Podcasts about secure love

If you listened to our previous episode, you know Rachel and Mike ended their first session with a beautiful breakthrough. But in the real world of relationships, progress is rarely linear. In this episode, we drop into the next session to find Rachel fighting a powerful urge to detach. Exhausted from years of feeling emotionally dropped despite providing him with a "roadmap" to her heart, her nervous system is sending her a painful, familiar message: she is fundamentally flawed, and her emotional needs are just "too much" for him. On the other side of the couch, Mike is equally exhausted. He desperately wants to comfort Rachel but hits an absolute wall when faced with her deep sadness. To understand why, we trace Mike's emotional avoidance all the way back to its roots—uncovering a painful history of childhood bullying and a family culture where heavy emotions were minimized with baked goods and phrases like "don't sweat the small stuff." Together, we discover that Mike isn't being intentionally dismissive of his wife's pain; he is simply using the only emotional survival strategy he was ever taught. If you want more structured homework, you can visit thesecurerelationship.com for our weekly assignments. Don't forget to check out my book Secure Love. And if you're enjoying the podcast, please take a moment to give us a review on Apple or Spotify! Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit our website: The Secure Relationship Podcast Take Julie's Anxious Attachment Course: Anxious Attachment: Self-Work Course Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime.  

Send a textShame often hides beneath the surface of intimacy struggles in marriage. Many couples assume they simply need to try harder—communicate more, schedule time together, or change behaviors. But shame doesn't loosen its grip through effort alone.In this episode, Christine Bongiovanni explores how shame quietly shapes intimacy, why behavioral fixes often fail, and how secure love and emotional safety help the nervous system relax so deeper connection can grow.If intimacy has felt guarded or complicated in your marriage, this conversation will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface—and what actually helps shame lose its power.You'll also hear practical next steps for building emotional safety and creating a new story around intimacy in your relationship.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. ...

Today's episode is a really special one because I'm joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we're talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder: What does secure love actually feel like? Not the Instagram version. Not the “perfect relationship” fantasy. But what it feels like inside your body when the spiraling, the overthinking, and the constant mental gymnastics in your relationship finally start to settle. Because when you're deep in anxious attachment, it can feel incredibly defeating. You're reading the books. Saving the posts. Going to therapy. Trying to say the right things.   And yet… you still feel stuck in the same patterns.   In this conversation, Alyssa shares what her relationship and inner world actually looked like before doing this work — including:   • Believing the real problem was “communication” • Trying to word things perfectly so her partner would respond the right way • Doing all the reading, therapy, and Instagram saving… but still feeling stuck • The exhaustion of overthinking every conversation • Why “knowing the information” didn't actually change anything   We also talk about something I see constantly with high-achieving women: being extremely self-aware… but still spiraling in relationships.   Alyssa shares honestly about what finally shifted for her and what secure love started to feel like when things began to change. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep overthinking even though I know better?” “Why can't I stop spiraling in my relationship?” “Why do I feel so emotionally exhausted from love?” This conversation will likely feel very familiar. You're not broken. And you're definitely not the only one who's felt this way.   Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we're talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times. You tell yourself you're just trying to be thoughtful or self-aware. But your brain is basically running a full soap opera about a situation that hasn't even happened yet. And the worst part? Most of the time nothing is actually wrong, but your brain refuses to relax. In this episode we talk about: - The difference between overthinking and self-sabotage - Why high-achieving, self-aware women get stuck in relationship rumination - The “rewrite the text five times” pattern - Why reassurance from your partner never actually sticks - How overthinking is often just a really smart form of self-protection - Why healing anxious attachment requires learning to sit in uncertainty Because the truth is… when you're in that spiral, you're not really trying to solve a problem. You're trying to get relief. And your brain is convinced that if it just analyzes the situation one more time, you'll finally feel safe. Spoiler: it doesn't work like that. I also share a bit about what's been coming up for me personally as I prepare for a big family trip where I'll be seeing my dad for the first time in 11 years - and how easy it is to slip into trying to say the “perfect thing” instead of just being present. If you've ever thought: “Am I overthinking this?” “Am I self-sabotaging something good?” “Why can't my brain just chill?” This episode is for you! Take a breath. You're not crazy. Your brain just learned a really intense way of trying to protect you. And we're going to talk about it.  

In this Part 2 episode of the series “Your Secure Era”, we're diving into something that so many high-achieving, self-aware women struggle with: why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners and why it feels so hard to stop. If you've ever felt like you're dating the same person in a different body, stuck on the “please choose me” treadmill, or confusing chaos for chemistry… this episode is your wake-up call (and your way out).Inside this episode:Why emotionally unavailable partners feel addictive - We break down intermittent reinforcement, repetition compulsion, and how your nervous system mistakes inconsistency for chemistry, creating the rollercoaster dynamic that feels intense but is actually unhealed relational trauma.The real reason you keep choosing the same dynamic (it's not a “broken picker”) - This isn't about willpower. It's about unfinished emotional business. I explain how subconscious attachment wounds drive you to recreate old patterns with new faces, hoping this time you'll finally be chosen.What actually shifts when you enter your Secure Love Era - Secure attachment isn't about convincing someone to love you. It's about healing at the root, embodying a new identity, and choosing consistency over intensity. We talk about what changes in your attraction patterns when you truly rewire your brain for secure love.If you're exhausted from watering plastic plants… if you're done confusing red flags for challenges… if you're ready to stop performing for love and start receiving it, this episode will hit home.And if you know you're ready to do this work at a deep level, I mentioned at the beginning of the episode that Private 1:1 Coaching may be your next step. This is where we rewire your attachment patterns, release past relational trauma, and help you embody the securely attached version of you. Apply here:

Welcome to a brand new series on the Let's Get Vulnerable, Your Secure Love Era. In this episode, I'm getting real about why modern dating feels so dysregulating (especially for high-achieving, self-aware women), how insecure attachment and past relational trauma are quietly running the show, and what it actually takes to shift into secure, emotionally available love. If you're exhausted by situationships, mixed signals, and thinking “I thought this time was different,” this episode is for you.Inside this episode:Why modern dating is uniquely dysregulating - The dating apps, the illusion of endless options, the normalization of situationships, and how dopamine-driven swiping keeps you stuck in anxious/avoidant cycles instead of secure attachment.The high-achiever trap in love - How over-functioning, hyper-independence, and “I'll just try harder” energy work in your career… but sabotage your relationships. (Effort can build a business. It can't force emotional availability.)The identity shift into secure attachment - Why knowing about attachment styles isn't enough, how your nervous system determines who you're attracted to, and what changes when you truly embody secure love (hint: calmer dating, faster discernment, and completely different attraction patterns).This series is about more than tips and strategies. It's about an identity-level shift. It's about becoming the version of you who no longer settles for confusion, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability, and who can both give and receive secure, healthy, emotionally available love.Secure love is not about finding the perfect partner. It's about becoming securely attached in your body so you can build something intentional, grounded, and real. And yes… that kind of love is available to you.

Join me as I sit down with Margarita Nazarenko to talk about stepping into your unbothered era, nervous system regulation in dating, and what it really means to choose yourself while building secure, magnetic relationships. This episode of Selfdom is brought to you by Bumble https://bumble.com Where Women Make the First Move  From Triggered to Unbothered Join Margarita on March 3rd, 9:30am AEST for A live, guided reset for your nervous system. https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/livecall-opt Connect with us:  Follow Selfdom on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/selfdom__ Follow Dom Elissa on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dominiquelissa Follow Margarita Nazarenko on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/margarita.nazarenko/ Shop Selfdom:  Gratitude journals + more: https://selfdom.au For partnership inquiries: hello@selfdom.info Produced by Talkback Media: info@talkbackmedia.com.au

Life Transformations with Michael Hart Aired: February 23, 2026 on CHRI Radio 99.1FM in Ottawa, Canada. For questions or to schedule an appointment with Elim Counselling Services, call 1-877-544-ELIM(3546) or email mhart@elimcounsellingministry.com. Visit elimcounsellingministry.com for more information. For more CHRI shows, visit chri.ca

Dating can trigger self-doubt, overthinking, and old attachment patterns. In this episode of Selfdom, I am joined by Sascha Olive, co-founder of HOUSE OF SCULPT, to explore self-trust, attachment styles and what secure dating actually looks like. This empowering conversation offers grounded mindset tools to help you date with confidence without losing yourself along the way. Use code SELFDOMFREEMONTH for one month free on my movement mindset app https://houseofsculpt.instillvideo.app/register?promocode=SELFDOMFREEMONTH&plan=624e12eabf19d80009f9c9f4 Connect with us:  Follow Selfdom on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/selfdom__ Follow Dom Elissa on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dominiquelissa Follow Sascha Olive on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/saschaolive Shop Selfdom:  Gratitude journals + more: https://selfdom.au For partnership inquiries: hello@selfdom.info Produced by Talkback Media: info@talkbackmedia.com.au

SYNOPSIS: In this luminous Valentine's Day conversation, Ali sits down with beloved embodiment pioneers Philip Shepherd and Allyson Woodrooffe for an intimate exploration of love, presence, and what it truly means to be in relationship. Rather than offering formulas or ideals, Philip and Allyson open a window into their decades-long marriage as a living, breathing practice – one rooted not in static roles or assumptions, but in ongoing discovery. Through reflections on embodiment, wholeness, and what they call “thisness,” they reveal how presence dissolves the illusion of “knowing” one another and instead invites continual illumination through relationship. Together, they unpack the cultural forces that pull us away from the body and into defensive identities – especially in long-term partnership. From parenting challenges and navigating imbalance in public visibility, to moments of (mild) jealousy, deep tenderness, and inevitable grief, they speak candidly about the humility required to love deeply. Their shared insight is clear: love cannot thrive where we cling to fixed self-concepts. Instead, it asks us to risk being changed, to respond rather than react, and to let ourselves be revealed in real time. Embodiment, in this context, becomes not a concept but a lived courage – the willingness to stay grounded while life remains beautifully unsafe.The episode closes with a moving reflection on intimacy as both animal and luminous, playful and profound. Philip and Allyson describe how coming home to the body restores spontaneity, humor, and reverence to their sensual connection, and how decades together have only deepened the mystery rather than diminished it. What emerges is not a portrait of a “perfect” marriage, but a meadow of possibility – an invitation to reclaim love as a verb, as presence, and as a courageous act of becoming ever whole, together.FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:ALI - WebsiteALI - LinkTreeTo read more about the next Personal Geometry® Foundations training ALLYSON WOODROOFE Bio:Allyson Woodrooffe is the co-director with Philip Shepherd of The Embodied Present Process, bringing to it her skills as a life and breath coach and as a workshop facilitator. The first half of her working life flexed her creative side – as a filmmaker, photographer, stained glass artist and graphic designer. Since completing a Masters in 2013, she has been dedicated to deepening into the realms of intelligence and presence that are held in the body, first by becoming a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, and then training with Philip as an Embodiment Facilitator, and now as a co-director of TEPP.She especially enjoys working with women, helping them discover their inner and physical strength through breath and movement, and restoring clarity and purpose to their lives in the process. TEPP practices have also been transformative for her pregnant clients, enabling them to access inner resources that support them through labour, delivery and parenthood.Allyson and Philip have lived and worked together for over 37 years. They have constructed theatre sets, made films, designed and built a house, raised two remarkable children – and created TEPP.PHILIP SHEPHERD Bio:Philip Shepherd is recognized as a leader in the global embodiment movement. He created The Embodied Present Process™ (TEPP) in partnership with Allyson Woodrooffe, and as co-directors they provide practices and new perspectives on our culture to help people come home to the deep presence and wisdom of their body. They share the work of TEPP online, in one-on-one coaching, and worldwide in workshops, retreats and Facilitators Trainings. TEPP is also supported by Philip's two books – Radical Wholeness and New Self, New World – which articulate the causes, perils and personal challenges of our culture's disembodiment.  Philip's own journey to embodiment includes cycling alone as a teenager through Europe, the Middle East, Iran, India and Japan; studying classical Japanese Noh Theater; co-founding an interdisciplinary theatre company; writing two internationally produced plays and a television documentary; and playing lead roles on stages in London, New York, Chicago and Toronto.  The TEPP website and online courses are found at www.EmbodiedPresent.com. Philip's most recent book, Deep Fitness, was co-authored with Andrei Yakovenko and offers a revolutionary and highly effective approach to fitness. He is currently working on a new book, Remembering Ourselves: A Guide to Our Lost Intelligence.

Love isn't about finding the right person - it's about being the right person - someone who can love deeply, safely, and well, in addition to being someone willing to learn how to be that person for their partner. As Valentine's Day approaches, many couples are contemplating taking the next step in their relationships. Renowned couples therapist Julie Menanno,  @TheSecureRelationship (over 1.3 million Instagram followers, over 115k books sold) offers tips to consider before taking the next step of moving in together and/or getting engagedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

Love isn't about finding the right person - it's about being the right person - someone who can love deeply, safely, and well, in addition to being someone willing to learn how to be that person for their partner. As Valentine's Day approaches, many couples are contemplating taking the next step in their relationships. Renowned couples therapist Julie Menanno,  @TheSecureRelationship (over 1.3 million Instagram followers, over 115k books sold) offers tips to consider before taking the next step of moving in together and/or getting engagedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-like-it-s-live--4113802/support.

We've all been there… they say all the right things, they sound so sure, and you let yourself believe this time will be different… until months (or years) later, it falls apart. In today's episode, I'm walking you through what actually needs to be true for someone to be genuinely ready for secure, healthy love and this applies not only to the person you're dating, but to you, too. This is about protecting your time, your energy, and your heart, and learning how to spot readiness early instead of realizing it far too late.Inside the episode:How to tell the difference between someone who wants a relationship and someone who actually has the capacity for secure loveThe five non-negotiables that must be present for a relationship to grow instead of slowly draining youWhy emotional availability, healed attachment wounds, and feeling safe in closeness matter more than chemistry ever willThis is one of those episodes I wish I could send back in time to my younger self and one you might want to share with someone you love.

Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, a licensed couples therapist who is going over 7 things to know BEFORE taking the next step in your romantic relationship and just in time for Valentines Day. She also has a new book called Secure Love that gives excellent tips. Take a listen!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's episode is such a special one. I'm sitting down with one of our incredible ESL graduates, Carlina, whose story of healing, sobriety, self-discovery, and stepping into secure, emotionally available love will move you to your core. If you've ever struggled with repeating relationship patterns, feeling “too much,” navigating disorganized attachment, or doubting whether secure love is possible for you… this conversation will give you so much hope. Carlina gets incredibly vulnerable about breaking cycles, building belief in herself, healing family relationships, and attracting a securely attached partner who meets her with patience, consistency, and kindness. You won't want to miss this one.Inside the episode, we cover:How disorganized attachment, numbing, and girl-bossing into avoidance kept Carlina stuck in the same cycles and the moment she decided she couldn't do it anymore.The exact beliefs she rewired inside the program (including “I'm too much” and “I'll always be left behind”) and how that opened the door to healthy, secure partnership.What it feels like to date someone emotionally available, patient, consistent—and how secure love allowed her to soften, receive, and be her authentic self.If Carlina's journey spoke to you and you're feeling that pull… this is your sign. The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications THIS YEAR, and once doors close, they are closed. If you're ready to stop repeating patterns, heal at the root, and finally step into the love and life you deserve, now is the time to apply.

In today's episode, I sat down with my dear friend Morgan Huelsman, you know her on instagram asWeb Girl Morgan, for an honest, vulnerable conversation about healing after toxic relationships, rebuilding self-trust, and opening yourself up to emotionally available, secure love. We dive into what it really takes to become ready for the kind of relationship that meets you with empathy, consistency, and effort and the beautiful (and sometimes uncomfortable) adjustments that come with receiving a healthy partner after years of unhealthy dynamics.Inside the Episode, We Cover:Why “not meeting your person yet” is rarely about luck or timing and how inner readiness and emotional availability set the stage for secure love.What dating someone emotionally available actually feels like, including learning how to receive support, communicate needs, and soften into safety.How to thrive in your single season by building a life you genuinely love now instead of waiting for a relationship to “finally feel happy.”If this conversation sparks something in you, if you're thinking, I want this kind of love, but I don't know how to get there, I want you to know it's absolutely possible for you. This is exactly the work we do inside Empowered.Secure.Loved.✨ Applications for the ESL Program are closing for the year. If your heart is nudging you, trust yourself and apply now. Don't wait. Your secure, healthy relationship is too important to put off.You deserve high self-worth and great relationships and you don't have to figure it out alone.

Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict.At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love.Key Takeaways:Learn to trust your partner's intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don't avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

Today's episode I am joined by my dear friend and returning guest Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. Tracy is a psychologist, relationship expert, and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother and wow, this conversation is one you do not want to miss! We're getting real about what it means to navigate tricky in-law dynamics, how to stay a team with your partner, and what it looks like to show up as your most grounded, secure self (even when family stress is high).Inside the Episode:The three daughter-in-law styles and how they connect to your attachment patternsWhy triangulation creates distance and what to do insteadHow to set loving boundaries and strengthen your partnership during family challengesConnect with Dr. Tracy D: ✨ Website & Book Pre-Order

This episode is short, powerful, and honestly one you'll want to save and come back to. I'm sharing three of my most viral relationship truths, the kind of reminders that land deep and change the way you show up in love.If you've ever found yourself forgiving everyone except yourself, staying too long in relationships that can't grow, or wondering why you keep attracting the same kind of partner… this one's for you.Inside the Episode:Forgive yourself. You did the best you could with the self-worth you had at the time.Stop watering plastic plants. Stop pouring your energy into relationships that can't grow.Heal it at the root. Until you do, you'll keep repeating the same painful patterns.If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting emotionally available love, the kind that feels safe, steady, and real. It's time to do the work inside the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program.Click Here to Apply the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program

What happens when the people who raised you become a source of tension in your marriage? In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, certified emotionally focused therapists Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the emotional complexity of in law conflict resolution.Many couples silently struggle with guilt, frustration, or emotional regression when navigating relationships with parents and in-laws. You might feel caught between the loyalty you feel toward your family of origin and the love you're building with your partner. If you've ever wondered, “Whose side am I supposed to be on?” — this episode is for you.Inside this episode, you'll learn:Why emotional regression happens around our parents—and how to notice itWhat it means to shift your primary alliance from your family to your partnerHow oversharing with parents can unintentionally betray your spouseWhy you should be the “face” of your marriage when setting family boundariesWays to navigate loyalty, conflict, and connection with compassion and clarityWe believe love grows stronger when we face these challenges together—with empathy, intention, and courage.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

What do you share about your partner when they're not around—and do they know you're sharing it?In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore a common but often overlooked issue in relationships: unspoken boundaries around privacy and public disclosure. As emotionally focused couples therapists, they offer insight into how even lighthearted jokes or venting to friends can quietly damage trust and create emotional disconnection.The challenge? Many couples never talk about what's okay to share and what's sacred to keep between them.Key takeaways include:Protecting your relationship through intentional boundariesCreating emotional safety with clear agreementsRepairing ruptures when trust is unintentionally brokenStrengthening your bond by working as a united frontWhether you've been hurt by oversharing or want to avoid future ruptures, this episode will guide you back to connection and clarity.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

This episode is one I have been wanting to bring you for a long time… and I know so many of you have been waiting for it. We are talking all about ADHD, attachment styles, and dopamine.Inside the episode, I'm breaking it down in a way that is easy to understand, while also sharing parts of my own story and what has helped me. You'll leave with clarity, compassion for yourself, and real tools you can begin using today.✨ Inside the episode, you'll learn:How ADHD disrupts dopamine regulation and why that makes relationships feel like a rollercoaster.The connection between ADHD, insecure attachment, and painful cycles of hyper-focus, rapid closeness, withdrawal, and protest behaviors.Three powerful shifts you can make today to calm your nervous system, create stability, and support secure, healthy love.This is such an important topic, and I truly believe it will give you a new lens of understanding for yourself—or someone you care about. Please share this with a friend who needs it.

Join Pastor Kory Kleinsasser as he launches "Secure Love," a six-week series on Psalm 23. Discover how to move from a head knowledge of God's faithfulness to a deep, whole-body trust. Learn practical, soul-training exercises to experience a secure love that offers safety and a home base in Christ.

We are back for Part 2 of my wedding reflections — and this episode is extra vulnerable.

This episode is a special one because I was interviewed on the Girls Gone Wellness Podcast and the questions they asked me were so good that I knew I had to share it with you here.If you've ever wondered how to break free from anxious spirals, stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or move from self-abandonment to secure love, this conversation is for you.Inside this episode, we talk about:The four main attachment styles (and how they actually play out in dating + long-term relationships)Why anxious and avoidant partners feel “magnetized” to each other (and how to break that cycle)The difference between trauma bonding and genuine emotional intimacyPractical tools to self-soothe, stop self-abandonment, and rewire toward secure love✨ If you loved this episode, make sure to share it on Instagram and tag me @drmorgancoaching — I'd love to hear your takeaways.And I want to give a huge shout-out to the incredible hosts of Girls Gone Wellness!

What does it truly mean to heal through love? In this heart-opening episode of Mirror Talk: Soulful Conversations, Tobi sits down with Sasha Quince, a love coach, relationship mentor, and host of the Heal You, Heal Your Relationships podcast. With over 15 years of experience and a personal journey through loss, betrayal, and anxious attachment, Sasha shares how she turned her wounds into wisdom and her pain into purpose.Together, we explore:✨ How childhood experiences shape our adult relationships✨ The courage it takes to face buried wounds through motherhood✨ What it means to meet your inner child with compassion✨ How to regulate your nervous system in moments of overwhelm✨ Why grief can be a teacher and not a barrier to love✨ The law of reflection in relationships—and the mirrors that transform us✨ How to break cycles of sabotage and reclaim emotional powerThis soulful conversation is a reminder that healing is not only possible—it's the very path to experiencing the love we are meant to have.⏱ Episode Chapters00:00 – Introduction to Sasha Quince02:48 – The Power of Validation in Childhood05:44 – Recognizing and Breaking Patterns08:34 – Facing Demons through Shadow Work11:28 – Redefining Love and Self-Acceptance14:17 – Childhood Trauma & Adult Relationships17:26 – Healing Awakens through Motherhood20:16 – Inner Child Healing with Compassion24:41 – The Courage to Break Free from Cycles29:00 – Beyond the Victim Mentality33:05 – The Law of Reflection in Relationships35:31 – The Art of Boundaries in Love44:32 – A Soul Message for Listeners

You are going to love today's episode! I'm joined by one of my incredible team members and dear friend, Dr. Amanda Priest. Amanda is not only a coach inside the Empowered.Secure.Love program—she also started out as one of my clients. Her journey from struggling with anxious attachment to now preparing for her secure marriage is absolutely inspiring.Inside this episode:Amanda's journey from podcast listener → client → coach inside the ESL programThe moment she realized she was the “common denominator” in her relationship patternsHow inner child healing, belief work, and attachment rewiring helped her attract her securely attached partnerWhat it really takes to build a secure relationship and prepare for marriageIf you've ever told yourself “Maybe I'll just be single forever” or felt hopeless about love, this episode will give you so much hope and encouragement.

In today's episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, we dive deep into the real-life challenges couples face around shared decision making—from everyday choices to major life transitions and even moments of intimacy. Hosts Kim and Kyle explore how traditional power dynamics, cultural and faith backgrounds, and unspoken expectations can leave one or both partners feeling unheard, disconnected, or resentful.You'll hear why simply “checking the box” or putting one partner's needs first isn't enough for a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Instead, true connection happens when both voices are valued, vulnerability is welcomed, and decisions are made together—whether about family, finances, or the bedroom.Key Takeaways:Why shared decision making is the foundation of secure loveHow gender roles and cultural messages can undermine intimacyThe risks of caretaking and “going through the motions”The power of voicing your needs and desiresStrategies to move from power struggles to partnershipHow to slow down and talk about what really matters in decision momentsFollow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

In this insightful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson unpack the often-overlooked conversations couples need to have in order to build trust, safety, and lasting connection.Many couples assume they are on the same page when it comes to sexual intimacy — but unspoken differences around sexual imagery, emotional affairs, social media boundaries, and private sharing can quietly erode trust. Without clear communication and intentional agreements, even small misunderstandings can turn into painful betrayals.In this episode, you'll discover:Why open conversations about sexual intimacy are crucial for secure relationshipsHow unspoken assumptions lead to trust violationsThe role of curiosity and vulnerability in navigating difficult topicsHow to co-create boundaries that honor both partnersPractical tools to protect emotional and sexual connectionWhether you're dating, engaged, or married, these conversations are essential to creating a secure and deeply intimate relationship.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

We're getting extra vulnerable on the pod today. I'm opening up about my current season of life: 60 Days away from saying I-Do to the love of my life! This chapter of my life leading up to marriage has tested me in ways I didn't expect. But through it all, I've never felt more grounded — because I've done the work to become securely attached.In this episode, I'm sharing what it really looks like to walk into marriage after relational trauma, and why becoming securely attached is the foundation that makes everything else possible.Inside the episode, I open up about:Grieving friendships and family relationships (people I always thought would be part of my big day but are no longer in my life) Navigating financial conversations and emotional triggers during wedding planningReleasing shame around my timeline and embracing my body exactly as it isIf you're ready to stop repeating old patterns and finally feel safe in love, I have a special invitation for you. We have just 5 Spots left inside the Empowered.Secure.Loved Relationship Program. This is your opportunity to finally rewire your brain for secure attachment. Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Relationship Program Today to Start Attracting Healthy Love

What happens when one partner wants to end the relationship—and the other doesn't? In this powerful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the emotional heartbreak of surviving unwanted separation and how to begin healing when you're not ready to let go.

Welcome to the Power & Purpose Podcast Connect with Vanessa Soul: https://vanessasoul.com/SacredsoulenergeticsPower & Power Podcast All Apps: https://pod.link/1713095352 Watch it on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ihmvZFT1858?si=ad0cdV37kPDTJrbmTimestamps0:00–0:39 – Episode Preview1:00 – Who Becky is—and who she's not2:30 – The challenges Becky faced in her marriage3:54 – Finding the right relationship coach5:03 – Unpacking toxic patterns6:48 – How to stop ignoring issues in your marriage8:44 – Learning to regulate your nervous system11:16 – 14 days of unexpected quarantine during a separation12:47 – How trauma becomes the invisible third party in marriage15:18 – The “somatic F-bombs”: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop17:33 – What is somatic work, really?23:11 – Why emotional safety is essential in relationships28:54 – What Becky loves (and finds challenging) about her work32:05 – What healing in relationship actually looks like37:00 – Becky's top 3 tips for deeper alignment in relationships39:00 – How to get in touch with BeckyABOUT BECKY ASTE Becky Aste is a trauma-informed somatic relationship coach, the grounded powerhouse behind the globally ranked top 5% podcast Your Breakthrough Blueprint, and CEO of “I Do Breakthrough”—a transformational company helping high-achieving wives heal their marriages by moving trauma out of the body.After trying every mainstream healing method to save her own marriage, Becky found herself separated with two kids and hanging by a thread. In a last-ditch moment, she discovered somatic work—the unconventional, body-based approach that turned everything around. In under a year, her dying marriage came back to life.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_asteFree mini course - ‘The Somatic Secret to Secure Love': www.idobreakthrough.comCONNECT W/ VANESSA SOUL https://sacredsoulenergetics.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/sacred__soul____/ Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.spiva.9/Threads https://www.threads.net/@sacred__soul____Power & Power Podcast All Apps: https://pod.link/1713095352 Donate to the Podcast: Sacred Soul Energetics Business Venmo: https://venmo.com/code?user_id=4008578222393358557&created=1739583741.404595&printed=1

Divorce is often treated with silence, judgment, and shame—even when it follows years of effort, therapy, and personal growth. In this powerful episode of The Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson unpack the emotional realities of healing from divorce, especially when support from friends, family, or faith communities is missing.They explore:Why grief after separation is valid and necessaryHow to set boundaries with unsupportive peopleThe difference between shame and self-compassionWhat it means to trust your inner voice when a relationship endsWhether you initiated the separation or are navigating unwanted loss, this conversation will help you process the pain, reclaim your worth, and take meaningful steps toward healing.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

✨ Start your journey to secure attachment here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/privatepodcast In this episode, I break down the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they show up in our relationships. I walk you through the core wounds and behaviors of each style, and share what it takes to move toward secure attachment. We also talk about the power of emotional regulation, the importance of self-awareness, and how you can rewire your brain to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:How to identify your attachment style and the role it plays in your love lifeThe key shifts required to move from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized to secureWhy emotional regulation and brain rewiring are essential to healing attachment woundsWant to go deeper?

Should you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. Discover:• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted• Managing triggers after being ghosted, conflict resolution skills and de-escalating arguments• How to rebuild a relationship with the person who ghosted you...and so much more!Ready to break free from painful relationship patterns? Secure, loving relationships are possible even after being ghosted. Connect With GrettaCoping With Ghosting 101 | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.comHost Gretta Perlmutter, MA, and Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach delivers evidence-based strategies to transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.Connect With JulieJulie's Website | InstagramSpecial offer: Join Julies's Individual and Couples Group and use code: COLLAB10 on any order for 10% off! Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo RamosDisclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.Ready to heal, improve your confidence, and regain your power after being ghosted or betrayed? You don't have to heal alone. Book a coaching session with Gretta here. Want to feel better after being ghosted? Coping With Ghosting 101 downloadable workshop will help you take your power back today. Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

When couples face unresolved issues or fail to repair conflicts quickly, relationships suffer. These challenges can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional distance. Trauma, past experiences, and unmet expectations can make these problems even harder to manage.Author and expert in psychology and relationships, Stan Tatkin joins Lorin to explore how shared agreements, thoughtful design, and a focus on mutual care can help you build a strong foundation.Without this foundation, relationships can become unstable. Fights linger, trust erodes, and unresolved issues or traumas deepen the disconnect. Over time, this can harm not just the relationship but also our mental and physical health.Start today, by having a conversation with your partner about what you both want from your relationship. These small steps can create momentum toward a stronger, more secure bond.Follow @drstantatkin on InstagramWork with Stan directlyThe PACT InstituteMentioned in this episode:Relationship Coaching Fundamentals Master the art of deep coaching & high-converting sales.The Awakened Masculine Program An 8-week immersive journey into the depths of unleashing your awakened masculine power.

Why do we keep attracting people who trigger our deepest wounds—even when we think we've done the work?   In this episode, we explore why romantic partners often reflect unresolved childhood pain and how these dynamics are invitations to grow. We talk about the importance of attachment styles, trauma responses, and why many of us pendulum swing between codependency and hyper-independence.   If you've ever felt stuck in a “should I stay or go” relationship, we share guiding principles to help you find clarity—without bypassing your own healing. You'll also hear how heartbreak can actually open the door to deeper self-love and emotional maturity, whether you're single or partnered.   I'm joined by Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman, who shares her story of breaking old cycles and creating conscious love. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, deepening your current relationship, or wanting to prepare for conscious love, this episode is for you.   ===   Have you watched our previous episode titled The Truth About Failure: Why It's the Secret to Success   Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YdGji5Qf6IY   ===   GUEST LINKS Instagram: @risingwoman @sheleanaaiyana Website: https://risingwoman.com/   ====   Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved.   ===   Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools

Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security. Listen to learn more about topics like:  Self-Abandonment as the Root Issue Emotional Processing Over Quick Regulation Building Secure Attachment with Self Discerning Between Attachment Triggers and Relationship Red Flags and more! Julies Bio & Links: Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. With over 1.3 million Instagram followers, Julie's relatable advice and real-time couples therapy sessions have made her a trusted voice in relational health. Her book Secure Love, published by Simon & Schuster in 2024, dives deep into attachment theory and is available worldwide.  Secure Love, written by Julie Menanno The Secure Love Podcast Give Me Discounts! Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I'm sharing my top 10 takeaways from Secure Love by Julie Menanno—a powerful book on attachment and breaking negative relationship cycles. We've talked about attachment theory before, but this book made it feel so clear, applicable, and even relieving. Think of this episode as us having coffee while I excitedly overshare my favorite insights, from the "goodness of fit" concept to the 80/20 rule for secure relationships. Plus, I explore how attachment connects to the Enneagram and personal growth. Let me know what you think—text the podcast line at 828-338-9127! Call/Text Your Enneagram Questions into (828) 338 - 9127 Grab a copy of my books at www.thehonestenneagram.com & www.theenneagramletters.com Check out my youtube channel for more behind-the-scenes content www.youtube.com/sarajanecase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice.In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina's journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn't just disappear. The power of nervous system regulation for those with anxious attachment. How to spot emotional unavailability in dating. Low-effort vs. high-effort behaviors in dating & relationships. Key qualities to look for in a secure partnership.Tune in for insightful and actionable advice on building healthier relationships!Contact Sabrina Zohar:www.sabrinazohar.comInstagram: @thesabrinazoharshowPodcast: The Sabrina Zohar ShowTikTok: Sabrina.zoharYoutube: Sabrina ZoharWork With Jessica:1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica HEREMy Secure Self E-Course (Self-Study)Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

In this episode of Marriage Made Easier, we dive into the world of attachment styles with Julie Meneanno, author of Secure Love. Julie breaks down how our early childhood relationships—especially with caregivers—shape the way we connect and communicate in romantic relationships. From feelings of security to patterns of avoidance or anxiety, Julie helps us understand the core of our attachment styles and how they influence everything from conflict resolution to intimacy. Discover how these unconscious patterns show up in your current relationships and learn actionable steps to move toward a more secure attachment style. Whether you're looking to deepen your connection or break free from unhealthy relationship cycles, Julie's insights and practical advice will help you create the love you've always wanted. Curious about your own attachment style? Take our free assessment and discover your attachment style at kinectin.com. Checkout our Relationship Resources: Explore Kinectin, the ultimate relationship cheat code: https://kinectin.com Join our 30-Day Couples Challenge: https://www.marriagemadeeasier.com/in... Get our couples conversation cards: btscards.com Resolve Conflict with Ease: https://www.marriagemadeeasier.com/offers/ZbnVwbiX

Why do some people navigate the social world with such ease while others feel like they're swimming upstream? In this special episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by four leading experts for a masterclass on the science of attachment. Featuring conversations with Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira, this carefully curated episode gives you a map to becoming more socially confident, emotionally intelligent, and authentically connected.  Topics include: The four fundamental patterns that influence how we show up in every social interaction. Dr. Sue Johnson's guide to having deeper, more meaningful "hold me tight" conversations. Dr. Rick Hanson's approach to working with self-abandonment. Julie Mennano on working with the anxious-avoidant dance that brings so many couples to therapy. Elizabeth Ferreira's somatic and trauma-informed perspective on healing attachment wounds. Rick's Yearly Program: Rick's Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It's currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you'll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 3:35: Rick Hanson: How to become securely attached 31:20: Working with common attachment wounds 47:35: Sue Johnson: How to have a bonding conversation 1:09:35: Julie Mennano: The attachment mistakes that bring people to therapy, and how secure couples relate differently 1:22:25: Rick Hanson: Self-abandonment, anxious attachment, and how to build up a greater sense of self-worth and self-trust 1:40:30: Elizabeth Ferreira: Creating a secure relationship 1:56:50: Recap and outro About our Guests: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and respected approach to couples therapy. She is considered one of the foremost experts in the field of attachment, and has received numerous awards for her contributions to the field of psychotherapy. Dr. Johnson is also the author of seven books, including the best-selling Hold Me Tight. Elizabeth Ferreira is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.  Julie Menanno a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She is the founder of The Secure Relationship coaching method, and maintains an instagram of the same name with over 1M followers. She is also the author of Secure Love. I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Use promo code hanson at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan at incogni.com/hanson. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode, we continue our three part series on Pope Francis' recent encyclical Dilexit Nos. We reflect on our ache to be loved, how Jesus heals in close proximity to us, and the “science of the caress”. We also talk about how Jesus is a man who comes and finds us wherever we are and longs to open up a new place for us in relationship with Him. Will we allow our hearts to beat again with love? Heather's One Thing - Thai Peanut Chicken Stir Fry  Sister Miriam's One Thing - Abuses in the Religious Life and the Path to Healing by Dom Dysmas de Lassus Michelle's One Thing(s) - Fr. Mark Mary's new podcast: Rosary in a Year and Big Spoon Roasters - Vanilla Caramel Nut Butter   Other Resources Mentioned:  “Dilexit Nos”: A brief guide for busy readers Dilexit Nos audio version   Journal Questions: Do I perceive Jesus' presence in my life as being up close to me, or at a distance? How have I encountered Jesus as the Lover? How do I project my scars onto Jesus? Who in my community or in the Church is hardest for me to love right now? How can I love them better? Where do I have a belief that Jesus is indifferent to me?   Discussion Questions: How have you experienced the ache to be cherished? How can you bring communion where there is polarity and discord? What happens in you when you consider the Sacred Heart of Jesus? When have you blindly trusted in Jesus and His Love and Providence for you? How did He prove Himself trustworthy?   Quotes to Ponder: “The heart of Christ, as the symbol of the deepest and most personal source of his love for us, is the very core of the initial preaching of the Gospel. It stands at the origin of our faith, as the wellspring that refreshes and enlivens our Christian beliefs.” (Pope Francis, “Dilexit Nos”, Paragraph 32)   Scripture for Lectio:  “Take heart, daughter!” (Matthew 9:22) Sponsor - Florecita Design: Florecita Design wants to help you build your domestic church. The Florecita Design Activity Bundle is a set of 12-15 printable activities for young children, delivered each month and based on the Catholic liturgical calendar. Every month, Florecita Design will help you incorporate math, science, and pre-literacy skills with your little kids all within the context of the Catholic Church. This Activity Bundle is a digital subscription created by a speech-language pathologist to provide parents with the tools and language to incorporate the faith easily into every day play for their 2 to 7 year-olds. All parents have to do is print the activities and follow along the instructional booklet for enriching, screen free ways to entertain their kids. Florecita Design just released the Advent and Christmas Activity Bundle, which is a holiday special with TWENTY activities, including puzzles, an Advent prayer banner, St. Nicholas activities, and so much more. To learn more, visit florecitadesign.com.  You can use the code ABIDE10 for 10% off your first three months of the Activity Bundle! You can also follow along on Instagram @florecitadesign for speech-language tips, sales and liturgical living ideas for little kids.  Let's teach our kids the Catholic faith in ways that are simple, tangible and beautiful!   Timestamps: 00:00 - Florecita Design 01:19 - Intro 02:12 - Welcome 02:43 - Actions Reflect Our Heart 04:09 - The Science of Caress 05:37 - The Humanity of Christ 08:26 - Aching to Be Loved 10:11 - The Holy Spirit and Community 14:03 - The Human Heart 17:08 - Vulnerability and Secure Love 20:00 - Our Image of God 23:08 - One Things