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Life happens, and so does debt. Unexpected car trouble, the high price of food, a family emergency — there is no shortage of reasons why debt can pile up. In this episode, we offer shame-free solutions for digging out of debt. This episode originally published on April 11, 2023.

Activation Warning: Discussion of Sexual Assault On today's episode, we have birthwork and writer Chaney (She/They) join us for a conversation all about the transformative healing journey of exploring kink. Together we talk about virginity coins, being completely unaware that you are kinky, and stepping into radical embodiment. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website ⁠⁠⁠www.modernanarchypodcast.com⁠⁠⁠ And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : www.modernanarchypodcast.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠ : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Chaney's Community: Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/theintersectionaldoula/ Resources to Learn More: What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781580053440 Study shatters the myth that BDSM is linked to early-life trauma: https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/bdsm-psychology-trauma/ Human Playground : https://www.netflix.com/title/81122619

For the 96th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jaclyn Friedman, founder and executive director of EducateUS: SIECUS In Action, to talk about sex ed in the U.S. — and why it's vital that we do better.  Jaclyn is a long-time activist. She's also the author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety. In this episode, Jaclyn shares her mission to transform public school sex education in the United States and how we can do that via voting and running for office on the school board level, as so much of this issue is currently decided locally. We also cover the impact of good sex ed, how the culture wars are drawing attention to work in this space, the insidious, politically co=oped language of "grooming" and how it affects childhood sexual assault survivors, and more. For more Jaclyn Friedman: Check out the EducateUS: SIECUS In Action website educateusaction.org Check out Jaclyn's website jaclynfriedman.com Follow Jaclyn on Twitter @jaclynf Follow Jaclyn on Instagram @jaclynfable ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://www.bonfire.com/store/private-parts-unknown/ Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Go to RexMD.com/private today to get started with a sample pack prescription of generic Viagra. All orders come with FREE 2-day shipping. Rex MD – the authority in men's telehealth. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let's be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak and Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram and Twitter.

For many of us, the idea of having sex on your period is just…eww. When you feel like Carrie at the prom down there, getting busy might be the last thing on your mind, but why feel shameful about something so natural, and shun our own pleasure for a quarter of the month? Period sex actually has a ton of benefits (hello, au naturel lube), and yes it can be messy, but we can totally mitigate that so you're raring to go on your next cycle. In today's episode, I'm going to share why we shouldn't feel bad about period sex and the unique benefits you're sleeping on.   "Our discomfort with period sex comes down to the crux of what we find sexy and embarrassing, and these bodily functions that can get in the way of our pleasure." -Heather Bartos    3 Things We Learned From This Episode Where our period sex discomfort stems from and why we have to change it The period sex advice that stumped Jenny McCarthy How to mitigate the messiness so our sheets don't look like a horror scene

You are single and you are SUFFICIENT and if anyone makes you feel otherwise they can GET F*CKED. Shani Silver (aka the coolest person you'll ever meet) is on the pod today to talk all about how awesome single hood can and SHOULD be, despite what society tells us. Your life deserves to be about so much more than finding “the one” and Shani will walk you through how to start living like it. We also talk about working through shame, what to do if you have little or no experience (spoiler alert: you're perfect and don't need to do anything), and so much more, so buckle up and listen in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 123 is the shame-free guide to budgeting featuring Lexa VanDamme, creator of The Avocado Toast Budget!Lexa VanDamme (she/her) is a queer personal finance coach and creator of The Avocado Toast Budget (The ATB). Her mission is to teach people how to save, pay off debt, invest, and finally feel confident with money. Lexa provides shame-free personal finance education via Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. You can enroll in The ATB's Financial Survival Guide here.Episode 123 Highlights:The importance of financial self-care with your budgetShifting the narrative around money and budgetIT'S OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES!!!What was her "aha" moment when she realized she needed to make a change"There is NO ROOM for shame in your budget"Struggles, secrecy and negativity around $$Trying to live a similar lifestyle as her parents once she became an adultThe correlation between mental health and moneyAnd much more!For full episode show notes, visit us here.We appreciate how Lexa was so open and honest about a topic that, truth be told, is super uncomfortable and something many of us don't like to talk about! Let this episode give you the permission to stop being so damn hard on yourself. Learn through what you go through. And let's start breaking down those walls of money and shame! Thank you for an amazing conversation, Lexa!

Do you require scientific validation of your desire? Author, Speaker, Podcaster and Consent Advocate Jaclyn Friedman wants to study her orgasm, but she’s getting first date jitters. What is sexual concordance, and why is it so difficult for this overachiever to get it up when someone is studying their sex data? Plus Bawdy’s musical muse, Rachel Lark, performs a song she wrote especially for our Nerdgasm show. Lube up, cause knowledge has never been so arousing! #OrgasmDenial #IcebergClit #Fencesitter Hosted by Sexual Folklorist Dixie De La Tour Opening Music: 8 Miles Wide by Storm Large About the storyteller:   Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (which was one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and her latest, Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World.  Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Learn more at https://www.jaclynfriedman.com/ Song: ‘Flowers Fuck’ (Rachel Lark) Learn more about her work at https://www.rachellark.com/ Become a member of Lark’s Patreon at  https://www.patreon.com/rachellark   Episode Links Our next Bawdy Livestream will be this Saturday, April 17th at 7 PM PST. This time, our show features GirlyJuice blogger/Dildork’s podcast host Kate Sloan, standup comedian Jimmy Sorrentino, Award-winning storyteller Janelle Codianni and all new songs by Bawdy’s musical sidekick Jefferson Bergey. Bawdy’s live shows bring you phenomenal #stories #community #connection #DanceParty #Prizes and more Livestream Tickets at https://bit.ly/BawdyAprilLS RSVP on Facebook at https://fb.me/e/12ibc8TrG & on Fetlife at https://fetlife.com/events/985418   Then, Share the ticket link on Twitter, Facebook, Fetlife and Instagram. Social media is restricting everything that relates to seggsexual pleasure these days (YES, they will shut us down if we spell it correctly, eeek). 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What does your body liberation have to do with voting this year? Everything. Everything is on the line this election, up and down the ballot. Jaclyn Friedman, author of Unscrewed, helps me link body kindness to climate change, economic justice, healthcare, and more. Don’t settle for fauxpowerment. In this lively episode chat, Jaclyn shares many ways anyone can get fired up to vote or help others get fired up... with joy and connection. Follow her 3 steps to positive well-being this election season: Look after yourself and make sure you’re safe and secure. Look out for each other. (Your post-it people) Look for opportunities for fun. And also... if you can do more, do it. Register to vote. Fill out your mail in ballot. Get it in the drop off box ASAP. Check in on friends. Reach out to people you know with texts, emails, or postcards. Offer to help. --- Links Mentioned: How to contact your U.S. Senator Learn about progressive candidates Jaclyn recommends @jaclynf on Twitter - her DMs are open if you have any questions about getting out the vote. Body Kindness Episode 142 – Believe Me: Why trusting women is essential for collective well-being with Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti Body Kindness Episode 57: Get ‘Unscrewed’ in this #MeToo world with Jaclyn Friedman activist and author of Unscrewed --- About Jaclyn Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and her latest, Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Podcast | Patreon --- Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here! --- Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page. --- Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings --- Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions --- Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. --- Join the Facebook groupContinue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

The legal industry shed 64,000 jobs in April as impacts from the COVID-19 pandemic permeated the economy. That leaves a lot of people figuring out the next steps of their careers in a difficult economic climate. On this episode, Baker Botts special counsel Cynthia Cole talks about losing her first job out of law school during the dot-com bust and shares advice for dealing with career disruption and how to talk about a layoff or professional setback once you get back into the job market.   

tl;dr Jaclyn Friedman on believing women, what happens when we disclose our trauma, and why our PERCEPTION of who is a victim impacts how we view all victims. We're talking about her new book with Jessica Valenti, "Believe Me". Explore More Summit is happening NEXT WEEK. Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com now! Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a bonus chat between Jaclyn Friedman and I on Tina Horn's fantastic essay speaking to why pleasure should not be the measure for sex work and porn performers. It's SOOOO good and super important for folks who truly want to support those in the field. Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. I love every time I get to be in conversation with Jaclyn, and this was no different. We explore the difference between what it means to believe women versus what it means to believe ALL women, and why that distinction is important. We dive into what it means that women, femmes, and feminized folks often have a different set of memories than cis men. The ways survivors are retraumatized by courts, lawyers, and our "justice" system. So much of "Believe Me" demonstrates the ways we would all move closer to liberation if we centered Black women and trans women, and we explore all the ways so many of us are only trusted if we disclose the gory details of our trauma but in doing so we are also seen as discredited and no longer experts in anything except our trauma. Jaclyn shares what social researchers have long demonstrated: that collectively we not only hold women to much higher standards, but as a woman's credibility goes up, we like her less for it and actively punish her for that growing credibility. So what can we do about it? Where do we go? It's such an important discussion about a very important book, and I hope you'll get yourself a copy. Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Jaclyn Friedman: Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and her latest, Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her wrong. That experience eventually led her to become a student and instructor of IMPACT safety training. At IMPACT, she helped bring safety skills to the communities which most need them, including gang-involved high school students and women transitioning out of abusive relationships. Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. In her book, Unscrewed, she calls on the movement for women’s sexual liberation to move past individualistic “empowerment” messages (for which she coined the term “fauxpowerment”) to focus on collectively transforming the systems and institutions invested in keeping women sexually servile. Kirkus called it “a potent, convincing manifesto,” and Kate Tuttle, president of the National Book Critics Circle, called it “the book we need right now.” Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the US and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, Call Your Girlfriend, and numerous other audio and TV shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including The New York Times, Vox, Refinery 29, The Washington Post, Glamour, and The Guardian. Friedman is a founder and the former executive director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. More recently, she has been active in the Jews Against ICE movement, with whom she was arrested at a protest this summer.  Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous) Episode Transcript Visit dawnserra.com/ep300 for the transcript

In the midst of my new and v. exciting obsession - baby prepping - I have simultaneously been experiencing mixed feelings of gratitude and sadness for the prior times in my life where I wasn't ready to say yes to pregnancy. Hence this episode.On average, one in three women have had an abortion, that's an awful lot of women and not an awful lot of healthy, judgment-free guidance on how to actually deal with such a process. Political & religious dogma aside, there is still very little support for those needing it.In this episode, I offer up my loving guide on how to move through a letting go process with ease, grace, and compassion. From pre-care to aftercare, this episode will be helpful for you whether you're currently making a decision or have already made one (no matter how long ago).This episode is a tender topic that has come deep from the core of my heart, and I hope that it helps to guide you into a process of intentionality, integrity, and care. Ending a pregnancy is not easy, even without political & religious dogma looming over our heads, it is still a process that deserves intentionality and care. 

I'm joined by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti editors of a new anthology Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. We discuss why we need a book about believing women’s experiences are as credible and reliable as men. Believing women starts with believing ourselves and caring for our personal well-being. Samantha Irby contributes an essay about her chronic illness which you can read on Elle.  Anuradha Bhagwati, author of the memoir Unbecoming, writes about the disbelief of her disability from countless others. Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her, writes about the lack of C-level women in technology jobs and how it leaves us more vulnerable to online harassment. --- About JaclynJaclyn Friedman is an educator, activist, and the force behind four hit books: Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power & How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and the forthcoming anthology Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the best sex podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the US and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, Call Your Girlfriend, and numerous other audio and TV shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including The New York Times, Vox, Refinery 29, The Washington Post, Glamour, and The Guardian. Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Podcast About JessicaJessica Valenti - called one of the Top 100 Inspiring Women in the world - is a columnist for Medium and a feminist author. Her most recent book, Sex Object: A Memoir, was a New York Times bestseller. In 2004, Jessica founded the award winning blog Feministing.com, which Columbia Journalism Review called “head and shoulders above almost any writing on women’s issues in mainstream media.” Jessica’s articles have topped the most-read lists at The New York Times, The Atlantic, the Guardian, and The Washington Post. She's also written for Salon, Bitch, Ms. Magazine and The Toast. Jessica has been interviewed on The Colbert Report, profiled in The New York Times magazine, and is a widely-sought after speaker. Website | Instagram | Twitter --- Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here! --- Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page. --- Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings --- Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions --- Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. --- Join the Facebook groupContinue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

On this episode of engendered, our guest is Nicole Perry, a Registered psychologist with a practice in Edmonton, Canada.  For the past ten years, she has worked with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault and uses an approach called Somatic Experiencing, a body-based therapy, for healing trauma.  She is known for her work as a “feminist counselor” and helps her clients work on setting boundaries, seeing problems within their context and making healthier decisions in their lives. We speak with Nicole about how her feminist, collaborative approach is used to help both her survivor and non-survivor clients. During our conversation, we talked about these additional resources: Tom Digby's book, Love and War:  How Militarism Shapes Sexuality and Romance and our conversation with Tom Peter Levine's book, Healing Trauma about his work on somatic experiencing Jaclyn Friedman's book, What You Really Really Want:  The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety Video of women apologizing to men --- Thanks for tuning in to the en(gender)ed podcast! Be sure to check out our en(gender)ed site and follow our blog on Medium. Consider donating because your support is what makes this work sustainable. Please also connect with us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to subscribe to the show!

Today I'm joined by Jaclyn Friedman! From her website: She is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Check out these articles she has written, in particular: Vox Article on Aziz Ansari; New York Times Opinion on Consent Leave Thomas a voicemail! (916) 750-4746, remember short and to the point! Support the show at seriouspod.com/support! Follow us on Twitter: @seriouspod Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/seriouspod For comments, email thomas@seriouspod.com   Direct Download

Politics, Hollywood, and your neighborhood. Sexual abuse is happening everywhere and people are speaking up. And finally we’re believing them. If you’re shaking your head at Charlie Rose, Roy Moore, Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey (and others) you’re probably wondering what you can do about it. There’s a new book out by author and activist Jaclyn Friedman, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. She's my guest on the show today. About Jaclyn: Jaclyn Friendman’s work has redefined the concept of “healthy sexuality” and popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many U.S. campuses. She is a popular speaker and opinion writer and the creator of three books: Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, and her latest book Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. Friedman hosts Unscrewed, a critically acclaimed podcast exploring paths to sexual liberation. Follow Jaclyn: Website | Podcast | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | Jaclyn's new book, Unscrewed --- You can subscribe to Body Kindness on iTunes and Stitcher. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1073275062 Are you ready for Body Kindness? Get started today with my free e-course and on-demand digital training. Learn more - http://bit.ly/2k23nbT The New York Times Book Review calls Body Kindness 'simple and true'. Publisher's Weekly says it's 'a rousing guide to better health.' http://bit.ly/2k228t9 Watch my videos about why we need Body Kindness on YouTube. https://youtu.be/W7rATQpv5y8?list=PLQPvfnaYpPCUT9MOwHByVwN1f-bL2rn1V --- Enjoy the show? Please subscribe and rate it. Have a show idea or guest recommendation (even yourself!) E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. Join us on the Body Kindness Podcast Facebook group where you can continue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.  

Don't forget, the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition kicks off December 4th and it's totally free. We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. This week, Jaclyn Friedman is here to talk all about her new book, "Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All." It is a powerful, comprehensive examination of all the ways our ideas about sex intersect with things like media, racism, justice, toxic masculinity, patriarchy. Basically, all my favorite topics wrapped up into one. We geek out about why sexual olympics and hedonism will NOT set everyone free. What it means to have "fauxpowerment" around our sexuality and why individualistic solutions aren't going to heal the world. We talk about Hugh Hefner (ugh), the ways doctors fail us, Jaclyn's visit to a sex research lab and what the vagina REALLY is. Seriously, that last bit blew my mind. We also talk about what we can do to actually start changing the world, how we can confront things like toxic masculinity and patriarchy, and why it all matters. You can pre-order the book here (it comes out November 14th, 2017). Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Jaclyn Friedman: Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Stay in touch with Jaclyn on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @jaclynf. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week Jaclyn Friedman is here. Known for her incredible work around sexual assault, sexual violence, consent, and sex education, it is a really intense discussion that I can't wait for you to hear. We talk about sexual liberation and why sex positivity must include conversations around sexual violence if it hopes to achieve it's aim. We dive into stealthing and why removing a condom without consent is rape. Jaclyn explores the ways that stealthing is dehumanizing and why this power move is about erasing the humanity of the person you're sleeping with. She also talks about what centering humanity in sex has meant for her - being able to relax into her truth by getting off the sexual Olympics train. Plus, why all this buzz about hook-up culture on college campuses is actually a myth and the impact that myth is having on students. Then we go deep into victim-centering justice, needing community to step in and hold sexually violent people accountable, why transformative justice is not the answer, and she even challenges me on being too generous around people who commit acts of sexual violence. We may not have answers, but we certainly have a lot of feelings and even bigger questions. So strap in and prepare yourself. Don't forget to send in your sex confessions about May's theme of FOOD! I created a guidelines page for you. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Jaclyn Friedman Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire. Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. Her insistence that authentic sexual liberation is a necessary condition to end the systemic sexualization and violation of women led Lyn Mikel Brown (Co-founder of SPARK and Professor of Education and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Colby College) to call her “this generation’s version of Dr. Ruth.” Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the U.S. and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, the Melissa Harris-Perry Show, and numerous other radio and television shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including The New York Times, Vox, Time, The Washington Post, Glamour and The Guardian. Friedman is a founder and the former Executive Director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. Friedman also holds an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College. You can stay in touch with Jaclyn at jaclynfriedman.com, as well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @jaclynf. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker, and sex education activist, challenging misconceptions about what it means to have consenting, satisfying sex. She’s the author of What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, and she joins us on this special Valentine’s Day episode to bring some freethought to love and sex.   In addition to having written extensively on the topic of healthy sexuality and the myriad hang-ups and myths surrounding sex and pleasure, she’s also in the process of producing a new multimedia project, including a podcast about female sexual power and freedom.