Podcast appearances and mentions of emerson eggerichs

After a conversation with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, of Love & Respect, I'm rethinking the way I go about being a peace-keeper. Here's what he said: Sometimes, as peace keepers we hedge on the truth, or just lie, to keep the peace. .... So let's apply that to our workplace. Are you unknowingly hedging on speaking the truth in work situations, to keep the peace? How can you know? You'll probably have a niggling in your spirit, an unsettledness. So what can we do to know when to speak the truth: We can check in with the Holy Spirit in the moment, before conversing, and pray for wisdom for how and when to speak.  Keeping the peace may not be what best serves the organization. But speaking the truth is.  So how about you? 

Send us a textSo many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:Our new book The Marriage You WantOpen letter to Focus on the FamilyOur one-sheet download on the problems with Love & RespectEmerson Eggerichs' sermon dissection and the podcast that goes with itCarolyn Custis James' MaelstromJosh Howerton clip Matt Walsh post Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Guest Speaker Dr. Emerson Eggerichs will be joining us today. Looking at a key theme drawn from 2 Corinthians 8:21, which emphasizes...

There is a lie we tell ourselves as men. We convince ourselves that we do not need help. We believe we can rub some dirt on it and it will feel better when it stops hurting. The truth is all of us need help and a lot more than we probably realize.   I'm joined by my friend Dr. Chad Flowers, a pastor and licensed counselor, to discuss our need for help. We dive into why we need it and explore multiple ways we can go about getting the help we need. Chad also provides guidance on staying ahead of the curve and shares one thing that has been a huge factor in his life.   Books recommended in this episode:   Play the Man by Mark Batterson: https://amzn.to/3UK3QPY Love & Respect in the Family by Emerson Eggerichs: https://amzn.to/48GdPvv The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal: https://amzn.to/3UMScUq   —   Get your copy of the new devotional for dads, Following Our Father: https://amzn.to/4dtGfKD   Get your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book): https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/   Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads: https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community. He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, interviewing experts in Christian manhood and partnering with thought-leaders like John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs. Ramos founded the 11,000-strong Men in the Arena Facebook Group and a global network of Men in the Arena virtual teams, where men support each other as they work to become their best version. He has written numerous books, including the #1 Amazon Bestseller Strong Men Dangerous Times; The Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men; Tell Them: What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters; and the five-book Strong Men Study Guide Series for small groups. Jim lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his wife Shanna. His goal is to live each day to its fullest with courageous abandon according to Jesus' promise in John 10:10. He loves to hunt with his adult sons, enjoy the fitness lifestyle, take tropical vacations with Shanna, and listen to men share their stories over a dark roasted Americano.

Join Shawn and Joni Wolfswinkel as they celebrate their 21st Wedding Anniversary in this episode of Inside The Wolf's Den. They delve into the essential dynamics of love and respect in relationships. In this installment of their relationship series, the Wolfswinkels unpack the fundamental principle that "Men need respect; women need love," exploring its biblical foundations and critical role in fostering harmony between partners. Discover the "Crazy Cycle" that ensues when love is absent, leading to a breakdown in respect and vice versa. Shawn and Joni provide real-life examples of this cycle and share effective strategies to break free from its grip. Transitioning into the "Energizing Cycle," they illustrate how love and respect can positively reinforce each other, enhancing emotional intimacy and connection. This episode also tackles common misconceptions surrounding love and respect, emphasizing that both are vital for relationship longevity. Shawn and Joni address misunderstandings that can lead to conflict and avoidance, shedding light on how healthy conflict can actually strengthen bonds.  Listeners will walk away with practical tips for expressing love and respect, tailored for both men and women. From affirmations and quality time to active listening and acts of service, this episode is packed with actionable insights to elevate your relationship. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that promises to deepen your understanding of these two foundational elements, helping you cultivate a thriving partnership. Don't miss this opportunity to transform your relationship dynamics—listen now! Link To Book, Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1591451876 YouTube Link: https://youtu.be/2CaEUA8nKJw

Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, internationally-known podcaster, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community. Jim passionately proclaims that when a man 'gets it' - steps out of the bleachers and into the arena of leadership in his family, church and community - everyone wins.  He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, interviewing experts in Christian manhood and partnering with thought-leaders like John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs. Jim's new book "Dialed In: Reaching Your Full Capacity as a Man of God" gives men a target — 20 Biblical principles outlined in Paul's Letters to Timothy and Titus for who a Christian man is and what he does.   Jim says, “Dialed In provides a tangible, biblically grounded guide for what each man should strive for and serves up masculine inspiration like a freshly grilled ribeye steak.”   As the world tears down men, Dialed In, helps to build them up by encouraging them to fulfill their Godly purpose. Perfect for individual or group study, each chapter of this book has two opportunities. The first is the “Dial It In” section which includes a set of study questions that allow for reflection and motivational challenges. The second is the “Assessing Your Capacity” section which allows readers to identify strengths and weaknesses so men can dial in on areas to improve. The goal of this book is to help men navigate to the best version of themselves. You can find more about Jim and Men in the Arena here: Men In The Arena

The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical counseling/ fundamentalist/ homeschooling circles, and even though it seems like a “fringe” book, it's affecting tens of thousands of women. Today Marissa Burt and Tia Levings and I sit down to talk about the problems with this book that tells women they must obey their husbands and submit—no matter what.Our Sponsor:It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast: Download our Onesheet on The Excellent WifeOur podcast on how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respect Marissa's post on 10 reasons parents have a hard time giving up spanking 4 Concerns with Biblical Counseling About Tia Levings:Tia's book, The Well-Trained Wife Find Tia on Instagram  and Substack (as The Anti-Fundamentalist)Listen to last week's podcast with TiaAbout Marissa Burt:Find Marissa on Instagram  and X Read Marissa's SubstackJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Men want and need respect like women need love. This idea is explained thoroughly in the great book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Respect, however, is earned. It is not just freely given. How you show up to things matters. In today's episode, we will talk about the need for you to take yourself more seriously if you want more respect from others. We are just 25 supporters short of our goal for 9/1/24! If you think Seeking Excellence is worth just $10 a month to keep it alive, join and support us over at Locals: seekingexcellence.locals.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/seekingexcellence/support

"The enemy wants nothing more than to tear families apart... if you break down the marriage, the family falls." ~ Brandon Beckley Watch this full interview on our YouTube Channel. Yvette Hampton sits down with Brandon Beckley, co-founder of Made2Homeschool, who opens up about his and his family's transition into homeschooling. Discover how active fatherhood plays a pivotal role in a successful homeschool environment. Brandon discusses the challenges dads face, offers encouragement for both moms and dads, and emphasizes the necessity of being present. Perfect for those navigating the homeschool journey or seeking to understand the dynamics of engaged parenting. Come back tomorrow for the rest of this conversation. Has the Schoolhouse Rocked Podcast been a blessing to you? Support from our listeners allows us provide resources, support, and encouragement to homeschooling families around the world. Would you please consider a year-end gift to support the Schoolhouse Rocked ministry? Recommended Resources: Podcast Note-Taking Guide Brave Online Homeschool Conference - August 1-3 Made2Homeschool Community Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs HEART Exam for Homeschool Dads - Davis Carman on the SchoolhouseRocked Podcast  

In this episode, we are reviewing the popular book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. One of the more controversial topics in the books is the idea that a woman should unconditionally respect her husband. Watch the episode and let us know what you think. Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast

After a conversation with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, of Love & Respect, I'm rethinking the way I go about being a peace-keeper. Here's what he said: Sometimes, as peace keepers we hedge on the truth, or just lie, to keep the peace. .... So let's apply that to our workplace. Are you unknowingly hedging on speaking the truth in work situations, to keep the peace? How can you know? You'll probably have a niggling in your spirit, an unsettledness. So what can we do to know when to speak the truth: We can check in with the Holy Spirit in the moment, before conversing, and pray for wisdom for how and when to speak.  Keeping the peace may not be what best serves the organization. But speaking the truth is.  So how about you?

When we talk about how God made sex to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and how, if women don't want sex, the answer is to figure out why, we invariably get people saying, "so you think women don't have to have sex then?"Today on the podcast we look at the 90% problem vs. the 10% problem. In 90% of cases where women don't want sex, there's a reason. Let's focus mostly on the 90%! But guess what? We actually talk about the 10% too!Our Sponsor:The book Forgiveness After Trauma. A victim-centered approach to what forgiveness looks like after betrayal. Rather than pressuring a victim to forgive, let's examine what Scripture says about lament, anger, accountability, and what reconciliation looks like. I was so, so blown away by this book, and saw things in Scripture I never saw before. Check out Susannah Griffith's story, and this amazing book. To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!The Products We Mentioned: Our book The Great Sex RescueThe Orgasm CourseThe Boost Your Libido CourseThings Mentioned in the Podcast: Our podcast on obligation sex, and the post that goes along with itThe podcast where we discuss Emerson Eggerichs saying you can't tell if a woman is aroused--and a follow-up podcast going into more detail on how evangelical writers portray female orgasmMore podcasts on libido: 3 ways to talk about libido differences, and have we made sex into a yes space for men?Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and special guest host Mike Sharrow join the show to take a candid look at how entrepreneurs can overcome the challenges they face in their personal and professional relationships.Dr. Eggerichs is a renowned counselor and author, as well as the founder of Love and Respect, a ministry that grew from the success of his best-selling marriage book of the same name and has expanded to include teachings and resources on business, leadership, and communication in addition to marriage and family concerns.In this conversation, he breaks down practical insights for bringing love and respect to all relationships.We can motivate and influence others by meeting their deepest core needs with love and respect.It is important to apologize and seek forgiveness when we come across as unloving or disrespectful.Trust and obedience are key in applying these principles over time.In marriage, it is important to communicate in a way that resonates with your spouse's natural language.Find more about Dr. Eggerichs' ministry at https://www.loveandrespect.com/Get the book https://www.loveandrespect.com/product/love-respect-book

Walk into any coffee shop, and the chances are high that you'll see two women talking. Sitting across from each other, the women will look each other in the eye and discuss deep and personal issues. You probably won't see two men sitting and conversing in the same way. Why? Well, as Dr. Emerson Eggerichs points out, it's a matter of gender differences. Women prefer face to face communication, while men tend to prefer shoulder-to-shoulder discussions. As a parent of a son, this is deeply valuable information for you to consider. When you're concerned about your son and would like him to share his struggles, get beside him. Take a drive, hike together, or stand on a dock side-by-side and fish. Your boy will most likely prefer those settings over going to a coffee shop. To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.

Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs shares from his book "The Love and Respect Devotional: 52 Weeks to Experience Love and Respect in Your Marriage." Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on marriage, parenting, and communication. Based on over three decades of counseling and scientific and biblical research, Dr. Eggerichs developed the Love and Respect Marriage Conference, which he presents to live audiences around the country. Emerson has authored several books, including Love and Respect in the Family, Mother & Son: The Respect Effect, and the New York Times bestseller Love and Respect. Emerson is also the Founder and President of Love and Respect Ministries. I welcome Emerson to the Wow Factor today to discuss how God directs our steps and frees us to use our free will to direct our own lives. He believes that the Bible prompts people to recognize the answers to the big questions in life by understanding the four wills of God, which he calls the B.A.G.S, (Believe in Jesus, Abstain from sexual immorality, Give thanks always, Submit to the Lord). Emerson also shares how he realized that men and women communicate differently and why he was prompted to set up the Love and Respect conferences. “It doesn't hurt to ask God to bring about a coincidence every once in a while, and see what might happen.” - Emerson Eggerichs “The two key ingredients for a successful marriage are love and respect.” - Emerson Eggerichs “I just want to see the hand of God in my life; I really don't care what's in it.” - Emerson Eggerichs    This Week on The Wow Factor:  How the challenges in Emerson's family situation prompted him to know Christ and lead his family to Christ What Emerson learned about leadership in the early years of being a senior pastor Why Emerson made the decision not to write any books until he was 50 Why Emerson was inspired to develop some way to help people experience, love, and respect Emerson describes the four wills of God and shares why they remain central to almost every part of life What the ‘crazy cycle' is and how it can damage a marriage The importance of being honest with yourself about where you can do better in your life How the Bible gives us constant reminders of the critical factors in life Emerson's thoughts on the state of marriage in the US today Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' Words of Wisdom: God is using you to lead, that doesn't necessarily mean you'll be rich, but the most successful people in life are those that have loved God and loved others. Connect with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs: Love and Respect Website Love and Respect Podcast   Connect with The WOW Factor: I Like Giving: The Transforming Power of a Generous Life by Brad Formsma Words of Wisdom Website Brad Formsma on LinkedIn Brad Formsma on Instagram Brad Formsma on Facebook Brad Formsma on Twitter  

How can we improve our relationships just by showing love and respect? How have changes in the culture changed the way we relate to one another? In this episode, James continues his conversation with Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love and Respect and president of Love and Respect Ministries, and Emerson offers his perspective on how showing Love and Respect can help us develop stronger relationships.  Listen to Part 1: https://apple.co/42Uh4wA / https://sptfy.com/Q3hH  Get Love and Respect on amazon.com Find more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at www.loveandrespect.com   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Tom and Tabi unpack one of the classic books on marriage written by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs titled, Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs. Based on over three decades of counseling, plus scientific and biblical research, Love and Respect is for anyone: those in crisis, the happily married, engaged couples, pastors and counselors, and small groups. This dynamic and life-changing message is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, James sits down with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love and Respect and President of Love and Respect Ministries. They discuss Ephesians 5 and the dynamics of love and respect within marriages and in other relationships.    Listen to Part 2: https://apple.co/3SOiKmp / https://sptfy.com/Q3hI  Get Love and Respect on amazon.com Find more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at www.loveandrespect.com   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Emerson Eggerichs' reel where he talks about relationships https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxL4Lm6pDo7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Our summary of the issues with Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2023/01/summary-problems-love-and-respect-emerson-eggerichs/ Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/(All of our other posts are linked there)Our podcast looking at the way he downplayed abuse in a sermon series at Houston First Baptist Church https://baremarriage.com/2021/03/podcast-on-emerson-eggerichs-gaslighting-emotional-abuse-victims-and-stop-seeing-women-as-dangerous/Our look at how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respecthttps://baremarriage.com/2023/01/emerson-eggerichs-twists-scripture-love-respect/The problems with hierarchy in marriage (Keith's Danvers statement series) https://baremarriage.com/2023/06/danvers-statement-series-complementarian-problem-1-men-dominating-their-wives/Check out Andrew Bauman's Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma: https://christiancc.org/Andrew J. Bauman's website https://andrewjbauman.com, or follow him on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AndrewJamesBauman

Guest Bios Show Transcript https://youtu.be/hteO426dZ6cMen need sex. And it's their wives' job to give it to them—unconditionally, whenever they want it, or these husbands will come under Satanic attack. Stunningly, that's the message contained in many Christian marriage books. Yet, research shows that instead of increasing intimacy in marriages, messages like these are promoting abuse. In this edition of The Roys Report, featuring a talk from our recent Restore Conference, author Sheila Wray Gregoire provides eye-opening insights based on her and her team's extensive research on evangelicalism and sex. Out of a desire for evangelicals' conversations about sex to be healthy, evidence-based, and rooted in Christ, Sheila and her team have analyzed many popular Christian books on sex. Many teach that men are incapable of not objectifying women. And instead of training men to control their urges, these books teach that women must save these men. If a husband struggles with porn, for example, it's his wife's job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey. If a husband is abusive to his wife, it's his wife's job to pray the abuse away. And if you're a single woman, it's your job to dress in such a way that your body never “intoxicates” a man.With messages like these, is it any wonder that abuse victims often feel like it's their fault if someone hurts them? Is it any wonder that pastors like John MacArthur can convince wives that it's her duty to stay with a man who abuses her and their children? As Sheila explains, the patterns of abuse we're seeing in the church today are a symptom of these toxic evangelical teachings. And to solve the problem of abuse, we need to analyze and challenge these unbiblical teachings. Guests Sheila Wray Gregoire Sheila Wray Gregoire is an author, podcaster, and researcher into evangelicalism and sex. Her goal through Bare Marriage, a popular podcast and ministry, is to change the evangelical conversation about sex to be healthy, evidence-based, and rooted in Christ. She lives in Ontario, Canada, with her husband. They have two adult daughters and two grandbabies. Learn more at BareMarriage.com. Show Transcript SPEAKERSJulie Roys, SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE Julie Roys  00:05Men need sex and it’s their wives job to give it to them unconditionally whenever they want it, or these husbands will come under satanic attack. Stunningly, that’s the message contained in many Christian marriage books. Yet research shows that instead of increasing intimacy and marriages, messages like these are promoting abuse. Welcome to The Roys Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys, and what you’re about to hear is an eye-opening talk by Sheila Ray Gregoire at our latest RESTORE conference. Sheila is an author and podcaster who’s done extensive research on evangelicalism and sex. And what she’s discovered is that many evangelical books teach an unbiblical message that men are incapable of not objectifying women. And instead of training men to control their urges, these books teach that women must save these men. If a husband struggles with porn, for example, it’s his wife’s job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey. If a husband is abusive to his wife, it’s his wife’s job to pray the abuse away. And if you’re a single woman, it’s your job to dress in such a way that your body never intoxicates a man with messages like these. Is it any wonder that abuse victims often feel like it’s their fault if someone hurts them? Is it any wonder that pastors like John MacArthur can convince wives that it’s their duty to stay with a man that abuses them and their children? As Sheila explains in this important talk, the abuse that’s rampant in the church is just a symptom of this toxic teaching so prevalent in evangelicalism. And unless we address this false teaching, we’ll never solve the problem of abuse. So, I’m very excited to share Sheila’s eye-opening talk with you.   Julie Roys  01:57 But first, I want to thank the sponsors of this podcast, Judson University, and Marquardt of Barrington. If you’re looking for a top ranked Christian University, providing a caring community and an excellent college experience. Judson University is for you. Judson is located on 90 acres just 40 miles west of Chicago in Elgin, Illinois. The school offers more than 60 majors, great leadership opportunities, and strong financial aid. Plus, you can take classes online as well as in person. Judson University is shaping lives that shaped the world. For more information, just go toJUDSONU.EDU. Also, if you’re looking for a quality new or used car, I highly recommend my friends at Marquardt of Barrington. Marquardt is a Buick GMC dealership where you can expect honesty, integrity, and transparency. That’s because the owners there Dan and Kurt Marquardt, are men of integrity. To check them out. Just go to BUYACAR123.COM.   Julie Roys  03:02 Well, again, you’re about to hear a talk by Sheila Gregoire on how evangelical teachings on sex promote abuse. Sheila is the founder of BAREMARRIAGE.COM. She’s also the author of several popular books, including The Great Sex Rescue, and She Deserves Better. Sheila’s goal is to change the evangelical conversation about sex to be healthy, evidence based and rooted in Christ. And so, I’m so excited to share this message that Sheila gave at the RESTORE conference.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  03:32 It was a Friday afternoon in January of 2019, and I was sitting on my yellow chair in my living room trying to figure out how to procrastinate. I had a migraine, and I didn’t want to work, and so I was on Twitter. And I was reading a conversation between some women arguing whether or not they needed love or respect. And I thought, well, I’m a woman and I need respect. And so, I started chiming in and we were getting all spicy. And then I thought, I have that book. And I had never read it. So, Love and Respect, written by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, who got his PhD from somewhere, I don’t know. Anyway, it’s based on the idea that women need love. and men need respect. Oh, actually, no, it’s not. The subtitle is, the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. So, she has desires, and he has desperate needs. But I realized I have that book and I’ve never read it. And so, I thought this is a great way to procrastinate. So, I went, and I got it, and I opened to the sex chapter because I’m kind of the sex lady and that’s what I do. It was only about 12 pages long. And that was when the nuclear bomb went off in my living room. Because I read to my horror, if your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have, and that need is for physical release. So, if he doesn’t get physical release, he will come under satanic attack. And through that chapter, he keeps referring to sex as a man’s physical release. There was not a single word about intimacy. There was not a single word about women feeling pleasure, too.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  04:07 So, I called my team, and we freaked out a bit. And we decided to write a post on our blog about the way that the book handled sex. And that post got so many eyeballs that we spent a whole week on love and respect. And over that week, we had email upon email, and comment upon comment about how that book had enabled abuse in their marriage. Working with me, was a young woman in her late 20s at the time, who has a master’s in epidemiology and is the statistician, but she was home with her baby. And so, she was just working remotely part time for me. And she said, you know what we should do Sheila? we should create a mixed-methods, qualitative analysis of the comments, and we should send it into Focus on the Family, who publishes the book, because maybe they don’t know. Maybe they don’t realize how harmful this is. And so, over the next few weeks, Joanna proceeded to do that. And we sent it to Focus. I knew Jim Daly; I had been on Focus on the Family several times. And we sent a nice letter about how harmful the book had been. And we never heard back. And so, Joanne said to me, “You know what I should do? I should go back and get my PhD so that I could do a study of how messages in the evangelical church are hurting women’s marital and sexual satisfaction. And I said, Joanna, I bet I could get a publisher to pay us to do it. And that is what we did.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  06:59 Until that day, I had never actually read another Christian book on sex and marriage. I mostly just wrote my own stuff. I was really scared of plagiarizing. But then we decided that we needed to open our eyes and see what was really going on. So, we surveyed 20,000 women for our book, The Great Sex Rescue. It’s the largest study of evangelical women’s marital and sexual satisfaction that’s ever been done. Did any of you take that study? Were any of you in mind, thank you. I know that was like half an hour of your life you can’t get back. I appreciate it very, very much. We’re doing a new survey that will be out in about two weeks. So, if you follow me, we will be putting out soon we will have a great need for people to take that one as well. But we surveyed 20,000 women measuring how various evangelical messages affected their marital and sexual satisfaction. And what we found was that there was four big messages in the church that really hurt women. And these messages are not biblical. They’re not from Jesus. They are what we have decided, as a church collectively are true. And we’ve done great harm with them.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  08:20 And so those messages are a woman is obligated to give her husband sex when he wants it. 39% of women that we surveyed entered marriage believing that. All men struggle with lust, it’s every man’s battle. A woman should have frequent sex with her husband to keep him from watching pornography. And boys will push your sexual boundaries and so girls need to be the gatekeeper. The sum total of those messages does great harm. These were all widely taught, widely believed and hugely destructive. We also did a survey of 3000 men a year later, and guess what? The same messages hurt men’s marriages too. These are universally bad. And yet, when we took a look at 13 of evangelicalism’s bestselling sex and marriage books, these are everywhere. There were only three books that we looked at, that actually scored well on our rubric, the vast majority of them of the books that we looked at scored in the harmful category, including Love and Respect, which scored zero out of 48, literally. Even Every Man’s Battle did better, it got nine. Last year, we did a survey as Julie was telling you of another 7000 evangelical women, this time looking at how messages that we give to teenage girls, end up hurting girls long term. And the same messages that we studied before? Yep, they do harm, but we added some new ones, like the modesty message. When we tell girls, you need to be careful what you wear so that you don’t cause one of your brothers to stumble. Well, that makes her feel like her body is a threat to her. Because by no fault of her own, he could look at her and have these bad thoughts. And then because he can’t control himself, he could end up hurting her. And so that message makes us feel like our bodies actually cause ourselves to be put into harm.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  10:42 Research shows that far too many of our common relationship teachings in evangelical culture are hurting us. And I have been trying to sound the alarm on this. And while those in this room are likely to hear it, the powers that be often don’t. This has become a grassroots movement, which I think tends to be the way that Jesus works. He doesn’t tend to talk to the churches, the big places, the big people in power. He sets up 12 disciples and all of the women that were traveling with him, and they go, and they set the world on fire. And that’s what we found in the reception to our books, which are actually selling quite well, is that people want to hear this, even if the powers that be won’t talk about it.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  11:38 We have painted men in the church as being created by God, to not be able to do anything but objectify women, which by extension, means that it is women’s responsibilities to save men. And then we’ve somehow managed to sell the message that this is the way that God intended it. So let me give you a few quotes. And I want to do a big trigger warning here, and I’m quite serious about this is that some of you, it might be good to step out of the room. All I’m going to be doing is reading you things from our bestsellers, but they’re not pretty. And so, if you feel like you need to step out of the room, now would be a good time. But let me tell you what Every Man’s Battle said. If you’re looking for the reason for sexual sin among men, we got there naturally, simply by being male. The same authors repeat, men just don’t naturally have that Christian view of sex. So, I guess women were created with more of the Holy Spirit than men, I don’t know. And how then, are men supposed to quit lusting and watching porn? Well, they have the solution. The book, the original edition of the book, told women when he stops cold turkey be like a merciful vial of methadone for him. It explains that well before when you were lusting, you may have been going to your wife for five bowls of sexual gratification a week. Now you’ll be going to her for 10. And she will be happy about this. I don’t know how you can write a book and know so many little about women, but nevertheless.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  13:37 So, think about that. We are the methadone for our husband’s sex addictions. And what is it that methadone does? Yeah, methadone is basically something which numbs you so that you don’t go after the thing you really want. And that’s how they raised a whole generation of boys and men to think of girls. That book series has sold 4 million copies. Or how about this? This Gary Thomas and Deborah Phyllida echoed their sentiment in their 2021 book Married Sex, where they encouraged women to send nude photos to their husbands so that neurologically his attention will be focused on her and not other women or porn. And they didn’t really ever talk about the problems of revenge porn, and they minimized any concerns that she may have about cementing an objectified view of women in porn. Even if it’s not about sex, we get the message in our best sellers that we’re just supposed to pray the abuse away. Women you have so much power over your man. Don’t you understand that? So, in Stormy Omartian’s book, Power of a Praying Wife, she has this quote, which is echoed throughout the book. You can submit to God in prayer whatever controls your husband, and she lists a number of things, including alcoholism, and abusiveness, and pray for him to be released from it. That book sold 10 million copies of women being told if he’s abusive, you can pray it away. You just need to pray more.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  15:27 I bet John MacArthur likes that one. I think the evangelical version of the gospel too often looks like this. Jesus saves women, so the women can save men. And it’s even in the little things. Last year, the Gospel Coalition put out an Instagram reel, where Ligon Duncan claimed that wives can’t expect their husbands to do risky things, unless their wives unconditionally respect their husbands first. And what are these risky things that a woman can’t expect her Christian husband to do? Pray, read the Bible, think about life from a Christian point of view. You cannot expect your husband to do these risky things that you by the way are already doing unless you first give him unconditional respect. This really quietly puts the wife in the leadership role, while having to pretend that it’s the husband who’s actually the one leading. Honestly, it’s like the bar is so low, it is in the basement, isn’t it? Over and over again, our evangelical teaching tells everybody that it is impossible to expect men to act honorably. Tim  LaHaye, in The Act of Marriage, told a story about Aunt Matilda, and he berates Aunt Matilda for telling her niece how terrible sex was just as her niece was getting married. But then he goes on to explain that on her wedding night, Aunt Matilda’s husband held her down kicking and screaming and raped her and continued to do this throughout the marriage. Then Tim LaHaye talks about Aunt Matilda, and her equally unhappy husband. He called the rapist equally unhappy as his rape victim. That book published by Zondervan has gone through four different editions, and nobody ever took out that anecdote. That sold two and a half million copies. His Needs/Her Needs, which I think has also sold two and a half million copies, has a line in there where a 32-year-old executive complains, I feel like I’m begging her or even raping her, but I can’t help it. I have to make love. And Willard Harley, the author uses that to explain that men just have a really high sex drive, and women need to understand that. And then, of course, there’s For Women Only. Shanti Feldon based her book supposedly on research. Which is why I think people have given these books more credence than they really need to have. I’m going to give you an example of her survey question, which has become fundamental in evangelicalism and for several different books. But Emerson Eggerichs actually based his book Love and Respect on the foundational survey question that Shanti used in her book For Women Only, which came out in the same year, 2004, as Love and Respect. So, Shanti asked, I think it was about 450 men, would you prefer to be alone and unloved or inadequate and disrespected? Okay? So, you could be alone and unloved or inadequate and disrespected. 72% of men said that they would prefer to be alone and unloved than inadequate and disrespected. And so, she took this to say that men want respect more than they want love. And that is what Emerson Eggerichs used to base his ideas on for Love and Respect.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  15:39 They never asked women; think about that. A whole doctrine of how men need respect and women need love. They never asked women. When other people, other survey people asked women the same question, 68% of women chose alone and unloved as well. There is no gender difference. But beyond that, okay, I’m just gonna get a little survey geeky with you for a sec here, okay? Alone and unloved, inadequate, and disrespected. That’s what’s called a double-barreled question where you don’t know whether they’re responding to alone or unloved or inadequate and disrespected. When my son in law looked at that, he said, well, the one that I would hate to be the most is inadequate, because alone unloved and disrespected are all how other people are treating me, inadequate is how I feel about myself. So, I would choose alone and unloved because I don’t want to feel inadequate, because inadequate and disrespected are not synonyms. That is the state of research that evangelicalism based a foundational doctrine, love, and respect, that we hear everywhere. And church, we simply have to do better. That’s not okay.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  21:32 Now, there are many other things and for women only that Shanti Felden, that I find quite problematic. But one of the worst is this line, when she’s talking about the need that men have to feel unconditional respect, she says, If you are wondering if you’ve crossed the disrespect line, watch for anger. So if you’re wondering if you’ve disrespected him, watch if he gets angry. So, your husband’s anger is a sign that you have done something wrong, rather than a red flag of a behavior problem or abuse. And again, her book series has also sold 2 million copies. The worst thing though, is that these messages are not just being given to adults, they’re also being given to children. And for our book, She Deserves Better, where we looked at the messages that were given to evangelical teen girls, we found horrific things that were said to girls as young as eight. And I would like to show you something from the Secret Keeper Girl curriculum by Dannah Gresh. Secret Keeper Girl became an event that was seen by about a million little girls and their moms around North America. It’s now called True Girl. So, they’ve rebranded but a lot of the messages are still the same. And in that curriculum, she encouraged girls to take the Raise and Praise test, okay. So, here’s what you do, you put your arms up in the air. And if any belly shows, that’s bad. And the reason is because bellies are intoxicating. Later in this curriculum, she has a conversation that mothers are supposed to have with their daughters to explain what this means. And you’re supposed to talk to your daughter and explain that to be intoxicated means like being under anesthetic or being drunk when you’re out of control. And God created our bodies to intoxicate men. But you are only supposed to intoxicate one man, your future husband, and so you need to make sure that you’re not intoxicating to anyone else. She told eight-year-old girls, that their bellies have the power to make adult men get out of control. And we did nothing about it. We took our little girls to these events, and they internalized this message. I could go on and on.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  24:40 Whether it’s sheet music by Kevin Lehman, telling women that it’s a good thing to have sex when you feel forced and want to shove him off of you. Or explaining that your period is a very difficult time for your husband. I’m not kidding. And so, it’s important to give him sexual favors during your period or when you’re postpartum so that he’s not tempted to watch porn. I can tell you about Every Man’s Battle, telling women that if your husband demands or coerces sex more than once a day, that’s a bad thing. So, there’s a quote, I guess that’s acceptable of coercion. I don’t know. The abusive messages and our evangelical resources are horrifying, and honestly, it seems endless.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  25:33 But the sum total of these teachings is that men are entitled to women’s bodies. Men deserve unconditional deference free from being challenged for any bad behavior. And men cannot be expected to act honorably, or even safely. So, when men do harm, it’s likely because some woman somewhere hasn’t done her job. It’s not hard to imagine how disastrous this can be. In a survey done by the Institute for Family Studies, about 27% of highly religious men who believe in complementarianism, or believe in male headship, claim that they have been violent with their current partner. Marital rape is more difficult to measure because it depends on the definition of marital rape. But from what we’ve seen in the literature, and in our own results, it looks like a rate of about 10% with a very narrow definition, to about 25% of evangelical marriages if you include things like obligation sex, which lead to trauma. So, this is what’s going on in the pews. One quarter of the women in our churches are currently victims of abuse. And a lot of that is caused by our messages which prop up and enable abuse.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  27:17 And it’s not only abuse. There’s also rates of sexual pain. This is one of our big research areas that we’re trying to dig down deep into. Because it’s been known for about 50 years in the literature that evangelical women suffer from sexual pain. Specifically, a sexual pain disorder called vaginismus, which is when the muscles of the vaginal wall contract and become really tight, so that penetration becomes really difficult, if not impossible. Even things like inserting tampons can become difficult or pelvic exams. And we’ve known evangelical women suffer from this at way higher rates than the general population. But what we haven’t known is why. And it was assumed that it’s just because well, they’re just ashamed of sex. That’s not actually what we found. We discovered two big things that are highly highly correlated with vaginismus. The first is the obligation sex message. So, when women enter marriage, believing in obligation sex, whether or not their husbands do, it's just what you have internalized, your chance of experiencing vaginismus increases to almost the same statistical effect as if you had been abused. Because our bodies interpret obligation sex as trauma. Because abuse says, you don’t matter, he gets to use you however you want. And so does obligation sex. The other big thing that’s correlated with it is the modesty message as a teenager. So, when a girl has internalized that she is at least partially responsible for keeping boys from sinning., she’s also far more likely to experience vaginismus. This is our problem. It’s not nice to talk about it, but this is our problem. We have an incidence rate of about 22.6% of evangelical women and in the broader population is closer to seven or eight. This is what we have done, and it’s largely because of what we have taught people.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  29:32 And that’s why I am so passionate about changing the way we talk about sex and marriage in the church. Because what we have done has had real world effects. It has caused abuse to rise. It has caused actual physical changes in our bodies. And there’s other research which has shown that it actually solidifies porn use and makes it much harder to stop. We need to talk about this in a different way. And what’s been so exciting to me as we have done our work is that people have told me again and again, that when they read our stuff, they start to recognize abuse in other places too. Like, once you start to see, oh, this isn’t okay, in one area, you see it everywhere. One woman told us that it’s like peeling an onion, you know, and you take off one layer. And then you see it again and again. Another woman said, you know, I read The Great Sex Rescue, and I recognized that there was some really abusive patterns in my marriage. And thank God, my husband saw it, too, and we’re on the road to recovery. But it wasn’t just that. I also in that same week, realized that my boss was sexually harassing me, and I stood up to him, and I reported him. And we left our church. Because when you see abuse in one area, you’re able to recognize it in others.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  31:19 This is gonna sound weird to say, I don’t actually care about sex that much. Like, I know, this is my whole life, and I know this is all I write about. I don’t actually care that much. You know what I care about? I care about people thriving. I care about emotional health and wholeness. I care about ending abuse. But there’s a lot of people that are doing that work of calling out abuse, and you know how hard it is to get people to listen to you. You know, it’s like banging your head on the wall, and they just don’t want to hear. And on the other side, there’s a lot of people addressing the theology of men and women in the church, and how harmful that theology has been to many women. And I can’t speak Greek, my husband reads the New Testament in Greek, but I don’t, you know, I can’t tackle it on that side. But you know, the one thing people like talking about? sex. Everybody wants to talk about sex. And so, this has been our way in. We’ve been able to open up that conversation about sex, so that people will listen. Even people who, maybe you’re normally in more fundamentalist spaces, because everybody wants good sex. And when you can tell them, hey, here’s the way forward, here’s what we need, here’s why women need to matter too. When they start to see it in that one area, then they’ll start to see it in others. And I think that’s where we can work together. You know, I know so many of you are recovering from church hurt, and you’re wondering where to go and how to move forward. And I’ve been there. But I believe that as we speak up about this stuff, we’re going to empower others, that they can speak up too, and we’re going to cause a grassroots movement.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  33:27 I spent a lot of years hitting my head against the wall, trying to convince Focus on the Family to change. It doesn’t work. Interestingly, they’re now using all of my talking points in their Instagram reels. They’re just not referencing me. It’s pretty funny. But so, you know, that’s good. You know what? I don’t care if you don’t reference me, as long as you’re actually starting to teach healthy stuff, do not trust Focus for healthy stuff. Okay? They might be saying a few good things. And I’m glad about that. But this is not an endorsement. But you know, things can change slowly from the grassroots. But we’re not necessarily going to get the big things to change. And it used to really frustrate me when I couldn’t get the big organizations to change, when I couldn’t get the megachurch pastors to listen to me, when I couldn’t get the big media organizations to listen to me. When nobody big would interview us about The Great Sex Rescue, even though we did the biggest study that’s ever been done. Even though we spoke at the American Physiotherapy convention because pelvic floor physiotherapists think we’re groundbreaking. And we can’t get  the big names in the church to listen. But maybe that’s because they’re not supposed to. Because Jesus works at the margins. And I think Jesus is working at the margins here. And I know so many of you are hurting and a lot of It is because of this crap that was in so many of the books that taught you that it’s your fault if someone hurts you, and that you’re just not praying enough. And don’t you know that Jesus put up with it? So, what are you to say that you shouldn’t have to put up with this? You should have the mind of Christ. And you’ve heard those messages. But let me tell you that Jesus wants to tell you that you matter, that you matter.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  35:33 One of my co-authors on The Great Sex Rescue said that we could sum up the whole book with just four words, women are people too. And we are. And men are people too too; we all matter. But when we live in a church culture, which is trying to be based on power instead of on love, and emotional wholeness, we’re going to end up with abuse. And we’re going to end up with hurt. And so, as we’re fighting abuse, my plea, if I can make a plea, is that we also fight that which underpins abuse. That we don’t just fight abuse, but we start calling out the teaching that has enabled it. Because when we call out the teaching, we make it far more likely that people will recognize abuse in other spaces, too.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  36:35 One of the things that so disappointed me in the Mars Hill podcast series, I don’t know how many of you listen to that. Some of you, yeah, they just didn’t go far enough. They treated it like Mark was the problem. Mark was a symptom. All of the things that one episode they did about women, all of the things Mark preached about women, were in all of our best sellers. I could have pointed you to everything he said was in all of our bestsellers that are still our bestsellers. Mark is not the problem; Mark’s awful, but Mark is not the problem. The problem is that we have this whole culture of teaching that enables the Mark’s to get power. If we didn’t have this teaching underpinning it, if we didn’t have these ideas of power and kingdom, then there would not be a Mark Driscoll who would have that kind of power, there would not be a John MacArthur who told Eileen Gray she needed to go back to her abusive husband. And so, as we fight abuse, and I am so grateful to those of you who are out there in the trenches doing that, I pray that you will also join me in some of my mission too, in fighting the teaching that is given about marriage and sex that is underpinned abuse and enabled it to flourish. Because I think, until we can eradicate that teaching, we’re just going to be playing abuser whack-a-mole. Thank you.   Julie Roys  38:12 Wow, such an important message. And I’m so grateful for Sheila’s ministry, and the way that she’s addressing the root of the abuse problem in our churches. And I’m grateful for you too, who listen and support these podcasts and help us get these important messages out. As I’ve noted before, many ministries charge for conference talks, but because of your continued generosity, we’ve been able to make these messages available free of charge. And I’m just so grateful to the hundreds of you who donate to The Roys Report. As I’ve said before, we don’t have any large donors or advertisers, we simply have you the people who care about abuse victims and want to help. If you appreciate this ministry and want to support us, just go to JULIEROYS.COM/DONATE. And in January, if you give a gift of $30 or more, we’ll send you a copy of The Great Dechurching. This is a great resource exploring what’s causing the current exodus out of the church, and what can be done to stop the bleed. So again, just go to JULIEROYS.COM/DONATE. Also, just a quick reminder to subscribe to The Roys Report on Apple podcast, Google podcasts or Spotify. That way you won’t miss any of these episodes. 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Join us for powerful a conversation with bestselling author and manhood advocate, Jim Ramos. He shares deep insights into overcoming isolation through the power of community, and the vital role of practical and constructive conversations amongst men. Jim talks about his work with the Men in the Arena podcast and provides a sneak peek into his bestselling books. He also discusses the old testament, his favourite barbecue meats, and how activities like barbecuing bring men together. Hear about the free resources available on 'meninarena.org' and his books 'Tell Them' and 'ManLaws 101'.  About Jim RamosJim Ramos stands tall as a champion of manhood, purpose, and unwavering faith. Born to make a difference, Jim is a bestselling author, compelling speaker, and the visionary founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry that has become a beacon for men seeking to honor God through leadership in their families, churches, and communities. Jim's journey is a testament to the transformative power of embracing one's calling. With fervor and conviction, he passionately proclaims that a man truly 'gets it' when he steps out of the bleachers and into the arena of leadership, a philosophy that resonates through every facet of his life. At the heart of his impact is the Men in the Arena Podcast, the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men. Through insightful interviews with luminaries such as John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs, Jim provides a platform for profound discussions on Christian manhood, guiding men toward a deeper understanding of their purpose. Beyond the airwaves, Jim Ramos has cultivated a robust community with the 12,000-strong Men in the Arena Facebook Group and a global network of Men in the Arena virtual teams. Here, men come together, support each other, and embark on a journey to become their best versions – united in strength and resilience. Jim's impact extends beyond the digital realm. As a prolific author, he has penned numerous books, each a guidepost on the path to authentic manhood. From the #1 Amazon Bestseller "Strong Men Dangerous Times" to the insightful "Tell Them: What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters," Jim's words serve as a compass for those navigating the complexities of life. More from Jim Ramos Men in the Arena - https://meninthearena.org/ Podcast: https://podcast.meninthearena.org/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMenintheArenaX: https://twitter.com/JimWRamosInstagram: http://instagram.com/themeninthearenaYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/meninthearena 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:33 Upcoming Events and Announcements 02:09 Introducing Guest: Jim Ramos 03:03 Conversation with Jim Ramos Begins 03:22 Discussing the Men in the Arena Podcast 04:14 The Importance of Christian Community 07:01 The Power of Barbecue in Building Brotherhood 18:51 The Dangers of Isolation 23:32 Finding Community and Brotherhood 29:54 Personal Experiences and Reflections 36:12 Deepening Bonds Through Prayer and Support 36:47 The Importance of Positive Banter and Building Each Other Up 37:37 The Power of Long-lasting Friendships and Shared Experiences 38:31 The Need for Deeper Connections Among Men 39:20 The Role of Social Media in Spreading Positive Messages 40:00 The Impact of Marriage Advice on Social Media 43:45 The Importance of Prioritizing Your Spouse Over Your Children 48:57 The Challenges and Rewards of Entrepreneurship 51:44 The Journey of Writing and Publishing Books 54:28 Reflections on Past Experiences and Lessons Learned 01:00:05 The Importance of Community and Avoiding Isolation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/manlihood/message

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a pastor, author, speaker, and founder of the Love and Respect Conference. His book, “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs,” and his conference have helped thousands of couples learn how to resolve conflict and meet each other's needs. The book's inspiration comes from Ephesians 5:33, which commands husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands. Approximately 3 out of 10 marriages end in divorce because love alone is not enough. Dr. Eggerichs and Les discuss the crazy cycle and the energizing cycle that marriages go through and how couples can work to bring peace, unity, love, and respect back into their marriage. Les shares things he wishes he could change if he could go back to the early years of his marriage, and Dr. Eggerichs reminds him that his current marriage is a testimony to the work God can and will do in any marriage. Learn more about Dr. Eggerich's work: https://www.loveandrespect.com/about-us

If you are going to have a successful marriage, then you need to master conflict resolution. But there are two big obstacles to resolving conflicts in your marriage: Nearly 70 percent of the conflicts in relationships center on unresolvable, perpetual problems.Men and women approach and handle conflict very differently. As a result, a lot of marital conflicts end up at an impasse. What's the answer?Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that the answer lies in Ephesians 5. This week's Bible passage: Ephesians 5:25-33Podcast resource: 52 Weeks of Strength for Men (ebook, paperback)Other resources:Chris Bolinger's other devotional: Daily Strength for MenMike Hatch's book: Manhood: Empowered by the Light of the GospelRelational men's discipleship programs: CLCinterview with Jonathan Cain referenced in this episode

What happens when all those Purity Culture kids from the 90s and early 2000s grow up and get married? Well one thing we discovered is a bunch of books were published to “help” us understand sex and marriage. Turns out, some of them were … not so helpful. Meg and Rebekah are here to discuss. Not a Super Star yet? Today is a great day to become one! THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: *OneSkin: Get 15% off with the code SORTA at oneskin.co SHOW NOTES: Rebekah's AotW: Latuza Pajama Pants Meg's AotW: Sam and Colby: Surviving a week at the Real Conjuring House The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire Sheila Gregoire on Instagram Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Books Studied for The Great Sex Rescue (listed in order of best to worst): Helpful Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M Gottman (tie - scored near perfect)- https://amzn.to/3QvFtE6 The Gift of Sex by Clifford & Joyce Penner (tie - scored near perfect) - https://amzn.to/3FRLwgd Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud & John Townsend (tie) - https://amzn.to/3QwSHQJ Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas (tie) - https://amzn.to/3QwSHQJ Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus - https://amzn.to/462KSHn Neutral Books: The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy & Kathy Keller - https://amzn.to/3tPTALB Intended for Pleasure by Ed & Gaye Wheat - https://amzn.to/3Shk3Mk Harmful Books: Sheet Music by Kevin Leman - https://amzn.to/3SdKCBM The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye - https://amzn.to/3tUnsGp His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F Harley Jr - https://amzn.to/4762DWV The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian - https://amzn.to/49bQDoy For Women Only by Shaunti Feldahn - https://amzn.to/3Q9xLOx Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker - https://amzn.to/3Q9xLOx Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs - https://amzn.to/3tOaH0b MORE EPISODES FROM SORTA AWESOME: Ep. 193: Stressed out, burned out and ready to recover Ep. 401: Midlife with Mindy & Meg: The ups and downs of sex Ep. 318: 5 books every woman should read Ep. 463: These discoveries will upgrade your life! You can find Meg on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram! Find Rebekah on her blog, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! Visit sortaawesomeshow.com for show notes on this and every episode. And don't forget to find us in the Sorta Awesome Hangout on Facebook or @sortaawesomeshow on Instagram, and @sortaawesomepod on Twitter! This post may contain affiliate links, which means we receive a tiny commission from the seller at no additional cost to you, if you purchase from them. We only share products and services we have used, tested, and love ourselves! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of counseling as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country. This dynamic and life-changing conference is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships. Dr. Eggerichs has authored several books, including the national bestseller Love & Respect, which is a Platinum and Book of the Year award winner, selling over 2.1 million copies. Emerson is the Founder and President of Love and Respect Ministries and his wife Sarah serves as Vice President. Married since 1973, they live in Grand Rapids, MI and have three adult children. In this podcast, Emerson shares about how his Bible-centered teaching on Love and Respect have brought wonderful healing to thousands of troubled marriages, and have made so many good marriages even better. Truth does, in fact, set us free!

After 52 years of marriage, Roger Thompson has learned a thing or two about how to have a thriving relationship. In this episode, he shares his powerful tactic for keeping his marriage strong. Plus, he urges young dads to reconsider the way they prioritize their children's activities.    Key Takeaways   You often don't know who you are until someone else tells you who you are.  Get one ahead everyday. Busyness is a concern for young parents and their children.  Don't forsake your spiritual development and brotherhood for your children's activities.    Roger Thompson   Roger Thompson is a passionate men's ministry leader and pastor at large based in the Twin Cities. He and his wife, Joanne, have been married for 52 years and have two daughters, seven grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren.    Key Quotes   5:55 - "An affirmation is, here's what you bring to the game. I saw your strength when... Or thank you for reminding me, in your behavior, of something you've done. So when we do that with other men, it's like a blacksmith's bellows, it heats up the fire, the coal is there, but we don't know who we are until somebody else really tells us who we are. And if we can build a culture of mutual affirmation and get out of the culture of sarcasm, a true affirmation cuts through all the shyness of really looking at another man in the eye and saying, Brother, I love you." 11:59 - "How can you stay married for 41 years? You just have to do your part and your wife is the only one who can do her part. But a lot of times men give up. Well, I'm not getting back what I'm putting in, so I'm going to quit. You think about the five love languages, I'm trying to love my wife in my language and it doesn't translate. I need to, I need to learn her language."   Links from Today's Conversation   IronWorks Website YouTube: 40 Days of Wisdom Series Book: Do The Next Right Thing: Wisdom For Your Next Step by Roger Thompson Book: Love And Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs   Connect with dadAWESOME   Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Receive weekly encouragement by texting "dad" to 651-370-8618  

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In this episode, Kirk Cameron is joined by relationship experts Emerson Eggerichs and Milan and Kay Yerkovich for insights into healthy relationships. Go to corcoplus.com to create your Corco+ account and see more messages from Kirk Cameron. Most Corco+ content is available to Canadian residents only. Follow Kirk Cameron: Facebook | Instagram | Youtube Connect with us on social media! YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | TikTok | Pinterest  Listen to the Grey Matter Podcast with host, Leighton Grey, for conversations with global leaders that challenge narrow worldviews and explore taboo topics facing Canada. Visit our website to discover new resources that will help you grow closer to Jesus every day.  Miracle Channel's mission is to reach every home in Canada with the truth about Jesus. Support this ministry by giving online today. 

We are continuing our series on Partnership building by comparing the messaging from a classic relationship book in Evangelical/Mormon/Pentecostal (EMPish) circles, Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs, alongside the work of couples researchers John and Julie Gottman, and their principle of nurturing fondness and admiration. As we talked about last week, practicing this principle can be challenging when you've grown up learning that admiration and fondness exist along problematic gendered norms of the Love and Respect model. Julia explains, “Admiration roughly translates to respect, which women show through deference to male authority and obligatory sex based on socially conditioned standards for male pleasure, love roughly translates to affection and emotional intimacy. Which is good, but in manifestation, often coddles women dismissing their intelligence and erasing their sexuality. All under the guise of love.” We also talk about Earning Respect (12:50) God Made You This Way (18:00 / 26:00) Gendered Lines (28:40) Surviving a Gendered World (35:24) Power Dynamics (53:00) For those of you who have read Love and Respect, what are some parts of the book that stood out to you? What are you trying to unlearn. For those of you who haven't read Love and Respect, we highly encourage you not to. Let's heal together!

This summer, we're talking about seven principles of healthy relationships, according to relationship experts John and Julie Gottman. In the last two weeks, we've discussed the foundation of healthy relationships: curiosity. And in the next two episodes, we're talking about the practices of admiration and appreciation. Be curious. Be positive. Sounds simple enough. Except EMPish (Evangelical, Mormon, and Pentecostal) communities identify the success of the relationship not based on the ways that people solve problems together. Successful marriages happen when men and women effectively play the gender roles ascribed to them. And no Christian resource describes this better than Emerson Eggerichs' Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs. In this episode, we compare the Eggerichs' and Gottman's processes for exploring admiration and appreciation: Parental Models (7:00): “We talked in church spaces and school spaces about being kind and grateful and positive, but I didn't see a lot of it modeled.” Young children model after their parents, and when the models do not admire each other, we tend to mirror that in our own relationships. This episode is about initially breaking that pattern. Jesus' Admiration (10:00): “I do have a deep hole within myself that the church told me only Jesus can fill, but perhaps the church created that hole with constant legalistic scrutiny for over two decades of my life, and now I am just constantly in need of someone telling me that I'm worthwhile and valuable. That is for my own therapy.” Julia shares how the Church created this idea that the only person that can fill your heart is Jesus. This does not actually teach anyone how to do relationships, and, when coupled with the anxiety that you constantly have to ask Jesus and an erratic God into your heart, this creates a compulsive need for validation from others rooted in a fear of never being good enough. Defaulting onto Gender Norms (11:00): Jeremiah shares, “If someone doesn't overtly teach you how to do something in a relationship, the easiest thing to do is to fall back on gender expectations. For me as a man, the most important gendered message was that men are leaders. Assume that you're gonna be in charge and that people want you to be in charge.” When admiration for our partners is not taught or modeled, people can default onto gender norms as a way to show their appreciation. Appreciation then becomes about performing the gender role as opposed to celebrating the holistic person and uniqueness of the relationship. What Does Respect Actually Mean? (27:00): Julia reflects, “I remember reading that sex was one of, if not the primary way, that men feel respected. The book also reinforced that I should be well groomed, made up, and lingerie wearing for when my husband comes home from work. Because of course I'm not working and he just needs sex for his own gratification.” Jeremiah responds, “Respect communicates a power hierarchy, and adhering to the power hierarchy means men are at the top.” The idea that women are “depriving” men of sex is a toxic idea that feeds into non-consent and un-enjoyable sex and relationships. When sex is viewed as a thing to be given and taken, it stops existing as a thing occurring between consenting people, but instead as a process of conquering. We conclude the episode with Relationship 101, where Jeremiah states, “For you and I, practicing the Gottman value of nurturing fondness and admiration requires us to develop new interaction patterns that move away from gendered scripts of love and respect, and into collaborative and non-gendered dynamics based on admiration and fondness.” The Gottman's labeled these six practices, the 6 magic hours, and Julia and Jeremiah offer advice on how to incorporate these into everyday life: 1. Partings. The Gottman suggests learning one thing that is happening in your partner's life before they leave for the workday or whatever else they may be doing. 2. Reunions. The Gottman suggests at least 20 minutes at the end of the day for a connection point that is purely for the sake of reestablishing intimacy and closeness. Julia offers, “For those of you who may be less inclined to physical touch, or need some other forms of connection before moving into a physical space. A reunion could include going out for ice cream, a short walk, or even just a curious conversation in which you take an active interest in your partner's day. Questions beyond “How was your day?” 3. Admiration and appreciation. Be explicit about what you love and value about your partner. Jeremiah shares how because of the context in which he grew up he sets reminders on his phone to text Julia appreciation and admiration, which can be helpful for those who also grew up in similar contexts. 4. Physical Touch. The Gottman suggests physical affection every day, especially before going to bed to be clear. This is not necessarily sexual affection. There will be episodes in the future tackling the topic for people who may not be comfortable with physical touch. 5. Date Night. The Gottman's encourage a two hour date night, once a week, the setting. “So do you go to a restaurant? Do you go out for a movie? The setting is less important than the process for communication and exploring deeper things about the other person.” Julia says, and then adds that though this may not be attainable weekly for many people, even monthly or bi-monthly is great, and everyone is just doing the best they can. 6. State of the Union meeting. Jeremiah explains, “Gottman encourages a one hour business meeting each week to discuss practical and logistical aspects of your relationship, such as finances. Trips, meal planning, childcare, chores, et cetera.” The state of the union keeps the administrative part of the relationship out of the romantic part of the relationship. Healthy relationships include all six of these items; this week, focus on developing two of these in your relationship with your partner. And then, for the next month, build one item a week into your relationship building. Let's heal together!

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our amazing behind-the-scenes Facebook group, and more.Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit--help for you as you talk about healthy teachings to your friends and church https://baremarriage.com/toolkit/Keith's Danvers Statement posts--Start here.Emerson Eggerichs warns against wives following into sin (watch the first few video clips and see his emotional response)Our Power of a Praying Wife podcast and downloadThe Gospel Coalition's Instagram Reel about men being passiveOur podcasts with Philip Payne: Part 1 and Part 2Check out Marg Mowczko's amazing websiteWhy having the husband make the final decision can be a harmful shortcut

Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community. He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, interviewing experts in Christian manhood and partnering with thought-leaders like John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs. Ramos founded the 11,000-strong Men in the Arena Facebook Group and a global network of Men in the Arena virtual teams, where men support each other as they work to become their best version. He has written numerous books, including the #1 Amazon Bestseller Strong Men Dangerous Times; The Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men; Tell Them: What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters; and the five-book Strong Men Study Guide Series for small groups. https://meninthearena.org/ JIM'S BOOKS: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=jim+ramos&i=stripbooks&adgrpid=1342505053784027&hvadid=83906760257239&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=65816&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-83907451593868%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=12762_10350941&tag=mh0b-20&ref=pd_sl_p88sutnmq_e WE DISCUSS: COFFEE SHOP CONVO (fill in blank) AS A DAD I COULD BE MORE INTENTIONAL IN THE AREA OF…. I HOPE MY KIDS REMEMBER…. I LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY WHEN…. MISTAKES I MADE AS A DAD WERE…. MEN IN THE ARENA: MINISTRY IN REVIEW HOW WENT FROM PASTOR TO THIS HUGE PLATFORM? Most rewarding aspect? What has God taught you most about leadership ? BIGGEST VOID IN CHRISTIAN MEN? DISTINGUISH BETWEEN BIBLICAL VS CULTURAL CHRISTIANS | HOW IS THIS IMPEDING OUR PROGRESS AS MEN? DISCIPLESHIP: WHERE DO CHURCHES STRUGGLE? REACHING, ATTRACTING, BUILDING MEN FAITH AGENCY/OWNERSHIP HOW CAN WE SOLIDIFY OUR KIDS SPIRITUALLY IN TEEN YEARS? GOTTA BE MORE THAN JUST GOING TO CHURCH 70-80% LEAVE THEIR FAITH AFTER HIGH SCHOOL. WHY? FOLLOW US ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/last_in_line_leadership/ PURCHASE OUR BOOKS AND GEAR: https://last-in-line-leadership.square.site/

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Join us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to exclusive content while also supporting our research.Nijay's new book Tell Her Story Our podcast looking at how Emerson Eggerichs mishandles Scripture, featuring Nijay GuptaThe audio version of She Deserves Better is now available! https://amzn.to/43tbmkpOur new She Deserves Better merch!Amazon Prime's new series Shiny Happy People (coming June 2)

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of marriage, parenting, communication and more. Based on over three decades of counseling as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Eggerichs developed the Love and Respect Marriage Conference which he presents to live audiences around the country. This dynamic and life-changing conference is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships. Dr. Eggerichs has authored several books, including the national bestseller Love and Respect, which is a New York Times bestseller, Platinum and Book of the Year award winner, and sold over 2 million copies. Emerson and his wife Sarah live in Grand Rapids, MI and have three adult children. He is the Founder and President of Love and Respect Ministries. Emerson has blessed Katie and I in a tremendous way. The term love and respect is a common part of Christian vernacular all of a sudden now. It's a household term in Christian marriages. It's impacted countless homes. Ephesians 5:33 - “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” is the verse that the Love and Respect message is based off. I hope that listening to this interview today will bring as much value to your life like it did mine! You can learn more and follow Dr. Emerson Eggerichs on his podcast, blog and other resources through his website: https://www.loveandrespect.comEmerson's books mentioned in podcast: "Love and Respect" - https://amzn.to/3MsAbWK "Mother and Son" - https://amzn.to/3oo185I - The Growth Initiative: Now open for enrollment!https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/thegrowthinitiative - Top 5 Tuesday Join our weekly email list to keep up to date with the highlights of what is going on in our family life. https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/top-5-tuesday-newletter - Looking for more Now That We're A Family resources? We got 'em! Website: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nowthatwereafamily/ OUR FAMILY MUSIC ACADEMY: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com - Homeschool Course: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/homeschool Get it All Done Club: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/get-it-all-done-club - Is your life just too complicated to ever feel peaceful? Check out Katie's Free Home Management Masterclass: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/get-it-all-done-club

Listen along as we discuss a book called, "Love and Respect," by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs a marriage book on the Worldwide Dream Builders' book list. This book has some wild takes and we explain our opinions of this book. For Fair Use and Commentary Purposes! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/exesandteapodcast/support

After a conversation with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, of Love & Respect, I'm rethinking the way I go about being a peace-keeper. Here's what he said: Sometimes, as peace keepers we hedge on the truth, or just lie, to keep the peace. .... So let's apply that to our workplace. Are you unknowingly hedging on speaking the truth in work situations, to keep the peace? How can you know? You'll probably have a niggling in your spirit, an unsettledness. So what can we do to know when to speak the truth: We can check in with the Holy Spirit in the moment, before conversing, and pray for wisdom for how and when to speak.  Keeping the peace may not be what best serves the organization. But speaking the truth is.  So how about you?

In honor of the 2023 Launch of the Tru316 Foundation, Sheila Wray Gregoire sent this greeting! Thanks Sheila!"Thank you for your hard work and ground-breaking research into the true meaning of a passage that has been weaponized against women for millennia. It is time for freedom -- freedom for women, freedom for men, freedom for real love and intimacy to grow with God and with each other without being hampered by hierarchy and shame. I appreciate your partnership, and I know my listeners at Bare Marriage have found you so encouraging too. Sheila Wray Gregoire (Podcaster on the Bare Marriage Podcast and author of The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended reveals the impact of bad theology on good marriages. She and Bruce C. E. Fleming, Executive Director of the Tru316 Foundation discussed this and more on this Tru Replay from 2022.You can become a Tru Partner and support the Tru316 Message here: Tru316.com/partnerSee the replay of the Tru316 Foundation Launch on 316Day 2023 here: https://youtu.be/c16tkg0b1OU?t=346

In this classic episode from 2018 (back when the podcast was the “Man Card” podcast), author Emerson Eggerichs joined Jim Ramos to discuss his foundational book for marriage, "Love and Respect.” He describes the “crazy cycle,” where a marriage begins spiraling out of control, and teaches you to stop the cycle in its tracks. https://loveandrespect.com

In this week's episode of Mondays with Men of Bedrock we're talking to Jim Ramos. Jim is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community.Jim drops truth bomb after truthbomb. Here's some of the most quotable lines:“What you do between 6pm and 9pm is what will be written on your tombstone”“If God had a pulse in me, then God still has a great plan for me” “Gluttony is the acceptable sin in the church”“The glory of God is man fully alive”“I live my life with this truth: the majority is normally wrong”“Protect your integrity at all costs. It takes 30 years to build a reputation and 3 seconds to lose it.”Jim also hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, interviewing experts in Christian manhood and partnering with thought-leaders like John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs. Jim founded the 11,000-strong Men in the Arena Facebook Group and a global network of Men in the Arena virtual teams, where men support each other as they work to become their best version.LINKS:Jim on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themeninthearenaMen in the Arena website: MenInTheArena.orgVince on Instagram:www.instagram.com/vincedelmonteMen of Bedrock on Instagram: www.instagram.com/menofbedrock

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts, while supporting our work counteracting harmful messages of marriage in the evangelical churchOUR LOVE & RESPECT ONESHEET: Download our new resourceNijay Gupta's upcoming book Tell Her Story. Follow Nijay on Twitter!Our post on Baby Bibles distorting the Genesis accountOur original Love & Respect post, followed by our Open Letter to Focus on the Family, Our look at how Emerson Eggerichs gaslights women in a sermon series, and how he brushes off a case of marital rape.Our rubric and scorecard to see why Love & Respect scored 0/48.

Men and women are different in many aspects, especially in those concerning their needs and desires in marriage. “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs helps…

Strong Men Dangerous Times - https://amzn.to/3URu7cF   Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community. He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, interviewing experts in Christian manhood and partnering with thought-leaders like John Eldredge, Gary Chapman, Gene Getz, Patrick Morley, and Emerson Eggerichs. Ramos founded the 11,000-strong Men in the Arena Facebook Group and a global network of Men in the Arena virtual teams, where men support each other as they work to become their best version. He has written numerous books, including the #1 Amazon Bestseller Strong Men Dangerous Times; The Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men; Tell Them: What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters; and the five-book Strong Men Study Guide Series for small groups. Jim lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his wife Shanna. His goal is to live each day to its fullest with courageous abandon according to Jesus' promise in John 10:10. He loves to hunt with his adult sons, enjoy the fitness lifestyle, take tropical vacations with Shanna, and listen to men share their stories over a dark roasted Americano. Connect with Jim & The Men In The Arena: Website - https://meninthearena.org/   Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/men-in-the-arena-christian-mens-podcast/id1144237071   Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/themeninthearena/   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/MenintheArena   --   -- Connect with Frank and The Super Human Life on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/584284948647477/   Website: http://www.thesuperhumanlifepodcast.com/tshlhome   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjB4UrpxtNO2AFtDURMzoKQ  

Emails–they are useful, but can get us in trouble… don't we all know it! We interviewed noted relationship expert, Emerson Eggerichs, to talk about his recent book and get us into some new, better emailing habits. Featured Guest: Emerson Eggerichs, PhDWorkplace/Ministry: Love & Respect Ministries The post Before You Hit Send appeared first on iWork4Him Podcast.

A special opportunity for podcast listeners only at this time! Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways: Email: connect@newpowercouples.com Text: 602-321-5652 IG: @Meet_TheFreemans   In This Episode is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that happens in every relationship. It is one of the main patterns that cause conflicts and keep them going without you realizing it!  This principle is written about in a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It's a very insightful, simple and powerful principle. Personally we listened to the first 3 chapters (on 1.5 speed) and felt we had gotten the point and urgency enough to put it into practice and share with you about it. Without realizing this cycle you will feel as if you are in a trap and can't get out.    Additional Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

All believers, young and old, have a deep longing to know God's divine will. On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of The 4 Wills of God, explains the key is to follow the Lord's universally-revealed four wills, as summarized by the acronym "BAGS." Believe in Jesus Christ. Abstain from sexual sin. Give thanks in everything. Submit and do what's right. When you obey these four universal truths, it activates the unique and perfect will of God in your life.

All believers, young and old, have a deep longing to know God's divine will. On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of The 4 Wills of God, explains the key is to follow the Lord's universally-revealed four wills, as summarized by the acronym BAGS. Believe in Jesus Christ. Abstain from sexual sin. Give thanks in everything. Submit and do what's right. When you obey these four universal truths, it activates the unique and perfect will of God in your life. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29

On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love & Respect, warns against what he's dubbed "the Crazy Cycle." In the midst of conflict, without love, the wife reacts without respect. And without respect, the husband, in turn, reacts without love. It's a never-ending vortex! Dr. James Dobson is convinced that love and respect are the biblical prescriptions that can preserve marriage and prevent divorce.

On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love Respect, warns against what he's dubbed the Crazy Cycle. In the midst of conflict, without love, the wife reacts without respect. And without respect, the husband, in turn, reacts without love. It's a never-ending vortex! Dr. James Dobson is convinced that love and respect are the biblical prescriptions that can preserve marriage and prevent divorce. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29