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What if, instead of fighting the parts of ourselves we wish would go away, we learned to move toward them with curiosity and compassion? In this episode, we welcome Jenna Riemersma back to the podcast to explore a simpler, practical approach to Internal Family Systems (IFS) through her new book, Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You. Jenna shares how this accessible framework can help us understand what is happening inside of us during moments of activation, respond to ourselves with less shame, and move toward greater healing and connection.Jenna Riemersma is a bestselling author, therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S), and nationally recognized speaker whose work makes Internal Family Systems accessible and applicable to everyday life. She specializes in helping people heal from trauma, shame, relational wounds, and internal conflict through IFS. Her newest book, Move Toward, distills the heart of IFS into three simple steps—Notice, Know, Need—that can be used in real time when difficult emotions or protective parts show up.Key Takeaways from the EpisodeA simple introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)Why Jenna created Move TowardThe three steps: Notice, Know, NeedUsing Move Toward during betrayal triggersResponding to our parts with curiosity instead of shameHow inner healing can change our relationshipsPractical ways to use Move Toward in everyday lifeConnect with Jenna RiemersmaLearn more about Jenna, explore her free resources and guided Move Toward meditations, and find information about her books on her website.Book: Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You Find Move Toward on AmazonYou can also visit MoveToward.com for resources related specifically to the Move Toward approach. Jenna offers free guided experiences for areas including anxiety, depression, betrayal trauma, triggers, and compulsive sexual behavior.Continue Your Healing JourneyVisit Watermark Coaching for resources on betrayal recovery and identity coaching.Afternoon Tea — Join our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register through Watermark Coaching.Instagram: @watermarkcoaching Email: thebrtpodcast@gmail.comThank you for listening to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! If today's conversation encouraged you, we'd be grateful if you subscribed, rated, and reviewed the show. Your support helps us reach more individuals and couples searching for hope, healing, and transformation after betrayal.Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

“Why are we STILL dealing with this?”If you've ever had the same argument with your partner for what feels like the hundredth time, you may have wondered whether all the work you're doing is actually making a difference.We had one of those moments this week.EJ forgot to pay a credit card bill on time. The mistake cost us $15—which doesn't sound like much. But underneath that $15 were years of history around money, trust, responsibility, defensiveness, and emotional safety.Tarah could feel herself slipping into an old story: If I don't take care of everything, things won't get done.EJ could feel himself heading toward defensiveness: I handle so much, and now I'm going to be judged for one mistake.We've had versions of this fight many times before.But this time, something different happened.Within minutes, we were okay. In this episode, we unpack what each of us did differently and why we believe one of the biggest mistakes couples make is measuring progress by whether an old problem ever comes back.We explore:Why recurring triggers don't automatically mean your relationship isn't improvingHow old stories can turn small moments into much bigger conflictsThe difference between accountability and shameHow to take responsibility without becoming defensiveWhy emotional safety is built through repeated experiencesHow familiar conflicts can become opportunities to practice something newWhy getting 10% better may be more powerful than trying to solve the problem forever We also introduce an idea we're developing inside Relationship Renovation:Relationships Change Through RepsHealthy relationships aren't necessarily relationships where familiar problems disappear.They're relationships where two people gradually learn to respond differently when those familiar moments return.Same Trigger → Different Response → Different OutcomeSo instead of asking:“Why are we still having this problem?”Try asking:“Are we getting better at how we handle it?” ❤️ Your Love WorkChoose one recurring pain point in your relationship.Not while you're fighting about it, but during a calm moment, talk together about:How can each of us get 10% better the next time this happens?Because progress doesn't mean you'll never get triggered again.Progress is when those triggers begin to lose their power over what happens next.

Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why do I keep doing the very thing I want to change?”You know the pattern. You may even be frustrated by it. Maybe you've promised yourself you'll respond differently, stop overthinking, speak up more, set better boundaries, or break a habit—yet somehow, you find yourself doing the same thing again.In this first episode of the series, we're talking about why self-awareness is often the first step toward real and lasting change.Sometimes the problem isn't that we aren't trying hard enough. Sometimes we simply haven't yet understood what is happening beneath the surface.In this episode, we'll explore:Why automatic patterns can be so difficult to changeThe difference between noticing your behavior and understanding what's driving itHow self-awareness can help you make different choicesWhy curiosity and compassion are more helpful than shameHow the Enneagram can help you better understand your motivations, reactions, and patternsI'll also share a personal example of how becoming aware of one of my own automatic responses has helped me begin to respond differently.If you're tired of asking, “Why can't I just change this?”, this episode is an invitation to pause and ask a different question:What pattern am I noticing, and what might be happening underneath the surface?Because once we can see the pattern, we can begin to understand it. And as we understand it, we have the opportunity to make different choices.

What if the thing you're craving isn't actually sex?Maybe you want to be held. Maybe you want a real conversation. Maybe you want to feel seen, understood, safe, or connected to somebody again.This week, I'm joined by spiritual intimacy coach and sensual alchemist Inez Powell for a conversation about what intimacy really looks like beyond the bedroom.We talk about why so many of us confuse sex with intimacy, how stress and disconnection affect our relationships, why communicating what we need can feel so damn hard, and the different ways we experience connection that have nothing to do with sex.I also had a realization during this conversation: sometimes when I thought I wanted sex, what I really wanted was intimacy. A hug. Some affection.To be the little spoon and get my head rubbed.And for men especially, why can asking for something that simple feel so difficult?This conversation goes places I wasn't expecting, including men's emotional health, vulnerability, boundaries, kink, communication, and how the way we were raised affects our ability to connect as adults.Maybe the problem isn't that we need more sex.Maybe we need to get better at recognizing and asking for the intimacy we're actually missing.In This EpisodeWhy sex and intimacy aren't the same thingHow emotional, intellectual, physical, and experiential connection show up in relationshipsWhy affection doesn't always have to lead to sexLearning how to ask for the touch and connection you needHow communication can make or break intimacyWhy men aren't always given space to express vulnerabilitySetting boundaries and communicating desires without shameHow childhood messages about masculinity can follow men into adulthoodWhy reconnecting with yourself matters before trying to connect with somebody elseAbout Inez PowellInez Powell is a spiritual intimacy coach, sensual alchemist, yoga instructor, massage therapist, and Reiki practitioner whose work explores intimacy, energy, connection, and personal growth.Connect with Inez on Instagram at @blacklistenyogi.DAMN ChallengeSlow down long enough to check in with yourself.What kind of connection do you actually need right now?Before looking for someone else to fill that need, take some time to reconnect with yourself. Get outside. Touch some grass. Breathe. Rest. Play. Do something that pours back into you.Because sometimes becoming more connected to other people starts with becoming more connected to yourself.

What if the habit helping you cope with stress is now creating even more of it? Dr. Gary Sprouse returns to explain how recognizing that cycle can help you change it without allowing shame or harmful labels to define you.Known as “The Less Stress Doc,” Gary is a retired primary care physician, speaker, and author of Highway to Your Happy Place: A Roadmap to Less Stress. In this conversation, he introduces his concept of “stress-reducer loops,” recurring patterns that can involve alcohol, tobacco, social media, work, shopping, exercise, self-sacrifice, or almost anything used to escape stress.You will learn:How an ordinary coping behavior can become a stress-reducer loopWhy caring people are especially vulnerable to burnoutHow replacing “I have to” with “I choose to” can restore controlWhy setbacks should become learning experiences instead of sources of shameHow gratitude, connection, hope, and purpose create an accessible happy placeGary also shares plans for Loop Breakers, his hybrid educational program designed to help people understand their patterns, reduce stress, and build healthier responses.Learn more about Gary at https://thelessstressdoc.com/ or contact him at lesstressdoc@gmail.com.This episode is sponsored by Tar Heel Construction Group. Visit https://tarheelconstructiongroup.com/ or call 410-638-7021.Subscribe, leave a review, share this episode, and join the conversation.Send us Fan MailCelebrate the Magic of Words in Bel Air, Maryland!https://bookfairatbelair.org/Tar Heel Construction GroupHarford County Living Stamp of Approval for Roofing, Siding and Exterior Services Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showRate & Review on Apple Podcasts Follow the Conversations with Rich Bennett podcast on Social Media:Facebook – Conversations with Rich Bennett Facebook Group (Join the conversation) – Conversations with Rich Bennett podcast group | FacebookTwitter – Conversations with Rich Bennett Instagram – @conversationswithrichbennettTikTok – CWRB (@conversationsrichbennett) | TikTokSponsors, Affiliates, and ways we pay the bills:Hosted on BuzzsproutSquadCastSubscribe by Email

Have you ever asked God for forgiveness… but still found yourself carrying guilt, shame, or regret?Maybe you believe in God, but deep down you feel like you've fallen too far, made too many mistakes, or somehow need to become “better” before you can truly come close to Him.In this episode, we're diving into Psalm 130:3:"If you, Lord, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand?"Together, we'll explore what this verse reveals about God's heart, His forgiveness, and the freedom that comes when we stop living under the weight of our past.We'll talk about:Why many believers know they're forgiven but still struggle to feel freeThe difference between conviction from God and condemnation from shameHow renewing your mind with God's truth changes the way you see yourselfWhy God doesn't want you hiding from Him — He wants relationship with youHow to move from striving for approval into resting in the love of your FatherForgiveness is not just about having your mistakes erased.Through Jesus, forgiveness is an invitation back into relationship — to know God as your loving Father and walk forward with peace, confidence, and a renewed mind.If you've been feeling distant from God, weighed down by your past, or longing to experience His love in a deeper way, this episode is for you.Subscribe and stay connected because I'll be sharing more teachings, reflections, and practical steps from my upcoming free workbook designed to help you renew your mind, strengthen your faith, and grow closer to God.You are not defined by your past.You are invited into freedom.Free Jesus Walks Community

Why do some regrets stay with us for years while others seem to fade? Why do guilt and shame continue to shape the way we see ourselves long after the moment has passed?In this episode, I explore why survival often changes us, how the strategies that once protected us can become our identity, and what it actually takes to make peace with our past.Freedom doesn't come from denying what happened, excusing ourselves, or pretending we're over it. It comes from facing reality honestly while embracing our humanity.Together, we'll explore the difference between guilt and shame, why they're often confused, and how learning to separate our actions from our identity creates space for responsibility, compassion, forgiveness, and lasting freedom.If you've ever wondered whether your worst moments define you—or if you're carrying guilt or shame you can't seem to put down—this episode offers a practical way to begin making peace with your past.In this episode:The difference between guilt and shameHealthy shame versus toxic shameHow childhood survival strategies become lifelong habitsWhy your coping mechanisms are not your identityHow to make peace with your past without denying itWhy facing reality and embracing our humanity leads to freedomInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessathetherapist/Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theworkofbeinghuman/Send us an email: admin@vanessabentley.co

I Knew Better. I Still Reacted.In this episode of Lift the Shame: The Podcast, Crystal explores one of the most tender places in motherhood and eating disorder recovery: the moment when you know better, care deeply, want to break cycles — and still react.Maybe your child asks for more food, refuses dinner, eats dessert first, says they are still hungry, or makes a body comment. Before you even have time to think, something in you tightens. Your fear gets loud. Your tone changes. And afterward, shame says, “You should know better.”But being triggered does not mean you are failing. It means something tender got activated.This episode gently reframes feeding triggers, not as proof that you are broken or harming your child, but as invitations to notice what old stories, body memories, and protective parts may be entering the room with you.In this episode, we explore:Why your child's eating can feel so activating in recoveryThe hidden shame of knowing better but still reactingHow a child's appetite, preferences, or body comments can touch old woundsWhy cycle-breaking does not mean you never get triggeredThe difference between responsibility and shameHow repair helps restore safety after a hard food or body momentA gentle three-question pause practice for feeding triggersReflection question:When my child's eating activates something in me, what did this moment touch?Gentle practice:The next time your child's eating triggers fear, try asking:What am I noticing in my body?What story is my fear telling me?What does my child actually need from me in this moment?Gentle reminder:Sometimes the moment itself is small. But what it touches is not small.Being triggered does not mean you are failing. It means something tender needs care.Join Lift the ShameIf this conversation named something you've been carrying quietly, I'd love to invite you to Lift the Shame, my free monthly support group for mothers and moms-to-be in eating disorder recovery.It is a gentle space to be with other mothers who understand this overlap — motherhood, recovery, food, body image, feeding triggers, and the fear of passing it on.You don't have to carry this alone. Get full access to Lift The Shame: The Column at crystalkarges.substack.com/subscribe

Send us Fan MailMost people don't need more nutrition information.They already know many of the basics.They know protein matters.They know vegetables are good.They know extreme diets don't work long term.They know eating at night is often not really about hunger.But knowing what to do is not the same as doing it in real life.In this episode, I'm joined by Nicholas Kelly, a registered dietitian, public speaker, TEDx speaker, patient advocate, and someone who has lived with cystic fibrosis since he was three months old.Nicholas brings a unique perspective because he understands nutrition from both sides: as a clinician and as a patient. He knows what it means to apply health advice in real life, with real challenges.We talk about:Why nutrition advice often fails in real lifeWhy people try to change too much too fastHow to make nutrition habits more practical and sustainableWhy behavior matters more than just having more informationHow to reduce all-or-nothing thinking around foodWhy emotional eating starts with awareness, not shameHow to make meals easier when life is busyWhy breakfast, water, fruit, and simple meal structure can make a big differenceWhy carbs are not the enemyHow to stay patient when progress feels slowThis episode is for you if you've ever said:“I know what to do, but I still can't seem to do it.”Because maybe you don't need a stricter plan.Maybe you need a more realistic one.Learn more about Nicholas at nicholaskellyrd.com or find him on social media at @NicholasKellyRD.If you want help building a training and nutrition routine that fits your real life, check my coaching options here:personaltrainerturo.itTry The Consistency ResetMy new personalized coaching app for women 35–55 who are tired of starting over with diets, workouts, and healthy habits.Get simple daily actions, realistic workouts, practical nutrition habits, and Reset Mode to help you keep going when life gets busy.Take the quiz and build your personalized plan here: studio.com/turo/consistency-reset

What if you're not healing wrong?After betrayal, many people compare their recovery journey to others and wonder if they're making the right decisions. Whether it's disclosure, separation, therapy, support groups, or boundaries, it's easy to get caught in "should" thinking.In this episode, Alana discusses why healing isn't one-size-fits-all and how learning to trust your own intuition can become one of the most important parts of recovery.You'll learn:Why "should" often signals shameHow comparison sabotages healingThe difference between guidance and personal truthWhy you don't need permission to trust yourselfHow to strengthen self-trust after betrayal traumaChapters01:10 The Shame Behind Should04:53 You're the Expert on You10:48 Choosing Your Own Path13:38 Building Self-Trust18:57 Takeaways on ShouldsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

What if bankruptcy isn't a financial failure — but the first step toward freedom after divorce?Debt can quietly fuel fear, shame, and bad decisions during divorce, leaving many women feeling trapped and overwhelmed. In this powerful conversation, bankruptcy attorney Adrienne Hines — known online as The Ladylike Lawyer — breaks down the myths surrounding bankruptcy, explains why timing matters when divorce and debt collide, and shares how women can reclaim control of their financial future with dignity and clarity.In this episode, you'll learn:Why filing bankruptcy before divorce can save money, reduce conflict, and simplify the processThe biggest myths about bankruptcy that keep women stuck in fear and shameHow debt impacts divorce settlements, credit, and long-term financial freedomListen now to learn how understanding your financial options can help you move through divorce with confidence, clarity, and a stronger foundation for your future.Adrienne Hines's Socials:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theladylikelawyer/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theladylikelawyerYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighHeelsHayBalesWebsite: https://www.theladylikelawyer.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adrienne-hines-509b0067Women Winning Divorce is supported by Florida Women's Law Group.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not an advertisement for legal services. The information provided on this podcast is not intended to be legal advice. You should not rely on what you hear on this podcast as legal advice. If you have a legal issue, please contact a lawyer. The views and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely those of the individuals and do not represent the views or opinions of the firms or organizations with which they are affiliated or the views or opinions of this podcast's advertisers. This podcast is available for private, non-commercial use only. Any editing, reproduction, or redistribution of this podcast for commercial use or monetary gain without the expressed, written consent of the podcast's creator is prohibited.Thank you for listening, please leave us a review and share the podcast with your friends and colleagues. Send your questions, comments, and feedback to marketing@4womenlaw.com.

One of the hardest things athletes can experience is watching a dream fall apart. In this episode of the Perform Happy Podcast, I sit down with Alexis Crockett to talk about mental blocks, burnout, body image, and how setbacks can lead to an even better path forward.Alexis was one of the most talented gymnasts of her generation. She made elite at just 10 years old, represented the United States internationally, and became the first gymnast to compete a double twisting double pike. From the outside, it looked like her Olympic future was guaranteed.But behind the success was a young athlete carrying enormous pressure.We talk about how mental blocks can appear suddenly, even for athletes performing at the highest level. Alexis shares how burnout, overtraining, and years of pressure eventually caught up with her, leading to a mental block that completely changed the course of her gymnastics career.What stood out to me most was her honesty about the shame and frustration she carried for years. So many athletes believe mental blocks mean they are weak or not trying hard enough, but Alexis explains why that simply is not true. Often, the brain is trying to protect the athlete from emotional or physical pain, even when the athlete desperately wants to keep going.We also discuss body image in gymnastics, the unhealthy messages many athletes grew up hearing, and how Alexis is approaching her own daughter's gymnastics journey differently. Instead of rushing success, she wants her daughter to enjoy being a kid first.In this episode you will hearWhy mental blocks can happen to any athleteHow burnout and pressure affect performanceWhy body image struggles are so common in gymnasticsHow Alexis rebuilt confidence after setbacksWhy athletes need support, not shameHow parents and coaches can create healthier environmentsThis conversation is a powerful reminder that sometimes the dream falling apart leads you toward the life you were actually meant to build.Learn exactly what to say and do to guide your athlete through a mental block with my new book "Parenting Through Mental Blocks" Order your copy today: https://a.co/d/g990BurFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/complete_performance/Join my FaceBook page: https://www.facebook.com/completeperformancecoaching/Check out my website: https://completeperformancecoaching.com/Write to me! Email: rebecca@completeperformancecoaching.comReady to help your athlete overcome fears and mental blocks while gaining unstoppable confidence? Discover the transformative power of PerformHappy now. If your athlete is struggling or feeling left behind, it's time for a change. Are you ready? For more info and to sign up: PerformHappy.com

You've apologized.You've repented.They've forgiven you.So why are you still punishing yourself?In this episode, we explore:Why we get stuck in cycles of guilt and ruminationThe difference between healing guilt and destructive shameHow the adversary uses the past to keep us stuckWhy your power is only in the present momentWhat it actually looks like to receive Christ's graceHow to finally let go of the “dark closet” of past mistakesThis episode might change the way you see your past—and your worth—forever.Apply for the support group at ⁠shireebest.com⁠ Send the message "interested".Link to episode: God's Guilt vs. Satan's GuiltJoin the⁠ "Just Love Them" Facebook group⁠Email Shiree at imlivinginjoy@gmail.com

What does it mean to be human before God? In this episode of The UpWords Podcast, host Dan Johnson sits down with pastor and author Reed Dent, whose new book The Gospel of Being Human: How Asking Better Questions of the Bible Reveals Who We Are (co-authored with Marty Solomon) challenges one of the most deeply held assumptions in Christian culture: that being human is a problem to overcome. Drawing on Scripture and theology — from Genesis to Jonah to the death of Moses — Reed invites us to reconsider the story we've been told. Rather than seeing our humanity as something to escape, he makes a compelling case that it's the very point of the gospel. God doesn't want to replace your humanity. He wants to partner with it.This is a rich and honest conversation about identity and what it looks like to live as a human being made in the image of God.WHAT YOU WILL LEARNWhy the gospel is good news before its bad news — and how that changes everythingHow framing humanity as fundamentally broken shapes the way we read Scripture, pray, and relate to GodWhat the story of Jonah reveals about mercy, anger, and the deeper questions the Bible is really askingHow Genesis 2 and the story of Eve reframe our understanding of sin, guilt, and complexityWhy the death of Moses challenges us to reconsider what our aim as human beings really isPractical guidance for walking someone through an identity crisis — rooted in belovedness, not shameHow a richer biblical view of humanity offers a way forward for those disillusioned with the churchWhat Psalm 139 teaches us about holding anger, brokenness, and trust together as one human experienceGUEST BIOReed Dent — Pastor, Author, and Campus MinisterReed Dent is a pastor, campus minister, and co-author of The Gospel of Being Human alongside Marty Solomon (host of the BEMA Discipleship podcast). Reed has spent years working with college students — including at the University of Wisconsin-Madison — walking with 18-to-23-year-olds through questions of faith, identity, and what it means to follow Jesus in the real world. His writing and ministry are shaped by a conviction that Scripture, read on its own terms, consistently affirms the dignity and goodness of human beings made in the image of God.RESOURCES & LINKSThe Gospel of Being Human by Reed Dent & Marty Solomon (NavPress, April 2026): navpress.comAsking Better Questions of the Bible by Marty Solomon (companion book referenced in this episode)BEMA Discipleship Podcast (Marty Solomon): bema.tv Send us Fan MailCONNECT WITH USSubscribe to The UpWords Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts and visit slbf.org/studio to learn more about our work at the intersection of faith, the academy, and the marketplace.This episode was created by the SLBF STUDIO at Upper House.Produced by Daniel Johnson and Dave ConourEdited by Dave Conour

Contact James: wherepurposeisfound@gmail.com or call himdirectly at 651-272-6148Recovery literature (quit-lit) Recommendation: Ephesians6:10-18Best Advice: "Always remember to put God first in yourlife."Songs that symbolize recovery: Resurrecting | Official Lyric Video | Elevation Worship  - https://youtu.be/aHGFNUlEZ8M?si=b1EXavC7jSMzggVv"Stand Up" by Nicky Gracious - https://youtu.be/fZfeciRvxZ8?si=S6mLEqPJDLZipZzeResources: Against the Odds Recovery and Reentry - https://atoministries.org/Where Purpose Is Found - https://wherepurposeisfound.com/Minnesota Hope Dealerz Organization - https://www.minnesotahopedealerz.org/ In this episode, James Cowan Jr. shares his powerful journeyfrom childhood trauma, addiction, and incarceration to founding a nonprofitdedicated to outreach, recovery, and faith-based healing. His story underscoresthe importance of community, spiritual resilience, and persistence in recovery.We discuss:The impact of early childhood abuse and how faith helped in healingThe role of brothers and sisters in recovery and the significance of having a support networkStarting and growing a nonprofit focused on street outreach, mental health, and homelessnessPractical steps in maintaining recovery, including prayer, service, and step workThe importance of forgiveness, humility, and community in overcoming shameHow faith and Jesus's love are central to lasting changeManaging relapse and turning setbacks into opportunities for growthThe power of testimonies and shared stories to save livesStrategies for walking alongside those still strugglingPractical advice for those feeling lost or overwhelmed in recovery Don't forget to check out “The Way Out Playlist” availableonly on Spotify. Curated by all our wonderful guests on the podcast! https://open.spotify.com?episode/07lvzwUq1L6VQGnZuH6OLz?si=3eyd3PxVRWCKz4pTurLcmA (c) 2015 - 2026 The Way Out Podcast | All Rights Reserved.Theme Music: “all clear” (⁠⁠⁠https://ketsa.uk/browse-music/)byKetsa (https://ketsa.uk⁠⁠⁠) licensed under CCBY-NC-ND4.0(https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd)

The Grief No One Talks About in Trauma-Informed ParentingSometimes the hardest part of parenting isn't your child's behavior, it's the grief that rises up inside you. The grief of not getting what you needed. The grief of still healing while you're trying to parent intentionally. In this episode, we talk about the quiet, complicated grief that can come with parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system when you have your own history of trauma.In this episode, you'll learn:The core griefs that often emerge when you're parenting with your own trauma historyWhy noticing intergenerational patterns can stir shameHow to be with your grief using self-compassion and a gentle “touch in, touch out” approachResources mentioned in this podcast:Podcast - Start Here!When Parenting Triggers Your Own Trauma: Part 1 of 6 {Ep 250}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grieftraumahistoryThe Club- you never wanted to join, but are SO glad when you do. We're welcoming new members and would LOVE to have you!RobynGobbel.com/TheClub for all the details and to join!::: :::Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubSign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

In this sermon from Genesis 2:25–3:13, we explore the surprising first effect of sin in the Bible: shame.Before violence.Before injustice.Before death.There was hiding.Why does sin immediately lead Adam and Eve to cover themselves? Why do we still hide today? And why is it so hard to even talk about sin?This message unpacks:The difference between sin and sinningThe difference between guilt and shameHow shame traps us in cycles of isolationHow confession breaks the power of shameWhy the cross of Jesus is the only place shame truly diesDrawing from voices like Brené Brown, Curt Thompson, Karl Barth, and Dietrich Bonhoeffer, this sermon invites us out of hiding and into healing community.If you've ever felt exposed, unworthy, or afraid of being truly known—this message is for you.There is no shame at the foot of the cross. Only forgiveness. Only grace. Only freedom.

Bankrupt the Grave – Week 2Description:In Mark 1, we meet a man whose life has been defined by shame. Isolated. Rejected. Forced to announce his brokenness everywhere he goes. But when he risks everything to get close to Jesus, one touch changes everything.This message isn't just about physical healing—it's about what Jesus does with shame.In Week 2 of Bankrupt the Grave, we discover that Jesus doesn't create distance from broken people—He closes it. He touches what others avoid, restores what shame has stolen, and brings dignity back to lives marked by rejection.In this message, you'll learn:Why leprosy was about more than sickness—it was about shameHow desperation can become a doorway to healingWhy we hide what others once had to shoutHow Jesus confronts shame by closing the distanceWhy healing always leads to restoration and belongingIf you've been hiding, managing, or masking your pain—this message is an invitation to get close.Because where Jesus is, healing happens.

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Welcome to the Mothers Who Know Podcast, hosted by Karen Broadhead—a faith-based resource for mothers who want to strengthen their divine identity, build spiritual resilience, and support their children through real-life struggles like anxiety, depression, self-harm, pornography, and other difficult behaviors.Important note: This podcast and its programs are not officially affiliated with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. They are created by people who strive to live its teachings and apply gospel-centered principles to everyday parenting and family life.In this episode, Karen and the Mom Power group share practical, Spirit-led tools for becoming an “atmosphere angel” in your home—especially when emotions are high, relationships are tense, or you feel discouraged.You'll hear:A simple, powerful family practice: “10 Things We Love About You” (how one mom flipped the emotional atmosphere at the dinner table and created lasting encouragement)Why recording and re-reading truthful affirmations can strengthen identity and reduce shameHow to stay emotionally regulated so you can feel the Spirit and respond with clarityA young mother's heartfelt declaration: fighting for Christ, fighting freedom from emotional bondage, and learning to identify lies in real timeHow “mama's emotional atmosphere” impacts the whole home—and how to invite Christ into the messThis episode is for any mom who wants more peace, more light, and more spiritual power in daily family life—without pretending things are perfect.Learn more or join support and training at motherswhoknow.org.

If you're listening to this in January (or any other time of the year) and feeling heavy, flat, emotional, or quietly overwhelmed — this episode is for you.January 1st is supposed to feel hopeful. Fresh. Motivating.But for so many women, it actually brings pressure, comparison, and a deep sense of “I should be feeling better than I am.”In this episode, I'm unpacking why January 1st can feel so dysregulating — and why New Year's resolutions often make things worse, not better.This isn't about mindset failure or lack of discipline.It's about conditioning, shame-based change, and a nervous system that's been trained to scan for what's missing.We'll talk about:Why New Year's resolutions are often fueled by shameHow performative change keeps you stuck in all-or-nothing cyclesWhy willpower always fails (and what actually works instead)The real reason behaviors like overeating, drinking, people-pleasing, or overworking don't change through controlA gentler, more effective way to approach the new year without pressureHow self-concept and emotional safety create sustainable changePowerful reframes you can return to all year longInstead of asking “Who do I need to become this year?”I invite you to explore questions like:What would make me feel a little safer this year?What do I want more of emotionally, energetically, and relationally?What helps me come back to myself?You don't need a big vision.You don't need a perfect plan.And you don't need to fix yourself.You just need to be willing to stay with yourself while this year unfolds.Mentioned in This EpisodeEpisode 293: You Are Not Who You Think You Are — How to Change Your Self-ConceptJoin the membership for a free week at

In this episode, we talk to Mordy Gottlieb, a men's therapist whose work - and life - has been shaped by one quiet, corrosive belief: “Whatever I do, it's never enough.”Mordy shares how perfection became his survival strategy as a child and how striving without self-compassion led to years of numbing, self-criticism, and chasing relief through behaviours that slowly escalated rather than resolved the pain.What makes this conversation different is its honesty about how these patterns actually form, starting with food, moving into pornography and other forms of escape, and eventually colliding with midlife reality when effort stops working, and avoidance stops providing relief.Rather than framing men's behaviours as addictions or failures, Mordy explains them as attempts to regulate unbearable internal pressure and why insight alone rarely changes anything. The real shift, he argues, comes through experience, practice, and safe connection, especially with other men.This episode also challenges some uncomfortable truths: why being “strong” often means being emotionally absent, why vulnerability isn't just talking, and why many men feel unseen even inside long-term relationships they've spent years sustaining.In this episode, you'll hear about:How the belief “I'm never enough” gets wired into boys early onWhy perfectionism feels productive but leads to exhaustion and shameHow numbing behaviours escalate quietly over timeWhy midlife is often the moment men can't outrun themselves anymoreThe limits of talk therapy and why knowing why isn't the same as changingHow experiential therapy helps men rehearse real-world changeWhy men often heal faster in groups than one-to-oneWhat vulnerability actually looks like in daily life (including learning to say no)Small, realistic ways to introduce play, presence, and self-permission back into lifeWhy this episode matters: Because if you've ever felt that no matter how much you give  - at work, at home, in relationships - it's still not enough, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar. Mordy doesn't offer fixes or slogans. He offers language for something many men have lived with for decades without naming.To find out more Mordy, visit his website: www.thegamechangergroup.com.  

Is your partner's past still taking up space in your present-day relationship? You're not alone—and you're not crazy. Whether it's memories of the ex, old traditions, or constant reminders of “how things used to be,” retroactive jealousy and emotional triggers are real in stepmom life.In this episode, we're unpacking the emotional weight of feeling like you're competing with the past—and how to move forward with confidence. We'll talk about:Why retroactive jealousy is more common than you thinkHow your husband's past relationship can affect your presentThe real reason these feelings sting so deeplyTangible tools to process your emotions without shameHow to create new memories and reclaim your space in the blended familyThis episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and empowered to take back your role—not as a replacement, but as a renewal.Support the showWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (pre-week Dec 1st, kickoff Dec 8th!) The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin us at the How To Manifest Speaking Tour - LA 12/6 (Early Bird Discount available) Join our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Join the Pathway now - NEW End of Year Challenge launching Dec 1st! Big End of Year SALE - 30% off New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

In this episode:Calorie myth debunkWhy cardio isn't your transformationThe truth about gut healthAlcohol without shameHow the industry confuses high-achieving womenWhat sustainable transformation ACTUALLY requiresHow to break out of the noise and into alignment

Guilt is today's topic as Gina answers a listener's question. Many thanks to Jonas and the other listeners who sent in questions about guilt and shame. In this episode, we coverHow the anxious mind is prone to guiltTeasing out guilt vs shameHow to move on from the eventListen in and give your anxious mind a peaceful path out of your guilt!Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!Quote:I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness. -Abraham MaslowChapters0:26 Introduction to Guilt and Anxiety3:04 Understanding Guilt in Anxiety8:42 Differentiating Guilt from Shame15:15 Moving Forward with Self-Kindness17:48 Conclusion and Reflection on Lessons LearnedSummaryIn this episode, I dive deep into the topic of guilt, spurred by a heartfelt question from a listener named Jonas from Sweden. Jonas shares a painful experience where he let his friends down unintentionally, and now grapples with the guilt of that situation. I address his concerns and, in doing so, highlight that feeling guilt is a common human experience, especially for those dealing with anxiety. The essence of our discussion revolves around understanding guilt, its relationship with our identity, and how it can manifest into feelings of shame and panic.First, I take a moment to acknowledge Jonas' feelings of guilt, emphasizing that second-guessing our actions is a natural part of the human experience. I share insights on how guilt serves as an important emotional signal, reminding us when our actions don't align with our current values and self-conception. This guilt, while uncomfortable, can encourage reflection and growth if we allow ourselves to process these feelings rather than suppress them.As we explore the various dimensions of guilt, I emphasize the distinction between guilt and shame. Guilt emerges from recognizing our actions as misaligned with our values, while shame can lead to a pervasive feelings of being a flawed person. I encourage listeners to engage with their guilt constructively—seeing it not just as a burden but as a potential learning experience. We discuss how guilt can motivate us to make amends and guide us toward better decisions in the future, fostering personal growth in the process.#anxiety #mentalhealth #guilt #shame #panicattacks #selflove #healing #podcast #mindfulness #selfgrowth #forgiveness #mentalwellness #innerpeace #anxietyrelief #personalgrowth #overcominganxiety #selfcompassion #lettinggo #mentalhealthmatters #emotionalhealth #anxietyrecovery #guiltfree #mentalhealthawareness #regret #pastisthepast #rumination #anxietysupport #mindsetshift #therapytips #cptsd (often related to shame) #worry #loveyourself #subconsciousmind #anxietywarrior #mentalclarity #stopoverthinking #selfacceptance #lifecoach #wellnessjourney #humanexperience #growthmindset #anxietyhelp #GinaRyan #ACP #AnxietyCoachesPodcastSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode, I reveal the untold story behind my TEDx Talk — how my message on pleasure, power, and body intelligence was denied, censored, and hidden from the world. From investing everything I had to standing firm in the face of rejection, this is the raw, unfiltered truth of what it means to stay devoted to your mission when the world tells you to tone it down.We talk about the politics of women's voices, the price of authenticity, and the audacity it takes to hold your power even when it shakes the system.This is my story about liberation, courage, and the revolution of refusing to self-abandon.In this episode:What really happened behind the scenes of the TEDx talkThe power of standing firm in your truth — even when it's uncomfortableHealing the wounds of censorship and shameHow to hold your visibility and not shrink your voiceWhy pleasure and authenticity are acts of rebellionResources & Ways to SupportWatch the talk on YouTube (hidden TED file) Connect with Josefina:Instagram:⁠ ⁠@Josefinabashout⁠⁠ Website:⁠⁠ josefinabashout.com

Send JKO a Text MessageShame is one of life's most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeThe effect of shameHow shame attacks our identity and silences our potentialHow to counter shame's liesThe kryptonite that weakens shameKey Scriptures: Genesis 3, Isaiah 54:4, Romans 10:11ReferencesWhy Gratitude Works in Life's Hardest SeasonsSupport the show If Messy Can't Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

In this deeply personal and insight-packed solo episode, Kristen shares a powerful reflection on what she calls “dumpster decisions”—those all-or-nothing moves we make when we're on the brink of burnout or buried in overwhelm. Drawing from her own journey of business pivots, personal healing, and rediscovery, Kristen opens up about how she threw away more than she needed to, only to later return and reclaim what still sparked joy.She walks listeners through the difference between rage cleaning your life and intentionally evaluating what still serves your evolving self. Along the way, she delivers relatable stories, thoughtful metaphors (hello, Marie Kondo and Harry Potter's phoenix!), and a massive announcement that longtime listeners will love.Spoiler alert: She's officially back in the weekly coaching chair—and you're invited.What You'll Hear in This Episode:What “dumpster decisions” are and why we make them during burnoutHow Kristen's business and personal life were shaped by burnout recoveryThe importance of honoring your evolution without shameHow your nervous system holds the key to better habits, performance, and joyThe birth of Sondera, Kristen's newest company helping people regulate, realign, and riseA sneak peek into the tools, coaching, and transformation waiting inside her new membershipThe full-circle moment: Kristen's return to live weekly coaching (and how you can join!)Key Takeaways:Burnout doesn't always mean burning everything down.Regulating your nervous system is the missing link between knowing what to do and actually doing it.Sometimes, the things you walked away from still belong with you—you just needed space to see it.Sustainable success is rooted in self-awareness, alignment, and nervous system integration.Special Announcement

Kelly shares what most business coaches and mentors aren't telling you. Sometimes the key to growth and scaling isn't what you think. Tune in for a clear and direct discussion into the hidden element most entrepreneurs and business owners overlook. Click follow or subscribe to receive new episodes as they're released. Schedule your final Soul Reading with Kelly Here before they come to a close on December 21st, 2025. Inside this episode, you'll discover:Honoring the decay and death process in your business without shameHow clinging to the old ways drains youCreating fertile soil for new growth and scalingA process for honoring what wants to changeFinding the hidden treasures in youReflections for this phase of your life and businessGuidance for releasing what's no longer workingEmbracing what's falling a part so the door to something more aligned can openKelly Rich (@TheKellyRich) is a seeress, educator, writer, and designer of soul-centered spaces. She guides women in business to step into their power through the rhythms of nature, cycles of the body, and feminine wisdom. She helps women create in ways that are aligned with their essence, blending soulful strategy with intuitive guidance to create, and grow with purpose. Work with Kelly or explore what's new at www.thekellyrich.com

What if the key to building a sustainable business with chronic illness isn't working harder, but setting better boundaries? In this episode, Brenda Snow, an Amazon Best Selling Author, shares how she built a 420-person company over 30 years while managing MS (Multiple Sclerosis) - without sacrificing her health or burning out.If you're living with chronic illness and running a business, you know the struggle:You feel like you need to be extraordinary just to keep up. You're constantly starting over after flare-ups. You can't keep up with the pace everyone else says you should be moving at. And you're terrified that setting boundaries will mean losing clients, revenue, or credibility.In this episode, you'll discover:Why you don't need to be extraordinary to succeed in business with chronic illness—and what to do insteadThe predictable emotional phases you'll cycle through (grief, anger, acceptance) and how to navigate them without shameHow to set health-first boundaries that protect your energy without losing clients or revenueThe "hire to your weaknesses" strategy that allowed Brenda to scale to 420 employees while managing MSWhy transparency about your health builds trust with your team instead of undermining itHow to give yourself more time than you think you need (and why this is the secret to sustainability)The power of storytelling as a healing tool and how sharing your chronic illness journey helps you AND your audienceBuilding a sustainable business with chronic illness doesn't require you to be superhuman. It requires health-first boundaries, strategic delegation, and the permission to work at a pace that honors your body. Brenda's 30-year journey proves that long-term success is possible when you stop trying to keep up and start building a business that works WITH your chronic illness, not against it.

Continuing the riveting conversation from Part 1, Dr. Abbie Maroño and Lisa Bilyeu take us deeper into the world of manipulation, persuasion, and psychological self-defense. Dr. Abbie unpacks how master manipulators use the very same body language and behavioral cues of trustworthy people to draw women in… and how our brains often misinterpret these signals.  The episode explores the red flags and patterns that reveal underlying bad intentions or abusive relationships, including shame tactics and psychological manipulation. Dr. Abbie gives concrete advice on decoding consistency of character over time and across different contexts, building healthy boundaries, and regaining agency after manipulation. This segment is essential for anyone determined to avoid the traps of toxic relationships and set themselves up for healthy, empowered love. SHOWNOTES The power of confirmation bias in relationshipsHow to pause, regulate emotions, and avoid snap decisions when pressuredContext-dependent behaviors vs. core character traits; observing consistencyThree tactics of psychological manipulation: suppress critical thoughts, hijack reward systems, and use shameHow to regulate your emotional state before dates and important eventsWhy aggressive questioning backfires—and what to do insteadManipulators and abusers: the slow breakdown of self-esteem and learned helplessnessReal-life examples of abusive and manipulative behaviorThe importance of supportive friends and outside perspective Check out our sponsors: SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Continuing the riveting conversation from Part 1, Dr. Abbie Maroño and Lisa Bilyeu take us deeper into the world of manipulation, persuasion, and psychological self-defense. Dr. Abbie unpacks how master manipulators use the very same body language and behavioral cues of trustworthy people to draw women in… and how our brains often misinterpret these signals.  The episode explores the red flags and patterns that reveal underlying bad intentions or abusive relationships, including shame tactics and psychological manipulation. Dr. Abbie gives concrete advice on decoding consistency of character over time and across different contexts, building healthy boundaries, and regaining agency after manipulation. This segment is essential for anyone determined to avoid the traps of toxic relationships and set themselves up for healthy, empowered love. SHOWNOTES The power of confirmation bias in relationshipsHow to pause, regulate emotions, and avoid snap decisions when pressuredContext-dependent behaviors vs. core character traits; observing consistencyThree tactics of psychological manipulation: suppress critical thoughts, hijack reward systems, and use shameHow to regulate your emotional state before dates and important eventsWhy aggressive questioning backfires—and what to do insteadManipulators and abusers: the slow breakdown of self-esteem and learned helplessnessReal-life examples of abusive and manipulative behaviorThe importance of supportive friends and outside perspective Check out our sponsors: SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 90Why do Christian women keep battling the same sins, even when we truly want to change? In this episode, we expose the spiritual warfare behind habitual sin and how the enemy pushes back the moment we walk in obedience.The Holy Spirit keeps bringing conviction through sermons, songs, and conversations because God is forming us. But as we obey, the enemy fights harder, hoping to derail us. That's why prayer and the armor of God aren't optional; they're essential.We'll talk about:Why recurring sin is part of spiritual warfare, not just weaknessWhy accountability matters (God sent disciples out two by two for a reason!)Seeing conviction as God's mercy, not shameHow sanctification makes us stronger each time we fightThe battle between flesh and Spirit is real, but God equips us to overcome. If you're tired of the cycle, remember: you're not alone, and victory is possible through Christ.

Starting over after divorce isn't just about surviving — it's about thriving. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Olivia Howell, co-founder of the Fresh Starts Registry, to talk about rebuilding after divorce, emotional healing, and creating a fresh start you actually love.We cover what it takes to move forward after leaving, how to navigate co-parenting with confidence, and why downsizing your home can be the smartest decision you make. Olivia shares her own story of starting over as a single mom, offering actionable tips for regaining confidence, overcoming shame, and creating a home that feels safe and supportive — even on a budget.

Text Me!Episode 236:  13 Lessons in 13 Years of Sobriety: Hard Truths, Healing, and Hope for Your Alcohol-Free Journey In episode 236 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen talks about the 13 years of living alcohol-free. She has learned some powerful lessons about what it takes to get sober, stay sober, and thrive in your sober life.Courtney is sharing her 13 biggest takeaways from her journey, truths she wishes she had known when she was starting out. Whether you're sober curious, in your first year, or navigating the tricky space between year one and year two, these lessons will give you hope, direction, and practical strategies to keep moving forward.What you will learn in this episode:Why you don't need to hit “rock bottom” to change your lifeThe messy truth about slips and how to recover from them without shameHow to rebuild trust with yourself after years of drinkingWhy the first year is so different from every year afterThe role of rest, forgiveness, and boundaries in lasting sobrietyHow to create a sober life you love (and don't want to escape from)Sobriety isn't just about removing alcohol; it's about building a life that feels full, free, and authentically yours. Courtney's hope is that these lessons give you the tools and inspiration to do just that.Resources Mentioned:Sobriety Circle Breakthrough Sober Vibes Book The AfterPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners get $50 off their device!Grab your discount here!Hope this episode helps you today!Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

A Note from James:"Anatomy of a Con Artist. The 14 red flags to spot scammers, grifters, and thieves". This is a book—an amazing book—by Johnathan Walton.Check out his podcast Queen of the Con, and his new one Cocaine Air. We talk about both in this episode. But his book, Anatomy of a Con Artist, is just dead on.Johnathan shares how he got conned out of nearly $100,000 by someone posing as an Irish heiress. He breaks down not only that story but others—showing how all these professional con artists use the same tricks. The red flags are universal.And honestly, I've felt conned before. Reading this book really opened my eyes. The stories are incredible, and Johnathan's a fantastic storyteller. You'll hear it for yourself.Episode Description:James talks with Johnathan Walton—TV producer turned con artist hunter—about the psychology, tactics, and red flags of professional scammers. After being conned out of nearly $100,000 by someone posing as an Irish heiress, Walton went public, brought his scammer to justice, and began investigating other cases.Together, they unpack how emotion—not intellect—is the con artist's favorite tool, and how even smart, skeptical people can be taken in. Walton explains the 14 red flags every scammer throws up, why victims rarely report what happened, and how shame and silence help cons thrive.Plus: the untold story of Walton's family losing millions to a Jamaican Ponzi scheme, how Satanists helped him track a fugitive scammer, and why AI will never replace the twisted brilliance of the human con.What You'll Learn:How professional con artists emotionally manipulate even intelligent peopleThe 14 red flags common to nearly every scamWhy victims often stay silent—and how scammers exploit shameHow “beak-wetting” creates false trust in investment scamsWhy AI can't replicate the improvisational storytelling of real-world con artistsTimestamped Chapters:[00:00] A con artist doesn't outsmart you—they outfeel you[01:00] James introduces Johnathan Walton and his work[02:00] Behind the HBO show “Wahl Street” and producing during COVID[04:00] AI in storytelling: potential and limitations[07:00] Johnathan's $100K con: the fake Irish heiress and inheritance scam[10:00] Red Flag: TMI—“too much information” and the psychology behind it[14:00] The trap of emotional vulnerability[17:00] How scammers build false intimacy[20:00] Johnathan's early career and his resilience to shame[24:00] How she drained him slowly: death by a thousand cuts[25:00] The first lie that blew everything open[28:00] Uncovering her global scams and getting her arrested[30:00] Scamming Satanists and extradition to Northern Ireland[32:00] Psychopathy vs. regular criminals: how con artists differ[34:00] Why she targeted him: the do-gooder trap[36:00] Breaking down the red flags from his book[41:00] Ponzi schemes and beak-wetting in his own family[47:00] Wealthy victims who never go public[49:00] The story of NFL QB Eric Kramer and the con-woman wife[52:00] Talking victims out of suicide[53:00] Johnathan's own mother was conned—by a family friend[55:00] The isolation technique and divide-and-conquer[57:00] How to protect yourself: background checks and gut checks[59:00] Spotting con artists in real life[01:01:00] Cocktail party con: the OnlyFans couple from Arizona[01:02:00] Final thoughts and how to follow Johnathan's workAdditional Resources with Working Links:Book: Anatomy of a Con Artist by Johnathan Walton Available on Apple Books: Anatomy of a Con Artist Also listed on Penguin Random House: Anatomy of a Con ArtistPodcast: Queen of the Con by Johnathan Walton On Apple Podcasts: Queen of the Con (Apple Podcasts)Podcast: Cocaine Air by Johnathan Walton On Apple Podcasts: Cocaine Air (Apple Podcasts)Movie: Sharper (Neo-noir thriller) streaming on Apple TV+ Watch directly on Apple TV+: Sharper (Apple TV+) About the film and release details: Sharper (Wikipedia page)Today's Advertisers:Secure your online data TODAY by visiting ExpressVPN.com/ALTUCHERElevate your workspace with UPLIFT Desk. Go to https://upliftdesk.com/james for a special offer exclusive to our audience.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today we're heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need.Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?If you've ever felt:Triggered by sex with your spouseOverwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacyDisconnected and guilty about sex even though you're marriedSpiritually ashamed and wondering if something is broken inside you……I want you to know you're not failing because you're weak or defective. You're fighting brain pathways that have been wired over years of porn use.In Part 2 of this series, we're going deep into the neuroscience of porn addiction and the psychology of sexual intimacy.Here's what we're uncovering in this episode:How porn rewires your brain's sexual template.Why your brain starts associating sex with performance instead of connectionHow porn teaches your mind to seek pleasure without personhood—and why that leaves you detached and unfulfilledWhy real-life sex often feels “flat” compared to porn's hyper-stimulationThe secret power of dopamine and novelty.Why porn creates a relentless craving for newness and shock valueWhy normal marital sex can feel boring or underwhelming after years of high-intensity pornEmotional imprinting and the shame loop.How early sexual secrecy and shame get trapped in your nervous systemWhy even healthy marital sex can trigger memories of guilt, fear, or forbiddennessHow this leads to post-sex brain fog, shame, and the urge to “finish the job” with pornThe spiritual battle for Christian men.Why you might feel spiritually broken if sex in marriage triggers shameHow porn addiction fuels the false belief that God is condemning youWhy God is not the voice berating you—and how faith can become part of your healing processI remember how confusing this was for me in my own marriage.When I first got married, I thought sex would be the ultimate cure for my porn addiction. Instead, I found myself craving porn after sex, feeling guilty and disconnected, and wondering if I was beyond help.But here's what I discovered—you're not spiritually broken. Your brain and body just need healing.If you've ever wondered why sex isn't “fixing” your cravings—or felt ashamed that it triggers them instead—this episode is for you.READ THE BLOG ARTICLE FOR THIS 3-PART SERIESRecommended Episodes: When Wives Become Sex Objects - Hope & HealingMy Wife Won't Have Sex With Me - What Do I Do?Sexual Desire Isn't SinRoyalty Free Music: Bensound.comLicense code: ZQ215TMIZ5TMTKZZArtist: : Lunar YearsSupport the showNo More Desire

Planning a wedding is supposed to be joyful—but no one warned me how deeply it would challenge the way I see my body. Between dress fittings, comments from others, and the pressure to “look perfect,” I started realizing how much shame I'd carried silently for years.In this episode, I open up about what this season is teaching me—not just about body image, but about compassion, healing, and seeing myself the way God does. I talk about the spiritual battle behind body shame, how the enemy uses appearance to distract and discourage us, and the truth that your worth has nothing to do with a mirror, a milestone, or a measurement.If you've ever struggled with food noise, body comparison, or feeling like your body is never quite “enough,” I pray this conversation meets you where you are. You are not a project. You are a temple. And you are already deeply loved.In this episode, we'll cover:Why bridal culture often stirs up hidden shameHow to protect your peace in a comparison-driven worldThe spiritual side of body image strugglesBiblical truths to speak over yourselfPractical ways to heal and walk in freedomWhether you're planning a wedding or just living in a world obsessed with appearance—this one's for you.Let's rewrite the narrative.Let's choose truth over shame.And let's remember: your body is not a problem to be fixed—it's a vessel to be cherished.

In this episode of Harvest Now Conversations, we engage in a thoughtful and vulnerable discussion on the deeply personal topics of shame, guilt, and regret — and the redemptive power of God's grace.Through honest conversation and biblical reflection, we explore:The emotional and spiritual weight of shameHow regret differs from shame — and how to process bothReal experiences of failure, addiction, and restorationWhat Scripture teaches about confession, healing, and forgivenessThe unwavering truth that nothing can separate us from the love of God (Romans 8)This conversation offers encouragement for anyone who feels disqualified by their past or trapped by ongoing struggles. The message is clear: God is not surprised by your weakness — He meets you in it.

Send us a textHey doll face!Welcome to my world!In today's episode we talk all about:Epiphanies for showing up as my authentic self Working through my friendship hurt (being open for separate healing)Talking through my desiresSetting my boundaries for my next sexual encountersFiguring out my own wants and needs without shameHow to increase your sexual arousalAn academy update & moreENJOY!10 ways to naturally boost your libido: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323918#herbal-remedies Want to join my pleasure academy? CLICK HERE: https://www.loveatiya.com/theetherealpleasureacademyWant vegan and cruelty free self care? CLICK HERE: https://www.loveatiya.com/ethereal Want exclusive content and mini courses? CLICK HERE: https://www.patreon.com/TheLoveAtiyaExperience Want to share a fun sex story or pick the topic for our next episode? Submit your questions & stories to theloveatiyaexperience@gmail.com Sex Education Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveatiya/Sex Education TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iloveatiya?Sex Positive Podcast: https://theloveatiyaexperience.buzzsprout.comYouTube: iloveatiya https://www.youtube.com/@iloveatiya/videos Support the show

Content Warning: This episode contains the depiction of traumatic events, including violence, sexual assault, and self-harm. Subscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsCan you really heal shame and trauma that live deep in your body? In this raw and inspiring episode of Hol+, Dr. Taz MD sits down with globally sought-after trauma specialist and performance coach Annalie Howling to uncover the hidden ways shame sabotages your health, relationships, and potential, and how you can finally release it.From perfectionism to people-pleasing to physical symptoms, shame shapes our lives in ways most of us don't realize. Annalie shares her personal healing journey, from childhood abuse and self-harm to deep freedom, and offers actionable tools to help YOU reclaim your power.You'll learn why shame is never your fault, how it lodges in the body, and why it often underlies anxiety, gut issues, chronic stress, and even physical pain. Plus: how EMDR, somatic work, and simple daily practices can free you to live unapologetically.Thank you to our sponsor: OneSkinGet 15% off your first order with the code DRTAZ at oneskin.co/drtazIn this episode, you'll discover:How shame gets trapped in the body and drives diseaseThe 5 trauma responses (and why "fawn" is most linked to shame)How perfectionism and fake control are trauma adaptationsThe link between shame, self-criticism, and chronic anxietyHow to rewire your nervous system and reclaim self-compassionWhy breathwork, EMDR, yoga, and embodied practices can heal deep woundsHow to break generational shame cycles and parent without passing it onIf you've ever felt “not good enough,” stuck, disconnected, or like no amount of wellness routines can fix how you feel, this episode is a must-watch.Topics Covered:The biology of shame and trauma responsesHow shame fuels perfectionism and anxietySomatic practices to heal shameThe power of EMDR in trauma releaseParenting without passing down shameHow to start building radical self-compassionReclaiming your voice and living unapologeticallyAbout Annalie HowlingAnnalie Howling is a globally sought-after performance coach, trauma specialist, and author of Unapologetic: Unshackle Your Shame. Reclaim Your Power.With over two decades of experience, Annalie has worked with leaders in business, Olympians, Hollywood, members of the Armed Forces, including ex-UK Special Forces, and private clients navigating transitions and challenges. But her work goes deeper than performance, it addresses the universal weight that underpins so much of human struggle: shame. Annalie's groundbreaking methods stem not only from her professional expertise but from her personal transformation. It wasn't until she addressed her own unhealed trauma and liberated herself from shame that she began to live authentically and freely. Now, Annalie's mission is to help others break free from the shame that holds them back.Through her work and her book, she shares valuable insights on navigating divorce, single parenting, overcoming childhood trauma and abuse, healing from toxic relationships, dealing with narcissistic partners, recovering from workplace toxicity, and releasing family trauma.Connect further to Hol+ at https://holplus.co/- Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+.Stay ConnectedSubscribe to the audio podcast: https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsFollow Dr. Taz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Join the conversation on X: https://x.com/@drtazmdTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drtazmdFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drtazmd/Learn more about Annalie Howling at: https://annaliehowling.com/Host & Production TeamHost: Dr. Taz; Produced by Rainbow Creative (Executive Producer: Matthew Jones; Lead Producer: Lauren Feighan; Editors: Jeremiah Schultz and Patrick Edwards)Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+Timestamps: 00:00 Shame Is a Felt Sense, Not a Thought03:15 Meet Annalie Howling + Why Shame Matters05:50 Why Perfectionism Fuels Shame10:04 Annalie's Story: Violence, Childhood Trauma, and Self-Harm17:11 The Turning Point: EMDR and Trauma Healing22:20 Physical Symptoms of Shame (Gut, Skin, Burnout)29:23 The 5 Trauma Responses Explained (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Flop, Fawn)34:05 How Shame Fuels Anxiety and Life Avoidance42:32 A Self-Compassion Exercise to Heal Shame55:54 Other Somatic Tools to Heal Shame

What if you're not broke—you're just pre-rich? In this powerhouse episode of Everyone's Talkin' Money, Shari sits down with Rachel Rodgers—CEO and founder of Hello Seven, wealth coach to thousands, and bestselling author of We Should All Be Millionaires and her latest, Future Millionaire—to talk about what it really takes to create wealth in a world that wasn't built for you. Rachel is a trailblazer helping women, BIPOC, and LGBTQIA communities build seven-figure businesses and dismantle the generational cycle of overworking and under-earning. Her latest book, Future Millionaire, is designed to empower the next generation with the tools, mindset, and strategy to make wealth inevitable—and trust me, it's not just for the teens. You're going to want this roadmap too. We talk about abundance without delusion, raising money-smart kids in a cashless world, and how to finally stop shrinking your dreams to fit your paycheck. YOU'LL WALK AWAY LEARNING: Why Rachel says wealth is a choice—but not without calculated risk How to talk to your kids about money in a way that's real, relatable, and builds financial confidence Why Gen Z isn't lazy—they're overwhelmed, and what they need instead of shameHow to use a job as seed capital—not a financial destination What Rachel means by “million dollar decisions” and how to start making them now How parents can shift from financial gatekeepers to financial guides Why saving isn't the only goal—and sometimes spending is the smarter move What it takes to build wealth as an adult when you feel like you're already behind The money conversations every family needs to start having ASAP CONNECT WITH RACHEL RODGERS: Website: https://www.helloseven.co Instagram: @rachrodgersesq Book: Future Millionaire (Available wherever books are sold) More Books & Resources: We Should All Be Millionaires, Million Dollar Habits, Plan Your Year Like a Millionaire, Six Figure Side Hustle Follow the show on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode! Please leave a quick rating and review to help us reach more listeners like you Keep the conversation going on Instagram @everyonestalkinmoney And remember: money should be a tool to live life on your terms—not a source of guilt or confusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing that made you feel “too much” growing up is the very thing meant to set you free?In this powerful episode of The Brave Table, I sit down with my brilliant and bold friend, Sara Hamdan—former New York Times journalist, Googler, and now debut novelist of What Will People Think?. We explore the messy, joyful, and deeply human journey of writing fiction that challenges cultural expectations, honors Palestinian identity, and makes space for Arab women to be funny, flawed, and fierce.From Mia, the Arab stand-up comic at the center of her story, to Sara's own decade-long battle with self-doubt, motherhood, and creative dreams—we go there. This isn't just a conversation about publishing a book. It's about daring to live a life that's fully your own, even when the world wants you to shrink. You're going to feel cracked open, seen, and inspired to finally go after that dream. Yeah, the one you've been hiding.What you'll get out of this episode… The behind-the-scenes story of how What Will People Think? took 10 years to write—and why it was worth every momentHow Sara Hamdan turned cultural pressure into powerful creative fuelThe mindset shift that helped her stop writing for validation and start writing for herselfWhy Arab women deserve to be hilarious, heartbroken, bold, and human on the pageWhat it really looks like to chase a creative dream while raising a family and working full-timeInsight into how fiction can become a vehicle for healing generational shameHow comedy became the most powerful tool in rewriting her identity and reclaiming her voiceWhat happens when you stop asking for permission—and write the story you've never seen toldConnect with SaraWEB / sarahamdan.comIG / @bysarahamdanLINKEDIN / @sara-hamdan-writerBOOK / What Will People Think? Want more?

Feeling completely burned out from healing? You're not alone.In this episode, Sybil dives into a phase of healing that almost no one talks about — the exhaustion that hits after leaving an abusive relationship. If you're feeling numb, unmotivated, or like healing is suddenly impossible… this is for you.We'll explore:Why burnout happens after you finally find safetyHow the nervous system shifts from fight/flight to freezeWhat healing burnout really looks like (spoiler: it's not laziness)How to give yourself permission to rest and resetA gentle guided practice to reconnect with your body, without shameHow to reframe what “progress” really meansAnd if you're listening when this episode goes live — enrollment for The Rising Beyond Community is open until May 8th, 2025 at 11:59pm MST. If burnout is where you are right now, the community could be the lifeline you didn't know you needed.

You can look like you have it all together… and still be starving inside.In this raw, deeply honest conversation, I'm joined by Real Housewives of New Jersey star, former attorney, and author Jackie Goldschneider—who opens up about her 20-year battle with anorexia and what it really took to heal.We talk about the hidden layers of disordered eating, the illusion of control, and how shame keeps so many women trapped in silence. Jackie shares how her relationship with food—and with herself—became a secret prison, how recovery cracked her open, and why she's now using her story to set others free.We also dive into motherhood: how to raise kids who feel safe in their bodies, how to model self-acceptance in a culture obsessed with thinness, and what to stop saying about food and weight—especially in front of our daughtersIf you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of food, shame, and control—or you're raising kids in a culture obsessed with body image—this episode is for you.Things You'll Learn in This Episode:What recovery from an eating disorder really looks like (and how to know when you're ready)How to talk to your kids about food, weight, and body image without passing on shameHow healing your relationship with your body transforms everything

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In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara explore one of the most common questions they get from parents:“Is it really possible to discipline without punishment or consequences like time-outs, threats, or spanking?”When they became parents, Kyle and Sara struggled to imagine parenting without those tools—they believed punishment was an essential part of discipline. But as they dug deeper into the research and began working with families, they discovered that true discipline doesn't rely on fear or control.They unpack the meaning of the word “discipline” (which comes from disciple) and how that changes the way we show up with our kids. When discipline becomes something we do with our children—rather than to them—it opens the door to connection, emotional growth, and lasting change.They also discuss:What research says about the long-term effects of punishmentHow parents can guide their kids toward growth and responsibility without fear or shameHow to begin reimagining your parenting toolboxThis conversation is the beginning of a much bigger journey—one we'll continue exploring in future episodes. If this topic resonates or challenges you, stay with us. There's so much more to learn and grow in together.View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/can-you-discipline-without-punishmentVisit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comThe Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Molly revisits one of the most important conversations around changing your relationship with alcohol—how shame can keep you stuck, and how to break free from the shame spiral.This episode is a spring break replay, and for good reason—it's one of Molly's favorites and a foundational message for anyone working to become an alcohol minimalist.In this episode, you'll learn:What shame really is and how it's different from guiltWhy shame is especially destructive for daily habit drinkersThe role shame played in Molly's personal journey with alcoholHow shame often masks itself as “powerlessness” and leads to hiding, isolation, and more drinkingWhy understanding your thoughts is the key to disrupting shameThree science-informed strategies to stop the shame spiral: Name it – acknowledging shame takes away its powerSelf-compassion – treating yourself like you'd treat a friendSeparate your thoughts from your identity – you are not your drinking behaviorYou'll also hear:A powerful quote from Brené Brown on the unspeakable nature of shameHow common narratives (like the AA concept of “powerlessness”) may unintentionally reinforce shameWhy living in the gains rather than the gap is essential for motivation and long-term changeTakeaway Message:Shame doesn't help you change. In fact, it keeps you stuck. The pathway to lasting transformation starts with understanding your thoughts, practicing self-compassion, and learning how to disrupt the automatic cycles that have been running your drinking habit.Resources Mentioned:Brené Brown's definition of shamePrevious episodes on “The Gap and The Gain” (Think Thursday episodes)Tools for becoming a better thinker and understanding your brainWant more support?Check out our programs at www.mollywatts.com or join our free Facebook group Alcohol Minimalists: Change Your Drinking Habits. You're not alone—and you are absolutely capable of creating peace with alcohol.Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★