Podcasts about Human sexuality

In this episode, somatic practitioner Dolly Josette (aka The Pleasure Muse) is teaching us something that changed my life… how to actually listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us. We walk through a body anchor meditation to help you find your most grounded position, then move into what Dolly calls the vulva hug and cock cradle, a practice that has nothing to do with arousal and everything to do with presence, safety, and building trust with your own body. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, gone numb during sex, or struggled to know what you actually want, this episode is your foundation. Somatic work like this is how we learn to stop performing and start truly feeling, and it's a practice you can bring into your life daily, not just in the bedroom! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:23 Meet Dolly Josette & What Is Somatic Work? 4:07 Embodiment & Sexual Connection 10:56 The Holy Trinity: Body, Mind & Soul 13:07 Body Anchor Meditation 26:22 The Vulva Hug & Cradle Practices 35:08 How This Practice Changes Intimacy 41:32 Overcoming Shame Around Your Body 45:13 How Somatic Work Changes Relationships 49:45 The Power of the Pause 51:17 Why Daily Embodiment Matter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to one of my favorite conversations! That "spark" you're chasing? It might not be attraction… it might be a trauma response. I sat down with Dr. Scott Lyons to break down the difference between real, sustainable chemistry and what he calls the "trauma tingle,” that hyper-magnetic pull toward someone that actually has more to do with old wounds than genuine connection. We get into why the honeymoon-phase spark always fades (it's biochemistry, not a sign something's wrong), why "getting the spark back" might be the wrong goal entirely, and how to build the kind of attraction that actually deepens over time instead of burning out. If you've ever wondered whether you're in love or just chasing something familiar, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 3:29 Going On A Lot Of First Dates 7:30 Going On A Second Date? 10:48 Freedom vs. Commitment in Love 12:50 The Age Old Attraction Response 15:03 Discovering Your "Safety Language" 17:38 The Opposite of the "Ick" 22:50 Why Great Sex Changes Over Time 26:06 Are We Asking the Wrong Question? 29:25 Expanding Your Sexual Menu 31:27 Passion vs. Intimacy 34:10 How Couples Keep Desire Alive 39:34 Why Adventure Strengthens Relationships 43:39 The "Trauma Tingle" Explained 45:37 Healthy Attraction vs. Trauma Bonding 49:46 Intensity Isn't Intimacy 54:34 A Simple Way to Recognize Healthy Love 57:01 Why Stable Love Can Feel "Boring" 1:00:23 Final Thoughts on Building Lasting Passion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're diving into pillar four of Sex IQ: self-knowledge. This is the pillar that ties everything together, because once you understand your body (embodiment), your health, and how to collaborate with a partner, the real magic happens when you actually know what turns you on. I'm breaking down core erotic desires using Jack Morin's erotic equation: the struggle we overcame plus the triumph on the other side often reveals exactly what turns us on most. We'll talk about the pleasure thieves that block self-knowledge (stress, trauma, and shame), why mindful self-pleasure is one of the fastest paths to understanding your own arousal, and how naming what you want to feel during sex changes everything about how you ask for it. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions in bed, this episode is your permission slip to get curious about yourself again. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:51 The Fourth Pillar of Sex IQ: Self-Knowledge 3:36 Breathing Exercise 4:23 What Self-Knowledge Really Mean? 6:23 Why Self-Pleasure Is the Key to Self-Discovery 7:06 Your Core Desires 8:09 Common Struggles That Shape Your Turn-Ons 13:55 Examples of Core Desires 16:57 What Your Fantasies Reveal About You 18:03 The Pleasure Thieves 20:17 How to Put Self-Knowledge Into Practice 24:06 Weekly Self-Knowledge Action Steps 26:27 Q&A: Rebuilding Trust After a Broken Boundary 31:43 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement 00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s 01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s 05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing 08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally 10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough 11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility 14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire 16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present 18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire 23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently? 25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different 27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age 33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions 39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action 40:41 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pamela Klein is a licensed clinical social worker and a certified sex therapist. Her specialty is in helping individuals and couples with all kinds of relationship problems. Couples come to see her at various stages of their relationship and they come in with a wide variety of issues. Pamela's specialization in sex therapy differentiates her practice from others. She helps people with sexual dysfunction, low desire, sexual pain and other problems. Her treatment is tailored to the needs of each client and she utilizes practical methods to help make changes in a short period of time. Pamela Klein has received her certification in sex therapy at the NYU Program for Human Sexuality. She has also been trained in Mindfulness, Somatic Intervention and Emotionally Focused Therapy. She has a private practice and is working remotely with clients.    CONNECT WITH DVORA ENTIN: Website: https://www.dvoraentin.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dvoraentin YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@misconceptionspodcast  

Kimchi One from Brightcore – Health Starts in the GutGet 25% off – Use Code: FLYOVER at https://www.mybrightcore.com/flyoverOr call (888) 315-8404 for up to 50% OFF your order and Free ShippingOn the Flyover Conservatives Show, Pastor Michael Clary joins David and Stacy Whited to expose what he calls “Loser Theology” — the mindset that has trained Christians to confuse meekness with weakness, humility with passivity, and faithfulness with retreat. In this bold conversation, Clary breaks down why the modern church has produced weak men, silent Christians, and a passive response to cultural threats, including Islam, progressivism, and woke ideology. He explains why “the meek shall inherit the earth” does not mean Christians are called to be doormats, how the Prodigal Son story has been used to shame faithful believers, and why the church must recover a vision of righteous strength, public courage, and high-agency Christianity. This episode will challenge what many Christians have been taught about weakness, power, masculinity, and the role of believers in the public square.TO WATCH ALL FLYOVER CONTENT: www.theflyoverapp.com Follow and Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFlyoverConservativesShow To Schedule A Time To Talk To Dr. Dr. Kirk Elliott Go To ▶ https://flyovergold.comOr Call 720-605-3900 ► Receive your FREE 52 Date Night Ideas Playbook to make date night more exciting, go to www.prosperousmarriage.comPastor Michael ClaryWEBSITE: https://www.losertheology.comSUBSTACK: https://www.dmichaelclary.comCHURCH: https://www.christthekingnky.comMichael Clary is the Lead Pastor of Christ the King Church in Fort Thomas, Kentucky, and the author of Loser Theology. He is a pastor, writer, podcaster, and cultural commentator who focuses on Scripture, theology, culture, politics, biblical anthropology, and Christian courage. Clary earned his Master of Divinity from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and planted Christ the King Church after moving to Cincinnati in 2008. He is also the author of God's Good Design: A Biblical, Theological, and Practical Guide to Human Sexuality and hosts the Plain Speech Podcast and Current Reality Podcast. Through his writing and ministry, Clary calls Christians to reject passivity and recover a bold, faithful, high-agency vision of Christianity for all of life.

In this episode, I'm covering the fifth pillar of Sexual Intelligence: self-acceptance. This is the pillar that ties everything else together, because no matter how embodied, healthy, collaborative, or self-aware you are, none of it lands if you can't accept yourself as you are right now. I'm talking about the "pleasure thieves" that steal our self-acceptance, like comparison, judgment, and perfectionism, and why so much of our sexual shame was programmed into us before we even knew what was happening. I walk through a mirror exercise you can try this week, share why orgasm isn't the measure of good sex (pleasure is), and answer more listener questions. If you've ever felt like you're not enough, not sexy enough, or not doing sex "right," this episode is your reminder that you already are worthy of pleasure, exactly as you are today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:31 Guided Breath Work to Become Present 4:17 What Self Acceptance Really Means 6:59 Why Sexual Confidence Is a Practice 8:11 Common Shame Narratives 9:49 Mirror Talk Exercise 11:54 The Three Pleasure Thieves 18:34 Weekly Self-Acceptance Challenges 25:06 Bringing the Five Sex IQ Pillars Together 26:26 Q&A: Why Do I Tense Up? 29:08 Q&A: How Can I Feel Comfortable With the Lights On? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Season 2, Episode 123In the concluding episode of this series on sin, desire, identity, and the gospel, Michael and Zach explore how biblical theology should shape the qualifications for pastoral leadership. Building on previous discussions of original sin, concupiscence, sanctification, and Christian identity, they ask a practical question facing many churches today: How should elders and pastors speak about, fight against, and model the battle with remaining sin? Drawing from Scripture, the Westminster Standards, and the PCA's Report on Human Sexuality, the conversation examines the importance of clear theological categories, faithful repentance, and language that promotes rather than obscures biblical holiness. As a case study, Michael and Zach carefully evaluate the ministry and teaching of Sam Allberry, highlighting areas of broad agreement while thoughtfully explaining the narrower theological disagreements surrounding the moral status of same-sex attraction and the language Christians use to describe it. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that the issue is not whether church leaders struggle with sin—all do—but whether they clearly identify sin as Scripture does, pursue holiness, model repentance, and faithfully shepherd God's people. The series concludes by reminding listeners that the gospel tells the truth about both our profound need as sinners and the all-sufficient grace of Christ, who transforms those who belong to Him.Find our videocast here: https://youtu.be/1O8N5lF3kSEMerch here: https://take-2-podcast.printify.me/Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/reakt-music/deep-stone⁠License code: 2QZOZ2YHZ5UTE7C8Find more Take 2 Theology content at http://www.take2theology.com

In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why responsive desire is normal (not broken), why boring sex doesn't mean a boring relationship, and why communication really is a lubrication. If you've ever wondered why talking about sex feels harder than having it, or worried that losing the honeymoon phase means you're with the wrong person, this episode is for you. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:34 Lesson #1: Chemistry Isn't Enough for Lasting Intimacy 4:28 Lesson #2:Why Communication Makes Sex Better 6:05 Lesson #3: Stress Can Kill Desire 7:56 Lesson #4: Boring Sex Doesn't Mean a Boring Relationship 9:25 Lesson #5: Your Desire Changes 11:57 Lesson #6: Your Body Isn't the Enemy 13:41 Lesson #7: Choose Pleasure Over Performance 14:30 Lesson #8: Life Can Crowd Out Intimacy 15:46 Lesson #9: Great Sex Is Something You Build 17:01 Audience Q&As Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner. I also walk you through one of my favorite practices — the Sexual State of the Union — and share simple, actionable tools like the Yes!No!Maybe? list and 60-second eye contact to help you and your partner start co-creating the sex life you actually want. Whether you're partnered or flying solo, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Season 2, Episode 121In this episode, Michael and Zach continue their series on sin, desire, identity, and the gospel by applying the theological foundations established in previous episodes to the contemporary discussion surrounding same-sex attraction and Christian identity. Recognizing that this topic is often approached through political or cultural categories, the conversation instead seeks to examine it through the lenses of biblical anthropology, sanctification, and union with Christ. Drawing heavily from Scripture and the PCA's Report on Human Sexuality, the discussion explores the nature of same-sex attraction as a manifestation of humanity's fallen condition, the distinction between temptation and outward practice, and the ongoing reality of the believer's struggle against remaining corruption. The episode also examines the controversy surrounding identity language such as "gay Christian," considering both the pastoral motivations behind such terminology and the theological concerns raised by those who object to it. Throughout the discussion, Michael and Zach emphasize that the Christian's primary identity is not found in temptations, desires, or struggles, but in union with Jesus Christ. The episode concludes with a call for churches to cultivate environments of both truth and compassion, where believers can honestly confess their struggles while pursuing holiness through the transforming power of the gospel.Find our videocast here: https://youtu.be/Xu-rGYZH1KgMerch here: https://take-2-podcast.printify.me/Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/reakt-music/deep-stone⁠License code: 2QZOZ2YHZ5UTE7C8Find more Take 2 Theology content at http://www.take2theology.com

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In this episode, I'm diving deep into the second pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Health. I'll be breaking down exactly how your physical and mental wellbeing are directly shaping your desire, arousal, and pleasure. I'm walking you through everything from movement, hydration, and hormonal balance to pelvic floor health, stress, trauma, and the negative self-talk that quietly steals your pleasure. If you've ever wondered why you're just not in the mood, or why intimacy feels out of reach no matter what you try, this episode will connect the dots in a way that finally makes sense. Better sex doesn't just start in the bedroom, it starts with how you're taking care of yourself every single day. Listen to Better Sleep for Better Sex w/ Dr. Michael Breus now! https://open.spotify.com/episode/3B1WMSz4aPKE4oxokEDdQF?si=2e7127661d784f99 Buy Kegel Balls here: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/118lelo-beads-plus ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 4:05 A Guided Breathing Exercise 7:23 Moving Your Body To Feed Your Desire 9:14 Hormones and Their Impact on Libido 10:52 Hydration and Nutrition 12:13 Why Pelvic Floor Health Matters 15:19 Medications That Can Affect Your Sex Drive 16:38 Mental Health and Sexual Pleasure 19:26 Stop Performing and Start Feeling 22:06 Breaking Negative Self Talk and Shame 28:06 Cultivating Self Esteem 32:37 Simple Ways to Calm Your Nervous System 36:40 Why Better Sleep Improves Your Libido 38:42 Embrace Daily Pleasure 41:06 Final Takeaways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

ABOUT THIS MESSAGE: Everyone wants sexual freedom, but how do you actually find it? This week we compare three approaches: fulfillment, fear, and restoration. Genesis reveals that your sexual desires don't need to be blindly fulfilled or feared; they need to be formed. ABOUT THE HEIGHTS CHURCH: We are a church making disciples of Jesus for the renewal of Denver. Have a question or want more information about The Heights Church? Learn more by visiting: theheightsdenver.com FIND US ONLINE: Website: theheightsdenver.com YouTube: @theheightschurchdenver Instagram: @theheightsden

If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk through the very first sexual intelligence framework pillar: Embodiment. Being truly present in your body during sex isn't something you're either born with or not,  it's a skill you can actually learn and practice. I walk you through exactly what embodiment means, why so many of us lose it (and why that's not your fault), and the simple techniques I use myself that can completely transform how you experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're single or partnered, this is the foundation everything else is built on, and I promise once you start practicing it, you'll feel the difference in and out of the bedroom. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Pride Month episode of The Neurodivergent Creative, Caitlin Fisher dives into bisexuality, queer history, compulsory heterosexuality, and the social systems that taught us to treat straightness as the default.

In this episode, Cole Phillips and Rowdy Lynn explore the biblical perspective on current cultural issues surrounding sexuality, marriage, and identity. They discuss the historical roots, cultural shifts, and how Christians can respond with truth and love.KeywordsBiblical sexuality, marriage, culture, LGBTQ, Christian response, identity, gender, pride flag, biblical truthKey topicsHistorical roots of sexual ethics from Kinsey to todayThe biblical view of marriage and human sexualityThe cultural shift towards acceptance and celebration of LGBTQ+The significance of the rainbow as God's covenant symbolHow Christians can respond with love, truth, and actionSound Bites"God gets to define who we are.""Sex is never truly free; it involves our bodies and emotions.""God created us male and female, with dignity and worth."Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Connect Podcast and Its Purpose00:59 Addressing Pride Month and Its Cultural Impact03:19 Understanding Identity and Authority in Christianity05:38 Historical Context of Sexuality and Marriage11:17 The Evolution of Marriage and Divorce Laws14:23 The Sexual Revolution and Its Consequences18:20 The Importance of Raising Children in Today's World19:56 Engaging with Cultural Issues as Christians20:29 Same-Sex Marriage and Its Redefinition21:31 The Modern Transgender Movement and Its Implications25:36 The Process of Normalizing LGBTQ+ Ideology30:27 Contrasting the Rainbow Symbolism33:24 Biblical Foundations of Human Sexuality38:56 Responding to Cultural Challenges with Compassion43:35 The Role of the Church in Addressing Sexuality IssuesResourcesGenesis 9 - The Rainbow as God's Covenant - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis+9&version=NIVRoblox and Parental Monitoring Resources - https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/parents-guide-to-robloxThe Rainbow - God's Covenant Sign - https://www.gotquestions.org/rainbow-God-covenant.html

In this episode,  I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you'll actually follow through on. I'm also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don't match up on your answers. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: The Yes!No!Maybe? List: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  The Sex With Emily Glossary: https://sexwithemily.com/explore-play/swe-glossary/  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:30 What Is the Yes! No! Maybe? List? 04:40 How the List Can Improve Your Sex Life 06:20 Why Singles Should Explore Their Desires 07:40 Bringing Novelty Back Into Relationships 08:17 How to Prepare for the Conversation 10:20 Filling Out the Yes! No! Maybe? List 11:43 Exploring New Interests 15:00 Massages, Pleasure & Connection 17:10 Turning Your Yeses Into Real Experiences 20:30 Navigating Different Answers With Your Partner 24:48 Overcoming Shame, Fear & Blocks 32:08 How Desires Change Over Time 35:44 Healing Through Communication & Trust 43:53 Final Takeaways & Next Steps Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthen your connection with yourself and your partner, and redefine what satisfaction truly means. Whether you're single or partnered, this conversation will help you build a sex life that feels more authentic, connected, and pleasurable. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Vision for Life Podcast, Hunter and Autumn discuss how the church can faithfully support and care for its single members without diminishing God's good design for marriage and family. Whether single by choice or circumstance, single people within church communities often feel marginalized and unseen because they exist outside the cultural norm of the nuclear family. Hunter and Autumn consider Connor Wood's article “Working With (Not Against) the Nuclear Family” and ask how churches can cultivate support and spiritual family.Resources mentioned in this episode:Working With (Not Against) the Nuclear Family by Connor WoodStatement on Human Sexuality by PCA

What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH JENNIFER COHEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 0:54 Why People Masturbate 1:56 Understanding Mindfulness & Being Present 5:30 Maintenance vs. Mindful 9:51 How To Set The Mood For It 16:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Vulvas 18:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Penises 21:32 Step-by-Step Mindful Routine 26:20 Q&A: In the Shower or Bath? 27:07 Q&A: Making Meditation a Daily Routine 29:59 Q&A: Why Self-Pleasure May Feel Unexciting 31:02 Q&A: Favorite Meditation Styles & Apps 32:42 Q&A: How Often Should You Practice? 35:28 Q&A: Scheduling Time 36:59 Q&A: Can You Practice With a Partner? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Ganski and Derek Buikema join Jason to talk about the overture out of Classis Wisconsin to Synod 2026 calling for a study committee on the nature of the church. It is not a flashy overture. It is not addressing a fight. But Chris and Derek argue it might be the most important overture on the floor — because every other ecclesiastical conversation in the denomination right now is happening at one or two levels of abstraction away from a question we have quietly stopped asking out loud: what is a church? They trace the overture back through ten years of the company-of-pastors conversations, name the drift of American pragmatism through CRC life, and make the case that a generation has grown up assuming everyone knew what a church was — and now nobody is sure. The conversation does not stay in diagnosis. Chris keeps the bar for the study committee low and the vision serious: force a theological conversation. Recover Calvin's deep ecclesiology — election, the church as creature of the Word, the sacraments, the ministry of the Word. Derek's contribution is to remind the denomination what study committees actually do. They frame conversations. Children at the Lord's Table did. Human Sexuality did. A serious, theological study committee on the church will do the same — without requiring a controversy to do it. The pivot of the episode is Derek's image: a faithful pastor knows when to fight and when to garden. The CRC has been fighting for a decade. It is past time to also garden. Then Chris turns to Calvin as a model. Calvin was a refugee. He fled France at twenty-five, landed in Geneva, and was forever an outsider. That experience shaped his ecclesiology. He invented the consistory. He gave the modern diaconate its shape. He sent church planters into France for forty years. Reformed mission did not come out of pragmatism. It came out of a refugee's deep theology of what the church is. Chris closes with a pastoral word for tired pastors and anxious elders: the church is founded in God's election. Whether the church survives is not finally on us. Believe that. Lead from that. That is what reformation looks like. Timestamps: 0:00 — Introduction 3:19 — Origin of the overture: ten years of the company of pastors 5:01 — Why a study committee, not another task force 6:27 — Synod 2025 itself asked for this work 6:55 — How we got here: the drift toward American pragmatism 9:22 — Calvin, Bavinck, Kuyper — the resources we have forgotten 9:57 — John Cooper: pragmatic arguments used to lose at Synod 11:17 — Nine Marks in New England and the hunger for ecclesiology 14:22 — A low bar: just force a theological conversation 16:28 — Virtual communion, virtual baptism, and forgetting the sacraments 18:44 — The faithful doing flows from the faithful being 22:14 — Church vs ministry: when church planting becomes community development 26:36 — The catechism caricature: living theology, not rote memorization 29:52 — Tradition vs traditionalism (Pelikan) 31:05 — Ezekiel by the Chebar: church without land, king, or temple 33:26 — Sexuality crisis revealed the deeper unrootedness 35:43 — How a study committee actually shapes a denomination 41:48 — From fighting phase to building phase 42:21 — Knowing when to fight and when to garden 44:13 — Struggling churches default to pragmatism 45:00 — Calvin the refugee: an exilic ecclesiology that planted churches 47:43 — Final word: the church is founded in God's election Join and support us on Substack: https://themessyreformation.com/ Intro music by Matt Krotzer

How can the global church speak about sexuality with both biblical conviction and the compassion of Christ? Summary In this episode of the Lausanne Movement Podcast, Jason Watson speaks with Vaughan Roberts about why sexuality has become one of the most pressing mission conversations facing the global church. Drawing on Scripture, pastoral experience, and his own personal story, Vaughan helps listeners reflect on identity in Christ, the goodness of God's design, the false promises of the sexual revolution, and the need for churches to speak with both grace and truth. Guest Bio Vaughan Roberts is Rector of St Ebbe's Church in Oxford and President of The Proclamation Trust. He is a pastor, speaker, and author of Full of Grace and Truth: The Gospel and Sexuality in the Global Church, a short book based on his Lausanne presentation that offers a biblical and pastoral vision for engaging questions of sexuality with compassion and faithfulness. Main Points Sexuality is now relevant in the global mission conversation. Vaughan explains how the sexual revolution has become a major barrier for many people engaging with Christianity, and how the internet is discipling younger generations around the world. Identity in Christ is deeper than sexual desire. Vaughan shares from his own story, distinguishing between same-sex attraction as part of his reality and Christ as his true identity. The Bible begins with a positive vision of sexuality. Vaughan frames biblical sexuality around four truths: God is for sex, sex is for marriage, marriage is for life, and life is for Christ. Marriage points beyond itself to Christ and the church. Human marriage is not the ultimate answer to our deepest longings; it points to the greater union between Christ and his people. Shame and isolation make discipleship harder. Vaughan urges leaders to remember that when they speak about sexuality, they are speaking to real people in the room who need both truth and grace. The church must be full of grace and truth. Leaders must resist both compromise and condemnation, offering courageous biblical teaching alongside the open hands of Christ. Call to Action If this episode encouraged you, subscribe to the Lausanne Movement Podcast and share it with a pastor, ministry leader, parent, or young adult who is seeking to engage questions of sexuality with biblical conviction and Christlike compassion. We'd also love for you to join the conversation in the Lausanne Movement Podcast space on the Lausanne Action Hub, where you can share your thoughts and engage with our podcast community—and if this episode encouraged you, please consider leaving a rating or review so others can discover it too. Lausanne Movement Podcast Archive Redeeming Human Identity: Exploring the Intersection of Scripture, AI, Biotechnology, Gender and Human Sexuality with Dr Carmen Imes & Dr Matthew Niermann Restoring Biblical Sexuality — Lausanne Movement — Vaughan's Fourth Lausanne Congress presentation on sexuality through the lens of creation, fall, and redemption. Links & Resources Full of Grace and Truth: The Gospel and Sexuality in the Global Church — Vaughan Roberts' short book on the gospel and sexuality in the global church. Living Out — Resources for Christians, churches, and leaders seeking to think biblically and pastorally about sexuality, identity, singleness, marriage, and same-sex attraction. Restoring Biblical Sexuality – Worldwide | Living Out — A Living Out post sharing Vaughan's Lausanne talk as a model for speaking biblically and graciously about sexuality. St Ebbe's Church, Oxford — The church where Vaughan serves as Rector. Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5, Revelation 21 — Key passages Vaughan references in his biblical overview of sex, marriage, Christ, and the church.

What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. Plus, we answer audience questions about attraction, confidence, relationships, and the habits that help you feel your best both in and out of the bedroom. This episode is sponsored by Biologica: Head to https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that's right for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH JENNIFER COHEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Why Sexual Health Changes Everything 01:14 The Link Between Feeling Good & Having Better Sex 03:12 Are Sex And Intimacy Actually The Same Thing? 04:47 Why Performance Anxiety Happens In Bed 06:10 The Trick To Stop Overthinking During Sex 10:00 Why Working Out Makes Sex Better 12:03 How We Became Friends & Started Talking About Sex Nonstop 13:44 How To Tell Your Partner About Your Insecurities 16:08 How To Actually Approach Someone Without Being Weird 18:43 Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy & Dating Drama 24:42 Biohacking, Wellness & Feeling Hot Again 27:38 Vaginal Dryness, Hormones & Things Nobody Talks About 31:55 Aminos, Creatine & The Confidence Glow Up 34:00 Why Chemistry Matters more Than You Think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this workshop, I'm answering your questions about desire, attraction, turn-ons, fantasies, and sexual connection. We explore why we're attracted to certain people and experiences, how to talk about sex with a partner without creating pressure, what to do when desire changes over time, and why feeling a spark for someone else doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. Whether you're curious about your own turn-ons, struggling to stay present during sex, or looking to deepen intimacy with a partner, this conversation will help you approach desire with more curiosity, confidence, and self-understanding. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:48 Understanding What Truly Turns You On 7:34 How to Talk About Sex Without Making It Awkward 12:09 How to Stay Present During Sex 18:01 Why Taking Longer Is Completely Normal 19:43 Taking a Break During Sex Without Killing the Mood 24:25 How Men Can Improve Ejaculation Control 28:31 Why Certain Things Turn You On 34:30 When Fantasy Doesn't Match Expectations 37:30 Different Turn-Ons in Relationships 41:50 Is It Normal to Feel Attraction to Someone Else? 45:54 How to Reignite Emotional Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate Balestrieri interviews University of Washington professor Dr. Nicole McNichols who has taught “The Diversity of Human Sexuality” for about 15 years. They discuss McNichols' book, “You Could Be Having Better Sex,” and answer a listener who wants to improve an already good sex life. Dr. McNichols introduces “micro-novelty” and explains how nonsexual forms of intimacy—intellectual, spiritual, aesthetic, and future-oriented—can strengthen sexual connection. She outlines her hierarchy of sexual needs (physical/psychological; social/emotional; creative/self-expressive) and reframes fantasies as pathways to desired feelings. They address mismatched effort, women's sexual emotional labor (including the “fifth shift”), the harms of faking orgasms, and using curiosity, communication, and therapy to navigate blocks, emphasizing that pleasure is a birthright. 00:00 Meet Dr Nicole McNichols 01:20 UW Sex Class 02:10 Sex Ed Gaps 03:49 New Book Why 05:05 Listener Wants More (Question) 05:48 Micro Novelty Tips 07:05 Beyond Bedroom Intimacy 08:06 Intellectual Intimacy 10:21 Spiritual Aesthetic Intimacy 13:37 Permission For More 15:49 Sex Needs Pyramid 21:17 Fantasies As Metaphors 21:38 Sexual Growth Skills 22:42 The Fifth Shift Explained 25:00 Why Desire Drops 26:13 Stop Faking Pleasure 27:29 Talking Without Blame 29:38 When Truth Feels Betraying 33:30 Curiosity Questions That Work 38:42 Where To Find Dr. McNichols Dr. Nicole McNicholsBook: You Could Having Better Sex https://www.amazon.com/You-Could-Having-Better-Sex/dp/1668053772/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1PVG61UHELD4J&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.TGA7IggxO47gFh5N7FNfeBdXNGVVmI5-9DvqXOTAcaNsnnyIvLnAi7cUiILcSlagzzthTiIXbfp0sf7GuFRPS8CibcFU1gSObU0J26bQz5hxWLmIgIIGDDAifMs_B3yFxLFBl3-24vDuMyh_QUX5qg._m6W5rD2D4ok2dM0UpMgNTOy-DdC2wwNRdUC8KTgrYI&dib_tag=se&keywords=you+could+be+having+better+sex&qid=1771878717&sprefix=you+could,aps,195&sr=8-1 Website: www.nicolethesexprofessor.comInstagram (@Nicole_TheSexProfessor)TikTok: (@Nicole_TheSexProfessor) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode recorded on May 21, 2026, I'm diving into how technology is reshaping our sex lives, relationships, dating habits, and emotional connection. From dating apps to social media, doomscrolling, and phone addiction, I unpack why so many of us feel more disconnected, overstimulated, anxious, and lonely despite being more digitally connected than ever. I also answer listener questions about insecurity, menopause and orgasms, remote-control toys, and how couples can rebuild intimacy through presence, communication, eye contact, flirtation, and intentional connection. If you've ever felt emotionally distant, distracted in bed, addicted to your phone, or unsure how to reconnect with your partner, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:09 How Technology Is Destroying Intimacy 2:33 The "Sex Recession" 5:24 The Death of Presence: Phones in Relationships 9:02 Dr. Emily's Tips 12:07 The Use of Dating Apps or Porn 15:44 Social Media, Performance Culture & Relationships 17:33 Listener Question: Do Women Prefer Bigger Penises? 26:02 The Positive Side of Technology & Sexual Wellness 26:59 Caller Kevin: Oral Sex After Menopause 37:52 Caller Mel: Using Remote-Control Vibrators Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this livestream recorded on April 23, 2026, I'm diving into one of the most common and confusing issues in relationships: what happens when your sex life changes over time. We're talking about desire mismatch, low libido, and why the “honeymoon phase” passion doesn't stay the same forever(it's completely normal). I also break down the real factors that impact sex drive, from stress and body image to emotional connection and communication, and how couples can start having honest conversations about intimacy again without blame or shame. This is about understanding your body, your partner, and how to rebuild connection in a more intentional way. Get 10% off of Promescent's Pleasure Pack here: http://www.promescent.com/swe-pleasurepack ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 The Desire Discrepancy Nobody Talks About 01:19 Why Every Long-Term Relationship Hits This Wall 02:37 Why Stress, Body Image and Life Kill The Mood 04:29 Are People Actually Having the Sex They Want? 05:38 The Blood Flow Factor Nobody Talks About 07:12 Is Watching Romantic (Ethical) Porn Together Healthy? 10:44 The Case for Roleplay and Alter Egos 14:48 "My Wife Has Zero Sex Drive" The Most Common Question 17:55 Advice for a 35-Year-Old Starting Her Sexual Debut 19:24 Unlearning Shame from a Religious Background 22:02 Rewriting "Virginity" as Your Sexual Debut 23:30 Ask Yourself This Before Your Next Date Night Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this livestream recorded on May 14, 2026, I'm breaking down everything you need to know about pelvic floor health, orgasms, bladder leaks, Kegels, pelvic pain, and why this part of your body affects way more than most people realize. I answer live listener questions about sneezing and peeing, period pain, pelvic floor tension, stronger orgasms, and the biggest mistakes people make when trying Kegel exercises. We also talk about relationships, communication, dating patterns, spooning as an underrated sex position, and why creating a safe space to talk openly about sex can completely change your relationship and confidence. Learn more about BTL's EMSELLA Chair at https://bodybybtl.com/solutions/btl-emsella ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:09 Why Pelvic Floor Health Matters 5:09 Emily's Pelvic Floor Routine 8:15 Pelvic Floor Exercises Explained 10:14 Kegels for Stronger Orgasms 13:17 Sex Books & Aging Changes 16:02 Menopause & Pelvic Floor Devices 19:31 Kegel Mistakes Men Make 21:49 Relationship Advice 25:00 Caller Q&A: Kegels, Pelvic Floor Health & Period Pain 33:26 Why Spooning Is Underrated 35:34 Caller Q&A: Sneezing, Leaks & Kegels for Men 39:28 Spooning Position Demo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Season 14! We're kicking it off with an incredible conversation with Ericka Hart, author of the new book Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself! DB talks to Ericka about colonization, pleasure, shame, joy, and working in sex ed. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning sexuality educator with a Master's of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University.   IN THIS EPISODE: Ericka's book: Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself (this is an affiliate link, which really helps out our show!), Ericka's course Sex Ed as Resistance, the article we discussed in The Buzz, how to find out whose land you're living on right now, and the Indigenous Women Rising Rain Fund. DB donated, and if you can, you should too! TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz  ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast; TikTok: @sexedwithdb; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB; X: @sexedwithdb SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube, Magic Wand, Nancy, and Happy V. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you, Ketsa!

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on April 16, 2026, I answer your biggest questions about sex, attraction, intimacy, libido, dating, communication, and the orgasm gap. In this livestream, we talk about what actually helps women orgasm, why slowing down and communication matter so much in relationships, how medications can impact libido, signs someone is sexually attracted to you, dating in today's world, oral sex tips, threesome boundaries, and so much more. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by Biologica: Head to https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that's right for you. Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:28 Understanding the Orgasm Gap 2:35 The Importance of Clitoral Stimulation 4:10 Communication is Lubrication 5:27 Why Slowing Down Improves Sex 7:49 Best Toys & Recommendations 9:39 Why Rushing Can Hurt Intimacy 10:22 How to Slow Down & Stay Present During Sex 14:42 Navigating Boundaries in Threesomes 18:51 Sensitivity & Trouble Finishing 22:55 Talking About Anal & Oral Sex 25:19 When Is the Right Time to Have Sex While Dating? 28:28 Signs Someone Is Sexually Attracted to You 32:41 Medications That Affect Libido & Arousal 37:13 What Is Sexomnia? 38:14 The “Kivin Method” 42:30 Feeling Stuck in a Dating Desert 45:38 Why Taking Classes Can Change Your Dating Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on May 7, 2026, I talk about what's really going on in our sex lives right now, from low libido and mismatched desire to shame, porn expectations, dating struggles, and why so many couples feel disconnected. I answer your real questions about intimacy, kink, ethical non-monogamy, and how modern life (stress, phones, and social media) is impacting our ability to connect. Most importantly, I share why communication is the missing piece in so many relationships and give practical ways to start talking about sex in a way that actually brings you closer, not further apart. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  This episode is sponsored by Promescent: Get 12% off of Promescent's Power Couple Bundle here: http://www.promescent.com/swe-powercouple Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:01 Why People Avoid Talking About Sex 8:36 Answering Sex Questions at a Dinner Party 9:46 How to Start Dating Again 13:27 The Modern “Sex Recession” 15:08 Beginner Kink & Sensory Play Ideas 16:09 Is It Normal to Admire Another Man's Body? 19:31 Why Compliments Matter in Relationships 20:17 Low Libido & Feeling Too Tired for Sex 24:35 Why Nonsexual Intimacy Matters 26:14 Do Women Want More Sex Than Men? 28:18 How Social Media Affects Libido 30:10 Why Couples Should Discuss Sex Drive Early 31:36 Gaming, Dopamine & Modern Disconnection 32:35 “Use It or Lose It” & Sexual Energy 35:18 How Porn & Movies Shape Expectations 36:23 Roleplay, Fantasies & Ethical Porn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On Today's live podcast recording from April 9, 2026, I answer your real questions about masturbation, insecurity, kink, communication, and how to improve your sex life with curiosity and openness. We talk about why masturbation is a healthy part of a thriving relationship, how to overcome insecurities about sexual experience, and the importance of communication and exploration. I also dive into how to bring solo techniques into partnered sex, why self-consciousness during intimacy can kill arousal, and how to keep desire alive through changes in life stages. This episode is all about prioritizing pleasure, understanding your body, and learning to feel more confident in your sexuality. No matter your experience, there's always room to grow and enjoy better, more fulfilling sex. Find LUCY near you at https://lucy.co/stores, or save 20% on your first online order at https://lucy.co/SEXWITHEMILY with promo code SEXWITHEMILY ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:14 Masturbation in Relationships Isn't Cheating 5:44 Kinks, Bondage & Presence 7:25 Inexperienced in Bed & Becoming a Better Lover 9:57 Solo Orgasms, Porn, & Partnered Sex Explained 14:13 Body Confidence During Sex 18:28 Emily's New Book 19:40 Can Lesbians Enjoy Anal Pleasure? 22:06 Perimenopause & Low Libido 23:47 Why Some People Can Only Orgasm Alone 26:17 How to Be an Ethical “F-Boy” 29:14 Trouble Finishing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about long-term relationships, desire, pleasure, communication, and what it actually takes to keep intimacy alive over time. We get into why so many couples feel disconnected after years together, how shame and stress impact our ability to receive pleasure, and why better sex starts with curiosity instead of pressure or performance.  I also talk about receiving pleasure, mismatched desires, body confidence, communication, keeping attraction alive after moving in together, and why anticipation and novelty play such a big role in desire. This episode is all about learning how to communicate more openly, better understand yourself and your partner, and create a sex life that feels more connected, exciting, and sustainable long-term. Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream  Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters:0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily0:42 Exploring Touch & Sexual Curiosity2:22 Somatic Therapy & Erotic Blueprints6:00 Reconnecting After 10 Years Together8:16 Diffuculty With Oral Intimacy10:38 How To Talk About Oral Sex13:16 Why Mutual Masturbation Helps Couples15:26 Learning Pleasure & Orgasms Together17:11 Helping Your Partner Feel Safe Letting Go19:25 Different Desires in Relationships22:29 Pain After Orgasm & Refractory Periods24:07 Pillows, Comfort & Better Angles25:08 Vaginal pH, Odor & Probiotics27:13 Frequent UTIs During Sex28:35 Best Toys for Long-Distance Relationships29:55 Letting Go of Masturbation Shame31:49 How Much Masturbation Is Too Much?33:13 Moving In Together Without Losing Passion36:26 Why Couples Need Weekend Getaways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode live recording of Sex With Emily, I break down what's really getting in the way of your pleasure, from the way most of us were taught about sex to why so many people feel disconnected, pressured, or stuck in their heads during intimacy. I explain how performance-based thinking replaces sensation, why desire changes over time, and what it actually takes to build trust with your body again. We also get into how to communicate what you want with a partner, how to bridge the gap between solo pleasure and partnered sex, and why slowing down is the key to feeling more present and connected. If you've ever felt like something is off in your sex life or struggled to relax and enjoy it, this episode will help you understand what's really happening and how to create more confidence, clarity, and pleasure moving forward. Note: This was a live recording from November 2025. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream Check out Magic Wand at shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1 ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Pleasure Is The Teacher 02:08 What Is Pleasure Based Sex Education? 03:08 Learning From The Body Instead Of The Mind 04:08 Why We Struggle To Feel Pleasure 06:10 Lack Of Desire vs Lack Of Safety And Permission 07:08 The Importance Of Slowing Down And Feeling 09:27 Why We Disconnect During Sex 10:13 Building Erotic Self-Trust And Awareness 11:16 You're Not Broken: Reframing Sexual Beliefs 13:05 Community Q&A Begins: Real Questions About Sex 14:11 How To Communicate Desire And Dominance 17:44 Co-Creating Pleasure With Your Partner 22:43 Bridging Solo Pleasure And Partnered Sex 27:59 Reconnecting With Your Body As It Changes 33:08 Getting Out Of Your Head And Into Sensation 40:00 Pain, Hormones, And Navigating Physical Changes 43:55 Rebuilding Sexual Confidence After Time Alone 48:34 Final Thoughts: Practice, Communication, And Pleasure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about sex, desire, and relationships while breaking down some of the biggest myths we've been taught, from porn shaping unrealistic expectations to the truth about size, pleasure, and communication. I also dive into why so many people feel blocked or “not normal” in their sex lives, how fantasies actually form, what really leads to better sex (hint: it's not performance), and how to talk to your partner about what you want without shame or shutdowns. My goal is to help you understand your body and your desires more clearly, release the judgment around them, and ultimately create more pleasure, confidence, and connection in your sex life. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream  Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Introduction & Safe Space Guidelines 2:14 Understanding Sexual Desires & Fantasies 4:08 Cuckolding/Hot Wifing Explained 7:35 Anal Sex Discussion 8:54 Prostate Pleasure for Men 15:15 Sex Toys & Products Overview 18:10 Pain During Sex 24:00 Female Orgasm Challenges 25:20 The Importance of Foreplay 31:54 Penis Size Truth 35:34 Pubic Hair Preferences 37:26 Knowing Your Turn-Ons 42:05 Communication Tips 44:04 Orgasm Difficulties Q&A 48:04 Closing & Resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I'm diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they're not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who's navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I'm so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This Episode is sponsored by: Find LUCY near you at https://lucy.co/stores, or save 20% on your first online order at https://lucy.co/SEXWITHEMILY with promo code SEXWITHEMILY Chapters: 00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think 01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure 02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space 04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is 05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex 07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want 08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies 10:23 What We're Really Craving 11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward 12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things 16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds 18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First 20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It 23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way 26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure 29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I'm answering your real, unfiltered questions, covering everything from casual sex and whether it's actually right for you, to performance anxiety and what really happens to your sex life after the honeymoon phase ends. We get into how to talk to your partner about things like blood flow and stress playing a bigger role in arousal than you think, and how to reignite connection when sex starts to feel routine or less frequent. I also break down why scheduling sex isn't boring- It's actually one of the most powerful tools for long-term intimacy! Also,  solo pleasure can support (not replace) your relationship. If you've ever wondered “is this normal?” when it comes to your sex life… this episode is for you. Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:10 Let's Talk Sex Without the Awkwardness 02:32 When Casual Sex Just Doesn't Feel Right 03:06 Caller Question: Feeling Weird or Guilty About Viagra 05:04 How to Bring It Up With Your Partner 06:13 The Pressure Guys Feel in Bed 07:25 Expectations & Real Talk 08:01 Blood Flow & What's Actually Going On 09:18 New Fixes: Shockwave Therapy 10:28 Caller Question: Why Sex Slows Down 11:30 The Honeymoon Phase Is Over… Now What? 12:48 Keeping Things Fun & Exciting 14:02 Finding the Best Time for Sex 31:13 Why You Gotta Prioritize Your Sex Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D. is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team at the University of Ottawa. She is a clinical psychologist, Board Certified in Sex Education and is a Diplomate and Supervisor of Sex Therapy. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. She was awarded the Prix d'Excellence in 2000 for her teaching of Human Sexuality. She has a particular interest in sexual health among older people, disabled and marginalized populations. Kleinplatz has edited five books, notably New Directions in Sex Therapy: Innovations and Alternatives, (Routledge, 2nd Edition), winner of the AASECT 2013 Book Award, Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures with Dr. Charles Moser (2006) and Sexuality and Ageing (2015) with Dr. Walter Bouman.  She is the author with A. Dana Ménard, Ph.D. of Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, winner of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research Consumer Book Award 2021. In 2015, Kleinplatz received the Professional Standard of Excellence Award from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists. In 2021, Kleinplatz received a Distinguished Sexual and Gender Health Revolutionary Award from the Medical School of the University of Minnesota. Her clinical work focuses on eroticism and transformation. Her research, writing, teaching and clinical work have been intended to challenge, expand and diversify the field of sex therapy. Listeners, you can get in touch with Peggy and her team of researchers at Optimal Sexual Experiences and learn more about her bio and publications through the University of Ottawa! If you want to catch up on other shows, just visit our website and please subscribe! We love our listeners and welcome your feedback, so if you love Our Better Half, please give us a 5-star rating and follow us on Facebook and Instagram. It really helps support our show! As always, thanks for listening!  

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions 01:49 Valentine's Day & 21 Years of Podcasting 02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together 04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained 05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym?  06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses 07:53 Is This Normal?   09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching  10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships 12:38 What is Compersion? 14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym 18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships 21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool) 23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors) 24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner 27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan 28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're married, dating, or flying solo, Dr. Nicole McNichols has some sex advice for you. And you may want to pay attention because McNichols is not only the professor of University of Washington's most sought-after class in its history, she's one of social media's most popular educators on the topic of sex. Pulling from her book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, McNichols shares the latest data that shows good sex is one of the most powerful and effective sources of joy. Good sex, McNichols argues, is a gateway to better health, stronger relationships, and the diverse forms of self-actualization we all crave. And yet, the data suggests that good sex is not happening as often as it could. So how do we start having better sex? As a renowned human sexuality expert, McNichols explains through data how to elevate our sex life through practical tools and relatable case studies. She offers all of it with a gender and orientation inclusive, pleasure-forward perspective. Covering everything from sexual anatomy to orgasm and response, hook-up culture, long-term relationships, ethical non-monogamy, kink, pornography, and consent, McNichols emphasizes a holistic philosophy that eliminates shame and stigma. She aims to normalize open and frank conversations and illustrate how connected sex is a pathway to self-awareness, self-expression, true thriving, and happiness. McNichols wants you to know just how important good sex is, and that she has the advice on how to get it. Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker whose groundbreaking course, The Diversity of Human Sexuality, is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, enrolling over 4,000 students annually. Dr. Nicole McNichols received her undergraduate degree from Cornell University and completed her master's in psychology at NYU and PhD in social psychology at the University of Washington. She currently lives in the Seattle area with her husband and three children. Dr. Julie Gottman is a highly respected licensed clinical psychologist and educator and the co-founder of the Gottman Institute. She is sought internationally as an expert advisor on marriage, the treatment of trauma and affairs, sexual harassment and rape, domestic violence, same-sex marriage, and gay and lesbian parenting. She is author or co-author of many books, including best-sellers like Fight Right, The Love Prescription, and Eight Dates, as well as The New Marriage Clinic, and The Marriage Clinic Casebook, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, The Man's Guide To Women, and And Baby Makes Three. Buy the Book You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life Third Place Books

In this episode, Lindsie sits down with Dr. Nicole McNichols (@nicole_thesexprofessor), a renowned human sexuality professor at the University of Washington and author of You Could Be Having Better Sex. Dr. Nicole describes her journey into the field and discusses her mission to replace sexual shame and purity culture with evidence-based information and empowerment.Follow us @TheSouthernTeaPodcast for more! Join our Facebook group and follow us on TikTok!Thank you to our sponsors!Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order when you go to KindredBravely.com/SOUTHERNTEAMomentous: Head to livemomentous.com and use code SOUTHERNTEA for up to 35% off your first orderSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when intimacy starts to feel like pressure… obligation… or even a negotiation?In this episode of The Lo Life, Lo dives into the conversations most couples are having behind closed doors—but rarely saying out loud. From mismatched libidos and feelings of rejection to the impact of porn and the subtle ways sex can become transactional, this episode explores the real reasons desire shifts in long-term relationships.Bringing listener questions to the forefront, Lo sits down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, licensed therapist, and author whose course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in University of Washington history. With years of experience helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy and connection, Dr. Nicole offers insight that is both practical and deeply validating.Together, they unpack the emotional and psychological layers behind desire, disconnection, and what it actually takes to rebuild intimacy. Whether listeners are navigating these challenges themselves or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers a fresh, eye-opening perspective on modern relationships.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker whose college course, The Diversity of Human Sexuality, is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington. She and Paul discuss the importance of communication when it comes to sex and the imperative of tossing shame out the window when it comes to what turns you on.More about Dr Nicole McNicholsCheck out her new book You Could Be Having Better S-x (Simon Element, Feb. 3, 2026) Check out her website Dr. Nicole McNicholsFollow her on (Instagram and TikTok) This episode is sponsored Quince. Go to www.Quince.com/mental for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too.This episode is sponsored by Alma. Search their directory of over 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Go to www.HelloAlma.com/happyhourThis episode is sponsored by The Jordan Harbinger Show. Learn more about the world, improve your critical thinking skills and be entertained! Listen or subscribe here: jordanharbinger.com/subscribe Apple Podcasts: jordanharbinger.com/itunesSpotify: jordanharbinger.com/spotifyHere are the two episodes Paul recommended.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1280-cory-doctorow-why-everything-got-worse-and-what/id1344999619?i=1000747830030Andhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1238-ken-burns-what-if-the-american-revolution-isnt-over/id1344999619?i=1000736232557If you're interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG @ShapedFurniture or visit the website www.shapedfurniture.comWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via Apple Podcasts (or whatever player you use). It costs nothing. It's extremely helpful to have your subscription set to download all episodes automatically. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you love your partner but your sexual intimacy is gone… you're not hopeless. You're normal. Let's talk about sex, intimacy, and the real skills that rebuild sexual connection in long-term love. Because emotional intimacy doesn't automatically create desire,  and you can deepen intimacy on purpose. If you've ever wondered, “Why don't I want sex anymore?” or felt the quiet ache of a lack of intimacy in marriage, you're not alone. Many couples care deeply about each other. They function well as teammates. And yet when it comes to intimacy in marriage, something feels distant or flat. Maybe you're in a marriage without intimacy and wondering how to improve sex life without forcing it. Maybe you're trying to figure out how to increase sexual desire, especially if your drive has faded. Or maybe you're the partner feeling rejected and unsure how to reconnect. The truth is that improving intimacy in marriage isn't about waiting for spontaneous chemistry to return. Sexual desire shifts in long-term relationships. Stress, exhaustion, resentment, hormonal changes, and the mental load of adult life all impact connection. When there is no intimacy in marriage, it often reflects burnout and disconnection,  not incompatibility. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Nicole McNichols, an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker whose course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, enrolling over 4,000 students annually. Together, we unpack how to improve sexual intimacy using research-backed tools. We talk about how pleasure fuels desire, how to increase sexual desire in female partners and anyone experiencing low drive, and why improving intimacy in marriage requires intention, not magic. You'll learn how to improve sex life through small shifts in novelty, playfulness, and communication that make connection feel natural again. We also address resentment. If emotional safety has eroded over time, rebuilding sexual intimacy may need to start with repairing the friendship first. When couples strengthen communication and physical intimacy together, relationships often begin to feel alive again. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Sexual Intimacy Fades in Long-Term Relationships 03:34 How to Improve Sexual Intimacy With a Growth Mindset 08:52 Emotional Intimacy vs. Sexual Desire in Marriage 11:14 How Pleasure Increases Sexual Desire 18:17 How to Increase Sexual Desire (Responsive Desire Explained) 20:20 How to Improve Sex Life by Planning Intimacy 31:08 Rebuilding Attraction and Intimacy in Marriage 43:06 When Lack of Intimacy in Marriage Is About Resentment Rebuilding sexual connection can feel vulnerable. And sometimes the most powerful next step isn't trying harder,  it's getting support. If you'd like help improving intimacy in marriage or learning how to increase sexual desire in ways that feel safe and sustainable, you can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. It's a private, secure space where you can share what's been happening and what you hope will feel different. You'll answer three quick questions so we can match you with the right expert. It only takes a couple of minutes, and it's a meaningful first step toward feeling closer, more connected, and more confident in your relationship. Let's find the right support for you. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com

What does science actually say about monogamy, desire, and long-term love? Evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia joins co-host Sue Marriott to deepen our understanding of the myths and realities of modern relationships. From monogamy to consensual non-monogamy, we explore how jealousy and trust function – not as flaws – but as deeply human signals shaped by biology and attachment. Dr. Garcia breaks down how relationships shift over time, especially as we age, and why sexual satisfaction isn't just about frequency – it's about novelty, meaning, and connection. We dive into the neuroscience of intimacy, including the roles of dopamine and oxytocin, and revisit the Kinsey scale to better understand the fluidity of sexual orientation. This conversation is a grounded, nuanced look at how passion evolves, and how couples can intentionally cultivate desire, curiosity, and emotional safety over the long haul. “Humans, the most intimate animal, will always live and die for love. Understanding why gives us the power to find and maintain the loves worth living for.” – Dr. Justin Garcia, a quote from The Intimate Animal Time Stamps for Why Long-Term Love Gets Complicated: A Scientific Approach with Dr. Justin Garcia (291) 00:57 Understanding social vs. sexual monogamy 04:32 The evolutionary perspective on relationships 08:26 Jealousy and relationship dynamics 20:25 Sexuality and aging: A new perspective 28:44 The power of eye gaze and oxytocin 30:30 Understanding aggression: Oxytocin and vasopressin dynamics 39:01 Exploring sexual diversity and the Kinsey scale About Our Guest – Dr. Justin Garcia Dr. Justin Garcia is an evolutionary biologist and international authority on the science of sex and relationships. Since 2019, he has served as the Executive Director of the world-renowned Kinsey Institute, where he is also a Senior Scientist. He holds an appointment as the Ruth N. Halls Professor in the College of Arts and Sciences at Indiana University and is a Founding Co-Director of Human Sexuality and Health at the IU School of Medicine. Dr. Garcia holds a Ph.D. in evolutionary biology and M.S. in biomedical anthropology from Binghamton University and an Executive Certificate in Public Leadership from Harvard Kennedy School.An award-winning researcher and educator, Dr. Garcia has consulted with a variety of industry partners, and he is currently the Chief Scientific Advisor to Match where he provides expertise for the annual Singles in America study. His research has been featured widely in the media and focuses on people's romantic and sexual lives throughout the life course, especially on integrative biopsychosocial models of variation in courtship, intimacy, and sexual behavior. Resources for Why Long-Term Love Gets Complicated: A Scientific Approach with Dr. Justin Garcia (291) Justin Garcia – The Kinsey Institute: Biography and other information The Intimate Animal – Dr. Garcia’s new book, order here! Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW!   Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping who you are and how you connect with others. Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A’s! Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout As a listener of this podcast, use code BAS15 for a limited-time discount. Get your copy of Secure Relating here!! You are invited!  Join our exclusive community to get early access and discounts to things we produce, plus an ad-free, private feed. In addition, receive exclusive episodes recorded just for you. Sign up for our premium Neuronerd plan!! Click here!! Join us again in Washington, DC for the 49th Annual Psychotherapy Networker! March 19-22nd! In person and online options available. Get your discounted seat HERE! Please support our sponsors – they keep our podcast free and accessible to all!  Talkiatry is a 100% online psychiatry practice that provides comprehensive evaluations, diagnoses, and ongoing medication management for conditions like ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, PTSD, insomnia, and more. Head to Talkiatry.com/TU and complete the short assessment to get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes.

Have you ever wondered how much of your happiness comes down to what you were conditioned to believe about sex? Sexual pleasure isn't a guilty indulgence: science shows that prioritizing pleasure can build resilience, improve creativity, bolster overall health, and even enhance longevity.I'm joined by Dr. Nicole McNichols, author of You Could Be Having Better Sex and the celebrated University of Washington professor whose course on human sexuality draws many thousands of curious minds every year. In fact, her groundbreaking class, “The Diversity of Human Sexuality,” is the most popular course in University of Washington history.If you've ever felt like something was missing—from your relationships, your pleasure, or even your self-image—you won't want to miss this one. We're going to challenge deep-rooted beliefs about sex, and what you're about to hear just might change the way you think about human connection, pleasure, and your relationships.In this episode, you'll discover:Why most of what you believe about sex is probably wrongWhy the longest-lived people in the world in blue zones have lots of sexHow to master sexual communicationHow technologies like AI and virtual reality could affect the future of human sexual experienceand much more...Find Dr. Nicole McNichols and her work at: Website: https://nicolethesexprofessor.comBook: "You Could Be Having Better Sex" by Nicole McNichols, PhDInstagram: @nicole_thesexprofessorTikTok: @nicole_thesexprofessorLinkedIn: Nicole McNicholsAs I research and write my new book about longevity, one of the most important points to understand is that connection to fellow humans is perhaps the most critical factor for living a long and healthy life. If you want to improve your health and your life, it's crucial to surround yourself with experienced folks who know how to get real results; people who truly want the best for you and will keep you accountable when things get tough. So my wife Alyson and I are hosting gamified transformation challenges where health nuts like us can level-up and get life-changing results together. For the next 5 days only, join the 14-Day Eat Wild Challenge with done-for-you meal plan, gamified rewards, micro-quests, short videos and a big giveaway at the end. The challenge kicks off Tues, Feb 17. Join the fun at WildRx.com/challengePlease take a moment to make sure you're subscribed wherever you listen to podcasts, and to stay up-to-date, sign up for my newsletter at AbelJames.com.You can also join Substack as a free or paid member for ad-free episodes of this show, to comment on each episode, and to hit me up in the DM's. Join at abeljames.substack.com. And if you're feeling generous, write a quick review for the Abel James Show on Apple or Spotify. You rock.This episode is brought to you by:14-Day Eat Wild Challenge – Go to WildRx.com/challenge and start the challenge with us on Tue, Feb 17 Tonum Health – Go to Tonum.com/WILD and punch in code WILD for 10 % off your first order.Bubs Naturals – Go to BubsNaturals.com and enter code ABEL to snag 20 % off your entire order.

Many men over 40 take their health seriously but feel confused, frustrated, or quietly concerned about changes in their sex life.   In this episode, Ted speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Nicole McNichols about how stress, sleep, anxiety, body image, and relationship dynamics shape sexual health. They explore why common explanations like testosterone or blood flow often miss the bigger picture, and how unrealistic expectations fueled by culture and pornography can undermine confidence and desire.   This conversation reframes sex as an essential part of overall health and longevity, offering a more grounded, evidence-based way to think about intimacy, performance, and connection. Listen now.    Today's Guest  Dr. Nicole McNichols  Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally recognized professor of human sexuality, author, and speaker at the University of Washington, where her course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in the school's history.  She is the coauthor of Human Sexuality in a Diverse Society and the author of You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life. She writes for Psychology Today, The Seattle Times, and The Conversation, and lives in the Seattle area with her family.  Connect to Dr. Nicole McNichols  LinkedIn: Nicole McNichols  Website: nicolethesexprofessor.com   Book: You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life    You'll learn:   Why sexual health is a powerful but overlooked marker of overall wellbeing and longevity  How stress, poor sleep, anxiety, and body image issues quietly reduce desire and performance  Why pornography myths create unrealistic expectations that fuel insecurity and pressure  How emotional connection, self-growth, and planned intimacy support a healthier sex life    What Ted and Julie discuss:  (00:00) Introduction  (01:30) Meet Dr. Nicole McNichols  (02:30) The Connection Between Health and Sex  (05:30) Understanding the Pleasure Cycle  (12:47) The Impact of Pornography on Sexual Health  (24:31) Addressing Porn Use and Relationship Dynamics  (31:51) The Importance of Planning Intimacy  (36:07) Addressing the Root Causes of Sexual Issues  (37:47) The Role of Therapy in Sexual Health  (39:14) Final Thoughts and Upcoming Episodes  (39:37) The Importance of Self-Growth in Relationships  (59:27) Planning Intimacy and Pleasure  (63:19) Conclusion and Final Thoughts 

You could be having better sex and the science explains why, not because you're broken or doing something wrong, but because most of us were never taught how desire actually works or how intimacy evolves over time. Instead, we're handed myths, silence, and a lot of quiet frustration.In this conversation, we explore why great sex is not something that just happens, but something you can learn, practice, and grow into at any stage of life. We talk about desire, pleasure, communication, midlife shifts, and how letting go of shame opens the door to intimacy that feels more alive, connected, and satisfying.Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally renowned human sexuality professor at the University of Washington, where her course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in the school's history. She is also the author of You Could Be Having Better Sex, out February 3.In this episode, you'll discoverA simple mindset shift that makes sex more fulfilling over timeWhy novelty matters more than frequency and how to add it without pressureThe overlooked role pleasure plays in mental health and resilienceWhat actually helps desire return in long-term relationshipsA healthier way to talk about sex that builds trust and connectionIf sex has started to feel confusing, disconnected, or quietly disappointing, this episode offers a grounded, research-backed way forward. Press play to learn how intimacy can become something you grow into rather than drift away from.You can find Nicole at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode, you'll also love the conversations we had with Emily Nagoski about the science of pleasure and sustaining sexual connection.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.