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Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/l6cKcqatpt8?si=yIQMZfIQxc-W2pPFWhat if your emotions weren't the enemy—but the invitation to grow into the man God's calling you to be?In this powerful solo episode, Chris Hilken explores the complicated relationship men have with their emotions. Most guys tend to fall off one side of the horse: either rejecting their emotions altogether or letting them run the show. But what if there's a better way?With biblical insight and real-life examples, Chris makes the case that emotions aren't something to obey or ignore—they're something to redeem. He shares a practical framework for navigating emotions like anger, fear, and sadness through a gospel lens, helping men avoid the extremes of emotional numbness or chaos.This episode is a call for men to stop being passive with their emotions and start learning how to steward them like Jesus did—intentionally, righteously, and powerfully.What You'll Learn:Why men are more emotional than they realizeThe 3 questions every man should ask when he feels something deeplyHow to know if your emotions are leading you toward Christ—or away from HimWhy “being true to yourself” is not a biblical ideaWhat Jesus, Nehemiah, and Esther teach us about godly emotionHow to break the pattern of reacting emotionally and start responding spirituallyWhy redeemed emotions can actually strengthen your leadership as a husband and fatherMentioned in This Episode:“Emotions are a check engine light, not a GPS” analogyJonathan Edwards on righteous vs. carnal affectionsMark 11 (Jesus' righteous anger)Genesis 4 (Cain's destructive jealousy)Nehemiah 1 and Matthew 27 (sadness that rebuilds vs. sadness that destroys)Esther 4 and Luke 22 (courage vs. fear)Book Jerrad to speak: jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: Amazon LinkToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations 

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7qy-dTUtTA4Most men have learned how to clean up well.We look calm. Composed. Put together.We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what's actually happening in our hearts.But Jesus isn't fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.In today's episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.”He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle of the night, while he was busy rehearsing a bitter argument in his head, and revealed just how much unhealed junk was still living in his heart.This isn't about behavior management. It's about soul work.Because your wife doesn't need a perfect version of you. Your kids don't need a dad who looks impressive.They need a man who is whole on the inside.In this episode:The hidden difference between external discipline and internal healthHow to know if you're just “managing the outside”The biblical call to clean the inside of your cupWhat makes a man useful to GodWhy your family needs a healed version of you—not a polished one"Woe to you… You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. First clean the inside of the cup…”— Matthew 23:25–26Resources:Bring A Conference To Your Church: https://www.dadtired.com/conferencesSupport the mission: https://www.dadtired.com/donateToday's Sponsor: Hands On Kids Bible by TyndaleGo deeper:If this episode hit you—share it with a friend or take 30 seconds to leave a review. It helps us reach more men who are ready to do the hard work of becoming whole.

Lectric Xpedition Bike: Watch HereWhat if the pain you've buried is the very thing blocking you from becoming the man God created you to be?In this raw and emotional episode, Jerrad sits down with Dr. Brad Johnson—also known as BJ Communicates—to talk about grief, father wounds, and how trauma shapes us more than we realize. BJ shares the heartbreaking story of holding his newborn son as he took his last breath, walking through the fog of loss in his marriage, and later grieving the death of his own father before reconciliation could happen.Together, they unpack how fatherlessness, unprocessed emotions, and generational pain keep men stuck—and why ignoring it doesn't make it go away. They talk about how grief shows up in unexpected ways (like road rage and burnout), why most men lack true friendships, and how healing begins with honest conversations.This episode is an invitation to stop carrying what God has called you to cast—and to believe that the best version of you is on the other side of your pain.What You'll Learn:Why men are emotional—even when they say they're notHow father wounds affect your identityThe power of grief and what it revealsWhat it means to carry trauma in your bodyHow to connect with your wife through emotional check-insWhy men struggle to form deep friendshipsHow generational patterns repeat if we don't interrupt themWhy healing is spiritual—and why it matters for your familyMentioned in This Episode:BJ Communicates' books: Hard Conversations seriesSupport group for grieving dads: Sad Dad“Feelings Wheel” for emotional check-insBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Watch this interview on Youtube: https://youtu.be/7_ZcEkDxWBMWhat if the lie you're believing is the very thing keeping you from peace?In this powerful and convicting episode, Jerrad sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas to dismantle one of the most common, but rarely admitted lies Christian men believe: God owes me. Together, they talk about the quiet entitlement that sneaks into our faith, why peace feels so elusive, and how the Gospel offers something far deeper than comfort or success.Jerrad and Gary explore how social media fuels discontent, how unspoken expectations erode intimacy with God, and why healing begins when we face our sin instead of hiding it. They share personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-won wisdom for men who want more than just behavior change, they want transformation.This episode is a much-needed reminder: God's not holding out on you. He's already given you more than you deserve.What You'll Learn:Why entitlement might be the root of your spiritual frustrationHow believing a lie can sabotage your faithThe difference between comfort and peaceWhat Gary learned through suffering, silence, and surrenderWhy social media subtly kills gratitudeHow to be a man of peace in a world full of chaosWhy facing your sin leads to deeper joyHow the Gospel frees you—from your past, for your futureMentioned in This Episode:Gary Thomas' new book: The Life You Were Reborn to LiveGary's website: https://www.garythomas.comBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBWatch and subscribe on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7_ZcEkDxWBM

Watch this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ihMjsKPxdA8What if your greatest strength… is also the thing that wears you out the most?In this honest and inspiring conversation, Jerrad sits down with Michael Seifert—founder of PublicSq. and EveryLife—to talk about identity, pressure, purpose, and the hidden cost of success. Though Michael leads some of the most mission-driven companies in America, he opens up about the soul battles behind his ambition—and why Sabbath rest might be his greatest act of obedience.They talk about legacy, fatherhood, and how a rebellious teenager found Jesus at a ranch in Northern California. Michael shares how a single week transformed his relationship with his dad, the real reason behind his inner drive, and the moment he realized that working for the praises of man would eventually break him.This episode is a reminder that God doesn't just care about what you build—but who you're becoming while you build it.What You'll Learn:Why your identity can't come from what you accomplishThe four roles a dad plays (caretaker, cop, coach, consultant)How pressure to succeed impacts father-son relationshipsWhat Michael learned about humility from his dadThe beauty of building with God—and learning to restHow to lead your family while healing from your own woundsWhy starting a values-driven business invites both criticism and purposeMentioned in This Episode:J.H. Ranch: https://jhranch.comPublicSq: https://publicsq.comEveryLife Diapers: https://everylife.comMichael's South Korea launch at Yoido Full Gospel ChurchJerrad's mantra: “Strong families begin with healed men”

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B50C1AlD3aoWhat if the things that slow you down… are the very things God wants to use to form you?In this slow, soulful conversation, Jerrad sits down with Jake Weidmann—a master penman (yes, that's a real thing) and artist whose life and work are marked by discipline, creativity, and deep intentionality. From carving sacred art to raising four kids, Jake shares how slowing down has reshaped not just his craft—but his soul.They talk about the connection between beauty and time, why being creative has nothing to do with being “artsy,” and how discipline and delight can co-exist in the life of a godly man. Jake opens up about the doubts that haunted his early career, what it means to “exult in monotony,” and the emotional moment he hoisted an Amish barn beam onto his shoulder—realizing he was quite literally taking up his cross.This episode is a breath of fresh air in a world that worships speed.What You'll Learn:Why slowing down might be the most spiritual thing you do todayHow discipline, doubt, and beauty all shape a man's soulThe lost art of doing one thing well over a long timeWhat it means to create as a reflection of the CreatorHow parenting and craftsmanship have more in common than you thinkWhy creativity isn't just for artists—it's for every man made in God's imageThe surprising story behind Jake's “Old Rugged Cross” artworkMentioned in This Episode:Jake's book and artwork: https://jakeweidmann.comG.K. Chesterton's OrthodoxyThe story of the “pen wizard” and the golden age of handwritingBenedictine wisdom: To work is to prayJerrad's mantra: “Decades over days”

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/Uovkiigw4gwWhat if the thing that nearly destroyed you… became the thing God used to heal others?In this raw and redemptive episode, Jerrad sits down with Sammy Perez, a man who grew up without a dad, entered the system at age 8, and spent much of his early life in prison. But that's not where the story ends. Through a prison cellmate, an unexpected visitation, and the unlikely love of a spiritual father, Sammy's life was completely turned around.Together, they talk about father wounds, the ache for belonging, how prison both broke and saved him, and the long road to healing as a man and dad. Sammy shares the tear-filled moment he gave his life to Jesus behind bars, the first time he saw his son through glass, and how God turned his pain into purpose.This is one of the most powerful stories we've ever told.What You'll Learn:Why boys without dads often become men without directionHow shame disconnects us from our story and how healing reconnects usThe surprising moment Sammy met his son for the first timeWhat it looks like to father when you were never fatheredHow a consistent man named Terry changed everythingWhy God's love can rewire even the hardest heartsThe full-circle moment that brought Sammy back into prisons… this time with purposeMentioned in This Episode:Prison Fellowship's Angel Tree ProgramSammy's work helping former prisoners reintegrate into societyThe story of Clarence; the cellmate who wouldn't stop asking Sammy if he wanted to know JesusJerrad's teaching on 2 Kings 6 and the power of new perspective

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7LBcbLyOcIUWhat if being a “man” had nothing to do with bench press numbers or beard length—and everything to do with becoming a safe place?In this vulnerable and soul-stirring episode, Jerrad sits down with Brant Hansen to talk about what it really means to be a man. From playing the flute and battling shame to protecting the vulnerable and bringing peace to your home, Brant flips the typical narrative of masculinity on its head.They unpack the ache many men feel to be better, why muscle doesn't equal maturity, and how a man's deepest strength might just be his gentleness. Brant shares the heart behind his book The Men We Need, what it means to be a “keeper of the garden,” and how every man, no matter his story, can begin again.This one gets deep fast.What You'll Learn:Why your presence is more than physical proximityHow spiritual formation leads to true masculinityWhy “being strong” often looks like tendernessWhat your tone of voice says about the kind of man you areThe one vision for manhood that could reshape your homeHow to become a non-anxious presence for your wife and kidsWhy it's never too late to pivot and become the man God's calling you to beMentioned in This Episode:Brant's book: The Men We NeedThe Hebrew word for God's covering in Eden—“royal garments”Lamentations 3 and Philippians 4 as anchors for anxious menBible Memory App for rewiring shame loopsThe “Keeper of the Garden” vision of masculinityHow passive men still make their homes unsafe

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zSgexS8GG30In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man's desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they're failing.Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won't cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from being physically present to emotionally absent, this conversation gets real fast.They also dive into Shane's bold new campaign Make Dads Great Again, what's sparking revival in Gen Z men, how fatherhood videos are breaking algorithms and breaking men open, and why the greatest threat to your calling might be your unchecked hustle.What You'll Learn:Why proximity doesn't equal presence in your homeHow to stop “tinkering” and start truly engaging your kidsThe real reason father wounds hurt so deeplyHow to love your family in the way they actually receive loveWhy being faithful at home matters more than platform or ministry successHow revival might already be happening—just not the way we expectMentioned in This Episode:Shane's viral Make Dads Great Again campaignWesley Huff's surprising influence on Joe RoganWhy Gen Z men are leading the way back to churchThe trap of high-output, low-impact fatherhoodHow to heal the pain that productivity can't coverBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors:DwellBible.com/DadTired

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VDz2Q6cuwskWhy do so many dads feel like they're failing, even when they're doing their best?In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again.What You'll Learn:Why behavior change won't work without soul healingHow father and mother wounds still shape your adult lifeThe two core needs every boy carries into manhoodWhy adventure and validation matter to your spiritual lifeHow to begin healing old attachments and rewire your storyWhat it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your futureMentioned in the Episode:Wild at Heart and Resilient by John EldredgeExperience Jesus (John's new book on healing)Why boys need a thousand moments of delight from their dadsHow your unhealed story gets passed to your kidsJerrad's punching bag story (and why it felt amazing)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors: Tyndale Study Bibles + World Watch News 

What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal?In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you've ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you.Whether you're a husband, father, or man who's just tired of pretending, this episode is an invitation to drop the shame and discover the healing God offers to the parts of you that feel unlovable.What You'll Learn:Why shame makes healing so hard, and what finally breaks its grip.The powerful metaphor that helped Jerrad see himself through God's eyes.How childhood wounds shape adult sin patterns.What Jesus actually thinks about your sin (hint: it's not what you assume).The difference between guilt, shame, and compassion.A fresh way to view your struggles, and the small boy inside still seeking safety.Mentioned in the Episode:The Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtired (25% off for listeners).The two-week men's recovery intensive Jerrad attended.A simple but profound healing exercise involving a stuffed monkey.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/WDK9O0VZ7loWhat if your marriage wasn't just surviving—but actually healing you?In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain.They unpack:The power of radical honesty (and why most couples never get there)How to stop nursing wounds in silence and start creating real intimacyWhy “no secrets” might be the most life-changing marriage ruleWhat to do when you feel emotionally disconnectedHow confession and emotional leadership can radically change your marriage and parentingIf you've ever felt stuck in your marriage or unsure how to lead your family spiritually—this conversation is for you.

Every man hits a momentor a seasonwhere he realizes:Somethings off.Maybe hes performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely.In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, “That didn't feel right”?In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment — a story that didn't involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line at Home Depot to the emotional weight of a product endorsement, Jerrad invites listeners into the middle circle: the subtle behaviors that don't look like sin, but lead our hearts away from truth, integrity, and God.

What do you do when your marriage feels over — and you don't even know why?In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10… and the one moment that changed everything.They dive into childhood wounds, soul pain, and the exhausting journey of healing — and how putting God back at the center saved not just their relationship, but their individual hearts.

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answers—but with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasn't told a single lie in 156 days, how intensive counseling broke him open, and what it means to be a “truth teller” in a world of escape. Whether it's porn, alcohol, work, or Oreos—this is an invitation to stop numbing and start healing.If you're tired of hiding, if you're tired of performing, and you're ready to be fully present—this episode is for you.In this episode:​Why Jerrad hasn't lied in over 150 days (and why it matters)​The moment he broke down in counseling—and what it revealed​How performance becomes a survival tactic for so many men​Why honesty feels terrifying but is essential for freedom​Escapism, addiction, and the real reason we keep going back​What meditation taught him (and why he fell asleep once

Most Christian men wouldn't call it an addiction. “It's just something I struggle with…”But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers.We talk about:Why confession isn't the finish lineThe 3 questions that revealed Nick's addictionWhat white-knuckling recovery really looks likeHow trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycleThis isn't just about porn. It's about what your soul is really craving.Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.orgGet Nick's book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2PStart your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com]Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families wellA special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn't know you needed.Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tired community for their support, Chris teaches through the next key biblical traits of godly manhood: Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble. With deep theological insight, biblical references, and real-life application, this episode challenges men to take spiritual leadership seriously—at home, in the church, and in the world.Bible Passages Mentioned:John 8 – Jesus and the woman caught in adultery1 Timothy 3:4-5 – Managing one's family wellEphesians 6:4 – Fathers training and instructing childrenGenesis 18:19 – Directing one's household in the way of the LordGenesis 3:6 – Adam's passivity in the Garden1 Samuel 3:11 – Eli's failure to discipline his sonsMark 5 – Jesus healing the bleeding woman2 Timothy 1:7 – Spirit of power, love, and self-controlProverbs 16:32 – Better to be patient than a warriorPhilippians 2 – Christ's humilityProverbs 24:16 – The righteous fall seven times but rise again1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – Be strong, courageous, and do everything in loveLuke 23 – Jesus carrying the cross1 Timothy 4:8 – Godliness has value for all thingsTitus 2:7-8 – Teaching with integrity1 Samuel 15 – Saul's disobedienceMatthew 4 – Jesus' temptationJohn 17 – Jesus interceding for his disciplesNehemiah 4:14 – Fight for your familiesPhilippians 4:8 – Whatever is noble, think about such thingsProverbs 22:1 – A good name is more desirable than richesMicah 6:8 – Do justice, love mercy, walk humblyActs 5 – Ananias and SapphiraJoshua 7 – The sin of AchanJohn 18 – Jesus on trial before PilateIsaiah 53:7 – Like a lamb silent before its shearersLuke 23:34 – Jesus forgives those who crucified HimDiscussion Questions:Which of the PRIME MEN traits (Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, Noble) do you most naturally embody, and which one do you struggle with the most? Why?(Bonus: Print the list and literally highlight where you're strong and where you're bleeding, as suggested in the episode.)Read Ephesians 6:4. What does it look like for you, specifically, to take spiritual responsibility for your kids? In what ways have you been tempted to hand that role off to someone else?How have you misunderstood meekness in the past? What would it look like for you to walk in “power under control” this week?How does your private life reflect your integrity? Are there places in your life where you are “fractioned” or living in two different personas? What does integration look like for you?In a culture that values comfort and ease, what does it mean to endure like Jesus? How can you practically grow in endurance and perseverance when life gets hard?

In this conversation, Chris Hilken explores the concept of masculinity, particularly focusing on its representation in media and the attributes of biblical masculinity. He discusses the importance of understanding true masculinity, the role of peacemaking, and the necessity of repentance in a man's life. Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Hilken encourages men to reflect on their character and strive for growth in their understanding of masculinity.

Jesus sent His disciples two by two—not alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From accountability and encouragement to strengthening our testimony, we'll discuss why godly friendships matter for every man—whether you're a pastor, a truck driver, or a dad just trying to raise your kids well. God's design for brotherhood isn't just about survival; it's about finishing well.

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtiredOn this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in their questions, in their grief, and in their search for clarity—just as He does with us today. Drawing from Luke 24, the lives of Perpetua and Felicity, and the wisdom of St. Bernard of Clairvaux, we'll discuss how friendship is essential to holiness, how Christ is present in our shared struggles, and why discipleship isn't meant to be done alone. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, isolation, or the mystery of God's plan, this episode will remind you that the Third Traveler always walks beside you.

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus' command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendship, Jesus embodied it offering Himself fully for those He loved. What does it mean for us as dads, husbands, and men of faith to live out sacrificial friendship? How does holiness shape the way we love those around us? Join us as we unpack these themes and challenge ourselves to follow Christ's example.

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27—"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge the mental loops that trap us in anxiety, self-reliance, and fear. What happens when we allow the external, unshakable truth of God's Word to interrupt our internal dialogue?

How do we reconcile the character of God with the violence in the Old Testament? In this episode, Chris helps us wrestle with one of the most difficult theological questions: Does God's command for destruction in the Old Testament align with His justice, mercy, and love? We explore biblical context, historical considerations, and theological perspectives to bring clarity to this challenging topic.

Check out dwell for 25% OFF at: dwellbible.com/dadtired Biblical stewardship is the God-given responsibility to wisely manage time, talents, and resources for His glory and the benefit of others. It reflects faithfulness, generosity, and a heart aligned with God's purposes in every aspect of life.

In this follow-up episode, Pastor Chris Hilken continues the conversation on the morality of God in the Old Testament, tackling some of the most challenging and thought-provoking questions that arise from scripture. With a focus on helping fathers shepherd their families, Chris addresses the tension between God's justice and mercy, exploring stories of divine judgment and their place in the grand narrative of redemption.

Pastor Chris Hilken tackles the tough questions about God's morality in the Old Testament. From stories of judgment to divine commands, Chris helps dads reconcile these challenging passages with God's love and justice. Tune in for practical insights to strengthen your faith and lead your family well.

On this episode of the Dad Tired podcast, Kaleb sits down with authors Patrick Miller to discuss his new book, Joyful Outsiders. Together, they explore what it means to live with joy, hope, and purpose in a culture where faith often feels out of place

Kaleb's Dad Tired episode on James 5:16-18 highlighted Elijah's prayer life as a model of faith and perseverance. Drawing from the passage where James emphasizes the "prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working," Kaleb unpacked how Elijah's prayers were both bold and persistent while unpacking church history's tradition concerning James' prayer life.

In this heartfelt episode of Dad Tired, Kaleb sits down with pastor, author, and entrepreneur John Onwuchekwa to explore life's deepest challenges and God's unshakable hope. John shares his journey through profound loss, including the death of his brother and struggles with infertility, and how these experiences shaped his faith, fatherhood, and calling. Together, they discuss practical ways to navigate grief, the power of community, and finding purpose in the midst of pain.

Join Kaleb and Peter Ostapkowe founder of the Kinsman Journal as they discuss practical tools for effective communication, building community with fellow dads, and adopting strategies to become stronger, more resilient role models for our families. Check out the Kinsman Journal at https://kinsmen.org

In this episode of Dad Tired, we dive into Daniel 6, unpacking the powerful story of Daniel's unwavering commitment to prayer, even in the face of life-threatening danger. Daniel's courage reminds us that our convictions matter, especially when the stakes are high. Join us as we explore how to cultivate a prayer life that anchors us in trust, inspires our families, and honors God, no matter the challenges we face.

In this episode, we dive into the life and prayer habits of John Hyde, also known as "Praying Hyde," a missionary whose fervent intercession transformed lives in India and beyond. Discover how his relentless pursuit of God's presence challenges and inspires us as husbands, fathers, and leaders in our homes.

In this episode of the DadTired podcast, we sit down with acclaimed author and speaker Bob Sorge to explore the transformative truths behind his classic book, Secrets of the Secret Place. Bob shares profound insights on cultivating a deeper, more intimate relationship with God through personal devotion and prayer. Together, we unpack practical tips for busy dads seeking to create a vibrant secret place with God amidst the chaos of daily life. Discover how prioritizing this sacred space can revolutionize your role as a husband, father, and leader. This conversation is a must-listen for men longing to grow spiritually and leave a lasting legacy for their families.

In this heartfelt episode, Jerrad Lopes shares his personal struggles and the challenges he has faced over the past weeks. He reflects on the origins of the Dad Tired podcast, the importance of confronting sin, and the need for healing and support from the community. Jerrad emphasizes the significance of honesty and vulnerability in his journey, expressing a desire to step back and seek restoration for himself and his family.

Pastor Kaleb explores the themes of revival culture, the importance of pure motivation in spiritual life, and the dangers of a workspace mentality. He emphasizes that true devotion should stem from thankfulness for the cross of Jesus, rather than from selfish ambition or the desire for recognition. The episode highlights the need for self-awareness in one's spiritual journey and the significance of maintaining a genuine relationship with God.

In this episode, Pastor Kaleb Allen discusses his personal struggles with fatigue and the subsequent return of motivation, exploring the addictive nature of productivity. He emphasizes the importance of devotion to God over mere productivity, referencing Kierkegaard's philosophy on single-minded devotion. Allen warns against fractured motivations in the Christian life and highlights the need for intentionality, attention, and perseverance in one's devotion to Jesus.

In this engaging conversation, Jerrad and Laura Wifler reconnect after years apart, discussing Laura's journey as the co-founder of Risen Motherhood, her passion for writing poetry, and the unexpected success of their podcast. They delve into the decision to sunset Risen Motherhood, emphasizing the importance of protecting their family and the content they created. The conversation also touches on practical insights for dads and husbands, highlighting the significance of small acts of service in a marriage. In this conversation, Laura Wifler discusses the complexities of motherhood, marriage, and parenting through a gospel-centered lens. She highlights the invisible labor that mothers often carry, the importance of communication in relationships, and how to navigate the mental load of family responsibilities. Laura also shares her personal journey with her daughter's disabilities and how it has shaped her faith and ministry, emphasizing the hope found in community and God's purpose in pain.

In this episode, Chris Hilken addresses various questions related to biblical perspectives on birth control, the nature of conversations between God and Satan, the concept of salvation before the gospel, and how to discuss sensitive topics like masturbation with children. He emphasizes the importance of understanding God's intentions for family and sexuality, and the necessity of evangelism for those who have not heard the gospel.

In this conversation, Kaleb Allen and Seth Bumgarner discuss the life and legacy of David Brainerd, a missionary known for his struggles and perseverance in the wilderness of life. They explore themes of friendship, the importance of acknowledging one's struggles, and the selflessness that can emerge from difficult seasons. The discussion emphasizes that a life dedicated to serving Jesus, even amidst trials, can lead to a profound legacy that inspires others.

In this conversation, David Pollock shares his journey from being an NFL player to a devoted father and husband. He discusses the challenges he faced after a career-ending neck injury and how it shaped his perspective on life, faith, and family. David emphasizes the importance of personal growth through trials and the role of faith in his life. He also reflects on his parenting style and the dynamics of his marriage, highlighting the significance of having a supportive partner. In this conversation, David and Jerrad explore the themes of faith, personal growth, and parenting in a performance-driven world. They discuss the importance of discipline in both faith and life, the challenges of parenting in today's society, and the role of sports as a teacher of life lessons. The conversation emphasizes the need for balance between sports and spirituality, and the significance of instilling values in children that prioritize character over performance.

In this episode, Pastor Chris Hilken addresses several pressing questions regarding faith, sin, and relationships. He discusses the struggle with sin, particularly addiction to pornography, and the implications for salvation. He emphasizes the importance of viewing sin seriously and the need for genuine repentance. The conversation then shifts to the interpretation of biblical texts, particularly the distinction between allegorical and literal readings. Chris also explores the complexities of friendships between men and women, highlighting the potential dangers and the wisdom of maintaining boundaries. Finally, he addresses the topic of divorce and remarriage, providing insight into biblical teachings and the importance of seeking forgiveness and moving forward with grace.

In this episode, Kaleb explores the theme of navigating the wilderness in life, drawing on historical examples like Dietrich Bonhoeffer to illustrate the struggle with identity and purpose during challenging times. He emphasizes the importance of turning aside to God, approaching Him with reverence, and focusing on who God is rather than solely on personal identity. Practical steps for engaging with God in wilderness seasons are also discussed, encouraging listeners to seek solitude, adoration, and a deeper understanding of God's character.

In this episode, Jerrad shares personal anecdotes about the challenges of parenthood and the emotional turmoil that can arise unexpectedly. He emphasizes the importance of identifying the lies we believe about ourselves and the necessity of surrounding ourselves with friends who can speak truth into our lives. Ultimately, he encourages listeners to embrace their identity in Christ and find freedom in the truth.

In this episode, Chris Hilken addresses profound questions about forgiveness, sexuality, communion, and the afterlife. He emphasizes the importance of understanding God's grace in the context of self-forgiveness, explores the complexities of sexual identity and its implications for faith, discusses the symbolic nature of communion in Christianity, and clarifies misconceptions about the visibility of loved ones in heaven. Through thoughtful insights and theological perspectives, Chris provides a compassionate and nuanced approach to these significant topics. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Forgiveness: A Journey Within 03:37 Exploring Sexuality: Nature vs. Nurture 14:06 The Symbolism of Communion: A Theological Perspective 18:54 The Afterlife: Can Loved Ones See Us? Submit your questions at dadtired.com/question

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives deep into the story of Elijah's wilderness experience and how it relates to the spiritual highs and lows we all face. Using 1 Kings 19 as a foundation, Kaleb reflects on Elijah's journey from calling down fire on Mount Carmel to feeling utterly defeated and lying under a broom tree, asking God to take his life. Kaleb unpacks the lessons we can learn from Elijah about not taking ourselves too seriously, the importance of caring for our physical bodies, receiving God's love, listening for His voice in the quiet, and allowing God to renew our purpose. This episode is for anyone feeling worn out, frustrated, or spiritually dry. Through Elijah's story, Kaleb offers practical wisdom and biblical encouragement to keep pressing on even in the wilderness moments of our lives. Whether you're battling fatigue, discouragement, or the temptation to give up, this episode will help you find Jesus in the wilderness of your soul and remind you that God's plans for you are not finished yet. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to Part 4 of the 6-week series: Kaleb reflects on "pastor's fatigue" and the emotional crash after a Sunday of preaching. 01:50 – How adrenaline-filled Sundays often lead to discouraged Mondays and how relatable Elijah's story is in this context. 02:24 – 1 Kings 19:4: Elijah prays to God asking to take his life. How Elijah's despair speaks to the wilderness moments we face in life. 04:49 – Point 1: Don't take yourself too seriously. Elijah's dramatic prayer and the importance of laughing at ourselves in difficult moments. 07:11 – God's response to Elijah: He sends an angel to feed Elijah instead of rebuking him. The kindness and grace of God in our weakest moments. 09:32 – Point 2: Taking care of your physical body is essential. Addressing the spiritual and physiological connections in wilderness seasons. 11:55 – Point 3: Let God love you. The importance of receiving God's love even when we feel we've failed or are frustrated with ourselves. 14:16 – Elijah's search for God in the dramatic (earthquake, fire, wind) and realizing that God often speaks in the gentle whisper. 16:42 – Personal reflection: Kaleb shares a story about fatherlessness and the temptation dads face to give up when feeling unappreciated. 18:25 – Practical steps: Laugh at yourself, care for your body, let God love you, listen for God's whisper, and allow Him to renew your vision. 20:49 – Reflection on immaturity: God lavishes His love on us even in our immaturity. How we can receive His grace no matter where we are in life. 23:12 – Final encouragement: Elijah's highs and lows illustrate God's mercy. Even when Elijah wanted to give up, God still had a plan for him. 23:55 – Closing thoughts: Press on, even when you're in the wilderness, and lean into God's plans and love. Connect with Us: Instagram: @dad.tired Website: DadTired.com Leave a Review:If this episode encouraged you, please leave a review and share it with a friend!

In this powerful and raw episode of the Dad Tired podcast, Jerrad sits down with Pedro LaTorre, speaker, author, and coach, to dive deep into Pedro's personal story of fatherhood, healing, and breaking free from performance-driven living. From childhood trauma to finding freedom in Jesus, Pedro shares how his life experiences have shaped him as a father and husband. Key Moments: [00:01] – Jerrad introduces Pedro amidst the chaos of a flooded house and sets the tone for an honest conversation. [01:26] – Pedro shares his background: being half Puerto Rican, half Cuban, and growing up with a name that confuses people. [03:16] – Daddy-daughter day with Pedro's 3-year-old and the small moments that matter most. [05:35] – Pedro talks about the emotional healing journey that helped him become more present as a father. [07:58] – Discussing the importance of knowing God enjoys us, and how that fuels us to enjoy our families. [08:41] – Pedro opens up about the deep pain caused by his father leaving and childhood abuse, which led to a performance addiction in his life. [11:36] – The turning point in Pedro's life after an injury ended his professional baseball dreams and led him into ministry. [16:16] – The “performance addiction” Pedro struggled with and how it impacted his relationships, including his marriage. [19:12] – Pedro talks about how COVID shut down his life in LA and how he dealt with the struggle of being still. [27:58] – What it means that Jesus' sacrifice was covenantal, not transactional, and how that changes our lives as fathers. [36:53] – Pedro recounts the life-changing moment when he asked his wife, “What's it like being married to me?” [47:16] – The importance of community, healing, and embracing feelings to live out the life God intends for us as men. Resources Mentioned: Tin Man Ministries – Emotional wellness resources for men Dr. Chip Dodd's "Voice of the Heart" – A recommended book on emotional healing

In this special Q&A episode, Chris Hilken tackles listener-submitted questions with raw honesty and biblical insight. This episode is part of a new segment on the Dad Tired podcast, called Q&A with Chris, where listeners can anonymously submit their burning questions. Jerrad Lopes curates a range of questions, aiming to get Chris's off-the-cuff thoughts. Episode Highlights: What's Off-Limits in the Bedroom for Christian Couples?Chris opens with a challenging question: is there anything off-limits for a Christian husband and wife in the bedroom? He offers a deep theological answer, explaining how sex within marriage reflects the union between Christ and His church, which means certain acts may break this analogy and should be avoided. He talks about the importance of mutual consent and avoiding harm while addressing the limits of biblical intimacy.Time Stamp: 00:01 - 04:20 Is Church Membership Biblical?Chris passionately argues for the importance of church membership, explaining why commitment to a local body is essential for spiritual growth. He contrasts modern consumeristic church culture with the early church's structure, explaining how membership fosters accountability, biblical discipline, and stronger church communities.Time Stamp: 04:49 - 11:37 The Baptism of the Holy Spirit ExplainedDiving into one of the more theologically complex questions, Chris explores the idea of the baptism of the Holy Spirit. He explains how different denominations view this concept and where the idea of receiving spiritual gifts post-conversion stems from, while also offering his own perspective on how the Holy Spirit works in the believer's life.Time Stamp: 13:45 - 16:36 Burial vs. Cremation: Is There a Biblical Stance?Chris answers whether there's a biblical mandate regarding burial versus cremation. Drawing from personal experience and scriptural principles, he explains why Christians have the liberty to choose either option without fear that cremation undermines the resurrection.Time Stamp: 18:32 - 20:10 Submit Your Question:Got a burning question for Chris? Submit it anonymously at dadtired.com/question, and it might be featured in a future episode!

In this episode of Kaleb's Corner, a segment of the Dad Tired podcast, Kaleb Allen hosts part three of the six-week series titled Finding Jesus in the Wilderness of Your Soul. In this episode, Kaleb dives into the theme of how Jesus' wilderness experience offers a roadmap for navigating the trials and challenges we face today. As Christian dads, learning to lead ourselves and our families well through tough seasons is essential, and Kaleb offers insights, encouragement, and practical steps to do just that. Episode Highlights: Wilderness: The Crossroads of Growth or StagnationKaleb kicks off by explaining how wilderness seasons can either shape us into stronger followers of Christ or leave us crippled by fear and frustration. He shares personal reflections on how wilderness moments challenge our faith and force us to choose between pressing forward or retreating in discouragement.Time Stamp: 00:14 - 02:40 Engaging God in the Midst of Spiritual FogKaleb encourages listeners not to "check out" during difficult times but to press deeper into God. He discusses the importance of wrestling with our emotions, praying, journaling, and talking to trusted friends, using these wilderness seasons as opportunities for spiritual growth and soul-searching.Time Stamp: 02:40 - 05:02 Jesus in the Wilderness: An Example of EnduranceKaleb unpacks Jesus' experience of being led by the Spirit into the wilderness, showing how He modeled endurance through prayer, fasting, and resisting temptation. Jesus' journey reminds us that even when we feel spiritually dry, God's purpose is at work in us.Time Stamp: 05:02 - 07:27 Three Temptations: Relevance, Spectacle, and PowerKaleb walks listeners through the three temptations Jesus faced in the wilderness, drawing on insights from theologians like Augustine and Henry Nowen: Relevance: The temptation to turn stones into bread, fulfilling immediate needs but missing the deeper spiritual purpose. Spectacle: The temptation to throw Himself from the temple and be admired for a grand display of power. Power: The temptation to bow down and gain authority over all the kingdoms of the world.Time Stamp: 07:27 - 16:57 Resisting the Temptation of RelevanceKaleb explores how the temptation to prove our worth to others can creep in during wilderness seasons. He offers practical advice on resisting the need to be "relevant" in the eyes of the world and instead finding our value in God's love and truth.Time Stamp: 16:57 - 19:18 Choosing to Be Faithful Instead of SpectacularKaleb emphasizes that true success in the wilderness isn't found in being extraordinary but in being faithful. He challenges listeners to reject the cultural pressure to "prove" themselves through grand gestures and instead focus on daily faithfulness to God's calling.Time Stamp: 19:18 - 24:02 Embracing Humility: The Temptation to PowerKaleb addresses the temptation to seek control or power as a way to validate ourselves. He explains that true fulfillment comes not from climbing the ladder of success but from walking in humility and surrender to God's will.Time Stamp: 24:02 - 28:49 The Wilderness as a Place of GrowthKaleb concludes by reframing the wilderness as a place of training, where God shapes our character and strengthens our faith. He encourages dads to embrace these challenging seasons as opportunities to become more like Jesus and lead their families well through faith and perseverance.Time Stamp: 28:49 - 31:10 Connect with Kaleb Allen: Website: Dad Tired Instagram: @t.kaleb.allen Podcast: Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major platforms. Resources Mentioned: The Armor of God (Ephesians 6) The Life of Jesus in the Wilderness (Matthew 4) Writings by Henry Nowen and Augustine In this powerful solo episode, Kaleb Allen challenges dads to embrace the wilderness seasons of life as opportunities for growth, perseverance, and deepening their relationship with Christ.