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In this compelling episode of Partnering Leadership, Mahan Tavakoli sits down with Misha Glouberman, a celebrated expert in communication and collaboration, to explore the vital role of effective communication in leadership. Misha, author of The Chairs Are Where the People Go, draws on years of experience helping organizations improve team dynamics, resolve conflicts, and foster trust. His refreshing insights challenge traditional notions of leadership and offer a more human-centric approach to managing teams and driving change.Throughout the conversation, Misha emphasizes the importance of aligning actions with values, both for individuals and organizations. He delves into the often-overlooked barriers to effective communication, from unspoken assumptions to misaligned priorities, and shares practical tools for overcoming these challenges. His nuanced approach to building trust, fostering collaboration, and addressing conflict resonates deeply with the complexities of modern leadership.Misha's unique ability to break down abstract concepts into actionable steps sets this conversation apart. Whether it's designing gatherings that truly connect people or addressing the hidden dynamics that fuel workplace silos, his advice is as practical as it is transformative. Leaders at all levels will find value in his guidance on how to create environments where feedback flows freely and trust becomes the foundation for success.Actionable TakeawaysDiscover why most organizational problems are rooted in communication breakdowns—and how to address them.Hear how to create an environment where feedback is not only welcomed but becomes a cornerstone of team growth.Learn why trust isn't built overnight and the consistent actions leaders must take to foster it.Explore Misha's counterintuitive advice on breaking silos by letting go of control.Uncover the key to aligning team actions with their core values and principles for sustained success.Find out how to turn gatherings into meaningful experiences that drive connection and collaboration—not just more presentations.Gain insights on navigating team conflict by focusing on role clarity and accountability.Understand how leaders can model a growth mindset by owning their role in organizational dynamics.Hear Misha's practical framework for aligning your leadership approach with the challenges and goals of today's workforce.Learn why the best communication tools are built on transparency, curiosity, and empathy—and how to apply them.Connect with Misha GloubermanMisha Glouberman Website Misha Glouberman LinkedIn Connect with Mahan Tavakoli: Mahan Tavakoli Website Mahan Tavakoli on LinkedIn Partnering Leadership Website
Welcome to The Nonlinear Library, where we use Text-to-Speech software to convert the best writing from the Rationalist and EA communities into audio. This is: Why so many "racists" at Manifest?, published by Austin on June 18, 2024 on The Effective Altruism Forum. Manifest 2024 is a festival that we organized last weekend in Berkeley. By most accounts, it was a great success. On our feedback form, the average response to "would you recommend to a friend" was a 9.0/10. Reviewers said nice things like "one of the best weekends of my life" and "dinners and meetings and conversations with people building local cultures so achingly beautiful they feel almost like dreams" and "I've always found tribalism mysterious, but perhaps that was just because I hadn't yet found my tribe." Arnold Brooks running a session on Aristotle's Metaphysics. More photos of Manifest here. However, a recent post on The Guardian and review on the EA Forum highlight an uncomfortable fact: we invited a handful of controversial speakers to Manifest, whom these authors call out as "racist". Why did we invite these folks? First: our sessions and guests were mostly not controversial - despite what you may have heard Here's the schedule for Manifest on Saturday: (The largest & most prominent talks are on the left. Full schedule here.) And here's the full list of the 57 speakers we featured on our website: Nate Silver, Luana Lopes Lara, Robin Hanson, Scott Alexander, Niraek Jain-sharma, Byrne Hobart, Aella, Dwarkesh Patel, Patrick McKenzie, Chris Best, Ben Mann, Eliezer Yudkowsky, Cate Hall, Paul Gu, John Phillips, Allison Duettmann, Dan Schwarz, Alex Gajewski, Katja Grace, Kelsey Piper, Steve Hsu, Agnes Callard, Joe Carlsmith, Daniel Reeves, Misha Glouberman, Ajeya Cotra, Clara Collier, Samo Burja, Stephen Grugett, James Grugett, Javier Prieto, Simone Collins, Malcolm Collins, Jay Baxter, Tracing Woodgrains, Razib Khan, Max Tabarrok, Brian Chau, Gene Smith, Gavriel Kleinwaks, Niko McCarty, Xander Balwit, Jeremiah Johnson, Ozzie Gooen, Danny Halawi, Regan Arntz-Gray, Sarah Constantin, Frank Lantz, Will Jarvis, Stuart Buck, Jonathan Anomaly, Evan Miyazono, Rob Miles, Richard Hanania, Nate Soares, Holly Elmore, Josh Morrison. Judge for yourself; I hope this gives a flavor of what Manifest was actually like. Our sessions and guests spanned a wide range of topics: prediction markets and forecasting, of course; but also finance, technology, philosophy, AI, video games, politics, journalism and more. We deliberately invited a wide range of speakers with expertise outside of prediction markets; one of the goals of Manifest is to increase adoption of prediction markets via cross-pollination. Okay, but there sure seemed to be a lot of controversial ones… I was the one who invited the majority (~40/60) of Manifest's special guests; if you want to get mad at someone, get mad at me, not Rachel or Saul or Lighthaven; certainly not the other guests and attendees of Manifest. My criteria for inviting a speaker or special guest was roughly, "this person is notable, has something interesting to share, would enjoy Manifest, and many of our attendees would enjoy hearing from them". Specifically: Richard Hanania - I appreciate Hanania's support of prediction markets, including partnering with Manifold to run a forecasting competition on serious geopolitical topics and writing to the CFTC in defense of Kalshi. (In response to backlash last year, I wrote a post on my decision to invite Hanania, specifically) Simone and Malcolm Collins - I've enjoyed their Pragmatist's Guide series, which goes deep into topics like dating, governance, and religion. I think the world would be better with more kids in it, and thus support pronatalism. I also find the two of them to be incredibly energetic and engaging speakers IRL. Jonathan Anomaly - I attended a talk Dr. Anomaly gave about the state-of-the-art on polygenic embryonic screening. I was very impressed that something long-considered scien...
In this episode of Pearls On, Gloves Off, Mary is joined by Misha Glouberman, an acclaimed author, advisor, and coach who excels in the art of effective communication and managing difficult conversations. Together, they explore the intricate dance between analytic thinking and emotional understanding in the workplace. Mary and Misha delve into: • Effective Communication: Misha underscores the critical importance of balancing analytical and emotional aspects in communications, focusing on real-world business problems that stem from human challenges like miscommunication and conflict avoidance. • The Human Element in Business: They discuss how most organizational issues are essentially human problems and the value of addressing these to achieve tangible outcomes. • Navigating People Problems: With insights from Misha's book, The Chairs Are Where the People Go, which has been highly praised for its insightful approach to everyday issues, they explore practical strategies for better interpersonal interactions. • Technology's Role: The conversation touches on how technology impacts human interactions in business settings, emphasizing the need for a harmonious integration of tech solutions and human-centric approaches. • Personal Insights: Misha provides personal anecdotes and professional advice on fostering effective communication within teams, emphasizing transparency, empathy, and the need for strategic personal interactions. Follow & Connect: Follow Mary on LinkedIn: Mary's LinkedIn Follow Ironclad on LinkedIn: Ironclad LinkedIn Watch Ironclad on YouTube: Ironclad YouTube Check out Ironclad on TikTok: Ironclad TikTok Rate and review on Apple Podcasts: Pearls On, Gloves Off - Apple Podcasts
Misha Glouberman runs a program called “How to Talk to People About Things,” is a faculty director at the executive education program at the Ivy Business School, and the host of Trampoline Hall. In our conversation we work on how to get out of our own way when we're having a conversation; the foundational error that derails a good conversation; how curiosity can be a saving grace; why we so often continue to tolerate short-term irritation; and why we're often not bold enough in owning up to what irritates us most.
How huge a deal is climate change, really? What's the right metric for determining how bad climate change effects will be? How do the forecasts made by climate experts differ from those made by superforecasters? Which pieces of the climate change puzzle are we absolutely sure about right now, and which pieces are still speculative or under investigation? Where can we find trustworthy information about climate change? How can we navigate conversations about these topics without becoming defensive?Diana Ürge-Vorsatz is a professor at the Central European University in Vienna, and also Vice Chair of Working Group III (Mitigation) in the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) – the UN's science panel on climate change. She has a PhD from the University of California (Los Angeles and Berkeley) in Environmental Sciences and Engineering. Diana has over 100 peer-reviewed publications and has been serving on a wide range of academic and corporate advisory and governing bodies, including the UK Energy Research Center (UKERC), European Climate Foundation, Austrian Climate and Energy Fund (Klien), McKinsey, RWE, European Research Council, and IIASA. She regularly provides expert analysis related to environmental issues to the media, including BBC World News, BBC4, BBC World Service, Euronews, RTL, TRT, NTV, ITV. Diana is a proud mother of 7 children and a national champion in Orienteering. She lives with her family in Budapest, Hungary. Follow her on Twitter at @dianaurge or on Instagram at @dr_diana_urgevorsatz.Misha Glouberman is a consultant who helps companies get unstuck on all sorts of issues, ranging from retention problems, to underperforming teams, to creating collaborative cultures across silos and in hybrid workplaces. He does this by helping people talk to each other in ways that are effective, authentic, and human. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures in Toronto and is the co-author, with Sheila Heti, of The Chairs Are Where The People Go. He does lots of online events, so join his email list to learn more about them. You can also find him on Twitter, LinkedIn, and his website, mishaglouberman.com. (NOTE: Misha was on our podcast back in episode 109!)Further reading:"Superforecasting Long-Term Risks and Climate Change""Forecasting Our World in Data: The Next 100 Years""Climate and weather at 3 degrees more: An Earth as we do not (want to) know it""Climate Endgame: Exploring catastrophic climate change scenarios""Exceeding 1.5°C global warming could trigger multiple climate tipping points"Notes from Misha's climate talk at BitNorth[Read more]
How huge a deal is climate change, really? What's the right metric for determining how bad climate change effects will be? How do the forecasts made by climate experts differ from those made by superforecasters? Which pieces of the climate change puzzle are we absolutely sure about right now, and which pieces are still speculative or under investigation? Where can we find trustworthy information about climate change? How can we navigate conversations about these topics without becoming defensive?Diana Ürge-Vorsatz is a professor at the Central European University in Vienna, and also Vice Chair of Working Group III (Mitigation) in the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) – the UN's science panel on climate change. She has a PhD from the University of California (Los Angeles and Berkeley) in Environmental Sciences and Engineering. Diana has over 100 peer-reviewed publications and has been serving on a wide range of academic and corporate advisory and governing bodies, including the UK Energy Research Center (UKERC), European Climate Foundation, Austrian Climate and Energy Fund (Klien), McKinsey, RWE, European Research Council, and IIASA. She regularly provides expert analysis related to environmental issues to the media, including BBC World News, BBC4, BBC World Service, Euronews, RTL, TRT, NTV, ITV. Diana is a proud mother of 7 children and a national champion in Orienteering. She lives with her family in Budapest, Hungary. Follow her on Twitter at @dianaurge or on Instagram at @dr_diana_urgevorsatz.Misha Glouberman is a consultant who helps companies get unstuck on all sorts of issues, ranging from retention problems, to underperforming teams, to creating collaborative cultures across silos and in hybrid workplaces. He does this by helping people talk to each other in ways that are effective, authentic, and human. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures in Toronto and is the co-author, with Sheila Heti, of The Chairs Are Where The People Go. He does lots of online events, so join his email list to learn more about them. You can also find him on Twitter, LinkedIn, and his website, mishaglouberman.com. (NOTE: Misha was on our podcast back in episode 109!)Further reading:"Superforecasting Long-Term Risks and Climate Change""Forecasting Our World in Data: The Next 100 Years""Climate and weather at 3 degrees more: An Earth as we do not (want to) know it""Climate Endgame: Exploring catastrophic climate change scenarios""Exceeding 1.5°C global warming could trigger multiple climate tipping points"Notes from Misha's climate talk at BitNorth
Why is most communication advice so fluffy? How can we actually communicate better? Why do we sometimes fail to say what we mean or what needs to be said? What counts as "nonviolent" communication? To what extent is avoidance of conflict and confrontation a result of agreeableness versus cowardice? What aspects of divorce aren't talked about enough?Misha Glouberman helps people communicate and connect better. He teaches a course called How to Talk to People About Things, online and in person, that helps people get better outcomes in their most important conversations at work and at home. He is an expert facilitator and designer of online and in-person events. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures in Toronto, and is the co-author, with Sheila Heti, of The Chairs Are Where The People Go. He does lots of online events, so join his email list to learn more about them.
Why is most communication advice so fluffy? How can we actually communicate better? Why do we sometimes fail to say what we mean or what needs to be said? What counts as "nonviolent" communication? To what extent is avoidance of conflict and confrontation a result of agreeableness versus cowardice? What aspects of divorce aren't talked about enough?Misha Glouberman helps people communicate and connect better. He teaches a course called How to Talk to People About Things, online and in person, that helps people get better outcomes in their most important conversations at work and at home. He is an expert facilitator and designer of online and in-person events. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures in Toronto, and is the co-author, with Sheila Heti, of The Chairs Are Where The People Go. He does lots of online events, so join his email list to learn more about them.[Read more]
Why is most communication advice so fluffy? How can we actually communicate better? Why do we sometimes fail to say what we mean or what needs to be said? What counts as "nonviolent" communication? To what extent is avoidance of conflict and confrontation a result of agreeableness versus cowardice? What aspects of divorce aren't talked about enough?Misha Glouberman helps people communicate and connect better. He teaches a course called How to Talk to People About Things, online and in person, that helps people get better outcomes in their most important conversations at work and at home. He is an expert facilitator and designer of online and in-person events. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures in Toronto, and is the co-author, with Sheila Heti, of The Chairs Are Where The People Go. He does lots of online events, so join his email list to learn more about them.
In this episode of the You Are Not So Smart Podcast, we sit down once again with Misha Glouberman, an expert on conflict and conversation, to discuss how best to improve your communication skills and turn what you suspect will be a difficult interaction into something marvelous and fruitful - the sort of talk that strengthens your relationship with the other person and leaves you both feeling like you gained and learned something – the kind you'd like to have again. Mentioned in the show, here is the link to a free online class with Misha Glouberman on Feb 1st. Patreon: http://patreon.com/youarenotsosmart See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
An interview with Misha Glouberman about the art of the difficult conversation.
Misha Glouberman teaches communication skills, and facilitates meetings and conferences for organizations. He has taught his course How to Talk to People About Things to hundreds of people imparting memorable and effective negotiation and conflict resolution skills which have been described as "life changing". He is the co-author of the book The Chairs Are Where the People Go, which the New Yorker named as one of its top nonfiction books of 2011 and described as "a triumph of what might be called conversational philosophy." In it, Misha relays everything he knows about communication, conferences, relationships, making friends, monogamy, playing charades and more. In this episode with Misha we cover: The importance of intending for your work to be life changing Understanding everyone is a character in their own movie Conversations as improv games How the best negotiators aim to maximize both substance and relationship in a negotiation A reframe to help bring up difficult topics in conversations Why you are probably running your meeting wrong You can find him at https://www.mishaglouberman.com/ Never miss an episode by subscribing to my email list: https://asadbadruddin.substack.com/
In this episode of the You Are Not So Smart Podcast, we sit down with nine experts on communication, conversation, and persuasion to discuss the best methods for reaching out to the vaccine hesitant with the intention of nudging them away from hesitancy and toward vaccination. Mentioned in the show, here is the link to a free online class with Misha Glouberman where you will learn how to have better conversations with the vaccine hesitant: LINK Patreon: http://patreon.com/youarenotsosmart See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Misha Glouberman is a communications expert, educator, author, and public speaker with a knack for helping people to get the most out of their conversations. He discovered his talent at a young age, as early as grade school, where he would intuitively identify misunderstandings between teacher and student. Though he couldn't have known it at the time, Misha would later take his gift and turn it into a profession, and become an educator himself. Today, Misha uses his expertise to help corporate clients improve their culture by facilitating healthy communication from top to bottom. He also teaches a course, available to the public, which is aptly titled, "How To Talk to People About Things".In his work, Misha emphasizes the importance of remaining conscious on both sides of a conversation - speaking and listening; as well as removing oneself from their own "story", and opening their minds to the story on the other side. Even in the midst of conflict or argument, Misha says it is essential to practice compassionate, conscious conversation - striving to understand even in the face of disagreement, and working with the other party on proceeding forward by first finding common ground. In today's digital age, Misha says many fundamentals of healthy conversation still apply, and that the advent of digital communication is in fact a boon to the overall landscape of human communication.In this episode of Stories of Transformation, we take a deep dive into the essence of conversation - how it works; as well as common issues and how to overcome them. Misha provides some practical tips on how to cultivate better conversations - methods to increase efficiency, to maximize productivity, and to strengthen relationships through earnest listening and authenticity. Misha's insights are at once incredibly profound and surprisingly simple, and best of all, many of them are directly applicable to conversations in everyday life - no matter the medium.----For full show noteshttps://www.baktashahadi.com/podcastConnect with Misha GloubermanWebsite: http://www.mishaglouberman.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/mishaglouberman?s=20Facebook: How to Talk to People About ThingsResourcesPurchase Misha Glouberman's book, "The Chairs Are Where the People Go: How To Live, Work, and Play in the City"https://amzn.to/2PUnn1ZLearn more about Misha's course: "How To Talk to People About Things"http://www.mishaglouberman.com/negotiationFollow/Support Stories of Transformation and Baktash AhadiDonate to the production of this podcasthttps://www.baktashahadi.com/supportFollow us on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/stories_of_transformation/Follow us on FacebookStories of TransformationCreditsHosted by: Baktash Ahadihttps://www.baktashahadi.comProduced by: Joseph Gangemihttps://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-gangemi-audio/Digital Marketing & Media by: Katherine Anhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/katherine-a-91081b56/Theme music by: Qais Essarwww.therabab.comArtwork by: Masheed Ahadihttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/masheedEpisode Music Credits"Burst" by Borrtex"Be Still" by Doug Kaufman"New World" by Ian Post
Misha Glouberman helps people communicate better. He teaches communication skills, runs meetings and conferences for organizations, hosts live events, and speaks at conferences. He is the author, with Sheila Heti, of the book ‘The Chairs Are Where the People Go’ – which the New Yorker named as one of its top nonfiction books of 2011. He relays everything he knows about communication, conferences, relationships, making friends, monogamy, playing charades and more. This episode is sponsored by Canva Pro. It’s the easy-to-use design platform that has everything you need to design like a pro. It has all you need in one place, including a collection of over 75 million premium photos, videos, audio and graphics. As a Canva Pro subscriber, I love so many of their features including the brand kit, which makes it really easy to collaborate with my team. Claim your FREE 45 day extended trial by signing up via https://www.canva.com/affiliates/TIMECRAFTING/?_branch_match_id=764460006028471630 (Canva.me/timecrafting).This episode is sponsored by LinkedIn Jobs. When your business is ready to make that next hire, LinkedIn Jobs can help by matching your role with qualified candidates so that you can find the right person quickly. You can pay what you want and get the first $50 off. Just visit https://linkedin.com/timecrafting (linkedin.com/timecrafting) to get fifty dollars off your first job post. Terms and conditions apply.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. BetterHelp offers you access to your own licensed professional therapist – all from the comfort of wherever you are. You can arrange weekly video chats or phone calls, text with your carefully curated counsellor, and do so at an affordable price. And anything you share is confidential. I’ve been using BetterHelp for a while and I am highly impressed. It’s been a huge help for me and I know it can be the same for you. Start living a happier life today with BetterHelp. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting https://betterhelp.com/timecrafting (betterhelp.com/timecrafting). Give BetterHelp a try today. I’ve put together a FREE challenge that will forge the future that you want. Taking place over 3 days from March 26th - 28th 2021, it’s called the Forge Your Future Challenge. Hosted by me and I’ll be livestreaming the event with a wide variety of activities leading up to the challenge. Simply go to https://productivityist.com/forgeyourfuture/ (Productivityist.com/ForgeYourFuture) and sign up to this free challenge today. 10 years on from writing the book, I catch up with Misha to find out what has been going on in his life. In this episode, we discuss what 99% of conferences aren’t doing, how to make meaningful online connections and the social and technological design considerations for good online networking. Talking Points Misha’s focus on building connections during the pandemic (4:43) Dissecting the problem with remote events (9:34) Why so many conferences fail to deliver a true experience (11:09) Lessons from improv (30:32) Innovation from uncertainty (32:06) The power of vulnerability and reconsidering your social networks (37:03) Quote "There are things that are really important to us as humans, so why do we make them hard to say?" Helpful Links https://www.amazon.com/Chairs-Are-Where-People-Go/dp/0865479453 (‘The Chairs Are Where the People Go’ by Misha Glouberman) https://stevenpressfield.com/ (Steven Pressfield) https://worlddominationsummit.com/ (World Domination Summit) https://productivityist.com/captivate-podcast/why-you-need-atomic-habits-with-james-clear/ (Episode 227: Why You Need Atomic Habits with James Clear) https://productivityist.com/thebigready/ (The BIG Ready) http://www.mishaglouberman.com/ (MishaGlouberman.com) https://twitter.com/mishaglouberman (Misha’s Twitter) https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/misha-glouberman-57564/ (Misha’s LinkedIn) Want to discover some of the books...
Ep. 16 – Misha Glouberman – Why You Suck at Listening (and How to Improve) by Chris Clearfield
TORONTO / NYC — Sheila Heti is the author of the short story collection the Middle Stories (2001), the short novel Ticknor (2005), the philosophy book the Chairs Are Where The People Go (2011), co-written by Misha Glouberman, How Should A Person Be? (2012), and Motherhood (2018). She also co-edited the collection Women in Clothes (2014). And wrote the intro to the new release of this Virginia Woolf essay, How Should One Read A Book? (2020). Her next book, Pure Colour, is coming out in January 2022. I first encountered Sheila’s writing in late 2014, when I tore through How Should A Person Be? in a night. I’ve since done a handful of pods on her books, so this is really exciting for me, it’s been a long time coming. We recorded this late last week. Sheila Heti lives in Toronto. Here is a link to her website, with links to all her books: http://www.sheilaheti.com Sheila's podcast "Podcast With Raisins": https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-with-raisins/id1193833547 CONTENTS 8 min - pod start 12 min - Sheila’s current project 15 min - the book isn’t finished till it’s separate from you 16 min - me tryna turn real life into an Art Idea 20 min - How Ticknor different but also similar to her other books 24 min - friendship/angels 25 min - how I first encountered Sheila's writing 36 min - on walking / Richard Serra 40 min - “art should be taken off the pedestal” 42 min - Middle Stories reactions / why she wrote Ticknor 45 min - publishing right after 9/11 50 min - Sheila outing me for being in school lolol 55 min - Malcolm gladwell story 1 hr 4 min - coin stuff / mysticism 1 hr 7 min - on God 1 hr 11 min - on Nietzsche 1 hr 12 min - “the great writers rearrange your brain” 1 hr 13 min - Schopenhauer, Kierkegaard, Martin Buber 1 hr 16 - “who decides that something is good is the Culture / having supporters” / Wittgenstein 1 hr 21 min - “the person who loves a book is the one who’s right about it” / criticism 1 hr 28 min - on cigs / tobacco Intro song: https://soundcloud.com/yeums/thank-you-master Related episode - solo rant on Motherhood (1.3.2018): https://soundcloud.com/1storypod/29-family-failure-and-procreation-in-motherhood-2018-by-sheila-heti-1storypod-with-st-conroe Sean Thor Conroe lives in Harlem.
We are joined by the wise and thoughtful Misha Glouberman, who organises Internet cocktail parties and better, more human-friendly meetings for organisations and teams—and the two turn out to have a lot in common. SHOW LINKS: - Misha: http://www.mishaglouberman.com - Trampoline Hall: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/trampoline-hall/id1190668782?mt=2 - Internet Cocktail Party Instructions: https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-run-a-zoom-cocktail-party-and-have-better-classes-conferences-and-meetings-too-dc2c5b58f8be - Gather.town: https://gather.town/ - CITCON: https://citconf.com --- Our new book, Agile Conversations, is out now! See https://conversationaltransformation.com where you can order your copy and get a free video when you join our mailing list! We'd love to hear any thoughts, ideas, or feedback you have about the show. Email us at info@conversationaltransformation.com
Conflict-resolution expert Misha Glouberman answers listener calls to help solve their problems. Plus, a body-language expert diagnoses relationship issues with a mere glance.
How did I find today's guest? Through this article: How to Host a Cocktail Party on Zoom (and have better classes, conferences and meetings, too) written by Misha Glouberman, that Michael Bungay Stanier shared on LinkedIn. As I read the article, my jaw dropped. The level of consideration around facilitating this birthday party was next level! From this one article, you could tell how much he values the finer details of hosting an event. Misha Glouberman teaches communication skills, runs meetings and conferences for organizations, hosts live events, and speaks at conferences. His work has been described as “humanizing relationships—one event at a time." In this episode, you'll learn how we can get better at our conversations by zooming out, how to be collaborative when solving problems AND he also shares an incident he had as a panellist, when someone in the audience, called him out! Listen in for that story and more imporantly, what Misha learnt from it. Click here for show notes Join the Virtually Possible movement Chat with other amazing facilitators in The Flipchart Shhh... I'm releasing 5 secret podcast episodes over 5 days to help you book out your facilitation business, BUT you need to register to get access.Head on over to bookedoutfacilitator.comSupport the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/leannehughes)
In this episode, I talk with Misha Glouberman and I explore the nuance of a conversation. Admittedly, this was not my best interview. There was a moment in the interview where I was so caught up in being understood that Misha and I got in a silly dance where I broke all the rules of successful conversations. The irony of this conversation is that it demonstrates the best and the worst of great conversations.A few of the key things that stood out for me are:So often conflict blinds us to how what we are fighting for is actually working against our own goals and objectives.At the start of the conversation, Misha tells a fascinating story that can be teased apart in many different ways. He tells the story of how a group of neighbours were fighting very hard to close a bar and, in the end, if they got what they wanted, they would have been worse off. In that story, he also highlights that conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it is just a part of life and we can use conversation to improve our experience of conversations.How much do you caught up in your own story?So many of us hold on to the story we tell ourselves without question our own conclusions to the story. So often, the stories we tell ourselves prevents us from helping the conversation move forward. Can we take a “yes and” frame for the conversation?Language and framing are important.In this episode, we explore different framings of the story he introduces in the beginning. Sometimes when we get into a fight with someone, the truth is, even if we win, we lose. Can we be intentional about how we contribute unproductive conversations?It is important to acknowledge that a successful conversation is not free of bad or negative feelings.We spend some time talking about the importance of seeing what are trying to say. In many conversations, we do not actually say what we wanted to say. Some of this is that we try to smooth things over and we put aside the things that are important to us. What is the easy thing for us to say?How can I get better at having my mind changed?For most of us, our goal is to change the mind of another person. What if the goal was to get better at changing our own mind? I find this to be a profound provocation and to sit deeply with this question takes a lot of work. Even deeper to try to turn this into a conversational practice is even more difficult but a worthy pursuit.Very often it is against your interest to make things antagonistic.For most of us, we get so caught up in what we want. So, we focus on ensuring that the person hears the point we think they are missing. We tell them that thing we have always wanted to tell them. In the end, our approach to the conversation is self-serving and not generative. What if instead you tried to understand what they wanted and worked to ensure what you both get more of what you want. Part of the goal of this podcast is to find ways to improve conversations.Conversations sit within a social context.One of the biggest insights from this conversation came for me when Misha reminded me that many of our beliefs are largely influenced by our social context. It is difficult to hold a belief that contradicts the dominant beliefs in that culture. The views we hold can alienate or provide us with belonging. The social context plays into the beliefs we hold.Change others mind by changing what you do.A good reminder for me was that, if the goal is to change the mind of another person, then we are both caught in a gridlock. Instead of trying to change their mind, we can manage what we are in control of. Our own behaviour.How do you get people to do x, do x?If I want to get people to be more collaborative, I need to be more collaborative. We get people to change by changing the way we do things.ConclusionThis episode was a rich and deep dive into the nuance of conversation and it was wonderful to be in conversation with Misha.Learn more about Misha Glouberman by visiting his website: http://www.mishaglouberman.com/
In this episode, I talk with Misha Glouberman and I explore the nuance of a conversation. Admittedly, this was not my best interview. There was a moment in the interview where I was so caught up in being understood that Misha and I got in a silly dance where I broke all the rules of successful conversations. The irony of this conversation is that it demonstrates the best and the worst of great conversations.A few of the key things that stood out for me are:So often conflict blinds us to how what we are fighting for is actually working against our own goals and objectives.At the start of the conversation, Misha tells a fascinating story that can be teased apart in many different ways. He tells the story of how a group of neighbours were fighting very hard to close a bar and, in the end, if they got what they wanted, they would have been worse off. In that story, he also highlights that conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it is just a part of life and we can use conversation to improve our experience of conversations.How much do you caught up in your own story?So many of us hold on to the story we tell ourselves without question our own conclusions to the story. So often, the stories we tell ourselves prevents us from helping the conversation move forward. Can we take a “yes and” frame for the conversation?Language and framing are important.In this episode, we explore different framings of the story he introduces in the beginning. Sometimes when we get into a fight with someone, the truth is, even if we win, we lose. Can we be intentional about how we contribute unproductive conversations?It is important to acknowledge that a successful conversation is not free of bad or negative feelings.We spend some time talking about the importance of seeing what are trying to say. In many conversations, we do not actually say what we wanted to say. Some of this is that we try to smooth things over and we put aside the things that are important to us. What is the easy thing for us to say?How can I get better at having my mind changed?For most of us, our goal is to change the mind of another person. What if the goal was to get better at changing our own mind? I find this to be a profound provocation and to sit deeply with this question takes a lot of work. Even deeper to try to turn this into a conversational practice is even more difficult but a worthy pursuit.Very often it is against your interest to make things antagonistic.For most of us, we get so caught up in what we want. So, we focus on ensuring that the person hears the point we think they are missing. We tell them that thing we have always wanted to tell them. In the end, our approach to the conversation is self-serving and not generative. What if instead you tried to understand what they wanted and worked to ensure what you both get more of what you want. Part of the goal of this podcast is to find ways to improve conversations.Conversations sit within a social context.One of the biggest insights from this conversation came for me when Misha reminded me that many of our beliefs are largely influenced by our social context. It is difficult to hold a belief that contradicts the dominant beliefs in that culture. The views we hold can alienate or provide us with belonging. The social context plays into the beliefs we hold.Change others mind by changing what you do.A good reminder for me was that, if the goal is to change the mind of another person, then we are both caught in a gridlock. Instead of trying to change their mind, we can manage what we are in control of. Our own behaviour.How do you get people to do x, do x?If I want to get people to be more collaborative, I need to be more collaborative. We get people to change by changing the way we do things.ConclusionThis episode was a rich and deep dive into the nuance of conversation and it was wonderful to be in conversation with Misha.Learn more about Misha Glouberman by visiting his website: http://www.mishaglouberman.com/
Some years ago I was wandering up my street, Roncesvalles Avenue, here in Toronto where I live. I wandered into my library and one of the reasons I go into the library is so I can wander the shelves and I can let serendipity happen. A book waves at you and goes, hey, notice me! In this visit, a book leapt off the shelf: The Chairs Are Where the People Go. As a facilitator and somebody who cares about group dynamics, I thought … well that's interesting, what is this about? So I took it home and I read it, and I came to know its author, Misha Glouberman Misha runs a program “How to Talk to People About Things” and is also a faculty director at the executive education program at the Ivy Business School. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures, which are a quirky Toronto bar room lecture series, which have a fabulous energy and fabulous speakers. It's like TED, if it had a punk spirit. His book, The Chairs Are Where the People Go, was named by The New Yorker magazine as one of its top nonfiction books of that year. In our conversation we work on how to get out of our own way when we’re having a conversation; the foundational error that derails a good conversation; how curiosity can be a saving grace; why we so often continue to tolerate short-term irritation; and why we’re often not bold enough in owning up to what irritates us most. You can meet Misha at his website www.MishaGlouberman.com. This show is brought to you by The Advice Trap, Michael Bungay Stanier’s latest book. You can access a wide range of tools to help #TameYourAdviceMonster at www.TheAdviceTrap.com If you’d like to spend more time with Michael and people he admires, sign up for The Year of Living Brilliantly. 52 teachers over 52 weeks, each teaching one brilliant insight. Absolutely free.
In this episode, we sit down with negotiation expert Misha Glouberman who explains how to talk to people about things -- that is, how to avoid the pitfalls associated with debate when two or more people attempt to come to an agreement that will be mutually beneficial. - Show notes at: www.youarenotsosmart.com - Become a patron at: www.patreon.com/youarenotsosmart SPONSORS • The Great Courses: www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/smart • Squarespace: www.squarespace.com/sosmart See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, we sit down with negotiation expert Misha Glouberman who explains how to talk to people about things -- that is, how to avoid the pitfalls associated with debate when two or more people attempt to come to an agreement that will be mutually beneficial. - Show notes at: www.youarenotsosmart.com - Become a patron at: www.patreon.com/youarenotsosmart SPONSORS • The Great Courses: www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/smart • Squarespace: www.squarespace.com/sosmart See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Affirmation is the key to improv. It's a way to become more spontaneous, creative, and achieve true collaboration. But at a time when Keith Johnstone's foundational text, Impro is also on Peter Thiel's employee reading list, at what point does "yes, and..." become a tool for blind compliance? In this episode, Aliya examines three iterations of comedian Chris Locke's joke about going to therapy to understand why improv is the multitool of comedy. After taking an 18-hour improv intensive, Aliya hires four improvisers to improvise her improv class, and Misha Glouberman remembers the days when improv was punk. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Over a decade ago, Rose was kicked out of her college sorority. “You know what you did,” was the only explanation she was ever given. All these years later, Rose still wants to know what it is she did. Credits Heavyweight is hosted and produced by Jonathan Goldstein. This episode was also produced by Kalila Holt. The senior producer is Kaitlin Roberts. Editing by Jorge Just, Alex Blumberg, and Wendy Dorr. Special thanks to Emily Condon, Stevie Lane, Misha Glouberman, and Jackie Cohen. The show was mixed by Kate Bilinski. Music by Christine Fellows and John K Samson, with additional music by Blue Dot Sessions, Michael Charles Smith, Hew Time, and Keen Collective. Our theme song is by The Weakerthans courtesy of Epitaph Records, and our ad music is by Haley Shaw.
Every live Trampoline Hall event begins with Misha Glouberman giving the exact same introduction. In this episode we play that intro in its entirety. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Misha Glouberman has been hosting Trampoline Hall, a barroom lecture series created by author Sheila Heti, for 15 years. He and Jesse are almost, but not quite, friends. Misha's Twitter: @mishaglouberman Trampoline Hall's Twitter: @trampolinehall The Trampoline Hall website: http://www.trampolinehall.net/Support CANADALAND: https://canadaland.com/joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this Canola Watch podcast, host Jay Whetter talks with Misha Glouberman about conflict resolution and the important distinction between "position" and "interest". Listening to this podcast can help you with any conflict — whether family, community or business.
Welcome to episode #494 of Six Pixels Of Separation - The Mirum Podcast. The last time that I saw Misha Glouberman was in the mid-eighties. We went to high school together (he was three years older than I was). I had not heard his name until the other week, when our Executive Creative Director at Mirum, Jon Finkelstein, asked me if I ever read the book, The Chairs Are Where the People Go: How to Live, Work, and Play in the City, which was co-authored with Sheila Heti and is a collection of his thoughts. The book was called "a triumph of what might be called conversational philosophy... hilarious and humane" by The New Yorker. Now, Misha is an expert on the subtle arts of negotiation and communication. His presence and work has been called transformative. He is also the host of Trampoline Hall, a lecture series which has sold out every show in its home city of Toronto since its inception, in 2001, and which has toured around North America. ("We love it" -- The Village Voice). In everything he does, Glouberman combines a creative people-cantered approach with analytic rigour: he was previously a software developer, and has a philosophy degree from Harvard. Enjoy the conversation... Here it is: Six Pixels Of Separation - The Mirum Podcast - Episode #494 - Host: Mitch Joel. Running time: 48:23. Hello from beautiful Montreal. Subscribe over at iTunes. Please visit and leave comments on the blog - Six Pixels of Separation. Feel free to connect to me directly on Facebook here: Mitch Joel on Facebook. or you can connect on LinkedIn. ...or on twitter. Six Pixels of Separation the book is now available. CTRL ALT Delete is now available too! Here is my conversation with Misha Glouberman. The Chairs Are Where the People Go: How to Live, Work, and Play in the City. Trampoline Hall. Follow Misha on Twitter. This week's music: David Usher 'St. Lawrence River'. Get David's song for free here: Artists For Amnesty. Download the Podcast here: Six Pixels Of Separation - The Mirum Podcast - Episode #494 - Host: Mitch Joel. Tags: advertising podcast audio blog blogging brand business blog business book business podcast david usher digital marketing digital marketing agency digital marketing blog google harvard harvard philosophy itunes j walter thompson jon finkelstein jwt leadership podcast management podcast marketing marketing blog marketing podcast mirum mirum agency mirum agency blog mirum blog misha glouberman sheila heti the chairs are where the people go the new yorker the village voice trampoline hall wpp
An interview with Misha Glouberman and Sheila Heti, authors of "The Chairs Are Where The People Go," by Tom Lutz.