Show Up With Christine Chang

We often want others to be accountable when dating, but are YOU being accountable? Do you take charge and show up in an effective manner, or are you constantly blaming other people + modern dating culture? Have you been guilty of saying things like, “no one wants to commit” or “I hate online dating”?!On-air host Yue Xu is on the podcast and is the dating BFF you didn't know you needed. During our conversation, we talk about:A healthy approach to online datingHow to be “normal” when dating. i.e. when is a good time to call someone after a good date?Healing from infidelityDating the “spiritually enlightened” personWhy love languages and attachment styles are BSYue Xu's website: https://www.yuexu.com/Yue Xu's Instagram: @nonplatonic

Are you codependent? Do you want to feel safe and feel liberated in love? Mark Groves talks about his new book Liberated Love, written alongside his wife Kylie McBeath. Mark is an old friend of mine, so during the conversation we also have silly talk about:Mid-life crisis and Life in your FortiesBotox, Lip injections, Butt ImplantsHow Religion can make people do weird thingsLeaving Social MediaNarcissism and Men out of integrityMark & Kylie's book Liberated Love is available for purchase at all major book dealers. Mark Groves Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@markgroves

Do you have to be Asian to hire an Asian matchmaker? May Bugenhagen, AKA “Matchmaker May,” introduces men of all ethnicities to Asian women. If you have ever been curious about hiring a matchmaker, in this episode May talks about what it's like to work with her. We also talk about her personal love life (she got married in her forties), love languages, dating etiquette, and what to look for in a long term partner.May Bugenhagen's Instagram, FB, & Tiktok: @matchmakermayMay Bugenhagen's Matchmaking website: https://twoasianmatchmakers.com/

Kevin Kreider is back on the podcast to give an update on his love life and career in Asian Entertainment. Last time Kevin came on the podcast two years ago, he was single and had just finished season one of Bling Empire. Now he is in a long-term relationship with an old girlfriend Devon - a romance rekindled after Kevin became sober. Kevin Kreider & Christine Chang talk about love, business, and the Asian Entertainment scene. They discuss:Learning to be in relationship when you've been single for a long timeBoundaries when you work with you romantic partnerAlcoholism, getting sober, and the 12 step programAre Asians prejudice against good looking people?Kevin Kreider's Instagram: @kevin.kreider

Entrepreneur Aliscia Brorman shares her story of growing up in foster care and how it has impacted her intimate relationships. *Warning: This episode may contain triggers of sexual abuse and abandonment.During the conversation we talk about:Healing childhood trauma and healing an addiction to chaosDistracting ourselves through accomplishmentCreating a persona based on survivalLearning self love before helping othersWe also talk about giving back to foster youth (something I am very passionate about)! To get involved with Foster Love: https://www.fosterlove.com/Aliscia Brorman's Instagram: @the.ali.vue

Jules Aurora and Christine Chang have girl-talk about breakups + what they have learned so far in relationships. Jules had a public relationship that ended earlier this year. She shares what she has done on her healing journey, including writing music to share what's on her heart. I think everyone can agree that breakups are NOT fun! We talk about:- Healing our relationship patterns- The pressure of perfectionism in a public relationship- How to know your dreams are on the way. :)Jules Aurora's Instagram: @julesauroraJules Aurora's website: https://www.julesaurora.com/

Savior Complex: A need to save others, often neglecting your own needs in the process. Do you have Savior Complex? Kat Shelton shares the story of having a “wake up” moment to truly begin taking care of herself after she realized she was completely ignoring her own needs. Her healing journey began with her physical body - healing from a chronic auto-immune disease, and then moved to emotional and spiritual healing (since everything is connected, anyway)! After arriving at a point where she felt healthy and clear, she opened herself to love and met her partner Eben.During this conversation, we discuss: - Healing the physical body from a chronic auto-immune disease - The importance of community on your personal growth journey - How to heal from Savior Complex in order to create a healthy relationship - What to look out for if you are dating someone who is still healing from a previous relationship. Kat Shelton's Instagram: @beloved.body

Do you ever feel like you are too independent to be married? Do you feel like you might intimidate men? Michelle Wong is the Chief Marketing Officer of Sprinkles Cupcakes. She is a fiercely independent, high performing, C-suite executive who travels 50% of the year, and, she's been happily married for 17 years.In this episode we talk about how to be independent while also in a relationship. She talks about flowing through marriage with her husband Dave, living in abundance, and staying unapologetically true to you.Michelle Wong's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michimichibee/

Author & Comedian Kelsey Chittick is back on the podcast. Last time she came on the show two years ago, she had just finished her book Second Life, a book about healing after her husband suddenly died. Now Kelsey is dating and loving life again! We talk about: Dating in your fortiesHow to find new friendsHow to feel like you're on drugs all the time, without taking drugsLearning about yourself through sexKelsey Chittick's website: https://kelseychittick.com/Kelsey Chittick's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelseydchittick/

What is masculinity in today's world? Eben Britton is an Ex-NFL Athlete turned yogi. He is a conscious Alpha man, so I asked him to come on the show so I could ask him some questions about masculinity. We discuss:The history of masculinity and mens' “role”Traits of a masculine manThe negative impact of pornographyHealing the mother woundCheating, lust, and infidelityEben Britton is Author of the Eben Flow, and host of the Eben Flow Podcast. Eben Britton's Instagram: @edsbritton Eben Britton's website: https://www.ebenbritton.com

If you want to hear a joyful man talk about his consciousness journey, this episode is for you. Joe Fauria is a former NFL player turned wellness entrepreneur. He specializes in facilitating breathwork and is co-founder of Hello Wellness Retreats. Joe, aka “Big Joe,” normally talks about his time in the NFL in interviews, so I'm happy we get to talk about other fun topics like wellness and relationships!In this episode we discuss:The benefits of Breathwork, Ice baths, and psychedelics.Dating in your twenties vs. Dating when you're older.Emotionally-unavailable men vs. Men who simply do not want a relationship (yup, it's different). Big Joe Fauria's Instagram: @bigjoe

How do we move through life with more ease? I talk to Dr. Neeta Bhushan today about how to get through the sucky moments in life. We talk about growing up with immigrant parents, healing, building resilience, and self-acceptance. Her fourth book, "That Sucked Now What?" gives detailed framework on how to re-direct your life when you feel like you're falling. Neeta Bhushan's Instagram: @neetabhushanNeeta Bhushan's website: www.neetabhushan.com

What kind of partners do rich girls choose? Comedian Shining is on the podcast. We talk about growing up wealthy and how that can impact relationships. I love this conversation because money is something that should be normally talked about. In this candid episode, we chat about:What character traits to look for in a partner if you are an opinionated woman The downside to choosing a really rich guyCharacter versus Lifestyle - which is more important for long term happiness?Shining on Instagram & TikTok: @shiningluvsmile

Yuri Sinata is a beauty influencer and single mom. She grew up in Indonesia and was raised in a way that caused her from a young age, to view the world in survival mode. In this episode we talk about her first marriage, co-parenting, and now, dating again. We also discuss:- Learning about yourself after divorce- Toxic masculinity and toxic feminism- How your previous partners shape what you prioritize in relationshipsYuri Sinata's Instagram: @yurisinata

Lee-Michael Pronko is a single guy who created a dating app based on the challenges he experienced with traditional online dating. He is co-founder of Heartstring Dating App -  a new thoughtful and efficient way of dating that includes video, and your friends pitching you!In this episode we talk not only about the app and modern dating, but Lee's own experience with dating as a single parent, co-parenting, and what he's learning. Lee-Michael Pronko's Instagram: @itsmelmpHeartstring Dating App's Instagram: @heartstringdating

In this episode I discuss two signs that show you are truly READY to create the relationship of your dreams and call in your soulmate/life partner.

If you are dating and into personal growth, chances are you want to find a partner who is into personal growth too. In this solo episode I talk about the downside of choosing someone who is into personal growth. The key is BALANCE.

Nobody looks forward to having to reject or break up with someone. Is there an actual nice way to do it? What if you only went on one date - is it necessary to pick up the phone? Is a text enough? I discuss it in this solo episode!

Are you truly OPEN to creating the relationship of your dreams? Hint: It might not look like what you think it will look like! In order to date well, you have to be OPEN. In this episode I share two examples of guys I went out with when I was dating. One was the BEST DATE EVER! 

Los Angeles Artist Ruben Rojas is on the podcast. We talk about the (often uncomfortable) emotions that come with life transitions, including changing careers, getting married, and having kids. How do we shift our mindset so that it's easier? We also dive into: Why it's important to STAY OPEN when datingWhat men want to feel in a relationshipBalancing masculine/feminine energy, especially for boss babesRuben Rojas' Instagram: @rubenrojas 

High-performing females who LIKE TO TAKE THE LEAD! This episode is for YOU. Photographer & Business Coach Carissa Woo and I embark on some girl talk, focusing on our marriage struggles as an alpha female. Wah! We talk about: The Seven Year Itch - is it a real thing?Navigating change in your relationshipOpenly talking about divorce with your partner - what would that look like?Getting clear and shifting to a gratitude mindsetCarissa Woo's Instagram: @carissawoo

Actress Katie Featherston (if you watch scary movies you may know her from Paranormal Activity!) talks about her journey dating through her twenties and thirties, and finally meeting a guy who doesn't make her wonder. Dating apps, choosing emotionally unavailable men, therapy, family dynamics, healing... we dive into all of it! We also remind everyone that things are not perfect once you meet your person. Intimate relationships take work, but it's the work you want to do. :) Katie Featherston's Instagram: @realkatiefeatherson

Professional Fit Model and High-Performance Men's Coach Luke Jacobsma talks about healing and finding himself again after divorce. As a men's high-performance coach, Luke is into personal growth and talks about how that impacts how he dates (with a lot of intention). He also gives insight into a huge complaint men have with modern women when dating! Luke Jacobsma's Instagram: @thefitmodel

Do you have trouble telling or showing a guy that you like him? Do you want guys to ask you out more? If so, this solo episode is for you!

My friend Elishah and I bag on guys who only date significantly younger people. Word on the street is Leonardo DiCaprio just ended things with his girlfriend after she turned 25. I also talk about the time I got cheated on, and what I did about it.

Are you feeling unsure about dating someone? When do you proceed to give them a chance and when do you cut things off? In this video I discuss three signs to stop dating someone. 

Trigger Warning: This episode talks about abuse, including sexual abuse and being taken advantage of as a minor.Elishah Urbaez is a professional makeup artist and wellness entrepreneur based in LA. In this episode she shares the story of abuse and trauma she endured from her mother and from different men growing up (including at church). Pushed to the point of feeling suicidal, she shares how she broke away, and how she began to heal in order to turn her life around. Though healing is a forever work in progress, she is now happily married with a daughter.Elishah Urbaez's Instagram: @elishahurbaez

Writer and Comedian Carlie Mantilla is on the show talking about healing from divorce and falling in love with her best friend John. She met John at work while writing Hallmark movies, so YES, she and John write Hallmark movies together. Swoon! They are now engaged and planning their wedding. During our conversation we also talk about:The importance of sexual compatibility for a womanCultural differences in communication (His family is East Coast White while her family is Mexican) Double chinsWhat to focus on when wedding planningCarlie Mantilla's Instagram: @carlieandrea

Wedding Photographer Twah Dougherty is on the podcast giving advice to single females looking for love! In this episode, we talk about:How to make an effective “list” when datingWhere are areas you can be more flexible?SELF-RESPONSIBILITY instead of pointing fingersThe reality of being with someone long term (the confronting HARD moments)Twah Dougherty's Instagram: @twahphotography 

Chy Fontenette is an Actress, Model, & Content Creator. During our conversation she gives her hilarious unfiltered take on dating and relationships. We talk about:What's up with Gen Z?Turning 30 vs turning 40Learning about yourself while in relationshipPrenups - are they good or bad?Follow Chy on Instagram & Tiktok: @chy.f

My single friend Rob is back on the podcast! We talk about work, dating, and relationships, as usual. In this episode we talk about: Working with people he's dated (he's avoiding my questions)Does having money help create a loving relationship? What it means when you don't like someone (hint: look in the mirror)Follow Rob's journey to writing his kid's book: @poopie.thecat

Are you dating? Would you like more men to approach you? You may know someone who gets hit on all the time and guess what? Looks has nothing to do with it! In this video I share five ways to be more approachable. How can you show up so that you are inviting and give permission to being approached? How do you become a magnet?!

Jackie Ho was a (self-proclaimed) super nerd in high school. She is now a Model, Actress, and Martial Artist living in LA. In this episode, Jackie talks about how connecting to her own body has helped her show up better when dating. A lot of her wisdom has also come from A LOT of heartbreak. We talk about:How nerds have it figured out. How the popular guy in high school impacted her life (like, really). How to view rejection positively The downfalls with using astrology when dating How to attract higher caliber partnersJackie's IG: @ohitsjackieho

Chinese Comedian Shining Luv Smile and I talk awkwardly about sex at the mall. How do you have a healthy relationship with sex? How do you keep passion alive in a marriage? Specifically we talk about: - How to truly be attractive to someone- Drugs, sex toys, and oral sex- Gang-bang porn- Keeping things playfulI don't know if our conversation is helpful at all. What I do hope is that you have a healthy relationship with sex and feel like you can talk about it!  Follow Shining Luv Smile on IG & Tiktok: @shiningluvsmile

Brittany Grey-Yadav is a Wife, Entrepreneur, Humanitarian, and Mindfulness Coach. Needless to say, she is a badass high-performing woman. In this episode we talk about her marriage - what she has learned since meeting her husband (they met on OkCupid!), and how they both have changed throughout ten years together. There was a point where Brittany took a year to travel the world solo in order to find and connect back to herself. How did they navigate the time apart? We also talk about: A VERY important trait to look for when you are datingHealing childhood traumaDoes your partner need to be into personal growth the same way you are?Intercultural marriage (she is from Detroit by way of Tennessee, while her husband is from India)! Brittany is founder of Influence Hers - a platform celebrating women of color influencing positive change around the world, and Visible - a BIPOC-led content marketing agency.Brittany Grey-Yadav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanygreyyadav/

In this episode I talk with Celebrity Event Planner Jason Rhee about dating and life in general. We talk random things like:- The time we kissed and gave each other Covid- Are you a top or bottom?- Tall Guys & Heightism- Sobriety- Is Jason the wedding planner who doesn't want to get married?I am being intentional to bring more light and funny people on the show. It's nice to learn and work on ourselves. It's also nice to laugh and not take things so seriously all the time.

Are you dating? Have you made a list of qualities and traits you would like in a partner? In this video I elaborate on what you should actually focus on when making your list!

These tips are based on logic and conversations with modern men. What is something you would include? What kind of photos do you like seeing on dating apps? Which can you not stand?

How is your self-awareness? Do you know what your superpower (aka strengths) are when it comes to a job, relationship, or community? If you aren't sure what your strengths are, in this episode I share how to find out! ❓ Got a question? Send me a message on Instagram!: @cchangandco https://www.instagram.com/cchangandco/

Especially if you are stuck in a rut, the BEST thing to do is to take action and begin doing things that bring you joy. Are you making time to do things that bring you joy? Or are you making excuses? This week I went to Wagmor Pets in Los Angeles to play with rescue dogs, because that brings me joy! What is something you will do today to bring yourself joy? 

Just like feeling joy and happiness, feeling sad and depressed from time to time is a normal part of being human. In this video, I go to Disney California Adventure Park (I had an expiring ticket to use!) and talk about five things I do when I'm feeling sad or depressed. *Note: if you are clinically depressed, this is a conversation to have with a licensed professional. What I talk about in this video are lifestyle habits that personally make me feel better when I'm feeling down. They are very simple habits - the important thing is to actually try and do them. Knowing and doing are two very different things - doing is what makes the difference!

How often do you ask your parents about them? Or is it usually all  about you? I'm making more effort to ask my parents about how they grew up. My dad's side of the family is Chinese (Cantonese) but born and raised in Vietnam. In this video he shares how they got out of Vietnam during the Vietnam war. Growing up I didn't understand why my parents valued education so much. I found it annoying and resented that they had expectations for us to get traditional degrees.They grew up in a different time and had to endure survival in a way that I am fortunate enough to have never experienced (thanks to them).  I'm grateful I was raised the way I was, and have the parents that I do! Maybe next time you speak to your parents, you can ask about them?

How do you discover yourself? How do you discover WHO YOU ARE? In this video I take a solo trip to the happiest place on earth, Disneyland! While there I talk about self identity and ways to discover who you are.

How do you meet your soulmate? How do you meet someone who truly sees you and loves you for YOU? We are never in control of what goes on around us, but we are always in control of how we show up. In this video I share how to show up in order to meet that person who genuinely loves you for you!

Everything is going great. You're hanging out, the other person pursues you, they are interested in hanging out, and then BAM. Crickets. Ever have this happen? In this episode I discuss why people ghost and what to do about it.

Should you tell your partner if you cheated? What if you knew it was NEVER going to happen again? This is a heated debate with people having different opinions. In this solo episode I give my take on it.

In this episode I share how to shift your mindset to help you get over someone more quickly and gently.

Do you hate dating apps? Where do you go to meet single people organically in person? In this episode I share 5 ways to meet people outside of dating apps! I met my husband waiting for an Uber in Venice Beach. :)

When we talk about relationships, we often hear the phrase "emotionally-available." What does it mean exactly for a person to be emotionally-available? In this episode, Psychologist Dr. Nicole Hayes breaks it down!Hint: Wanting to be in a relationship and being emotionally-available are NOT the same thing. :)Dr. Nicole Hayes Instagram: @drnicolehayesphd

Claythan Conerly is a professional dancer and actor. He grew up in the South and talks about how it shaped his expectations when it comes to dating. He also talks about coming out to his religious parents. I like asking people about their coming out story because however you identify, we all have difficult conversations that we don't want to have. It's not easy, but coming out on the other side is worth it 1000%. Claythan Conerly's IG: @claythanconerly 

Hey Boss Babes! Christine discusses what modern women fail to realize about men when dating.