Healing Anxious Attachment

If you've ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you.We're unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn't come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe.For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small.In this episode, I'm diving into:The difference between true guilt, false guilt, and shameHow guilt shows up in anxious attachmentHow to heal unhelpful guilt responses on a nervous system levelWhat it really looks like to forgive yourself and move forwardAlso mentioned: The Becoming Secure MembershipHang on Instagram:@johhhannamariaMentioned in this episode:Becoming Secure Membership: https://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure

After a breakup, it's easy to feel lost—like you don't even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we're diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.We'll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I'll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth.Connect with me on Instagram @johhhannamaria. Please send me a DM letting me know that you're coming from the podcast!

Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I'm diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices.We'll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), and how to stay anchored in your truth—even when it feels impossible._____As always you're invited to join me in the Becoming Secure Membership for guided somatic practices, journal prompts, healing exercises, and live calls. Move with a group of other women towards your most secure self.

It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____Becoming Secure Membership

Valentine's Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we're unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself.>>for 48 Hours Only I'm offering a free 1:1 session for those who join the Becoming Secure membership, click for info

What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don't like where it's going but don't want to be rude? I feel isolated because don't look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do? During this episode I share answers to highly relatable questions from inside the Monthly Membership. Join for live calls, somatic practices, and to have me support you in your growth and healing process. ___Did you like this style of episode? Let me know on Instagram. Mentioned in this episode:Until Feb 1 - Becoming Secure Annual Enrollment Learn more ✨

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You've always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there's a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.In this episode, we're diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We'll explore:✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care✔️ Why it's so hard to ask for help or admit when you're struggling✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherishedYou've always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there's a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.In this episode, we're diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We'll explore:✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care✔️ Why it's so hard to ask for help or admit when you're struggling✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherishedResources Mentioned:Join Johanna in the Becoming Secure Membership - An online group for you if you're ready to heal from the past and become the most confident, peaceful, self-loving and whole version of yourself. Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Archetype Are You I mentioned the Calm and Collected Overthinker and the main aligning fit for this topic. Connect with Johanna on Instagram.

Anxious attachment isn't just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price.In this episode, we'll explore:✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing✔️ Why prioritizing your healing is the ultimate investment in yourselfI also share real-life stories—from my own journey and clients I've worked with—about how anxious attachment patterns can drain your energy, time, and joy.Resources MentionedBecoming Secure Membership $29/month. Start 7 free days here.

Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering.In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are. Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life.Also mentioned, the 5 Part, Master Your Boundaries Series, instant access within in the Becoming Secure membership. Set yourself up for:-Getting your needs met in a healthy way-A strong ability to stay in alignment-Feeling safe in relationships-Building dreams with partners without losing yourself-Clear and peaceful with your energy Join here.

Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness' and the steps I took to move beyond it.Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you.This episode offers both insight and practical steps for healing, so you can move closer to feeling secure, whole, and worthy.Join me in Becoming Secure for practical tools, teachings, and guided somatic practices for self healing and inner work. Message me on IG to say hello.

What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down.

Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer.I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type.Take the quiz here.Episode guide: 0:00 There are 4 different types of anxious attachment..4:30 - 4 Archetypes Overview 9:15 The Sensitive Soul 12:06 The Calm & Collected Overthinker 16:22 The Affection Enthusiast19:09 The Distant Dreamer 23:29 Summary of 4 Types 24:15 Healing the Distorted Coping Mechanisms 26:23 Refining Your Attachment Style 26:57 Take the Quiz

Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️Access the full practice within the Becoming Secure membership.By joining the membership you also receive:

Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached. In this episode I discuss:-Trauma bonds-Love versus attachment-Choosing better men...and more! Dive Deeper:Join the Becoming Secure Membership (only $29/mo) with new weekly content, guided healing practices and access to coaching from me. Hang on Instagram.

Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control.In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships. You'll learn:How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physicallyHow control in an anxious attachment tendency and how it pushes away relationships and signifies a lack of trustSigns of underlying control issues, like tight shoulders or clenched jawsThe link between anxiety, overthinking, and the need for controlInsights on releasing these patterns for a healthier, more balanced lifeKey understandings for letting go, surrendering, and creating space for trust, ease, and peace in your lifeResources mentioned:Becoming Secure Membership: find the associated somatic and journalling healing exercises for control within (plus 30 other 15 minute practices for daily inner work)

Exploring the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to heal your inner child. Resources Mentioned: Guided Practice - Inner Child Healing: Instantly accessible within the Becoming Secure library. Month-to-month access, cancel anytime.Anxious Attachment Quiz: Which Anxious Attachment Archetype are You?

Exploring the 7 types of mothers and how they affect your attachment system. -Overprotective Mother -Critical Mother-Emotionally Unavailable Mother -Enmeshed 'Best Friend' Mother-Narcissistic/Addict Mother-Supportive Mother-Absent MotherAssociated Practices, Meditation and Journal Prompts can be found in Becoming Secure my community and library space to go deep on the inner work. I would love to have you in there ❤️

Analyzing 8 different father dynamics and why it's relevant to look at for our inner healing journey.Mapping the patterns that drive us to: -seek validation -fear abandonment -emotionally close -attract men who 'need fixing'-feel like we need to earn love You'll learn how to free yourself from these patterns by identifying them and healing them through the body. Mentioned Becoming Secure Library of Practices for Healing Anxious Attachment

Holding back on your needs is not serving you in relationship. When we don't feel seen and loved we constrict and control. It is embracing authentic communication which will transforms your love dynamics, and nurture deeper connections. Let's talk about it. Mentioned:Becoming Secure - Library of tools, somatic practices, nervous system regulation, meditations, and teachings for more confidence, inner peace, and feeling whole within yourself.

My ayahuasca plant medicine ceremony shared some profound insights as to what provokes anxiety and how we can avoid being run by it. In the episode I share the model I saw for understanding and eliminating anxiety, thoughts, overthinking, and fear.I also mention:Secure Love - 6 Week Live Program Now Enrolling until May 6th, 2024 (12 spots only) Becoming Secure - Library of Practices

Why somatic work is key when it comes to making lasting change. Why body based and nervous system work is not just helpful, but a requirement to your healing journey Tracking your own subsconcious mind Where you anxious tendencies live in the nervous system Energy release to calm the system What it looks like to do somatic work Mentioned in the episode:

In this episode we explore the importance of your relationship to anger. When we don't have a healthy expression of anger it can stay suppressed in the body which usually manifests as having a short fuse, pain, or feeling like you can't connect to your anger at all. You'll learn:-How to know if your anger is suppressed and why you might feel disconnected from anger-Why we feel sensitive, easily irritated, or frustrated -The conditioning of anger within women -How to move it out of the body Mentioned in this episode: Becoming Secure A library of practices, prompts, and tools for healing anxious attachment

When a relationship ends anxious attachment personalities often come with a relentless need for closure, replaying conversations in our minds and yearning for explanations. The fixation on closure stems from a primal urge to gain reassurance and understand why, but can often end up driving us into a spiral. I'll share why closure is so important to you, and why the other person may not be willing to have a closure conversation.I hope this episode can provide some solace and clarity amidst the chaos of heartbreak. You can find the corresponding episode exercises in the Becoming Secure Library on skool.com xx-Johanna

I've extracted the 5 things that made real shifts when it came to my healing. I was inspired to create this episode after watching a tiktok with a similar title but hearing his list was quite different. Anxious attachment manifests differently in different people, so I'm hoping this episode gives another relatable perspective.Resource Mentioned:Becoming Secure Community on Skool - get grandfathered in at the lowest rate evahhh

The connection to our boundaries and needs is foundational to developing strong relationships that feel safe, nurturing, and supportive! But what if asking for your needs feel scary?What about the part of us that feels our needs are too much?This episode will help you decide what your needs really are. --It's been great having you!Let's keep hanging out

This episode is thorough breakdown of what we need to understand an master of the journey to overcoming insecure attachment tendencies. Don't worry it's not complicated and you'll be able to pick it up easily. Open your mind and heart and let this episode connect you deeper to yourself. --Go further

This episode has a somatic therapy based practice which is about to give you a new found awareness into your attachment tendencies. You should do this practice while sitting, eyes closed, undistracted. I know you're going to love it! --Go deeper - 1:1 Coaching Go deeper - Secure Love Live Workshop Series WaitlistTiktok - @elevatewithjo

Welcome to class!You probably already know about attachment style so I only spend a bit of time defining the different tendencies; avoidant, anxious, disorganized.I'll also break down myths around attachment style so that you can ensure that there isn't an unnecessary belief holding you back from healing. You'll learn how attachment styles are formed and how and where they affect our relationships and relating dynamics. I share why the Anxious - Avoidant loop happens (from both sides).And finally I break down the typical tendencies of anxious attachers and provide direction on how to navigate the fears. Enjoy the episode!Warmly, Johanna ___Let's connect further