The Anxious Love Coach

Hi podcast listener! I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy. This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast. Work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1 Join me on Patreon (special discounts + a monthly support call where you can ask me anything and source the community for help): patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Tension of Opposites - my next 6 week series for wishy-washy women ready to claim sovereignty in their lives and know themselves more fully - July 10 - https://anxiouslovecoachschool.teachable.com/p/tension-of-opposites

A question we've had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn't. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can't possibly cover in one episode! Links:   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you're addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to reignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Email List - Stay in touch As thanks for subscribing, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

How does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you're in a toxic or abusive relationship. In this episode, I lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either case, if you are wondering this question, it is likely there is some unconsciousness that needs addressing.   US Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Email List - Stay in touch As thanks for subscribing, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.

Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you!   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.  

I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually. I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;) To enroll, use this link: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode. Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here. Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here. Links mentioned: Enroll in Luci Lampe's programs HERE:  https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej

After years of having doubts in my (then) 4-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.

In this episode: I'm going on maternity leave. Please send me your favorite episodes — I'll be re-purposing them over the next 6 months. A story about a viral reel that was grossly misinterpreted by both men and women, and how it was intended to be received — as well as how and why the misinterpretation didn't faze me like it would have in the past (due to judgment towards my relationship/partner) What you're actually worried about (it's not about your partner) How to drop the fear of judgment for good Black Friday Sale on ALL courses until 12/9 - get 50% off! Click here to view my course list. Both Feet In is my most popular one. Use the code BLACKFRIDAY24 for 50% off all my courses.   Next Patreon call: Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST/12pm EST. Become a Patron here for $5-9/month. Cancel anytime.   Subscribe to my email list to keep in touch ☺️ You'll receive my free relationship anxiety meditation.   Love,   Nat

Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward.   I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives.   I have a workshop coming up next Sunday called Yin Language: a 2-hour dissection for women on how to communicate with men in ways they understand. Sorry I waited to the last minute to tell you. I've been feeling hesitant to speak about it on the podcast lately and I shared why in this episode.   You can join 125+ women for the workshop, and the recording will be sent out to all registrants afterwards whether you attended live or not. Register for Yin Language here.   Other mentions: Next Patreon community call December 14th 9am PST - click here to join   Btw Wisio (my "pick my brain" service) is hosting a sale. Ask me anything and get 10% off using the code "THANKS24"   Amazon book list with Queen's Code Books mentioned in this episode: The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle Magnetic Femininity by Ali Douzet   Please consider leaving a 5 star review in Apple Podcasts and Spotify, and tell a freind who would benefit from this show.

This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations!   Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great.   Links mentioned:   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket I'm offering a 1:1 promo through the month of November. 1-month intensive mentorship with 4 90-minute sessions, WhatsApp support, and my signature course Both Feet In. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. By the time you hear this, my November call will have already passed (but you can watch in retrospect), but our next one will be Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST. Become a patron here.

Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief.   Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love   Both Feet In Self Study   I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at   Ask me anything on Wisio

I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself.   You'll learn: What intuition is and isn't The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety How to use your anxiety to communicate better   Join me on October 24th for my last womens' group for a while, Anxious to Spacious. You'll learn: - Consciousness Exercise, a practice that snapped me out of overthinking my relationship and massively upgraded my communication skills How to process stagnant, old emotions clouding your ability to access clear thinking and intuition How to use Consciousness Exercise to articulate your problems to your partner in a way that inspires them to want to help you rather than blame you, withdraw, and/or deflect   Sign up for Anxious to Spacious here.   Prefer not to do a group, but go at your own pace? Do my self-study course, Both Feet In.   Other links: Ask me anything on Wisio Come to my monthly community support call for $5-$9/month HERE Podcast Ep 81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?

Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly.   Links: Next call (with my husband Preston!) on Patreon: October 6th at 9am PST. Questions open October 3. Become a patron HERE Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing.   If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so  here

This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it!   Consciousness Exercise Series starts October 1st. Register here. ^ You will also need to buy course materials: my signature online course with 9 lectures, Both Feet In. If you don't have that already purchase it here.   Next Patreon community support call: Sunday, October 6th at 9am PST (btw, my husband Preston will be joining me so you can pick his brain!) Join here for $5-9/month and access discounts, exclusive content, and my monthly call where you can ask me anything. Cancel anytime.   Other mentions: Send me a Wisio

I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't.   Links:   How I broke free from relationship anxiety - episode 1   How I Broke Free from Relationship Anxiety: Revisited - episode 57   Both Feet In: Self Study Course (open to all) and Upcoming BFI Series on October 1st (open to women only— I don't have enough demand for a men's group)   Patreon: Get support in my monthly community call, view archives of past calls, and get exclusive posts and discounts! Next community call September 13th at 9am PST.

Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you.    Nat's Amazon book recomendations   My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle   Both Feet In: Self Study Course and upcoming 2-month BFI group series starting October 1st   Patreon: next community support call September 13th at 9am PST. Bring your questions! Cancel anytime. $5-$9 a month. Join here.    

In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.   Both Feet In Self-study only: FLASH SALE UNTIL 8/31 - 5 days left! Register here Upgrade to join the next BFI class series (6 week group) - Claim your spot here Next Patreon community call: September 13th at 9am PST - Become a patron here for $5-9/month to get access to Q&As with me monthly, exclusive posts, be part of intimate group discussions, get discounts, and get first access to things. Cancel anytime.

After a few-months long hiatus, I'm happy to share what I've been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating.   Work with me   Podcast, Instagram, Tiktok, email. Subscribe to my email for a free relationship anxiety meditation. Always free Patreon - exclusive posts, discounts, monthly community call for mindfulness, discussion and Q+A: $5-$9/month Wisio - ask me anything and I'll make you a custom video reply with my immediate thoughts on your situation: $67 Both Feet In - my signature self-study course, and access to exclusive BFI group programs: $197 - $317 I have room to take a few 1:1 clients. Book your session(s) here: $500-$1900

This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom!   Work with me: Next Patreon Community Call: Friday, June 7th at 8am PST. The call will last 2.5 hours. We will have an embodiment practice with Chelsea Horton from Healing Embodied, and then she and I will host a Q&A together. Become a patron here I am currently open for 1:1 sessions. You can book yours (or buy a 4-pack) here. Ask me anything on Wisio and I'll make you a custom video in response within 7 days.   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

My most "meta" episode yet...   If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?   Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.   **Upcoming: Sex Anxiety Clinic with Shayna Hiller - A virtual masterclass to awaken pleasure, and release shame and dread in the bedroom: March 14, 2024 at 2pm PST/5pm EST. Register here.   Ask me anything on Wisio: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach     Time Stamps: 4:55 - Falling for the illusion of your partner 13:00 - Finding a partner that challenges your unconsciousness 16:35 - Two ways to improve your sex life 22:55 - Our sex anxiety clinic

If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not alone; No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!   Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sexanxietyclinic   To apply for Shayna's retreat and/or training: www.embodiedwisdomretreat.com or Shayna's website www.shaynahiller.com   Next ALC Patreon community call: Saturday, March 2nd at 9am PST/12pm EST: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach.com   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach Shayna Hiller @Shaynahiller   Time Stamps: 6:52 Shayna's long-term celibacy in her twenties 12:43  Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts 19:51  Inspiring your partner to be their best selves 26:34  Deciding that you don't like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having 30:21  How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom 37:10  Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life 38:30  Scheduling sex 46:15  What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner 1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST 1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure 1:14:43 Shayna's Embodied Wisdom Retreat

An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and tantra teacher. We spoke about seeing anxiety as a profound messenger for healing, and learning to nurture it— and what that can look like in the context of partnership. Also, I will be joining her Temple membership, so see you there

If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on the other side as a practitioner, and what it takes to hold outstanding healing space for others. Also, my dearest friend is hosting the first practitioner program of its kind that I've seen. I highly endorse this and recommend you join. Wisio (my "Ask Nat" service): www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach - use the code LOVE2024 for 10% off through 2/20/24 Patreon: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach - Next group meditation + coaching call Saturday, March 2nd 9am PST/12pm EST For the practitioner program:   Waitlist link: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/practitioner-training You can also email Chelsea - chelsea@healingembodied.com Upcoming free event for those interested: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/hangout   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach Chelsea Joy Horton @Healingembodied   Time Stamps: 8:00  Chelsea and Natalie's paths into relationship anxiety and embodiment work 12:05 Downsides of working in the world of therapy 18:30 How Chelsea's current work differs from traditional therapy 38:15 Creating a “human first” business 45:00 Chelsea's practitioner training program

Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified. What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for those with relationship anxiety? What are its strengths and limitations? In this episode, I'll share my thoughts on this treatment. Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is Sunday, February 11th at 8am PST/11am EST. https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Time Stamps: 5:04 What is ERP (exposure response therapy)? 9:34  The dangers of disassociating 13:00  What is polarity work? 20:00 Compassionate self-inquiry

My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up!   Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

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So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It's a highly charged, delicate topic! You're not alone, and you're not a bad partner. If you've experienced this, I'd like to give you some tools to navigate it ethically while also honoring your humanness. I'll be covering 5 tips to get you from freaking out, to getting under the surface of your crush, to using it to enhance your relationship with yourself and maybe even your loved one.   Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Time Stamps: 3:50 Allowing the fantasy of the crush 5:30 What happens in your mind is private 6:40 Who we perceive ourselves to be in the fantasy 9:15 Grieving your unlived lives 12:10 Working with the tension between opposites 15:20 Acknowledging what is going right in your relationship  

Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough support to grieve before listening to this. In this episode, I share a recent loss, and how I've coped with it through ritual, embodiment, and dark humor. I'll also share the incredible things it taught me about love, loss, and letting go...   This may not be a "relationship anxiety" episode, but for those of you who are willing to traverse with me to a darker, messier place, I'm hopeful you'll gain metaphorical, transferable lessons on self-trust from a story where I go deeper than I've ever been able to go before... you may find it applies to you deeply still if you have ever loved.   Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged staring January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Time Stamps: 8:15 - Finding out that I was pregnant 13:15 - Dealing with my miscarriage 30:04 - Surrendering to and trusting the universe in the midst of fear 48:00 - My feelings after the miscarriage 1:00:01 - Gratitude as a response to adversity

I entered my relationship "knowing" Preston was the one... but then, years in, I stopped knowing anymore! In this episode, I speak to the younger version of myself that was struggling horribly with relationship anxiety. Some of you are in this place and I want to remind you that A) you're not alone, and B) you don't need to suffer with this forever. There are tools to give you clarity and support you with your doubts and fears.   Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach   P.S. Thanks so much for your support after my last episode... I am feeling much better. I plan to speak on my experience more in a separate episode. But for now... I'm so grateful for my life and want to keep going. Also, I tried to make a shorter episode and failed

In this episode, I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.   Patreon next call December 9 @ 11am PST: patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Get a personalized video response: wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged use the code BLACKFRIDAY20 for 20% off until 12/10/23 11:59 pm PST   Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Time Stamps: 4:15 Relationship anxiety as a spiritual calling 7:25 If you want to be comfortable with anxiety, you must be comfortable with loss and feeling “naked” 16:00 The myth of “when you know, you'll know” 29:00  Being free of anxiety means you just say “yes'“ to what is 30:25  How to be with disappointment 38:15 Both Feet In - Abridged

Are you feeling an intense urge to break up right before Thanksgiving or winter break? You're not alone. It's actually very common! In this episode, I outline some common reasons behind holiday break-up urges and what you can do instead.   Patreon: patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Get a personalized video response: wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Email me to get on the waiting list for early bird BFI rate at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach   Time Stamps: 3:00 Breaking up and coming back to my partner during the holidays 7:40 How the holidays can bring up difficult feelings about your relationship 13:00 Wanting control over your life 19:40 What to do when you have breakup urges during the holidays 28:04 Earlybird discount for the upcoming Both Feet In coaching program

If you: are with someone struggling with relationship anxiety/ROCD and want to do your part... were broken up with because of someone's RA... are struggling with RA, but want to see what your partner's "work" is... want to look at your RA from an outsider's perspective... ... then this episode is for you!   Links: Submit a Wisio here Next Irvine, CA donations class - movement, breath, discussion, lunch Irvine Oct 29 10am PST NEXT PATREON CALL: Nov 5 @ 11am PST Exclusive content + monthly coaching (my husband is jumping on at 150 patrons and we are SO CLOSE.)   Time Stamps: 4:26 Being the most attracted to my partner when he was more selfish 7:51  Your partner's relationship anxiety is not your fault/this person is wounded and trying to resolve their issues through you 12:40  Tools for a person whose partner has relationship anxiety 15:14  Keep focusing on yourself 20:00  Become ok with them leaving 24:10 Let control and let your partner be without trying to fix them 28:15 There is always the option to leave 31:12 You can still stay out of their inner process while still staying in the relationship 36:50 Don't try to control your ex-partner if they break up with you by telling them they have relationship anxiety 39:23  My upcoming Both Feet In program in January

In this episode, my friend and other relationship anxiety practitioner, Chelsea Horton over at Healing Embodied, and I share our counter-cultural relationship beliefs that have served us well and brought us deep peace in our long-term partnerships.   This episode was recorded as a joint effort - meaning it showed up on both our podcasts, and there is no formal host. Enjoy

I really should have titled this, "10 ways Natalie is controlling." Ha! I hope you enjoy this episode. If you want to practice trusting your partner more, I give you 10 examples of ways to do this based on mistakes I've made. Listen to this episode, save your energy and breath and grant yourself relational/marital peace.   Links: Wisio is hosting a sale! Ask me anything for 10% off: Code: FALL23 https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 2:45 Thinking of my unsolicited feedback as helpful 5:00 The difference between letting go of control and tolerating disrespect 7:56 Trying to control my partner's bedtime and waking time 16:06  Policing my partner's food choices 18:01  Coaching my partner when we are out having fun 20:01  Undoing what my partner does and redoing it 21:40  Sending my partner relationship advice 24:00  Making sure that my partner did what his mother asked of him 25:20  Telling my partner how to act towards his friends 26:45  Controlling how my partner cooks 29:00  Trying to have my partner open up and have a deep conversation against his will 31:55  Trying to get my partner to be more present with me 39:30  Hosting a mindful movement class in Orange County

In this episode, I share how the lack of sisterhood/brotherhood/community can contribute to relationship anxiety and dissatisfaction, and how to cultivate it.   Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 5:00  Losing the passion in your relationship 8:10  The importance of a brotherhood and sisterhood 11:00  Attempts to fill the relationship void with outside sources 15:59 Unworthiness wounds and how they prevent us from accepting love 17:30 Your man will never understand what it's like to be a woman and you will never understand what it's like to be a man 20:30  How a lack of sisterhood can lead to nitpicking 24:30 The Anxious Love Coach Patreon

In this episode, I share a simple question that will help you ground yourself in reality, and actually move forward with life, if you're stuck on the fence over your relationship.   Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call - September 20th @ 9am:  https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 2:48  Wanting to control or change my partner in order to continue in the relationship 3:58  Disclaimers about abusive relationships 7:56  Dealing with resentment in your relationship by “being on the fence” 9:45  Reasons we feel like we need to be in control of our partners 10:25  What to do when you're on the fence 13:05  A question you can ask yourself if you're on the fence

In this episode, I talk about the curvature of expectations held in marriage/partnership over the centuries, and how in this day and age, it is beneficial, in some ways, to lower your expectations. I also address the "alpha male" and "high value man" conversation, and why we ought to be cautious and discerning about it. If you wish your partner was more spiritual or brought home more money, this episode will bring you some perspective, and how lowering your expectations will paradoxically open you up to receive MORE than you ever dreamed of in your partnership.   Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31:  Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 3:00  Being happy with a loving, nonabusive, stable partner 5:25  Having both masculine and feminine sides to yourself 7:23 Ways I would “test” my partner in the past 16:00 Wanting your partner to “be more masculine” 18:12 The dangers of seeing your relationship as a competition 25:25 My thoughts on the new Barbie film 32:00 Social messages telling us to be extraordinary 33:23 Holding a desire for the life that you want vs. having expectations of your partner 36:50 The feminine will always want more 39:45 Don't compare your nuanced relationship to a polarizing fantasy

What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with? It's common knowledge (especially if you listen to my podcast often) that "perfect" isn't a realistic standard to search for when choosing a long-term partner. While your choice of partner is one of the most important choices you'll ever make, it doesn't mean you're settling if you chose "good enough." The question is, where is the line between "good enough" and "settling?" In this episode, I didn't necessarily draw that line for you, but gave you some different things to think about. I am hopeful that it will bring you some clarity and material for discussing with your partner when deciding whether or not to move forward. [I recorded this on a hot delirium of a day with no AC. I went on a tangent a couple of times. Forgive me!... or maybe you'll love them. Lol.]   Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31:  Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 1:45  Good enough versus perfect 4:00  Wanting contradictory things out of our partner 9:00  Having a “boring”/socially awkward partner 12:03  Going through different seasons of your life with your partner 16:12  Dating in your 20s vs your 30s+ 19:34  Looks are important but the men who want to build a life with you will look for substance 21:00  Not knowing what you want in your 20s 24:18  Questions to ask yourself if you're trying to figure out if your partner is “good enough” to settle down with 32:45  Women often mature more quickly than men 37:19  Dealing with incompatibilities 43:40  Being lead in your relationship in a nonabusive context   

In this episode, I share how polarizing, black-and-white content on social media is pinning people against each other. I will also admit that I fell prey to this and started a fight with my husband before recording this episode. I also share what I learned from it and how I plan to do better.   Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31:  Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 6:50 The fights that my husband and I have had 10:25 Some of the messages I've received about men from social media 15:59  The fight that we had today 22:45  How your pain can activate your partner's pain 24:00 The importance of taking space when needed during arguments 31:50  The overwhelming fear of getting the short end of the stick in relationships 34:00  Nuanced content does not get attention on social media 36:55 Keeping the assumption that your partner loves you more than anything 41:00  Learning how to better have arguments

It's my pleasure to bring on Alex Bishop, a registered counsellor and IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapist, onto the podcast today. Alex has struggled with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety, and disorganized attachment, and can speak deeply on the experience of pushing a partner away. In this episode, we discuss his story with overcoming ROCD, how parts work relates to relationship anxiety, the IFS model for overcoming doubts, fears, and "the ick" associated with ROCD, and some of the limitations of ERP therapy for overcoming ROCD specifically. If you have been feeling stuck, this episode will be SO validating for you, and can help you get on the path to free yourself from the overwhelming shame and anxiety! Find Alex over at @forloveweheal on Instagram.   Links:  PATREON CALL w/ live Q+A: August 3rd at 10AM PST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Time Stamps: 3:00 - Alex's experience with ROCD 16:42 - The importance of knowing your patterns when you have relationship anxiety 19:00 - How Alex used parts work/CBT 23:00 - How psychedelics can help with relationship anxiety 26:12 - Creating aliveness for yourself in your relationship 31:00 -Therapeutic routes to help with ROCD 42:50 - The causes of attraction obsessions 56:10 - Having different experiences that we label the same thing 57:50 - The limitation of ERP: Exposure and Response Prevention

I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you're in a toxic or abusive relationship. But that begs the question for many: how does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? In this episode, I'm going to lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either case, if you are wondering this question, it is likely there is some unconsciousness that needs addressing.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Watch Your Language Masterclass: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach CODE: summer23 for 10% off Conscious Communication Course:  https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication   Time Stamps: 9:30  My definition of abuse in a relationship 15:35 My definition of codependency in a relationship 18:01  Not trusting your partner to their own devices 20:32 Manipulating your partner in order to change them 27:50  Things in a relationship that are uncomfortable but not abusive 33:01  Is my partner gaslighting me? 34:35  What happens when you start to get happy in your relationship? 40:05  The power of saying more with less

If you've been preoccupied with thoughts about your ex, or are comparing your relationship to your ex, or are even grieving the un-pursued romance of a crush outside your partnership, you're normal– and this episode is for you. In this episode, I share what these thoughts are really about (hint: it's not the ex), and share how to use the crush-mirror to bring ourselves back onto our own papers into wholeness. I also share a vulnerable story of how I have done this for myself.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps: 5:45 Seeking out chaos when we are with a stable, level-headed partner 10:00  A story about a crush I've thought about for over 10 years 19:50  Finding parts from your crush/ex that are missing in yourself 23:00  The ego would love to see someone who is unavailable become available 25:45  The dangers of putting the responsibility for your aliveness on another person 29:25  How a spiritual practice can help with anxiety

Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you've been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you're longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it's going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps:  4:15 Feeling like your partner is the cause of your numbness 11:05  Triggers are caused by pain that is already there 12:12  Reasons why you might be feeling numbness 22:30 Being overwhelmed by stimulation and how that creates numbness 23:40 “What get's loud when you get quiet?” 25:40 Self-care tips to deal with numbness 36:10 Prioritizing self care when dealing with anxiety 38:15 Resensitization exercise

Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you've been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you're longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it's going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps:  2:10  Never having the opportunity to be single 4:10  Leaving your relationship to discover yourself 7:25 Self-care after a breakup 11:00 Ways to feel single in your relationship 14:48 Not being able to hook up with other people while in a relationship 19:10 Taking responsibility for your aliveness in a relationship

It's easy to focus on our partners and neglect our own “inner relationship.” In this episode, my friend Luci Lampe and I discuss the balance between our masculine and feminine sides - yin and yang - for a better partnership. We also talk about aspects of the feminine archetypes that live within all of us that are often shamed and exiled – like the “slut” and the “crazy bitch”-- and how to love and utilize these parts in ways that serve us, so we can be more authentic, free, and full of aliveness. Links:  Enroll in Wild Eros here:  https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work with me 1:1:  https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps: 5:33 What is masculine/feminine union, and why is it important? 18:30 Collaborating in our masculine and feminine strengths 22:25 Toxic contexts for polarity 27:30 Getting sideswept by other potential partners when you are in crisis 29:00 The difference between dumping your emotions on someone and revealing your heart 31:00 The three exiled parts of the feminine: the slut, the witch and the crazy bitch 38:30  Properly integrating the exiled parts of the feminine 44:34  Being attuned to your body: a key to self trust 48:50  Coming into union with the masculine