Knowing Her Sexually

Chris is back! She joins J in this episode to talk about her husband and what's coming next with the Knowing Her Sexually ministry. If you can help Chris with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate: Online: Go Fund Me Mail: Chris Taylor  c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929 Resources Doug Taylor Obituary (1964 - 2023) - Cullom, Illinois (calvertmemorial.com) Episode 12: Guy Talk - The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 14: Guy Talk - A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 16: Guy Talk - Men's Sexuality - Sex Chat for Christian Wives To Good-willed Husbands Who Want a Great Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J is joined by an extra special guest (hint: "logical") to discuss and wrap-up this season of practical sex tips for husbands. We review past episodes but have fresh takeaways as well! And Chris will be back next time! Remember that if you can help her with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate: Online: Go Fund Me Mail: Chris Taylor  c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929 Resources Episode 3: Why Can't She Focus? Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | MarriedDance Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube How a Good Husband Can Be a Great Lover - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J welcomes Ruth Buezis of Awaken Love, to talk about three activities associated with female orgasm (and none of them is intercourse!). And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Awaken-Love (Ruth Buezis's Ministry) These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Manual Play for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous Orgasmic Massage: When The Happy Ending Is The Goal - The Generous Husband Episode 77: How to Touch Your Wife You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her Why Your Wife May Not Want to Receive Oral Sex Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Volume 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Part Deux - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dental Dam Cunnilingus Barrier - Married Dance Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage by Ruth Buezis (and edited by our own Chris Taylor!) Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—     for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Visit our website: khsministry.com

J is joined by Bonny Burns, cohost of Sex Chat for Christian Wives and author of Unlock Your Orgasm, to discuss why wives struggle with orgasm and how to help her reach climax. And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Strong Wives - Bonny Burns's Ministry Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model (tandfonline.com) - Rosemary Basson Why Can't My Wife Let Go and Enjoy Sex? Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay 4 Reasons Your Husband Desires Your Orgasm | The Forgiven Wife Q&A: Faking the Orgasm? It's Time to Get Real. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J's back with guest host Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage to talk about personal lubricant—why a wife might need it, our recommended products, and how to use it to improve the sexual experience. If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube How Menopause Affects Her Sexuality (and How You Can Help) Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her Let's Talk Lube - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Tips for Choosing a Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Slippery When Wet: Lubricant Review (intimacyinmarriage.com) Astroglide Personal Lubricant - Amazon Sliquid Personal Lubricants - Married Dance Sliquid Sample Packs Aloe Cadabra Personal Lubricant - Amazon K-Y yours + minute Warming/Tingle Lubricants - Amazon Jo Flavored Lubricants - Amazon Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubricants - Amazon Pumpkin Spice Lubricant? It's a Thing. (intimacyinmarriage.com) Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Love Mop Sex Towel - Amazon (for clean-up) Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw - Married Dance (for protecting bed linens) Venus Pearls | Burns-Logsdon Therapeutics (b-ltx.com) Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

We address a wife's' body image and what a husband can specifically do to help her feel comfortable and confident in the bedroom. Resources Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful - Hot, Holy & Humorous Silky Robe | Mentionables "Baby Doll" Lingerie | Mentionables Why Won't Your Wife Wear Lingerie? - Knowing Her Sexually Should You Buy Her Lingerie for Christmas? - Knowing Her Sexually Battery-Operated Candles | Amazon String Lights | Amazon Colored Light Bulbs | Amazon Episode 78: Sex Positions That Work for Her Helping Your Wife Feel Good About Her Breasts Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Edvard Munch's The Scream Satin Blindfold | Married Dance How to Help Your Wife Get Naked - Hot, Holy & Humorous Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Let's talk about sex positions! Not just generally, but what we hear from wives about sex positions they like and don't like, and what works best for her. Resources Christian Friendly Sex Positions (now 300+ Illustrated Sex Positions!) Doggy Style Sex Position aka "Stallion Style": How to Do It, 4 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Packing the Suitcase Sex Position: How to Do It, 3 Tips to Spice It Up - (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Dragonfly Sex Position: How to Do It, 6 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Banana Pancakes Sex Position: How to Do It, Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Banana Pancakes - Jack Johnson Deck of Sex Position Cards | Christian Friendly Sex Positions Let's Ditch Doggy Style - Honeycomb & Spice The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - PubMed (nih.gov) CAT Sex Position & Technique: How to Do It, 2 Tips to Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - National Institutes of Health Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Clitoral Stimulator - Christian sex toy store (marrieddance.com) Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sexual Positions: Hey, I'm a Housewife, Not a Gymnast (intimacyinmarriage.com) Sock Monkey Kama Sutra The Cookie Sutra Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.

In our last episode, we talked about where to touch your wife. This time, Chris and J cover how to touch your touch your wife in ways that arouse, pleasure, and satisfy—all with the ultimate goal of wonderful sexual intimacy in your marriage. Resources Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Episode 76: Where to Touch Your Wife Q&A with J: "His Physical Touch Is Groping & Sex" - Hot, Holy & Humorous The One Sex Tip I Give Husbands Over and Over - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands Only Need One of These to Turn Her On - Hot, Holy & Humorous "What To Do with Your Hands" – section in Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design Visit our website: khsministry.com

Chris and J share where to touch your wife to help her feel sexually interested, aroused, and valued. You might be surprised by some of the places on her body that intrigue many women. Resources Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Episode 40: Her Erogenous Zones How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous

On this first episode of Season 2 (Sex Tips), Chris and J talk about setting the mood for your wife. What can you do to draw her toward the bedroom and away from what might distract her from sexual intimacy?   Resources Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Bull Durham kitchen table scene (NSFW, PG-13) Viking Revolution Men's Balls Wash for Men Caldrea Linen And Room Spray Air Freshener Yankee Candle MidSummer's Night Scented, Classic 22oz Large Jar (other scents available) Scented Candle Wax Melter/Warmer Aromatherapy Essential Oil Diffuser Gift Set Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous White Noise Machine Lock the Door, for Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous (my interruption story) Creating an Inviting Bedroom Red Light Bulbs Fairy String Lights with Remote (mood lighting) Battery-operated Flickering Candles Crafted Beards Oil & Balm (several scents available) Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Are you ready for Season 2? It's a sex tip season!

On this wrap-up of our first season of Knowing Her Sexually, Chris and J discuss what the men in marriage ministry had to say about women's sexuality, including what surprised us and what we took away. Resources Kevin A. Thompson's personal website Change the Odds - Kevin A. Thompson's new website Intimate Covenant - Matt (and Jenn) Schmidt Gary Thomas's website Gary Thomas's Substack newsletter Stupendous Marriage - Stu Gray Awesome Marriage — Dr. Kim Kimberling Heaven Made Marriage - Scott (and Jenni) Means Still Becoming One - Brad (and Kate) Aldrich podcast Aldrich Ministries - Brad Aldrich marriage coaching Dave Barringer's Website Our Webinars (all about women's sexuality and value-priced!) Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

Dave Barringer, pastor, podcast host, and author of Mosaic Marriage, spoke with us a while back about foreplay in and out of the bedroom. We revisit that episode with a few fresh takeaways in our season of talking to men in marriage ministry about women's sexuality. Take a listen! Resources Dave Barringer's website Launch Point book site Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer Marriage Monday with David Barringer on Apple Podcasts (available through other providers too) Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? – KHS Ministry Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages® Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) – Hot, Holy & Humorous It's filling up! Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We talk with Stu Gray of the Stupendous Marriage Show, cohosted with his wife Lisa, about what he learned about himself and marriage while recovering from porn, what honesty can do for marital intimacy, and how women are different—in life and in the bedroom. Take a listen! Resources Stupendous Marriage Podcast Stu Gray's Links The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences by Bill and Pam Ferrell Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle by Dr. Kevin Leman Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley If Only He Knew: A Valuable Guide to Knowing, Understanding, and Loving Your Wife by Gary Smalley "But the one who prophesies speaks to people for their strengthening, encouraging and comfort" (NIV). 1 Corinthians 14:3, all Bible Gateway translations Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms (clevelandclinic.org) "The human heart is a perpetual idol factory" (originally, hominis ingenium perpetuam, ut ita loquar, esse idolorum fabricam). Institutes of the Christian Religion, John Calvin, 1.11.8. Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap Episode 67: Making Sex Pleasurable for Your Wife, with Gary Thomas Psst—only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We welcome Matt Schmidt from Intimate Covenant, a sex-focused marriage ministry and podcast. He talks with us about how he and his wife addressed her past sexual trauma, what the goal of sex really is, and why hubbies should attend to afterglow. Resources Intimate Covenant The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth | The Forgiven Wife What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Things to Do After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous After the Lovin': What Happens after Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant's 6th Annual Retreat And hosted by J this fall... Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise

Kevin A. Thompson is a husband, father, and marriage (and men's) pastor at Bayside Church in the Sacramento, California area. Originally from Arkansas, Kevin has been a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and Family Life. Chris & J talked to Kevin about why it's still important to pursue and woo your wife (first, heart; then, body). Resources I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson Stay In Your Lane: Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done by Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!) Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife And learn more about J's Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise October 14-21, 2023 HERE: https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/. Space is limited!  

Scott Means of Heaven Made Marriage began marriage ministry in his church and has now expanded to a website, books, and videos to reach more and more couples. Listen to his conversation with J and Chris about the bridal paradigm, intimacy, and vulnerability. Resources Heaven Made Marriage Scott's books The Bridal Paradigm - Heaven Made Marriage Pursue the Path of Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Guy Talk: Mismatched Sex Drives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Guy Talk: A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Dr. Kim Kimberling has been married for 53 years and has counseled marriages for over 40 years! His ministry, Awesome Marriage, has reached even more couples with its honest, biblical, and practical insight. Listen in as Dr. Kim talks with Chris and J about sexual expertise, empathy, accountability, and more. Resources Awesome Marriage University Achieving Awesome Sex in Marriage: The Christian Sex Course | Awesome Marriage Awesome Marriage — Marriage, Relationships, and Premarital Counseling with Dr. Kim Kimberling When "I Feel..." Statements Don't Work - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Power of Sexual Empathy in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Support Groups for Men and Women | Small Groups Online (Live Free Ministries) Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer about Sexual Temptation - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, but still relevant) And a reminder... Check out J's Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise—setting sail in October!   Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Gary Thomas, theologian and marriage author, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What differences between men and women can help you cater more to your wife's pleasure? How can you unleash the power of the five senses? And what does "simmering" have to do with sexual desire? Resources Gary Thomas's Website Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC Simply Sacred with Gary Thomas | Substack Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (mentioned by Gary) Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas And a reminder... Click to learn more about the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise! Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Brad Aldrich, marriage therapist and ministry leader, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What does connection mean for wives compared to husbands? How do connection, curiosity, and past trauma impact sexual intimacy in your marriage? Take a listen! Resources Aldrich Ministries Still Becoming One Podcast with Brad & Kate Aldrich The 7 Year Itch (Episode 27) - Still Becoming One Unfinished & Beautiful with Kate Aldrich - Hot, Holy & Humorous (oldie but goodie!) LEARN MORE ABOUT THE CRUISE WITH J. PARKER AND BRAD & KATE ALDRICH: Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise (hotholyhumorous.com) Support Us On Patreon KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

It's been a minute! Chris and J are finally back to explain their absence and the future of Knowing Her Sexually going forward. We plan to keep providing quality content intended to help husbands better understand their wives and pursue healthy, mutually satisfying sexual intimacy.  Resources Knowing Her Sexually Webinars KHS Ministry | Facebook KHSMinistry (@KhsMinistry) / Twitter Honeycomb & Spice (honeycombspice.com) Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Support Us Click HERE to support our podcast and other resources through Patreon.

Christmastime can create wonderful memories, but also a lot of to-dos and stress that keep couples from being sexually intimate. J and guest host Julie Sibert discuss how to have less stress and more sex in your marriage this holiday season. Sponsor Looking for a safe place to shop for marital aids? Check out Married Dance, a Christian-friendly sex toy store. Experience a nudity-free, marriage-centered environment, along with discreet shipping and billing.  Resources Episode 31: Why Do Women Overextend Themselves? Episode 19: Having an Intimate Holiday Season Why She's Too Busy to Have Sex Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife, "How can I help our Christmas season go well?" Discuss plans, expectations, division of labor, and more, so that you're working as a team through the holidays—a team that also scores in the bedroom now and then. ~wink~ Visit our website: khsministry.com

How can you give your wife a gift that speaks to her heart? A great gift can create feelings of being seen and valued that encourage the trust and vulnerability she needs for sexual intimacy. Visit Our Sponsor Did you know that Hot, Holy & Humorous has a site store? Private Christmas gift tags, sexy Christmas coupons & more! Resources The Ultimate Gift List for Married Couples, 2020 Edition – Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (“Cultivating Romance” chapter has specifics on writing a love letter) 'Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem – Hot, Holy & Humorous 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie – The Forgiven Wife 2020 Gift Shopping Links – The Forgiven Wife Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life – The Forgiven Wife More Than Bacon – The Forgiven Wife Best (Sexy) Christmas Gifts for Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous Shop - Hot, Holy & Humorous Note from Chris: In the episode I mentioned writing a sexy version of If You Give a Mouse a Cookie. Unfortunately, it was not on my blog but on a discussion forum that no longer exists and I no longer have a copy. However, you can get the original book at Amazon, as well as a fun Cookie Sutra book. This Week's Takeaway Give at least one gift that shows your wife you really see her and honor her for who she uniquely is. Visit our website: khsministry.com

What role can quickies play in your marriage's sexual intimacy? We discuss what's good about quickies, why some wives don't like them, and how husbands can make the experience more enjoyable for her. Resources 5 Reasons to Love a Quickie - Hot, Holy & Humorous Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Find a time to suggest a quickie to your wife. If she gives you the go-ahead, go for it! But if she's reluctant, launch a conversation about why she doesn't enjoy quickies and/or how you could make them better for her. Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars. And if this podcast has helped you, would you leave us a positive rating and/or review? That will help others find us and keep us podcasting well into the future. Thanks for your support! "And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a

Instead of "show up naked," how about using clothing to increase arousal and pleasure? Chris and J discuss why and how clothing can be sexy for a wife. Resources Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Won't Your Wife Wear Lingerie? 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie - The Forgiven Wife Should You Buy Her Lingerie for Christmas? What Should Your Husband Wear to Turn You On? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands Only Need One of These to Turn Her On - Hot, Holy & Humorous "Touch the Bits" by Amanda Gore - YouTube Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex Also check out our Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay! This Week's Takeaway Engage in affection and foreplay with you and your wife clothed, even incorporating your clothing into the sensual experience. Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars. And if this podcast has helped you, would you leave us a positive rating and/or review? That will help others find us and keep us podcasting well into the future. Thanks for your support! "And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a

How can you help your wife engage more in the sexual experience? Chris and J share how a husband can use the five senses to increase his wife's focus and enjoyment. Resources J"s #SexTipTuesday Facebook post: What do you do with your eyes during sex? 70+ Intimate Face to Face Sex Positions | Christian-friendly Sex Positions) Experience Deeper Intimacy During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Bedroom Soundtrack Posts | Bonny's Oysterbed7 A Marital Intimacy Playlist - Hot, Holy & Humorous "Let me hear your voice..." - Song of Songs 2:14 Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty - Hot, Holy & Humorous 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife Food and Sex | The Forgiven Wife Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy & Humorous What About His Grooming and Hygiene? | The Forgiven Wife 5 Kisses You Need to Master - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous Also check out our Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay! This Week's Takeaway Be intentional in thinking about one of your wife's physical senses and add some way of appealing to that next time you are having sex or planning to have sex. Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars. And if this podcast has helped you, would you leave us a positive rating and/or review? That will help others find us and keep us podcasting well into the future. Thanks for your support! "And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a

We're back after an unannounced and unexpected hiatus! Looking at the searches that bring husbands to our site, Chris and J ask and try to answer the question "Why doesn't / can't / won't my wife do ____?" in the bedroom.  Resources Why Your Wife May Not Want to Receive Oral Sex Why Doesn't She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 8 Reasons That Are Not About You Why Doesn't She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 5 Reasons That Are About You (and What You Can Do About Them) How Can She Not Care About Sex? Episode 37: Why Sex Can Feel Risky to Your Wife Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay Spicing Up Your Bedroom – Webinar Replay "Stop Pressuring Me!" - The Forgiven Wife And J promised a video of the Texel sheep from the farm where she stayed in England: https://youtu.be/5p9AsMyWE3c This Week's Takeaway Write down your "Why won't / can't / doesn't she...?" question, then first ask yourself why you want that and then approach your wife and ask what she hears or thinks you mean when you ask why she won't / can't / doesn't do or want what you do. (And listen. Like really listen.) Visit our website: khsministry.com

Every marriage goes through a big life transition at some point, and likely several. Chris and J talk about how transitions affect sex in marriage and how to keep intimacy going even through the big changes. Resources Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Making a Habit | The Forgiven Wife Lost Her Way In Target (original song) - The Holderness Family - YouTube How Wives Feel During the Pandemic - Knowing Her Sexually (with some insight that applies to other big changes) This Week's Takeaway Think about the last transition you and your wife went through. Consider what you learned from it and then break that down with your wife, asking her how she thought things went and what could improve next time.  "Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it." — George Santayana Visit our website: khsministry.com

A listener shared that "[husbands] are told...to be sensitive to our wives' physical discomfort such as menstrual cramps but are also told that we cannot share when lack of physical intimacy causes physical discomfort in us as that won't be well received." Is there a double standard? How can a husband effectively express his sexual discomfort to his wife? Sponsor Visit Married Dance HERE (affiliate link) Resources Q&A with J: Sexual Wants Vs. Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Husband's Emotional Need | The Forgiven Wife How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Interview with Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife Remembering the Dry Years: An Interview with J's Husband Episode 2: How to Ask for Sex Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay This Week's Takeaway Jot down a few ideas of how to express your sexual discomfort to your wife with words she'd understand. Take time to think them through for a while, then try one out. If it doesn't work, go back and try another! Visit our website: khsministry.com

Chris and J usually talk about women's sexuality with the hope of helping men understand their wives. But today, we discuss what women don't understand about men's sexuality. Resources Episode 12: Guy Talk - The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 14: Guy Talk - A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 16: Guy Talk - Men's Sexuality - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Ten Lies Wives Believe about Sex (And Ten Truths Husbands Want You To Know) - Hot, Holy & Humorous - guest post by Scott Means You Would If You Loved Me! - Hot, Holy & Humorous - guest post by Paul Byerly Love Your Man: Should Your Husband's Sexuality Be Like Yours? - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Don't assume your wife understands your sexuality. Rather, when she seems confused or asks questions about why you do what you do or feel what you feel, take time to explain how your sexuality works. Visit our website: khsministry.com

J and Chris talk about the many ways your wife's hormones can affect her sexual interest and her ability to respond and enjoy sex. If you've wondered about her monthly cycles or the impact of menopause, be sure to listen! Resources 13 Things I Heard at a Sexual Wellness Class | The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? | The Forgiven Wife 5 Tips for Choosing a Personal Lubricant | Hot, Holy & Humorous How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life | Hot, Holy & Humorous This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife about how her hormones affect her, and then ask how you can help. Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Married Dance. Click on the image to shop with our affiliate link.

Yes, on a sex podcast, we're talking today about romance for your wife. Not only does romance keep your relationship emotionally intimate—it can create a better atmosphere for physical intimacy as well! So, should you bring her flowers? Tell her she's pretty? We address what counts as romance to a wife. Resources August Is Romance Awareness Month - Hot, Holy & Humorous (with tips) Cultivating Romance and Awesome Sex in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 50: How You Treat Her Children How Love Looks - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Do something romantic for your wife. Visit our website: khsministry.com

We're often asked how a husband can get a wife to go to therapy for their sexual intimacy. J and Chris discuss some ideas. Resources Faithful Counseling - online therapy resource Have You Received Bad Marriage Counseling? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Power of One - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Research counseling and/or marriage resources to see what's involved and what might interest your wife. Then share what you've found and invite her feedback. This episode was sponsored by Married Dance. Click on the image to shop with our affiliate link.

other ways. What do wives think about these options? Resources Why Doesn't She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 8 Reasons That Are Not About You Why Doesn't She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 5 Reasons That Are About You (and What You Can Do About Them) Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Dealing with Pain | The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex Isn't Possible | Worthy Bible Studies (this post is a guest post written by Chris Taylor) Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her This Week's Takeaway When intercourse cannot happen, ask your wife, "How would you like us to stay intimate during that time?" Have a conversation. Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Married Dance. Click on the image to shop with our affiliate link.

It can be fun and intimate to add something fresh and exciting to their marriage's sexual repertoire! But that desire can also come from another place: fear of missing out. Chris and J tackle the issue of sexual FOMO. Resources Spicing Up Your Bedroom – Webinar Replay Q&A with J: Resources for Spicing Things Up in the Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 45: Help Your Wife Learn What She Likes in Bed Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Consider something you want to try in the bedroom, then dig deeper for the why. That is, ask why you want to do that new thing, answer the question, then ask "why?" again and again and again, until you reach the core reason. (Do it more than once to discover if you have more than one reason.)  Visit our website: khsministry.com

Over and over, we've heard and experienced how the way a husband treats the wife's kids impacts her sexual interest. If you want to get into her bed, consider getting into her heart by caring for the ones she loves. Resources Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson's tea party with his daughter Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On - Hot, Holy & Humorous Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver This Week's Takeaway Do something with or for a child. Depending on your circumstances, that could be your child, her child, or a child outside your family. "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.." – Ephesians 6:4

Research shows that men are far more likely to have an orgasm during sex than women are. This difference is referred to as the Orgasm Gap. J and Chris help you understand why this gap exists and how you can address it. Sponsor Visit Married Dance online store Resources Webinar - Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure ($10) What Does Her Orgasm Mean? 3 Things Your Wife Wants You to Know About Her Sex Drive What Else Does Your Wife Want You to Know About Her Sex Drive? What Is the Orgasm Gap? | Forbes The Orgasm Gap: Simple Truth and Sexual Solutions | Psychology Today How to Close the Orgasm Gap, According to Sex Experts | Men's Health Bad Orgasm | The Forgiven Wife Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm | Hot, Holy & Humorous Love Like a Woman | The Forgiven Wife These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous This Week's Takeaway Read one (or more) of the articles listed above and think about how you can apply what you've learned in your own marriage. "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." – Romans 12:10

What does your wife really think of your sex drive? We share what we've experienced and, more importantly, what we've heard from wives. Resources What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife Your Husband's Libido May Not Be What You Think | The Forgiven Wife #1 Myth Christian Men Learned About Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous (about desire being good) Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 12: Guy Talk – The Importance of Sex (Chris's interview of five husbands) Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (only $5 for a limited time!) This Week's Takeaway Express to your wife what your sex drive feels like, emphasizing the emotional and intimate aspects of your desire for her. Visit our website: khsministry.com

What if you had a sexual experience before marriage? How can you help your wife—especially if she was a virgin bride—deal with your past? We answer this listener question. Resources Does Your Spouse Think about Previous Lovers? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Entering Marriage with Sexual Baggage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Your Wife Get "Historical"? - KHS Ministry What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - KHS Ministry This Week's Takeaway Communicate to your wife, verbally or in writing, a message that conveys you only have eyes for her.

What goals do you have for sex in your marriage this year? Chris and J share three goals that could help awaken your wife's sexual desire. Please pardon the lesser audio quality this time! J's input was not as good, because her schedule required her to record from a hotel room. ~smile~ Resources Webinar: Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex Webinar: Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure Webinar: Spicing Up Your Bedroom Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her Married Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (also lubricant, games, and more) Mentionables - model free lingerie shopping 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual – Simple Ideas for Busy Wives and Moms - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Takeaway Choose one of the three goals, write it down and/or put it on your calendar, and commit to following through. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Have you asked your wife what she likes in bed, only to hear her say that she doesn't really know? As unbelievable as this may sound to you, it's pretty common. J and Chris share some ideas to help you help your wife figure out what she wants. Resources Webinar: Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure Episode 43: Rebuilding Her Trust, with Jessica McCleese Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? Creating an Inviting Bedroom 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous This Week's Takeaway Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try. Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try. Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try. Visit the website: khsministry.com

A husband in our KHS Community recently asked about staying hopeful through the sexual ups and downs in marriage. J and Chris share some ideas that can help you maintain hope. Resources Are You Bitter in Your Marriage? So Was I. How Having Friends Is Good for Your Sex Life Work on Yourself (Even if Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results. | The Forgiven Wife Slow Progress: A Good Thing | The Forgiven Wife How Growth Looks | The Forgiven Wife Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous Give Him the Gift of Happiness - Hot, Holy & Humorous (or give her) Dealing with Discouragement | The Forgiven Wife Get Rid of All Bitterness | The Forgiven Wife The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science (gottman.com) When My Marriage Seemed Hopeless, What Made Me Stay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous "Treat people the same way you want them to treat you." Luke 6:31 (NASB) This Week's Takeaway Keep a gratitude journal. Every day make note of a few things you're thankful for with your wife.

With Chris out today, Dr. Jessica McCleese joins J to discuss how a husband who may have mishandled sexual intimacy in the marriage before can rebuild his wife's trust in the bedroom and beyond. Resources Dr. Jessica McCleese's website FREE webinars with Jessica and J. Parker: Let's Talk About Talking Dirty and Negative Teaching About Sex: How It's Hurt Your Marriage and What to Do About It Two Words That Could Change the Course of Sex in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Listening to What Your Spouse Says about Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 3 Barriers to Communicating with Your Spouse about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Rebuilding His Trust - The Forgiven Wife He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results. - The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife the three questions posed by Dr. Jessica McCleese, even weekly until your wife feels your trustworthiness. Visit our website: khsministry.com

We welcome special guest Dave Barringer, senior pastor of Kalamazoo First Assembly of God and author of Mosaic Marriage, to talk with us about foreplay in and out of the bedroom. Resources Dave Barringer's website Launch Point book site Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? - KHS Ministry Freshen Up Your Foreplay - Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous This Week's Takeaway Give your wife 8–10 positive words (affirmation, compliment, encouragement) each day without expectation to deepen intimacy. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Chris and J tackle four truths about sex that husbands should know, especially those who long for better physical intimacy in their marriage. Resources Why Doesn't She Initiate? Work on Yourself (Even If Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice The Power of "And" | The Forgiven Wife I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results | The Forgiven Wife Silence the Lies | The Forgiven Wife Why Doesn't She Initiate? Work on Yourself (Even If Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice The Power of "And" | The Forgiven Wife I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results | The Forgiven Wife Silence the Lies | The Forgiven Wife Praying for Grace in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous As You Work on Sexual Intimacy, Be Sure to Do This! - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Turn Your Marriage Around - Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Bitter in Your Marriage? So Was I. | KHS Ministry 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) – "Love is patient, love is kind..." Faithful Counseling online therapy (Sex Chat for Christian Wives affiliate link)   This Week's Takeaway When your mind goes to negative thoughts about your wife, replace them with a positive thought, scripture, or a prayer for your wife.    

Being touched in nonsexual areas can be a real turn-on for your wife. J and Chris talk about where some of these areas are and give you suggestions for learning your wife's body. Resources How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why woman are different from men and vice versa by Amanda Gore Sexual Timing Matters - Knowing Her Sexually How Much Foreplay Does She Need? - Knowing Her Sexually This Week's Takeaway Explore your wife's body! The Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure webinar says a lot more about learning about her body and includes the Mapping Her Body printable. Or, you can purchase the printable without the webinar. (Members of the KHS community have free access to these products.) Purchase the webinar Purchase the printable Visit our website: khsministry.com

Your grooming and hygiene can have an impact on your wife's interest in sex. J and Chris explain why in today's episode. Resources What About His Grooming and Hygiene? | The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: What about “Manscaping”? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why She Needs Him to Shower | Hot, Holy & Humorous Mentioned in the episode: NPR's Delicious Dish: Schweddy Balls - SNL - YouTube And a recommendation: Fresh Balls Hygiene for Groin Area (Amazon affiliate link) This Week's Takeaway Next time you and your wife have sex, bring your cleanest and best-groomed self to bed. Visit the website: khsministry.com

Today we take on the question Chris's husband and many other husbands have: "Why didn't your wife come with a manual?" That would be so much easier, right? Resources What Does Her Orgasm Mean? The Romantic Vineyard, by Tom & Debi Walter This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife this question: "If marriage to you came with an instructional manual, what would the most important instruction be?"  

How could sex be "risky" when it happens in marriage with the one you love? Chris and J discuss three ways sex can feel risky for some wives. Resources What Are Your Sexual Fears? | Hot, Holy & Humorous 7 Reasons You Don't Want Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Which Words Do You Use? | The Forgiven Wife What Were You Taught About Sex? | The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Ask yourself what about sex feels risky to you and then try to address that issue.

In this episode, J and Chris tackle that age-old question, "What do women want?" It might be more simple than you thought! Resources What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) Security in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous What Do Women Really Want? - The Gottman Institute Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection - The Gottman Institute Praying Together for Your Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Work on Yourself (Even if Your Husband Is the Problem) - Honeycomb & Spice This Week's Takeaway Does your wife feel emotionally safe? Click HERE to take a quiz and find out! Visit the website: khsministry.com

Today, we are not just two Christian wives, but are joined by guest Kevin A. Thompson to discuss his blog post, "I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either," and its great takeaways. Resources I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!) Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? | Knowing Her Sexually The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife this simple question: What are the times you feel most loved by me? Listen to what she says and start doing more of that.