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Self-trust isn't just a cute idea, it's the foundation for literally everything. This week we're joined by Emily Romero, trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™, to talk about how to stop overthinking, start trusting your gut, and finally feel like you've got you. If people-pleasing, insecurity, or indecision have been running the show... this one's for you. We cover: Why people-pleasing, overthinking, and low self-worth all come back to self-trust. If you're stuck in “I don't know what I want” mode, Emily breaks down how that's not a personality flaw, it's a self-trust issue. What to do when you feel totally disconnected from yourself. Tired of second-guessing every decision? Here's how to reconnect with your inner voice (even if it feels really quiet right now). How to build self-trust without needing to be perfect. Trusting yourself doesn't mean you always get it “right," it means knowing you'll have your own back either way. The sneaky ways we self-abandon in everyday life. From ignoring your gut to staying in the wrong relationship, Emily shares how to spot the tiny ways you break trust with yourself. Why trying to be the “good girl” keeps you stuck. We unpack how internalized shame, pressure to perform, and perfectionism block you from feeling safe in your own body. What sexual empowerment has to do with self-trust. Feeling confident in bed starts way before the bedroom. Emily explains how self-trust shapes desire, boundaries, and pleasure. How to trust yourself during a big life shift (like a breakup or job loss). When everything's changing, it's easy to spiral. Here's how to stay grounded and move forward with clarity. The difference between fear and intuition (and how to tell them apart). Is it a red flag or just anxiety? Emily breaks down how to read your body's signals and know what's actually right for you. BUY EMILY'S BOOK HERE! Connect with Emily: Listen to her podcast Visit her website Subscribe to our Patreon for downloadables, extended episodes, video episodes + more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: I've been with my partner for almost three years and I love everything about our relationship… except for the fact that he never compliments me. In the years we have dated he has never once told me I look pretty, hot, beautiful, nothing. I tell him often that I like his outfit, hair, shoes, that he looks hot, etc. but he never reciprocates. He makes me feel very loved in other ways, but this in particular is slowly making me very insecure about myself. How do I balance my own self-esteem with wanting to feel approval and desire from my partner? What We Cover: Your needs are important and valid. We unpack why your emotional and physical needs in a relationship matter just as much as your partner's (and how to stop minimizing them). Real talk on having a brutally honest conversation with your partner. What it looks like to drop the “cool girl” act and actually say the hard things you've been holding in. How to advocate for your needs in and out of the bedroom. Practical scripts and strategies to help you speak up, without feeling like you're asking for "too much". Communication strategies that actually work. We break down simple, clear ways to communicate your needs without spiraling into conflict or shutdown. How to build up your self-esteem and sexual confidence. From the stories you tell yourself to the way you show up in your body, we walk through the internal shifts that make a real difference. Balancing self-worth with partner validation. We explore how to recognize when you're outsourcing your self-worth to your relationship and how to  Resources: ⁠Get The Perfect Solo Date Downloadable HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon for downloadables, extended episodes, video episodes + more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We're joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We're talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing anger, sadness, and anxiety in the moment and how to stay fully present when you're actually feeling good (because joy can feel scary too). You'll walk away with grounded, science-backed tools to help you regulate your nervous system and feel fully capable of feeling your damn feels. What to do in the moment when you feel anxious, sad, or angry. Instead of spiraling or shutting down, try these quick, specific tools Béa shares to move through emotions with intention and grace. How to regulate your nervous system when you're overwhelmed. Learn small, science-backed shifts to lean in and ground yourself when emotions hit hard. The connection between the nervous system and your emotions. Béa explains why your body reacts the way it does and how understanding your nervous system can change your relationship with feelings. Why big joy can feel just as overwhelming as big sadness. And what to do so you don't shut down when things are actually good. How to stop gaslighting yourself when you're having a hard day. We unpack the internalized beliefs that tell us to “suck it up” and offer alternatives that actually support healing. The surprisingly powerful tool of naming what you feel. (Yes, it actually works and here's how to do it.) How to stop managing emotions with productivity. We explore why many of us cope by “doing more” and how to shift into actually feeling more without falling apart. Scripts for saying what you need without the guilt. Whether you're with a partner, a therapist, or just trying to validate yourself, here's how to express what you need clearly and compassionately. PREORDER BÉA'S BOOK HERE! Visit her website HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we're showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn't a gap, it's the glow-up. What We Cover in This Episode: Why singlehood isn't a “pause” in your life, it's the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter, not something you're just surviving until your next relationship. How to build a life that turns you on. From friends to creativity to pleasure, we dive into what it means to design a life that lights you up from the inside out.  The real reason timelines make you feel behind (and how to break free). We unpack the fear-based messaging around age, marriage, and milestones and how to stop letting them run your love life. How to date yourself with the same energy you'd give a partner. We walk through what it actually looks like to show up for yourself emotionally, romantically, and sexually. Tips for creating the perfect solo date night (that ends with pleasure, not loneliness). We share our go-to structure for solo dates—including a downloadable guide you can find HERE—to help you feel connected, sexy, and satisfied. Why redefining intimacy is key to thriving in your single era. We explore how to create intimacy through friendships, rituals, and self-connection no partner required. How to stop confusing being alone with being unworthy. We break down the loneliness lie and how to reclaim your worth, confidence, and joy while solo. Resources: Get The Perfect Solo Date Downloadable HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon for other downloadables, extended episodes, video episodes + more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we're joined by Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast. Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections that feel liberating and real.  What we cover in this episode: How to talk about sex, whether you're in a long-term relationship or a casual hookup. Practical tools for naming your needs without shame, fear, or performance.  Why community is key to sexual confidence. How surrounding yourself with sex-positive people helps normalize your desires. The silent damage of purity culture. How early messages about sex create shame and how to unlearn them. How to overcome shame after a hookup. Reframing “sluttiness” as something powerful, not something to regret. Why self-pleasure is step one to communication. What Nicole recommends for anyone struggling to talk about what they want. To feel big pleasure, you have to feel big feelings. Why crying and cumming might be more connected than you think. How to find the words for what you want. Tips for discovering and articulating your desires, even if you've never done it before. Resources + Links Follow Nicole on Instagram: @modernanarchypodcast Listen to the Modern Anarchy Podcast HERE! Get The Psychedelic Jealousy Guide HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: "I'm in a really loving and supportive relationship and I want to have sex. Like, I mentally want it—I'm attracted to my partner, I crave intimacy, I feel emotionally connected… but it still takes me a long time to feel fully turned on physically. I don't just get wet easily, and sometimes it feels like I'm waiting for my body to catch up. It makes me feel kind of broken or like I'm doing something wrong. Is this normal? Why is it so hard to just “flip the switch,” even when I want to be there? And how can I navigate this with my partner in a way that doesn't make things awkward or overly clinical?" We're covering: The difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire How to stop "shoulding" on yourself when it comes to sex Tips for talking to your partner about your needs (BONUS: how to talk to a casual hookup about your needs) Specific strategies you can use to get in the mood (solo or with your partner) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We sat down with Susanna Brisk, Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids, exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self. We cover: How to reignite sexual connection after having kids – tips for rebuilding desire and intimacy at any stage of parenting Common myths about sex after kids – and why losing your libido doesn't mean your sex life is over Practical ways to communicate about sex with your partner post-baby – even when you're tired or touched out Understanding mismatched sex drives in long-term relationships – and how to meet in the middle Creating emotional and physical space for intimacy with kids at home – yes, it's possible (and v necessary) How to explore your erotic blueprint as a parent – and why rediscovering pleasure can be empowering Real strategies for prioritizing intimacy without guilt – even with a toddler banging on the door Why sexual identity shifts after parenthood—and how to embrace that change Tools for reconnecting with your body and desire – especially after childbirth or parenting burnout  Why talking about sex openly can strengthen your relationship post-kids Connect with Susanna: Susanna's Website Susanna's Instagram ✨ FREE DOWNLOADABLE HERE ✨ JOIN OUR PATREON HERE⁠ to access the extended interview and exclusive content. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we're diving into all things intimacy while pregnant and postpartum. Cass is answering listener questions about her experience navigating sex and relationships as a new mom. We cover: WTF a mucus plug is How Cass navigated body changes while pregnant and postpartum and a PSA on stretch marks Normalizing postpartum vaginas  How Cass navigated sex and intimacy while pregnant and postpartum A pep talk for when postpartum doesn't go the way you hoped it would What advice Cass would give to partners of pregnant and postpartum people What it's like dealing with mom shame Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research. The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We've had open conversations about it and she's super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun unintended, but also… not wrong). What is actually considered a “normal” penis size? Do women even care about size as much as we're led to believe? And most importantly—how do we make penetrative sex work for both of us, or what are some other ways we can stay intimate without feeling like we're missing out?" We're covering: What the research says about "normal" penis size and what partners are looking for Alternatives to PIV sex that you can try Tips for making PIV sex more comfortable (toy, tools, and positions) Are some penises too big for condoms? How to find YOUR condom size BONUS: tips for if you feel like your penis is too "small" for penetrative sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover: The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship What a truly PASSIONATE relationship can look like Tips for flirting with your partner Action steps for rekindling the passion in your relationship The importance of NOVELTY and how to build it into your sex life Why you need to be having bougie sex How create a passionate relationship with YOURSELF as a single person Connect with Dr. Diane: On her website Take the libido quiz HERE!  Take the turn ons quiz HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover: What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Naming & Negotiating  Sex acts for when you're low on energy How to bring this conversation to your partner Connect with Susan: On her website On Instagram JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE. We cover: Expanding your definition of foreplay How to turn yourself ON Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage How to feel ENTITLED to your needs How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨ Low-stakes ways to initiate sex How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY Connect with Haylin: On Instagram On her website Subscribe to our Patreon HERE for exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a whole lot of vulnerability.  The Question: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for years, but now we're in different life stages—she's focused on her career and dating and I'm starting a family. It's hard to stay as close as we were. How can we keep this friendship strong while growing in different directions?" We cover: • Expert tips for navigating change within a friendship • Questions you need to ask yourself • Conversations you need to be having with your friend • Ways to support one another • Permission to just be sad... because honestly change sucks sometimes (even when it's a good thing) For more episodes like this, SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PATREON HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelmen, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into: WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex The BENEFITS of focusing on sexual acts outside of penetration How to tell your partner you want to stop prioritizing penetrative sex What to try instead of penetration Connect with Claire: On her website On Instagram Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to watch this episode and access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover: What sexual avoidance is, how it can feel, and WHY it happens Redefining all the "shoulds" that come with sex Tools for navigating sexual avoidance Understanding low libido Rethinking the belief that "the low desire partner needs to change" Connect with Jessa HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover: The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stability, extraversion, openness, agreeableness & conscientiousness How to figure out where you rank on each of the Big 5 traits Are you still being "authentic" if you try to change your personality? Olga's tips (based on years of research and personal experience) for changing your personality Action steps you can take to become more extroverted, less neurotic, more open and/or more conscientious Take the personality test Olga took HERE! Get Olga's Book HERE! Read Olga's other work at The Atlantic HERE! Connect with Olga on her Substack HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover: What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol) WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating How to set up your space for a peaceful practice Extra steps you can take to make yourself feel special 3 example masturbation practices Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access our Masturbation Menu Downloadable and so much more! References In the Episode: Passion Fruit Fizz Mocktail Recipe Liz Moody's Creamy Strawberry Cinnamon Aphrodisiac Mocktail Silk Sheets Playlist BB Outlet by Bellesa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover: A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to be a Dominatrix What it's like to be a lifestyle dom and a deep dive into the master/slave dynamic within BDSM The 4 Dominatrix Archetypes and how YOU can start embodying each one How BDSM can be used as a healing modality for both the giver and receiver Simple strategies you can use to come across as more confident (in and outside the bedroom) How to be more dominant in the bedroom as a beginner PLUS Damiana walks us through what a session with her looks like! Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to watch this episode, access exclusive content, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover: The most common transitions couples go through and WHY they're so f*cking hard (even if they're "supposed" to be good) Habits to start incorporating NOW so you can navigate big transitions with ease A weekly check in you can do with your partner to feel seen, heard & supported Simple tools to help keep you on track during a fight Questions you can ask to reignite the intimacy in your relationship And at what point you should consider WALKING AWAY Connect with EJ and Tarah: Listen Relationship Renovation HERE! Check out their website HERE! Follow them on Instagram HERE! Watch their YouTube HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to watch this episode, access exclusive content, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering: Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start) Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films)  The Golden Age of Porn Porn & Pop Culture A lesson on ethical porn (what is it, why it's cool & how to know if YOUR porn is ethical) The types of porn people are actually watching (in 2016, 2021 & 2024) PLUS a few benefits of watching porn! Listen to Right Answers Mostly HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover: WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits Games to help you and your partner get to know each other Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension Orgasm denial games Food games Games to play with sex toys Timed games & actual board games (including a special Honeydew Me game you can get if you subscribe to our Patreon!) JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the game downloadable from this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're diving into long term relationships with Dr. Frankie Bashan, a sex therapist and founder of Little Gay Book, an LGBTQIA+ matchmaking service!  We cover: Whether or not long term relationships should feel EASY + other common misconceptions about LTRs The tools you NEED to build a strong relationship  The common (and toxic) mistakes we're making in our relationships How to navigate with dreaded "roommate phase" What being "clingy" actually means and what you can do to address it Daily + weekly habits you can start incorporating into your life to benefit your relationship Connect with Dr. Frankie: On YouTube Through Little Gay Book or Little Black Book  Watch Her Ted Talk HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a much needed pep talk.  The Question: "I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, and the sex... it's just not great. It's not that we don't like each other, but it just feels off. I want to be honest, I just don't know how to approach it, so please HELP!" We cover: Questions to ask yourself  Expert tips for talking about sex with a partner How to give critical feedback KINDLY How to give feedback *in the moment* Why it's actually TOTALLY OKAY (and very normal) to be bad at sex Permission to break up with someone if the sex is bad For more episodes like this, SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PATREON HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're exploring how to navigate mismatched sexual desire with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, a Somatic Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach. Did you know it's completely normal for sexual fulfillment and desire to waiver over the course of a relationship? Luckily Susan has a buttload of tools to help get through these tricky times. We cover: WHY these discrepancies happen (even if it used to feel like you were on the same page) What the research says about HOW LONG couples struggle with intimacy issues before getting help + tips for navigating any shame associated with these issues Steps you can take to address desire discrepancy  Questions you can ask yourself or your partner to COMPLETELY CHANGE your sex life The skills you need to build (or rebuild) a FULFILLING sex life  Connect with Susan: On her website On Instagram JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The journey continues as we give you OVER 50 SEX ACTS to try in 2025. From foreplay, to masturbation, to positions, to kink, we're helping you build your sexual tool kit and feel confident AF anytime you step into the bedroom. In Part 2, we're covering: Spicy and adventurous places to get it on Refresher on how to give amazing oral and hand sex Kinky ideas for adding spice to your routine Aftercare and how it enhances your intimacy Plus BTS stories on unaired episodes JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the resource list for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're giving you OVER 50 SEX ACTS to try in 2025. From foreplay, to masturbation, to positions, to kink, we're helping you build your sexual tool kit and feel confident AF anytime you step into the bedroom. In Part 1, we're covering: Our favorite foreplay techniques Tips for dirty talk & sexting How to actually feel SEXY Exciting ways to spice up your masturbation practice 10 different sex positions and tips for making them PLEASURABLE AF JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the resource list for this episode and so much more! Tune in next week for the other 25+ sex acts worth trying this year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we're diving headfirst into the world of erotic romance novels and it will absolutely CHANGE YOUR LIFE. We start off the episode by talking with the co-founders of Tempt, an erotic romance audio-book app designed by women, for women with the goal of ELIMINATING the pleasure gap. We cover: How listening to erotic novels can COMPLETELY change your sex life  The BENEFITS of listening to erotic content How to use erotic novels to reconnect to your desire and feel sexy AF How to use erotic novels to explore your interests & fantasies Next we cover a few ways to start incorporating erotic stories into your solo and partnered play. This includes: Turning yourself on throughout the day Opportunities for roleplay Building up and/or acting out your fantasies Lastly, we want you to start getting all these incredible benefits ASAP... so we're sharing a clip from an erotic novel you can find on Tempt! Stay tuned until the end of the episode for a taste of "Big Bad Wolf" by Jenika Snow.  Start listening to books on Tempt HERE! Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anna Goldfarb, an author and friendship explainer, is here to do just that. She teaches us the KEY to cultivating new friendships and how to lovingly maintain the ones we have. We cover: HOW to make meaningful friendships  The #1 thing you need to be doing in all your friendships  How to build friendships that LAST Supporting friends who are in different life stages How many friends you *actually* need according to science Concrete ways to SHOW UP and be a good friend Connect with Anna: On her website Get Anna's book "Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections" HERE!  On Instagram Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're talking with Anna Kai, the creator of maybe both, your favorite internet hype woman, and our GO TO for the brutally honest advice we need in our 20s. We unpack how to find self worth, what we're often getting wrong in our 20s and how to step off the comparison train. We also cover: What we should ACTUALLY be focusing on in our 20s vs. what we're taught we should be doing How to fully embrace the freedom of your 20s (whether your single or partnered) What to do if you're struggling with self worth How to navigate hitting "rock bottom" Things to tell yourself when you start to compare or feel "behind" in life Letting go of the need to be liked Finding YOUR person aka someone who doesn't have to "leave you to love you" Connect with Anna: Listen to Brutally Anna Connect on TikTok  Visit her website HERE!  Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You asked, we answered, let's go. We're diving into YOUR questions and sharing all the expert advice, resources, and personal experiences we've gleaned over the past four years. We're covering: "How do I try new things in the bedroom?" How to talk about trying something new Tips for initiation How (and why) to set a container "How can I start having shame free casual sex?" A pep talk + reframe of why casual sex is AWESOME Steps to combat feeling "guilty" "How can I be less needy in my new relationship? How to EMBRACE your needs and redefine what it means to be needy An action plan for if you really are "too" needy Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our BESTIE Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, a coach for people with codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing thinking, is BACK and as always... it's everything we've been craving. In this episode we're unpacking OVERFUNCTIONING. Wtf is it? How do we stop? V has all the answers and more. We cover: What it means to be "overfunctioning" and why people with codependent, perfectionist & people pleasing tendencies often find ourselves here Examples of how we overfunction in relationships, the workplace & other areas of life How overfunctioning impacts us overtime  How to know the difference between doing something you WANT vs. something you HAVE to What to do if you've created a "tit for tat" dynamic in your relationship What to do if you've become the "nagging" partner What to do if you're ready to stop overfunctioning Connect with Victoria: On her website FREE RESOURCES for Honeydew Me Listeners Listen to her podcast Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're diving into ORGASMS with Keeley Rankin, MA, a sex & relationship coach who is ready to redefine how you think about sex. We cover: What an orgasm ACTUALLY is How most vagina owners reach orgasm Orgasm comparison aka feeling like your orgasms are less than because you can't orgasm in a particular way (internally, cliterally etc.) What gets in the way of finding your orgasm THE ORGASM TRAP... what is it and how do we get out of it?! Why we NEED to depriotritze orgasms in order to MAXIMIZE our pleasure Why we fake orgasms and how to stop  How our orgasms change as we age Sign Up For Keeley's Sex Class HERE! (affiliate link) From 11/13/24-11/19/24 use code DEWME15 for 15% off! From 11/19/24 forward, use code HONEYDEW for 5% off! Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're chatting with Sara Fisk, host of the Ex Good Girl podcast and coach for people who want to stop people pleasing. We cover: What it means to be "a good girl" and how it's RUINING your life both in and outside the bedroom The "Good Girl Rules" we need to start breaking in order to live our most authentic, fulfilling lives WHY we people please and how to know when we're doing it A step by step plan for eliminating people pleasing from your life How to disappoint people (and why you should start doing it) How to navigate difficult conversations How to stop apologizing SO. F***ING. MUCH. Connect with Sara: On her website On Instagram Listen to her podcast Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After 4 years of interviewing experts, we're sharing EVERYTHING we've learned about asking for what you want in the bedroom (and beyond). We chat through how to ask for what you want, and tools to help you advocate for yourself from start to

We're chatting all things ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION with Melissa Hadley Barrett, a Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist from Western Australia who specializes in treating ED. We unpack the causes of ED, the many treatment options, and how to start working through any shame or embarrassment you or your partner may be experiencing. We also cover: How COMMON erectile dysfunction is and why you really don't need to feel ashamed Reasons why you may be experiencing ED What to say to a partner who's experiencing ED What's considered NORMAL when it comes to erections (frequency, duration etc.) How to access treatment for ED Lifestyle changes that may help your ED Things you can do IN THE MOMENT to help your erection (position changes etc.) The deal with penis pumps... because it turns out they're kinda cool Connect with Melissa: On her website On Instagram On TikTok Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Danielle Savory, a pleasure coach, is here to help us redefine wtf PLEASURE means and how to start prioritizing it. You deserve to be PLEASURED and SATISFIED both in the bedroom and beyond. Luckily Danielle is giving us all the necessary steps to make that a reality. We cover: What pleasure does to your brain Why we need to be prioritizing pleasure (HINT: it'll improve your life and help you achieve your goals) How to find your personal "why" for prioritizing pleasure How to prioritize pleasure even if you're super busy How to prioritize pleasure during sex The difference between pursuing pleasure vs pursuing happiness How to program your brain to look for the good How stress impacts your experience of pleasure and how to start stressing less Connect with Danielle: On her website On Instagram Listen to her podcast "It's My Pleasure" Savory Starter Guide Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you know that dating can actually be JOYFUL? That you don't HAVE to be on the apps to meet people? We sure didn't. Thank the good lord for Lily Womble, creator of Date Brazen and author of "Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love." In this episode, Lily covers: Why the current state of dating sucks so much... it's not just you and there's real cognitive reasons why it feels so awful How to start centering IRL dating and get off the apps How to stop feeling behind and embrace your singleness A step-by-step plan to take your dating life from *bleh* to FULL OF JOY How to embrace the awkwardness and messiness of dating What the phrase "Thank You, More Please" means and how to start using it to create the life you want How to build a date that brings you joy Connect with Lily: On her website  Buy her book  Main Character Dating course  Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're talking all things GRIEF with our favorite therapists: Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT aka Shrink Chicks. We dive into what grief ACTUALLY is, how it shows up in our lives, and how tf to deal with it. We also cover: How to identify when you're feeling grief The unexpected ways grief shows up in our lives Grieving when things don't go the way you expected How control and expectations play into grief How resilience actually makes you cooler, braver and stronger  Why having a specific timeline for your life sets you up for failure The ways you're probably invalidating your own grief and how to stop Additional ways to process grief Connect with Em & Jen: On their website Listen to their podcast Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we're catching up by diving into our inbox and sharing some of our wildest emails. We're also sharing some of our favorite sex facts that are pretty much guaranteed to make you feel good about yourself. We cover: The spicy (and unwanted) invitations we've received via email What research has to say about unsolicited dick pics Q+A: How to deal when you want to try something new in the bedroom and your partner DOES NOT aka managing rejecting We dive into the data to find out: Are people actually having that much sex? How many sexual partners is considered "normal"? How confident people actually feel in the bedroom? What's the deal with sex dreams? What are people doing with their pubes? Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Need a little guidance? Us too. That's why we turned to Aja Vines, an intuitive reader and guide who just GETS IT. She's sharing her best tips for living your most authentic, fulfilling life and if you're anything like us, it's EXACTLY what you've been needing to hear. We cover: What it ACTUALLY means to live an authentic life How to know what's authentic to YOU Steps you can take to build self-trust How to comfort yourself instead and STOP beating yourself up What to do when you're feeling behind in life What your intuition is and how to get in touch with it How to start using tarot/oracle cards A VERY SPECIAL INTUITIVE READING just for our Honeys The oracle deck Aja used for our reading is linked HERE!  Connect with Aja: On her website  On TikTok  Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

April Davis of Haus of Vagina, a sex and menstrual educator, is BACK to tell us everything we need to know (but definitely don't) about vaginas, periods, and birth. We cover: Labiaplasty- what's the deal, why people get them, what the potential side effects are, and questions to ask if you're considering getting one What happens to your vagina after you give birth Postpartum sex and why it's not as scary or bad as they say it will be Questions to ask your OB or gynecologist  The importance of caring for your pelvic floor How cycle syncing (aka living your life according to which part of the menstrual cycle you're in) will help you fall in lovewith your period and life in general How to cycle sync if you have an IUD Rethinking the language we use when talking about sex and vaginas Connect with April: On her website On Instagram Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're starting off our new season by learning how to navigate change and life transitions with our bestie Victoria Albina, NP, MPH. Victoria is a coach who helps people overcome their codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking and she's also our go-to whenever we're ready to feel SEEN, heard, and have our worlds absolutely rocked. In this episode, Victoria covers: The very primal reasons why change can be TERRIFYING Finding safety in yourself so you can be confident navigating change How to find your truth and also know when it's time for change Why your desire to keep other people happy gives you a false sense of safety What to do when the people in your life don't like, acknowledge, or support your changes Why it's not ~always~ a bad thing to care what others think How to stop fighting and let other people have their experience (spoiler: we don't have to control everything and maybe it isn't all that serious anyway)  Before the interview, we also chat about: Your sexy summer stories The changes we've been going through What you can expect from Honeydew Me this season Connect with Victoria: On her website FREE RESOURCES for Honeydew Me Listeners Listen to her podcast Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we're learning how to breakup with ANYONE (yes, anyone) with Jamye Waxman, a sex therapist and author. We cover: The types of breakups we experience (friends, family, romantic partners) WHY breakups are so damn hard HOW to breakup with someone What to avoid when breaking up with someone What's a “good enough reason” to breakup with someone How to start feeling better [Episode 122 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey ya filthy sl*t... let's learn how to talk dirty. Dr. Tara is back on the pod with TONS of examples and expert advice. We chat about: How ANYONE can be good at dirty talk (even if you're awkward) Dynamic dirty talk 8 types of dirty talk and examples for each Directing vs narrating Beginner to intermediate examples Alternatives to "daddy" Our favorite words to refer to a penis [Episode 123 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're covering all things libido with sex therapist (and libido expert) Dr. Emily Jamea. We chat about: What libido is and isn't The difference between libido, sex drive, and desire What a "normal" libido looks like Why low libido isn't inherently bad How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship Common libido myths What can negatively impact your libido [Episode 138 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we're pressing play ON PORN and learning all the ways it can make our sex lives hotter and our relationships better. Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Master's in clinical psychology joins us to chat about: How porn can BENEFIT your relationship Fun ways to incorporate porn into partnered sex Jealousy and porn: "why do they watch porn if they have me?!" and "what if my partner is jealous that I watch porn?" Is watching porn cheating? Feeling insecure about the type of porn you watch What to do if the type of porn your partner watches makes you uncomfy How much is TOO MUCH porn? [Episode 113 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Okay Honey, it's time we talk about sex and antidepressants (but also anxiety, stress, and depression). Sex on drugs aint easy, which is why we're talking with Dr. Jordan Rullo and getting ALL the tips on how to deal. We cover the basic science behind it all, changes in sex drive and sexual function, fight or flight during sex, and a whole lot more. In addition to actionable steps, we talk through mourning your sexual self, reframing your sexual experiences, and how to support a partner who is struggling with these changes. [Episode 96 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Michelle Hope, sexologist, activist and Director of Social Impact and Strategic Communications at SIECUS, joins us to talk post-Roe action items and resources. We discuss: What Roe v. Wade is, what happened, and how we actually got here The role of comprehensive sex education Resources for states that have lost access to abortion Getting involved in your community Resources: https://www.threeforfreedom.com/ [Watch on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're breaking down toxic masculinity and sex shame with Zachary Zane, author of "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto". We cover: What toxic masculinity is and how it manifests How toxic masculinity impacts our sex lives and leads to sexual shame How sexual shame limits and negatively impacts us Zachary's personal experience with sexual shame and being bi Labels in life and social media What queerbaiting actually means [Episode 137 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are finally talkin' PURITY CULTURE and, perhaps more importantly, we're talkin' all about how to ditch that bitch. Erica Smith, the creator of Purity Culture Dropout TM, is here to share all the dirty deets. We chat about… What purity culture is How purity culture impacts our sex lives Concrete steps for quitting Concept of virginity & "body count" Post-sex guilt [Episode 83 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

THE Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is on the pod and ready to talk ALL things birth control. We chat about: Common myths and misconceptions (i.e. infertility, negative health impacts etc) Whether "hormone balancing" is legit and if "hormone imbalances" are the cause of all your issues WHY we tend to demonize birth control Types of birth control methods (hormonal vs non hormonal) Plan B: what it is, how to use it & when to use it What actually is an abortion and what are the types of abortions FREE RESOURCES  [Episode 108 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices