The Love Psychologist: Transforming Your Relationships from the Inside-Out

This podcast episode is about holy love and how to be your soul in a relationship., with guests Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley. We cover: ⁃ How to soul journal ⁃ How to notice your partners soul essence ⁃ The 4 spiritual relationships ⁃ Learn your soul contracts and lessons in relationships ⁃ Ask, ‘What does love say?' ⁃ Get to know and name your soul ⁃ How to be seen and met in your uniqueness ⁃ How to use your intuition in a relationship and much more! Get to know more about Adam and Elisa at www.Holyandhuman.com Get their book, Holy Love, published by New World Library. Amazon.com: Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships: 9781608688029: Romeo, Elisa, Foley, Adam: Books    

This podcast episode covers burnout and saying no, especially for women.  We cover: -What is burnout -How it affects hormones & Sex drive -How asking for help is important and how to do so -Why libido is afgfected by stress and exhaustion -ways to find time for self-care    And much more! Find out about Dr. Renee Wellenstein at her website: www.drreneewellenstein.com Relevant books mentioned by Paulette: The Book of Sacred Baths When Mars Women Date And Paulette's website for relationship coaching: www.DrPauletteSherman.com

In this podcast episode I cover: -How daters fared and their expectations -why divorce rate is lower now -how relationships were strengthened -how people developed rituals of connection -how pandemic relationships in dating fared -why stress intensified problem areas -whether couples want to return to status quo -some relationship take-aways that helped couples thrive -things couples can continue to do even as people may return to work And more! To do relationship coaching with Paulette, check out her website http://www.DrPauletteSherman.com  

This podcast episode covers: -How career women pair off and with what types of mates -How these women can find an energetic balance in their relationships -How to authentically create a relationship that matches your essence and goals -How vision boards can help you to manifest your love and vision -How to be conscious of love addiction and to generate more self-love instead And more! Find out about Natasha at www.NatashaMccrea.com Learn more about Dr. Sherman at www.DrPauletteSherman.com   

This podcast episode dives into the enneagram and relationships further with guest Christa Hardin. We cover: -the 9 types of enneagram personalities -the intelligence centers- body people, thinking people and heart people -the 3 instincts- the sexual, the 1:1, the self-preserving instinct. How to know your instinctual sequence -know your type at your best and worst.  Same with your partner -other relationship examples and how accepting your partner improves your relationships and overall balance And more! Learn more about Christa at www.enneagramandmarriage.com Learn more about Paulette at www.DrPauletteSherman.com 

In this podcast episode we cover: -What is Human Design? -How does it affect our relationships? -What are the 5 energy types? -How can human design affect dating compatibility? -Can it help resolve marital issues? -What is the difference between your energy type and your profile? How can you find out yours and your partners type? -How does your strategy affect your relationships? -How are the chakras involved? -What is an open center? And much more! To find out more about Ana check out www.Anasaldamando.com on instagram @Anasaldamando To learn more about relationship coaching with Dr. Paulette Sherman, check out www.DrPauletteSherman.com   

This episode discusses how dance therapy and movement can impact your relationships.  We explore: -what is dance therapy -how to be with trauma and emotions in your body -the difference between dancing out emotions and being present with them -how dance can transform you and your relationship -how couples can use dance therapy to mirror and attune to one another -how trauma gets trapped in the body and how to release it through movement -how to create healthy new patterns in relationships through movement -how daters can use movement to be with an explore anxiety And more... To learn more about Orit, check out her website www.OritKrug.com You can watch her free video series here: www.oritkrug.com/rewired-for-love To work with Dr. Sherman in relationship coaching, check out her website www.DrPauletteSherman.com 

In this podcast episode, guest Robert Fleisher discusses: -How hormones affect relationships -How to use hormones during menopause -How to talk to your dr about this -How hormones impact your sex life And more... Robert Fleishers website is www.RobertMFleisher.com His book is, The Sexless Marriage Fix.' Dr. Sherman's website is www.DrPaulettesherman.com for relationship coaching

In this podcast episode, we cover the enneagram as a tool in marriage and dating.  We discuss: -the 9 enneagram types -know your achilles heel or shadow side -which types are compatible in relationships -common pairings-45 pairings possible -all the types have strengths and weaknesses -you have a type with two behavioral wings -there are three main instinctual types -you rub off on your spouse -we often pick partners with an opposite instinct -look for someone balanced who has good self-care -look for someone who can balance the three main instincts And more! Relevant Websites: www.enneagramandmarriage.com www.enneagraminstitute.com www.truity.com  https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow#/

This podcast episode explores the magical path to love with my guest Marc Allen, author of, 'The Type Z Guide to Success.' We explore: -how to create from the inside-out -how the core belief process can change everything -how affirmations create new tapes & beliefs that we live into -Why using I statements  is powerful -Why blaming others won't transform you -How to tune into your intuition for relationship answers -How saying, 'in an easy relaxed manner, in a healthy and positive way, in its own perfect time, for the highest good of all,' is a powerful context for relationships -cultivate conscious awareness & presence -How the use of, 'although,' helps you to pivot (ala SARK) -How to observe yourself in relationships -offer no resistance to life & to be in a state of ease and lightness -live with someone 3 months to really know them while dating as a trial period -have negotiations about your core needs, values & what you want -Have a moonday to relax and retreat for self-care -the best way to approach a relationship is to be totally accepting to let it go. -no problems- just situations to learn from. And more! Related websites: Marc Allen Publisher, New World Library Websites: http://www.NewWorldLibrary.com http://www.MarcAllen.com

This episode discusses how marriages can become sexless and what we can do about it, with guest Dr. Robert Fleisher.  We cover: -What is a sexless marriage or relationship -What is the average sex frequency in a marriage? -What are some reasons that our sex life goes downhill? -What are some things we can do about it? -How does menopause affect one's sex life? -Can life events like pregnancy affect your sex life? -Should a couple discuss sex?  What about before marriage? -What happens when you two have different libidos? -Is the lack of sex one main reason people have an affair? -Can hormones and supplements improve your sex life? -How do psychological issues impact your sex life? And more! To learn more about Dr. Fleisher, check out Robert Fleishers website To get Dr. Fleishers book, The Sexless Marriage Fix Get relationship coaching with Dr. Paulette Sherman at www.DrPauletteSherman.com

In this episode, we have Part 2, discussing the Law of Attraction and your Relationship Fitness Level.  We discuss: -The Law of Attraction- like attracts like -Unconscious family patterns -We attract people at the same relationship fitness level -Put your attention on you and your readiness -What is your current fitness level? -We replay similar roles from childhood unless we shift them -In a good relationship people work on themselves -What are your patterns of attraction? And more! Find out more about Roy at www.CoachingwithRoy.com 

This episode is a discussion of masculine and feminine energies and how they influence attraction in romantic relationships.  We cover Roy's point of view that: -Masculine & feminine energies are not gender-specific -Feminine energy is radiance, love, flow, feeling, playful and unafraid -Masculine energy is being present, directed, mission and purpose-driven, and being fully available. -every person has both energies but most feels more at home with one -opposite energies are drawn to each other like magnets -similar energies repel each other -Sexual polarity =chemistry -It's good to know your sexual essence -the level of form is not the level of spirit -on the level of Spirit we are whole and One -The more whole we are, the less needy -Dr. Sherman asked if similar energies could form a power couple  - We reviewed whether whole people could have relationships with other whole, balanced people and how often this happens And more! Roy's website is www.CoachingwithRoy.com 

This episode is about the importance of self-love and self-care with guest Tanya Richardson.  We cover: -How healthy self-love affects all other relationships -Your self-talk is key.  Speak in gentle ways to yourself -The worst abandonment is self-abandonment -Have a self-care routine or practice -Cornerstone and keystone habits -Why routine is important to help you feel grounded and calm -What blocks our self-care? -How co-dependency can be an obstacle for empaths And more! You can learn about Tanya on her website Read her book, 'Self-Care for Empaths' book by Tanya Richardson Get her self-care calendar here  

This is Pt. 2 of the podcast series with Amy Yeager on transformational conversations for couples.  We cover: -Clairvoyant Reading- mind-reading our partner -Doing The Blame Game & the Faces of Attacks -Question Traps- are you using leading questions, righteous questions, narrow questions, or broad questions? -Using the Savi Tool for couples to identify their pattern and to practice something different And more! Related Links: Conversation Transformation book website: www.conversationtransformation.com. Includes book excerpts, bonus materials, and additional free resources. SAVI Communications website: www.savicommunications.com. Includes background information on SAVI; SAVI training opportunities; and a listing of certified trainers. Corentus website: www.corentus.com. For those more interested in organizational support—resources and services (coaching, consulting, facilitation, training) for teams and leaders (around communication and other topics). Insight Channel video on Complaining: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syY_iDXYY_w

In this episode, we discuss tools for having transformational conversations with Amy Yeager.  We cover tools for: -Polite Fights & Yes-Buts -The Blame Game & the Faces of Attacks -Gripe Cycles & Managing Complaints -How couples have their own repetitive dance & how to identify yours And more! Related Websites: www.conversationtransformation.com www.savicommunications.com www.corentus.com Insight Channel video on Complaining: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syY_iDXYY_w   Research alluded to: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html        

This episode describes how house hunting is like dating.  Dr. Paulette Sherman covers: -know your essentials and deal-breakers -is it a fixer-upper -education -observe any limitations & restrictions -review the Baggage & History - location is key - use your heart & head to make a decision - don't panic and settle -take action and keep the faith -you'll learn what you like and don't from the process -don't fully invest until you seal the deal -make sure it (they) are your forever home -don't settle but be willing to compromise And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman go to her website Read her books: Dating from the Inside Out Facebook Dating: From 1st Date to Soulmate The Book of Sacred Baths Cinematherapy: Solve Your Relationship Issues by Watching Great Movies Take a Marriage class on Udemy with Dr. Sherman Follow her on social media: FB @pauletteshermangroup Twitter @kpaulet Instagram @drpaulettesherman Clubhouse @paulettesherman YouTube @PauletteSherman

This podcast episode is with guest Polly Young-Eisendrath, discussing Dialogue therapy with couples.  We cover: -What is projective identification in 4 parts -What is Dialogue therapy and how does it help couples? -How to create a mindful gap in couples -How do couples do enactments to control their partner? -What is sexual pair bonding? -learn your primary wound so that you don't control your partner -How this works in an arranged marriage -How couples can shift from intimate enemies to true love -How to use Real Dialogue to address conflict without compromise -love on a one-way street versus love on a two-way street And more! Polly-Young Esisendrath is a psychoanalyst, psychologist, professor, and author.  Learn more about her here: Her website: https://young-eisendrath.com/ YouTube Her FB Polly on Twitter Polly on Instagram Polly's podcast Pollys books Polly's classes

In this podcast episode, we discuss how to use feng-shui for love.  We discuss: -How you can take into account each partner's astrology and how that impacts their space. -How to take into account an astrological chart on the house -How you can feng-shui your space to attract love as a dater -How to arrange your space to improve your relationship as a couple -How to improve the environmental contingencies in your home. - How feng-shui can help your health -How your house is a projection of your inner world And more! Get Raphael's book, The Feng-Shui of Love here To learn more about the astrological readings and feng shui services of Raphael Simon, check out his website here

This podcast episode is about how to help your teen be Zen with my guest Tanya Richardson.  It is so important to find ways to relax during the pandemic and otherwise.  Both teens and parents need this!  We cover: -making a playlist -knowing your genius -why liking yourself & not caring what others think is cool -how to meditate - having role models -practicing mindfulness and more! Learn more about Tanya Caroll Richardson here Tanya's Books: Zen Teen Angel Intuition Angel Insights Earth Angel Heaven on Earth Self-Care for Empaths Forever in my Heart  

In this episode we discuss: -the difference between arranged marriage and a hybrid version of 'suggested marriage and dating first.' -how they date with an eye to marriage -how to 'research' dates -why there is no physical touch before marriage -some of the things it helps to know about how to make these marriages succeed -philosophy about marriage and the priorities and roles in modern times And more! Leah Winner is the wife of Rabbi Moishe Winner. mother of 6. mikvah teacher, bat mitzvah teacher, Director of JKC Afterschool, women's challah bakes, and mommy and me.   To learn more about Leah Winner, see her relevant websites: www.ChabadNeshama.com

This episode covers some things to think about dealing with critical partners with guest Mari Grande. We discuss: - How we internalize criticism - How to work with criticism - Do we pick mates who are similar to critical parents? - Is there a Shadow part of yourself you need to heal to not recreate this in a romantic relationship? - Do people often divorce critical partners or do they create ways to work through it? And more... You can reach Mari Grande on her website: www.creativeintegration.com and www.MariGrande.com

In this episode, we speak to therapist Mari Grande about: -using art therapy with couples -how to use somatic therapy with daters and couples. -how hypnosis can address trauma and limiting beliefs in dating and relationships -how imagery speaks to the unconscious to create change And more! To learn more about guest and psychotherapist Mari Grande go to her websites: www.MariGrande.com and http://www.creativeintegration.com  email: Mari@marigrande.com

This podcast episode has tips about what to do if you are missing your ex, especially if you are in a new relationship. It covers: 1-How to challenge negative thoughts 2-Be happy with good-enough 3-Practice gratitude for the present moment 4-Feel your sadness & accept it 5-You can love your ex & still choose not to be with them 6-Learn your lessons to move forward with that wisdom 7-Learn to like being alone 8-Quit ruminating. Practice thought stopping. 9- Don't let, 'the familiar,' stop you 10-Consider ceasing contact with your ex. 11- Ascertain whether you fear intimacy And more... To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website here  A relevant dating book: Get, 'Dating from the Inside Out,' by Dr. Paulette Sherman here

This podcast episode covers the benefits of past-life regression and seeing things from a spiritual perspective in relationships.  My guest is lifestyle design coach, intuitive medium, and spiritual teacher Elizabeth Tripp.  We cover: -What is past-life regression and how might it benefit our relationships? -How can it benefit daters in uncovering patterns & lessons? -What are soul agreements and do they affect the direction our relationships take? -Are we meant to complete soul agreements and how does that play out in a divorce? -What are the soul lessons of a breakup? -Does everyone have a soulmate? What is it? -Are there past life blocks to current relationships?  If so, how to remove them? -Can our spirit guides help our relationships? -How might more women spending time without a relationship affect our spiritual consciousness? -How do our home and environment affect dating and our families?  How to remove any blocks to love in our environments? And more... To learn more about my guest Elizabeth Tripp and her coaching, check out her website here and her FB Group here To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website here

This podcast episode discusses dating advice from guest Connell Barrett, a dating coach, and author of the book, 'Dating Sucks, But You Don't!' We cover: -How Connell felt like a dork and traveled around the world to learn how to date -Connell's most memorable date and what he learned -How to get over a breakup and move on -Why it's so important to date authentically and to be direct -How to know what stage of dating a man is in -How a woman can know if she is dating, 'a ready man?'  Are there qualities that make you ready for marriage? -What men look for in a woman and what women look for in a man -Are men attracted to very successful women?  How do you coach them to approach it if the woman is the breadwinner? And more... To learn more about Connell Barrett's new book, 'Dating Sucks, But You Don't,' get it here. You can learn more about dating coaching with Connell on his website: www.DatingTransformation.com To do relationship coaching with Paulette, check out her website And a few of her dating books, 'Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate,' Dating from the Inside Out,' and 'When Mars Women Date.'

This podcast episode discusses the importance of commitment in marriage and relationships.  It covers: -the definition of commitment -tips for commitment -signs that a person is committed  -signs a person has problems committing -actionable micro-comittments to make in romantic relationships -how to turn commitments into habits so they are automatic Relevant Resources: 'Excuses Begone by Wayne Dyer Marriage and the Law of Attraction by Dr. Paulette Sherman The Law of Attraction in Marriage Action Journal by Dr. Paulette Sherman To partake in relationship coaching with Paulette, visit her website here

This episode shares some date ideas so you can keep your relationship fresh.  It covers: -ways to treat your mate like royalty under $10 (at home) -outdoor date ideas -date ideas that change your hormones and induce love or bonding -inexpensive or free dates -what daters are experiencing during COVID -What married people report in their relationships during COVID -Some ways to get out and have fun again And more! To do dating or relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, contact her on her website Related Books Mentioned: 100 Ways to Treat Your Mate Like Royalty Under $10 Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate 60+ Inexpensive NYC Date Ideas

In this podcast episode, you'll learn about your shadow and how it affects your relationships.  it will cover: -What is the Shadow? -Some ways you can recognize it -Some ways to work with your Shadow -Benefits of doing Shadow work -How Shadow work benefits your relationships -What Shadow relationships are -How your Shadow affects your dating life -How your Shadow affects marriage -How more wholeness and inner peace affects the world And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman contact her on her website Related Books: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford Owning your Own Shadow  

This podcast episode discusses the impact of creativity on your relationship, whether you are dating or in a long-term relationship/marriage.  It covers: -How creativity is correlated with passion -How creativity affects your brain and hormones -How art fosters mystical union and bonds soulmates -The benefits of creativity -Ways to be more creative in your relationship & in general -How poetry & journaling impact your relationship -How music improves your sex life & other benefits -The power of your couples song -How Art therapy is used for couples -Creating a Couples Vision Board And more... To do relationship coaching with Dr. Paulette Sherman, check out her website Related Books: A Shared Vision: 100 Conversations for Couples to Co-Create the Lives of their Dreams by Paulette Kouffman Sherman The Book of Sacred Baths by Paulette Kouffman Sherman Cinematherapy: Solve Your Relationship Issues By Watching Great Movies by Paulette Kouffman Sherman Dating from the Inside Out by Paulette Kouffman Sherman Marriage and the Law of Attraction by Paulette Kouffman Sherman *Some Dating Apps Based upon Musical Preferences are Vinylly, Tastebuds, LetsTuneUp & MusicPassions   

This podcast episode talks about judgment in relationships and dating.  It covers: -What is judgment?  It is useful? -Should we assess our relationships & partner? -How is judgment different from criticism and shame? -Should you meet judgment with judgment? -What are some ways to deal with being judged? -Are there other ways for you to approach things other than being judgmental? -Where does forgiveness of self & others play a role? -Do you fall into the trap of being right? -Can you find the source of the pain? -Can you soothe your wounded child? -Is there a lesson to learn? -Do you think your intention or theirs plays an important role? -Is judgment coming from fear or love? -Can you see the situation from your head, heart, or Spirit? and more... You can contact Dr. Sherman for relationship coaching on her website Related books mentioned: -The Gremlin: 10 Tools to Shush that Negative Voice in Your Head, by Paulette Kouffman Sherman, available here -The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford, available here -Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul, available here -The Law of Attraction in Marriage by Paulette Sherman, available here (it can help you make requests instead of judgment and to stay positive) -The Law of Attraction in Marriage Action Journal by Paulette Sherman

This podcast episode is about whether you should settle while dating and looking for a mate.  It covers: -What is settling?  What does it mean to you? -What are the PROS and CONS of settling? -Are you choosing to settle out of love or fear? -What is your relationship intention? -Do you know your essentials and dealbreakers? -Are there internal psychological reasons you won't commit? -You attract someone at your level of consciousness -Why you shouldn't look for someone to complete you  -Can you make peace with your choice and make it work? -Do your values, lifestyle, and visions match? -There are 5 unresolvable issues in most marriages -Are you being a perfectionist?  Are your expectations reasonable? -Have you discussed differences and how to address them? -How to be open to new types of partners and possibilities and try them on Dr. Paulette Sherman is available for dating coaching by phone or Skype.  You can email her on her contact page on her website here Relevant books mentioned are: Dr. Paulette Sherman's book, 'Dating from the Inside Out' available here 'Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough' by Lori Gottlieb, available here  

This podcast episode discusses how being long-distance affects your relationship.  It includes: -separation can be an advantage for your relationship satisfaction -identify your needs -have your own life -improve communication -build trust and create shared boundaries and expectations -make plans and have regular points of contact -know each other's Love Language -acknowledge your partner's daily events & successes -have video dates, sexting, etc for intimacy -Determine levels of commitment- long and short-term -Comfort your Wounded Child re loneliness -Do virtual holidays, especially during COVID And more! If you want to do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website To learn about the film, 'Going the Distance' To read Dr. Sherman's dating book, 'Dating from the Inside Out,' click here  

This podcast episode is about things that couples work on in couples therapy or couples coaching.  It includes: -They are stuck in a transition or need help in a developmental stage in their relationship -They want to improve a specific issue or life area -They are considering divorce or separation -They wish to improve communication skills -To foster intimacy, closeness or improve their sex-life -To mend trust issues or to work through betrayal or infidelity -To identify unhealthy patterns, dances, or defensive styles -to deal with attachment issues -To improve parenting or extended family issues -They may need help in getting their needs met -Healing past trauma or hurt -To increase appreciation and romance -To create a shared vision and shared values -to work on emotional regulation and anger issues -taking responsibility for their part in things, respectively -developing mutual respect for differences And more! To do couples coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website here You can also get her book, ''Marriage and the Law of Attraction' book and, 'The Law of Attraction in Marriage Action Journal: 77 Practices to create the Marriage of your Dreams

This podcast is about how to develop a spiritual connection with your partner again.  It includes: -making everyday moments sacred -seeing the Divine in each other -learning soul lessons in your relationship -helping each other with your soul missions -learning about your higher connection from challenges -inviting a Higher power into your relationship -using spiritual practices like prayer, meditation, and time in nature to connect more deeply -sharing spiritual books and classes -learning to shift from fear into love in your relationship And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website Her relevant books are: Marriage and the Law of Attraction book The Law of Attraction in Marriage Action Journal

This podcast episode is about how date night can improve your relationship, at any stage of life. It covers: -Date night research -Tips for what to do & not on your Date night -couples were 3.5 times more satisfied with their relationship with a weekly date night & there was a lower divorce rate -sexual satisfaction was 3.5 times more likely to be above average with a weekly date night And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website here Her relevant books for date nights include:  How to Treat your Mate Like Royalty, Under $10  Also, '60+ Inexpensive NYC Date Ideas' And, 'The Book of Sacred Baths' for couples bath dates  

This episode is about loneliness and how it affects your relationship with yourself and others. It includes: - The different types of loneliness -Where chronic loneliness comes from -tips for addressing loneliness -the difference between solitude and loneliness -how loneliness affects your body -why people feel lonely in a relationship -how loneliness is genetic, with 15 variations -how to challenge your negative thinking -learning to love yourself and your own company And more... To do coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website To get her book, 'The Gremlin: 10 Tools to Shush that Negative Voice in Your Head' Other books on the wounded child include 'Inner Bonding' and 'Healing Your Aloneness' by Margaret Paul

This episode is about how creating a ritual bath can help you to center, relax, get guidance and shift into your relaxed nervous system.   This can be especially helpful now when people are stressed, shut-in, and many have little personal reflection time or space during the pandemic. This episode covers: -the history of sacred bathing -how bathing can be your emotional and spiritual purification, as well as your physical cleansing -how to customize your bath to your intention -how couples baths can release anger and bond you -how to take a bath as a pre-date ritual to relax you and raise your self-confidence -how to take a self-love bath to raise your self-esteem and flood you with comfort and feelings of gratitude -why bath recipes include essential oils, Epsom salt, the Law of Attraction, meditation, visualization, having an intention and can be paired with drinking certain teas and journaling -how to take a career bath that makes you feel powerful, abundant, and ready to achieve your next goal And more! To get 52 bathing rituals, one for each week of the year, in 5 major life areas (relationships, self-love, health, career, and Spirit) you can get Dr. Sherman's book, 'The Book of Sacred Baths' published by Llewellyn here To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website  

This episode focuses on how gratitude benefits you and your relationships.  It covers: -How gratitude benefits us -The benefits of doing a Gratitude Journal -How gratitude impacts your relationship -How gratitude quells social comparison -How it can lower depression and negativity -Why people who count their blessings are happier -Why compliments are important in a relationship -Habits of gratitude and appreciation -And more! To do relationship counseling with Dr. Sherman, check out her website Book referenced: Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breachnach Related books by Dr. Sherman to help you be more positive: The Gremlin: 10 Tools to Shush that Negative Voice in Your Head Dating from the Inside Out Marriage and the Law of Attraction The Law of Attraction in Marriage Action Journal

This podcast episode focuses on 7 of the shadow outlets that people turn to in times of stress and fear and what they can try instead.  Quarantine and COVID exacerbate these tendencies while people are shut-in because they need to have an outlet for their suffering.  I've structured these shadow outlets according to the 7 deadly sins, even though I do not resonate with their being sins.  This episode covers: -Pride- and how it goeth before a fall -Greed- how we use material possessions to ground us -Lust- why people may have emotional or sexual affairs -Gluttony- How a desire to consume food, alcohol, or drugs can overtake us and become extreme ways that we find comfort or love substitutes -Wrath- how anger gets inflamed towards loved ones as an outlet -Sloth- how extreme passivity and 'checking-out,' does not allow us to be present and to use our gifts -Envy- How the desire to possess what others have takes our eyes off our own paper and doesn't allow us to possess an attitude of gratitude for who we really are -How stress impairs our lives Other desirable outlets to de-stress us: -coloring books, naps, nature, pets, speaking to friends, exercise, journaling, laughing, creative acts, deep breathing, meditation, reading, cooking, learning, prayer. Other Resources for Extreme Cases of Stress/Distress: -Disaster Distress Helpline 1-800-985-5990 -National Suicide Prevention Lifeline- 800-273-TALK -National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233 To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website For Paulette's related book on challenging your negative thinking, you can pick up a copy of, 'The Gremlin: 10 Tools to Shush that Negative Voice in Your Head.' Much love to you!

In this episode, we will discuss what a 'Dark Night of the Soul' is and how it can transform you.  We will cover: -Surprising life twists and challenges that put us out of our comfort zone -How we can learn to shift from fear into love and from the physical to our Spirit -How this scenario gets our attention and can be a wake-up call  -It can be an archetypal journey to the Higher Self and to your purpose -It can be an opportunity to learn lessons and know yourself more -It can help you to integrate shadow parts and lead to wholeness And more... To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website Related Resources Mentioned Here: Dr. Sherman's two books:  The Cancer Path: A Spiritual Journey Into Healing, Wholeness & Love, and, Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart The Eternal Journey book by Lundahl & Widdison Mother Teresa: Come Be My Light book by Brian Kolodiejchuk  

This podcast episode explores some of the things that happen when you are dealing with the death of a loved one and how your spouse can help. It covers: -the grieving process -when there is no closure or goodbye -how to memorialize a loved one -the stages of grief -missing them at Anniversary reactions & special times -doing a grief journal or counseling -letting go of your loved one's things -dealing with funeral and estate issues And more... To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website For a related resource, check out my author friend Tanya Richardson's grief journal, 'Forever In My Heart,' here

This podcast episode talks about how difficult it can be to deal with aging parents in the sandwich generation and how your spouse can support you in this. It covers: -ways to make a plan with your parent for subsequent care and changes -developing a healing team that rows together -managing the stress of juggling two households -dealing with your parents emotional, mental, and physical changes -managing medical appointments and aides -how your relationship dynamic shifts with your parent -making memories -How your partner can help -creating a living will, will, and estate arrangements -And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website You can get this related book by an author friend Cathie Borrie where she discusses her relationship with her mom who had Alzheimer's.  You can get,  The Long Hello book here.

This episode gives you practical tools to deal with emotional overwhelm and to move from your 'fight and flight' nervous system to your relaxed, healing one.  This is especially useful during COVID and quarantine for individuals and couples.  It covers: -How your brain functions when you are overwhelmed and why -How to shift you from your fight and flight nervous system to your relaxed one -Bath rituals to center and relax you -Creating a multi-lawyered positive habitual morning routine -The Sedona Method approach -Meditation -Deep breathing -Time Out -Walking in nature -Gratitude Journal -Progressive Muscle Relaxation - Aromatherapy -the Dive Reflex And more.... To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman check out her website Resources for Emotional Overwhelm: The Book of Sacred Baths Please Google the PMR, Meditation etcetera as it would not let me link specific YouTube videos for you here  

This podcast episode explores: -How roles limit the way we can see the other person fully -How the labels you ascribe to a person causes you to miss other viewpoints -how alliances are special relationships in a family or system that have an agenda or an underlying issue -How triangulation can occur as one reason for an alliance and why this occurs -How a person may present as the ticket of admission with a problem but there is really another underlying issue with someone else in the family that it's masking -how genograms can be used as a tool to look at how issues or patterns repeat in different generations of a family.  It can raise consciousness about patterns so you can break them. -How to deal directly with the family member you have a conflict with, instead of gossiping or communicating through a third party. -Why parents need to be the architects of the family.  They need a shared vision and agreement so the kids or family members can't split them.  They also should be on the same page regarding parenting and consequences. And more! To learn about relationship coaching with Paulette, check out her website You can also get her book on marriage and on dating.

This episode discusses some of the issues that couples are facing as COVID numbers rise during the second-wave of COVID and quarantine.  It covers: -parenting issues -tech tantrums, devices, and parental controls -work-life balance - self-care practices and trying to regulate emotions -communication between partners and divorce rates -unemployment, depression & fatigue -boundaries and space issues and more! To do relationship coaching with Paulette, check out her website Resources mentioned: -'The Book of Sacred Baths' by Dr. Paulette Sherman -Udemy classes you can take by Dr. Sherman: 'Inspired Parenting' and 'Using the Law of Attraction in Marriage.' -Some parental control for devices: Qustudio or T-Mobile FamilyMode Base Station -SNAP for food aid -Some Boardgames mentioned:  I Dissent, The Hygge Game, Monopoly, Taboo, Spontaneous

This podcast episode discusses relationship goals for the New Year.  It covers: -taking stock/inventory of your relationship -identifying areas to improve -creating a relationship wheel and a relationship vision board -create a dating action plan if you're single And more!  To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, go to her website For tools to improve your relationship, get her books,' Marriage and The Law of Attraction' 'Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate' and 'Dating from the Inside Out book by Dr. Paulette Sherman 

This podcast episode discusses how the holiday season affects couples. It covers: -How COVID and quarantine affects the holidays -How long-distance couples are coping during the holidays -How living together and quarantining affects your holiday and how you can support each other -How to deal with your respective families during the holidays -discussing the personal meaning of the holidays with each other -understanding any past holiday-related trauma and anniversary reactions -Creating new holiday traditions together And more! To do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, Dr. Paulette Sherman's website Click here to read her book on dating or her marriage book by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman  

This podcast episode is about how elections and political differences affect our romantic relationships, whether you are dating or married.  It covers: -How political differences affect couples -How this 2020 election was harder -How political differences affect extended family relationships -Deciding whether political differences are a dealbreaker when dating and why -What the candidates represent to some people regarding couples dynamics and gender roles and more... If you want to learn about relationship coaching with Paulette., Dr. Paulette Sherman's website You can also pick up her dating book, 'Dating from the Inside Out' or her marriage book, 'Marriage and the Law of Attraction.'

This podcast episode is about how to see your relationship from a soul level.  My guest is Christopher Dilts from askanangel.org.  We cover: - Issues that soulmates have and how they serve their soul development -Do we learn more from being in a soulmate relationship than by being alone?  Why? -Does everyone have a soulmate? -How can you be ready to meet your soulmate --What's the most important thing someone can do to grow in a relationship? And more... You can learn more about Chris at the Christopher Dilts website You can do relationship coaching with Paulette here

This episode is part 1 in a two-part series on how viewing our relationships from a spiritual perspective can help us do our soul work.  I invited a guest, Christopher Dilts from AskanAngel.org to weigh in on some common questions about soulmates and more.  We cover: -how soulmates help us -how karma affects our relationships -why resolving relationship conflicts is important -how to dissolve the ego and to love more -how to soften defensive styles -inviting your Spirit to do a Relationship Map and more! You can find out more about Christopher Dilts website. To read a related book I wrote, you can pick up 'Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart.'  To do relationship coaching with me, go to my website