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“I think my husband's a narcissist…” If you've whispered those words to yourself — in the dark, after another disconnected conversation, or mid-scroll through TikTok — this video is for you. We live in a culture quick to diagnose, quick to label, and even quicker to tell women to walk away. But what if the truth is more complex… and more hopeful? In this episode, I gently unravel the difference between a truly narcissistic partner — and one who is imperfect, avoidant, or simply different from you. I share the hard-earned truths I learned in my own marriage, and the lessons that thousands of women around the world are now living by. This is not about blame. It's about clarity. It's about reclaiming intimacy, polarity, and respect — with the partner you already have.
In this weekly insight, Dr. Ettensohn addresses the common misconception that individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never seek therapy—and the even more misleading idea that simply wondering whether you have NPD means that you don't. This episode explores the origins of these myths, explaining how they stem from a misunderstanding of personality disorders and the role of insight. While NPD often involves rigid, maladaptive patterns of thinking and an egosyntonic sense of grandiosity, it also frequently includes periodic self-esteem collapses, during which individuals experience deep distress, depression, and anxiety. It is in these moments that many people with NPD seek therapy—contrary to the popular belief that they never do. Dr. Ettensohn discusses how online narratives about NPD have distorted public understanding of the disorder, reinforcing harmful stereotypes that discourage those who need help from reaching out. Drawing from clinical experience and current research, he provides a more nuanced and accurate view of why individuals with NPD do, in fact, pursue treatment.
In this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn explores the nature of grandiosity in pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), emphasizing that grandiose self-states are distortions that mask underlying vulnerability. He examines how these states emerge, why they are so compelling, and how they become self-reinforcing through positive feedback loops. Dr. Ettensohn also discusses the hidden instability beneath grandiosity, the interpersonal consequences of maintaining a distorted self-image, and the trauma-based origins of grandiose narcissistic armor. Drawing on the work of Ernst Wolf and real-world examples, he offers a compassionate yet clear-eyed look at how grandiosity functions as both protection and prison—and how growth is possible even after years of wearing the armor.
In this video, Dr. Ettensohn examines the growing claim that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is almost entirely genetic, offering a critical, clinically grounded reflection on what the current science actually supports—and where it falls short. He discusses how genetic contributions to personality traits are often misunderstood, and why claims of “hardwired narcissism” oversimplify a profoundly complex developmental process. Drawing from empirical research, neurodevelopmental theory, and clinical observation, Dr. Ettensohn explores how narcissistic pathology emerges not simply from temperament, but from early relational experiences—especially chronic emotional neglect, inconsistent attunement, and conditional regard. He addresses how brain plasticity, diagnostic controversies, and the misunderstood vulnerable core of NPD further complicate the genetic narrative. This video offers a nuanced perspective for anyone seeking to understand NPD beyond reductive models, emphasizing the importance of relational context, developmental history, and psychological depth. References: Brummelman, E., Thomaes, S., Nelemans, S. A., Orobio de Castro, B., Overbeek, G., & Bushman, B. J. (2015). Origins of narcissism in children. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 112(12), 3659–3662. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1420870112 Chen, Y., Jiang, X., Sun, Y., & Wang, Y. (2023). Neuroanatomical markers of social cognition in neglected adolescents. NeuroImage: Clinical, 38, 103501. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.nicl.2023.103501 Gatz, M., Reynolds, C. A., Fratiglioni, L., Johansson, B., Mortimer, J. A., Berg, S., & Pedersen, N. L. (2006). Role of genes and environments for explaining Alzheimer disease. Archives of General Psychiatry, 63(2), 168–174. https://doi.org/10.1001/archpsyc.63.2.168 Horton, R. S., Bleau, G., & Drwecki, B. (2006). Parenting Narcissus: What are the links between parenting and narcissism? Journal of Personality, 74(2), 345–376. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00380.x Luo, Y. L. L., Cai, H., & Song, H. (2014). A behavioral genetic study of intrapersonal and interpersonal dimensions of narcissism. PLOS ONE, 9(4), e93403. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0093403 Nenadić, I., Lorenz, C., & Gaser, C. (2021). Narcissistic personality traits and prefrontal brain structure. Scientific Reports, 11, 15707. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-021-94920-z Otway, L. J., & Vignoles, V. L. (2006). Narcissism and childhood recollections: A quantitative test of psychoanalytic predictions. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 32(1), 104–116. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205279907 Schulze, L., Dziobek, I., Vater, A., Heekeren, H. R., Bajbouj, M., Renneberg, B., & Roepke, S. (2013). Gray matter abnormalities in patients with narcissistic personality disorder. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 47(10), 1363–1369. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2013.05.017 Skodol, A. E. (2012). The revision of personality disorder diagnosis in DSM-5: What's new? Current Psychiatry Reports, 14(1), 39–43. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11920-011-0243-2
Get Free Access to All of My Attachment & Relationship Courses This Mental Health Awareness Month. Start Your 14-day Trial Now and Complete a Course Before the Offer Ends! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Is your partner emotionally unavailable—or emotionally manipulative? In this in-depth episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais is joined by co-host Mike DiZio to unpack the 9 diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and explain how these traits differ from what you see in someone with dismissive avoidant attachment. This episode goes far beyond the surface, giving you practical tools to differentiate between personality disorders and attachment wounds, understand confusing behaviors, and protect yourself from staying in toxic relationships under the wrong assumptions. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The 9 clinical traits of narcissism (based on DSM criteria) ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants may appear cold—but aren't manipulative ✔️ The root causes of narcissism vs. avoidant attachment ✔️ How each style relates to vulnerability, attention, and accountability ✔️ How dismissive avoidants can empathize and change—and why narcissists often don't ✔️ Why NPD healing is rare—and how shame avoidance blocks growth ✔️ Practical examples and red flags to look for in your relationships Whether you're confused about a past partner, navigating a current dynamic, or exploring your own behavior, this episode delivers eye-opening clarity and practical insight. ⏱️ Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro: Why This Distinction Matters 05:15 – 1: Grandiose Sense of Self 07:57 – 2: Requires Excessive Admiration 21:33 – 3: Fantasies of Unlimited Power, Beauty, Success 29:18 – PDS Membership Program 30:12 – 4: Entitlement 39:32 – 5: Believes They're Special & Unique 43:23 – 6: Interpersonally Exploitative 48:50 – 7: Arrogant or Haughty Attitude 52:18 – 8: Jealousy of Others 53:25 – 9: Lack of Empathy 59:05 – Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a global leader in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people heal attachment wounds and build secure, thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:
I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship. It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms: Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.” Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share! On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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“I'm just putting myself first, is that narcissistic?” “Am I being selfish or setting a boundary?” “I think I might be a narcissist.” Sound familiar? If you've asked yourself any of these questions, take a deep breath. You're probably not a narcissist. But the fact that you're even wondering is worth unpacking, because somewhere between healthy self-love and full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), things get murky. So let's clear it up. Today we're digging into the difference between being self-focused (a good thing), being selfish (sometimes good, sometimes not), and having narcissistic traits or full-blown NPD (not great). Then, you'll learn my five action steps for building healthy self-love without going overboard.____________________________Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/are-you-a-narcissist-and-dont-know-it-the-truth-about-healthy-selfishness-vs-narcissistic-personality-disorderTake the Quiz! Self-Love or Narcissism? https://abbymedcalf.com/narcissism-quizLearn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries with my book Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries or The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbookWant to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book____________________________Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you'll find past episodes.Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.comReady to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shopSay hello on social:Facebook: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthrivingLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthrivingYouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Join @samvaknin renowned narcissism expert and clinical psychologist, and Rebecca Zung, bestselling author and attorney, as they dive deep into the mysterious world of narcissism.
In this episode, Dr. David Puder interviews Dr. Frank Yeomans, a leading expert in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP) and personality disorders, to explore the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). They discuss object relations theory, identity diffusion, splitting, and the therapeutic relationship in TFP. Dr. Yeomans shares clinical insights on working with paranoid, devaluing, and omnipotent transferences, highlighting how therapists can navigate idealization, devaluation, and therapeutic neutrality. They also compare TFP with other psychodynamic approaches and discuss the role of aggression in mentalization and personality integration. Learn how TFP helps patients develop a stable identity Understand the differences between BPD and NPD treatment Explore the role of transference in psychotherapy Tune in for a deep dive into psychodynamic therapy with one of the field's top experts! Link to blog Link to YouTube video
In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn explores the profound insights of Alice Miller regarding the emotional abandonment and narcissistic use of the child, focusing on how these early dynamics shape pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Drawing from Miller's groundbreaking work, Dr. Ettensohn examines how a child growing up in a narcissogenic environment learns to adapt by creating a false self—a facade designed to secure love and avoid rejection in a world where their authentic self is not welcome. The episode explores the function of grandiosity as a defense mechanism—an unconscious strategy to deny the pain of unmet emotional needs—and its counterpart, depression (narcissistic vulnerability), which turns the pain inward. Both defenses serve to protect the individual from confronting a devastating loss: the realization that the love and support they needed was not available. The episode offers a compassionate exploration of how this tragic loss gives rise to the false self, a defense that becomes both a survival strategy and a prison. Through relatable metaphors and clinical insight, Dr. Ettensohn describes the psychological toll of living behind this mask and the challenges of reconnecting with the buried authentic self. Though the loss cannot be undone, healing is possible. By grieving the past and clearing away the defenses, it is possible to rediscover the vibrant, authentic self that has always been there, waiting to emerge. References: Miller, A. (1979) Depression and Grandiosity as Related Forms of Narcissistic Disturbances. International Review of Psychoanalysis 6:61-76 Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 VISIT THE WEBSITE: https://www.healnpd.org
Are narcissists born with narcissism? What are the core components of narcissism? To what extent do narcissists have their own personality that isn't shaped by what others think of them? Are narcissists overly confident or overly insecure? How are grandiosity and vulnerability related? Why might narcissists be offended by compliments? Would narcissists relinquish their narcissism if given the opportunity? Do most narcissists know that they suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? How long of a questionnaire is needed to diagnose NPD? In what professions are narcissists overly represented? How should people deal with the narcissists in their lives? How can narcissists be successfully integrated into society? What can people do if they think they might be a narcissist?Jacob Skidmore, also known as "The Nameless Narcissist", is a social media personality who has made the effort to explain his diagnosis, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, from his perspective. Following being diagnosed with NPD, he craved to understand himself and others, and he's taken to using his platforms to describe his realizations. It's taken him as far as to speak at international conferences and universities. His reflections can be found on most social media, primarily YouTube and TikTok, under the name "The Nameless Narcissist".Further readingPathological Narcissism Inventory (online free assessment)Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, by Wendy T. BeharyUnmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life, by Mark EttensohnStaffSpencer Greenberg — Host / DirectorJosh Castle — ProducerRyan Kessler — Audio EngineerUri Bram — FactotumWeAmplify — TranscriptionistsMusicBroke for FreeJosh WoodwardLee RosevereQuiet Music for Tiny Robotswowamusiczapsplat.comAffiliatesClearer ThinkingGuidedTrackMind EasePositlyUpLift[Read more]
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 28: The Self-Aware Narcissist with Special Guest The Nameless NarcissistIn this captivating episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley sits down with “The Nameless Narcissist,” a self-aware content creator diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Through his TikTok content, he shares raw and insightful accounts of living with NPD, and Dr. Hensley reflects on how his perspective has deepened her understanding of the condition, especially its origins and impact on relationships.The episode begins with The Nameless Narcissist recounting his journey to self-awareness, including his path to an NPD diagnosis after two years of therapy. He candidly discusses the challenge of being diagnosed due to the nature of NPD, where manipulation and deflection can mask the true symptoms.Dr. Hensley then poses a compelling question: “What's the one thing you wish people knew about NPD?” His answer highlights the human side of narcissism—that beneath the harmful behaviors, people with NPD still seek connection, worth, and love. He explains that while experts often understand the behaviors, they sometimes miss the underlying motivations.The conversation shifts to the role of control in narcissism. Dr. Hensley brings up a fascinating point from The Nameless Narcissist's content—that control isn't about achieving specific outcomes but proving one's capability to control. This stems from a need for self-esteem regulation, a recurring theme in the discussion.Dr. Hensley shares her personal experience with a narcissistic ex-partner who was a serial cheater. She theorizes his behavior stemmed from a need for constant external validation, which The Nameless Narcissist connects back to the “grandiose highs” that regulate self-esteem.The Nameless Narcissist also delves into his healing journey, including how exploring his caregivers' pain and trauma helped him release some of his childhood wounds. This insight into intergenerational trauma is a powerful reminder of the complexities behind NPD.The episode touches on the rare self-awareness among those with NPD, with research suggesting only 1% reach this stage. However, The Nameless Narcissist argues the true number is likely higher, as many may feel too much shame to admit their struggles publicly.Finally, the discussion turns to theories of narcissism's origins. The Nameless Narcissist shares his perspective, describing grandiosity as a safety mechanism to counter deep feelings of unworthiness—a way to feel anything at all.Dr. Hensley wraps up by thanking The Nameless Narcissist for his bravery and empathy, both for those with NPD and for those who've been hurt by narcissistic behavior. She encourages listeners to explore his content for further understanding of NPD and its complexities.This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand narcissism through a lens of compassion, insight, and healing. Please go follow The Nameless Narcissit on all platforms @thenamelessnarcissist. Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visit the links below and follow her on social media.Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkoutTik-Tok: the_dating_decoderInstagram: @the_dating_decoderFacebook: The Dating DecoderYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyWhat is covered:·Who is The Nameless Narcissit and what is his story..The one thing you want people to know about Narcissitic Personality Disorder (NPD).· The role of control in narcissism.·The theory behind why some narcissist are serial cheaters..The theories behind why only 1% of those with NPD become self-aware. Consider/Ask Yourself:·Am I dealing with someone who has true NPD or someone who just has narcissitic traits?.Do I possibly have NPD?·What is some of the pain that those with NPD are experiencing? .Am I seeking understanding and forgiveness for the pain that I experienced from someone with NPD or am I holding onto resentment?·How can I start to see more humanity in people who have diagnosed NPD?.Do I or someone I know need to seek help and intervention for NPD and/or narcisstic traits?
We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change?That is if they are willing to change.And if you are struggling to leave, hoping that your partner will make the changes they have promised, what do you need to know?In this episode I critique and summarize an article that hooked me in several years ago called “10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders: Narcissists can slowly change, with appropriate therapy and a lot of effort.”This article suggests 10 stages for the clinical “curing” of NPD. I share the takeaways for those who come into contact with someone with NPD or someone high on the continuum of narcissism including how the family court system can learn from and make changes to their assumptions based in this article. I also discuss what is missing from the article and ideas for future research.Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201908/10-stages-in-the-treatment-narcissistic-disordersPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...
In this episode of 'Speak the Truth,' Mike explores Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) from a biblical counseling perspective with special guest Beth Claes. The discussion differentiates between the DSM-5 definition of NPD and cultural perceptions of narcissism. Key characteristics such as self-absorption, desire for admiration, and lack of empathy are analyzed alongside biblical teachings, framing narcissism as idolatry. The conversation highlights the challenges and importance of reconciliation and healthy conflict resolution in Christian relationships. Additionally, the episode addresses the complexities of navigating relationships marred by narcissistic behavior and advocates for wise counsel, prayerful engagement, and mentorship to balance recognizing dysfunction while offering hope for redemption through Christ.00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:30 Discussing Narcissistic Personality Disorder01:12 Cultural vs. Clinical Narcissism03:52 Biblical Perspective on Narcissism05:11 Challenges in Identifying Narcissism06:05 Handling Relationships with Narcissists07:40 The Misuse of Psychological Labels09:50 Narcissism and the Gospel's Response11:06 Engaging with Narcissistic Behaviors13:08 Final Thoughts and EncouragementEpisode MentionsBeth's Blog
In this episode of Breaking Barriers: The Mental Health Podcast, we're peeling back the layers of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and showing you how to spot the signs in real life. Narcissists don't come with labels—so how do you know if you're dealing with one? We'll walk you through the key characteristics, including inflated egos, lack of empathy, and the constant need for validation, all summed up with the "SPECIAL ME" acronym. Get ready for an interactive breakdown that makes recognizing these traits easy and clear. We'll also dive into the emotional rollercoaster of navigating relationships with someone who has NPD. Whether it's a partner, a friend, or even a family member, you'll learn how to protect your emotional health, set boundaries, and avoid getting trapped in the narcissistic cycle. Plus, we explore the impact of parenting on narcissism—how certain childhood experiences and parenting styles may contribute to the development of narcissistic traits, and what you can do to foster healthier dynamics. This episode is packed with practical tips, relatable examples, and expert insights to help you understand narcissism at a deeper level—while keeping it fun and interactive. If you've ever wondered how to handle a narcissist without losing your sanity, this episode is for you. Tune in for a lively, enlightening conversation that could change how you approach your relationships. Don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave us your thoughts!
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Join FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic Relationship HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity Survivor to Thriver - https://www.rawmotivations.com/survivor Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
Watch this episode on Youtube Today, I'm catching up with past guest Coach Ralphiel Toulon, MCPC, SuperMom, Certified Life Coach, and Personal Trainer. It's been two years since Coach Ralph and I first spoke, and during that time, she has experienced some significant life changes. When we first spoke, Coach Ralph was in the midst of her marriage, navigating the complexities of her husband's diagnosis with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This led to a lot of challenges, but at the time, he had shown vast improvement and a real commitment to becoming better—specifically, learning how to express empathy in a way that wasn't harmful to those around him. Because of that progress, she decided to continue the marriage and even launched a program aimed at helping other women in relationships with narcissists who were determined to make it work. In our hour-long conversation, we dive deep into co-parenting, step-parenting, what it's really like being married to a narcissist, and the emotional toll it takes when things don't go as hoped. Coach Ralph candidly shares her journey and what happens when everything falls flat despite your best efforts. Follow Ralph : instagram.com/ralphthecoach Sponsored by NajaHallBeauty and VIPStepmom
Join us for a fascinating conversation with Jacob Skidmore, aka. "The Nameless Narcissist," a prominent advocate for raising awareness about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). As our latest guest speaker, he shares his journey of self-discovery and the complexities of living with NPD. In this episode, we delve into his early development of NPD and how it has shaped his social relationships with friends and family. Through his experiences, he provides a unique perspective on the inner world of a narcissist, challenging the common stereotype of selfishness. The Nameless Narcissist also opens up about his battles with trauma, addiction, and his path to recovery. His story is a testament to resilience and offers valuable insights for anyone interested in mental health, particularly NPD. Don't miss this captivating episode! ----------- GET IN TOUCH: If you want to learn more about addiction and mental health, please click SUBSCRIBE to Evan's Youtube channel and follow him on other social media:
Send us a textCan understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) transform your approach to therapy? In this episode, we uncover the intricate layers of NPD, diving into its defining traits such as grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy. We'll differentiate NPD from other personality disorders like histrionic, antisocial, and borderline personalities, clarifying what sets them apart. Learn how individuals with NPD often struggle with self-esteem fluctuations, leading to episodes of rage and depression, and why seeking therapy becomes crucial during these vulnerable times.Our episode offers a comprehensive review of various therapeutic approaches, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), psychodynamic therapy, and interpersonal therapy. Discover the importance of building a strong therapeutic alliance and how techniques like mirroring and empathy can facilitate deeper change. We highlight the value of schema therapy and transference-focused psychotherapy, stressing the necessity of a tailored approach to effectively address the root causes of narcissistic behaviors. Whether you're a clinician, someone affected by NPD, or curious about the condition, this episode provides critical insights into understanding and managing this complex disorder.If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Join FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic Relationship HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity Survivor to Thriver - https://www.rawmotivations.com/survivor Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2492510 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
“In a narcissistically abusive relationship, sex can become a tool of weaponry, a tool of control,” declares Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist. In this episode, she joins Dr. Z to unpack the intricate relationship between sex and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Dr. Balestrieri, founder of Modern Intimacy and host of the “Get Naked with Dr. Kate” podcast, delves into the subtle tactics of sexual coercion and emotional manipulation commonly used by someone with NPD. She discusses how, within these relationships, sex is used as a tool to seek validation, power, and control. The conversation also touches on the function and impact of infidelity and pornography in these relationship dynamics. Listen to this episode of Next Up: Narcissism to get a deep and insightful look into the role of sex within Narcissistic Personality Disorder, offering valuable strategies for those who are affected by this type of abusive behavior. Quotes “In a narcissistically abusive relationship, sex can become a tool of weaponry, a tool of control. It becomes bait, a way to keep someone suctioned into the relationship. It provides a false sense of security and can be a bomb used to perpetuate the cycle of abuse.” (03:13 | Dr. Kate Balestrieri) “When we understand narcissism, we recognize that it's really about the person, organized in this fashion, trying to prop up a sense of self that they can feel okay about. At its core, narcissism is rooted in shame and self-loathing. Narcissists cope with these feelings by projecting various manufactured images. Sex becomes another tool they use to prop up that image for themselves and the world. It becomes a way for them to gain supply, attention, validation, control, and power.” (05:34 | Dr. Kate Balestrieri) “We have to remember that narcissism is a condition of objectification. With a fragmented sense of self, they objectify everyone in their life; everyone serves a purpose to bolster them up. For someone partnered with a narcissist, their partner serves a particular function. One of the key elements of objectification is instrumentality, where the person becomes an object or instrument for serving the narcissist.” (24:36 | Dr. Kate Balestrieri) Links Connect with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: TikTok @drkatebalestrieri https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri?lang=en IG: https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri Website: www.modernintimacy.com Connect with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
Delanie Fischer is sharing an epic mashup with you today. In the first half of the episode you'll hear from clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, who provides an overview of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder — the different types, signs and symptoms, definitions of popular buzzwords, etc., and you'll hear from Lee Hammock in the second half of the episode, who is a self-aware narcissist with a clinical diagnosis of NPD. Lee shares what it's like to live with this disorder, the whys behind his behaviors, and guidance for people who are in relationship with someone like him. This episode supports, and destigmatizes, those who have been impacted by this disorder.Plus:+ A Breakdown of The 8 Types of Narcissism+ The Root Cause of Narcissism and NPD+ How To Stop A Toxic Relationship PatternMore episodes related to this topic:The Impact of Gaslighting with Dr. Sarkis: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting-with/id1251196416?i=1000528606106Living with Borderline Personality Disorder Featuring Chris: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/26123a37/living-with-borderline-personality-disorder-featuring-chrisLiving with Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Lee Hammock: https://podcasts.apple.com/pk/podcast/living-with-narcissistic-personality-disorder-with/id1251196416?i=1000519855834Demystifying Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Ramani: https://podcasts.apple.com/lu/podcast/demystifying-borderline-personality-disorder/id1251196416?i=1000581362476Narcissism and NPD with Dr. Ramani: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/narcissism-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-with/id1251196416?i=1000514861059How To Heal From Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Ramani: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-heal-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-dr/id1251196416?i=1000647934771You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Join us for a fascinating conversation with Jacob Skidmore, aka. "The Nameless Narcissist," a prominent advocate for raising awareness about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). As our latest guest speaker, he shares his journey of self-discovery and the complexities of living with NPD. In this episode, we delve into his early development of NPD and how it has shaped his social relationships with friends and family. Through his experiences, he provides a unique perspective on the inner world of a narcissist, challenging the common stereotype of selfishness. The Nameless Narcissist also opens up about his battles with trauma, addiction, and his path to recovery. His story is a testament to resilience and offers valuable insights for anyone interested in mental health, particularly NPD. Don't miss this captivating episode! ----------- GET IN TOUCH: If you want to learn more about addiction and mental health, please click SUBSCRIBE to Evan's Youtube channel and follow him on other social media:
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 10: Are They a Narcissist? In this enlightening episode of "The Love Doc Podcast," Dr. Hensley dives into the complex world of narcissism. Drawing from a rich array of perspectives, including social psychology, evolutionary psychology, developmental psychology, and clinical psychology, Dr. Hensley explores the intricate nature of narcissism and why it's such a widely studied yet frequently misunderstood field. Dr. Hensley begins by examining the various theories that explain how narcissism develops in individuals. She highlights how the term "narcissist" is often overused in contemporary discourse, leading to confusion between narcissistic traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This distinction is crucial, as NPD can be both over-diagnosed and under-diagnosed. True narcissists possess a remarkable ability to manipulate those around them, including their therapists, making accurate diagnosis challenging. A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to discussing how romantic relationships can exacerbate narcissistic traits. Dr. Hensley explains that the degree of perceived threat within these relationships can amplify existing narcissistic behaviors, complicating the dynamics between partners. One of the highlights of the episode is Dr. Hensley's in-depth analysis of attachment styles and their potential to be misinterpreted as NPD. She clarifies that attachment behaviors, while sometimes similar to narcissistic traits, are rooted in changeable behaviors that primarily manifest in romantic relationships. In contrast, true narcissism permeates all areas of a narcissist's life, including relationships with authority figures. Dr. Hensley also sheds light on the differences between overt and covert narcissists, offering her perspective on which type she considers more dangerous. This segment provides listeners with a nuanced understanding of how narcissistic behaviors can vary widely and the specific risks associated with each type. Throughout the episode, both Dr. Hensley and her co-host, Raina Butcher, share their personal experiences with narcissists, adding a relatable and practical dimension to the discussion. In the final segment, Dr. Hensley addresses the profound impact of narcissism on children, emphasizing how narcissists often use their children to exert control and manipulate, resulting in deep psychological scars. Dr. Hensley and Raina conclude the episode with a message of hope, providing practical advice and resources for those dealing with narcissistic abuse. They emphasize that understanding and addressing narcissism can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth. Join Dr. Hensley and Raina Butcher for this compelling and insightful exploration of narcissism, offering valuable perspectives for anyone navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals. Disclaimer: None of the material contained herein is medical advice. The advice and perspective that Dr. Hensley suggest are strictly that of opinion with highlights of scientific research. Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/ Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/ Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkout Tik-Tok: the_dating_decoder Instagram: @the_dating_decoder Facebook: The Dating Decoder Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: · The science behind narcissism. · The theories that explain how narcissism develops. · The threat that narcisstic traits play in our romatic relationships. · The difference between behaviors of specific attachment styles and the narcissist. · The difference between the overt and covert narcissist. Consider/Ask Yourself · What are the differences between Narcissitic Personality Disorder and narcissitic traits? · Is your partner a true narcissist or do they just have attachement wounding and insecurities? · If dealing with a narcissitic partner how can I seek intervention for myself and my children?
Narcissus was born in Ancient Greece, and was one day warned that he would live a long life as long as 'he never knows himself.' As he reached his teenage years, the handsome youth never found anyone that could pull his heartstrings, instead, he left in his wake a long trail of distressed and broken-hearted maidens. Then, one day, he chanced to see his own reflection in a pool of water and, thus, discovered the ultimate in unrequited love and fell in love with himself. Naturally, this one-way relationship went nowhere, and Narcissus, unable to draw himself away from the pool, pined away in despair until he finally died of thirst and starvation. Immortality, at least of a kind, was assured, though, when his body turned into the flowers which, thereafter, bore his name. Welcome to the Just Dumb Enough Podcast. A show that acknowledges no one is always an expert, by dispelling misconceptions with real experts. My guest today is Danu Morrigan. We've all met that person who is a little to self-absorbed. The world must revolve around them, whether they have to cry or scream or be silent to get their way. But what exactly is wrong with them? Danu is here today to teach us all about the sneaky Narcissistic Personality Disorder or NPD. She'll tell us what it is, what it means, what it's like to be raised by someone with it, and ultimately how to go no contact. It's a far cry from the fable of Narcissus who was so entranced by his own beauty that he died, but in some ways that story still feels kind of accurate. ( Www.DaughtersOfNarcissisticMothers.Com ) ( https://a.co/d/8AV1hoI will take you to: Www.Amazon.Com "How to go no contact with your narcissistic mother" ) Let's not be self absorbed people! Do you know any narcissists? I've certainly known a few, and it makes me wonder if I went no contact far later than I should have. Tell me your experience and maybe we'll have successfully learned together! In other news, June is officially here and the rankings are all new: 1. The United States, led by New York, New Jersey, and California. 2. Australia, with New South Wales leading them to the number 2 spot. 3. Scotland of the UK. That's certainly a shake up. 4. Ghana. Who did end up beating South Korea last month. 5. Canada, with Ontario barely keeping them in the top 5. That's it for this week! Have a great week, a great weekend, and I'll see you all back here next week for another new episode! Until the next episode, pretty please do all the things to help the show: rate, review, like, and subscribe. Reach out to DumbEnoughPodcast@Gmail.Com or on any social media if you want to reach me personally. Most importantly, Stay Dumb!
“Money is just the vehicle in which they do it,” explains Dr. Z, referring to “financial abuse,” a common manipulative tactic used by those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). In this episode, Dr. Z delves into the damaging impact of financial control in narcissistic abusive relationships, especially within marriages. She discusses how narcissists exploit financial dominance to manipulate their partners, emphasizing the need to identify and recognize these often subtle behaviors early in the relationship. Dr. Z explains how, particularly in the early stages of a relationship, these behaviors are frequently overlooked as being truly genuine. However, she warns that these seemingly generous acts are nothing more than love-bombing behaviors with the goal being to gain control over the other person. Dr. Z also provides examples of financially abusive behaviors including restricting their partner's access to funds, withholding money, extreme and unnecessary micromanaging of their spending, and running up debt in their partner's name without their knowledge- all of which create a significant financial dependency, leaving the person with very limited options to be able to exit the relationship. Dr. Z also offers crucial advice for those affected by financial abuse, suggesting various strategies to regain financial independence within these relationships. Quotes “In the beginning of a relationship, financial abuse starts as love bombing, in a sense... In the beginning stages of a relationship, it gives you a sense of comfort. It makes you believe that this other person is invested in you because they're making these long-term plans with you where your finances are interconnected.” (03:19 | Dr. Z) “It's not even about the money. It's the function of that behavior, withholding money or being in total control over it. That's what it's about. It's about control, manipulation, and power. Money is just the vehicle in which they do it.” (12:52 | Dr. Z) “One of the biggest reasons why people stay in these relationships is that financially, they cannot leave. They feel stuck.” (18:01 | Dr. Z) “Narcissists do not want you to be independent from them because it's less control for them, less power.” (19:37 | Dr. Z) Links Connect with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
“It is such a buzzword right now, which is good and bad,” says Dr. Z of the word narcissism. “We hear the terms narcissism and narcissistic abuse everywhere.” In this debut episode of “Next Up: Narcissism,” Dr. Z, a licensed clinical psychologist and narcissistic abuse expert, reconnects with her listeners to establish her mission: to provide accurate information for understanding narcissism and its impact on relationships, untangling the complexities of narcissistic abuse. Delving into the ABCs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Dr. Z gives an overview of key concepts and behaviors linked to narcissism and narcissistic abuse. She discusses the narcissist's routine avoidance of accountability as well as their attempts to socially isolate their partner. She also explains concepts like gaslighting and DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), a common strategy used to confuse and manipulate people into doubting their own reality. Dr. Z also discusses the absence of empathy within NPD and how this absence manifests into early relationship behaviors such as future faking and love bombing. Additional relational behaviors common to NPD such as hoovering and boundary violations disguised as "you're my soulmate" are also explained. This episode also touches on the harsh realization one faces as they come to truly understand the full extent of the abuse they have endured along with the often quiet suffering secondary to fear, shame, and isolation. Dr. Z aims to educate and empower her listeners with accurate knowledge, skills, and strategies to not only recognize the red flags of narcissistic abuse early on, but to also begin their healing process. Quotes “There are so many TikTok and Instagram therapists out there that aren't really therapists and giving inaccurate information. What I do think is essential to treatment when I'm working with somebody who is a survivor of narcissistic abuse are survivor stories. They are so unbelievably important in the journey of healing. In addition to survivor stories, you must make sure that the information you're getting, the treatment that you're getting, the suggestions that you're getting, and the strategies that you're getting are from a qualified mental health professional who is a specialist in this field.” (03:27 | Dr. Z) “We know narcissists are routinely avoiding accountability. They will not take accountability for any of their behaviors or the hurtful consequences of their behaviors. They just won't do it.” (07:04 | Dr. Z) “We care about other people. We care about their emotions. We want other people to be well. Narcissists don't—only if it benefits them. But again, it's fake empathy. Narcissists are amazing at faking empathy.” (13:41 | Dr. Z) “Hoovering is a calculated move in which the narcissist does something to suck you back into the abuse cycle.” (23:40 | Dr. Z) “Being in a relationship with somebody who has a narcissistic personality disorder, whether it's a parent, a friend, a colleague, your spouse, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, it doesn't matter. It's going to constantly feel like a yo-yo. It's a constant push and pull.” (54:50 | Dr. Z) Links Connect with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is one more and more people are encountering in their daily lives, whether it's someone you work with, a friend or family member, or someone you're in or were in a relationship with.How can you identify a narcissistic personality?How can you protect yourself?How can you heal?Join me, Dr Julie Osborn, as I share with you CBT tools to help you handle a narcissistic personality.Click to listen now! Visit us on Instagram at MyCBTPodcast Or on Facebook at Dr Julie Osborn Subscribe to the podcast at Apple Podcasts Email us at mycbtpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening to My CBT Podcast!
How do you treat people who think there's nothing wrong with them? How do you interact with these often engaging, charismatic people who cannot accept any responsibility or accountability for their actions, while blaming, manipulating, and gaslighting those around them while they try to fill their internal emptiness with an endless 'supply'? Join us as we discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) with a favourite repeat guest, Dr. Talia Marcheggiani ND, RP (Qualifying).
In this episode, join Jaime as she delves into the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissist with the renowned social psychologist, Dr. W. Keith Campbell. As a distinguished expert in personality and narcissism, Dr. Campbell provides valuable insights into navigating the challenges of co-parenting, whether dealing with narcissistic traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Together, they explore common behaviors of narcissistic individuals that impact co-parenting dynamics and discuss effective communication strategies for non-narcissistic parents. Dr. Campbell also shares crucial advice on establishing healthy boundaries, protecting parental rights, and ensuring the best interests of the children. If you're facing the emotional drain of co-parenting with a narcissist, this episode offers practical coping mechanisms to safeguard your well-being and mental health. Need help from Keith? Contact him by visiting www.wkeithcampbell.com. Learn more about his books here, including his latest book "The New Science of Narcissism."If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here!
Welcome back to "For Self-Examination" with your host, Dr. Christopher Taylor. In this December episode, Dr. Taylor reflects on the beauty of fall and the importance of grounding rituals. The conversation unfolds into a deeper exploration of narcissism, building on last week's insights.Dr. Taylor walks us through four distinct types of narcissism: overt, covert, communal, and malignant. From attention-seeking overt narcissists to covert individuals driven by self-loathing, communal narcissists disguising self-interest as altruism, and the potentially destructive malignant narcissists, each type unveils unique traits.While the term "narcissist" is widely used, Dr. Taylor emphasizes that a clinical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) applies to a small percentage. The focus shifts to recognizing and addressing toxicity in relationships, irrespective of clinical labels.The episode delves into common narcissistic behaviors, rooted in deep insecurities, an unending quest for validation, and a marked lack of empathy facilitating manipulative tendencies.Dr. Taylor addresses the pivotal question: Why does understanding narcissism matter? The emphasis lies on identifying and navigating toxic relationships. Resources are offered at taylorcounselinggroup.com, with additional support from Independently Strong, providing tools and community at independentlystrong.com.Next week promises a profound discussion on framing the new year, offering insights and reflections for a fulfilling 2024. Until then, Dr. Christopher Taylor encourages listeners to prioritize their well-being, signing off as your guide for self-examination.Thank you for joining us on this episode of "For Self-Examination" with Dr. Christopher Taylor. We hope you found this episode insightful and valuable for your journey of self-discovery. Be sure to like and subscribe! If you're seeking resources on this topic, visit our evolving resource center at: taylorcounselinggroup.com.
2 of the Gaslight-Proof ladies talk about Denial. Denial and narcissism are psychological concepts that are often intertwined, especially when discussing individuals with narcissistic personality traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Let's explore each concept separately and then discuss how they can be interconnected. Denial: Denial is a defense mechanism that involves refusing to accept reality or the truth of a situation. It is a way for individuals to protect themselves from uncomfortable or distressing thoughts, feelings, or information. People in denial may ignore evidence, downplay the significance of events, or distort reality to maintain a more positive self-image. Denial can be an obstacle to personal growth and can hinder the ability to address and overcome challenges. Narcissism: Narcissism refers to a personality trait characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. While everyone may exhibit some narcissistic traits from time to time, individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) display these characteristics to an extreme and pervasive degree. They often have a grandiose view of their own abilities and achievements, an overwhelming desire for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of insight into the impact of their behavior on others. Now, let's explore the connection between denial and narcissism: Denial in Narcissism: Self-Image Protection: Individuals with narcissistic traits may engage in denial to protect their inflated self-image. They might refuse to acknowledge flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings, as doing so would threaten their grandiose self-perception. Lack of Self-Reflection: Narcissists often struggle with self-reflection and introspection. They may avoid confronting aspects of themselves that do not align with their idealized self-image, leading to a form of denial regarding their own imperfections. Impact on Relationships: Empathy Deficit: Narcissists often struggle with empathizing with others. Their denial of others' feelings or needs may stem from their intense focus on their own desires and aspirations. Blame Shifting: When faced with criticism or accountability, narcissists may engage in denial by deflecting blame onto others. They may refuse to accept responsibility for their actions and instead shift the focus onto external factors. Treatment Challenges: Resistance to Therapy: Individuals with narcissistic traits may resist therapy or counseling due to their denial of personal issues. Acknowledging the need for help contradicts their belief in their own perfection. Limited Insight: Even if in therapy, a narcissist may struggle to gain insight into their behavior and its impact on others. Denial can be a significant barrier to therapeutic progress. Understanding the dynamics of denial and narcissism is crucial for those dealing with individuals who exhibit such traits, whether in personal relationships or professional settings. It's important to approach these situations with empathy and, when possible, encourage the individual to seek professional help for personal growth and development. As mentioned in the episode, if you'd like to contact the ladies use the following email - wrafainfo@gmail.com The following are the sponsors of Birdman Media Podcasts; please visit them and support them when you can, as they make this show possible. Premier Sponsors: Arizona's Mountain Home Hunters The Hub Alberito's Buffalo Bill's Tavern and Grill Darbi's Cafe The House Restaurant La Casita Cafe Nexus Coalition for Drug Prevention Pour Station - White Mountain Purified Water Solterra Senior Living St. Anthony's School Sutton Weed & Pest Control White Mountain Tees WME Theaters
In this episode of "For Self-Examination," host Dr. Christopher Taylor returns after a year and a half hiatus to explore the intricate topic of narcissism. The episode serves as the first part of a two-part series, promising a total of three episodes before the year concludes. Dr. Taylor introduces the plan to transition into a more consistent weekly schedule in the coming year.The focus of today's discussion revolves around narcissism, examining it from two perspectives: as a clinical personality disorder and as a prevalent theme in popular culture, notably on platforms like TikTok. Dr. Taylor touches on the rise of discussions around narcissism in various social circles and introduces Independently Strong, an organization that will be featured in the episode.Listeners are given a glimpse into the upcoming content, with a promise to continue exploring the topic of narcissism in the next episode. Dr. Taylor provides a concise overview of the nine criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM, emphasizing the significance of distinguishing between occasional arrogance and clinically defined narcissism.The lack of empathy is highlighted as a crucial aspect of narcissism, leading to manipulation and exploitation. Dr. Taylor concludes by mentioning the upcoming episode's focus on types of narcissism, narcissistic behaviors, and additional co-occurring issues. The episode ends with a mention of resources available on both Independently Strong's website and Taylor Counseling Group's evolving resource center.Thank you for joining us on this episode of "For Self-Examination" with Dr. Christopher Taylor. We hope you found this episode insightful and valuable for your journey of self-discovery. Be sure to like and subscribe! If you're seeking resources on this topic, visit our evolving resource center at: taylorcounselinggroup.com.
The 9 Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) from the perspective of a diagnosed Narcissist Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone. Website - www.mentalhealness.net 1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Weekly Newsletter - subscribepage.io/mentalhealness Cameo Motivation - https://www.cameo.com/mentalhealness Self Love Journal - https://a.co/d/70L3zKb Remember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ Thank you so much and lets HEAL together --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalhealness/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalhealness/support
When Katie Baunach failed to pick her kids up from a friend's house, authorities went to her last known location. The house of Katie's ex-husband, Marine veteran - turned bodybuilder, Ian Baunach. Join Margot as she explores the tragic story of Katie Baunach. Consider donating to Katie's Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/katie-mckinney-baunach-memorial-family-fund Read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist ——- Ways to support your favorite podcast: Join My Patreon Family! Subscribe to Military Murder Premium on Apple Podcast! Rate/Review the Show! Tell a Friend about Military Murder —— Thanks to Today's Sponsor: Honeylove! Visit honeylove.com/militarymama for 20% off your order. ----- Military Murder is a military true crime podcast that focuses on murders committed by military members, veterans, and sometimes their family members. ---- Follow on social: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mamamargot TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@militarymargot Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/militarymurderpodcast Discussion Group: https://facebook.com/groups/militarytruecrime Email: militarymurderpodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Welcome back to another eye-opening episode of The Just Believe Show! I'm your host, Herbie Mack, and today, we have a remarkable guest, Joy Larkin, joining us for an in-depth conversation on a topic that touches many lives: healing from narcissistic abuse. In this gripping episode, Joy shares her journey, insights, and invaluable advice on finding love and healing from the clutches of narcissistic relationships. She's no stranger to the emotional rollercoaster that such relationships can be. Joy's experiences serve as a beacon of hope, guiding you to recognize the red flags in potential partners and helping you navigate the often treacherous waters of narcissistic entanglements. Joy Larkin is more than just a guest; she's a seasoned author and mentor with firsthand experience dealing with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Her book, "Reclaim Your Life Back: My Journey into Understanding Narcissism," is a testament to her dedication to helping others break free from the chains of narcissistic relationships. As her wisdom and guidance became increasingly sought after, Joy expanded her reach by penning a new book, "Your Pain Will Make You Successful: A Guide To Living Your Best Life After Dealing With Mental, Emotional, And Psychological Pain." This book is a comprehensive resource for anyone looking to overcome pain, discover their true identity and self-worth, and achieve lasting success. Join us for this thought-provoking and empowering conversation with Joy Larkin, the expert who understands the ins and outs of narcissistic abuse and how to emerge victorious on the path to healing and self-discovery. If you're ready to regain control of your life and find joy again, this episode is a must-listen! #JustBelieveShow #MentalHealthMatters #SuicidePreventionAwareness #DealingWithNarcissists #Narcissism Don't miss this inspirational episode of The Just Believe Show. Subscribe now and embark on a journey of healing and hope. To learn more about Joy Larkin, please visit https://livenarcfree.com/ Joy Larkin's book Your Pain Will Make You Successful. Your-Pain-Will-Make-Successful Joy Larkin's book Reclaim Your Life Back.: My journey into understanding narcissism. Reclaim Your Life Back.: My journey into understanding narcissism. Stay connected with Joy on social media. livenarcfree.llc To learn more about my mission or to inquire about having me at your upcoming event, please visit https://herbiemack.com/. Stay connected and inspired by following me on social media
In this episode, we delve into the energy draining, pervasive and often unspoken aspect of toxic relationships – emotional exhaustion. Join me in the exploration of how individuals with traits from the dark triad, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), drain the energy and vitality from those around them, especially their partners. Toxic people, particularly those with NPD, have a unique ability to leave their loved ones feeling emotionally depleted and drained. In this episode, we shed light on the insidious dynamics that lead to this exhaustion. We look at the why, and the how, providing you with a deeper understanding of the emotional toll that you pay being around toxic individuals. We also discuss strategies and coping mechanisms to combat emotional exhaustion in the context of toxic relationships. This episode offers practical guidance for listeners who may be grappling with the debilitating effects of emotional exhaustion including depression, apathy, anxiety and panic attacks. Learn how to regain mental strength and heal from the toxic grip of narcissistic abuse as we explore how to enhance emotional strength. My Website: https://innersourcetherapy.com/index.html About me: https://deborahashway.com/about.html TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapist_debashway Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innersourcetherapy
This is Episode 13: Avengers: Infinity War.Topics of DiscussionIn a 2018 article written by Mary Ingram, Thanos is described as a “Sociopath with a heart.”The article imagines a therapy session and intervention with Thanos.“By the time this client told me this about his past, I had already diagnosed him with both Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD). The first is characterized by grandiosity, preoccupations with limitless power, beliefs in his own special purpose that no one else understands, entitlement, exploitation of others, lack of empathy, and arrogance. “Megalomaniac” fits well here. The second is characterized by repeated law-breaking, aggressiveness, and lack of remorse.”Initial diagnosis would be schizophrenia for his appeared delusional conceptions.Intervention: Talking about the killing his daughter –“So I wonder if your internal unrest stems first from the confusion and unfamiliarity of truly loving someone, and second from how that love (and its loss, at your own hand no less) deters from the triumph of realizing your dream. Does that fit?”Reply: “Love…” he said, voice dripping with indignation. “You're saying that's what's bothering me, what tears my soul and keeps me from sleeping? Love has always been irrelevant,” he paused. “Though, it was apparently useful for gaining the Soul Stone.” His huge shoulders sagged. “My heart broke when I lost her, my little one, my fighter. But, in that moment, I thought it would be worth it, a worthy exchange, one she would have willingly died for if she truly understood me, if she could truly see the paradise I saw, the paradise I was creating.”His narcissism was kicking up again here. I decided to go with it, connect with as much love as was there, but also wrap in his self-admiration.“Long ago you had seen, in this struggling little girl on a dying planet, the fighter, the determination, the defiance in the face of the enemy. You had seen yourself in her. And you raised her to be your little one, even a little you. She became a part of you.” His eyes widened with these statements, some truth clicking into place for him.“You thought, after killing her, after destroying a living, breathing, beautiful piece of yourself, that it would be worth it.” I paused, then asked softly, “Was it worth it?”Outcome:I still don't know if what Thanos felt was love, which requires something fundamentally antithetical to someone with APD: empathy. Did he mourn out of guilt for ending the life of a person he loved and cared for, a person whose happiness and wellbeing he valued? Or did he only feel regret because he projected onto her an image of himself, and his narcissistic pride could not fathom why he might intentionally harm anything that was his? Is empathy, the ability to deeply understand and feel another's emotions, really any different from seeing ourselves in another person?Premise of DiscussionWhat might be psychologically wrong with Thanos? As a confusing and perplexingly complex character, how does it feel to try and imagine diagnosing him. Does it hold up? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This week on Spilling the Thera-Tea, we take a deep dive into Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - a misunderstood and overused diagnosis. Guided by therapist KathyDan Moore, we unravel the complexities of NPD, warning of the dangers of misdiagnosis and the importance of individualized care. Grief coach Jess Lowe joins the conversation to shed light on narcissistic abuse, empowering you with strategies to deal with someone with NPD. We leave you with an insightful worksheet and practical steps on how to cope, heal and move forward. **********************Grief Coaching :https://kdmcounselinggroup.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Grief-Coaching-Resource.pdf?Narcissistic Abuse Recovery:https://kdmcounselinggroup.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/narcissistic-abuse-recovery.pdf?**********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Grief Coach Jess Lowe, and their guests to the show and website. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own. While we make every effort to ensure that the information we are sharing is accurate, we welcome any comments, suggestions, or correction of errors.Privacy is of utmost importance to us. All people, places, and scenarios mentioned in the podcast have been changed to protect patient confidentiality.This website or podcast should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in a legal sense or as a basis for expert witness testimony. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on the podcast or website.In no way does listening, reading, emailing or interacting on social media with our content establish a doctor-patient relationship.If you find any errors in any of the content of these podcasts or blogs, please send a message to kdandjess@spillingthetheratea.com.Podcast Music by: Lemon Music Have a question for our Asked and Answered Segment? Email Us!AskUs@spillingthetheratea.comFollow us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/spillingthetherateapodcastFollow us on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/Spilling-the-Thera-Tea-103883072393873/Check out our website!
This is Episode 13: Avengers: Infinity War.Topics of DiscussionIn a 2018 article written by Mary Ingram, Thanos is described as a “Sociopath with a heart.”The article imagines a therapy session and intervention with Thanos.“By the time this client told me this about his past, I had already diagnosed him with both Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD). The first is characterized by grandiosity, preoccupations with limitless power, beliefs in his own special purpose that no one else understands, entitlement, exploitation of others, lack of empathy, and arrogance. “Megalomaniac” fits well here. The second is characterized by repeated law-breaking, aggressiveness, and lack of remorse.”Initial diagnosis would be schizophrenia for his appeared delusional conceptions.Intervention: Talking about the killing his daughter –“So I wonder if your internal unrest stems first from the confusion and unfamiliarity of truly loving someone, and second from how that love (and its loss, at your own hand no less) deters from the triumph of realizing your dream. Does that fit?”Reply: “Love…” he said, voice dripping with indignation. “You're saying that's what's bothering me, what tears my soul and keeps me from sleeping? Love has always been irrelevant,” he paused. “Though, it was apparently useful for gaining the Soul Stone.” His huge shoulders sagged. “My heart broke when I lost her, my little one, my fighter. But, in that moment, I thought it would be worth it, a worthy exchange, one she would have willingly died for if she truly understood me, if she could truly see the paradise I saw, the paradise I was creating.”His narcissism was kicking up again here. I decided to go with it, connect with as much love as was there, but also wrap in his self-admiration.“Long ago you had seen, in this struggling little girl on a dying planet, the fighter, the determination, the defiance in the face of the enemy. You had seen yourself in her. And you raised her to be your little one, even a little you. She became a part of you.” His eyes widened with these statements, some truth clicking into place for him.“You thought, after killing her, after destroying a living, breathing, beautiful piece of yourself, that it would be worth it.” I paused, then asked softly, “Was it worth it?”Outcome:I still don't know if what Thanos felt was love, which requires something fundamentally antithetical to someone with APD: empathy. Did he mourn out of guilt for ending the life of a person he loved and cared for, a person whose happiness and wellbeing he valued? Or did he only feel regret because he projected onto her an image of himself, and his narcissistic pride could not fathom why he might intentionally harm anything that was his? Is empathy, the ability to deeply understand and feel another's emotions, really any different from seeing ourselves in another person?Premise of DiscussionWhat might be psychologically wrong with Thanos? As a confusing and perplexingly complex character, how does it feel to try and imagine diagnosing him. Does it hold up? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
David & Sherie start to explore what narcissism is and how to spot it. This is the first in a series where we explore not only what it is but how to deal with someone who is a narcissist.
Many individuals assert that therapy is ineffective for individuals diagnosed or meeting the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, it is important to recognize that therapy can indeed be beneficial. The primary challenge lies in the fact that narcissists rarely seek professional assistance due to their distorted worldview, which leads them to believe that the issue lies with others rather than within themselves. As psychologist Mike King straightforwardly states, “...a narcissist isn't going to believe there is anything wrong with him and would laugh in your face.” Therefore, the fundamental question becomes: How can one persuade someone who does not perceive the need for help to consider seeking it? Let's dive in deeper.
Answering the question of whether narcissists possess free will proves to be a complex endeavor, as it does not lend itself to a simple yes or no response. Our perception often leads us to consider individuals with specific mental disabilities or conditions as not being fully responsible for their actions, but this evaluation becomes more intricate when examining those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Understanding one's own behavior can be challenging for anyone, but the complexity intensifies in individuals with a personality disorder. In today's podcast episode, we will explore the intricacies of the narcissistic mind, shedding light on why the concept of free will is far from straightforward.
If you are currently involved with an individual displaying narcissistic traits, you may have experienced moments where you expressed the need for personal space to clear your mind. However, it is rare to hear a narcissist themselves make such a request. Given the distinctive characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), it raises legitimate questions about the true meaning when a narcissist claims they need space. In this podcast episode, we will go into the underlying motives behind their behaviors and verbal expressions.
Comment below with your opinions on this! Check out Jacob's YouTube channel here: www.YouTube.com/@thenamelessnarcissist And his other links, including options for supporting his work, can be found here: https://linktr.ee/thenamelessnarcissist Jacob Skidmore, a.k.a The Nameless Narcissist, was officially diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and was aware that something was off since early childhood. Since realising that narcissistic behaviour has damaged his own life as well as harmed others, Jacob has set out on a path of revelation and discovery, looking for a way to live that is more beneficial to both himself and others. In this fascinating and honest interview, Jacob shares what it's like to be a narcissist, what goes on in his mind, what motivates him and drives him, and what he's hoping to achieve through sharing his struggle with the world.
Narcissist. The word is so overused as to apply to everyone and no one. What's going on? Well, narcissism is an important issue to me personally, as I have a great deal of personal experience dealing with these folks. I'll get into that a bit on this episode. And narcissism is truly a big deal when you consider that potentially 1 out of every 10 people has full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and far more than that have strong narcissistic tendencies. These folks cause DAMAGE! And one of the things that angers me most about these individuals is that our society runs on trust. Without trust, our society will break down. While most people are honest and trustworthy, narcissists use our trust and exploit it for their own personal gain. In so doing, they threaten the very fabric of our society. And narcissists aren't interested in being anchored in truth, they are more interested in what they can tell you in order to manipulate you, facts be damned.In this episode…What is narcissism?What are the symptoms?How does one become narcissistic?How do you deal with a narcissist?Can a narcissist heal?What to do if you are a child of a narcissistic parent?And how to spot a narcissist!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com
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Episode Summary: It seems in recent years, people have become more familiar with the terms narcissist or narcissism, especially as a component of abusive situations. While there is a lot of information out there, not all of it is accurate, so I wanted to share my perspective as a board-certified clinical neuropsychologist. We're changing things up just a bit this week. My friend, Aliene Thompson, founder of Treasured Ministries, and I were recently talking about narcissism, and I asked her if she would join me on the program to help guide the conversation while I share insight from a clinical perspective. So, in today's episode we'll be discussing How to Spot the Narcissist in Your Life! Quotables from the episode: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a clinical disorder. Such individuals have inflated self-importance, arrogance, pride, vanity, lack of empathy & lack of self-awareness. A narcissist is someone who loves themselves most of all. They believe they are the center of the universe and no one else matters. They worship themselves. One in three women are the target of domestic abuse. That accounts for 1.6 million American women between the ages of 16-74. In a narcissistic relationship, the abused begins to question themselves, experiences guilt, shame, loss of self-esteem. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you may find yourself feeling devalued, invisible, and even worthless. People with narcissism often have a sense of entitlement and require constant validation and approval. While it's true that most diagnosed narcissists are men, it's important to remember that narcissism is a personality disorder that can affect anyone, regardless of gender. Gaslighting is a real phenomenon, and it's a form of emotional abuse. This is when they try to make you question your own reality and memory. Narcissistic personality disorder is a serious mental illness that can be extremely destructive to both the narcissist and those around them. Scripture References: James 1:19-20 “. . . let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” 1 Cor. 13:4-8a "Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” Recommended Resources: TEXT START to 88788 or thehotline.org Trusting God Through Cancer 1 Trusting God Through Cancer 2 Revive & Thrive Women's Conference Subdue Stress and Anxiety: Fifteen Experts Offer Comprehensive Tools in Ten Minutes a Day. Use my link plus discount code BENG99 to save $90 on course (course will be $99.) Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be Another Good Day Breaking Anxiety's Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson Breaking Anxiety's Grip Free Study Guide Free Download: How To Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win Free 7-Day YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety's Grip Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor's Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Social Media Links for Host: For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: Order Book Breaking Anxiety's Grip / Order Book Hope Prevails / Website / Blog / Facebook / Twitter (@DrMBengtson) / LinkedIn / Instagram / Pinterest / YouTube Host: Dr. Michelle Bengtson lives to break the grip of anxiety and fear, foster regeneration, and renew life in her readers and listeners. She frequently speaks from John 10:10 “The thief only comes to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full.” From her own personal experience and professional expertise as a clinical Neuropsychologist, she unpacks these words, recognizing in her life and others' the brokenness that attends life, but also the concrete steps we can take as we walk with Christ through the thin places of life.
Navigating a toxic relationship with a narcissist is incredibly difficult and it's easy to start drinking as a coping mechanism to escape. You may have a partner who is a narcissist, have grown up with a narcissistic mother or father, or navigating co-parenting your children with a narcissistic ex. And if you're in a relationship with a narcissist and you're drinking a lot, they will use your drinking as a tool to further confuse and gaslight you, or blame you for situations where they need to take responsibility and make changes. Quitting drinking is a powerful way to get clarity and take more control in a relationship with a narcissist, whether it's a parent, sibling, partner or ex. I asked Heather Kent, a registered psychotherapist and trauma recovery specialist with an expertise in PTSD, Narcissism, Narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Trauma Recovery to share how she helps women through the process of ending abusive and toxic relationships, and re-building their lives after they have left. For full show notes and resources mentioned in this episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/131 Ready to drink less + live more? Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From Drinking Sign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class If you're ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit. It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more. To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Why are narcissists so mean? Narcissists put you down often - way more often than most people even realize. (This is the psychology of why they do it and how to deal) People who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) need to put others down. It is really in their very nature to do so, and they are drawn to people that are successful because they want to feel like they are better than them or superior to them. People with NPD can be incredibly toxic people, and if you have encountered one in your lifetime you know exactly how hard it can be to deal with them. If you've been unfortunate enough to experience being a narcissistic supply, then you'll know how important it is to be aware of the psychology of why narcissists do what they do. Even a covert narcissist can leave your head spinning. Here, Angie Atkinson will explain how and why the narcissist feels the need to put you down, and how trauma bonding makes it all so much more difficult for you - whether dealing with a narcissistic husband or wife, or even a narcissistic mother or father. Get my new app: https://queenbeeing.com/myappSubscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise