resilience can look like. And it's probably not always going to be easy or there's going to be struggles that probably come even as we work on engaging this together. And I'm grateful that we get to engage this together.Danielle (53:35):Well, we can always continue our thoughts next week. That's right. Yeah, Rebecca. Okay, I'll be locked in, especially because I said it in the podcast.Rebecca (53:48):I know. I do agree with that. Jenny, I particularly agree having this conversation, the three of us intentionally staying in each other's lives, checking on each other, checking in with each other, all that feels like this sort of defiant intentional resilience, particularly in a moment in history where things that have been our traditional expression of resilience have been cut off like it In recent US history, any major change happened, usually started on the college campus with public protests and public outcry, and those avenues have been cut off. It is no longer safe to speak out on a college campus. People are losing their degrees, they're getting kicked out of colleges, they're getting expelled from colleges for teachers are getting fired for expressing viewpoints that are not in line with the majority culture at this moment. And so those traditional avenues of resilience, I think it was an intentional move to go after those spaces first to shut down what we would normally do to rally collectively to survive a moment. And so I think part of what feels hard in this moment is we're having to reinvent them. And I think it's happening on a micro level because those are the avenues that we've been left with, is this sort of micro way to be resistant and to be resilient.Danielle (55:31):As you can see, we didn't finish our conversation this round, so check out the next episode. After this, we'll be wrapping up this conversation or at least continuing it. 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Bio: Jenny - Co-Host Podcast (er):I am Jenny! (She/Her) MACP, LMHCI am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Certified Yoga Teacher, and an Approved Supervisor in the state of Washington.I have spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. I have come to see that our bodies know what they need. By approaching our body with curiosity we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us. And that is where the magic happens!I was raised within fundamentalist Christianity. I have been, and am still on my own journey of healing from religious trauma and religious sexual shame (as well as consistently engaging my entanglement with white saviorism). I am a white, straight, able-bodied, cis woman. I recognize the power and privilege this affords me socially, and I am committed to understanding my bias' and privilege in the work that I do. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively engage critical race theory and consultation to see a better way forward that honors all bodies of various sizes, races, ability, religion, gender, and sexuality.I am immensely grateful for the teachers, healers, therapists, and friends (and of course my husband and dog!) for the healing I have been offered. I strive to pay it forward with my clients and students. Few things make me happier than seeing people live freely in their bodies from the inside out!Danielle (00:28):Welcome to the Arise Podcast, conversations based in what our reality is, faith, race, justice, gender in the church, therapy, all matter of things considered just exploring this topic of reality. Hey, I'm having this regular podcast co-host. Her name is Jenny McGrath. She's an M-A-C-P-L-M-H-C. She's dope. She's a licensed mental health counselor, a somatic experiencing practitioner, certified yoga teacher, and an approved supervisor in the state of Washington. She spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. And she's come to see that bodies are so important and she believes that by approaching the body with curiosity, we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us. And that is where the magic happens. So I hope you're as thrilled as me to have such an amazing co-host join me. Yeah, we're going to talk about reality and therapy. We're just jumping in. Jenny and I are both writing books.Jenny, I think it's funny that we are good friends and we see each other when we're around each other, but then if not, we're always trading reels and often they're like parodies on real life. Funny things about real life that are happening, which I've been, the theme of my book is called Splitting, and I know you write about purity culture, and a part of that I think really has to do with what is our reality and how is it formed? And then that shapes what we do, how we act, how we behave in the world, how we relate to each other. So any thoughts on that? On Thursday, September 25th,Jenny (02:17):I mean, as you named that, I think 10 minutes before this started, I sent you a reel. There was a comedian singing Why She Doesn't Go to Therapy, and it says, all my friends that go to therapy are mean to me, and you don't have boundaries. You're just being an asshole. And it was good, but it was also existential. This was what seems to me a white woman. And I do think as a white woman who's a therapist, I feel existential a lot about the work I do in therapy and in healing spaces, and how we do this in a way that doesn't promote this hyper individualistic reality. And this idea that everything I see and everything I think is the way that it is, how do I stay open to more of a communal or collective way of knowing? And I think that that's a challenging thing. So that's something that comes to mind for me as you bring up Instagram reels.Danielle (03:26):Oh man, I have so many thoughts on that that I wasn't thinking before you said it, but I think they were all locked in a vault, been unleashed. No, seriously. You come from your own position in the world. Talk about your position and how did you come to that point of seeing more of a collective mindset or reality point of view?Jenny (03:47):I mean, honestly, I think a big part has been knowing you and working with you and knowing that I think we've had conversations over the years of both the privilege and the detriment that happens in a lot of white therapeutic spaces that say you just need detach from your family, from your community, from those who have harmed you. And I want to be very, very clear and very careful that obviously I do think that there are situations we need to extract ourselves from and remove ourselves from. And I think that can become disabling for bodies to, I've been having this thing play in my head lately where I'm like, are you healed? Or have you just cut off everyone that triggers you?Yeah, and I saw another, speaking of meme, it was like, I treat my trauma like Trump treats tariffs. I just implement boundaries arbitrarily, and they harm everyone.And so I think it's, there is a certain privilege that comes with being able to say, I'm just going to step away. I'm going to do my own thing. I'm going to do my healing journey. And I think there is a detriment to that and there's a loss. And I think we have co-evolved to be in community and to tell stories and to share reality and to hold reality in the tension of our space. I think about it as we each have a different lens. There's no objective reality, but if I can be open to your lens and you can be open to my lens, then we actually have two lenses, and then if we have five lenses or 10 lenses, we can have a much fuller picture of where we are rather than seeing the world through the really monochromatic white, patriarchal, Christian nationalist lens that we've been maybe conditioned, or at least I was conditioned to see the world through.Danielle (06:10):Yeah. Whoa. Yeah, I know we've talked about this so many times, and I think it just feels so present right now, especially as every moment it feels like every day. If you watch the news, if you don't take a break, I think you can be jarred at any moment or dissociated at any moment, or traumatized at any moment, or maybe feel a bit of joy too when someone says a smack down on your side of the issue. And I think that when we get in that mode of constantly being jarred and then we try to come into a healing space, it's like how do we determine then what is actually healing for us? What is actually good? What is actually wise? And I agree, I think if we're in a rhythm of being on our own, and I'm not criticizing, I mean, I get lonely and I'm part of a group, so I'm not speaking to loneliness particularly, but I'm speaking to the idea that no one else has input in your life, even the kind of input you may not agree with, but no one else is allowed to speak to you.(07:15):When I get in those spaces, it's not that I just feel lonely, I don't feel any hope. I don't feel any movement or any possibility because let's say that this ends tomorrow, that authoritarian regime magically ends. It's healed tomorrow. We're going to have to look at all of our people in our lives and face them and decide what we're going to do. I mean, that's what I think about a lot. At the end of the day, I might sit next to someone that hates me or that I perhaps might have rage and anger towards them. What are we going to do? So I don't know, when you talk about the different lenses, I'm not sure how that all mixes together. I don't have an answer, basically. Shoot.Jenny (08:05):But I also think that that's part of maybe how we hold reality is maybe it is more about presence and being with what is, rather than having an answer, I think I become more and more skeptical of anyone who says they have an answer for anything.Danielle (08:31):So I mean, there was this guy that recently passed away, and there was, on one hand I wanted to really talk about it, and on the other hand, I didn't want to talk about it because it took up so much space. And I feel that even as we start to talk about how do we form healing spaces in therapy with that, I think, what did you call it that, what kind of lens did you say? It was like a monochromatic lens. How do we talk about that without centering it?Jenny (09:08):I think one thing that comes to mind is holding it in context of all of the other deaths that have not taken up that space. And the social studies phrase, what are the conditions of possibility that have enabled this death to create church services happening that have taken over people's social media, people who have been silent about lots of different deaths in the last year or five years, all of a sudden can't help but become really vigilant about talking about this. I think for me, it helps to zoom back and go, how come? Why is this so prevalent? Why is this so loud? What is this illuminating or what is this unearthing about? What's already been here?So I grew up in very fundamentalist, white evangelical Christianity. And from the time I was eight, nine years old, I had in me messages instilled of martyrdom, whether that was a message that I should be a martyr, or whether that was a message that Christians were already being martyred, whether that was the war against Christmas with Starbucks cups or not having prayers happen at school. And these things where I grew up in this world where we were supposed to be prominent, we were supposed to be prevalent, we were supposed to be protected. And whenever there was any challenge to that from bodies that weren't white or straight or Christian or American, there became this very real frenzy around martyrdom. And I think on an interpersonal level and on a collective level, someone who plays the victim will always hold the most power in the relational dynamic. And so I think that this moment was a very useful moment to that psyche and that reality of seeing the world as a victim, as a martyr, as being persecuted, regardless of the fact that evangelical Christians are the strongest floating block in our nation. They have incredible privilege when it comes to a lot of education, marriage inequality, things like that, that are from the long lineage of Christian nationalism in our country.Danielle (12:15):So then how do you work with folks that are coming in with that lens, and what's the responsibility of our field? I know you and I can't answer that question necessarily, but we can just say from our own experience what that's like. Are you willing to share a little bit of that?What would I say? My client load is mixed and so do a lot of work, but just because it's mixed doesn't mean that I'm not currently undoing that process in myself as well. So I think just as much as therapy is about whoever comes into my office or shows up in the zoom room or even a group or a teaching we've been a part of, I think it's, well, I mean we say this co-created, but I actually mean it means I have to keep learning. I have to keep trying to be in my body. And what I mean by that is I was talking to my friend Phil yesterday, and he was like, Danielle, are you tracking your body sensations? And he's like, I just challenge you to do that today. And I was like, man, that that's a good reminder. So I think one way I try to come with clients is from the perspective of I don't know it all.(13:38):I only know what I'm feeling and sensing in this moment, and I have that to offer along with other things I've studied, of course. But just because the person sitting with me doesn't have a degree or the group and the people, doesn't mean they don't know just as much as me. It's just another form of maybe learning or knowing or presence and healing. And then we're figuring that out together. I see that as one way of undoing, undoing this. I know everything point of view, which I kind of felt like I had to have when I came out of grad school. Yeah,Jenny (14:14):Yeah, totally. Yeah, I feel similar and I think often think in quotes. And so one of my favorite quotes is by Simone Devo, and she says, without a doubt, it is always more comfortable to endure blind bondage than to work for one's liberation. And so I am consistently asking, where is my blind bondage? Who are the people in my life that will show me where my blind bondage is? Who are the people that will hold me accountable to my own liberation? And for me as a therapist, I work primarily with white folks who grew up in fundamental Christianity. And over 10 years of doing that work, I think that a primary part of my work is radical agency(15:13):Because I think that particularly white bodies maintain privilege by abdicating our agency and by being compliant with the systems that give us power and give us privilege. And so I think for me, my ethic is how do I help clients come into contact with their radical agency? And so a big part of that that I think is important is consent. And so if someone is coming to work with me, it's part of my disclosure form, it's part of my intake to say, I don't think our mental health concerns or our somatic concerns exist in a bubble. They are deeply impacted by the systems we move through. And so while we'll be engaging your individual body, we're also going to be engaging the collective structures. And I've had people say, no, I don't want to do that work. And I say, great, there are other lovely therapists that will work with you and be a better fit. That's just not the type of therapy I do. That's not within my scope of practice to only focus on the individual, because for me, that's unethical.Danielle (16:23):Oh, that's cool. I like that, Jenny. I think that a lot. I was consulting recently, and we're just talking about this current moment, and I'll just say from my point of view that even in my family, I noticed when something had gone on locally, we have some organizing that we do and we had some warnings go out. And I noticed even in my own family, the heightened anxiety, the alert, and one of the things we had to do was we took turns driving around just making sure everybody's safe and everybody was safe. And I came down and at the point where people began to lower anxiety, and we're talking about just regular business owners, regular people out there, we're not even talking about immigrants, quote migrants. We're just talking about people out there that don't want to encounter force. You could feel the anxiety just lower now that we went the parking lot's clear, no one's here, we're safe. This isn't happening, not today. I'm not saying it won't happen here in our area of the country, but it's not happening today. And I realized in consultation later about clients and stuff that things are going to, but the clinician I was consulting with just said to me, she said to me, just for your family, she's like, that anxiety is warranted. That's real. You're supposed to feel anxious. There's no way you can take that away for those people and you shouldn't.(18:02):And so just kind of learning, reminding myself, when you go to grad school, when you study therapy and psychology, there's pathological, there's diagnoses, all these things, but then there's some things like we just can't take away. They're part of the experience. They need to be there. They're part of the warning. And there's a reason why when you get out and do something practical for a community, the anxiety lowers. And I think that just gave me a lot of insight, not just for my client, but for my family and for myself. And there's some calm, not because I'm anxious, but because, oh, I'm not crazy. I'm not just making this up. And so I do think that speaks to how the system is creating trauma and it is powerless. What can we do against the big bad authorities? And we can do things, we can connect, we can be with people, but at some level, that baseline of anxiety is going to be there because it's warranted. That's how I think of it.What do we do? Well, we sat at home, we watched sports. We went to Best Buy, and this is not every, we had some privilege. We bought an extra controller to play Mario World or whatever it was. I don't remember, but I was like, I'm not playing on that little controller. They wanted me to hold. I was like, I need a real controller. I'm old. I need to be able to feel it in my hands. Just silly stuff. Just didn't put pressure on the kids to do homework. Not a pressure to clean the house, just to just exist. Just be, yeah. What about you? What do you do when you encounter either anxiety from trauma like that or the systemic pressure maybe to even conform to whiteness or privilege in that moment?Jenny (20:12):I typically need to move my body in some way, whether that's to take my dog on a very long walk or whether that's just to roll around on a dance floor or maybe do a yoga practice. I become aware of how my body is holding that, and I think about how emotions are just energy in motion. And so if we don't give them motion and expression, it becomes like a battery pack in our nervous system. And so I can feel that if I haven't been able to move and to express whatever my body needs to express, and often I don't even know cognitively what my body needs to express, but I've grown in trust that my body knows, and I say, I think the sillier we look the better it usually feels. I just saw this lovely post the other day, a movement person did where they, we talk a lot about brainwashing, but we don't talk a lot about body washing, and we are so conditioned to only move our body in certain ways. And because our body is not different than our brain, I think that the more free we feel in our actual physical body to our own ability, the more that can actually create a little bit more mobility in how we see reality and how we engage with it.Danielle (21:44):So take that back to the beginning where you started talking about how when you have clients come in, you're like, yo, we're going to address this systemically and collectively. What do you do with folks when they have that kind of energy and you guys are working through it and it's like, oh, it's like maybe that's collective energy. What do you do? Yeah,Jenny (22:02):Yeah. I ask my clients probably annoying amount of times each session, what do you notice right now? And then I follow their body. So if their body says like, oh, I feel a lot of tension in my gut instead of alleviating that, I go, okay, great. Can you actually exaggerate that tension a little bit and see what happens? See if that tension wants to come out in a snarl or a growl, or maybe you want to curl up in a ball and I just follow whatever the impulses of their body are. Or if they say like, oh, I feel a lot in my shoulders. I'm like, great. Do you want to go push against a wall or push against the floor or punch a pillow and let your body actually get some movement into those spaces that you're sensing?Well, as I said, I'm very skeptical about individual work, even though I do it, I don't think is all that. I think it is both necessary and not that helpful for the collective(23:21):Because it is individual. And so I actually do think we need collective spaces of moving and expressing and being in our bodies. I think our ancestors knew this for before Christian supremacy and then white supremacy and then capitalistic supremacy eradicated how we've evolved to move in our and collectively. That being said, I do think that the more we become aware of how our body is constrained and how we've been socialized, especially I think for anybody, but for me, I'll speak to white bodies, we aren't always conscious. We take for granted whiteness and how it affects our bodies. So the first time I'm asking a white person, especially maybe a white woman to look pissed, that's going to be probably really scary because socially we are not actually allowed to be pissed. We're allowed to be dams, souls, and we're allowed to freak out, but we're not actually allowed to be strong and be powerful and be angry. And so I do believe that in that work of individual liberation and freedom, it actually helps us resist those roles and those performances of white womanhood that then perpetuate collective harm.Danielle (24:49):I can see how that shift would really impact the way one person both connects with their neighbor or a different person, even same race or same culture, and would impact not only how they relate and connect to that person, but also just how they might love.Jenny (25:10):Yeah, because I think it is dangerous. It is disproportionately dangerous to oppressed bodies when white women aren't holding our own anger because I think that there is a deferral to the police, to governing bodies to different authorities when a white woman is actually pissed, rather than saying like, Hey, you did this and it pissed me off, let's work it out here. Oftentimes that ends up actually getting policed to authorities that then disproportionately harm oppressed bodies. And so I think it is essential for white women to grow our capacity to bear. No, I actually am pissed and I can acknowledge that and engage that and be with it in myself.I do. I do actually. So I have been working on a book for the last six years in which I'm looking at the socialization of young white women in purity culture and this political moment of Invisible children, which was this documentary style film that manipulated an entire generation of young white women to get involved in missions or development. And so as part of my research, I interviewed many white women who grew up in purity culture and became missionaries. And there were some that maybe still had good relations with organizations such as invisible children and felt threatened or maybe pissed that I was inquiring into this. And so instead of engaging and talking about the emotions that were coming up, they went straight to interrogating my IRB and then went straight to is this research ethical? Even though I could tell they were really just angry and upset about what I was interrogating, and I would've much rather we could have that conversation than this quick sense of I'm going to go to the structures while I can maintain feeling like this demure pleasantness of white womanhood, even though I could feel the energy. And that's an example for me, and I have white privilege, and so there was still threat there, but it was not probably to the same degree that it could be if I didn't hold that same power and privilege that I do.Scared. I felt really scared and I had done everything ethically. I had hired my own IRB to oversee my research. I did their protocol and still I felt the wielding of power and the sense of I can move the system to act against you if I don't like what you're doing. And so it was really, really scary. And then I had to move my anxiety and my body and I had to shake because what I do often when I get scared and I had to let my body discharge that adrenaline and that cortisol, and then I was able to back to myself and respond and say, it sounds like you have some concerns, and being interviewed is totally optional so you don't have to do it. And then I never heard back from 'em, and so it was just helpful for me to get to move that through. Even in part of that process,Danielle (29:27):Jenny, is that energy still in you now or is it gong?Jenny (29:30):Oh yeah, totally. I can feel my body vibrating and even there's that fear of like, oh shit, what's going to happen if I talk about this? I can feel the silencingThe demand to be small and not to expose it because then I'm open to fill in the blank. And so I can feel the sense of how power wants to keep us from speaking truth to power and to those that wield it.Danielle (30:02):Man, I want to swear so bad, motherfucker. I'm not surprised. But I do think I continue to allow myself to be shocked. And I think the thing is, I know this can happen. I know it will happen. I think both you and I are writing on topics that are very interrogate this moment in a very particular way that's threatening. And so although I'm not surprised, I am allowing myself to continually be shocked, not I want to re-traumatize myself, but I don't want to lose the feeling of there might be somebody good out there, this might be well received. And also I want to maintain that feeling of like, man, I really love my friend. I believe in her. And I think allowing myself to kind of hold all those things kind of just allows me to wake up for the moment versus just numbing out to it. Man,So vicious. It's so vicious because you aren't taking their money, you aren't literally hurting them physically. You're not taking their power, and yet there's this full force. You've dedicated your life to this thing and they could take you out.Jenny (31:19):Yeah, and I think it's primarily because I am questioning white women's innocence and I think based on how race and gender work, a white woman's privilege and power comes from this presumed purity and innocence. And so if we start to disrupt that and go, actually, I'm human and I've done some shit and I've, I've caused harm and I will cause harm, and that's actually a really important part of me working out my humanity. Then I'm stepping out of the bounds of being protected under white patriarchy.Danielle (32:06):I feel like I learned, I feel like so much resonance with that. I've had many similar experiences, but one stands out where right after the election I talked with a friend of mine on the phone, and I don't remember if she is a white colleague from same grad school and said something like, oh, it's just a bummer. And we didn't really talk about it. And I was like, that's all you could say. I thought about that. And later I sent a really kind text saying, Hey, that really hurt my feelings. I don't know. It doesn't make sense why we haven't talked about it more. And then I didn't hear back. It just went silent. This is someone I'd known for seven years.(32:45):Then later I called and I was like, Hey, what's up? And they're like, I can't believe you would write that to me If I ever engage you again, I want to start here. Some other random place. I was just sat back and I was like, I'm not giving this any more energy at that time. I said that to myself and it was just like the complete collapse when I said, you hurt my feelings, the complete collapse. When I said, I don't understand this, can we talk about it? And then I went through this period this summer of just having this feeling. I don't want to be at odds with people. So I left this person a voicemail saying, Hey man, can we talk? I haven't heard back from them, but I feel like I did my part. But I'm just struck it even in down from the big view, like the 30,000 foot view or how that person wants to reign the system on you to even interpersonally, if I don't like what you said, I'm just going to remove my presence,Jenny (33:51):Which I think again, is so much of the epidemic of whiteness. And I think it then produces such a fragility that's like I don't actually know how to bear open conflict and disruption because I'm not practiced at it, and I just will escape every time someone calls me to accountability or says something I don't like. And we can't stay in that place of tension.Yeah. Well, I think one is that I feel those tendencies so much in my own body, and I do think that we have capacity to metabolize them. And so I literally might say something like, great, could you let your body get up and run around the room or run in place? Or maybe you stay seated but you let your legs and your arms kick. And they think that if we even just let ourselves express I want to fight, or if I want to flee or I want to get away from this and we let our body do what we need to do, we can then come back to ourselves and have fuller access to our capacity. And again, sometimes I do think there are relationships or communities or things that we do need to step away from. And sometimes if we've only ever learned to say yes, we might go through a process where we swing to the other side and we just cut everyone out and then we get to learn how to have discernment and how to enter into relationships thoughtfully and how to know who are those people we will be investing in probably for a long time.(35:43):And so it's not denying that those impulses are there, but it's letting our bodies metabolize them and work through them. And it makes me think of res, menkin talks about dirty pain versus clean pain, and I think dirty pain is just like, this hurts. I'm going to avoid it. And just disconnect and dissociate clean pain is like this hurts and I'm going to press into it and I'm going to see what it can teach me and how I can grow into a stronger, more mature person through this process.Danielle (36:16):Man, that sounds like some good work you could do with somebody. I think the thing about therapy, coming back to what you said at the beginning is I think we want a quick answer. We want, we want to go to a retreat, we want to show up at the gym. In my case, I go to the gym often. We want to go somewhere, we want to feel like we did it, we accomplished it. And often at the gym, I can hear my coaches are saying just little steps. Every week and above doing lots of weight, it's showing up as much as you can, being consistent. And I kind of hear that in a little bit of what you're saying. It's not like getting to the end right away. It's tracking your body and the sensations and showing up for yourself even in that way.Jenny (37:08):And I think even like that, I love that analogy. I often say relationships are like muscles. They're only as strong as the ruptures that they can handle. And stronger muscles have had more and more and more and more ruptures. We build muscle through tearing and rebuilding. And I think that that's the same with relationship too. But if we've never torn, then we're so afraid of what's going to happen. If there is a rupture,Danielle:I don't know that we're going to heal that, but someone recently said the system is collapsing. It really is. It's coming down on itself. And I think really it's going to come down to the work that you talked about at the beginning, however people are choosing to see it. But one way you talked about it was that monochromatic lens and adding a lens, adding a lens. And I do think the challenge for all of us, even to form something new, whether that means new government, I don't know what it means, but just even a new way of being together set the government aside. It means really forming, adding lenses to ourselves. Jenny, I hope you're coming back to talk to me again.It's okay. Where can they find your stuff? Tell me.Jenny (38:42):Yeah, so I'm on Instagram at indwell movement, and then my website is indwell movement.com. So find me at either of those places, email me, reach out, send a message, would love to connect.Danielle (38:59):Okay, cool. Well, that's a wrap on this episode. If you can share, download, subscribe, tune into what we're talking about. But more important, have a conversation with a friend, a colleague, a neighbor, challenge your therapist, challenge your family. Don't forget to keep talking. And at the end of the show notes are resources, just some resources. They aren't the end all, be all of resources, but I'm putting 'em in there because I want you to know it's important to do resourcing for ourselves. As always, thank you for joining us, and at the end of the podcast are notes and resources, and I encourage you to stay connected to those who are loving in your path and in your community. Stay tuned.  Crisis Resources:Kitsap County & Washington State Crisis and Mental Health ResourcesIf you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call 911.This resource list provides crisis and mental health contacts for Kitsap County and across Washington State.Kitsap County / Local ResourcesResource Contact Info What They OfferSalish Regional Crisis Line / Kitsap Mental Health 24/7 Crisis Call Line Phone: 1‑888‑910‑0416Website: https://www.kitsapmentalhealth.org/crisis-24-7-services/ 24/7 emotional support for suicide or mental health crises; mobile crisis outreach; connection to services.KMHS Youth Mobile Crisis Outreach Team Emergencies via Salish Crisis Line: 1‑888‑910‑0416Website: https://sync.salishbehavioralhealth.org/youth-mobile-crisis-outreach-team/ Crisis outreach for minors and youth experiencing behavioral health emergencies.Kitsap Mental Health Services (KMHS) Main: 360‑373‑5031; Toll‑free: 888‑816‑0488; TDD: 360‑478‑2715Website: https://www.kitsapmentalhealth.org/crisis-24-7-services/ Outpatient, inpatient, crisis triage, substance use treatment, stabilization, behavioral health services.Kitsap County Suicide Prevention / “Need Help Now” Call the Salish Regional Crisis Line at 1‑888‑910‑0416Website: https://www.kitsap.gov/hs/Pages/Suicide-Prevention-Website.aspx 24/7/365 emotional support; connects people to resources; suicide prevention assistance.Crisis Clinic of the Peninsulas Phone: 360‑479‑3033 or 1‑800‑843‑4793Website: https://www.bainbridgewa.gov/607/Mental-Health-Resources Local crisis intervention services, referrals, and emotional support.NAMI Kitsap County Website: https://namikitsap.org/ Peer support groups, education, and resources for individuals and families affected by mental illness.Statewide & National Crisis ResourcesResource Contact Info What They Offer988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (WA‑988) Call or text 988; Website: https://wa988.org/ Free, 24/7 support for suicidal thoughts, emotional distress, relationship problems, and substance concerns.Washington Recovery Help Line 1‑866‑789‑1511Website: https://doh.wa.gov/you-and-your-family/injury-and-violence-prevention/suicide-prevention/hotline-text-and-chat-resources Help for mental health, substance use, and problem gambling; 24/7 statewide support.WA Warm Line 877‑500‑9276Website: https://www.crisisconnections.org/wa-warm-line/ Peer-support line for emotional or mental health distress; support outside of crisis moments.Native & Strong Crisis Lifeline Dial 988 then press 4Website: https://doh.wa.gov/you-and-your-family/injury-and-violence-prevention/suicide-prevention/hotline-text-and-chat-resources Culturally relevant crisis counseling by Indigenous counselors.Additional Helpful Tools & Tips• Behavioral Health Services Access: Request assessments and access to outpatient, residential, or inpatient care through the Salish Behavioral Health Organization. Website: https://www.kitsap.gov/hs/Pages/SBHO-Get-Behaviroal-Health-Services.aspx• Deaf / Hard of Hearing: Use your preferred relay service (for example dial 711 then the appropriate number) to access crisis services.• Warning Signs & Risk Factors: If someone is talking about harming themselves, giving away possessions, expressing hopelessness, or showing extreme behavior changes, contact crisis resources immediately.Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that. Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

On the front page of her website, the family therapist and psychologist B. Janet Hibbs quotes Kierkegaard's observation that “we live our lives forward, but understand them backwards.” But her coauthored You're Not Done Yet: Parenting Young Adults in an Age of Uncertainty seems to reverse that Kierkegaardian narrative. Many contemporary young Americans, Hibbs explains, are living their lives backwards by retreating home to live with their parents and surround themselves with all the certainties of their former childhood. It's an odd paradox that, in supposedly the most “advanced” country in the world, American kids are unlearning how to grow up. Parents, Hibbs tells us in her new book, should understand and welcome these adult-children back to their nests with open arms. But Hibbs, who sports an M.F.T. (Marriage Family Therapy) and the obligatory Ph.D, is part of that growing therapy-anxiety complex which, some might argue, are both the cause and beneficiary of our “age of uncertainty” (which is, of course, no more uncertain than any other age). Dr. B. Janet Hibbs is a recognized authority on family issues, with a focus on parent-child and partner relationships. Her speaking engagements draw on expert clinical experience, based on 30 years of practice treating individuals, couples, and families. She provides effective strategies for coping with the many issues–including stress–that parents and students face. Dually licensed as a psychologist and a family therapist, Dr. Hibbs holds the highest credential in the marriage and family therapy field, as an Approved Supervisor for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. She is a popular radio talk show guest, with appearances on NPR's Voices in the Family, Radio Times, and The Diane Riehm show. She has also made appearances and on national and regional TV. Dr. Hibbs has been quoted in national newspapers including The Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, and the Philadelphia Inquirer. Dr. Hibbs is also the recipient of the 2021 Psychologist in the Media Award from the Pennsylvania Psychological Association. She is co-founder of Contextual Therapy Associates, where she has a private practice in Philadelphia, PA. She and her husband have been married for over 30 years and have two sons.Named as one of the "100 most connected men" by GQ magazine, Andrew Keen is amongst the world's best known broadcasters and commentators. In addition to presenting KEEN ON, he is the host of the long-running How To Fix Democracy show. He is also the author of four prescient books about digital technology: CULT OF THE AMATEUR, DIGITAL VERTIGO, THE INTERNET IS NOT THE ANSWER and HOW TO FIX THE FUTURE. Andrew lives in San Francisco, is married to Cassandra Knight, Google's VP of Litigation & Discovery, and has two grown children.Keen On is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit keenon.substack.com/subscribe

Signe is joined by her co-author, Wendy Sterling, to talk about her latest book, give some insights into how she makes her writing routine work while raising a family, and working full time, the benefits of writing with co-authors, and more! Wendy is a registered dietitian with a Masters of Science in Nutrition Education from Teachers College, Columbia University. She is a Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and Approved Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals. Wendy is also a Board-Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics, she has consulted for the Oakland Athletics, Golden State Warriors, NY Jets, and NY Islanders, and she is the co-author of two eating disorder books: How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder, and How to Nourish Yourself Through an Eating Disorder, as well as two preventative books: No Weigh! and Raising Body Positive Teens. Wendy maintains a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area and is also seeing patients virtually throughout the country.  To learn more about Wendy, visit  www.sterlingnutrition.com.

Today, we answer a listeners' questions: 1) What are some ways to fight overeating and binge cycles? 2) What are some ways to learn how to trust yourself with what and how to eat, so you don't fall into the cycle of calorie counting and binge eating behaviours? We had a comprehensive and compassionate discussion with an expert and pioneer in the dietetics world on Eating Disorders. Sandra has been following this dietitian for many years and considers her a guru in eating disorder care. Shawna Melbourn, RD is a non-diet Registered Dietitian. She is a certified Intuitive Eating Counsellor. Approved Supervisor with International Association for Eating Disorders Professionals (CEDS-S). Shawna has been working with individuals and families for over two decades and has been educating fellow dietitians, and other healthcare providers on how to approach clients and patients living with an eating disorder. She works alongside a team of compassionate healthcare professionals in private practice in Ottawa, Canada As the incidence of eating disorders and disordered eating (within our society of diet culture) skyrocket, this discussion helps address some of the challenges and difficulties that individuals living with eating disorders live with on a daily basis. Shawna offers some strategies and practical tips. You can find more info about Shawna on her website www.edforrds.com Enjoying the show? Consider leaving a 5 star review (if you loved it!), and/or sharing this episode with your friends and family. Your support helps fuel the stoke and keeps the show going strong every week. Thanks! Don't forget to visit our social media pages as well. You can find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Website: www.mywifethedietitian.com Email: mywifetherd@gmail.com

In this episode, Erica Ross-Krieger interviews Rick Carson, psychologist and author of Taming Your Gremlin®: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way, and founder of The Gremlin Taming Institute. Listen in as Rick shares:• How to deal with overwhelm by managing your intention.• The Zen Theory of Change.• An overview of the Gremlin Taming Method and how it provides freedom from self-defeating behaviors and beliefs.• The power of Simply Noticing and the importance of practice.• A peek into the 2nd book, A Master Class in Gremlin Taming. Key Takeaways:• The Gremlin Taming Method is a form of directing your attention to your physical experience. Accentuating this is a key first step. It's “mindfulness” in action.• The breath can be both a barometer/indicator as well as a regulator.• Practicing the Gremlin Taming Method, breath to breath, helps us get out of our own way.• The Gremlin Taming Method is simple, but it's not necessarily easy.• We can find Rick Carson and his upcoming classes, on his website and his Facebook page. Connect with Rick Carson:Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/tamingyourgremlinWebsite: http://www.tamingyourgremlin.comEmail:  support@tamingyourgremlin.com Richard D. Carson, BioFor over four decades, Rick has been a practicing psychotherapist, personal/executive coach, seminar leader, and consultant to businesses, nonprofit organizations, several US government agencies, and more. He's conducted presentations at the behest of organizations in the US, Europe, and the Middle East.Rick Carson is the author of four HarperCollins books. His seminal work, Taming Your Gremlin®, has had a remarkable track record, having been a top seller for Harper since its publication in 1984. It has been translated into several languages, leading to a Revised Edition in 2003 and a sequel, A Master Class in Gremlin- Taming®, (HarperCollins 2008).Rick is a Clinical Member and Approved Supervisor for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, a former faculty member at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School, and founder of the Gremlin-Taming Institute.

What is interoceptive awareness and can it play a role in the development of eating disorders? What is interoceptive exposure and how can it be used in the treatment of eating disorders? In this podcast episode, Kate Fisch speaks with Dr. Melanie Smith about interoceptive exposure and awareness. She discusses how interoceptive exposure can help assist our clients and develop more effective treatments. MEET DR. MELANIE SMITH Melanie Smith, PhD, LMHC, CEDS-S, is the Director of Training for The Renfrew Center. In this role, she provides ongoing training, supervision and consultation to clinicians across disciplines for the purpose of continually assessing and improving competence in the treatment of eating disorders. Dr. Smith is co-author of The Renfrew Unified Treatment for Eating Disorders and Comorbidity Therapist Guide and Workbook (Oxford University Press), is a Certified Eating Disorders Specialist and Approved Supervisor, and is a Certified Therapist & Trainer for the Unified Protocol for the Transdiagnostic Treatment of Emotional Disorders (UP).  Visit Melanie Smith to find out more.   IN THIS PODCAST What is interoception? What is interoceptive awareness? How can we use interoceptive exposure to help clients? The brain and body image.   Where do we start in terms of interoception? “Let's start with interoception in and of itself. This is just our body's internal perception, so our bodily senses of what is happening inside our body.” Dr. Melanie Smith Our clients are always looking for as many tools as they can to treat their eating disorder clients. It is important for us, as therapists, to understand all the factors that can influence eating disorders… “When we think about eating disorder application; our ability to sense if I'm hungry, if I'm full, if my stomach doesn't feel good; all of that is what we're talking about when we're talking about interoception.” Dr. Melanie Smith   What then is interoceptive awareness? “Interoceptive awareness is the level to which we are consciously aware of the things happening inside our bodies.” Dr. Melanie Smith   It is important to understand what level of interoceptive awareness a client has and how they react to what is happening inside the body, because most of us, most of the time, shouldn't be (or aren't) noticing things such as our heart beating or ourselves breathing. “Heightened levels of interoceptive awareness also results in heightened anxiety about what is happening inside our body. So we might start to overthink it or overinterpret what it means.” Dr. Melanie Smith   How can we use interoceptive exposure to help clients?   “The ultimate goal with interoceptive exposure is to intentionally evoke those same unpleasant, uncomfortable sensations. So, we're going to allow ourselves to experience that emotion, allow it to rise, BUT allow it to fall and learn that this is actually something we can tolerate.” Dr. Melanie Smith   Interoceptive exposure seems to align with other methods and skills that we already understand as therapists or clinicians. If we were to think about Mentalizing, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or Dialectic Behavioral Therapy. “Those same principles are absolutely at work here, which is why I would suggest it as a wonderful adjunctive that could nicely coincide with any of those treatment approaches.” Dr. Melanie Smith   When was this developed and is there any current research into the method?   “The first places you'll see it in the literature as a proposed intervention, from an experimental standpoint, was back in the late 80s, maybe early 90s. But I think in the 80s specifically, it was proposed as a Cognitive behavioral exposure-based intervention for panic disorders.” “There's also a lot of really interesting evidence out there and people doing more trials with this with individuals with PTSD because when you think about trauma response and the way that trauma is held within the body, and that bodily reaction, you're not going to talk someone out of that. There have been really successful applications with other chronic illnesses and chronic pain.” Dr Melanie Smith   When talking to a family or talking to a client and trying to explain what is happening to us or to your brain start by explaining; You have your brain which is the organ which Neurologists take care of, and then you have your mind which is a little bit less tangible and it's what us therapists take care of. One of the issues that we have is that our civilization, which is backed by our minds, has actually evolved faster than our brains have so our brains get activated by perceived threat and still think tigers are chasing us. It's still our brain, that primitive Caveman Limbic system, deep in the depths of our primitive brain that is not aware that it's not a tiger. That's that overinterpretation of threat. When our brain is not aware that it is not a tiger. So it is still dropping all of those neurochemicals associated with running for your life. Now our minds are thinking; “there's not a tiger - so why is my heart beating this fast?”. My heart's beating that fast because my brain told it to because it thinks I'm running from a tiger.  There's something about that idea of separating the brain from the mind that really helps people understand that they're not defective. They're not doing something wrong, or their loved one isn't doing something wrong or isn't broken. In fact, you're the opposite of broken. Your brain is working magnificently, it's doing exactly what it's designed to do. Now our mind needs to override that brain part and that feels like such a good starting point.   “Those teaching examples and metaphors I think are so brilliant. I literally start with that one, usually the tiger. That's one of my teaching examples.” Dr. Melanie Smith   Let's talk about what this all looks like in a therapy room and any examples you may have. “All of the education kind of stuff we just talked about, you have to bring in the room with a client using language that is appropriate developmentally and, again, relationally; like it's not a science class but we are teaching them about science.” Dr Melanie Smith   It is clear that introspective exposure is a tool that therapists and clinicians can incorporate, but as a method of treatment, this is not something you're going to start off with. We need to get past certain stages in therapy and have foundational blocks before we move onto using interoceptive exposure with clients. This is a fascinating topic and Dr. Melanie Smith provides valuable insights, information and examples throughout the podcast. 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In this episode, we are joined by Logan Cohen, a dedicated Family Man and seasoned Marriage & Family Therapist. Logan's credentials include being a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), an Approved Supervisor with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a Level II Clinical Certified Trauma Professional (CCTP-II). He is also a published author, with his book "How to (Hu)Man Up in Modern Society: Heal Yourself & Save the World," released in 2021.During our conversation, Logan shares insights into finding the right therapist, when to seek therapy, and the various stages of the healing journey. Whether you're considering therapy for yourself or a loved one, Logan's expertise offers valuable guidance.Connect with Logan Cohen: -Website: https://www.logancohen.com/ -Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/healinghumanity777/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we have Logan Cohen, devoted Family Man to both two-legged and four-legged members, and a seasoned Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). Logan's accolades don't just end there! He's an Approved Supervisor with the AAMFT, a Level II Clinical Certified Trauma Professional (CCTP-II), and a beacon of hope in Charlotte, NC, leading a team of compassionate practitioners. We discuss a range of topics from his ground-breaking 2021 book, “How to (Hu)Man Up in Modern Society: Heal Yourself & Save the World" and on to personal struggles, the power of therapy when approached properly from all side and the idea of learning not just from one another but from the process itself.Lets jump in and see how you can create a more humane place for yourself in this world!

Kate Alcamo is a licensed clinical couple and family therapist and founder of Family Therapy Center of Bethesda who specializes in working with adolescents, young adults and adults with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, low self-worth, and challenges related to divorce. Kate also provides both parent and divorce coaching. Kate recently co-founded The Confidence Coaches with Allison Cohn of Cohn Counseling which provides unique group therapy experiences that foster growth and empowerment for people of all ages, genders, and abilities through participation in structured, out-of-office activities. Kate is a certified cognitive behavioral therapist for children and adolescents and is trained in EMDR. Kate is also a trained collaborative divorce professional. In addition to clinical work, Kate is active in the professional community. She is a Clinical & Founding Member of Metro MFT, and the current secretary on Montgomery County's Collaborative Divorce Resolution Professionals (CDRP) Board. She is also an Approved Supervisor.Learn more about Kate and her work - and don't forget to sign up for her newsletter!https://familytherapyllc.com/FB @familytherapycenterbethesdaInsta @familytherapycenterofbethesda--Get in touch by sending a message to robinsmithshow@gmail.com or by calling the hotline at +1 (301) 458-0883Listeners of The Robin Smith Show can now become a supporter on Patreonpatreon.com/therobinsmithshowJoin Team Robley on Kiva and help expand financial access to underserved communities

We dedicate this episode to our beautiful friends, colleagues, and loved ones who have died far too soon. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please text 988 to activate immediate support. Our special guest speaker Logan Cohen is so much more than a social media influencer. He is a proud Husband & Father (to both Human and “fur babies”), as well as a practicing Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), an Approved Supervisor with American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a Level II Clinical Certified Trauma Professional (CCTP-II). Logan has opted to share a bit of his story and how he became the world renowned therapist he is today with nearly 2 million followers online. Logan is known for sharing hard (therapeutic) truths to encourage accountability and authenticity to inspire people to become the change they wish to see in the world. We hope you invite your friend to listen to this episode, as it just may save a life. Don't forget to rate this episode on your fav podcast platform and subscribe on YouTube. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode, Erica Ross-Krieger interviews Rick Carson, psychologist and author of Taming Your Gremlin®: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way, and founder of The Gremlin Taming Institute. Listen in as Rick shares: • How to deal with overwhelm by managing your intention.• The Zen Theory of Change.• An overview of the Gremlin Taming Method and how it provides freedom from self-defeating behaviors and beliefs.• The power of Simply Noticing and the importance of practice.• A peek into the 2nd book, A Master Class in Gremlin Taming.  Key Takeaways:• The Gremlin Taming Method is form of directing your attention to your physical experience. Accentuating this is a key first step. It's “mindfulness” in action.• The breath can be both a barometer/indicator as well as a regulator.• Practicing the Gremlin Taming Method, breath to breath, helps us get out of our own way.• The Gremlin Taming Method is simple, but it's not necessarily easy.• We can find Rick Carson and his upcoming classes, on his website and his Facebook page.  Connect with Rick Carson:Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/tamingyourgremlinWebsite: http://www.tamingyourgremlin.comEmail: support@tamingyourgremlin.com  Richard D. Carson, BioFor over four decades, Rick has been a practicing psychotherapist, personal/executive coach, seminar leader, and consultant to businesses, nonprofit organizations, several US government agencies, and more. He's conducted presentations at the behest of organizations in the US, Europe, and the Middle East.Rick Carson is the author of four HarperCollins books. His seminal work, Taming Your Gremlin®, has had a remarkable track record, having been a top seller for Harper since its publication in 1984. It has been translated into several languages, leading to a Revised Edition in 2003 and a sequel, A Master Class in Gremlin- Taming®, (HarperCollins 2008).Rick is a Clinical Member and Approved Supervisor for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, a former faculty member at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School, and a founder of the Gremlin-Taming Institute.

Podcast Host: IG @josias_abriel . Special Guest Logan Cohen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Approved Supervisor for American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy, Certified Trauma Professional, Author & Social Media Influencer!!! Also check out more of Logan Cohen's platforms at… -www.LoganCohen.com -www.BalancedManPlan.com -TikTok & IG @HealingHumanity777

Kaye Frankcom – Author, Business Coach, Mentor, Approved Supervisor for psychologists in private practice, joins the podcast to share her wisdom on navigating being a business owner. You'll hear Kaye discuss her beginnings, as well as her journey towards becoming a coach and mentor. Kaye then shares her thoughts on communication and being open as a business owner, key observations she's made about private practice at the moment, plus her observations on the workforce as a whole. Topics covered on importance of communication, key observations on private practice, and her findings about the workforce as a whole: Not having barriers with your mindset, sharing and being open, and not being afraid to ask for help. Why private practice is in a state of flux, not just thinking about what you want as a business owner, but also what's required by clients and referrers, and questions about the NDIS. Importance of treating the workforce we have properly, remembering that you're the owner of your business, not just a “director”, why you need to plan to get what you want, and her concept of retirement. Resources Mentioned   Kaye's book Creating Impact: https://creatingimpact.com.au/ Connect with Kaye Frankcom Visit Kaye's Website  Connect with Kaye on LinkedIn  Follow Kaye on Instagram Connect with Nacre Consulting:  Join the Accelerator Mastermind  Complete the Allied Health Biz Quiz  Let's connect on Instagram  Follow us on Facebook  Let's connect on LinkedIn  Join our Facebook Group online community  More about The Private Practice Made Perfect Show:  The Private Practice Made Perfect podcast is a much loved conversation for those wanting to hear real life Australian Allied Health business stories, adventures and the occasional confession.  The outstanding guest list includes business owners and wonderful small business supporters such as accountants, marketers, bookkeepers, IT wizards, virtual assistants, lawyers and more.  As you know, it takes a village to run a business. Cathy gathers the tribe, captures the collective wisdom and conveniently delivers it to your earbuds.  All episodes are chatty, honest and practical… warning… we often stray from the topic, talk of wine and laugh loudly. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Listen to find out: what constitutes religious abuse, how to spot and heal small t trauma which can be cPTSD, how to break destructive programmed behavior and redefine your trauma responses. This episode is FULL of tips and tricks from licensed therapist Logan Cohen, so make sure to listen to the end and let us know if it was helpful. About Logan:Practicing Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), an Approved Supervisor with American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT, and a level 2 Clinical Certified Trauma Professional. Over the last 20 years in the field, he has dedicated his life's work to supporting community members who are seeking to improve their own health, happiness, and quality of life — even when healing from unresolved trauma and growing through painful transitions. As a practicing therapist, author & influencer, he shares these natural solutions with as many people as possible in order to help them do the same.Find Logan on Social MediaTikTok: @healinghumanity777Instagram:  @healinghumanity777YouTube:  @logancohen2906Websites: LoganCohen.comBalancedmanplan.comSupport ShelisePatreon: Patreon.com/cultstoconsciousnessVenmo @sheliseannAny donations are welcome and appreciated to support the making of this podcastFind Shelise on Social media!Instagram @cultstoconsciousnessHost Instagram @sheliseannTikTok @cults.to.consciousnessTwitter @cultstoconTheme Song Produced and Composed by Christian Guevara**Disclaimer: Thanks for joining us at Cults to Consciousness. This storytelling podcast is meant to be for entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for medical advice. We may discuss triggering topics and we ask that you make your personal mental health a priority. Lastly, the opinions of our guests do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the host.**

What better way to kick off Season 2 AND National Body Acceptance Week than an episode on raising body-positive teens? In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won't Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith sit down with Wendy Sterling to discuss how diet and nutrition are central to raising healthy teens. Wendy is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and Board Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. This episode offers a wealth of information to listeners who are interested in learning more about disordered eating, body image, relationship with food, and nutritional needs during adolescence.  TIMESTAMPS [00:00] Intro [00:59] Introducing special guest, Wendy Sterling [03:19] Let's talk about disordered eating [08:00] How do you approach someone who you suspect may be struggling with disordered eating? [12:31] Nutritional needs during adolescence [19:00] Societal and cultural influences around body image [22:10] The goal is to become awake and aware [26:34] Supplements [30:23] Nutrition for athletes [34:19] Addressing concerns in terms of behavior [37:54] Ending on a snacky note [44:03] Outro LINKS Sterling Nutrition The Plate-by-Plate Approach® Wendy Sterling on IG Books: Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Reestablishing a Healthy Relationship with Food No Weigh! A Teen's Guide to Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom Herrera Educational Consulting Village Coaches Sh*t Your Teenagers Won't Tell You website

Today on Explorations in Psychotherapy, we are so happy to welcome Dr. Arthur Mones.  Dr. Mones is a Diplomate in Clinical Psychology with over three decades of experience as a therapist, teacher, and clinical supervisor. He is on the faculty of the Adelphi University Derner Institute Postgraduate Training Program in Couples Therapy. Previously, he served as Coordinator of Marriage and Family Therapy Training in the Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology at St. John's University, and was a faculty member of the Long Island Institute for Psychoanalysis and Psyhchotherapy. He is an Approved Supervisor of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and is a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist. His publications include Transforming Troubled Children, Teens, and Their Families: An Internal Family Systems Model for Healing, and the KidsWorld Psychotherapeutic Board Game along with a Therapist's Guide to KidsWorld. He offers Workshops and Consultation Groups on The Essence of Emotional Healing.  Today, we will be speaking with him about his most recent book, The Essence of Healing: A Quest for a MetaModel of the Psychotherapy of Trauma, published in 2021.

Brooke Butler, RD, CEDRD-S How to understand goal weight (including transgender) Growth Charts are vital It all comes back to fear – “I'm afraid my kid will relapse, I'm afraid we're pushing them too hard” – the relapse factor is much more prevalent if we leave them at a weight that is not appropriate for their body. The eating disorder places a lot of distress on the number Body distress is inverse – body distress can decrease when well-weight is achieved and maintained Depriving them of that potential for decreased body distress if we leave them at that weight. Blind vs open weight and the CARES Act Subtypes for ARFID described, including ARFID+ Distress tolerance skills no matter what the diagnosis Hierarchy and hands on exposure work with the dietitian in the inpatient setting Meal plan reflects safe foods then build up ERC has a course for parents on technology – kids and teens have sort of an “addiction” to technology “I wish I had known to seek out more information on EDs –dietitian training was focused on obesity”   This episode is sponsored by: Eating Recovery Center & Pathlight Mood & Anxiety Center   Brooke's Seasonings: Seek supervision and putting the minds together with other providers  Obtaining growth charts are vital Eating Disorders are everywhere in general hospital settings   Bio: Brooke Butler is the Nutrition Manager for the Child and Adolescent Program at Eating Recovery Center in Denver, CO. She received her bachelor's degree in Dietetics from the University of Central Missouri in Warrensburg, Missouri and completed her dietetic internship at Miami Valley Hospital in Dayton, Ohio. Brooke was a clinical dietitian for three years at the University of Missouri's Hospital, where she specialized in providing medical nutrition therapy for general medicine and psychiatry patients, which included patients with eating disorders. Brooke has been at Eating Recovery Center since October 2013, and has found her calling helping children, adolescents, and families in moving away from disordered eating, the diet mentality and placing "good" or "bad" labels on food. Brooke is an active member of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and holds their Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor credentials. She is a founding member of the Denver chapter of the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians. In her free time, Brooke enjoys all the outdoor activities Colorado has to offer, is a huge board game aficionado, and is on a mission to tour all the State Capitols.  With your host Beth Harrell

What is the “Freshman 15”? Where did this belief come from? Why do people care and talk about it so much? How to honor your body when it changes? Bodies change all the time but how do we cope? Dietitian and Eating Disorder Specialist Megan Kniskern is on the podcast today answering all these questions and giving some practical advice for first-year students and beyond! Megan A. Kniskern MS, RD, LD/N, CEDS-S Megan has committed the past 15 years of her career to learning, educating, and evolving the dietetics space by providing eating disorder support, weight-inclusive nutrition care, and overall healing of food and body dysfunction through a mental health, whole-person nutrition therapy approach. She is the owner of MAK Nutrition Services, LLC based in Phoenix, AZ, providing nutrition therapy for eating disorder struggles, professional supervision, who has worked at all levels of care and provided nutrition advisory board services to treatment centers' nutrition and culinary programs. Megan is a Senior Lecturer at Arizona State University (teaching since 2014) and is a Certified Eating Disorder Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). She is the current Past Chair for the Behavioral Health Nutrition DPG through the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics and currently serves as the Ambassador Coordinator for the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians (IFEDD). Megan's strengths are working with complex trauma, long-term eating disorder struggles, along with her passion for providing RDs supervision in the areas of eating disorders, substance use disorders and mental health care practices. Links Mentioned in the Show: Megan's Private Practice Megan on Instagram Additional Resources: Blog about "Freshman 15" from Mindful Eating with Dr. May Production Thanks: Thank you for listening we are Nutrition Navigators, a program at Campus Health, in Health Promotion, here at the University of Arizona. Our mission is to have students navigate nutrition and have a healthy relationship with food and body. Please consider leaving us a rating & review to help others find our show, or share with friends! Please let us know how we can better serve you and take our short SURVEY!!! Thanks for listening and Be Well Wildcats!! Connect with Campus Health and send us your feedback! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube We are sponsored by Campus Health, Health Promotion and Preventive Services!

Watch Along On YouTubeAre you tired of feeling like you have to live up to society's expectations of what it means to be a man? Do you feel like you're not allowed to express your emotions or be yourself? Logan Cohen is here to help you fight back against those traditional values that hold you back."Toxic masculinity" is a term that gets thrown around a lot, but often without the male perspective. In this week's episode of Therapy Talks we chat with Logan Cohen who aims to change that, and help you to understand and reframe the term in a way that is helpful to you. We address the social and cultural expectations of men that can often be repressive and stifling. Logan Cohen is a highly experienced Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) who has dedicated his life's work to supporting people through difficult transitions. He is an Approved Supervisor with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and has over 20 years of experience in the field.Find Out More About Logan:Website: https://www.balancedmanplan.com Tiktok: @healinghumanity777 Learn More About Switch Research:Website: https://switchresearch.org/Instagram: @switchresearchDisclaimer: Therapy Talks does NOT provide medical services or professional counseling, and it is NOT a substitute for professional medical care.

Wendy Sterling, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Board-Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. She has consulted for the Oakland Athletics, Golden State Warriors, NY Jets, and NY Islanders. Her newest book, A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image, just came out this past March 2022. In this episode, we chat about: The difference between an eating disorder and disordered eatingFactors that play into the development of eating disorders How eating disorders are diagnosedIs there any particular sport or population that is at a greater risk of disordered eating and eating disorders? Differences in eating disorders between males and femalesWhat can an athlete do if they think they have an eating disorder? Wendy's plate by plate approachCheck out Wendy's website at: www.sterlingnutrition.com. Follow her on Instagram at @wendy_sterling and @platebyplateapproach   or  Twitter: @WendyMSRD. Follow Natalie @greenletes or visit www.greenletes.com  

Dr. Laura is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, Professor of Psychology, and an Approved Supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and recently completed her PhD in Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University with her research focusing on the experience of living in a healing body after sexualized violence and trauma.In 2019 while in the process of her own healing journey, Dr. Laura co-founded the Religious Trauma Institute with the hope of educating clinicians, coaches, and other healers as well as advocating for victims of religious trauma. In 2021 Dr. Laura founded the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery in 2021.In This EpisodePeter Levine, PhDJanina Fisher, PhDThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

Signe is joined by her two co-authors, Dr. Shelley Aggarwal and Wendy Sterling to talk about their newly released book Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image. They talk about the importance of taking the morality out of movement, morality attached to weight, and how it seeps into medical care, what sleep has to do with sport performance and Shelley gets up close and personal as she reflects on the writing process for this book as a first generation immigrant who grew up in a taller/larger body. Wendy Sterling, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals, and a Board-Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the San Francisco Bay Area. She has consulted for the Oakland Athletics, Golden State Warriors, NY Jets, and NY Islanders. She is also the co-author of How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder.  Shelley Aggarwal is a physician and is a board-certified Pediatrician and Adolescent Medicine Sub-Specialist. She treats medically complex teens and young adults, and consults on a variety of youth-specific health issues including adolescent development. Dr. Aggarwal has worked with premiere academic institutions and continues to be teaching faculty with Stanford Children's Health and UCSF-Fresno. She is the Medical Director of clinics serving justice involved youth. To learn more about Wendy, visit: http://sterlingnutrition.com, and follow her on instagram @wendy_sterling. To learn more about Shelley visit: https://www.signedarpinian.com/books.

Therapist & Author Chris A. Matthews discusses how his childhood experiences inspired the work he does today, guiding people with relationship issues to solutions, supporting individuals with various addictions, why men can be reluctant to attend couples counselling or therapy plus much more… Chris Info: Chris A. Matthews is based in Charlotte, North Carolina USA. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, (LMFT), Licensed Clinical Addiction Specialist, (LCAS), Certified Clinical Supervisor (CCS) and Approved Supervisor for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Chris holds both a Master of Science degree in Organizational Leadership and a Master of Arts degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Website: www.chrisamatthews.com LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/chrisamatthews Social Media Links: https://qrco.de/bcoHo3 Book: Finding Your Relationship Fix: The Four Reasons Couples Seek Counseling https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Your-Relationship-Fix-Counseling/dp/1736921665 For more information regarding Chris please contact Double XXposure Media @ angelo@dxxnyc.com

Douglas Flemons, PhD is Professor Emeritus of Couple and Family Therapy at Nova Southeastern University in Fort Lauderdale, FL, where, for over 30 years, he offered team-based live supervision and taught graduate courses on hypnosis and meditation, systems thinking, brief therapy, writing, suicide, and sex therapy. A licensed MFT and an AAMFT Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor, Dr. Flemons is the author of The Heart and Mind of Hypnotherapy, as well as an earlier book on hypnosis and brief therapy (Of One Mind); co-editor of three editions of Quickies: The Handbook of Brief Sex Therapy; and co-author of Relational Suicide Assessment. He has also written books about systemic therapy and Eastern philosophy (Completing Distinctions) and academic writing (Writing Between the Lines). Flemons presents nationally and internationally on hypnotherapy and meditation, empathy, brief therapy, sex therapy, suicide prevention, and suicide assessment. From 1993 to 2019, he offered an (almost) annual 50-hour hypnosis intensive for clinicians; he now teaches it online. In 2020, Flemons relocated with his wife and colleague, Dr. Shelley Green, to Asheville, NC, where they maintain a telehealth-based private practice for clients in Florida and North Carolina. In 2021, the American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis presented him with the Milton H. Erickson Award for Scientific Excellence in Writing on Clinical Hypnosis for his article, “Toward a Relational Theory of Hypnosis,” published in Volume 62(4). More information about Dr. Flemons can be found at www.contextconsultants.com.

Today my guests and I are discussing Internal Family Systems ( IFS), how we were introduced to the model, what we've learned about ourselves because of IFS, how it impacts our lives and relationships, and how IFS has given us the language to communicate our pain, and what it means to be a Black woman and Black therapist in the IFS community. Crystal R. Jones, LCSW is a proud graduate of Howard University and member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. She has over 18 years of clinical experience working as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with families, children, and adults. She is a certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, Approved Supervisor, and an IFS Assistant Trainer Mentee. She is the founder of the group private practice, Life Source Counseling Center, Inc in Fredericksburg, VA. Crystal works compassionately and collaboratively with women from all walks of life to create healing from trauma, identify healthy coping strategies, and increase self-compassion. She is also passionate about creating safe spaces and common for BIPOC women to feel connected, heard, seen, and valued. Andrieah Johnson, LMHC is a licensed mental health counselor owner of Connected Conversations Counseling, L.L.C. Jacksonville, FL. She supports black women who are struggling with unresolved trauma that manifests as perfectionism and people-pleasing. Requina Barnes, LICSW is Certified IFS Therapist and has been in the field of social work for over 18 years. She has a small private practice and works with adults and couples focusing on attachment, codependency, relationship challenges and trauma. She practices from an IFS lens with her clients. She is an adjunct professor and teaches social work classes. She loves spending time with her family, friends, traveling and journaling. To learn more about Crystal visit Life Source Counseling Center To connect with Andrieah via Connected Conversations on Instagram  To reach out to Andrieah for coaching visit her at Andrieah Zelina on Instagram To follow Requina on Instagram visit Strength, Inc.

Do you have a roadmap for defining a good relationship with your partner? At its core, we all want and long for secure adult attachment. That's when partners have total trust in each other, which creates a safe haven knowing that your partner will always stand by you no matter what. This episode of Therapist Unplugged has it all! Hear more on how infidelity, the birth of a first child, and chronic illness can create attachment wounds that couples struggle to address. You will learn what takes couples under, how families influence the way we connect with our partners, how the blame game contributes to a crazy dance, and why giving language to emotions is essential for a closer connection. This episode is for couples and therapists alike!  Our host, Laurie Poole, welcomes Connie Cornwell, MA. Connie has over 30 years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, and Approved LMFT & LPC Supervisor. She is a Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and a Member of the American Family Therapy Academy. Connie is the Senior Supervisor at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center Family Studies Center in the Department of Psychiatry. She trains and supervises interns, psychiatry residents, and medical students. Therapist Unplugged is brought to you by The Montfort Group. Each episode will feature the unplugged views of guests and fellow therapists as we navigate hot topics, therapy trends and the world around us. *The Montfort Group provides a serene, calming setting where you can feel challenged, supported, and motivated. Our skilled therapists bridge specialized backgrounds and varied philosophies together to create one unified strategy. Rather than steer you away from your own natural abilities, we help you maximize your unique strengths. We do not view a broken history as the end of a story, we see it as an opportunity for a new beginning.

Letter -Dear Doctor, don't talk to my child about weight   Tips for the Holidays  Why can't this doctor use the “O” word  Ellyn Satter's work, “Child of Mine”  Doc-talk during a pandemic is about weight gain, but missing the talk about the massive increase in eating disorders and lack of hospital access  Trauma-informed care training – the bottom-up, nervous system and how trauma resides in the body.  Mealtime hostage  Skye Van Zetten https://mealtimehostage.com/  EPE extreme picky eating  Virginia Sole smith Burnt toast blog https://virginiasolesmith.substack.com/about  Reagan Chastain – https://danceswithfat.org/ Dealing with Fatphobia at the Holidays    Anna Lutz, RD, CEDRD-S  Bio:  Anna Lutz is a Registered Dietitian with Lutz, Alexander & Associates Nutrition Therapy in Raleigh, NC. She specializes in eating disorders and pediatric/family nutrition and provides clinical supervision to other dietitians. Anna received her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from Duke University and Master of Public Health in Nutrition from The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) and an Approved Supervisor, both through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). Anna previously worked at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, DC, and Duke University Student Health, treating individuals with eating disorders. She has completed extensive training through the Embodied Recovery Institute and strives to provide her clients trauma and somatically informed care. Anna is a national speaker and delivers workshops and presentations on eating disorders, weight-inclusive healthcare, and childhood feeding. She also writes and talks about nutrition and family feeding, free of diet culture, on her blog, Sunny Side Up Nutrition, and her podcast, Sunny Side Up Nutrition Podcast.  https://sunnysideupnutrition.com/      Katja Rowell M.D Katja Rowell M.D. is a family doctor, author, and responsive childhood feeding specialist. Described as “academic, but warm and down to earth,” she is a popular speaker and has appeared in numerous publications. Katja has developed an expertise in anxious and avoidant eating (including ARFID), food preoccupation, and supporting foster and adopted children. Katja is a co-founder and part of a multidisciplinary team behind ResponsiveFeedingPro.com, a digital online learning platform for professionals working with children and families around food. She's also on the SPOON adoption nutrition advisory board. Her books include: Helping Your Child with Extremely Picky Eating: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Selective Eating, Food Aversion, and Feeding Disorders, Love Me, Feed Me, and Conquer Picky Eating: a Workbook for Teens and Adults. Learn more about Katja at The Feeding Doctor.  https://responsivefeedingpro.com/    IG -@KatjaRowellMD  With your host Beth Harrell Follow Beth on Instagram

Wendy Sterling, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Board Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. She specializes in sports nutrition, eating disorders, and utilizes a non-diet, Health at Every Size® approach in her practice. Wendy maintains a private practice in the Menlo Park and Los Altos. She is now seeing clients virtually throughout the country. Wendy is a co-author of “How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder:  A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Reestablishing a Healthy Relationship with Food.” She and her colleague Casey Crosbie created the innovative approach to refeeding called the “Plate-by-Plate Approach®,” a no-numbers, visual approach, which has been featured in the Journal of Nutrition and Dietetics in an article entitled , “The Use of the Plate-by-Plate Approach for Adolescents Undergoing Family-Based Treatment.”  For tips, support and encouragement on building good plates for nutrition rehabilitation for the treatment of eating disorders, follow on instagram: @platebyplateapproach and @wendy_sterling! She is also the co-author of, “No Weigh! A Teen's Guide to Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom,” a book co-written by an adolescent doctor, therapist, and herself as the dietitian for teens about their changing bodies, hormones, emotions, and tips for improving sleep, body image, and their relationship with food. Her forthcoming book, “Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image,” publishes March 2022.Wendy has been the Team Nutritionist of the Oakland Athletics from 2016 through the 2021 season.  She has consulted for the Golden State Warriors, New York Jets  (2006-2013), NY Islanders, and Hofstra University's. Wendy is part of the United States Olympic Committee Sports Dietitian Registry. She works closely with competitive athletes in order to enhance sports performance and gain a competitive edge.Episode Details:The Plate by Plate ApproachHow is it different?Alternate versionsWhere are the flaws in this concept?Who uses the Plate by Plate ApproachWhat does this solve?What other benefits have you seen come from this approach? Within families? Healing?Eating disorders in professional sports / general popFood fearsAthletes eating on a rest dayOver and underconsumption How eating more can help you reach your goalsRest/Sleep impact of eating habitsWhat society needs to do as a WHOLE Quick points:Helpful snacks - What is a good snack?Minimizing cravings or are you just hungry?GO TO - Supplements 

You can't fix everyone! Wendy Sterling shares incredible advice for dietitians working with eating disorders in sport. Wendy talks all about the plate by plate approach, biggest mistakes dietitians make when working with eating disorders, and the value of networking! Wendy Sterling, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Board-Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. She has consulted for the Oakland Athletics, Golden State Warriors, NY Jets, and NY Islanders. She is the co-author of How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder, No Weigh! A Teens Guide to Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom and the forthcoming, Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image. She maintains a private practice and is now seeing patients virtually. For more on her practice, check out her website at: www.sterlingnutrition.com. Follow her on Instagram at @wendy_sterling and @platebyplateapproach or Twitter: @WendyMSRD. This episode is sponsored by Momentous! Check out their website at livemomentous.com and use the code RDSNIPPETS at checkout for 20% your order of $40 or more!

Wendy Sterling, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Board Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. She specializes in sports nutrition, eating disorders, and utilizes a non-diet, Health at Every Size® approach in her practice. Wendy maintains a private practice in Menlo Park and Los Altos, California. Wendy is a co-author of “How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Reestablishing a Healthy Relationship with Food.” She and her co-author Casey Crosbie, RD, CEDRD-S created the innovative approach to refeeding called the “Plate-by-Plate Approach®,” a no-numbers, visual approach, which has been featured in the Journal of Nutrition and Dietetics.  Wendy is also the co-author of, “No Weigh! A Teen's Guide to Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom,” a book co-written by an adolescent doctor, therapist, and herself as the dietitian for teens about their changing bodies, hormones, emotions, and tips for improving sleep, body image, and their relationship with food. Wendy has been the Team Nutritionist of the Oakland Athletics since 2016. She has consulted for the Golden State Warriors, New York Jets (2006-2013), NY Islanders, and Hofstra University's Women's Lacrosse and Volleyball teams, where she worked directly with players to improve endurance, speed and explosiveness.  We discuss topics including: The struggles for kids and teens over the pandemic The importance of families being together at meals The home should be a place of safety Not using exercise as a reward Parents working on their own relationship with food and movement _____________________ If you have any questions regarding the topics discussed on this podcast, please reach out to Robyn directly via email: rlgrd@askaboutfood.com You can also connect with Robyn on social media by following her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn. If you enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and subscribe. Visit Robyn's private practice website where you can subscribe to her free monthly insight newsletter, and receive your FREE GUIDE “Maximizing Your Time with Those Struggling with an Eating Disorder”. For more information on Robyn's book “The Eating Disorder Trap”, please visit the Official "The Eating Disorder Trap" Website. “The Eating Disorder Trap” is also available for purchase on Amazon.

Amanda Mellowspring, MS,RD/N,CEDRD-S trains professionals who are seeking Approved Supervisor status for the CEDS. She shares her supervision style with us, including how she taps into the ‘it' factor of her supervisees and stated the way she learned best is through case collaboration with therapists and medical providers and multidisciplinary webinars (even though ‘we still have to work and can't webinar all day'  DARN!)   Amanda runs a farm with lavender and bees (and more) and answers Abbi's reflection that supervision for eating disorders care can feel like a BEAST.   Resources highlighted by Amanda:   Anita Johnston's Eating in the light of the moon book.  “Health Food Junkie” Dr Bratman Bio Amanda is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals with over 15years of experiencing leading the treatment of eating disorders at various levels of care. Amanda currently serves on the Certification Committee for IAEDP and co-authored the publication defining the Standards of Practice and Standards of Professional Performance for RDs working with eating disorders in the Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. Amanda is Vice President of Nutrition Services for Monte Nido & Affiliates, overseeing nutrition programming and services for Monte Nido programs, Oliver-Pyatt Centers, and Clementine programs across the country.   With your host Beth Harrell Follow Beth on Instagram  

There's nothing we love more here at Time to Heal than an amazing Renaissance woman! This week Emily talks to Brittany Cephas, a psychotherapist in Columbia MD about the nuts and bolts and healing benefits of therapy! But Brittany wears a lot of hats, too. She's a mother, an author, an entrepreneur to name a few, and we talk about her other roles and interests as well. Check out her website: https://grow-minds.com/ Check out her book, "Dear Parents, Here's your Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy and Happy Children": https://www.lulu.com/shop/brittany-cephas/dear-parents/paperback/product-24284819.html?page=1&pageSize=4 Check out her line of organic hair prodcuts Jordynn Primrose: www.jordynnprimrose.com ____________________________________ Thanks as always to Jesse Blake Rundle for the amazing music!! Check out his website here: www.jesseblakerundle.com Thanks also to my dear and talented friend Erin Drew for her strategic help thinking through and writing parts of this podcast. Check out her company, On Brand Voice for innovative copywriting and voiceover solutions! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/emily-iannuzzelli/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/emily-iannuzzelli/support

Israela Meyerstein MSW, author of Bridge to Healing: Finding Strength to Cope with Illness and Miracle Nation: Seventy Stories about the Spirit of Israel Israela Meyerstein, LCSW-C, has been helping families, couples, and individuals for forty years, treating a variety of problems and situations, including parenting and family relationships, couples issues, coping with separation, divorce, and remarriage, medical illness, fetal loss, spirituality, and healthy personal coping. In private practice since 1978, she was recognized in 2001 as a leading mental health professional by Baltimore Magazine. Israela completed her MSW degree in 1973 from Columbia University School of Social Work, followed by a Third Year Fellowship in Social Work at the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston, Texas, where she was later appointed Faculty Associate in the Division of Community and Social Psychiatry of the Medical School. As an Approved Supervisor in the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, Ms. Meyerstein directed a Family Therapy Training Program at Sheppard Pratt Hospital from 1986-1998. She has trained hundreds of professionals of varied disciplines, and has taught Family Therapy in college and graduate level programs. Israela co-founded the Baltimore Jewish Healing Network. Together with Rabbi Gila Ruskin, she co-led Spiritual Study/Discussion Groups for those struggling with medical illness. Ms. Meyerstein has authored thirty published articles on couples and family therapy, spirituality, medical illness, remarriage, and therapist training.      "Bridge to Healing: Finding Strength to Cope with Illness" is also available in Hebrew translation: Gesher Lemarpeh: Metziat Koach Lehitmoded im Machalah https://www.miracle-nation.com/ ​Learn more about Dr. Bernie here:  http://berniesiegelmd.com/

The SeasonED RD is a podcast for all professionals in the field of eating disorders who want a “one-stop-shop” for the resources, the people, and the connections that matter.  Whether you are newly seasoned (intern, student or newer professional in the field) or well seasoned, this podcast is for you. Let's learn together! Beth Harrell Beth provides expert supervision and consultation for nutrition professionals who navigate the challenges of working with those with eating disorders or disordered eating. Whether you are an RD who is newer to the practice of working with disordered eating, or are a seasoned RD or CEDRD, Beth will skillfully guide you through your tough cases.  If you are pursuing Certification as an Eating Disorders specialist, as an iaedp™-Approved Supervisor, Beth can guide you through your ED cases and sign off on your supervision/consultation hours. Professional Organizations Invited Expert for Show-Me ECHO for Eating Disorders  Missouri Governor's Eating Disorder Council –2013-current Association for Size Diversity and Health Body Balance Coalition – Board Member 2017-current MOEDA Kansas City Chapter — planning committee for Eating Disorder Awareness Walk 2015 iaedp™ (International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals) Director of Certification May 2017-present, Certification Review Committee, 2013-present IFEDD – International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians – Founding Member, 2012 Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics – member  1988-present Kansas City Dietetic Association – Nominating Committee 2016, Membership Chair 2000-2002,   Treasurer 2002-2004, Outstanding RD of the Year 2001 Behavioral Health Nutrition dietetic practice groups through the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics Licensed in Missouri and Kansas Abbi Brown Being a collegiate athlete and playing sports all of her life has given Abbi healthy respect for how nutrition plays a critical role in health and physical performance. As a registered dietitian, Abbi is passionate about helping others achieve their health and wellness goals at any stage in their life course.  My journey to Dallas began in January 2020. Prior to that, Kansas City was home for me. Abbi completed her bachelor's degree in Nutrition and Dietetics at Northwest Missouri State University where she played on the women's soccer team. After graduation, she was accepted into Iowa State University's distance dietetic internship, which she completed in Dallas. Among many valuable internship experiences, she was fortunate to spend several weeks at Lemond Nutrition. It was that rotation more than any other where she saw firsthand the life-changing impact that quality nutrition counseling results in and knew she wanted to develop deep expertise in this area.  In her free time, Abbi enjoys cooking, exploring Dallas's expansive food scene, and learning her way around the city as a dog walker.  With your host Beth Harrell Follow Beth on Instagram

In this episode, Mimi talks with NC locals and sisters, Anna Lutz, RD, and Louise Metz, MD about weight inclusive care in nutrition / dietetics and medical care. Anna Lutz is in private practice in Raleigh, NC and specializes in eating disorders and pediatric/family nutrition. Anna received her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from Duke University and Master of Public Health in Nutrition from The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) and an Approved Supervisor, both through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp).  Anna previously worked at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, DC and Duke Student Health, treating individuals with eating disorders. Anna has done extensive training through the Embodied Recovery Institute and strives to provide her clients trauma and somatically informed care. Anna is a national speaker and delivers workshops and presentations on eating disorders, weight-inclusive healthcare, and childhood feeding. She also writes and talks about nutrition and family feeding, free of diet culture, on her blog, Sunny Side Up Nutrition, and the Sunny Side Up Nutrition Podcast. Dr. Louise Metz is an Internal Medicine physician with expertise in the medical care of eating disorders. She is the owner of Mosaic Comprehensive Care, a medical practice in Chapel Hill, North Carolina offering weight-inclusive primary care for adults and adolescents of all genders. After receiving an undergraduate degree in Biology and Women's Studies at Duke University, she attended medical school at the University of North Carolina and completed her residency in Internal Medicine at the University of California at San Francisco. She has published research on heart disease in women, and has previously held academic positions at NYU's Bellevue Hospital and Duke Medical Center. Dr. Metz leads workshops and presentations on weight-inclusive medical care and eating disorders. She is committed to increasing access to inclusive and affirming medical care for all individuals.

Oliver Morgan, Ph.D. is Professor of Counseling & Human Services in the Panuska College of Professional Studies at the University of Scranton (Scranton, PA). Since joining the full time faculty at the University of Scranton in 1990, Dr. Oliver has taught a variety of courses in both undergraduate Human Services and graduate Clinical Mental Health Counseling programs. He has responsibility for shaping courses in Addiction Studies as well as in Marital and Family Counseling.  He served as Department Chair from 1997-2009. In the wider community Dr. Oliver began one of the first psychosocial oncology practices in Northeast Pennsylvania. For over ten years he and his colleagues and interns have served hundreds of patients struggling with cancer as well as their caretakers and loved ones. Dr. Oliver was honored as the second Leahy Faculty Fellow in his College during the years 2002-2004 and was the University’s CASE Professor Nominee in 2008. He is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pennsylvania (LMFT), Clinical Member (and former Approved Supervisor) of the American Association of Marital & Family Therapists, and a Master Addiction Counselor (MAC). EDUCATION He has had what can only be called a “diverse” education. He graduated from Fordham University (Magna cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa) with a Bachelor’s degree in English and Philosophy with a specialization in phenomenology. After a stint as a high school teacher (quite an education in itself!), he completed a Master of Divinity degree, followed by a Master’s in Marital and Family Therapy during which he had the great privilege of studying and working with Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, MD, one of the founders of family therapy. A few years later Dr. Oliver began and eventually completed a doctoral degree in Pastoral Psychotherapy at Boston University. PUBLICATIONS Dr. Oliver is the author of a new book, investigating the intersection of attachment theory, neuroscience, trauma and addiction:  Addiction, Attachment, Trauma, Recovery: The Power of Connection (WW Norton, 2019). He is also the editor/co-editor of five (5) other books, covering topics in Addiction Studies, Counseling & Spirituality, and Catholic Intellectual Thought. He has authored or co-authored ten (10) book chapters and proceedings, covering topics that include Addiction, Pastoral Care, Spirituality, and clinical practice.  And, has published more than twenty-five peer-reviewed articles in the same range of topics and subject-matter. SERVICE & LEADERSHIP ACTIVITIES At the University of Scranton, he has served in special institutional leadership roles as chair or co-chair on several University-wide task forces, including the Task Force on Student Lifestyles (incl alcohol abuse, sexuality, and HIV/AIDS prevention) and the Task Force on Corporate Mission and Identity. Sign up for 10% off of Shrink Rap Radio CE credits at the Zur Institute

Eating-disorders therapist Haica Rosenfeld joins us to discuss how her father’s binge eating and bariatric surgery affected her own relationship with food and body, strategies for responding to diet talk, the Stages of Change as they relate to anti-diet messaging, bringing HAES to Spanish-speaking communities, and so much more. Plus, in “Ask Food Psych,” Christy answers a listener question about why it’s considered harmful for someone who struggles with an eating disorder to lose weight, but not for their ED-free sibling to gain weight. Dr. Haica Rosenfeld is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorders Specialist and Approved Supervisor by the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals. She specializes in the treatment of Eating Disorders, Disordered Eating, Body Image Healing and has worked with clients at all stages of recovery for over 12 years. Haica has a passion and calling for helping those who struggle with disordered eating, chronic dieting, emotional overeating, and Binge Eating Disorder and believes in prioritizing health-promoting-behaviors without focusing on weight loss. Her work incorporates a non-diet and weight-inclusive approach to wellness and whole health, which aims to honor and nourish the mind, body and spirit. She believes in the power of Mindfulness, Self-Compassion and Body Appreciation practices, and is informed by Health at Every Size® (HAES®) and Intuitive Eating principles. Haica currently works in private practice and has an office in Aventura, FL. She offers in-person and Telehealth psychotherapy to residents of Florida, Vermont and Venezuela, her country of origin. She is dedicated to helping individuals heal their relationship with food, exercise, and their bodies, as well as disrupting the internalized messages they’ve received from diet culture. She also often offers group therapy, as she deeply believes in the healing power of community. Find her online at HaicaRosenfeld.com. If you're ready to break free from diet culture once and for all, come check out Christy's Intuitive Eating Fundamentals online course. Christy's book, Anti-Diet, is available wherever you get your books. Order online at christyharrison.com/book, or at local bookstores across North America, the UK, Australia, and New Zealand. Grab Christy's free guide, 7 simple strategies for finding peace and freedom with food, for help getting started on the anti-diet path. For full show notes and a transcript of this episode, go to christyharrison.com/foodpsych. Ask your own question about intuitive eating, Health at Every Size, or eating disorder recovery at christyharrison.com/questions.

What a gift! I am so lucky that Jassy has agreed to join me on my first podcast. Jassy is an AASECT, Board Certified Sex Therapist, AASECT, Approved Supervisor of Sex Therapy,Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts, Certified Sexuality Educator, and provides Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Levels 1 and 2. She has a wonderful perspective and a love for helping people grow. This Episode is about starting the conversation. Generating an understanding of where people are, ways to learn, fears that may prevent growth. I welcome your thoughts and questions. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/northampton-sex-therapy-llc-florence-ma/33955

In this episode, Erica Ross-Krieger interviews Rick Carson, psychologist and author of Taming Your Gremlin®: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way, and founder of The Gremlin Taming Institute.  Listen in as Rick shares: How to deal with overwhelm by managing your intention.The Zen Theory of Change.An overview of the Gremlin Taming Method and how it provides freedom from self-defeating behaviors and beliefs.The power of Simply Noticing and the importance of practice.A peek into the 2nd book, A Master Class in Gremlin Taming. Key Takeaways: The Gremlin Taming Method is form of directing your attention to your physical experience. Accentuating this is a key first step. It's “mindfulness” in action.The breath can be both a barometer/indicator as well as a regulator.Practicing the Gremlin Taming Method, breath to breath, helps us get out of our own way.The Gremlin Taming Method is simple, but it's not necessarily easy. We can find Rick Carson and his upcoming classes, on his website and his Facebook page.   Connect with Rick Carson: Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/tamingyourgremlinWebsite: http://www.tamingyourgremlin.comEmail:  support@tamingyourgremlin.com  Richard D. Carson, Bio For over four decades, Rick has been a practicing psychotherapist, personal/executive coach, seminar leader, and consultant to businesses, nonprofit organizations, several US government agencies, and more. He's conducted presentations at the behest of organizations in the US, Europe, and the Middle East.  Rick Carson is the author of four HarperCollins books. His seminal work, Taming Your Gremlin®, has had a remarkable track record, having been a top seller for Harper since its publication in 1984. It has been translated into several languages, leading to a Revised Edition in 2003 and a sequel, A Master Class in Gremlin- Taming®, (HarperCollins 2008).  Rick is a Clinical Member and Approved Supervisor for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, a former faculty member at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School, and founder of the Gremlin-Taming Institute. 

Thank you for listening, sharing, subscribing, rating & reviewing but most of all for feeling, learning and connecting, I'm so glad you're here. It is my honor to present my guest, Laura Anderson. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, Professor of Psychology, and an Approved Supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and am in the final stages of writing her dissertation and completing her PhD in Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University. She is an Abuse and Trauma Resolution Coach which allows her to see clients outside of the State of Tennessee. In 2019 she co-founded the Religious Trauma Institute with the hope of educating clinicians, coaches, and other healers as well as advocating for victims of religious trauma. https://www.lauraandersontherapy.com Religious Trauma Institute on IG Laura Anderson Therapy on IG This American Life Episode with Elna Baker about Mormon Bishop Interviews and the subsequent damage: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/661/but-thats-what-happened And I can be found at natalieque.com, TikTok.com/@natalie.que, instagram.com/natalieque, and Youtube Affirmations & Meditation Co

Anti-diet dietitian Anna Lutz joins us to discuss why it doesn’t make sense to provide both eating-disorder treatment and weight management, the influence of diet culture on parenting, how to provide structure for kids’ eating without creating restriction, managing picky eating, and so much more. Plus, weight-inclusive yoga teacher Rachel Estapa returns to give us an update on her experience of having and recovering from COVID-19 in a larger body. Anna Lutz is an Anti-Diet Registered Dietitian in Raleigh, NC with Lutz, Alexander & Associates Nutrition Therapy. She specializes in eating disorders and pediatric/family nutrition and sees clients locally and virtually. In addition to her clinical work, she writes about nutrition and family feeding, free of diet culture, at Sunny Side Up Nutrition along with Elizabeth Davenport. Anna received her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from Duke University and Master of Public Health in Nutrition from The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) and an Approved Supervisor, both through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). Anna provides trainings, workshops and clinical supervision to other clinicians on eating disorders, family feeding, and weight-inclusive healthcare. Find her online at SunnySideUpNutrition.com and LutzAndAlexander.com. Rachel Estapa, founder and CEO of More to Love, is passionate about empowering people to love and appreciate their bodies. Her own path to body acceptance began many years ago. After yo-yo dieting throughout her teenage years and into adulthood, Rachel took stock of her life and realized she wasn’t happy. Even when she reached her “goal weight,” she felt something was missing. That’s when she decided she would stop trying to change her body and instead she would focus on loving the body she has. Find her online at MoreToLoveYoga.com. Christy's book, Anti-Diet, is available wherever you get your books. Order online at christyharrison.com/book, or at local bookstores across North America, the UK, Australia, and New Zealand. Grab Christy's free guide, 7 simple strategies for finding peace and freedom with food, for some ideas of how to get started on the anti-diet path. If you're ready to break free from diet culture once and for all, come check out Christy's Intuitive Eating Fundamentals online course. Ask your own question about intuitive eating, Health at Every Size, or eating disorder recovery at christyharrison.com/questions. For full show notes and a transcript of this episode, go to christyharrison.com/foodpsych.

Want to know how you can build your connections across the country and take your practice to a new level? This episode with my guest Megan Kniskern, MS RD will inspire you to get involved either in your dietetic practice group or other organizations.   This is such a special episode because I get to share a conversation with my dear friend Megan Kinskern. You’ll hear our stories about how being a part of a dietetics organization skyrocketed our practices to the next level. After listening to this show we hope to inspire you to get involved either in your DPG or other communities and groups. I know for me personally, my time with Behavioral Health Nutrition was incredibly important, both personally and professionally. After 5+ years of working closely with amazing professionals across the country, I am honored to call so many of them my friends and know they feel the same way. #BHNFamily ABOU MEGAN KINSKERN, MS, RD, LD/N, CEDRD-S Megan is the owner of MAK Nutrition Services, LLC, the Senior Clinical Nutrition Advisor at ViaMar Health in West Palm Beach, Florida and a Lecturer at Arizona State University; teaching graduate and undergraduate nutrition, eating disorder and leadership courses. Megan is a Certified Eating Disorder Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). She is the current Past Chair for the Behavioral Health Nutrition DPG through the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics and the Ambassador Coordinator for the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians. Megan’s strengths are working with complex eating disorder clients, providing RDs supervision in the areas of eating disorders, substance use disorders and mental health, along with educating all over the country through a non-diet and Health at Every Size® lens, with the ultimate goal of helping everyone to improve their relationship to food and their bodies. [click_to_tweet tweet=" Find out what it means to be a part of a community & how support & accountability can ignite your practice w/ @MeganNutrition. @BHNDPG #RDchat #RDtobe #FearlessPractitioners" quote=" Find out what it means to be a part of a community & how support & accountability can ignite your practice w/ @MeganNutrition. @BHNDPG #RDchat #RDtobe #FearlessPractitioners"] TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: How giving your time back will ALWAYS pay you back 10-fold. Why working with a supervisor is like working with a guide in your professional career. The importance of knowing your values. MORE FROM MEGAN Website: makrd.com Connect with Megan on Twitter and Instagram Free Training to Grow Your Practice: After 12 years in private practice, I have learned so much and continue to learn! It takes a lot of hard work and dedication to get to turn your dream into a reality. Having a team or a coach when building something new can make a world of a difference! With this free 7-Day Video Training, I share with you what I have learned to build a real sustainable practice, so you can get started faster on your path to a dream private practice. You don't have to go it alone! Get instant access to this free training here! MORE FROM ADRIEN Resources for Your Practice Boss Club is Open! Schedule Your FREE 15 Min Fearless Steps Call Connect with Fearless Practitioners Instagram and Facebook Subscribe & Review on iTunes Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I encourage you to do that today, so you don't miss an episode. I’ll be adding an episodes each week and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes! Now if you’re feeling extra loving, I would be really grateful if you left me a review over on iTunes, too. I will be highlighting some of the reviews on future podcasts so be sure to listen and see if yours is featured. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!

I had a conversation with Laura Anderson, LMFT & PhD candidate and psychotherapist to talk about trauma. Trauma is a hot topic buzz word right now, especially as it relates to our very uncertain and changing world amidst the pandemic. Laura is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, Professor of Psychology and an Approved Supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and is in the final stages of writing her dissertation and completing her PhD in Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University.In this episode, we talk about what trauma is, the different types of trauma, what living healed means, and the steps to take towards trauma healing. It's a complete basic guide to peak your curiosity into the world of trauma and what trauma informed means.A breakdown of the episode in minutes: (06:10) Laura’s speciality as a psychotherapist + her research as a PhD candidate(13:07) Trauma terminology (24:00) Trauma informed person vs trauma informed clinician vs trauma trained(34:10) How to start the process of healing from unresolved trauma(37:10) Laura’s instagram following and why she started this page(40:39) Being a better trauma informed friend and how we can respond(48:10) Books that Laura is reading nowHonorable Mentions:Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by RoutledgeThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van ker Kolk, M.D.You can find Laura and learn more about her work on Twitter, Instagram, or her website.Don't forget to leave a rating and review on the podcast! Follow me on Instagram and tell me what you liked about the episode!

Josh welcomes Melanie Rogers to the Theater! • Here we are, two weeks into luuuv month and we’re sticking with our month long celebration and examination of love and relationships. This week’s guest is Melanie Rogers. Melanie is the founder of Come Alive Counseling here in Nashville. As a therapist, she loves inviting people to explore their own interior landscapes, challenging them to be intrigued with the bigger story being told in and through their lives. Melanie loves nothing more than to see her clients discovering, recovering, and living from their truest self.     If you’d like to see Melanie as a client, you can find her at www.comealivecounseling.com. • Time Codes! Get to know Melanie - 02:43 Movie Talk - 14:22  What have you learned from your clients? - 01:08:50 What’s something you do to take care of yourself? - 01:13:07 The Wrap Up - 01:58:24 • If you live in Tennessee and are interested in seeing Josh as a client, you can find him at www.mountsperocounseling.com. • Find Therapist Theater at: email: therapisttheater@gmail.com Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/therapistTHTR Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapisttheater Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TherapyTheater  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkh8_YV0CHyhbkYDfCzOMiA • • • • • • • • • Music from https://filmmusic.io “Screensaver” by Kevin Macleod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/) • Music from https://filmmusic.io “Scheming Weasel (faster version)” by Kevin Macleod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Wendy Sterling & Casey Crosbie (dynamic duo dietitians) share on PHIT for a Queen “How the Plate Method helps bring back the fun and enjoyment to eating and takes away the exactness. “ Avoiding “exactness” a hyper-focus around numbers. Eating doesn’t need to be number focused. Add back the fun and enjoyment of eating. The Plate Method fill the plate up and make sure all food groups are present. Aim for half the plate carbohydrate. Depending on their goals there may be different versions of the plate. Snacks vary according to their nutritional goals. It is important to incorporate variety each and every day! Does your plate make sense? It is easily understandable for all. The Plate Method helps to teach normalcy around food.   How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder   No Weigh   Available wherever books are sold, including Amazon. Follow me on social media! Instagram: @platebyplateapproach Facebook: The Plate by Plate Approach   Wendy Sterling, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Eating Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Board Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics in the Bay Area in California. She specializes in sports nutrition and eating disorders. Wendy maintains a private practice in Menlo Park and Los Altos, California.     Wendy is a co-author of “How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder:  A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Reestablishing a Healthy Relationship with Food.” She and her colleague Casey Crosbie created the innovative approach to refeeding called the “Plate-by-Plate Approach,” a no-numbers, visual approach, which has been featured in the Journal of Nutrition and Dietetics in an article entitled, “The Use of the Plate-by-Plate Approach for Adolescents Undergoing Family-Based Treatment.”  For tips, support and encouragement on building good plates for nutrition rehabilitation for the treatment of eating disorders, follow on Instagram: @platebyplateapproach.   She is also the co-author of, “No Weigh! A Teen’s Guide to Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom,” a book co-written by an adolescent doctor, therapist, and herself as the dietitian for teens about their changing bodies, hormones, emotions, and tips for improving sleep, body image, and their relationship with food.   Wendy has been the Team Nutritionist of the Oakland Athletics since 2016.   She has consulted for the Golden State Warriors, New York Jets  (2006-2013), NY Islanders, and Hofstra University’s Women’s Lacrosse and Volleyball teams, where she worked directly with players to improve endurance, speed, and explosiveness. Wendy has worked closely with the Menlo School since 2014, where she has developed a sports nutrition curriculum for the Athletics program and has consulted for the Santa Clara Aquamaids synchronized swim team. She is a Sports Performance Nutrition Consultant for a variety of Sports Agencies, where she helps athletes achieve peak performance prior to the NBA draft and NFL Combine.  Wendy is part of the United States Olympic Committee Sports Dietitian Registry. She works closely with competitive athletes in order to enhance sports performance and gain a competitive edge. Wendy worked at  The Healthy Teen Project, an intensive outpatient program and partial-hospitalization program for teens struggling with eating disorders, from 2014-2017. Wendy provided nutrition counseling to children and adolescents in the Eating Disorders Center at Cohen Children’s Medical Center of New York which is part of the NS-LIJ Health System from 2001-2011. There she worked as part of a multi-disciplinary team, evaluating and treating a spectrum of eating disorders and disordered eating. She has conducted research in the areas of amenorrhea, osteoporosis, and metabolism on adolescents with eating disorders and her publications can be found here.  Wendy has been on the Clinical Advisory Board of Project HEAL, a nonprofit organization created to aid in the funding for the treatment of eating disorders since it was created in 2008. Wendy received her B.S. in dietetics/nutritional sciences from Cornell University. She earned her Master’s Degree in Nutrition Education at Teacher’s College at Columbia University where she also completed her dietetic internship. Wendy is a former competitive dancer and All-American Cheerleader. Follow her on Instagram at @wendy_sterling!      Casey Crosbie is a Registered Dietitian and a Board-Certified Specialist in Sports Dietetics. She currently serves as Director of Nutrition Services for the Healthy Teen Project in Los Altos, CA and is a co-author of the book "How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food." She has published 3 scholarly articles, including “The Use of the Plate-by-Plate Approach for Adolescents Undergoing Family-Based Treatment.” Casey previously served as Lead Dietitian for the Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital Comprehensive Care Program for Eating Disorders at Stanford.      

My guest is Laura Anderson. We discuss religious abuse, religious trauma and the difference between them. Abuse is the thing that happened to you. Trauma is the experience that your body or nervous system has as a response to the thing that happened to you. Laura is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, a Professor of Psychology and an Approved Supervisor through the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and is in the final stages of completing my completing her Ph.D. in Mind-BodyMedicine at Saybrook University. Laura specializes in complex trauma, religious trauma, religious abuse, and purity culture. Laura has developed a manual for mental health professionals on Adverse Religious Experiences and Religious Trauma which is available on her website. This is a resource for both mental health professionals and those who have experienced adverse religious experiences themselves. Use the discount code: RELIGIOUSTRAUMA15 for $15 off the price of the manual. Links Website: https://www.lauraandersontherapy.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ms_elleanderson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ms_elleanderson/ Interact On the show, I mention my writing on the steps of deconversion and “doubling down” that can be found here: https://gracefulatheist.wordpress.com/2017/12/03/deconversion-how-to/ Send in a voice message to the podcast: https://anchor.fm/gracefulatheist/message Attribution "Waves" track written and produced by Makaih Beats http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Makaih_Beats Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-sa/3.0/us/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/gracefulatheist/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/gracefulatheist/support

In this episode we speak to Julie about her work with clients that have PCOS, her amazing podcast- Love, Food, her advocacy work and the unlearning and learning that we need to be doing in these spaces.  In this episode we speak about a particular post on her instagram which can be found here:  Instagram post re: PCOS in transmasculine people https://www.instagram.com/p/BxN_xvDlZ13/?igshid=bztjb8apvcz5 You can find Julie Duffy Dillon MS, RD, NCC, LDN, CEDRD-S who is a Registered Dietitian, Speaker, Writer, Eating Disorder Specialist ad iaedp Approved Supervisor in Greensboro NC USA email: Julie@JulieDillonRD.com You can Subscribe to Julie's Love, Food Podcast here. PCOS + Food Peace is possible. Julie's course shows you how: PCOSandFoodPeace.com  This episode of the Nourished Circle is brought to you by Our Teespring store.  Check out our new merch coming soon! https://teespring.com/join-the-bandd-2?tsmac=store&tsmic=the-bandd#pid=526&cid=101936&sid=front You can find Kori at mindfuleatingwithkori.com You can find Lori at unapologeticallymerd.com

Anna Lutz RD on protective nutrition education in schools & bringing embodied work into practice. In this episode Anna shares: Why the area of Protective Nutrition Education became her passion. How Protective Nutrition education can protect against internalised weight stigma and eating disorders. How well-intentioned education interventions in schools can be doing our children harm and what we can do as Dietitians to minimise this. Why we need to take into account a child’s level of development when we are planning nutrition education, just like educators do for any other area of learning. How prioritising food experiences, exploration and diversity in both food cultures and body appearance are so important when teaching children about food. Why parents and educators are just as important to educate about nutrition as children. How Anna uses Sensory Motor Psychotherapy and how it can be a useful tool for Dietitians working in the Eating Disorders space. Anna explains the Window of Tolerance model and how this can be useful to understand the underpinnings of eating disorders, particularly with a background of trauma. Connect with Anna: www.sunnysideupnutrition.com Instagram @annalutzrd   More about Anna: Anna is a nutrition therapist with Lutz, Alexander & Associates Nutrition Therapy in Raleigh, NC.  She specializes in eating disorders and pediatric/family nutrition and provides supervision to dietitians locally and virtually. Anna received her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from Duke University and Master of Public Health in Nutrition from The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) and an Approved Supervisor both through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). Anna previously worked at Duke Student Health on their eating disorders treatment team and at Children’s National Medical Center, providing outpatient care for people with eating disorders. Anna enjoys providing training, workshops, and supervision for dietitians and other health professionals about eating disorders and weight-inclusive care. She also writes about simple cooking and nutrition, free of weight and diet-talk, at Sunny Side Up Nutrition (www.sunnysideupnutrition.com).  

Dr. Noel Casiano obtained his Bachelor’s Degree in Sociology and a Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from CCSU. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with the State of Connecticut. Dr. Casiano obtained a Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology from California Southern University and he is a clinical fellow, an Approved Supervisor and the chair of the National Trauma Interest Network with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). He is an Adjunct Professor in the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Central Connecticut State University (CCSU). Dr. Casiano is also in private practice through Casiano Clinical Services, LLC in Hartford and Hamden, CT where he works with individuals and families to find healing and solutions for their concerns. Dr. Casiano has certification in the neuroscience of attachment, addictions and trauma. He is the author of “The Fatherhood Crisis” which is available on Amazon and Kindle. Dr. Casiano will soon be releasing his second book, “Just a Kid from Park Street” which provides an informative, firsthand glimpse into the personal challenges following experiences of trauma and loss, shining a spotlight on the psychological, neurological, emotional, and sociological aftereffects only now coming to light in scientific and medical research. Dr. Casiano is also a TEDx Speaker and his talk titled “What Happened to You” is available now on YouTube.

This week, Rebecca Bass Ching and I are talking about showing up imperfectly and how trauma can affect our bodies. About Rebecca Rebecca Bass Ching is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive training in family systems therapy and mind-body approaches which take into account the whole person and the whole body in recovery.  She is also the founder of Potentia Therapy in San Diego. Rebecca is a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator+Consultant (CDWF-C) (based on the research of Brené Brown), Certified EMDRTherapist+Consultant-in-Training , Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) + iaedp™ Approved Supervisor, AAMFT Approved Supervisor. She is a founding board member and Past-President of the San Diego chapter of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp). She has been an adjunct professor and has taught at Bethel Seminary San Diego for their Marital and Family Therapy department, Azusa Pacific University’s San Diego Regional Center for their Marriage and Family Therapy program and Point Loma Nazarene University in the Psychology Department. Resources from the episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz

Lauren Anton shares “when people are so disconnected from their body this is when the disorder creeps up” on PHIT for a Queen.   Her role as a trainer in a gym gave her first-hand insight into the culture that contributes to eating disorders.   Interesting fact that breathe work when going to school for acting helped her be able to use this as a mind-body connection tool.   Could be this disconnection a result of trauma?   Dispel the weight stigma of “what is a larger body in running?”   Feels that injuries can stem from negative thought processes about altering the body.   Self-compassion is honoring where my body is Today!   Can one separate their activities by intention for self and intention for disorder?        Where you can find Lauren at https://laurenantonrd.com/     How you know she is legit: Lauren Anton, MS, RD, CEDRD-S, CPT is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Personal Trainer in private practice in Los Angeles, CA. She is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Approved Supervisor through the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals. Lauren specializes in eating disorders, sports nutrition, and helping those who struggle with their weight and seeks to assist clients in moving away from a punitive experience with food and movement to one of self-compassion and self-care. Her non-diet, weight-inclusive, Health at Every Size® approach allows clients to shed the rules and regulations that bind them to behaviors that no longer serve them.  As an expert in eating disorders and nutrition therapy, Lauren has worked at most levels of eating disorder treatment (residential through IOP) and has spoken at numerous national and regional conferences and events on adolescents, eating disorders, and sports nutrition. She has also presented her own research at two conferences examining the effects of intuitive eating – based nutrition education on adolescent female cross country runners.  She has been quoted in publications such as The Washington Post, BuzzFeed, and the Huffington Post. Lauren served as a co-chair on the Academy of Eating Disorders Weight Stigma and Social Justice Special Interest Group from 2015-2018 and on the iaedp-Los Angeles board from 2010-2014.  Lauren is passionate about normalizing and enhancing the eating experience and encourages each of her clients to “taste their food with all their senses” in her Mindful Eating experientials.   

This might be the most important podcast we will ever do.  Rebecca Ching is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Has extensive training in family systems therapy and mind-body approaches which take into account the whole person and the whole body in recovery.  She is Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator+Consultant (CDWF-C) (based on the research of Brené Brown), Certified EMDR Therapist+Consultant-in-Training , Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) + iaedp™ Approved Supervisor, AAMFT Approved Supervisor.   SO She is a big deal:  Find her at Potentiatherapy.com  Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/potentiatherapy/ and she recommends books at the end, and we are going to try and read them here at :  https://selfleadership.org/ifs-store.html#ebook  

Our special guest is Stephen P. Stratton, Ph.D., co-author of the book, Listening to Sexual Minorities: A Study of Faith and Sexual Identity on Christian College Campuses and a Professor of Counseling and Pastoral Care and a licensed psychologist (KY).  Previous to his full-time appointment at Asbury Theological Seminary in 2006, he served as an adjunct professor at Asbury University, where he was the Director of the Center for Counseling for 18 years.  He is an Approved Supervisor for the Kentucky Board of Licensed Professional Counselors and a Health Service Provider/Supervisor for the Kentucky Board of Psychology.   Students arrive on campus with various boxes of belongings to unpack, some heavy, some tidy, some more valuable, some more private. For many students, two of these boxes could be labeled "My Faith" and "My Sexuality"—and these two can be among the most cumbersome to handle. How to balance the two without having to set one down? How to hold them both closely, both securely, but still move forward to settle in with new friends in a new environment? How to keep from dropping one or the other, spilling its embarrassing contents for all to see? Such can be the struggle for any student, but especially for any sexual minority who identifies or struggles with an LGB+ identity or same-sex attraction on a Christian college campus. For these students their faith and their sexuality often feel both tender and in acute tension. Who is God making them to be? What do they need to grow in to develop faithfully, and what might they need to leave behind? How can they truly flourish? The research team of Yarhouse, Dean, Stratton, and Lastoria draw on their decades of experience both in the psychology of sexual identity and in campus counseling to bring us the results of an original longitudinal study into what sexual minorities themselves experience, hope for, and benefit from. Rich with both quantitative and qualitative data, their book gives an unprecedented opportunity to listen to sexual minorities in their own words, as well as to observe patterns and often surprising revelations about life and personal development both on campus and after graduation. Listening to Sexual Minorities will be an indispensable resource not only for counselors and psychologists but also for faculty, student-development leaders, and administrators in higher education as well as leaders in the church and wider Christian community who want to create an intentional environment to hear from and contribute to the spiritual flourishing of all.

Full Title: Purposeful Pain: A Comparison of BDSM Participants and Individuals who Engage in Non-Suicidal Self-InjuryAnyone who engages in consensual masochism has probably encountered someone with the bias that those of us who enjoy receiving pain are actually engaging in self-harm by proxy, or that we are reenacting some sort of trauma from our past. This may be true for some people, but as a masochist who has a history of non-suicidal self-injury and childhood (physical) abuse, I know that what motivates me to engage in masochistic activities differs from why I engage in self-injury. I do not engage in BDSM because I am trying to overcome a past trauma, or harbour some latent desire to be abused.I know that what I experience when I am cuffed to a cross is not the same as when I scratch (my NSSI behaviour of compulsion). My mental state is very different when I engage in either activity. However, the association between BDSM masochistic interest and non-suicidal self-injury exists and it is still something that I encounter in clinical settings, even with the recent changes to the Mental Health Bible. As I said in Episode 10, it is important that we, BDSM practitioners, participate in studies so that our experiences become a part of the research that will bring understanding to the medical field. We need to be the voice behind the narrative of what we are all about. In this episode, I have the pleasure to speak with Dr. Markie Twist from the University of Wisconsin-Stout about the results of their recent survey entitled "Differences between BDSM Participants and Individuals who Engage in Non-Suicidal Self-Injury". Dr. Twist was a co-principal investigator of this study, which set out to " …understand the similarities and differences between the motivations, relational experiences, childhood histories, and characteristics of individuals who engage in intense BDSM sensation play and those who do or have engaged in non-suicidal self-injury behaviour. Specifically, the research study aims to understand the reasons and motivations behind these behaviours, as well as the personality characteristics of those who engage in these behaviours." (from the Purpose and Background of the study) Dr. Markie, and their team, presented the findings last month at The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Conference (SSSS2016) in Phoenix, Arizona. I am including a link to the presentation slides, for those who are interested in reading more.During the show, we will be talking about what motivated Dr. Markie to research this topic, as well as the methodology used by the research team to demonstrate and evaluate the differences between consensual masochism and self-harm. Of course, we will also discuss the findings of the study, including how these groups (BDSM and NSSI) measured up against a normed group.Guest BioMarkie Louise Christianson Twist, Ph.D., is the Program Coordinator of the Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program, and Associate Professor in the Human Development and Family Studies Department and Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Wisconsin-Stout. Dr. Twist is also an Affiliate of the Wisconsin HOPE (Harvesting Opportunities for Postsecondary Education) Lab at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Markie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (IA, NV) and Mental Health Counselor (IA), American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor, and an American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists Certified Sexuality Educator. Markie is co-author of the book, *The Couple and Family Technology Framework: Intimate Relationships in a Digital Age*, and has published over 50 articles, 10 book chapters, and presented over 150 times in various venues. Markie serves as the *Journal of Marital and Family Therapy* Virtual Issues Editor, and is an editorial board member for the *Journal of Feminist Family Therapy: An International Forum, Sexual and Relationship Therapy*, and the *Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy*. Dr. Twist’s research primarily focuses on: people whose sexual, gender, erotic, and relational orientations have been minoritized; professional mentoring and scholarly collaborative relationships; family and ecological sustainability; couple and family technology studies; and couple and family therapy technological practices. Relevant Links: Dr. Twists's Website: http://uwstout.academia.edu/MarkieTwistTwitter: @Markie_LouiseSSSS2016 Presentation: http://tinyurl.com/zcssfw2

melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com www.blendedfamilypodcast.com   This episode is all about maintaining intimacy with your partner while managing a blended family.  It can be so hard to do!   Listen to my conversation with Sibel Guelseren. Sibel is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Board Certified Addictions Professional, Board Certified Sex Therapist, and Life Coach with over 15 years in Experience.  Sibel earned a Master of Education Degree and a Specialist in Education Degree, both specializing in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Florida. She is also a Graduate of CoachU's 3-year prestigious Coaching Program and works with clients on various life and work issues. She is an Approved Supervisor for Marriage and Family Therapist Interns.        Sibel and I talk about many issues that blended families face sexually, such as   high stress levels interfering with sex life scheduling sex how to manage privacy issues how to keep things exciting and fun communicating about sex sexual compatibility past sexual trauma when to seek professional help If you want to contact Sibel Guelseren, use the following By phone at 386-334-3777 Website www.anewcounseling.net   Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com

Join Teena and Phyllis for an interesting and wide ranging discussion about “Love in Later Life: Complexeties, Joys, and Pitfalls” … Read more about this episode...

Distinguished professor, Certified Love Educator, Pat Love, Ed.D. is known for warmth, humor and commitment to learning. For more than twenty-five years, she has contributed to relationship education and personal development through her books, articles, training programs, speaking and media appearances. Dr. Love has published several professional articles, been featured in many professional books and developed relationships education media and materials being used nationally and internationally. Her ever-popular books Hot Monogamy and The Truth About Love have literally taken her around the world spreading the good news about marriage and committed relationships. She released her new book in February 2007,, co-authored with Dr. Steven Stosny, and entitled How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. Pat is in demand as an expert presenter at national and international conferences. She has appeared numerous times on Oprah, The Today Show and CNN. Pat also has a new university level Love Education DVD course Love: What Everyone Needs to Know. She is a regular contributor to popular magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Good Housekeeping, Men's Magazine and Woman's World. Pat has co-hosted two video training programs: Living Love and Parenting with the Experts. She is faculty Emeritus, Imago Institute for Relationship Therapy and a recipient of the Smart Marriages Impact Award. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an Approved Supervisor in AAMFT, and a past president of the International Association for Marriage and Family Counseling.