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You know that feeling when your heart is pulling you in a direction… and your mind is like, “Umm, what the actual fuck are you doing?”That's the space I'm in right now. The dance between fear and trust. Between the life I know and the unknown pull that keeps whispering, “this way.”In today's episode, I'm opening up about the kind of pull that doesn't make logical sense, doesn't add up on paper, and yet — something deeper knows. I share how this is the exact same pull I felt when I was a nurse, before I stepped into the work I do now. The curiosity. The resistance. The shaky-but-sure feeling that something bigger is moving through me.If you're in a moment of change, if your heart is whispering and your head is screaming, if you're scared to follow the pull but scared not to… this episode is for you.Let's talk about the truth of it. The fear. The trust. And the courage it takes to say yes — even when you don't have the full map.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - be the first to know hereSunday Meds - live event by the beach, June 22ndWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

In this episode, Steve and I sit down to share a conversation we've been having privately for a while now — about the importance of true support in a relationship, especially when one person is going through a season of deep inner change.Right now, Steve is in the thick of that kind of season. He's been in deep contemplation about his life, his family, and what's shaped him without even realising it. A huge part of that has been facing the generational impact of his family being murdered in Auschwitz. For so long, without even connecting the dots, he's been carrying this invisible weight — the need to accumulate, achieve, control, and “secure” everything in his life as a way of trying to feel safe. But no matter how much he had… the safety never fully landed.And that's what's starting to unravel now.What we speak to in this episode is what it takes to hold space for each other when one of you is falling apart in the best possible way. Not fixing. Not rescuing. Not getting impatient or making it mean something about you. Just staying soft, curious, steady.Steve shares how much it's meant to him to feel met in this space — to not be rushed, or judged, or told how to move through it. And I speak honestly about what it's like on the other side — to stay grounded in love and let someone evolve in front of you without needing to shape the outcome.This one's tender. Real. And a reminder that love doesn't always look like doing something big — sometimes it's in the quiet, consistent choice to just be there.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - be the first to know hereSunday Meds - live event by the beach, June 22nd Write into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

In this episode, I'm talking about something that's been landing deeply for me lately… the shift into midlife — and more importantly, the shift into living the life I've worked so bloody hard to create.Over the last 17 years, I've poured energy, time, tears, grit, therapy, growth, healing, coaching, and a whole lot of “let's go again” into building a life that's actually in good knick. My relationships are honest, my work is aligned, my body is cared for, my mind is steady(ish), and my heart is full.The wheel of life — that tool I teach, coach from, and reflect on often — is feeling juicy across the board. Not perfect, but solid. Lived in. Deepened.And now I'm asking myself… What is this chapter about?Carl Jung speaks of the “morning of life” and the “afternoon of life.” How the things that served us in the morning — chasing, striving, collecting — must be let go of in the afternoon to make room for new meaning. That's what I feel unfolding now. The afternoon of life isn't emptier, it's just different. It's more still. More honest. Less proving, more being.So today I'm riffing on that. On letting myself enjoy my life without guilt. On not needing to earn joy or rest or a Wednesday spent in the garden. On trusting that this slower, steadier pace is not a backslide — it's the reward. It's the good life, lived.

Steve and I were out on a hike recently, one of those soul-clearing walks where the body moves and the heart starts to open. We asked each other a simple but big question: “If you died tomorrow, would there be anything you'd regret? Anything you wish you'd done, experienced, or seen?”It hit us both, deeper than we expected.And you know what surprised us? It wasn't about all the things we hadn't done yet. Not the trips we hadn't taken, or the projects we hadn't started, or some massive milestone we missed. It was this: we wish we had allowed ourselves to actually enjoy the life we already have—more.Like, properly soak it in. Let it land. Not rush through it or stress over what's next or what still needs fixing… but actually be in it.It was such a wake-up call. Because we've worked hard to create a life we love. We've made big changes, taken risks, healed a lot. We've built something beautiful together—and yet, even with all of that, there's still this pull toward the next thing, the improvement, the fixing, the striving. And in that striving, we realised: we've been skimming past the gold that's already here.This conversation cracked us open. We spoke about how hard it is sometimes to actually let ourselves enjoy what we've created. How uncomfortable it can feel to pause and receive. Because there's a part of us, like many of us, that still carries the old programming—“you've got to earn your joy,” “you've got to keep pushing,” “don't get too comfortable.”But what if this—this right here—is already enough? What if joy isn't something we have to chase or achieve, but something we're allowed to feel now, exactly as things are?That question on the hike reminded us: we don't want to get to the end of our lives having missed it. Missed the softness of the morning light, or the way our daughter laughs, or the quiet moments where everything's okay and nothing needs to be fixed.So this episode is us going there. Raw, reflective, and real. We're sharing the stuff that stirred in us, and what we're choosing to do differently now—not later, now—so we can actually live the life we've got.We hope it gets you thinking. Maybe even helps you pause. Because it's so easy to forget—but this moment? It's the one we've got. Let's not miss it.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

I'm in a season of patience right now. Not the soft, gentle kind that feels like a warm hug—but the gritty, uncomfortable kind that stretches you in all directions while whispering, “You asked for this.”Because I did. I asked for a soul level-up. I said yes to deeper alignment, more truth, more clarity. And now I'm in the thick of it. Not doing the work—being worked on.There's a quietness to this chapter. A stillness. And to be honest? I don't love it. I feel tired. Lethargic. Foggy. Like I'm in some kind of energetic surgery and all I can do is lay still and let the reshaping happen. Meanwhile, my mind is doing cartwheels. “Why is this taking so long?” “Am I going backwards?” “Shouldn't I be more productive?” “How long will this take?”And yet… the part of me that knows—the one not caught up in fear or timeline obsession—keeps reminding me: This is the work. This, right here. The waiting. The resting. The allowing. Letting go of needing to understand it all while I'm still inside it.So if you're here too—suspended between who you've been and who you're becoming—I see you. This space is sacred, even if it feels messy and slow. Patience isn't passive. It's powerful. And sometimes, the biggest transformation doesn't come from what we do—but from what we're willing to let be done to us.So I'm here. In it. Not rushing. Not resisting (well, trying not to).Just holding myself gently in the becoming.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

I found something the other day—a letter buried in the pages of my 2020 journal. A letter from my future self—2023 Kat—written to 2020 Kat. And reading it now, with the perspective I have today, it hit me in a way I didn't expect.At the time, I was deep in my own push-and-pull with faith and action. Some days, I'd sit back and wait for the universe to do its thing, expecting clarity to just arrive—for the right opportunities, ideas, and next steps to be delivered to me, neatly wrapped with a bow. Other days, I'd swing hard in the other direction—hustling, grinding, trying to do it all on my own, convinced that if I didn't keep moving, everything would fall apart.And the letter? It reflected exactly what I needed to hear back then.My future self didn't say, “Kat, just trust, the universe has got you.” She also didn't say, “Kat, work harder, you're not doing enough.”She said, “Keep going. Keep showing up. Keep making space for what's unseen, and also take the next best step. Don't force. Don't wait. Move in alignment, and trust that what's meant for you will meet you along the way.”And that's it, isn't it? That's the dance.We don't just sit back and hope. And we don't just push until we break. We trust and we move. We listen and we act.You plant the seed, but you also water it. You set the intention, but you also take the step. You trust that life is guiding you, but you also meet it halfway.So, if you're in that place right now—either waiting too much or pushing too hard—I want you to ask yourself:Where am I waiting when I should be moving?Where am I forcing when I should be trusting?Where am I out of balance in this dance?Because the magic, the alignment, the things you couldn't have orchestrated if you tried—they don't just show up because you wish for them.They meet you on the path.Support the show

There's something incredibly powerful about choosing yourself—not from fear, not from old wounds, but from deep, grounded self-worth. And today's guest, KG, embodies that in every way.If you've read Authentic: Coming Home to Your True Self, you'll remember KG's story—where she was, what she was navigating, and the work we did together to help her see her patterns, her ego, and what was running the show beneath the surface. Back then, she was in a relationship, doing the deep work of untangling old beliefs about her worth, love, and what she thought she had to do to be chosen.Now? She's in a completely different chapter—single, standing fully in her worth, and having walked away from that relationship not because of drama, not because of a breaking point, but because she knew in her bones it was time.In this episode, KG shares what it was like to navigate the ending of that relationship with grace, respect, and clarity—without falling into old patterns of staying too long, doubting herself, or making herself smaller. We talk about what it really takes to exit something not because you're running, but because you're rooted in knowing what serves you.She didn't repeat her old cycles. She didn't let her ego convince her to stay out of fear, guilt, or obligation. Instead, she leaned into everything we worked through—noticing the beliefs, challenging the narratives, and leading herself from truth rather than survival.This is the kind of conversation that reminds us what's possible when we do the real work—when we stop settling, when we stop making ourselves wrong for wanting more, and when we stand in the deep knowing that our worth isn't up for debate.KG's story is one of courage, self-respect, and radical ownership—and I can't wait for you to hear it. Let's dive in.Support the show

Lately, my head and my chest have been in a full-blown tug-of-war. So much for my word of the year—unwavered. If anything, my ego's been working overtime to shake me.Every morning, before I even opened my eyes properly, I'd wake up with a pit in my stomach, my chest tight with anxiety. My body was telling me something, but instead of listening, I got annoyed. Frustrated. Tried to push it away, pretend it wasn't there. Classic move, right?But one night before bed, I remembered—this is the work. Not running from it. Not suppressing it. Turning toward it. So I pulled out my journal, wrote it all down, gave my angst the mic, and let it have its say.Then, I closed my journal, took a deep breath, and fell asleep. The next morning? Space. Ease. Like my body had exhaled a sigh of relief. And in that clarity, I saw what I'd been missing—I hadn't been checking in with my heart.So I asked it. And the first thing my heart said? I want to sleep under the stars.Ha—nothing to do with the stress, the anxiety, the overthinking. Just a deep, simple truth. A reminder of something I'd been circling for a year—this hiking trip in Western Australia that I kept almost booking. In that moment, I knew. No more um-ing and ah-ing. No more waiting. My heart had spoken. I booked the trip.Since then, I've been making space again. Asking my heart to guide me. To remind me how I do life—not by pushing, forcing, or keeping up with some illusion of success, but by trusting what I already know.And just like that, I can breathe again.This episode is for you if you've been stuck in your head, overthinking, gripping too tightly. If you've been feeling the weight of it all and have forgotten to check in with you. Let's talk about what happens when we shift from head to heart.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Podcast Episode: Michelle's Journey – From Fear to FreedomThere's a moment in life where you realize—you're either going to keep living the same story, or you're going to change it.Michelle, who you might remember as Jacqui from my book, was stuck in a life that wasn't hers. She was scared of life, scared of what would happen if she actually listened to what she wanted and scared of what would happen if she never listened to callings within. She knew deep down what she wanted to do, but she kept pushing it aside. She put up with behaviour that didn't serve her, stayed in a marriage that was well and truly over, and ignored the quiet voice inside her that kept whispering, there's more for you.And then? She made room.She gave herself the space to hear her own heart. To ask herself, What do I actually want? And to finally stop waiting for permission to live on her terms.Now? She's in a new relationship, working in a way that feels good for her, and has traveled near and far—hiking, road-tripping, saying yes to life in a way she never had before. And the wildest part? This all started in her fifties.This conversation is for anyone who feels stuck, scared, or like it's “too late” to change. Michelle's story is proof that it's never too late to start living for you. That when you clear the space, when you stop filling your life with things that don't serve you, what's actually meant for you can finally find its way in.If you've been waiting for a sign—this is it.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

Two years ago, my client Lynn was living a life that looked successful on the outside but felt completely out of alignment on the inside. She was the ultimate people-pleaser and hyper-achiever, saying yes to everything and everyone, pushing herself to meet expectations that weren't even hers. She had spent so long putting everyone else's needs ahead of her own that she didn't even know what her needs were anymore.When we first worked together, she was exhausted. Disconnected. Stuck in a cycle that felt impossible to break. But something inside her knew—this isn't it. And that knowing became her turning point.Fast forward to today, and Lynn is free. She's at ease. Comfortable in herself in a way she never thought possible. She's no longer hustling for approval or shaping herself to fit into someone else's version of success. Instead, she trusts herself. She honors what she needs. And she's finally living from a place that feels true.In this episode, we dive into what that journey looked like—the moment she realized she couldn't keep living that way, the uncomfortable but necessary work of getting to know herself again, and what life feels like now that she's stopped running and finally come home.Her story is real, raw, and proof that you don't have to stay stuck in a life that doesn't feel like yours. You can change. You can come home to yourself. And it starts with the decision to do so.Support the show

One year married. One whole, wild, beautiful, messy, heart-opening year.If you'd asked either of us years ago if we'd ever find a love like this, we'd have laughed—or maybe cried. Because before we found each other, we were convinced it wasn't possible.Steve was gutted in 2016. The kind of heartbreak that cracks you open and makes you swear, never again. So he dated. A lot. But he kept women at arm's length, never letting anyone too close, never risking that kind of pain again. Love felt dangerous. Love was dangerous.And me? I never thought I could be loved as I am. I had this deep belief that love had to be earned, that I had to contort myself to be chosen. So I kept choosing men who were emotionally unavailable—who couldn't meet me, couldn't see me, and definitely couldn't love me in the way I longed for. And every time they didn't, it just reinforced what I already believed: I am too much. I am not enough. I am unlovable.But life—life had other plans for us.Because despite all our resistance, despite our egos kicking and screaming, there was something deeper pulling us together. The intelligence of our hearts knew. Our inner knowing whispered, this is your person. But knowing and surrendering are two different things.Our egos put up a fight. The stories, the wounds, the fear of being hurt again—it all came roaring to the surface. But love, real love, isn't here to cater to the ego. It's here to break it down. And that's exactly what happened.In this episode, we're sharing our paths back to love—the fears we carried, the ways we tried to protect ourselves, and ultimately, the moment we both chose to trust in something bigger than our past pain.Because love like this? It's not something you find. It's something you surrender to.Listen in. It's a special one. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this week's podcast episode, I'm pumped to bring Megan on for a chat—a legend whose story I shared in my book. Megan's journey struck a chord with so many of you, and today, she's here to share where she's at now after making one hell of a bold and brave move to align her life with her authentic self.If you've read her story, you'll remember Megan was stuck in the thick of it—pregnant with her first baby, navigating in the toxicity of a workplace that no longer fit, and caught in that exhausting loop of indecision. Her ego? Oh, it was in full force, firing off fears like, You'll never find anything better. You should just stay. But deep down, her heart was saying something else entirely: This isn't it anymore.When Megan and I worked together, I guided her through a process to cut through the noise—the ego chatter, the doubts, the shoulds—and reconnect with her truth. And man, when she hit that place of clarity, it was undeniable. Her decision was no longer about “right or wrong”—it was about alignment. She resigned, she created space, and she opened herself up to possibilities that were waiting to flow in.Fast forward to now: Megan is here to share the ripple effect of choosing her authentic way forward. She's crafting a life that fits her—her rhythm, her pace—and her creative spark is fully alive. She's proof of what can happen when you stop running the same old patterns and give yourself permission to live from your truth.This conversation is for anyone stuck in the dance of indecision, feeling the pull to live differently but unsure of what's next. Megan's story will show you what's possible when you stop fighting your truth and start moving with it. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

This week, Steve and I are sharing the realness of something that's happening in our lives right now. We're both deeply plugged into the business area of our wheel of life—so much so that other areas, like our relationship, are starting to feel the pinch.Don't get me wrong, we're all for diving into work when it calls, but when it comes at the cost of connection and ease in your relationship, it's a problem if it's not tended to. And we're feeling it. The usual flow we have between us feels a bit more strained, and we've noticed we're slipping down on each other's priority list.The good thing? We're aware of it. We're not ignoring it or letting resentment build. We're talking about it, acknowledging how we're both feeling, and finding small ways to sustain us while we're in this period of “on-ness.”It's not about overhauling everything or magically balancing it all—it's about doing little things that keep the connection alive while we're both focused on our work. Things like scheduling time to properly check in, sharing a laugh, or even just a hug that lasts a few extra seconds.This episode is an honest look at what happens when one area of life takes the spotlight and how to navigate it without losing the plot (or each other). If you've ever felt like work or another part of life is taking over, you'll relate to this one. Give it a listen—we're all in this together. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USAAuthentic - The Program - We begin Feb 1stCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

Authenticity isn't about trying to be authentic. It's not something you force or perform. It's who you are when you're in your most natural, relaxed state—when you're not overthinking how you come across or questioning if you're enough.But let's be honest—most of us aren't living from that place. Instead, we're driven by a constant undercurrent of “I'm not enough as I am.” That belief creeps into everything—how we show up, what we say, what we hold back, and how much we feel we need to prove.You know what I'm talking about. It's the laugh you force when you don't find something funny. It's saying yes when every part of you wants to say no. It's staying quiet when you've got so much you want to say. And in those moments, a small part of you shrinks.The truth is, most of us are living out of alignment because we're stuck in stories and patterns that make us believe we're only worthy if we're more—more successful, more liked, more agreeable, more perfect. And those stories? They're exhausting.But here's the thing: they're not you. They're layers of conditioning, old patterns you've picked up along the way. Authenticity lives underneath all of that, in the part of you that's still there, waiting for you to drop the act and just be.In this episode, we're getting real about what keeps us stuck, why we struggle to feel enough, and how to come back to your relaxed, real, authentic self. Because when you strip it all back, that's who you've always been. Let's uncover her together.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USAAuthentic - The Program - We begin Feb 1stCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode, Steve and I are in a real-life scenario that could've turned into a full-blown issue—if we didn't have the tools we do. And honestly? The “problem” wasn't even real. It was one I'd made up in my head.Here's how it went down: I was feeling off with Steve. Frustrated, withholding love, and just carrying this low-level resentment. Add in a bit of LOL - I hadn't actually communicated my needs to him. Not once. Instead, I expected him to read my mind, know what I needed, and magically fix it. Spoiler alert: he didn't, and I got annoyed at him for it.This is where one of our tools came into play: “Is there something we need to clear?” It's a simple question, but it creates a space for honesty, connection, and truth. So, we used it, live on the podcast. I shared what was going on in my head, openly and vulnerably, even though it wasn't pretty.I admitted that I'd been expecting him to guess my needs and that my frustration wasn't about him—it was about me not expressing myself. Just saying it out loud shifted everything. The heaviness lifted, and I landed back in my heart.Steve, being the legend he is, listened without getting defensive. We talked it out, and by the end, what could've turned into a massive disconnect became a moment of deeper understanding.This episode is for anyone who's ever let an unspoken expectation create tension in their relationship. We share how to use this tool to clear the air and stay connected, even when things get messy. Because the truth is, your partner isn't a mind reader, and you can't hold them accountable for needs you don't express.Give it a listen—it's a game-changer. And as always, we'd love to hear your thoughts and how this lands for you. Authentic - The Program - Final day to SAVE $300Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

Alrighty, I'm sharing three simple but powerful questions that can create real clarity and momentum in your life:What do you want to start doing?What do you want to stop doing?What do you want to keep doing?These questions are beautifully straightforward, yet the answers they bring up can be deeply insightful. They give you a chance to reflect on what's truly working for you, what's not, and where you want to direct your energy moving forward. Whether you're at the start of a new year or just need a reset, these are the kinds of questions that can shift the way you move through your life.In this episode, I also talk about calling in a word or theme for the year ahead. My word for 2025 is unwavered—to continue in a strong, steady, and consistent way. It's a far cry from how my life used to feel, swinging between extreme opposites. I was either all in, burning myself out trying to prove something, or completely out, shutting down and withdrawing because I couldn't keep up with the chaos I created. But life isn't lived well in the extremes. It's in the steady, grounded space between where I've found real freedom. Approaching my life and the areas of it with a steadier, more intentional way has been an absolute game-changer. And that's what unwavered means to me—showing up consistently, without needing to overdo it or collapse under the weight of it all.If you're feeling pulled to reflect on the year ahead, or if you're craving a way to approach life with more clarity and steadiness, this episode is for you. Tune in now and let's start, stop, and keep moving toward the life you want to create.New year theme - Access it nowAuthentic - The Program - SAVE $300 Jan 8-10Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In our final episode for 2024, Steve and I sat down for what has become a cherished tradition: our annual Partner Reflections. This is a practice we hold close to our hearts because it's about more than just looking back on the year—it's about truly seeing each other.During this time, we reflect on what we've observed in the other person throughout the year. We share where we saw them grow, the challenges they faced, what we're proud of in them, and what we hope for them in the year to come. It's not just about acknowledgment; it's about creating a space where we both feel deeply noticed, valued, and appreciated for who we are and who we're becoming.This process is raw and real, and it always deepens our love and connection. There's something incredibly powerful about hearing your partner articulate what they've noticed in you—not in passing, but with intentionality and care. It reminds us that we're paying attention to each other, even in the busyness of life, and that we're rooting for one another every step of the way.We hope sharing this inspires you to try your own version of Partner Reflections. It's a beautiful way to close the year with gratitude and connection and set the foundation for more love, growth, and alignment in the year ahead. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowAuthentic - The Program - Enrolments open nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode, I'm sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful. When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentiful—existing in or yielding great quantities, abundant—moved through my life in ways my little ego self couldn't predict but my soul knew what was needed. This theme cracked my heart open to what I had been rationing—love, freedom, joy, celebration, peace, pleasure. Things I'd been allowing in smaller doses, as if I didn't deserve the fullness of them. But Plentiful asked me to stop limiting myself. It asked me to welcome and accept these things in abundance, not just when it felt safe or earned, but as my birthright.It hasn't always been comfortable. Letting in abundance means facing the parts of yourself that resist it. But the more I leaned into this theme, the more I realised how much beauty and growth comes when you stop holding back and start saying yes to more.As you listen to this episode, I invite you to reflect: What was your theme for 2024? What are you ready to welcome into your life in greater quantities? What would it look like to fully embrace it, even when it feels bigger than what you're used to? Let's walk into the new year together, hearts wide open. EP Starting the year with clear intentionBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowAuthentic - The Program - Enrolments open nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode of Ask Kat & Steve, we addressed a question from one of our listeners, Carole, about finding a mature man—something I know so many people can relate to. Steve shared some real gold from his dating experiences, talking about how he learned to be more intentional in how he approached dating. Early on, he realised the importance of vetting people better: asking deeper questions, jumping on a FaceTime call sooner rather than later, and paying attention to the vibe and connection right away.But what really stood out was the clarity he brought to the process. Steve talked about setting a clear intention for the kind of energy he wanted in a partner. It wasn't just about swiping based on looks—it was about looking deeper and trusting his intuition. That focus kept him from wasting time and energy on matches that didn't align with what he was genuinely looking for.For me, I shared how, for a long time, I attracted immature men—boys, really—because of where I was coming from. If I was feeling needy, I'd choose someone who reinforced that dynamic. And if I was in a hyper-independent phase, I'd attract people who might have been right, but I was closed. It wasn't until I got more comfortable in myself—more grounded and aligned—that I started to see things more clearly. I could read the red flags, tune into my gut, and choose not to date someone if it didn't feel right, rather than trying to force something that wasn't there in the first place.This conversation wasn't just about dating tips; it was about the energy we bring to relationships and how that shapes who we attract. Whether you're swiping on apps or meeting people in real life, it all starts with how well you know and trust yourself. That's where the real shift happens.EP Why she left love off her intention settingEP Throw your relationship criteria list in the binBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode, I'm sharing an update on my perimenopause journey, thanks to a member of my community asking the question. It's been a chapter of life that has been anything but predictable. Working with Dr. Kirstey Holland has been a game-changer. We discovered that my progesterone levels were low, which caused my estrogen levels to spike. The result? Mood swings that left me feeling completely unrecognisable, heavy periods, moments of rage, crying on the bathroom floor, and just this deep sense of being not me.Since starting on progesterone cream and a stack of supplements to address my gut health, it's like I've found my way back to myself. My digestion is functioning well, the bloating is gone, the brain fog has lifted, my libido is back, and my mood feels steady. For the most part, I'm asymptomatic, which feels like a massive win considering where I started.That said, there's one thing that still throws me: the forgetfulness. It sneaks up on me in moments when I'm speaking or being interviewed, and it shakes my confidence. I catch myself feeling embarrassed or even stupid, which can be hard to shake. But this is a part of the cycle, and I'm learning to meet it with kindness rather than frustration. This stage of life is teaching me patience, humility, and how to trust my body as it shifts and changes.If you're navigating perimenopause, know this: you're not alone, and there's help out there. It's about finding what works for you, paying attention to what your body's telling you, and giving yourself grace as you figure it out. This isn't a chapter we need to go through in silence. Let's talk about it.Episode #278 with Dr Kirstey HollandBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode of *Ask Kat & Steve*, we answered a listener's question about navigating the complexities of blended families. She asked how to handle the difficult, messy moments and how to eventually feel like she fits in as part of a real and authentic family. This is a question that hits home for us because we've lived it, and we know how challenging those “ick” moments can feel when everything seems out of sync.  Steve and I shared the key principles we come back to time and again: honest communication and understanding the unique dynamics of the kids in the family. It's about paying attention to their triggers, quirks, and egos—knowing what sets them off and how to bring them back to their relaxed, authentic state of being. It's not about fixing them but holding space for who they are while remaining grounded ourselves. No easy feat may I add!We also talked about the work we do on ourselves, which is the foundation for everything. If we're not checking in with our own triggers and patterns, we can't show up as the united front the kids need. Blended families aren't about pretending to be perfect or forcing connection; it's about consistently doing the work to build trust, create safety, and let the relationships evolve naturally. It's a beautiful mess. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USA1:1 coach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowHold onto the rope - The letter your teenager can't write youWrite into us - info@katjohn.com.auSupport the show

In this episode, I share about a recent rupture between Mia, my bonus daughter, and me. It wasn't a blow-up or anything dramatic, but it was one of those subtle disconnects that can quietly erode a relationship if left unchecked. She'd been popping in every day before and after school when she was with her mum, and while I love her , I found myself withdrawing—not because I didn't want her around, but because I wasn't voicing my own needs. The energy I was shutting down felt wrong, felt inauthentic, and I knew I had to address it.So, we went for a walk. Walking often helps open up the conversation in a way sitting across a table can't. I asked her why she pops in every day, and she explained how much those moments mean to her, because she misses us. I shared honestly how those pop-ins impact me—when I'm in the middle of something important with work or needing quiet time. That conversation opened up something in both of us. We weren't trying to defend ourselves; we were just hearing each other out.What came next was so simple yet so powerful. By acknowledging each other's feelings and needs, we were able to agree on something that worked for both of us. It wasn't about compromise in a way where someone had to lose. It was about meeting in the middle from a place of mutual respect and care. That repair felt real, grounded, and authentic, and it goes to show every damn time that facing these ruptures—no matter how uncomfortable—is what keeps relationships healthy and alive.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

In this episode, Steve and I are breaking down the decision we made to sleep separately, which, at first, was just about his snoring. It was disrupting our nights, leaving me on edge, waiting to see if I'd get a full night's sleep or end up dragging myself through the next day. But as we moved into this new setup, we realised it was about much more than just noise.The truth is, we both need different things at the end of the day. Steve winds down with a show or something on his screen, giving him that moment of mental break. I'm the opposite. I want quiet, my salt lamp, a candle, and a book that pulls me away from everything external. And I like being in bed by 9 pm, whereas he naturally leans into a later night. Our decision to sleep apart evolved into something we didn't expect – we could actually honor our individual needs without it taking anything away from us as a couple.And here's the thing: we love it! Since making this change, we're more connected because we're not hating on each other. There's no underlying frustration, no waiting for someone else to adjust or sacrifice their comfort. We cuddle when we want to, we're close in the mornings, and both of us wake up fresher, more grounded. It's not a sign of distance; it's a deeper respect for what each of us needs to be at our best, so that when we're together, we're fully there. For anyone feeling boxed in by what they think a relationship *should* look like, this is a reminder: authenticity doesn't follow a rulebook.Buy my book - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

Today's episode speaks to those quiet, insistent yearnings in our hearts—the ones we often overlook or silence because they seem too risky, or even impossible. These yearnings are like markers, guiding us toward authentic living, toward a life and self that truly feel like “home.” Yet, too often, old pains and familiar wounds override these inner pulls. We get trapped in predictable patterns, repeating behaviors we think will protect us but really only keep us confined, far from the life we'd love to live.This is something I've experienced firsthand, how the wounds we carry have a way of weaving into our habits, and they convince us that staying put, sticking to what we know, is the safest option. But what's at stake when we keep ignoring our deepest yearnings? The cost is our authenticity—our ability to live and express who we genuinely are, free from the masks and patterns we hide behind.In today's episode, I'm here to speak directly to that part of you—the one that's ready to consider, or even take, the next step toward living a life aligned with who you are at your core. It might feel confronting or uncomfortable, but that discomfort is a signal that something real is knocking, something that wants to be heard and finally acknowledged.Buy my book - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

So, here's the thing. We all make promises, right? Promises to ourselves about showing up, doing the things we say matter to us, and yet sometimes—especially when we're tired, grumpy, or just not feeling it—we slack off. I had one of those mornings. Crap sleep, not in the mood, and all I wanted to do was skip my 3-good-minute practice. I almost didn't do it. But in those three minutes—literally just three minutes—everything shifted. I was reminded of just how much those small, oh-so-little practices actually are treasure for the soul. They're not just “habits” or “things to tick off the list.” They're a way to reconnect, to remind ourselves of who we are, and what we care about.That got me thinking—where are we placing our fucks? Are we giving our energy to the promises we said we'd make matter? And if not, why? Why do we say these things are important but then ditch them when the mood doesn't feel right? It's in these little moments, these small practices, that we build the foundation for the big things. And when we keep skipping them, what we're really skipping is the chance to nourish ourselves on a deeper level.After my 3-good-minute practice, a message came through so clearly: it's the simple things that do funny things to our hearts. Moments like watching the moon's shine, the stars, the wind moving through a plant, and it hit me—those simple, quiet moments have so much more to offer than the ego could ever recognize. They're where the magic is. So, no matter how tired, grumpy, or off I am, I'll keep showing up for those three good minutes because they move me in ways I can't even explain. And I bet they'll do the same for you if you give them a chance.BUY MY BOOK - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it's so damn important to recognize and respect them. Life isn't meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It's about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purpose, and if we're always stuck in one gear, we end up paying the price—whether it's burnout or letting our dreams slip through the cracks.Coming off the back of my book launch and tour, I'm deep in this right now. The pace has shifted. I've hit that phase where I'm taking a slow-ass walk, and it's exactly what I need. I could easily get caught up in the momentum and keep running, but I know better. If I push myself to sprint after months of nonstop effort, my well-being will suffer. And let's be real, what's the point of all the success if I'm too exhausted to actually enjoy it? The slow walk isn't about being lazy or slacking off; it's about preserving my energy and recalibrating before the next push. It's intentional. It's necessary.It's not always easy, though. There's a little voice in my head saying, “You should be doing more,” trying to convince me that if I'm not moving at full speed, I'm somehow failing. But I'm choosing to trust the rhythm I'm in right now because I know what's at stake if I don't. There's a cost to living in a constant sprint—it's your well-being, your peace of mind. But there's also a cost to staying in the land of “sit back and wait,” where you're not pushing at all, and that's the cost of your potential, your dreams, your growth.So, wherever you're at in the rhythm of your life, honor it. If you need to sprint, give it everything you've got. If you're in a walking phase like I am right now, lean into it. The rhythm will change, as it always does, but what matters is that you're paying attention to the pace your life is calling for.MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it's so damn important to recognise and respect them. Life isn't meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It's about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purpose, and if we're always stuck in one gear, we end up paying the price—whether it's burnout or letting our dreams slip through the cracks.Coming off the back of my book launch and tour, I'm deep in this right now. The pace has shifted. I've hit that phase where I'm taking a slow-ass walk, and it's exactly what I need. I could easily get caught up in the momentum and keep running, but I know better. If I push myself to sprint after months of nonstop effort, my well-being will suffer. And let's be real, what's the point of all the success if I'm too exhausted to actually enjoy it? The slow walk isn't about being lazy or slacking off; it's about preserving my energy and recalibrating before the next push. It's intentional. It's necessary.It's not always easy, though. There's a little voice in my head saying, “You should be doing more,” trying to convince me that if I'm not moving at full speed, I'm somehow failing. But I'm choosing to trust the rhythm I'm in right now because I know what's at stake if I don't. There's a cost to living in a constant sprint—it's your well-being, your peace of mind. But there's also a cost to staying in the land of “sit back and wait,” where you're not pushing at all, and that's the cost of your potential, your dreams, your growth.So, wherever you're at in the rhythm of your life, honor it. If you need to sprint, give it everything you've got. If you're in a walking phase like I am right now, lean into it. The rhythm will change, as it always does, but what matters is that you're paying attention to the pace your life is calling for.Support the show

Steve and I had one of those weeks where we both found ourselves caught up in focusing on what wasn't going right, what was missing, or what we thought we should be doing better. It happens, right? You get into a headspace where you're just seeing everything through this lens of ‘not enough.' And when you're in that space, it's not just you who feels it; it impacts the whole dynamic. We were both touchy and disconnected, almost like roommates just getting by.Then we decided to actually talk about it, which—let's be honest—can be hard to do when you're in that kind of mindset. But as soon as we acknowledged what was going on, it was like a weight lifted. We decided to make a conscious shift, focusing on what we do have and what's right here, right now. And it changed everything. It didn't just lighten our moods; it lifted the whole vibe in the house.That night turned into one of those spontaneous, beautiful moments where we found ourselves singing, dancing, and just being present with each other. It wasn't planned or forced; it was just a natural result of deciding to show up differently. It reminded me how quickly things can turn around when you're willing to shift your perspective—even just a little bit. Sometimes, it's the smallest adjustments that lead to the most significant changes.MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesJoin the ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open Oct 1stCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

I want to share some real-life updates with you – the and-ness of life. My life right now is amazing. My book is out there, I'm working with incredible clients, and I feel deeply aligned with my purpose. But here's the thing – alongside all of that, my old patterns still show up. Those sneaky thoughts that want to pull me back into old ways of thinking, like doubting myself, or feeling like I need to rush to get "there" – whatever 'there' is.This podcast episode is about embracing both: the highs and the challenges. Life isn't about waiting to reach some destination where everything's perfect. It's about recognising that great things can happen while difficult things are happening too. I'm in the very practice right now that it's okay to hold space for both – to feel gratitude for the good, and at the same time, navigate the hard stuff without making it mean I'm doing something wrong.We're so conditioned to think life should be all sunshine or all storm – but that's not the whole picture. It's the and-ness of life that we need to normalise. We can be thriving in one area while still working through old patterns in another. It's all part of the ride. So, let's talk about how we can navigate this together without constantly chasing the illusion of “there.” We're already here, and that's more than enough.MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book storesJoin the ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open Oct 1stBook launches - Warragul - Oct 10thCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowSupport the show

Lately, Steve and I have been making a real effort to focus on gratitude, and it's been a game changer. It's easy to fall into the trap of noticing what the other hasn't done, isn't doing, or the little habits that get under your skin. But with gratitude, it shifts where our attention goes. Instead of zeroing in on what's missing, we're paying attention to what's right in front of us—what we *are* doing for each other.It's not fluffy or forced, either. Gratitude isn't about pretending everything is perfect, but it keeps us from getting stuck in the usual patterns of taking things for granted. Steve doesn't need to do anything huge to make me feel appreciated. It's the small stuff, like how he'll step up and do something I didn't expect, or even just his consistency that I might've overlooked before. When I take a second to actually notice, it shifts my mindset from irritation to, "Yeah, he's got my back."And the thing is, when we make gratitude a habit, it creates less space for resentment to build. We all have annoying habits or things we forget to do, but when we're genuinely practicing gratitude, those things don't seem as big of a deal. It keeps the focus on what's working, and we end up appreciating each other more for it. It's not magic, but it definitely helps keep things in perspective.MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book stores!Book launches - Warragul - Oct 10th.Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the show

Perimenopause—who knew this was even a thing? Not me! I always thought menopause was something that just suddenly happened when you hit a certain age, but perimenopause? That's a whole different beast, and I'm right in the thick of it. It's like this sneaky, slow-motion transition where your body starts doing things you never expected, and you're left wondering what the hell is going on.I've been navigating it as best as I can, but let me tell you, it hasn't been easy. There are days when I feel like I'm losing my mind—literally. The brain fog, the mood swings, the physical changes—it's all so intense. It's like my body is rewriting the rulebook, and I didn't get the memo. I've been sharing these frustrations openly on Instagram because, honestly, I had no idea this was even a thing, and I know I'm not alone. If I can shine a light on what perimenopause really looks like, maybe it'll help someone else feel a little less lost.Thankfully, I've called in the big guns—Dr. Kirstey Holland. She's been an absolute game-changer, helping me get my gut, brain, and hormones back to some kind of new normal. It's a journey, and it's not about getting back to the old me, but finding a new balance, a new way of being in this body that's changing whether I like it or not. I'm learning to work with these changes, rather than against them, and it's been a real lesson in patience, acceptance, and finding new ways to care for myself.If you're in this with me, just know you're not alone, and it's okay to reach out for help. This isn't something we have to navigate on our own, and there's power in sharing our stories and supporting each other through it.Contact details for Dr Kirstey Holland O.M.D - https://thehollandclinic.com/ 1. Clarity call with Dr Kirstey Holland - https://p.bttr.to/3xzJRro2. Initial Consultation with Dr Kirstey Holland - https://l.bttr.to/NT6PM3. Heal Seal Repair Gut Program - The first 100 people to sign up access this for $57 only! Usually $497. MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book stores!Book launches - Bendigo - Sep 4th, Geelong - Sep 8th, Shepparton - Sep 15th.Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the Show.

Lately, I've been reflecting on what truly makes a relationship successful, and one thing stands out: in a strong, healthy relationship, you never try to bring the other person down when they're shining in their light. Instead, you lift them up, cheer them on, and celebrate their successes as if they were your own. As I'm gearing up for the launch of my book, I've been feeling this more than ever, especially with Steve, my husband, by my side.Steve has been my #1 cheerleader through this entire process. There hasn't been a single drop of insecurity or jealousy—just pure, unwavering support. He's the first to encourage me, to remind me of how far I've come, and to push me to keep going when I start doubting myself. It's a kind of support that makes me feel even more connected to him because I know he's genuinely happy to see me succeed.In moments like these, I realize just how lucky I am to have a partner who is not only secure in himself but also deeply invested in our shared journey. Steve's encouragement has allowed me to shine even brighter, knowing that he's right there with me, cheering me on every step of the way. It's a reminder that in the best relationships, you both rise together, and that kind of love and support is what truly makes a partnership thrive.MY BOOK IS OUT - Amazon, Kindle, Audibe, Apple Books & check your book stores! Book launches - Bendigo - Sep 1st, Geelong - Sep 8th, Shepparton - Sep 15th.Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the Show.

Recently, I found myself journaling about the phrase "all in good time." As I was writing, I noticed how much my ego wanted to rush, push, and brute force my way through the process. There was this constant sense of urgency and impatience, a nagging feeling that if I didn't hurry, everything would fall apart. Beneath this impatience, I recognized a deeper, more profound fear of failure, especially with the launch of my book.The pressure I was putting on myself was immense. I felt like I had to get everything right, and get it right quickly. My mind was racing with thoughts of deadlines, expectations, and the endless to-do lists that seemed to grow longer by the minute. In the midst of this chaos, the simple phrase "all in good time" emerged. It was like a gentle reminder from a wiser, calmer part of myself to slow down and trust the process.These four words—"all in good time"—became a mantra that helped ease the angst and stress I was feeling. Every time I felt the urge to rush or push too hard, I would remind myself of this phrase. It acted as an anchor, keeping me grounded and bringing me back to the present moment. I realized that success doesn't come from forcing things to happen, but from allowing them to unfold naturally and organically.By embracing "all in good time," I've been able to release some of the pressure and find a more balanced, peaceful approach to my work. It's a reminder that everything has its own pace, and that forcing things often leads to burnout and frustration. This mindset has kept me close to the ground, more connected to my purpose, and less caught up in the whirlwind of my ego's demands. It's a lesson I'm grateful for, and one that I hope to carry with me as I continue on this journey.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order! International pre-order here!Book launches - Melbourne - Aug 18th, Bendigo - Sep 1st, Geelong - Sep 8th, Shepparton - Sep 15th.Enrolments open now for the ZEROFKS program - Join us here! Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the Show.

Lately, I've been immersing myself in the art of listening, and it's been a transformative journey. I started journaling about my experiences with listening, prompted by Julia Cameron's book The Listening Path. Her insights have guided me to pay closer attention not only to the words people say but also to the deeper meanings and emotions behind them. Through my journaling, I've begun to notice patterns in my own listening habits, especially within my family dynamics.One of the biggest revelations has been realising how often I cut people off, especially my family members. I catch myself assuming what they're going to say next or tuning out when I think I already know the gist of their message. Journaling about these moments has helped me become more aware of them. It's humbling to see how these habits can create distance in our relationships and prevent truly meaningful connections.By consciously working on these tendencies, I'm learning to be a better listener towards the people I love, allowing them to fully express themselves without interruption. This practice has not only deepened my relationships but also enriched my understanding of those around me. It's amazing how much more you can learn about someone when you genuinely listen without jumping to conclusions or planning your response while they're still talking.I invite you to join me on this journey of becoming a better listener. Pay attention to how you listen to others—notice when you might be cutting them off, assuming their next sentence, or tuning out. Journaling about these observations can be a powerful tool to deepen your own relationship with listening. It's a practice that has the potential to transform not only how we connect with others but also how we understand and connect with ourselves.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order! International pre-order here!Book launches - Melbourne - Aug 18th, Bendigo - Sep 1st, Geelong - Sep 8th, Shepparton - Sep 15th.Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the Show.

I wrote this question down in my journal, played this song, closed my eyes, and let the answers find me. The reason this question came up was due to writing the date, June 30th, at the top of my page and I thought, "wow, halfway through this year. How would I love the rest of it to be?" Then the question opened itself to the 'it' being 'life itself'. Here's what came about ...IMPACT - having major effect.MEANINGFUL - worthwhile.JOYFUL - great pleasure and happiness.INTENTIONAL - done on purpose. As I looked over my writings I thought, "shit yeah, that's how I'd love it to be! How great it would be to have major effect in the lives of my family, friends, loved ones and the world. To live a life that is worthwhile, create work in the world that is worthwhile. To do as such with great pleasure and happiness, and, on purpose. This photo below sums the above up neatly. It was taken right after I finished recording my audiobook. This book has impact, meaning, was created on purpose, and written and recorded with great pleasure and happiness. It begs the question, could all things be done this way? I'll come back to you on that. Truly, how would you love it (your life) to be? And what would be your next best step to bring that way of life a little closer to you? I'd love to read your insights and shares if you feel compelled to do so. Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order! International pre-order here! Book launch - Melbourne, Aug 18th.Coach with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership!Support the Show.

Unhealed wounds from our past shape the personalities we present to the world, often causing us to make choices that align more with our trauma than with our true selves. These wounds can manifest as insecurities, fears, and defenses that influence how we interact with others and perceive our place in the world. When we don't address these wounds, we often wear masks that hide our authentic selves, leading us to make decisions based on the need for validation, acceptance, or protection rather than what truly resonates with our core values and desires.I recently watched the series Dropout about Elizabeth Holmes, and it struck me how vividly it illustrated this point. Holmes, once a passionate innovator, gradually lost touch with her true essence. In her quest to become someone "important," she made choices that prioritized external success over internal integrity. This shift not only led to her downfall but also highlighted the dangers of losing sight of what is genuinely important.When we make choices from our unhealed selves, we often end up pursuing paths that don't truly satisfy us or align with our deepest values. However, when we take the time to heal and reconnect with our true selves, our decisions become more authentic and fulfilling. Choices made from our true essence are guided by inner wisdom and genuine desires, leading us to a life that feels more aligned, purposeful, and meaningful. The contrast between living from our unhealed wounds and our authentic selves is profound, and the journey towards healing is not just beneficial but essential for living a truly fulfilling life.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order!Work with me - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

When you take your next best step guided by your inner knowing, you begin a journey of natural evolution. Each step, rooted in your authentic self, paves the way for the next, creating a path that aligns with your true essence. Over time, these steps build upon each other, leading you to places you never imagined. This process is organic and fluid, allowing you to grow and evolve in harmony with your inner wisdom. By trusting this inner guidance, you not only move forward but also deepen your connection to your true self, creating a life that is genuinely fulfilling and aligned with who you are.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order!Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!$500 reduction on price.Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

It's easy to give a lot of care to things that, in the grand scheme of things, don't really matter. Our egos often convince us to prioritize superficial concerns, social status, and external validation. However, our true essence knows better. It guides us to focus on what truly matters, to give the right kind of fucks. Living authentically means aligning with this deeper wisdom, caring deeply about the things that genuinely enrich our lives and reflect our true values. It's about finding the courage to let go of ego-driven worries and instead, nurture what is truly right, good, and meaningful for our authentic selves.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order!Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!$500 reduction on price.Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

This morning, Steve held space for me in the midst of a raw emotional release. I've been doing EMDR therapy for the past five weeks now, allowing and processing the raw emotions from childhood sexual abuse that I haven't felt in its purity. No bloody wonder why - IT'S. A. LOT.As I journaled this morning, the emotion of anger was right there and I felt it in all its power and fucked-off-ness. Steve could sense that I wasn't quite myself and I let him know I was processing some stuff. He was about to go on his merry way and leave me to it when he got an intuitive sense to come upstairs and ask me if I needed a hug.  My little Miss Independent didn't want to let him in, but instead, I chose to drop into his arms and let out the raw emotion. Today's episode is about both our takes on this situation and how holding space for the other in relationships is so damn necessary. Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order!Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!$500 reduction on price.Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

In my book I write about living a life that feels intrinsically right, good and true for us.A life that we get to dance with and make up the dance moves and rhythm and pace as we go along.A life that is so ours, so very much considered and intuited, a life that also considers the lives of others, all beings.This is the life of someone who is in touch with their authentic nature and plugged into their core values, their heart, their truth. This is the life of someone who has chosen to step off the societal norm treadmill and dare ask, “hang on, is this even my life?”I get it isn't an easy question to ask because often we we ask the question, we're bound to receive an answer from the well of truth that resides inside. At the same time, something in you is so relieved you've dared to ask because it, your true nature, can talk to you and guide you home to what you know deep down is right good and true for you.Let us be willing, albeit scared, to dare ask if how we are living and how we are showing up is indeed true to who we are.Pre-order my book - Australia and New Zealand pre-order!Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!$500 reduction on price. Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Meditate with me - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

Living true to our own pace and rhythm is about honoring the unique cadence of our lives, rather than conforming to the timelines imposed by society. It's a reminder that our journey is deeply personal and cannot be rushed or dictated by external expectations. When we tune into our inner rhythm, we reconnect with our true essence—the part of us that knows what feels right and authentic. This means allowing ourselves the space to move, grow, and evolve at a pace that feels natural and aligned with our deepest desires. By embracing our individual journey and trusting in our own timing, we empower ourselves to live authentically and wholeheartedly, free from the pressure to measure up to society's standards.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Do my meds - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

I had a magical moment this morning whilst sitting on the canal, listening to beautiful music and chatting with the forces at be. For some time I have not been my most vital in energy and also in well-being. My guts are crook, pretty much always bloated, I've been experiencing brain fog, forgetfulness, losing the thread of thoughts and increasing fatigue. If I hadn't have known about per-menopause, which to be real I only heard of two years ago, I'd think I am quite literally losing my mind. Anyway. When I am not right in my body, it is harder for me to connect to my Spirit and hear what it is wanting to share with me. After a session and being in the care of my dear friend and peri-menopause Queen, Dr Kirstey Holland, today I woke up for the first time in a long want feeling closer to and connected to my intrinsic nature. So I took myself, my journal, airpods and chai latte for a stroll along the canal and sat on a bench. A moment with the forces at be and me. And boy did we have some seriously good chats. In today's episode I share the insights that landed. Enjoy. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Do my meds - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

If you find it difficult to communicate what's on your mind and/or heart in your relationship or the person you're dating, do you know why? Do you know the story that keeps you from sharing, speaking, expressing? Do you know the wound that the story was built upon?Do you know the things you tell yourself that leads to 'ahhh, it doesn't matter, I won't bother saying anything, all good."Steve has helped me have the hard chats. Typically (in my default pattern) I avoid hard chats. I haven't liked the awkwardness and the underlying fear is usually "this will lead to it ending". I've learned through our relationship that you can have hard chats and be clear and kind, and remain together. A new belief I'm happy to have! In today's episode we talk about how we frame up difficult conversations and why it matters to keep having them. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Do my meds - Meditation membership! Support the Show.

"I am tired of tolerating ......""I am tired of accepting ...... in my relationship.""I am tired of speaking to myself poorly.""I am tired of these behaviours I keep playing out ......""I am tired of the way I show up at work events and around colleagues."Once you have your answers, the next question is ...What am I willing to do about this? What is my next best step?Self enquiry leads to greater knowing of who you are behind the you you think you have to be. It's worth asking the question.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Do my meds - Meditation membership! Support the show

If I waited until I wasn't afraid to go after the things that mattered to my heart and my life, I'd be waiting a long (long) time. A part of me was afraid to leave nursing, make my own money and create my own life.A part of me was afraid to start my business, speak on stage, create programs, run events, write a book and put myself out there. A part of me  was afraid to fall in love, commit and get married. Because what if I failed? What if I got hurt? What if I looked like an idiot? What if I fell flat on my face and somewhere, someone would say, 'told ya so!' The truth is, a part of us is going to be afraid when we do, say or go for something that is beyond what we're used to doing. Let the fear be there instead of fight it or will it out of your existence before you go for that something. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

You know those uplevels where it's happening from the inside out? A grumble, a pulse, a rise of ‘something' that is so darn powerful that you know it's going to rearrange the way you see yourself, others and life?It's that space between letting go of the self that got you here and welcoming in the self you've been rooting for. There's excitement, fear, unsureness (is that even a word?), curiosity, grief, gratitude, silence, noise, questioning, faith all at once.If you find yourself here, may you save your fucks for giving thanks to the self that carried you to this very place and set your own practice of acknowledgement until it feels right in you. May you welcome in the self that seeks to be embodied with an ease, grace and warmth.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Steve and I are being tested at the moment. We're in sleep debt. We're sleeping in separate beds. Why? Lately, Steve's snoring has reached new heights and we've gotten into an anxious sleep cycle where Steve is worried he'll snore, so isn't getting deep sleep. I'm worried I'll hear him snore so I'm stressing about getting to sleep first. This resulted in poor deep sleep and waking up feeling less than fresh. So, we're sleeping separate whilst Steve looks into his snoring and whilst we're catching up on sleep and beginning to be in sleep credit, the closeness of us is strained. Yes we cuddle when I come downstairs but it's different than falling asleep together and waking up snuggling. And so, this is our reality and we're navigating with as much awareness as we can whilst being slightly off with one another. Not enough to be dire, but enough to feel it. Today's episode is us sharing this in more depth and what we do when we're tested. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Previously I always looked for the metaphorical invisible door for me to escape. Where's the exit when it gets tough, hard, too much, too close, too vulnerable? That door was something I kept very close to me.But in the lead up to our wedding, writing vows to Steve and the girls, that door was disappearing. And on the day, our magnificent wedding day, it went. I was in. All the way in.I know that I can leave at anytime, but I don't want to. Before, it was a fantasy I played into a lot. Now, it's not even an option unless it really needs to be an option.That's what has changed. All of me is in. This is a big deal due to my past and always needing “aloneness” to be safe. Aloneness is one of my coping strategies that is laying to rest. Now, my fks can be saved for loving with all of me, not just some of me.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

There's cleaning and then there's CLEANING!Everyone knows that I love a clean, tidy, aesthetically pleasing home. And the ones closest to me know when I'm cleaning because the house needs it, or when I clean because I need it.Cleaning for me became a coping strategy when I was younger. There was a hidden memory jammed up inside me that was causing disturbance. I didn't have conscious access yet to the memory but my body did. Waves of emotion would surge and the only way I knew to get rid of it in order to cope was to clean.I rearranged my room, wardrobe, books, underwear, strip my sheets and all the rest to bring some kind of order back into the world. “Ahhhhh, now it's right”, was the thought and feeling. But of course, it didn't last long.Now knowing this locked up memory, I used cleaning and still do at times to this day, as a way to gain control of reality. To make it right in my mind because my insides are having some sort of conniption. I try not to judge myself or tell myself I'm a failure at not fully healing this coping mechanism. The way I approach it now is by asking myself, “am I cleaning the house because the now needs to be cleaned, or am I cleaning the house because something in me feels out of control?”This means I'm aware of what I'm doing, why I'm doing it and whilst I clean to gain control, I enquire, get curious and talk to the part of me inside that needs acknowledgement, love, care.Always, a work in progress.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Animals have my heart. Period. When their true nature and innocence are taken advantage of, disregarded and used for pleasure, entertainment, food convenience and money, my soul breaks. Something breaks inside me.A pig at MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY in Victoria Australia has been sexually assaulted by a male, the farm owners son in fact. @dominionmovement are doing their best to free Olivia the pig, @changedotorg have a petition to sign to apply pressure to surrender her so she can be taken into the hands of kindness and care.Factory farmed animals have little regard in the legal system and therefore protection because they are seen as food and money makers. I get that farmers hands are often tied by the bigger corporations but to have farmers (humans) use their power against an innocent and confined animal quite literally fucks with my face.We as consumers actually have the power to question where what we eat comes from and the lives those animals have lived. And we should, because green washing is peaking off its head. At the end of our forks are lives that have been lived, or, have been abused.As you ponder this, and I really urge you to, please sign the petition in my stories or in my linktree to save Olivia and email rickoreilly@bigpond.com.au, the owner of MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY to surrender Olivia.She, Olivia the pig, like all of us, has a right to know what kindness, freedom and living looks and feels like.Sign this petition to apply pressure to release Olivia. Sign this petition to demand stricter laws against beastiality in Victoria. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

I have to give thanks to Brene Brown for giving me the terminology for FFTs - first fucking time. Those experiences or situations you're in where it's new territory, new landscape and you're in pits of "what the fuck do I do here?"It could be your FFT on a date after getting divorced, starting a podcast, having sex with a woman after being in a heterosexual relationship, writing a book, becoming a parent - basically anything for the first-fucking-time. The stories in your head are loud. Your body isn't at ease or familiar with what is going on. There is no muscle memory of how to do this because, you've never done it before. And so, the limiting beliefs come up. The annoyances, frustrations, irritability and TO HELL WITH THIS rises. Well, if you're there, then listen here, for how to manage yourself in an FFT.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 15th!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show