The ME Spot with Dr. Heather Bartos, OBGYN

Can you believe it? We've reached the grand finale of the SEX Podcast, and what an incredible journey it has been! From our humble beginnings to now being listened to in more than 75 countries around the world, we couldn't have done it without your unwavering support and enthusiasm. And for our last hurrah, we're diving deep into the mystical realms of sacred sexuality with a twist that will leave you enlightened and inspired. Say hello to Hieros Gamos, but with a Dr. B twist! That's right, our resident "sexologist" Dr. B is here to shake things up and challenge everything you thought you knew about this ancient concept. So, what exactly is Hieros Gamos, and how can it transform our sex lives? Prepare to have your minds blown as Dr. B unveils a fresh perspective on this sacred union of the divine feminine and masculine. Discover how embracing these aspects within ourselves can unlock the ultimate inner sexiness and elevate our intimate connections to new heights. You've had the power all along, my dear. You only had to believe it for yourself. But fear not, dear listeners, for while this may be the end of the SEX Podcast as you know it, our legacy lives on. You can still access all our past episodes on your favorite podcasting apps, so be sure to continue listening, learning, and sharing the wisdom we've gathered over the years. Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts, for being a part of this incredible journey. It's been an honor and a privilege to explore the depths of sacred sexuality with you all. Let's make this final episode one to remember! With love and gratitude, Dr. B and the entire SEX Podcast team   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast

This week, we embark on a profound exploration of sacred sexuality as we unravel the mysteries of the Divine Feminine. In our series finale, we confront the myths and misconceptions surrounding femininity head-on. What exactly is the Divine Feminine, and what does it mean to truly embrace it? Does embracing the Divine Feminine mean conforming to traditional notions of "girlishness," or does it transcend gender entirely? Can men embody the Divine Feminine as well, and is it rooted in religious beliefs? These are just a few of the questions we address as we dismantle the myths and uncover the truths behind this sacred concept. Through our discussion, we discover that embracing the Divine Feminine is about tapping into our inner wisdom, intuition, and nurturing energy, regardless of gender or religious affiliation. With only one episode remaining, I invite you to join us in making this final episode the most impactful yet. Download and share this week's episode with your loved ones, colleagues, and anyone who may find solace and inspiration in our exploration of sacred sexuality. And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as we bid farewell to the longest-running Sex Podcast in style! Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey. Let's make these last episodes an unforgettable celebration of sacred sexuality and the human experience.

As we approach the culmination of our journey together, I am thrilled to present to you the penultimate episode of the SEX Podcast. This week, we delve deep into the realm of sacred sexuality to explore a topic often shrouded in misconceptions: the Divine Masculine. In this episode, we confront the myths surrounding masculinity head-on. What exactly is the Divine Masculine, and what does it entail to truly embrace it? Does it mean conforming to traditional notions of "dudeness," or does it transcend gender entirely? Can women embody the Divine Masculine as well, and is it inherently tied to religious beliefs? These are just a few of the questions we tackle as we dismantle the myths and uncover the truths behind this sacred concept. Through our discussion, we discover that embracing the Divine Masculine is about tapping into our inner strength, authenticity, and compassion, regardless of gender or religious affiliation. With only two episodes remaining, I invite you to join us in making these final episodes the most impactful yet. Download and share this week's episode with your friends, family, and anyone who may benefit from our exploration of sacred sexuality. And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as we bid farewell to the second longest-running SEX Podcast (only #2 to Dr. Ruth!) in style! Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey. Let's make these last two episodes unforgettable!

Join Us for a Transformative Finale: Unleashing Our Spiritual Selves through Sacred Sexuality! As we embark on the final leg of our journey with the SEX Podcast, I am thrilled to invite you to join us for what promises to be an unforgettable finale: "Sacred Sexuality: Unleashing Our Spiritual Selves." We celebrated our 4th birthday on February 20, and in over 200 episodes we've delved into countless aspects of human sexuality, exploring its depths, complexities, and infinite possibilities (from asexuality to vulva and everything--I mean EVERYTHING-- in between). Now, as we prepare to bid farewell, we're dedicating our last four episodes to a topic that lies at the heart of our mission: sacred sexuality. But what exactly is sacred sexuality, and why should it matter to us? Sacred sexuality is more than just a physical act; it's a profound spiritual experience that transcends the boundaries of the physical realm. It invites us to connect deeply with ourselves, our partners, and the universe, tapping into a source of divine energy and wisdom that flows through all living beings. In these final episodes, we'll explore the essence of sacred sexuality, uncovering its ancient roots, its modern interpretations, and its transformative power to heal, awaken, and elevate our consciousness. From tantric practices to mindful intimacy, we'll delve into practices and perspectives that can enrich our lives and relationships in profound ways. As we reflect on the journey we've taken together, I invite you to join us for this culminating exploration of sacred sexuality. Whether you're a longtime listener or new to the podcast, this is an opportunity to engage with a topic that lies at the intersection of pleasure, spirituality, and personal growth. Together, let's embark on this final chapter of the SEX Podcast with open hearts, curious minds, and a shared commitment to unleashing our spiritual selves through the power of sacred sexuality. Join us, and let's make these last four episodes truly unforgettable!   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

Ever since I tried VR with my kid's Oculus, I can understand that it's a fun way to play a video game. But Guitar Hero aside, would I ever want to use in the bedroom? Demand for sex is a constant, but how people go about getting it done has completely changed. These days, people aren't paying to play for it like they used to. In 1948, 69 percent of American men reported having at least one experience with a prostitute (this stat shocked me), By the 1990s, that fell to as little as 15 percent. Why are fewer people paying for sex? Some blame technology. And now VR porn is coming into the screen. There are SIX major companies producing VR-related adult content, but at what cost? Sure, the technology is pricey, but don't we also lose the ability to connect with real people? Are we all doomed to end up alone in our parents'. basement with no appetite for real touch? In this episode, we are diving into the world of VR in the bedroom... Is it game on? Or is it game over.   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

While the phrase "sexual technology" or "sex-tech" sounds super futuristic, it's kind of already here. People--mostly men--have been looking forward to futuristic sex since the 1970s, when the term virtual sex was created. But sex-tech is technology and tech-based ventures that are designed to enhance the human sexual experience. Sex-tech has seen a recent boom in mainstream acceptance due to a big push from WOMEN-led firms in the space--who knew, am I right? From tele-dildonics (yes, the name dildo is in it) which uses networked electronic sex toys to mimic and extend human sexual interaction to bluetooth-enabled smart sex wearables (that's right...a Fitbit for your clit)... sex-tech is ready to take your sexual health to the next level. But do we really need data on penile thrust velocity (yup, that's an option)? Or how hard we Kegel during the big O? I gotta be honest, not sure, but we're going through all the sex-tech talk we can in this episode. Use your bluetooth and tune in today!   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

In today's episode, we continue on our AI and the bedroom series. Today, we delve into the unsettling world of deepfake porn technology, specifically its impact on individuals, particularly women, who become victims of non-consensual content. Let me be frank (not like I'm not usually) and say: with 96% of all deepfake technology revolving around pornography, this is an issue that needs attention now. Key points we'll be discussing include: -Why people feel the need to use deepfake pornography -Examining the prevalence of non-consensual deepfake content. -Exploring the psychological and emotional toll on victims. -Discussing the legal landscape and challenges in addressing deepfake incidents. There's not many issues that I'm not open to, but revenge porn using artificial intelligence is reprehensible. And it's EVERYWHERE. And it's CHEAP. And if you're not targeted? Your daughter, sister or mother could be. And it's in the metaverse forever. Even if you can prove it's a deepfake, people will always associate you with a non-consensual video that was made of you. Without you. We would greatly appreciate your support in sharing this important discussion with your network. Anyone of us could be affected by deepfakes. Men, women or children. We have to make it stop.

I remember several years ago watching the HBO aka Max show Westworld, about a world with very human like robots that were used for cosplay, violence and sex. Basically, it was a playground for rich men to act out their very feral fantasies. And then it all goes horribly wrong. The Westworld robots revolt. They start to think for themselves. Chaos ensues. And it freaked my S**T out. Look at the other Hollywood-isms–freaky doll M3GAN which starts killing people. Because she goes rogue. And who can forget The Terminator–these are robots–that have gone… again. ROGUE. Is there a pattern here??? Now imagine bringing one home to your bedroom. Sure, I understand the general allure of a sex robot–or sexbot–and we talked about AI in general in the adult space last episode. A sexbot is a companion, it's someone that you can play with, nurture, GROOM. She is there for you whenever you need her…and it's now a $200 million industry. But what connection can truly be perfected with a doll? With a computer chip in her silicone head? We're continuing on down the line discussing the hows, the legal, moral and other data…that involve the world sexbots.   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

Ever wondered why folks are diving headfirst into the virtual embrace of Artificial Intelligence? From AI-assisted sex toys to virtual and augmented reality escapades, it's like we've opened Pandora's pleasure box. Picture this: AI-powered experiences that cater to your every whim, from customizable sex toys to immersive digital fantasies. Is this the dawn of a new era or a sci-fi nightmare? We're about to unravel the mysteries and spill the digital beans on why people are swapping silk sheets for virtual landscapes. In the upcoming episodes, we're decoding the matrix of AI in the bedroom, exploring the tantalizing possibilities and maybe just a smidge of chaos it brings. Is it a revolution, a revelation, or the raunchy ruin of real connections? But, darling, it's not all rose petals and champagne in the AI boudoir. Some say it's the end of civilization as we know it. Are we sacrificing genuine intimacy for a pixelated p****? Will robots replace Romeo? Is our future a love story with Siri? So buckle up, buttercup! Part 1 of our AI in the Bedroom series is dropping today, and you won't want to miss this rollercoaster ride through the tangled web of desire, technology, and the pursuit of the ultimate O... or is it 010101?   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

In this eye-opening episode, we shatter the Hollywood stereotypes surrounding menopause with a sledgehammer of truth. Forget the clichés of aging, dryness, and becoming a 'has been.' Join us on a journey where we flip the script and embrace the immense freedom menopause brings. Sure, there might be the occasional bout of vaginal dryness and joint pain, but guess what? We're here to tell you that it's just a small chapter in a much bigger, bolder story. Menopause isn't about becoming a shadow of our former selves; it's an opportunity to redefine, reignite, and reclaim our lives. Tune in as we derail the Hollywood tropes, and instead, rally around the idea that women can kick ass and find unparalleled pleasure in this free-spirited phase of life. Discover the amazing possibilities, the newfound strength, and the sheer joy that menopause can unleash. You were probably never told anything about menopause, let alone how to navigate a great sex life during the change. Get ready to liberate yourself from the myths. Menopause is not an end; it's a powerful beginning. And whether you have sex once a year or once a day in menopause: guess what...YOU write the script during this time of life, my dearest! Let's break free from the mold together!

Bad Hollywood representation and TikTok mania aside, vibrating panties have been a part of women's lingerie collections for nearly 30 years (although they have been improved on over that time). In this episode, we dive into the electrifying world of vibrating panties, exploring the why, the need, and the transformative impact they can have on both our sex lives and intimacy levels. From the thrill of spontaneity to the art of anticipation, we unravel the reasons behind choosing these buzzing accessories for your lingerie collection. Our discussion delves into the various ways vibrating panties can enhance connection and intimacy between partners, providing a playful twist to your romantic escapades. We'll go over how to select one, how to care for it, and what to do if you're busted in public wearing it (sounds, my love...sounds!) Tune in as we unravel the secrets to a more vibrant and satisfying intimate experience, one buzz at a time.   Mixed & Edited by Next Day Podcast info@nextdaypodcast.com

Can you believe it? We've come to the climax of 2023, and it's time for our last SEX Podcast of the year! TADA: Get ready to pop the bubbly, because we're spilling all the steamy details about the sizzling trends we predict (and fervently hope for) in 2024. If you've been with us on this wild ride through the year of eco-friendliness and, of course, the glorious year of the booty, you won't want to miss the grand finale. We're diving deep into the smooth satin sheets, exploring the ins and outs (pun intended) of what's coming your way in the next year. Spoiler Alert: Get ready for a more "internal" and "soulful" experience. We're turning up the heat and turning inwards for a year that's bound to be as intimate as it is intense. (FIRE!) Join us for a tantalizing preview of what's in store for your pleasure, your love life, and beyond! We'll be back in January with all the deets, so mark your calendars and keep those headphones handy. Sending you much love and a heartfelt thanks for being with us on this electrifying journey. Here's to another year of passion, connection, and endless fun!

Hypnosis is not like you see in the movies, and it has NOTHING to do with mind control, or non-consent. True 'dat! The development of concepts, beliefs and practices related to hypnosis and hypnotherapy have been documented since prehistoric to modern times. Yeah, like more than 1000 years ago! It's recognized by major medical and psychological organizations as legit, but how do you start a practice for it in the sheets? Aha. That's why there's erotic hypnosis. Erotic hypnosis is different from therapeutic sexual hypnosis, but both have their place in the bedroom! Sexual hypnosis can help folks work through a persistent sexual issue that interferes with their solo or partnered sex life, including low libido, erectile dysfunction, painful intercourse and shame around sexuality. Erotic hypnosis is for those wanting to up their “50 shades” game in the boudoir, which can boost longer, stronger orgasms and a feeling of letting go. It's also used in the kink community, but don't let that steer you away if you're not into that. ANYONE can benefit from letting their guard down and getting rid of that thinking woman's brain! (the one that's doing your shopping list during the deed?) Curious about the phrase “you're getting sleeeeepppy” and how it can make your sex life FIREWORKS? I promise no one will make you bark like a dog, and you won't do anything you don't want. In today's episode, we're demystifying the art of hypnotic seduction. Want to know what erotic hypnosis is really about, what it definitely ain't, and how to turn your bedroom into a hypnotic playground? Tune in, and let's turn up the heat together!

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Often misconstrued, Yoni massage is an integral part of the tantric practice, and it ain't what you think it is. Cringey porn skits aside, this sensual massage involves more than just physical touch. It incorporates deep breathing, yoga, and meditation to harness and elevate sexual energy. Importantly, Yoni massage is not solely erotic and, in many instances, is entirely non-sexual. Why would you want to have a Yoni massage? Well, the primary goal of Yoni massage is to foster a profound connection with your own body. It serves as a gateway to self-awareness, allowing individuals to explore their desires and pleasures WITHOUT the external pressure of pleasing a partner. The focus is exclusively on your body and the sensations it experiences. It can help release sexual trauma, improve partner relationships (or with self), release your inner goddess strength and re-connect the mind-body-sexuality link (you didn't think the vagina was sitting down there isolated from the rest of you, did ya?) Yoni massage provides a unique opportunity to explore your innermost desires, leading to a heightened sense of well-being. In this episode, we'll delve into the intricacies of Yoni massage, exploring its origins, demystifying misconceptions, and sharing personal stories from those who have embarked on this transformative journey. We'll also talk about how to do one at home, or how to find a therapist who can help take you on that journey! Get ready to embark on a sensual and spiritual exploration like no other, gals!

Tantra always piques everybody's interest! And why now? Creative life force AND sexuality combined? Yes, please! Have you ever wondered (or heard) about the magic behind Lingam Massage? We've got the inside scoop! Lingam (phallic) Massage is an ancient practice rooted in deep history and profound pleasure. In our latest episode, we're unraveling the mysteries, diving into its rich past, and exploring why this sensual art form matters more than ever. Aside from its sacred overtones and pleasurable outcome, lingam treatment can help you in a variety of unexpected ways. After treating yourself (or your partner) to one: · You might find yourself to be able to control your sexual impulses to a much larger degree and it can increase libido. · Lingam treatment could help you deal with sexual emotional blocks and even traumas pertaining to your sexuality. · BREATHE: It's a meditative process and all about the journey, not the destination...so you can check meditation off that list of things to learn! Get ready to embark on a journey of mind-blowing discovery! Stay tuned, and let's explore the tantalizing world of Lingam Massage together.

Guess what? The wait is over! Part 3 of our scintillating SEX podcast series on Narcissist Nightmares is now live, and boy, oh boy, are we diving deep into the tantalizing world of narcissist RECOVERY! In this episode, we're serving up some seriously spicy topics: -Narcissist Detox: Reclaiming Your Power in the Bedroom – Discover how to banish those toxic vibes and rediscover your sexual confidence. It's all about you, baby! -Confidence is Key: Owning Your Sexuality – Learn how to strut your stuff and own your desires without apologies. Confidence is the sexiest outfit you can wear! -Toxic Relationship Recovery: Rebuilding Intimacy and Trust – We're dishing out tips on how to rebuild trust and intimacy after surviving a narcissistic relationship. Spoiler alert: it's totally possible and incredibly rewarding! And we discuss how to know if you've trauma bonded as well! -Sexy Self-Care: Indulge, Pamper, Repeat – Dive into the world of sensual self-care. We're talking bubble baths, scented candles, and all the things that make you feel like the goddess you are! -Bedroom Adventures: Spice Up Your Sex Life! – Ready to turn up the heat? Get inspired with some sizzling bedroom ideas that will leave you--SOLO--breathless and ready for more BEFORE you jump into your next relationship Get your headphones ready, and join us on this electrifying journey to self-discovery, empowerment, and mind-blowing pleasure. Whether you've been with a narcissist or know someone that has or somewhere in between, this episode is your passport to a world of unapologetic sensuality and fierce self-love. Share the love, sisters!

Today, we are diving deep into the dark world of sexual narcissism, unraveling the manipulative tactics they use to lure their partners in, and the emotional turmoil they leave behind. We'll be addressing some alarming behaviors, including love bombing, a technique where narcissists shower their partners with affection and attention, only to later use it against them. We'll also be delving into the unsettling phenomenon of how narcissists groom their partners, exploiting vulnerabilities and gradually asserting control (like a cult leader!) One of the most insidious techniques is gaslighting, where they distort reality to make their victims doubt their own sanity and perception of events. It's a psychological nightmare that often leaves people questioning their own reality. You've heard me talk about Don Draper from *Mad Men* or Regina George from *Mean Girls*. They're fictional, yet they embody traits of real-life narcissists. We'll be drawing parallels, discussing why narcissists employ these tactics, and revealing the shocking similarities between these fictional characters and the narcissists we encounter in our lives. And you can count along as we provide the 11 most common behaviors narcissists do to woo you, bed you, and keep you. (How many points did you get?) The big question we're asking: have you ever slept with a narcissist? Don't worry; you're not alone.

Narcissism is like a fanny pack: it's everywhere these days. Everyone is labeling their ex or their mother in law as a narcissist. But while it's a term we often hear, what does it really mean? At its extreme, narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by a constant need for admiration, a lack of empathy for others, and a grandiose sense of one's own importance. People with narcissistic personality disorder often manipulate others and have an inflated sense of their own self-worth. More than 70 million people worldwide meet criteria for pathological narcissism. There are so many real and fictional examples that help us understand this personality disorder even better. We'll discuss real-life figures such as Ted Bundy, Adolf Hitler, Madonna and Kanye West, and we'll delve into fictional characters such as Cersei Lannister, Don Draper from Mad Men and even…Michael Scott from the Office (gasp! No, not Michael!), analyzing how their traits align with narcissistic personality disorder. All of this introduction is necessary because narcissism is not what you think it is: so then how do you know if you've been in a relationship with a narcissist? We'll explore the red flags and warning signs that can help you identify a narcissistic partner. From their constant need for validation to their tendency to belittle others, understanding these signs can empower you to protect your emotional well-being. In Part 2, we'll tackle the crucial question: What do you do if you find you've f***ed a narcissist? Download and subscribe to the Sex Podcast today!  

Ever wondered about the magic behind healthy, consensual relationships? Enter the world of **Sexual Agreements**! In this week's podcast episode, we're spilling all the beans about what they are, why they matter, and most importantly, how you can create one today! **So, What Exactly Are Sexual Agreements?** Think of them as the secret sauce that adds spice to relationships! Sexual agreements are like the unwritten rulebook that partners craft together, outlining their desires, boundaries, and expectations. And here's a little spoiler alert for you: they're not just for lawyers and Christian Grey enthusiasts!

Trigger warning: this episode is about sexual consent. We're diving into the world of boundaries, desire, and the art of consent like never before. What is consent? What are different types of consent? Why do we need to consent? It is a myth that personal liberty and consent has been around since the Middle Ages. And while celebrities and athletes use these to protect themselves from sexual assault allegations in the future... WHY DO WE NEED THEM? Women rarely desire sexual consent contracts for preventing assault, but rather as a way to back up their boundaries. Don't miss out on the first of this two-part series: subscribe and download today! And if you're loving the conversation, we'd be over the moon if you left us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts. Let's spread the word and redefine the art of consent together! Stay sassy, stay curious, and let's unravel the heart of sexual agreements.

Guess what? The wait is over! Part 3 of our scintillating SEX podcast series on Narcissist Nightmares is now live, and boy, oh boy, are we diving deep into the tantalizing world of narcissist RECOVERY! In this episode, we're serving up some seriously spicy topics: -Narcissist Detox: Reclaiming Your Power in the Bedroom – Discover how to banish those toxic vibes and rediscover your sexual confidence. It's all about you, baby! -Confidence is Key: Owning Your Sexuality – Learn how to strut your stuff and own your desires without apologies. Confidence is the sexiest outfit you can wear! -Toxic Relationship Recovery: Rebuilding Intimacy and Trust – We're dishing out tips on how to rebuild trust and intimacy after surviving a narcissistic relationship. Spoiler alert: it's totally possible and incredibly rewarding! And we discuss how to know if you've trauma bonded as well! -Sexy Self-Care: Indulge, Pamper, Repeat – Dive into the world of sensual self-care. We're talking bubble baths, scented candles, and all the things that make you feel like the goddess you are! -Bedroom Adventures: Spice Up Your Sex Life! – Ready to turn up the heat? Get inspired with some sizzling bedroom ideas that will leave you--SOLO--breathless and ready for more BEFORE you jump into your next relationship Get your headphones ready, and join us on this electrifying journey to self-discovery, empowerment, and mind-blowing pleasure. Whether you've been with a narcissist or know someone that has or somewhere in between, this episode is your passport to a world of unapologetic sensuality and fierce self-love. Share the love, sisters!

Hope you're ready to embark on another tantalizing adventure with us because today we're diving deep into the world of the C Spot, and trust us, it's not what you might think! Is it the Cervix? The Clitoris? Is it Confusing? Hell yes, it is! We're breaking it all down discussing how to find your C spot and do you need to find your C spot? What does a C spot orgasm really feel like? Is this just another dang spot I have to find? But here's the big question: Should you be pursuing these pleasure spots like you're on an Indiana Jones expedition? Or is it safer to stick to the familiar backyard? Or front yard ;) Join us as we explore where it is, what it is, and most importantly, how to ignite it! This episode is all about expanding your pleasure horizons, so don't miss it. Tune in now and let's embark on this electrifying journey together!

We are here to demystify the enigmatic A-spot in the latest episode of The SEX Podcast! Is it a hidden pleasure button or just another myth? Tune in as we navigate the intriguing world of the A-spot, separating fact from fiction and why the hell do I need to find another spot (if you're still searching for the elusive G spot). In this episode, we're diving deep into the anatomy, exploring the potential for pleasure, and answering those burning questions you've been too shy to ask. Don't miss out on this tantalizing adventure! Stay curious and keep those questions coming!

Hey There, Sensual Explorers! In this week's episode, we're boldly asking the question – "Should you get a sex coach?" We're not holding back as we dish out the spicy details on what a sex coach can bring to the table, from igniting your desires to becoming the ultimate bedroom boss. So, whether you're a seasoned pleasure-seeker or just dipping your toe into the tantalizing waters of sensuality, join us as we navigate the world of sexual empowerment, leaving no sultry secret unexplored. In this episode, we'll discuss: --differences between sex coaches, sex therapists and sex counselors and how each one can do something different for you (and also how they approach their craft) --how sex and intimacy coaches work and how you can find one --what sex coaches are NOT. Tune in, turn up the passion, and let's release your inner sensuality like the true Bedroom Boss you are!

Get ready to dive into the intriguing world of desires with our latest episode – "Kink Chronicles: Unraveling the Whimsy of Humiliation."

Get ready to embark on a tantalizing journey with our latest episode – "DILF Delight: The Allure of Silver Foxes."

When most people think of sex machines, they think of oversexualized women a la Barberella, whose insatiable lust and sexuality breaks the evil professor's modern technology of the “Excessive Machine.” If human contact is not enough for a certain woman, then certainly a machine can be, right? But sex machines–as they are colloquially called–is a machine with a long and illustrious history. These also gave rise and are the “big sisters” to the common vibrator, which was created to Later, as the vibrator was used to treat “hysteria,” sex machines were installed in bath houses and eventually more compact, electrically powered versions later briefly appeared as health aids in department store catalogs (yeah, like Sears). But sex machines aren't just for lusty minxes that “can't get enough” through human means. They throb. They penetrate, they also milk, suck and a host of other things that a partner may not be able to do. Is a sex machine – either DIY or purchased via hundreds of online avenues–worth it? And why would you want it? And will it ruin traditional sexual activities? Find out all this and more on this week's episode!

Allow me to introduce you to your new way to seek revenge on your penile partner– KIDDING!!! Seriously, if you want to level up some bedroom kink you gotta check out… CBT (no not cognitive based therapy, COCK n BALLS torture!) I mean the name is intriguing by itself right? But CBT is sexual activity involving the application of pain to the penis and testicles for pleasure (see why it's not called Penis n Testicle Torture? It's all about the marketing) But as with any form of BDSM play, there are ~rules~ and preCOCKtions to keep in mind before jumping right into it. So in this episode we dive into what CBT is, how to play, what you'll need to do it, and all other encompassing tips, tricks, and deets to know before pleasing your partner's oh-so-sensitive parts.

Have you been curious about choking during sex? Maybe you had a partner recently who, seemingly out of nowhere, asked you to choke them? Or perhaps you saw a porn scene recently where choking was the main attraction? Erotic asphyxiation (otherwise known as “breath play”) is a dangerous sexual act most often used while engaging in BDSM. EA occurs when the oxygen in the breath is limited, resulting in more intense sexual interactions and orgasmic experiences WOWOWWWWWW. Whew this one is a doozy this week. I've put off doing this topic for months now, because every time I start looking at it, it triggers me. BIG TIME. And a lot of women feel like I do. Because done even the slightest bit wrong: can have devastating consequences (short list of celebrities who have died during EA: David Carradine, Michael Hutchence and others). And yet, Google searches for erotic breath play, choking and asphyxiation are at all-time highs (FYI: the high is the reason people like it). There is a way to play with this kink without ending up in the intensive care unit: I'll share all the deets in this episode.

Can we talk about the coital conundrum that is 69? Some people hate it. Some swear by its mutually inverted bliss. But basically, 69 (or as the French so beautifully say soixante-neuf) is an age-old oral sex position where “as you give, so shall you receive.” Sixty-nine is a group of sex positions in which two people align themselves so that each person's mouth is near the other's genitals and then…they each perform simultaneous oral sex on the other. It's a lot of give and take. And it can be capital A "awkward" or capital A "amazing". It dates all the way back to the Kama Sutra (where it's called the congress of the crow…or cow, I can't remember, but regardless) and was featured in a book called "The Whore's Catechism," which I'm now going to see if Amazon carries. It is THE sex number. Now that 69 is a famous internet meme (and a Southpark joke), any mention of the phrase 69 (i.e. highway 69, 69%, etc.) evokes the wink-wink response of “nice.” What's your take on 69? Worthwhile or hardly worth it? Regardless, I hope you have a ‘nice' day… ;)

Let's play a game of rock paper scissors. Scissoring is kind of a joke in the sex world–everyone is interested but no one is moving in to actually talk about it. And if you dare to ask a lesbian about it–she'll groan and roll her eyes because everyone assumes this is what queer sex is like. NOT true. But trust, scissoring is real. Yes, completely real. What's more: It's FUN. And PLEASURABLE. Why is it called scissoring? Well, when you're doing it, that's exactly how you look: like two pairs of scissors opened and put together. One of the great things about this position is that it “comes in many different forms and is totally customizable to fit the desires of the parties involved. You get a ton of lovely bumping and grinding and clitoral action. It can be adjusted to fit all bodies and genders. Which means it's NOT just for women. Accessible sex for all? Hot damn. If you're feeling hmmm…intrigued and want to give this AH-mazing position a try, this week's episode is everything you need to know about scissoring, how to do it, and why it's freakin' glorious.

Put a ring on it. I mean I had to, right? Today's topic is the Wonderful World of Cock Rings, aka penis rings (also called a C ring, erection ring, penis ring, shaft ring, tension ring, or Arab strap.) And in the sex toy world, these are the unsung heroes, the cats meow, the tits, if you will (although nipple clamps is another episode for another week). Today we are going to bust a nut on those myths that cock rings are only for worn out old penises that need some zhuzh. That's a load of country crotch. You see, cock rings aren't just dick jewelry worn simply for aesthetics—although we guess they could be. Instead, they have multiple functions that work to give your sex life a lil boost, both for those with penises and their partners. A cock ring or cockring) is a ring worn around the penis, usually at the base. Cock rings worn just behind the corona of the glans of the penis are known as glans rings, head rings or cock crowns. A ring that is worn around the penis and scrotum is also usually called a cock ring, but is sometimes referred to as a cock and ball ring. Rings that are worn just around the scrotum, in order to hold the testicles, are usually called testicle cuffs or ball stretchers. If you're new to cock rings allow moi to explain what makes 'em so great, both for sex toy newbies and old pros alike

Why are we talking about butt plugs? Cuz we are continuing on with the Year of the Ass! A butt plug is a sex toy that someone inserts into the anus and can provide immense sexual pleasure. Butt plugs are available in various shapes and sizes, like tapered or teardrop shaped. Some even are bejeweled or have a furry tail coming out of them, because....seriously, why not. They ALWAYS HAVE A FLARED BASE because unlike dildos, butt plugs should stay in place after insertion. ‘Cuz, sis…I got stories about people who have seen a toy suck upinside the black hole (your anus in case you looked away for a second). But everyone can use them (men, women, gay, straight) and they use them for a whole buttload of reasons, which we'll talk about this week on: Club Butt Plug: pull up a plug and let's get cheeky!

Back in the day, spanking might have been something your parents did to you when you were in trouble—aka when I sass-mouthed over doing my homework or taking out the trash. Or other hypothetical trespasses. I thought I was edgy and cool. But I digress. BUTT as an adult, erotic spanking can actually be a reward, not punishment (unless you're into that, winky winky). How does erotic spanking differ from those times of Gen X youth? Well, erotic spanking is a form of consensual impact play that uses hands or tools to strike the butt, thighs, breasts, or other fleshy parts of the body. Spanking is one of the most common kinks out there, and if the thought of someone bending you over the knee turns you on, you're in good company. Spanking can release endorphins, causing a natural high. It's also a low maintenance activity, cuz all you really need, sis, is a partner (although that's not completely true either–more on that to come.) It's also one of the oldest kinks, with evidence of erotic spanking dating back to 5th century BC/BCE. I mean, two thousand plus years of documented bliss can't be wrong, can it? In this episode, we'll slap into the world of spanking and how to enjoy it!

Want to hear one of the horniest teeny obsessions dominating our sex lives this year? Pegging–anal penetration with a strap-on (named fetish of the year–who comes up with these?) Yes, pegging is moving mainstream, friends, just like rimming and other bootylicious fetishes. But it's not new (although the term “pegging” was first introduced in 2001). The 2010s saw a handful of notable pegging moments in pop culture, including the famed Ryan Reynolds scene in 2016's Deadpool. And who could forget 2022's news of Prince William's supposed fascination with it–hypothetically the “Prince of Pegging?” But (hehe), 2023 isn't all about dildos in buttholes. It's about saying “F” you to any societal shame or stigma that's holding you back from embracing your sexuality and feeling empowered to explore your desires to their fullest extent Let's celebrate the Year of the Peg! If your curiosity is royally piqued… strap it on for this week's episode to hear all about Pegging, cuz it ain't just for royalty anymore, sis.

Salad tossing. Anilingus. Rimming. Rim jobs are becoming more mainstream in pop culture, and although oral sex to the butt sounds like it's a taboo adventure, the truth is: the anus is mega-wealthy in ahhh-mazing nerve endings. If your first instinct is a HELL NO, don't knock it until you've tried it. There are tips and tricks to preventing “potty mouth,” and having a clean, fun, positive, sexy as hell experience. Variety is the key to life, and the key to becoming an analingus aficionado. And if Nicki Minaj can rap eloquent about “Toss my salad like his name Romaine,” then you, too, can love getting French kissed in ya' booty. Oh, and positions to try? Yeah, sis. We go over all that, too.

People look at fisting the way they look at Mt. Everest. Sure, SOME people can do it, but it takes way too much training and the chance of injury is pretty high. But fisting is NOT out of reach in the “Him-a-lay-yas” for us mere mortals. Yah, it does seem intense because it's an entire human fist inside your body. But done right? It can be extremely pleasurable, and won't cause you to lose oxygen (or an intestine). The key to fisting is patience. Patience and lube. And you don't even need a partner (yes, you can self-fist). In this episode, you'll hear all the deets on your own five-finger discount, including: --how to warm up to take a fist --what equipment you might need to start fisting (or be the fist-ee) --when to dismount from a fisting sesh and what to do afterwards for aftercare

What do Scarlett Johnasson, Angelina Jolie, Reese Witherspoon, Mila Kunis, Keira Knightley and a finger have in common? They've all been in SEXY SEXY movie scenes featuring 3rd base. Hollywood has done a damn good job at showing this sexy sex act for years–Mad Men, Fear, The Duchess, After Sex and more. But when most of us think of fingering, we may harken back to a time when our teenage partner acted like their finger was a tiny wiener. For a lot women, our early fingering experiences were just not good. Ah, but that can change. Fingering can be hot. FLAMEADO hot. It can actually become your preferred sex act, because it can be done anywhere, by anyone, and you don't have to worry about STDs. In this episode, hear all about fingering and how it's not just for horny, inept teenagers anymore.

When your sex life feels a little stale, how do you up the bedroom ante? Crazy sex positions! We've spent the past few episodes reviewing some classics, and some new funky fresh ones (I mean, the butter churner?) The problem is that sex positions that keep getting used the same way tend to put us in a sex rut (boo). More exotic sex positions can help keep the spark alive, or just get you into shape (lookin' at you, wheelbarrow). But what if you're feeling really adventurous? This week, we're going over some positions that don't fit “inside the box” (but will definitely satisfy your box). Truthfully, some crazy positions could potentially cause disabling injuries. All medical caution aside, the ones we discuss this week are mind-blowingly good, totally worth the try and some are just weird to talk about at cocktail parties.

There's a reason the dish ran away with the spoon. The spooning sex position is perfect for lazy times, just like Lionel Richie said (“easy like Sunday mornings”). Especially when you want to put those precious few minutes before you gotta get up to good use. But this sex position isn't only for when you're too tired to bother with any other. (Do we dare attempt the speed bump before our morning coffee?) Spooning has gotten a bad rap because it's thought of as lazy, but that's simply not true. There are so many great benefits to spooning and all of its variations (like the slotted spoon, the serving spoon and the spork–yeah, I said spork) have pleasures to offer. Since spooning often leads to forking, let's go over how to make spooning your new go-to position. **Fun fact: it's Vermont's favorite position and top two on the list for bisexual couples.

Continuing on with our position-palooza, we've gone over doggy, cowgirl, missionary, speedbump and the uber-sexy lotus. We've been prone or in a sitting position for all of these…until now. Warning: some of these are hella fun and ADVANCED (I should probably put some safety notice here as a physician, but I'll let you judge for yourself) Standing sex positions can come in handy for all sorts of situations. You want to change things up in the bedroom; that gotta-have-you-now feeling strikes, or you just want to get it on while prepping dinner (I know a woman whose husband was always mega turned on but her peeling zucchini at the kitchen sink: best sex ever, she claimed. Hey…do you!). Most any position we've already discussed can be done standing up–doggy can be done in the shower or against a wall. Missionary can be done upright as well. Those are classics with a twist. But what are some positions that solely exist in the upright state? That's what we're gonna break down. In this episode, we'll go over: -the butter churner -the pile driver and its sister: the inverted pile driver -the wheelbarrow variations, safety tips, and more!

Trying the lotus sex position will make your “flower” blossom. Never heard of it?  Think it's only for tantra/advanced sexcapades?    Heck, naw!   While its roots are based in tantra (official name: yab-yum), the lotus can be enjoyed by ANYONE.  It's the position deemed “most wanted to try” in most polls and it's consistently rated as the most intimate, sexiest position out there.   In this episode you'll learn: Why it's been the sexiest position for the last 1000 years What the lotus is and why it'll curl your toes. How to modify and vary it for any situation   Get your zen on and try THE LOTUS sex position, you may find as your petals open one by one…it definitely makes you bloom!  YAB YUM!!

Speed bumps aren't just for traffic.  The speedbump is the most searched for sexual position on google?  (silver and bronze medalists: missionary and doggy style). Rumor: it's Britain's favorite position.  Cheers, mates!   Speed bump (and its variations, including something called the flatiron) is trending, because of the immense woman-friendly pleasure it can elicit (G spot stim, for sho), and it's easy to perform (no swings, or high impact aerobics involved).     It's the rear-entry position you may have been missing in your life!       In this episode, we're continuing our “Position-palooza” and talking the trending position of speed bump.  Sis, you gotta try it.    You'll discover: What the speed bump is and why it's trending How to perform it and variations/modifications 

On the menu of sex positions, one might call missionary the meat and potatoes position - it's a bit boring and basic BUT au contraire! Missionary can actually be hella hot if you know how to modify it, so don't knock a classic, sis.   The missionary position opens the door for oodles of sensuality, and if you don't want it to feel vanilla, there are things you can do about that.   In this episode, we're talking about missionary, and why you shouldn't write her off as a basic bitch just yet.   You'll also learn; -Where the name missionary comes from -How to bring Ms. Clitoris into the fun -The sex quesadilla (let's make it a thing)  

On the menu of sex positions, the cowgirl is something many people save for special occasions, but why should we? For a whole lot of titillating reasons, this is a position you should be doing more often, and today we're going to talk about how to expertly ride your steed, and take more control over your pleasure.   What makes this position so hot? How can you maximize your pleasure? In this episode, we're tackling another sex position, and share why you must try the cowgirl in your next bedroom adventure.   You'll also learn;  -Why inhibitions go out the door with reverse cowgirl  -How to oil up your saddle before you jump on  -Key modifications that will enhance your pleasure (without hurting your knees)  

Doggy style, hitting it from behind, getting your back blown out, going on all fours. It's a position known by many monikers, and if you're doing it right, it's also a position of many pleasures!   Before you picture your dog humping a throw pillow or Khaleesi being mounted by Khal Drogo, think again. Doggy style can be sensual and even intimate. In this episode, I share all the tips, hacks and accouterments that will make doggy style your new go-to position!   Solo play can be quite enticing in a doggy style position. -Heather Bartos    You'll also learn;  -How to make doggy style more comfortable for both the poker and the pokee -Nipple stimulation (not chip clips) and other ways to heighten the pleasure  -How to hit the good spot and avoid the ouch  

Our sexy little show has just celebrated its second birthday, and I thought a little makeover was in order soooo….welcome to The Sex Podcast! It's a new name, but it's still the same sexy.    This is the home of no holds barred convos about sex, and spilling tea about trends and discoveries (such as sex toys from the Roman Era). Here, nothing is taboo and nothing is off the table, and I'm so excited to be bringing you so much more in this new version of our show.    In this episode, you'll learn about our show's facelift and what you can expect going forward.  

You know how people have the goal to see the Eiffel Tower, Machu Picchu or meet Beyonce in their lifetimes? Why can't we bring this bucket list energy into our bedrooms?    Whether you're coupled up or riding solo, creating a sex bucket list is a really fun way to fantasize. It's also a sure-fire way to get yourself out of sexual stale-city.    So how do you create this red hot to-do (LOL) list? In this episode, I'm giving you a little horny homework that will take your sex life to the next level.     While you're putting your bucket list together, you want to be in an atmosphere that puts you in a sensual mood. It needs to be erotic, intriguing and a bit of a turn on. -Heather Bartos   You'll also learn; -The top 10 activities and kinks on sex bucket lists (prepare to be surprised) -Totally achievable things you can get off (hehe) your list right away -How to set the mood for your sexual vision board  

Sex toys provide us with a lot of pleasure, but guess who's not invited to the party? Mother Nature - because really, a lot of our buddies between the sheets aren't so good for the environment.   Luckily, you can get your freak on without harming the planet, thanks to eco-friendly, sustainable sex toys, which are becoming all the rage right now!   What makes these sex toys kinder to the planet? How do we stock our sex drawers with the right stuff? In this episode, I'm talking about the wonderful world of eco-friendly sex toys, from vibrators to lube.   You'll also learn; -The safe and ick-free way to dispose of unwanted sex toys  -Lubes that don't hurt the planet or jack up your vaginal pH -The wacky world of alternative sex toys (scrap wood vibrators, anyone?)

From Cosmo to conversations with friends, our world has a fascination (read obsession) with how often we should be bedding our partners, the more often, the better right?   Well…no, the answer isn't that open and shut actually. If having sex with your partner every day happens to be your jam, have at it, get it on sis! But it's important to note that intimacy looks different for different people, and frequency might not be the best metric for a healthy sex life.   In this episode, we're going to talk about why the frequency question requires a lot more nuance and other metrics we can use to check in on our sexy.   You'll also learn; -Why more sex doesn't necessarily equate with better wellbeing -Why quality always, always beats quantity -What our sex frequency can tell us about what's going on around us