Podcasts about relationship map

Are you a nonprofit leader trying to build stronger relationships? Sales Navigator can help you do it. But if you're like me, you've probably tried the free trial and thought, “OK, what do I do?” This podcast episode covers 3 specific case uses in LinkedIn Sales Navigator for nonprofit leaders. It's a replay from a LinkedIn Live I did in partnership with Percent and LinkedIn for Nonprofits. If you're trying to build tailored, human-to-human relationships with potential funders, referral partners, and other supporters, listen in. Resources from this episode:Eligible nonprofits get 75% off Sales Navigator! Start your application process by clicking here. If you prefer to watch the replay of this live on LinkedIn, here's the link. Questions? Leave a comment! We discussed:[09:18] LinkedIn Sales Navigator: what is it? [10:56] Building a Relationship Map[14:16] Add your current “book of business” to Sales Navigator[19:03] Find new values-aligned partners with Sales NavigatorTo read a full transcript of the episode, visit: LUMOS MARKETINGOther Campfire Circle podcast episodes I recommend:Episode 53: 10 Copy Coaching Tips for Engaging LinkedIn ContentEpisode 40: Measure the Magic: Tracking Resonance Instead of ReachEpisode 19: How to deepen your influence to drive changeWant free thought leadership support straight into your inbox? Sign up for the Firestarter Newsletter at https://lumosmarketing.co/firestarter Connect with Tania Bhattacharyya:LinkedIn: Tania BhattacharyyaInstagram: @taniabhatWebsite: lumosmarketing.co

Rhomas Men's Team podcast here. As always, if you resonate with our content, please follow, like, share, comment, and support our channel: https://www.rhomas.com/ This week, let's unpack the concept of "Creating a Relationship Map." Navigating social landscapes can be complex, whether it's within professional networks, family ties, or friendships. Understanding the dynamics and connections can significantly enhance communication and collaboration. We'll discuss how to map out your current relationships, identify key influencers, and recognize potential bridge-builders. This visual and strategic tool can help you cultivate stronger networks, improve your interpersonal skills, and position yourself more effectively within any social structure. Get ready to learn how to plot your connections and leverage them for mutual growth and opportunities, enhancing both personal and professional realms of your life. #RelationshipBuilding #Networking #SocialSkills #ProfessionalGrowth #Rhomas

This week on the Redefining Sales podcast, we had the privilege of sitting down with Owen Steer, the Regional Account Manager for Global Accounts at LinkedIn.  With a staggering 950 million members globally (that's around 1/8th of the workforce) and 250 billion connections, LinkedIn is where the action's at. In Australia alone, there are 14 million users, and there's a massive 85% chance that your next professional connection is waiting on LinkedIn.   Trust me; you don't want to miss this must-listen episode where Owen will uncover all the insider secrets of LinkedIn.  In this episode, we covered:  How Account IQ can give you access to the insights you need and how you leverage this to have a strong understanding of your customer.  The power of warm introductions and the importance of connecting through common contacts.  How to use Relationship Map, Sales Navigator's powerful relationship intelligence tool    How to prospect on LinkedIn and the mistakes you absolutely need to avoid.  The future AI integrations on LinkedIn and how this will impact you.  And SO much more!   Connect with Owen:   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/owensteer/  You can follow me here:     Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/abbie__white/⁠⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbiecwhite/⁠⁠⁠    Get your Guest Pass here:  https://register.salesredefined.com.au/guest-pass-owen  Join Rev Up now:   ⁠⁠⁠https://salesredefined.com.au/rev-up/⁠  

In the nexus of leadership, sales management, and consulting, few better exemplify excellence than Vinayak Bhat, CFA. With over two decades under his belt and currently the Senior Vice President and Head of Asia Pacific at Backset, Vinayak has definitively honed his prowess in crafting powerful and effective sales strategies. His unflinching advocacy for team excellence has truly put him on the world's radar. The listener stands to gain enormously from Vinayak's well-grounded insights into the complexities of leadership, sales strategy, and dealing with failure amid a career landscape that's under a ceaseless state of flux. From newbies looking to dive deep into the world of sales to seasoned professionals seeking to brush up on their skills, this interview caters to a broad spectrum of the audience.Here are the reasons why you should listen to the full interview:Learn how to approach complex products with multiple stakeholders, and master the art of delivering a powerful sales pitch that uniquely speaks to every user.Discover the essence of continuous learning in sales, and understand how it helps foster incremental growth.Understand the key dimensions of competency - knowledge and skills - and ascertain how they fit into the larger picture of customer problem-solving.ResourcesVinayak Bhat's LinkedIn Interview HighlightsNavigating the Relationship MapLearn from Vinayak's experience about the complexities of selling products with diverse user bases.Understand the need for individualized pitch for different stakeholders."Remember that an effective sales pitch takes into consideration the different interests of your product's users."Continuous Learning and Incremental GrowthGain insight into how sales is an ever-evolving field.Discover how continuous learning can lead to sustainable growth in your sales career."In sales, there is always room for growth, and continuous learning is the key to getting better."Knowledge, Skills and Client FocusUnderstand the role of knowledge and skills in sales competency.Learn the importance of putting the client's problems before your product."The success of your sales pitch is hinged upon your understanding of the client's problems." Emotional Management and Coping with Failure Learn how to manage emotions and deal with failure in sales.Understand the importance of trusting the process and focusing on reality."Sales is not a walk in the park, and managing one's emotions and coping with failure is a key part of the process."Support the show

Steve speaks to Keith about cacao, what it can do for you, and his opinions and guidelines for having a spiritual relationship – whether that be a spiritual relationship with your friend, business partner or lover. ♡♡♡ Keith lives in the Mayan highlands of Guatemala, where he has become known as the Chocolate Shaman by way of a journey with the cacao into understanding the use of cacao/chocolate for spiritual and shamanic purposes. Find him at kiethscacao.com ♡♡♡ Join Steve's monthly free group healing webinar - great if you are in heartbreak, pain, existential crisis or you feel like you need some extra help right now! Join us at www.HeartInitiation.com/free-healing ♡♡♡

No two relationships are the same-but sometimes we find ourselves in the same pattern again and again. So why is that? How is it possible that even after you swore you would NEVER date another guy like your ex, the relationship after him ended the same way? Why do people always have a "type" that falls for them. Do you have sign on your head that's making the wrong kind of person flock to you? Are you cursed?In this episode, I explain how your Relationship Map is the mental structure that dictates who you are attracted to, what kind of relationships you have, and even who you believe you are supposed to be. Your map goes far beyond just your romantic life, it is your guide to all relationships- your relationship to work, friends, colleagues, and even yourself.If you are looking for a fresh start, to figure out what the heck happened, and to live your authentic self, this episode is an absolute must listen.Questions, comments, or ideas for a show? Email me at Nadia@KillingCupid.com Follow me on Instagram for regular IGTV streams about how to master your relationships and live your authentic self @KillingCupid__Music provided by bensound.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/NadiaAni)

This episode is part 1 in a two-part series on how viewing our relationships from a spiritual perspective can help us do our soul work.  I invited a guest, Christopher Dilts from AskanAngel.org to weigh in on some common questions about soulmates and more.  We cover: -how soulmates help us -how karma affects our relationships -why resolving relationship conflicts is important -how to dissolve the ego and to love more -how to soften defensive styles -inviting your Spirit to do a Relationship Map and more! You can find out more about Christopher Dilts website. To read a related book I wrote, you can pick up 'Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart.'  To do relationship coaching with me, go to my website

Suppose you're with an emotionally unavailable partner. In that case, you'll find that you can feel emotionally destabilized at times, that your partner is keeping you at arm's length. You might find that you can't talk deeply about the relationship itself and about what you need and what you want and especially where the two of you as a couple are headed in the future. In this episode, I talk with Ryan Hadden, a certified Life, and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher. She and I discuss how a person with narcissistic tendencies can emotionally keep you at bay and what you can do to shift your focus if you find yourself in one of these types of relationships. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.)   Bio:  Ryan Haddon is a certified Life and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher with over 16 years of experience with clients worldwide. A sought-after public speaker for corporate retreats and wellness events, Ryan does private workshops such as “Stepping Into Your Purpose,” “The Work/Life Balance,” and “Finding Your Center.” Ryan was a keynote speaker for Visionary Women’s 2020 virtual event and a featured speaker at CAA’s 2020 global wellness event. She’s also the in-house Life Coach at Kourtney Kardashian’s website Poosh, where she writes mind/body/spirit articles. In this episode, Ryan Hadden and I discuss:  Why you feel unsafe in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner. What does emotional unavailability look like in a partner? Reasons why people are emotionally unavailable. Why you feel lonely, unvalidated and rejected with a partner that’s emotionally unavailable. The checklist of behaviors that emotionally unavailable people tend to display. Why it can feel like you are doing all the heavy lifting inside your relationship. How to figure out what you can do to break the pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people. Tweetables “If you’re in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable, you’re most likely feeling destabilized at all times.” Ryan Hadden   “When you enter into a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person you’ll feel like you’re not safe.” Ryan Hadden   “Knowing that they can’t give you more than they are and if you manage to get past go, your relationship might be well underway and you might feel like you’re dancing all the time, constantly taking their emotional temperature. Ryan Hadden “Emotional unavailability is a good term to describe when you’re with someone who is always setting the terms, withdrawing physically and emotionally when you get too close, probably because they’re afraid to be vulnerable.” Ryan Hadden “It feels that one sidedness that you are always having to accept that they’re not really needing you in that same playing field that you want to be in.” Ryan Hadden Mentioned: Get your free guide Relationship Map to Happy Lasting Love Free Guide Listen to the podcast episode How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy - Part Two of the podcast series Connect with Ryan Hadden Visit Ryan on the web Chat with Ryan on Instagram Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Bio:  Sarrah Rose is the founder of the tantric sex coaching platform Tantric Activation. She developed her coaching techniques by studying tantra, mixing in evolutionary biology, and adapting the method for practical use in the modern world. Sarrah was trained in the tantra method in India. She then earned her certification as a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach from the Tantra Institute of Integrated Sexuality. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Sarrah Rose and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How to use your sexual energy in a conscious way rather than being controlled by it.  Becoming more aware of your patterns, shadow work, so that you can be more aligned in your mind, heart and sexuality. How your breath, sound, movement and focus helps you integrate the flow of energy throughout your body.  How to deal with challenges, like performance anxiety, fear of rejection, and being shutdown or closed off to sex.   How we train our body away from human physical touch when we use vibrators and porn.  Why couples stop having sex and what is critical to know about the 3 stages of love.  “For thousands of years, women have had to choose whether they were going to be accepted by society or express their sexuality.” by Sarrah Rose Mentioned:  Tantric Activation Sarrah Rose (website) Helen Fisher (webiste) Allison Armstrong (website) Relationship Map to Happy Lasting Love Free Guide   Connect with Sarrah Rose Website: Tantric Activation Facebook: facebook.com/TantricActivation/ Instagram: instagram.com/tantricactivation/  Twitter: @IAmSarrahRose    Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com     If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me. 

In this first episode of CASA Talk, host, Hope Dunbar, discusses the Network Relationship Map with Linda Kallhoff and the idea of healing a person by healing the map. We talk connection, reciprocity and the power of relationship to change a life. This episode will have you thinking more deeply about your relationship with the world, your relationship with those you meet in a thousand different ways and how human connection contains healing worth our time and focus.    Using the Network/Relationship Map above, complete your own by filling it out accordingly: RULE: Paid relationships do NOT go in the map In the center circle: Identify by name the most important people in your life. List the close spiritual relationships, people you share your dreams with, people who know the skeletons in your closet. List the people who, if they left, your heart would break! Social media friends can only be listed here if they meet the above criteria. In the outer circle: Other important relationships (friends, extended family, etc.) Think, "Family Tree." People you might invite to a significant celebration in your life (wedding, anniversary, first communion of your child, graduation party, "over the hill" birthday party). People who might show up to your funeral and be sad, people on your Christmas card list (if you do that). Social media friends may be listed if they fit the above criteria. Upper Left quadrant: Your hobbies, interests, recreational and vocational past and present. Your causes, What you do for fun (or what you would do for fun if you had the time), what you do to relax, vacations, where you spend your weekends. Upper Right quadrant: Civic, social and professional organizations past and present. Your religious or church affiliation and any sub-group or committee where you've helped within the organization. List all the schools you've attended (where you do have alumni status?), memberships you had during childhood or adolescence (clubs, teams, activities), and any memberships you have as a parent (soccer coach, PTA, den mother, etc.). Also, any informal social groups you are a part of - (coffee group, walking club, Friday after work friends) Lower Left quadrant: Businesses where you spend your money. Think, "Bank Statement." Places where you are a customer and one of the employees recognizes as a regular customer or even knows your name. You might even know one or more of the employees by name. Businesses where, when you pay by check,  they won't ask you for a form of identification because they know you.  Lower Right quadrant: All the jobs you've ever held from childhood on. (Babysitting, lawn mowing, car washing all the way through high school jobs, college jobs into adulthood). Any internships or classes that were connected to work experience. List different positions held within the same company due to promotion or restructuring or downsizing or reinvention. List subtitles you hold if you are a parent or guardian (taxi driver, tutor, chef, nurse, crisis coordinator, maid, etc). Any mentoring you've received or performed and any charities you've supported past or present. Your map is a snapshot of your footprint in the world and how and why you are connected both intimately and distantly to potential relationships. Look at your inner and outer circles and see if there are connections from those circles out to the different quadrants. How are the quadrants connected and through whom are they connected? What would it be like if your inner circle were empty?  Listen as we talk about the map and the power of the map to invigorate our lives and make us healthier.  

Dorothie and Marty Hellman are co-authors of the wonderful book " A New Relationship Map". Our discussion touched on many topics in the book and on their personal lives.Some of the highlights of this engaging episode are:You lose the opportunity for celebration if you're berating yourself What we hate in others is usually what we hate in ourselvesYou can't be compassionate when you are in the framework of judgmentYou can't be angry at your angry self. You have to move through anger to get beyond itYou could be 100% certain of something and be absolutely wrongThe best ideas usually seem crazy aprioriAbout the authorsDorothie trained as a CPA and worked at Touche Ross—now Deloitte. She left her career to become a full-time volunteer at the Beyond War Foundation.Marty is best known for his invention of public-key cryptography, the technology that is used to transfer trillions of dollars every day. He is the winner of the 2015 ACM Turing Award. He is a Professor Emeritus at Stanford University. 

The team discusses what role resources play in being a disciple and we give three helpful resources to help new believers follow Jesus. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Disciple-Makers Leatherman Foundations Series Relationship Map Help Us Multiply the Mission Please subscribe Leave a rating and review us on iTunes Share this podcast on Facebook Become a monthly supporter at https://intotheharvest.org/donate/ We are a nonprofit ministry and donations help us create and share our content. Thanks for partnering with us! Connect With Us Have a question you want us to answer on the podcast? Email us at info@intotheharvest.org or... Visit us at https://www.speakpipe.com/intotheharvest and leave us a voice message When you’re recording, introduce yourself and your context in about 15 seconds, and then record your question for 30 seconds The post #63 –Simple and Helpful Resources to Help New Christians Follow Jesus appeared first on Into the Harvest

So much was covered in this interview, the following list is the tip of the iceberg. Dr Kerryann Cook, PhD, lead the way talking about: Get to couple counselling at the early signs of problems or distress – don't delay! Too many couples come to couple counselling too late, when a lot of damage has already been done Dr Kerryann shares her own model of relationships, “The Relationship Map” The impact of your attachment history on your relationship Dr Kerryann uses a very Australian metaphor, the roundabout, to explain how couples can go round-and-round in their relationships, very unhappy but not able to make change. An affair is one way, albeit not a good way, of getting off this roundabout I suggested to Dr Kerryann that instead of being stuck on the roundabout, couples should take the sign that reads “counsellor” Dr Kerryann explains what happens in couple counselling and makes great suggestions about how to make sure you and your counsellor are a good match How counsellors help couples, “uncouple well” creating functional co-parenting relationships Dr Kerryann generously shares a bit about her own story of co-operative co-parenting – while acknowledging that it's not easy for couples to act this way particularly in the early stages of separation; The value and importance of couple coaching and couple coaching groups; and Dr Kerryann's own couple coaching work including retreats in beautiful places e.g. Bali. And I thought you might want to know that after February 2020, Dr Kerryann Cook will be retiring from the University of New England. She won't be stopping though. As well as coaching couples, she will also traing professionals – including counsellors and psychologists – her method of relationship coaching, “The Relationship Map”. Finally, I should explain that the Australian definition of “thong” is “flip-flop”. This will make sense after you've listened to the episode. Enjoy! If you have any questions, comments or would like to find out more about my work in the world, head to theseparationfix.com or follow me on instagram instagram.com/the.separation.fix

My guest, Dr Kerryann Cook, PhD, has over 30 years experience with both individual and couple counselling as a psychologist and also as a lecturer training students in couple counselling. In short, she really knows what she's talking about when it comes to what makes relationship work and what to watch out for. Her #1 piece of advice is early intervention – when things get bumpy, don't wait! We discuss: Dr Kerryann's model of relationships, “The Relationship Map” and its 5 elements Understanding your attachment style, and that of your partner's, to get what you need from your relationship The joy of the “honeymoon phase” What's really going on, and wrong, in the “power struggle phase” The best time to take action for couple success How to have a thriving relationship - even if 70% of couple issues are in fact unresolvable “Dealbreakers” What would happen if couple's got an annual relationship “tune-up”? Focus on the good The pursuer-withdrawer dynamic What is really behind the phrase “We just grew apart”? What happens in high quality couple counselling What to look for when choosing a counsellor The power of couple coaching and couple relationship coaching and so much more… In fact, Dr Kerryann shared so much valuable information about counselling that this episode could also have been called episode “Couple Counselling Masterclass” And I thought you might want to know that after February 2020, Dr Kerryann Cook will be retiring from the University of New England. She won't be stopping though. As well as coaching couples, she will also be teaching professionals – including counsellors and psychologists – her method of relationship coaching, “The Relationship Map”. If you have any questions, comments or would like to find out more about my work in the world, head to theseparationfix.com or follow me on instagram instagram.com/the.separation.fix

With two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results, Dr. Jessica Higgins offers guidance and support through the way of coaching, programs and the Empowered Relationship Podcast. Her ultimate goal is to help people acquire the insight, learning, and practice to navigate the terrain of intimacy more effectively, so that pain and struggle can be transformed into deep love, connection, and vitality. Experience the moment where Dr. Higgins decided to surrender to grief. Not only did she allow herself to move through the pain of losing 'the one', she discovered a path to the most important relationship work of her entire life. Get a free Relationship Map to Happy, Lasting love here. Follow Dr. Higgins on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, LinkedIn and Twitter. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/brokenhearted/message

Last week’s episode (177), I discussed how difficult it can be when feeling distressed, threatened, and reactive to engage in comfort with a significant other. As one of my clients puts so well “Why would I want comfort from you, when you are they one that is causing me pain!” Many of us did not get the experience of having comfort when we were young. Thus, we developed ways to deal with it, but more importantly, we don’t have an internal system that we can trust to turn towards comfort and soothing in relationship. In episode 177, I offered some of the research to help give some general guidance in how to offer comfort. It is worth noting that there are typically some gender differences to consider, when offering comfort. Here is an article that might be helpful when contemplating how to offer comfort to a man: How to Comfort a Man, Co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC   For women, I would point to the tips mentioned in episode 177: Accept and listen to your partner. Understand the hurt. Be with the pain. Offer reflection and validation. Offer care and help. Show remorse, if appropriate. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) Today, we are going to explore how to offer comfort to your partner in ways that are specific and unique to them.   DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE (REFERENCING WIRED FOR LOVE, BY DR. STAN TATKIN): The importance of learning what comfort feels like for your partner. How to become an expert on your partner. Learning ways to lift up, reassure, and comfort when your partner is feeling vulnerable. Knowing your specific vulnerabilities. Knowing your partner’s specific vulnerabilities. Knowing the antidotes to your vulnerabilities Knowing the antidotes to their vulnerabilities. In successful relationships,“Both partners seem to have read and carefully studied the owner’s manual for their relationship and for each other.” by Dr. Stan Tatkin   MENTIONED: ERP 177: How to offer Comfort to Your Significant Other (podcast) Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, by Dr. Stan Tatkin How to Comfort a Man, Co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC ERP 068: What Women Really Want…Really! With Dr. Kathryn Foster (podcast) Relationship Map (opt-in download) Dr. Susan Johnson (website) Dr. John Gottman (website) Photo by Yuri Levin on Unsplash   CONNECT WITH DR. JESSICA HIGGINS:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com         If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.  

Discussed In This Episode: During stress, ways we get it wrong when we try to comfort our partner. How offering physical and emotional closeness is one of the most powerful ways to offer comfort. Ways to provide physical closeness (i.e. hugging, holding, sitting close). General ways to offer emotional closeness: 1. Accept and listen to your partner. 2. Understand the hurt. 3. Be with the pain. 4. Offer reflection and validation. 5. Offer care and help. 6. Show remorse, if appropriate. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)   Mentioned: ERP 176: How to Give and Receive Influence – an Interview with Dr. Keith Witt (podcast) Relationship Map (opt-in download) Dr. Susan Johnson (website) Dr. John Gottman (website) Photo by Gus Moretta on Unsplash   Connect With Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com    Transcript: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

In this episode, you will learn ways to address the difficulty and uncertainty of not knowing if your partner is really “in it” with you and what to do about it. If you missed Part One, you can check it out here. LISTENER’S QUESTIONS: Listener:..“I’m having a few issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He just can’t seem to stop messaging his exes. He knows I am very uncomfortable with it. We’ve broken up a few times due to this. I’m starting to think maybe I’m the issue and not him, and I don’t know what to do. We just recently got back together again, and he is doing (it) again. Maybe it’s my insecurities, maybe I should break up with him, maybe I should trust him…I’m stuck on ‘does he not care?’ ‘Does he just not love me?’ Should I break up with him?”… Listener:..“However, I didn’t learn about it until several hours later when he ‘suddenly remembered’ and said that that was happening ‘tomorrow night.’ When I asked him why this was the first I heard of it, he said, ‘I didn’t think of it.’ I was mad that this was the first I was hearing about it, when I’ve explained that we need to discuss in advance things that are going to affect ‘us’ or our time together. I was mad that I had just said that I wanted us to do something, and it sounded like he’s planning on going to this ‘going away’ party. I felt like he wasn’t making ‘us’ the priority.He then made it worse by saying that he didn’t choose which he wanted to do yet, somehow thinking by not choosing the party it was okay. When in reality, either way, he wasn’t choosing ‘us’…” (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) FINAL 4 (OF 8) QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER: Question #5: Do you have explicit agreements? Couples need to understand the importance of crystal-clear agreements. Relationship starts with a sense of flow, harmony, and connection that seems effortless. They experience a heightened state of arousal known as the “romance stage,” which is fueled by neurochemicals and not sustainable. When the honeymoon wears off, it can be confusing. Why are things no longer harmonious and smooth? Why doesn’t your partner get you? Why are there more misunderstandings? Every couple goes through five stages. Learn more about each stage by downloading a free Relationship Map, which describes what the long-term landscape of intimacy entails. Explicit agreements flush out assumptions, expectations, fears, and needs. What’s visible on the surface, isn’t always what’s going on underneath. Slow down and focus on safety, clarity, and vulnerability. Question #6: Do you clear up miscommunications with your significant other? Bringing up an issue is challenging. Especially, if you lack the confidence to address an issue productively and constructively. Do you best to handle matters in a calm way. While anger can give us the fuel to take action, it will often lead us to say and do things we do not mean. CheckoutERP 018: HOW TO DEAL WITH FEELINGS OF ANGER IN RELATIONSHIP.  Feeling angry, frustrated, or irritable indicates something that matters to you. Don’t let it go, and commit to addressing it constructively with your partner. Use the Communication Exercise as a resource. Use a gentle, curious, and relational approach to support a safe and inviting conversation. Develop a deeper level of understanding of your partner. Sometimes there may be more going on (i.e. ADHA, HSP, Anxiety, Depression, Stress, etc.) Question #7: Do you take care of yourself? Do you ignore or suppress feelings of insecurity and pain? There’s meaning and significance in those feelings. Pay attention to and address them. Pain is a part of life. It is important to learn how to deal with our pain. Boundaries are not to control someone, but for your limits in a relationship. Is your boundary reasonable and fair? Generally people will respect you setting boundaries, rather than lowering your standards. Question #8: Do you work toward a win-win? Strive for a win-win, so that the deal works for both people. This can be a paradigm shift to works towards a resolution that works for both people. If the resolution is not a win-win, it will not be sustainable over the long-term. MENTIONED: Relationship Map (opt-in) 7 Ways Relationship Fail (ebook opt-in) Shifting Criticism To Maintain A Healthy Relationship (guide) Shifting Criticism Into Connected Communication (course) ERP 163: What To Do When You Question “Is My Partner Really With Me?” (podcast) Couples’ Seminar with Melissa Orlov – The ADHD Effect In-Depth (course) ERP 051: How To Thrive With ADHD In Your Relationship (podcast) ERP 134: Sensitivity and Intimacy with Candy Crawford (podcast) ERP 160: How To Deal With Anxiety In Relationship (podcast) ERP 161: HOW TO SOOTHE ANXIETY IN RELATIONSHIP (podcast) ERP 057: How To Avoid Enabling Your Partner’s Destructive Behavior (podcast) ERP 074: How To Combat The Damage Of Stress In Your Relationship (podcast) ERP 075: How To Combat The Damage Of Stress In Your Relationship – Part Two ERP 006: Making And Keeping Agreements To Strengthen Your Relationship (podcast) ERP 109: How Being Gentle With Your Partner Can Make A Big Difference (podcast) Communication exercise (article) ERP 018: HOW TO DEAL WITH FEELINGS OF ANGER IN RELATIONSHIP (podcast) ERP 140: How Pain and Suffering Increase & What to Do about It (podcast) ERP 141: How To Decrease Relationship Pain and Suffering (podcast) Photo by Taylor L. Spurgeon on Unsplash TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! ❤ If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

What Makes a Book "Big"? We thought that because "Middlemarch" only weighs in at the 700-800 page range (compared to the 1200+ pages of "War and Peace"), there would somehow be less characters and relationships to keep track of... We were wrong. Luckily, other intrepid readers have come before us! Charles found and shared this hand drawn "Relationship Map of Middlemarch" posted by someone named Nickelini, on Photobucket.   This week's Palate cleansers - Pete - "The Library Book" by Susan Orlean, who will be at Central Library on February 20 for Arlington Reads. Megan - Mormom and the Meth-Head podcast Alex - "Lethal White" by Robert Galbraith

GUEST: MARTIN UCIK Martin Ucik is a German born entrepreneur who trained with Eckhart Tolle as a Power Of Now group facilitator and founded www.singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships. His studies of Ken Wilber’s Integral Model allowed him to integrate his personal experiences as a divorced father and the wisdom from over 200 relationship books into Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men which Ken Wilber calls “a terrific book!” and his new book Sex Purpose Love. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) LISTENERS’ QUESTIONS: First listener’s question: “I stumbled upon your podcast on Spotify and since then have found great value in it with my current relationship of 1.5 years. If possible I have some questions/topic that I would love to hear you cover. … One relationship question/topic that is a big stressor in my relationship is: My boyfriend is a police officer and in the National Guard. His jobs have really changed him like how he judges people really quickly and so on. Have you ever covered a topic similar to this?” Second listener’s question: “My worry is that I’ve grown and matured in my thinking over the past couple months and that my boyfriend and I won’t be on the same page. I tend to overthink and my boyfriend tries to simplify things, so oftentimes we balance each other out. However there are times when I think I’m maturing a lot faster than him and it sort of creates a mental gap between us. I’m not sure if that’s because we’re not compatible or if there’s a better way to communicate.” INTEGRAL THEORY Lines of development 5 stages of spiritual development 8 stages of consciousness 4 quadrants Personality matrix Developmental Lines for Relationship, based on Martin Ucik’s approach: Emotional availability Consciousness development Sexual development Spiritual development Anima/animus 8 STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT, BY MARTIN UCIK How we see the world and how we communicate. Survival Magical thinking Ego centric Mythic Rational Pluralistic Integral Transpersonal “Experience without theory is blind but theory without experience is mere intellectual play.” by Immanuel Kant How partners meet each other matters. In the past, partners would meet each other in places where they were likely to have similar perspectives, beliefs, and world views, like college, church, and interest based groups. It was more likely that partners would be at similar stages of consciousness. Whereas today, partners are meeting each other online and are more likely to be at different stages of consciousness, which poses great difficulty for couples. How do you determine what stage of development as person is in? Listen to what really matters to them. What do you recommend for a couple that is dealing with being at different stages of development?  Talk about your experience. Look at the stages of consciousness together. Be gentle in your approach with one another. Invite an openness and a willingness to explore. Sometimes, people will not be ready or willing to grow and develop. MENTIONED: Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men (book) Sex Purpose Love: Couples in Integral Relationships Creating a Better World (book) Relationship Map (opt-in) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love (book) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life — Second 2nd Edition (book) Integral Theory: Ken Wilber (Wikipedia) Ken Wilber (website) Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (book) Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (book) Passionate Marriage (book) Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love (book) The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition) (book) Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart (book) Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After (book) Alex Gray (website) ERP 006: Making And Keeping Agreements To Strengthen Your Relationship (podcast) ERP 140: How Pain and Suffering Increase & What to Do about It (podcast) ERP 141: How To Decrease Relationship Pain and Suffering (podcast) ERP 015: Do You Have A “Unity” Or “Journey” Mindset In Relationship? (podcast) TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Dealing with resentment in relationships help couples move forward positively with their lives and allow couples to have deeper connection. I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

On this episode of The Jeff Motske Show Podcast, Jeff discusses widow benefits in relation to social security.  In our Love And Money segment, Jeff and Kimber recognize who is affected by your decisions and who's decisions affect you.  Also, Vice President Of Wealth Planning at Trilogy Financial, Isaac Hansen joins Jeff in the studio. If you have a financial question for Jeff, call 1-800-399-9637 You can also email your questions here: askjeff@trilogyfs.com  

Lets have a candid discussion about creating. What does it mean in modern times to create our life from a spiritual perspective? What energetic potentials lie dormant within our emotional upsets and chronic physical issues?

LISTENER’S COMMENT: “I’ve been listening to your podcasts for the past few weeks and I’d like to say thank you for the insight and information. Unfortunately it’s too late to help in my current marriage, but it is very insightful. Coming from a family with parents that didn’t show love to one another I never learned how to express it in a productive way. My wife recently filed for divorce and it has placed me in a state of shock. I’ve been reflecting on our relationship, going to therapy and attending AA to help through this rough time and realize how broken I am … Nevertheless I am hopeful that I can become a better person in the long run and express myself fully with all those I encounter and your words and guests keep me going. Your podcasts have taught me new skills and opened my eyes to the reality of how to build a strong productive relationship and they also help me get through the rough days. I hope that others will hear you before it’s too late and work on developing themselves. God bless you and once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.” (PLEASE LISTEN TO THE PODCAST EPISODE OR READ THE TRANSCRIPT TO HEAR MORE EXPLANATIONS, STORIES AND EXAMPLES.) In this podcast episode, I share quotes and excerpts from Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Crucible, by John Welwood. I also discuss client stories that exemplify these concepts. Here are a few from the show: “While most people would like to have healthy, satisfying relationships in their lives, the truth is that everyone has a hard time with intimate partnerships.” by John Welwood “For one person to love another, this is the most difficult of all our tasks.” by Rilke “After numerous hardships and failures, many people have given up on intimate relationship, regarding the relational terrain as so fraught with romantic illusion and emotional hazards that it is no longer worth the energy.” by John Welwood “Although modern relationships are particularly challenging, their very difficulty presents a special arena for personal and spiritual growth.” by John Welwood “Yet opening to another also flushes to the surface all kinds of conditioned patterns and obstacles that tend to shut this connection down: our deepest wounds, our grasping and desperation, our worst fears, our mistrust, our rawest emotional trigger points.” by John Welwood “Many of us have a cartoon-like notion of relational bliss: that it should provide a steady state of security or solace that will save us from having to face the gritty, painful, difficult areas of life. We imagine that finding or marrying the right person will spare us from having to deal with such things as loneliness, disappointment, despair, terror, or disintegration. Yet anyone who has been married for a long time probably has some knowledge of the charnel ground quality of relationship” by John Welwood “The problem with running away when a relationship becomes difficult is that we are also turning away from ourselves and our potential breakthroughs. Fleeing the raw, wounded places in ourselves because we don’t think we can handle them is a form of self-rejection and self-abandonment that turns our feeling body into an abandoned, haunted house. The more we flee our shadowy places, the more they fester in the dark and the more haunted this house becomes. And the more haunted it becomes, the more it terrifies us. This is a vicious circle that keeps us cut off from and afraid of ourselves.” “One of the scariest places we encounter in relationship is a deep inner sense of unlove, where we don’t know that we’re truly lovable just for being who we are, where we feel deficient and don’t know our value. This is the raw wound of the heart, where we’re disconnected from our true nature, our inner perfection. Naturally we want to do everything we can to avoid this place, fix it, or neutralize it, so we’ll never have to experience such pain again.” by John Welwood “In relationship, it is two partners’ greater beings, gradually freeing themselves from the prison of conditioned patterns, that bring about this decisive defeat. And as this starts reverberating through their relationship, old expectations finally give way, old movies stop running, and a much larger acceptance than they believed possible can start opening up between them. As they become willing to face and embrace whatever stands between them—old relational wounds from the past, personal pathologies, difficulties hearing and understanding each other, different values and sensitivities—all in the name of loving and letting be, they are invited to “enter into reality.” Then it becomes possible to start encountering each other nakedly, in the open field of nowness, fresh and unfabricated, the field of love forever vibrating with unimagined possibilities.” by John Welwood MENTIONED: Build Happy, Love Presentation (webinar replay link – expires 4/17/17) Relationship Map (opt-in download – you will want this for the webinar) Connected Couple Information page (only accepting 20 couples) Discount code: cc500w (expires 4/17/17) Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Crucible TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 103: How Love Can Transform Us In Relationship [Transcript] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.

Tamara Nall founded The Leading Niche, a consulting firm to the federal government and larger firms.  She shares with us the secret of growing her company to $4M in revenue - the relationship map. For complete show notes: http://www.launchandlead.com/20