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Welcome to The Lily Pod! -- The podcast that seeks to explore the layers of social conditioning in connection to gender, sexuality, political “wokeness”, relationships, and identity. Settle in and get cozy as we dive into the facets of intersectional femi

Linneah Shanti


    • Dec 12, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 33m AVG DURATION
    • 68 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from The Lily Pod

    my christmas wishlist: platonic intimacy, reciprocal friendships with men, + collective healing from patriarchy

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2023 42:38


    from exploring the ambiguities of platonic intimacies, to unpacking the depths of mistrust stemming from circumstances of boundary-breaking in the name of male desire, this episode is here to make space for all the feelings around what it means to be in friendship with men. Listen to Situaseans Podcast!A podcast that explores the interplay between dating, relationships, and mental health. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotifyto connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    curating coziness, easing into winter, + remembering the magic of collectivity

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2023 34:08


    time to grab a warm cup of tea, put on your favourite socks, and tend to your heart by slowing down for a minute.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotifyto connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    "i'm just a girl!" ~ unpacking girl dinner, gender performance, and our collective desire to be seen

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2023 38:59


    girl dinner: normalized self-neglect or a liberated expression of feminine chaos? girl math: a reproduction of sexist stereotypes or an assertation of desire for youth and irresponsibility? find out in this week's episode that explores the entangled depths of meaning surrounding the online discourse that is 'girl theory'. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    seasonal rituals, queer femmes, + crush confessionals: scatter-brain special!

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2023 31:49


    this week i'm here to chat with you about all the hot topics, including but not limited to: my favourite autumn rituals, femininity and armpit hair, how to cope with burnout, and brainstorming love confessions. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    growing existentialism, sam levinson, and girlhood: scatter-brain special!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2023 29:14


    this week's ep is a jumble of thoughts ranging from existential oversharing over coffee with friends, the manic-pixie-dream-girl (but make her mentally unstable) characters of the 2010s, and mermaid erotica book recommendations. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    maiden, mother, crone: exploring the feminine archetypes under patriarchy

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2023 21:11


    this week we're taking a look at the construction of feminine archetypes as patriarchal measurements of womanhood; exploring their empowering potential; and how this gets complicated when gender essentialism comes into the mix.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    "come on barbie let's go [cry our eyes out in the movie theatre]!"

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2023 24:20


    this episode is just 25 minutes of me gushing over greta gerwig. come hang out!!to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    is she your "girl crush" or are you just queer?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2023 23:30


    this episode tackles the worldwide phenomenon of the "girl crush" -- exploring her connection to the fetishization of queer women, the wide world of queerbaiting, and responding to the age-old sapphic question: do I want to BE her or be WITH her?to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    confronting patriarchal storytelling and our instinct to hate women: enter the feminist killjoy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2023 32:15


    this episode pulls its inspiration from Erin Wunker's 2016 book Notes from a Feminist Killjoy: Essays on Everyday Life - a literary portal through which we may all enter for the next 30 minutes in an honest discussion about the nuances of female friendship under patriarchy, the limitations of hetero-relational messaging, and our collective obligation to confront internalised misogyny.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    only respecting women ur attracted to isn't respecting women: unpacking femmephobia, anti-femininity, + gender policing

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 26:38


    this week's episode is centered around the cultural devaluation of femininity, with a splash of commentary on modern vigilantism, the nuances of reclaiming the 'slut' phase, and the politics of being un/desirable. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    trusting ur friends, spiritual shifts, + the power of pink hair dye: scatter-brain special!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 22:31


    welcome back for another little mix n match convo of this week's most potent reflections - from dyeing my hair pink to bringing sacred intention to each passing moment... happy to be here with you.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    it's a bird... it's a plane... it's a lesbian vampire!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2023 27:10


    this episode explores the cinematic history of the queer monster, centering the figure of the lesbian vampire in an analysis the trope of the 'monstrous other' fundamental to the horror genre. particularly focusing on the 1971 film Daughters of Darkness, this episode shares a queer interpretation of cinematic tropes while highlighting the critical role of camp as a subversive tool of reclamation. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    friendship, AI, and letting people love you: scatter-brain special!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 35:42


    cozy up for a hodge-podge of this week's reflections!to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    are u in love with ur friends or are u in LOVE with ur friends? ~ platonic soulmates, queer love, + friendship heartbreak

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 36:05


    this episode can be summed up in a single quote:"did you ever have an intense homoerotic years-long friendship in your early to mid teens that culminated in a dramatic friend breakup or are you straight?" (quoted from @permutedgravity on twitter)to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    choose ur fighter: sunday scaries or sunday sexies (......psst.. there's room for both!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2023 36:17


    this week's episode is answering all your questions around familiarizing ourselves with intimacy, the importance of context, navigating nerves around queer sex, and locating our desires outside of compulsory sexuality. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    when does self-care become self-isolation?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2023 26:49


    hey! let's curl up and chat about the clarity of aloneness, winter embodiment practices, and nurturing self intimacy :) to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

    new year, recycled ideas: defining home, being introspective, + coining the small-town gaze

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2023 26:31


    this ep is a little farewell to 2022, hello to 2023, and an ode to understanding home, self, reflection, and love. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    come at me winter blues!!!! ~ seasonal transitions + romancing routine

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2022 23:13


    have you taken a deep belly breath yet today? .........take this as ur sign.

    an interrogation of rape culture & re-defining consent

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022 21:41


    ***This episode is released as part of a university project for SSDB 425: Ethics in Community Engagement at Concordia University***This week's episode centers around an interrogation of the principal elements of rape culture, drawing from the work of scholars who aim to understand the structure, functioning, and reinforcement of a culture of sexual violence. In it, we will explore the nuances of understanding consent, relations, and agency within spaces, structures, and dynamics of coercion, all in attempts to re-work understandings of consent within a culture of naturalized violence. Sexual Violence Resources National (Canada)https://endingviolencecanada.org/sexual-assault-centres-crisis-lines-and-support-services/MTL basedhttps://centredesfemmesdemtl.org/en/personal-support/psychosocial-support/https://www.cvasm.org/en/https://sexualviolencehelpline.ca/cvasm-1/our-organizationhttps://www.hoodstock.ca/ReferencesHenry, N., & Powell, A. (Eds). (2014). Preventing Sexual Violence: Interdiscplinary Approaches to Overcoming a Rape Culture. Palgrave Macmillan.Johnson, D., & Johnson, N. (2021). An Empirical Exploration Into the Measurement of Rape Culture. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 36(1-2), 70-95. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260517732347Morgan, C. (2022). Visions for Justice and Critiquing Consent: On Taking Performativity Out of Performance. Journal of Consent-Based Performance 1(2), 80-110.Radtke, L., Barata, P., Senn, C., Thurston, W., Hobden, K., Newby-Clark, I., & Eliasziw, M. (2020). Countering Rape Culture with Resistance Education. In D. Crocker, J. Minaker, & A. Nelund (Eds.), Violence Interrupted: Confronting Sexual Violence on University Campuses. McGill-Queen's University Press.

    a cozy november chat ~ uni tips, falling in love, + understanding self-image

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 36:58


    here's a soft little episode to welcome in november

    classic horror tropes: tag urself i'm the queer coded villain

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022 25:34


    all in the festive spirit of spooktober, this ep is dedicated to unravelling the relationship between queerness, feminine sexuality, and the horror genre. if you didn't see Carrie as a closeted lesbian on your first viewing, you will now :-)to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    self-soothe to self-sabotage pipeline: the nuanced effects of gilmore girls + pesto pasta

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2022 35:10


    today's ep is brought to you by nostalgia™ ~ here to have a cozy chat about comfort zones, alone time, and how easily we can get in the way of our own peace.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    previously on looooooveeeee island: reality tv, misogyny, + escapism

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2022 23:50


    is it enjoyment, or just escapism? find out in today's ep on love island, normalised misogyny, and the slippery slope of reality tv viewing.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    do u need a reset routine or just a hug?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2022 17:46


    hello flowers!

    "but you don't LOOK gay!" ".........ok?"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2022 31:31


    in honour of the last few hours of pride month.... this one goes out to all my kehlani listening femmes out there..... i see u! ;) & i'm here to ramble for 30 mins on behalf of those of us who are all still carrying around a little invisible backpack of internalized heteronormativity, queer imposter syndrome, and feminine shame (despite thinking we may have escaped it once we left high school!). cozy up and get ready to feel gay.  to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    free unlicensed relationship therapy... what could go wrong? (a q&a with Hannah Thiessen)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2022 58:46


    this week's ep is a collaborative convo with a dear friend and recurring Lily Pod guest, Hannah Thiessen

    'cool girl' side effects may include (but are not limited to): isolation, obsessive comparison, + low self-esteem

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2022 29:48


    think of this episode as an unofficial former-not-like-other-girls group therapy session - the one we all know we need.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    how to stop saying 'no worries' when it's rly 'yes worries'

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 33:09


    this one goes out to all my fellow people pleasers....... i'm calling us all out in this one xoxoxoxto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    hot and extremely bothered girl summer: ur fav sundress vs. the male gaze

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2022 24:06


    welcome back to another chat where we're busy figuring out how to enjoy a good summer frolic without the company of the internalized male gaze; what it means to name compulsory (sexual/gender) performances; and how to escape the trap of personating desirability.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    hidden talents include: perfectionism, self-sabotage, + the ability to overthink even the best of situations

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2022 29:58


    it me! ~ a q&a with your problematic fav

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2022 46:03


    y'all ready to get up close n personal??? this week i'm answering all your questions about the gal on the other end of your screen ~ am i a fruit or a veggie? an introvert or extrovert? someone who knows wtf she's doing or the complete opposite? cozy up and come listen to me talk about myself for (way) too long

    r u on the verge of insanity or just a woman?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2022 21:01


    feeling unhinged?? GOOD. this episode is all about unhinged female characters ~ and we why we're completely obsessed with them. whether you see Amy Dunne as a feminist icon or a psychopathic villain (or both???), we're here to unpack what it is about characters like her that makes us so captivated. *hint: your level of captivation may coincide with the amount of female rage stored in your body*. saddle up and get ready to let loose of those hinges!!!!to connect on Instagram, follow @thelily.pod!

    exploring the ever-unfolding of our essence ~ age, development, memory, + connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2022 99:10


    in this episode, I'm joined by my most special guest yet, my darling mum and registered psychotherapist, Jeffi Farquharson. in perfect alignment with our iconic conversational style we've coined as "snack night", we're jumping all over the place in this one! join us as we explore the reality of generation gaps in learning, the gender playfulness of dress-up boxes, backyard bra-burning, informing our intuition, and the magic of naps. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    "wyd tn?" ~ wondering if i like what i like bc i like it, or bc society TELLS me i like it.....

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2022 27:13


    welcome back to another week of The Lily Pod!

    getting dressed 101: unpacking the politics of fashion

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 69:51


    i'm joined this week with El (@fey.fatale on ig), a queer Pākehā Tangata Tiriti activist from Aotearoa (New Zealand) who's here to talk with me about the personal and political components of fashion. we're covering topics such as how to liberate ourselves through style expression, the interconnectedness of fashion and queer identity, & the history of gendered fashion as a colonial tool for reinforcing hierarchy. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

    unlearning femininity: our inner pick-me's just wanting to be validated

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2022 24:35


    welcome back to The Lily Pod!

    biggest lessons of 2021 ~ boundaries, validation, + self-lurv

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2021 25:13


    here to bring you hot takes about the nuances of boundaries, what it really means to ~protect ur energy~, understanding accountability, and why we need to stop labelling things as 'valid', this ep's wrapping it up for the year with a mixed bag of opinions ready to rock the boat. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    i always feel like somebody's watching me ~ the panopticon, internalized male gaze, + body surveillance

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2021 24:41


    this episode is revisiting everyone's fav topic of discussion ~the male gaze~ ! we'll be chatting about the internalized male gaze in the context of the panopticon; how they operate as similar systems of power, why they're so effective, and how we might(?) be able to escape them(????). 

    do u actually like him, or is it comphet? ~ introducing compulsory heterosexuality

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 37:21


    this episode is an introduction to the concept of compulsory heterosexuality as defined by Adrienne Rich (1980). we'll be diving into the deep end of heteropatriarchy, exploring how it shapes our relationships, our decisions, our sex lives, and our understandings of queerness. from chatting about childhood crushes, to internalized homophobia, to the infamous 'Am I a Lesbian' masterdoc, this ep is here to guide you in questioning whether your choices are intentional or compulsory. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    why u need to be prioritizing giggles: embracing childishness, boogying, + friendship!!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 46:15


    joining me on the pod this week is my dearest friend Rose!! come n hang out with our chaotic giggly energy as we chat about everything from friendship, to boogying, to queerness, to reimaginations of romance. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    jealous much? that's ok! :D

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 28:24


    this episode is a get-to-know-me intro of the guy we all know as the green-eyed monster (+ maybe get into how we misjudged him???) - there'll be chats about how jealousy manifests, how it's romanticized, what behaviours it perpetuates, and how to confront it with the radical act of ~self-compassion~! let's get into it babes!!!!to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    jealous much
    r u the main character, or just self-centered? ~ romanticizing ur life, main character syndrome + performativity

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 19:40


    this episode is unpacking all the baggage that comes with the over-romanticization of life --- somewhere we've all probably been, but might not even be aware of. we'll be talking about everything from main character syndrome, to the dangers of seeing your life as a movie, to the insidious nature of social media trends (~that girl~ morning routine, anyone???). can we come to a conclusion on how to distinguish authenticity from performance? let's find out. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    let's talk about sex, baby: education, consent, + empowerment

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2021 32:32


    in this episode, we'll be talking about all the ways in which sex ed curriculums set us up for failure, with particular focus to their perpetuation of sexual shame, exclusions of queerness, and biiiig lack of understanding consent. with a bite-sized consent education introduction, some discussion around heteronormative-centered sex ed, and answering some of your sex-related questions, this one's got a lot going on!  to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    the female gaze, queer desire, + male gaze subversions

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2021 24:55


    this episode is a little exploration of the female gaze in film -- what it is, how it appears, and how it differs from the male gaze. we'll also be digging into some critiques of how these two gazes reinforce binaries of identity, gender, and personal experience, all while taking into consideration the subversive role of queer desire!to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    r u scared of commitment, or just real emotion? ~ relationships, vulnerability, + love

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2021 50:07


    this episode is a fun little collab with my partner of (almost) 4 years, Marco! come hang out with us as we chat about all things ~lurv~! from handling conflict/resolution with opposing communication styles, prioritizing playfulness, exploring love languages, dealing with relationship FOMO, and navigating queer identity in a straight passing relationship, we're digging it allll up baby. join in! xoxoxoto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    whitewashing, appropriation, + the Kardashians

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 45:46


    this week's episode is a collaboration with the wonderful Lori (connect on Twitter @doingthemost__ !), who is here to talk about the role of whitewashing in celebrity and pop culture, with particular consideration to the infamous Kardashian family as the new faces of modern white feminism. from discussions of appropriation, aesthetics, racial ambiguities, and accountability, Lori guides us in a conversation that allows us to question our position in the idolization of celebrities.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    there's an imposter among us!!! .....ps, it's u ~ perfectionism, self-doubt, + dealing with imposter syndrome

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2021 28:16


    feelin' like a fraud? you're not alone, baby. coming back full swing with an episode on dealing with imposter syndrome, negative internal dialogue, and perfectionistic overthinking, we'll be exploring three different types of imposters: The Perfectionist, The Natural Genius, and The Soloist. how do they show up? and how do you get them to f off??? settle on in as we do a little dive into understanding the power of insecurity combined with symptoms of systemic bias. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    “bUt hE's a gENiUs”: the myth of the male genius, separating the art from the artist, + the #metoo movement

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2021 49:51


    I'm joined this week by my dear friend and Art History major, Liv Deresti-Robinson, who's here to talk with me all about the myth of the male genius within the artistic industry; how this myth preserves rape culture, sustains hierarchy, and consistently excuses toxicity. from talking about god complexes, to the ever-debated question of whether or not we can (or should!) separate the art from the artist, this episode's all about unpacking the hierarchical nature of the artistic industry in which the "male genius" is worshipped, celebrated, and immortalized. read the article that inspired this episode! > https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/11/10/arts/sexual-harassment-art-hollywood.amp.htmlto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    exploring gender in isolation: playfulness, fluidity, + embodiment (with Theodore Forest)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2021 31:43


    joining me on the pod this week for a conversation about gender, fluidity, and personal expression is the lovely Theodore Forest (connect on Instagram at @thetransacademic), who recently spoke at a subversions conference about the effects prolonged isolation has had on gender expression during the pandemic. Theo shares with us the intricacies of navigating gender identity, expression, and presentation within the context of extensive isolation through a unique lens of lived transgender experience. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    queering the heteronormative narrative: queer coding, queer baiting, + ~shipping~

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2021 24:58


    in this week's episode, we're delving into the world of queering heteronormative narratives and characters in cinema + TV! with explanation of the history of queer coding, the role of censorship in stereotyping queerness in cinema, and Hollywood's love for queer baiting, this episode's got it alllll. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

    how capitalism ruins pride month: rainbow washing, commodifying awareness, + branding

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2021 21:36


    link to Tech Colonialism Today by Sareeta Amrute: https://points.datasociety.net/tech-colonialism-today-9633a9cb00adthis week's ep is about the surface-level bullsh*t that comes along with pride month, all thanks to capitalism, commercialization, and branding

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