Podcast appearances and mentions of Thordis Elva

Slavná psychoterapeutka Nora Vlášková je už pravidelným hostem na Hausbotu a mimo jiné jsem s ní natočil velký seminář o vztazích a lidské duši pro platformu socrato.cz (jen pro zajímavost: na tento kurz je právě teď na mém Herohero účtu pro odběratele do konce března vypsaná 50% sleva.). https://herohero.co/petrhorkyPři natáčení dnešního rozhovoru mne zajímala hned tři témata, jedno aktuálnější než druhé…a myslím, že ne vždy si s nimi dokážeme poradit. Tím pádem se i těším na vaše reakce, názory a zkušenosti! Kdo byste chtěli ještě půlhodinové pokračování, a k tomu navíc 50% slevový kód na celý velký webinář Nory Vláškové o vztazích a lidské duši, pojďte na můj kanál na adrese herohero.co/petrhorky. Najdete tu můj kompletní archiv a k tomu všechna videa jsou bez reklam. Mějte se krásně, ahoj! Váš Petr HorkyOdkazy:Kniha Chci se ti podívat do očí (Thordis Elva a Tom Stranger) - https://www.databazeknih.cz/knihy/chci-se-ti-podivat-do-oci-548688TedEx Talk Thordis Elva a Tom Stranger - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9wSeriál Gilmorova děvčata - https://www.csfd.cz/film/70105-gilmorova-devcata/prehled/Seriál Přátelé - https://www.csfd.cz/film/68928-pratele/prehled/Seriál Sex ve městě - https://www.csfd.cz/film/69730-sex-ve-meste/prehled/00:00 Potřeba ženy prostě vyvstane, nejde potlačit.11:58 Proč ženy hejtí ženy?20:50 Jak se dostat ze sebeobviňování?Zbytek rozhovoru obsahuje následující kapitoly:28:21 Mladí si dovolují mluvit o emocích.39:45 Jak být dobrý boomer.45:39 Co se děje v člověku, když lže.52:26 Žít otevřeně a autenticky je nejvýhodnější.Support the show

Thordis Elva je pozoruhodná žena! Má silný a těžký příběh, který pomáhá řešit bolesti a traumata lidem po celém světě. Navíc zásadním způsobem ovlivňuje současné diskuse nad vztahy a pozicemi žen a mužů.V 16 letech se opila na oslavě, její tehdejší přítel ji doprovodil domu a pak znásilnil. Thordis si prošla dlouhým obdobím popírání, až si dodala odvahy a udělala tu nejméně pravděpodobnou věc: ozvala se po devíti letech svému násilníkovi Thomasi Strangerovi, aby mu vrátila jeho vinu. Vznikl silný příběh o tom, co s námi dělá trauma, bolest a potlačované trápení. A také o tom, jak se zločin propíše i do života viníka.Thordis a Tom promluvili na TedEXu a jejich výstup má miliony zhlédnutí. Společně vydali knihu která se prodává po celém světě.Tento příběh také rozčiluje spoustu lidi po celém světě, kteří chtějí své strachy a trápení schovat za neurvalost.Odhalují tím otázky, které naše společnost pořád neumí odpovědět: je partner anebo přítel jakékoli ženy majitelem jejího těla a ona proto nemá právo odepřít sex? Myslíme si, že je v pořádku znásilnit ženu, která se opije? Žijeme v iluzi, že bolesti svého života nejlépe přežijeme tak, že je popřeme před okolím i sami před sebou?Začíná silný, přátelský a osobní rozhovor, který vás nebude vydírat ani lacině pobuřovat. Ale nenechá vás v klidu. Jsem velmi zvědav na diskusi. Zasmějete se u něj. Zamrazí vás a asi si vzpomenete i na vlastni smutky, bolesti i legrační omyly.Toto je pro dnešek zde na YouTube vše. Na mém Herohero můžete toto video vidět celé, tento týden tam přibude i bonus o tom, co Thordis vzkazuje všem mužům a ženám. Navíc tam bude i kompletní původní, anglická verze. Díky moc za podporu a jsem zvědav na diskuzi pod videem! Mějte s krásně, váš Petr HorkýOdkazy:Kniha Chci se ti podívat do očí - https://www.databazeknih.cz/knihy/chci-se-ti-podivat-do-oci-548688TedEX talk Thordis a Toma - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9wInstagram Thordis Elvy - https://www.instagram.com/thordiselva/?hl=cs00:00 Jak vnímají Tvůj příběh ve světě?06:47 Kde leží hranice komplimentu?11:44 Co musí ženy denně podstupovat?16:15 Jsou všichni muži nebezpeční?20:37 I některé ženy jsou proti pokroku v oblasti ženských práv.27:34 Bez odpovědnosti není svoboda.Zbytek rozhovoru, který najdete na https://herohero.co/petrhorky obsahuje navíc tyto kapitoly:34:56 Smíření se s minulostí - setkání s Tomem.54:08 Máte ráda muže?54:48 Vzkaz mužům a ženám.Support the show

In this conversation, Thordis Elva explores the complexities of mental health, trauma, and the journey of healing from sexual assault. Thordis shares her personal experience as a survivor and the unique path she took towards understanding and reconciling with her perpetrator. The dialogue delves into the themes of forgiveness, empathy, and that healing is a deeply personal journey. We discuss the complexities of apologies and forgiveness, the weight of true forgiveness, and the possible impact of grudges on personal well-being. We delve into the nuances of the courage it takes to acknowledge wrongdoing, and the long-term effects of trauma on relationships and self-identity. The discussion highlights the complexities surrounding sexual violence, the mindset of perpetrators, and the societal structures that perpetuate these issues. Thordis explains the detrimental effects of toxic masculinity on men themselves and emphasizes the importance of changing attitudes and deconstructing gender stereotypes for a healthier society. TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE INCLUDE  sexual assault, trauma, depression, PTSD Please go to www.bunnyhugspodcast.com to find all my social media links, merch store, my children's book, buy me a coffee and more!   Bunny Hugs and Mental Health is currently on the Top Ten Best Canadian Mental Health Podcasts list!  And the Top 100 Best Mental Health Podcasts on the internet! Follow this other great Canadian podcast Hard Knox Talks  Please donate to Cornwall Alternative School here

This series of The Sacred Elizabeth spoke with nine fascinating individuals about their core values, and how the messages, philosophies and experiences from their childhood shaped them into the people they are today. She spoke with Cole Arthur Riley, Thordis Elva, James Marriott, Tomiwa Owolade, Anne McElvoy, Tea Uglow, Iain McGilchrist and John Vervaeke. In this reflection episode, Elizabeth takes a look back at all these conversations and dwells on a couple key threads that were prominent throughout. ***** The Sacred is a podcast produced by the think tank Theos. Be sure to connect with us below to stay up-to-date with all our content, research and events. CONNECT WITH THE SACRED Twitter: https://twitter.com/sacred_podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sacred_podcast/ CONNECT WITH ELIZABETH OLDFIELD Twitter: https://twitter.com/ESOldfield Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsaraholdfield/ CONNECT WITH THEOS Theos monthly newsletter: https://confirmsubscription.com/h/d/E9E17CAB71AC7464 Twitter: https://twitter.com/Theosthinktank Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theosthinktank LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theos---the-think-tank/ Website: https://www.theosthinktank.co.uk/ CHECK OUT OUR PODCASTS The Sacred: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-sacred/id1326888108 Reading Our Times: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/reading-our-times/id1530952185

*EPISODE DISCLAIMER* This episode was recorded before brand allegations emerged. It feels very timely but also potentially a difficult time for us to be releasing it. In the end, we wanted to leave as is because Thordis and her story is about more than sexual violence, and because the topic of sexual violence itself is about more than one person and their story. But we're also very aware there are a lot of complex and conflicting thoughts following the allegations emerging. So as ever please do get in touch and let us know your thoughts. Thordis Elva is a writer and speaker best known for her powerful story of forgiving and reconciling with her rapist, Tom. Her Ted Talk, given alongside Tom, has been viewed over six million times. Thordis spoke about her story of sexual assault and journey to forgiveness, the challenge of recognising the human nature of those who hurt you, and the uniting force that is hope. Watch Thordis' Ted talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/thordis_elva_and_tom_stranger_our_story_of_rape_and_reconciliation Buy a copy of Thordis' book, South of Forgiveness, here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/south-of-forgiveness/thordis-elva/tom-stranger/9781911344056 ***** The Sacred is a podcast produced by the think tank Theos. Be sure to connect with us below to stay up-to-date with all our content, research and events. CONNECT WITH THE SACRED Twitter: https://twitter.com/sacred_podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sacred_podcast/ CONNECT WITH ELIZABETH OLDFIELD Twitter: https://twitter.com/ESOldfield Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsaraholdfield/ Substack: https://morefullyalive.substack.com/ CONNECT WITH THEOS Theos monthly newsletter: https://confirmsubscription.com/h/d/E9E17CAB71AC7464 Twitter: https://twitter.com/Theosthinktank Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theosthinktank LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theos---the-think-tank/ Website: https://www.theosthinktank.co.uk/ CHECK OUT OUR PODCASTS The Sacred: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-sacred/id1326888108 Reading Our Times: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/reading-our-times/id1530952185

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Thordis Elva (NORDREF) joins a conversation on consent in regards to relationships, boundaries and forgiveness. Thordis highlights the importance of consent in regard to relationships and how connections in our everyday life need to be understood under the umbrella of consent-seeking. Host: Elisa Iannacone | Co-Host: Nico Drimecker | Producers: Tahiya Moosa, Alexandra Born | Resources Mentioned: Petition Guest Website: NORDREF | CoC Website: www.conversationsonconsent.com This campaign was produced with the financial support of the European Union within the framework of the European Union Sivil Düşün Programme. Its contents are the sole responsibility of Nicole Bogott and do not necessarily reflect the views of the European Union. Further supported by Philia and The Philia Project.

Thordis Elva (NORDREF) joins a conversation on consent in regards to relationships, boundaries and forgiveness. Thordis highlights the importance of consent in regard to relationships and how connections in our everyday life need to be understood under the umbrella of consent-seeking. Host: Elisa Iannacone | Co-Host: Nico Drimecker | Producers: Tahiya Moosa, Alexandra Born | Resources Mentioned: Petition Guest Website: NORDREF | CoC Website: www.conversationsonconsent.com This campaign was produced with the financial support of the European Union within the framework of the European Union Sivil Düşün Programme. Its contents are the sole responsibility of Nicole Bogott and do not necessarily reflect the views of the European Union. Further supported by Philia and The Philia Project.

CW: This episode includes a conversation about sexual assault between 8:16 and 17:43. Rachel and Walls talk about the importance of checking in with yourself amidst a summer full of worldwide strife. They dive into the shortcomings of the famous Stanford marshmallow experiment, and Rachel shares her observations from watching the RNC. Walls is musing on next steps for healing from a sexual assault in college and she plants a seed for a possible companion podcast...They've got a fun film to watch and a podcast episode with a history lesson you might have also missed in high school. Would you listen to a pod devoted exclusively to Legend of Korra? How does forgiveness show up in your life? Send a voice memo or an email to withrachelandwalls@gmail.com. You can also DM us on social media: IG @withrachelandwalls + Twitter @rachelandwalls. Music by Royer Bockus Show your listener support with a monthly donation! Click the "Support" button here. Some resources: Support victims of Hurricane Laura The Milwaukee Freedom Fund is providing bail relief for protesters in Kenosha, WI Learn about Thordis Elva's experience with forgiveness Tips for talking to sexual assault survivors Listen to Episode 405 of 99 Percent Invisible --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/withrachelandwalls/support

I am pleased to bring you the thinking of today's guest, Thordis Elva. Thordis is an Icelandic author, speaker, playwright, and activist for gender equality. Thordis collaborated on this book with her perpetrator, Tom Stranger, making her the first rape survivor in the world to publicly do this. We will be discussing a range of topics, such as the meaning of forgiveness and atonement, the importance of anger and vengeance as steppingstones toward forgiveness, and the need to change misconceptions and myths about sexual abuse.

I am pleased to bring you the thinking of today's guest, Thordis Elva. Thordis is an Icelandic author, speaker, playwright, and activist for gender equality. Thordis collaborated on this book with her perpetrator, Tom Stranger, making her the first rape survivor in the world to publicly do this. We will be discussing a range of topics, such as the meaning of forgiveness and atonement, the importance of anger and vengeance as steppingstones toward forgiveness, and the need to change misconceptions and myths about sexual abuse.

Today Veronika has a special treat in which she will share with us some findings of Sexual Violence awareness campaigns she's learned. As well we talk about the Male Happiness Scale and what really makes men happy (Hint: It's Jobs). Research on Sexual Violence Amy R. Baugher and Julie A. Gazmararian: Masculine gender role stress and violence: A literature review and future directions Carline, A., Gunby, C., & Taylor, S. (2018). Too drunk to consent? Exploring the contestations and disruptions in male-focused sexual violence prevention interventions. Social & Legal Studies, 27(3), 299-322. https://www.doi.org/10.1177/0964663917713346   Silver, N., & Hovick, S. (2018). A schema of denial: The influence of rape myth acceptance on beliefs, attitudes, and processing of affirmative consent campaign messages. Journal of Health Communication, 23(6), 505-513. https://doi.org/10.1080/10810730.2018.1473532    Resources on Sexual Violence SACE I am with you  Jeffrey Epstien documentary Catch and Kill Athlete A   Restorative Justice & Sexual Violence Traditional justice system responses don’t work for us (and we know it)https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2017001/article/54870-eng.htm Restorative Justice Difficult, but really wild TED Talk - Our story of rape and reconciliation | Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger.. Tom raped Thordis when they were teenagers….their ted talk together.  https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/jr/2019rsd-rr2019/p31.html https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/i-do-forgive-him-as-a-human-rape-victim-confronts-her-attacker-in-restorative-justice-process-1.4665519 Harry’s Study on Men’s Happiness https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-strongest-predictor-of-men-s-well-being-isn-t-family-or-health?utm_source=pocket-newtab

Thordis Elva is an Icelandic playwright, speaker, and author who embraces the power of her voice and uses it to advocate for women's rights and gender equality. This week, she joins the Inner Circle to share the incident of sexual abuse that impacted her life and forever changed the course of her life. She talks about contacting her abuser, and why it's important to demystify who is capable of the act, and how she alleviated her own shame and blame by sharing her truth. Thordis also talks about the powerful TED Talk between herself and Tom, watched by over 5 million people, as well as her book South of Forgiveness, and her superpower of having an “army of light” behind her.  What You'll Hear in This Episode: There is no such thing as an unworthy story, or someone unworthy of sharing their own. It is what makes us connect with ourselves and each other. Thordis has dedicated her career to gender equality and helping women realize they don't need to take the blame and shame from gender-based violence. Thordis details how she was exploited at 16 years old, and really what a profound impact it had on her. Sexual abusers are seen to be mythical inhuman monsters, but really it's far more common to be violated by someone that you know and trust. Thordis reconnected with Tom because she wanted to know “why” and also see how it had marked his life. He also felt the consequences of his actions and wanted to share his story as well so it could be prevented and avoided. Thordis recognizes her privilege of being able to share her experience. Many women are in different situations and can't say anything for fear of being hurt or killed. What it was like when they met up in person, and literally faced their truth once and for all. Thordis and Tom took their conversation of 7+ years to the next level with a TED Talk, “Our story of rape and reconciliation” and their book South of Forgiveness. Thordis found her Army of Light that gave her strength and carried her through a time where she had an extremely slim chance of giving birth to her twins. Whether it's speaking to the UN or a conference of thousands, Thordis puts the emphasis on sharing her truth and threading humanity together by illuminating our faith and belief in miracles. Quotes:  “Every single person on this earth has a story worth telling.” “I needed to unload the blame and the shame.” “The internet has the capacity to bring out the worst in people, but it can certainly bring out the very, very best.” “If you cling to hope, incredible things can happen.” Mentioned:  Our story of rape and reconciliation South of Forgiveness @thordiselva yoga_girl Journey Into the Inner Circle:  Carrie Doll  @CarrieADoll - Twitter @carriedollconsulting - Instagram  Carrie Doll - Facebook Please rate, review and follow the podcast! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Think that feminism is something that only activists can practice? Think that being a feminist means being anti men? Think again! Thordis Elva, renowned TED speaker, author and Activist gives us insight on how to add feminist practices to our daily lives. One particularly great take away was how to incorporate this notion with our kids. If you follow Thordis on Instagram you will get a glimpse into the way that she raises her three boys and especially her eldest son Frey who has more than once stood up to bullies at school because of inequality towards girls in his class.  What I love about Thordis is her passion and brilliance for these huge issues and also her ability to share her vulnerabilities in real life and being a mom to five kids and also her sense of humour. If you haven’t already listened to her incredible interview all about the unbelievable story of her twin baby boys, bed rest and their premature birth then head back to episode 32 and hear her amazing story about how social media helped carry her through this really difficult time in her life.  Today is a big topic but so important to talk about. Links: www.mygratitudeattitude.com My Gratitude Attitude Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/314966379339575/ To find out more about our wonderful sponsor: Rasa Koffee: http://www.mygratitudeattitude.com/rasa.html  Enter Gratitude to receive 20% Off of Your First Order.

***The following episode deals with issues of sexual violence.*** Over twenty years ago, Thordis Elva of Iceland shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student visiting from Australia. After a school dance in 1996, when she was 16 and he was 18, he raped her. After parting ways and independently examining their own feelings and responses to the traumatic event, Thordis got in touch with Tom. The two would go on to correspond for years and later meet in South Africa to navigate the pain surrounding Tom’s actions together. In October 2016, they recorded a controversial joint TED Talk exploring this journey. This week, we’re joined by Nari Malkhasyan to discuss the talk and its implications regarding shame, trauma and humanity. As we felt the original talk pursued, we hope we also touch on the uncomfortable nuance and difficult questions in our conversation. Lastly, like any episode, this conversation is about reflection and inquiry, not conclusion and declaration. What we discuss may clash with your perspectives and similarly, what Thordis and Tom explored (and acknowledged) is not a prescription for all survivors and perpetrators.

När Thordis Elva var 16 år blev hon utsatt för en våldtäkt. Många år senare beslutade hon sig för att söka upp sin förövare. Detta ledde bland annat till ett uppmärksammat TED Talk, som hon höll tillsammans med mannen som hade våldtagit henne. I veckans avsnitt gästar hon Kakan Hermansson. Podden produceras av ELLE i samarbete med Acast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

När Thordis Elva var 16 år blev hon utsatt för en våldtäkt. Många år senare beslutade hon sig för att söka upp sin förövare. Detta ledde bland annat till ett uppmärksammat TED Talk, som hon höll tillsammans med mannen som hade våldtagit henne. I veckans avsnitt gästar hon Kakan Hermansson. Podden produceras av ELLE i samarbete med Acast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On this week's episode of the My Gratitude Attitude, I speak with Thordis Elva.  THORDIS ELVA is an award-winning writer, public speaker, journalist and activist. Her books, films and campaigns against gender-based violence earned her the title Woman of the Year 2015 in her native Iceland.  In 2017, she wrote the book South of Forgiveness with a man who sexually assaulted her, which has been published in 14 countries. Their TED talk has been viewed 5 million times.  Thordis Elva became one of the frontrunners of the #metoo revolution in Iceland, accepting the Person of the Year Award 2017 on behalf of the movement.  Thordis Elva currently resides in Stockholm, Sweden with her partner and their three sons. If you enjoyed this podcast, please like, comment, or share with a friend; and tune in next time for more game changing tips on My Gratitude Attitude! To find out more about our wonderful sponsors: Rasa Koffee: http://www.mygratitudeattitude.com/rasa.html  Enter Gratitude to receive 20% Off of Your First Order. Prana Vida Style: https://www.pranavidastyle.com Enter: Lindsay15 to receive 15% off of your PranaVida order. Sign up for Mom and Baby Yoga with MOGA Use coupon code GRATITUDE to receive 20% off of the online mommy and baby yoga. https://mogamoms.vhx.tv   You can find Lindsay Lesage at www.mygratitudeattitude.com and our private Facebook Group. 

Thordis Elva Thorvaldsdottir je mlada islandska novinarka, pisateljica in javna govorka, ki predava o zelo resnih stvareh. Pri 16-ih je bila žrtev posilstva takratnega fanta, avstralskega študenta na izmenjavi v Reykjaviku. Skoraj desetletje je trajalo, da si je o zgodbi upala spregovoriti, s posiljevalcem pa sta se po še nekaj dodatnih letih dopisovanja celo srečala. Skupaj sta tudi nastopila na zelo odmevnem TED-talku. Thordis Elva danes živi na Švedskem, je poliglotka, svetu pa s svojimi predavanji posreduje sporočilo, ki je veliko bolj preprosto od njenega imena – nasilje nad ženskami še vedno obstaja.

Original broadcast date: May 12, 2017. When loss, violence, or betrayal test our willingness to forgive — how do we do it anyway? This hour, TED speakers explore the challenges and benefits of forgiving others — and ourselves. Guests include mental health advocate Sue Klebold, co-authors Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger, and writer Elizabeth Lesser.

In 1996, Thordis Elva shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student from Australia. After a school dance, Tom raped Thordis, after which they parted ways for many years. In this extraordinary talk, Elva and Stranger move through a years-long chronology of shame and silence, and invite us to discuss the omnipresent global issue of sexual violence in a new, honest way. For a Q&A with the speakers, visit go.ted.com/thordisandtom. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Award-winning writer, journalist and public speaker, Thordis Elva was voted Woman of the Year in her native Iceland for her tireless campaigning for gender equality. She believes in ending the silence that still shrouds sexual violence, of which she is a survivor, and sees dialogue as a means of healing. She has long researched the effect of forgiveness in human relationships, an interest which took her across the globe and into the depths of her own heart, resulting in the book South of Forgiveness which she wrote with Tom Stranger.

In this episode Rachel is joined by Thordis Elva; writer, journalist, public speaker and crusader for women’s rights. Thordis shares the powerful and painful story of how she was raped by her boyfriend at only 16 years old, the downward spiral it sent her on and how she was able to eventually find healing by confronting her perpetrator (who she ended up writing a book with!). They talk about the widespread issue of rape and sexual abuse and how the blame is often places on the survivor instead of on the victim and most importantly: what we can do to change the conversation. Thordis also shares some beautiful advice and support for survivors listening in.

Thordis Elva is disrupting patriarchy. In her forthcoming book, South of Forgiveness, she and her coauthor are challenging the world to rethink our approaches and assumptions on how we address sexual violence and gender stereotypes. I first learnt about her work when I saw her give a TEDTalk at TEDWomen 2015. In the talk, she, the survivor of rape, gave a talk with the perpetrator of rape, Tom Stranger. They stood side-by-side and delivered one of the most thought-provoking talks of the day. The conversations in halls after their talk were diverse. Questions like did Tom need to be punished for his violent act? Had already been punished? Should we address rape through punitive approaches? In this Disruptive Conversation, she argues that violent acts, like rape, are not committed by monsters but by people. In this complex conversation, we explore a number of topics related to sexual violence and gender equality. Thordis is trying to disrupt the way we think about problems in society. In this talk, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book,In this Disruptive Conversation, Thordis argues that violent acts, like rape, are not committed by monsters but by people. In our complex conversation, we explore a number of topics related to sexual violence and gender equality. Thordis is trying to disrupt the way we think about problems in society. In this talk, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book,It is a disruptive notion for her to suggest that we have empathy with people who have done terrible things. In this Disruptive Conversation, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book, South of Forgiveness and much more.LINKS IN THE PODCAST:To watch the TEDTalk visit this link: https://www.ted.com/talks/thordis_elva_tom_stranger_our_story_of_rape_and_reconciliationIn the podcast, I reference Brian Stevenson's TEDtalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/bryan_stevenson_we_need_to_talk_about_an_injusticeThis podcast was recorded via Skype both speakers were in different locations. Music provided by Clint Harewood you contact him on these websites: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Tamo.T or LinkedIn: https://www.facebook.com/Tamo.T

Thordis Elva is disrupting patriarchy. In her forthcoming book, South of Forgiveness, she and her coauthor are challenging the world to rethink our approaches and assumptions on how we address sexual violence and gender stereotypes. I first learnt about her work when I saw her give a TEDTalk at TEDWomen 2015. In the talk, she, the survivor of rape, gave a talk with the perpetrator of rape, Tom Stranger. They stood side-by-side and delivered one of the most thought-provoking talks of the day. The conversations in halls after their talk were diverse. Questions like did Tom need to be punished for his violent act? Had already been punished? Should we address rape through punitive approaches? In this Disruptive Conversation, she argues that violent acts, like rape, are not committed by monsters but by people. In this complex conversation, we explore a number of topics related to sexual violence and gender equality. Thordis is trying to disrupt the way we think about problems in society. In this talk, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book,In this Disruptive Conversation, Thordis argues that violent acts, like rape, are not committed by monsters but by people. In our complex conversation, we explore a number of topics related to sexual violence and gender equality. Thordis is trying to disrupt the way we think about problems in society. In this talk, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book,It is a disruptive notion for her to suggest that we have empathy with people who have done terrible things. In this Disruptive Conversation, we go behind her recent TEDTalk and learn a little about what she was hoping to accomplish with her forthcoming book, South of Forgiveness and much more.LINKS IN THE PODCAST:To watch the TEDTalk visit this link: https://www.ted.com/talks/thordis_elva_tom_stranger_our_story_of_rape_and_reconciliationIn the podcast, I reference Brian Stevenson's TEDtalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/bryan_stevenson_we_need_to_talk_about_an_injusticeThis podcast was recorded via Skype both speakers were in different locations. Music provided by Clint Harewood you contact him on these websites: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Tamo.T or LinkedIn: https://www.facebook.com/Tamo.T

En 1996, Thordis Elva a partagé un amour de jeunesse avec Tom Stranger, un étudiant australien en échange linguistique. A la suite d'une fête à l'école, Tom a violé Thordis et leurs chemins se sont ensuite séparés pendant plusieurs années. Durant cette discussion extraordinaire, Thordis et Tom racontent plusieurs années de honte et de silence et nous invitent à discuter du problème global et omniprésent de la violence sexuelle d'une manière nouvelle et honnête.

1996년에 소르디스 엘바는 호주에서 온 교환학생이었던 톰 스트레인져와 10대 로맨스를 즐겼습니다. 학교에서의 댄스 파티 후, 톰은 소르디스를 강간했고 수년동안 그들은 만나지 않았습니다. 이 특별한 강연에서 엘바와 스트레인져는 수년에 걸친 부끄러움과 침묵의 시간들을 지나 전세계적인 성폭력의 문제를 새롭고 솔직한 방법으로 논의합니다. 강연자들과의 Q&A는 go.ted.com/thordisandtom에 마련되어 있습니다.

En 1996, Thordis Elva tuvo un romance adolescente con Tom Stranger, un estudiante de intercambio originario de Australia. Después de un baile escolar, Tom violó a Thordis, para después estar separados por muchos años. En esta charla extraordinaria, Elva y Stranger hablan sobre los años de vergüenza y silencio, y nos invitan a discutir el omnipresente problema global de la violencia sexual de una forma nueva y honesta. Para preguntas y respuestas con Thordis y Tom, visite go.ted.com/thordisandtom .

In 1996, Thordis Elva shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student from Australia. After a school dance, Tom raped Thordis, after which they parted ways for many years. In this extraordinary talk, Elva and Stranger move through a years-long chronology of shame and silence, and invite us to discuss the omnipresent global issue of sexual violence in a new, honest way. For a Q&A with the speakers, visit go.ted.com/thordisandtom.

1996 verliebten sich die Teenager Thordis Elva und der australische Austauschschüler Tom Stranger. Nach einem Schulball wurde Thordis von Tom vergewaltigt. Daraufhin gingen sie viele Jahre lang getrennte Wege. In diesem einzigartigen Vortrag werden wir von Elva und Stranger durch Jahre der Scham und des Schweigens geführt und eingeladen, das allgegenwärtige, globale Thema von sexueller Gewalt in einer neuen und ehrlichen Weise zu besprechen. Um zum F&A-Blog zu gelangen, besuchen Sie go.ted.com/thordisandtom.

Em 1996, Thordis Elva dividiu um romance adolescente com Tom Stranger, um estudante de intercâmbio da Austrália. Após um baile na escola, Tom estuprou Thordis, e depois disso seus caminhos se distanciaram por muitos anos. Nesta palestra extraordinária, Elva e Stranger discorrem sobre uma cronologia de diversos anos de vergonha e silêncio, e nos convidam a discutir o assunto globalmente onipresente da violência sexual de uma maneira nova e honesta.