The Parenting Junkie Show

“I think my husband's a narcissist…” If you've whispered those words to yourself — in the dark, after another disconnected conversation, or mid-scroll through TikTok — this video is for you. We live in a culture quick to diagnose, quick to label, and even quicker to tell women to walk away. But what if the truth is more complex… and more hopeful? In this episode, I gently unravel the difference between a truly narcissistic partner — and one who is imperfect, avoidant, or simply different from you. I share the hard-earned truths I learned in my own marriage, and the lessons that thousands of women around the world are now living by. This is not about blame. It's about clarity. It's about reclaiming intimacy, polarity, and respect — with the partner you already have.

"The mental load is crushing me." If you've ever felt this way—tracking every appointment, remembering every snack preference, carrying the invisible weight of running your household—you're not the only one! The internet is full of women sharing their exhaustion, their resentment, and their anger about shouldering this "unfair burden." But what if everything you've been told about the mental load is making your marriage worse, not better? In this video, I'm challenging the popular narrative that's turning normal adult responsibilities into a crisis. While TikTok coaches teach you to catalog every invisible task and demand your husband "open his eyes," I'll show you why this victim mindset is destroying the very thing you're trying to protect: your partnership. Discover why responsibility is actually a mental health protector (not a destroyer), how the "mental load crisis" dismisses the massive burdens men carry, and why reframing your perspective could transform your marriage from resentful roommates back into a loving team. The truth is, being needed isn't a burden—it's a privilege. And when you stop fighting against your strengths and start embracing them as gifts, everything changes.

What happens when parenting becomes a battlefield for something much bigger? You've probably felt it. Heard it. Maybe even argued about it. In this episode I explore what's really going on beneath the surface — and why it matters more than ever.

"I Don't Like Playing With My Kids—And That Makes Me a Better Parent" Finally, someone's saying what you've been thinking. You love your children fiercely, but toy cars and dollhouses just aren't your thing. Before you spiral into parent guilt... this might actually be your secret weapon for deeper connection. The parenting world has convinced us that meaningful bonding requires endless hours of pretend play, but what if that advice is actually keeping you from the authentic relationship you're craving? What if your resistance to forced fun is your intuition telling you there's a better way? Here's what no one talks about: children can sense when we're going through the motions. When you're sitting on the floor feeling drained and resentful, pretending to enjoy something that bores you to tears, your child feels that energy. They know you're not really present—you're performing. But when you stop forcing behaviors that drain you and start connecting authentically, something magical happens. Your child gets the real you. The engaged you. The parent who shows up with genuine energy instead of forced enthusiasm. In this episode, I reveal 10 research-backed ways to build deeper bonds than forced play ever could. From the bonding behaviors that naturally release oxytocin, to the everyday moments that create unshakable security, these methods honor who you are while giving your child what they truly need. The parents who've embraced this approach report something surprising: their children seem not just more connected, but actually more independent and secure. Because when connection is authentic, children stop seeking constant validation and start thriving in their own play. Your child doesn't need another playmate—they need you at your best. And that happens when you connect from your strengths, not your weaknesses. ________________

Do you ever worry that your nurturing instincts might be holding your children back from true independence? Today I'm diving into the strange world of "son-bands" - when a mother attaches to her son in a way that's more appropriate for a partner. In this episode, I explore how modern parenting culture has blurred the boundaries between healthy attachment and unhealthy dependence. You'll discover: - The shocking social media trend normalizing mother-son enmeshment - Why the "devouring mother" phenomenon prevents children from launching - How gentle parenting can accidentally create codependence when boundaries disappear - Six practical strategies to foster healthy attachment without sacrificing independence - The surprising reason your partner should come before your child in your emotional hierarchy This isn't about making you feel guilty—it's about recognizing the subtle patterns that might be keeping both you and your children from thriving. However, with small adjustments to your approach, you can maintain deep connection while empowering your children to become truly independent. Ready to implement these strategies in your family? Join us in The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) for ongoing support and implementation (and so much more!). And remember - a strong marriage is your child's best protection against unhealthy attachment patterns. Discover how to revitalize your relationship at Married U: https://married-u.com/university 

Ever feel like you're not measuring up as a parent? Like everyone else has it figured out while you're just trying to make it through the day? In this episode, I reveal the 7 different parenting superpowers that make families thrive - and help you identify which one is YOUR zone of genius! The truth is, none of us excel at everything in parenting (or in life). We each have unique strengths that are shaping our children in powerful ways - strengths that might come so naturally to you that you don't even recognize them as special. Stop comparing yourself to other parents and start recognizing your own gifts. Because incredible families aren't built by perfect parents—they're built by parents who leverage their natural strengths and build meaningful family cultures one habit at a time. Listen to discover your parenting superpower, learn to be confident in it, and see how you can use it to create the family life you dream of! Join the Studio waitlist: https://hifam.com/studio Reclaim Play book & course: https://reclaimplay.com  

Ever wonder what would happen if your family just unplugged completely? No phones, tablets, TV, or devices - even for just a few hours? While this might sound challenging in today's digital world, my family takes a complete technology break for 25 hours every weekend. What started as a religious practice has become the cornerstone of our family connection, creating space for what truly matters. In this glimpse into our screen-free time, I share: - What actually fills those hours when Netflix isn't an option - How kids naturally return to imaginative play without prompting - The simple activities that create deeper family bonds - Why meaningful conversations happen more easily without digital distractions This isn't about suggesting everyone needs a full day unplugged or imposing strict rules. It's about sharing practical ideas you might adapt for your own family - even if it's just a screen-free dinner or Sunday morning. The surprising truth is that when screens go away, something beautiful happens. Children play differently. Parents connect more deeply. And time somehow feels both slower and more valuable. Whether you're looking to implement a brief weekly tech break or simply curious about building stronger family bonds, these practical insights might inspire your own version of sacred family time. Want to reclaim your family time from screens? Join parents worldwide in the Studio at https://hifam.com/studio and discover simple ways to create tech boundaries that strengthen connection without daily battles. 

Everyone's talking about Adolescence on Netflix — toxic masculinity, Andrew Tate, and the crisis in teen boys. But what if we're all looking in the wrong direction? In this episode, I react to Adolescence and the public conversation around it — and I share a different perspective on what's really going on with boys today.  You'll hear: - Why I believe the current narrative is missing the mark - What Adolescence got right — and what it left out - The uncomfortable truth we don't want to face as parents - And the one question we should be asking, but aren't If you're a parent, educator, or just someone worried about where things are heading — this one's for you.

Our culture teaches kids to be fragile. I'm here to show you how to do the opposite. If you want strong, confident, emotionally stable kids who don't crumble at every slight, you need to raise them differently — and it starts with you. In this episode, I break down: ⚡ How to move past endless pity parties and teach real accountability. ⚡ Why endless empathy backfires — and what your child actually needs. ⚡ The 2 questions every child must ask when insulted (game changer). ⚡ How to teach your kids to laugh, let go, and stay cool under fire. Fragile kids grow into fragile adults. Let's not let that happen. Let's raise humans who are unshakable, unvictimized, and unstoppable.

"I don't restrict screen time so my kids aren't obsessed with it." "I don't like limiting my kids from anything." "It helps them self-regulate." These popular claims are spreading rapidly across social media. But does removing limits actually create more balanced children, or is it simply a convenient way to avoid difficult boundaries? In this episode, I examine the flawed logic behind the "no limits" approach and what screen use actually does to developing brains. I explore: - Why the "forbidden fruit" theory about restrictions doesn't hold up to scrutiny - The false equivalence between screen time and food restrictions - The uncomfortable truth about why many parents avoid setting boundaries - What research actually tells us about screen time's impact on development - The alternative solution most parents aren't aware of (that doesn't involve screens OR constant parent attention) Beyond trends and convenient solutions lies the truth about what children truly need to thrive. I offer practical alternatives that benefit both overwhelmed parents AND developing children - no guilt, just better options.  ____________________

Many parents are walking away from gentle parenting—and for good reason. Our children lose the boundaries they need to thrive when it morphs into permissiveness. But in our rush to correct course, we risk losing what made this approach valuable in the first place. In this episode, I share 10 treasures from gentle parenting that transformed my relationship with my five children—principles worth preserving even as we move toward a more balanced approach. These elements create children who feel both loved and capable of meeting life's challenges. This isn't about parenting dogma. It's about discernment—taking what works and leaving what doesn't. Join me for this honest conversation about creating a family culture that prepares children for a meaningful life.  __________________ Ready for balanced parenting? Join The Studio waitlist for personalized guidance on combining connection WITH boundaries - https://hifam.com/studio

In a world of hookup culture, casual sex, and dating apps, what relationship advice will actually serve our children well? While many parents avoid these uncomfortable conversations altogether, I believe our children deserve real guidance about dating, relationships, and marriage. They need more than just 'follow your heart' or 'do whatever feels right.' In this honest discussion, I share the dating advice I'll give my own children as they enter their teen years. Drawing from both traditional values and practical wisdom, I cover: - The fundamental purpose of dating (and why 'just for fun' might be setting them up for heartbreak) - The surprising benefits of marrying younger rather than waiting for perfect 'readiness' - Why involving family and friends in relationship decisions is actually wise, not old-fashioned - The hidden costs of casual relationships that most dating advice ignores - How to maintain personal independence while building a strong partnership This isn't about imposing restrictive rules or outdated thinking. It's about equipping our children with the tools to build meaningful, lasting relationships in a culture that often treats commitment as optional and marriage as outdated. Whether you agree with my approach or have a completely different perspective, this conversation matters. Our children need more guidance, not less, when navigating today's confusing relationship landscape. ____________________  Ready to create a family culture that values commitment? Join the Studio waitlist at https://hifam.com/studio and start building the foundation your children need for healthy relationships. Stop waiting to develop relationship skills. Join the Married U waitlist at https://married-u.com and learn to build a thriving partnership. Books mentioned: The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry (https://amzn.to/4izEAWH) A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century: The Young Adult Adaptation of 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' by Louise Perry (https://amzn.to/4kS7rHd) 

Are you stuck in the 'I'm not ready yet' cycle? Watching your child hesitate before every new challenge? Waiting for that perfect feeling of readiness that never quite arrives? This persistent trap keeps parents delaying important transitions and Gen Z postponing adulthood altogether. With 52% of young adults still living with parents into their 20s and 30s, something has clearly shifted in how we approach life's milestones.  In this episode, I share: - The surprising truth about readiness (and why it's often just an excuse) - How some parenting approaches could have created a generation afraid to act without perfect preparation - The critical difference between real developmental barriers and self-imposed limitations - Practical steps to break free from the perfectionism that keeps us and our children small From potty training a 5-week-old to challenging conventional wisdom about when children are 'ready' to read, sleep independently, or take on responsibility - discover how taking bold action creates the growth that waiting never will. If you're ready to stop waiting for ready and create the family culture you've always wanted, join me in the Studio at https://hifam.com/studio. And discover how play naturally encourages children to challenge themselves and grow with my Reclaim Play course at https://reclaimplay.com. Stop waiting for the perfect moment - true progress happens in the doing, not in the preparing. 

Have your kids started asking ChatGPT for homework help? Are they creating AI art instead of drawing? Or maybe you're wondering what skills will actually matter in their future when technology seems to be advancing at warp speed?  As artificial intelligence becomes increasingly integrated into our daily lives, parents are navigating uncharted territory. While some see unlimited possibilities, others wonder how to prepare children for a world that might look dramatically different from our own. But what if we could raise our children with confidence rather than confusion about this technological shift? What if we could equip them with skills that will remain valuable no matter how advanced AI becomes? In this practical episode, you'll discover: - Why balancing online and offline experiences is more crucial than ever - Ten essential skills that will remain valuable in an AI-dominated world - How to harness AI as a parenting tool while protecting your child's development - The mindset shift that transforms technological anxiety into optimism This isn't about rejecting progress or living in fear—it's about raising adaptable, creative children who can thrive alongside technology rather than compete with it. Learn how to prepare your children for a future that looks dramatically different from our present, while preserving what makes them uniquely human. _________________ Feeling overwhelmed by the pace of technological change? Join thousands of parents in The Studio at https://hifam.com/studio who are creating family cultures that balance technology with timeless human skills. 

Are "luxury beliefs" destroying family values? Rob Henderson exposes how elite intellectuals critique the nuclear family without experiencing its consequences. From foster care to Harvard, he reveals a shocking double standard: those benefiting most from traditional family structures are often the first to undermine them. In this discussion, let's challenge the modern narrative that "all family structures are equal" and explore the real-world impact of these convenient, consequence-free beliefs. Discover how virtue signaling hurts the most vulnerable in society. ___________________ Ready to provide your children with moral clarity? Join us at https://hifam.com/studio to develop confident, value-driven parenting. 

What skills will your child need in a world where AI can do everything from writing essays to providing therapy? As a parent, you're likely wondering: should I be terrified or thrilled about raising children in the AI revolution? In this in depth conversation with AI expert Daniel Shreiber, we dive deep into how artificial intelligence is transforming our world faster than most parents realize. While it's easy to dismiss AI as 'just another tech trend,' the reality is far more consequential for your child's future. You'll discover: - Why AI isn't just changing jobs—it's fundamentally redefining what it means to be human - The surprising truth about which careers will survive (and which won't) in the coming decade - Why your child's relationship with AI could be more important than their grades - The four critical skills parents must nurture that AI can never replicate - How family life may become more central to our identity than careers ever were This isn't about fear-mongering—it's about practical preparation for a future arriving faster than we think. Learn how to help your child thrive in a world where AI handles the mechanics, leaving humans to focus on meaning, relationships, and purpose.  _________________ As AI transforms careers, family becomes more central to identity and fulfillment. At The Studio membership (https://hifam.com/studio), I'll show you how to create the strong family foundation that gives your children the resilience, creativity, and purpose they'll need in an AI-powered world. What questions do you still have about preparing your children for a world with advanced AI? Drop them in the comments and let's continue this important conversation! 

'Am I a dog boy or a cat girl today?' might sound like innocent play for a 5-year-old. But when teens are seriously asking this question - and expecting the world to validate whatever answer they give - we need to pay attention. The internet has created a marketplace of identities where our children shop for labels, diagnoses, and micro-communities that make them feel special. But at what cost?  In this episode, I explore: - The fundamental differences between Gen Z identity formation and previous generations - How online communities fragment rather than unite our children - Why 'loafing' and self-diagnosis are replacing character development - Four practical strategies to help your child develop a stable, meaningful identity This isn't about judging - it's about understanding what's really happening and equipping you with concrete strategies to help your child develop a stable core identity in a world pushing them toward constant reinvention. __________________ Want to protect your child from harmful identity trends without rejecting them? The Studio at https://hifam.com/studio provides the exact framework I've used with thousands of families to build the strong family culture that becomes your child's identity foundation. 

Are you constantly running worst-case scenarios in your head? The racing thoughts that keep you up at night... the endless scrolling for reassurance... the persistent feeling that something bad is just around the corner. It's become normal to move through life in a perpetual state of worry—but what if anxiety isn't actually mandatory? As parents, we've been sold the idea that anxiety is just part of modern life. But what if we could parent from a place of steady confidence instead of constant fear? What if we could model emotional stability rather than emotional fragility for our children?  In this episode, you'll learn: - Why anxiety has become our cultural default setting (and how to opt-out) - The five practical steps that transformed me from crippling PTSD to calm leadership - How to replace anxious "what if" spirals with vision-focused thinking - The identity shift that makes anxiety-resistance your new normal It's not about denying real challenges—it's about facing them with a backbone instead of a breaking point. Learn how to become the calm, confident leader your family needs, especially during life's storms. It's time to bring back simply being 'okay' - comfortable in your skin, capable of handling what comes, and modeling real resilience for your children. Anxiety-free parenting isn't just possible—it's trainable. Join thousands of parents in The Studio at https://hifam.com/studio who are learning to replace worry spirals with clear planning, future vision, and unshakeable mental strength.

"My 7-year-old punched me in the face this morning. My 5-year-old kicked me in the chest. I've tried EVERYTHING." Imagine waking up every day dreading the battle just to get your kids dressed for school. You've given them more love, more toys, more treats than you ever had... yet they respond with violence and disrespect. What's gone wrong? The answer might shock you. It's not about what you're GIVING them. It's about what you're not EXPECTING from them. In this raw episode, I reveal: - Why 'doing everything right' might be creating the very problem you're fighting - The missing half of the parenting equation most gentle parenting advice ignores - How to establish authority without resorting to physical discipline - The captain-of-the-ship approach that works even during life's storms This isn't about blame—it's about reclaiming your power. Because when you shift from doormat to captain, your children aren't the only ones who transform. Ready to take back the helm? Join the Studio at https://hifam.com/studio to learn my complete system for balancing expectations with support. Transform from victim to captain and raise children who respect boundaries without losing connection. 

"Eye rolls. Sarcasm. Door slams. Backtalk." How often have you felt that knot in your stomach when your child speaks to you with blatant disrespect? That moment when you've modeled respectful communication explained expectations clearly, and stayed calm... yet they still throw your efforts back in your face with contempt. You know you deserve better treatment. You know other families don't struggle with this level of disrespect. So why do your attempts to address it feel so ineffective? What if the gentle parenting movement—with all its beautiful wisdom about connection and empathy—has left you without practical tools for handling disrespect?  As a mother of five, I've discovered that mainstream parenting advice completely falls short when it comes to teaching children how to be respectful. It tells us to model respect (which is important!), but offers virtually nothing for what to do when that modeling isn't mirrored back. In this episode, I reveal: - The foundation that most parents are missing - The critical difference between demanding respect and commanding it - How your tone and delivery might affect your parenting - The exact language to use when addressing disrespect in the moment - Why mastering your triggers is essential This isn't about returning to harsh, authoritarian parenting. It's about finding that sweet spot between warm connection and clear leadership that helps your children develop into respectful individuals who will thrive in relationships and society. ___________________ Ready to command respect instead of begging for it? Join thousands of parents in The Studio where I teach the complete framework for family leadership. Join the waitlist at hifam.com/studio and transform how your children respond to you. Is your emotional reactivity undermining your parental authority? Join the Alchemize waitlist at hifam.com/alchemize to master your triggers and become the unshakable leader your family needs. 

These viral parenting tips are everywhere - but I think they're missing the point. While TikTok's telling us to just 'hold space' and never set boundaries, I'm here to say what everyone's afraid to: our kids need more than just endless empathy. I'm breaking down the most popular parenting advice by women on TikTok and sharing why I think we're headed in a concerning direction. Let's talk about what our children really need to thrive. ____________ Ready to Lead your Kids with Both Strength & Heart? Join The STUDIO Waitlist→ hifam.com/studio 

"Hands are not for hitting," "Make good choices," "Are you ready to be nice?"... You're saying all the right phrases but.... your child acts like you're not even there. Or the situation just gets worse! As a mother who's been through every parenting trend, I've discovered why 'gentle parenting' often leaves us feeling more frustrated than ever. You're doing everything the books say - staying calm, offering choices, using all the "correct" phrases. So why does it feel like you're just providing background music to your child's meltdown? What if the very tools we're using to be more gentle are actually making it harder to be effective parents? In this episode I reveal:  - The hidden reason your carefully chosen words might be making tantrums worse - Why filming our parenting for social media is changing how we respond (and not in a good way) - The crucial difference between being present and being a narrator - When to step in, when to step back, and how to do both with confidence - The simple shift that transforms you from commentator to leader This isn't about abandoning gentle parenting principles. It's about combining compassion with clear, decisive action to help your children feel secure. _____________ Master confident parenting at https://hifam.com/studio

'Just listen to me!' How many times have you heard yourself say those words today (in your head or out loud)? That frustrating moment when you're asking nicely (for the hundredth time), offering choices (like all the parenting books say), negotiating, explaining, pleading... and your child still acts like they can't hear you. You know you're making reasonable requests. You know other kids can do this. So why does 'put your shoes on' turn into an epic power struggle? What if everything we've learned about getting kids to cooperate is actually making it harder? As a mother of five, I've discovered that modern parenting advice about 'gentle choices' might be missing something crucial. In this episode, I reveal: - Why modern parenting's favorite tools might be undermining your authority - The simple shift that transforms resistance into cooperation - How to combine warmth with clear leadership - Exactly what to say to get results (without the battle) From morning routines to bedtime battles, these practical strategies will transform how your children respond to requests.This isn't about harsh discipline or blind obedience. It's about finding that sweet spot between gentle parenting and clear leadership that helps your children thrive. Learn the exact framework I use to get cooperation without constant negotiation. Join me in The STUDIO, where I teach parents how to create the strong family culture they dream of. Join The Waitlist: https://hifam.com/studio 

Men's viral parenting advice on TikTok: harsh truth or outdated thinking? Watch as I break down these controversial takes on authority, friendship, and trust in modern parenting - and why the answer might lie somewhere in between. __________________ Be The Leader of YOUR Family - https://hifam.com/studio

When shocking relationship headlines go viral, they often miss the bigger picture. As a marriage coach and mother, I'm seeing concerning trends that threaten our understanding of love and commitment.  But there's hope. In this episode, I break down: - How modern messaging shapes relationship expectations - What they mean for future generations - The impact of social media on intimacy - How to create a marriage worth modeling Join me for an honest discussion about protecting and strengthening the relationships that matter most. In a world of disposable relationships, your marriage can be different. __________________________ Check out in Married-U to discover how to build the kind of deep, lasting love that impacts generations. I'll show you exactly how to create a relationship worth modeling - one that gets better with time. Transform your marriage: https://married-u.com 

The "tradwife" trend has taken social media by storm - but is there more to this movement than frilly aprons and homemade sourdough? From viral TikToks of perfectly styled homemakers to Instagram reels of luxury housewife routines, we're diving deep into what's really behind this fascinating internet phenomenon. Is it a genuine return to traditional values, or something entirely different?  Join me as we unpack the aesthetics, the authenticity, and the real implications of this trending lifestyle choice. Whether you're intrigued or skeptical, this video might surprise you... ________________________ Ready for a real, lasting marriage beyond the trends? Visit https://maried-u.com  #Tradwife #Marriage #Relationships

Are you constantly looking for proof that your partner really loves you? It's time to stop testing your marriage and start trusting instead! The viral Orange Peel Theory has exposed a habit many of us do without realizing: testing our partners to see if they measure up. But what if these subtle relationship tests are actually harming our connection instead of strengthening it? In this episode, I reveal: ✅ Why we feel compelled to test our relationships ✅ How testing creates the insecurity we fear ✅ A mindset shift to stop testing your marriage and build real trust  ✅ How to build an unshakable bond—without the ‘tests' If you want to stop testing your marriage and start building a love based on certainty, not constant proof, this video is for you.

For thousands of years, parents have used one powerful tool to shape their children's values, build their resilience, and inspire their growth - without ever raising their voice or giving a lecture. This ancient wisdom, nearly forgotten in modern parenting advice, has helped cultures pass down their most important lessons for generations. Today, I'm sharing how to harness the transformative power of storytelling to influence your children in ways that lectures never could. In this video, you'll discover: - The ancient framework behind every powerful story - How to use personal stories to build confidence - Why family history matters more than you think - The secret to embedding values without resistance Plus, I share a real example of how I used this method to help my son overcome his fear of swimming. This isn't just about bedtime stories - it's about creating lasting change in your family through the timeless art of narrative. _________________ Create a family story worth passing down. Join me in The STUDIO to learn how to build a meaningful family culture that lasts. → https://hifam.com/studio 

Raising boys in today's world is complicated. Between mixed messages about masculinity and conflicting cultural expectations, many parents feel lost about how to nurture their sons' natural strengths while teaching them to become good men. In this controversial but necessary video, I'm sharing 10 unconventional strategies I use to raise strong, capable, and morally grounded boys. As a mother of four sons, I'll reveal:  - Why certain 'old-fashioned' approaches might be exactly what our boys need  - The crucial balance between physical confidence and emotional intelligence - How to encourage healthy masculinity without toxic messaging - The often-overlooked skills boys must learn to become capable men - Why protecting our sons too much might be holding them back  Whether you're raising boys or just interested in the future of masculinity, this video offers a fresh perspective on what our sons really need to thrive.  ____________________ Ready to raise strong sons in a world that's trying to soften them? In The STUDIO, I'll show you exactly how to build a family culture that nurtures healthy masculinity while teaching real leadership. And because your marriage is your sons' first model of how men should treat (and be treated by) women, you might also want to join us in Married-U, where you'll learn to create the kind of partnership that teaches by example. Get started:

"I'm probably traumatizing my kids..." How many times have you caught yourself thinking this? If you're constantly walking on eggshells, worried that every parenting mistake might leave lasting damage, you're not alone. But what if this hyper-awareness of 'trauma' is actually the real problem? As someone who has personally overcome severe clinical PTSD, I'm sharing a perspective-shifting truth about childhood resilience that most modern parenting advice gets completely wrong. In this raw, honest episode, I reveal: Why labeling everything as 'trauma' might be hurting our kids The surprising science behind childhood resilience How to distinguish between real challenges and actual trauma A powerful mindset shift that will transform how you parent This isn't another "be more gentle" lecture or guilt-inducing advice. Instead, I'm sharing why our obsession with protecting our children from every discomfort might be creating the very thing we're trying to prevent - and what to do instead. ________________________________  Stop second-guessing every parenting move. Inside The Studio, I'll show you how to create a family culture that builds resilience naturally - without the guilt, fear, or endless worrying about 'traumatizing' your kids. Get on The Waitlist today - https://hifam.com/studio Useful Links:  Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier https://amzn.to/4h2IYMx Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters by Abigail Shrier https://amzn.to/3W50jfM Hi Fam Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53ONFvWH0hU985xkjVLSwQ/

In a world pushing girls to 'be anything,' we might be missing something crucial about femininity. As a mother navigating today's cultural messages, I'm sharing 10 controversial (but necessary) approaches to raising healthy, confident feminine girls. In this episode, I'll reveal: Why certain 'old-fashioned' ideas might actually empower our daughters The dangers of modern body image messaging How to celebrate femininity without limiting potential The crucial balance between protection and independence Why some popular parenting advice might be hurting our girls This isn't about holding girls back - it's about giving them the freedom to embrace their authentic selves in a world that often sends mixed messages.  _________________________ Ready to raise feminine daughters in a world that's trying to redefine womanhood? In The STUDIO, I'll show you exactly how to build a family culture that celebrates authentic femininity while nurturing true strength and character. And because your marriage is your daughter's first model of how women should be treated (and treat others), you might also want to join us in Married-U, where you'll learn to create the kind of partnership that teaches by example. Get started:

'Your kids just... knew what to do next. They moved through the whole routine perfectly!'  That's what our new babysitter said after handling bedtime with our FIVE kids. No chaos. No resistance. Just a peaceful flow into dreamland. In this episode, I'm sharing the exact framework that transformed our chaotic evenings into a peaceful wind-down ritual. These aren't just tips - they're life-changing mindset shifts that help create the stable, nurturing environment our children crave at bedtime.   You'll discover: How to create a sleep-inducing environment without the power struggles The surprising pre-bedtime ritual that changes everything  Why sending your child to bed angry might be more significant than you think The sacred opportunity hidden in every goodnight kiss Whether you have one child or five, these proven strategies will help you reclaim your evenings while giving your children the peaceful bedtime they deserve.  _____________________________ Join the Hi Fam Membership - https://hifam.com/studio Useful Links: Recommended books, toys, and more - https://www.amazon.com/shop/theparentingjunkie Hi Fam Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53ONFvWH0hU985xkjVLSwQ/  

What happens when women decide to opt out - not just from dating or marriage, but from nearly every interaction with men? Imagine a movement where women refuse to make eye contact with men, support male-owned businesses, or even acknowledge men in social settings. This isn't speculation - it's the 4B movement, which began in South Korea and is now gaining traction in America. This movement is transforming personal choices about relationships and family into radical political statements. What drives women to make such extreme lifestyle choices? How did a movement born from economic disparity in South Korea evolve into an American expression of political protest? Through personal experience and thoughtful analysis, this episode examines what this tells us about modern family life, gender relations, and the growing divide between men and women in our society. Join me for a raw, unfiltered exploration that challenges us to think deeply about relationships, family dynamics, and the future of family structures. Whether you agree or disagree with its premises, understanding this phenomenon helps us better grasp - and perhaps shape - the evolving landscape of modern family life. ______________________ Want to build a family life of connection and joy rather than disconnection? Join The Studio, where thousands of parents are creating meaningful family cultures through proven habits. Get on the waitlist now!  

How do we raise children who may objectively be victims, without developing a victim mindset? In this deeply personal episode, I explore this complex question that carries meaning far beyond any specific group or circumstance. Whether your child faces bullying, medical challenges, family difficulties, or discrimination - this conversation offers powerful mindsets to help them develop resilience while honoring their experiences. Drawing from my personal experiences and family wisdom, I dive into practical strategies for allowing children to feel their genuine emotions while not letting hardship become their defining story. Learn how to help your children maintain their sense of joy, develop pride in their achievements (rather than circumstances), and transform challenges into opportunities for growth. Join me for this thoughtful exploration of building strong character and family culture in the face of adversity. Because while we can't always control what happens to us, we can control how we respond and who we choose to become. _________________________ Want to dive deeper into creating a meaningful family culture and raising children with strong values - Learn more about The Studio (hifam.com/studio), where parents come together to develop the leadership skills needed to build extraordinary families.

In a world where the mere mention of judgment can spark controversy and shame, it's easy to lose sight of its essential role in our lives. There's a crucial difference between being judgmental and exercising sound judgment, yet the fear of judgment has led many to forsake their ability to discern, blurring the lines between criticism and discernment.  Join us as we navigate this delicate balance, uncovering why it's vital not to shy away from judgment but instead to embrace it as a cornerstone of wisdom. And perhaps most importantly,  why giving the gift of good judgment to our children is an invaluable tool for them in navigating life's complexities with clarity and compassion.  __________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! (hifam.com/studio)

We've all experienced it—the gut-wrenching guilt, the overwhelming shame, the moments where we've passed judgment on others. Not the most pleasant feeling... Maybe that's why in today's world, there's a prevailing notion that these emotions should be erased from our vocabulary and emotional palette. But is this truly the best approach to raising our children and fostering healthy relationships? Join us on an eye-opening journey to challenge these societal norms that try to stop us from feeling these feelings and delve into the complexities of judgment, guilt, and shame. Learn why these emotions are trully important and why we should allow and not shield our kids from these emotions. _____________________________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio!

Ever found yourself meticulously following every parenting guideline to a t, only to feel like something crucial is missing?  In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truth about scripted responses and emotionless reactions and how they may be stifling genuine connections with our children. If you feel that the rules of gentle parenting are just not getting you anywhere - this might be an eye-opening truth as to what might be missing. Even more importantly how, unknowingly, you could have fallen into the traps of Robotic Parenting.  Tune in and learn what Robotic Parenting is, how to avoid it, and rediscover the magic of Authentic Parenting.   Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! _________________ The book mentioned in this episode: "Bad Therapy: Why Kids Aren't Growing up" by Abigail Shrier

Ever wondered why today's kids seem less ready for adulting? This episode spills the beans on the real struggles – less independence, job hesitations, a bouquet of disorders, and major "not ready" vibes. Discover what's really going on with our young generation as we dissect the impact of excessive screen time, casual relationships, and the effects of super laid-back parenting. Brace yourself: it's a recipe for stress, anxiety, and more. But hey, no need to panic! We've got a solid game plan to prep your kids for success in the adulting game. Find out how setting boundaries, sharing values, and building a strong family culture can make your kids ready for anything life throws at them. Join us for a straightforward discussion on the challenges our kids face today and grab practical tips to raise resilient, kick-butt individuals. Tune in and empower your parenting game!   Ready to raise resillient kids that know who they are and where they belong? Create an unbreakable family with The Studio! _______ “I love this show!”

"Have you tried couples therapy?" - that's the one and really ONLY solution that married couples are handed when they are on the brink of going their separate ways. And then... Many come to find that it's actualy not working, or working only for as long as you're going. What about the ones who can't even afford therapy? OR that partner who is frankly refusing to go. What choices are you left with then? Stay in missery or leave and break the family? There has to be a better way, and there is! In this episode, let's dive deep into the terittory of why therapy might be doing your relationship more harm than good. And yes, side note - therapy does good, therapy can be necessary, therapy has its place. Yet, it also has its downfalls and risks you might not even be aware of. Being aware of the problem is the first step in fixing it. So listen in and discover what you actually can do instead to save and also strengthen your marriage. _______ Build the relationship you want with the partner you've got! Take the first step at Married-U! (https://married-u.com)

What happens when peaceful parenting unintentionally takes a toll on your relationship? In this episode, we're unraveling the paradox of practicing zen parenting while forgetting to extend the same grace to our partners.  It's not about the tools of peaceful parenting causing the turmoil; it's about the pitfalls of neglecting peaceful partnering too. What are those double standards that may be unknowingly sabotaging your efforts? Discover why your kid might be echoing negative behaviors, and how the example we set in our partnerships becomes the blueprint for their future interactions. Hit play and explore the delicate balance between peaceful parenting and maintaining a loving connection with your partner. _______ Build the relationship you want with the partner you've got! Take the first step at Married-U! (https://married-u.com)

Feminism has contributed significantly to the world, bringing forth numerous benefits. Over the years, it has evolved into a complex and multifaceted movement. Alongside its positive impacts, however, some drawbacks have subtly infiltrated our subconscious. These factors now influence not only how women perceive men and themselves but also impact our relationships. It is crucial to acknowledge these aspects so we can build stronger families and marriages. If you're seeking a fulfilling connection and are curious about the silent forces shaping your perceptions of your partner - join us in this episode. Let's uncover the subtle influences intricately woven within the fabric of feminism affecting your relationship dynamics. Be sure that you haven't unknowingly succumbed to the shadow sides of feminism and instead foster a strong, loving relationship. _______ Create the marriage you WANT with the partner you've got! Married-U will help you make your dream a reality! (married-u.com) 

Sleep experts, parenting gurus, and influencers will come out with dramatic, dogmatic, and sometimes even fanatic statements, like "Never ____" or "The choice to ______ is akin to abuse". But these types of statements encourage a delusion in us parents: that there is ONE right, true and perfect way to parent. That there are whole and complete solutions to our queries and all we have to do is to keep swiping left until we find them. In this episode, I break down why Thomas Sowell was so, so right when he said: "There are no solutions, only tradeoffs." and I encourage you to take a more nuances, contextual, and individualized perspective when you're digesting your daily dose of parenting advice.  _______ Want more encouragement and practical guidance in creating a family life that puts family first? Join us in the Hi Fam Community (HiFam.com/Studio)  Get my new book, "Reclaim Play", available on Amazon now! Go to ReclaimPlay.com/book for your free book bonus. 

One of the most common questions I get asked by parents around the world is: "How can I give my child something I, myself, don't have?"  We all want to give the best to our children - to "level up" from generation to generation. But then we're faced with the reality that it's very hard to give something that we feel we lack!  So, whether it's about body image, communication skills, health, or confidence - this episode will give you the framework to develop essential life skills in your child and impart the priceless asset of a strong mindset. ~ Want to develop true resilience? Become unvictimized, unshakable, and unoffendable through Avital's signature mindset course, Alchemize (hifam.com/alchemize).   We here at Hi Fam want to help you create a family life you love! If you want more on this, join the Hi Fam Newsletter (hifam.com/newsletter).

It might be hard to imagine, but the emphasis on "safety" as one of the main goals for parents, was not always the prevailing value that humans sought after. Today, there's an acute obsession with physical and emotional safety. Caution signs and buzzwords like "safe space" and "trigger warnings" permeate societal circles. But "safetyism" actually leads us all to be less safe.    In this episode, I share 3 surprising ways in which a high emphasis on safety actually deteriorates resiliency and 3 strategies you can start practicing now to raise children who are strong - physically, emotionally, and mentally.    ~   Learn more about "safetyism" in the context of fostering independence in young children (starting at the earliest ages!) through the surprising powers of play in Avital's new book, Reclaim Play (reclaimplay.com/book).   We here at Hi Fam want to help you create a family life you love! If you'd like to go deeper into that, join the Hi Fam newsletter (hifam.com/newsletter).

Sometimes our biggest challenges come by surprise. There are times in our lives when we can plan, research, and make informed decisions. And then there are times when... we can't. When you're facing the fears and uncertainty of the future, it's very challenging to live the long game. And yet, as a parent, we're called to be leaders. Whether you're in "decision limbo" or your life is "on hold" - this podcast will help you find your footing again, despite... not knowing. My mission is to help you create a family life you love. If you'd like more on that, join my newsletter (HiFam.com/newsletter).   _______   Want more encouragement and practical guidance in creating a family life that puts family first? Join us in the Hi Fam Community (HiFam.com/Studio) Get my new book, "Reclaim Play", available on Amazon now! Go to ReclaimPlay.com/book for your free book bonus.