Rat Girls

Ya'll, I am freaking out because one of my biggest inspirations is on the pod! Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of Becoming Cliterate and basically wrote the handbook on how to help women org*sm! If you want to org*sm or want to help your partner with a vulv@ org*sm, this episode is for you. We discuss the pleasure gap and its prevalence, as well as how to close it. She touches on penetration, s*x in mainstream media, body confidence, the patriarchy, stress impacting desire, pain from s*x, s*xual communication, unlearning shame, the cl!t, and anything you might need to know to come. We also nibble on Mizzou, Columbia, Missouri, big bush summer, romantasy, reboots, vibes, and d!ldos. 

Morgan Lorraine Gallo, host of "My Body, My Jokes," joins us to talk about eating disorder recovery and how to seek help if you are struggling! She teaches us how to listen to our bodies, the first steps we can take, how to continue our recovery, celebrate our wins, why decentering from men is helpful, and why community is so important. We also nibble on Burlesque, female friendship, the toxic comedy scene, reply guys, astrology, home ownership, and more. 

Hannah Johnson, the Libido Fairy, joins us to teach us how to increase our libido! She walks us through how to go from faking orgasms and pretending to be asleep to enjoying mind-blowing sex with your partner and finding pleasure in yourself! We walk through how to regulate the nervous system, enjoy pleasure, identify our turn-offs, make room for our turn-ons, discuss our preferences with our partner, and identify our desire type! We also nibble on romantasy, high faes, TV show binge drops, Secret Lives of Mormon Lives, reply guys, and hate comments on social media. 

Jessica Stahl, the creator of Vanilla Cooldance, joins us to chat about how to speak up about what you want in the bedroom! 

Lindsey Straube, author of 'Kiss of the Basilisk,' is on the pod this week, and we are GIGGLING! We are chatting about the book (duh!), falling in love with monsters, discovering our deepest fantasies, how the girlies can get everything they want, finding power in your org@sms, love triangles, living for pleasure instead of productivity, etc. We also nibble on book communities, being Team LEO or CAPSEN, vampires, Twilight, wellness culture, AI, the male loneliness epidemic, and more. 

This week, we are joined by Colette Pervette, a dominatrix, who teaches us all about embracing our power in and out of the bedroom. We learn all about fem domme, kink, negotiating rules, discovering fantasies, and finding a sub to bring out your domme. We also discuss how to find power within yourself and be true to yourself outside of the bedroom. We nibble on feeld, fetlife, people pleasing, Bravo, The Valley, meditation, and more. 

In this episode, we discuss how much and what you should share on a first date! I am an oversharer, so it was a hard pill to swallow that maybe I shouldn't share my entire life story and every trauma with everyone I meet. We talk about things that are 'safe' to talk about and how to find out if they are a good match for you without scaring them away. We also nibble on The Wedding Singer,  Jersey Shore, When the Moon Hatched, Love on the Spectrum, dating in LA, alt-right pipelines, feminine energy, diet culture, and more! 

In this week's episode, we are covering Friends with Benefits! We chat about whether it is possible to make it work and, if it is, how we make it work!! We also talk about the most likely outcome from FWB. And I share my past experiences to make you feel better about your own lol.  We also nibble on Lorazepam, flying, Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears, Vet costs, etc. 

Another ask me anything question where I share: how to deal with differences in s*x frequency preferences, how to do it with a man so much taller than you, the best music to listen to in the bedroom, what to do when you fall out of love with your partner, how to feel your partner while on top, what to do if you hate the taste of come, how to stay excited about s*x in a long term relationship, how to fix your hair loss, and more. We also nibble on Midwest food, The Pitt, Coachella, Ariana Grande, H.E.R, Southwest Airlines, etc. 

Today is a solo episode where I answer all your lovely questions! I answer: how to avoid checking out mentally during s*x, how to get over an ex, how to bring a vibe in the bedroom, what to do if you can't come without a vibe, what my job is lol, how to not be body conscious in the bedroom, what it means if our partners are watching same s-x p*rn, how to fix lesbian bed death and more! We also nibble on ADHD, piercing blue eyes, finding hobbies, different parts of the clit, boobs, break-ins, etc

This week, Tia Lynn, from the Sexy Biz Babe Podcast, joins us! She talks to us about s*xual freedom, feeling shame around s*x and how to free yourself from the shame, connecting with your partner, improving your s*x life, and more. We also nibble on shadow work, pole dancing, play parties, 50 Shades of Grey, Vampire Diaries, s*x expectations in media, Papa Johns, and cookie problems. 

My bestie and co-host of Petty Crimes, Griff Stark-Ennis, is on this week's episode!! He is telling us all about his situationship, and we are chatting about how to turn situationships into relationships, how long to be in a situationship, how to know if you really like the person you are dating, how to be unattached from the outcome, dating out of loneliness and more. We also nibble on overhead lighting, Acotr, thanking Ai, JK Rowling, Koopa Troopa, etc. 

YOU GUYS! The EMILY NAGOSKI is on the pod, and I've never been more excited in my entire life. She is the author of Come As You Are, Come Together, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, and a really cool s*x expert.  She walks us through how to complete the stress cycle and make way for sexy time! We touch on stress in the body, partner-caused stress, stress hitting your s*x breaks, transitioning from stressed to turned on, completing the stress cycle, acute versus chronic stress, pleasure, and what kind of s*x is worth wanting! We also nibble on Bloomington, Indiana, fan fiction, commutes, nice hotels, Residence Inns, Trader Joe's, recalled foods, Libby, and more. 

Cami is joining us today to teach us everything we didn't learn as part of our s*x talk and how to communicate the 'talk' to kids and teens! We learn about introducing them to their body parts, setting boundaries, consent, safety, reality vs. fantasy, pleasure, avoiding shame around s*x, periods, cycles, and more! You can find her course on teaching the s*x talk to kids and teens here:https://www.empoweredcaretakers.com/coursesCODE: EMPOWERWe also nibble on Onyx Storm, Bless your heart, Nick Lachey, therapy, parenting our parents, staining shirts, etc. 

Lauren Moore from Book Huddle is on the pod, and we are talking about everything related to Onyx Storm!! We get into what Brennan's rune means, Who Brewyn is, Violet's dream walking, who the brother is, the missing dragon eggs and riders, feathertail theories, if Violet's pregnant, and what happened to Xaden's soul. We also nibble on writing your own fantasy book, fan casting, calling romantasy fairy p0rn, book retreats, and more. NOTE: The book I was talking about at the end of the episode was: ONCE UPON A BROKEN HEART series. 

WARNING: This episode contains spoilers! Lauren Moore from the Book Huddle joins us to deep dive into Onyx Storm! We get into all our thoughts and theories, including the sky theory, 6+1 theory, what's going on with Dunne and the Gods, potential future deaths, how to save Xaden, potential couples, and more!You can skip right to 23:30 if you want to get straight into the Onyx Storm talk!We also nibble on Harry Potter, making friends as an adult, getting back into reading, book clubs, etc. 

Amy Chan, the author of the Breakup Bootcamp, joins us to talk about how to get over a breakup and change your dating life for good! We cover revenge fantasies, emotional addiction, breaking the cycle, repetition compulsion, stages of grief, the healing trajectory, feeling safe with your partner, attachment styles, future tripping,  completing the trauma response,  the regional beta paradox, and more!!! I am so pumped about this episode because I am a huge fan of Amy's and tell everyone in my life to read her book. 

This week Cami and Niki from Double Teamed Podcast are back and we're answering your questions about what women think about in the bedroom. We cover if we're able to put aside the to-do list and enjoy, if we think about other men or other pen!ses, what noise we want our partners to make, if we care if you come quick, what we're thinking about when our eyes are closed, if we care about coming, and more! We also nibble on m*sturbation stories, intersex people, American education, org*sm types, desire types, giving birth, etc! 

The incredible actor, podcast host, and writer Brandon Kyle Goodman join us to share their insights and experience with s*xual liberation! And how they became their most free s*x loving self! We chat about learning to love yourself, perusing your pleasure, offsetting societal pressures, getting in touch with your body, attracting the right people, intimacy outside the bedroom, and more. We also nibble on dance movies, the beauty industry, puberty, IFS therapy, small balconies, good bathrooms, etc! 

This week, Cami and Niki from Double Teamed podcast join us to discuss jealousy in relationships! We chat about anxious attachments, toxic things we've done that would put the FBI to shame, jealousy triggers, spiraling, fear of abandonment, fomo, how we deal with it, and more. We also nibble on Onyx Storm, Instagram stalking, concert tickets, rent prices, the TikTok ban, etc! If you prefer to watch on youtube check it out here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-A66k0PnhSo&feature=youtu.be

Jesse Townes, my husband and our in house man lol, joins us to share what men think about during s*x! We also have answers from the men in the vibeslut community. So listen to learn their general thoughts, if they compare us to past partners, if they think about other women, if they notice our rolls or body hair, feel an IUD, think our bodies look weird in certain positions, think we smell or taste bad, judge our booty holes, focus on anything, try to think of things not to come, think we're lazy if we want to be on bottom, and more!! 

In this week's episode, Abigail walks you through her past funny, awkward hookup stories! S3x is not perfect like we see in movies. It's messy and silly, and that makes it human! Note: This episode was recorded before the LA wildfires, so there is no mention of them, but next week, we'll talk about what they look like and what people can do to help and stay safe! 

This week we are joined by Alex Hall, the co-founder of Bottom's Digest, to learn all about how to do butt stuff! He talks us through the secret to receiving from a high-fiber diet to the best positions to butt loosening techniques! If you've ever wanted to try booty stuff or make it easier, this episode is for you! We also nibble on reproductive rights, Las Culturistas, Chicago, the rat hole, Korn expectations, protein intake, Spotify wrapped, etc. 

Wooh! The final installment of answering the sex questions you are too afraid to ask! We talk about women's body hair standards, how to avoid being a deadfish, how to make your penis more sensitive,  how to introduce role play and talk about sex to your partner more often, where to start with BDSM, how it feels to get your ass eaten, how to be more dominate, positions for non-tight vaginas, vibe recommendations for first timers, how to get better at being on top, etc. We also nibble on Wicked, bush envy, winter uglies, burnout, and more. 

Holly June Smith, the author of your fav Quinn erotica and the spicy books (Can I Tell You Something? and See You Next Winter), joins us to chat about how to build real-life sexual tension that's smut book-worthy! She walks us through writing sex scenes, little moments that lead up to the big bang, audio erotica, sexual exploration, sexy secrets, touching outside of the bedroom, fuck buddies, and more! 

Welp! Trump won the election. And we are joined by Regan, the host of the F the Nice Guy Podcast, to dissect what this means for dating and sex! We cover the male loneliness epidemic, the 4B movement, women haters, Nick Fuentes, de-centering men, the patriarchy, self-love, safe sex, and more. 

We are back deep-diving into your sex questions! We talk about how to prepare for anal, what to do if your partner doesn't come during sex, where a couple can begin to find a third, the best positions for a small p3nis, how to keep your mouth wet while giving a BJ, how to know if your vagina smells normal, what to do if your partner doesn't want to touch you, your partner being too tired when you want to do it, how to deal with feeling rejection if your partner has a lower sex drive than you, butt hair, BV prevention, how to ask your partner for clit stimulation, why you cry after an orgasm and more. 

In this episode, Abigail answers all your breakup questions! We talk about sex after breakups, if you can still be friends with an ex, what to do if you are friends with their friends and family, when it's okay to start dating again, how to find sexual intimacy when you are single, why people come back to their ex, how you know it's really over, if monogamous couples can stay together with a dead bedroom, how to deal with an anxious attachment, your friend dating your ex and more!  

This week, Jacquie Walters, the author of the very scary book Dearest, joins us. She walks us through how motherhood and postpartum inspired her newest horror novel! We deep dive into postpartum depression, psychosis, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, etc. We also nibble on body horror, period poops, weening, pumping, loneliness, and more. 

Cami and Niki from the Double Teamed Podcast, join us to answer all the sex questions you want to ask but don't know how to! We talk about bj movements, butt stuff, threesomes, soft swaps, circumcised vs uncircumcised d!cks, feeling confident in your skills, hawk tuahing, if size really matters, orgies, being the third in a hook up, squirting, sexual tension, foreplay, smut books and more. 

Jesse, my husband, and I deeeep deep dive into Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey. We talk about the history of both and how 50 Shades started as Twilight Fan Fiction. We also judge if these movies are actually sexy or silly. Basically, every thought anyone can have about Twilight and 50 Shades we address. By the end, you will know more than you ever needed to know about this universe LOL. 

The legendary sexpert Dan Savage is on the pod!! He is teaching us all about sexual compatibility, from figuring out if you have it with a new partner or bringing up your preferences to a new partner to realizing you are not sexually compatible with a current partner and how to change it. Or at least how to free them and yourself from boring sex! We also nibble on kinks, sexual peaks, the correct frequency to do it, fuck buddies, monogamy, polyamory, White Lotus, spicy Disney scenes, and more.  

We got married, y'all!!! We are here to tell you what we learned from our wedding day! Listen for some laughs and to make a note of what to do or not to do on your future big day. We cover ceremony traditions, decompressing, getting ready, flowers, drunk food, wedding planners, bar options, weather prep, having sex on your wedding night, officiants, the after-party, cake cutting, and everything related to weddings! We also nibble on 50 Shades of Grey, Twilight, Honeymooning, Greece, Chappel Roan, milk thistle, and more. 

My sister, Grace Jensen, joins us to chat about mistakes you might be making on first dates. We cover texting, the dating apps, first date spots, flirting, crossing the line, sober dating, dating events, etc. https://www.instagram.com/agewithgracenp/We also nibble on Botox, filler, intuitive eating, wedding stuff, weight lifting, pilates, body confidence and more. 

This week, we answer all your orgasm questions and teach you how to orgasm! The questions we answer are: "How do you get to an orgasm? I get tense but can't get to the point of release.Is there a way to make my orgasms smaller? I cry after orgasms because I am overstimulated.Never have I ever successfully masturbated before. Any tips on how to start?Does drawing it out really make it more powerful?I feel overwhelmed during penetration with clit stimulation and can't O.Can you talk about anorgasmia?I learned that not every woman can orgasm during sex. Is that the case? It happened to me.How will I know when I've orgasmed?What are the different types of orgasms?How many women are touching themselves or using a vibrator during penetration?Are doing Kegels bad for me, and should I be doing it while masturbating or having sex?How do you bring up to a long-term partner that you are not orgasming?How do I use a vibrator with a partner? Is it possible?What do you say to get a guy to the right pressure or place to do oral?"And more!!Also- I accidentally called the cowgirl position cowboy in this ep, so I apologize!!! 

My fiance, Jesse Townes, is on the pod this week, and we are discussing everything we've done to prepare for the wedding! We share all the tips and tricks we've learned along the way and how we've prepped our relationship. We touch on wedding costs, combining finances, balancing family expectations, bridezillas, mental health, body confidence, wedding diet culture, cold feet, relationship anxieties, planning regrets, thoughts on kids, etc. 

My fiance, Jesse Townes, is back to answer your relationship questions! We cover: my husband refuses to give oral. How do I get around it?, Navigating when to say I love you and what to do if they don't say it back, what to do if your partner's sex drive is lower than yours, spontaneous desire vs responsive desire, feeling doubts during an engagement, when is the appropriate time to try and win your ex back, how to emotionally support your partner when they have a hard time maintaining an erection, is it okay to have a work wife?, how to handle the division of emotional and physical labor, mental load, how to release resentment, my ex came back and has seem to have changed what do I pay attention to?, moving into a partner's place, how to discuss money and splitting bills. We also nibble on periods, tampons, smut books, reality TV, door dash prices, and Wheel of Fortune. 

Another episode on bjs!! We answer all your burning questions. Like should you put your tongue in the pee hole, how to give a bj to someone with a foreskin, the proper way to face f*ck, using a vibe during a bj, how to build up sensation and tension, what to do if your arms get tired, enthusiasm, what to do with your teeth, is 53 too old to learn how to give a good bj, how to bring up trying new things to your partner, how to talk about s*x with your partner, how long bjs should take, whiskey d!ck, and more! 

Jesse Townes, my fiance and overall hot person, joins us to answer your relationship questions!! We cover p0rnography, jealousy, strategies for fighting healthy, what to do when you have different love languages, encouraging your partner to go to therapy, backsliding, being friends with your ex, boundaries, bringing up kinks with your partner, reconnecting after an argument, not being in the mood after a fight, the importance of sexual attraction, desire types, what to do if your partner tells you to lose weight, how to align on your goals, communication, and more. We also nibble on Swifties, Love Island, bees, boxing, etc. 

Abigail answers your most pressing BJ questions in this episode of Rat Girls podcast! We talk about deep throating, gag reflex, partners who can't come from bjs, what to do if you have GERD or struggle with acid reflex, what to do if your partner is super big or your mouth is small, hand motions, what to do if your tongue is short, how to handle a sore jaw, feeling confident, avoiding boredom, giving the balls some love, what to do when they finish, how to tell your partner you hate bjs, where they can come, and hawk tuah, and more! 

In this week's episode, we get honest about our anxiety journeys. We break down how we discovered we had anxiety and how we now treat it. From therapy to Prozac to breathing techniques to healing your inner child, we cover it all! We also talk about how anxiety affects our relationships with our partners and parents. If you have anxiety, this episode is for you! We also nibble on loneliness, bachelorette parties, sexism, Jumanji, Wall Unit AC, reparenting, and more. 

Youtuber and bestie Colton David joins us on this week's episode!! He takes us through his journey to realizing and embracing his sexuality! He walks us through how he discovered he was gay to how he lives proudly now. We talk about coming out to family, queer inspirations, finding what you like, gay dating, hookup culture, and grindr.https://www.youtube.com/c/ColtonDavidhttps://www.instagram.com/coltondavidd/We also nibble on West Hollywood, Vanderpump Rules, getting the ick, hookups, bisexuality, morning people, the church, and more. 

This week, we are joined by intimacy expert Susan Bratton. She is brilliant and hilarious and walks us through how to have the best orgasm possible. We are truly in awe of her as she teaches us about orgasmic potential, the p-spot, self-love techniques, nipplegasms, nipple play, throat-gasms, female ejaculation, vibrators, vulva sensitivity, and more. 

Musician, Comedian, and Quinn Voice Actor Cera Gibson joins us this week on Rat Girls!! She walks us through her Mormon upbringing, how the church skewed her view of sex, and how she eventually dismantled the shame she felt around sex and her sexuality.She is honest and open, and we're so honored that she shared her story with us! https://www.instagram.com/ceragibson/?hl=enWe also nibble on polyamory, audio erotica, sex in the media, Vampire Diaries, sex education, LA parking tickets, and more. 

This week, we're joined by Gracie's best friend and talented photographer, Josh Going. He shares his journey after weight loss and the complexities that have come with it, which he continues to navigate. He walks us through learning to love yourself first, fostering a relationship with yourself, and being straightforward in dating. We also giggle the entire episode about their spontaneous trip to Universal Studios, vacation haircuts, being misidentified as a heterosexual, NYC rat and subway stories, dodging death as a tall person, and sleep talking.You can follow Josh at @joshuagoingphoto.

In today's episode, we're answering the rattiest of questions. We nibble on date ideas, skincare routines, body confidence in the bedroom, PCOs, cunnilingus, the U spot, cartoon crushes, C anatomy, TikTok, and Vanderpump Rules. 

This week, Ali Jackson from the Finding Mr. Height Podcast joins us!! We're talking about how to communicate directly during the talking stage. We cover dating app burnout, meeting dates in person, communication cadence, being authentically yourself, anxious attachment, how to end things without ghosting, how much to text during the beginning stages and more. https://findingmrheight.com/https://www.instagram.com/findingmrheight/?hl=enWe also nibble on bad gynecologists, leep procedures, and working out while PMSing. 

Griff Stark-Ennis, host of Petty Crimes Podcast (and our bestie), joins us this week to chat about how freaking hard it is to make friends as an adult. He gives us his best advice on how to make the right friends for you. https://www.instagram.com/griffstarkennis/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/petty-crimes/id1612693094We also nibble on fedoras, petty crimes, dog culture, dating, Justin Timberlake, friend groups, and more. 

Arie Auston, a nurse practitioner and endo warrior, joins us to discuss her Endometriosis journey. She walks us through her symptoms, treatment options, complications, pain management, getting pregnant with endometriosis, etc. https://www.instagram.com/aesthetic.np.arie/https://www.instagram.com/endo_thejourney/We also nibble on filler, botox, constipation, Dairy Queen, cysts, and more. 

The hilarious Zach Noe Towers joins us this week to chat about common courtesies that some seem to be forgetting! We can't stop giggling as we discuss theater, airplane, and s3x etiquette, robots, dating, and friendship.https://www.instagram.com/zachnoetowers/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-hours-with-zach-noe-towers/id1706224060We also nibble on free the nipple, fissures, St. Louis, s3x positivity, granny panties, chlamydia, post-nut clarity, caffeine intake, and more.

This week, we chat about Instagram etiquette in relationships and dating. We cover deleting photos of exes, liking bikini pics, DMing, responding to Insta stories with the fire emoji, posting your partner, posting hot pics, being friends with exes, etc.We also nibble on life expenses, body image and dysmorphia, car issues, credit card debt, sad music, Apple stores, and more.