The Lily Pod

from exploring the ambiguities of platonic intimacies, to unpacking the depths of mistrust stemming from circumstances of boundary-breaking in the name of male desire, this episode is here to make space for all the feelings around what it means to be in friendship with men. Listen to Situaseans Podcast!A podcast that explores the interplay between dating, relationships, and mental health. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotifyto connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

time to grab a warm cup of tea, put on your favourite socks, and tend to your heart by slowing down for a minute.Smells Like HumansLike listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotifyto connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

girl dinner: normalized self-neglect or a liberated expression of feminine chaos? girl math: a reproduction of sexist stereotypes or an assertation of desire for youth and irresponsibility? find out in this week's episode that explores the entangled depths of meaning surrounding the online discourse that is 'girl theory'. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this week i'm here to chat with you about all the hot topics, including but not limited to: my favourite autumn rituals, femininity and armpit hair, how to cope with burnout, and brainstorming love confessions. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this week's ep is a jumble of thoughts ranging from existential oversharing over coffee with friends, the manic-pixie-dream-girl (but make her mentally unstable) characters of the 2010s, and mermaid erotica book recommendations. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this week we're taking a look at the construction of feminine archetypes as patriarchal measurements of womanhood; exploring their empowering potential; and how this gets complicated when gender essentialism comes into the mix.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this episode is just 25 minutes of me gushing over greta gerwig. come hang out!!to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this episode tackles the worldwide phenomenon of the "girl crush" -- exploring her connection to the fetishization of queer women, the wide world of queerbaiting, and responding to the age-old sapphic question: do I want to BE her or be WITH her?to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this episode pulls its inspiration from Erin Wunker's 2016 book Notes from a Feminist Killjoy: Essays on Everyday Life - a literary portal through which we may all enter for the next 30 minutes in an honest discussion about the nuances of female friendship under patriarchy, the limitations of hetero-relational messaging, and our collective obligation to confront internalised misogyny.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this week's episode is centered around the cultural devaluation of femininity, with a splash of commentary on modern vigilantism, the nuances of reclaiming the 'slut' phase, and the politics of being un/desirable. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

welcome back for another little mix n match convo of this week's most potent reflections - from dyeing my hair pink to bringing sacred intention to each passing moment... happy to be here with you.to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this episode explores the cinematic history of the queer monster, centering the figure of the lesbian vampire in an analysis the trope of the 'monstrous other' fundamental to the horror genre. particularly focusing on the 1971 film Daughters of Darkness, this episode shares a queer interpretation of cinematic tropes while highlighting the critical role of camp as a subversive tool of reclamation. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

cozy up for a hodge-podge of this week's reflections!to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this episode can be summed up in a single quote:"did you ever have an intense homoerotic years-long friendship in your early to mid teens that culminated in a dramatic friend breakup or are you straight?" (quoted from @permutedgravity on twitter)to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

this week's episode is answering all your questions around familiarizing ourselves with intimacy, the importance of context, navigating nerves around queer sex, and locating our desires outside of compulsory sexuality. to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

hey! let's curl up and chat about the clarity of aloneness, winter embodiment practices, and nurturing self intimacy :) to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram

this ep is a little farewell to 2022, hello to 2023, and an ode to understanding home, self, reflection, and love. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

have you taken a deep belly breath yet today? .........take this as ur sign.

***This episode is released as part of a university project for SSDB 425: Ethics in Community Engagement at Concordia University***This week's episode centers around an interrogation of the principal elements of rape culture, drawing from the work of scholars who aim to understand the structure, functioning, and reinforcement of a culture of sexual violence. In it, we will explore the nuances of understanding consent, relations, and agency within spaces, structures, and dynamics of coercion, all in attempts to re-work understandings of consent within a culture of naturalized violence. Sexual Violence Resources National (Canada)https://endingviolencecanada.org/sexual-assault-centres-crisis-lines-and-support-services/MTL basedhttps://centredesfemmesdemtl.org/en/personal-support/psychosocial-support/https://www.cvasm.org/en/https://sexualviolencehelpline.ca/cvasm-1/our-organizationhttps://www.hoodstock.ca/ReferencesHenry, N., & Powell, A. (Eds). (2014). Preventing Sexual Violence: Interdiscplinary Approaches to Overcoming a Rape Culture. Palgrave Macmillan.Johnson, D., & Johnson, N. (2021). An Empirical Exploration Into the Measurement of Rape Culture. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 36(1-2), 70-95. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260517732347Morgan, C. (2022). Visions for Justice and Critiquing Consent: On Taking Performativity Out of Performance. Journal of Consent-Based Performance 1(2), 80-110.Radtke, L., Barata, P., Senn, C., Thurston, W., Hobden, K., Newby-Clark, I., & Eliasziw, M. (2020). Countering Rape Culture with Resistance Education. In D. Crocker, J. Minaker, & A. Nelund (Eds.), Violence Interrupted: Confronting Sexual Violence on University Campuses. McGill-Queen's University Press.

here's a soft little episode to welcome in november

all in the festive spirit of spooktober, this ep is dedicated to unravelling the relationship between queerness, feminine sexuality, and the horror genre. if you didn't see Carrie as a closeted lesbian on your first viewing, you will now :-)to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

today's ep is brought to you by nostalgia™ ~ here to have a cozy chat about comfort zones, alone time, and how easily we can get in the way of our own peace.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

is it enjoyment, or just escapism? find out in today's ep on love island, normalised misogyny, and the slippery slope of reality tv viewing.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

hello flowers!

in honour of the last few hours of pride month.... this one goes out to all my kehlani listening femmes out there..... i see u! ;) & i'm here to ramble for 30 mins on behalf of those of us who are all still carrying around a little invisible backpack of internalized heteronormativity, queer imposter syndrome, and feminine shame (despite thinking we may have escaped it once we left high school!). cozy up and get ready to feel gay.  to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this week's ep is a collaborative convo with a dear friend and recurring Lily Pod guest, Hannah Thiessen

think of this episode as an unofficial former-not-like-other-girls group therapy session - the one we all know we need.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

this one goes out to all my fellow people pleasers....... i'm calling us all out in this one xoxoxoxto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

welcome back to another chat where we're busy figuring out how to enjoy a good summer frolic without the company of the internalized male gaze; what it means to name compulsory (sexual/gender) performances; and how to escape the trap of personating desirability.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

welcome back to another week

y'all ready to get up close n personal??? this week i'm answering all your questions about the gal on the other end of your screen ~ am i a fruit or a veggie? an introvert or extrovert? someone who knows wtf she's doing or the complete opposite? cozy up and come listen to me talk about myself for (way) too long

feeling unhinged?? GOOD. this episode is all about unhinged female characters ~ and we why we're completely obsessed with them. whether you see Amy Dunne as a feminist icon or a psychopathic villain (or both???), we're here to unpack what it is about characters like her that makes us so captivated. *hint: your level of captivation may coincide with the amount of female rage stored in your body*. saddle up and get ready to let loose of those hinges!!!!to connect on Instagram, follow @thelily.pod!

in this episode, I'm joined by my most special guest yet, my darling mum and registered psychotherapist, Jeffi Farquharson. in perfect alignment with our iconic conversational style we've coined as "snack night", we're jumping all over the place in this one! join us as we explore the reality of generation gaps in learning, the gender playfulness of dress-up boxes, backyard bra-burning, informing our intuition, and the magic of naps. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

welcome back to another week of The Lily Pod!

i'm joined this week with El (@fey.fatale on ig), a queer Pākehā Tangata Tiriti activist from Aotearoa (New Zealand) who's here to talk with me about the personal and political components of fashion. we're covering topics such as how to liberate ourselves through style expression, the interconnectedness of fashion and queer identity, & the history of gendered fashion as a colonial tool for reinforcing hierarchy. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram

welcome back to The Lily Pod!

here to bring you hot takes about the nuances of boundaries, what it really means to ~protect ur energy~, understanding accountability, and why we need to stop labelling things as 'valid', this ep's wrapping it up for the year with a mixed bag of opinions ready to rock the boat. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this episode is revisiting everyone's fav topic of discussion ~the male gaze~ ! we'll be chatting about the internalized male gaze in the context of the panopticon; how they operate as similar systems of power, why they're so effective, and how we might(?) be able to escape them(????). 

this episode is an introduction to the concept of compulsory heterosexuality as defined by Adrienne Rich (1980). we'll be diving into the deep end of heteropatriarchy, exploring how it shapes our relationships, our decisions, our sex lives, and our understandings of queerness. from chatting about childhood crushes, to internalized homophobia, to the infamous 'Am I a Lesbian' masterdoc, this ep is here to guide you in questioning whether your choices are intentional or compulsory. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

joining me on the pod this week is my dearest friend Rose!! come n hang out with our chaotic giggly energy as we chat about everything from friendship, to boogying, to queerness, to reimaginations of romance. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this episode is a get-to-know-me intro of the guy we all know as the green-eyed monster (+ maybe get into how we misjudged him???) - there'll be chats about how jealousy manifests, how it's romanticized, what behaviours it perpetuates, and how to confront it with the radical act of ~self-compassion~! let's get into it babes!!!!to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this episode is unpacking all the baggage that comes with the over-romanticization of life --- somewhere we've all probably been, but might not even be aware of. we'll be talking about everything from main character syndrome, to the dangers of seeing your life as a movie, to the insidious nature of social media trends (~that girl~ morning routine, anyone???). can we come to a conclusion on how to distinguish authenticity from performance? let's find out. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

in this episode, we'll be talking about all the ways in which sex ed curriculums set us up for failure, with particular focus to their perpetuation of sexual shame, exclusions of queerness, and biiiig lack of understanding consent. with a bite-sized consent education introduction, some discussion around heteronormative-centered sex ed, and answering some of your sex-related questions, this one's got a lot going on!  to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this episode is a little exploration of the female gaze in film -- what it is, how it appears, and how it differs from the male gaze. we'll also be digging into some critiques of how these two gazes reinforce binaries of identity, gender, and personal experience, all while taking into consideration the subversive role of queer desire!to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this episode is a fun little collab with my partner of (almost) 4 years, Marco! come hang out with us as we chat about all things ~lurv~! from handling conflict/resolution with opposing communication styles, prioritizing playfulness, exploring love languages, dealing with relationship FOMO, and navigating queer identity in a straight passing relationship, we're digging it allll up baby. join in! xoxoxoto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

this week's episode is a collaboration with the wonderful Lori (connect on Twitter @doingthemost__ !), who is here to talk about the role of whitewashing in celebrity and pop culture, with particular consideration to the infamous Kardashian family as the new faces of modern white feminism. from discussions of appropriation, aesthetics, racial ambiguities, and accountability, Lori guides us in a conversation that allows us to question our position in the idolization of celebrities.to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

feelin' like a fraud? you're not alone, baby. coming back full swing with an episode on dealing with imposter syndrome, negative internal dialogue, and perfectionistic overthinking, we'll be exploring three different types of imposters: The Perfectionist, The Natural Genius, and The Soloist. how do they show up? and how do you get them to f off??? settle on in as we do a little dive into understanding the power of insecurity combined with symptoms of systemic bias. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

I'm joined this week by my dear friend and Art History major, Liv Deresti-Robinson, who's here to talk with me all about the myth of the male genius within the artistic industry; how this myth preserves rape culture, sustains hierarchy, and consistently excuses toxicity. from talking about god complexes, to the ever-debated question of whether or not we can (or should!) separate the art from the artist, this episode's all about unpacking the hierarchical nature of the artistic industry in which the "male genius" is worshipped, celebrated, and immortalized. read the article that inspired this episode! > https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/11/10/arts/sexual-harassment-art-hollywood.amp.htmlto join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

joining me on the pod this week for a conversation about gender, fluidity, and personal expression is the lovely Theodore Forest (connect on Instagram at @thetransacademic), who recently spoke at a subversions conference about the effects prolonged isolation has had on gender expression during the pandemic. Theo shares with us the intricacies of navigating gender identity, expression, and presentation within the context of extensive isolation through a unique lens of lived transgender experience. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

in this week's episode, we're delving into the world of queering heteronormative narratives and characters in cinema + TV! with explanation of the history of queer coding, the role of censorship in stereotyping queerness in cinema, and Hollywood's love for queer baiting, this episode's got it alllll. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram!

link to Tech Colonialism Today by Sareeta Amrute: https://points.datasociety.net/tech-colonialism-today-9633a9cb00adthis week's ep is about the surface-level bullsh*t that comes along with pride month, all thanks to capitalism, commercialization, and branding