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I have mentioned before a program I attend entitled Podapalooza. This quarterly event brings together podcasters, would-be podcasters and people interested in being interviewed by podcasters. This all-day program is quite fun. Each time I go I request interview opportunities to bring people onto Unstoppable Mindset. I never really have a great idea of who I will meet, but everyone I have encountered has proven interesting and intriguing.   This episode we get to meet Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett who I met at Podapalooza 12. I began our episode by asking Laura to tell me a bit about her growing up. We hadn't talked about this before the episode. The first thing she told me was that she was kind of an afterthought child born some 12.5 years after her nearest sibling. Laura grew up curious about many things. She went to University in Calgary. After obtaining her Master's degree she worked for some corporations for a time, but then went back to get her Doctorate in Organization Psychology.   After discussing her life a bit, Dr. Laura and I discussed many subjects including fear, toxic bosses and even something she worked on since around 2005, working remotely. What a visionary Laura was. I like the insights and thoughts Dr. Lovett discusses and I think you will find her thoughts worth hearing.   On top of everything else, Laura is a podcaster. She began her podcast career in 2020. I get to be a guest on her podcast, _Where Work Meets Life_TM, in May of 2025. Be sure to check out her podcast and listen in May to see what we discuss.   Laura is also an author as you will learn. She is working on a book about toxic bosses. This book will be published in January of 2026. She also has written two fiction books that will soon be featured in a television series. She tells us about what is coming.       About the Guest:   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett is an Organizational Psychologist, Keynote Speaker, Business Leader, Author, and Podcast Host. She is a sought-after thought leader on workplace psychology and career development internationally, with 25 years of experience. Dr. Laura is a thought leader on the future of work and understands the intersection of business and people.     Dr. Laura's areas of expertise include leadership, team, and culture development in organizations, remote/hybrid workplace success, toxic leadership, career development, and mental health/burnout. She holds a Ph.D. in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from the University of Calgary, where she is currently an Adjunct Professor.     As a passionate entrepreneur, Dr. Laura has founded several psychology practices in Canada since 2009, including Canada Career Counselling, Synthesis Psychology, and Work EvOHlution™ which was acquired in 2021.  She runs the widely followed podcast _Where Work Meets Life_TM, which began in 2020.  She speaks with global experts on a variety of topics around thriving humans and organizations, and career fulfillment.     In addition to her businesses, she has published two psychological thrillers, Losing Cadence and Finding Sophie. She hopes to both captivate readers and raise awareness on important topics around mental health and domestic violence.  These books are currently being adapted for a television series.  Dr. Laura received a Canadian Women of Inspiration Award as a Global Influencer in 2018. Ways to connect with Dr. Laura:   Email: Connect@drlaura.live   Website: https://drlaura.live/    LinkedIn: @drlaurahambley/    Keynotes: Keynotes & Speaking Engagements   Podcast: Where Work Meets Life™ Podcast   Author: Books   Newsletter: Subscribe to Newsletter   Youtube: @dr.laurawhereworkmeetslife   Facebook: @Dr.Laura.whereworkmeetslife   Instagram: @dr.laura__   Tik Tok: @drlaura__   X: @DrLaura_   About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/ https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? 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Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.     Michael Hingson ** 01:21 Well, hi everyone, wherever you happen to be, I want to welcome you to another episode of unstoppable mindset. I am your host, Mike hingson, and we have, I think, an interesting guest today. She's an organizational psychologist. She is a keynote speaker, and she even does a podcast I met Dr Laura through a function that we've talked about before on this podcast, Pata palooza. We met at pollooza 12. So that goes back to January. I think Dr Laura is an organizational psychologist. As I said, she's a keynote speaker. She runs a podcast. She's written books, and I think you've, if I'm not mistaken, have written two fiction books, among other things, but we'll get to all that. But Laura, I want to welcome you to unstoppable mindset. And thank you very much for being here.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 02:12 Well, thank you for having me, Michael. I really think the world of you and admire your spirit, and I'm just honored to be here speaking with you today. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 02:22 as I tell people when they come on the podcast, we do have one hard and fast rule, and that is, you're supposed to have fun. So if you can't have fun, forget about   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 02:30 it. Okay, alright, I'm willing to There   Michael Hingson ** 02:34 you go see you gotta have a little bit of fun. Well, why don't we start as I love to do with a lot of folks tell us kind of about the early Laura, growing up and all that, and kind of how you got where you are, if you will. Oh, my goodness, I know that opens up a lot of options.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 02:52 I was an afterthought child. I was the sixth child of a Catholic mother who had five children in a row, and had me 12 years later, unplanned, same parents, but all my siblings are 12 to 19 years older than me, so I was caught between generations. I always wanted to be older than I was, and I felt, you know, I was almost missing out on the things that were going on before me. But then I had all these nieces and nephews that came into the world where I was the leader of the pack. So my niece, who's next in line to me, is only three years younger, so it just it makes for an interesting dynamic growing up where you're the baby but you're also the leader. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 03:39 lot of advantages there, though I would think,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 03:42 Oh yeah, it taught me a lot about leadership. It taught me about followership. It taught me about life and learning the lessons from my older siblings of what you know, they were going through and what I wanted to be like when I grew up.   Michael Hingson ** 03:58 So, so what kind of things did you learn from all of that? And you know, what did, what did they teach you, and what did they think of you, all of your older siblings? Oh, they loved me. I was, I bet they were. Yeah, you were the baby sister.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 04:13 But I should add my mom was mentally ill, so her mental illness got worse after having me, I think, and I know this about postpartum, as you get older and postpartum hits, it can get worse later on and and she suffered with a lot of mental health challenges, and I would say that that was the most challenging part of growing up for me.   Michael Hingson ** 04:42 Did she ever get over that? Or?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 04:45 No, we just, I mean, it had its ups and downs. So when times were good, she was great, she was generous, she was loving. She was a provider, a caretaker. She had stayed at home her whole life, so she was the stay at home mom, where you'd come home from school. And there'd be hot, baked cookies and stuff, you know, she would really nurture that way. But then when she had her lows, because it was almost a bipolar situation, I would, I would say it was undiagnosed. I mean, we never got a formal diagnosis, but she had more than one psychotic break that ended her in the hospital. But I would say when she was down, she would, you know, run away for a few days and stay in another city, or have a complete meltdown and become really angry and aggressive. And, I mean, it was really unpredictable. And my father was just like a rock, just really stable and a loving influence and an entrepreneur like I am, so that, you know, he really helped balance things out, but it was hard on him as well,   Michael Hingson ** 05:48 I'll bet. Yeah, that's never easy. Is she still with us, or is she passed?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 05:53 No, she got dementia and she passed. The dementia was about 12 years of, you know, turning into a baby. It's so sad that over 12 years, we just she lost her mind completely, and she died in 2021 and it was hard. I mean, I felt like, oh, man, you know, that was hard. I you know, as much as it was difficult with her and the dementia was difficult. I mean, she was my mother, and, yeah, it was a big loss for me. And I lost my father at age 21 and that was really hard. It was a very sudden with an aneurysm. And so that was in 1997 so I've been a long time without parents in my life.   Michael Hingson ** 06:30 Wow. Well, I know what you mean. My father, in this is his opinion, contracted some sort of a spore in Africa during World War Two, and it manifested itself by him losing, I think it was white blood cells later in his life, and had to have regular transfusions. And eventually he passed in 1984 and my belief is, although they classified it as congestive heart failure, he had enough other diseases or things that happened to him in the couple of years before he passed. I think it was actually HIV that he died from, because at that time, they still didn't understand about tainted blood, right? And so he got transfusions that probably were blood that that was a problem, although, you know, I can't prove that, and don't know it, but that's just kind of my opinion.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 07:34 Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that, Michael, that is so, so sad.   Michael Hingson ** 07:38 Yeah. And then my mom was a smoker most of her life, and she fell in 1987 and broke her hip, and they discovered that she also had some some cancer. But anyway, while she was in the hospital recovering from the broken hip, they were going to do some surgery to deal with the cancer, but she ended up having a stroke and a heart attack, and she passed away. So Oh, my God. I lost my mom in 1987   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 08:04 and you know, you were young. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 08:08 I was, I was 37 when she died. So still, I missed them both, even today, but I I had them for a while, and then my brother, I had until 2015 and then he passed from cancer. So it happens, and I got married in 1982 to my wife, Karen, who was in a wheelchair her whole life, and she passed in 2022 so we were married 40 years. So lots of memories. And as I love to tell people all the time, I got to continue to be a good kid, because I'm being monitored from somewhere, and if I misbehave, I know I'm going to hear about it. So,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 08:49 you know, well, that's a beautiful, long marriage that the two of you had   Michael Hingson ** 08:55 was and lots of memories, which is the important things. And I was blessed that with September 11 and so on, and having written thunder dog, the original book that I wrote about the World Trade Center and my life, it was published in 2011 and I was even reading part of it again today, because I spoke at a book club this morning, it just brings back lots of wonderful memories with Karen, and I just can't in any way argue with the fact that we did have a great 40 years. So no regrets.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 09:26 Wow, 40 years.   Michael Hingson ** 09:30 Yeah. So, you know, it worked out well and so very happy. And I know that, as I said, I'm being monitored, so I I don't even chase the girls. I'm a good kid. Chris, I would point out none of them have chased me either. So, you know,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 09:49 I love your humor. It's so awesome. So we gotta laugh, Mark, because the world's really tricky right now. Oh gosh, isn't it? It's very tricky. And I'd love to talk. About that today a bit, because I'm just having a lot of thoughts about it and a lot of messages I want to get across being well, you are well psychologist and a thought leader and very spiritual and just trying to make a difference, because it's very tricky.   Michael Hingson ** 10:16 So how did you get into psychology and all that. So you grew up, obviously, you went to college and tell me about that and how you ended up getting into the whole issue of psychology and the things that you do. Well,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 10:30 I think being the youngest, I was always curious about human dynamics in my family and the siblings and all the dynamics that were going on, and I was an observer of all of that. And then with my mother and just trying to understand the human psyche and the human condition. And I was a natural born helper. I always wanted to help people, empathetic, very sensitive kid, highly sensitive person. So then when I went into psycho to university. We University. We call it up here for an undergrad degree, I actually didn't know what I wanted to do. I was a musician as well. I was teaching music throughout high school, flute and piano. I had a studio and a lot of students. And thought, well, maybe do I want to do a music degree? Or, Oh, maybe I should go into the family business of water treatment and water filtration that my father started for cities, and go in and do that and get a chemical engineering degree. Not really interested in that, though, no. And then just kind of stumbled my way through first year. And then I was really lost. And then I came across career counseling. And I thought, Okay, this is going to help me. And it did. And psychology lit up like a light bulb. I had taken the intro to psych course, which is more of a hodgepodge mix of topics. I'm like, yeah, and then, but when I looked at the second year courses in the third year and personality and abnormal psych and clinical psych and all of that. I thought, Oh, I found my place. This is juicy. This is interesting. And I want to help people. Is   Michael Hingson ** 12:09 this to say you fit right in when you were studying Abnormal Psychology? Just checking,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 12:14 yeah, probably okay. I actually didn't go down the clinical psych route, which is where it's the clinical psych and the psychiatrists that tackle more of the personality disorders. So I went into counseling psych, which is the worried well. We call it the worried well. So people like you and I who are going through life, experiencing the various curve balls that life has to offer, and I know you've been through more than your fair share, but it's helping people get through the curve balls. And I specialized in career, I ended up saying people spend most of their waking lives, you know, working or thinking about work as part of their identity. So I specialized in career development psychology in my master's degree.   Michael Hingson ** 13:01 Yeah, well, that's, that's certainly, probably was easier than flute and piano. You couldn't do both of those at the same time.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 13:07 I ended up having to, yeah, it became too much. I tried to for a while.   Michael Hingson ** 13:13 Yeah, you can play the flute or the piano, but kind of hard to do both at the same time. Oh,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 13:18 at the same time, yeah, unless you play with your toes, which I've seen people actually people do that, yeah, do Yeah. There's this one speaker in our national speakers group, and he he does a lot with his toes, like I remember him playing the drums with his toes at his last keynote. So I was just amazed. So horn with no arms and does everything with his feet. So I bet he could do some piano too. There you go.   Michael Hingson ** 13:49 But then, of course, having no arms and he would also have a problem doing piano at the same time. But, you know, that's okay, but still, so you went into to psychology, which I find is a is a fascinating subject. Anyway, my interest was always in the physical sciences, so I got my master's degree in physics, although I did take a couple of psychology courses, and I enjoyed it. I remember the basic intro to psych, which was a lot of fun, and she's had a real hodgepodge, but still it was fascinating. Because I always was interested in why people behave the way they do, and how people behave the way they do, which is probably why I didn't go into theoretical physics, in a sense. But still it was and is very interesting to see how people behave, but you went off and got your masters, and then you also got a PhD along the line, huh?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 14:47 Yeah, that was interesting. I did the Masters, and then I always did things a little differently. Michael, so all of my peers went on to become registered psychologists, which, which means you have. To go through a registration process, and instead, I got pulled into a.com company. We called them dot coms at the time, because in 1999 when I started with a.com It was a big thing. I mean, it was exciting, right? It was and it was a career development related.com that had a head office in New York City, and I ended up leading a team here in Calgary, and we were creating these technologies around helping people assess their passions, their interests, their skills, and then link to careers. We had about 900 careers in our database, and then linking people to educational programs to get them towards those careers. So I remember coming up a lot of times to Rutgers University and places like that, and going to New York City and dealing with that whole arena. So I was, you know, from a young age, I'd say I was too young to rent a car when I flew there, but I had a team of about 15 people that I oversaw, and it was great experience for me at an early age of, okay, you know, there's a lot I'm learning a lot here, because I really wasn't trained in Business and Management at that time, right?   Michael Hingson ** 16:17 But you But you did it.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 16:20 I did it, yeah, I did it. And then I ended up working for another consulting firm that brought me into a whole bunch of organizations working on their competency models. So I did a lot of time in the Silicon Valley, working in different companies like Cisco, and I was just in this whole elaborate web of Okay. Organizations are quite interesting. They're almost like families, because they have a lot of dynamics there. It's interesting. And you can make a difference, and you can help the organization, the people in the workplace, you know, grow and thrive and develop. And I'm okay, you know, this is interesting, too. I like this. And then at that time, I knew I wanted to do a doctorate, and I discovered that organizational Psych was what I wanted to do, because it's the perfect blend of business and psychology. Because I'm a serial entrepreneur, by the way, so entrepreneurship, psychology, business, kind of the best of both worlds. Okay, I'm going to do that, so that's what I did.   Michael Hingson ** 17:24 That certainly is kind of cool. So when did you end up getting your doctorate?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 17:28 I finished that in 2005   Michael Hingson ** 17:31 okay, were you working while you were doing that? Or did you just go back to school full   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 17:36 time? I had to go back to school because the program was very heavy. It was a program where you could not work full time during it. I still worked part time during it. I was working hard because I was registering as a psychologist at the same time, I knew I wanted to register and become a psychologist, and I knew I wanted to get that doctorate, and there were times when I almost stepped away, especially at the beginning of it, because when you're out in the real world, and then you go back into academia, it's just such a narrow How do I explain this? How does this, how is this relevant? You know, all these journal articles and this really esoteric, granular research on some little itty, itty bitty thing. And I just really struggled. But then I said, So I met with someone I remember, and she she said, Laura, it's like a car. When you buy a car, you can choose your own car seats and color, and you know, the bells and whistles of your car, and you can do that for the doctorate. And I said, Okay, I'm going to make the doctorate mine, and I'm going to specialize in a topic that I can see being a topic that the world of work will face in the future. So I specialized in remote leadership, and how you lead a team when they're not working in the same office, and how you lead and inspire people who are working from home. And that whole notion of distributed work, which ended up becoming a hot topic in the pandemic. I was, I was 20 years, 15 years ahead of the game. Yeah. Well, that,   Michael Hingson ** 19:09 of course, brings up the question of the whole issue of remote work and stuff during the pandemic and afterward. What do you what do you think has been the benefit of the whole concept of remote work. What did people learn because of the pandemic, and are they forgetting it, or are they still remembering it and allowing people to to work at home? And I ask that because I know in this country, our illustrious president is demanding that everybody go back to work, and a lot of companies are buying into that as well. And my thought has always been, why should we worry about where a person works, whether it's remote or in an actual office, so long as they get the work? Done, but that seems to, politically not be the way what people want to think of it today.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 20:06 Yeah, it's, I mean, I have a lot to say on it, and I have years and years of data and research that supports the notion that it's not a one size fits all, and a blend tends to be the best answer. So if you want to preserve the culture and the collaboration, but yet you want to have people have the flexibility and autonomy and such, which is the best of both worlds. Because you're running a workplace, you're not running a daycare where you need to babysit people, and if you need to babysit people, you're hiring the wrong people. So I would say I'm a biggest fan of hybrid. I think remote works in some context, I think bringing everyone back full time to an office is very, very old school command and control, leadership, old school command and control will not work. You know, when you're trying to retain talent, when it's an employer's market, yes, you'll get away with it. But when it goes back to an employee's market. Watch out, because your generation Z's are going to be leaving in droves to the companies that offer flexibility and autonomy, same with some of your millennials, for sure, and even my generation X. I mean, we really value, you know, a lot of us want to have hybrids and want to be trusted and not be in a car for 10 to 20 hours a week commuting? Yeah? So,   Michael Hingson ** 21:27 yeah, I know I hear you, and from the baby boomer era, you know, I I think there's value in being in an office that is, I think that having time to interact and know colleagues and so on is important. But that doesn't mean that you have to do it every day, all day. I know many times well. I worked for a company for eight years. The last year was in New York because they wanted me to go to New York City and open an office for them, but I went to the office every day, and I was actually the first person in the office, because I was selling to the east coast from the west coast. So I opened the office and was on the phone by 6am in the morning, Pacific Time, and I know that I got so much more done in the first two to three hours, while everyone else was slowly filtering in, and then we got diverted by one thing or another, and people would gossip and so on. Although I still tried to do a lot of work, nevertheless, it got to be a little bit more of a challenge to get as much done, because now everybody was in and they wanted to visit, or whatever the case happens to be, and I think there's value in visiting, but I think from a working standpoint, if I'd been able to do that at home, at least part of the time, probably even more would have been accomplished. But I think there's value also in spending some time in the office, because people do need to learn to interact and know and trust each other, and you're not going to learn to trust if you don't get to know the other people.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 23:08 Yeah, totally. I agree with you 100% and I know from it. I on my own podcast I had the founder of four day work week global, the four day work movement. I did four episodes on that topic, and yeah, people are not productive eight hours a day. I'll tell you that. Yeah, yeah. So just because you're bringing them into an office and forcing them to come in, you're not gonna it doesn't necessarily mean more productivity. There's so much that goes into productivity, apart from presenteeism, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 23:45 yeah, I hear what you're saying, and I think there's, there's merit in that. I think that even when you're working at home, there are rules, and there you're still expected to do work, but there's, I think, room for both. And I think that the pandemic taught us that, but I'm wondering if we're forgetting it.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 24:06 Oh yeah, that's the human condition. We forget, right? We, we forget. We it's almost I envision an icy ski slope. I'm a skier, you know, being up here in Canada and the Rocky Mountains, but it's a ski slope, and you walk up a few steps, and then you slide back so easily, because it's icy, right? Like you gotta just be aware that we slide back easily. We need to be intentional and stay on top of the why behind certain decisions, because the pendulum swings back so far so easily. And I mean, women's issues are one of those things we can slide back so quickly. After like, 100 years of women fighting for their rights, we can end up losing that very, very quickly in society. That's just one of many examples I know all the D, E and I stuff that's going on, and I. I mean, it's just heartbreaking, the extent of that pendulum slapping back the other way, so hard when we need to have a balance, and you know, the right balance, because the answer is never black and white, black or white, the answer is always some shade of gray.   Michael Hingson ** 25:20 How do we get people to not backslide? And I know that's a really tough question, and maybe there's no there, there very well may not really be an easy answer to that, but I'm just curious what your thoughts are.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 25:37 That's a great question. Michael, I would envision almost ski poles or hiking poles. It's being grounded into the earth. It's being grounded into what are the roots of my values? What are my the values that we hold dear as human beings and as society, and sticking to those values, and, you know, pushing in to the earth to hold those values and stand up for those values, which I know is easier said than done in certain climates and certain contexts. And I mean, but I think it's really important to stand strong for what our values   Michael Hingson ** 26:20 are, yeah, I think that's really it. It comes down to values and principles. I know the late president, Jimmy Carter once said that we must adjust to changing times while holding to unwavering principles. And it seems to me you were talking about this being a tricky world. I thought that was an interesting way to express it. But I'm wondering if we're seeing all too many people not even holding to the unwavering principles, the sacrificing principles for political expediency and other things, yeah,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 26:53 yes, exactly. And we know about values that sometimes values clash, right? So you might have a value that you want to have a lot of money and be financially, you know, successful, yet you have the value of work life balance and you want a lot of time off and and sometimes those values can clash, and sometimes we need to make decisions in our lives about what value takes precedence at this time in our life. But I think what you're right is that there's a lot of fear out there right now, and when the fear happens, you can lose sight of why those values are important to you for more of a shorter term, quick gain to get rid of the fear, because fear is uncertain and painful for humans.   Michael Hingson ** 27:44 Well, I wrote live like a guide dog, which is the latest book that was, that was published in August of last year, and it's all about learning to control fear, really. And the reality is, and what I say in the book, essentially is, look, fear is with us. I'm not going to say you shouldn't be afraid and that you can live without fear, but what you can do is learn to control fear, and you have the choice of learning how you deal with fear and what you allow fear to do to you. And so, for example, in my case, on September 11, that fear was a very powerful tool to help keep me focused going down the stairs and dealing with the whole day. And I think that's really the the issue is that fear is is something that that all too many people just have, and they let it overwhelm them, or, as I put it, blind them, and the result of that is that they can't make decisions, they can't move on. And so many things are happening in our world today that are fomenting that fear, and we're not learning how to deal with it, which is so unfortunate.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 29:02 Yeah, you're right. And I back to your World Trade Center. So you were on, was it 778? 78 oh, my god, yeah. So to me, that must have been the scariest moment of your life.   Michael Hingson ** 29:17 I'm missing in a in a sense, no only until later, because none of us knew what was happening when the plane hit the building, which it did on the other side of the building from me and 1000s of others, and it hit above where we were. So going down the stairs, none of us knew what happened, because nobody saw it. And as I point out, Superman and X ray vision are fiction. So the reality is, it had nothing to do with blindness. The fact is, none of us knew going down the stairs. We figured out a plane hit the building because we smelled something that I eventually identified as burning jet fuel fumes, because I smell it every time I went to an airport. But we didn't know what happened. And. And and in a sense, that probably was a good thing for most people. Frankly, I would rather have known, and I can, I can say this, thinking about it a lot as I do, I would rather have known what happened, because it would have affected perhaps some of the decisions that I made later. If I had known that the buildings had been struck and there was a likelihood that they would collapse. I also know that I wouldn't have panicked, but I like information, and it's something that I use as a tool. But the fact is that we didn't know that. And so in a sense, although we were certainly worried about what was going on, and we knew that there was fire above us, we didn't know what it was all about.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 30:41 Wow. And I would say, so glad you got out of there. I Yeah, what a horrific experience. I was up there the year before it happened. And I think being up there, you can just sense the the height of it and the extent of it, and then seeing ground zero after and then going there with my son last June and seeing the new world trade, it was just really, I really resonate with your or not resonate, but admire your experience that you got out of there the way you did, and thank goodness you're still in this world. Michael,   Michael Hingson ** 31:17 it's a weird experience having been back, also now, going through the museum and being up in the new tower, trying to equate where I was on September 11 and where things were with what it became when it was all rebuilt. There's no easy reference point, although I did some of the traveling around the area with someone who knew what the World Trade Center was like before September 11. And so they were able to say, Okay, you're standing in such and such a place, so you're standing right below where Tower One was. And then I could kind of put some reference points to it, but it was totally different. Needless to say,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 32:05 Yeah, no kidding, but I think the fear that you go through during a disaster, right, is immediate like so the fight flight response is activated immediately, and you're, you're put into this almost state of flow. I call it a state where you time just is irrelevant. You're just putting one foot ahead of the other, right, right, right? Whereas the fear that society is going through right now, I think, is a projecting out into the future fear. It's not surviving this moment. It's more about I want to make sure I have enough money in the future, and I want to make sure I have safety in the future, or whatever it is, and you're projecting out, and you're living in the future, and you're worrying about the future, you're not living in the present, and it makes people kind of go crazy in the end, with anxiety, because we're not meant to be constantly worried about the Future. The only thing we can control is today and what we put into place for a better tomorrow, but fearing tomorrow and living in anxiety is so unhealthy for the human spirit,   Michael Hingson ** 33:13 and yet that's what people do, and it's one of the things we talk about and live like a guide dog. Worry about what you can control and don't worry about the rest. And you know, we spend so much time dealing with what if, what if this happens? What if that happens? And all that does, really is create fear in us, rather than us learning, okay, I don't really have control over that. I can be worried about the amount of money I have, but the real question is, what am I going to do about it today? And I know one of the lessons I really learned from my wife, Karen, we had some times when when we had significant debt for a variety of reasons, but like over the last few years of her life, we had enough of an income from speaking and the other things that I was doing that she worked really hard to pay down credit card bills that we had. And when she passed, most all of that was accomplished, and I was, I don't know whether she thought about it. She probably did, although she never got to the point of being able to deal with it, but one of the things that I quickly did was set up with every credit card company that we use paying off each bill each month, so we don't accrue credit, and so every credit card gets paid off, because now the expenses are pretty predictable, and so we won't be in that situation as long as I continue to allow things to get paid off every month and things like that. But she was the one that that put all that in motion, and it was something she took very, very seriously, trying to make sure. It. She brought everything down. She didn't really worry so much about the future. Is, what can I do today? And what is it that my goal is? Well, my goal is to get the cards paid off. I can do this much today and the next month. I can do this much today, which, which I thought was a great way and a very positive way to look at it. She was very methodical, but she wasn't panicky.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 35:24 Mm, hmm. No, I like that, because panic gets us nowhere. It just It ruins today and it doesn't help tomorrow, right? Same with regret, regret you can't undo yesterday, and living in regret, guilt, living in the past is just an unhealthy place to be as well, unless we're just taking the learnings and the nuggets from the past. That's the only reason we need the past is to learn from it. You   Michael Hingson ** 35:52 have to learn from it and then let it go, because it's not going to do any good to continue to dwell on it.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 35:57 Yeah, exactly.   Michael Hingson ** 36:00 Well, so you, you, you see so many things happening in this world. How do we deal with all of it, with all the trickiness and things that you're talking about?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 36:10 Do you like that word, tricky? I like it. That's a weird word.   Michael Hingson ** 36:14 Well, I think it's, it's a different word, but I like it, it, it's a word that I think, personally, becomes non confrontive, but accurate in its descriptions. It is tricky, but, you know, we can, we can describe things in so many ways, but it's better to do it in a way that isn't judgmental, because that evokes attitudes that we don't need to have.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 36:38 Yeah, if I use the word scary or terrible, or, I think those words are, yeah, just more anxiety provoking. Tricky can be tricky. Can be bad, tricky can be a challenge,   Michael Hingson ** 36:52 right? Like a puppy, unpredictable, or, you know, so many things, but it isn't, it isn't such a bad thing. I like that.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 37:03 How do we navigate a tricky world? Well, we we need to focus on today. We need to focus on the things that we can control today, physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually, the five different arenas of our life and on any given day, we need to be paying attention to those arenas of our life and how are they doing. Are we healthy physically? Are we getting around and moving our bodies? Are we listening to our bodies and our bodies needs? Are we putting food into our bodies, and are we watching what we drink and consume that could be harming our bodies, and how does it make us feel? And are we getting enough sleep? I think sleep is a huge issue for a lot of people in these anxiety provoking times.   Michael Hingson ** 37:56 Well, I think, I think that's very accurate. The question is, how do we learn to do that? How do we teach ourselves?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 38:07 How do we learn to do all that   Michael Hingson ** 38:09 stuff? How do we how do we learn to deal with the things that come up, rather than letting them all threaten us and scare us?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 38:20 Oh, that's a big question. I think that well, the whole the five spheres, right? So if you're taking care of your physical health and you're making that a priority, and some people really struggle with that, and they need a buddy system, or they need professional helpers, right, like a coach or a trainer or a psychologist like me, or whatever it is that they need the extra supports in place, but the physical super important, the making sure that we are socially healthy and connectedness is more important than ever. Feeling connected to our tribe, whatever that is, our close friends. You know, whether we have family that we would consider friends, right? Who in our team is helpful to us and trusted allies, and if we can have the fingers of one hand with close people that we trust in our lives, that's that's great, right? It doesn't have to be 100 people, right? It can be a handful, over your lifetime of true allies to walk through this world together.   Michael Hingson ** 39:26 One of the things that I've talked about it a bit on this podcast, but I I love the the concept that I think I've come up with is I used to always say I'm my own worst critic, and I said that because I love to record, and I learned the value of recording speeches, even going back to when I worked at campus radio station at kuci in Irvine campus radio station, I would listen to my show, and I kind of forced all the On Air personalities. 90s to listen to their own shows by arranging for their shows to be recorded, because they wouldn't do it themselves. And then I sent recordings home with them and said, You've got to listen to this. You will be better for it. And they resisted it and resisted it, but when they did it, it was amazing how much they improved. But I as I recorded my talks, becoming a public speaker, and working through it, I kept saying, I record them because I'm my own worst critic. I'm going to pick on me harder than anyone else can. And it was only in the last couple of years because I heard a comment in something that I that I read actually, that said the only person who can really teach you anything is you. Other people can present information, they can give you data, but you are really the only one who can truly teach you. And I realized that it was better to say I'm my own best teacher than my own worst critic, because it changes the whole direction of my thought, but it also drops a lot of the fear of listening or doing the thing that I was my own worst critic   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 41:10 about. I love that, Michael. I think that's genius. I'm my own best teacher, not my own worst critic,   Michael Hingson ** 41:19 right? It's it's positive, it's also true, and it puts a whole different spin on it, because one of the things that we talk about and live like a guide dog a lot is that ultimately, and all the things that you say are very true, but ultimately, each of us has to take the time to synthesize and think about the challenges that we face, the problems that we faced. What happened today that didn't work well, and I don't use the word fail, because I think that also doesn't help the process. But rather, we expected something to happen. It didn't. It didn't go well. What do we do about it? And that ultimately, taking time at the end of every day, for example, to do self analysis helps a lot, and the result of that is that we learn, and we learn to listen to our own inner mind to help us with that   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 42:17 exactly, I think that self insight is missing in a lot of us, we're not taking the time to be still and to listen to the voice within and to listen to what we are thinking and feeling internally, because we're go, go, go, go, go, and then when we're sitting still, you know what we're doing, we're on our phones,   Michael Hingson ** 42:41 and That's why I say at the end of the day, when you're getting ready, you're in bed, you're falling asleep. Take the time. It doesn't take a long time to get your mind going down that road. And then, of course, a lot happens when you're asleep, because you think about it   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 43:01 exactly. And you know, I've got to say, however spirituality is defined, I think that that is a key element in conquering this level of anxiety in society. The anxiety in society needs to be conquered by a feeling of greater meaning and purpose and connectedness in the human race, because we're all one race, the human race, in the end of the day, and all these divisions and silos and what's happening with our great you know, next door neighbors to each other, the US and Canada. It's the way that Canada is being treated is not not good. It's not the way you would treat a neighbor and a beloved neighbor that's there for you. In the end of the day, there's fires in California. We're sending our best fire crews over. You know, World War One, where my grandpa thought and Vimy Ridge, Americans were struggling. British could not take Vimy. It was the Canadians that came and, you know, got Vimy and conquered the horrific situation there. But in the end, we're all allies, and we're all in it together. And it's a tricky, tricky world,   Michael Hingson ** 44:11 yeah, and it goes both ways. I mean, there's so many ways the United States has also helped. So you're not, yeah, you're not really in favor of Canada being the 51st state, huh?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 44:26 You know, no, yeah, I love America. I mean, I have a lot of great friends in America and people I adore, but I think Canada is its own unique entity, and the US has been a great ally in a lot of ways, and we're in it together, right, right? I mean, really in it together, and we need to stay as allies. And as soon as you start putting up a fence and throwing rocks over the fence to each other, it just creates such a feud and an unnecessary feud, yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 44:55 Well, very much so. And it is so unfortunate to see. It happening. And as you said, I think you put it very well. It's all about we're friends and friends. Don't treat friends in this way. But that is, that is, unfortunately, what we're seeing. I know I've been looking, and I constantly look for speaking opportunities, home, and I've sent emails to some places in Canada, and a few people have been honest enough to say, you know, we love what you do. We love your story. But right now, with what's going on between the United States and Canada, we wouldn't dare bring you to Canada, and while perhaps I could help by speaking and easing some of that a little bit. I also appreciate what they're saying, and I've said that to them and say, I understand, but this too shall pass. And so please, let's stay in touch, but I understand. And you know, that's all one can do.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 46:01 Yeah, and it, it too shall pass. I mean, it's just all and then anxiety takes over and it gets in the way of logic. Michael Hingston would, hingson would be our best speaker for this option, but the optics of it might get us into trouble, and they just get all wound up about it. And I you know, in the end of the day this, this will pass, but it's very difficult time, and we need to say, Okay, we can't control what's going to happen with tariffs or next month or whatever, but we can control today. And, yeah, I just went on a walk by the river. It was beautiful, and it was just so fulfilling to my soul to be outside. And that's what I could control the day   Michael Hingson ** 46:41 that's right? And that walk by the river and that being outside and having a little bit of time to reflect has to help reduce fear and stress.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 46:54 It does it very much, does   Michael Hingson ** 46:58 and and isn't that something that that more people should do, even if you're working in the office all day, it would seem like it would be helpful for people to take at least some time to step away mentally and relax, which would help drop some of the fear and the stress that they face. Anyway,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 47:20 100% and I am at my office downtown today, and I can see the river right now from my window. And there's research evidence that when you can see water flowing and you can see trees, it really makes a difference to your mental health. So this office is very intentional for me, having the windows having the bright light very intentional.   Michael Hingson ** 47:44 I have a recording that I listen to every day for about 15 minutes, and it includes ocean sounds, and that is so soothing and just helps put so many things in perspective. Now it's not quite the same as sitting at the ocean and hearing the ocean sounds, but it's close enough that it works.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 48:06 That's beautiful. And you're going to come on to my podcast and we're going to talk a lot more about your story, and that'll be really great.   Michael Hingson ** 48:14 We're doing that in May.   48:16 Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 48:17 absolutely, and I'm looking forward to it. Well, how did you get involved in doing a podcast? What got you started down that road? Oh, your tricky podcast. Yeah.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 48:32 So I was running my company. So I have a company of psychologists in Canada, and we operate across the country, and we do two things really, really well. One is helping people navigate their careers at all ages and stages and make find fulfilling career directions. And then our other thing we do well is helping organizations, helping be healthier places to work, so building better leaders, helping create better cultures in organizations. So that's what we do, and we have. I've been running that for 16 years so my own firm, and at the same time, I always wanted a podcast, and it was 2020, and I said, Okay, I'm turning 45 years old. For my birthday gift to myself, I'm going to start a podcast. And I said, Does anyone else on the team want to co host, and we'll share the responsibilities of it, and we could even alternate hosting. No, no, no, no, no, no one else was interested, which is fine, I was interested. So I said, this is going to be, Dr Laura, then this podcast, I'm going to call it. Dr Laura, where work meets life. So the podcast is where work meets life, and then I'm Dr Laura, Canada's. Dr Laura,   Michael Hingson ** 49:41 yeah, I was gonna say there we've got lots of dr, Laura's at least two not to be   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 49:44 mixed up with your radio. One not to be mixed up completely different, right, in approach and style and values. And so I took on that started the podcast as the labor of love, and said, I'm going to talk about three. Three things, helping people thrive in their careers, helping people thrive in their lives, and helping organizations to thrive. And then, oh yeah, I'll throw in some episodes around advocating for a better world. And then the feedback I got was that's a lot of lanes to be in, Laura, right? That is a lot of lanes. And I said, Yeah, but the commonality is the intersection of work and life, and I want to have enough variety that it's stuff that I'm genuinely curious to learn, and it's guests that I'm curious to learn from, as well as my own musings on certain topics. And so that's what's happened. So it's it's 111 episodes in I just recorded 111 that's cool, yeah. So it's every two weeks, so it's not as often as some podcasts, but every episode is full of golden nuggets and wisdom, and it's been a journey and a labor of love. And I do it for the joy of it. I don't do it as a, you know, it's not really a business thing. It's led to great connections. But I don't do it to make money, and, in fact, it costs me money, but I do it to make a difference in the tricky world,   Michael Hingson ** 51:11 right? Well, but at the same time, you get to learn a lot. You get to meet people, and that's really what it's all about anyway.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 51:21 Oh, I've met some incredible people like you through doing it, Michael and like my mentor, Sy Wakeman, who wrote the book no ego that's behind me in my office, and who's just a prolific speaker and researcher on drama and ego in the workplace. And you know, I've, I've met gurus from around the world on different topics. It's been fabulous,   Michael Hingson ** 51:47 and that is so cool. Well, and you, you've written some books. Tell us about your books, and by the way, by the way, I would appreciate it if you would email me photos of book covers, because I want to put those in the show notes.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 52:03 Oh, okay, I'm going to start with my current book that it actually, I just submitted my manuscript the other day, and it's, it's about toxic bosses, and how we can navigate and exit and recover from a toxic boss. And I saw this as a huge problem in the last couple of years, across different workplaces, across different people, almost everyone I met either had experienced it or had a loved one experience a toxic boss. And so I said, What is a toxic boss? First of all, how is this defined, and what does the research say? Because I'm always looking at, well, what the research says? And wait a minute, there's not a lot of research in North America. I'm an adjunct professor of psychology. I have a team of students. I can do research on this. I'm going to get to the bottom of toxic bosses post pandemic. What? What are toxic bosses? What are the damage they're inflicting on people, how do they come across, and what do we do about it? And then, how do we heal and recover? Because it's a form of trauma. So that's what I've been heavily immersed in, heavily immersed in. And the book is going to really help a lot of humans. It really is. So that's my passion right now is that book and getting it out into the world in January 2026, it's going to be   Michael Hingson ** 53:27 published. What's it called? Do you have a title   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 53:30 yet? I do, but I'm not really okay title officially yet, because it's just being with my publisher and editor, and I just don't want to say it until actually, Michael, I have the cover so it's going through cover design. I have a US publisher, and it's going through cover design, and that's so important to me, the visual of this, and then I'll share the I'll do a cover reveal. Good for you, yeah, and this is important to me, and I think it's timely, and I really differentiate what's a difficult boss versus a toxic boss, because there's a lot of difficult bosses, but I don't want to mix up difficult from toxic, because I think we need to understand the difference, and we need to help difficult bosses become better. We need to help toxic bosses not to do their damage and organizations to deal with them. And it's just there's so many different legs to this project. I'll be doing it for years.   Michael Hingson ** 54:24 So what's the difference between difficult and toxic? Or can you talk about that?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 54:29 Yeah, I can talk about, I mean, some of the differences difficult bosses are frustrating, annoying. They can be poor communicators, bad delegators. They can even micromanage sometimes, and micromanagement is a common thing in new leaders, common issue. But the difference is that they the difficult boss doesn't cause psychological harm to you. They don't cause psychological and physical harm to you. They're not. Malicious in their intent. They're just kind of bumbling, right? They're just bumbling unintentionally. It's unintentional. The toxic boss is manipulative, dishonest, narcissistic. They can gaslight, they can abuse, they can harass, all these things that are intentional. Negative energy that inflicts psychological and or physical harm.   Michael Hingson ** 55:27 And I suspect you would say their actions are deliberate for the most part, for the most part, at   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 55:35 least, yeah. And that's a whole Yeah, yeah. I would say whether they're deliberate or not, it's the impact that matters. And the impact is deep psychological hurt and pain, which is, and we know the Psych and the body are related, and it often turns into physical. So my research participants, you know, lots of issues. There's there's research. Cardiovascular is impacted by toxic bosses. Your mental health is your your heart rate, your your digestion, your gut. I mean, all of it's connected. When you have a toxic Boss,   Michael Hingson ** 56:09 what usually creates a toxic boss? It has to come from somewhere   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 56:18 that stems back to childhood. Typically got it. And we get into a whole you know about childhood trauma, right? Big T trauma and little T trauma. Little T trauma are almost death by 1000 paper cuts. It's all the little traumas that you know you you went through, if they're unaddressed, if they're unaddressed, big T trauma is you were sexually assaulted, or you were physically abused, or you went through a war and you had to escape the war torn country, or those sorts of things I call big T and I've learned this from other researchers. Little Ts are like this. You know, maybe microaggressions, maybe being teased, maybe being you know, these things that add up over time and affect your self confidence. And if you don't deal with the little Ts, they can cause harm in adulthood as well. And so that's what, depending on what went on earlier, whether you dealt with that or not, can make you come across into adulthood as a narcissist, for example,   Michael Hingson ** 57:21 right? Well, you've written some other books also, haven't   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 57:25 you? Oh, yeah, so let's cheer this conversation up. I wrote two psychological thrillers. I am mad. I have an active imagination. I thought, what if someone got kidnapped by a billionaire, multi billionaire ex boyfriend who was your high school sweetheart, but it was 10 years later, and they created a perfect life for you, a perfect life for you, in a perfect world for you. What would that be like? So it's all about navigating that situation. So I have a strong female protagonist, so it's called losing cadence. And then I wrote a sequel, because my readers loved it so much, and it ended on a Hollywood cliffhanger. So then I wrote the sequel that takes place 12 years later, and I have a producing partner in in Hollywood, and we're pitching it for a TV series filmed as a three season, three seasons of episodes, and potentially more, because it's a really interesting story that has you at the edge of your seat at every episode.   Michael Hingson ** 58:28 Have those books been converted to audio? Also?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 58:33 No, no, I never converted them to audio. But I should. I should.   Michael Hingson ** 58:37 You should, you should. Did you publish them? Or did you have a publisher? I   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 58:41 published these ones. Yeah, a decade ago, a decade ago,   Michael Hingson ** 58:45 it has gotten easier, apparently, to make books available on Audible, whether you read them or you get somebody else to do it, the process isn't what it used to be. So might be something to look at. That'd be kind of fun.   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 59:00 I think so. And I'll be doing that for my toxic boss book. Anyway, Michael, so I'm going to learn the ropes, and then I could do it for losing cadence and finding Sophie,   Michael Hingson ** 59:09 you'd find probably a lot of interested people who would love to have them in audio, because people running around, jogging and all that, love to listen to things, and they listen to podcasts, yours and mine. But I think also audio books are one way that people get entertained when they're doing other things. So yeah, I advocate for it. And of course, all of us who are blind would love it as well. Of   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 59:34 course, of course, I just it's on my mind. It's and I'm going to manifest doing that at some point.   Michael Hingson ** 59:41 Well, I want to thank you for being here. This has been absolutely a heck of a lot of fun, and we'll have to do it again. We'll do it in May, and we may just have to have a second episode going forward. We'll see how it goes. But I'm looking forward to being on the your podcast in May, and definitely send me a. The book covers for the the two books that you have out, because I'd like to make sure that we put those in the show notes for the podcast. But if people want to reach out to you, learn more about you, maybe learn what you do and see how you can work with them. How do they do that?   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 1:00:14 Sure, that's a great question. So triple w.dr, Laura all is one word, D R, L, A, u, r, a, dot live. So Dr, Laura dot live is my website, and then you'll find where work meets life on all the podcast platforms. You'll find me a lot on LinkedIn as Dr Laura Hambley, love it, so I love LinkedIn, but I'm also on all the platforms, and I just love connecting with people. I share a lot of videos and audio and articles, and I'm always producing things that I think will help people and help organizations.   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:52 Well, cool. Well, I hope people will reach out. And speaking of reaching out, I'd love to hear what you all think of our episode today. So please feel free to email me at Michael H I M, I C H, A, E, L, H i at accessibe, A, C, C, E, S, S i b, e.com, or go to our podcast page, which is w, w, w, dot Michael hingson.com/podcast and Michael hingson is m, I C H, A, E, L, H i N, G, s o n.com/podcast, wherever you're listening, please give us a five star rating. We value that. If you don't give us a five star rating, I won't tell Alamo, my guy dog, and so you'll be safe. But we really do appreciate you giving us great ratings. We'd love to hear your thoughts. If any of you know of anyone else who ought to be a guest on our podcast, or if you want to be a guest, and of course, Laura, if you know some folks, we are always looking for more people to come on unstoppable mindset. So please feel free to let me know about that. Introduce us. We're always looking for more people and more interesting stories to tell. So we hope that that you'll do that. But I want to thank but I want to thank you again for coming on today. This has been fun,   Dr. Laura Hambley Lovett ** 1:02:07 definitely, and I really admire you, Michael, and I can't wait to have you on where work meets life.   **Michael Hingson ** 1:02:18 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. While you're on the site., please use the form there to recommend people who we ought to interview in upcoming editions of the show. And also, we ask you and urge you to invite your friends to join us in the future. If you know of any one or any organization needing a speaker for an event, please email me at speaker at Michael hingson.com. I appreciate it very much. 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Is hidden trauma quietly draining your energy as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Many HSPs carry emotional weight from the past—often without realizing it. Whether it's the loud pain of Big T trauma or the subtle, daily erosion of Little T trauma, these experiences shape how you react, relate, and show up in the world. This episode is your gentle yet eye-opening invitation to explore where healing truly begins. Why This Episode Matters to You: If you're a highly sensitive person feeling chronically overwhelmed, emotionally reactive, or physically drained, unprocessed trauma may be playing a bigger role than you think. This episode unpacks how trauma uniquely impacts HSPs—and reveals compassionate ways to start healing without retraumatizing yourself. It's not about fixing what's broken—it's about finding freedom through understanding. What You'll Walk Away With: A clear understanding of the difference between Big T and Little T trauma—and why both deeply affect HSPs. The overlooked signs of unprocessed trauma that could be showing up in your body, emotions, and relationships. Gentle, empowering healing practices—from therapy to somatic work to Byron Katie's The Work—that honor your sensitivity and help build resilience. Tune in now to start transforming hidden stress into inner freedom—one gentle step at a time. Todd Dreaming of a stress-free, balanced life? Visit trueinnerfreedom.com and complete the HSP Stress Survey. Gain clarity on your stress triggers and enjoy a free 15-minute Inner Freedom Call designed to guide you toward lasting inner peace and fulfillment. Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) or someone who identifies as hypersensitive or neurodivergent? This podcast is dedicated to helping highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigate overwhelm and stress by using The Work of Byron Katie—a powerful method for questioning stressful thoughts and finding true inner freedom. We dive deep into stress management strategies, coping with stress, and stress relief methods specifically tailored for HSPs. Learn how to manage emotions, especially negative ones, and explore effective stress reduction techniques that go beyond the surface to address the root causes of anxiety and pressure. Whether you're interested in learning how to lower stress, handle stress and pressure, or reduce stress through practical techniques, we provide insights and support based on The Work of Byron Katie. Discover how this transformative approach can help you decrease stress, find inner peace, and create balance in your life. Join us to learn about various coping strategies for stress, all designed to support HSPs in their journey toward emotional well-being.

Dr. Cheryl Arutt is a licensed clinical & forensic psychologist, Certified EMDR Therapist & EMDRIA Consultant based in Los Angeles. A specialist in the nexus between creativity & mental health, Dr. Cheryl offers EMDR Intensives and Adjunct EMDR via telehealth. She graduated summa cum laude from UCLA and holds a Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) degree from CSPP-LA, where she was awarded Outstanding Clinical Dissertation for “Healing Together: A program for couples”. She earned a Certificate in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy from WILA and participated in study groups with Dr. James Gooch (Bion) & Dr. Dan Siegel, with whom she shared the podium as TEDx Speakers. A passionate advocate for survivors of trauma, Dr. Cheryl served on the Board of the national nonprofit PAVE dedicated to shattering the silence of trauma and violence, and consults with clinicians and organizations about effectively treating complex and developmental trauma. Dr. Cheryl is currently Access Hollywood's go-to psychologist for trauma issues, a frequent psychological expert on networks including CNN, HLN and DiscoveryID, and speaks internationally about trauma, creativity and post-traumatic growth.  Dr. Cheryl is also the Founder of Creative Resilience, online education for busy creatives to find their voice and their power. We discuss topics including: What is Polyvagal Theory? What is the autonomic nervous system Trauma that eating disorder clients experience Interoceptive awareness Big “T” trauma and Little “T” trauma Dissociation Being in “survival mode”   SHOW NOTES: askdrcheryl.com thecreativeresilience.com creativeEMDR.com ____________________________________________ If you have any questions regarding the topics discussed on this podcast, please reach out to Robyn directly via email: rlgrd@askaboutfood.com You can also connect with Robyn on social media by following her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn. If you enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and subscribe. Visit Robyn's private practice website where you can subscribe to her free monthly insight newsletter, and receive your FREE GUIDE “Maximizing Your Time with Those Struggling with an Eating Disorder”. Your Recovery Resource, Robyn's new online course for navigating your loved one's eating disorder, is available now! For more information on Robyn's book “The Eating Disorder Trap”, please visit the Official "The Eating Disorder Trap" Website. “The Eating Disorder Trap” is also available for purchase on Amazon.

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 35: The Fearful AvoidantIn episode 35 of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley dives deep into the world of the Fearful Avoidant (FA) attachment style, the most complex and variable of all attachment types. Known in earlier psychological frameworks as disorganized attachment, FAs oscillate between seeking closeness and pulling away, leaving both themselves and their partners in a cycle of confusion and pain.What Makes the Fearful Avoidant Unique?Dr. Hensley explains that FAs are the hardest attachment style to pinpoint because they embody traits from both anxious and avoidant types. Their deep inner conflict is rooted in a profound trust and betrayal wound, which makes it challenging for them to feel secure in relationships.• The Push-Pull Dynamic: FAs often seek connection, craving closeness, but then feel misunderstood or betrayed and instinctively push their partner away. This paradox creates a cycle of emotional highs and lows in their romantic relationships.Where Attachment Begins: The Childhood of an FADr. Hensley traces the origins of FA attachment back to childhood, often shaped by the most trauma-filled environments. These traumas can include:• Big T traumas (e.g., abuse, neglect, abandonment).• Little T traumas (e.g., invalidation, inconsistency, emotional neglect).She also emphasizes that FAs typically grow up with at least one emotionally dysfunctional caregiver, further complicating their ability to trust and feel safe.The Role of Parents:• Same-gender parent: Science suggests this parent leaves the deepest imprint on the child's attachment patterns.• Both parents: Combined, their behaviors create the template that teaches the FA that love is not safe, leading to deep-seated trust and betrayal wounds.The Negative Traits of an FADr. Hensley breaks down the challenging traits of FAs, especially how they manifest in adult romantic relationships:1. Hypervigilance:• FAs are highly attuned to subtle cues but often catastrophize them.• This makes them extremely sensitive and easily triggered, as their deep wounds leave them vulnerable to perceived rejection or betrayal.2. Trauma Responses:• Anxious-leaning FAs tend to react with anger and heightened emotional reactivity.• Avoidant-leaning FAs often dissociate, emotionally shutting down after feeling they've tried too hard for too long.3. Negative Bias in Relationships:• FAs often approach their romantic relationships with a belief that betrayal is inevitable, leading to high levels of criticism and difficulty repairing conflicts.4. Poor Partner Choices:• Subconscious patterns often lead FAs to pick emotionally unavailable or harmful partners, such as other FAs, dismissive avoidants, narcissists, or individuals struggling with substance abuse.The Positive Traits of an FADespite their challenges, FAs possess incredible strengths, especially once they begin healing:1. High Empathy:• Their ability to deeply understand and feel for others allows them to create profound connections.• Dr. Hensley cautions FAs to establish boundaries around their empathy to avoid co-dependency or self-abandonment.2. High Emotional Intelligence (EQ):• FAs are often exceptional in careers requiring deep emotional awareness and social skills, such as sales, law, or politics.3. Depth and Connection:• As deep feelers, healed FAs can foster rich, meaningful relationships that are both emotionally fulfilling and long-lasting.Final ThoughtsDr. Hensley concludes the episode by emphasizing that while FAs are complex and deeply wounded, their capacity for growth and transformation is unparalleled. They are true fighters, with a grit that comes only from thier deep feelings and high emotional IQ's. With healing and self-awareness, FAs can become some of the most empathetic, emotionally intelligent, and loving partners.“Fearful Avoidants,” Dr. Hensley says, “are proof that beauty can emerge from brokenness. Their complexity is what makes them truly special.”Tune in to hear more about how FAs can harness their strengths, heal their wounds, and build secure, lasting connections.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. 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In this episode of “Shed and Shine,” Gino Wickman and Rob Dube explore the impact of “Big T” and “Little T” traumas—whether life-altering events or everyday stressors. They emphasize that trauma isn't about the event itself but how we respond to it, highlighting the importance of releasing the energy it holds. Even small, repeated experiences can accumulate, disrupting our lives like “death by a thousand paper cuts.” Through personal stories, Gino and Rob discuss resilience, generational differences in handling adversity, and the importance of self-awareness in processing these hidden wounds. They share practical tools like therapy, meditation, and journaling to manage emotional triggers and find clarity. Listeners are encouraged to continue their inner work, shedding past burdens to shine with strength and peace. This reflective conversation inspires a deeper understanding of trauma and the freedom that comes with self-discovery.

In this episode we speak with Elyssa Smith, a trauma-informed life strategist and TEDx speaker, to explore how unrecognized trauma shapes our behaviors, relationships, and success in business. Elyssa breaks down the concept of trauma into Big T, Little T, and Tiny T categories, shedding light on how even subtle, unmet emotional needs from childhood can lead to procrastination, imposter syndrome, and perfectionism. Together, they discuss the importance of self-awareness in overcoming self-sabotage, the power of regulating your nervous system using Elyssa's 3S Framework, and how to identify and heal from toxic relationship dynamics. With heartfelt stories and actionable insights, this episode serves as a powerful reminder that rewiring your mindset and embracing self-validation can unlock your full potential in both life and business. EPISODE LINKS:

“The pain was necessary in order to know the truth. But we don't have to keep the pain alive in order to keep the truth alive.”- Mark Nepo Rachel Guenther teaches us all about Big T and Little T traumatic events as she compares “trauma” to a trash compacter— Like we've pressed the button and shoved down all the garbage inside our bodies to create space to function— Eww. But that at some point, our bodies (and souls) are going to need to clear out the unnecessary load we are hauling everywhere with us. Dr. Skinner also adds how trauma changes how safe, or unsafe, we feel in our world. That when we are still in trauma, it's harder for us to show up in relationships as a parent and as partner. And how working through trauma is a gift we not only give to ourselves, but also to all the people around us...especially those most dear. We also learn about the safe, advanced therapeutic processes used to release trauma from the body, such as EMDR and ART. And how these processes work to release the pain from the events stored inside our bodies. Overall, the key takeaway is that after experiencing some of life's most harrowing and unfair events, finding safety, trust and healing is very achievable with the right support and resources. Please join us! You & us— We got this, Carly Red and Dr. Skinner 00:58 Rachel's Journey into Trauma Work03:48 Defining Trauma05:26 Impact of Trauma on Self-Perception06:33 Childhood Experiences and Trauma 09:34 Relational Aspects of Trauma14:19 Individual Responses to Trauma19:39 Importance of Perceived Social Support22:23 Understanding Trauma and Its Symptoms24:11 Identifying Trauma in Children26:17 Approaches to Discussing Trauma with Children29:35 Therapeutic Techniques like ART and EMDR 31:28 The Role of the Body in Trauma Healing36:06 Trauma and Addiction43:33 Advancements in Trauma Therapy47:16 Final Thoughts and Reflections https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured

Filly is joined with Judith Richards, creator of the revolutionary trauma therapy, The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP). I first witnessed the power of TRTP when I had a new client do TRTP with another practitioner while she waited for lab results to come back. A few weeks later ALL her symptoms had disappeared - anxiety, depression, fatigue, brain fog, gut issues, and she was off her ADHD medication. I was mind blown, and knew I had to learn TRTP myself to help our clients get faster and more effective results! We now take all our 1:1 Private Ending Body Burnout Method clients through TRTP, and many of our Semi-Private clients add this on to their healing journey. So, I am soooo excited to have my wonderful & eclectic mentor Judith Richards on the poddie today! :) About Judith Richards Judith Richards is the creator of The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP), born out of her journey of resolving decades of severe abuse and trauma. For many years she suffered extreme physical and mental illness as a result of her psychological trauma and physical injuries. AND, she never gave up. With great courage and determination, she persisted, learning and discovering that there is a way to capture a life worth living. There is a way to the other side of trauma and its myriad symptoms. The result of this journey is The Richards Trauma Process. TRTP is fast, effective and safe. It resolves the issues of extreme trauma and is equally as effective in dealing with lower levels of anxiety, depression, fears and phobias – any issue which is trauma-related. Judith now teaches TRTP to mental health professionals. In today's episode, Judith talks to Filly about: Her own body burnout journey - chronic physical & mental health issues after years of extreme abuse & trauma, to the point that she died 3 times, and ended up a homeless “bin” lady with multiple personality disorder What is trauma and why so many people are struggling to overcome it An overview of TRTP trauma therapy and how it works Why TRTP is so effective at clearing past distressing events quickly, in as short as 2-weeks Big T vs Little T, and why ALL people with body burnout & “busy” patterns have unprocessed trauma The power of the imagination - the language of the unconscious mind - and how it is used to transform trauma How Judith used the power of the imagination and beliefs to heal from hydrocephalus and kidney dysfunction Why reprogramming unconscious core beliefs are important for resolving trauma and trauma patterns Show Note Links: Learn more about Judith and TRTP here Join the waitlist for the Ending Body Burnout Method (TRTP with Filly is included in the Private 1:1 option, and can be added on to the Semi-Private option) - limited spaces, so join the waitlist for first dibs & early-bird bonuses Take Chris & Filly's Ending Body Burnout Assessment here Check out how you can work with Chris & Filly Functional Medicine here Disclaimer: This Ending Body Burnout Show podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice, and are provided for general information purposes only. All care is taken in the preparation of the information in this Podcast. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine does not make any representations or give any warranties about its accuracy, reliability, completeness or suitability for any particular purpose. This Podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it are not to be used as a substitute for professional medical, psychology, psychiatric or other mental health care or natural medicine health care. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine recommends you seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Inform your doctor of any changes you may make to your lifestyle and discuss these with your doctor. Do not disregard medical advice or delay visiting a medical professional because of something you hear in this Podcast. To the extent permissible by law Chris & Filly Functional Medicine and the Ending Body Burnout Show Podcast will not be liable for any expenses, losses, damages (including indirect or consequential damages) or costs which might be incurred as a result of the information being inaccurate or incomplete in any way and for any reason. No part of this Podcast can be reproduced, redistributed, published, copied or duplicated in any form without the prior permission of Chris & Filly Functional Medicine.

Do you struggle with binge eating, and no matter what you've tried, you just can't stop? Or maybe you've tried to lose weight by eating less and then threw in the towel because it was just too hard? This week, Jenn is talking to therapist Heather Heynen about how to make progress for the long run, not just for a short period of time. Today, Jenn is joined by therapist Heather Heynen to discuss overcoming binge eating, restricting, and yo-yo dieting once and for all. She explains some common causes behind eating disorders for many people, and the steps that can be taken to heal our relationship with food. Heather breaks down some somatic practices that you can try, as well as how to name your feelings so you are able to lower the temperature on them and recover without leaning on something else, like food or substances, to numb those feelings. She shares the valuable difference between state and story, and why changing your story can change your habits...for good! Tune in to learn more about these wonderful tools! The Salad With a Side of Fries podcast is hosted by Jenn Trepeck, discussing wellness and weight loss for real life, clearing up the myths, misinformation, bad science & marketing surrounding our nutrition knowledge and the food industry. Let's dive into wellness and weight loss for real life, including drinking, eating out, and skipping the grocery store. IN THIS EPISODE: [6:28] How does binge eating, restricting, yo-yo dieting and anxiety all play into Healther's work today?[8:15] How often does Heather see these issues as a mental health therapist?[10:00] What are some of the biggest mistakes Heather sees people making when it comes to trying to change their behavior?[12:38] What are somatic practices and why are they so much more effective?[16:01] What is big T trauma vs. little t trauma?[20:05] Where do you start with healing your relationship with food?[24:49] How do these tools lead to long term behavior changes?[26:27] If you process your feelings more in your head, what can you do to work through it?[28:39] What is state vs. story?[32:02] How can we help children feel their feelings or tolerate distress better?[34:39] What lessons has Heather been able to learn through her solo bike packing trips?[38:24] How can you cultivate giving yourself grace?KEY TAKEAWAYS: When you learn how to feel and experience your emotions, you will no longer need other things, i.e. food or substances, to numb and avoid those feelings.Long term results come from consistency, being patient with yourself, giving yourself a lot of compassion and grace throughout the process.You either hold your emotions in your body (energy) or in your head (thoughts). Learning how to process both of them can lead to freedom from unwanted habits.QUOTES: [8:32] “The biggest disordered eating pattern is binge eating disorder, overeating, emotional eating, that sort of thing. In my practice, I do specialize in treating that, so I personally see it, but if we look at statistics, that is definitely the biggest type of disordered eating that we have going on.” - Heather Heynen“I think anybody can do anything for a finite period of time...then it becomes a function of how we can create the things we can do for an infinite amount of time." – Jenn Trepeck[13:03] “Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings drive our behaviors, our behaviors give us our results, so you can understand why working with the thoughts and shifting to the more helpful ones is really important when we're talking about sustainable behavior change.” - Heather Heynen[13:42] “Our feelings, our emotions really are energy within our bodies, and if we don't learn how to process emotion, it gets stuck. It gets stuck within the body and it can lead to physical issues with the body, it does lead to weight gain, that's another physical component. It can lead to a lot of anxiety and depression, so processing emotions is really important.” - Heather Heynen[24:58] “Binge eating is related to emotion, meaning we are eating to try to numb, we're eating to try to change an emotion that we're feeling. We don't want to feel whatever it is that we're feeling. So if that is one of the biggest reasons that we eat, we get triggered to binge all these things and we want to stop that long term, then learning the skill of feeling our feelings, even the horrible, awful feelings, just learning to feel them and experience them, it's amazing.” - Heather Heynen[28:56] “Learning to have this more helpful narrative, helpful stories, can really help us create a state of being that's a lot more peaceful. But the other side of the coin is that if we can create a more peaceful state, then our story happens to be more helpful as well.” - Heather HeynenRESOURCES:Tickets to Salad with a Side of Fries LIVE in NYC on July 25, 2024Jenn Trepeck's Episode on Weight Loss and Wellness For RealBecome A Member of Salad with a Side of FriesJenn's Free Menu PlanA Salad With a Side of FriesA Salad With A Side Of Fries MerchA Salad With a Side of Fries InstagramGUEST RESOURCES:Heather Heynen's WebsiteHeather Heynen's InstagramHeather Heynen's FacebookHeather Heynen Wellness YouTubeWeight Loss and Wellness For Real Podcast GUEST BIO:Heather Heynen is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Mental Health, Qualified Mental Health Professional, Life Coach, FMS Certified Exercise Professional, Health Coach, Podcaster & Writer. Heather has been working in private practice for over 20 years as a licensed mental health therapist, life coach & health coach. Along the way, she worked for some years as a part-time personal trainer, owned a Cross-Fit gym and created an online weight-loss & maintenance program. Heather is 50 years old and a mother to one child. She loves to travel and is an avid rock-climber, mountain biker and has taken on multiple solo multi-day bike-packing challenges over the past few years. She is a recovered binge-eater, restricter, yo-yo dieter and suffered with anxiety for years. This led her to creating and hosting the podcast Weight Loss & Wellness For Real and also creating online courses all with the purpose to help others find food and body freedom as well as purpose and joy in life. Her mission is to bring whole-person health (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) to individuals so they can live their absolute best lives.

On this episode, Joanna and Natalie discuss the various forms of "Little T" and "Big T" trauma. For more info on the network, visit www.pfcnetwork.net Check out the online store at pfcstore.printify.me

Explore the impact of psychological triggers on our perceptions with trauma recovery coach Joe Ryan in this episode of The Light Inside. Learn how to reframe emotional triggers in a more empowering way to navigate life's challenges. In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker revisits a conversation with trauma recovery coach Joe Ryan about the role of psychological triggers in shaping our perceptions. They discuss reframing emotional triggers in a more empowering way. This episode delves into how our reactions and resistance can influence our stories and perceptions. While the team takes a break for spring, listeners are encouraged to explore this insightful discussion. Key Topics Discussed: emotional triggers and trauma Setting boundaries Moving beyond blindspots Time stamps: [00:02:51] Emotional triggers. [00:04:50] The evolving definition of trauma. [00:10:26] Little T trauma and its impact. [00:12:38] Enmeshment in relationships. [00:18:09] Evolving past emotional processing. [00:20:51] Moving towards authorship and ownership. [00:24:20] Setting boundaries when triggered. [00:28:42] Self-discovery through desire and self-acceptance. [00:31:17] Self-sabotaging beliefs and trauma. [00:36:18] Childhood trauma and healing. [00:40:35] Blind spots as learning opportunities. [00:43:39] Overcoming fear and shame. [00:46:27] Discovering Personal Belief Systems. [00:50:08] Emotional maturity and self-acceptance. [00:54:41] Embracing deep emotional experiences. [00:56:48] Trauma recovery program details. Featured Guest: Joe Ryan JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Senior Production Manager: Anna Getz

Today I brought on my good friend and past coach Greg Oliver. Greg was pivotal in my personal journey to holistic healing and freedom from porn, masturbation and erectile dysfunction Greg and his wife Stacey have been working with men and women through Awaken Ministries for nearly a decade! They focus on sexual addiction, trauma support and betrayal trauma healing while offering 1:1 coaching, support groups and in person retreats. Things weren't always so sweet for Greg... He was not only addicted to porn and masturbation, but his addiction led him to adultery. His full blown addiction was exposed 15 years ago, but only 6 years later, after getting into true recovery, he was set free and called by God to begin helping others Its an incredible story of Gods redemption over sexual addiction! In this episode, Greg and I dive into some major topics. 1. How to identify the trauma in your story 2 How to engage with God in recovery even when you feel angry/distant from him because of spiritual abuse or other trauma? As we unpack these topics, you'll here some incredible wisdom, humility and power from Gregs words He expands on a few major concepts: - Big T and Little T trauma - Behaviour follows Beliefs - How To Compare The Correct way - Finding Safety With The Right People - The Gospel and How Its The Power To Save - The 4S' of Recovery Get connected with Awaken today: - Virtual support: https://awakenrecovery.com/meetings - Retreats: https://awakenrecovery.com/intensives - Donate: https://awakenrecovery.com/donate Work or Connect with us at DeepClean: - Book a Free Strategy Call - Submit Your Questions To Our Podcast Need some help getting over the first 90 days of porn recovery? - Grab your free copy of our 90 day survival guide: Getting over porn withdrawal symptoms

Join us in this riveting episode as we delve deep into the complexities of unresolved trauma, exploring its impact on friendships and marriages. Our expert guest, Tara Lalonde PhD, a seasoned psychotherapist and marriage counsellor, shares profound insights and practical advice for supporting individuals amid their trauma journeys. Tara recently worked with Focus On The Family Canada in producing a resource centred around helping people find Healing From Un-resolved Trauma. If you find this podcast episode helpful and want to go deeper we would highly recommend signing up for this free resource.Episode #84 Highlights:-Demystifying Trauma: In a world increasingly aware of trauma, our guest breaks down the concept for listeners, providing a clear understanding of what is meant when we speak of trauma and its various forms.-Big T vs. Little T Trauma: Explore the distinctions between Big T and Little T trauma, gaining valuable insights into why these nuances matter in mental and emotional well-being.-Procedural Maps and Life Filters: Unpack the fascinating concept of procedural maps and how they become the lenses through which we navigate life, shaping our perceptions and responses to the world around us.-Childhood Trauma Unveiled: Understand why experiences from our formative years persist into adulthood, affecting relationships and emotional well-being…and more!Tara Lalonde, a registered psychotherapist in Ontario, has been counselling adults and couples for over 20 years and is a lead marriage therapist with the Hope Restored marriage intensive counselling program in Ontario, Canada. She also has a private practice focusing on trauma recovery. Tara holds a doctorate in professional counselling from Liberty University and has theological training through her Master's of Divinity in professional counselling, minoring in pastoral studies, from Tyndale Seminary. Tara has appeared on 100 Huntley Street and 700 Club along with radio programs and podcasts in Canada. She is also the author of An Unexpected Freedom: Discover Peace and Joy in the Reality of Life. She is also publishing a new book she co-authored that will be out in July 2024. Tara and her husband Vince have been married for 19 years.For more info on the Hope Restored Marriage Intensive, click here

If you haven't heard/seen, we are thick in launch week of our Ending Body Burnout Method - woohoo!!! It's a super exciting time for us, as we only open doors to our signature award-winning program three times a year. Already we've welcomed in gorgeous new clients ready & willing to dig deep to the root-cause of their health issues, find their spark & end their body burnout for good! To join or to learn more about our 6-month healing accelerator, go here. As part of launch week, we are running a week of healing goodness with LOTS of free content, including our 3-Day LIVE Event - Uncovering the Connection: Trauma & Body Burnout. In today's podcast episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into the webinar we held today for Day 1 of the event. If you'd like to “watch” this and access today's resources, as well as attend LIVE or watch back the recordings for the remainder of the event, go here to get access. In today's episode, Chris & Filly talk about about: What trauma is - Big T, Little T, Macro & Micro trauma Why we have all experienced trauma Why most trauma goes unprocessed How it gets stuck in the body How it manifests in the body Key body systems that are impacted by trauma How to test & support key body systems Show Note Links: Join our FREE 3-Day Live Event - Uncovering the Connection: Body Burnout & Trauma Take our NEW Chronic Health Issues & Hidden Trauma Scorecard Join the Ending Body Burnout Method program - Be quick, doors close 23 Jan (or when spots fill up)! Download client results data from the Ending Body Burnout Method here Take Chris & Filly's Ending Body Burnout Assessment here Check out how you can work with Chris & Filly Functional Medicine here Disclaimer: This Ending Body Burnout Show podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice, and are provided for general information purposes only. All care is taken in the preparation of the information in this Podcast. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine does not make any representations or give any warranties about its accuracy, reliability, completeness or suitability for any particular purpose. This Podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it are not to be used as a substitute for professional medical, psychology, psychiatric or other mental health care or natural medicine health care. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine recommends you seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Inform your doctor of any changes you may make to your lifestyle and discuss these with your doctor. Do not disregard medical advice or delay visiting a medical professional because of something you hear in this Podcast. To the extent permissible by law Chris & Filly Functional Medicine and the Ending Body Burnout Show Podcast will not be liable for any expenses, losses, damages (including indirect or consequential damages) or costs which might be incurred as a result of the information being inaccurate or incomplete in any way and for any reason. No part of this Podcast can be reproduced, redistributed, published, copied or duplicated in any form without the prior permission of Chris & Filly Functional Medicine.

In this episode, Aleya shares deeply with us about her father wound and her journey to worthiness. We dive into some of her childhood trauma and how it's impacted her relationships & self-worth, the subtle ways we can dismiss our “little T” traumas, and the catalyst that released her inner child from waiting around for someone to save her.  Ready for a powerful story of healing trauma patterns and finding worthiness after wounding? Join us for all these juicy nuggets of wisdom. We dive into: Aleya's childhood trauma & its impact on her self-worth How her desire for belonging showed up in her life “Big T” and “Little T” traumas, and why we can't ignore the tiny cuts Childhood resentment & releasing victim mentality Aleya's powerful turning point after an experience with Ayahuasca The big shifts in her relationships - attracting her man & finding healing with her mother And more Aleya Harris, CPCE is the spark for your sparkTM. She is a powerhouse StoryBrand Certified Guide, BioEnergetic Business Consultant, empire-building CEO of The Evolution Collective Inc., host of the Radical Rebirth Retreat, LLC, host of the award-winning Flourishing Entrepreneur Podcast, and international award-winning speaker. She's committed to helping entrepreneurs, executives, leadership teams, and thought leaders differentiate themselves through radically authentic strategy, coaching, and training. Website: www.aleyaharris.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aleyaharris/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aleyaharris/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thealeyaharris  Podcast: https://www.aleyaharris.com/podcast  Me on her podcast: https://www.aleyaharris.com/podcast-episodes/83?rq=po-hong   Connect with me and let's go deeper: Website: https://www.pohongyu.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/pohong.yu/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/pohong.yu/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pohongyu/

We are in a great spot to go over all the plot holes and loose threads from the MCU! There are a bunch, but we are professionals! We only argue about time travel for a little bit. Join us as we talk about where the MCU is going and where it isn't! Jay's  Where did the ten rings come from? What's up with Justin Hammer from Iron Man 2? Is Wanda Maximoff a Mutant or not? The third personality in Moon Knight. Steve Rodgers at the end of Endgame. Hulk's son at the end of She-Hulk. Dr. Strange and his third eye, and also Charlize Theron. Where are the Eternals and what is up with the Black Knight. Is Kingpin dead or what at the end of Hawkeye? (Duh!) Where is Kang at the end of Ant-Man 3? What is Starlord doing? What is America Chavez doing?  Mike's Where did Wong take Shang-Chi? What's up with Eros / Starfox? That freaking marble celestial in the middle of the ocean. Wasn't there a thing about Stark tech being stolen in a movie? How did Yelena Belova get mixed up with Kate Bishop's mom and why is she going to be in the Thunderbolts instead of the new Avengers? Peter Parker. Hercules shows up at the end of Love and Thunder. What's up with him? Does he really go after Thor or do they cut that dumb idea off? Little T'challa. Namor. Just chilling underwater these days? White Vision! You'd think he stands out.  Will we ever see Moon Knight again? What about Loki and the TVA? Let's talk about where Ms. Marvel & Hawkeye go from here.  News You can Abuse!  The Mandalorian as Mr. Fantastic?  https://variety.com/2023/film/news/fantastic-four-pedro-pascal-mr-fantastic-1235355985/ Ugh. Madam Web.  https://mastodon.social/@SuperSideshow/111416145762239304 What if! Season 2!  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiEVqZ2Bc_c What's Next?  X-Men: First Class!  Where to find us. Patreon https://patreon.com/SuperSideShowPodcast Mastodon ⁠https://mastodon.social/@SuperSideshow⁠ Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/super_sideshow/⁠ Threads ⁠https://www.threads.net/@super_sideshow YouTube ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@SuperSideshow

In this episode, Emily shares her deep, embodied wisdom from her own inner child work. We dive into her money wound and feeling like a burden as a child, how that impacted her business and relationships with her kids and her husband, and how her relentless devotion to her little one opened her up to a softening in all areas of her life.  Emily's story will inspire you to take a deeper look at the subconscious beliefs in your own life that could be blocking you from your deepest desires, join us.  We dive into: Emily's childhood money wound of being a burden and its role in her relationships, healing, and work as a money healer Recognizing her pattern of delayed gratification and getting connected to her truest desires Exploring “Big T” vs. “Little T” traumas and Emily's blindspots & minimization of her own trauma The practical ways her deep inner child work has shifted her relationship with her kids How inner-child work changed the way she relates with her husband (some helpful stuff here for any self-identifying “nitpickers”) And more   Emily June Wilcox is a crystal-loving, coffee-drinking, money healer, and business mentor. Her mission is to uplevel the planet through helping women heal their money wounds and build significant wealth – which allows women to act from purpose & passion instead of obedience & obligation. While building three 6 and 7-figure businesses (e-com, agency, and coaching), Emily decided to ditch the belief that it had to be hard. She tapped into feminine energy to allow more ease and joy and support from her team. She uses energetics, woo woo, and a sprinkle of strategy to help women build their fempires and walk the joyous path to millions. You can hear more from Emily by tuning into her Top 3% Global podcast – The Joyous Path to Millions Podcast.  Connect with Emily: Website: https://www.emilywilcox.com  Money Quiz: www.moneywoundsquiz.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/em.makes.money FB: https://www.facebook.com/emilyjwilcox1  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-em-makes-money-show/id1570469677 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilyjwilcox/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@emmakesmoney   Connect with me and let's go deeper: Website: https://www.pohongyu.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/pohong.yu/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/pohong.yu/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pohongyu/  

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In this episode, Katie Kurtz and I embark on a profound exploration of trauma as we navigate its intricacies. We begin by defining trauma and examining its impact on our lives. Discover how to recognize your unique relationship with trauma and the physical responses it triggers. Dive into the world of trauma distinctions, from Big T to Little T traumas, and understand the diversity of traumatic experiences. Explore the pivotal role our nervous system plays in interpreting and coping with trauma. Learn why it's essential to stay within the "window of tolerance" and the consequences of straying outside it. Explore the four competencies employed by our special guest, Katie, in her transformative work. Challenge common misconceptions surrounding trauma-informed care and gain insight into Katie's trauma-informed checklist. Hear real-life examples of unintentional harm and its lasting effects. Katie shares a profound personal experience that heightened her self-awareness, and discovers her rituals and practices for finding calm amidst life's challenges. Finally, explore the music that brings Katie a sense of connection to something greater than herself.  Katie Kurtz, MSW LISW-S (she/her), is a renowned expert and trainer in integrative and inclusive trauma-informed care. With 15 years of experience as a licensed social worker and certified coach, she has honed her expertise across various disciplines and industries. Over the last seven years, Katie has redefined trauma-informed care to make it more accessible and inclusive, developing innovative frameworks and methodologies. Her integrative approach has trained thousands of professionals worldwide on six continents, fostering a future where trauma-informed care is accessible and practical for all. Katie is not only an author, known for creating the Contain Card Deck©, but also the host of the enlightening A Trauma-Informed Future Podcast. She actively contributes as a regional co-chair in Ohio's Trauma-Informed Care Collaborative and serves as a Subject Matter Expert with the Integrate Network. Recognized nationally and internationally, her leadership and contributions have left a significant mark in both the social work and coaching fields. With a diverse educational background and certifications, including a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Gender Studies and a Master of Social Work, she stands as a licensed independent social worker with supervision designation (LISW-S) in Ohio, an Internationally Certified Coach with BYCA, and a trauma-informed 200hr registered yoga teacher.  Join us on this illuminating journey through trauma's complexities, where understanding, healing, and resilience await. We talk about: [3:00] Defining trauma [5:50] Identifying our own relationship and physical response to trauma [7:15] Big T and Little T trauma  [10:20] Our nervous system's role in how we interpret trauma [14:55] Why it's unhealthy to stay outside of the window of tolerance [22:40] The 4 competencies that Katie uses in her work [35:15] Misconception of trauma-informed care [38:50] Katie's trauma informed checklist [41:55] Examples of unintentional harm [50:30] An experience she had that gave her heightened awareness about herself [52:50] A ritual or practice she relies on to help her return to a state of calm [54:50] A song or genre of music that makes her feel connected to something bigger than herself Connect with Katie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_katiekurtz/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-kurtz Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thekatiekurtz https://katie-kurtz.com/   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolynswora/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/ Twitter: ​​https://twitter.com/CarolynSwora  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carolynsworkplaceculture/ Website: https://www.carolynswora.com/ Contact: media@carolynswora.com   

In this episode, Katie Kurtz and I embark on a profound exploration of trauma as we navigate its intricacies. We begin by defining trauma and examining its impact on our lives. Discover how to recognize your unique relationship with trauma and the physical responses it triggers. Dive into the world of trauma distinctions, from Big T to Little T traumas, and understand the diversity of traumatic experiences. Explore the pivotal role our nervous system plays in interpreting and coping with trauma. Learn why it's essential to stay within the "window of tolerance" and the consequences of straying outside it. Explore the four competencies employed by our special guest, Katie, in her transformative work. Challenge common misconceptions surrounding trauma-informed care and gain insight into Katie's trauma-informed checklist. Hear real-life examples of unintentional harm and its lasting effects. Katie shares a profound personal experience that heightened her self-awareness, and discovers her rituals and practices for finding calm amidst life's challenges. Finally, explore the music that brings Katie a sense of connection to something greater than herself.  Katie Kurtz, MSW LISW-S (she/her), is a renowned expert and trainer in integrative and inclusive trauma-informed care. With 15 years of experience as a licensed social worker and certified coach, she has honed her expertise across various disciplines and industries. Over the last seven years, Katie has redefined trauma-informed care to make it more accessible and inclusive, developing innovative frameworks and methodologies. Her integrative approach has trained thousands of professionals worldwide on six continents, fostering a future where trauma-informed care is accessible and practical for all. Katie is not only an author, known for creating the Contain Card Deck©, but also the host of the enlightening A Trauma-Informed Future Podcast. She actively contributes as a regional co-chair in Ohio's Trauma-Informed Care Collaborative and serves as a Subject Matter Expert with the Integrate Network. Recognized nationally and internationally, her leadership and contributions have left a significant mark in both the social work and coaching fields. With a diverse educational background and certifications, including a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Gender Studies and a Master of Social Work, she stands as a licensed independent social worker with supervision designation (LISW-S) in Ohio, an Internationally Certified Coach with BYCA, and a trauma-informed 200hr registered yoga teacher.  Join us on this illuminating journey through trauma's complexities, where understanding, healing, and resilience await. We talk about: [3:00] Defining trauma [5:50] Identifying our own relationship and physical response to trauma [7:15] Big T and Little T trauma  [10:20] Our nervous system's role in how we interpret trauma [14:55] Why it's unhealthy to stay outside of the window of tolerance [22:40] The 4 competencies that Katie uses in her work [35:15] Misconception of trauma-informed care [38:50] Katie's trauma informed checklist [41:55] Examples of unintentional harm [50:30] An experience she had that gave her heightened awareness about herself [52:50] A ritual or practice she relies on to help her return to a state of calm [54:50] A song or genre of music that makes her feel connected to something bigger than herself Connect with Katie Instagram: LinkedIn: Facebook:   Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Twitter: ​​  Facebook: Website: Contact:    

Guest: Kevin Peterson Founder Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Trauma is the center piece of mental health.  Trauma is divided into two categories.  Big T is war, assault, murder, the big stuff.  Little T would be getting yelled at, grief and loss, not having a stable up bringing, it's the cumulation of stuff over time and how you learn to respond to them.  There is a direct link from the number of trauma incidents a person experiences to chronic health issues, mental health problems, and even substance issues to name a few.  PTSD is a series of behaviors surrounding traumatic events over a period of time.  This is from people who have been into work, domestic relationships are examples of PTDS, it would fall in the big T.  People need to realize that the trauma is not your fault. https://www.chronichope.us/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I often talk about trauma, what it is, and how it impacts our behavior. Still, unless you are sitting in private therapy sessions with me or someone else, you rarely get a glimpse of the small nuances of trauma, especially trauma that occurs in childhood. I sat down with fellow trauma expert, therapist, and author Riana Milne to talk about childhood trauma, mindset, and how we can take control of our lives despite what has happened in our past. Riana helps us understand that many things we do result from something we may need to clean up. So, let's dive right in! Key Takeaways: 00:00 Introduction 2:42 Big T and Little T trauma   04:45 Childhood trauma moves through 3 generations and reports show we all have trauma 05:17 Riana's childhood trauma list and the ways it shows up 10:29 Seven areas of life impacted by trauma 14:12 Standard behaviors that show up in our daily lives due to childhood trauma 21:47 Mindset work is required to grow consciously out of trauma 25:34 Coping skills and why we have them 28:17 Conflict is created when childhood trauma is not cleaned up 32:01 Healing ourselves impacts our children, breaks cycles, and changes our daily life 35:10 The power of the 5 D's 37:31 Riana's 3 gratitudes You find out more about Riana at: RianaMilne.com or on social media at:  Coach Riana Milne   LinkedIn   YouTube  Twitter. You can also grab your free copy of Riana's book here: Have the Love You Deserve  LINK Join the 18.5 K members on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok who are engaging in their own life revolution daily! Love this show? Please leave us a review here – even one sentence helps! Become a Get Your Life Together, Girl Insider! Sign up here! Free downloads are available right now! I also invite you to check out the new 15-day Affirmation Course, where I take you on a journey through how to your brain chemistry and your greatest desires to your benefits. It's available to start right now! Looking for more? Visit: www.getyourlifetogethergirl.com, I also invite you to join the new Get Your Life Together, Girl Women's Circle. This monthly membership gives you access to exclusive exercises, practices, tools, monthly live conversations where you can ask questions, 100s of techniques, and a community to support you. It's just $9.00 a month. Connection can be complicated. Therapy isn't cheap. The Women's Circle bridges the gap. Visit the website to learn more and sign up.

Andrea Owen hit bottom in 2007.  Her husband had an affair with their neighbor and got her pregnant.  When they split, she entered a new relationship only to find out nine months later he'd lived about having cancer to cover for his drug problem.  He cheated on Andrea and fleeced her out of thousands of dollars.  Andrea had isolated herself from her friends, quit her job and was moving out her apartment to move in with him.  Andrea knew life had to change and asked the universe for whatever help she could get.In this episode, Andrea shares:How she attended 12 step meetings on co-dependency, yet dismissed her own alcohol issuesHow battle with sex and love addiction left a graveyard of broken heartsDealing with the horrors of postpartum depressionBig T and Little T “trauma.”Drinking before her husband came home, chugging wine just before he came in the doorBattling ADDSo much moreAndrea Owen is a life coach, author and podcaster.  She hosts “Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen,” anywhere you get your podcasts.  She's the author of the books:Make Some NoiseHow to Stop Feeling Like Shit52 Ways to Live a Kick Ass LifeThe audio book, “Getting Damn Good at Life”You can find Andrea Owen at https://andreaowen.com/ Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heyandreaowen/  Tik Tok at https://www.tiktok.com/@heyandreaowen  Linked In at https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyandreaowen/ Support the showWant more sober content in your inbox? Sign up for our weekly newsletter at soberfriendspod.com and get the latest updates on our podcasts, plus sober news, tips, and resources. It's free, fun, and informative. Don't miss out on this opportunity to stay connected with our sober community. Subscribe today at soberfriendspod.com and join the conversation!

Tony Gwynn played 20 seasons for the San Diego Padres, ending his career with 3,141 hits, eight batting titles and five Gold Gloves. In episode one of this tribute series on the life and legacy of “Mr. Padre,” and with the help of with the help of a panel of Hall of Fame pitchers and hitters, we reflected on some incredible stats and anecdotes that made Gwynn's career so memorable. Throughout his two decades in San Diego, Gwynn passed up more lucrative offers to play for teams in bigger markets that might've had a better chance at winning a World Series. But as much as Gwynn loved his city and his team, when his son prevented the Padres from clinching a playoff spot with a timely triple, Gwynn celebrated like a man who always put family first. In episode two of this tribute series, we spend time with Tony Gwynn, Jr. and get his reflections on what it was like growing up as the son of a legend. "Little T" also talks movingly about the role his mom played in his father's success and the responsibility of representing the family name. And we hear in vivid detail about the day in which Junior's worlds collided, creating a defining memory for the Gwynn family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The word “trauma” is thrown around a lot these days—and with the internet and social media, it can be really easy to get confused about what trauma actually means. In fact, you may not even know there are multiple types of trauma!On this episode, I'm going to provide an overview of the different types of trauma, talk about compassion fatigue and how it relates to helping professionals discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study and the concept of being "trauma informed." And finally, we'll talk about how to tell if your trauma is “Big T” (overt) trauma or “Little T” (covert) trauma. Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

PTS DREAMS with LINDA YAEL SCHILLER “This is like free therapy every night. If you can remember your dreams, capture them and write them down, you can bring them into your therapy session, but you can also work with your partner, with your friends in a dream circle -- to unravel and unpack the meanings and the messages from your dreams -- you get a real jumpstart on moving forward in your life.“ [19:47] – Linda Yael Schiller   “Even Carl Jung famously said he needed help interpreting his own dreams. We all have blind spots. None of us can see the back of our own heads… so working in therapy or with others in a dream group is key to being able to unpack  the whole dream.” [28:14] – Linda Yael Schiller ***********************************************   SUPPORT DR. AMY ROBBINS:   If you're enjoying the podcast and finding value in guest interviews, ghost stories, and the content I share, please consider supporting the show by becoming a Patreon member for as little as $5 a month at Patreon.com/DrAmyRobbins   As a member you'll get more say in the content we cover and exclusive access to behind-the-scenes goodness!   Stay Connected with Dr. Amy Robbins:   Instagram YouTube Website Facebook   *********************************************** EPISODE SUMMARY:   Do you or someone you care for suffer from PTSD, that is, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?  Today, the PTSD label is more common than ever.   In today's episode, we talk with Linda Yael Schiller, MSW, LICSW, a psychotherapist, consultant, supervisor, and trainer in Watertown, Massachusetts. Linda integrates traditional therapeutic styles and techniques with expressive energy psychology, and body-based modalities, providing support for healing at all levels of the self: mind, body, heart, and spirit.    Her philosophy of treatment incorporates both deep healing at the source and practical coaching for daily life issues and dilemmas.   Linda also works deeply with dreamwork, and offers a group dream circle, individual consultation, and training for professionals on working with dreams. Linda's book is “PTS Dreams: Transform your Nightmares through Healing Dreamwork”.   Listen in to hear how to transform PTSD using dreamwork.  Topics We Discuss:   [0:25] Amy introduces Linda and her credentials and the modalities of work.    [2:43] Dreams vs. nightmares. They all “rinse out” our experiences, and an opportunity for deep healing from this life and perhaps previous lifetimes. Dream components: storyline, setting, and emotional narrative.   [8:07] Trauma vs PTSD. “Big T” trauma, vs. “Little T” trauma. The extent to which we're supported, believed, and accepted following trauma influences long-term effects.   [14:04] Trauma-based nightmare vs. a “normal” nightmare. Normal childhood development can bring on “normal” nightmares.   [18:21] What if I don't remember my dreams? We all have 5-7 REM cycles overnight. We all have access to free therapy if we just unravel and unpack our dreams, perhaps in a dream circle with friends.    [20:48] The fragile fabric of dreams. How to remember your dreams.    [23:13] Linda uses a layered approach to unpack and interpret dreams using the acronym PRDS. (Based on the Biblical Hebrew word Pardes, meaning "orchard" or "garden”.) Dream interpretation is very personal, not something you can look up in a book. A therapist cannot tell you what your dream means, but they can help you find the deeper layers of meaning.    [33:48] How vivid, luminous, long-remembered dreams may be considered visitations. Amy's own experiences with dream visitations.    [37:00] Amy's speed round questions: What is spirituality? What is something people don't know about you? What is one thing you're looking forward to right now? What's one thing you're deeply grateful for? What book is on your nightstand? What is your favorite spiritual or healing practice? What is the most spiritually transformative experience of your life? FOLLOW LINDA YAEL SCHILLER: Find Linda on Facebook, on LinkedIn, and at her website. Her book, “PTS Dreams: Transform your Nightmares through Healing Dreamwork” is available wherever books are sold.    Life, Death and the Space Between is brought to you by: Dr. Amy Robbins | Host, Executive Producer PJ Duke | Executive Producer Andrej | Podcasticize | Sound Editing Mara Stallins | Outreach & Social Media Strategy Claire | Clairperk.com | Podcast Cover Design

On this episode of Rogue One Radio, we are joined by Todd of WSTR Media to discuss our takes on Andor Episode 7, the Imps in white and Space GrubHub. We also share music from The Morning Line, Stars Like Ours, and Oh the Humanity! Show Links: WSTR Media podcast Big T and Little T podcast The Morning Line Stars Like Ours Oh the Humanity Tavern for Tom GoFundMe R1R Soundtrack on Apple Music R1R Soundtrack on Spotify Rogue One Radio's Picks: Tippi: A Memoir Path of Deceit Black Adam Check out Rogue One Radio at https://bio.link/rogueoneradio Leave us a voicemail at 405-595-0108. Proud member of the Red 5 Network: https://bio.link/red5 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/rogueoneradio/support

Jess Serdikoff Romola, dietitian supervisor and host of The Empowering Dietitians Podcast, continues her conversation around her recent 2-week break from podcasting by explaining more about the intentions she set for her time off. Listen in to understand why Jess responded to potential early burnout with rest (when she's also adamant that rest is NOT a solution to burnout), the epiphany she's been coming to terms with about her work ethic over the past year, and why she rejects the idea that "laziness" is something to feel guilty about. If you liked this episode, you may also like: -Episode 33, Using Values When You're at a Crossroads: https://empoweringdietitians.com/podcast/033-february-reflections -Episode 84, Rest is NOT a Solution to Burnout: https://empoweringdietitians.com/podcast/084-the-burnout-rest-myth -Episode 95, Trauma with a Little T & Needing a Break: https://empoweringdietitians.com/podcast/095-take-a-break -The full archive: www.empoweringdietitians.com/podcast To connect with Jess and learn more about the support she offers: www.empoweringdietitians.com/individual-supervision www.instagram.com/empowering.dietitians

Little T.G.I.F. Action here. Had quite a few topics we covered and talked our usual sh*t. We're gonna change things up this week and start dropping 2 eppies a week! Thank you as always for listening and hopefully you keep adding these songs to your playlist!Instagram.com/musicmemorycastPatreon.com/themusicmemorycastCheck us out on FB also ✌

Dr. Tiffany Griffiths is a licensed clinical psychologist who has private practices in Clarks Summit, Dunmore, Exeter, Peckville, and Kingston, PA. She is from the Scranton area in Northeastern Pennsylvania where she received her bachelor's degree from the University of Scranton. She went on to pursue her doctorate in clinical psychology at the Illinois School of Professional Psychology in Chicago. She chose to specialize her education and training in the area of diversity. Dr. Griffiths' internship experience was gained at Chicago's Loyola University where she worked at the University's Counseling Center providing outreach, evaluations, therapy, and supervision to students, faculty, and staff. Her internship class at Loyola was the first to become accredited by the American Psychological Association.  Since receiving her doctorate and starting her group practice, Dr. Griffiths has become a qualified Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) instructor. In addition, Dr. Griffiths is very interested in the healing potential of Entheogens and is currently enrolled in the Psychedelic Therapy and Research Certificate program through The California Institute for Integral Studies (CIIS).  As a humanistic psychotherapist, Dr. Griffiths believes in the innate potential for human growth. It is her goal to provide an unconditional environment, which is most conducive to achieving peace and happiness with one's self. Her approach is integrated, holistic and eclectic, emphasizing the wholeness of our individual experiences and drawing from multiple evidence-based approaches to best fit one's needs. This approach allows the individual to reunite with shut off aspects of the self in order to lead a more authentic and mindful life. Interpersonal, cognitive, behavioral, physical, spiritual, and familial factors are explored. She currently provides administrative oversight to her practice, provides supervision and consultation, and leads MBSR groups. For more info on Dr. Griffiths Practice visit,https://www.drtiffanygriffiths.com/For more info on CIIS please visit,https://www.ciis.edu/research-centers/center-for-psychedelic-therapies-and-researchSupport the show

In this episode we talk about using mindfulness for stress reduction with trauma informed coach Joelle Moray. She gives us insight on the differences between Big T and Little T trauma and how we can use mindfulness techniques to create more awareness around them to help reframe and heal our trauma. More on what Joelle offers: From group coaching on stress, anxiety, trauma, goals, values, vision, and mindfulness to more personalized options, there are several options from which to choose. Mindfulness can be done in the general group offering, which is offered a few times per year. Small groups, corporate or non-profit groups can be arranged as well. For a more information: Joelle's Instagram @Joellemoray or send an email to joellemoray@gmail.com and let's set up a discovery call to put you or your group on the right path.

In this episode we talk about using mindfulness for stress reduction with trauma informed coach Joelle Moray. She gives us insight on the differences between Big T and Little T trauma and how we can use mindfulness techniques to create more awareness around them to help reframe and heal our trauma. More on what Joelle offers: From group coaching on stress, anxiety, trauma, goals, values, vision, and mindfulness to more personalized options, there are several options from which to choose. Mindfulness can be done in the general group offering, which is offered a few times per year. Small groups, corporate or non-profit groups can be arranged as well. For a more information: Joelle's Instagram @Joellemoray or send an email to joellemoray@gmail.com and let's set up a discovery call to put you or your group on the right path.

In this interview, I talk with Dr. Melissa Hankins, a 17-year Harvard-trained psychiatrist and certified executive coach. We had a very open conversation about what trauma is, how it affects our lives, and what we can do to heal ourselves.  We have all experienced some form of trauma, and many times that trauma plays out in our adult lives. It might affect how we react to our spouse, how we parent our children, and how we navigate our work lives. As Dr. Hankins explained, trauma can affect us in big ways, such as anger, violence, or yelling, but also in not so obvious ways, such as perfectionism, workaholism, and lack of boundaries. Many times it's the root of our very deep wounds, but we can work to heal ourselves and become better for ourselves.  What's in the episode:  What is trauma, and how does it affect our lives? The difference between Big T and Little T trauma. What is a trauma response, and why would someone have one?  What is the key to reshaping our lives? How can we approach trauma, understand its effect, and move beyond to heal?   “Even though we are not responsible for the traumas that happened to us as children, as adults, we are responsible for healing them.” Dr. Melissa Hankins   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review. Kim's Happy Academy Waitlist! If you're tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim's journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community. Connect with Dr. Melissa Hankins LINKEDIN INSTAGRAM TWITTER Schedule a FREE consultation with Dr. Rankins About Dr. Melissa Hankins Dr. Melissa Hankins is the founder and CEO of Melissa Hankins Coaching. She is a Mindset and Success Coach for physicians and other high-performers who may “look great on the outside” but are struggling on the inside. Her clients typically struggle with burnout, perfectionism, workaholism, “trying to do all the things” and feeling completely overwhelmed in the process while doing their best not to show it. 

Why do we focus on the negative experiences in our lives, even when there is so much good happening? The answer: it's a biological design in our nervous system to keep us safe. If you think about it, it makes sense that it was evolutionarily advantageous to remember where pain was found, whereas remembering where you encountered joy was less essential for survival. Nowadays, we fortunately don't often have to worry about literal survival like our ancestors did, but we still carry threats to our survival ALL the time without even realizing it.  As entrepreneurs, this has an enormous impact on our businesses! Of course, your mental health and emotional wellness play a huge role in your ability to get things done in your business and your life, while feeling joyful and on purpose.  ​​But one sneaky thing most of us don't realize is that we tend to overly identify with our businesses and think that we ARE our business, and that our safety comes from our business (newsflash: we aren't and it doesn't!).  Learning how to feel safe in our bodies and heal from past experiences is ESSENTIAL. It's the root cause of what we need to get unstuck and start taking the steps to follow our dreams, and that's exactly what we're talking about today! My guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, a clinical psychologist with over 15 years of experience specializing in the treatment of anxiety and depressive disorders. Dr. Cohen has a particular expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and has treated adults, adolescents and children with state-of-the-art CBT treatments.  The underlying goal of Dr. Cohen's practice is for clients to achieve synchronicity with the person they truly want to be.  Throughout her practice, Dr. Cohen has witnessed hundreds of clients break away from the fear, worry, and despair that had once defined them. She believes that it is a unique gift to be part of their journey towards a new, healthy and fulfilling definition of who they are.   What you'll learn in this episode: Big T and Little T trauma and how it affects all of us (even if you don't think it does!)–including how trauma impacts our businesses How to optimize your gratitude practice How to better balance your nervous system, and what flight, fight, or freeze looks like in our business lives How the known, even when it's bad, keeps us safe from the unknown how healing the trauma IN our bodies (not our minds) can help us feel safe and take the steps we need to follow our dreams Practical solutions for healing trauma in the body   Subscribe and Review Thanks so much for joining me this week. If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review for The Success with Soul Podcast on Apple Podcasts so we can improve and better serve you in the future. Plus, you could be featured on a future episode during our listener spotlights. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And finally, don't forget to subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts to get automatic updates. My goal for this podcast is to inspire those who seek flexibility and freedom in their lives by making something happen with holistic, soulful, step-by-step strategies from me and other experts.   Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky Do you have what it takes to turn your blog into a profitable business? Take our free quiz to find out if you're ready! Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Valerie Rein The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson Get your domain name + hosting starting for just $2.95 with Bluehost when you use our special link! The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach Follow Dr. Cohen @thedivorcedoctor and check out her website at drelizabethcohen.com Follow me on Instagram @katekordsmeier and @rootandrevel   More Ways to Enjoy Success with Soul Download a transcript of this episode Download on Apple Podcasts Email me new episodes Don't forget to join our free Success With Soul Facebook community for follow-up conversations about the podcast episodes and where I also often go live to answer your burning questions. Hangout with like-minded bloggers and heart-centered online business owners exchanging priceless feedback, encouragement, and other golden insights from the trenches.   EPISODE CREDITS: Produced by Danny Ozment at https://emeraldcitypro.com

In this episode we talk about defining Trauma. Not as much as one concrete definition but common elements, key concepts and impacts. We talk about Big T trauma vs Little T trauma, and types of Trauma's. We also dive into giving an overview of how Trauma is dealt with; talking Top Down Approaches, Bottom or Body UP approaches and Heaven all-around aka how does Jesus fit into these modalities and what are aspects that are specific to healing with Jesus as the coach.

Episode 24 - Aaron Kuhn, Guest ConvoAaron Kuhn is a licensed mental health and addiction therapist.  He has a PhD in Psychology, and he has been working in the field for 20 years.  He currently provides counseling, including marriage and family, at Counseling & Consulting Services in Celina, Ohio.   Aaron is an avid fitness advocate and believes in holistic health.  He is happily married and has three children.Ben pulls all the levers on this carnival ride of an episode, while Chad plays stand-by carny, furiously chewing gum and taking notes at the same time.  As evidenced by the episode length, the two can hardly hold back from asking more and more questions of this fascinating and informative guest!  Is it really beneficial for men to identify, express, and regulate their feelings?  How do inflammatory foods factor into mental health?  What's the difference between Big-T and Little-T trauma?  And what is the "ledger system" in a marriage and can it be conquered?SHOW NOTES:Aaron Kuhn contact info: https://www.healthgrades.com/providers/aaron-kuhn-42aezWhat is Alexithymia:  https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/mind-guest-blog/the-emotional-blindness-of-alexithymia/Book referenced, "The Body Keeps the Score":   https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/mind-guest-blog/the-emotional-blindness-of-alexithymia/Scriptural Reference to "love not keeping record":  https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2013&version=NIV         

On this episode of happy business radio Peter Salerno speaks with the duo from Jolt Comedy The Jo O'Brien and Little T. Speaking about how they started their business jolt comedy and how that got there.

Welcome to season two of Little T's Big Interviews! In this episode, I interview Misty Bell Stiers; an author, artist, graphic designer, and executive who also happens to be a witch.

Kicking off Season 2 with this brilliant beauty, Winden Rowe! She's an EMDR Therapist, Trauma Specialist & enthusiast of emerging psychedelic therapies. A few of the questions we dive into are: What is a Big "T" & a Little "T"? What are some of the potentials of Ketamine Therapy? & just how bonkers is this world right now?!?!

Arianne Scheller, Ph.D., LPCDr. Scheller has a bachelor's and master's degree in Counseling from the University of Scranton, her PhD., in Human Development from Marywood University, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Pennsylvania.  Dr. Scheller is an adult child of an alcoholic and has worked with families dealing with addiction in various counseling settings for the last 25 years.  Dr. Scheller has a private practice where she and her significant other, Peter Smith, MS, see patients on an individual outpatient basis and is the Chief Executive Officer of Endless Mountains Extended Care. Endless Mountains is an inpatient, dual diagnosis, drug and alcohol residential facility for adult males located in the beautiful NEPA countryside on 9 acres. Dr. Scheller and her father Steve, who is in long-term recovery, built Endless Mountains together, as a family business.  Steve is a commercial builder and renovated the building and Dr. Scheller licensed the brand-new facility through the state and created the entire clinical program, starting in 2017.  In terms of treatment protocols, Dr. Scheller and her clinical team focus on a trauma-informed model of treatment which first pinpoints the patient's trauma and reason for the patient's self-medicating behavior.  Dr. Scheller is trained in EMDR and regression hypnosis which are two techniques used to address trauma.  TF-CBT and the Seeking Safety group curriculum are two other ways Endless Mountains therapists address patient trauma. After the trauma is addressed and processed, patients receive an individualized treatment plan which can include but is not limited to: 12 step work, SMART recovery groups, Life Skills, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and DBT, Coping Skills, educational counseling and inventories, nutritional counseling and exercise, Reiki, daily meditation, breathwork, medication management and MAT, and a continued focus on mental health in conjunction with physical well-being This can be a lengthy but certainly worthwhile and successful process, which is why many patients stay at Endless Mountains anywhere from 30 days to 6 months.  Dr. Scheller believes that the most important aspect of treatment is to view mental health, physical health, and addiction together in order to appropriately and individually treat each patient. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/allbetter)

Little T's ongoing nightmare started, as it did for so many Burmese people, with the violent coup launched last year by the military. Soon, the first peaceful mass protests hit the streets. Besides organizing some of the protests, the cadre of protesters Little T was involved with also helped in other important ways, such as releasing statements in both Burmese and English for various media outlets, encouraging people to join the protests through social media, and establishing safe houses. The peaceful mass protests continued for several weeks, and were gradually gaining steam when the military chose to crack down, violently. Little T was shocked that the soldiers responded with live ammunition, not rubber bullets; protesters went scattering in all directions, running for their lives, taking cover or shelter wherever it could be found. With the streets becoming so dangerous, and homes providing little safety, Little T's group has had to continue to adjust as the conflict has escalated. Many of her team having fled or gone into hiding, and the support work they can do has branched out in several ways: supporting undercover journalists, taking care of the families of “fallen heroes,” helping at IDP (Internally Displaced Persons) camps, and aiding government workers who have joined the Civil Disobedience Movement. These tense situation, constant danger and frequent moves have been very challenging for Little T's physical and mental health. At one point, soldiers raided an apartment right above the one she was staying in. It hit her that every phone conversation she had with her parents could turn out to be the last. “But then I asked myself the question,” she recalls, “‘Who asked you to join this movement?'” And she realized she had because it was the right thing to do. So she is willing to try and persevere.

It's common to try and outrun our shame, but this can be very harmful to us - and impossible! When we process our shame, that is when we can heal and release it. In today's episode, Dr. Lee invites professor & coach, Keri Bodensteiner, to discuss her shame story and journey to healing. They dive into spiritual healing, the role of shame in shaping who we become, and how to truly process past painful learning to experience balance and peace in our lives. They're exploring:Keri's journey - her shame story and her (ongoing) healingBig T & Little T traumas and how they relate to each otherThe long-lasting effects trauma can have on your life - and some of the ways you can process and release itKeri's practices for coping and processing her traumaAnd more!Connect with Keri:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/magicmorphoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/magicmorpho/Website: https://magicmorpho.com/Check out the book Dr. Lee talked about in the episode! https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=asc_df_0143127748/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=61851652213&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.

If you are a human on earth, you have experienced trauma. Your birth into this world was a trauma. And every moment after that where you felt too overwhelmed to process, can be pinpointed as a trauma.  It doesn't have to be these big, one off events. Trauma encompasses much more than that. Today's guest, my lovely friend, Kirby Criddle, has been treating clients for 15 years in an energy work and plant medicine capacity. Specializing in trauma integration and sexual, emotional and spiritual aspects of health. Her purpose is to serve and to uplift and get to the root of any obstacles or limiting beliefs that are holding you back from unlocking your highest potential. In this conversation, we chatted about: - Big T trauma and Little T trauma - How you still need support once you've recognized the trauma - Allowing yourself to be supported in yoga nidra - Getting sick from consuming too much social media - The difference between therapy + therapy memes - Past life regression + trauma integration - Female health, sexual health + why being naked in nature is an important practice for her - Ep 3 of "The Goop Lab" on Netflix (Orgasms with Betty Dodson) - Kirby's current morning routine + her 4 step journal questions And so much more!   CONNECT + WORK WITH KIRBY: https://msha.ke/kirbycriddle/ https://www.instagram.com/kirbycriddle/   ----------------------   The THREE gifts I mention mid-episode for you to take advantage of this holiday season:   1) Access the EXACT SAME 20 min./day (5 days a week) at home fitness program I will be doing for the month of December HERE. If you'd like to try out the sample workout before committing, you can check that out HERE.   2) The FREE Stress Less Class on Wed. Dec. 15 has already happened. If you'd like to be alerted of the next one, sign up for Marie's email list below by grabbing your free guided meditation or stress less journal!   3) Grab my NEW Annual Reflection Journal (hardcopy!) You will also receive a link for my complimentary Reflection Workshop happening 12/31 on zoom, which will be recorded! You can grab a coil-bound copy of your beautiful reflection journal HERE and wait until you receive it in the mail to listen to the reflection workshop recording. Alternatively, you may email mariebarkerwellness@gmail.com for a digital copy while you wait for your hardcopy.     ----------------------   CONNECT + WORK WITH MARIE:   *FREE* MORNING GRATITUDE MEDITATION: https://marie-barker-wellness.mykajabi.com/weekly-love-letter-sign-up *FREE* STRESS LESS MORNING JOURNAL PDF: https://marie-barker-wellness.mykajabi.com/opt-in MARIE'S ANNUAL REFLECTION JOURNAL (HARDCOPY): https://www.mariebarkerwellness.com/shop MARIE'S KNOW YOUR FLOW PROGRAM details: https://marie-barker-wellness.mykajabi.com/know-your-flow GET SUPPORT IN YOUR DAILY HABITS WITH MARIE'S BWELL CLUB: https://www.mariebarkerwellness.com/gethealthy   MARIE'S IG: https://www.instagram.com/mariebarkerwellness/   MARIE'S WEBSITE: https://www.mariebarkerwellness.com/podcast

Wow - this episode is truly one of our favorites! Today's episode is with Elisabeth Kristof of Brian-Based Wellness, a virtual platform that puts training the nervous system at the center of everything from movement practice, to behavior change, trauma resolution and pain reduction. Elisabeth has been an entrepreneur and mover her whole life. She experienced her own nervous system dysregualtion -- chronic pain, fatigue, migraines, binge eating. She began to understand that applied neurology could be used for so much more than just pain reduction and athletic performance, and that our nervous system drives our behavior and experience of the world. During this episode, Elisabeth takes us through what nervous system regulation even is and how dysregulation can cause things like chronic pain, fatigue, migraines and binge eating. She also gives us “quick win” tools to start to listen to our nervous system so we can start to change our response overtime. There's so many amazing nuggets in this episode, so make sure not to miss this one!   In today's episode we chat about: Elisabeth's story with the techniques that she now teaches in her own life (movement and applied neurology.) Big T vs. Little T trauma: What is trauma and nervous system regulation? Jessie & Christina's stories and how we've seen nervous system dysregulation in our own lives and healing. Where to get started if you feel like you have a nervous system that's a bit out of whack (plus a few “quick win” techniques you can try out right now!) Binge and emotional eating behaviors (aka protective outputs) and what's happening in our nervous system when that happens. What is somatic therapy and healing and why is it important to acknowledge? Weight gain, emotional eating and binge-behavior, and how that is connected to our emotional healing. Minimum effective dose: what does that mean and why is it important to remember in our healing work. Links and things: Elisabeth's Website Elisabeth's Instagram Get a 2-week free membership on Elisabeth's site Free video series to reduce stress and heal nervous system Chronically Healing Instagram Chronically Healing Facebook Group

“Part of what it means to be human is to suffer, but there's a way to move through it that brings joy and goodness to both you and the world around you.” Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel. We all endure trauma—either Big T or Little T. We all seek healing. Yet all too often, the defense mechanisms we constructed to survive trauma, now keep us constrained. Join us to consider: Who we are meant to become in the midst of our heartaches. That we've all been orphaned, estranged, and widowed due to trauma and loss. How we can bring goodness and joy to others as we move through pain. According to Dan, “Every one of us suffers, yet our suffering is never meant to be only ours—we're meant to not only join our own transformation, but also in the privilege of being able to join in others' transformations.” If you're hurting, you'll feel a balm of empathy in Dan and Cathy's words. Please join us for a tender, loving, healing conversation. Allender Center Website: https://theallendercenter.org/ Instagram: @allendercenter Dr. Karin Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/ Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook Instagram: @dr.karin Single is the New Black - Audiobook Audible: smarturl.it/SITNB-Audible iTunes: smarturl.it/SITNB-iTunes --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/love-and-life-media/support

Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about why you may want to go on that second date, even if the first one didn't blow you out of the water. Then, they welcome Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Quincee Gideon to the show. As an advocate and doctor for trauma recovery and co-dependency, Dr. Quincee is adamant about helping people live their full and most meaningful life despite a history of trauma or chronic people-pleasing. She discusses the importance of building trust in yourself and being in your body, her virtual education platform called Traumastery, the Big and Little “T's” of trauma and why both matter, and how trauma comes in all shapes and sizes.    What You'll Hear In This Episode: A Love Fix question on what to do when you notice avoidant tendencies popping up immediately after the first date.  Dr. Quincee's story of trauma work started with trauma. She suffered the traumatic death of a roommate and loved one, and then spent time traveling and working in a war zone in Africa.  What is “Big T” and “Little T” trauma? How are they similar, and how do they differently manifest in our body and emotions?  Dr. Quincee explains complex PTSD, and discusses how whichever modalities work best for you to help you heal from the trauma, is one to keep doing.  Find out more about Dr. Quincee's Course in Co-Dependency, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. Why do trauma survivors tend to be empathic and have a strong intuition?  How do those who have suffered trauma begin to trust their own choices and get realigned with their needs and feelings? Why slowing down and giving yourself the gift of time is so powerful.  What stored trauma in the body can look like.   Tweetables:  “Feelings aren't facts.” - Sherry  “My story of trauma starts with trauma.” - Dr. Quincee “We've got to move from from fear to faith - Sherry  “I think that's why codependent love addicts are so obsessive, because they don't allow themselves the time and go right to obsession.” - Sherry “Time and slowing down seem to be so helpful. If you can allow yourself, it's like the biggest gift you can give yourself is time. - Dr. Quincee   “Trauma happens in different sizes and shapes.” - Dr. Quincee  “We've got to get reacquainted with our bodies instead of being enemies with ou bodies.” - Dr. Quincee  “I find that relationships are so powerful in helping us understand our dynamics.” - Dr. Quincee  “I would say for trauma survivors, particularly those with complex PTSD, getting close to themselves is the most terrifying thing that could be offered along the way.”  - Dr. Quincee   Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz     Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Holiday Special: Sign up for Sherry's Inner Circle for 1/2 off and get 6 months FREE!      Find Out More:  TikTok - @pattiegonia video    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  | Sherry Gaba's Coaching Packages    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Dr. Quincee  Website | Instagram | Facebook | Woven Trauma Therapy    Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram  Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.    

Estrangement is a trauma filled, emotional experience for parents and adult children.  And as we head toward Christmas, the emotions of estrangement are especially being felt by over 25% of us out there. Kreed Revere is here to share her very vulnerable story of her own estrangement from her adult children and what she did to heal herself and start down the road of reconcilitation.In this episode we discuss:Estrangement generally refers to a close relationship that ceases communication and and contact and there is a level of rejection. Know that if you are a parent estranged from your adult children or a child estranged from your parents, you are not alone.Estrangement carries significant shame. The published percentages of estrangement say it's somewhere around 25%, but it is probably much higher.Estrangement can throw you into a a tidal wave of emotions. Sad, mad and back and forth.Once you realize that you are are dealing with estrangement, find a support group. It's important to know that you are not alone. The only control you have is over yourself. The rest of the situation is totally out of your control.Most mothers just want to get back to where they were, but you don't want it to go back to the way it was because it probably wasn't healthy.You have to learn how to let go. Get to the point where you know it is okay if your kids never want to be in your life again.Estrangement is a Little T trauma that happens. And it stays with you whether you end up reconciling or not. Therapy can witness all your emotions. It lets them be seen, told they are okay and validated as normal. Once your emotions are validated then you can start to have some empathy and compassion for your kids, too. The age in which estrangement usually happens is when kids are in their 20s and 30s. Children are here as our teachers and we as parents are students. And we usually have that backwards. Our children are trying to become who they were meant to be. Don't give opinions unless asked. Let your adult children find their own way. Remember that estrangement can be gift. Because you can learn how to do things differently and your relationships can be so much better.Keep you eye peeled for Red Flags - When your kids ask you to stop, when there is decreased amount of communication, and when you start getting information about your kids through a 3rd party. If you know someone going through estrangement, know this is super emotional. Do not judge and let them know you aren't going anywhere.If you are estranged, maintain hope, but also let go so that you can find joy again. You are deserving of a life outside of your children.It's up to the parents to lead the way in reconciliation. We need to learn to love ourselves so we can love our children in much healthier ways.Kreed's podcast is The Estranged Heart on all platforms:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-estranged-heart/id1589244018Her email is theestrangedheart@gmail.com or you can leave her a voice message if you listen to her podcast at her host at anchor.fm.Thanks for listening - please SHARE and RATE and REVIEW this podcast. It is so appreciated.I can be reached at https://llmcshane.com or on instagram at http://www.instagram.com/lesleylmcshane. Or you can join the Facebook Group for this podcast at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thenewoldyou/Peace and Love to All!

0:18 Ancestral = From our Ancestors 0:30 Big Traumas, Little Traumas (Big T, Little T) 0:43 Doesn't matter how big the trauma is, it's how our body receives it 0:50 What is traumatic for a person, may not be traumatic for another person 0:55 Trauma can be passed down in your DNA 1:15 You can also inherit unwanted effects from your ancestors' history 1:30 It is important to break these family patterns 2:19 From a granddaughter of a holocaust survivor, beliefs of unsafety were present 2:41 There is a coding that is passed on to the genes These may be conscious or unconscious  3:40 If you suffer from unexplained anger, depression or fear -- these trauma can be passed on by genes. 4:00 There is research that traumatic experience can be passed onto future generations Emotional inheritance is in our genes 4:22 Our genes can create a blueprint, but they don't necessarily have to be expressed Epigenetics is the study of how your behaviors and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work. 5:07 A lot of disease has its roots in emotional trauma The issues are in the tissues. 6:10 A client has adrenal fatigue Did everything she could to heal her adrenal fatigue (Went to a doctor, took supplements) She is a gratitude teacher, practices mindfulness, is very healthy, has no financial worries She lives a very peaceful lifestyle, there was no reason why her adrenal is a constant overdrive She had inherited from an ancestor in Italy, on her maternal side emotions such as panic, terror and horror After muscle testing and clearing the inherited emotions - adrenal fatigue symptoms went away 10:42 Muscle testing and Body Code modality - tap into what your body is holding into & you can clear them 11:15 Emotions are just frequencies, these weren't of the client 11:31 You can inherit something that isn't even yours 12:28 The trauma that you have inherited is something to explore and be aware of 12:46 Constantly working with my children on the trauma they may have inherited on the panic mode of losing another child 13:38 You can inherit what's going on with the mother in the Utero 13:57 This is awareness 14:06 It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn Identifying the unconscious core language 14:40 Non-Verbal expressions of the trauma 15:37 Take a look where everything is coming from 15:51 This is an area people don't even look at 16:05 Identify your core language (can be intuition, beliefs etc.) 16:40  Close your eyes Take a deep breathe, let it out Identify your core language that can lead you to clear your inherited trauma 17:13 I call upon the highest guides of light to help me identify my inherited trauma To be shown all my my unconscious  To understand and pinpoint my deepest fears that live within me that aren't from me Suport, from whatever forms 17:55 Activate change and generate healing immediately 18:42 Take out your journal and start noticing (What you feel, saw and etc.) 18:54 This is an area that fascinates me 19:15 I am clearing so much ancestral trauma And see the ripple to my kids 19:37 What I am doing here, in my own healing, is helping to heal my children and all its patterns and expressions

After a week off, your den mothers have so much to talk about! Episode 16 starts with Camille & Lauren recapping their last 2 weeks. For Camille this looked like healing work and ramping up for upcoming business ventures. For Lauren, this was a birthday celebration, 7-day women's Ayahuasca & healing retreat and travel! Lauren's update sparks a conversation around psychedelics, including new experiences, safety and expanding your consciousness. The episode wraps up with a discussion on the erotic nature of life. Most the time, our healing journey doesn't just mean healing our sexual self and your den mothers explain why this is true. Happy Wednesday, Wolf Pack! Ou, Ou, Ouuu!!! === Show outline: 2:39 - Halloween Shout Out 8:00 - Camille's weekly update 9:11 - Description of Big T and Little T traumas 15:11 - Lauren's weekly update 20:20 - Lauren's Ayahuasca Journey 29:00 - Expanding your mind & Psychedelic Safety 37:13 - Breathwork for Deep Healing 40:32 - The Erotic Nature of Life === Contact: hello@thesexden.com The Sex Den Instagram Shewolf Lauren's Instagram  Camille's Instagram Camille's Blog & Website Shewolf's Website HUMINT Podcast - Holotropic Breathwork & Trauma w/ Steven Jaggers The Nimai Delgado Podcast - How Breath Work Can Transform Your Life w/ Lukis Mac

Does it ever feel like your vulnerabilities seem related to more than your current experience? Check out Geoff Rickly and Tom Keeley (aka Cody and Dan) as they explore the topic of intergenerational trauma, a symptom of epigenetic expression by which biological responses to trauma may be influenced by experiences beyond our own. Buckle up as Chinchilla Nice Nice and Dan define "Big T" trauma and "Little T" trauma, describe how the traumatic experiences of our ancestors can influence what our contemporary experiences feel like, describe methods for identifying whether our vulnerabilities are based in our experiences or those of our ancestors, and summarize strategies for overcoming intergenerational trauma. Resources: Intergenerational trauma expert, Mark Wolynn; https://markwolynn.com Build empathy to heal your trauma and the trauma of those around you; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhrW08fqiP0 Definitions of "Big T" and "Little T" trauma; https://www.griefrecoveryhouston.com/big-t-vs-little-t-trauma/

O americano de educação japonesa Chris Kenner é um policial responsável por Little Tóquio, um bairro de Los Angeles. Kenner faz parceria com Johnny Murata, um nipo-americano que não tem contato com suas raízes. Apesar de suas diferenças, os dois se sobressaem por suas habilidades em artes marciais quando lutam contra Yoshida, um traficante de drogas vingativo da máfia japonesa, que tem laços com o passado de Kenner. Seja Membro, tenha diversas vantagens e ajude o Filmes e Games. SIGA O FILMES E GAMES: Podcast: https://anchor.fm/fgcast​​ ​​Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5KfJKth​​ ​​Deezer: https://www.deezer.com/br/show/1374722​​ ​​Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/filmesegames​ ​​Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/filmesegames/ ​​​​Twitter: https://twitter.com/filmesegames

Have you ever thought about the little traumas and big traumas that make up your life story? Do you ever feel like your hard times are harder than everyone else's or not hard enough? In this episode, Gabby and Krystal talk about Little T and Big T Trauma. The smaller and bigger traumas that make up our lives. They discuss the differences between these traumas and how no matter how “big” or “small” your trauma may be it is a valid, valued, and a very real part of your life experience. They dive into parts of their own trauma and compare inactive versus active trauma. They explain the importance of not getting caught in the web of comparison. Including comparing to the way others handle hard times or even the way they handled a previous hard time. They talk about the importance of hope in both of their unique journeys. Plus how you can create hope in your own Little T and Big T traumas throughout your life.No matter how you find yourself, Gabby and Krystal want you to know no matter how big, or how small your trauma/hard time/painful experience may be, you belong here. As Krystal says in this episode, “We all have it worse.” MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:“Different Types of Trauma: Small 't' versus Large ‘T” by Dr. Elyssa BarbashRESOURCES:National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255Mental Health Crisis Text Message Hotline: Text 'Home' to 741741FIND US ON ONLINE:www.bd-bt.comInstagram: @bdbtpodcastSign up for our emails: http://eepurl.com/hAg1sDIntro and Outro by AudioBinger

This interview with therapist Annah Schnaitter focuses on EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), an evidence-based trauma-focused therapy modality.  The complete interview (available through the Women Strong membership) highlights additional trauma-focused therapies and resources, plus exciting and hopeful research that Annah is involved with through MAPS (Annah is a therapist for the MDMA assisted psychotherapy for PTSD research study)!  In this excerpt from Annah's wonderful interview, she tells us how she fell in love with treating trauma, educates us on "Big T" and "Little T" trauma, and instills lots of hope regarding the benefits of treating and healing our past traumatic wounds.Connect with Annah Schnaitter through Psychology Today.Learn more about the MAPS research at www.maps.orgIf you'd like to be present for future Women Strong live expert interviews, visit www.womenstrongtogether.com to sign up for the Women Strong membership!

Ep183 - Overcoming Trauma and Generating Forgiveness with Sara Schulting-Kranz Join Sara Schulting-Kranz and Alex on a discussion about trauma, why it is necessary and how to overcome it. Sara is a Professional Coach, Wilderness Guide, published author, TEDx Speaker, Executive Producer of "Walk Through This", a documentary feature in production of her healing journey in nature, and a single mom of three amazing sons. As a multiple trauma survivor, Sara coaches individual men and women through their own life- shifting journeys of healing and transformation. In this episode we discuss: - We all experience trauma - How to accept and honor what you have been through - Masculine vulnerability - The Little T vs The Big T - Viewing the journey as an adventure - Nature Therapy - Discovering her husband's Double Life - Forgiveness is intentional You can connect with Sara Schulting-Kranz here: Facebook: @sara.schultingkranz Instagram: @saraschultingkranz Website: www.saraschultingkranz.com Email: sara@saraschultingkranz.com You can connect with Alex Terranova here: Instagram: @InspirationalAlex Website: www.TheDreamMason.com Email: Alex@TheDreamMason.com Remember, You are a DreamMason®… Because Your Dreams Don't Build Themselves. Alex Terranova is a DreamMason, the author of Fictional Authenticity, a Personal & Professional Performance Coach, and he Hosts The DreamMason Podcast, Flip the Lens & Co-Hosts The Coaching Show Podcast. He supports strong & successful high achievers to unmask convention, embrace the rebel within them, and more deeply explore the complex and agitated edges of our existence to create more clarity, freedom, and success. Alex has been featured on NBC, Fox, Focus TV's Good Morning LaLa Land, NBC Radio, Elephant Journal, The University of Adversity Podcast, The Unleash Success Podcast, The Rising Man Podcast, The Sovereign Society Podcast, Love Living Radio, and an episode of The Villain Crusher., rusher.

Trigger warning & little person listening warning: This episode may trigger people who have gone through sexual trauma. We talk about sexual abuse. Please be aware of your environment when listening. Yet another insanely smart, insightful, brilliant woman who was put on this planet to help others, or in Britt's case, to help others' heal and move forward in their lives from whatever is holding them back. Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. Her work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies and how they connect. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change.  Plain and simple: Britt is the therapist we all wish we had. And we could have her! You can work with her through her business - the Greenhouse in Kansas City, or thx to a pandemic, anywhere virtually. I was introduced to her by my friend and previous guest Meredith Atwood of the Same 24 Hours Podcast. Meredith, I think I owe you a big one - having a personal connection to Britt is one of the highlights of my life right now. After you hear from her, I'm sure you'll feel the same. Be sure to get over to Instagram and follow her right now @brittfrank. Today I took the liberty to have a personal therapy session that I think you'll both enjoy and relate to the various angles. On that note, get ready for a good one. It's time to get Britt on the show. Notables from our conversation: Trauma definition: "There are Big T and Little T traumas. We all have trauma. It just depends on what degree." Sexual abuse: Communication is the key to helping stop or identify abuse when it is happening The Fuckery of Life: I just like this concept :) Guilt is actually important Stages of grief were actually designed for people who were dying. Britt uses the "4 tasks of grief." "The opposite of trauma is choice." "The Road to Happy starts with neutrality." Guilt is a gift. Shame is "I am bad." Guilt is "I did something bad." The floating head: The feeling of being disconnected from your body. The goal is to find happiness in our bodies. Start by assuming you're not crazy. The word perfect is a beast! For more Britt Frank: Connect with her on The Greenhouse Follow her on Social at @brittfrank Keep an eye out for her 2022 book "The Science of Stuck"

When last we left Dabber, Alistair, Grubs, Thick McRunfast, and Little T.M., they were facing off against an automaton with orders to kill them. See how they strike at the mechanical man’s heart, check their rival’s ambitions, and how they react when the other shoe drops in the thrilling and spooky conclusion to the Cannibal … Continue reading Cannibal Halfling Radio Episode 13 – Now Playing: Electric Bastionland Pt 2 →

Tragic events can happen in life. These events can be traumatic for the person experiencing them without a doubt. There are ways to work through and deal with trauma in a way that feels good to you. Listen in to Living Freely Podcast today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC provides information on two types of trauma: Little T and Big T, what PTSD is, and strategies for mindset + managing symptoms of trauma and even validating yourself. Be empowered to know there is help available and you are able to work through traumatic events. Want to learn more about what Norfolk Public Library is offering? Visit their website to see events and other podcast episodes: https://www.norfolkpubliclibrary.org/ Want to connect with our host, Rachel Ann Dine? Connect with her on Instagram for more inspiration and empowerment: www.instagram.com/rachelanndinecounseling To find a mental health provider in your area, visit: www.psychologytoday.com

What do you really know about trauma? Would you believe me if I told you that pretty much every human has trauma? Thats right, trauma doesn't only happen when you go to war or have a severe accident or loss. Chelsey Larson shares how she discovered through therapy that she was having a "trauma response" and that she had PTSD. She was shocked because she was convinced that trauma was only something that people who had been to war experienced. Since discovering this about herself, she has learned a lot about trauma and PTSD. Through this research she learned about "big T" (war, car accident, assault, etc.) vs "little t" trauma which is much more common and includes a lot of emotional trauma and can be something as small as being pushed down or bullied on the playground and no one was there to help you. Trauma can manifest in many ways: depression, anxiety, people pleasing, addiction, perfectionism, procrastination, etc. Chelsey learned that as a child, she learned to operate out of freeze (vs. fight or flight), which completely shut her off from her body. She made progress with her therapist, but it wasn't until she found somatic therapy that she felt connected to her body. Her story is incredibly moving, impactful, and educational. We all need to be able to process our traumas and learn more about them in order to live our lives fully. We also talk about...Sexual assaultBig T vs Little tTrauma responsesGenerational traumaBeing in your bodySomatic therapyDrinking alcoholDivorceMasculine/Feminine EnergyChelsey's Resources:https://www.instagram.com/c_lard/Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitakerhttp://www.thecenterofmvmt.com/breathhouse/It's Hard Resources:https://www.itshardpodcast.comFollow It's Hard on Instagram if you don't already! I share updates on the episodes, chats about mental health and other parts of my life--go check out https://www.instagram.com/itshardpodcast/ Rate, Review and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-hard/id1487375933NEW WEBSITE: https://www.itshardpodcast.comIt's Hard is edited by Sather Audio https://www.instagram.com/satheraudio/Hearts 4 Henry: https://www.instagram.com/hearts_4_henry/https://www.etsy.com/shop/Hearts4Henry?ref=l2-about-shopnameFit for Me by Courtney is offering my listeners 25% off your first month and a free two week trial when you use the code ITSHARD25 on her website, https://fitformebycourtney.com  and then you can download the app. 

in this episode of Good Afternoon Planet Earth with Enneagram and Life Coach Jackie Coban. You can book a coaching session with Jackie at:www.tablefor9nine.comCheck out Jackie's podcast @:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/table-for-9-podcast/id1503228880Follow Jackie on Instagram @https://www.instagram.com/tablefor9coaching/ - Switch language to remember we are always in control of these areas that we want to improve."We are managing this"- Finding your superpower with your flaws- How Jackie got into enneagrams- What IS an enneagram?- How important it is to identify your "why".- Big T and Little T (big trauma, little trauma)- Procrastination- Perfection- ADHD- Anxiety- What things that you don't want to do mean.- neuroplasticity- Adults who bully are not well adjusted- emotionally stunted people- The Shadow Effect- Mirroring other people- An observation on what is the biggest thing that gets in people's way- How people can get to know themselves- The importance of asking "why" until you get to the real answer of an annoyance.Thank you for listening to Good Afternoon Planet Earth!Subscribe, follow, like, and leave a comment! Follow us on Instagram @ instagram.com/gapetvHappy New Year!!!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/join/gapetv?)

Hello! I hope you enjoy this new podcast called Little T's Big Interviews where I interview some people who have done significant things in their lifetime. This one is about my own singing teacher who has performed with so many amazing / famous people and who also helped me launch this new podcast. I want to thank her so much! Anyway, I hope you enjoy this episode and I will have more episodes coming out soon!

Welcome to Heart's Happiness Podcast created by Manpreet Johal.In this  episode of Heart's Happiness Podcast you will learn:What is considered as trauma in our livesThe meaning of 'Big T' and 'Little T'Explanation of  intimacy disorders; Love addiction, Love avoidance and Love deprivationHow trauma manifests in our romantic relationshipsWhat enmeshment is and how where it comes fromThe impact of our cultural background to traumaWhy you may want to work with a culturally aware professionalWhat steps you need to heal these intimacy disorders in your lifeThe difference between coaching and therapyShena Tubb explains her work as therapist and coach and how to work with herManpreet shares her own personal story with healing her intimacy traumaIf this episode triggers you and you need immediate support please check out our website with details of resources. Here are Shena Tubbs websites if you wish to work with her further:http://www.shenatubbs.com/https://www.therecoveryschool.com/ Check out the Heart's Happiness FREE guide to kick off your healing and transform your journey. Follow us on instagram for Heart's Happiness daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.Join our PRIVATE Facebook group to carry on the conversation and speak to others who want to find their own Heart's Happiness and heal. Subscribe to our videos on you tube.Everyone deserves to find their own Heart's Happiness and this podcast has been created with so much love from my heart to yours. Love Manpreet

Everyone has experienced some form of trauma in their lives…from Big T traumas to Little T traumas, all trauma can have an effect on our behaviors and propensity for addictions. In this episode, Jim is joined by Dr. Gerry Crete, PhD. A licensed marriage and family therapist, EMDR certified practitioner, and founder of Soulsandhearts.com a website offering Catholic Mental Health resources to break apart the types of traumas we may have experienced and their impact on our behaviors…most importantly how we can heal from their effects and take our control back!

We interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to bring you our Queen Jolene. Together, J and J describe their relationships with Little T, talk through the discrepancies in his stories, and generally lament over wasting time on him. Also, Evie tells the story of her break-up earlier this year. Join us as we drink wine and commiserate.Jolene: @queenjolene16Instagram: @soulspielpodcast

Why do we focus on the negative experiences in our lives, even when there is so much good happening? The answer: it’s a biological design in our nervous system to keep us safe. If you think about it, it makes sense that it was evolutionarily advantageous to remember where pain was found, whereas remembering where you encountered joy was less essential for survival. Nowadays, we fortunately don’t often have to worry about literal survival like our ancestors did, but we still carry threats to our survival ALL the time without even realizing it.  As entrepreneurs, this has an enormous impact on our businesses! Of course, your mental health and emotional wellness play a huge role in your ability to get things done in your business and your life, while feeling joyful and on purpose.  ​​But one sneaky thing most of us don’t realize is that we tend to overly identify with our businesses and think that we ARE our business, and that our safety comes from our business (newsflash: we aren’t and it doesn’t!).  Learning how to feel safe in our bodies and heal from past experiences is ESSENTIAL. It’s the root cause of what we need to get unstuck and start taking the steps to follow our dreams, and that’s exactly what we’re talking about today! My guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, a clinical psychologist with over 15 years of experience specializing in the treatment of anxiety and depressive disorders. Dr. Cohen has a particular expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and has treated adults, adolescents and children with state-of-the-art CBT treatments.  The underlying goal of Dr. Cohen’s practice is for clients to achieve synchronicity with the person they truly want to be.  Throughout her practice, Dr. Cohen has witnessed hundreds of clients break away from the fear, worry, and despair that had once defined them. She believes that it is a unique gift to be part of their journey towards a new, healthy and fulfilling definition of who they are.   What you’ll learn in this episode: Big T and Little T trauma and how it affects all of us (even if you don’t think it does!)–including how trauma impacts our businesses How to optimize your gratitude practice How to better balance your nervous system, and what flight, fight, or freeze looks like in our business lives How the known, even when it’s bad, keeps us safe from the unknown how healing the trauma IN our bodies (not our minds) can help us feel safe and take the steps we need to follow our dreams Practical solutions for healing trauma in the body   Subscribe and Review Thanks so much for joining me this week. If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review for The Success with Soul Podcast on Apple Podcasts so we can improve and better serve you in the future. Plus, you could be featured on a future episode during our listener spotlights. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And finally, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts to get automatic updates. My goal for this podcast is to inspire those who seek flexibility and freedom in their lives by making something happen with holistic, soulful, step-by-step strategies from me and other experts.   Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky Do you have what it takes to turn your blog into a profitable business? Take our free quiz to find out if you’re ready! Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Valerie Rein The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson Get your domain name + hosting starting for just $2.95 with Bluehost when you use our special link! The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach Follow Dr. Cohen @thedivorcedoctor and check out her website at drelizabethcohen.com Follow me on Instagram @katekordsmeier and @rootandrevel   More Ways to Enjoy Success with Soul Download a transcript of this episode Download on Apple Podcasts Email me new episodes Don’t forget to join our free Success With Soul Facebook community for follow-up conversations about the podcast episodes and where I also often go live to answer your burning questions. Hangout with like-minded bloggers and heart-centered online business owners exchanging priceless feedback, encouragement, and other golden insights from the trenches.   EPISODE CREDITS: Produced by Danny Ozment at https://emeraldcitypro.com

This episode of the Reboots Podcast is about trauma - "Big T Trauma" and "Little T trauma." Even "Little T" trauma can be devastating.My dear friend Ada Floyd and I talk about:How she's continually learning to process traumas like sexual abuse and the loss of her twin boys Keeton and Kaden.Her role as a therapist in helping her clients heal from trauma. And EMDR, which is a therapeutic approach that can help us process trauma by rewiring neurological pathways that have been stuck because of the trauma we've endured.If you're interested in learning more about Ada Floyd, check out her professional bio.If you'd like to learn more about her personal story, listen to Reboots Episode R008.

Today is the beginning of a short series on trauma. Before you click away or skip ahead, please, please hear me out on why this applies to every single one of you and why awareness of trauma is so important. If trauma doesn't affect you directly — if you somehow managed to have such a mega-privileged life that trauma hasn't affected you — then you need to keep listening so that you can grow your awareness for the sake of your family and friends. I decided to do this now because we need more conversations about trauma, being trauma-informed, trauma-responses, generational trauma, the difference between mental illness and mental injury due to trauma, and how all of these things related to health. They relate to autoimmune issues. Trauma is stored in the body. I felt that this topic is urgent right now is because of all the trauma surrounding racism, oppression, civil rights, discrimination, and I think it's safe to say that right now a significant percentage of the US and maybe even the world has experienced trauma bubbling to the surface and spilling over as a lot of people are passionately taking action to stand up for what's right and be part of the change to begin to heal part of trauma that has been carried on for generations.   What else you'll learn in this episode: • Trauma and racist murders like George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbury and many others • Acknowledging the trauma that's happening along with the rightful uprising of the Black Lives Matter movement • COVID, trauma and race • Why I need you to hear all of this no matter what your race is • Trauma is trauma is trauma. Why we need to do better at not dismissing it • What dismissive language about trauma sounds like • Examples of trauma to identify in your own life • Types of trauma (Big T trauma, Little T trauma, racial trauma, birth trauma, and ancestral/generational trauma) • PTSD and trauma Please subscribe and leave a review for the show! Share this with anyone you care about. This is part of doing the work to be anti-racist and healing ourselves to have healthier generations in the future. In case you're new to the show, I'm Kelly Wilson, owner of fitfizzstudio.com and I’m a certified trainer, nutrition coach, behavior change specialist, autoimmune disease educator and I’ve worked in the health and fitness industry for over 25 years. I am here to help you ditch the gimmicks, finding strength through your struggles, give you the knowledge for making the smartest choices for your own health and to remind you to celebrate victory along the way. The information shared is for educational and informational purposes only. None of the contents should be interpreted as an intent to diagnose, treat, cure, heal or prescribe.   Venmo: @kellykells9 CashApp: $fitfizz Patreon Website Shop Facebook Instagram YouTube

After Friday's KOLDPOP Menu , a Little T . Bone To Add A Little Taste To A Saturday Afternoon On KPR.

Today we’re talking about trauma. The concept of trauma and the discussions around it have definitely become more and more commonplace. As a society, we’re becoming much more comfortable talking about it in general. But, I think there’s still a nuance that we’re missing. When others talk about trauma, we tend to compare our trauma to theirs. We might even think that our trauma wasn’t significant enough because it wasn’t as bad as someone else’s.   So, in today’s episode, I want to talk about this notion around trauma and break down the idea of personal perspective in the context of trauma, the subjective impact that each one of us has, and how that affects you in the present moment. I’ll also be providing a bit of an exercise at the end of the podcast to help you resolve these issues related to the impact your trauma has on you. So, if you’re ready to have this conversation, I hope you’ll tune in!   IGNTD Specials: Free IGNTD Recovery Workshop New IGNTD Recovery Live Online Support Groups   Topics Discussed: [:36] About today’s episode. [1:02] Sharing a trauma I experienced when I was 8–10 years old. [3:18] Why I wanted to share this story with you all at the beginning of this episode. [3:43] Continuing the story of my trauma when I was younger. [4:15] A nuance we’re still missing when we talk about trauma: comparing our traumas to others’. [4:53] What I’ll be covering in today’s episode. [5:22] Little T vs. Big T trauma and struggling with the feelings associated with the idea that your trauma isn’t “big enough.” [6:49] The concept of personal perspective in relation to your trauma. [8:09] The second concept: the subjective impact of your trauma. [10:25] How to know if what you’ve experienced is trauma. [12:29] Here’s my exercise for you to take that personal impact this trauma might be having on you right now and ‘play’ with it. [16:35] Screenshot this podcast, tag me on social media (or DM me), and let me know what you worked on with your exercise.   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Ep: “Getting Personal: A Conversation With My Sister” Room (2015 Film) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004 Film)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

This episode the lads discuss the Blackpool Grime scene in 2016 (Little T we're sending for you), Game Of Thrones/Star Wars nerd news, charity and they review a cider! https://justgiving.com/fundraising/catwnocraicnovember

In this episode, Rachel Hall joins The Toolbox. Rachel is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Mental Health Liaison to the Boone County Sheriff's Department in Indiana. Of the many areas of counseling services, Rachel and her colleagues specialize a lot in the area of trauma. Hear her share why we should not consider this a major tragedy each time we hear that word. Learn what is a Big T vs. a Little T, what EMDR Therapy i, resources to help parents and kids and much more. https://pathwaystohealingcounseling.com/: PathWays to Healing Counseling websitehttp://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/: The Eye Movement Desensitization & Processing Institute website. Learn all about EMDR here. https://www.stopbreathethink.com/: The Stop Breathe Think website. You can download this app to your phone or any device as well. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mx41SPMLBMg: Scene from the movie Inside Out demonstrating the core emotions.

In this episode, Rachel Hall joins The Toolbox. Rachel is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Mental Health Liaison to the Boone County Sheriff's Department in Indiana. Of the many areas of counseling services, Rachel and her colleagues specialize a lot in the area of trauma. Hear her share why we should not consider this a major tragedy each time we hear that word. Learn what is a Big T vs. a Little T, what EMDR Therapy i, resources to help parents and kids and much more. https://pathwaystohealingcounseling.com/: PathWays to Healing Counseling websitehttp://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/: The Eye Movement Desensitization & Processing Institute website. Learn all about EMDR here. https://www.stopbreathethink.com/: The Stop Breathe Think website. You can download this app to your phone or any device as well. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mx41SPMLBMg: Scene from the movie Inside Out demonstrating the core emotions.

I literally can't even right now. I present to you an interview with Seth Godin. Yes. THE Seth Godin. He's on the Faster Than Normal Podcast this week, opening up about his ADHD, talking all about how he's made his life the unbelievable success that it is, and how he's used his ADHD to his advantage. Seth Godin! I mean, this man has done for the online world what Dr. Jonas Salk did for vaccines, and I'm not blowing smoke. Seth is known WORLDWIDE for his business acumen (he started Yoyodyne and sold it to Yahoo! for an estimated $30 million...) His books, including Purple Cow and Permission Marketing, and he blogs EVERY SINGLE DAY at sethgodin.typepad.com. He's been one of my heroes and idols forever, and I'm just so honored that he agreed to join us for what may be the most informative and inspiring interview I've done on FTN to date. I'm tremendously thankful to Seth for his time, energy, and passion that you'll no doubt hear from the first second of this interview to the last. Do enjoy! In this episode, Peter and Seth discuss: How Peter and Seth first met (03:16) Seth's story (05:00) Narrative about ADHD - Hunters vs Farmers (06:55) Diagnosing kids and society that favors being the same (09:44) The concept of Big T and Little T (12:19) Elimination of choice (16:33) Shame around having ADHD (17:20) Seth's daily rituals (19:02) Triggers and will power (20:56) Advice for those who don't think they can change their lives (24:23) Links/Mentions   Links/Mentions Seth Godin (Official Site) Purple Cow (Book) As always, leave us a comment below, drop us a review on iTunes (PLEASE!) and of course, subscribe to the podcast if you haven't already! Know of anyone you think should be on the FTN podcast? Shoot us a note - We'd love to hear!

Download Here, if ya please In which the good ol' boys battle lawnmower men, debate the nature of time itself, and discuss a sad, dildo-filled moment in our nation's recent history. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REMAIN BULLSHIT. ANYTHING YOU BULLSHIT CAN AND WILL BE CALLED ON IN A A COURT OF BULLSHIT. Links: The story of Matt's LifeA timeline of the Oregon occupation Bundy 2: Escape From Dildopolous Music used: "Shaniqua (Don't Live Here No More)" by Little T and One-Track Mike

If you experience any technical difficulties with this video or would like to make an accessibility-related request, please send a message to digicomm@uchicago.edu. Mark Epstein, M.D. presented the 2015 Ikuo Yamaguchi Memorial Seminar at the University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration on March 9, 2015. If there is one thing Buddhism and psychoanalysis can agree upon, it is this: Trauma does not just happen to a few unlucky people, it happens to everyone. Many in Western psychology teach that if we understand the cause of trauma, we might move past it, while those drawn to Eastern practices often see meditation as a means of rising above, or distancing themselves from, their most difficult emotions. Both of these tendencies fail to recognize that trauma is an indivisible part of life. Fortunately, dissenting voices occur in both camps. Resisting trauma is pointless, these voices council, and only makes it worse. Today’s presentation brings this perspective forward. Ranging from the contributions of analysts like D.W. Winnicott, Philip Bromberg and Robert Stolorow to the undercurrent of loss in the Buddha’s own biography—today’s discussion holds that not only do the ‘Little T’ traumas of early life condition how we respond to the ‘Big T’ traumas all around us but that we can use the traumas of daily life to open our minds and hearts.

If you experience any technical difficulties with this video or would like to make an accessibility-related request, please send a message to digicomm@uchicago.edu. Mark Epstein, M.D. presented the 2015 Ikuo Yamaguchi Memorial Seminar at the University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration on March 9, 2015. If there is one thing Buddhism and psychoanalysis can agree upon, it is this: Trauma does not just happen to a few unlucky people, it happens to everyone. Many in Western psychology teach that if we understand the cause of trauma, we might move past it, while those drawn to Eastern practices often see meditation as a means of rising above, or distancing themselves from, their most difficult emotions. Both of these tendencies fail to recognize that trauma is an indivisible part of life. Fortunately, dissenting voices occur in both camps. Resisting trauma is pointless, these voices council, and only makes it worse. Today’s presentation brings this perspective forward. Ranging from the contributions of analysts like D.W. Winnicott, Philip Bromberg and Robert Stolorow to the undercurrent of loss in the Buddha’s own biography—today’s discussion holds that not only do the ‘Little T’ traumas of early life condition how we respond to the ‘Big T’ traumas all around us but that we can use the traumas of daily life to open our minds and hearts.

I'm releasing the second to last episode of The FM Experiment today. Though I'm sorry that it took as long as it did, I wanted to save some time to build the next incarnation of DJ Joyride here in Portland. I have had one job in radio since I moved 11 months ago. It was short-lived at KZME, but it re-affirmed that I'm going to love doing radio for many years to come.I have been thinking lately about putting together a winter podcast series geared toward midwest listeners in North Dakota and Minnesota. What do you think of that idea? Let me know in a short message.If you were a fan of the show, you might be excited to visit DJJoyride.com, the new website I'm working on. I am attempting to outline the various types of projects that I was a part of in Fargo. I miss all of the people that knew me for my passions and called on me for event emceeing, computer fixing, dj'ing, racquetball, or a day on the motorcycles.Recursive art (VFP) with KNDS Underwriter, EMBIIMore: Video Feedback Photography (VFP)FM Experiment PODCAST [Airdate: October 21, 2011] (mp3 file - duration 2:00.00)view complete playlistHour 1 KRAAK & SMAAK - BUILT FOR LOVE * MAROON 5 - MOVE LIKE JAGGER (ROOFEEO & DJ A.N.S REMIX) * TEED - MOVE ON JUSTICE - AUDIO, VIDEO, DISCO * KISSY SELL OUT - BUBS & BIZZLE BJORK - MUTUAL CORE * MATES OF STATE - YOU ARE FREE (THE MAE SHI REMIX) * INFUSION - BETTER WORLD SKRILLEX - FIRST OF THE YEAR (RESTLESS REMIX) FREELAND - ROCK ON (SIRIUSMO REMIX) DRUMSOUND & BASSLINE SMITH - FREAK (DUBSTEP MIX) MAGNETIC MAN - THE BUGHour 2 RIHANNA - ONLY GIRL (MR. LARSSON'S THE ONE DUBSTEP REMIX) YOUNG MC - KNOW HOW (THEME) DJ C - SINCE YOU'VE BEEN IN THIS CLUB (CLARKSON VOCAL MIX) CHICAGO VS. CHEMICAL BROTHERS - SATURDAY SALMON (TEAM 9 MASHUP) SHOOTING HORSES - THIS WAY ARCENCIEL - JUS * HARD-FI - SUBURBAN KNIGHTS (ALEX METRIC REMIX) TV ROCK - BIMBO (TONITE ONLY CLUB DUB) BORIS DLUGOSCH - BANGKOK (REDLIGHT REMIX) DISCOBITCH - C'EST BEAU LA BOURGEOISIE KRAAK & SMAAK - DYNAMITE * LITTLE T & ONE TRACK MIKE - GUIDANCE COUNSELOR SQUAREPUSHER - THE COATHANGER

It's BACK! CabaRadio with Teddy Smooth returns tonight with a fresh, brand new episode!! Teddy & Eroc sit down with The VanDolls Burlesque girls and talk about their now sold out show Video Game Burlesque: Pew Pew!Plus, Vinyl Vaudeville swings into the studio to talk magic, acrobats and cabaret! And to finish the night off Little T drops by to bring us some fresh tracks and talk hip hop. Don't forget about upcoming events, sexy voices and sweet tunes!Talk to you tonight!CabaRadio with Teddy SmoothTuesdays at 11pmCITR 101.9fm or online at http://citr.ca/-----------------------------------------------------MISSED A SHOW?Check out all our shows online at http://citr.ca/ under "Shows" or in the Itunes store under citr -- cabaradioDownload them to your MP3 player or listen online to any of the shows at your convenience!http://feeds.feedburner.com/Citr--Cabaradio

Auto-Tune the world "Crimewave" - HEALTH vs. Crystal Castles "U Want Me" - Captain Ahab "Dippin' My Dagger in Ink" - The YMD "The World Never Stops" - Fergus and Geronimo "Hang Out/Hang Ten" - Math the Band "Wings (WERW live version)" - Little T and One Track Mike "What a Fool Believes" - Self "Your Woman" - White Town "Can't Stop Partying (feat. Lil' Wayne)" - Weezer "Club Action" - Yo Majesty "Push" - Rich Aucoin "No Good Here" - Tim Fite "99 Problems" - Jay-Z "Baby" - Justin Beiber "BOOM" - Anavan "6 Foot 7 Foot" - Lil' Wayne "Hallelujah" - Leonard Cohen

Triggered much?It usually goes something like this. Someone in your life does SOMEthing: Maybe your boss criticizes your work. Perhaps your partner says something that hits you the wrong way. You child stalls as you're trying to get out the door.There's an antecedent, and then there's your go-to reaction. There's no space between the antecedent and your reaction; there's no intention behind your reaction, either. You simply responding on autopilot.On today's show I'm speaking with fellow podcaster Jen Lumanlan about how to align your responses with who you'd like to be as a means of living a more intentional life. Here's a preview:[3:00] Are you triggered or are you flooded? Here's the difference, according to science[5:00] Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn: An overview of The Big Four triggering/flooding responses[11:30] The ways in which culture (and specifically capitalism!) provides us with Little T traumas, every single day[17:00] What are your needs and how can you meet them? Practical first steps for taming your own triggers[18:30] Everything you need to know about The Pause[21:00] The importance of nonjudgemental observation when interacting with our children Resources mentioned:Your Parenting Mojo podcastTaming Your Triggers workshop signup Join our (free!) community hereFind your tribe. Sustainable Minimalists are on Facebook, Instagram + Youtube Email me and say hello! MamaMinimalistBoston@gmail.com  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sustainable-minimalists/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy