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Sandy Phillips Kirkham shares her harrowing yet inspiring journey of overcoming abuse in a religious setting. Her book, "Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free From A Minister's Sexual Abuse," sheds light on the devastating impact of clergy abuse and serves as a resource for education and support for others. Sandy's journey is a poignant testament to the often-downplayed reality that women and girls within the church can be easy prey for sexual predators disguised as priests. Her compelling story highlights the egregious abuse of power by church leaders and the victim-blaming that often follows. Sandy recounts her personal experience of being groomed, manipulated, and sexually exploited by her youth pastor and eventually being expelled from her church while her abuser moved on to another congregation. For years, Sandy grappled with the thought that the exploitation she endured was her fault. However, through tremendous personal growth and reflection, she came to recognize that she was deliberately targeted, groomed, and manipulated by her abuser, who sought only to use and control her. Sandy's experience underscores the critical need for awareness and support for all victims of abuse, challenging the stigmatization and silence that often surrounds clergy abuse.

This is her bio: "A church is where an insecure sixteen-year-old girl should feel welcome, happy, and most importantly, safe. Tragically for some, the church can become a place of great harm. Sandy Phillips Kirkham details her account of how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, a betrayal which left her broken, with a shattered faith, and the ultimate shame of being blamed and forced from the church she loved. From their very first meeting, the new youth minister slowly and methodically turned the sacred relationship of a trusted spiritual leader to one of abuse: sexual, emotional, and physical. When his actions were discovered, he was simply moved to another church, leaving Sandy to pay for his deeds. She was not his first victim, nor would she be his last. Despite a successful and happy life as a wife, mother, and friend, Sandy successfully concealed her abuse for twenty-seven years until a trigger forced her to face the truth. Sandy's story will take you on her journey of healing which began in 2004, first by seeking justice and closure from both the pastor and the church. Her strength and courage will inspire you. Let Me Prey Upon You details Sandy's journey from innocent sixteen-year-old victim to survivor and advocate." -Let Me Prey Upon You - Sandy Phillips Kirkham, Author. Link: Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse: Kirkham, Sandy Phillips, Wietmarschen, Peter: 9781734195224: Amazon.com: Books --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support

In this episode, VSC's Violence Prevention Educator, Hannah Jenarine sits with Sandy Phillips Kirkham to speak on the Dynamics of Clergy Abuse. Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.” Purchase her book "Let Me Prey Upon You": https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/ ----------------------------------- Trigger Warning: In this podcast, we will be discussing sensitive topics such as Sexual Assault. It's important to take care of yourself while listening. Some suggestions are listening while you're in a healthy headspace or knowing who you can reach out to if you become upset. Our 24/7 helpline for crisis calls based out of Central Florida is 407 500 HEAL, for the Florida state sexual helpline call (888) 956-7273. By contacting the National Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 you can get support and learn about your local resources. There is always someone ready to help.

Sandy Phillips Kirkham is a survivor of clergy abuse and the author of, "Let Me Prey Upon You". Sandy was very active in her church growing up, her faith was the center of her life. When she was 16 her youth pastor groomed and manipulated her into a sexual relationship. After years of abuse she managed to exit the relationship and reclaim her life. Sandy kept her experience a secret for 27 years before she had to face it and begin her healing journey. Today Sandy is a strong advocate for survivors of clergy abuse as a board member of the Council Against Child Abuse and through her work with The Hope of Survivors. Today Sandy will be sharing her story, and we'll be discussing her incredibly powerful book.Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.”Sandy's Website: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/Sandy's Book: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/https://bookshop.org/p/books/let-me-prey-upon-you-breaking-free-from-a-minister-s-sexual-abuse-sandy-phillips-kirkham/13830913?ean=9781734195200The Hope of Survivors: http://www.thehopeofsurvivors.org/Council on Child Abuse: https://www.cocachild.org/GRACE: https://www.netgrace.org/SNAP: https://www.snapnetwork.org/Finding OK: https://www.finding-ok.com/Hecate's Links: https://linktr.ee/FindingOKSupport the podcast and become a Patreon member!https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOKFinding OK is funded entirely by the generosity of listeners like you!https://www.finding-ok.com/support/Letters for the Fire: https://www.finding-ok.com/blog/letters-for-the-fire-season-5/Thank you for listening. BLM. Take care of yourself

Many of us find comfort within our church community, especially when we're at a difficult time in our lives. For Sandy Phillips Kirkham, what was a place of warmth became a place of intense trauma when she was 16 years old.In this episode, she sits down with Irene Weinberg to talk about her award-winning book, Let Me Prey Upon You, in which she details how a charismatic youth mister preyed upon her, betrayed her, left her broken with a shattered faith, and brought about the ultimate shame of being blamed and forced from the church she loved. Sandy also describes her healing journey that began when she confronted the minister during her quest for justice and closure 27 years after his heinous behavior began. Now an advocate for other victims of clergy sexual abuse and child abuse, Sandy's riveting, important story about dreadful clergy abuse is more than a story of intense trauma; it is an important story about healing and rebirth. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT THINGS LIKE:How a charismatic youth minister targeted an innocent 16-year-old and preyed upon her.How grooming sets a victim up to accept unusual behaviors.How the minister established control over Sandy and manipulated her. How Sandy eventually broke away from her abuser. Sandy's husband's reaction when he learned about the degrading abuse Sandy had hidden from him for 27 years.The difference in perspective when the abuser is Catholic or non-Catholic. How the ministry called Hope of Survivors is helping victims of clergy sexual abuse.How Sandy eventually forgave both herself and her abuser.How Sandy's confrontation with her abuser came about. SOME QUESTIONS IRENE ASKS SANDY:What made you a vulnerable target for your youth minister, who was a charismatic wolf in sheep's clothing?In what ways did your youth minister target you, groom you, and prey upon you when you were an innocent 16-year-old girl?How did understanding the terms love bombing, grooming, gaslighting, and manipulation allow you to begin your healing process?How did you eventually break away from your abuser?Please tell us about the people who believed you, believed in you, and supported you as you journeyed toward healing and resolution.How did your confrontation with your abuser come about?What is the impact spiritually when abuse occurs within the church?How were you able to eventually forgive yourself and your abuser?What inspired you to become an advocate for a ministry called The Hope for Survivors?What is your message about the importance of healing?Abuse forever changes a person and healing takes time. Can there be joy again?

From Darkness to Healing with Sandy Phillips Kirkham Survivor, advocate, and author of “Let Me Prey Upon You,” Sandy Phillips Kirkham, works with survivors all around the world conducting victim support conferences and is a guest presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse, including the Hope & Healing Conference, sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view.  Her story is one of overcoming significant trauma to find hope and healing.   At 16, Sandy suffered the ultimate betrayal when her charismatic youth pastor slowly and methodically turned a sacred relationship into one of abuse: sexual, emotional, and physical. The abuse would continue for the next five years until he was discovered and moved to another church. Left feeling broken, betrayed, and shattered, Sandy will go on to find herself the one being blamed and forced from the church she loved. But, unfortunately, she would also later discover that she was not his first or last victim. Despite having a successful and happy life as a wife, mother, and friend for 27 years, Sandy concealed her abuse until a trigger forced her to face the truth and overcome the trauma she went through as a young girl. Now the wife, mother, and grandmother continue to use her voice to help other clergy abuse victims be heard and heal from their trauma. She currently serves on the board of the Council Against Child Abuse. In addition, she has spoken before the Ohio Senate and a Maryland court and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Listen in as Sandy and I discuss the abuse she went through, the aftermath of such trauma, and how she overcame it all to heal and find a life of FEARLESS HAPPYNESS!

In this deeply moving episode of Warriors Unmasked, we sit down with Sandy Phillips Kirkham, a wife, mother, and grandmother who has triumphed over trauma. Sandy bravely shares her journey, from growing up in a divorced family to finding solace in the church and her relationship with God, only to experience abuse by her youth pastor. This conversation takes listeners from sorrow and sadness to compassion, understanding, and empowerment as we explore Sandy's lifelong journey of healing and forgiveness. Sandy's story is one of hope and overcoming trauma. At 16, she was sexually abused by her youth pastor, an abuse that continued for five years until his actions were discovered. She wasn't his first victim, nor his last. After being told to leave the church due to her "behavior," Sandy hid her past from her husband, family, and friends for 27 years. A triggering event eventually forced her to confront her abuse, hiring a private investigator to locate her abuser and confront him. Sandy's journey isn't just about the abuse she endured, but also about how she overcame the trauma, learned to forgive, and reclaimed her life. Sandy speaks candidly The pastor began grooming Sandy for abuse, starting with seemingly innocent gestures and escalating to sexual contact. He manipulated her guilt and devotion to the church, convincing her that their relationship was sanctioned by God. Trapped by his control and fearful of not being believed, Sandy suffered in silence for years. Despite the damage done to her spiritual life and relationship with the church, Sandy has managed to find healing and forgiveness. She admits to still feeling uncomfortable in church at times but has learned to accept and understand her triggers. Through her healing journey, Sandy has become an advocate for victims of clergy abuse, serving on the board of the Council on Child Abuse and volunteering for The Hope of Survivor's Ministry. She has even spoken before the Ohio Senate! Sandy Phillips Kirkham's story is a testament to the power of resilience, healing, and forgiveness. Her experiences offer invaluable insight and encouragement to others who may be struggling with similar traumas. Hit play to hear more!  GUEST LINKS:   Sandy's Book: Let Me Prey Upon You - Sandy Phillips Kirkham, Author LINKS: malarchuk.com/book  malarchuk.com  www.thecompassionateconnection.com www.warriorsunmasked.com  Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Subscribe To Our YouTube My Community Contact   Episode Minute By Minute: 0:00 Introduction from Chuck + messages from our sponsors 2:52 The church started as a perfect place for Sandy 6:27 When the abuse started for Sandy 13:46 How to spot the many tools of manipulation and abuse 18:27 An eventual reckoning….yet without justice 24:58 The journey of confronting the truth 31:57 The motive for bringing the truth to light 34:56 When they made Sandy the villain of the story 39:56 When Sandy shared the truth with her husband 43:51 A look into Sandy's new book “Let Me Prey Upon You” 47:02 It's a much bigger issue than we can wrap our heads around  

In this episode of Crime Over Cocktails, I talk with my guest Sandy. At the age sixteen, Sandy was excited to find herself accepted not only by a church, but also by their new pastor.  After five years of grooming, gaslighting, and emotional abuse, she was able to walk away, but to never speak of it for twenty-seven years. Sandy is now the author of "Let Me Prey Upon You" which details the five-year relationship, how she suppressed it for so many years, the toll it took on her and her recovery journey. Let go of blaming yourself! https://sandyphillipskirkham.comhttps://www.amazon.com/Let-Prey-Upon-You-Ministers-ebook/dp/B084H2WCW5Support the showhttps://www.crimeovercocktails.comhttp://www.instagram.com/crimeovercocktails/http://calendly.com/crimeovercocktails https://podmatch.com/signup/crimeovercocktailshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCu1f3cHWYhG4vWEwRcmkTmghttps://paypal.me/crimeovercocktails?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US

When Pastors Prey is out now! In this week's podcast Jay speaks with Sandy Phillips Kirkham. Sandy shares her story of abuse as a child/young adult at the hands of her pastor, how it affected her relationship with Christ, and the need for accountability in the Church. She also talks about warning signs and discusses outlets for those who are going through something similar. Here are a couple book recommendations from Sandy:Something's Not Right: Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse--and Freeing Yourself from Its Power: Mullen, Wade, Langberg, Diane Mandt: 9781496444707: Amazon.com: BooksVictim to Survivor: Women Recovering from Clergy Sexual Abuse: Poling, Nancy Werking: 9781608993437: Amazon.com: Books

Today we welcome Roger Canaff, an award winning legal thriller author whose writing is influenced by his experiences as a child protection and anti-violence against women advocate, legal expert, and speaker. He has devoted his legal career to the eradication of violence against women and children, first as a prosecutor in Alexandria, Virginia, then as a Special Victims ADA in the Bronx. Roger also was president of the Board of Directors of End Violence Against Women International, an organization that provides training, technical assistance, research and advocacy. He now teaches undergraduate and law school classes, and trains and consults privately, both nationally and internationally. Canaff is a charter member of CounterQuo, an organization of allied professionals challenging the way our culture responds to sexual violence.Most recently he became a consultant with Justice3D.com, a leading educator in issues related to investigating and prosecuting sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic violence cases.Roger Canaff is the author of four novels, the latest of which is "City Dark," a police thriller set in New York City, which will be published October 1. Canaff lives and works in New York City.Some of the questions we asked Canaff:Q. What prompted you to focus your work on violence against women and children?Q. What were some of the experiences in your life, in your work, that informed the four novels that you've written?Q. Tell us about your books, especially City Dark, which is due out on October 1.Q. I did a podcast interview with an author, Sandy Phillips Kirkham, whose book, “Let Me Prey Upon You,” describes how as a teenager she was seduced and eventually raped by the youth pastor of her church, a fundamental protestant denomination. She said she had been “groomed” by this pastor.I noticed in my research that you've given a presentation with Justice3D.com entitled “Introducing evidence of grooming and dynamics of victimization in child sex abuse cases.” Can you explain what that's all about?Q. Another talk you've given focuses on holding offenders accountable. What are some of the challenges and opportunities that arise with respect to that? Kirkham said her abuser was protected by his church, while she was virtually kicked out.Q. All of this also can be related to sex abuse within the Catholic Church.. You've done some work in this area?Q. What did you think of the sex abuse accusations against Judge Kavanaugh when he was being considered for the Supreme Court and how they were handled by the Senate Committee? You said on CNN that you had never seen a witness more compelling than Christine Blasey Ford, who testified that as a teenager in the early 1980s Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her during a party, which, of course, Kavanaugh denied. Should Kavanaugh be on the Supreme Court today?Q. What's next for you? Another book?Q. Just curious, where do you get the names and descriptions of the characters in your books?Q. Where can listeners find your books or reach out to you?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-lean-to-the-left-podcast--4719048/support.

Today we welcome Roger Canaff, an award winning legal thriller author whose writing is influenced by his experiences as a child protection and anti-violence against women advocate, legal expert, and speaker. He has devoted his legal career to the eradication of violence against women and children, first as a prosecutor in Alexandria, Virginia, then as a Special Victims ADA in the Bronx. Roger also was president of the Board of Directors of End Violence Against Women International, an organization that provides training, technical assistance, research and advocacy. He now teaches undergraduate and law school classes, and trains and consults privately, both nationally and internationally. Canaff is a charter member of CounterQuo, an organization of allied professionals challenging the way our culture responds to sexual violence.Most recently he became a consultant with Justice3D.com, a leading educator in issues related to investigating and prosecuting sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic violence cases.Roger Canaff is the author of four novels, the latest of which is "City Dark," a police thriller set in New York City, which will be published October 1. Canaff lives and works in New York City.Some of the questions we asked Canaff:Q. What prompted you to focus your work on violence against women and children?Q. What were some of the experiences in your life, in your work, that informed the four novels that you've written?Q. Tell us about your books, especially City Dark, which is due out on October 1.Q. I did a podcast interview with an author, Sandy Phillips Kirkham, whose book, “Let Me Prey Upon You,” describes how as a teenager she was seduced and eventually raped by the youth pastor of her church, a fundamental protestant denomination. She said she had been “groomed” by this pastor.I noticed in my research that you've given a presentation with Justice3D.com entitled “Introducing evidence of grooming and dynamics of victimization in child sex abuse cases.” Can you explain what that's all about?Q. Another talk you've given focuses on holding offenders accountable. What are some of the challenges and opportunities that arise with respect to that? Kirkham said her abuser was protected by his church, while she was virtually kicked out.Q. All of this also can be related to sex abuse within the Catholic Church.. You've done some work in this area?Q. What did you think of the sex abuse accusations against Judge Kavanaugh when he was being considered for the Supreme Court and how they were handled by the Senate Committee? You said on CNN that you had never seen a witness more compelling than Christine Blasey Ford, who testified that as a teenager in the early 1980s Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her during a party, which, of course, Kavanaugh denied. Should Kavanaugh be on the Supreme Court today?Q. What's next for you? Another book?Q. Just curious, where do you get the names and descriptions of the characters in your books?Q. Where can listeners find your books or reach out to you?

Continuing on to the Bearing Witness series, Listen in as Sandy Phillips Kirkham, author of “Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse.” shares her story of how she was targeted, groomed, and sexually abused by her youth pastor at the age of sixteen. Sandy successfully concealed her abuse for twenty-seven years until a trigger forced her to face the truth. She will talk about what led up to the abuse, the aftermath, and her journey of #healing and giving support to other victims. We hope that her courage and strength inspire you. In this episode, we cover:Sandy's storyWhat do #grooming and #gaslighting look like?Her #support after leaving the #church#Coverup in the Baptist church and their response to the victims #traumaHow did the women in her church respond to her trauma? How can the #healing start and where can victims get support? Helpful Links:Sandy Kirkham's book, Let Me Prey Upon YouConnect with Sandy on Facebook @kirkhamauthorVictims, survivors, advocates, and anyone looking to learn more about clergy sexual abuse can use the following resources to learn more about healing and understanding. Visit this linkSurvivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP)Episode #73 - Bearing Witness Series: Religion and the FeminineDo you want to share your thoughts on this episode? Find Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman, Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman, and on Tiktok as @therosewoman108 Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on Apple Podcast | Google Podcasts | Spotify | Youtube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On May 15, the Southern Baptist Convention finally acknowledged what our guest today has already experienced – that pastors and other church employees have sexually abused parishioners and that the church covered up those claims for years.Now our guest, Sandy Phillips Kirkham, was not a member of the Southern Baptists when she was sexually abused by her youth pastor. She was a member of another protestant denomination, which shows that such practices go beyond religious boundaries.She recounts her story in Let Me Prey Upon You, a memoir that reveals how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, betrayed her in the most vile way, and shattered her faith, leaving her broken and separated from the church she once loved. Sandy is here with author/attorney Mark M. Bello and me today to discuss this tragic situation.Sandy previously told her own story on both the Lean to the Left and Justice Counts podcasts, but Mark and I wanted to invite her back to get her thoughts about these latest revelations regarding the Southern Baptists. A list of hundreds of pastors and other church-affiliated personnel accused of sexual abuse has just been released by church officials. The list had previously been kept secret by the church.Take a listen.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-lean-to-the-left-podcast--4719048/support.

On May 15, the Southern Baptist Convention finally acknowledged what our guest today has already experienced – that pastors and other church employees have sexually abused parishioners and that the church covered up those claims for years.Now our guest, Sandy Phillips Kirkham, was not a member of the Southern Baptists when she was sexually abused by her youth pastor. She was a member of another protestant denomination, which shows that such practices go beyond religious boundaries.She recounts her story in Let Me Prey Upon You, a memoir that reveals how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, betrayed her in the most vile way, and shattered her faith, leaving her broken and separated from the church she once loved. Sandy is here with author/attorney Mark M. Bello and me today to discuss this tragic situation.Sandy previously told her own story on both the Lean to the Left and Justice Counts podcasts, but Mark and I wanted to invite her back to get her thoughts about these latest revelations regarding the Southern Baptists. A list of hundreds of pastors and other church-affiliated personnel accused of sexual abuse has just been released by church officials. The list had previously been kept secret by the church.Take a listen.

A church is where an insecure sixteen-year-old girl should feel welcome, happy, and most importantly, safe. Tragically for some, the church can become a place of great harm. In her book, Let Me Prey Upon You, Sandy Phillips Kirkham details her account of how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, a betrayal which left her broken, with a shattered faith, and the ultimate shame of being blamed and forced from the church she loved. From their very first meeting, the new youth minister slowly and methodically turned the sacred relationship of a trusted spiritual leader to one of abuse: sexual, emotional, and physical. When his actions were discovered, he was simply moved to another church, leaving Sandy to pay for his deeds. She was not his first victim, nor would she be his last. Despite a successful and happy life as a wife, mother, and friend, Sandy successfully concealed her abuse for twenty-seven years until a trigger forced her to face the truth. Sandy's story will take you on her journey of healing which began in 2004, first by seeking justice and closure from both the pastor and the church. Her strength and courage will inspire you. Let Me Prey Upon You details Sandy's journey from innocent sixteen-year-old victim to survivor and advocate. Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/  https://www.facebook.com/KirkhamAuthor/  _______________________________________________________________ Listen to more episodes at https://ResilientLifeHacks.com  MY BOOKS: Undefeated: From Trial to Triumph, How to Stop Fighting the Wrong Battles and Start Living Victoriously https://www.amazon.com/Undefeated-Trial-Triumph-Stand-Strong/dp/1640850872   Undaunted in Darkness: Finding Your Path From Broken to Bold, Your Daily Battle Plan for a Winning Life https://www.amazon.com/Undaunted-Darkness-Finding-Broken-Strong/dp/B09MYR8TH9/ Get my TOP 20 RESILIENT LIFE HACKS here! https://elizabeth-meyers.ck.page/1a1ef0ef89 Join our RESILIENT LIFE TRIBE: https://facebook.com/groups/resilientlifetribe 

Please subscribe and share. Also, please donate to this podcast to keep it going. Click the link to donate: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=KT5DSZEECRSL8 The voice of Sandy Kirkham represents the voices of challenged women who have overcome clergy abuse: Sexual abuse by church leaders. Let's Break the Bias! Related YouTube Episodes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDSjhGbrNLU (Part 1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UN5zDnvdcR0&t=2082s (Part 2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8c5CuakkPy4 (Part 3) Sandy Kirkham: A church is where an insecure sixteen-year-old girl should feel welcome, happy, and most importantly, safe. Tragically for some, the church can become a place of great harm. Sandy Phillips Kirkham experienced the deceit and lies that come with being the victim of a wolf in sheep's clothing… her church's youth minister. After decades of keeping her deep secret, Sandy discovered her voice and has made it her life's work to be an advocate for others. My guest continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She is a highly requested speaker, podcast guest and media liaison on the topic. Get her book through this link: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/let-me-prey-upon-you/ Her social media links: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/ https://twitter.com/sandykirkham11 Now, subscribe to our YouTube channel ( https://youtube.com/channel/UCoc-QGLBLQxIYRa7N-OaRqA). Also, rate, comment, and share this and other episodes with others. Remember, to donate using the first link above. #sexualabusedwomen #breakthebias #abusedwomen The Canyouth's Exploration social media Links: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CanXplore/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyouthsexploration/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/CanyouthsN Find and purchase books by Dr. Canute White through this link: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Canute+white&crid=R4C1V5L88L5O&sprefix=canute+white%2Caps%2C147&ref=nb_sb_noss --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/radio-white/message

Your past does not define or depict your future. Break your silence and healing from the abuse and trauma. In this segment, Sandy Phillips Kirkham discusses how she was able to overcome the trauma of being abused by her youth pastor at age 16 and how after 27 years of silence she finally found her voice. She shares the healing process and what that looked like in the face of pain and anger. See video here - https://youtu.be/ocojOu4eswk WHO IS SANDY? Sandy and her husband enjoy life with their two grown children, two granddaughters and two well-behaved dogs. They reside in Cincinnati, Ohio. After experiencing clergy sexual abuse at age 16 by her youth pastor and remaining silent for 27 years, she now uses her voice to advocate for victims and changes in the church. She has spoken before the Ohio Senate and a Maryland court. She serves on the board of COCA -Council on Child Abuse, is a spokesperson the Hope of Survivors Ministry. She tells her story in her book “Let Me Prey Upon You” SANDY'S CALL TO ACTION Give hope and healing to other victims of clergy abuse and help educate in hopes of preventing future abuse. https://www.facebook.com/KirkhamAuthor www.sandyphillipskirkham.com GENESIS'S INFO https://thehello.llc/GENESISAMARISKEMP CALL TO ACTION Subscribe to GEMS with Genesis Amaris Kemp Channel, Hit the notifications bell so you don't miss any content, and share with family/friends. **REMEMBER - You do not have to let limitations or barriers keep you from achieving your success. Mind over Matter...It's time to shift and unleash your greatest potential. If you would like to be a SPONSOR or have any of your merchandise mentioned, please reach out via email at GEMSwithGenesisAmarisKemp@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/support

Sandy Phillips Kirkham is a survivor of clergy abuse. He was 30 married, with two children, and at the age of 16, her youth pastor. The abuse lasted for five years. For 27 years she remained silent living with guilt and shame. A trigger forced her to face her past. That is when the healing began. Part of that healing meant facing her abuser after 27 years. Hiring a private detective she found him still ministering in a church in Alabama. Her journey was not an easy one but she is now a survivor and an advocate for other victims. She shares a message of prevention by helping people to understand the mind of a predator and the tools used to groom, manipulate and gaslight their victims and provides a greater understanding of the dynamics of abuse and the damage done when one suffers at the hands of a so-called clergy. She serves on the board Of The Council on Child Abuse, is the interdenominational spokesperson for The Hope of Survivor's ministry, and is a sought-after speaker and podcast guest. She resides in Cincinnati with her husband of 43 years and their two dogs. Sandy is a proud mother and grandmother Reach out to Sandy: www.sandyphillipskirkham.com Contact Lois Wagner to sponsor or participate in the BE BRAVE programme to help eradicate bullying, harassment, sexual and gender-based violence: http://walkingwithoutskin.com/brave-men/ Music Walking without Skin is a song inspired by the work of Lois Wagner. Walking Without Skin was composed by Steve Siler of Music for the Soul and features Denise Green. It is our hope that the song will encourage and empower women as they journey on the road to healing. You may stream the song here or download it for $1.29. https://www.musicforthesoul.org/resources/walking-without-skin/

Schools and churches are supposed to be places we go to feel safe, but what happens when that isn't the case?Sandy Phillips Kirkham, author of the book "Let me Prey Upon You" is sharing the very chilling details of her story as a victim of clergy abuse. She aims to raise awareness of what victims of sexual assault go through and how it has shaped her view of the church later in life.To read Sandy's full story, check out her book here: sandyphillipskirkham.com.

Sandy Phillips Kirkham was just a teenager who loved church. It was a place she felt accepted and celebrated. When a new youth pastor was hired, he saw Sandy's love for the church and used it against her. He started grooming her for a long-term abusive relationship before her sixteenth birthday. When the abuse was finally discovered, the church moved the pastor on to another congregation (after celebrating him with a big going away party) and they asked Sandy to worship elsewhere. Sandy's story teaches us church is a place where victims are susceptible to predators because the institution is set-up for inherent trust—something predators know well.Full transcript and show notes here: https://bit.ly/dospod105Voicemail & text: (850) 270-3308Sandy Phillips Kirkham: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/Stephanie Kostopoulos : https://www.stephaniekostopoulos.com/Beth Demme: http://bethdemme.com/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dospod)

There are incidents of abuse that, as a society, we have become desensitized to because we have become numb to some particular acts of violence. We have heard so many tramatic events until nothing shocks us anymore but there are instances of, not the act, but the role of the perpretrator that now gives us uncertain feelings about whom we can trust. Someone in political office, school system, and the church should be regarded more stearnly when they cross the line from protector to perpetrator; but that is not always the case. This week, Latonia and her guest Sandy Phillips Kirkham discuss such an instance of a perpertrator being someone in high regard and what happened to Sandy's life in the aftermath of her traumatic ordeal as they discuss, "Let Me Prey Upon You!" --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/a-womans-soul-restored/message

Today we're with Sandy Phillips Kirkham, who when she was 17 years old, was raped by her pastor, a young, married man who callously took advantage of her admiration of him, and desire for his attention. His name was Jeff Coulier.The first time took place in the pastor's house, in his bed, and that is how she lost her virginity.She had given this “man of God” her trust and he violated that trust, just as he violated her. And he was worried about washing the bloody sheets before his wife came home. That was just the beginning of Sandy's trauma of betrayal.After many years, Sandy decided it was time to confront that past if she was to heal. She writes, “With the healing came my need and passion to speak out about clergy abuse.” She works with The Hope of Survivors ministry and is on the board of the Council on Child Abuse. She's spoken to many groups and churches on the topic of prevention and has met several courageous survivors. And so, she wrote a wonderful, riveting book in which she tells her story. It's a story of lies, manipulation, coercion, and abuse, but it's also a story of courage, resilience, and bravery. The name of her book is “Let Me Prey Upon You.”Sandy, thanks for joining us today on Lean to the Left.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-lean-to-the-left-podcast--4719048/support.

Today we're with Sandy Phillips Kirkham, who when she was 17 years old, was raped by her pastor, a young, married man who callously took advantage of her admiration of him, and desire for his attention. His name was Jeff Coulier.The first time took place in the pastor's house, in his bed, and that is how she lost her virginity.She had given this “man of God” her trust and he violated that trust, just as he violated her. And he was worried about washing the bloody sheets before his wife came home. That was just the beginning of Sandy's trauma of betrayal.After many years, Sandy decided it was time to confront that past if she was to heal. She writes, “With the healing came my need and passion to speak out about clergy abuse.” She works with The Hope of Survivors ministry and is on the board of the Council on Child Abuse. She's spoken to many groups and churches on the topic of prevention and has met several courageous survivors. And so, she wrote a wonderful, riveting book in which she tells her story. It's a story of lies, manipulation, coercion, and abuse, but it's also a story of courage, resilience, and bravery. The name of her book is “Let Me Prey Upon You.”Sandy, thanks for joining us today on Lean to the Left.

Sandy Phillips Kirkham is a wife, mother, grandmother, speaker, advocate, and author of the award-winning book “Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from A Minister's Sexual Abuse.” Her book documents her story from an innocent sixteen-year-old victim to survivor and advocate. Sandy shares her story of how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, taking advantage of her youth and innocence to trap her into a relationship filled with physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. She takes us on her journey of healing which began twenty-seven years after the abuse ended and confronting both her abuser as well as the church elders who knew about the abuse but covered his crime to protect the church. Sandy's strength and courage gives hope and inspiration to other victims of clergy abuse, and she uses her voice to help others heal, as well as to educate other pastors, churches, and the public to be alert and aware of signs of grooming and potential abuse. You do not want to miss this!     https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/ https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/let-me-prey-upon-you/ https://www.facebook.com/KirkhamAuthor/  

Join Conor as he interviews the brave and charming Sandy Phillips Kirkham. Sandy is the author of Let me Prey Upon You, a tell all book about the years she suffered from the sexual abuse of a clergyman at her church. You can read more at www.conorbredin.com/sandy-kirkhamIf you'd like to see all previous episodes, head over to conorbredin.com/podcastInterested in a free thriller novella? Check out conorbredin.com/freebook If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Podchaser or Apple Podcasts to review it! Reviews can be as simple as "I enjoyed this show!" and a click of however many stars you think it's worth! Here's the link: https://www.podchaser.com/StoryOfAStorytellerSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/StorytellerPodcast)

People aren't always who they claim to be. Sometimes, those who you think you can trust change your life forever through pain and abuse. In this episode of The Other Side of the Church, listen as Lathan and Sandy talk about her experience of abuse and healing she later found and her book, “Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse.” Sandy is a mother, grandmother, author, and advocate for those who don't have a voice that have been sexually abused. She also serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse.  In this episode you'll be reminded that you deserve to be loved, regardless of what's happened to you, and you ARE loved by a God who sees you and knows you. Learn more about Sandy at https://sandyphillipskirkham.com

Sandy Phillips Kirkham, author of "Let me Prey Upon" you courageously shares her story of surviving the sexual abuse of her pastor and abuse of the church. She now works as an advocate for victims of clergy abuse. Book available on Amazon.

It's one of the darkest secrets out there. I'm talking about physical and sexual abuse upon us as men. Not only do many men experience this in silence, even the topic at large is uncomfortable to discuss, isn't it? Well, whether you have a dark secret of your own or simply wish to be a source of strength and encouragement for a fellow brother who does, this episode is for you--and it's one of the most important ones I've ever produced. This IS a thing, and it's actually happening far more than you've ever thought. Yet, men feel so much shame when victimized that incidents, or even continuous abuse, goes vastly underreported. My guest is Sandy Phillips Kirkham, who is a long-time victim advocate and the author of the ambiguously titled Let Me Pray/Prey Upon You. Now, despite the title of her book, Sandy isn't about anti-faith clergy bashing. Both she and I actually have stories, and have seen similar patterns among assailants. What are those patterns, and what are the insidious ways predators 'groom' their potential victims? When does normal affection and/or discipline cross the line of being abusive? How come predators are simply covered for or moved elsewhere rather than being prosecuted? Why haven't the Jeffrey Epstein story and others like it fueled the level of outrage they should have? What's up with female teachers who have sex with their students? And yes, we as men often encounter women who are abuse survivors themselves. What if we and/or someone we are dating is a sexual assault survivor...how can we have a healthy long-term sexual relationship? And for sure, how we can encourage women in our lives who have experienced assault to either report and/or in their recovery? Expect a well-rounded discussion that delivers straight talk about the topic. Free reports, the daily newsletter, show notes and the link to get on my calendar for a free 25-minute discovery call are all there for you at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Jimmy Hinton We continue our conversation with Pastor Jimmy Hinton this week, who had to turn his own father in to the police for pedophilia. Find out the sequence of events after Jimmy's father is arrested and placed in prison with a life sentence. Jimmy describes how pedophiles think and how they abuse and manipulate their victims even from prison. He defines the difference between grooming and testing. We find out why Jimmy calls sexual predators "wolves that will never become sheep". Jimmy talks very bluntly how we can protect our churches and children from predators, which does not include inviting convicted predators back into the church. We finish the conversation with the real requirements for forgiveness, according to Jesus. Do not miss part two of this interview! Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists My podcast: The Wounds OF The Faithful Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Buy his new book The Devil Inside at all book retailers! www.JimmyHinton.org Resources mentioned: Sandy Phillips Kirkham episode: https://dswministries.org/episode-14-survivor-story-sandy-phillips-kirkham-let-me-prey-on-you/ Preacher Boys Podcast The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire Bio: When my sister disclosed to me that our father, a former well-respected minister, had sexually abused her as a child, I made the difficult decision to report. I went into ministry because of the example of my father. He was loved, trusted, and adored by all of us. But he held a very dark secret. He had been sexually abusing young victims for decades. We had no idea. He is now serving a life sentence in prison for sex crimes against children, and this book describes the journey from childhood to the moment I discovered the abuse and reported. My life is now dedicated to researching deception and abuse techniques so I can equip people to see what we all missed. We can intervene and stop abuse before it happens. The Devil Inside will walk you along my journey of discovery, questioning God, and advocacy. https://dswministries.org/episode-0welcome-who-is-your-host/ https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes

We continue our conversation with Pastor Jimmy Hinton this week, who had to turn his own father in to the police for pedophilia. Find out the sequence of events after Jimmy's father is arrested and placed in prison with a life sentence. Jimmy describes how pedophiles think and how they abuse and manipulate their victims even from prison. He defines the difference between grooming and testing. We find out why Jimmy calls sexual predators "wolves that will never become sheep". Jimmy talks very bluntly how we can protect our churches and children from predators, which does not include inviting convicted predators back into the church. We finish the conversation with the real requirements for forgiveness, according to Jesus. Do not miss part two of this interview! Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists My podcast: The Wounds OF The Faithful Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL Buy his new book The Devil Inside at all book retailers! www.JimmyHinton.org Resources mentioned: Sandy Phillips Kirkham episode: https://dswministries.orgepisode-14-survivor-story-sandy-phillips-kirkham-let-me-prey-on-you/ Preacher Boys Podcast The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire Bio: When my sister disclosed to me that our father, a former well-respected minister, had sexually abused her as a child, I made the difficult decision to report. I went into ministry because of the example of my father. He was loved, trusted, and adored by all of us. But he held a very dark secret. He had been sexually abusing young victims for decades. We had no idea. He is now serving a life sentence in prison for sex crimes against children, and this book describes the journey from childhood to the moment I discovered the abuse and reported. My life is now dedicated to researching deception and abuse techniques so I can equip people to see what we all missed. We can intervene and stop abuse before it happens. The Devil Inside will walk you along my journey of discovery, questioning God, and advocacy. https://dswministries.orgepisode-0welcome-who-is-your-host/ https://dswministries.orgsubscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes

Could you turn in your own parent to the police for committing unspeakable crimes of pedophilia? Would you be able to spot a pedophile in your midst? Pastor Jimmy Hinton and his family lived through this horrendous nightmare when he discovered that his father, a respected pastor and beloved member of the community, was secretly sexually abusing hundreds of children for over 30 years. We are talking about Jimmy's new book The Devil Inside. In this captivating interview, Jimmy reminisces about his carefree, Christian childhood. We find out how Jimmy's family discovered their father's evil acts and the aftermath of reporting to the police. Learn about how to spot an abuser's abusive techniques in plain sight and what to do about it. Jimmy is one of the foremost experts in the field of childhood sexual abuse in the church. This is part one of this two part series. You don't want to miss this interview! Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists https://dswministries.orgepisode-0welcome-who-is-your-host/ https://dswministries.orgsubscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL JimmyHinton.org Resources mentioned: Sandy Phillips Kirkham episode: https://dswministries.orgepisode-14-survivor-story-sandy-phillips-kirkham-let-me-prey-on-you/ Preacher Boys Podcast The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire Bio: When my sister disclosed to me that our father, a former well-respected minister, had sexually abused her as a child, I made the difficult decision to report. I went into ministry because of the example of my father. He was loved, trusted, and adored by all of us. But he held a very dark secret. He had been sexually abusing young victims for decades. We had no idea. He is now serving a life sentence in prison for sex crimes against children, and this book describes the journey from childhood to the moment I discovered the abuse and reported. My life is now dedicated to researching deception and abuse techniques so I can equip people to see what we all missed. We can intervene and stop abuse before it happens. The Devil Inside will walk you along my journey of discovery, questioning God, and advocacy.

Jimmy Hinton Could you turn in your own parent to the police for committing unspeakable crimes of pedophilia? Would you be able to spot a pedophile in your midst? Pastor Jimmy Hinton and his family lived through this horrendous nightmare when he discovered that his father, a respected pastor and beloved member of the community, was secretly sexually abusing hundreds of children for over 30 years. We are talking about Jimmy's new book The Devil Inside. In this captivating interview, Jimmy reminisces about his carefree, Christian childhood. We find out how Jimmy's family discovered their father's evil acts and the aftermath of reporting to the police. Learn about how to spot an abuser's abusive techniques in plain sight and what to do about it. Jimmy is one of the foremost experts in the field of childhood sexual abuse in the church. This is part one of this two part series. You don't want to miss this interview! Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists https://dswministries.org/episode-0welcome-who-is-your-host/ https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Can't travel to The Holy Land right now? The next best thing is Walking The Bible Lands! Get a free video sample of the Bible lands here! https://www.walkingthebiblelands.com/a/18410/hN8u6LQP Get one free month of Blubrry podcast hosting with the promotional code: FAITHFUL http://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=FAITHFUL JimmyHinton.org Resources mentioned: Sandy Phillips Kirkham episode: https://dswministries.org/episode-14-survivor-story-sandy-phillips-kirkham-let-me-prey-on-you/ Preacher Boys Podcast The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire Bio: When my sister disclosed to me that our father, a former well-respected minister, had sexually abused her as a child, I made the difficult decision to report. I went into ministry because of the example of my father. He was loved, trusted, and adored by all of us. But he held a very dark secret. He had been sexually abusing young victims for decades. We had no idea. He is now serving a life sentence in prison for sex crimes against children, and this book describes the journey from childhood to the moment I discovered the abuse and reported. My life is now dedicated to researching deception and abuse techniques so I can equip people to see what we all missed. We can intervene and stop abuse before it happens. The Devil Inside will walk you along my journey of discovery, questioning God, and advocacy.

*Warning this episode may be triggering for some and may not be appropriate for those under 18* If you've been sexually abused, know that there is hope.My guest, Sandy Phillips Kirkham experienced the unimaginable at age 16- sexual abuse from her youth pastor.  27 years later, she started on the path of healing to confront her abuser and restore her broken faith. Although her story is difficult to hear, she offers hope- that there is meaningful life after abuse. She now uses her story as a ministry to help others who've experienced the same. Her newest book, Let Me Pray Upon You: Breaking Free From a Ministers Sexual Assault shares her experience and tackles this subject with the knowledge that God heals. Sandy's interview will give you strength and tools to use if you've ever found yourself in this difficult situation.  Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Follow the Brave  Podcast SpotifyApple Podcasts YoutubeBuzzsproutGoogleStitcheriHeart RadioPandoraAmazon MusicLearn more about Sandy and check out her latest book! WebsiteFacebookTwitterLet's shop!The Drifted Drum has apparel, gifts, and decor that are faith inspired and hand crafted by local artists in Tennessee.  See something you like?   Use the code "Brave" at checkout to receive 10% off your purchase.Share a positive message with the clothing you wear;check out AlwaysHumble Apparel!  This Fresno based apparel company has the goal to motive and inspire others. Do you LOVE bagels? Coffee? Just plain joy?Guys, one of my new favorite spots to visit is Clingans Junction. It's a quaint little coffee shop in Squaw Valley that is on the way to Kings Canyon National Park. If you're a Fresno local or you ever visit this area, you gotta stop here. Yummy homemade pastries and delish coffee await you.  Wanna learn more about me? Check out my website!  www.braveoneministries.com Love the Brave Podcast? Support the show

We have a survivor story of clergy abuse on today's episode. Our guest is Sandy Phillips Kirkham, author of the book, Let Me Prey Upon You. It tells the horrific story of how she was methodically groomed by her youth pastor when she was 16 years old and suffered sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. Join us on a journey with Sandy as she struggled with the shame of being kicked out of her church and keeping this secret for 27 years. Find out how she finally had to face her past, her abuser, and start the process of healing. Website: https://dswministries.org  Email: diana@dswministries.org  Social media links:  Facebook, Twitter, YouTube: DSW Ministries https://dswministries.orgsubscribe-to-podcast/  Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Guest Bio: Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.” https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/ https://www.facebook.com/KirkhamAuthor/  sandykirkhamauthor@gmail.com  Purchase her book "Let Me Prey Upon You" on amazon: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/let-me-prey-upon-you/

Sandy Phillips Kirkham We have a survivor story of clergy abuse on today's episode. Our guest is Sandy Phillips Kirkham, author of the book, Let Me Prey Upon You. It tells the horrific story of how she was methodically groomed by her youth pastor when she was 16 years old and suffered sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. Join us on a journey with Sandy as she struggled with the shame of being kicked out of her church and keeping this secret for 27 years. Find out how she finally had to face her past, her abuser, and start the process of healing. Website: https://dswministries.org  Email: diana@dswministries.org  Social media links:  Facebook, Twitter, YouTube: DSW Ministries https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/  Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Guest Bio: Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.” https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/ https://www.facebook.com/KirkhamAuthor/  sandykirkhamauthor@gmail.com  Purchase her book "Let Me Prey Upon You" on amazon: https://sandyphillipskirkham.com/shop/let-me-prey-upon-you/

Season 2 - Episode 14 A church is where an insecure sixteen-year-old girl should feel welcome, happy, and most importantly, safe. Tragically for some, the church can become a place of great harm. Sandy Phillips Kirkham details her account of how a charismatic youth minister preyed upon her, a betrayal which left her broken, with a shattered faith, and the ultimate shame of being blamed and forced from the church she loved. From their very first meeting, the new youth minister slowly and methodically turned the sacred relationship of a trusted spiritual leader to one of abuse: sexual, emotional, and physical. When his actions were discovered, he was simply moved to another church, leaving Sandy to pay for his deeds. She was not his first victim, nor would she be his last. Despite a successful and happy life as a wife, mother, and friend, Sandy successfully concealed her abuse for twenty-seven years until a trigger forced her to face the truth. Sandy's story will take you on her journey of healing which began in 2004, first by seeking justice and closure from both the pastor and the church. Her strength and courage will inspire you. Let Me Prey Upon You details Sandy's journey from innocent sixteen-year-old victim to survivor and advocate. Bio - Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.” https://www.scottandnancykiesling.com/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/24k-healing/message

Sandy Kirkham and her husband Bill enjoy life with their two grown children, two beautiful granddaughters, and two fairly well-behaved dogs. Sandy continues to use her voice to help victims of clergy abuse. She currently serves on the board of Council Against Child Abuse. Sandy has spoken before the Ohio Senate, a Maryland court, and appeared on a local television show in Boston. Her story, “Stolen Innocence,” was told in a documentary produced by The Hope of Survivors. Sandy works with survivors conducting victim support conferences. She has participated in The Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) panels moderated by SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests), sharing her perspective from the non-Catholic point of view. Sandy has been a presenter/speaker at major events on clergy abuse including the Hope & Healing Conference. Sandy has earned a certificate of completion from the Faith Trust Institute entitled, “A Sacred Trust: Boundary Issues for Clergy and Spiritual Teachers.” Find more stories regarding the IFB movement by visiting: https://open.acast.com/shows/5e123e2b355ab8560d61f99c/episodes/preacherboysdoc.com (preacherboysdoc.com) https://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/ (https://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/) https://twitter.com/preacherboysdoc (https://twitter.com/preacherboysdoc) https://www.instagram.com/preacherboysdoc/ (https://www.instagram.com/preacherboysdoc/) To connect with a community who share the Preacher Boys Podcast mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/ (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/) Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this part 2, special guest Sandy Phillips Kirkham tells her story of abuse by her youth minister in the 1970s. She was just 16 years old when he first kissed her then progressed to sex when she was 17. The abuse lasted for five years, and included physical violence and psychological abuse. Sandy explains how the beloved pastor was able to abuse her and several other victims while keeping the church under his control. Sandy's book, Let Me Prey Upon You, can be ordered here:https://www.amazon.com/Let-Prey-Upon-You-Ministers/dp/1734195207/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=let+me+prey+upon+you&qid=1594215829&sr=8-1Intro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

Special guest Sandy Phillips Kirkham tells her story of abuse by her youth minister in the 1970s. She was just 16 years old when he first kissed her then progressed to sex when she was 17. The abuse lasted for five years, and included physical violence and psychological abuse. Sandy explains how the beloved pastor was able to abuse her and several other victims while keeping the church under his control. Sandy's book, Let Me Prey Upon You, can be ordered here:https://www.amazon.com/Let-Prey-Upon-You-Ministers/dp/1734195207/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=let+me+prey+upon+you&qid=1594215829&sr=8-1Intro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284