Very good is a moving target, but we think you can be a very good (enough) parent if you love your kids and try hard. Join mother of three Jess Hover and preschool teacher Layne Deyling Cherland as we tackle how to understand toddler behavior from THEIR perspective, how to build a non-judgmental community of moms, how to repair our mistakes and have healthy relationships with our partners/kids/selves, plus so much more of what we call "people stuff". We take care of the people who take care of children - moms, dads and everyone else! From Very Good Mothers Club Theme by Conner Cherland
The Very Good Enough podcast is an absolute gem for parents and caregivers alike. Jess and Lane's conversations are a perfect combination of child brain science, real-life experiences, kindness, permission, and putting words to the thoughts and feelings that all moms (and caregivers) can relate to. Whether you have a one-year-old or a four-year-old, this podcast will meet you where you're at in your parenting journey.
One of the best aspects of this podcast is the mix of knowledge and relatability that Jess and Lane bring. They have a deep understanding of child development and psychology, but they also speak from their own experiences as mothers. This combination makes their advice practical and applicable to real-life situations. They tackle topics like tantrums, sleep training, sibling rivalry, and more with empathy, humor, and a genuine desire to help parents navigate these challenges.
Another great aspect of this podcast is the dynamic between Jess and Lane. Their voices are calming and soothing to listen to, making each episode feel like a comforting conversation with friends. They bounce ideas off one another, offer different perspectives based on their backgrounds (Jess as a mother and influencer, Lane as a teacher), and share personal stories that are both hilarious and heartwarming.
While it's hard to find any major faults with The Very Good Enough podcast, one minor drawback could be the length of the episodes. Some listeners may prefer longer episodes that delve deeper into certain topics or provide more in-depth discussions. However, others may appreciate the shorter length as it allows them to easily fit an episode into their busy schedules.
In conclusion, The Very Good Enough podcast is an absolute must-listen for parents who want practical advice, relatable stories, and encouragement in their parenting journey. Jess and Lane's authenticity shines through in every episode as they tackle important topics with humor, vulnerability, and grace. Whether you're a new mom or a seasoned caregiver, this podcast is sure to leave you feeling supported, understood, and inspired.
In the final episode of Very Good Enough, Jess and Layne process some real-time anxiety (this was recorded during the LA fires--you'll hear an air purifier in the background), figure out how to land this plane and let you know what to expect from us in the future. We also talk about how to manage anxiety when the world feels too big by identifying what IS in your power to influence and then doing that really well. When we say that we have LOVED making this podcast for you over the last 2+ years...there aren't words to fully wrap around the feeling. THANK YOU for being in this extended conversation with us. And...we're not disappearing! Make sure you're following us on Instagram so you don't miss what's next:Jess - @jess_hoverLayne - @enquirycoWe don't like good byes so consider this a "See you there!"
This is the second to last episode of this podcast and we are in our feelings about it. BUT before we say goodbye, we have one last Carl Jung quote to unpack with you: "Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically...on their children than the unlived life of the parent." We go pretty deep on how to hear your own desires, what reparenting yourself actually looks like, the brain development behind why your life becomes your child's model for their own...and a ton of other stuff. If there has to be a second-to-last, we're glad it's this one.Note: there is a gentle but audible hum throughout this episode--it's an air purifier, we recorded this during the LA fires.Related Episode: Mothers Not MartyrsJoin Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community: https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coachingFind us on Instagram:Jess - @jess_hoverLayne - @enquiryco
Welcome, dear friends, to the first of three final episodes of Very Good Enough. After a long break, Jess and Layne are back together ready to share what this journey has been like from each of our perspectives and how we independently arrived at the conclusion that, well, it's time to conclude. We recorded these conversations during the height of the fires in LA so you'll hear about our experiences with that in real time. Then we get into how to know when it's time to let something go, how to celebrate the ending of something good, and how to trust your life direction even when you don't totally know where it's taking you.Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community: https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coachingFind us on Instagram:Jess - @jess_hoverLayne - @enquiryco
Jess and Layne take some time to reflect on the conversations we've had with you over the course of this season. While Very Good Enough is on hiatus, you can still find us in REAL LIFE inside the Very Good Mothers Club community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
This episode digs into the isolating world of early parenthood. Jess and Layne explore why connecting with other moms (or literally anyone) is crucial for your mental and physical health and offer practical tips on building your support network. Learn how to combat "must be nice" syndrome--that creeping resentment towards partners or friends who seem to have it easier--and how friendship can help you identify these feelings and transform them into productive conversations about your needs. Whether you're a seasoned mom or new to the game, find out how to create meaningful connections and build community. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Drawing inspiration from a scene in "The Crown," Jess and Layne explore the idea of stepping into your own authority as a parent and trusting yourself to make choices. Key topics include: Dealing with guilt and second-guessing yourself The importance of flexibility and learning from experiences Communicating confidently with your partner and family members We offer practical advice on how to build confidence in your choices and accept that mistakes are part of the journey. Whether you're struggling with mom guilt, feeling overwhelmed by decision-making, or frozen with anxiety about the future, this episode is a reminder that you're uniquely equipped to wear the crown in your own life and motherhood journey. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Jess invites Layne's husband, Conner Cherland, into the studio (it's our living room) for a discussion on time management and life balance. Conner's unique perspective as an artist and entrepreneur offers fresh approaches to common challenges faced by busy moms. We talk about: Practical time management strategies when you're overwhelmed How to prioritize your goals (even if your goal is simply "sleep more") How to break down large tasks into manageable steps Embracing imperfection and celebrating small wins Layne and Conner share how they navigate gender roles and work toward equity in their relationship. Conner advocates for dads making sure moms get the time and space they need to de-stimulate and connect with themselves so they can identify what they really want. Conner teaches us how to manage our energy throughout the day, and why sometimes doing less can actually help you achieve more. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
With the upcoming election adding extra tension to our lives, Layne and Jess dig into the challenge of maintaining relationships when core beliefs differ. We discuss: How to maintain relationships when we disagree on parenting styles, politics, or worldviews? Strategies for having meaningful conversations about sensitive topics Navigating family dynamics when personal beliefs evolve over time How to approach differences in parenting choices (e.g., co-sleeping, vaccinations) Dealing with the impact of social media on our perceptions of others Learn how to create understanding, set boundaries when needed, and find common ground even when viewpoints clash. Because at the end of the day, if we all love our kids and try hard, we actually have a lot in common. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
You FLOODED our inbox over the last month with responses to our episode, "Fear + Force | Why we're leaving old school discipline styles behind." This week, Layne digs into your stories and questions. We cover: Is yelling ever ok as a parent? How do I get my toddler to listen? Is spanking child abuse? How to be in charge as the parent while still respecting my child's personhood How to manage power struggles with my toddler My 3-year-old gives me the silent treatment. What should I do? And much more! Huge thank you to everyone who shared their stories and thoughts. Listen to the original "Fear + Force" episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2FcVJJ1VaqsWFyrogKEj8p?si=GAYjpbKURzO_VhtHvLImxg Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Is your little one starting preschool soon? Jess and Layne share their strategies from both the experienced mom and preschool teacher perspectives. Learn how to: Prepare your child (and yourself) emotionally for the first day Handle separation anxiety and tearful goodbyes Communicate effectively with teachers Create a smooth drop-off routine Understand your child's behavior before and after school Use transitional objects to provide comfort Connect with other parents and build your own support network Whether you're feeling excited or anxious about this new chapter, we have you covered with practical strategies, insider knowledge, and empathetic support to make your child's transition to preschool as smooth as possible. More from us about preschool: Youtube video from Jess' channel - https://youtu.be/jYchyCQYtzc?si=sxEiAkWpJIedSBiyS1 E2 His First Hard Thing - https://youtu.be/JCBj8odSbkw?si=EKt1LuzaRp2QI0lCS5 E6 Childcare vs. Mom - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5HrZKzYul8hXKYD894s9dS?si=PrMFXGzcRWSa-YG1-Vj8DwBonus | Pooping at preschool - https://open.spotify.com/episode/23Uayk97l6CAr49NrGmh7y?si=ZkvsizQ4Sau4masvqGEKjgBonus | Is preschool important? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6048h6fxgUWo2EJoTpgTyD?si=XxJnx0pEQmy49wulYgBFoQ Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Join us as we unpack a real-life playground incident and explore why labeling toddlers as 'mean' or 'bullies' misses the mark. We discuss why your little one's pushing or hitting is actually a direct route to getting what they want, not intentional meanness. We offer practical strategies for responding to aggressive behavior, setting boundaries, and teaching better tools. And we address the importance of healthy aggression in child development and how to channel it positively. Whether you're the parent of the 'pusher' or the 'pushed,' this episode offers compassionate insights and actionable tips for navigating this very normal developmental stage. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Today we're answering listener questions about a common parenting challenge: how to respond when your child becomes hyper-focused on YOUR emotions. We explore: Why preschoolers suddenly become aware of and fixated on their parents' feelings Navigating situations where your child witnesses your sadness or stress The dangers of leaning on your child for emotional support and healthier alternatives The importance of modeling healthy emotional regulation How to reassure your child while setting boundaries around emotional responsibility Discover practical strategies to nurture your child's emotional intelligence while maintaining your role as the caregiver in the relationship. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
We know mom's mental health has a huge impact on a child's emotional well-being, but the fact is: a lot of us have anxiety. Or postpartum depression. Or the other kind of depression. We're people. We struggle. So how do you parent well in the midst of mental health challenges? Today, Jess shares her personal journey with medication: what worked, what didn't and how to advocate for yourself in healthcare system. Layne shares how your mental health impacts your child's development and strategies for creating a stable environment, even when you're feeling bad. We address the delicate balance of sharing your emotions with your children, what's appropriate to discuss and what to keep private. Discover practical steps to prioritize your well-being, support your child's growth, and lean on your support system as a mom. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Is the constant power struggle leaving you drained? This week, Layne and Jess look at old-school methods of parenting that rely on fear and force to control children's behavior. We dive into how fear hinders internal motivation and discuss ways to foster cooperation. Jess shares her journey raising a strong-willed child, finding leadership without resorting to dominance. We discuss: The long-term effects of fear-based parenting on adults Why compliance shouldn't be our ultimate parenting goal How fear-based discipline impacts a child's decision-making skills How to maintain parental authority while fostering internal motivation And ya, we talk a little bit about spanking. Join us as we share personal struggles, insights, and practical tips for becoming the strong, compassionate leader your child needs. Previous episodes we mentioned: Season 3, Episode 11 | Best of Toddler Advice Season 5, Episode 9 | Less Gentle Parenting Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
In this episode, Jess shares what she learned through surviving cervical cancer about why prioritizing your well-being is crucial for your entire family's health and happiness. We get into: Practical tips for communicating your needs to your partner How to identify what you truly need when feeling overwhelmed Why mom's wellness is essential for your family's functioning Easy ways to incorporate rest into your busy schedule We explore how to embrace guilt-free rest and share actionable advice for weaving REAL self-care into your daily routine, even with young children. Don't wait until you're sick or burned out – learn to prioritize your needs and create a more balanced, fulfilling life for yourself and your family. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week, Layne and Jess reframe fairness into a more powerful concept: equity, ensuring everyone gets what they need. We offer practical scripts to explain this concept to your child, and discuss how to navigate those inevitable one-toy toddler meltdowns. This episode dives into: Why "no fair" complaints emerge around age 3 and how it relates to brain development Understanding the difference between fairness and equity Emphasizing that parents' needs matter too in family dynamics Guiding children through disappointment and unfulfilled wants Building resilience and empathy in kids by focusing on meeting diverse needs Communicating effectively with your co-parent about family needs Prioritizing needs based on your values and current circumstances Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
To kick off Season 6, Jessica and Layne revisit the transformative power of loving your life, even amidst the challenges of raising young children, recovering from cervical cancer and figuring out how to pay bills. Jess introduced us to the mantra "I love my life" in the final episode of last season and while you don't need to hear it to enjoy this episode, it's a conversation that genuinely changed us both and we recommend listening when you can (find the link below)! Today we build on that with a discussion about how to find strength and "love your life" even on your worst days. We share stories about times in our lives when things "went good" instead of going bad. We offer encouragement about how to trust that the dark times are part of a story that's worth loving and that good things will continue to come in your life. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Season 5, Episode 12: I Love My Life | How to stop waiting and start loving your life now - https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/JXo2kMmICKb Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
Jess is back to give us an update on her cervical cancer surgery and recovery. We take some time to reflect on the past few months and the conversations we shared with you. Thanks for listening! We'll be back in a bit. In the meantime, binge your favorite episodes and TELL YOUR FRIENDS! Follow us @verygoodenoughpod for updates during the break! Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
In this episode, Jess and Layne face one burning question: how can you truly love your life RIIGHT NOW? We discuss the trap of waiting for our circumstances to change before we can live a life we love and our tendency to overlook our wins, constantly moving the goalposts, missing the opportunity to celebrate our accomplishments. From recognizing the dreams you've already achieved (like becoming a mom!) to finding joy in the daily grind of motherhood, this conversation is all about the power of a simple shift in perspective – deciding to love your life now, rather than waiting for it to change in the future. Because that dream life you want? You might just be living it already! Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
In this episode, we dive into the importance of being direct and clear when communicating with your toddler. Say goodbye to the endless search for the "right" parenting language or trying to follow every expert's advice. We discuss why using straightforward language and saying what you mean can strengthen your connection with your child, build trust, and reduce frustration for both of you. Discover how prioritizing clarity over trendy parenting lingo can make your interactions more authentic and effective. We explore practical tips for being real with your toddler in the moment, without getting caught up in the latest parenting trends or trying to find the perfect phrasing. Unlock the power of direct communication and foster a deeper understanding with your little one. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question: “As a child I definitely didn't have some of my emotional needs met, and was shamed for my distress about this. A lot of this centered about me wanting to be with my mum while she was unavailable (through choice not necessity). So now I try to be really available to my children. My oldest found it super hard to give me any kind of space, and my second is currently going through that too. And I don't know how to own my own space and needs and desires while not feeling like I'm rejecting their needs (and making them into people pleasers because they have to work around my needs).“ Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Are you afraid of failing as a parent? Jess and Layne get real about their deep fears of public failure and share wisdom on why failing fast is a gift. We explore how being willing to fail is essential for building the lives we want, and why falling is a non-negotiable part of learning. Jess shares how feelings of failure during postpartum led her to create YouTube videos documenting her journey, and eventually this parenting community. We dive into celebrating failures alongside successes for better mental health, finding peace when others criticize you, and overcoming the fear that failing means you're a bad parent / person. Layne provides tips for reparenting your inner critic that emerges when you don't live up to your own expectations. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week Layne and Jess discuss the trend of gentle parenting content on social media that might be missing the mark. Is it sometimes just permissive parenting in disguise? We explore why strong leadership and clear boundaries are crucial for raising happy and secure children. We get into why toddlers might secretly be RELIEVED when you tell them "no", and how setting limits with love actually shows your child how much you care. Listen for tips on how to be the firm AND gentle leader your child needs, without turning into the "mean mom" or "scary dad." Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question: Random preschool question for you - what happens when kids poop at school? Do the teachers help wipe their booties? Or do they have to do it themselves?
In this authentic (and kind of messy conversation), Jess and Layne revisit our exploration of body image. We ask questions like, "What does it truly mean to be sexy?" and, "How can women cultivate genuine confidence?" Jess shares a profound realization from experiencing cancer: how precious it is to be alive in a body, irrespective of its shape or size. We challenge our own misconception that thinness equals health and happiness and talk about how to treat our bodies with radical kindness and compassion. Jess passionately asserts that women possess an innate beauty and advocates for a shift in focus from external appearances to the rich experiences our bodies enable us to have. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question: I am 32. I have an 8 month old daughter. I live with my long term partner who is her father. He has two children aged 12, boy, and 8, girl, that live primarily with their mother, but we have them over every other weekend. Though my partner and I have made a multitude of opportunities to better co-parent, there has been no success. We don't agree with the bad habits that they acquire while with their mother and have set boundaries at our house as best we can for the small amount of time they are with us. My question is, do you have any advice on dealing with a tricky co-parenting relationship? And also, how do I protect my own daughter from picking up any of these habits from her siblings? Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
We had the BEST time talking to Claire Edwards, mom of two known for being very funny on TikTok, about why the internet's negative portrayal of parenting isn't telling the whole story. Claire opens up about how scared she was to become mom because the internet made it look terrible (think: videos of moms having a breakdown in the Target parking lot). Claire shares why she's loving motherhood in spite of her negative expectations, ways parenthood has helped her grow as a person and why being a mom has made her more committed to being herself. Jess and Claire draw on their own online journeys to share tips about how to sift through internet parenting content in a healthy way. Claire's baby son joined as a special guest so you'll hear some of the cutest noises ever throughout the interview. Find Claire on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theclairenecessities?lang=en Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question is in response to our previous episode "Toddlers Can't Share | Why forced sharing leads to people pleasing": I have a 2.5yo and an almost 4yo, and they sometimes snatch toys etc but often the play nicely, so I'm not always watching - so what if they are fighting over a toy and I didn't see 'who had it first'? What do you do in that instance if you don't know who was playing with it first? My girls don't understand 'who had it first' as Leah (my 4yo) would think she had it first if she had it yesterday and my Kayleigh (2.5yo) just gets caught in the middle of it all poor thing, when she might have had it first. Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Is daycare bad for my child? This episode tackles common childcare concerns like developmental benefits and choosing the right program. We explore the effects of childcare at different ages, from infancy to preschool, and answer your burning questions: Does preschool impact school readiness? What's the difference between daycare and preschool? What questions to ask when choosing a program? How long is too long for a day of childcare? How to support your child after daycare? Discover the truth behind the "stay-at-home mom vs. daycare" debate and how to find the perfect childcare fit for your family's unique needs. Want more? Check out this previous episode: Is Preschool Important? https://open.spotify.com/episode/6048h6fxgUWo2EJoTpgTyD?si=r06reM9STPSzmLE14WTkPA Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question is in response to our previous episode "Whole Brain Child | How to boost your child's brain development": Question 1. I have a 3 year old (will be 4 in May) who I would love to figure out better. I feel like I kinda failed him when it comes to the regulating emotion piece. I used to (and still often do) get very flustered at his big emotions. I wish I would have been better at staying calm and helping him get back to the upstairs brain but I feel like my response probably made it worse for him. I would sometimes let out a loud scream or get angry with him… basically just handle the emotions in the worst way. I still often find myself going there but now at least I notice myself doing it before it gets “outside” of my brain/body. So my question- is there something I should do/say/practice with him when those big emotions come up? I don't want him to grow up stuffing scary emotions deep down because that's how I grew up. Question 2. Kinda piggybacking on the last question, I feel like I have a VERY hard time moving my own brain from the downstairs up once I'm in the “basement”… tips for adults? Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Do you get praised for being "easy" or "going with the flow" but deep down, feel exhausted? Us, too. In this episode, we explore the hidden costs of people pleasing. We discuss how this behavior is rooted in childhood experiences and the belief that our needs are a burden. We unpack the connection between people pleasing and codependency, and how we often absorb discomfort to keep others happy. We delve into the fear of being selfish and the challenge of advocating for ourselves. Finally, we share practical steps, based on our own experiences, to help you reconnect with your needs, find your voice, and start setting healthy boundaries. Learn how to break free from people pleasing and allow yourself to be supported by the people who care about you. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week the girls chat about Layne's viral reel on why sharing is not developmentally appropriate for toddlers and how forcing them to share actually leads to people pleasing tendencies in adulthood. We discuss how conflict avoidance and the fear of being judged affect parenting choices. We lay out more age-appropriate ways to help toddlers negotiate shared space and materials, how to support healthy boundaries for children and how to help them regulate the difficult feelings of wanting something you can't have right away. We cover what to do when a child hoards all the toy dinosaurs, taking turns on the swing set, setting timers and so, so much more. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question: Trying to find the balance of how to encourage a timid toddler to try new things while not pushing too hard. Things as simple as going down a bigger slide at the playground, trying a new food, or jumping off the side of the pool into dad's arms. How can we foster bravery in our (especially extra timid) toddler while not pushing too hard? Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
This week Layne breaks down how a child's brain is wired, how it grows and how learning a little bit about it helps us raise calmer, happier kids. Different parts of a child's brain develop at different speeds and understanding these differences can reveal how to help your child through difficult feelings, how to respond to outbursts and how to support their growth into mentally well adults. Learning about brain development is the #1 tool that helped Layne crack the code on toddler behavior, become less frustrated and feel equipped to develop strong, trusting relationships with her students. She's not a neuroscientist so this conversation happens in simple, friendly language without a lot of technical terms (because she doesn't know them). The book we discuss: The Whole-Brained Child by Daniel Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson - https://a.co/d/4TqK1vS Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week's listener question: How to honor your child's own developmental rhythm and stop comparing to other children Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Quigley Goode joins for this JUICY
This week's listener question: My daughter seems to have anger as a default emotion lately (crying emoji). There's no build up to her screaming. It's like everything she feels is a huge, shrill scream and it causes such a visceral reaction in me. I feel like there's nothing that seems to get her to stop screeching with rage. Email your questions to verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coaching Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Welcome back! We are starting Season 5 with a juicy, sweet, vulnerable conversation between two friends (plus you). We get an update on the "C" word about Jess' upcoming surgery (if you missed her cervical cancer announcement, check it out on Youtube). Then Layne shares about the loss of her job which leads to a conversation about what it means to believe in yourself, how to stay the course when your life's direction feels unsteady, and how to trust yourself enough to move forward. There are confessions of impostor syndrome, encouragements to let go of old stories about yourself, and questions of faith & spirituality. There is also some swearing, so pop in a headphone if you're listening with kids around. Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com Learn more about Layne's new TANTRUMS MASTERCLASS: enquiryco.com/mastertantrums Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual! Find us on Instagram: Jess - @jess_hover Layne - @enquiryco
This week we debrief Jess' big announcement (we don't want to use the "C" word but check out the Youtube link below if you need to catch up) including our big feelings, insights into the timeline and a few big lessons we've already learned on this very new journey. We tease an interview that's coming next season because the conversation taught us so much about how to handle when people don't like you (it's so good we can't even save it for when the episode comes out). And then we reflect on our favorite parts of the conversations we had in Season 4. During this break, we'll be re-releasing some really great episodes from the archives so you guys can revisit those! Please rate and review the podcast while we're away and send it to your friends ❤️ We'll be back soon! Jess's News: I have cervical cancer. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zcHVsguFMag You can still find us in REAL LIFE inside the Very Good Mothers Club community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
It's an opinionated week on the podcast: first we realize we've both had close encounters with reality TV and have spicy feelings about it, then Layne shares some hot takes about rules (not a fan). We deep dive into why it's more effective and EASIER to focus on teaching kids what they CAN do than trying to enforce a list of "rules". We discuss why traditional rules are too abstract for little kids to follow, why rules provoke anxiety in both kids and parents, and which very normal parenting habits are totally ineffective (plus what to do instead!). Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
It's easy to wonder if we're doing enough to get kids ready for next stage in their lives. In this episode, we make a case for why the best way to prepare a child for the future is to let them be exactly where they are right now. We dive into why making your 3-year-old sit still will not actually get them ready for kindergarten, why you don't need to worry about memorizing the ABCs and how the skills they're building as babies and toddlers are the foundation for everything to come. We finish up with some thoughts on school in general and a reminder that living in the present is all we can really do, anyway
Happy Winter Solstice! Posting this bonus a night early because tonight is the longest night of the year and I woke up with some thoughts about that :) Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Email your questions to layne@enquiryco.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne HERE
We all want our kids to be happy and we all hate tantrums. But how much "yes" is good for them and when does appeasing to avoid tantrums start to damage our parent-child relationship? Weaving in lots of practical support and encouragement, Jess and Layne dig into why it feels impossible for some of us to stand up to our demanding little ones. We talk about ways our own childhoods affect our personalities and impact our parenting using examples that have come up recently in the community like: What to do when a breastfeeding toddler is refusing to wean? How to hold set limits and hold boundaries when I hate conflict? How do I respond when my child scratches and bites me? How to course correct when a child is showing signs of entitlement? ...and more :) Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
This week is a collection of the best advice for having a great holiday with your kids from the podcast so far. We cover topics like: How to define what you want at the holidays and avoid disappointment How to release the pressure to make holidays perfect Creating a calming and cozy holiday atmosphere at home Managing kids' expectations and avoiding overstimulation during the holiday season How navigate social media and comparison How to let life be magical even when there are hard things going on What to do with grief and pain when holidays are supposed to be a happy time Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
This week's listener question: Toddler anxiety around pooping on the potty/using the adult sized toilet. Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Email your questions to layne@enquiryco.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne HERE
We're joined this week by the captivating Vee King-Cunningham who shares the story of losing her husband in her twenties (while pregnant!), parenting while grieving, falling in love again and thriving as a blended family. She shares her experience of learning how to let people help you, how to process grief in your own personal way, and how to stay connected to the memory of someone who's gone (and help your kids remember them, too). While the topics are heavy, this conversation is not - Vee is a funny, honest, excellent storyteller whose perspective on life is an absolute gift to hear. Find Vee: Blog - veronking2003.blogspot.com Instagram - @thelettervee Soaring Spirits (organization she recommended) - https://soaringspirits.org/ Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
It's easy to feel like time is slipping through our fingers. In this episode we delve into the overwhelming feeling of not having enough time to check off our endless to-do lists. We discuss ways to cope with the sense that life is hurtling by too fast, how to quiet the internal critic who tells us we aren't doing enough, and why doing nothing is actually a form of healing. Jess shares the secret to transforming late school drop offs. And Layne casts a spell to slow down time. Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
Jess and Layne are off enjoying Thanksgiving with their families BUT we wanted to leave you with this reminder that the holidays are for YOU as much as anyone else and you get to decide how to spend them. Permission to get what you need this week, this holiday season and for the entire rest of your lives
This week's listener question: I'm all for snacking, but it's every 10 minutes. Already high protein snacks. Thoughts? Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Email your questions to layne@enquiryco.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne HERE
There is some REALLY tough stuff going on in our world right now. And we're all trying to figure out how navigate tough conversations about it--internally, online, with friends and family. In this episode, we don't get into the nitty gritty of geopolitics. Instead, we try to broadly grapple with questions like: How do we talk to kids about tragedies? How much should I shield my kids from hard things to preserve their innocence? What's the best way to break bad news to children--divorce, death of a grandparent, parent getting sick, etc...? Is it ok for my kids to see me be sad? As always, we finish with a generous dose of encouragement for parenting in this challenging time. If you want to go deeper into this conversation with us, join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our live monthly call (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
This week's listener question: How to help my 3-year-old with potty training regression after sibling was born? Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Email your questions to layne@enquiryco.com Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne HERE
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