Podcasts about secure love

A thought is a flicker. A belief is a highway. Here's how to tell the difference, and rewire the ones that aren't serving you.Girl, have you ever said "I know I need to work on my mindset" without really understanding what that means? In this episode, I'm breaking down the actual neuroscience of beliefs vs. thoughts, because they are not the same thing, and once you understand how beliefs get built in your brain, everything about your healing journey starts to make more sense. We'll talk about why your belief system was wired in before your prefrontal cortex could even fact-check it, why that's not your fault, and why neuroplasticity means it is never too late to build new pathways rooted in high self-worth. This one's part of my High Self-Worth Summer series, and it's foundational, so give it your full attention, okay?Inside the Episode:The real difference between a thought (a one-time firing) and a belief (a myelinated neural pathway anchored in your amygdala), and why beliefs feel like facts even when they're notWhy your belief system was formed before your prefrontal cortex fully developed at 25, and how confirming experiences keep strengthening those old pathways as you ageWhy beliefs formed in power-imbalanced relationships (parent, caregiver, past partner) were never actually true, and how to release them without self-blameReady to rewire your beliefs? Grab my Identity Reset mini-course, the exact morning practice I've used for 5+ years to stay anchored in high self-worth and secure attachment.

You don't have to shrink yourself to be worthy of love, girl — and this episode is your permission slip to stop waiting.I'm so excited about this one, y'all. I sat down in studio with Raeann Langas, midsize fashion and confidence expert, the voice behind Ahead of the Curve on Substack, and we got real about something so many of you are quietly carrying: the belief that your body has to change before your life can begin. Raeann opens up about the girl who used to "forget" her swimsuit so no one would see her at the pool, the years she accepted the bare minimum in dating because she hadn't decided what she deserved yet, and the six-week solo trip across Europe that cracked her wide open. And then we get into the good stuff, what it looked like to fall so in love with her own life that a relationship became the bonus, not the void-filler. Buckle up, because this is a conversation about self-worth, body image, and what it actually feels like to build secure love from the inside out.Inside the Episode:Why your relationship with your body is rarely about your body and the real question underneath it: who did you believe you had to be in order to be loved?How Raeann stopped outsourcing her self-worth to male attention (and the "fake it till you believe it" confidence shift that changed everything before a date she almost talked herself out of)What secure attachment actually feels like in the body, the trust, the calm, the "he's out in Miami and I'm not checking his location" freedom and how the right relationship can help heal what the wrong ones brokeIf you've been telling yourself you'll go on the date, take the trip, or wear the bikini once you lose the weight, please hear us: you'll wait your whole life. The woman who is healing her body image and calling in healthy love needs to hear this one. Send it to a friend who's stuck in the waiting room of her own life.Connect with Raeann:Instagram: @raeannlangasTikTok: @raeannlangasSubstack — Ahead of the Curve: raeannlangas.substack.com

Life Transformations with Michael Hart Aired: June 15, 2026 on CHRI Radio 99.1FM in Ottawa, Canada. For questions or to schedule an appointment with Elim Counselling Services, call 1-877-544-ELIM(3546) or email mhart@elimcounsellingministry.com. Visit elimcounsellingministry.com for more information. For more CHRI shows, visit chri.ca

Send us Fan MailFear can sound like faith until you realize it's running your nervous system, your prayers, and your view of God. We're joined by pastor and licensed therapist Micah Morgan to unpack a question so many believers quietly carry: why do so many of us know God's holiness, hell, and judgment better than we know God's love?We talk about the difference between reverence and torment, and how trauma, abandonment, and church hurt can train us to expect rejection from God the same way we've experienced it from people. Micah shares a grounded practice she uses in both ministry and mental health work: gospel meditation. Instead of only memorizing verses, we learn how to “waste time in the gospels” and sit with Jesus in scenes like the woman at the well, letting His posture, patience, and honesty reshape our internal story.If you've ever felt like you have to stay afraid to stay “good,” this conversation offers a safer, truer path. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs relief, and leave a review with the line that challenged you most.About our guest :Micah Morgan, LPCC serves the Central Ohio community as a state-licensed mental health therapist, youth suicide prevention specialist at a local hospital (specializing in suicide prevention for Black youth and for Christian Faith communities), and as a bivocational minister licensed through the Evangelical Covenant Church. As a therapist, she has experience treating adults, couples, and teens who have an emotional, physical, spiritual, and/or racial trauma history. As an associate pastor, she supports the discipleship and spiritual formation of Sanctuary Columbus Church. Micah is passionate about creating safe spaces for deconstructing and reconstructing one's faith within community rather than in isolation. She is also passionate about making the topics of faith, mental health, and justice doable for the people who trust her to do so.Pastor & Therapist : Micah Morgan's socials!Instagram at @micah.j.m.morgan and on TikTok at @jmariemorganEpisode Questions,Scriptures & CitationsWhat first made you realize there's a difference between knowing about God and truly understanding His love personally?How you view Jesus and what you expect of Jesus matters. In a national study published in 2021 called, “Attachment to God and Psychological Distress: Evidence of a Curvilinear Relationship”Why do you think so many believers grow up more aware of hell, judgment, or fear than they are of God's love and closeness?Fear feels like control. When we know what we're afraid of and we put energy into avoiding it or overcoming it, it often feels like we're doing something productive.Can fear ever play a healthy role in someone coming to God, or does lasting transformation require something deeper?Reverence of God's holiness and an understanding that God is the final Judge is necessary for worship. However, I do not believe that living with a constant fear of losing God's love is healthy or helpful.. (Matt 6:9 NRSVUE)How do we balance reverence and holiness with the truth that God is loving, compassionate, and relational?God's holiness describes the reality that He is the standard and source of all Goodness. Therefore, His approval is what matters most. He sets the standard for what's right and wrong in our lives. 4 “I tell you,  (Luke 12:4-7 NRSVUE)Remember that God's Holiness is not passive. It moves Him to heal the world of individual and systemic sin and suffering. (Colossians 1:19-20 NRSVUE) (Revelation 21:1-5 NRSVUE)God doesn't sit idly by and watch sin and suffering and trauma ruin our lives. If it's true that Jesus is the exact representation of God (John 5:19; Hebrews 1:3), Jesus shows us that God grieves with us-- weeps with us-- when brokenness touches our lives directly. (John 11:17-21, 33-35 NRSVUE)What are some signs that a person's relationship with God has become rooted more in fear than in love?When someone's first thought then they do something wrong is, "God doesn't love me anymore," rather than, "God still loves me and has provided an excape from the power of sin every step of the way:17 So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has p. (2 Corinthians 5:17-20 NRSVUE) (John 14:18, 26 NRSVUE) (1 John 1:9 NRSVUE) (1 Corinthians 10:13 NRSVUEFor people healing from trauma, rejection, or harsh religious experiences, how can they begin rebuilding a healthy understanding of God?Spend time with Jesus in the Gospels and work on feeling what it feels like to interact with Jesus there.“To know Jesus, therefore, is to know God (John 14: 9). Jesus is the “image of the invisible God” (Colossians 1: 15 nrsv). Thus he is the filter through which we need to pass all our ideas about God as we seek to move from knowing about God to meeting God personally in Jesus.” — The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery (The Spiritual Journey) by David G. Benner (p. 35)“Relationships develop when people spend time together. Spending time with God ought to be the essence of prayer... The starting point for learning to simply spend time with God is learning to do this with Jesus. Spending time with Jesus allows us to ground our God-knowing in the concrete events of a concrete life.” — The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery (The Spiritual Journey) by David G. Benner (p. 37)“Gospel meditation provides an opportunity to enter specific moments in Jesus' life and thereby share his experience. Shared experience is the core of any friendship. And Spirit-guided meditation on the life of Jesus provides this possibility. The meditation I am recommending is not the same as Bible study. It is more an exercise of the imagination than of the intellect. It involves allowing the Spirit of God to help you imaginatively enter an event in the life of Christ as presented in the Gospels... [O]bserve the events as they unfold. Watch, listen and stay attentive to Christ. Don't... try to analyze the story or learn lessons from it. Just be present to Jesus and open to your own reactions." — The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery (The Spiritual Journey) by David G. Benner (p. 37-38)What Scriptures most changed your understanding of God's character and love?God's character is such that He intended to completely solve the problems of sin and death through Jesus-- not merely condemn us.  (John 3:1-2, 16-19 NRSVUE)When I try to imagine what God is like and how God responds to me when I do something wrong, I remember that Jesus already told us that God is like Him. Everything the Son does, the Father does. Therefore, the way the Son loves me and interacts with me is also the way the Father loves and interacts with me.  (John 5:19 NRSVUE) (Hebrews 1:1-4 NRSVUE)How do shame and condemnation distort the way people hear God's voice?We tend to live out of our defenses and self-protectiveness when we live in shame and condemnation-- which makes generosity and mercy, grace and truth toward our neighbor more difficult to embody.What would you say to someone who obeys God outwardly but internally struggles to believe they are truly loved by Him?Jesus is offering you the same kind of shame-free relationship He provided to the woman at the well. Jesus was so kind, loving, and welcoming to the woman at the well as He spoke to her that she could say to her village with a smile, "come and meet a man who told me everything I've ever done!" (John 4:4-7, 29-30 NRSVUE)What does a love-centered relationship with God actually look like in everyday life?Using our healing as an opportunity to sin no more. Jesus understood sin to be damaging. It disrupts our closeness with God and with our neighbor. When we have encountered Jesus and are healed, we are take that healing and "sin no more." 2 . (John 5:2-9, 14-15 NRSVUE)A healthy spirituality is characterized by loving God and loving our neighbor. (Matt 22:34-40 NRSVUEClosing reflection: If listeners walk away remembering one truth about God's heart toward them, what would you want it to be?When we're deeply convinced of our belovedness from God, we tend to be more generous with our love for others. Therefore, meditate on the reality that you are loved by God more than you could ever imagine and watch how that affects your relationships. . (Romans 8:35, 37-39 NRSVUE)Support the show2 Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be unto God, who always causes us to Triumph! Support the show2 Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be unto God, who always causes us to Triumph! 

Part 4 of the Relationship Psychology Series: Why Secure Love Can Initially Feel “Boring”What if the reason healthy love feels “boring”…Is because your nervous system got conditioned for chaos?In this episode, we're diving into one of the most important relationship truths women are rarely taught:Sometimes what we call “chemistry” is actually nervous system activation.The anxiety. The mixed signals. The emotional highs and lows. The obsession. The unpredictability.And when your body becomes accustomed to emotional chaos…Safe, secure love can initially feel: too calm, too steady, too unfamiliarBut my love…Peace is not boredom.It's safety.In today's episode, we unpack:why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel addictivethe dopamine effect of hot-and-cold dynamicsthe difference between a “boring” relationship vs a peaceful secure oneand what healthy attraction actually feels like in your body.Because healthy love should not feel like emotional survival.It should feel like your nervous system can finally exhale.Inside this episode, we explore:Why women confuse anxiety for chemistryHow emotional inconsistency creates dopamine addictionWhy your nervous system can mistake familiarity for compatibilityThe hidden difference between “boring” vs emotionally safe loveWhat unhealthy attraction actually feels like in the bodyThe difference between chaotic chemistry vs grounded connectionWhy peaceful love can initially feel unfamiliarHow healing changes what feels attractive to youWhy emotional safety deepens intimacy, polarity, and passionThis episode is for you if:You've ever lost attraction when someone treated you wellYou feel more chemistry with emotionally unavailable peopleYou're addicted to the highs and lows of inconsistent relationshipsYou confuse obsession with connectionHealthy relationships feel “too calm” or “too nice” to youYou want secure love… but your nervous system struggles to trust itOne of the biggest truths from this episode:Your nervous system can mistake familiarity for compatibility.We also talk about…The difference between:❌ emotionally dead relationships VS✅ emotionally safe relationshipsBecause you can experience passion WITHOUT emotional suffering.❤️ Inside LOVER…This is exactly the deeper work we do.LOVER is for the woman who is done:chasing emotionally unavailable menmistaking anxiety for chemistryrecreating chaotic relationship dynamicsabandoning herself for connectionstaying addicted to emotional highs and lowsInside this experience, we work with:nervous system healingfeminine magnetismsecure attachmentemotional safetypolarity dynamicsSo you stop surviving love……and finally become the woman who can RECEIVE healthy love.Not just intellectually desire it.But feel safe enough in your body to hold it.❤️‍

This episode marks an important evolution.What began as The Roadmap to Secure Love Podcast is now Love Fully—not because secure attachment no longer matters, but because we've seen something deeper emerge in our work with clients, listeners, and ourselves.Secure attachment gives us language and clarity. Loving fully is about living that understanding in real life.In this episode of Love Fully, Kim and Kyle explore what it truly means to love from a grounded, secure place—both with ourselves and with the people we care about most. Through an Emotionally Focused Therapy lens, they unpack why loving fully requires more than insight; it calls for courage, self-honesty, and a willingness to challenge the attachment patterns that once protected us.Many of us grew up without a roadmap for healthy emotional connection. Maybe you learned to stay small to keep the peace, to over-function to earn closeness, or to shut down when vulnerability felt unsafe. These strategies once helped you survive—but they may now limit the kind of love you long for. This episode explores how to gently rewrite those relational “scripts” and build the inner security needed for healthier, more fulfilling bonds.In today's conversation, Kim and Kyle highlight:Balancing closeness and autonomySetting boundaries without losing connectionHonoring your needs without shameLoving someone as they are—not who you hope they'll bePracticing compassion for the younger parts of yourselfWhether you're healing personal wounds, navigating relationship challenges, or seeking deeper emotional clarity, this episode supports your journey toward healthy relationship boundaries and secure connection.Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️Additional Resources for You:Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

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In this episode, I speak with psychiatrist, neuroscientist and author Amir Levine about his new book Secure, and how we can move towards more secure attachment in our relationships. Amir explains why attachment is not a fixed label, but something far more flexible and alive, shaped by the people and environments around us. We explore the biology of connection, why exclusion can feel like physical pain, and how our ancient need for safety and belonging still drives so much of our behaviour today.We also talk about how change happens through the small, everyday interactions that either deepen insecurity or help us build trust. Amir shares his CARRP framework, consistency, availability, responsiveness, reliability and predictability, and how these qualities can create a more secure life. Together we reflect on anxious and avoidant patterns, the protest-regret cycle, dating, loneliness, friendship, secure villages and how, especially in an uncertain world, our relationships can become the shield that helps us endure. Buy his book 'Secure: Rewire Your Attachment Style and Transform Your Relationships, Health and Happiness': https://amzn.eu/d/05fucNjI Find Amir: https://amirlevinemd.com/ More from Therapy Works: Subscribe to the Therapy Works Substack for guidance on everyday struggles and access to Julia's monthly live webinar: https://juliasamuel.substack.com/ Grieving someone you love? Julia's Grief Works Support Programme offers structured, expert-led help, with 94% of people reporting feeling better after using it. As a podcast listener you can get 25% off plus a 30-day money-back guarantee here - www.griefworks.com/therapy Follow Julia on Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe for tips, tools, and conversations about navigating life's challenges. If you enjoy this episode, please consider rating, reviewing, and subscribing - it makes a big difference and helps others discover these conversations. If you need help finding a therapist, visit: The Samuel Therapy Practice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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You've likely heard a lot about attachment styles and how they impact your life and your relationships. Yet you might not have had a chance to dive into the details that will help you understand, heal, and even change your own attachment style, whether it's anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or somewhere in between. As a clinical psychologist and attachment theory expert, I'm consistently stunned by the immense power a person's attachment style plays in the health and quality of their relationships--and their overall wellness. Today, we'll explore attachment theory and the nine key steps you can take to create secure attachment and boost the quality of your relationships and your life. Topics discussed include attachment theory, secure attachment, insecure attachment, dismissive attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, ambivalent attachment, disorganized attachment, unresolved attachment, attunement, safety, security, romantic relationships, marriage, family, friendship, communication, feelings, emotions, I messages, reflective listening, mirroring, wounds, triggering, emotional wounds, repair, rupture, love, healing, psychotherapy, and self-love.Resources: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4085672/https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14616734.2024.2342665#d1e464Sensitive Episode: Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Details: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). As applicable, additional resources may be provided in the show notes.Non-Emergency Online Mental Health Information: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/https://odphp.health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/mental-health-and-relationshipsIMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: No expert is offering medical or psychological direction or advice; the content is purely informational in nature. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before undertaking any new regimen or procedure.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr_carlamanly_imperfect_loveTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Imperfect Love Relationship & Oracle Card Deck by Dr. Carla Manly:Etsy Amazon

In today's episode of Advice My Friends Ignored, Audrey explores the four attachment styles and their deeper meanings. If you've ever felt anxious in relationships, pulled away when things get too close, or stuck in the same patterns over and over again, this episode is for you.Audrey dives into the four attachment styles, what experiences shape them, and why your nervous system responds the way it does.More importantly, Audrey walks you through how to start becoming more secure within yourself, so you can feel more grounded, more confident, and less reactive in your relationships.Resources:If you're interested in working with Audrey 1:1, learn more here: https://www.audreybrothers.com/coachingIf you're interested in microdosing, shopping at Golden Rule, or wanting to become a Golden Rule partner, learn more here: https://stan.store/audreyabrothers

If you listened to our previous episode, you know Rachel and Mike ended their first session with a beautiful breakthrough. But in the real world of relationships, progress is rarely linear. In this episode, we drop into the next session to find Rachel fighting a powerful urge to detach. Exhausted from years of feeling emotionally dropped despite providing him with a "roadmap" to her heart, her nervous system is sending her a painful, familiar message: she is fundamentally flawed, and her emotional needs are just "too much" for him. On the other side of the couch, Mike is equally exhausted. He desperately wants to comfort Rachel but hits an absolute wall when faced with her deep sadness. To understand why, we trace Mike's emotional avoidance all the way back to its roots—uncovering a painful history of childhood bullying and a family culture where heavy emotions were minimized with baked goods and phrases like "don't sweat the small stuff." Together, we discover that Mike isn't being intentionally dismissive of his wife's pain; he is simply using the only emotional survival strategy he was ever taught. If you want more structured homework, you can visit thesecurerelationship.com for our weekly assignments. Don't forget to check out my book Secure Love. And if you're enjoying the podcast, please take a moment to give us a review on Apple or Spotify! Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit our website: The Secure Relationship Podcast Take Julie's Anxious Attachment Course: Anxious Attachment: Self-Work Course Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime.  

Send a textShame often hides beneath the surface of intimacy struggles in marriage. Many couples assume they simply need to try harder—communicate more, schedule time together, or change behaviors. But shame doesn't loosen its grip through effort alone.In this episode, Christine Bongiovanni explores how shame quietly shapes intimacy, why behavioral fixes often fail, and how secure love and emotional safety help the nervous system relax so deeper connection can grow.If intimacy has felt guarded or complicated in your marriage, this conversation will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface—and what actually helps shame lose its power.You'll also hear practical next steps for building emotional safety and creating a new story around intimacy in your relationship.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. ...

Today's episode is a really special one because I'm joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we're talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder: What does secure love actually feel like? Not the Instagram version. Not the “perfect relationship” fantasy. But what it feels like inside your body when the spiraling, the overthinking, and the constant mental gymnastics in your relationship finally start to settle. Because when you're deep in anxious attachment, it can feel incredibly defeating. You're reading the books. Saving the posts. Going to therapy. Trying to say the right things.   And yet… you still feel stuck in the same patterns.   In this conversation, Alyssa shares what her relationship and inner world actually looked like before doing this work — including:   • Believing the real problem was “communication” • Trying to word things perfectly so her partner would respond the right way • Doing all the reading, therapy, and Instagram saving… but still feeling stuck • The exhaustion of overthinking every conversation • Why “knowing the information” didn't actually change anything   We also talk about something I see constantly with high-achieving women: being extremely self-aware… but still spiraling in relationships.   Alyssa shares honestly about what finally shifted for her and what secure love started to feel like when things began to change. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep overthinking even though I know better?” “Why can't I stop spiraling in my relationship?” “Why do I feel so emotionally exhausted from love?” This conversation will likely feel very familiar. You're not broken. And you're definitely not the only one who's felt this way.   Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we're talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times. You tell yourself you're just trying to be thoughtful or self-aware. But your brain is basically running a full soap opera about a situation that hasn't even happened yet. And the worst part? Most of the time nothing is actually wrong, but your brain refuses to relax. In this episode we talk about: - The difference between overthinking and self-sabotage - Why high-achieving, self-aware women get stuck in relationship rumination - The “rewrite the text five times” pattern - Why reassurance from your partner never actually sticks - How overthinking is often just a really smart form of self-protection - Why healing anxious attachment requires learning to sit in uncertainty Because the truth is… when you're in that spiral, you're not really trying to solve a problem. You're trying to get relief. And your brain is convinced that if it just analyzes the situation one more time, you'll finally feel safe. Spoiler: it doesn't work like that. I also share a bit about what's been coming up for me personally as I prepare for a big family trip where I'll be seeing my dad for the first time in 11 years - and how easy it is to slip into trying to say the “perfect thing” instead of just being present. If you've ever thought: “Am I overthinking this?” “Am I self-sabotaging something good?” “Why can't my brain just chill?” This episode is for you! Take a breath. You're not crazy. Your brain just learned a really intense way of trying to protect you. And we're going to talk about it.  

In this Part 2 episode of the series “Your Secure Era”, we're diving into something that so many high-achieving, self-aware women struggle with: why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners and why it feels so hard to stop. If you've ever felt like you're dating the same person in a different body, stuck on the “please choose me” treadmill, or confusing chaos for chemistry… this episode is your wake-up call (and your way out).Inside this episode:Why emotionally unavailable partners feel addictive - We break down intermittent reinforcement, repetition compulsion, and how your nervous system mistakes inconsistency for chemistry, creating the rollercoaster dynamic that feels intense but is actually unhealed relational trauma.The real reason you keep choosing the same dynamic (it's not a “broken picker”) - This isn't about willpower. It's about unfinished emotional business. I explain how subconscious attachment wounds drive you to recreate old patterns with new faces, hoping this time you'll finally be chosen.What actually shifts when you enter your Secure Love Era - Secure attachment isn't about convincing someone to love you. It's about healing at the root, embodying a new identity, and choosing consistency over intensity. We talk about what changes in your attraction patterns when you truly rewire your brain for secure love.If you're exhausted from watering plastic plants… if you're done confusing red flags for challenges… if you're ready to stop performing for love and start receiving it, this episode will hit home.And if you know you're ready to do this work at a deep level, I mentioned at the beginning of the episode that Private 1:1 Coaching may be your next step. This is where we rewire your attachment patterns, release past relational trauma, and help you embody the securely attached version of you. Apply here:

Welcome to a brand new series on the Let's Get Vulnerable, Your Secure Love Era. In this episode, I'm getting real about why modern dating feels so dysregulating (especially for high-achieving, self-aware women), how insecure attachment and past relational trauma are quietly running the show, and what it actually takes to shift into secure, emotionally available love. If you're exhausted by situationships, mixed signals, and thinking “I thought this time was different,” this episode is for you.Inside this episode:Why modern dating is uniquely dysregulating - The dating apps, the illusion of endless options, the normalization of situationships, and how dopamine-driven swiping keeps you stuck in anxious/avoidant cycles instead of secure attachment.The high-achiever trap in love - How over-functioning, hyper-independence, and “I'll just try harder” energy work in your career… but sabotage your relationships. (Effort can build a business. It can't force emotional availability.)The identity shift into secure attachment - Why knowing about attachment styles isn't enough, how your nervous system determines who you're attracted to, and what changes when you truly embody secure love (hint: calmer dating, faster discernment, and completely different attraction patterns).This series is about more than tips and strategies. It's about an identity-level shift. It's about becoming the version of you who no longer settles for confusion, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability, and who can both give and receive secure, healthy, emotionally available love.Secure love is not about finding the perfect partner. It's about becoming securely attached in your body so you can build something intentional, grounded, and real. And yes… that kind of love is available to you.

Join me as I sit down with Margarita Nazarenko to talk about stepping into your unbothered era, nervous system regulation in dating, and what it really means to choose yourself while building secure, magnetic relationships. This episode of Selfdom is brought to you by Bumble https://bumble.com Where Women Make the First Move  From Triggered to Unbothered Join Margarita on March 3rd, 9:30am AEST for A live, guided reset for your nervous system. https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/livecall-opt Connect with us:  Follow Selfdom on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/selfdom__ Follow Dom Elissa on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dominiquelissa Follow Margarita Nazarenko on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/margarita.nazarenko/ Shop Selfdom:  Gratitude journals + more: https://selfdom.au For partnership inquiries: hello@selfdom.info Produced by Talkback Media: info@talkbackmedia.com.au

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Dating can trigger self-doubt, overthinking, and old attachment patterns. In this episode of Selfdom, I am joined by Sascha Olive, co-founder of HOUSE OF SCULPT, to explore self-trust, attachment styles and what secure dating actually looks like. This empowering conversation offers grounded mindset tools to help you date with confidence without losing yourself along the way. Use code SELFDOMFREEMONTH for one month free on my movement mindset app https://houseofsculpt.instillvideo.app/register?promocode=SELFDOMFREEMONTH&plan=624e12eabf19d80009f9c9f4 Connect with us:  Follow Selfdom on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/selfdom__ Follow Dom Elissa on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dominiquelissa Follow Sascha Olive on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/saschaolive Shop Selfdom:  Gratitude journals + more: https://selfdom.au For partnership inquiries: hello@selfdom.info Produced by Talkback Media: info@talkbackmedia.com.au

SYNOPSIS: In this luminous Valentine's Day conversation, Ali sits down with beloved embodiment pioneers Philip Shepherd and Allyson Woodrooffe for an intimate exploration of love, presence, and what it truly means to be in relationship. Rather than offering formulas or ideals, Philip and Allyson open a window into their decades-long marriage as a living, breathing practice – one rooted not in static roles or assumptions, but in ongoing discovery. Through reflections on embodiment, wholeness, and what they call “thisness,” they reveal how presence dissolves the illusion of “knowing” one another and instead invites continual illumination through relationship. Together, they unpack the cultural forces that pull us away from the body and into defensive identities – especially in long-term partnership. From parenting challenges and navigating imbalance in public visibility, to moments of (mild) jealousy, deep tenderness, and inevitable grief, they speak candidly about the humility required to love deeply. Their shared insight is clear: love cannot thrive where we cling to fixed self-concepts. Instead, it asks us to risk being changed, to respond rather than react, and to let ourselves be revealed in real time. Embodiment, in this context, becomes not a concept but a lived courage – the willingness to stay grounded while life remains beautifully unsafe.The episode closes with a moving reflection on intimacy as both animal and luminous, playful and profound. Philip and Allyson describe how coming home to the body restores spontaneity, humor, and reverence to their sensual connection, and how decades together have only deepened the mystery rather than diminished it. What emerges is not a portrait of a “perfect” marriage, but a meadow of possibility – an invitation to reclaim love as a verb, as presence, and as a courageous act of becoming ever whole, together.FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:ALI - WebsiteALI - LinkTreeTo read more about the next Personal Geometry® Foundations training ALLYSON WOODROOFE Bio:Allyson Woodrooffe is the co-director with Philip Shepherd of The Embodied Present Process, bringing to it her skills as a life and breath coach and as a workshop facilitator. The first half of her working life flexed her creative side – as a filmmaker, photographer, stained glass artist and graphic designer. Since completing a Masters in 2013, she has been dedicated to deepening into the realms of intelligence and presence that are held in the body, first by becoming a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, and then training with Philip as an Embodiment Facilitator, and now as a co-director of TEPP.She especially enjoys working with women, helping them discover their inner and physical strength through breath and movement, and restoring clarity and purpose to their lives in the process. TEPP practices have also been transformative for her pregnant clients, enabling them to access inner resources that support them through labour, delivery and parenthood.Allyson and Philip have lived and worked together for over 37 years. They have constructed theatre sets, made films, designed and built a house, raised two remarkable children – and created TEPP.PHILIP SHEPHERD Bio:Philip Shepherd is recognized as a leader in the global embodiment movement. He created The Embodied Present Process™ (TEPP) in partnership with Allyson Woodrooffe, and as co-directors they provide practices and new perspectives on our culture to help people come home to the deep presence and wisdom of their body. They share the work of TEPP online, in one-on-one coaching, and worldwide in workshops, retreats and Facilitators Trainings. TEPP is also supported by Philip's two books – Radical Wholeness and New Self, New World – which articulate the causes, perils and personal challenges of our culture's disembodiment.  Philip's own journey to embodiment includes cycling alone as a teenager through Europe, the Middle East, Iran, India and Japan; studying classical Japanese Noh Theater; co-founding an interdisciplinary theatre company; writing two internationally produced plays and a television documentary; and playing lead roles on stages in London, New York, Chicago and Toronto.  The TEPP website and online courses are found at www.EmbodiedPresent.com. Philip's most recent book, Deep Fitness, was co-authored with Andrei Yakovenko and offers a revolutionary and highly effective approach to fitness. He is currently working on a new book, Remembering Ourselves: A Guide to Our Lost Intelligence.

Love isn't about finding the right person - it's about being the right person - someone who can love deeply, safely, and well, in addition to being someone willing to learn how to be that person for their partner. As Valentine's Day approaches, many couples are contemplating taking the next step in their relationships. Renowned couples therapist Julie Menanno,  @TheSecureRelationship (over 1.3 million Instagram followers, over 115k books sold) offers tips to consider before taking the next step of moving in together and/or getting engagedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

Love isn't about finding the right person - it's about being the right person - someone who can love deeply, safely, and well, in addition to being someone willing to learn how to be that person for their partner. As Valentine's Day approaches, many couples are contemplating taking the next step in their relationships. Renowned couples therapist Julie Menanno,  @TheSecureRelationship (over 1.3 million Instagram followers, over 115k books sold) offers tips to consider before taking the next step of moving in together and/or getting engagedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-like-it-s-live--4113802/support.

We've all been there… they say all the right things, they sound so sure, and you let yourself believe this time will be different… until months (or years) later, it falls apart. In today's episode, I'm walking you through what actually needs to be true for someone to be genuinely ready for secure, healthy love and this applies not only to the person you're dating, but to you, too. This is about protecting your time, your energy, and your heart, and learning how to spot readiness early instead of realizing it far too late.Inside the episode:How to tell the difference between someone who wants a relationship and someone who actually has the capacity for secure loveThe five non-negotiables that must be present for a relationship to grow instead of slowly draining youWhy emotional availability, healed attachment wounds, and feeling safe in closeness matter more than chemistry ever willThis is one of those episodes I wish I could send back in time to my younger self and one you might want to share with someone you love.

Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, a licensed couples therapist who is going over 7 things to know BEFORE taking the next step in your romantic relationship and just in time for Valentines Day. She also has a new book called Secure Love that gives excellent tips. Take a listen!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's episode is such a special one. I'm sitting down with one of our incredible ESL graduates, Carlina, whose story of healing, sobriety, self-discovery, and stepping into secure, emotionally available love will move you to your core. If you've ever struggled with repeating relationship patterns, feeling “too much,” navigating disorganized attachment, or doubting whether secure love is possible for you… this conversation will give you so much hope. Carlina gets incredibly vulnerable about breaking cycles, building belief in herself, healing family relationships, and attracting a securely attached partner who meets her with patience, consistency, and kindness. You won't want to miss this one.Inside the episode, we cover:How disorganized attachment, numbing, and girl-bossing into avoidance kept Carlina stuck in the same cycles and the moment she decided she couldn't do it anymore.The exact beliefs she rewired inside the program (including “I'm too much” and “I'll always be left behind”) and how that opened the door to healthy, secure partnership.What it feels like to date someone emotionally available, patient, consistent—and how secure love allowed her to soften, receive, and be her authentic self.If Carlina's journey spoke to you and you're feeling that pull… this is your sign. The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications THIS YEAR, and once doors close, they are closed. If you're ready to stop repeating patterns, heal at the root, and finally step into the love and life you deserve, now is the time to apply.

In today's episode, I sat down with my dear friend Morgan Huelsman, you know her on instagram asWeb Girl Morgan, for an honest, vulnerable conversation about healing after toxic relationships, rebuilding self-trust, and opening yourself up to emotionally available, secure love. We dive into what it really takes to become ready for the kind of relationship that meets you with empathy, consistency, and effort and the beautiful (and sometimes uncomfortable) adjustments that come with receiving a healthy partner after years of unhealthy dynamics.Inside the Episode, We Cover:Why “not meeting your person yet” is rarely about luck or timing and how inner readiness and emotional availability set the stage for secure love.What dating someone emotionally available actually feels like, including learning how to receive support, communicate needs, and soften into safety.How to thrive in your single season by building a life you genuinely love now instead of waiting for a relationship to “finally feel happy.”If this conversation sparks something in you, if you're thinking, I want this kind of love, but I don't know how to get there, I want you to know it's absolutely possible for you. This is exactly the work we do inside Empowered.Secure.Loved.✨ Applications for the ESL Program are closing for the year. If your heart is nudging you, trust yourself and apply now. Don't wait. Your secure, healthy relationship is too important to put off.You deserve high self-worth and great relationships and you don't have to figure it out alone.

Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict.At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love.Key Takeaways:Learn to trust your partner's intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don't avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

Today's episode I am joined by my dear friend and returning guest Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. Tracy is a psychologist, relationship expert, and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother and wow, this conversation is one you do not want to miss! We're getting real about what it means to navigate tricky in-law dynamics, how to stay a team with your partner, and what it looks like to show up as your most grounded, secure self (even when family stress is high).Inside the Episode:The three daughter-in-law styles and how they connect to your attachment patternsWhy triangulation creates distance and what to do insteadHow to set loving boundaries and strengthen your partnership during family challengesConnect with Dr. Tracy D: ✨ Website & Book Pre-Order

This episode is short, powerful, and honestly one you'll want to save and come back to. I'm sharing three of my most viral relationship truths, the kind of reminders that land deep and change the way you show up in love.If you've ever found yourself forgiving everyone except yourself, staying too long in relationships that can't grow, or wondering why you keep attracting the same kind of partner… this one's for you.Inside the Episode:Forgive yourself. You did the best you could with the self-worth you had at the time.Stop watering plastic plants. Stop pouring your energy into relationships that can't grow.Heal it at the root. Until you do, you'll keep repeating the same painful patterns.If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting emotionally available love, the kind that feels safe, steady, and real. It's time to do the work inside the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program.Click Here to Apply the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program

What happens when the people who raised you become a source of tension in your marriage? In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, certified emotionally focused therapists Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the emotional complexity of in law conflict resolution.Many couples silently struggle with guilt, frustration, or emotional regression when navigating relationships with parents and in-laws. You might feel caught between the loyalty you feel toward your family of origin and the love you're building with your partner. If you've ever wondered, “Whose side am I supposed to be on?” — this episode is for you.Inside this episode, you'll learn:Why emotional regression happens around our parents—and how to notice itWhat it means to shift your primary alliance from your family to your partnerHow oversharing with parents can unintentionally betray your spouseWhy you should be the “face” of your marriage when setting family boundariesWays to navigate loyalty, conflict, and connection with compassion and clarityWe believe love grows stronger when we face these challenges together—with empathy, intention, and courage.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

What do you share about your partner when they're not around—and do they know you're sharing it?In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore a common but often overlooked issue in relationships: unspoken boundaries around privacy and public disclosure. As emotionally focused couples therapists, they offer insight into how even lighthearted jokes or venting to friends can quietly damage trust and create emotional disconnection.The challenge? Many couples never talk about what's okay to share and what's sacred to keep between them.Key takeaways include:Protecting your relationship through intentional boundariesCreating emotional safety with clear agreementsRepairing ruptures when trust is unintentionally brokenStrengthening your bond by working as a united frontWhether you've been hurt by oversharing or want to avoid future ruptures, this episode will guide you back to connection and clarity.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

This episode is one I have been wanting to bring you for a long time… and I know so many of you have been waiting for it. We are talking all about ADHD, attachment styles, and dopamine.Inside the episode, I'm breaking it down in a way that is easy to understand, while also sharing parts of my own story and what has helped me. You'll leave with clarity, compassion for yourself, and real tools you can begin using today.✨ Inside the episode, you'll learn:How ADHD disrupts dopamine regulation and why that makes relationships feel like a rollercoaster.The connection between ADHD, insecure attachment, and painful cycles of hyper-focus, rapid closeness, withdrawal, and protest behaviors.Three powerful shifts you can make today to calm your nervous system, create stability, and support secure, healthy love.This is such an important topic, and I truly believe it will give you a new lens of understanding for yourself—or someone you care about. Please share this with a friend who needs it.

Join Pastor Kory Kleinsasser as he launches "Secure Love," a six-week series on Psalm 23. Discover how to move from a head knowledge of God's faithfulness to a deep, whole-body trust. Learn practical, soul-training exercises to experience a secure love that offers safety and a home base in Christ.

We are back for Part 2 of my wedding reflections — and this episode is extra vulnerable.

This episode is a special one because I was interviewed on the Girls Gone Wellness Podcast and the questions they asked me were so good that I knew I had to share it with you here.If you've ever wondered how to break free from anxious spirals, stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or move from self-abandonment to secure love, this conversation is for you.Inside this episode, we talk about:The four main attachment styles (and how they actually play out in dating + long-term relationships)Why anxious and avoidant partners feel “magnetized” to each other (and how to break that cycle)The difference between trauma bonding and genuine emotional intimacyPractical tools to self-soothe, stop self-abandonment, and rewire toward secure love✨ If you loved this episode, make sure to share it on Instagram and tag me @drmorgancoaching — I'd love to hear your takeaways.And I want to give a huge shout-out to the incredible hosts of Girls Gone Wellness!

What does it truly mean to heal through love? In this heart-opening episode of Mirror Talk: Soulful Conversations, Tobi sits down with Sasha Quince, a love coach, relationship mentor, and host of the Heal You, Heal Your Relationships podcast. With over 15 years of experience and a personal journey through loss, betrayal, and anxious attachment, Sasha shares how she turned her wounds into wisdom and her pain into purpose.Together, we explore:✨ How childhood experiences shape our adult relationships✨ The courage it takes to face buried wounds through motherhood✨ What it means to meet your inner child with compassion✨ How to regulate your nervous system in moments of overwhelm✨ Why grief can be a teacher and not a barrier to love✨ The law of reflection in relationships—and the mirrors that transform us✨ How to break cycles of sabotage and reclaim emotional powerThis soulful conversation is a reminder that healing is not only possible—it's the very path to experiencing the love we are meant to have.⏱ Episode Chapters00:00 – Introduction to Sasha Quince02:48 – The Power of Validation in Childhood05:44 – Recognizing and Breaking Patterns08:34 – Facing Demons through Shadow Work11:28 – Redefining Love and Self-Acceptance14:17 – Childhood Trauma & Adult Relationships17:26 – Healing Awakens through Motherhood20:16 – Inner Child Healing with Compassion24:41 – The Courage to Break Free from Cycles29:00 – Beyond the Victim Mentality33:05 – The Law of Reflection in Relationships35:31 – The Art of Boundaries in Love44:32 – A Soul Message for Listeners

You are going to love today's episode! I'm joined by one of my incredible team members and dear friend, Dr. Amanda Priest. Amanda is not only a coach inside the Empowered.Secure.Love program—she also started out as one of my clients. Her journey from struggling with anxious attachment to now preparing for her secure marriage is absolutely inspiring.Inside this episode:Amanda's journey from podcast listener → client → coach inside the ESL programThe moment she realized she was the “common denominator” in her relationship patternsHow inner child healing, belief work, and attachment rewiring helped her attract her securely attached partnerWhat it really takes to build a secure relationship and prepare for marriageIf you've ever told yourself “Maybe I'll just be single forever” or felt hopeless about love, this episode will give you so much hope and encouragement.

We're getting extra vulnerable on the pod today. I'm opening up about my current season of life: 60 Days away from saying I-Do to the love of my life! This chapter of my life leading up to marriage has tested me in ways I didn't expect. But through it all, I've never felt more grounded — because I've done the work to become securely attached.In this episode, I'm sharing what it really looks like to walk into marriage after relational trauma, and why becoming securely attached is the foundation that makes everything else possible.Inside the episode, I open up about:Grieving friendships and family relationships (people I always thought would be part of my big day but are no longer in my life) Navigating financial conversations and emotional triggers during wedding planningReleasing shame around my timeline and embracing my body exactly as it isIf you're ready to stop repeating old patterns and finally feel safe in love, I have a special invitation for you. We have just 5 Spots left inside the Empowered.Secure.Loved Relationship Program. This is your opportunity to finally rewire your brain for secure attachment. Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Relationship Program Today to Start Attracting Healthy Love

✨ Start your journey to secure attachment here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/privatepodcast In this episode, I break down the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they show up in our relationships. I walk you through the core wounds and behaviors of each style, and share what it takes to move toward secure attachment. We also talk about the power of emotional regulation, the importance of self-awareness, and how you can rewire your brain to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:How to identify your attachment style and the role it plays in your love lifeThe key shifts required to move from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized to secureWhy emotional regulation and brain rewiring are essential to healing attachment woundsWant to go deeper?

Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security. Listen to learn more about topics like:  Self-Abandonment as the Root Issue Emotional Processing Over Quick Regulation Building Secure Attachment with Self Discerning Between Attachment Triggers and Relationship Red Flags and more! Julies Bio & Links: Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. With over 1.3 million Instagram followers, Julie's relatable advice and real-time couples therapy sessions have made her a trusted voice in relational health. Her book Secure Love, published by Simon & Schuster in 2024, dives deep into attachment theory and is available worldwide.  Secure Love, written by Julie Menanno The Secure Love Podcast Give Me Discounts! Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I'm sharing my top 10 takeaways from Secure Love by Julie Menanno—a powerful book on attachment and breaking negative relationship cycles. We've talked about attachment theory before, but this book made it feel so clear, applicable, and even relieving. Think of this episode as us having coffee while I excitedly overshare my favorite insights, from the "goodness of fit" concept to the 80/20 rule for secure relationships. Plus, I explore how attachment connects to the Enneagram and personal growth. Let me know what you think—text the podcast line at 828-338-9127! Call/Text Your Enneagram Questions into (828) 338 - 9127 Grab a copy of my books at www.thehonestenneagram.com & www.theenneagramletters.com Check out my youtube channel for more behind-the-scenes content www.youtube.com/sarajanecase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode, we continue our three part series on Pope Francis' recent encyclical Dilexit Nos. We reflect on our ache to be loved, how Jesus heals in close proximity to us, and the “science of the caress”. We also talk about how Jesus is a man who comes and finds us wherever we are and longs to open up a new place for us in relationship with Him. Will we allow our hearts to beat again with love? Heather's One Thing - Thai Peanut Chicken Stir Fry  Sister Miriam's One Thing - Abuses in the Religious Life and the Path to Healing by Dom Dysmas de Lassus Michelle's One Thing(s) - Fr. Mark Mary's new podcast: Rosary in a Year and Big Spoon Roasters - Vanilla Caramel Nut Butter   Other Resources Mentioned:  “Dilexit Nos”: A brief guide for busy readers Dilexit Nos audio version   Journal Questions: Do I perceive Jesus' presence in my life as being up close to me, or at a distance? How have I encountered Jesus as the Lover? How do I project my scars onto Jesus? Who in my community or in the Church is hardest for me to love right now? How can I love them better? Where do I have a belief that Jesus is indifferent to me?   Discussion Questions: How have you experienced the ache to be cherished? How can you bring communion where there is polarity and discord? What happens in you when you consider the Sacred Heart of Jesus? When have you blindly trusted in Jesus and His Love and Providence for you? How did He prove Himself trustworthy?   Quotes to Ponder: “The heart of Christ, as the symbol of the deepest and most personal source of his love for us, is the very core of the initial preaching of the Gospel. It stands at the origin of our faith, as the wellspring that refreshes and enlivens our Christian beliefs.” (Pope Francis, “Dilexit Nos”, Paragraph 32)   Scripture for Lectio:  “Take heart, daughter!” (Matthew 9:22) Sponsor - Florecita Design: Florecita Design wants to help you build your domestic church. The Florecita Design Activity Bundle is a set of 12-15 printable activities for young children, delivered each month and based on the Catholic liturgical calendar. Every month, Florecita Design will help you incorporate math, science, and pre-literacy skills with your little kids all within the context of the Catholic Church. This Activity Bundle is a digital subscription created by a speech-language pathologist to provide parents with the tools and language to incorporate the faith easily into every day play for their 2 to 7 year-olds. All parents have to do is print the activities and follow along the instructional booklet for enriching, screen free ways to entertain their kids. Florecita Design just released the Advent and Christmas Activity Bundle, which is a holiday special with TWENTY activities, including puzzles, an Advent prayer banner, St. Nicholas activities, and so much more. To learn more, visit florecitadesign.com.  You can use the code ABIDE10 for 10% off your first three months of the Activity Bundle! You can also follow along on Instagram @florecitadesign for speech-language tips, sales and liturgical living ideas for little kids.  Let's teach our kids the Catholic faith in ways that are simple, tangible and beautiful!   Timestamps: 00:00 - Florecita Design 01:19 - Intro 02:12 - Welcome 02:43 - Actions Reflect Our Heart 04:09 - The Science of Caress 05:37 - The Humanity of Christ 08:26 - Aching to Be Loved 10:11 - The Holy Spirit and Community 14:03 - The Human Heart 17:08 - Vulnerability and Secure Love 20:00 - Our Image of God 23:08 - One Things