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Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Check out Hazel's Program here: https://www.strongmindclimbing.com/ I love climbing because there's an amazing intersection of mental and physical skills, and it pushes me every time I go out. Today I get the incredible blessing to interview one of my favorite climbers- Hazel Findlay! I've been watching Hazel in climbing films for at least a decade, she's an incredibly strong, but also wise climber, who has pushed the limits of the sport. She's the first British woman to climb E9 6c - one of the hardest and simultaneously dangerous grades in climbing, but she doesn't have a death-wish, she makes careful intentional choices about how she goes about climbing. Today we talk about anxiety, calming the body, self talk, the ego, and why Utah is amazing! Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Free mini-course on How to Stop Panic Attacks and Anxiety Attacks: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/ending-panic-attacks-and-anxiety-attacks Are you in the middle of an anxiety attack or feeling that rising wave of panic? Your body's going haywire—shaky hands, racing heart, dizziness, nausea—and it feels like there's no way out. In this video, I guide you step-by-step through my favorite way to stop an anxiety attack in its tracks. It's called The Activate Method, and it's more than just deep breathing or trying to "think calm." This is a guided walkthrough that tackles your fight/flight/freeze (FFF) response head-on using physical movement, emotional release, and practical problem solving. In this anxiety attack relief video, you'll learn: -Why deep breathing might not work to stop panic attacks when you're overwhelmed -What causes anxiety attacks (spoiler: it's not always what you think) -The exact steps I use to calm down and reset during an anxiety attack -How to burn off stress chemicals through movement -How to do a powerful brain dump to get anxious thoughts out of your head -The one question to ask yourself to break the cycle of anxiety -Why avoiding emotions and stress can make anxiety worse Whether you're facing panic attacks, work stress, emotional overwhelm, or that “trapped” feeling, this video walks you through how to reclaim control—step by step. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

SMART goal setting is the gold standard for achievement and success. Michel & Daniels (2002) said that goal-setting is “quite easily the single most dominant theory in the field, with over a thousand articles and reviews published on the topic in a little over 30 years.” In 1990, two researchers published a book that caught the attention of many people in business and management circles. Edwin Locke and Gary Latham developed a theory of goal setting, providing a framework for achieving success. They said that whether we are consciously or unconsciously pursuing our goals, we do so nonetheless, and this goal-directed action shares three common features;* Self-Generation The actions of living organisms are fuelled by a source integral to the organism.* Value Significance All goal-directed behaviour has value significance for the organism in terms of its survival.* Goal Causation Goal attainment is caused by consciousness, the person's vision, expectation, and imagination for a future state.Locke and Latham were highly critical of the behaviourist view. Behaviourism stated that your actions are a consequence of environmental contingencies. In other words, your behaviour is a consequence of the promise of reward or the threat of punishment. Instead, Locke and Latham stated that there is causal efficacy of consciousness in goal pursuits. In other words, goal pursuit is caused by consciousness. Goal Setting Theory assumes that human actions are directed by conscious goals and intentions.The SMART Goal Setting FrameworkThe SMART framework is derived from Locke & Latham's work on Goal Setting Theory. Cognitive behavioural therapies, such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) (Hayes et al., 2006), take it a step further, suggesting that setting goals guided by our values is of critical importance. Therefore, before setting any goals, it is essential to clarify the underlying value(s) that drive these objectives. There are different versions of this acronym. In Harris' version, taken from the book The Happiness Trap, SMART stands for:S - Specific: specify the actions you will take, when and where you will do so, and who or what is involved. Example of a vague or non-specific goal: “I will spend more time with my kids.” A specific goal: “I will take the kids to the climbing wall on Saturday.”M - Meaningful: The goal should be personally meaningful to you if it is genuinely guided by your values, rather than trying to please others or avoid pain. If it lacks a sense of meaning or purpose, check in and see if it is really guided by your values.A - Adaptive: Does the goal help you to take your life forward in a direction that, as far as you can predict, is likely to improve the quality of your life and that of others? Is it adaptive?R - Realistic: The goal should be realistically achievable. Take into account your health, competing demands on your time, financial status, and whether you need to develop new skills to achieve it.T - Time-bound: To increase the specificity of your goal, set a day, date and time for it. If this is not possible, set as accurate a time limit as you can.Download the worksheets* Personal Values Worksheet* SMART(er) Goal SettingWhat are the benefits of achieving this goal?What are the potential pitfalls and what will you do if they arise?Write a commitment statement.Follow the Russ Harris worksheets hereEssential Mental Skills Is Launching SoonThe Essential Mental Skills Course is launching soon. It is a structured introduction to mental skill development and contains lecture videos, slides, resources, a workbook, and kicks off with a live group Zoom orientation call. This course brings together what I've learned from my 30 years in business, 10 years in psychology, lecturing and private practice experience in a single system to help you achieve better mental health and optimise your performance in work, sport or business. Find out more and join the waiting list here. Get full access to Peak Performer at peak.humanperformance.ie/subscribe

Jess's Free download- The CLEAR Method for setting boundaries with Emotionally Immature People Join Therapy in a Nutshell's membership and get instant access to all 10 life-changing courses, live weekly Q&As, and a supportive community for just $27/month. Learn how to manage anxiety, process trauma, regulate emotions, and build lasting resilience. Take small, powerful steps toward healing and a richer, more meaningful life. Start your journey today! https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Check out Jess's Book: Managing Overwhelming Parents & In-laws (Without Feeling Like The Bad Guy) https://bit.ly/MyBoundaryGuide In this episode, we discuss setting boundaries with emotionally immature people, who often react defensively to reasonable requests. Joined by Jess Miller, a licensed marriage and family therapist and creator of Mind Your Boundaries, we explore common patterns of behavior among emotionally immature individuals and how to manage interactions with them. Jess shares her CLEAR method (Communicate value, Limit or boundary, Explain benefit, Assurance, Repeat boundary) for effectively setting boundaries. We also dive into personal examples, including Jess's own experience with family estrangement, and how understanding emotional limitations can help in maintaining healthier relationships. Tune in to learn actionable techniques for managing difficult family dynamics and fostering emotional growth. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Welcome to Part 1 of Dr. Jodi Richardson’s powerful conversation with community psychologist Claudette Foley, who brings more than 35 years of expertise across psychology, education, sociology, neuroscience and wellness. In this episode, we zoom out from the individual experience of anxiety and explore the larger social, cultural and environmental forces that impact how we feel—often without us even realising. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I like this?” or felt alone in your struggles, this conversation is a must-listen. Key Topics Covered Why anxiety isn’t always about what’s “wrong” with you How housing, financial pressure, and social support impact mental health Social anxiety: what it really is and why it’s rising in young people The emotional toll of extroverted cultures on introverted bodies Understanding your “social battery” and recognising what drains or recharges you Cultural mismatches: what happens when your temperament doesn’t fit your surroundings Why some people feel out of place in group settings (and how to change that) Practical tools to feel more connected without pretending to be someone you're not Recognising unhelpful communication styles (like “dump and go” or “whiteboard writers”) Building belonging without masking your personality Claudette also shares insights from her work with the World Health Organization and ACT pioneer Dr Russ Harris, offering a compassionate, big-picture view of anxiety that will help you feel less alone—and more empowered. This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Stay tuned for next week’s continuation of this deeply validating and eye-opening discussion. Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/drjodirichardson?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabqDVAw_zhoG3IXGRhgjn-J14BFJy50ztJbCHywMfZobVH12nX1USMbisI_aem_QViUbKkXHlwbD3y4kGcvGQSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Therapy in a Nutshell membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Every therapist upholds the professional and ethical standards required in their role. Knowing what signs to look for can help you protect your mental health and ensure you receive the care you deserve. In this video, we'll discuss the subtle yellow flags in therapy—small warning signs that something might be off—as well as the more obvious red flags, which may indicate your therapist is not just a poor fit but could be acting unethically. We'll also cover strategies for deciding if it's time to change therapists and how to begin that transition smoothly. By being informed about both the subtle yellow flags and the more glaring red flags, you can better protect yourself and maintain a high standard of care. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

You can learn to face your fears slowly and gently with exposure therapy, it's great for anxiety and PTSD. Join Therapy in a Nutshell's membership and get instant access to all 10 life-changing courses, live weekly Q&As, and a supportive community for just $27/month. Learn how to manage anxiety, process trauma, regulate emotions, and build lasting resilience. Take small, powerful steps toward healing and a richer, more meaningful life. Start your journey today! https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Feeling trapped by anxiety, fear, or a phobia? Exposure therapy is one of the most effective ways to break free from the cycle of avoidance and take back control of your life. In this video, we'll walk you through building an exposure hierarchy—a powerful tool that helps you face your fears one step at a time. Whether you're dealing with social anxiety, a specific phobia, or generalized fear, creating a hierarchy makes the process manageable and less overwhelming. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Join Therapy in a Nutshell's membership and get instant access to all 10 life-changing courses, live weekly Q&As, and a supportive community for just $27/month. Learn how to manage anxiety, process trauma, regulate emotions, and build lasting resilience. Take small, powerful steps toward healing and a richer, more meaningful life. Start your journey today! https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership A lot of people who end up with Major Depressive Disorder have no idea why they feel the way they do. Some have experienced trauma or a huge stressor, but a surprising amount of them say something like, “Everything in my life is fine. I have no reason to be depressed. But I just don't feel happy anymore.” Here's my theory: depression happens when tiny things, often unnoticed, add up over time and become overwhelming. Researchers have explored the brain's “giving up” circuit, which flips from “This is hard, but I'm going to keep trying” to “This is pointless. I'm going to give up.” When life feels too overwhelming, the nervous system reinforces shutdown and hopelessness. This is actually great news because if we can manage just a few of these tiny things, we can remove some of the weight fueling our depression, allowing your brain and body's natural resilience to kick back in. So let's take a look at the micro habits that add up over time to cause depression. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn to Regulate your Emotions: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Intrusive Thoughts, Overthinking, ACT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Passengers on the Bus, Negative Thoughts Have you ever felt like your negative thoughts are running the show? Like no matter how hard you try to push them away, they keep coming back, louder than ever? Maybe you deal with intrusive thoughts that feel terrifying, or you constantly overthink every decision. These thoughts can feel really overwhelming and they can seem to stop you from moving forward in life, from being happy, doing your work, or building relationships. If that sounds like you, then let me teach you an exercise that can help you break free from struggling with intrusive thoughts or overthinking. It's called the Passengers on the Bus metaphor from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). This metaphor was developed by Dr. Steven Hayes, the founder of ACT, and it offers a simple but powerful shift: You are not your thoughts—you are the driver of your life. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Have you ever felt like you're supposed to be happy all the time? Like life's one big Instagram reel of sunny beaches, perfect coffee, and nonstop smiles—and you're somehow failing if you're not there yet? I get it. I've been there, staring at my phone, wondering why my Tuesday night takeout doesn't feel like a victory lap. We're told happiness is the ultimate prize—chase it, grab it, hold it tight. But what if that's the wrong target? What if chasing happiness is like chasing a mirage—shimmery, tempting, but always just out of reach?Here's a thought that might shake things up: happiness isn't the goal. It's a fleeting guest, not a permanent roommate. And honestly, that's okay. Two thinkers from way back—Aristotle from ancient Greece and Lao Tzu from ancient China—had some ideas that cut through the noise. They didn't chase fleeting joy; they aimed for something deeper: balance and self-awareness. This isn't about slapping on a fake smile or buying into the “good vibes only” trap. It's about building a life that feels real, grounded, and worth living, even when the dishes are piling up or life throws a curveball.So, let's unpack this. Grab a coffee, a tea, or just a quiet corner, and let's talk about why happiness might be overrated—and what to aim for instead.The Happiness Mirage: Why It Keeps Slipping AwayThink about the last time you got something you really wanted—a new gadget, a raise, maybe a killer vacation. Felt amazing, right? For a minute, you're on top of the world. But then the shine wears off. The phone's just a phone. The raise comes with more emails. The vacation tan fades, and you're back to traffic jams and laundry. What gives?Psychologists call this the hedonic treadmill. It's the idea that no matter how big the win—or the loss—you tend to slide back to your usual mood pretty fast. Studies show lottery winners are thrilled at first, but within a year, most are about as happy as they were before the jackpot. Same with tough stuff—people adapt, even after major setbacks. It's like our brains are wired to reset, keeping us hungry for the next “happy” hit.Why's this a problem? Because we've been sold a story that happiness is out there, waiting in the next purchase, job, or relationship. Ever bought something online, thinking, “This is gonna make me feel awesome”—only to realize it's just… stuff? Or maybe you've scrolled social media, seeing everyone's highlight reel—weddings, promotions, avocado toast—and felt like you're missing out. That's the mirage in action. It looks real, but it's not built to last.And here's the kicker: when you expect to be happy all the time, every off day feels like a personal failure. You start wondering, “What's wrong with me?” I've been there, beating myself up because I wasn't grinning through a stressful week at work. It's exhausting, and it can make you feel like you're doing life wrong.Thanks for reading Paragon Legacies! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Aristotle's Big Idea: Flourish, Don't Just Chase FeelingsLet's take a trip back to ancient Greece and sit with Aristotle for a minute. This guy wasn't into chasing warm fuzzies. He talked about something called eudaimonia, which gets translated as “happiness” but is really about flourishing—living your fullest, truest life. It's not about feeling good every second; it's about being a person you respect, even when life's messy.How do you get there? Aristotle's got a plan: virtue and the golden mean. Virtue's about building character—think honesty, courage, kindness. But the golden mean is where it gets practical. It's about balance—finding the sweet spot between too much and too little. Take courage: charging into every argument is reckless, but dodging every tough talk is cowardly. The middle ground? Knowing when to speak up, like telling a friend they've hurt you, and when to let it slide.Or think about work-life balance. Ever gone all-in on a job, staying late, skipping workouts, only to crash and burn? I have. I used to pull 12-hour days, thinking it'd make me “successful” (and yeah, happy). Spoiler: I was a zombie. Then I started setting boundaries—leaving at 6 p.m., taking walks, saying no to extra projects. I wasn't bouncing with joy, but I felt solid, like I was building something real. That's the golden mean—stretching yourself without snapping.What's cool about Aristotle's idea is it's not about quick fixes. It's about asking, “Who do I want to be?” Maybe you want to be patient. Next time you're stuck in traffic, instead of cursing, try breathing and letting it go. Small moves like that add up, making you feel like you're steering your life, not just riding the waves.Lao Tzu's Wisdom: Flow Like Water, Don't Fight the CurrentNow, let's hop over to ancient China and chill with Lao Tzu, the master of Taoism. His big idea is the Tao—the natural flow of life. Instead of wrestling with every twist and turn, he says to roll with it. His secret? Wu wei, or “effortless action.” It's not about being lazy; it's about moving with life's rhythm, like a river carving its path without forcing it.For Lao Tzu, chasing happiness is like trying to grab water—it slips through your fingers. The more you fight for it, the more stressed you get. Instead, he'd say, “Let go.” Stop obsessing over the perfect plan or outcome. When you're in tune with yourself and the moment, peace shows up on its own.Ever had a day where you stopped stressing and things just clicked? I remember planning an outdoor program down to the last detail—snacks, playlist, weather checks. Then it poured. I was pissed, ready to cancel. But my friend said, “Let's just go.” We got soaked, slipped in mud, laughed like idiots. It wasn't the “happy” day I'd pictured, but it felt right. That's wu wei—letting life happen and finding the magic in it.Or think about a time you over planned something—a dinner, a project—and it flopped. Now imagine just going with the flow, like cooking whatever's in the fridge or tackling work one step at a time. It's not about giving up; it's about trusting that life doesn't need to be forced into a box. Lao Tzu's vibe is freedom—less control, more ease.The Dark Side of Chasing HappinessLet's face it: the chase for happiness can feel like a never-ending hamster wheel that only leaves you more exhausted, frustrated, and convinced that something is wrong with you. Everywhere you turn, you're told to visualize your dream life, fill gratitude journals first thing in the morning, and recite affirmations until the mirror cracks—but when you inevitably wake up tired, grumpy, or simply “off,” that relentless messaging makes you wonder whether you're defective. I've been there: dragging myself through a day of back-to back calls, feeling the familiar knot of anxiety tightening in my chest, and thinking, “Why can't I just be happy?” The guilt that follows is a cruel irony feeling broken for what is, at its core, a perfectly normal emotional experience.Then there's the seductive promise that a new car, a promotion, or that “right” person will finally unlock lasting joy. I once landed what I thought was my dream job prestigious title, hefty paycheck, the works—and for about ten glorious minutes I floated on genuine excitement. But as the novelty wore off, the email avalanche began, deadlines piled up, and I realized I still felt hollow. It wasn't the job's fault no job can fill the gaps you're trying to fill but pinning your happiness on those external markers is like building your emotional house on stilts: one wobble and you're left scrambling to stay upright.And let's talk about toxic positivity. After a brutal breakup, a chorus of well-meaning voices urged me to “just stay positive” or “you deserve someone better.” Those platitudes felt as useful as a band aid on a broken leg. What I needed was space to sit with the ache, to curse the ceiling at 2 a.m., to learn what the pain was teaching me about my own boundaries and needs. Science tells us that processing grief, anger, and doubt is what builds resilience; stuffing those feelings down only plants the seeds of burnout and disconnection.Of course, many of us respond by diving headfirst into the next self-help craze meditation apps, vision boards, dopamine detoxes as if unchecked enthusiasm for “happiness hacks” will break the cycle. In reality, you end up policing your every thought did I meditate long enough today? Am I journaling deeply enough? until joy becomes another item on a to do list. It's ironic that in the frantic pursuit of euphoria, we often lose sight of the present moment where contentment actually lives.True well-being, I've learned, isn't a destination you arrive at by ticking off an Instagram-approved checklist. It's the byproduct of a life lived honestly: wrestling with hard truths, investing in relationships without guarantee of perfection, showing up for work and play regardless of the outcome, and granting yourself permission to feel, fully and without apology. When you stop hunting for happiness and instead cultivate curiosity about your own messy, beautiful interior world, contentment begins to emerge—not as a forced performance, but as the quiet accompaniment to a life fully embraced. A gentle reminder, then: it's okay to be human. Embrace the whole spectrum of your experience, and you'll find that joy is far more resilient—and far more surprising—than you ever imagined.The Better Path: Balance and Self-AwarenessSo, if happiness is a flaky friend, what's the move? Aristotle and Lao Tzu point to balance and self-awareness. It's not about confetti or viral moments—it's about building a life that feels steady and true. Here's how to make it work:* Focus on who you are, not how you feel. Pick a trait you admire—maybe kindness or grit—and lean into it. Next time someone cuts you off in traffic, try a small act of patience, like letting it go instead of honking. It's not about feeling happy; it's about liking who you're becoming.* Find the middle ground. Extremes burn you out. All work? You're a husk. All play? You're broke. Ask yourself, “Where am I overdoing it?” If you're glued to your desk, carve out an hour for a walk. If you're binge-watching life away, set one goal for the day. Balance feels like a deep breath.* Know yourself. Take a minute to ask, “What lights me up? What drags me down?” I did this after a soul-sucking job—realized I love creating but hate micromanaging. So I shifted gears, took on projects I cared about. Not glamorous, but grounding. Try it: jot down one thing you love doing and one thing you dread. Start small.* Roll with life's punches. Plans flop? Adapt. Someone cancels? Enjoy the quiet. I learned this when a big presentation tanked—instead of spiraling, I asked for feedback and moved on. Flexibility is power.* Let happiness sneak in. Stop hunting it. Build a life aligned with your values, and joy will crash the party. I started saying no to stuff that drained me—like endless social obligations—and yes to quiet nights writing. Happiness showed up without me chasing it.Try This: Small Steps to a Bigger LifeReady to give it a go? Here's a starter kit—simple, doable, no overhaul needed:* Write a gratitude note. Each night, jot down three things that went okay: a good meal, a kind word, making it through a tough day. I started this when life felt heavy—it didn't fix everything, but it shifted my focus to what's already good.* Breathe for five. Inhale for four seconds, exhale for four. Do it when stress hits. I use it when my inbox is a nightmare—calms the storm in my head.* Flex a virtue. Pick one, like generosity. Today, share a coffee with a coworker. Tomorrow, listen to a friend without interrupting. Small wins feel big over time.* Drop a “should.” Skip that guilt-trip gym session or extra chore. I ditched a “productive” Sunday once, watched a movie instead. The world kept spinning.* Dig deeper. Curious? Check out The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris for a modern take, or Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching for timeless wisdom. Audiobook it while you cook—insights with your tacos.The Bottom Line: Build a Life That LastsHappiness is a sparkler bright, fun, gone fast. Balance and self-awareness? That's a campfire warm, steady, built to last. You won't be grinning ear-to-ear every day, and that's fine. Life's not a highlight reel; it's a mix of grit, growth, and quiet wins.Next time you're tempted to chase that “happy” fix—new shoes, a viral post, whatever—pause. Ask yourself, “What's deeper? What's true for me?” Start small: say no to one thing, breathe through a tough moment, write down a win. Fulfillment's a slow burn, not a microwave meal. And trust me, it's worth it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit fulfillmentobi.substack.com

Join Therapy in a Nutshell's membership and get instant access to all 10 life-changing courses, live weekly Q&As, and a supportive community for just $27/month. Learn how to manage anxiety, process trauma, regulate emotions, and build lasting resilience. Take small, powerful steps toward healing and a richer, more meaningful life. Start your journey today! https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Check out the Therapy in a Nutshell App: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/app Smartphones often get a bad rap when it comes to mental health, but they can also be powerful tools for emotional well-being when used intentionally. In this guide, we explore some of the best apps for mental health—many of which are free or already on your phone—that can help with stress, anxiety, self-care, and habit-building. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

"Dropping Anchor" is a powerful grounding technique designed to help you stay steady in the midst of emotional turbulence. It can be used to manage difficult thoughts, feelings, memories, urges, and physical sensations more effectively. Rooted in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), this practice is taught and narrated by Dr Russ Harris — therapist, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (along with eight other books). This is a fantastic centering exercise to keep in your mental health toolkit, for whenever life feels overwhelming or chaotic. Join our Month of Mindfulness Challenge 30 days of short daily practices to help you slow down, check in, and care for your mind. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself  

Join Therapy in a Nutshell's membership and get instant access to all 10 life-changing courses, live weekly Q&As, and a supportive community for just $27/month. Learn how to manage anxiety, process trauma, regulate emotions, and build lasting resilience. Take small, powerful steps toward healing and a richer, more meaningful life. Start your journey today! https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership View the Guilt, Shame, Regret Flowchart: Figma Flowchart Guilt, shame, and regret can either drive growth or trap us in toxic self-condemnation. Guilt says, “I made a mistake,” prompting accountability and repair. Shame, however, distorts this into “I am a mistake,” fueling feelings of worthlessness, self-blame, and isolation. Toxic shame seeps into our thoughts (“I'm broken”), our bodies (hiding, withdrawing), and our actions (people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-sabotage). When we do bear responsibility, we face a choice: hide in shame or take action. Avoidance—blaming, numbing, or labeling ourselves as broken—only fuels more suffering. True healing comes through accountability: acknowledging mistakes, making amends, and learning from the experience. Breaking free from shame requires shifting from self-condemnation to self-compassion. When we embrace responsibility without collapsing into self-hatred, we build confidence, connection, and a life rooted in integrity. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

In contemporary society, we face more choices--and more decisions--than ever before. This can sometimes feel like a curse as much as it is also a blessing, especially for those of us struggle with indecisiveness.  In today's episode, we discuss mindsets around decision-making that can help us find more ease around the little decisions ("What should I order from the menu?") and the big decisions ("Should I quit my job?").  References: Dr. Russ Harris article about hard decisions Sheryl's next round of her course, "Trust Yourself," starting on May 17th The Healing Anxiety Workbook April's Gathering Gold bonus episode for the Patreon: Emotional Support for Spring Cleaning Marie Kondo Happenstance Theory of career development Past Lives (2023) The Serenity Prayer Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/gatheringgold

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership So many of us have picked up messaging that emotions are negative or embarrassing, that they need to be controlled, that crying is shameful. We've internalized a mental rule that says something like, “I don't let myself feel so-called “negative” emotions, because that makes me weak.” And then, in trying to not have feelings, we accidentally let them control us. You can influence your feelings by how you think, how you act, and the choices you make. But if you have a rule that “you have to control your emotions” it doesn't leave you with many options other than avoidance. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Nightmares are a common symptom of PTSD and can impact sleep, mood, energy, and contribute to more PTSD symptoms. Today I'm speaking with Dr. Joanne Davis, Clinical Psychologist on how to treat nightmares in adults with or without PTSD. You can find her nightmare training for clinicians here: https://cbtnightmares.org And her book on nightmare treatment here: https://a.co/d/9FLv4C9 Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Are your goals secretly setting you up to fail? In this Mojo Monday, Carly explores the idea of “dead person goals”—those focused on eliminating feelings or stopping behaviours entirely—and why they rarely work. Borrowing from the work of Russ Harris, she offers a powerful reframe: goals grounded in action and values that actually move you forward. If you’ve ever said, “I just want to stop doing that,” this episode will help you find a better way.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan and Dr. Russ Harris explore how to build real, lasting confidence—not by eliminating fear, but by learning to take action alongside it.  

Get the FREE Locus of Control Exercise here: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/pl/2148648319 Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Locus of control refers to how much you believe you can influence what happens in your life. People who focus on what they can change, have an Internal locus of control. They believe that their efforts make a difference. They acknowledge what they can't change and they focus their attention and energy on what they CAN change. And having an internal LOC has been linked with improved physical health, happiness, and better relationships. When people have an external locus of control, they believe that external factors like luck, fate, or other people's actions are responsible for life's outcomes. They tend to feel more depressed, stressed and anxious. But your locus of control isn't a trait, this is a choice. This is a thinking pattern that everyone, including you, can adopt. You can learn how to shift from an external to an internal locus of control. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Disclaimer: This episode is not medical advice. It reflects my personal, highly subjective experiences with ACT, CBT, and DBT. Please talk to a qualified professional for support tailored to you!Resources:dbt.toolsBook rec: ACT Made Simple by Russ Harris

Get the Free Safety Plan Worksheet here: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/safety-plan Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership My wish for the world is that everyone who is in crisis can have someone in person to talk with them and help them create a safety plan- but I understand that isn't reality. So in this podcast I'm going to walk you through the steps for creating a safety plan. We're going to figure out some resources you can use if you're having a crisis. And this is important because when we're super emotional, we don't think very clearly. It's really hard to remember the people who love us or the things that make us feel better. So we're going to write this down so that you can remember it if you need it.  Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Talking about trauma doesn't heal trauma. For a lot of people, it makes them feel much worse especially if you have PTSD. This is one thing that sets human brains apart from animals. When we visualize something, whether it's a past trauma or a worry about the future, we perceive danger. And our brain triggers the same physiological reaction to perceived danger as it does to real danger. It triggers that cascade of stress chemicals that kick off the fight/flight/freeze response. Instead, I'm going to teach you an approach from narrative therapy, where you heal from trauma and PTSD by writing a new story, exploring how you trauma narratives impact you in the present moment and how to replace them with a practical visualization exercise. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Sometimes anxiety attacks and panic attacks are actually suppressed anger and caretaking that are showing up as Anxiety. In this conversation with Dr. Sarah Michaud, we explore how our anxiety around other people's feelings often shows up as caretaking, codependency, and unhealthy relationships. When we learn to be more assertive, more clear, and to allow other people to be responsible for themselves, we can heal from codependency and improve symptoms of depression or anxiety. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Nghe trọn sách nói Bẫy Hạnh Phúc - Ngừng Vật Lộn Và Bắt Đầu Sống trên ứng dụng Fonos: https://fonos.link/podcast-tvsn --Về Fonos:Fonos là Ứng dụng âm thanh số - Với hơn 13.000 nội dung gồm Sách nói có bản quyền, PodCourse, Podcast, Ebook, Tóm tắt sách, Thiền định, Truyện ngủ, Nhạc chủ đề, Truyện thiếu nhi. Bạn có thể nghe miễn phí chương 1 của tất cả sách nói trên Fonos. Tải app để trải nghiệm ngay!--Hạnh phúc vốn là một chủ đề không quá xa lạ đối với hầu hết mọi người trong chúng ta. Con người, suy cho cùng, đều có xu hướng tìm kiếm hạnh phúc như một đích đến cuối cùng của cuộc đời, và thường không ngần ngại thử nhiều phương pháp để đạt được hạnh phúc Thế nhưng, đôi khi chúng ta không nhận ra rằng mình đang bị chính mục tiêu của mình đặt bẫy và dễ dàng bị rơi vào chiếc bẫy đó. Chúng ta cố tỏ ra vui vẻ, cố chứng minh rằng cuộc sống của mình hoàn toàn ổn, rằng chúng ta đang rất thỏa mãn, trong khi thực tế thì lại phải loay hoay, lo lắng, đau khổ và tìm cách trốn chạy. Việc nỗ lực để "giành được" hạnh phúc khiến ta thấy kiệt sức và ngày càng chìm sâu trong trầm cảm và tuyệt vọng.Bạn cần thay đổi những khuôn mẫu tư duy cũ kỹ, những thói quen khiến bạn mặc cảm, tiêu cực; bạn cần giải phóng bản thân để thấy rằng cuộc sống là một hành trình đầy ý nghĩa, bạn khám phá mọi thứ trên đường đi, đón nhận mọi trải nghiệm và học cách tử tế với chính mình.. Tất cả những thông điệp này sẽ được làm rõ trong cuốn sách Bẫy Hạnh Phúc - Ngừng Vật Lộn Và Bắt Đầu Sống, tác giả Russ Harris chia sẻ với bạn những hiểu biết và kỹ thuật của ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - Liệu pháp Chấp nhận và Cam kết) - một liệu pháp tâm lý mới mẻ mang tính cách mạng dựa trên các nghiên cứu về tâm lý học hành vi. ACT sẽ giúp bạn thoát khỏi cái bẫy hạnh phúc và tìm được sự hài lòng trong cuộc sống.Cuốn sách đã được dịch ra hơn 30 ngôn ngữ, bán hơn một triệu bản và được áp dụng bởi nhiều chuyên gia tư vấn tâm lý. Tiến sĩ Steven Hayes, tác giả cuốn Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life, nhận xét sách là "ngọn hải đăng hướng độc giả tìm kiếm con đường dẫn đến sự an vui".--Tìm hiểu thêm về Fonos: https://fonos.vn/Theo dõi Facebook Fonos: https://www.facebook.com/fonosvietnam/

Intensive treatments for Treatment Resistant Depression, Anxiety or PTSD When you've tried two or three or six treatments for your depression, anxiety, or PTSD and nothing helps, you might feel even more hopeless, like a fulfilling life is not possible for you. But I have good news for you. There are literally 500–five hundred treatments for depression. We're talking treatments for severe forms of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And most of them are surprisingly effective. So let's explore 9 interventions that science has shown to improve treatment resistant mental health conditions–and at the end I'll share what hasn't been proven to work. Some of these might be considered last-ditch efforts to treat treatment-resistant mental health conditions, but if you've been there, you know how desperate you feel and why it might be worth talking with your psychiatrist about these. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Depression isn't just feeling sad, it's actually not being able to feel much happiness. Good things happen and you feel nothing. Nothing excites you anymore, food doesn't taste good, someone tells you they love you and you think, “Yeah, but you probably just said that because you're family”. It's hard to care about anything. Where does this come from? Today you're going to learn about a cognitive distortion that makes it super hard for you to feel happy. And of course, what to do about it. Nutshell- What are cognitive distortions? Our brains are always interpreting the world around us, trying to make sense of it all. Sometimes our brain takes shortcuts, especially when we're emotional, and researchers have found that there are some common ways that these thoughts get distorted. Sometimes we jump to the worst possible conclusion “This mole is cancer!” and other times we blame ourselves for things that aren't our fault “If I hadn't made him mad, he wouldn't have hit me” When we learn to noticing these thoughts, we can replace them with something healthier, this is a core piece of CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, and it's been shown to be really helpful for people with depression or anxiety. And today I'm going to teach you one way to do it on your own. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership In this video I talk with Nathan Peterson, a licensed clinician and OCD specialist about various aspects of OCD. The host asks 10 quick-fire questions, covering topics such as how the neurotypical brain differs from the brain of someone with OCD, whether everyone has a bit of OCD, and the best treatments for the disorder. Peterson explains the role of genetics and life experiences, illustrates the difference between intrusive thoughts and unwanted thoughts, and dives into the cycle of OCD. He talks extensively about exposure and response prevention (ERP) as the gold standard for treatment and discusses medication as a helpful tool for some patients. Peterson also shares strategies for family members to support loved ones with OCD and touches on various subtypes of OCD, concluding with information on his resources and where to find more information. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

A recent research article titled “happiness depletes me,” found that trying to be happy (which is defined as striving to experience as much positive emotion as possible and avoid negative emotions) leads to decreased feelings of happiness, and increased levels of loneliness and low energy. The basic idea is that trying to deliberately change your thoughts and behaviour to be happy means you tend to overlook small naturally occurring moments of happiness. The effort leaves you drained and more likely to make poor decisions such as overspending or overeating, which in turn make you feel unhappy. Not a new idea – brought to prominence in a book in 2007 by Russ Harris called “The Happiness Trap” So if your life isn't going to be focused on finding happiness what should it be focused on? Happiness Trap suggests: Accepting that negative thoughts and emotions are natural and part of life, do don't fight against them Enjoy positive emotions when they do occur, and pay attention to the small things in life Live life by trying to act in accordance with your values. One way of identifying core values for you is to ask yourself how you would like other people to describe you in 3 words. The 3 words you choose probably reflect your values. Use these to guide how you live your life. Happiness will occur at times as a pleasant side-effect but life overall will be more worth living. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Have you tried a bunch of stuff to manage anxiety and depression, but you're still struggling? This might be why: Some strategies that work great for the short term, don't help in the long run. They might make you feel better in the moment, but they do nothing to resolve your anxiety in the long run. A lot of articles, books, your friends, and even therapists recommend over and over that you learn “coping skills” to deal with anxiety. But coping skills only work in the short term. The most common problem for people like Gwen is they haven't been taught how to implement the long-term skills that actually make your anxiety go down over time, instead of just coping. Long-term treatments can help you get out of crisis mode and into fixing mode. Fixing the leak in the boat takes more effort and time up front, but it addresses the root cause. Instead of endlessly bailing water, you're working to repair the hole so you won't keep ending up in the same situation. This is where cognitive treatments, therapy, or even medication come in—they help you change your relationship with anxiety or reduce its intensity over time. But here's the thing about these long-term treatments–they often don't help in the short term. They sometimes even make you feel worse–at first. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Use coupon code with coupon code CYB-YT-FREE to get the Change Your Brain Course for FREE here: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/offers/u7KxQqAp Depression is a liar because it warps your perception of reality. It twists your thoughts, making you believe things that aren't true, even though they feel real. Here are 5 of the biggest lies depression tells—and the truth behind them: Depression makes it seem like the pain will last forever, like you're stuck in a tunnel with no exit. And you start to believe that there's no point in trying. Depression distorts reality when it tells you that your problems aren't “bad enough” or that you should handle them alone. That you should be ashamed for having feelings and you have to hide them. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Depression isn't just in your mind—it's in your nervous system. In this video, we take a somatic and polyvagal-informed approach to understanding depression as a state of nervous system dysregulation. Learn how shutdown, freeze, and dorsal vagal states keep you stuck and how somatic therapy can help you shift into safety, connection, and regulation. Using insights from polyvagal theory, we'll explore how the vagus nerve influences mood, energy, and emotions. Discover body-based techniques to move out of chronic exhaustion, numbness, and despair. Whether you struggle with low motivation, fatigue, or emotional overwhelm, these nervous system regulation tools can help you heal from the inside out! Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Learning how to set boundaries is an important part of mental health and relationships. One of the biggest problems I see people have when they're learning to set boundaries is learning the difference between setting a boundary and trying to control someone. And I found this ridiculous video that shows some great examples of the difference. Now this video is a little intense, and i'm not saying that either of these guys are setting a good example of how to set boundaries, but when you analyze it you can clearly see the difference between a power struggle and a boundary. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Today, we're going to talk about what you can do to improve your self-esteem even if you hate positive affirmations. For me, and for many of my clients, it never works to just replace the negative self-talk with positive affirmations. The first step is to question all of this negative self-talk. Instead of trying to say something super duper positive, shift to more neutral language. OK, #3, let's get clear on the person you want to be so you can know if you're building up a good, purposeful life. 4. Pay attention to the small wins And you're going to pay attention to small wins, when you make a tiny bit of improvement or make a good choice- you are going to celebrate that. And I don't mean just thinking a nice thought about what you did. Make it strong! Say it out loud and write it down, tell other people. By using these four steps, you can improve your self esteem, even if you hate positive affirmations. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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Send in a question or comment via text.HOW DO I ACCEPT ANXIETY?!?!?!?!Let's start a three-part series on accepting anxiety using the ACT Tri-flex framework. As both a therapist and former anxiety sufferer, I'm going to break down the crucial first practical step of getting present and what it really means in a practical way.KEY POINTS:Why there are no "steps" to accepting anxietyThe difference between "doing mode" and "being mode"What mindfulness actually means in anxiety recoveryHow to develop nonjudgmental awarenessWhy automatic reactions aren't truly automaticQUOTES FROM THE EPISODE: "Accepting anxiety is about dropping out of doing and into being." "We are essentially judging, evaluating, and resisting machines all day long." "There is no difference between automatically reaching for an ice pack when anxious and automatically liking or disliking the weather."RESOURCES MENTIONED:ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)Dr. Russ Harris's ACT Tri-flexThe Happiness Trap by Russ HarrisDrew's interview with Dr. Steven Hayes on The Disordered PodcastDrew's interview with Dr. Russ Harris on The Disordered PodcastUPCOMING COURSE: Join Drew's 6-week Practical Mindfulness Skills group starting soon. Limited to 10 participants. Learn more at learn.theanxioustruth.comFor full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/309Support The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. Other ways to support my work like buying a book or signing up for a low cost workshop can be found on my website. None of this is never required, but always appreciated! Interested in doing therapy with me? For more information on working with me directly to overcome your anxiety, follow this link.Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to The Anxious Truth does not create a therapeutic relationship between you and the host or guests of the podcast. Information here is provided for psychoeducational purposes. As always, when you have questions about your own well-being, please consult your mental health and/or medical care providers. If you are having a mental health crisis, always reach out immediately for in-person help.

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Download the PDF Workbook that goes with this video: Therapy Modalities for Healing Trauma https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/pl/2148622299 I think a lot of people are intimidated by “The Body Keeps the Score”, to be honest I was too. It's pretty long, and it has a lot of triggering examples of real-life trauma. But it's a great book for understanding how trauma affects the brain and body and that's probably why it's been on the NYT bestseller list for like 5 years! And also that's probably because trauma affects all of us, and Psychiatrist Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk has written the modern user's guide to understanding it. There's so much to talk about with Trauma and PTSD and the book is over 350 pages long, so I'm going to summarize the essentials without the triggering bits.  Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Can the Keto Diet Revolutionize Mental Health Treatment? Emerging research suggests that metabolic treatments like the ketogenic diet could be groundbreaking for mental health. Traditionally used to manage epilepsy, the keto diet—a high-fat, low-carb, moderate-protein approach—induces ketosis, a state where the body uses fat as its primary energy source. This metabolic shift may improve brain function by stabilizing neuronal activity, reducing inflammation, and enhancing mitochondrial health. These benefits are now being explored for severe mental health conditions like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and depression. One study found that 43% of patients with severe psychiatric disorders achieved remission on a medical ketogenic diet, and all participants experienced symptom improvement. Stories like Lauren Kennedy West's—who used keto to manage her schizoaffective disorder and eventually stopped psychiatric medications—highlight its transformative potential. Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Chris Palmer theorizes that mental illnesses are rooted in metabolic dysfunction. By addressing underlying metabolic issues, interventions like keto, intermittent fasting, and exercise could revolutionize treatment. However, while the results are promising, challenges remain. Adherence to keto can be difficult, and long-term effects on gut health and nutrient balance require further research. Metabolic treatments offer hope and a fresh perspective for those seeking alternatives to traditional mental health approaches. Always consult a professional before trying such interventions.  Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

My guest today is Dr. Russ Harris. Russ is a world-renowned trainer of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) and author of the international best-selling self-help book The Happiness Trap. Since 2005, Russ has run over 700 two-day workshops and provided ACT training for almost 50,000 health professionals. He has authored four ACT textbooks (ACT Made Simple, Trauma Focused ACT, Getting Unstuck in ACT, ACT Questions & Answers), and four ACT-based self-help books (The Happiness Trap, The Reality Slap, The Confidence Gap and ACT with Love). His best-known book, The Happiness Trap, has sold over one million copies worldwide, with translations into more than 30 languages.Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:- Perfectionism and productive procrastination- How the Hexaflex can potentially create unhelpful limitations in ACT- Broadening acceptance and defusion into emotional and cognitive flexibility - How all of the “B” in CBT fits nicely into ACT- “Flexible selfing” as an alternative to self-as-context - ACT supervision- And misunderstanding the difference between thoughts and thinking—————————————————————————Russ's website: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/—————————————————————————Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexibleYou can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexiblePlease subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truthCheck out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Why are people who experienced more trauma in their childhood more likely to develop diabetes and obesity? One of the lasting impacts of trauma is that it damages our brain's ability to regulate stress. So let's talk about the stress cycle, and we'll come back to how that impacts insulin and weight gain. When someone experiences repeated trauma or chronic stress, their nervous system's fight/flight/freeze response gets stuck “on”. Stress releases Cortisol which increases blood sugar and stimulates appetite. And when that stress response is stuck on, that can lead to weight gain, insulin resistance and diabetes if the stress is chronic. Now what if that stress response has been stuck in the “on” position since childhood? If we take a look at the trauma side of this, childhood trauma can dysregulate the stress centers in the brain. A child who experiences multiple ACEs will be on constant high alert, making it more likely that the stress response rarely gets turned off. These kids have seen the bear multiple times, and it could be coming for them at any given moment. And this is why the ACEs study showed such drastic impacts on obesity and diabetes for people with repeated childhood trauma. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to regulate your emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Check out Anna's channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCZlDCbFTqHkzV_rUP4V5bg In this episode, we delve into the concept of complex PTSD and how dysregulation plays a key role in its manifestation. Highlighting the groundbreaking work by James Pennebaker, a psychology professor, we discuss a study where participants wrote about their traumatic experiences for 15 minutes over four days, resulting in significant emotional and physiological improvements. Additionally, we explore the neurobiological impact of early trauma and its effects on processing thoughts and feelings. The episode emphasizes the therapeutic benefits of writing in regulating the nervous system and emotional well-being. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Chapter 1:Summary of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is based on the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which encourages individuals to embrace their thoughts and feelings rather than avoiding or fighting them. Harris argues that the pursuit of happiness often leads to unhappiness because we become trapped in our thoughts, chasing after an idealized version of happiness instead of accepting our current experiences.The book presents several key concepts:1. Cognitive Defusion: This technique involves distancing oneself from negative thoughts, seeing them as separate from oneself rather than as absolute truths. This helps reduce their power and influence.2. Acceptance: Instead of trying to eliminate uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, the book advocates for accepting them as a natural part of life. This acceptance can lead to greater emotional flexibility.3. Mindfulness: Harris emphasizes the importance of being present and fully engaging in the moment, which can enhance overall well-being.4. Values Clarification: The book guides readers in identifying their core values and aligning their actions with these values, promoting a sense of purpose and fulfillment.5. Committed Action: Taking steps towards living a value-driven life, even in the presence of discomfort, is crucial for achieving personal goals and enhancing overall happiness.Overall, "The Happiness Trap" encourages readers to shift their perspective on happiness, recognizing that it is often a byproduct of living a meaningful life rather than a direct goal to strive for. By practicing acceptance, mindfulness, and committing to values-based actions, individuals can discover a deeper, more lasting sense of well-being.Chapter 2:The Theme of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is a self-help book that introduces Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a psychological approach that emphasizes acceptance of difficult emotions, commitment to actions that enhance one's life, and mindfulness practices to improve mental well-being. While the book doesn't have a traditional plot or characters like a novel, it does contain key ideas, concepts, and themes that drive its message. Here are the essential points organized by key plot points, character development (in a metaphorical sense), and thematic ideas: Key Plot Points1. Understanding Happiness Myths: Harris starts by debunking common myths about happiness, such as the idea that happiness should be constant or that avoiding negative thoughts leads to happiness. This serves as a foundation for understanding how traditional approaches to happiness can be counterproductive.2. The Pain-Acceptance Paradox: The book introduces the concept that trying to avoid or eliminate discomfort often leads to greater suffering. Accepting painful thoughts and feelings is a crucial step towards genuine happiness.3. Mindfulness and Present Moment Awareness: Harris emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, teaching readers to focus on the present moment and to observe their thoughts without judgment as a practice for fostering acceptance.4. Values Clarification: A significant point in the book is helping readers identify and clarify their personal values. By determining what truly matters to them, readers can align their actions accordingly, leading to a more meaningful life.5. Defusion Techniques: The book outlines techniques for cognitive defusion—drawing a distinction between thoughts and reality, which allows individuals to lessen the impact of negative thoughts.6. Committed Action: Harris encourages taking committed action in alignment with one's values, even in the presence of difficult emotions. This involves setting goals and acting on them despite fears or discomfort. Character DevelopmentWhile "The...

Learn the skills to regulate your emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Morning depression is a common experience where symptoms of depression, such as fatigue, hopelessness, brain fog, and difficulty getting out of bed, are at their worst upon waking. This is largely influenced by biological factors, including the cortisol awakening response, where stress hormones spike in the morning, causing a sense of overwhelm or shutdown. Misalignment of the circadian rhythm, due to genetics, sleep disorders, or inconsistent schedules, can exacerbate these symptoms. Additional contributors include inflammation, which peaks for some people in the morning, and underlying conditions like sleep deprivation, insomnia, or physical illnesses such as low thyroid function or anemia. Treatment focuses on resetting the circadian rhythm and managing cortisol through light therapy, melatonin microdosing, consistent sleep hygiene, and gradually building a positive morning routine. Simple actions like taking one step out of bed, drinking water, or practicing gratitude can help counteract the depressive freeze response. Talk therapy and medication, particularly SNRIs, can also provide significant relief. By addressing these biological and behavioral factors, individuals can create mornings that feel manageable and even uplifting. Small changes, taken one step at a time, can lead to meaningful improvements. Check out the transcript: https://therapyinanutshell.com/morning-depression/ Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Learn to Mind your Boundaries with Jess: https://www.youtube.com/@UCpFOiBujrj00OAxWnCpsX_g Free Guide to manage holiday boundaries: https://crafty-composer-5127.kit.com/55a7a3a7e9 Today, I'm super excited that we're going to be talking about boundaries with a boundaries expert, Jess Miller. We'll explore the nitty gritty of setting boundaries. Why do we feel anxious when we do it? Why do we feel guilty after we do it? Why do we maybe shake or cry when we do it? What's the difference between being mean and setting a boundary? What's the difference between an ultimatum and setting a boundary? What do toxic boundaries look like and how Jess shifted in her approach from being a people pleaser to healthy, gentle boundary setting, even with mother in laws. Jess Miller is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She has 12 years of clinical experience, and she's also a creator that I love on Instagram. Her channel is called Mind Your Boundaries. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn the skills to regulate your emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership The most effective diet for mental health appears to be what is called the Mediterranean diet- this is a diet high in vegetables, fruit, legumes, beans, nuts, fish, unsaturated fats like olive oil, and it's low in processed foods, red meat, and highly processed grains. There have been a lot of studies on this type of diet, an overview of 41 studies involving over 1.5 million health adults found that a diet low in sugar, saturated fat and processed foods can reduce the risk of depression by 24%. Decreasing the inflammatory index was found to decrease inflammation in other studies. And people who were very careful to closely follow the mediterranean diet decreased their risk of developing depression by 33%. A handful of studies show that the Mediterranean Diet can be even helpful for people with bipolar or schizoaffective disorders. Scientists believe there are 4 reasons that eating this way improve your mood. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of imposter syndrome, a feeling many of us have faced at some point. While it's often seen as something negative, what if imposter syndrome is just a normal part of the human experience? I'm joined by Dr. Russ Harris, the author of The Happiness Trap and The Confidence Gap, as well as an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Harris offers a refreshing perspective on imposter syndrome and shares research-backed strategies to help us navigate these feelings with more confidence and self-compassion. My free mini-course on Beating Burnout and Finding Flow: https://www.simonmundie.com/beat-burnout-mini-course My book: https://www.simonmundie.com/book Website: simonmundie.com YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/YouTubeSimonMundie Substack: https://simonmundie.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The struggle in an anxiety disorder is seen in two almost automatic responses to anxiety - we either obey it and do what it tells us we must do, or we resist it by trying to fight it, argue with it, and wish it away over and over. This week on Disordered Dr. Russ Harris - one of the world's leading advocates for Acceptance and Committment Therapy (ACT) - is here to chat about the principles of ACT, how we get hooked by anxiety, fear, and anxious thoughts, and how this can lead to a smaller and smaller life over time. We're even using some of Josh's personal experiences with anxiety as a mini case-study viewed the the ACT lens. And as usual, the episode is sprinkled with healthy doses of light-hearted humor and kind acknowledgement of what is an almost universal struggle for humans around the world. Thank you to Russ Harris for making time for us! To find out more about Russ and ACT: https://thehappinesstrap.com If you are a therapist or clinician interested in being trained in ACT: https://psychwire.com --- Disordered Roundtables are here. Think of it as "Disordered Live", a way for members of our audience to spend time with us in an intimate virtual setting (attendance is limited) to engage in real time sharing and discussion on specific anxiety disorder and recovery topics. To be notified when new Disordered Roundtable sessions are scheduled, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠visit our homepage and get on our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. --- Struggling with worry and rumination that you feel you can't stop or control? Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Worry and Rumination Explained⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a two hour pre-recorded workshop produced by Josh and Drew. The workshop takes a deep dive into the mechanics of worrying and ruminating, offering some helpful ways to approach the seemingly unsolvable problem of trying to solve seemingly unsolveable problems. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/worryrumination⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ----- Want to ask us questions, share your wins, or get more information about Josh, Drew, and the Disordered podcast?

This week Scott is joined by one of Australia's foremost practitioners of acceptance and commitment therapy, Dr. Russ Harris. Scott and Russ discuss Dr. Harris'' "Happiness Trap” cards, which are designed to invigorate one's mental health with ideas to boost self-esteem and challenge intrusive thoughts among other mental health practices. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Learn how to regulate your nervous system in my FREE online course: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/grounding-skills-for-anxiety-stress-and-ptsd Childhood trauma can have a direct, lasting impact on physical health, mental health, and ability to function in society. But we didn't have any idea how much impact it had until the late 1990's, when a curious doctor made a groundbreaking discovery. They found that a huge number of people have experienced at least one Adverse Childhood Experience (64%) and 17% or 1 in 6 children experience at least 4 ACES. And more specifically, 28% of women and 16% of men reported being sexually abused during their childhoods. And this study was done with mostly middle class white folk, but the rates are actually higher with other demographics. So that was the first finding, childhood trauma is way too pervasive. And two- Dr. Felitti found that this trauma is directly correlated with a wide range of negative health outcomes in adulthood, including chronic diseases, mental health issues, substance abuse, and early death. The ACE's quiz at NPR: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Learn to Regulate your Nervous System with my FREE online Course: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/grounding-skills-for-anxiety-stress-and-ptsd Defusion Phrases: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/opt-in-8ed048f8-b60f-418b-9d80-cb6374eb68c6 Defusion Phrases Video: https://youtu.be/8Ws8_Y_PQ8E?si=ScD4gA4Nk3tXZuLd Today I talk with my friend, Rachael, about her experience with a severe anxiety disorder. Rachael struggle with anxiety and depression, insomnia and appetite changes for years. But she continued to learn and grow, to try various treatments until she finally found some things that worked for her anxiety. I'm so grateful that Rachael was willing to come on my channel and share her experience with anxiety and I hope that this will help others with their anxiety treatment too. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Download the free PDF: "6 Phrases to Help with Intrusive Thoughts or Repetitive Worries" https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/pl/2148585686 Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts, worries, or constant "What if?" scenarios? Whether you're imagining catastrophes or obsessing over something you said, these difficult thoughts can quickly spiral out of control. In this podcast, we break down why this happens and how to manage it effectively. Using relatable metaphors and evidence-based techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we'll show you why trying to suppress thoughts only makes them louder—just like a mischievous 2-year-old! Learn how cognitive defusion can help you break free from overthinking and regain control of your mind. Overthinking often happens when we try to create certainty in uncertain situations, that can lead to us believing our thoughts, worrying too much, wondering what intrusive thoughts mean, or arguing with our thoughts- aka Overthinking... here are 6 simple phrases you can use to break the cycle of overthinking, worrying, or dwelling on intrusive thoughts. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC