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A belief that you need to unlearn is “You need to be perfect to succeed” “Perfect” can take many forms socially... “I need to say something really profound in this meeting.”  “I could say that thing, but it's not interesting enough.”  “I could ask this question, but it might sound silly.” "Perfect" is that imaginary bar that you need to jump over to give yourself permission to speak up.  It's a trap! This belief can hold you back because it makes it harder to take action and practice.  Why is this important? The more you practice, the better you get. If you can unlearn this belief, you'll take more action and unlock opportunities in your professional and personal life. I cover how you can unlearn this belief on the newest episode of the BMC podcast! NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)  PRIVATE COACHING Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching. MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE: Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.  

Do you want to make more friends, build your network, and throw parties that make people say “I can't WAIT for the next one!”?  My guest Nick Gray is here to show you how!  He's sharing secrets straight from his book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. In this episode, you'll learn: How throwing a cocktail party will expand your network. How to get 90% attendance at your party. When/how to send out reminders. Why guest name tags are crucial. What days of the week to throw a party. (It's not what you think) Why you don't need chairs at your party. How to gracefully end a party. About Nick: Nick Gray is an investor, entrepreneur, and author. He's also a 40-year old American man living in Austin, Texas. ​Nick started and sold two successful companies: Flight Display Systemsand Museum Hack. Over 75,000 people have watched his TEDx talk about why he hates most museums. He's the author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step handbook that teaches you how to build big relationships by hosting small gatherings. Nick's links: The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. How to Host a Happy Hour. How to Plan a Networking Event. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)  PRIVATE COACHING Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching. MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE: Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.

Note: Video version of this episode is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/331eiJKvKIc  Look, we've ALL been in social situations where we feel a little nervous. Maybe we want to make a good first impression, be more charismatic and charming, or just have a good interaction. In this episode, we'll look at 5 ways to be charming even when you're nervous. And we'll look at none other than the Batman himself, Robert Pattinson. We'll breakdown specific things he does that you can use next time you want to be less nervous and more charming. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)  PRIVATE COACHING Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching. MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE: Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.

Breakthrough Charisma is my online video course where you’ll learn the crucial skills you need to become a more charismatic version of yourself while staying 100% authentic. >> Learn more about Breakthrough Charisma: https://go.becomemorecompelling.com/breakthrough-charisma/    If you’re tired of cobbling together random tactics from articles and YouTube videos, and never really knowing if you’re on the right path, Breakthrough Charisma gives you the mindsets, skillsets, and systems to become authentically charismatic in your everyday life. Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com

Note: This episode is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/SZHYy_ZfnYo    ---   Who else is PUMPED about Wonder Woman 1984?!   I'm just excited for a new movie, even if the local theater is now my living room, and I am now the projectionist.   Wonder Woman has... Super strength. Super speed. A Super lasso. Gal Gadot has a superpower too: super charisma.   In this video, I'll breakdown 5 ways Gal Gadot displays charisma and how you can adapt them for your own personal charisma.   Hop in your invisible jet, grab your lasso of truth and enjoy this episode of Compelling Breakdowns! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

I used to think time travel would be awesome...until I read an 1883 etiquette book.   Life in the 1880s: 17 drinks before breakfast. Waiting for the automobile to be invented. Some light assault of service people. More drinking.   Grab your powdered wig, dust off your top hat, get in your horse and buggy and let’s learn some Victorian-era etiquette! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation? Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers. In part 2 of this series, we're going to cover 4 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in a conversation. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Building the skill of being witty in conversation is super important. When you meet a new person at work, for example, and you're able to crack a joke, it demonstrates that you don't take yourself too seriously, have a good sense of humor, and are socially skilled. All good things! If you've ever wondered how to be witty in conversation, this episode will fix you up! We'll look at three clips of Will Ferrell, and I'll breakdown the witty thing he's doing so that you can start to be more witty and low-key funny in your life. Let's dive in! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

It's been two YEARS since I've done a Q&A show.   That's far too long!   Today, we're going to cover three questions:   1. How can you make conversation with the company CEO in the elevator?   2. Should you skip small talk and jump right to big talk?   3. How can you feel comfortable around new people?   Let's dive in! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Building the SKILL of talking to anyone with confidence is SO important. If you're not able to  communicate with confidence, it'll be more difficult to advance in your career, lead/inspire your team at work, or be confident in a social situation. In this video, I'll show you 5 ways to talk to anyone with confidence. You'll want to stick around till the end of the episode because I'll outline the biggest mistake people make while trying to be confident. Let's dive in!!!! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever wondered how to network with people, you're not alone.   When someone says "Networking" it makes me think of American Psycho where a bunch of yuppies sit around comparing business cards.   "MY GOD...IT EVEN HAS A WATERMARK."   Networking doesn't have to feel that way!   And in 2020, most networking is sending a DM or email.   But how can you get noticed (in a good way) and connect with people who could take your business or career to the next level?   In this episode, we'll cover 6 ways you can be better at networking. (I'll even break down a DM that got me on a Zoom call recently.)   Let's dive in!   ---   Links: Quiz: https://go.becomemorecompelling.com/communication-style-quiz/ How to stop people-pleasing: https://youtu.be/fYDJXFisUt8 --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation?   Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers.   This episode is for you.   I'll cover 6 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in conversation.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

How To Be A Great Storyteller. Having the skill of telling a few good stories is a really important people skill. Pulling out a great story can be a fantastic way of entertaining people, providing information or even persuading others.  In this episode, I'm going to break down a story by Bill Hader and walk you through 4 tips on how to tell a great story. You'll be able to use these storytelling tips in your next Zoom meeting for work, or the next time you hang out with people. YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/myH0bny5MOE  --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

In this episode, I'll share 5 tips to help you stop being shy.   I spent YEARS being shy, and it was really hard, because I knew that I had so much that I wanted to contribute in social situations.   These tips will help you break the shyness cycle and be less quiet in your next social interaction.   --- Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Look, if you have a habit of people-pleasing, you probably get requests like ...   "Can you hop on this Zoom Meeting?"   "Hey, can you drive me to the Airport on Friday?"   "Hey, can you petsit my Egyptian Pharaoh Hound? He requires constant fanning with a palm leaf."   People pleasers tend to say "Yes!" too much. And it comes with a cost!   The more you say yes to others, the lest time and energy you have for yourself.   In this episode, I'll walk you through some tips to help you stop people-pleasing.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

"Just fake it until you make it!" This is popular advice-especially if you're trying to improve your people skills. Should you fake it until you make it? The more we take action and do something, the more our identity moves to align with the version of us that does that new thing. Our thoughts FOLLOW our actions. In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of tips that will help you make it, (and not fake it.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Should you care what other people think? There’s a lot of advice floating around telling us to not care what other people think. (Sometimes in more...colorful language than that.) I’ve never liked the concept of NGAF. But the reality is, caring less about the outcome of any given social interaction can massively help your people skills. In this episode, I’ll walk you through a couple of exercises that will help you declare “outcome independence” with some help from Tim Ferriss and the ancient Stoics. --- TED talk mentioned: https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/  --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever looked around the room and thought...   "I'm an imposter! What am I DOING here?!"   Then you've experienced imposter syndrome.   In this episode, we'll drop-kick imposter syndrome and also teach you how to use your ego as a tool.   ---   People mentioned:   Scott Adams   Platon    ---   Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Most people hesitate socially.   "Should I say this or that?"   "I don't want to rock the boat!"   It's time to get BOLD.   In this episode, we'll talk about how to be socially bold.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

The intent you carry into any social situation matters!   If you're not thinking about the right things, it can make having great social outcomes MUCH harder.   In this episode, we'll talk about social intent and what you can do before your next Zoom meeting, first date, or dinner party. (After COVID-19 quarantines clear)   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen. For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting. Not anymore. In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever been talking to someone and it seems like they already know what they’re going to say, and they’re just waiting for you to stop talking so they can say what they want? I call this the “spring-loaded response trap” and it signals to the other person that you’ve checked out of the conversation. (Not a good look if you want to have better interactions with other people.) Often, this happens because people lock on to something they KNOW they can respond to in conversation. And then they stop listening. If you feel like you may be guilty of this…in this episode, we'll cover what you can do about it. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

No one likes to be interrupted.    But look, it's bound to happen from time to time.   Maybe your new friend brings up something that you know a lot about, and you interject.    In this episode, we'll cover what you can say to get back on track and show the other person that you were listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak. (We'll also cover what to do if you were interrupted.)   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

There's this jerk of a cognitive bias called the Spotlight Effect. We tend to place more importance on ourselves in any given social situation.  And we tend to overestimate the amount that other people notice us. When it comes to improving our people skills, this isn't helpful. Here's how to use it to your advantage! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "They think I'm awkward/quiet/shy" then you've fallen into the mind-reading trap. (It's okay, we all do at some point) Mind reading isn't doing you any favors in social situations. In this episode, we'll cover the mind-reading trap and how to avoid it! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Do you ever fall into the "Why Questions Trap?"   If so, that's totally normal.   Why questions tend to focus you on the problem, not a solution.   In this episode, we'll cover how to transform those why questions to help you take action!   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

There are different phases to learning any new skill or starting any new project.   1. "This is going to be easy!" 2. "Okay, there's more work here than I thought..." 3. "WHAT'S THE %#@K!^G POINT?!" 4. "Okay, I'm feeling good again..."   In this episode we'll cover the entrepreneurial roller coaster, and what it means for learning people skills.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

How you introduce others matters! In this episode, we'll talk about how you can take your introductions to the next level. (This is an easy way to stand out and be likable.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about the difference between goals and systems. Goals are great, but they keep you in a constant state of failure. If you've always been a "goal person" then you need to check out this episode like yesterday. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Does being really really ridiculously good looking = better people skills? The answer might surprise you. (Hint: Focus on what you can control, and you can control a lot) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

"Be yourself!" "Be confident!" These are things that you'll hear a lot as you improve your people skills. Should you follow this advice? What does "Be yourself!" even mean?! I explain more in this episode. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

A LOT can happen in 10 years. In this episode, I'll walk you through an exercise by Debbie Millman that will help you get clear on what your life could look like in 10 years. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

We all have a lot of things we WANT to do, but wanting doesn’t mean much without deciding to take action. Learn the difference between wanting and deciding and take action to improve. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

It can be tough trying to stay social during quarantine. Here are a couple of tips to help you stay social and improve your people skills! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

I'm trying a new format with this episode. (First in a series) You'll learn a people skills tip in about 10 minutes or less. Let me know what you think! This is a borderline superpower that will help you be your best socially. It took me years to learn this, and you'll learn it in about 8 minutes. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here. --------- How can we craft a powerful message? A message that says everything we need to say in a neat package? A message that can inspire everyone from your small team at work, to tens of thousands when you're behind the camera or mic? On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, my friend Nicole Schwegman (@bffwiththechef on IG) is going to walk us through crafting a powerful, clear message. Think of this episode as media training 101. "But Jeff, I'm not media facing in my company, should I listen to this episode?" YES! Many of Nicole's tips will absolutely help if you're sitting down with media. (TV, Radio, Podcasts, etc.) But the lessons here are 100% applicable to you if you've ever: -Sat down for a job interview. -Had to answer tough questions asked by a boss. -Lead a team of any size. More about Nicole: Nicole Schwegman is a public affairs officer in the U.S. military. She’s served in the Navy for nearly 16 years where she’s had the opportunity to help media train some of American’s most senior military leaders. She is also a home chef, food enthusiast and the host of BFF with the Chef, the podcast that aims to make home cooks better in the kitchen by sharing cheffy insights from each week's culinary guest. Disclaimer for this show: Nicole's opinions expressed in this episode are her own, they do not reflect the views or opinions of the U.S. military. Check out Nicole's podcast BFF with the Chef here Full show notes and links are here Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here.

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of BMC Radio, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills I have my friend Paul Sanders (@PaulSandersSCP) from Get The Friends You Want. Paul Sanders is a friendship & social skills coach, and author of the "Get The Friends You Want" book. He helps people overcome social hesitation, master conversation and social skills, make friends and build a social circle.  In an age where connection seems to be tipping more thumb than face, I think honing your friendship skills is only getting more important, especially if you're working remote, or starting a business and don't have the traditional 9-5 office culture to fall back on. In this conversation, we talk about how to build a friendship circle, how to easily connect and build rapport with many different types of people, books on social dynamics, and much more. Free gift for BMC listeners: 7 Most Common Mistakes Peoples People Make When They Try To Improve Their Social Life (And How To Avoid Them) Highlights: -11:45 - Paul’s advice for building a friendship circle. -25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills. -28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people As always, show notes are available on the blog.  --- Join thousands of ambitious overthinkers who have supercharged their confidence and people skills using proven strategies in my free audio training on group conversations available via my private newsletter. Get it here.

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Rob Riker (@robertgriker) from The Social Winner.  Over the last few months, I've seen a lot of questions about making friends...      This podcast will answer all these questions and more. If you've every wanted a solid strategy around making new friends and connections, this podcast episode is for you. After listening, you'll be able to make new friends on command. Rob has been featured in Business Insider, Lifehack, The Friend Formula, and Tiny Buddha. --- Free gift for BMC readers: Get Rob's free 8 lesson course on how to make new friends this month here. --- Highlights: 19:56 - How to bridge the gap between acquaintances and meeting up a second time 26:15 - The crucial time to swap contact info 34:29 - Should you initiate plans with friends or wait for them to initiate plans?

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Kyle Ingham (@DistilledMan), founder of The Distilled Man. Kyle is awesome, he has the poise and style Don Draper and the wit and charm of Ryan Reynolds. In this wide-ranging conversation, we tackle how to make great first impressions, how to be likable, how to build rapport, negative self-talk, giving effective feedback at work, cocktails, and much more. Kyle has been featured in the San Francisco Examiner, Forbes, The Good Men Project, among others. Kyle has an excellent free resource for BMC Radio listeners: The 48 Hour Gentleman: Your One Weekend Plan For More Confidence, Poise, and Manly Know-How. This excellent guide covers how to cook a steak, get a shirt tailored, male a Manhattan, and much more. Full show notes and link available here: https://www.becomemorecompelling.com/blog 

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery. (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram) Myke is a really interesting guy, he was born in Asia, move to the Middle East, then landed in Canada at age 16 while not being able to speak English. He had to start from scratch with people skills. The customs of places he'd lived his entire life were suddenly reversed in a western country. If you've wanted to level up your social confidence, make better first impressions, or network authentically at a conference this episode will be exactly what you need. Myke's Free Gift For BMC Listeners: Shy to Social: How To Approach And Talk To Anybody No Matter How Shy You Are More about Myke: Myke Macapinlac was a shy immigrant who used to work a boring engineering job and became a talk show host, a social dynamics specialist, and a lifestyle entrepreneur. He now teaches shy guys to develop social confidence so they can succeed in their personal, romantic, and professional lives. His work has been featured in the Calgary Herald, on Breakfast Television, on Shaw TV, and in the Huffington Post. Highlights: 13:30 - How to overcome and reprogram negative self-talk. 21:00 - How to overcome the “I don’t want to be fake”self-improvement objection. 34:30 - How to leverage social media for conferences and events so that you can warm up the room before flying to the event. As always, full show notes and links are available at Become More Compelling. 

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Any time you're learning a new skill, it can be tempting to dive in head first and consume ALL the information. Often this leads to analysis paralysis. This is the opposite of action. Lately, I’ve been thinking about the concept of taking action without overthinking. (Something I struggled with for years) In this (solo) episode of BMC Radio I'll give you frameworks for: How do you get just ENOUGH information to act without hoarding information and overthinking? How can you quickly act on the information you consume? How does Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos view the push/pull of information vs. action? And more... If you're an ambitious overthinker, you'll hate this episode at first. But give it a few minutes, it will change the way you view taking action forever. --- If you're enjoying the podcast, would you mind leaving an iTunes review? (Because more reviews = more awesome people like you who can discover it.) If you haven't signed up to receive email from me please do! Join thousands of people and click here and enter your email to supercharge your people and charisma skills. (I'll start you off with my Ultimate Guide to Joining & Enjoying Group conversations) Show notes and links are avalible at Become More Compelling.

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden (@IrreverentGent) founder of Irreverent Gent. In this episode, we tackle a crucial topic: Confidence. What is it? How do you get it? How does it impact different areas of your life? Confidence is important because it's one of those skills that isn't taught in school. Confidence is learned on the STREET. (Or maybe just by consistently pushing past your comfort zone.) This episode is geared towards the fellas. (Although I believe there are valuable insights for everyone) Dave has spent the last decade improving himself in the areas of people skills, fitness, and style. He's gone from shy and reserved to authentically confident and now he helps men in their 20s and 30s do the same. Highlights: 04:00 - One quick tactic Dave used to stop overthinking and win over a new friend at a dinner party. 12:40 - How to avoid information overload and take action on improving your people skills. 37:00 - The mindset Dave uses to overcome the hesitation of starting conversations. 47:45 - How to think about your style and avoiding the imposter syndrome that can come from changing what you wear. Dave is the Amazon #1 best-selling author of Ready to Roar: How Shy, Quiet, Self-Doubting Guys Become Strong, Charming, Self-Confident Men and the founder of IrreverentGent.com, a blog dedicated to helping guys build confidence. His work has been featured in The Good Men Project, Well Built Style and Active Man magazine, among others. Show notes are available here. 

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Between the hours of 8-5, are you typically sitting? If you are, then you need to (stand up) and listen to this episode of Become More Compelling Radio. Most of us intuitively know sitting is bad for us. But just how bad it really is may shock you. My guest is Zack Arnold (@EmpireEditor) he's the founder of Optimize Yourself and this is a podcast episode that could literally add years to your life. You're probably familiar with Zack's work if you've ever watched shows like Burn Notice, Glee, and Empire. He's an editor by trade, so he knows all about grueling 12+ hour days sitting in front of a computer. About 10 years ago, Zack decided that he would stop treating his body like a Ford Pinto, and start treating it like a Ferrari. This journey led him to spend over $75,000 and a decade optimizing his health so that he can constantly perform at a high level in his career and produce amazing work on demand.ack Most of our jobs require us to be creative problem solvers. Zack will teach us how to protect our creativity like it's our number one asset. 03:45: Zack’s preferred coffee: Bulletproof coffee 06:45: Zack’s journey: Learn, Experiment, Share 11:55: The slow death of being sedentary 16:55: Systems over goals 22:47: Why Zack always takes stairs (GO FAR: The Christopher Rush Story) 25:00: Think of your body like a swamp 30:00: Find your “deeper why” to trigger intrinsic motivation 32:20: Meditation 34:26: Being radically present with people 42:00: Zack’s counterintuitive approach to smartphones 44:02: Eat to feed your brain 53:00: Zack’s global text message: “You are so much closer to achieving your goals than you think you are.” 1:01:22: Learn more about Zack at Optimize Yourself

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Let's face it. We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've  hit the send button on this potentially life-changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves: "Should I have sent that? Was that a little too much?" (Spoiler: YES, IT WAS TOO MUCH, NOW I WANT TO THROW MY LAPTOP LIKE A DISCUS INTO A LAKE) I'm so selfishly excited about this episode of Become More Compelling Radio that I can barely contain myself. ​ My guest Talia Koren (@thetalillama) and I talk about how to reach out to influencers in a way that respects their time and makes it 10x more likely that you'll receive a response. This is especially helpful if you want to: Pitch media to get your side business off the ground. Get a new job in a new field. Reach out to an expert and ask for advice. The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life. Learn it and use it.  In this episode you'll learn: 12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead. 24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers. 41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS) Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard media pitches. --- Show notes available at www.becomemorecompelling.com/podcast  

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang (@friendformula) founder of The Friend Formula. A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about social skills so that he could perform at a high level in his career.  He's gone from someone who was too shy to speak up in meetings, to giving presentations to executives. Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others.  In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement.  If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you. In this episode you'll learn: 13:55 How to make yourself comfortable before you even open your mouth. 15:50 A simple tip that Dan's boss gave him: You don't have to have a great idea to say something. 30:50 Dan's 3 step framework for mastering small talk You'll definitely want to grab Dan's free three video mini course on small talk (Including strategies on reducing nervousness) here. ________ As always, show notes and links are available at Become More Compelling    

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am super excited to have the delightful Marsha Shandur (@YesYesMarsha) founder of yesyesmarsha.com. Marsha is a phenomenal storytelling and networking coach, and the official storytelling coach at Portland's World Domination Summit. She has been featured on the BBC, Forbes, The Art of Charm and The Muse. She also has a book out: Off The Mic: The World's Best Stand-Up Comedians Get Serious About Comedy In this conversation we talk about how to craft compelling stories, as well as how to avoid common storytelling mistakes. If you've ever felt like you can't tell a good story, or people's eye glaze over while you're talking, in this podcast you'll learn: • The #1 thing to focus on while telling stories. Hint: Tom Cruise (11:20) • How to edit your stories down, but still keep the essence alive (17:30) • How to deal with the “spotlight" of storytelling (42:15) Marsha's free resource: Remember ANYONE'S name. (Even if you're normally terrible at it) Jeff's free resource: Fantastic First Impresstions: The Four Steps To Stand Out, Be Memorable, And Create Fantastic First Impressions ------- As always show notes and links are avalible over at the blog.  

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr of Instantly Irresistible. Felicia has been featured in: INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepreneur on Fire, Mind, Body, Green, Under 30 CEO  (and many others) I love this conversation for so many reasons. After listening to this episode you will be able to: • Craft an amazing introduction • Focus on the right things during group conversations • Create rapport during one-on-one conversations • Know how and when to exchange contact information Felicia is also hooking Become More Compelling Radio listeners up with a free audio program: 3 Magic Hooks to Create Instant Rapport With Anyone You Meet. As always, show notes and links are over at the blog. Enjoy!    

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I have my friend Shawn McKibben, the founder of Simple Fellow where he helps ambitious introverts communicate (and kick ass) in an extroverted world. Shawn has been featured in Mind, Body, Green, LifeHack, and Dumb Little Man. He has over 10 years experience teaching personal and career development. In this conversation we talk about the power of revealing your authentic self, how superhero costumes at Comic Con can improve your confidence, and we play a really awesome improv game that you can start using today to have better conversations. Shawn also has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers: An Introvert’s Guide to Engaging Conversation. Show notes and links are avalible here.

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Michaela Chung is the founder of Introvert Spring where she helps introverts thrive, and basically be more awesome. Three years ago, she quit her job, sold everything that wouldn’t fit in a suitcase, and set out on a hero’s journey toward a life of greater meaning and purpose. Since then, she's visited 12 countries on 5 continents. She's lived in Mexico, Australia, and Canada, and spent a good chunk of time in the U.S.A, Thailand and Colombia. --- In this interview we discuss preparing for the zombie apocolypse, the danger of using the word "should", traveling solo, meditation, forgivness, and finding balance while running a business.