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In this insightful episode, we tackle one of life's most consequential decisions: "Should I Have Kids?" with the help of our special guest, Ann Davidman—a seasoned marriage and family therapist from the San Francisco Bay Area. Together, we delve into the process of choosing or not choosing parenthood, and the role of financial readiness. Whether you're on the fence about starting a family or simply curious about the balance of emotional and financial preparedness, this episode offers valuable guidance to help you make a thoughtful, informed decision. Ann Davidman is a seasoned expert who has spent years working with others on this very topic. Ann earned her graduate degree from San Francisco State University. She's a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) and maintains a successful private psychotherapy practice in the San Francisco Bay area. She's been featured in numerous publications, including Vox, The Washington Post, The New York Times, Fatherly, Refinery 29, Baby Center, ABC Australia, +Lifehacker, The Daily Mail, and more.  Have questions or comments? Reach out to us at askcreatingwealth@taberasset.com, and don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. Tune in now for an essential conversation that could shape your future. Resources: Ann Davidman's website Book - "Motherhood: Is it for Me?"  Connect with us on LinkedIn: Bill Taber and Anastasia Taber

What if I told you there's a way to make consistent cash flow from the stock market without spending all day glued to your computer screen? Sounds too good to be true, right? Well, it's not — and in this week's Happy Hustle Podcast episode, we're diving deep into exactly how you can do it!I had the pleasure of bringing back one of our guest gurus from The Happy Hustle Club, with Jeremy Newsome. Jeremy is a life hacker, entrepreneur, endurance athlete, and a total rockstar in the stock market space. His specialty? Teaching everyday people (like you and me) how to generate consistent cash flow through covered calls and smart stock market strategies. And trust me — this episode is PACKED with gold.So if you've ever thought, “Man, I wish I could make my money work for me,” this episode is for YOU.Jeremy dropped a major truth bomb in our conversation: Most people think the stock market is just for long-term investing, but very few understand how to generate consistent cash flow from it. This is where the game changes, my friends.The strategy Jeremy talked about is called covered calls — a way to get paid every single week just for owning a stock. Imagine making $500, $1,000, or even $5,000 per month in passive income from your stocks. Sounds like a Happy Hustler's dream, right?One of the most powerful things Jeremy said was this: “The skill of trading is something that, once you learn it, you have it forever.”Think about it. If you spent 50-100 hours learning how to make $500-$5,000 a month through covered calls, that's a skill you can monetize for LIFE.It's like learning how to ride a bike or start a business. Once you've got it down, it's yours to keep.And if you're thinking, “I don't have time to learn all that,” let me remind you — you're already investing your time in social media, Netflix, and endless scrolling. Why not spend some of that time learning a high-income skill that could change your financial future?Jeremy has personally helped countless people build six- and seven-figure portfolios, and his strategies are ridiculously simple when you break them down.The stock market doesn't have to be scary. It doesn't have to be a rollercoaster of emotions. With the right education and strategy, you can create consistent cash flow that supports your dream life.And if you're ready to dive deeper, I highly recommend checking out the full episode. This dude is the real deal and breaks down the stock market in a way that anyone can understand.It's time to take control of your financial future. Learn the skill. Build the cash flow. And go live that freedom lifestyle you've been dreaming about.Connect with Jerremyhttps://www.instagram.com/jerremynewsome/https://www.facebook.com/jerremyalexandernewsome/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerremynewsomehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPPNysg5PvYuJjkp8q7RxOQhttps://twitter.com/newsomenuggetsFind Jerremy on his website: jerremynewsome.com reallifetrading.comConnect with Cary!https://www.instagram.com/caryjack/https://www.facebook.com/SirCaryJackhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/cary-jack-kendzior/https://twitter.com/thehappyhustlehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFDNsD59tLxv2JfEuSsNMOQ/featuredGet a free copy of his new book, The Happy Hustle, 10 Alignments to Avoid Burnout & Achieve Blissful Balance https://www.thehappyhustle.com/bookSign up for The Journey: 10 Days To Become a Happy Hustler Online Course https://thehappyhustle.com/thejourney/Apply to the Montana Mastermind Epic Camping Adventure https://thehappyhustle.com/mastermind/“It's time to Happy Hustle, a blissfully balanced life you love, full of passion, purpose, and positive impact!”Episode Sponsor: Magnesium Breakthrough from BiOptimizers https://bioptimizers.com/happyIf you've been on a restricted diet lately or maybe even taken some meds to shed those pounds for the summer, I gotta warn ya—be careful! You might have unknowingly created a nutrient deficiency that could not only mess with your health but also jeopardize those weight loss goals.Did you know that over 75% of Americans are already deficient in magnesium? Yeah, it's wild! Magnesium is this powerhouse mineral that's involved in over 600 biological reactions in your body. It helps with everything from sleep to stress management to hormone balance—all key players in keeping your weight on track.And if you're still on those meds, you might be dealing with some side effects like sleepless nights, digestive issues, or irritability, which can totally throw off your commitment to your goals. Whether you're taking meds or not, setting up healthy habits is crucial to maintaining your weight over time. One of the best things you can do? Make sure you're getting all the magnesium your body needs.Don't let a magnesium deficiency derail your progress! Give Magnesium Breakthrough by BIOptimizers a shot. 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Perché nella nostra attività professionale ci sono alti e bassi? Come posso organizzare il tempo e le attività in modo da avere il pieno controllo del mio business? Che devo fare se ho sempre la sensazione di avere troppe cose da fare o scarsa motivazione?Scopriamolo insieme ragionando su una pianificazione delle attività che tenga conto della necessità di avere energia ed equilibrio nella nostra vita professionale, anche utilizzando il Life Hacker's Journal: http://journal.lifehackers.com

  The Friday Five for February 14, 2024: Apple iOS 18.3.1 Updates Trend Alert: Smart Ankle Watch? Egg Substitutions for Baking & Protein Healthcare Regulatory Update (of sorts) The Postseason Game Plan   Download Your FREE Copy of The Postseason Game Plan Now!   Apple iOS 18.3.1 Updates: Adorno, José. “IOS 18.3.1 Now Available Ahead of Big Ios 18.4 Upgrade.” Bgr.Com, BGR, 10 Feb. 2025, bgr.com/tech/ios-18-3-1-now-available-ahead-of-big-ios-18-4-upgrade/. Disotto, John-Anthony. “iOS 18.4 Could Be the Biggest iPhone Upgrade Ever – Here's Why.” TechRadar.Com, TechRadar, 11 Feb. 2025, www.techradar.com/phones/iphone/ios-18-4-could-be-the-biggest-iphone-upgrade-ever-heres-why. Phelan, David. “Apple iOS 18.4 Release Date: The Major iPhone Update Is On Its Way.” Forbes.Com, Forbes Magazine, 8 Feb. 2025, www.forbes.com/sites/davidphelan/2025/02/08/apple-ios-184-release-date-the-major-free-iphone-update-is-on-its-way/. Rossignol, Joe. “iOS 18.4 Will Include These New Features for Your iPhone.” MacRumors.Com, MacRumors, 5 Feb. 2025, www.macrumors.com/2025/02/05/ios-18-4-expected-features/.   Trend Alert: Smart Ankle Watch? Lovejoy, Ben. “The Five Reasons Some People Wear Their Apple Watch on Their Ankle.” 9to5Mac.Com, 9to5Mac, 10 Feb. 2025, 9to5mac.com/2025/02/10/the-five-reasons-some-people-wear-their-apple-watch-on-their-ankle/. Skwarecki, Beth. “Why (and How) to Wear Your Apple Watch on Your Ankle.” Lifehacker.Com, Lifehacker, 11 Feb. 2025, lifehacker.com/health/why-and-how-to-wear-an-apple-watch-on-your-ankle. Heater, Brian. “Tiktok Influencers Are Wearing Apple Watches on Their Ankles.” Techcrunch.Com, TechCrunch, 10 Feb. 2025, techcrunch.com/2025/02/10/tiktok-influencers-are-wearing-apple-watches-on-their-ankles/.   Egg Substitutes for Baking & Protein: David, Lauren. “8 Egg Substitutes for Cooking and Baking.” Aarp.Org, AARP, 10 Feb. 2025, www.aarp.org/home-family/your-home/info-2025/egg-substitutes-cooking-baking.html. Valente, Lisa. “10 Foods with More Protein Than an Egg.” Eatingwell.Com, EatingWell, 18 Nov. 2024, www.eatingwell.com/article/291485/10-foods-with-more-protein-than-an-egg/. McDonell, Kayla. “13 Effective Substitutes for Eggs.” Healthline.Com, Healthline Media, 7 Feb. 2024, www.healthline.com/nutrition/egg-substitutes. Phaneuf, Taryn. “Egg Prices Are Rising Again. Here's Why They're So High.” Edited by Laura McMullen, Nerdwallet.Com, NerdWallet, 11 Feb. 2025, www.nerdwallet.com/article/finance/why-are-eggs-so-expensive. Lannon, KJ. “Egg Prices Got You Scrambling? Here's 3 Substitutes to Use in Your Cake Mix.” Tastingtable.Com, Tasting Table, 10 Feb. 2025, www.tastingtable.com/1780478/egg-substitutes-boxed-cake-mix/.   Healthcare Regulatory Update (of sorts) Bell, Allison. “10 House GOP Health Program and Tax Change Ideas.” Thinkadvisor.Com, ThinkAdvisor, 24 Jan. 2025, www.thinkadvisor.com/2025/01/24/10-house-gop-health-program-and-tax-change-ideas/. Muoio, Dave. “Consumer Financial Protection Bureau Shake-up Leaves Medical Debt Reform in Limbo.” Fiercehealthcare.Com, Fierce Healthcare, 6 Feb. 2025, www.fiercehealthcare.com/regulatory/consumer-financial-protection-bureau-shakeup-leaves-medical-debt-reform-limbo. Muoio, Dave, et al. “Healthcare Lobbying 2025: Here Are the Top Policy Issues for Hospitals, Payers, Docs and Tech.” Fiercehealthcare.Com, Fierce Healthcare, 12 Feb. 2025, www.fiercehealthcare.com/regulatory/healthcare-lobbying-2025-here-are-top-policy-issues-hospitals-payers-docs-and-tech.   The Postseason Game Plan: https://postseasongameplan.com/   Resources: 5 Types of Content to Share on Social Media: https://lnk.to/asgf20250131 Best Apps for Sports Fans: https://lnk.to/asga78 Guidelines for Sharing Personal Beneficiary Data with Other TPMOs: https://lnk.to/asg647 MedicareCENTER FAQs: https://lnk.to/asg645 PlanEnroll FAQs: https://lnk.to/asg646   Follow Us on Social! Ritter on Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/RitterIM Instagram, https://www.instagram.com/ritter.insurance.marketing/ LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/company/ritter-insurance-marketing TikTok, https://www.tiktok.com/@ritterim X, https://twitter.com/RitterIM and Youtube, https://www.youtube.com/user/RitterInsurance     Sarah on LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/sjrueppel/ Instagram, https://www.instagram.com/thesarahjrueppel/ and Threads, https://www.threads.net/@thesarahjrueppel  Tina on LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/tina-lamoreux-6384b7199/   Contact the Agent Survival Guide Podcast! Email us ASGPodcast@Ritterim.com or call 1-717-562-7211 and leave a voicemail. Not affiliated with or endorsed by Medicare or any government agency.

  The Friday Five for February 7, 2025: Valentine's Day Gift Ideas RFK Jr. HHS Nomination Update Apple Announces Invites Tapestry from The IconFactory 2025 Senior Market Symposium   Register for the 2025 Senior Market Symposium!   RFK Jr. HHS Nomination Update: Halleman, Sydney, et al. “RFK Jr. Clears Key Hurdle on Path to HHS Secretary.” Healthcaredive.Com, Healthcare Dive, 4 Feb. 2025, www.healthcaredive.com/news/rfk-jr-clears-key-hurdle-on-path-to-hhs-secretary/739096/. Nix, Jessica. “RFK Jr. Clears Senate Committee, Heads to Full Vote to Lead HHS.” Thinkadvisor.Com, ThinkAdvisor, 4 Feb. 2025, www.thinkadvisor.com/2025/02/04/rfk-jr-clears-senate-committee-heads-to-full-vote-to-lead-hhs/. Diamond, Dan, et al. “RFK Jr. Closes in on HHS Cabinet Post after Senate Panel Vote.” Washingtonpost.Com, Washington Post, 6 Feb. 2025, www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/02/04/rfk-jr-confirmation-committee-vote-hhs-secretary/. Korecki, Natasha, et al. “Senate Panel Advances RFK Jr.'s Nomination to Be Health Secretary.” NBCNews.Com, NBC Universal News Group, 4 Feb. 2025, www.nbcnews.com/politics/congress/senate-panel-advances-rfk-jrs-nomination-health-secretary-rcna190438.   Apple Announces Invites: Apple Invites: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/apple-invites/id6472498645 Peterson, Jake. “Apple's New ‘Invites' App Is Coming for Partiful.” Lifehacker.Com, Lifehacker, 4 Feb. 2025, lifehacker.com/tech/apple-new-invites-app. Christoffel, Ryan. “Here Are Five Apple Invites Features You Might Have Missed.” 9to5mac.Com, 9to5Mac, 5 Feb. 2025, 9to5mac.com/2025/02/05/here-are-five-apple-invites-features-you-might-have-missed/. “Introducing Apple Invites, a New App That Brings People Together.” Apple.Com, Apple Newsroom, 4 Feb. 2025, www.apple.com/newsroom/2025/02/introducing-apple-invites-a-new-app-that-brings-people-together/.   Tapestry from The IconFactory: Perez, Sarah. “A Review of Tapestry, an App Powered by the Growing Open Web.” Techcrunch.Com, TechCrunch, 4 Feb. 2025, techcrunch.com/2025/02/04/a-review-of-tapestry-an-app-powered-by-the-growing-open-web/. Scott, Steven, and Shaun Preece. “Tapestry Combines Social Media, Podcasts & YouTube in One App.” Spotify, Double Tap Podcast, 4 Feb. 2025, open.spotify.com/episode/6klC52wDtTANVIpBO9AH0O. Tapestry by Iconfactory: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/tapestry-by-iconfactory/id6448078074 Mehta, Ivan. “Team behind Twitterrific Launches a Multi-Feed App Called Tapestry.” Techcrunch.Com, TechCrunch, 4 Feb. 2025, techcrunch.com/2025/02/04/team-behind-twitterrific-launches-a-multi-feed-app-called-tapestry/. Pierce, David. “The Timeline Apps Are Here, and They're Awesome.” Theverge.Com, The Verge, 4 Feb. 2025, www.theverge.com/apps/605756/tapestry-reeder-surf-timeline-apps. Christoffel, Ryan. “Twitterrific Team Launches New ‘Tapestry' iPhone App for Bluesky, Mastodon, RSS, More.” 9to5mac.Com, 9to5Mac, 4 Feb. 2025, 9to5mac.com/2025/02/04/twitterrific-team-launches-new-iphone-app-tapestry-for-bluesky-mastodon-more/.   2025 Senior Market Symposium: Register to Attend the 2025 Ritter Insurance Marketing Senior Market Symposium   Resources: 5 Types of Content to Share on Social Media: https://lnk.to/asgf20250131 How to Create a Healthy Balance Between Work and Life: https://lnk.to/asg643  Learning to Delight in the Limelight ft. Linda Ugelow: https://lnk.to/asg644  MedicareCENTER FAQs: https://lnk.to/asg645 PlanEnroll FAQs: https://lnk.to/asg646   Follow Us on Social! Ritter on Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/RitterIM Instagram, https://www.instagram.com/ritter.insurance.marketing/ LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/company/ritter-insurance-marketing TikTok, https://www.tiktok.com/@ritterim X, https://twitter.com/RitterIM and Youtube, https://www.youtube.com/user/RitterInsurance     Sarah on LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/sjrueppel/ Instagram, https://www.instagram.com/thesarahjrueppel/ and Threads, https://www.threads.net/@thesarahjrueppel  Tina on LinkedIn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/tina-lamoreux-6384b7199/   Not affiliated with or endorsed by Medicare or any government agency. Contact the Agent Survival Guide Podcast! Email us ASGPodcast@Ritterim.com or call 1-717-562-7211 and leave a voicemail.

Healing Through Stories: Addressing Mental Health, Emotions, and Empathy   Suicide Zen Forgiveness brings together Gina Cavalier and Dr. Amelia Kelly to discuss their collaborative book on suicidal ideation and healing. The conversation spans personal and professional insights, the power of community support, and the necessity of processing emotions. They explore the role of practices like gratitude exercises, meditation alternatives, and Internal Family Systems therapy in maintaining emotional balance. The importance of presence, self-compassion, and empathetic listening is highlighted. Future projects, including Gina's book and documentary, and Dr. Amelia's ADHD support group and podcast, emphasize ongoing efforts to support mental health, especially for highly sensitive individuals.   00:00 Introduction and Mission Statement 01:24 Meet the Guests: Gina Cavalier and Dr. Amelia Kelly 02:53 Gina's Journey: Healing Suicidal Ideation 06:11 Dr. Amelia Kelly: Trauma Work and Writing 09:22 The Importance of Proactive Mental Health Content 15:45 Creating Safe Spaces for Emotional Expression 29:04 Finding Comfort in Small Moments 30:25 The Challenge of Forgiveness 32:25 Self-Love and Healing 34:12 Understanding Internal Family Systems 38:11 Generational Differences in Upbringing 42:19 Future Projects and Aspirations 47:51 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement 49:54 Outro and Acknowledgements   Bios Gina Marie Cavalier is a mental health advocate, author, filmmaker, artist, speaker and spiritual teacher.   She is also the founder of The Liberated Healer, where she is building a 360º ecosystem in mental health with a focus on healing suicidal ideation through various products, meditation and healing courses, books, support groups, a six-part docuseries, and a mobile and web application that allows brands to cover fees for therapy and healing sessions. Gina Marie is a media veteran, former entertainment studio executive and technology enthusiast, having contributed to over 300 film/TV titles.   As a public speaker, she has delivered talks on mental health and well-being in front of a live audience of over six hundred attendees at the Warner Bros. studio lot. Gina Marie has participated in several events, summits, and conferences as a speaker and has been invited to twenty-five podcasts since February 2024. She currently resides in Los Angeles, CA. Links and Socials https://www.theliberatedhealer.com/ https://www.instagram.com/theliberatedhealer https://www.youtube.com/@TheLiberatedHealer https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginacavalier/ ----------------------------------------------- Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor's Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, neurodiversity and adult ADHD. She is a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness Their Untapped Gifts, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and is a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world's largest blog for HSPs. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Pure Wow, Lifehacker, Well + Good and many others.  Dr. Kelley resides near Raleigh, NC. Links and Socials https://www.ameliakelley.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley https://www.facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley/ https://www.tiktok.com/@_drameliakelley https://www.ameliakelley.com/podcast/

Healing Through Stories: Addressing Mental Health, Emotions, and Empathy   Suicide Zen Forgiveness brings together Gina Cavalier and Dr. Amelia Kelly to discuss their collaborative book on suicidal ideation and healing. The conversation spans personal and professional insights, the power of community support, and the necessity of processing emotions. They explore the role of practices like gratitude exercises, meditation alternatives, and Internal Family Systems therapy in maintaining emotional balance. The importance of presence, self-compassion, and empathetic listening is highlighted. Future projects, including Gina's book and documentary, and Dr. Amelia's ADHD support group and podcast, emphasize ongoing efforts to support mental health, especially for highly sensitive individuals.   00:00 Introduction and Mission Statement 01:24 Meet the Guests: Gina Cavalier and Dr. Amelia Kelly 02:53 Gina's Journey: Healing Suicidal Ideation 06:11 Dr. Amelia Kelly: Trauma Work and Writing 09:22 The Importance of Proactive Mental Health Content 15:45 Creating Safe Spaces for Emotional Expression 29:04 Finding Comfort in Small Moments 30:25 The Challenge of Forgiveness 32:25 Self-Love and Healing 34:12 Understanding Internal Family Systems 38:11 Generational Differences in Upbringing 42:19 Future Projects and Aspirations 47:51 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement 49:54 Outro and Acknowledgements   Bios Gina Marie Cavalier is a mental health advocate, author, filmmaker, artist, speaker and spiritual teacher.   She is also the founder of The Liberated Healer, where she is building a 360º ecosystem in mental health with a focus on healing suicidal ideation through various products, meditation and healing courses, books, support groups, a six-part docuseries, and a mobile and web application that allows brands to cover fees for therapy and healing sessions. Gina Marie is a media veteran, former entertainment studio executive and technology enthusiast, having contributed to over 300 film/TV titles.   As a public speaker, she has delivered talks on mental health and well-being in front of a live audience of over six hundred attendees at the Warner Bros. studio lot. Gina Marie has participated in several events, summits, and conferences as a speaker and has been invited to twenty-five podcasts since February 2024. She currently resides in Los Angeles, CA. Links and Socials https://www.theliberatedhealer.com/ https://www.instagram.com/theliberatedhealer https://www.youtube.com/@TheLiberatedHealer https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginacavalier/ ----------------------------------------------- Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor's Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, neurodiversity and adult ADHD. She is a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness Their Untapped Gifts, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and is a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world's largest blog for HSPs. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Pure Wow, Lifehacker, Well + Good and many others.  Dr. Kelley resides near Raleigh, NC. Links and Socials https://www.ameliakelley.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley https://www.facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley/ https://www.tiktok.com/@_drameliakelley https://www.ameliakelley.com/podcast/

In this episode of The Wholesome Fertility Podcast, Dr. Amelia Kelley @drameliakelley , a trauma-informed therapist, discusses her journey and insights into high sensitivity, coping mechanisms, and the impact of trauma on mental health. She explores the differences between empathy and compassion, the importance of understanding one's nervous system, and shares her personal fertility journey, highlighting the integration of holistic approaches such as acupuncture and herbal medicine. In this conversation, Dr. Amelia Kelley and Michelle explore the complexities of pregnancy loss, trauma, and the role of the nervous system in fertility. They discuss the importance of letting go of control and embracing spirituality, as well as the dynamics of being a highly sensitive person (HSP). The conversation delves into the benefits of body awareness and how it can aid in healing, while also addressing the challenges HSPs face in relationships and daily life. Ultimately, they highlight the adaptive nature of high sensitivity and its prevalence in the population, encouraging listeners to embrace their sensitivity as a gift rather than a burden.   Takeaways   Coping skills should be viewed as a lifestyle. High sensitivity is a genetic trait, not a flaw. Empathy can have negative health effects. Highly sensitive people require more alone time for regulation. Generational trauma can impact reproductive health. Understanding one's nervous system is crucial for coping. Holistic approaches can aid in fertility journeys. Stress and nervous system balance are crucial for fertility. Highly sensitive people (HSPs) experience the world differently. Body awareness can enhance healing processes. HSPs often respond more positively to therapeutic interventions. High sensitivity is an adaptive trait found in many individuals. Embracing sensitivity can lead to greater self-awareness and compassion.   Guest Bio:   Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor's Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.    She is currently a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute.    She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness their Untapped Gifts (whichhas a corresponding online support group!), Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, as well as Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine, as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world's largest blog for HSPs. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Lifehacker, Well + Good and Insider.   You can find out more about her work at https://www.ameliakelley.com.   Follow her on Instagram @drameliakelley   https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley/   https://www.facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley   https://www.linkedin.com/in/drameliakelley/   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-your-corner       For more information about Michelle, visit: www.michelleoravitz.com   Check out Michelle's Latest Book: The Way of Fertility! https://www.michelleoravitz.com/thewayoffertility   The Wholesome FertilityFacebook group is where you can find free resources and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2149554308396504/   Instagram: @thewholesomelotusfertility   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewholesomelotus/     Transcript:     Michelle (00:00) Welcome to the podcast Amelia.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (00:02) Thank you for having me. It's good to see you again.   Michelle (00:04) It's so good to see you. So Amelia's had me on her podcast, the sensitivity doctors in the past, and I would love for you to share your background. I am really interested and very intrigued by what you do because it's something that we spoke about. I totally relate to. I love the fact that you've authored so many books and have such an interesting background. So I would love to have the.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (00:26) Hehehe   Michelle (00:30) audience hear you.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (00:32) Sure. Well, I'm currently in my office. So I'm a trauma informed therapist, professor, and podcaster, which is how you and I met. And I've been in the field for 20 years now. I primarily work with trauma of various forms, but a lot of it is interpersonal trauma, relationship trauma, some issues with sexual abuse, some instances where I also work with per...   a lot of first responders, so cops, doctors, and also folks from the military. So I'd say that my work is kind of an intersection. I sometimes call myself an integrative therapist because just before our session, I was doing a yoga therapy session. I do everything from EMDR, brain spotting, yoga therapy, art therapy is actually my background, sand play therapy.   Michelle (01:02) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (01:27) I'm so into the brain too. I mean, I'm not, I would not say that my practice is comprehensive in neurofeedback. We do some minor interventions, but I love referring my clients to practitioners in the area to make sure that their brain health is on par too. And I also love referring to Carolina Clinic of Natural Medicine is my favorite in the area, but they do things like acupuncture and.   Michelle (01:40) Hmm.   Mm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (01:54) kind of holistic health, which I know really aligns with what you do. So, yeah.   Michelle (01:59) it's interesting because as you start to do anything, you start to find out how many different layers and different ways and methodologies that certain people respond to better than others. there's just so many different methods. And I think that some people just respond better to some.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (02:10) Right.   Right.   yeah. I think that's a great thing about coping skills. First and foremost, I love the idea of obliterating this idea that a coping skill is like work or that it's something that you only do when you're struggling. I think it's more of a lifestyle. And everyone is going to respond differently. Like I know I personally...   Michelle (02:35) Yes.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (02:41) water is very big for me. Like if I'm really stressed or I'm dysregulated, getting in hot water or cold water is very regulating for my nervous system. Whereas I have clients who the last thing they want to do when they're stressed or dysregulated is shower or get in water. It's actually one of the first things that they stop wanting to do.   Michelle (02:51) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (03:04) So it's so interesting seeing how we all respond differently, I think, in our own unique nervous system when we're under stress.   Michelle (03:11) Yeah, definitely. I find that also with my patients. mean, some people, be much more open to like things like meditation, other people, there's other ways to self soothing, which I call it, because ultimately, that's really what it is. So yeah, it definitely isn't work. sounds like work.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (03:20) Mm   Mm-hmm.   Right.   Michelle (03:30) but it's not work. think the biggest work is really the strategy and kind of figuring it out. But ultimately it's really there to soothe you at times that you feel overwhelmed.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (03:35) Mm-hmm.   Absolutely. I couldn't agree more.   Michelle (03:44) So let's talk about the sensitive person because I've always felt that that was something that I can describe myself as when I was younger. It was something that I felt I found myself more overwhelmed by noises, by certain people's energy than other people. And people would just be like, you're too sensitive or you focus on things too much. And   Dr. Amelia Kelley (03:52) Mm   Okay.   Michelle (04:08) It was something that I realized, as I met other people like me. I was like, wait, this is kind of a thing. And then when I learned about it, that it really is a thing, I found it really interesting. And it also, I found it very comforting. So it's like, okay, I'm like, I'm not abnormal. Like this isn't crazy. Yeah. So I would love for you to talk about that. So I feel like a lot of people can relate.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (04:14) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Right, Mm-hmm.   Definitely, and I know my aha moment was a big deal to me. It was years ago now. I stumbled upon Dr. Elaine Aaron, who is kind of the pioneer of some of the modern research on high sensitivity on her documentary, Sensitive, the Untold Story.   And it was one of those light bulb aha moments that made so much of my life make sense. Interestingly though, when I dug a little deeper, she was not the of the originator of this. It was actually research done in the 80s on babies and their responses to different stimuli. Things like they had...   Michelle (04:59) you   Mm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (05:17) auditory stimulation with like a creepy face making sound. had light stimulation, physical stimulation. And what they found was that the babies who were more reactive, they were calling high reactive babies, you know, which down the road became high sensitivity. But the really interesting thing is that the researchers went and followed up with these babies who are now in their midlife, you know, they're in their   I'd say probably 40s at this point, 30s and 40s. And they're finding that those high reactive babies still are more reactive adults. And so this doesn't mean someone who's highly emotional or can't control their temper when we think of reactivity. It's more, what is your reaction to sensory input? And certain brains, it is genetic.   Michelle (06:07) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (06:10) So it's a predisposition. It is a genetic trait. It is not a diagnosis. It is not something to fix. It is rather something to learn from and grow with and manage and live life in that way. And so it's highly genetic. And for that reason, I'm not surprised I have kids who are definitely highly sensitive. And high sensitivity can express in so many different ways. It can look like   Michelle (06:10) you   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (06:39) hypersensitivity to medication, sensitivity to light, to sound, to being rushed to other people's emotions. That's a big part. The empathy piece is very strong. I think it's really important to understand the difference between empathy and compassion when we consider highly sensitive people. you, like when I say that, does that make sense to you? Do you want me to unpack that?   Michelle (06:52) Mm-hmm.   It does. mean, so what I'm perceiving in that is that empathy is kind of like almost giving more of your own personal energy to something versus just feeling compassion and understanding that another person's emotions or perspectives without almost taking it on. I'm not sure if I'm on or not.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (07:08) Mm-hmm.   Well, mean, I think that's we can all define it differently, but I guess if I was going to scientifically define compassion and empathy. So empathy is our ability to feel what someone else is feeling. We all tend to know that definition. However, the interesting thing is that empathy has a negative impact on your immune health and it increases inflammation. Right. And so when we consider the fact that highly sensitive people   Michelle (07:34) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Well, that's interesting.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (07:56) have more active mirror neurons, which means the areas of their brain designed to plan social interactions, problem solving around social interactions, and even something as simple as, as a highly sensitive person, one of my ways to decompress is to watch like trashy reality TV at night. And so I will find myself as I'm watching these dating shows, smiling with the contestants.   Michelle (08:15) Yeah   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (08:23) or frowning with them. Sometimes I kind of laugh when I catch myself doing it. As a highly sensitive person, those areas of the brain are so much more active. And so it does make us have higher levels of empathy. But when you consider the fact that that can negatively impact your body, if you don't have enough boundaries around them, empathy is pro-social. It helps us get along, but also too much can be draining.   Michelle (08:32) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (08:50) And so compassion is actually kind of the anecdote to empathy because compassion is centered around the desire to act or help. And so this, when we think of self-compassion, the act of speaking to yourself kindly is an act. So you empathize for yourself, I feel bad today because I made a mistake. Just thinking of an example. The compassion is,   Michelle (08:50) Right.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (09:18) I'm going to choose to speak to myself kindly and with love because that will be curative for me. Whereas if you stay in an empathy response, you just continue to feel bad about whatever mistake you made, right? And so for highly sensitive people, it's exponentially important to lean into compassion and we can't all go out and save the world all the time. So sometimes this looks like well-wishing meditation.   Michelle (09:24) Done it.   Got it.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (09:46) processing with other like-minded people, those can be ways to express compassion that doesn't all have to be going out. And I remember, do you remember the movie Free Willy?   Michelle (09:58) yeah, but I don't remember if I saw it or I don't remember the actual movie. wait, though. It was the one with the whale, right? Yes. Yeah.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (10:06) Right, it was fiction, obviously, but as an HSP or an HSC at the time, a highly sensitive child, when that movie was over, I was destroyed at the thought of all these whales in the world who need help. And so my gracious parents who encouraged my sensitivity helped me find an organization where could adopt a whale. So it's like, and I mean, who knows what's happening. We probably paid $20 and...   Michelle (10:29) that's cute.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (10:34) I've adopted a whale, who knows, but it was the act of taking my empathy response and putting it into action with compassion that was curative for my little highly sensitive child heart.   Michelle (10:34) Yeah.   Hmm.   That's beautiful. actually really love that. And it also makes you feel like there's more purpose in the feelings that you're having. You're kind of taking the feelings and creating purpose with it.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (10:57) Absolutely. That's such a way of putting it.   Michelle (11:01) And one thing too, that I was thinking about when you were talking about being highly sensitive, which I could tell you right now, I 100 % am self-diagnosed. The nervous system, I think to myself about the nervous system and possibly that having something to do with it, just having a more heightened sensitive nervous system.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (11:09) Mm-hmm   Mm-hmm.   Michelle (11:22) Besides obviously the antidote and kind of like using or acting or doing, to translate the empathy, but as one part of regulating the nervous system, learning to manage the nervous system, doing things like you said, like when you get home, take a shower, do something that really connects with your nervous system, I feel like is a really great tool. And figuring out what that is, is that something that you often look into?   Dr. Amelia Kelley (11:49) Absolutely. Because if you think about just a handful of the questions that I was posing that help you identify if you're highly sensitive, a lot of them have to do with nervous system response. highly sensitives are more responsive to caffeine, drugs and alcohol, pain tolerance, hunger cues even, are more, you know, felt more intensely. So with HSPs, the nervous system, specifically the limbic   system is more active. And this is something that can be seen on actual scans of HSP brains. It is. It's wild. so I was having a really interesting conversation with Michael Allison, who is one of the instructors for the Polyvagal Institute. And he was talking about, I don't think if he really fully bought into the HSP thing, I think he sees everything through the Polyvagal world.   Michelle (12:20) Mm-hmm.   That's so interesting.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (12:48) And which I totally appreciate. There's different ways to look at our nervous systems. But he said something when we were talking about highly sensitive that really struck a chord to your point about the nervous system. He was saying when our nervous system alerts danger and for him that means the vagal break is off and the vagus nerve is overactive, the heart rate is up, fight flight. When we're not feeling safe.   It's usually because we're attending to something we think we need to attend to because it's out of sorts. And so the highly sensitive person, a look on your face could alert danger to me. Like someone seeming off or upset or concerned could signal that. And so for the highly sensitive person,   Michelle (13:23) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (13:42) They need more time and research has shown up to two hours of unstructured alone time per day is most quote prescribed for highly sensitive. And so the reason being is that our baseline is higher all the time. And so we need more things to regulate the nervous system so that sounds and things and emotions aren't pulling us out of our safety zone so quickly.   Michelle (13:49) Mm-hmm.   Right.   Mm-hmm.   my God, that makes sense on so many levels. I always felt like I needed, I need alone time. Like after a while, I just need to be by myself. need quiet. I need peace. And I totally understand what you're saying. And then also what's interesting is I remember when I was younger, always being afraid, like if somebody was mad at me or like, I would kind of feel a tone of like, my God, are they mad at me? And I get like really upset. And now I had to like learn to   Dr. Amelia Kelley (14:19) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Yes.   Michelle (14:42) just be like, okay, it's not that big of a deal. Maybe they were having a bad day, you know, sort of speak to myself on that, but that makes sense. And then I noticed that with my daughter, if sometimes I'll be busy and I won't respond with like a, you know, a full response, I'll be like, okay, okay, we'll talk later or whatever. Are you mad at me? And I always tell her, believe me, I would tell you I'm pretty clear about like what I'm happy about and not happy, you know.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (14:52) Mmm.   Hmm.   Right.   Michelle (15:07) And, but it's interesting. She'll kind of read between the lines with me. And she's like me, she just took after me. So it's kind of, yeah, so she's 19.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (15:12) Mm   How old is she, I ask? OK, so she's older. I was going to say, I know a great workbook, but it's for younger kids. yeah, she definitely, especially if you are too, it wouldn't surprise me that she would also be highly sensitive because it is so genetic.   Michelle (15:23) Yeah.   And she got like that more as she got older when she went to college than even before, for some reason. I don't know if maybe because she has a lot more going on or, she's starting to regulate on a different level, her nervous system. Cause I think that coming from home, things shift and change.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (15:39) Mm-hmm.   Right.   Totally. mean, think it's research has shown that some high sensitivity traits, you know, can be very present in childhood, but then there's other different types of traits that become more expressed later in life. But   Michelle (16:04) Mm-hmm. Yeah.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (16:06) I also beg to say, let's look at the external factors. You look at someone who is a highly sensitive child who didn't have to raise children, work a job, manage a home. So when you just keep adding more to your exactly, that can make those traits become more expressed too, I believe.   Michelle (16:16) Yeah, right.   Yep, responsibility. Yeah, for sure.   So I want to actually take this into your own journey, because I know you've had your fertility journey, because a lot of listeners, are going through the fertility journey. And I know a lot of people just based on my own clients and patients that are very sensitive and highly sensitive as well.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (16:38) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Michelle (16:48) I work a lot with them on, I don't know if you've ever heard of the NADA protocol. It's really good for PTSD. NADA, it's used, it's, yeah, yeah. So NADA, and it's a protocol that they use on the ears. it's like a, it's a series of ear points that we use like altogether.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (16:54) No. I love learning new things. Tell me. NADA. I have nothing to write on. Okay.   Michelle (17:12) And it works on regulating the nervous system. And it actually works amazing on it's even had published studies on working with vets, people with PTSD, like really major PTSD. Yeah. Yeah, I know. It's, it's really, really interesting. And, and also interestingly enough,   Dr. Amelia Kelley (17:23) I need a pen. Let me just grab one.   Do you use the mustard seeds or is it actual needles?   Michelle (17:33) So you could use the seeds. I use needles. I use needles. then some people, no, no, they're not mustard seeds, but they're seeds. And then some of the studies that were published, I think they even added electric stimulation. And what's interesting is it's not just really great for   Dr. Amelia Kelley (17:36) They're probably not called mustard seeds. I forgot what are they actually.   Mm-hmm.   cool.   Thank   Michelle (17:51) PTSD, but it's also really good for addiction. And interesting, if you think about the two, like what do they have in common? They're kind of like, it runs, they run on a loop. You know, it's this repeated either thoughts or behaviors. And it seems to kind of have that in common. Obviously it's two different things, but sometimes can cross over.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (17:56) wow.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   I love that. It's funny. It looks like you're on my podcast right now. So I'm like, let me take notes on what you're saying. You're so smart and knowledgeable in these areas. I love it. I will definitely check that out. I would be so curious if that's something that there are, like I said, a lot of veterans and addicts that I work with. And so I'm definitely going to look into that.   Michelle (18:16) So.   No, no, I know. It will...   I feel the same about you. it makes for a great conversation.   Yeah, definitely look into the studies. I think that that's, seeing the studies and seeing the numbers really makes a difference. And so that aspect of it is amazing. And also Joe dispense does work a lot of what he does helps tons of people with PTSD, like, they do scans and study the brains. It's pretty impactful. Yeah. Yeah. So back to you though, I would love to talk to you about how you feel, your nervous system.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (18:47) Mm-hmm.   That's really neat.   Michelle (19:10) Like how were you able to figure out a way to balance yourself through the journey, knowing what you know, and how do you think it's impacted you on that nervous system level and like the trauma, because I know that it can be very traumatic, even though people don't often talk about it like that. It should be, it should be highlighted in that way so that more people have awareness around it because it really is a very difficult process.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (19:16) Right.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Michelle (19:37) has even been compared to a cancer diagnosis. It's really significant.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (19:41) Wow. Well, and I actually have something about my story that integrates the two. So I think when I really look now and I understand my nervous system better, I think that the generational trauma that I was carrying with me into my reproductive years that I didn't understand that I didn't understand my high sensitivity. I didn't have a name for it. I didn't realize that that's what that was. I just thought.   I just felt too much all the time. What I think that was doing was that when I was ready to try to start having a family is that I had been in flight mode. And when people think of flight mode, they think of like running the coop. I had been in flight mode being overly productive. And I laugh because I'm still overly productive, but it's in a different energy now. It's in a completely different energy than it was then. But.   Michelle (20:34) Yeah.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (20:39) This flight mode, think what it was doing is it was putting my nervous system in a state, like you said on my podcast, where it was never able to rest. It was never able to replenish. so my cycle was totally dysregulated. I ended up, I don't know how detailed you want me to get, but I'm happy to share. OK, OK. So I started off, we had tried to get pregnant for a couple of years and it wasn't working. And at the time, I think about it,   Michelle (20:58) you can get as detailed as you need.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (21:09) I was in my doctoral program. I was working at a women's clinic and the methadone clinic and trying to start my practice all at the same time and just live life and be like a normal adult. And so we went the route of Western medicine at first. I love my doctor and he worked with me through the whole journey, but we tried Clomid and I got pregnant. But I think now that I know what I know about egg quality, thank you, Rebecca Fett. She's amazing.   Michelle (21:19) Bye.   Yeah, she's phenomenal. I know I've tried, but she like, she wasn't really doing them. Maybe she is now, but let me know if you get her. She's great. Yes.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (21:40) my gosh, I need to get her on my podcast. Let's like.   We're going to like, we'll just go not tap, tap, tap. Come on. now that I understand what I know now about egg quality, I think that the clomid forced an egg that really wasn't ready to be fertilized. And so we miscarried that baby. And that was the first miscarriage and definitely the most shocking and painful miscarriage. From there, did my, one of my, I think healthier   trauma coping mechanisms is research. And so I just dug in and I created this kind of like wellness plan for my husband and I had like printouts. What I didn't realize is that I was basically creating what Rebecca Fett recommends without realizing what in the world I was doing. And so I had us on a laundry list of vitamins and supplements and all these things. We got pregnant again, very.   Michelle (22:33) and   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (22:45) very luckily with our daughter, who is now nine. And then that was the end of that. was like, OK, that went OK. Maybe it was just like that first miscarriage. Lots of people have it, statistically speaking. Then we were trying for our second child. And I feel like that's when I really got introduced to the world that you're in, which is the Chinese herbal medicine and acupuncture, because we   I think I had already started working with my acupunctures at that time. again, we were having a hard time getting pregnant. And so they put me on like the most disgusting tea, but it was some sort of tea regimen and these herbs. And I was doing really cool acupuncture to your point with like the little electrodes and all of that. And I did get pregnant again, but that time ended up being a molar pregnancy.   Michelle (23:26) Yeah.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (23:42) which you know what those are assume or I don't know if you're listeners.   Michelle (23:46) Yes, I remember learning about it. haven't had any of my patients have that, but I remember learning about it actually in school.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (23:54) Right. So the trauma of the first miscarriage was, would almost call that like acute trauma, whereas the trauma with the molar pregnancy. So a molar pregnancy, for anyone listening who doesn't know, is when the sperm and the egg join and the DNA markers are not turned on. So no actual baby starts forming, but a mass starts to form. And your body thinks you're pregnant, and so it spikes your HCG actually above kind of average levels.   I thought I was pregnant with twins. was so sick. So I go in and I'm, I want to say eight, seven, eight weeks at that point that I thought and they scanned and there's no baby, which felt like a miscarriage, but it wasn't. But what happened after it was that I still had to do a DNC and then I had to do monthly HCG tests to make sure that my levels were dropping because if your levels of HCG go up at any point, have to   Michelle (24:26) Mm-hmm.   Right.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (24:52) do chemo. So this was this chronic six month period where we couldn't try again. And every month I was going in afraid for my health.   Michelle (25:00) Mm-hmm.   my gosh.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (25:05) Right. So that was a totally different type of trauma. And then we got pregnant again. And that one we lost at 10 weeks because it was a little boy with downs. And then we finally got pregnant with our son that we have now. But I would say during that journey of those miscarriages, that was when I really dug deep into   Things like I was saying, like really taking everything serious with Chinese herbalism, looking at what I was putting in my body, looking at what was around me, my stress level, mean, meditation, really anything I could to balance my nervous system. And to your point, I think the nervous system played a role finally in us getting pregnant with our son because I think when you were on my podcast, I told you that   Michelle (25:47) Yeah.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (25:58) I was doing all these things, it wasn't working, and then finally I did that, quite essential, fine, I give up. I'm not doing this anymore. I went to my acupuncturist and I said, just do stress this time. Don't do any of the fertility treatments, please. I just don't want to even think about it anymore. And then it's so obnoxious to say, but three weeks later we got pregnant.   Michelle (26:04) Mm-hmm.   It's not, it is, it's something that I'm, well, I'm not just, know why you're saying that because people are like, what the heck? Like, it's kind of like the just relax kind of thing. saying just relax is not helpful. That's why people are like, okay, well then how, you know, that's the how, like, how do I relax? so actually let's talk about that. Cause that, that is a big thing. That's a big thing.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (26:32) Right, right.   Right. Well, I I let go of the outcome. Yeah, I think for me, it was letting go of the outcome. And I think that allowed my nervous system to get back to a safer baseline. To your point about asking about high sensitivity, I think what used to be the stress was work and school. The stressor became the goal.   Michelle (26:52) Yeah.   Yes. You know, I just hadn't, an aha, but if you want to continue, I did, I just had an aha. It's like you're taking on the responsibility of the goal. You think that it's all up to you and you're taking that weight on your shoulders. And I think that that's what it is is, and, I'm kind of thinking back cause I had Dr. Lisa Miller. I don't know if you've heard of her. She's yeah, she's amazing. You would love her. And I think she would be great on your podcast. So put her down as a   Dr. Amelia Kelley (27:06) Which, what? Ooh, no, I wanna hear it.   Mmm.   Mm-hmm.   I've heard that name.   and a jotter down.   Michelle (27:32) as an option or somebody. She went through the fertility journey, but separately from that, she's also a professor in Columbia. I think you would love talking to her because you're a professor as well. And she's a psychotherapist and she is studying spirituality in the brain.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (27:41) good. Yeah.   that's interesting. Okay.   Michelle (27:50) It's fascinating. And so they found looking at, scans of brains and how they're functioning, where they're lit up, that spiritual people who are spiritual have different brains, their brains look different. And this could be the same brain of somebody who used to not be spiritual and then became spiritual. It doesn't matter. And what's interesting is, so this is my, as you were talking, not to interrupt, hopefully you're trained a thought, but   Dr. Amelia Kelley (28:05) Interesting.   Mm-hmm.   Michelle (28:18) can come at life taking on the responsibility of every single part of our outcome and like fully micromanaging ourselves and bearing that weight or when we're spiritual, that means that we believe in a higher power or some kind of higher intelligence. We're relying on something else and not carrying all the weight. So we're just basically giving our intention out there, but, but also feeling safe enough. Like you said, safe, word safe.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (28:28) Thank   Mm-hmm.   Yes.   Michelle (28:46) to let go. So that was kind of my heart just came out.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (28:48) Hmm, absolutely. No, I love it. mean, the connection makes so much sense because and it kind of makes me think of why it doesn't have to be quote religion that someone leans into. It doesn't. It can literally be if you're someone listening who is an atheist and staunchly does not believe in a higher power, it could be energy. I mean, we can't there's no denying scientifically there's energy. mean, even   Michelle (29:01) Mm-hmm. No, no, it doesn't have to be religion.   Right?   True.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (29:18) plants have been proven to grow better when we speak to them because of the energy and probably the carbon monoxide, but like you're a carbon dioxide, but not monoxide. I'm not breathing carbon monoxide, but you can't deny energy. even if someone is not religious or I would say, I would want to ask her actually, does this hold true for someone who's not quote spiritual, but   Michelle (29:25) Yeah, yeah, yeah, dioxide. Totally. understood. Yeah.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (29:44) who gives up things to the idea of energy. I want to ask her that.   Michelle (29:48) That's a great question. when you do have her on, let me know, because I'll be listening to the podcast.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (29:53) for sure. For sure. Thanks for the tip for the, I'll definitely check her out and reach out.   Michelle (29:57) Yeah, but it's fascinating. And I think to myself, I think that that might be that trusting in something else, trusting in an outcome or kind of releasing or relinquishing that burden and that responsibility. And that I guess that that was the aha is like taking on that responsibility of really trying to, take on the outcome, like as if you really have all of the responsibility and how it turns out and that burden and that feeling and that blame.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (30:06) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Now I'm having an aha. Well, yes, I'm having an aha because high sensitivity. So I was talking about the mirror neurons earlier and the empathy overload with highly sensitives. Highly sensitive people, we do tend to naturally take on the responsibility of other people's emotions. And we also, even one of the questions that Dr. Aaron poses is,   Michelle (30:29) Tell me. This is great. We bounce off each other really well.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (30:54) Do you know how to make people comfortable in a room? Like things like changing the lighting and the volume and the temperature in the room. I think even as a highly sensitive person, we kind of naturally take on the responsibility of the environment. And that's why some HSPs who are not high sensation seekers, who are just, you know, kind of more of the traditional introverted expression of it, they really get overwhelmed in social settings and they don't love hosting.   Michelle (31:19) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (31:23) because it's too much to micromanage. I'm a high sensation seeking HSP, so I do enjoy hosting and having people over at my home. However, the hours leading up to the event, I need quiet and calm. I've got like a hairpin trigger nervous system leading up to inviting people in my space, even though I love it. It's like this weird.   Michelle (31:24) you   Mm-hmm.   Hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (31:52) dichotomy. yeah, letting go of responsibility, think, releases the nervous system of a highly sensitive person as well.   Michelle (32:00) Yeah. And it's so interesting that you're saying that because like, I look back at my childhood, I was a really good imitator. And that just makes sense because you pick up on the little details of people's behavior and energy and you mirror that like literally.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (32:09) Mmm. Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I'm so curious and envious because I'm terrible at accents. Like, terrible. Really? Mm-hmm.   Michelle (32:26) Yeah, I used to, I would do it even when I wasn't trying. I would start to take on like, I would do it on purpose and when I wasn't trying, like I would just pick up on like certain behaviors or certain like tones and things. And I would kind of like take on like the energy of friends that would have very specific ways of talking. And I would almost be like, like I would catch myself. like, that's weird. I don't want to do that.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (32:35) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   You're like, I don't want to look like I'm really imitating them. This might get awkward.   Michelle (32:55) For sure. But it's just so fascinating. and then you're talking also highly sensitive persons that they could also have glucose sensitivity. You were saying you were talking about the physical sensitivity, right? Like that sometimes it could be allergies or other things and it's not just emotional.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (33:06) Mmm.   Mm-hmm. Well, so if you think about, it's not that they're going to have more unstable blood sugar from a technical medical stance. It's that the highly sensitive nervous system can sense peaks and valleys more than someone who is not highly sensitive. So they might respond more to hunger cues and may feel more   Michelle (33:29) Mm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (33:39) panic or anxiety or stress in the state of hunger. So they may be more likely to be the person that reaches for something to re-stabilize glucose. But then you can see how depending on someone's metabolic health, that might not fit well into whatever their health goals are. So I think of my non- he's actually quite highly sensitive now, but my husband- I'm going grab water.   Michelle (33:43) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Got it.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (34:08) Sorry. My husband, who is a little bit less sensitive and has a more stable metabolic system, when he's hungry, it doesn't cause as much distress.   Michelle (34:08) Sure.   Got it.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (34:20) If that makes sense.   Michelle (34:21) a body awareness thing. because HSPs are probably much more aware of how their bodies feel because a, immediately feel it. And then that impacts their emotions or how they feel mentally. Cause a lot of emotions get processed and they're really felt in the body. think, a lot of times people don't realize that it's why somatic.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (34:39) Mm-hmm.   Michelle (34:43) work can be so beneficial. Have you looked into somatic work?   Dr. Amelia Kelley (34:48) I do offer some forms of somatic work. I am not a somatic-experiencing practitioner. That takes a full, it's almost like a whole separate degree. But I actually find what you're saying very important to highlight, too, because HSPs, while anyone listening might think, goodness, OK, I'm highly sensitive. Now what? Does this just mean that I'm in for it? Everything's going to be harder?   Michelle (34:57) wow.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (35:14) The good thing, the hopeful thing is that HSPs also respond more to positives. So they feel more positive sensation from things like a massage or acupuncture or homeopathy or different aromatherapies. They're really going to benefit from it. I think that's why   Michelle (35:20) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (35:39) My HSPs tend to stay in therapy longer. So HSPs are kind of a stronger ratio in therapy, not only because the world can feel more traumatizing at some points for HSPs, but because they just get so much out of it. I think it also leads to things like food can taste even better. Music can sound even more beautiful. Movies can be even more moving. So there's these...   Michelle (35:58) Mm-hmm.   There's benefits.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (36:09) Yeah, there's this, I wouldn't give it up. I wouldn't want to be less sensitive just because it would make me a little bit less likely to reach for a snack in the afternoon. So there's this yin and yang to it.   Michelle (36:14) brain.   Yes.   For sure. I actually like just from my own journey based on that, what I offer a lot of my patients and I always talk to them about it when I perceive that they get overwhelmed by stimulation. That was really how I saw it. I would say that it's not about changing that it's a gift actually, cause it could also teach you to be very aware of other people's feelings and   Dr. Amelia Kelley (36:40) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.   Right.   Michelle (36:50) And that can be a great thing for healers, to be honest, because you're a lot more likely to be able to understand the people that you're working with. It's not about changing. It's more about managing, kind of figuring out ways to stabilize so that it works for you.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (36:53) Mm-hmm.   Right.   Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.   Right.   Absolutely. And I think that's the whole key of identifying whether or not you're one and why it's important. I've had clients who come in with a laundry list of diagnoses from other practitioners, usually because what's going on is trauma and it's being misdiagnosed as many other things, just my clinical opinion. But when I say maybe you're also highly sensitive, sometimes they just throw their arms up like another thing. And it's like, no, no.   Michelle (37:36) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (37:37) This is a key. This is a huge level of insight that can inform everything from your fertility journey for people listening, from trauma, from navigating. Anytime something stands in your way of getting where you want to be, if you know, well, I'm highly sensitive, so I will be more likely to succeed at this thing or accomplish this thing or feel better about this thing if I take my sensitivity into account.   Michelle (38:01) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (38:07) Perfect example, I had a very heavy day yesterday. had, I think, eight clients, a podcast, an interview, and a class. It was too much. It was a heavy, heavy day. I get home and my husband had managed to fix the voice-changing microphone toy that my kids have that had been broken that I wasn't rushing to fix. so I come in the house. They run to me. They're so excited to see me, so I'm excited to see them.   Michelle (38:17) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Ha ha ha!   Dr. Amelia Kelley (38:35) and then they start in on this microphone. The last thing I wanted was to hear that microphone. But I know I didn't want to ruin their fun. So I know about me that I am going to be sensitive to sound when I'm overstimulated. So I went into my bag. I got my loop earbuds. If no one's ever heard of them, they're great for dampening noise around you, but you can still hear people. Popped my earbuds in. I didn't feel like I had to mask the issue of being sensitive to the noise.   Michelle (38:56) Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (39:03) My family knows this about me. It wasn't anything against my kids. It was just, I'm going to pop these in so you can still have fun, but I can feel peaceful. And that's, think, a compassionate way to care for yourself is when you know these things about yourself, you can do things to help you still integrate and feel happy and peaceful in your life, but not have to push away what really is true.   Michelle (39:17) Mm-hmm.   I love that. actually really love that. It actually, the idea of highly sensitive, I don't mind it. Although I do think that there's definitely a lot of labels. I don't see this as one because the reason why I'm saying this, it reminds me of human design where you find out your strengths and sensitivities.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (39:42) Yes.   Michelle (39:47) and I think that once you know those, so it's not like a disorder, you know, cause we, think we hear all these different labels. think of it as like all these disorders. It's not no. And so that's the thing with this. I feel like it brings a lot of clarity. I, as a sensitive person   Dr. Amelia Kelley (39:54) Mm-hmm. It's not even a diagnosis.   Michelle (40:05) it really makes me understand myself more and manage it more. Just like you said, and I think that that is the key rather than getting frustrated with my husband who likes to really over explain. And sometimes I'm like, okay, my brain is like just on fire right now. And I have to explain that to, like, I know to explain that to him, like, it's not you, it's just me. He like right now I'm overloaded with information. I need a little quiet.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (40:10) Mm hmm.   Mm-hmm.   my gosh.   Yes.   Right.   Mm-hmm.   Michelle (40:33) So I think that when you do that, you'll also come at explaining things in a way that's more compassionate and easier to communicate rather than getting frustrated because you'll understand yourself better. And you understand sort of the situation that somebody else might not have that level of sensitivity and you do so they may not realize it. And I just feel like it really puts so much clarity to the situation.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (40:41) Right.   Right.   Right.   absolutely. if you happen to have kids or if you're on this fertility journey and in the future you're blessed with kids, the likelihood of them maybe being sensitive is quite high. And so you will be able to model for them. I joke one day, my daughter was probably three or four at the time, and she kept asking me for things in the bathroom. like, what is she doing? I walked in and she was laying in the tub with a book and a cup.   Michelle (41:17) Yes.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (41:30) and a towel over her face. And I'm like, what are you doing? She goes, I'm being mommy. I know, but it made me really proud too, because I'm like, OK, great. So this has been modeled for her. And you know, one thing we didn't even mention that we probably should have mentioned at the very beginning, high sensitivity is not abnormal. It's an adaptive trait. And it is a third. Up to a third of the human population is highly sensitive.   Michelle (41:35) That's really cute.   Yeah.   you   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (41:59) And there are ranges. So you have high sensitivity, medium sensitivity, and there are actually people who are low sensitive as well. Like their nervous system takes a lot of stimulation to be activated. And you might notice if you start learning this about yourself, you'll be able to start reflecting on people in your life and how you respond to them. And there might be people you can get to depth with a little bit more easily. Those might be your other co-HSPs.   Michelle (42:12) Mm-hmm.   Mm-hmm.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (42:29) And this is not just humans. The research shows this is in hundreds of animal species, even bugs. So it's everywhere. It's part of nature. It's part of nature, essentially.   Michelle (42:38) Wow, that's fascinating. That's so interesting. It's wild. You know, and I think to myself, like one of the things that I noticed, and it's so interesting that you said this, because I noticed that my patients, One of the things that I really observe is how they respond to treatments. Not everybody responds as quick.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (42:52) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.   Michelle (42:58) Some people take a little longer. so I can come up with like my first protocol, but then I realized I need to shift it a little bit, depending on how they do, or sometimes I'll even use baby needles on people who are very, very sensitive. Cause I don't want to overdo it with their nervous system. They don't need the strong needles. They don't need the strong stimulation cause they feel it already. And the people that have that body awareness   Dr. Amelia Kelley (43:04) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.   Mmm.   Right.   Right.   Michelle (43:22) is that when they have that body awareness, I feel like they respond to treatment a lot faster.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (43:28) Mm hmm. Yep. You're right. Just like we were saying that you'll get more good out of the good.   Michelle (43:31) Yeah. Yeah. Interesting. So interesting. I can talk to you for hours. I really enjoy our conversations. It's a lot of fun. I'll come back and then I'll have you back because I'm sure we can come up with like all kinds of things to talk about.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (43:37) I know I have to have you back now.   Well, and you know the funny thing, so I'll tell your listeners my podcast is The Sensitivity Doctor, and I have folks on all the time to talk about different topics around sensitivity. Do you know I have not had an episode literally just talking about what it means to be a highly sensitive person? I would love to have you on to have a chat about what it means to another highly sensitive person, and we can just unpack it. Because we talk about it extraneously around it, but I'm like,   Michelle (44:04) really?   Let's do it. Let's do it.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (44:16) Yeah, we should just unpack what that means. So I would love to have you back.   Michelle (44:20) That would be great. I really enjoy talking to you. can just like totally pick your brain. You're so interesting to talk to. I got really, and I love your energy and you're also the way you approach it in such an empowering way. I love that. Like I think it's just amazing. yeah, yeah, this is fun. I'm really excited. I actually met you.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (44:26) thank you. You too.   Mm-hmm. Thank you.   Yeah, it was a good it was a good meeting   Michelle (44:41) it was definitely a great meeting. So I would love for you to share for people listening and if they want to learn more, if they want to read your books, how they can reach you and how they can work with you.   Dr. Amelia Kelley (44:47) Mm-hmm.   Sure, so as I was mentioning, I do have my podcast that comes out every Thursday. But if you want to learn basically anything that I have to offer, it's on my website at AmeliaKelly.com, and that's Kelly with an EY. And I have links to my Psychology Today blog. It's called In Your Corner. I've got meditations on Insight Timer on there. There's a couple different quizzes, like if you want to figure out if you're in a...   trauma bond, if you want to learn if you're a highly sensitive person, I have an assessment on there. I also offer what I think to be the most important tools from some of my books that I want to make available to everyone for free, like the safety plan of how to get out of domestic violence situations, suicide safety plan, gas lighting checklist, like some of the things that I feel like everyone really should just have. You don't need to go buy the book.   Those are available too. So you can also find links for all my books and I also have a group that I meet every Tomorrow actually it's meeting. It's every other Thursday It's called powered by ADHD and it's for women with ADHD and sometimes we have guest speakers on which we're gonna have tomorrow night so I'm excited about that and I love that because it's a resource that women anywhere in the world can reach out You don't have to be in the state of North Carolina where I'm licensed. So   virtually anyone who is a woman or identifies as a woman can join that.   of course. Thanks for having me. Yeah, you'll come back. Awesome.  

Michael Leonard is the creator of Inspire Your Success, a blog and podcast to help people start online businesses and upgrade their mindset for success.   Michael is also an author and self-improvement writer featured on Fearless Motivation, Goldcast, Life Hacker, and more.   He emphasizes that success is not just about learning technical skills but about reprogramming one's subconscious to overcome limiting beliefs.   He shares his routine, which involves reviewing wins, planning, and meditating to ensure productivity and a positive mindset throughout the day.   Michael also advises staying open to new experiences, meeting new people, and consistently consuming content that helps grow and improve.   Website: https://www.inspireyoursuccess.com/                michaelleonard.net IG: https://www.instagram.com/iammichaelleonard   Previous Episode: iam198-author-podcast-host-and-self-improvement-writer-helps-people-start-online-businesses   Check out our CEO Hack Buzz Newsletter–our premium newsletter with hacks and nuggets to level up your organization. Sign up HERE.  I AM CEO Handbook Volume 3 is HERE and it's FREE. Get your copy here: http://cbnation.co/iamceo3. Get the 100+ things that you can learn from 1600 business podcasts we recorded. Hear Gresh's story, learn the 16 business pillars from the podcast, find out about CBNation Architects and why you might be one and so much more. Did we mention it was FREE? Download it today!

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My guest, Allison Kade is a content marketer, writer, brand journalist, and the founder of Contented, a boutique content marketing agency based in Philadelphia providing content strategy, writing, editing, copyediting, and more. Drawing on her eclectic interests and areas of expertise, her agency focuses on creating content about finance, climate, and health care. Allison Kade's writing has been published in several media outlets, including Fox Business News, Business Insider (now Insider), The Fiscal Times, The Huffington Post, Travel + Leisure, Lifehacker, The Travel Channel, and xoJane. In addition to her work as a content marketer, she is also a money coach who helps people with their personal finance and financial planning. Some topics discussed: What the right content marketing strategy can do for your business The current state of content marketing Utilizing AI in content generation (or not) and how AI will impact content marketing Combining a diverse array of interests and areas of expertise into your work Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/jV7y6ZvHzFI?si=RcVWULvCKCBB7hwU  Connect with Allison Kade: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allison-kade-9007804/  Learn more: https://allisonkade.com/  Allison's appearance on Fox Business News: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJBfBjIbvOk&ab_channel=FOX61

Anti-diet personal stylist Dacy Gillespie joins us to discuss diet and wellness culture, her bad experience with functional medicine (and what attracted her to it in the first place), how she's dealing with her chronic symptoms now, and why she doesn't think clothes should be “flattering.” Behind the paywall, we get into how to shop for clothes after your body changes, how to start discovering your authentic personal style beyond diet culture's ideals, the advice that revolutionized Christy's approach to fashion, the parallels between intuitive eating and fashion, and more. This episode is cross-posted from our other podcast, Rethinking Wellness. As a weight-inclusive, anti-diet personal stylist, Dacy Gillespie helps her clients reject fashion rules and ideal standards of beauty imposed by the patriarchy, white supremacism, and capitalism so that they can uncover their authentic style. Through their work building a functional wardrobe, Dacy's clients make a mindset shift from thinking they need to wear what's flattering to unapologetically taking up space in the world.  After a lifetime of jobs in high-stress careers that didn't suit her highly sensitive, introverted personality, Dacy started mindful closet in 2013 in an attempt to create a more emotionally sustainable lifestyle. Her work has been featured in Forbes, Real Simple, New York Magazine's The Strategist, and Lifehacker, and she is a frequent podcast guest. Dacy lives with her husband and two children in St. Louis, Missouri. Learn more about her work at mindfulcloset.com.  Check out Christy's three books, Anti-Diet, The Wellness Trap, and The Emotional Eating, Chronic Dieting, Binge Eating & Body Image Workbook for a deeper dive into the topics covered on the pod.  If you're ready to break free from diet culture and make peace with food, come check out Christy's Intuitive Eating Fundamentals online course. For more critical thinking and compassionate skepticism about wellness and diet culture, check out Christy's Rethinking Wellness podcast! You can also sign up to get it in your inbox every week at rethinkingwellness.substack.com. Ask a question about diet and wellness culture, disordered-eating recovery, and the anti-diet approach for a chance to have it answered on Rethinking Wellness. You can also subscribe to the Food Psych Weekly newsletter to check out previous answers!

On today's episode of Reimagining Love, Vanessa & Xander Marin join Dr. Alexandra for a frank and compassionate conversation about sex—specifically, sex in long-term relationships. It's normal for couples to fall into a rut in the bedroom, ranging from sex feeling kind of “meh,” to long periods without any intimacy at all. These ebbs and flows are part of being in a long-term relationship or marriage, and the good news is, there are actions you can take to chart a new course with your partner and to get excited about each other again. Vanessa and Xander are a couple who have been creating that very roadmap for folks, through their amazing online courses, their podcast, Pillow Talks, and their New York Times-bestselling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience who has been featured in outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and she has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. And Xander? Well, he is a “regular dude” who left his corporate job to join Vanessa in this work. Together they blend clinical wisdom, humor, openness, and their own personal stories to normalize talking about our sex lives and to offer techniques for improving yours. You are going to hear about their personal experience with couple therapy and how they landed on the agreement, “If it matters to one of us, it matters to both of us.” They share so many juicy insights about sex, from desire discrepancy to initiation to their amazing acronym “P.L.E.A.S.E.,” which you'll learn in this conversation. This episode will give you the confidence to shift the way you and your partner talk about sex and couple therapy, as well as anything else you might be stuck on.Relevant Links:Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander MarinVanessa & Xander's website: https://vmtherapy.com/https://vmtherapy.com/Vanessa & Xander's courses & challenges: https://vmtherapy.com/holiday-gift-guide-2024Vanessa & Xander's podcast, Pillow Talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Give the gift of Relational Self-Awareness! All of Dr. Alexandra's online offerings are 20% off until December 20th, 2024! They include the hallmark course "Intimate Relationships 101" and the Reimagining Love Workbook as a beautiful companion to this podcast. Visit https://dralexandrasolomon.com/giftguide2024/ to explore Relational Self-Awareness as you and your loved ones move into the new year.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit rethinkingwellness.substack.comAnti-diet personal stylist Dacy Gillespie joins us to discuss diet and wellness culture, her bad experience with functional medicine (and what attracted her to it in the first place), how she's dealing with her chronic symptoms now, and why she doesn't think clothes should be “flattering.” Behind the paywall, we get into how to shop for clothes after your body changes, how to start discovering your authentic personal style beyond diet culture's ideals, the advice that revolutionized Christy's approach to fashion, the parallels between intuitive eating and fashion, and more.Paid subscribers can hear the full interview, and the first half is available to all listeners. To upgrade to paid, go to rethinkingwellness.substack.com. As a weight-inclusive, anti-diet personal stylist, Dacy Gillespie helps her clients reject fashion rules and ideal standards of beauty imposed by the patriarchy, white supremacism, and capitalism so that they can uncover their authentic style. Through their work building a functional wardrobe, Dacy's clients make a mindset shift from thinking they need to wear what's flattering to unapologetically taking up space in the world. After a lifetime of jobs in high-stress careers that didn't suit her highly sensitive, introverted personality, Dacy started mindful closet in 2013 in an attempt to create a more emotionally sustainable lifestyle. Her work has been featured in Forbes, Real Simple, New York Magazine's The Strategist, and Lifehacker, and she is a frequent podcast guest. Dacy lives with her husband and two children in St. Louis, Missouri.If you like this conversation, subscribe to hear lots more like it!Support the podcast by becoming a paid subscriber, and unlock great perks like extended interviews, subscriber-only Q&As, full access to our archives, commenting privileges and subscriber threads where you can connect with other listeners, and more. Learn more and sign up at rethinkingwellness.substack.com.Christy's second book, The Wellness Trap, is available wherever books are sold! Order it here, or ask for it in your favorite local bookstore.If you're looking to make peace with food and break free from diet and wellness culture, come check out Christy's Intuitive Eating Fundamentals online course.

Performance psychologist Noa Kageyama (NY License #19280) is on the faculty of The Juilliard School and the Cleveland Institute of Music. A conservatory-trained violinist with degrees from Oberlin and Juilliard before completing a Ph.D. in counseling psychology at Indiana University, Noa now specializes in working with performing artists, teaching them how to utilize sport psychology principles and more consistently perform up to their full abilities under pressure.He has conducted workshops for institutions ranging from Northwestern University, New England Conservatory, Peabody, Eastman, Curtis, McGill University, and the U.S. Armed Forces School of Music, to programs such as the Starling-Delay Symposium, The Perlman Music Program, and the National Orchestral Institute, and for organizations like the Music Teachers' National Association, the National Association of Teachers of Singing, the Sphinx Organization, the Performing Arts Medicine Association, and the Association for Applied Sport Psychology.Noa's work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, NBC News, CNN, Slate, TED-Ed, Musical America, Strings Magazine, Strad, and Lifehacker. He has taught over 8000 musicians, educators, and learners through his online courses, and authors The Bulletproof Musician - a performance psychology blog and podcast which reaches over 45,000 subscribers every week.www.bulletproofmusician.com

In this thought-provoking episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I sit down with Jen Lumanlan, host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast and author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World. Join us for an introduction to how white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism shape family dynamics and influence parenting approaches, and how to shift out of traditional power dynamics to make family life easier and more connecting. Jen shares powerful insights and practical tools to help parents navigate conflicts and create family environments where everyone's needs—parents' and children's alike—are honored. From addressing the micro moments where resistance in children shows up to exploring deep concepts like white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism and how they intersect in our families, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming family relationships and beyond. Whether you're a parent seeking to navigate the pressures of modern life or someone looking to create a more just and collaborative family dynamic, this episode is packed with inspiration and actionable strategies. Tune in and start building a family culture rooted in equality, trust, and compassion today.   About Jen Lumanlan JEN LUMANLAN, MS, MEd, (she/her) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which was named Best Research-Based Parenting Podcast by Lifehacker and has been downloaded almost 4 million times. After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path in sustainability consulting, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master's degree in psychology focused on child development and another in education, and trained as a Co-Active coach to share what she learned with other parents. Her work has been featured in outlets such as Psychology Today, Romper, and NPR. Jen is the author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World. Jen's Resources Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourParentingMojo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourparentingmojo/ Website: https://www.yourparentingmojo.com Take Jen's quiz: Tell Me What My Child Needs! https://www.yourparentingmojo.com/quiz When you understand your child's most important need and meet that more often, they'll stop resisting you as much. Read Jen's book: Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World: https://yourparentingmojo.com/book/ Listen to Jen's podcast: Your Parenting Mojo: https://yourparentingmojo.com/episodes/ Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop (open anytime; just $7 with coupon code ALIMILLER) - shows you how to set limits effectively, and also set far fewer of them than you ever thought possible, without being a permissive parent! Taming Your Triggers workshop (opens every ~Oct and Feb) - helps parents understand the real causes of their triggered feelings, begin to heal those hurts so they feel triggered less often, and repair more effectively on the fewer occasions when it does still happen. Parenting Membership (opens every May) - provides ongoing support for parenting challenges - from tantrums/meltdowns, screen time, and raising healthy eaters to getting on the same page with your parenting partner.   Connect with Ali Miller Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Website: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching NVC for Couples Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples/ Email: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com    

An Educational Journey Turned Parenting Mission Jen Lumanlan's shift from a sustainability consulting career to a focus on parenting wasn't incidental. After grappling with the challenges of raising her own daughter, she realized that academic research on child development could serve as a guiding light. This led her to pursue master's degrees in psychology and education, and subsequently, to the creation of her podcast and book. Her primary goal? To leverage her learnings to support other parents facing similar challenges. Challenging Conventional Discipline Understanding the Power Dynamics at Play At the heart of Jen's approach is the critique of conventional discipline methods such as timeouts and consequences. According to Jen, these methods often perpetuate harmful power dynamics. They emphasize a power-over relationship, where the authority figure (the parent) uses their power to correct or control the child. These traditional methods can breed resentment and a lack of genuine understanding. Exploring Alternative Strategies The Shift From Control to Collaboration So, what can parents do instead? Jen advocates for strategies that satisfy both the parent's and the child's needs, fostering a power-sharing relationship. For example, during conflict, she suggests addressing the situation outside of the moment of crisis. Proactive discussions about recurring issues like tooth brushing or bedtime can pave the way for more harmonious solutions. By understanding and meeting each other's needs, both parties can find agreeable strategies, reducing resistance and conflict. Identifying and Meeting Needs The Two-Way Street of Parenting Needs Parents often neglect their own needs in the face of their child's demands, but Jen emphasizes that both parent and child have valid needs. Strategies should aim to fulfill both. She introduces the concept of "cherry needs" — the most critical needs that recur for both parents and children. For instance, a child's need for autonomy can be met with choices that do not compromise the parent's essential needs, such as brushing teeth in a different room. Problem-Solving in Real-Time Navigating Tantrums and Meltdowns Tantrums and meltdowns are common challenges, and Jen offers peace and empathy as the best tools. Understanding the underlying needs that prompt such behaviors and addressing them proactively or with empathetic responses in the heat of the moment can defuse tension. Validating the child's feelings and needs even during a meltdown can lead to quicker resolutions and more trust. Shifting Dynamics with Teens It's Never Too Late to Transform Relationships Parents of older children might assume it's too late for change, but Jen underscores that it's never too late. Even with tweens and teens, shifting from a power-over to a power-sharing dynamic can salvage and improve the relationship. She proposes using phrases like “I'm worried that…” to express needs and concerns, fostering mutual respect and understanding. Healing From Our Own Childhood Breaking Cycles Through Self-Reflection Many of our parenting triggers stem from our own childhood experiences. By unpacking and healing these old traumas, parents can become more conscious and connected. This self-awareness prevents past negative patterns from repeating, helping parents respond more thoughtfully rather than reacting on impulse. Broader Societal Change Raising Children Who Challenge Injustice Jen believes that by fostering power-sharing relationships at home, we can equip children to challenge systemic injustices. When children learn to view all individuals' needs as equally important, they carry this perspective into broader societal contexts, questioning and challenging systems of domination and inequality. Jen Lumanlan's insights offer valuable guidance in our quest to raise empathetic, empowered children. By shifting from control to collaboration and addressing the deeper needs within our family dynamics, we not only nurture healthier relationships but also contribute to a more just world. Tune into this enlightening episode of Dads with Daughters for more practical wisdom on transformative parenting. Connect with Jen and deepen your understanding of parenting dynamics at Your Parenting Mojo. TRANSCRIPT Dr.Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]: Welcome to Dads with Daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]: Welcome back to the Dads with Daughters podcast where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters' lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. As always, every week, you and I are on a journey together. I love being on this journey with you where we have an opportunity to be able to learn together about what it takes to be that dad that we wanna be. And all of us wanna be that those engaged dads, those dads that are there for our kids. And it takes work. It takes time. It takes effort to be a quality parent, and it takes resources. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:55]: And that's why this podcast exists. Every week, I love being able to bring you different guests, different people with different experiences that can bring different resources to you, different different opportunities for you to learn and grow. The the biggest thing is that you're open to learning. And that's what I hope for me for you every week when we're talking. This week, we got another great guest with us. Jen Loominlan is with us today. And Jen hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which was named the best research parenting podcast by Lifehacker. It's been downloaded over 3,000,000 times. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:33]: After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path in sustainability consulting, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master's degree in psychology focused on child development and another in education and trained as a coactive coach to share what she learned with other parents. She's an author of the book Parenting Beyond Power, How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the world. And today, we're gonna be talking with her about her own experiences and these experiences with the book and some of the things that you can take out of this book to help you to be that parent that you wanna be. Jen, thanks so much for being here today.  Jen Lumanlan [00:02:16]: Thanks for having me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:16]: It is my pleasure. I mentioned the fact that you've got this book that you've put out into the world. As an author myself, I know how much time, effort, passion has to go into putting a book out into the world. And it is a lot of time and effort, and you have to have a passion for it to be able to get to that end point. So tell me the story. What what was it about? You know, I introduced you. You you had this career, but you said, you know what? I wanna go back and I want to do do more work on education, work with parents. But what made you decide that you wanted to put all this into a book that was gonna help others? What drew you to that final point? Jen Lumanlan I think I started the podcast because, you know, I had no idea how to parent. And I didn't have the most amazing parenting role models myself either, and so I realized I could look to academic research to help me understand how to go about raising my daughter. And so I kind of figured, you know, I I should get some education on this so that I can put some kind of guardrails around it and know I'm not missing anything huge, and that's what led to the master's degrees. And and then I was kinda thinking, well, it's kinda silly to do all this learning for myself and not share it. So I created the podcast to share that with other people. And then I over the course of of sort of exploring a lot of topics on the podcast that we have over 200 episodes now that are all research based. And I think, you know, it became really clear that I was hearing similar challenges from parents over and over again. And and they're kind of variations on the phrase, how do I get my child to Right? How do I get my kid to put their shoes on in the morning, to eat their breakfast, to stay at the dinner table, to get in the bath, to stay in bed at the end of the night? You know? And that's just the toddler set. Jen Lumanlan [00:03:59]: The challenges expand from there. So, what I realized was the the tools that I had learned from others and kind of adapted with putting my own spin on them were really helping parents to kind of address those challenges, those daily challenges on a day to day basis. And at the same time, they also help us to address some of the big challenges that we face out in the world that are related to kind of being in power over relationships. And it turns out that our kids learn a lot about power from our relationships with them and when we're using our power to get them to because it seems like that's the only thing we can do. Right? We just wanna get through the day. It's not we want to use our our power over our kids. We're just trying to get through the day. And we use our power because it seems like that's the only option we have because that's what was modeled for us when we were kids. Jen Lumanlan [00:04:50]: And if we can instead see how to be in a power sharing relationship with our kids, then our kids stop resisting us because you don't resist when your needs are met and when, you know, when you're not being sort of dominated by somebody else. And and also that will help us to address some of the social challenges we face that have their origins in these power based relationships. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:11]: So let's talk a little bit about power because in your book, you do talk about the that that power dynamic, and you challenge conventional discipline methods like timeouts and consequences. And you suggest that they perpetuate harmful power dynamics like you just were mentioning. So what are some other alternative strategies that parents can use when they feel overwhelmed, or when they feel that their child's behavior is especially difficult? Jen Lumanlan [00:05:38]: So the I mean, firstly, the challenge with those conventional discipline methods. I mean, if you ever put a child in time out, right, do they come out of time out kind of contrite and ready to apologize for the thing that they did wrong and they never do it again? Right? No. They usually kinda resent being in time out. They come out of it kinda pissed at you, and they do it again. Right? They do the same thing over again. Same with consequences. We can we can withdraw a privilege of some kind. We can punish a child in some way, and we can call it a, quote, unquote, logical consequence because it seems like the punishment is sort of related to the thing they did wrong. Jen Lumanlan [00:06:12]: But, essentially, it is a punishment. It is us using our power to say your behavior is not acceptable to me. And until that changes, I'm going to withdraw this thing that you care about. Right? We are using our power to to make both of those things happen. And so what what I want to make sure that that your listeners understand is that I am not advocating that we parents suddenly say, okay. Whatever you want. Totally fine. Totally cool. Jen Lumanlan [00:06:32]: Right? I'm just here to exist to enable you to live your best life. No. What I'm saying is that both parent and child have needs. And the way that we use the word need in our culture is a little bit odd. Right? Like, I might say, I can't play with you right now. I need to make dinner. And needing to make dinner is not actually a need. That's a strategy that I'm using to meet my need for food, for nourishment. Jen Lumanlan [00:07:01]: Right? And there are a 100 other strategies we could use. I could toss a pizza in the oven. We could go out and get dinner. I could ask someone to bring us dinner. We could have cereal for dinner. So many different strategies we could use to meet that need. And so what I'm saying is that you, parents, are a whole person with needs, and you deserve to get those needs met. And your child is a whole person with needs, and your child deserves to get those needs met. Jen Lumanlan [00:07:26]: And the vast majority of the time, preferably if we're not dealing with it in the moment. Right? We're not we're not waiting in for this thing that our kid does over and over and over again, and we're not waiting for that to happen. Then, okay, needs? What what am I supposed to do? Right? Instead, we can actually address that outside of that difficult moment. We can say, hey. I noticed we've been having a hard time with tooth brushing lately. Can we have a chat about that? Because I'd really like for that to be different. I'd like for our evenings to be different. Would you like for our evenings to be different? Chances are the kid probably does. Jen Lumanlan [00:07:53]: Because if this is a big deal to you, then, you know, there have been time outs and all kinds of stress around toothbrushing. And then, okay, so we're we're trying to understand how each person is feeling. We're trying to understand what each person needs. And what the need is determines the strategy that we can use to help them meet the need. So I'm happy to dig further into that if you'd like, but I'm curious if you have any questions about that aspect. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:14]: No. I'd love to delve a little bit deeper into needs because I know that in the book, you do talk about the importance of meeting both the parents and the child's needs, like you were talking about to reduce that conflict. So how can parents begin to identify and prioritize their own needs without feeling guilty or neglecting their children's? Jen Lumanlan [00:08:32]: So it's super common for the parents that I work with to say to me, before I started working with you, I didn't even know that I had needs. Because we didn't learn this when we were kids. Right? And so just to be clear on what I'm talking about related to needs, I'm talking about things like rest, like self care, like respect, which is not necessarily having everybody do everything you say. Right? It can be, like, holding someone in esteem and high regard. And we all want respect, and our kids want respect too. It's things like ease. And we just want parenting to be a little bit easier for collaboration, for harmony with our kids. Right? These are the kinds of things I'm talking about related to needs. Jen Lumanlan [00:09:10]: And so if we take tooth brushing as an example, right, could imagine if tooth brushing has been stressful because my kid has been resisting it. Let's say my kid is a toddler. My kid's actually 10 by now. But let's say it's a toddler, and I might think, okay. What is my need in this? Right? I might I might have been saying to my child, I need you to brush your teeth. That's not actually my need. My need is for protection of her health and safety. It is for a little bit of ease and collaboration and harmony in the evenings at the end of a long day. Jen Lumanlan [00:09:39]: And if you're wanting to, like, explore what needs are, there's a a list of needs in the back of of the book. And there's also a quiz that I offer at your parentingmojo.com, which allows you to go through it's your parentingmojo.comforward/ quiz, and you can answer some simple questions about your child's behavior and get to your child's most important needs that come up over and over and over again. And you may well find that some of those are coming up in tooth brushing. So if your child has what we call a cherry need, right, there's the cherry on top of the cupcake, which is the 3 to 5 needs that are coming up over and over and over again. For many toddlers, autonomy is right up there at the top. They want to be able to have some kind of say over something that feels important to them. Underneath that, we have the frosting needs, which is the next 3 to 5 most important. Underneath that is kind of all of the other needs. Jen Lumanlan [00:10:26]: And so we're always firstly looking at what are those cherry needs, and that quiz is gonna help you to understand what your child's cherry needs are. And so even if your child isn't speaking yet, right, if your child is too young to speak, if your child doesn't speak, if you've done this quiz, you can say, okay. What is it an autonomy? Is it possible the child wants to have some kind of say over what's happening here? How can I make that happen? Right? You're not giving the child necessarily the choice, do you want to brush teeth or not? But what kind of toothpaste do you wanna use? What kind of toothbrush do you wanna use? For us, oh my goodness. It it turned out to be I my daughter wanted to decide where we brushed. For a solid 6 months, we brushed in the living room. And so I might initially think, no. She should have brushed her teeth in the in the bathroom. That's where teeth are brushed. Jen Lumanlan [00:11:10]: Right? But if I can find the cognitive flexibility to say, alright. What are my needs? Her health and safety, peace, ease, harmony. Does brushing teeth in the living room meet my needs? Yes. It does. Does brushing teeth in the living room meet her need for autonomy? Yes. It does. Then is there a reason why we can't brush teeth in the living room? No. There is not. Jen Lumanlan [00:11:28]: And so that's what we did. And so the critical, critical piece here is that when it's a need for autonomy, right, it's not it's not the brushing teeth in the living room. It's some magical solution that will work for every child. If your child has a need for comfort, right, if you've been holding them down and forcing the toothbrush in their mouth, saying, let's brush in the living room is not gonna address that. And so we have to know what is the child's need, and then we find strategies to meet their need. And it feels good to have our needs met, and everybody wants to have it happen. And so that's how it helps us to get both of our needs met. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:59]: So another thing that your books talk about, and really what you just kind of framed seems to fit in with it, is one of the key concepts you talk about is your problem solving approach, and it it basically what you just described. Are there other parts though of that approach that you could walk us through that would allow for someone to get a better sense of what the approach kind of how an adult would frame that approach, and also how a parent might then apply it to other challenges like tantrums or other situations like that. Jen Lumanlan [00:12:34]: What I want to have parents see is that very, very often, these are not isolated instances. When your child is having tantrums, chances are it's kind of about the same thing over and over and over again. And so that represents a huge opportunity because you don't have to wait for the next tooth brushing session to address this. You can address this beforehand while everybody's calm, everybody's rested, everybody's fed, nobody's at the end of their rope. Right? That's the time ideally we want to address this. And that allows us to have more of a conversation. And even if your kid isn't talking yet, kids sense the difference between, you're gonna brush your teeth because I said so, because because I want what's good for you, and you have to brush your teeth so you don't get cavities, and all the reasons that we give them. And, oh my gosh, I really wish that this could be easier for both of us. Jen Lumanlan [00:13:22]: I'm trying to figure out how do we meet both of our needs here. Right? Kids know the difference between those two things. And even if you can't fully understand the child's need, they are often willing to come towards you because you're trying. But I also wanna give you an example of, like, in the moment the kid is already melting down. And so I'm thinking of a parent that I coached a while ago whose child was having this meltdown, and it was coming up because the child and the parent were having 1 on 1 playtime in the afternoon, and it's coming time to go and pick the older child up from school. And so the kid has, like, a you know, the kid the the younger child who's at home with the parent is having a fallout on the floor, wailing, hitting, biting, all the rest of it meltdown that's happening. And the parent is trying to reason with the child. Right? Come on. Jen Lumanlan [00:14:06]: It's time to go. We do this every day. Why is this so hard? We already had playtime. Let's go. And if you've ever had a meltdown yourself with your partner, with anyone else who's in your life, if you imagine your partner coming back and saying, but I told you a 100 times, this is how we do it. We can sort of get a sense for what it might be like to receive that from our parent. And what do we want instead? What we really want is someone to try to see it from our perspective. And so what I asked that parent to do and what she ended up doing was when the next time the child had the the the meltdown because they didn't have a chance to kinda talk about it beforehand, the parent kinda went in with, oh my goodness. Jen Lumanlan [00:14:46]: I hear you. It's so hard to transition out of playtime with me. Right? Because it's so much fun, and you love it so much. And now we're going to pick up your sibling, and for the rest of the afternoon, you're gonna have to share me. You're gonna have to wait. You can't just have the thing that you want right at the moment that you want it. Is that what's going on for you? And the kid is like, yes. And we're done. Jen Lumanlan [00:15:05]: And there's no more hitting, and there's no more biting, and there's no more flailing on the floor because the child was heard. And so I'm not saying this magically fixes every tantrum in your child's life, but I can tell you that when you see these things coming, when you see, okay. Yeah. Every day at this time, my kid has a tantrum. Why is that? What need are they trying to meet? Can I help them meet that need? That takes care of, like, a massive chunk of them up front, so you never even get into the tantrum in the first place. And then once you're in it, then the empathy the okay. What's really going on for you? Can I sit with you in this hard time that you're having? And that's where you find the real beauty of, yes. I just wanted to be heard. Jen Lumanlan [00:15:45]: I just wanted somebody to acknowledge that it's hard for me to to stop playing with you and have to share you for the rest of the evening. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:51]: So a lot of the examples you gave were of younger children. And in a perfect world, I would have loved to have had this book when my kids were really young. So if someone is hearing this and they're saying, I've got a tween, I've got a teen, and our relationship's not the best, we're in this fighting, we were fighting together, we're not seen eye to eye, you know, we're, you know, we're isolated, you know, we're we're not where we need to be. Are there things that they can do with this problem solving approach that they can start putting in place even though their children are not at that young age that they can start using right away? Jen Lumanlan [00:16:28]: Yes. It's never ever, ever too late to do this. I mentioned that my parenting role models were not the best, and I've thought about this a lot actually. And, you know, what would have happened I guess I do wanna be clear. You know, they were doing the best they could with the tools that they had. And if one of them had learned these tools and had tried to make some kind of shift, even in my late teenage years, would that have made a difference? Yes. It absolutely would have. And so where I would try to start with this kind of thing is to to try to kind of back off where you see that you're using power to get your child to change their behavior. Jen Lumanlan [00:17:04]: Not back off completely, but try to use a simple phrase. And that phrase is, I'm worried that dot dot dot. So if your, you know, your your kid is asking to do something, they wanna go out with friends, they whatever whatever is the thing that you're thinking about saying no to. That previously would you would have used your power, you would have made sure that they didn't do the thing that you that they're asking to do, that they really want do, that you don't want them to do. And so instead of of doing that, we can say, I'm worried that you're not gonna be safe. Right? I'm worried that this specific thing is going to happen. How can we make sure this thing doesn't happen? Because what what what the I'm worried that does is it helps me to articulate my need. I am worried for your safety. Jen Lumanlan [00:17:46]: If I can know that certain parameters are in place that mean that I think you're gonna be safe, then, yeah, I'm willing to say yes to this thing. Then I don't have to use my power over you to try and get you to change your behavior. I think that what what parents you're describing or seeing is I get actually reading for the first time doctor Thomas Gordon's book on, parent effectiveness training, and he talks about power and influence. And when we've used power over our children for a long time, we tend to find we have less influence as they get older because people don't like being influenced by people who have used power over them. And so if we want to have influence over our children as they get older and and they realize, you know what? You don't you actually don't have any power over me anymore. I'm getting bigger to the point where you can't physically intimidate me, and once I have the car keys, right, I'm done. I'm out of here. You can't control me anymore. Jen Lumanlan [00:18:37]: And if we still want to be able to influence our children at that point, we have to be willing to give up some of that power, and I'm worried that is a great place to start with that. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:47]: One of the other things that you talk about in the book is that many of the triggers, the triggers that all of us have internally, the things that set us off in our own parenting journey with our kids stem from how we were raised. How can parents begin to unpack and heal from their own childhood experiences to become more conscious, connected parents? Jen Lumanlan [00:19:09]: Well, that could be another episode by itself. So, I mean, there's a lot there. And what parents that I work with tend to find is that they are most triggered by their child's behavior when they when their child gets to an age where they were having a hard time with their parents. So there's, you know, all the typical toddler stuff that is just hard when the toddler is resisting for the first time, and we used to resist as well. Right? We didn't like it either, being told what to do and that my way is the only way and that even if we try and kind of be nice about it, that ultimately, the kid's gonna do things the way that we want them to do. We didn't like that either. We pushed back against it. And, eventually, we learned there's no point in pushing back because the parent's gonna win eventually. Jen Lumanlan [00:19:50]: And so you know, most people find that stage difficult for that reason. And then as we go through life, there was probably an age where we kinda butted up against our parents for for whatever reason. And then when our child gets to that age, then we remember all those struggles. It's like they're they're right here again. They're right here with us, and they remind us of the hard time that we had, the ways that we were dominated by our parents. And I think this, it's especially difficult actually for parents who have done a little bit of work, who are trying to do things differently with their child. Because when their child is doing something the parent finds difficult, there's this kind of tug of war happening in their heads. There's this, I know what my values are. Jen Lumanlan [00:20:31]: I know how I want to raise you. I want to be in this power sharing relationship with you, but I would have been punished for doing the thing you just did. If I never spoken to my parent like that, right, they would have hit me. And so it's like there's this this massive, you know, you can imagine this tug of war literally happening inside of our heads. And and it's happening in this moment when our kid is doing something we told them not to do. And the amount of mental capacity it takes to be able to navigate that and also be calm for your child and show up for your child is is overwhelming, and so we snap. And so that's why I teach a whole 10 week workshop called taming your triggers on where does this stuff come from, really digging deep and to start healing those things so that we don't have to carry around the weight of that hurt every day. And, also, really digging deep into the the tools that I've been mentioning that are described in the book and, like, how do we actually use them when I'm feeling triggered? Right? How do I how do I create a pause? Because that's that's the critical phase for especially for people who are triggered, is creating that pause between the thing my child does and my reaction. Jen Lumanlan [00:21:42]: And once you have that pause, then you have a moment to be able to say, okay. What are my values here? What's really important to me? What is my need? Okay. This is it. And so the thing that's gonna come out of my mouth is gonna be x rather than, you know, whatever it is that currently flies out in the moment that our child does this thing right now. Jen Lumanlan [00:22:00]: And so many times, it is that latter aspect. Jen Lumanlan [00:22:03]: And so often, it's your parents' voice that comes out. You're like, where did that come from? Yes. Because our parents raised us using these tools. They they dominated us. Even if they didn't mean to, even if they were doing the best that they could, they dominated us. And so when we're in these stressed moments, the thing that comes out is the thing that was modeled for us. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:22]: You know, the final thing that I think that I'd mentioned is that in your book, you really talk about transforming the family dynamic and that you say that through transforming this dynamic within our own homes, we can contribute to what you call a broader societal change. So how do you envision parents using these parenting tools to raise children who are capable of challenging system systematic injustices in the world around them? Jen Lumanlan [00:22:48]: Yeah. I mean, I see it happening already in the parents that I work with. And there's an example in the book of a parent who parent Maria and her her daughter, Isabelle. And, you know, Isabelle is one of those kids who, from the get go, knew exactly what she wanted and would scream if you held her the wrong way and would refuse to put her shoes on as a toddler. Right? Even even to go to a a nice outing. Right? The parents are like, okay. Put your shoes on. Well, no. Jen Lumanlan [00:23:13]: You told me to do it. No. I'm not doing it. And they stand there and stand off for half an hour, and the kid's not doing anything, and and they never make it out. And so Maria very quickly realized that using these power over tools was just gonna result in endless repetitions of that situation and started using these power sharing tools. And the transformation in their own relationship has been really profound. I mean, this is a kid who, I think Maria actually sprained her ankle in the house one day, and Isabelle stepped over her and said, you know, what? What's for lunch? No empathy, no compassion, no nothing. And within a period of months, right, we see empathy, we see compassion start coming out. Jen Lumanlan [00:23:57]: We see the kids all around the table, and some of the kids are teasing mom. And and Isabelle says, I'm looking at mom, and it seems like she's not up for being teased right now. Right? Reading mom's cues and being able to say, you know what? I'm not seeing that that mom's really into this. And so that's just within the family. And then we look outside the family, and Isabel sees that there's a kid in the school who has ADHD and is being bullied by the peer group that Isabelle is a part of, and Isabelle says, you know what? No. I'm not I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna be part of this group and goes over and makes friends with a kid with ADHD. So that's, you know, that's a super small example. Jen Lumanlan [00:24:32]: And then we start to extrapolate that out to other systems in the world. Right? If we think about things like racism, it's ultimately a power over system. It's me saying, my right to exist as a white person, to be comfortable as a white person is more important than people of color's right to exist in their whole selves. And what if we were to say, you know what? Your needs are just as important as my needs. I don't believe that these systems of domination out in the world can exist when we all perceive each other's needs to be equally as important as our own. And so, yes, it's gonna take some time. Right? This can't be the only way we go about doing these things. Parents are not responsible in themselves by, you know, just alone for solving these societal challenges. Jen Lumanlan [00:25:16]: We also need lots of other work as well. But I truly believe that seeing each other's needs as as important as our own is a critical piece of making the world a place where everybody can thrive. Jen Lumanlan [00:25:30]: I really appreciate you sharing everything that you've been sharing today. And if people want to find out more about you, your podcast, your book, where's the best place for them to go? Jen Lumanlan [00:25:40]: So everything I do flows through your parentingmojo.com. I would definitely advise parents to go check out the quiz at your parentingmojo.comforward/quiz. Because once you know your child's needs, everything just gets so much easier. Because as soon as you see resistance, you can say, okay. Where is this coming from? Is it a need? Oh, yes. It's autonomy. It's connection. It's, you know, whatever that cherry need is. Jen Lumanlan [00:26:03]: And then you can very quickly find the strategies that meet their need instead of having to look through the list of 50 needs and say, oh, which one is it? So I would definitely recommend that. I am on Facebook and Instagram. I don't use them super much, but I am there as well. And so, yeah, subscribe to podcast episodes as well, through the through the website. And the book is at Parenting Beyond Power. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:25]: Well, I really appreciate you sharing all of this today for what you're putting out into the world and what you're doing to help parents be better parents, and I wish you all the best. Jen Lumanlan [00:26:32]: Thanks so much, Chris. It was great to be with you. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:34]: If you've enjoyed today's episode of the Dads with Daughters podcast, we invite you to check out the Fatherhood Insider. The fatherhood insider is the essential resource for any dad that wants to be the best dad that he can be. We know that no child comes with an instruction manual and most dads are figuring it out as they go along, and the fatherhood insider is full of resources and information that will up your game on fatherhood. Through our extensive course library, interactive forum, step by step roadmaps, and more, you will engage and learn with experts, but more importantly, dads like you. So check it out at fatheringtogether.org. If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the dads with daughters Facebook community, there's a link in the notes today. Dads with daughters is a program of fathering together. We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week, all geared to helping you raise strong, empowered daughters and be the best dad that you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:32]: We're all in the same boat, And it's full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time. We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and bring your a game. Because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a  

Traveling to see friends and family this week? Planning on spending hours in the kitchen? Or maybe you just are looking to relax with this holiday? If so, a podcast might be in order. We'll speak to Lauren Passell, curator of Podcast The Newsletter and podcast writer for LifeHacker, about the best podcasts to listen to this holiday, and we'll take listener calls.

  The Friday Five for November 22, 2024: Bluesky Lists & Starter Packs Missing Apple Notes Solution KFF Updated FAQs on Medicare Drug Price Negotiation New Section 1115 Demonstrations for Medicaid & CHIP KFF 2025 Medicare Advantage Spotlight   Bluesky Lists & Starter Packs: “Bluesky Start Packs - Bluesky Directory.” Blueskydirectory.Com, Bluesky Directory, blueskydirectory.com/starter-packs/all. Accessed 20 Nov. 2024. Cooper, Gael. “Bluesky Explained: Why This Social Media Network Has 20 Million Users and Is Growing.” CNET.Com, CNET, 19 Nov. 2024, https://www.cnet.com/tech/bluesky-explained-why-this-social-media-network-is-now-growing-by-1-million-users-daily/. Isaac, Mike. “How Bluesky, Alternative to X and Facebook, Is Handling Explosive Growth.” Nytimes.Com, The New York Times, 17 Nov. 2024, https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/17/technology/bluesky-growing-pains.html. Cunningham, Joel. “This Is the Best Way to Find People to Follow on Bluesky.” Lifehacker.Com, Lifehacker, 19 Nov. 2024, lifehacker.com/tech/best-way-to-find-people-to-follow-on-bluesky. Cappelli, Amanda. “What Is Bluesky, the Online Platform Welcoming Users Leaving Elon Musk's X?” CBS News, CBS Interactive, 17 Nov. 2024, https://www.cbsnews.com/news/what-is-bluesky-why-are-people-leaving-x-platform/.   Missing Apple Notes Solution: Christoffel, Ryan. “Apple Confirms Fix for Disappearing Notes after iCloud Terms Issue.” 9to5Mac.Com, 9to5Mac, 18 Nov. 2024, 9to5mac.com/2024/11/18/apple-confirms-fix-for-disappearing-notes-after-icloud-terms-issue/. Phelan, David. “Apple Confirms iPhone Missing Notes Bug And Shows How To Fix It.” Forbes, Forbes Magazine, 18 Nov. 2024, www.forbes.com/sites/davidphelan/2024/11/17/apple-confirms-iphone-missing-notes-bug-and-shows-how-to-fix-it-iphone-16-pro-max-icloud-data/. Smith, Chris. “This Is Apple's Official Fix for the Bug That Makes Notes Disappear in iOS 18.” BGR.Com, BGR, 19 Nov. 2024, bgr.com/tech/apple-official-fix-for-the-ios-18-disappearing-notes-bug/.   KFF Updated FAQs on Medicare Drug Price Negotiation: Cubanski, Juliette. “FAQs about the Inflation Reduction Act's Medicare Drug Price Negotiation Program.” KFF.Org, KFF, 19 Nov. 2024, www.kff.org/medicare/issue-brief/faqs-about-the-inflation-reduction-acts-medicare-drug-price-negotiation-program/.   New Section 1115 Demonstrations for Medicaid & CHIP: “About Section 1115 Demonstrations.” Medicaid.Gov, Medicaid, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/about-section-1115-demonstrations/index.html. Accessed 20 Nov. 2024. “Biden-Harris Administration Announces Approvals in Five States That Will Keep Eligible Children and Adults Enrolled in Medicaid and CHIP.” CMS.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.cms.gov/newsroom/press-releases/biden-harris-administration-announces-approvals-five-states-will-keep-eligible-children-and-adults . “Colorado Section 1115 Demonstration Amendment.” Medicaid.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/downloads/co-continuum-dmnstrtn-aprvl-11142024.pdf. “Hawaii Section 1115 Demonstration Amendment.” Medicaid.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/downloads/hi-quest-integr-dmnstrtn-aprvl-11142024.pdf. “Minnesota Section 1115 Demonstration Amendment.” Medicaid.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/downloads/mn-pmap-dmnstrtn-aprvl-11142024.pdf. “New York Section 1115 Demonstration Amendment.” Medicaid.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/downloads/ny-medicaid-rdsgn-team-dmnstrtn-appvl-11142024.pdf. “Pennsylvania Section 1115 Demonstration Amendment.” Medicaid.Gov, Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 14 Nov. 2024, www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/section-1115-demonstrations/downloads/pa-former-foster-care-youth-diff-state-sud-dmnstrtn-appvl-11142024.pdf.   KFF 2025 Medicare Advantage Spotlight: Freed, Meredith, Jeannie Fuglesten Biniek, et al. “Medicare Advantage 2025 Spotlight: A First Look at Plan Offerings.” KFF.Org, KFF, 15 Nov. 2024, www.kff.org/medicare/issue-brief/medicare-advantage-2025-spotlight-a-first-look-at-plan-offerings/. Freed, Meredith, Jeannie Fuglesten Biniek, et al. “Medicare Advantage 2025 Spotlight: A First Look at Plan Premiums and Benefits.” KFF.Org, KFF, 15 Nov. 2024, www.kff.org/medicare/issue-brief/medicare-advantage-2025-spotlight-a-first-look-at-plan-premiums-and-benefits/.   Contact the Agent Survival Guide Podcast! Email us ASGPodcast@Ritterim.com or call 1-717-562-7211 and leave a voicemail.   Resources: 5 Ways to Generate ACA Leads: https://link.chtbl.com/ASG6287 7 Reasons Clients Switch Medicare Plans During AEP: https://link.chtbl.com/ASG632 Halfway Through AEP 2025: https://link.chtbl.com/ASGF20241115    Ritter Staff's Top 5 Apps: https://link.chtbl.com/ASGA73 VA Benefits, Tricare for Life, and Medicare for Veteran Clients: https://link.chtbl.com/ASG629 You're Not Alone This AEP! https://link.chtbl.com/ASGM20241104   Follow Us on Social! 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“Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they've written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:Why open conversations about sex are crucial for fostering intimacy and connection between partners.Breaking down male expectations around intimacy and performance, and how these notions can block true connection and vulnerability.Prioritizing quality over quantity in sex—focusing on enhancing pleasure and satisfaction over frequency.Practical, small-scale actions to boost emotional intimacy, like expressing gratitude, embracing a 30-second hug, or sharing a 6-second kiss.Cultivating your own individual sexuality to reinforce a sense of self and desire, no matter your relationship status.Navigating sexual changes through perimenopause and menopause, with tips on staying connected to your body and sexuality.OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.Follow them on:Instagram: @vanessaandxanderTikTok: @vanessaandxander YouTube: @vanessaandxander Facebook: @vanessaandxander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at

My friend Dino joined me in-studio to talk about fun things, real things and so much more! I can't wait to have Dino back in-studio, dude is literally a real life chill pill. Learn more about Dino and what makes him tick. Enjoy.

Mike Vardy is considered to be one of the top thought leaders in the personal productivity and time management space. His work has been featured in Lifehacker, Fast Company, HuffPost, Inc., and Forbes. Vardy is a renowned international speaker and has taught productivity practices on popular online education platforms Skillshare and LinkedIn Learning where his courses are among the most popular in the business category. Mike lives in Victoria, Canada with his wife, daughter, and son. Learn more at mikevardy.com

Peloton announces All-For-One dates. John Foley's post-Peloton sell-off. LifeHacker writes about Peloton's new $95 activation fee. Tips for accessing Peloton's website when it doesn't work. Peloton Quick Hits. Angelo/MetPro - When does cardio become TOO much cardio for perimenopausal women? Becs Gentry was ABC News. Selena Samuela discusses her miscarriage. Susie Chan was on the Runna podcast. Andy Speer was on the Intentional Wisdom podcast. CJ Albertson will run the NYC Marathon. TCO Top 5. This Week at Peloton. A 60-minute HIIT run on the schedule. Strength For Soccer has dropped. Brace yourself for Fall schedule changes. Peloton's Labor Day Sale. Birthdays - Kristen McGee (8/31) All this plus our interview with Lindsey Spindle! Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://www.theclipout.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Chris Hutchins, Life Hacker, Product Builder and Podcast Host, discusses the keys to negotiating in the investment world. Chris's Website https://chrishutchins.com/ All the Hacks Podcast https://www.allthehacks.com/?source=collection_home---------------------------------------- What's in it for you? Exclusive Advice: Gain insights from top negotiation experts. Community Support: Connect with a like-minded community focused on growth. Personal & Professional Growth: Unlock strategies to enhance every aspect of your life. You deserve to negotiate more of the best things in life, and now you can! Don't wait—be the first in line to experience this game-changing resource.

In this episode, Chris Hutchins, Life Hacker, Product Builder and Podcast Host, discusses the keys to negotiating in the investment world. Chris's Website https://chrishutchins.com/ All the Hacks Podcast https://www.allthehacks.com/?source=collection_home---------------------------------------- What's in it for you? Exclusive Advice: Gain insights from top negotiation experts. Community Support: Connect with a like-minded community focused on growth. Personal & Professional Growth: Unlock strategies to enhance every aspect of your life. You deserve to negotiate more of the best things in life, and now you can! Don't wait—be the first in line to experience this game-changing resource.

To get a special discount on the Stack System, click HERE and use discount code, TTGOLF at checkout.   Michael Leonard from the Wicked Smart Podcast joins me once again to explain what he didn't do to become a scratch golfer.   Referring to going scratch as “the six-pack of golf”, Michael says that there's no faking the journey to hitting that magical zero handicap. It's a rewarding place to be, and anyone who wants to get into the top 5% of players needs to have a sound strategy.   At the same time, there are commonly-accepted steps that one shouldn't take to become a scratch golfer. Listen in as Michael dives deep into every one of these misconceptions, from the pitfalls of obsessing over mechanics, to routine and short swing misfires, to the silly mind games we play that do more harm than good out on the course.   And don't miss the tail-end of our conversation, where Michael gives his thoughts on the difference between a scratch player and a true scratch player.   About Michael Leonard: Michael Leonard is a professional writer who has been featured in Lifehacker, Addicted2Success, Rockstar Finance, Early to Rise, Thrive Global and more. In 2022, he launched the Wicked Smart Golf podcast and published the Wicked Smart Golf Book. In 2023, he launched Wicked Smart Golf Academy using his mental golf coaching and tournament knowledge to help golfers play better without swing changes. He also launched AZ Golf Wizard the same year to help locals and out-of-towners navigate AZ golf.   Connect with Michael: Instagram | Wicked Smart Golf Podcast     Subscribe to our FREE Female Golfer Facebook Group: First T Crew [Behind the Scenes of Women's Golf]   Get in touch! Instagram: @tori_totlis TikTok: @tori_totlis YouTube: @tori.totlis Website: CompeteConfidenceGolf.com   Be sure you are subscribed to our podcast to automatically receive the NEW episodes weekly!!!  

Jason Howell and Jeff Jarvis dive into OpenAI's "Strawberry" project for autonomous web research, discuss Google's selective indexing practices, explore Disney's partnership with AudioShake to deconstruct its music catalog using AI, and more!

Rich talks about the challenges of technology and acting as tech support for friends and family members. Make a QR Code so visitors can connect your guest wifi network easily.See highlights of my NJ/NYC trip here on Instagram.Tony in Van Nuys wants to know what to look for in a VPN. Mentioned free VPN from Proton.Thomas in Carlsbad needs help with his mesh network.Rich appeared on a NYC billboard and you can too by downloading the TSX app.Nicole in Los Angeles wants to know if it's better to repair the screen on her 2019 MacBook Pro or get a new one.myCharge is recalling 567,000 Power Hub portable chargers sold at Costco due to fire risk.AT&T is raising prices on older unlimited plans by at least $10 a month.Martin in Anza should he still use his iPhone 7 or get a new Nokia flip. You could also turn it into a security camera.Rich mentioned he still loves the Google Pixel 8a smartphone for just $500.Jamie in Torrance has a question about chargers that can handle multiple Apple devices at once.Ryan McLeod, creator of Apple Design Award-winning game Blackbox.Ron in Laguna Niguel has a question about scrubbing your personal information from the web. Google Results About You is an excellent free service. Delete Me has some good DIY opt-out guides.California rejects AT&T's bid to end its landline obligations.Amazon is phasing out plastic air pillows in its deliveries.Lifehacker has a way to help you reach a real person at Amazon Customer Service quickly.If you have a car with electronic doors, get to know where the manual release is.Vinyl or Digital? Comment here.Derek Ting, co-founder and CEO of TextNow.Terry wants a free iPad app for drawing. Rich recommends Apple Pages, also check out Sketchbook, and ProCreate, although they might not be fully free. Justing recommended Photopea on desktop.Thanks to my brother Justin for joining me on the show. Get full access to Rich on Tech at richontech.tv/subscribe

What's the truth about being single? The good, the bad, the ugly? Why is being single at some point in your adult life important? How can single people become “single and stoked”? What are the steps or what does it take to love single life? What if I'm single and want to stay that way for a while. How can I navigate casual sex without getting into a relationship? And what if I'm single and looking for a LTR? Top tips for navigating sex and dating from this perspective? About our guest: Brianne Hogan is a Canadian writer, author, and podcast host. She has written for over 60 publications, including The Washington Post, the BBC, Elle Canada, Shondaland, Men's Health, BuzzFeed, HelloGiggles, among others. She's a regular contributor for Scary Mommy, Lifehacker, SheKnows and Parents, writing mainly in the relationship and lifestyle space. Google “Brianne Hogan and dating” and you'll find articles ranging from “Easy First Date Ideas” to “How to Flirt” to “How to Date After Divorce.” Ironically, however, she's been single for most of her adult life. Which is why she started the podcast, Seriously Single. You can read her most personal writing on her substack: briannehogan.substack.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% our fave Fun Factory toys with code shameless at https://us.funfactory.com Get 10% your first Bathmate pump when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/ShamelesSex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off Shameless Sex Fav's with code SHAMELESSLOVE24 or 15% off all other sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

In todays episode I speak with Jo Saul-Sehy creator and co-host of the Stacking Benjamins podcast and co-author of the personal finance book Stacked: Your Super-Serious Guide To Modern Money Management. The Stacking Benjamins Show was called the “Best Personal Finance Podcast” by Kiplinger. Lifehacker listed the show as one of the top 10 of 2021. Joe and the SB team have won five Plutus Awards and the Academy of Podcasters “Best Business Podcast” award (beating well-known shows like The Tim Ferriss Show, How I Built This, and Gimlet's StartUp). 

You're gonna wanna listen to this one while in your pjs on a saturday morning in front of the TV with a big bowl of your favorite cereal. We're talking nostalgia baby. The boys discuss strong coffee, the number of words french people have for snobby ladies, and Adrian's favorite jokes from the era of the Simpsons that he watched. They end with a third seggy testing if they truly are 90s kids based on what things get their nostalgia button pressed. Article 1: Lifehacker https://www.lifehacker.com.au/2016/07/ask-lh-how-can-i-get-my-girlfriend-to-stop-playing-pokemon-go/ Article 2: Ask Kim Kierkegarrdashian https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/ask-kim-kierkegaardashian-in-search-of-lost-before-times-selfies Third Seggy: Testing if we're 90s kids based on nostalgia

Each of us has our own mountain to climb, but it's the journey, the setbacks, and the community we build along the way that truly defines our success. For today's episode, Scott Carson sits down with the co-host of the #1 finance podcast, Stacking Benjamins, Joe Saul-Sehy. They talk about Joe's journey, the financial mistakes he has had to overcome, what drives him, and how we all have our mountains to climb. From the importance of surrounding yourself with good people to the power of setting clear goals, Joe discusses how these principles have shaped his journey and contributed to his success. Learn about the importance of finding your "who" – the right people and resources to support you on your journey. Tune in now! Want to talk to Scott? Book a call with him HERE.Watch the original episode video HERE!About Joe Saul-Sehy: Joe is the creator and co-host of the Stacking Benjamins podcast and co-author of STACKED: Your Super-Serious Guide To Modern Money Management. Current board member at large of The Plutus Foundation. Former board president and Board Member of Partnership For The Pathway. While Joe's “money expert story” includes being a former financial advisor (16 years) and representing American Express and Ameriprise in the media, his real story is how he was a money disaster in his early life, pulled his financial house into order, and left his business at age 40 to pursue an entirely different path. Joe was the “Money Man” at Detroit television WXYZ-TV, appearing twice weekly. His advice has appeared in Bride, Best Life, and Child magazines, the Los Angeles Times, Chicago Sun-Times, Detroit News and Baltimore Sun newspapers. He's also appeared online in more than 200 different places, including CNBC.com and WSJ.com. The Stacking Benjamins Show was called the “Best Personal Finance Podcast” by Kiplinger. Lifehacker listed the show as one of the top 10 of 2021. Joe and the SB team have won five Plutus Awards and the Academy of Podcasters “Best Business Podcast” award (beating well-known shows like The Tim Ferriss Show, How I Built This, and Gimlet's StartUp). The Stacking Benjamins Show is created in Joe's mom's basement in Texarkana, Texas, where Joe lives with his spouse Cheryl and their cat Cooper.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join the Note Closers Show community today:WeCloseNotes.comThe Note Closers Show FacebookThe Note Closers Show TwitterScott Carson LinkedInThe Note Closers Show YouTubeThe Note Closers Show VimeoThe Note Closers Show InstagramWe Close Notes Pinterest

Following in the footsteps of notable black plant researchers and scientists like George Washington Carver and Percy Julian is no easy task, but Derek Haynes is more than up to the challenge. With a background in plant biology, and working in vaccine and therapeutics development using non-traditional plant-based technologies, Derek certainly practices what he preaches. Plants offer so much more than home decor, and Derek wants to show you how. He understands that the ancient and the modern don't need to compete, but rather can work together in harmony, offering viable solutions to pressing questions like food insecurity and mind-body-spirit holistic wellness.Merging together education, his signature wit and humour, and his keen love for plants and science, Derek's mission is to pull the traditional knowledge of our ancestors into the mainstream. Known affectionately as The Chocolate Botanist on Instagram, Derek has built a community of over 10K like-minded people, who have come to respect both his incredible depth of knowledge and the palpable joy he cultivates with the subject matter.His earnest passion has landed him features in The Guardian, Lifehacker, and has been a guest on renowned podcasts like Black in the Garden and In Defense of Plants. He has also worked with the North Carolina Botanical Gardens in developing educational workshops on botany and plant science. Through his dedicated commitment to fostering community and providing the necessary tools to expand knowledge, Derek is solidifying his place in the plant world—continuing to pave a new and sustainable path for the next generation of young, Black botanists. Derek's Website & Derek's Instagram Huge thanks to ILCA for providing a place to record at their iLandscape Conference!_________________________________________________________________________Patreon: http://patreon.com/TheMunicipalArboristInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_municipal_arborist/Questions or comments?themunicipalarborist@gmail.comThank you to our sponsors:Davey Resource GroupArbsessionWinkler Tree & Lawn Care

Welcome to this episode where Haris Butt, the head of product design at ClickUp, and I dive deep into the intersection of AI and productivity. In today's discussion, we explore how artificial intelligence, specifically within tools like ClickUp, is revolutionizing the way we approach tasks, manage time, and unlock creativity. Haris shares invaluable insights into the balance between technology and human input, ensuring we harness the full potential of AI without losing the essence of personal touch in productivity.Our conversation navigates through the practical applications of AI in everyday tasks, the advancements in product design influenced by AI, and the critical role of trust and reliability in these systems. Haris's experience at ClickUp provides a unique lens on the topic, offering practical advice and thought-provoking ideas on integrating AI into our workflows to achieve efficiency and creativity.Key Discussion Points Benefits and drawbacks of using AI in productivity, with a focus on time-saving tasks. The role of AI in product design, emphasizing the importance of trust in data and systems. Distinctions between generative AI and other AI forms, exploring their impact on productivity. Overcoming the fear of AI through understanding and trust, using AI to unlock creativity. Practical uses of AI tools like ChatGPT for tasks ranging from academic research to meal planning. The concept of "life hacks" with AI, streamlining workflows, and enhancing information retrieval. The introduction of ClickUp Brain, aiming to revolutionize how new and established users engage with ClickUp for increased productivity. In closing, my discussion with Haris not only highlights the significant benefits AI brings to productivity tools but also stresses the importance of thoughtful integration to truly augment human capabilities. As we look towards the future, the potential of AI to streamline workflows, reduce friction, and free us to focus on high-value tasks is immense. Haris's insights remind us that the journey towards integrating AI into our daily lives is one of balance, trust, and continuous learning.Links Worth Exploring ClickUp Brain: Check it out Related Conversation: Episode 505: Matt Martin Talks About AI-Enhanced Productivity and Time Management Related Blog Post: What the #%$! Happened to Lifehacker? Thanks to all of the sponsors of this episode. You can find all of the sponsors you heard me mention on this episode on our Podcast Sponsors page.Want to support the podcast? Beyond checking out our sponsors, you can subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. You can subscribe on Spotify and also on Apple Podcasts. Not using either of those to get your podcasts? Just click on this link and then paste the podcast feed into your podcast app of choice.Thanks again for listening to A Productive Conversation. See you later.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to this episode where Haris Butt, the head of product design at ClickUp, and I dive deep into the intersection of AI and productivity. In today's discussion, we explore how artificial intelligence, specifically within tools like ClickUp, is revolutionizing the way we approach tasks, manage time, and unlock creativity. Haris shares invaluable insights into the balance between technology and human input, ensuring we harness the full potential of AI without losing the essence of personal touch in productivity. Our conversation navigates through the practical applications of AI in everyday tasks, the advancements in product design influenced by AI, and the critical role of trust and reliability in these systems. Haris's experience at ClickUp provides a unique lens on the topic, offering practical advice and thought-provoking ideas on integrating AI into our workflows to achieve efficiency and creativity. Key Discussion Points Benefits and drawbacks of using AI in productivity, with a focus on time-saving tasks. The role of AI in product design, emphasizing the importance of trust in data and systems. Distinctions between generative AI and other AI forms, exploring their impact on productivity. Overcoming the fear of AI through understanding and trust, using AI to unlock creativity. Practical uses of AI tools like ChatGPT for tasks ranging from academic research to meal planning. The concept of "life hacks" with AI, streamlining workflows, and enhancing information retrieval. The introduction of ClickUp Brain, aiming to revolutionize how new and established users engage with ClickUp for increased productivity. In closing, my discussion with Haris not only highlights the significant benefits AI brings to productivity tools but also stresses the importance of thoughtful integration to truly augment human capabilities. As we look towards the future, the potential of AI to streamline workflows, reduce friction, and free us to focus on high-value tasks is immense. Haris's insights remind us that the journey towards integrating AI into our daily lives is one of balance, trust, and continuous learning. Links Worth Exploring ClickUp Brain: Check it out Related Conversation: Episode 505: Matt Martin Talks About AI-Enhanced Productivity and Time Management Related Blog Post: What the #%$! Happened to Lifehacker? Thanks to all of the sponsors of this episode. You can find all of the sponsors you heard me mention on this episode on our Podcast Sponsors page. Want to support the podcast? Beyond checking out our sponsors, you can subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. You can subscribe on Spotify and also on Apple Podcasts. Not using either of those to get your podcasts? Just click on this link and then paste the podcast feed into your podcast app of choice. Thanks again for listening to A Productive Conversation. See you later. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we speak with Dr. Amelia Kelley about recovering from being a victim of gaslighting. Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, podcaster and researcher. Her specialties include; Art therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR and Brainspotting as well as being a certified meditation and Yoga instructor. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is currently a psychology professor at Yorkville University as well as a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on XM Radio's Doctor Channel on “The Psychiatry Show”. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is the author of Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, as well as co-author of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and a contributing author for Psychology Today as well as the Highly Sensitive Refuge. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Life Hacker and the Insider. Learning Points: 1. What gaslighting is 2. Relationships where gaslighting can happen 3. How to begin recovering from being gaslit Resources & Links: Dr. Kelley's website: https://www.ameliakelley.com/ Dr. Kelley on Instagram:L https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley

Today, I’m thrilled to have my good friend and mastermind buddy Bobby Hoyt on the show. Bobby is the founder of Millennial Money Man, where he teaches millennials how to make and save more money. His blog has been featured in Lifehacker, Forbes, Market Watch, CNBC, US News, Business Insider and countless other publications. A couple listeners have recently emailed me asking me whether blogging is still a viable business model. So instead of just saying yes, I invited Bobby to come on the pod because the man is killing it online. What You’ll Learn How to create content that […] The post 513: Meet The Man Who Makes Millions Teaching Millennials About Money With Bobby Hoyt appeared first on MyWifeQuitHerJob.com.

Episode 236: Interview with Amelia Kelley Amelia Kelley, Ph.D., is a trauma-informed therapist, author, podcaster, and researcher, as well as a psychology professor at Yorkville University. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. Her specialties include art therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and EMDR, and she is a certified meditation and yoga instructor. Kelley is a relationship expert featured on "The Psychiatry Show" on XM Radio's Doctor Channel. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a co-author of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and the author of Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse. Her work has been featured in Psychology Today, Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Life Hacker, Insider and Highly Sensitive Refuge.  Follow her work and adventures at her websitehttps://www.ameliakelley.com/ and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley/ If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

Between holiday travel and cozy family downtime, you might be looking to catch up on some of the year's best podcasts. Lauren Passell, podcast writer for LifeHacker, founder of TinkMedia, and curator of "Podcast The Newsletter," shares clips from some of the most interesting audio storytelling and other podcasts from 2023.  

This week I was excited to welcome Charlie Gilkey back to the show to talk about his latest book, Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results. Charlie has been on the show before to discuss his previous book Start Finishing: How to Go from Idea to Done. He is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and changemakers take meaningful action on work that matters. He is internationally known as a thought leader on productivity, planning, strategy, and leadership for creative people. Charlie is also the author of The Small Business Life Cycle, and is widely cited in outlets such as Inc., Time, Forbes, the Guardian, Lifehacker, and more. He's also an Army veteran and near-PhD in philosophy. In this conversation, Charlie shares his insights on the power of teamwork and discusses his new book, presenting a fresh perspective on improving team productivity. We discuss the importance of team dynamics to overcome challenges and mistakes addressing the significance of individual and team communication habits in enhancing productivity and performance. We also discuss the impact that small issues can have within a team, highlighting the downstream effects of broken systems on morale and camaraderie. Charlie points out the impact of adding new team members and the need to focus on improving team habits rather than changing individual team members. This is a great talk for anyone who may be struggling to find practical strategies for creating a better working environment. We discuss finding ways to improve team meetings and addressing small problems that lead to inefficiencies while also focusing on how we can be more humane and understanding with our co-workers while continuing to maintain high standards. As we head into the New Year this chat and of course Charlie's book are great guides to get teams thinking about better communication, improved habits, and most importantly more enjoyable and productive work days in 2024.  Connect with Charlie: Better Team Habits Productive Flourishing Charlie's Previous Episode Book LinkedIn Twitter Connect with Erik: Sign Up For Our Newsletter Submit a Question For Our Mailbag Episode LinkedIn  Twitter  Facebook  Instagram  ________________________________________ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Greg and Lyndsey sit down for a discussion about cortisol with Beth Skwarecki, the senior health editor at Lifehacker. The dangers of high cortisol are a persistent topic of content on social media content, so the discussion focuses on the types of claims that are being made, the dubious methods of self-diagnosis and “treatment” being recommended, and the potential risks and dangers associated with letting social media convince you that you're basically an endocrinologist.You can read Beth's article on this topic here: TikTok Myth of the Week: All Your Problems Are Due to High Cortisol TIME STAMPS What is cortisol? (00:02:52)Epinephrine vs. AdrenalineBasic cortisol physiologyLow cortisol and adrenal crisis 'Normal' cortisol levels (00:18:44)Reference range for normal cortisolVariability in cortisol awakening responseCortisol awakening response poorly associated with total daily cortisol AUCEarly childhood stress (with family income as a proxy) associated with either elevated or depressed cortisol awakening responseCortisol discourse on TikTok (00:33:56)Representative examples of TikTok cortisol content:https://www.tiktok.com/@brittwd/video/7263934911432707374?_r=1&_t=8gQo2Q04An4https://www.tiktok.com/@mallorymh/video/7242431357446556970https://www.tiktok.com/@xomgitsbunnie/video/7272557452095376686https://www.tiktok.com/@liv.ingwell/video/7263106370696695083Cortisol vs other social media trends (00:47:48)The Endocrine Society on adrenal fatigueRepresentative examples of TikTok adrenal fatigue content: https://www.tiktok.com/@clairethenutritionist/video/6964559576985308421?_r=1&_t=8gY2Pf0iBPnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@begreatwithnate/video/7191220532862356778?_r=1&_t=8gY2YIPYDDGhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ambitiousandcaffeinated/video/7201977016571202821?_r=1&_t=8gY2fS0vaRPhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ghallfitness/video/7190694428586151170?_r=1&_t=8gY2uaAaGvShttps://www.tiktok.com/@thewellnesswaylargo/video/7254966223329398058?_t=8gY34NUrjRO&_r=1Cortisol and menstruation (01:07:41)Cortisol and trauma (01:11:32)Representative example of movements claimed to reduce cortisol associated with traumaTapping: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/Cortisol and exercise (01:15:55)Cortisol and overtraining (most notably, Figure 3)Impact of exercise intensity on cortisol responseCortisol levels return to normal very soon after exercise endsHackney review on exercise and cortisolSpecific claims about high cortisol (01:38:30)Cortisol, caffeine and sleep (01:45:39)Plenty of things cause you to wake up at nightSpiritual meaning of waking up at 3AMCaffeine and cortisolCaffeine's effects on cortisol are attenuated within 5 days of consumptionCoffee intake is associated with plenty of positive health outcomes (hard to square with the idea that caffeine spikes cortisol in a manner that's deleterious to your health)Real ways to regulate cortisol (01:55:49)Self-diagnosis (02:03:08)Cortisol disorders can cause real disease (story Beth referenced about woman with tumor)Other things that can cause Cushing-like symptomsTakeaways (02:08:13)Where to find BethCheck out Beth's writing on LifehackerBeth's 510 Dinnie DeadliftBeth's books: Outbreak! and Genetics 101Follow Beth on Twitter Recommended products and more from the SBS team Work with a Stronger By Science coach: Get personalized training and nutrition plans and ongoing support from one of our expert coaches.Try MacroFactor for free: Use code SBS to get a 14-day free trial of our nutrition app MacroFactor. MacroFactor has the fastest food logger on the market and its smart nutrition coach adapts to your metabolism to keep you on track with your goals. Download it today on the App Store or Google Play.Join the Research Spotlight newsletter: Our newsletter is the easiest way to stay up to date with the latest exercise and nutrition science.Join the SBS Facebook group and Subreddit.BulkSupplements: Next time you stock up on supplements, be sure to use the promo code “SBSPOD” (all caps) to get 5% off your entire order.MASS Research Review: Subscribe to the MASS Research Review to get concise and applicable breakdowns of the latest strength, physique, and nutrition research – delivered monthly.Send your Q&A questions to podcast@strongerbyscience.com

Michael Leonard from the Wicked Smart Podcast joins me once again to explain what he didn't do to become a scratch golfer. Referring to going scratch as “the six-pack of golf”, Michael says that there's no faking the journey to hitting that magical zero handicap. It's a rewarding place to be, and anyone who wants to get into the top 5% of players needs to have a sound strategy. At the same time, there are commonly-accepted steps that one shouldn't take to become a scratch golfer. Listen in as Michael dives deep into every one of these misconceptions, from the pitfalls of obsessing over mechanics, to routine and short swing misfires, to the silly mind games we play that do more harm than good out on the course. And don't miss the tail-end of our conversation, where Michael gives his thoughts on the difference between a scratch player and a true scratch player. About Michael Leonard: Michael Leonard is a professional writer who has been featured in Lifehacker, Addicted2Success, Rockstar Finance, Early to Rise, Thrive Global and more. In 2022, he launched the Wicked Smart Golf podcast and published the Wicked Smart Golf Book. In 2023, he launched Wicked Smart Golf Academy using his mental golf coaching and tournament knowledge to help golfers play better without swing changes. He also launched AZ Golf Wizard the same year to help locals and out-of-towners navigate AZ golf.  Connect with Michael: Instagram | Wicked Smart Golf Podcast For more information on our California Crush Invitational in Napa, please visit: CompeteConfidenceGolf.com Subscribe to our FREE Female Golfer Facebook Group: First T Crew [Behind the Scenes of Women's Golf] Get in touch! Instagram: @tori_totlis TikTok: @tori_totlis YouTube: @tori.totlis Website: CompeteConfidenceGolf.com Be sure you are subscribed to our podcast to automatically receive the NEW episodes weekly!!!

Rich talked about how it's the end of an era for animatronics at Chuck E Cheese.Google has a new way to shop for deals. Just search “shop deals” to see notable price drops on various items across the web.Need to send a document to your Kindle? Just drag and drop it on the webpage at https://www.amazon.com/sendtokindleA startup named Humane is making a screenless AI assistant “pin” you wear.Jeremy Caplan with the Wonder Tools newsletter. Caplan is Director of Teaching & Learning at CUNY's Grad School of Journalism and share AI tools each week. He mentioned tools including Oasis, AudioPen and bloks.Jeff in Jackson, Mississippi asks about what to look for in a good smart TV.Spotify is adding free audiobook listening for premium subscribers.Patti: What are your thoughts on the $3 version of TotalAV for iPad?Joan in San Diego has a bunch of leftover ink, will it work in a new printer.Louis in Riverside shared an update about an iPhone inherited from a deceased family member. He was able to figure out the PIN code and get into the phone to save the data on there and continue to use it. Rich recommends setting a legacy contact for Google and Apple.Jerry in Hatfield, PA wants make a Google Sheets with customizable recipe proportions. Here's a good way to do that.Brian Heater, hardware editor at TechCrunch, talks about his hands on time with the Humane AI Pin.Paul emails and says his Safari seems to infected with a virus, making it difficult to search the web. Rich says it's probably a “search helper” malware and to delete any extensions you might not recognize. You can do this on Chrome, too.Sara in Ventura asks if a teacher can control the computers in the classroom. Yes.Howard wants to know how to find a link mentioned on the show. You can go to the show Wiki at richontech.tv/wikiEva emails and says she has thousands of photos she wants to scan at a high resolution. Rich recommends a scanner with a feeder like the Epson FF680W. Flat bed scanners will be cheaper, but will take longer. Look for one that supports a high resolution.Mike commented on Eva's email, saying he's scanned tens of thousands of slides and negatives and generally picks a DPI between 2430 and 3200. He uses an Epson flatbed scanner and scans up to 12 slides at a time or 24 photos on negatives at a time and uses software called Silver Fast.Rich mentioned apps to scan photos and negatives including PhotoScan and Photomyne.Rich reviewed the Xumo Stream Box.QuakeAlertUSA App is shutting down, download MyShake or use the earthquake settings in Android to get alerts.Lifehacker explains the difference between a Router and a Modem.Jefferson Graham of PhotoWalksTV explains how he captured an epic 10 day time lapse in Manhattan Beach with both the iPhone and Samsung. He'll share tips on how to take similar videos and which phone performed better.Apps mentioned: Lapse It, Blackmagic Camera and MomentRich challenged Jefferson to do a video for a website called Window Swap.Amazon adds a new Prime member perk for $9 a month you can join One Medical and get unlimited virtual visits.You can now order groceries from Amazon Fresh stores even without a Prime membership for free pickup or delivery, for a fee.Buc-ee's and Mercedes are teaming up to install EV chargers at various locations. I was in awe when I stumbled upon this place. Here's my video.There's a new settlement involving Apple Gift Cards. Watch out for related scams.***045 - November 11, 2023Rich DeMuro talks tech news, tips, gadget reviews and conducts interviews in this weekly show. Airs 11 AM - 2 PM PT on KFI AM 640 and syndicated on stations nationwide through Premiere Networks. Stream live on the iHeartRadio App or subscribe to the podcast.Follow Rich on X, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Call 1-888-RICH-101 (1-888-742-4101) to join in!RichOnTech.tvRichOnTech.tv/wikiSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

From real-life run-ins with the supernatural as told by hip hop artists, to the grimmest of Grimm Fairytales as heard by children, Lauren Passell, podcast writer for LifeHacker, founder of Tink Media, and curator of "Podcast The Newsletter," talks about the best podcasts to help curdle your blood this spooky season.

Sarah Von Bargen teaches you how to enjoy work even when you're busy and overwhelmed Episode 1107: How to Enjoy Work (Even When You're Busy And Kind of Overwhelmed) by Sarah Von Bargen of Yes and Yes Sarah has consulted, strategized, and ghostwritten for hundreds of companies, bloggers, and entrepreneurs. Her clients include fashion labels, authors, life coaches, photographers, restaurants, psychologists, interior designers, and people who wouldn't want you to know they have a ghostwriter.   In addition to writing three books and an e-course, her writing has been featured on Buzzfeed, Forbes.com, Lifehacker, HelloGiggles, MindBodyGreen, Glamour, CLEO and Problogger named her one of 15 bloggers to watch in 2013  The original post is located here: https://www.yesandyes.org/2015/11/how-to-enjoy-your-professional-life-even-when-youre-insaaaanely-busy-kind-of-overwhelmed.html  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is back and we're digging into: why we're (sadly and ironically) proven to be less likely to try new things in the bedroom the longer we've been partnered; how to spice up your sex life when things get bland – including how to find out and explore your sexual fantasies; how not all orgasms (even for men!) are created equal; and the TikTok sex challenges we should probably pass on. For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin and Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin. About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this edition of I AM A SURGETREND, Jack and Miles discuss the very strange clips from  "The Good Doctor", the FDA potentially approving an over the counter birth control pill, Lifehacker's guide to Phrogging, Donald Trump being found guilty in his rape case, the Spiderman Whopper, Tom Hanks' new book, the announcement of Beetlejuice 2 and Robert DeNiro staying laid!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1. How to finally discover what turns us on, how to discuss turn-offs – and how to create “sex menus” with our partners. 2. The real reason so many of us don't feel like having sex.  3. How to ask for more sex – and how to turn it down without hurting your partner.  4. Orgasm – why it's not the whole shebang – and what to do if we've been faking it.  5. Glennon and Abby engage in an exercise to practice talking dirty. (Glennon has not recovered.) For the first part of our conversation with Vanessa, check out Episode 195: Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin. And to hear our original “Silent Sex Queen” episode, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren't we talking about sex more? About Vanessa:  Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Two silent sex queens & Abby invite sex therapist Vanessa Marin onto the pod and into their bedrooms to discuss:  1. Practical, concrete tips for how to get over your discomfort and talk about sex with your partner – and how Vanessa's advice is currently working for Glennon and Abby.   2. Why women tend to struggle receiving during sex – and how hustle culture shows up in the bedroom. 3. How to activate desire instead of shame when asking for more frequent or different sex. 4. A great tip for how to “post-game” about what you like and appreciate after sex.  For the first “Silent Sex Queen” conversation, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren't we talking about sex more? About Vanessa:  Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Please welcome Vanessa and Xander Marin to the Rise Together podcast! Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex therapy. With a Bachelor's in Human Sexuality and Sociology and a Master's in Counseling Psychology, she's written for The New York Times, Allure, Lifehacker, and more! And Xander? He's just a regular guy who's here to show you that you don't need a degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills. You just need to have an open mind and willingness.  To learn more about the work Vanessa and Xander do, head over to their website! You can order your copy of Sex Talks now! Head to this link or find it wherever books are sold! -------- The next 60-Day Get Fit Challenge is the ultimate platform for overall transformation. This challenge is designed to provide you with the tools that are proven to work, not just for 60 days, but for every single day after. You'll see incredible results in these next 8 weeks and leave with the biggest win…the blueprint on how to actually enjoy the journey of becoming the best version of YOU. Hit this link for more info: mrdavehollis.com/getfit -------- Dave and his daughter Noah have crafted a delightful children's picture book, based on their popular video series “Teatime with Noah,” that encourages children to be brave, believe in themselves, and DREAM BIG!! In Here's to Your Dreams!: A Teatime with Noah Book (available now!), readers will follow along with Daddy and Noah as one of their beloved father-daughter tea parties magically transforms into a fantastical adventure. As Noah pursues her dream of becoming a sea captain, it's not all smooth sailing: she realizes she doesn't know how to be a captain and doesn't even have a ship! With each challenge and difficulty, Daddy gently guides Noah to ride the waves of life with courage… and to chart her own path. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices