Just Ask Minhaz

Have you ever called yourself lazy because you couldn't get started or stick to your goals? What if the problem isn't laziness—but fear? In this episode, I share how I uncovered the real reason behind procrastination, self-doubt, and overwhelm. Spoiler: It's not about being unmotivated; it's about your subconscious trying to protect you. We'll reframe laziness as a mask for fear, explore how fear shows up in sneaky ways, and talk about how to stop judging yourself for it. I'll also give you practical tools to work with your mind instead of against it - like breaking big goals into smaller, safer steps and affirming that growth is safe. By the end of this episode, you'll see fear not as a barrier but as a sign that you're growing. Tune in and discover how to move past the resistance that's been holding you back. - What's one fear you can reframe as an opportunity today? If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who needs to hear it or leave a review to help others find it too!

Why does change feel so hard? In this episode, we dive into the real reason most people struggle to stick to their goals: your subconscious mind. I'll break down why your brain resists change, why discomfort is actually a sign of growth, and how to push through the mental barriers holding you back. If you've ever felt stuck or ready to quit, this episode will show you how to keep going and make 2025 the year you finally break through. Let's make this your turning point!

To make space for more into our lives, we must first master what is here. This episode intends to help you understand the wisdom behind what that truly means. So if you're struggling with many problems in your life and you dream big, then this is for you.

The biggest challenge we all face when it comes to pursuing our dream is "Where do I even start?" This question leaves you feeling paralysed and overwhelmed from making a decision. I want to help you solve this problem by understanding how your current set of challenges/problems are here to help you become the person you want to be. Tune in to the full episode to find out how.

What if you could focus on becoming the best version of yourself and get paid for it, would you do it? If the answer is yes, then this episode is for you! Ultimately, money cannot be your sole reason for getting a job. Especially in the world we live in today, where people are doing whatever they want and making a living from it. And for those of you who believe that you have to suffer and grind to make a living, that will be true for you. I choose otherwise! If you were getting paid to be you, who would you be and what would you actually do?

‘What is my niche?' This one thought created a lot of problems for me as a content creator and educator! Every “business guru” out there is saying you have to niche down to make money and, ‘if you chase two rabbits, you catch none.' So I niched down, again and again, and again!! Until I hated what I was doing! -_- I mean, this is what they say I need to do to make money, so I don't have a choice right? WRONG! I built my personal brand ‘Just minhaz' talking about whatever I wanted to!! And I made a lot of money doing so (£50K+ over the space of 2 years) Alhamdullilah. But yet, I lost myself to the “business” advice again and I niched down. Lord have mercy!! I literally built a completely separate page on Instagram/TikTok/YouTube and a separate podcast channel for it. I hired two new team members and doubled down on it completely! We went flat out a built a free course to collect email leads for potential clients and a free community to join on Skool. It took me and my team 1 year to do this and It was a lot of work, and a LOT of money spent! After 30 days of launching this community (27 members on board) and posting content everyday without fail, I REALISED, I HATED IT! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH (My frustration was real!) I can't live my life like this, where I have now created another job which means nothing to me but the financial gains. So, we start again! I wiped it all clean, and made the decision to go solo again and had a quarter life crisis. LOL This left me with the question: ‘How do I build something that makes me excited and makes me money?!' I was determined to figure this out! And little did I know, the answer was right in front of me. The way I built my personal brand ‘Just Minhaz' was the answer. I used to share all the things that changed my life and not just approach everything with the intention of ‘how do I make money?' It excited me and scared the life out of me at the same time as I shared my real life experiences and mistakes along the way. BUT, there was no structure and systems involved! I was winging it completely and financially it was a mess. I have learnt a lot this year and baby I'm back!!!!!! And we about to do things a whole new way, Alhamdullilah. What is my niche? It's me :) Self-development, healing, relationships, fitness and most importantly faith, Alhamdullilah. I feel free to be myself and most importantly I will lead by example. That means, I have to improve my life in the areas that I want to and that is my job! Ya Allah sign me upppppp! For those of you who have a message to share with the world and want to make a career out of it - remember this, ‘Your mess is your message and your pain is your power!' "Your mess is your message and your pain is your power" means that the difficult experiences and struggles you face in life, often considered "messy" or painful, can be transformed into a powerful message or purpose that can help others who might be going through similar situations Your hardships can become a source of strength and wisdom to share with others. YOU ARE THE NICHE! P.S. bun anyone who says otherwise! In this context, "bun" is likely British or Caribbean slang meaning to dismiss, reject, or disregard someone or something. The phrase "bun anyone who says otherwise" suggests ignoring or rejecting those who disagree with the author's perspective on finding one's niche. P.P.S. I am removing all the random members that joined my community and reopening it with courses on healing, self improvement, relationships and my favourite - business! Click here to let me know that you're interested in joining and I'll add you to the waiting list. Peace & Love my beautiful peeeps! Your brother from another mother, Minhaz Ahmed.

In this episode, Aisha Javed and I discussed the challenges Muslim women face through divorce, including financial independence. Aishah shared her experience of struggling with financial independence and offered guidance on approaching the issue. Aisha discussed the importance of empowerment and taking small steps towards personal and professional growth, acknowledging that the process may be difficult but stressing the importance of being open to change and networking with the right people. We delved into the importance of communication in marriages and how it can impact the relationship. Aisha discussed how miscommunication can lead to resentment and arguments and stressed the need to communicate needs and feelings respectfully. We also explored how past traumas and emotional baggage can affect relationships and attract similar partners. We also touch on the concept of energy and how it can impact the type of partners we attract. The discussion also covered the complexities of accepting responsibility for divorce and acknowledging the difficulty of facing one's role. We discussed the importance of doing inner work to understand patterns and make changes for future relationships and how this can lead to healthier partnerships. Aisha also discussed the importance of shifting energy towards gratitude and openness to receive rather than solely focusing on providing for others. Emphasizing the healing aspect of letting go and surrendering your deepest fears and how those fears can stem from personal experiences and trauma. We also delved into the importance of understanding and taking responsibility for one's emotions to let go of them and the need for deep heart work and grieving to release emotions. Aisha encouraged individuals to allow themselves to feel and express their emotions to release them, even if it means revisiting them multiple times. Be sure to contact Aisha Javed if you resonate with this episode. Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/aishah_javed/ Salamualaykum.

Your partner will trigger the parts of you that you aren't consciously aware of, and vice versa. At that moment, we fixate on our partners and try to change them, which leads to two big adults fighting it out like kids. This is common in relationships and something we have all seen growing up. Most people aren't able to work through these moments and brush them under the rug. This leads to a build-up of frustration and resentment, and, ultimately, you both disconnect from each other. What most of us fail to do in this moment is to see what is coming up as an opportunity rather than another burden. If you wish to unlock more profound levels of yourself and your strengths, you must be able to look at the parts of you that are running the show unconsciously. These parts of us are wounded children. They haven't been able to process what happened to us as kids and continue to operate from a place of fear and self-protection. Your relationships will be the greatest opportunity for you to become aware of those parts of you. There is a reason marriage is half of our deen. Alhamdulillah. So when a brother or sister comes to me, and all they talk about is their partner or kids, I will point back at you. The work always starts with you!

This episode with Franco Zavala centred around personal growth and development, particularly in blended families and step-parenting. Franco shared his struggles with infertility and negative reactions from loved ones when he decided to become a stepdad. He emphasized the importance of building trust and respect with his stepchildren's mother and earning the trust and respect of his stepchildren to participate in parenting fully. Franco and I discussed the importance of self-development in becoming a successful stepdad and leader, emphasizing the need to work on personal growth constantly and understanding oneself. The conversation also touched on the impact of childhood experiences on personal growth and understanding what it means to be a man. Franco emphasized the need to take responsibility for one's own problems and reactions and to be mentally prepared to handle obstacles in life. We also discussed the importance of understanding love languages for effective communication with children and the need to listen to and understand their needs. The conversation highlighted the importance of personal growth and reflection in becoming a better person and parent. Franco announced his plan to launch a Facebook group called the Blended Family Brotherhood for men, providing a safe space to speak their minds and seek genuine help. The group will have live calls, Q&A videos, and guest speakers. Franco hopes to use this platform to get more speaking engagements and eventually offer one-on-one calls for a fee. Links to connect with Franco Zavala:  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075996184672 Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/theprofessionalstepdad/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheProfessionalStepDadShow Catch the full episode on all podcast platforms. - https://linktr.ee/justminhaz Salamaulaykum. Peace & Love.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is like embarking on a real adventure. It's like straying from your cosy bed and diving into the unknown. Fear will tag along, trying to hold you back, but that's where the magic happens! You have to face those insecurities head-on! It's like shining a light on the darkest corners of your mind. Instead of running away, confront them and grow stronger. You'll face obstacles, but treat them like stepping stones to success. As you walk this path, you start questioning those limiting beliefs, those ghosts from the past. They were just illusions. You got the power to do way more than you think! And here's the deal: it's not about reaching some "perfect" dream reality; it's about embracing the journey of self-discovery. Keep pushing yourself. You're gonna discover your true potential and, with consistency - live a limitless life. All you have to do is take the first step!

Watch my first interview with Muchina from 2021. - https://youtu.be/7enWX9YXcXw Follow Muchina on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/muchinamalomba/ Follow Muchina on YouTube - https://youtu.be/D7aEPU8tdsY  Salamualaykum.

The Completion Process is a book written by Teal Swan, a spiritual teacher and author. It presents a step-by-step guide to a therapeutic process aimed at healing emotional wounds and trauma. Here is a breakdown of the key components and principles of the Completion Process: Triggering Event: The process begins by identifying a triggering event or memory that causes emotional distress or trauma. This can be a past experience or a current situation that activates unresolved emotions. Emotional Awareness: The next step involves becoming aware of the emotions associated with the triggering event. The book emphasizes the importance of fully feeling and acknowledging these emotions, even if they are uncomfortable or painful. The Safe Place: The book introduces the concept of a "safe place," which is a visualization exercise to create a mental space of safety and comfort. The safe place serves as a refuge during the healing process. The Portal: The portal is a metaphorical doorway that allows individuals to access their subconscious mind and memories associated with the triggering event. Through visualization and guided imagery, individuals are encouraged to step into the portal and explore their inner world. Revisiting the Trauma: Once inside the portal, individuals are guided to revisit the traumatic memory or experience. The book offers techniques to approach the trauma with compassion and detachment, allowing for a deeper understanding of the emotions and beliefs associated with it. Emotional Release: The Completion Process emphasizes the importance of expressing and releasing trapped emotions associated with the trauma. This can involve crying, screaming, or any other form of emotional release that feels authentic and cathartic. Integration and Reconciliation: After the emotional release, the process moves towards integration and reconciliation. Individuals are guided to connect with their inner child, provide love and support, and rewrite the narrative of the traumatic event to foster healing and empowerment. Forgiveness and Compassion: Forgiveness, both towards oneself and others involved in the traumatic event, is an essential aspect of the Completion Process. The book provides guidance on cultivating forgiveness and compassion to release resentment and foster personal growth. Self-Love and Acceptance: The process concludes with a focus on self-love and acceptance. Individuals are encouraged to embrace their authentic selves, acknowledge their inherent worthiness, and cultivate a loving relationship with themselves. The Completion Process is designed to be a self-guided therapeutic tool, and it incorporates elements of visualization, emotional release, and inner child work. It aims to help individuals heal emotional wounds, release trauma, and find a greater sense of self-compassion and empowerment.  

Making change when life forces you to is the most common way we do things we've been holding back on. However, this isn't healthy at all! You will not be someone that can be relied on as a father, a partner or a son. If you wish to become a leader in your field or family, I believe this is the most important trait a man can possess - BRAVERY. Being brave isn't something you're born with but a SKILL you must develop and build like muscle. Facing those big hurdles seems impossible, but it isn't if it becomes the next step. What do I mean by that? What seems like a big hurdle now will eventually become the next step. You start with the smallest tasks, pushing yourself to do the small things you've been holding off on, whether it's cleaning your house, your garage or organising your clothes. Notice the discomfort that arises as you do it, and commit to finishing what you started no matter how long it takes! Sounds silly, doesn't it? How can cleaning out your garage help you achieve your goals? One word - DISCOMFORT! Get used to it! As I said, it's like building muscle! If you can't overcome your mental battle on something as small as this, you won't be able to handle the mental chaos that will come for the things that truly matter to you. Tune into the full episode for more. Salamualaykum.  

The more you want something, the more you reinforce your current reality (it isn't here yet). Which is normal to start from, BUT we can easily end up staying there. We constantly want change, telling everyone around us, but the story never seems to change. Years go by, and you're still stuck doing the same old ish, saying the same old story to everyone around you. Why do we do this? - Comfort. We are comfortable where we are! Your mind will do whatever it can to keep you there as long as it feels comfortable and familiar, even if your current reality sucks. How do you go from wanting to having? - Discomfort! You must embody who you think you would be and do if it was already here. These are the fundamental steps you should take, which is helllllllaaaa uncomfortable. You must let go of the old story and embody a new one. And this is where you will be tested. But persistence is key! Tune into the full episode for more. Peace & Love!

Most of us find ourselves taking one step forward and one step back. Yet, never truly understood why. One word - SAFETY. We are hardwired to seek safety. So when you rely on your mind to keep you consistently moving toward a new discipline, you will inevitably find yourself back where you started. Your mind will do whatever it can to take you back to what is familiar. YOU'RE HARDWIRED THIS WAY! This isn't a flaw! You have to build your self-awareness to the point where you are able to watch the mind, rather than becoming it. Especially in moments when you are about to do something you don't usually do. It is possible to change your reality and build habits that will support you. But if you lack self-awareness, you will find yourself just thinking and talking about it. So next time you take a step towards what you want and you find yourself doubting everything, practice watching your thoughts and emotions rather than becoming them. This is the key to self-mastery!

It's who you become the moment you step towards what you want that changes your life, not the treasure. So be brave and take that step and remember, that the real gold is what you uncover about your fears. Want to build unshakeable confidence? - I am offering 50% OFF for the following 10 students who want to join Quantum Leap 2.0. Sign up now to reserve a spot!

Wanting vs having is two different realities! The more you want something, the more you reinforce your current reality (it isn't here yet). Which is normal to start from BUT, we can easily end up staying there. Constantly want change, telling everyone around us, but the story never seems to change.

I have been on a roller coaster of a journey of finding what it really means to be able to show up as a man, as a son, as a husband, and as a father. It's a journey of a lifetime but one thing I know for sure, if you want to grow, go where you are afraid to go. That's why I did. Tune into the entire episode to know why. Much love, Minhaz Ahmed.

Where you are right now is a reflection of what you can handle. If you wish to do more, then you are asking for more tension in your life, and when I say tension, I mean resistance and stress. Most people overlook this part and only glorify the good that comes with "success". But, the truth is there will be a lot of challenging moments that will come with success. So if you want more in your life, don't just prepare for the good but also the bad (the stress). Tune in to this episode to hear an example that will explain this concept beautifully.

99% of the time, you will be disappointed with what other people say about your goals and dreams. Yet, many of us seek permission from those who will not give it. This is a cop-out! You are just seeking a way out of actually doing it, and you reinforce your lack of belief by asking people who will say the same. But what actually happens when we stop asking others? Or even ourselves? What happens when we do something that even we struggle to fully believe in? You end up making the impossible possible and then realise, you never needed to believe in it anyway. Tune in for more.

Becoming a man in today's society has to be the most significant challenge a boy can face. Naturally, we gravitate towards information that will make us likable and accepted by society. However, in today's society men are being feminized and told that being masculine is a toxic trait. This leads to men denying what comes naturally to us. The truth is, being accepted and liked by many is a false paradigm that will only leave you feeling like you don't know who you are, constantly jumping from one way of life to another. Trust that no man alive today really has all the answers. We are all simply doing our best! Your journey, your downfalls, your struggles, and even death, that is your greatest teacher. Seek the truth but do remember, that it never ends. For me, that led me to Allah - Alhamdullilah. Tune in for more.

What is the difference between dreaming about something and making it a reality? The more you dream about what isn't here the more you reinforce the fact that it isn't here yet. Whereas if it was your reality, who would you be? What would you think? What would you do? Your current identity may be far from who you need to be to make that dream a reality. This is where the work begins! Tune into this episode to find out how you can do that.

IFS stands for Internal family systems. This modality can help you understand the way your conscious and subconscious mind operates. This has drastically improved my ability to communicate through difficult moments with my partner. If you are familiar with parts work, this is very similar to that but better in my opinion. Want Trevor to help you understand your internal family system?

We can easily fall into judging and shaming ourselves for being in the same old rut. Till we reach a point where we can't take it anymore and we force ourselves to make changes. But the problem is, it doesn't last that long. Maybe a week or even a day, then we find ourselves back where we started. Forcing yourself to make changes isn't the solution! Finding out why you end up in the same place again and again is. We unconsciously recreate the past because it is familiar to us. In other words, it is your comfort zone. The life that you dream of is unfamiliar to you. So unconsciously you will recreate what is familiar to you. Asking yourself this one question, ‘how does this moment serve me?' Changes the narrative completely. This helps you understand that there is a part of you that perceives what you want as a threat. If you untangle the story of why it is a perceived threat, the changes come effortlessly. This is called shadow work. Tune into this episode for more. ❤️Salamualaykum.

We can easily get caught up seeking that perfect partner who can also hold space for us in our darkest moments. As important as that may be, no one can save you! I know, hearing that sucks. Because if you suffer from feeling alone all the time, you will most likely be waiting for that relationship to save you from feeling alone. I was. But I had to learn the hard way that only I can truly save myself. No one and I mean no one. can be there for you the way you can. Your partner will feel like they have to parent you, which will cause disconnection in the relationship. This also has a huge impact on the way you show up for other people. As you will naturally become more grounded in your light and dark aspects. Tune in to the full episode to learn more. Salamualaykum.

We can easily get caught up seeking that perfect partner who can also hold space for us in our darkest moments. As important as that may be, no one can save you! I know, hearing that sucks. Because if you suffer from feeling alone all the time, you will most likely be waiting for that relationship to save you from feeling alone. I was. But I had to learn the hard way that only I can truly save myself. No one and I mean no one can be there for you the way you can. Your partner will be left feeling like they have to parent you and that will cause disconnection in the relationship. This also has a huge impact on the way you show up for other people. As you will naturally become more grounded in your light and dark aspects. Tune in to the full episode to learn more. Peace & Love. Salamualaykum.

For us to truly become the greatest version of ourselves, we must be able to hold space for our darkest parts. Most of us struggle with seeing those aspects of ourselves and we only feel safe going there when a partner/therapist holds space for us. This is recommended when you start your journey of self-awareness. But we can easily become dependent on others to hold space and struggle to build our own ability to be present. In today's episode, I break down how and why it is important for you to build that ability. Tune in to find out more! Salamualaykum.

When it comes to finding a partner, we unconsciously seek what is familiar to us. That means we end up attracting a partner that reflects the first relationship we had - our mothers and our fathers. Unfortunately, most of us grew up witnessing a rocky relationship with love. Which tends to manifest in the relationships we create 20 years later. To truly create generational change, we must learn to let go of the burdens that we have witnessed and have taken on throughout our childhood. This is called shadow work. Which is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and the generation that will come after you. In today's episode, I break down the illusions of love and romance and give you a different perspective on what it takes to create generational change. Tune in to the full episode for more. Salamulaykum

Do you constantly have to force yourself to make changes? Only to do it for a week and then revert back to your old ways? Then you find yourself feeling hopeless and you start to believe all the doubts. Weeks go by and then you manage to force yourself to try again. BUT, You repeat it all over again... (This is exhausting!) To truly change your story, you must do it from the inside out. Until you uncover the part of you that is keeping you where you are, nothing will change. That means doing shadow work! Shadow work? To simply make the unconscious conscious. In other words, your subconscious mind is running the show and to do shadow work means to rewire it so it works in your favor rather than simply acting as a survival mechanism. The truth is, where you are is serving a part of you. It keeps you safe and in your comfort zone. When you force yourself, it will only be a matter of time before you end up back where you started. To truly make the change permanent you have to communicate with the part of you that is still stuck in the past. The part of you that is still protecting you from your past hurt/wounds AKA trauma. Whether that's money or love. You either do the work or repeat the past over and over again then you will :D Tune into this episode to find out how you can do that!

Muneeb has big plans and runs a successful business in crypto, but one of his greatest challenges was his confidence. His confidence in who he wants to become. That is when he reached out to me and joined QL (Quantum Leap). Not only did Muneeb change his life and the way he shows up on a daily basis, but he also signed up for QLB (Quantum Leap Boss). Where I help students show up for their business and step into leadership. Tune in to the full episode to know more about Muneeb's experience working with me.

We can easily portray a version of ourselves that we deem as acceptable, especially as someone who is in the public eye. However, as a coach, this has led me to feel inauthentic about the work I have been putting out for you guys. Time for that to change! This is just the beginning, and it always is Alhamdulillah.

When it came to money, I grew up with my dad saying he had to kill himself to make it. Blood, sweat, and tears! That was my mindset when it came to money! Was it conscious? NO. So how could I be in love with what I do, when I was subconsciously wired to associate money with pain and suffering? I was on a path of destruction. This is where it changes!

I used to look out the window, wishing I could just be normal again. You might see me for where I am, but how did this all start? I was at the lowest point of my life! Homebound because of my social anxiety and my face was covered in spots - cystic acne. I hated my reflection! Even getting a glimpse of my face in the mirror was a constant reminder and question of what went wrong with my life! I was at a stage where all the anxiety I suppressed throughout my childhood was surfacing. It destroyed me! The worst part was, seeing people look at me and wonder what happened. Which eventually led me to not even want to leave my own bedroom to face my family. It was tough! But it was the catalyst. I made a promise to myself, that if Allah can help me change my life around, I will help others do the same. Now 5 years later here I am. Alhamdulillah! Dreams do come true. So if I can do it, so can you!

To build my confidence, I started with lying down in the middle of the streets to dancing on it. I had to do it step by step! Building the ability of tension I could handle one step at a time. When you imagine where it is that you wish to be, it can feel overwhelming thinking about how you can get there. You have to start small! Just like going to the gym. To be able to push 100kg, you have to start with an empty bar. Each week you add 2.5kg to the bar and within 10 months you will have 100kg on the bar. This is the same principle that applies to building a business or being in a relationship. You start small and build your way up. This is something we focus on in week 2 ‘Playing with Tension' in my program Quantum Leap. If you do wish to sign up, send me a message or click the link in my bio. Tune into my latest episode to hear more about my experience on how I went from being homebound by social anxiety to dancing in the middle of the streets with the playing with tension method.

Wanting change and creating change are two different realities. When we first discover that change is possible, we desire what that will look like for us, but most of us get stuck here. We just continue to consume information rather than actually implement it. Going from wanting to having it is a whole challenge itself. Ask yourself the question,

The ego will do whatever it can to keep you where you are, even if where you are isn't where you wish to be. In layman's terms, under pressure, your thoughts will convince you that you're not ready or capable of making those changes. Simply to keep you safe and comfortable. The problem is we identify with our thoughts. BUT, you are not your thoughts! Rather the one who is listening. I know it's confusing, you're probably thinking about it right now

We make so many plans yet we find ourselves sabotaging any momentum we have built. Not just once, but again and again and again. This feels like absolute sh*t! Leaving you to the conclusion that you are just destined to fail. This is far from the truth. The self that is sabotaging is an aspect of you that perceives your goal as a threat. A threat to your current identity and way of life. You have to do shadow work to find out which part of you sabotaging what you want. This allows you to see the fear and understand what it is really going on within you, rather than just labeling and judging yourself as “lazy”. Let me give you an example of money. You wish to create financial freedom in your life. You know exactly what you need to do to create that yet, you find yourself paralysed when it comes to taking those steps. There is a part of you that perceives financial freedom as a threat. Why? Money = power and power is dangerous. As a child you may have witnessed your father who was the money man - he always had the last say. Your mother was constantly left in silence and feeling powerless. So you promised to never be like him. Now 20 years later, your relationship with money is nonexistent. No matter how many books you read on it or how many videos you watch, you can't seem to change your reality. So what is happening here? To be loved and accepted by your mother, a part of you is self-sabotaging any efforts you make towards financial freedom to make sure you don't become the man you promised to never be like. So a part of you fears that if you do become financially free, you will also lose your mum. I know, it's mad! So next time you catch yourself saying ‘I'm just lazy', think again. Tune into this episode to find out how you can heal this.

That feeling, that no matter what you do, you always end up in the same place. It feels defeating when you want to make changes to your life so you make a plan and when it comes to taking action you feel paralyzed by your emotions. So you power through it and then a week later sabotage all that you have done. Frustrated and mad at yourself that you are just meant for failure. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung. When we actively sabotage all our efforts to make changes in our life we can easily feel like it's just not meant to be. That we are simply not meant to have what it is that we desire. But what's really happening is.. There is a part of your subconscious mind that perceives your goal as a threat. Whether it's finding love or creating financial freedom. This is painful to even comprehend. Why would I not want it when that's all I think about? Consciously yes, but unconsciously that outcome is dangerous. Therefore, a part of you will self-sabotage the process. Shadow work is about finding that part of you and understanding why that outcome is perceived as a threat. This process is the missing piece of all of our lives! But be warned, it's the most challenging and painful journey one can endure. BUT the most life-changing!

A former student of QL and a current student of QLB, Tuck is one of the most inspiring students I have worked with. Tuck's ability to push himself out of his comfort zone is the very reason I wanted to interview him. Check out Tuck's podcast channel @Missiontuck.

There were times when I didn't want to do this anymore. Money was short and all I felt was why am I doing this? Building a coaching business has to be the most challenging thing I've done in my life! You're not just heading towards financial freedom but you are also having to let go of all the beliefs and trauma you carry around money and hard work.

'I will never be like him!' - Most Men. When we reject the negative aspects of our father, we unconsciously reject the positive aspects of him. This approach leads to us never being able to truly step into our power (the masculine energy) because we see it as a threat. In this episode, I break down how that manifests in our day-to-day life.

Most people only make changes in their life when the pain of staying where they are becomes greater than the pain of making any change. This is where most of us start, but if you wish to be a high performer you must reframe the way you see resistance. Rather than seeing it as a hindrance, see it as a sign that great change is on its way!

In this episode, I share with you how my life has changed by joining a men's group and why I totally recommend it to everyone. My main takeaway from it so far is how important it is to create a routine to regulate your emotions as a high performer. So tune into this episode to learn more about that.

Are you the only one in your family and your circle who takes shadow work seriously? Then this episode is for you. We can easily get caught up trying to save everyone around us when we should be focusing that energy on ourselves. I know, you see the people around you and you know what it is that they have to do to change their circumstances. I am here to tell you that this approach isn't going to help them. Instead, you must be the change you wish to see. Tune in to this episode to find out how.

It has been over 2 years since I quit my day job to pursue coaching as a full-time job. The trials and tribulations have been crazy but life-changing. Not only did it impact the way I show up for business but also as a man and a leader. In this episode, I breakdown 10 life-changing lessons that have helped me along the way.

It's in our nature to make changes in our life when it is too painful for us to stay where we are. Question is, do we have to wait for that over and over again? No. We can keep ourselves moving by asking ourselves one simple question. Tune in to the episode to find out what that question is.

Ever noticed that person who says they are all about peace, yet when they lash out with anger they lose control? This is because they have suppressed their anger and portray a false sense of peace. Just like light cannot exist without the dark, your confidence cannot exist without anxiety! We are conditioned to believe that our anxiety is an issue and we must get rid of it. All this does is simply suppress your anxiety and, give you a false sense of confidence.

So many people believe that one day they will be ready for love. The truth is you will never be! Relationships are your greatest teacher! How? People are your greatest mirror. Through connection, you will uncover the deepest parts of yourself! The parts of yourself you have spent years trying to uncover and years trying to heal on your own.

Even I fall into the trap of thinking 'Can I do it?' This thought itself is completely normal. BUT the problem begins when we keep feeding it that thought and sabotage all our efforts from taking any action. The truth is you don't need to believe that it is possible for change to happen. Instead, you can make the changes and then become the proof that your mind is seeking for. That is how you change your beliefs!

For the longest time, I viewed Islam as if it was just a load of rules and restrictions. But the deeper I got into my spiritual journey, I realized all the rules Allah has given us are here to help us become the greatest version of ourselves. Especially if you are someone who is walking their own path. If you are struggling to find answers outside of yourself, let Allah guide you.

When we are trying to make changes in our lives, we are actively choosing to go against what is 'normal' for us. This process will create huge amounts of resistance! I naturally found myself wanting to go back to what felt comfortable. The problem was, what felt comfortable was the very reality I wanted to change. In this episode, I break down why we must go against the norm to make the impossible dream possible.