Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

This is a set of 5 poems and painting descriptions from the audio version of The Path Through: A Book of Paintings and Poetry on the Subject of Trauma.  The book is available in hard copy at amazon at the link below: The Path Through on Amazon Additionally there is an option to purchase a signed copy of the paperback with a custome inscription of your choice here: The Path Through - Signed Original Artworks and Prints by Judith Brassard Brown are available here: Original Artwork and Prints

Join Ezra as he shares a big announcement about the future of the Ask Ezra Podcast.  We are taking a break from posting new episodes for a little while.  Thank you to all the dedicated listeners.  Big thanks to all my guests and show supporters.  Keep up on developments and upcoming events by following socials Intsagram: @Ask_Ezra_ and Twitter: @HouseOfAlgos.  Check out the new book The Path Through with the link below or my first book Mindfucking Mindfully. The new book "The Path Through" The First Book "Mindfucking Mindfully" Mailing List sign up  

Join Ezra and Briana in a very special episode in which Ezra “switches”, taking a turn in the hot seat where they get coaching from Briana.  Hear about Ezra's current challenges with emotional availability, dating while kinky, dating while poly, and looking for a life partner while also not being on the old fashioned relationship escalator.  Find out how Ezra might be limiting themselves and what strategies they might employ to move past those barriers. AskEzra.info https://lmhtea.org/

Join Ezra as he has a session with Angie of the So You Are Ready To Date Podcast about her experience processing shame and exploring interests.  Learn what limitations Angie is facing and how that could be holding her back from processing shame.  Additionally we talk about what has already worked for her in her journey to reduce the shame in her life.  Lastly, we talk about the importance of getting super clear on what her wants and needs are in a relationship and how to figure that out.

Join Ezra as he chats with Briana McCallum, a fellow coach who specializes in neurodivergent life coaching. Briana shares about her work and about her experience as a survivor of childhood trauma.  Hear how her trauma has impacted her intimate relationships in the past, how she has grown, and what work is still left to be done.  We also talk about surviving vs. thriving, exploring sexual identity, moderating our internal voice, intellectualizing vs. processing in our body, managing fear, and choosing how to respond vs. react. LMHTea.org Tinyurl.com/startRSA AskEzra.Info

Hear from Mike Brown and how he found a way to grow in his ability to let go through his podcast.  Hear about his music and how he has come to have a greater sense of autonomy in relationships.  We learn about the skills Mike developed through trial and error that has led him to be an exceptional communicator and to take responsibility for his own feelings in relationships. He talks about his relationship to submission and how that has helped him learn to let go. https://intagram.com/theartoflettinggopodcast Theartoflettinggopodcast.com AskEzra.Info  

On this episode of the Ask Ezra Podcast we break from the mold and do things a little differently. Master Joshua A.K.A Sister Joshua takes the interviewer seat and leads Ezra through a discussion of integrity and accountability. They discuss when Ezra has been out of accountability and what they are doing to address it. Other topics include the formation of an accountability pod, anonymous feedback form, rumors, and how to learn and grow moving forward.   Feedback form https://tinyurl.com/ys3ztsc7   AskEzra.Info

Join us as Savannah Hauk returns to the Ask Ezra Podcast for a second session.  Savannah was a guest for episode 50 previously and we mostly spoke about her professional accomplishments.  In this episode we get more personal with Savannah and discuss the challenges she is experiencing in her current relationship and historically.  Learn about the challenges of coming out to your partner as dual-gender, of supporting a dual-gender partner, and what intimacy might look like even if the sex doesn't change.  Lastly, what is the connection between being a Lionel Train enthusiast and someone who cross dresses?  Find out on episode 53 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast. https://livingwithcrossdressing.com/ AskEzra.info  

Join Ezra as he speaks with Pup Gideon, a family law attorney by day and a leather pup by night. We talk about the legality of BDSM, how sexuality and lifestyle choices play into divorce and custody and much more. Learn about how Pup Gideon feels like pup play helps him be himself, what is family law, legality of BDSM, what is deviance in the eyes of the court, and more. For the full video version of the episode visit https://www.patreon.com/AskEzra

Join Christina Carlson as the latest guest of the Ask Ezra Podcast for episode 51!  We talk about deconstructing, white supremacy and capitalism in relationships, coming back into relationship with your body, building emotional resilience and emotional self efficacy, making space for human rest and needs, accepting love because you know you can survive the heartache, sometimes you just have to let it rain, redefining self relationship, doing vs being, , feeling still for the first time, compassion and inner child work, and ofcourse how to get a hold of her.   https://www.christinamcarlson.com/   Instagram: @christinacarlsonlifecoach   AskEzra.Info  

Join Ezra as he speaks with Savannah Hauk, author of Living With Cross Dressing - Defining A New Normal.  Listen as they discuss, the experience of the fear Savannah had showing up in public spaces while crossdressing, the impact that it has had on relationships, and why relying on external validation can be challenging.  We also discuss how having a TedX performance led to some hateful comments and how they handled that.  Lastly we talk about how to inspect fear and the 4 tiers of non-tolerance, tolerance, acceptance, and celebration. .Livingwithcrossdressing.com facebook.com/livingwithcrossdressing/ AskEzra.info  

Join Ezra as he chats with Finn Deerhart LGBTQ+ Speaker, Writer, and AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor.  We chat about people are always projecting.  What Finn's coaching practice looks like.  What parts trust and time plays in a coaching practice, how he makes space for clients and how hard things can be productive.  We also talk about developing curiosity in challenging situations and how to invite your challenging emotions closer.  We hear what Finn means by “unfuck your sex life”.  We discuss his work with Himerose, and how Finn supports porn actors in holding boundaries and negotiating scenes.      We also dive into an intimacy coaching session and hear about his challenge to stop trying to change his dad's mind and to recruit his partner in the personal development work.  Hear about Finn's “magic treasure chest” and what he decided to do with it.   https://www.finndeerhart.com/ https://www.askezra.info/archive  

     Join Ezra as they talk with Azalea, who participated in the Radical Sexual Acceptance Research Study.  In this first of its kind episode of the Ask Ezra Podcast, we will hear from a research participant before participating in the research project in the first half, then we will hear from her again after participating in the study.  Learn about her thoughts on the project after having completed participation.      In part 1 hear about why she's excited, dysmorphia and being 9-months on hormones, needing more foreplay after transition, her exploration around kink, safewording and changing activities, cultural shame around kink, what is challenging about BDSM, neurodivergence, her feral squirrel analogy, kink and hormone changes, selfishness in the bedroom, the power of saying no, and what they hope to get out of the research project.      In part 2 hear about how she was able to “craft what she needed, a game analogy of MMO and self work, applying RSA to other challenges, group sessions and how they remind you that you're not alone, her goal of looking cute and not broke, the quality of growing versus condition of growing, compassion and pacing, conditioning for compassion, and finally how to get the e-book, sign up for group session, weekend workshop, or the research study. Links for Weekly Group Sessions, Weekend Workshops, One-on-One Coaching, and no cost Weekly Webinars are here: https://www.askezra.info/archive Join the Radical Sexual Acceptance Research Study Here: Tinyurl.com/startrsa  

Join Ezra as he talks again with Raj of the Fart Fetish Podcast.  We talk about living with misconceptions from porn, cross over to all bathroom fetishes, humor to fetish pipeline, farts to reconnect with juvenility “ farting with friends”, humor from insecurity, helping people feel not alone, infrared goggles, cartoon facesitting, degradation and its connection to the fetish, woman farting and cooking YouTube show, and MLMF men who love men's farts.   https://fartfetish.podbean.com/ https://eproctophilia.org/podcast.html AskEzra.info

     The 46th episode has been removed at the request of the guest for personal reasons.  It is my policy to honor the wishes of the guest when they feel uncomfortable with an episode even after it airs.  Instead of leaving a blank space or replacing it with another episode, I have decided to replace it with a brief explanation and a sneak peek at some upcoming projects. Pre-order the poetry and paintings book: https://houseofalgos.gumroad.com/l/ThePathThrough Pre-order the radical sexual acceptance book: https://houseofalgos.gumroad.com/l/RSA Get the FREE intro to radical sexual acceptance e-book: https://askezra.aweb.page/p/6a136fae-7885-43f8-978f-a14f8e1e33bf  

Listen as we meet Lily Danger, an audio porn actress, currently single and loving life.  Lily has adopted a “Yes and” attitude and is working through her views on monogamy and what a partnership could really look like.  We look as monogamy verses polyamory through a few analogies and also consider what role jealousy plays in her love life.     reddit.com/u/Lily-Danger soundgasm.net/u/lily-danger patreon.com/lilydanger AskEzra.info

     Join Ezra as he chats with Mark and Lynetta, the Soulmate Coaches.  In this episode we learn about what Mark and Lynetta are dealing with in their relationship AND what they offer as coaches.  We learn what soulmate coaches are and what is this soulmate? We learn about the  four steps to love.  Then Ezra asks: What's getting in the way?  Turns out there are some challenges around menopause for Lynetta and lower libido for both partners.  Lynette is feeling stuck in performance mode while Mark just asks her to be present.  Lynetta took a sex sabbatical to help figure things out.  We hear how six year old Lynetta left feeling crushed by her mom and how Lynetta now shuts down due to criticism or even perceived criticism.  Mark owns being greedy for Lynetta.  And Lynetta says “all my doors are open for Mark”.      Ezra discusses why he is hesitant to receive coaching on the show.  They talk about the value of self compassion, and rejection sensitive dysphoria.  Lynetta shows us her capacity for compassion for sharing her compassionate feelings for her mother who must never have gotten approval either.      We explore a few strategies for Lynetta to use when she feels stuck in her head.  We also explore role play opportunities that can shift the focus away from performance for Lynetta.  Lynetta shares her concern with what a lack of erection or sustain erection “means”.      Mark and Lynetta share an experience of almost miraculous intimate connection they call soul touching.   https://www.markandlynetta.com/coaching-with-mark-and-lynetta   AskEzra.info  

Join Ezra as they talk with Sox, a sadomasochistic Goth who works as a dungeon monitor and plays with blood.  Learn about Sox's relationships, sensual versus sadistic, Sox as a sub not bottom, blood play, hook suspension, needle play experience and cutting, what her relationships look like, how Sox meet her blood play partner, Sox‘s bottom, Vanilla Partner, goth girl and golden retriever boy, how sox manages trauma response, being upfront about faults, play style is not source of conflict for her, her job at Sanctuary, Sox and Ezra working together, how Sox become a Dungeon Monitor, and more. SanctuaryLAX.com FL: MissSox DomCon.Com AskEzra.info  

This episode follows an interview format with Dr. Patti Britton. Dr. Patti Britton has led 55 SAR programs over the past ten years in seven countries to over 1,500 people. She is the author of the only SAR training manual (Routledge Press, 2017). Britton is a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and world renown as the Pioneer of the profession of Sex Coaching. She's the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology; a popular speaker to consumers and a seasoned professional trainer for her peers. Dr. Patti has hosted over 40 DVD programs on sexual enhancement. Her media record speaks for itself—with appearances on over 200 television shows, as the featured guest on over 250 interviews for radio, podcasts and media, such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Women's Health, celebrity podcasts and popular sexual health-related websites.   Dr. Patti is the very top leadership globally and is a well respected pioneer in the field of sexology. Britton possesses a Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. Dr. Patti is a Certified Sex Coach. Her stellar credentials include: Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); AASECT Sexuality Educator of the Year 2016; Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator/Supervisor; Lifetime member and Advisory Council for the American College of Sexologists International; Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality; National Advisory Board Ambassador of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation; Elected member of the Advisory Committee for the World Association for Sexual Health. She is also a former Academic Dean and Associate Professor of Sexology for the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; and former Adjunct Faculty at The Chicago School (TCS) of Professional Psychology, Saybrook and Pacifica Institutes. In her capacity as professor, she has chaired more than 30 doctoral dissertations in sexology studies. Dr. Patti has a private practice in Los Angeles area and online via zoom worldwide. Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of Sex Coach U, the world's premier training and credentialing organization for sex coaches.   Each year, Dr. Patti conducts professional trainings, speaks at major events, participates in national magazine/news/website interviews, speaks on radio shows/podcasts, is a featured expert at various virtual summits, and appears on camera for documentaries, webinars, and DVD programs for couples' sexual enhancement. Dr. Patti believes that women and men have a divine birthright to experience their full erotic and sexual potential.   Sex Coach U   https://drpattibritton.com/   AskEzra.info

Join Ezra as he chats with David Chambers of The Authentic Man Podcast about what it is like to go from polyamorous to monogamous and then open back up in the same relationship.  We also talk about the expectation of flawlessness, David's favorite client, what is David's journey, challenges around podcasts, how David supported his partner and the way she is supporting him now, planning for time together, work life balance as a coach, fear as a positive indicator, and more.  Learn about David's coaching practice and podcast as well.   https://www.theauthenticman.net/podcasts   askezra.info  

Join Ezra as they speak with Dr. Bathurst, a therapist, sexologist, coach, and holistic healer on episode #40 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast.  Learn about Dr. Bathurst's approach, what motivates them and other topics including: Ezra's activation energy analogy, how Dr. Bathurst navigates the conflicting boundaries and expectations of the various roles, what it looks like if it goes sideways, is mentorship part of Ezra's practice, Dr. Bathurst loves the BDSM crowd, educating therapists, bias from service providers, what are the eight forms of intimacy, what surprises people, what you didn't get in childhood or your last relationship is often what you seek in the next relationship, Dr. Bathurst's ideal client, how therapy is all the time and not just in session, more than 20% of all  relationships are ENM, serial monogamy, non-violent communication,  emotional freedom technique and more…   Website: https://www.bathurstfamilytherapy.com/   90 Day Flow™ Program: https://www.flowenergyformula.com/   AskEzra.info  

Join Ezra as he speaks with Professor and researcher Dr. Eli Sheff about topics including: polyamory family study, 70s research into non-monogamy, internet lead to an evolution in poly, kids of polyamorous families were born on third base with special advantages, this includes parents romantic freedom, expansion of childhood and lifespan leads to different partnering dynamics, old folks being sexual much more than in previous history, the impracticality of monogamy in the modern age, Darwin is getting no pussy, sex workers give good data, how children feel about their polyamorous families, “high communication families”, what is the bonding project and what she is hoping to learn from the bonding project, frequency of bonding styles, solo is most popular, have the washing machine and the dishwasher have ruined traditional marriage? Back to traditional family values movement is an enemy of feminism, poly in the absence of religion can create “beloved community”, brother husbands vs sister wives, one penis policy vs one vagina policy, hierarchical polyamory, “Its manipulative and shallow to claim no hierarchy and live hierarchy”, power exchange in poly, hierarchy of non-heirarchy being better and more…   https://www.bondingproject.com/about   https://sph.emory.edu/faculty/profile/index.php?FID=elisabeth-sheff-8709   AskEzra.info

Join Ezra for the 38th episode of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast as he talks with Curtis.  Learn about power exchange, Daddy Dom / little girl dynamics, polyamory, and having multiple concurrent partners.  We also hear from Curtis and his experience with jealousy and possessiveness in relationships.  Listen as we talk through what good boundaries look like and what is healthy and what might be less healthy.   https://www.instagram.com/thecurtisb/?hl=en   AskEzra.info   Patreon.com/askezra  

Join Ezra for episode 37 where he talks with Jesse James Sweed and how he came to be  teaching English in South Korea and Spain.  We learn about his experience as a language coach, his separation and divorce and his romantic ambitions.  We hear about his experience with a transition in libido and the paradigm shift that comes as we get older.  We hear about how to gamified dating, get rejected with purpose, practice self love, and balance work and life. https://www.youtube.com/c/SweedAcademy AskEzra.Info  

Join Ezra for Episode 36, a conversation with the 2022 LA Pup title holder Kieran Hound.  Learn what a leather title is, being an emotional support pup, what they get out of pet play, pet play as a way to regain playfulness, practicing being kind to ourselves, what relationships look like for pets, what relationships look like for Kieran Hound, respecting someone's no, the international pup contest, how to contact them and get involved in the community, and more! Instagram @kieranhound/ Twitter @KieranHound AskEzra.info Patreon.com/AskEzra

Join Ezra as he speaks with Tim of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast.  They chat about emotional self regulation, observing your emotions like a bird watcher and not push them away or hold them close.  They also talk about setting boundaries like saying no and establishing reasonable expectations of our partners.  Lastly, they talk about practicing self compassion, listening to our intuition, and distracting ourselves or using toxic positivity to hide from emotions. www.sexedwithtim.com AskEzra.info  

Join Ezra as he speaks with Kitten Michelle who finds herself playing the caretaker role in her romantic and family relationships.  Learn what can happen when boundary setting feels like a crime and caring for yourself feels like wasted time.  We also practice setting and re-setting boundaries as well as envisioning a different kind of relationship.

In this episode we learn about power dynamics including top/bottom versus Dom/sub, and topping from the bottom as well as dynamics in three ways. We also learn about how we can use fantasy as a tool to explore possible power exchange dynamics, while minimizing the risk of hurt feelings . We also learned how one can tiptoe into the BDSM community to get what they need and see if it's right for them. AskEzra.info https://heal.me/practitioner/ezra-pryor

Husband Is Kinky But Doesn't Know It Episode 32 or the Ask Ezra Podcast with Dominique   Join Ezra as he chats with Dominique who is also a sex coach.  First we have a discussion about sex/intimacy coaching and then we have an intimacy coaching session.  They discuss who is their ideal, their favorite and least favorite part about sex coaching, how Ezra evaluates prospective sub partners.  Then in our intimacy coaching session we talk about Dominique's experience with their partner and how “he doesn't know what his kinks are.”  We work on tools to process her frustration with his pace, communicate with him and facilitate his exploration from a place of curiosity and patience and build acceptance. https://dominiquepeters.com insta: @the.sexycoach FB: The Sexy Coach-Dominique Peters AskEzra.info https://heal.me/practitioner/ezra-pryor

Join Ezra as they speak with Karma the “Sex Slave”.  Karma goes into detail about what is valuable and challenging about the relationship she has built with her Master.  Learn how surrendering power consensually and with agency can be an empowering experience.  Also, hear about her book “Surviving Master Joshua” where she recounts her experience in exploring and ultimately diving head first into the lifestyle. https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Master-Joshua-Memoir-Unfaithful-ebook/dp/B09SQBVL1Z AskEzra.info   https://heal.me/practitioner/ezra-pryor

Join Ezra as he chats with DirtyLittleGirl who is interested in power exchange relationships such as Master/slave and owner/pet and consensual non-consent or force fantasy play.  We talk about the fries acronym for consent, safe words, planning a kidnapping, what they learned from the book Mindfucking Mindfully, beliefs and Bombastic antithesis, communicating needs in a master slave relationship, imagined fear, perfectionism, being good at being a beginner, gratitude meditation tips, vetting, mental health challenges, importance of honesty, what kind of poly, jealousy as a secondary emotion, veto power, relationship anarchy and much more.   AskEzra.info https://heal.me/practitioner/ezra-pryor

In this episode we take a departure from our typical format of end to end intimacy coaching and instead Ezra talks with a fellow Intimacy Coach, Nora DeGrasse.  Together, Ezra and Nora talk about their most and least favorite parts of coaching, what they work on with their clients and more.  Towards the end of the episode Nora volunteers to practice a somatic body mapping exercise where Nora finds where she holds her tension and strategies for improving body literacy.   Nora's Contact info TikTok & IG: @besexcessfull  Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/besexcessfull   Ezra's Coaching Website AskEzra.info   Join the Research Study https://tinyurl.com/nyr2va97

Join us as we talked about how to navigate the swinger community as a couple, feeling confident in your own skin, strategies for using clothing to feel sexy, and much more… Askezra.info

Join Ezra as he speaks with Tim of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast. We discuss why its easier to just be hooking up, hookup culture, how relationships tend to go according to where you met, having the “what are you looking for?” conversation, determining what you are needs are versus your wants, emotional codependency, ghosting, the fear of too much intimacy, people pleasing, Role-playing boundary setting, Learning about attachment Style, dissociating as a defense mechanism, the silent treatment, the more you know yourself the more you can love yourself, and more … AskEzra.Info sexedwithtim.com

Join us as we talk with Daniel a polyamorous BDSM player with a lot going on.  With his main relationship and a number of play partners, Daniel has a lot of balls up in the air.  We learn about holding boundaries and setting expectations.  We also learn about some of the different models of polyamory.  Daniel talks about his experiences in previous relationships where he would feel burned out and the dangers of people pleasing in relationships.  We rollplay to practice some of those boundary setting skills. FL: DanielLawson Inta: SirDanielLawson   AskEzra.info Patreon.com/askezra

Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks “how can I push this along better?”. We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how to avoid creeps on FetLife, what a BDSM party looks like, understanding risk, we roll played negotiation, Daddy Dom / little girl, her wanting to get in trouble, service topping and service bottoming, the Upper Floor, play polyamory, deroll end epilogue and more.

Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks “how can I push this along better?”. We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how to avoid creeps on FetLife, what a BDSM party looks like, understanding risk, we roll played negotiation, Daddy Dom / little girl, her wanting to get in trouble, service topping and service bottoming, the Upper Floor, play polyamory, deroll end epilogue and more.

Join stress he speaks with Caroline. Ezra and Caroline met while both doing the Somatica Intimacy coaching training. Learn about attachment styles as Caroline shares her experience with the disorganized attachment style.  Caroline also shares about her challenges when dating other fem women.  There is a challenge she experiences around initiating or making in advance, they use role-play to practice the skill.  Ezra gets distracted by talking about sloshing randomly.--

 Join Ezra as he speaks with Joshua Neili, A fellow student in the Somatica Intimacy coaching program. Hear how they both found the experience of the Intimacy coaching program. Ezra also talks about his experience coming out as gender queer and non-binary. Joshua also discusses how intimacy coaching measures with his activism in ethical porn on the local scene in Amsterdam, “shmut cinema”.  Joshua discusses his personal journey of discovery‘s experience with clean pain versus dirty pain.      Joshua also gets Ezra to open up about his own personal journey and his own vision of what his coaching practice might look like in the future. Ezra shares about his “inner 16 year old” and how it holds his adult self hostage.  Ezra talks about the fear that can accompany growth and how it's showing up for him around letting go of the inner 16 year old. JoshuaNieli.Com AskEzra.info

Join Ezra as he talks with Tay, an SW and POC exploring BDSM and her own sexuality.  Tay discusses her journey and how societal pressure led her to think she was both straight and submissive.  After much exploration and self discovery she now knows that she is more of a switch and identifies as a lesbian. https://linktr.ee/darktwistx?utm_source=linktree_profile_share askezra.info

Join Ezra as he has a conversation with Caroline.  She gives him the third degree with a whole host of questions about his expereince and his intimacy coaching practice.  Ezra discusses their gender exploration, the fear of rejection, advice for entering the BDSM community, other educators I like and much more. Fun fact: this was the first podcast episode recorded and it includes Ezra with shorter hair that is thick and wavy.  Caroline also later becomes the introduction voice of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast!

Join Ezra as he speaks with Rob Rocket, a gay BDSM lifestyle player and professional living with PTSD.  We talk about a wide range of topics including covid as an additional challenge, SSC vs. RACK or PRICK, mental health challenges as a subjective red flag, getting a trigger list for pro-clients, coping skills for daily anxiety, power exchange dynamics, sex work, ABDL, Daddy Dom, imposter Syndrome, race play, scat play, transphobia in the old guard leather community, negotiating out of the dungeon, stimming, strategies for getting out of your own head, EMDR and embodiment in animal role play. https://linktr.ee/rocketreviewshow

Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you feel about sex in general, the dance of assumptions, emphasis on consent, turnabout is not fair play, toxic independence, red flags are subjective.

Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you feel about sex in general, the dance of assumptions, emphasis on consent, turnabout is not fair play, toxic independence, red flags are subjective

Join Ezra and Sister Joshua for part two of their session. They discuss things like holding on to anger, the power of acknowledging one's feelings, triggers as a way to feel safe, the temptation of conformity, hookup culture, as well as Sister Joshua's work as a professional dominant and as a life realignment counselor. They also discuss the value of doing the work and the dangers of not doing the work. http://MasterJoshua.com http://KinkCollective.net http://SSDCE.org http://SurvivingMasterJoshua.com AskEzra.Info

Join Ezra and Sister Joshua as they discuss gender exploration and challenges finding validation in a largely binary world. Learn about Joshua's experience with the shame of cross dressing, spirituality and zeroing out the currency of gender. Learn about Joshua's experience with authenticity, finding their diva, unpacking shame, learning how to feel safe in their exploration, and Bugs Bunny in high heels. http://KinkCollective.net http://MasterJoshua.com http://SSDCE.org http://SurvivingmasterJoshua.com Patreon.com/askezra Askezra.info/general-5 AskEzra.Info 737-747-3973 AskEzra8@gmail.com

Join us as we speak with Shawn, a young woman who is new to the BDSM community and navigating meeting new people.  We discuss many topics such as, meeting people on fetlife, red flags, taking a break from finding a partner, finding community, the risk of connecting with a mentor with ulterior motives, taking classes, dominating without consent, setting boundaries but not holding them, how the community handles bad actors, BATNA, bringing a friend on a date and more.

Join Ezra as he talks with Charlie. Charlie is in a Master / slave relationship and struggles to hold boundaries, say no and stay present in their own body.  Other topics discussed include: Should is a dangerous word, Level of submission is disappointing for them, Trouble letting go, Getting stuck in your head, Getting back into your body, Getting distracted, Being present is like a muscle, Sexualize day-to-day activities, Master-slave relationship, Communication Issues, Holding back then blowing up later, Permission to offload, Not sharing your feelings as a kindness, Role play sharing aggravation and saying no, Boundary setting, Start with low stakes, The I feel game, Empathy vs. sympathy

Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami (part 2) about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work. The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an educational resource, dom/sub vs top/bottom, relationship vs partnership, dealing with distractions, switching headspaces and anchoring with senses, find a different teacher, old ways of mentorship and coaches, gumroad classes, patreon, checklist, be tactful, ways to discuss results, West Texas challenge, I had to broaden his perspective of it, virtual munches, shame is a boner killer, bdsm and Trauma, trauma as a source of Kink, cut kin podcast reference, abrasive elbow rubbing in the value of community, Nami broaden her Horizons online, build your community and reduce shame, dom vs. sub personas, “no one asked me to be me”, the vulnerability of playing with lovers, unpacking after scene - LARP, integrated / compartmentalize 2 personalities, Bdsm allows us to be part of ourselves and all of ourselves, Shadow work with therapist, informed consent with Shadow work, remove aftercare disagreement, monogamous, supportive play Partners, get demo from old play partners

Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work. The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an educational resource, dom/sub vs top/bottom, relationship vs partnership, dealing with distractions, switching headspaces and anchoring with senses, find a different teacher, old ways of mentorship and coaches, gumroad classes, patreon, checklist, be tactful, ways to discuss results, West Texas challenge, I had to broaden his perspective of it, virtual munches, shame is a boner killer, bdsm and Trauma, trauma as a source of Kink, cut kin podcast reference, abrasive elbow rubbing in the value of community, Nami broaden her Horizons online, build your community and reduce shame, dom vs. sub personas, “no one asked me to be me”, the vulnerability of playing with lovers, unpacking after scene - LARP, integrated / compartmentalize 2 personalities, Bdsm allows us to be part of ourselves and all of ourselves, Shadow work with therapist, informed consent with Shadow work, remove aftercare disagreement, monogamous, supportive play Partners, get demo from old play partners

In episode 9 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast we talked with Raj (part 2) who is an asexual fart fetishist. We discuss with him how shame impacts attractiveness and how negative self-talk can prevent us from experiences. Other topics we discuss are: Asexuality, labels for communication, demi-sexual, sex of verse, a wider definition of sex to include BDSM, celebrating a sexuality, the power play of sex, sex as a service, acceptance as a resource for sexiness, how concealment or non-acceptance makes people suspicious, negative self talk, Beliefs and values, combating negative inner voices with contradictions, I'm hot s*** and people want me, submissive polyamorist masochist, fetish, fart, foot, face it in, Femme Dom, public masturbation, Junior High School, breath-play, dealing with prejudice at the dungeon, fetish Community, fart sniffers Anonymous Los Angeles shame dies in empathy, shame dies in community, recounting shameful memories as a way to minimize shames impact, pay for play, developing an intimate relationship with a pro, developing wants and needs list, anal without warming up, crossing your own boundaries, agency, powerless men, submissive men, content creation, roleplay, degradation, loss of agency, polyamory.