Relationships Uncomplicated

If you or your partner are navigating the aftermath of infidelity and wondering whether the sexual behavior involved was really “sex addiction,” this episode is a must-listen. In Episode 86, I'm unpacking one of the most common and confusing questions couples face after betrayal: Is it sex addiction—or is something else going on? We'll explore: Why “sex addiction” is not a recognized mental health diagnosis in the DSM-5 The risk of mislabeling sexual behavior and missing the deeper emotional drivers What the Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) model is and why it offers a more compassionate, effective path forward Actionable next steps for couples dealing with out-of-control sexual behavior—including excessive porn use or secretive sexual activity This episode is especially supportive for couples who want to move beyond shame, blame, or one-size-fits-all labels and into real, values-based healing.

When infidelity is revealed, the hurt partner often experiences a deep sense of disorientation and a desperate need for answers. Many ask: Do I need to know every detail to heal—or am I just digging deeper into more pain? In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Idit Sharoni is joined by Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu to explore a phase many couples get stuck in after betrayal: the forensic data collection phase. This is when questions about the affair—ranging from timelines to explicit details—dominate the recovery process, sometimes for months or even years. Together, they discuss: Why the urge to gather every detail is completely normal What it looks like when this phase becomes a barrier to healing How to know if you're still seeking coherence or getting stuck in the pain Real-life examples of couples navigating this phase Actionable steps to help you move forward, even when not all the answers are there This episode offers clarity, compassion, and a gentle roadmap out of a phase that often feels endless. Whether you're the hurt partner or the unfaithful partner, you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to shift from stuck to supported. If this episode resonates with you and you're ready for expert guidance, we invite you to schedule a free 45-minute consultation to learn more about our infidelity recovery program, It's Okay To Stay. Visit iditsharoni.com/45 to get started.

In this eye-opening episode, Idit Sharoni, licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in affair recovery, dives into one of the most common mistakes couples make after infidelity: postponing the healing process. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that time alone will heal the wounds of betrayal, but the truth is, avoiding the hard work of healing can leave lasting scars on your relationship. From lingering pain and resentment to recurring trust issues, skipping this crucial step can silently erode your connection over time. In this episode, Idit explores why healing after infidelity is non-negotiable, the hidden costs of avoidance, and how to take meaningful steps toward rebuilding trust and intimacy. Whether you're in the early stages of recovery or feeling stuck in a “good enough” relationship, this episode offers hope, clarity, and actionable advice to help you move forward. What You'll Learn in This Episode: What the “stabilization trap” is and how it can keep couples stuck after infidelity. The long-term risks of postponing healing, including unresolved pain, resentment, and recurring infidelity. Why time alone doesn't heal wounds—intentional effort does. How to rebuild trust and connection through open communication and shared goals. Actionable steps to start the healing process and prevent future issues. Common fears about healing after infidelity and how to overcome them. Who This Episode is For: Couples who've chosen to stay together after infidelity but feel stuck in their healing journey. Hurt partners struggling with lingering pain or trust issues. Unfaithful partners looking to understand how to rebuild trust and connection. Anyone curious about the process of affair recovery and how to create a stronger, healthier relationship. Key Takeaways: Time doesn't heal all wounds—effort does. Healing requires intentional action and commitment from both partners. Avoiding healing has hidden costs. Lingering pain, resentment, and a lack of trust can quietly damage your relationship over time. Rebuilding trust is possible. Open communication, emotional processing, and a shared vision for the future are key to creating a stronger relationship. Resources and Links: Ready to take the next step? Check out my affair recovery program, It's Okay to Stay and book a free consultation. Check it here: Affair Recovery Program Missed Episode 80: “How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity”? Listen here: Episode 80 Curious about Episode 78: “Can Conventional Couples Therapy Help you Heal from Infidelity”? Catch up here: Episode 78 Read this show's blog post Read it here

Are you struggling to heal after an affair when your partner isn't fully remorseful? Join us for this eye-opening episode of "Relationships Uncomplicated," where host Idit Sharoni, LMFT, along with experts Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu and Ana De la Cruz, delves into whether couples can recover from infidelity without genuine remorse from the unfaithful partner. Can a relationship truly heal under these conditions? Tune in to find out! In this episode, we discuss: The crucial role of remorse in the healing process Strategies for dealing with partial or absent remorse Real-life examples and metaphors that illustrate the complexities of infidelity and remorse How to create a roadmap to healing even in challenging situations Don't miss this engaging and insightful conversation that could transform your understanding of infidelity recovery. Ready to take the next step? Check out our Infidelity Recovery Program: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com/affair-recovery-program Consider scheduling a 45-minute transformative consultation: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com/consultation Read the show notes in a blog: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com/can-trust-be-rebuilt-after-infidelity-without-full-remorse/ Follow us on social media for more insights and updates: Instagram: [Your Instagram Handle] Facebook: [Your Facebook Page] Twitter: [Your Twitter Handle] If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with others who might benefit from our insights. Thank you for listening, and remember, healing is possible with the right guidance and support.

In this episode of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast, host and affair recovery expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into the intricate process of navigating healing when both partners have been unfaithful. Titled "A Guide to Joint Recovery When Infidelity Strikes Both Ways," Idit explores the complexities of mutual infidelity, where betrayal isn't confined to one side. Drawing from her experience as an affair recovery expert, she shares insights on how couples can overcome this challenging situation and rebuild their relationship. Through compassionate storytelling and practical advice, Idit highlights the unique opportunities for growth and healing that arise from shared experiences of betrayal. Join her as she empowers listeners to navigate the aftermath of mutual infidelity with resilience, empathy, and hope.  

If you and your partner are navigating the challenging journey of affair recovery, understanding how to rebuild trust after infidelity is crucial. In this episode, we delve into the intricate process of earning back trust that has been lost in a relationship. Join us as we explore the evolution of the concepts of blind trust versus open-eyed trust, drawing from experiences working with couples healing from infidelity. Our discussion takes a unique turn as we question the commonly used term "rebuilding trust" and introduce a more nuanced perspective inspired by an enlightening article by trust expert Rachel Botsman. To shed light on this profound shift in perspective, we are joined by Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu, one of our lead therapists at Relationship Experts. Together, we unravel the differences between rebuilding and earning trust in the aftermath of infidelity. We draw insights from Botsman's groundbreaking ideas, emphasizing the importance of collaboration in the trust dynamic. Dr. Yael shares her thoughts on the critical roles of the Trust Giver (the hurt partner) and the Trust Receiver (the unfaithful partner) in the healing process. The discussion extends to the obstacles that can hinder trust-building, such as entitlement and unyielding rejection. We explore the delicate balance required from both partners, acknowledging the collaborative effort needed for genuine healing. Central to our conversation is the distinction between trust as a belief and trust as behavior. We explore actionable tips on how the unfaithful partner can act in trustworthy ways, including transparency, accountability, and consistency. The episode concludes with practical do's and don'ts for couples seeking to earn trust after infidelity, emphasizing the importance of allowing trust to be earned and acting in consistent, intentional, and trustworthy ways. Whether you're in the midst of affair recovery or seeking insights into trust dynamics, this episode provides valuable guidance on the journey to rebuilding and earning trust. Join us as we navigate the complexities of trust in the aftermath of infidelity and offer practical steps for couples looking to heal and move forward. [Listen to the full episode on the podcast for a deeper exploration of trust dynamics and actionable tips for affair recovery, or read the full blog post.]

In this intriguing podcast episode, the topic of love and betrayal takes center stage, prompting us to explore the complex dynamics that arise when the people we cherish deeply hurt us. Idit Sharoni hosts her team of experts in order to shed a light on this topic. She begins with asking Alana Tokayer, a Marriage & Family Therapist and Program Specialist to describe what she notices with couples in the aftermath of infidelity grappling with this question. Alana sets the stage by highlighting the profound impact of betrayal when it comes from someone we consider our best friend, our everything. As a therapist, Alana has witnessed couples grappling with the aftermath of infidelity, and the burning question always lingers: "How can someone who loves me betray me?" This inquiry lies at the heart of the episode, as it dives into the intricacies of understanding the coexistence of love and betrayal in modern relationships. Alana is joined by a team of experts, including Yael Haklai-Neagu and Ana De la Cruz, both licensed Marriage & Family Therapists specializing in relationships and affair recovery. Together, they shed light on how partners can make sense of the painful dilemma caused by infidelity. Throughout the episode, the team offers valuable insights and tips for coping with this conundrum, emphasizing the importance of questioning assumptions and challenging thought patterns that hinder healing. They discuss how love and betrayal can coexist, urging listeners to reconsider their perceptions of loyalty and love. The episode concludes with three practical tips for healing after infidelity, shared by Alana, Ana, and Yael. These tips emphasize the significance of intentionality, open-mindedness, and reframing one's perspective to navigate the challenging journey of rebuilding trust and love after betrayal. Listeners are left with a thought-provoking exploration of the complex interplay between love and betrayal in relationships. The episode encourages us to reevaluate our beliefs about loyalty, love, and the potential for healing and growth after experiencing infidelity. If you're seeking guidance on affair recovery or intrigued by the intricate dynamics of love and betrayal, this podcast episode promises valuable insights and a deeper understanding of these complex emotions. Read the show notes  Learn about our Infidelity recovery Program Schedule a free 45-minute consultation See our website

Have you wondered whether conventional couples therapy can help you heal from infidelity? Is it effective for infidelity recovery? Do you want helpful options in the aftermath of infidelity or an affair recovery? You aren't alone. Unfortunately, there isn't much information out there to truly educate struggling couples. Though it seems that conventional or traditional couples therapy is the only way to go, there are more options to explore. Let's discuss your infidelity recovery choices here in this episode. Important links: Infidelity Recovery Program Schedule a free Consult

You don't want to miss this article. In fact, I can't believe we haven't talked about this  before. Why? Because this topic is too important to skip. What I'm about to share with you has a way of hiding in the shadows of too many relationships… First, you probably know that infidelity happens for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it has to do with the relationship, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it's a combination of both. What you might not know is that, in the majority of cases, there is a “silent killer” lurking between partners for months, even years before infidelity ever happens.  It's called conflict avoidance. How does something this destructive go undetected? Because it feels natural, even good at times. Yet, it has the power to gradually and quietly disconnect partners completely. Fortunately, your relationship is not at the unavoidable mercy of this hidden relationship problem. I'm here to help you understand what conflict avoidance is, what it does, and how you can stop it.  Listen to this episode to learn more. Click to take our Conflict Avoidance Self Check Visit the podcast show notes page.

We are very excited and thankful to interview psychotherapist and hypnotherapist Douglas Flemons, Ph.D., LMFT. Both Yael (my co-host for this episode) and I, having had the opportunity to learn from him in different capacities, greatly appreciated Dr. Flemons's willingness to meet with us and share his valuable message. We discuss hypnotherapy, what it is, how it helps our clients, and how change can happen effortlessly. Click here for the show notes Links mentioned in this episode: The Heart and Mind of Hypnotherapy: Inviting Connection, Inventing Change - Dr. Flemons recent book Infidelity Recovery Free 45-min Consultation

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss therapy in the aftermath of infidelity and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 2 of 2 parts.  Link to show notes Link to the book

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss relationships, individualism, couples therapy, and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 1 of 2 parts.  Link to show notes Link to the book

Are you wondering if you're healing at a normal pace? Well, in this episode I will not be telling you how long you and your spouse "should" be taking to heal. Instead, I'll provide you with tools to make an educated estimate based on important variables.  Links mentioned in this episode: Infidelity Recovery Program consultation It's Okay To Stay recovery program Program reviews & testimonials

What makes a therapist a relationship expert? How can you make sure that you're hiring the most qualified relationship expert to help you save your marriage?   We can all agree that not all therapists are relationship experts. Moreover, there are those who call themselves relationship experts who are not therapists.   Listen to relationship expert Idit Sharoni discussing how to be clear about who can offer adequate services to help your marriage.    Links: Schedule an Infidelity Recovery Program Consultation Show notes  

Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. This, or some form of this line of thinking, is a concern both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many quest Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. This, or some form of this line of thinking, is a concern both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many questions and concerns come up for couples and to help get some answers, I talked things through with a guest therapist. Tune into this episode to learn tips to better handle the aftermath of the aftermath of infidelity. You are also invited to learn more about our infidelity recovery coaching program. If you like what you read, schedule a 45-minute free consultation to see if it would be the best fit to enhance your healing process.  Links mentioned in this episode: 45-minute Infidelity Recovery Coaching Program Consultation Yael Haklai-Neagu, LMFT - senior couples therapist at Idit Sharoni - Relationship Experts Episode #68: How to Recover From Infidelity PTSD State of Affairs - book by Esther Perel  

In this episode relationship expert Idit Sharoni discusses the symptoms of infidelity PTSD including intrusive thoughts and how to help your hurt partner get past the triggers. She also shares about whether it is even possible to help a hurt partner with this and the do’s and don’ts around that. 

I recently met with Dr. Marie Murphy on her podcast, Your Secret is Safe With Me to discuss how an affair recovery program can help couples in the aftermath of infidelity. We also shared about how unfaithful partners can get help ending affairs or making decisions on how to proceed with an ongoing affair.  Dr. Marie and myself discuss the most difficult shame ridden topics that most do not even try to understand about infidelity and betrayal. We look at the multidimensionality of relationships and the healing after infidelity.

One of the most common yet difficult issues hurt partners experience in the aftermath of infidelity is post trauma symptoms or PTSD. I interview relationship expert Yael Haklai-Neagu, LMFT who specializes in helping hurt partners handle their intrusive thoughts and Hypervigilance as a result of their partner's affair or betrayal.  As a certified hypnotherapist, Yael shares tips and ideas about how you can utilize hypnotherapy to recover. This Episode is Brought to you by It's Okay To Stay Program  - A Roadmap to Healing After Infidelity by Idit Sharoni, LMFT Links Mentioned in this episode: Yael Haklai-Neagu's Webpage - Yael is an expert team member at Idit Sharoni - Relationship Experts, a private practice offering marriage counseling, couples therapy, and affair recovery programs. 

In the aftermath of infidelity, what does a hurt partner need most? What comes to mind? Most people, unfaithful partners, or even therapists routinely answer the same way: hurt partners need true remorse from the betrayer, to forgive, and to know why among other things.  Of course, these are all true and important. Yet, the more fundamental and vital concern any betrayed partner needs to be addressed is for their pain to be heard.  Relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares 6 tasks hurt and unfaithful partners can start implementing right now to facilitate hearing the pain.  Episode Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Idit Sharoni's infidelity recovery and healing program: It's Okay To Stay. ‘It’s Okay to Stay’ is a complete 8-week coaching program that involves an online roadmap course and one-on-one work with an affair recovery specialist. If you have faith in your relationship, if you want to stay together, and heal— Idit is offering a 45-minute free consultation for couples who want to save their relationship after infidelity and need expert guidance.  Schedule your free consultation today at www.iditsharoni.com/45  *Both partners have to be present for the consultation. Episode Full Blog Post: https://iditsharoni.com/what-hurt-partners-need-most-in-affair-recovery/ Links mentioned in this episode: The Monogamy Myth. Not Just Friends  

When we think of healing from an affair, we focus on the betrayal of the faithful partner. We rarely think of the unfaithful partner’s wounded mind. In fact, the unfaithful partner’s ability to recover from the affair is quite routinely ignored.  And when it comes to women’s affairs? Well, there’s even less attention paid to healing for unfaithful women. That’s where the expertise of Debbie Rose comes in. Listen to my interview with Debbie to learn the steps to ending an affair.   Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Idit's infidelity recovery masterclass   Links mentioned: Debbie's website aftermyaffair.com Debbie's Facebook group Idit's support community on Facebook The book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass Idit's infidelity recovery online program   Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Tackling a big relationship issue that has the potential to end it? You know you need an expert to help you, but how do you get the best of the best to work with you? This episode is mind shifting because it will change your understanding about how to get help from professionals you normally can't afford or can't reach.  The world of service is totally changing, and with it the world of couples counseling. Gone are the days where experts were out of reach, too expensive, or too far. Tune in to find out how you - yes you - can get an expert to help your relationship.  Links mentioned: Rekindling Desire (Esther Perel) The Art and Science of Love (The Gottman Institute) It’s Okay to Stay (Idit Sharoni) Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Are you and your spouse equal partners in your relationship? Or has one of you become more of a parent to the other? When a couple starts to fall into a parent-child dynamic, codependency, rather than a balanced, cooperative relationship starts to emerge. Essentially, this means that the overall patterns of communication and behavior push one partner (either the male or the female) into a parent or a child position within the relationship.  In this episode, I do the following: help you take a closer look at what this destructive dynamic may look like share why you shouldn't promote this in your relationship suggest two strategies to avoid it Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity www.iditsharoni.com/masterclass for more information go to: www.iditsharoni.com

Today, I want to talk about who can heal your pain after infidelity. You’ll learn who really can help heal the pain, who doesn’t have the power to help, and what you can do if you’re stuck feeling unable to move past the hurt. I dive into the topic by telling you about a contact that I recently received from a spouse who had been cheated on and wanted to be seen individually. There was nothing alarming about this at first, but the person then shared something troubling: a therapist had told this person that seeking individual help to overcome the pain was needed before the couple could healthily recover together. The first issue that I have with this is that sending one partner off to seek help alone is very difficult. I talk about how it takes so much courage to trust anyone after infidelity and that isolating sends a bad message to the hurt partner.  The second issue I have is that many therapists have the assumption that the pain after infidelity is individual and, therefore, the hurting individual is capable of fixing it. You must remember that forgiveness is a journey that both sides need to go on and that it needs to be earned. The third issue I have is the sense that hurt partners who are not ready to forgive are considered unable to surrender to the process. I provide my opinion that surrender should not be expected because the situation that the couple has found themselves in is not a war.  Therapy is not a body shop where you check your problematic spouse in to get fixed. The betraying partner needs to understand that they are the person who will help the healing. Links mentioned in this episode:  It's Okay to Stay - Idit's Online Course Waitlist Idit’s It’s Okay to Stay Facebook group Book: How Can I Forgive You / by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Feel like you don't even know what is going to make your relationship work anymore? Let relationship expert Idit Sharoni give you a surprising strategie to help you get insight as to what can save your relationship, when everything seems like chaos.  As promised in the episode, here's what you ask yourself: “Suppose this episode is over, you go about your day, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of it. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are sound asleep, a miracle happens and the problems in your relationship are solved just like that (snap). But since the miracle happened overnight you don’t know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? What would be the first thing that would tell you a miracle must’ve happened? What else are you going to notice during the day after you wake up?” To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

We're deep into creation mode, and a a result my team and myself are taking a short break. We will be back with more great episodes filled with relationship tips and ideas on January 21st, 2019.  Until then, have a happy holiday season and a wonderful New Year! Don't forget to check back in with us Monday, January 21st, 2019.

Have you stopped couples counseling because there was no result? Are you now in the stages of looking for a therapist but aren't sure what to look for? Do you desperately wish you had a tool to measure whether couples therapy is the right fit for you? Couples therapist Idit Sharoni shares from her thousands of hours experience helping couples save their relationships, what are the most important components that make your couples therapy process a success.  Listen and learn what you can do now to ensure your couples counseling has the best chances to succeed.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

If you are human, you probably engaged in escalating a conflict by being defensive. In this episode, relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares what is defensiveness, how it looks inside a conversation, what it does, and how to avoid it. You'll get tools and ideas on what you can do when you feel attacked by your partner. By the end of this episode you'll know to better react and diffuse the conflict.  Links mentioned in this Episode: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Video - The Gottman Institute To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Betrayed partners are exposed to a great amount of uncertainty when they learn their spouse has been unfaithful. One of the things they often hear is "Once a cheater always a cheater". Is this ture? Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni expressing her thoughts and ideas about the old saying based on her experience working with coupes in the aftermath of infidelity.  FREEBIE: Download the "5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater" guide Idit created to especially for this episode listeners. Simply click the link below.  Links mentioned in this episode: FREEBIE: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater Idit’s FB Group: It’s Okay To Stay - Healing After Infidelity Where Should We Begin Podcast Season 2 ep. 7   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Do you hear from your spouse that they need to feel more loved? Do they tell you you're not making time for them, attending to them, or making them feel appreciated enough? That is a very real issue for many modern relationships these days. So, how do you make your partner feel loved and cared for without jeopardising your individual needs?  Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni giving you 5 tips on how to go from having a partner who feels uncared for to a relationship where both of you feel nurtured. You may be surprised... Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 46: Date Night Will Not Solve Your Problems TED Talk: The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Article: For a Better Marriage Act Like a Single Person   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

A couple wanted to know if as a marriage therapist Idit believed they could change after 20 years of marriage.  Her answer was not what you might expect, but it was positive. In this episode relationship expert Idit Sharoni will tell you what it takes to make changes in long term relationships of 10 years and up.  And it not only hard work... To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Have guilt or shame stopped you from being able to make your relationship work after infidelity? Has guilt made you more defensive than helpful or remorseful? Or, has shame made you more confused about whether to stay or leave your cheating spouse? These are all negative outcomes of guilt, blame or shame that occur in the aftermath of infidelity. BUT, there id a positive side to guilt that actually helps the healing process.  Listen in and find out more about this from Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni.   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

You finally decided to go to couples counseling, but now you have to find a good therapist. You Google couples counseling in your area and you start making some calls. How do you know which one is the right therapist for your relationship? Do you determine by price, availability, location? Or are there more criteria you should look for and ask your prospective therapist about? Answers to these questions and the actual 5 questions you should ask are all in this episode presented by your host - relationship expert Idit Sharoni. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

In this episode you’ll find out if you are in a sex starved relationship, and if so, what it does to your connection & what you can do to change the situation. As many couples believe that this is a phase that will go away or it’s the nature of a long term relationship - Miami's Relationship expert Idit Sharoni will challenge you on that and help you get things going in the right direction. Takeaways you don't want to miss: What's considered a sex starved relationship / marriage? How it sometimes shows in a relationship? Who has the power to change it? Tips on what you can do to stop sex starving in your relationship.   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

In the last decades couples confront serious problems that have to do with fast track relationships.  If you've done all the way from meeting your spouse to holding your first baby in less than 2 years, and you're experiencing serious relationship issues - than this is the episode for you. So, before you think it was a big mistake and the only solution is divorce or breakup, see what relationship expert Idit Sharoni has to say to you.  Hint: there is hope. Find 5 suggestions to prevent divorce or breakup in fast-track relationships that will give you the hope you need to continue. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

How does handling money as a couple influences your relationship, and what can you do to avoid having it kill your marriage?  Miami relationship expert Idit Sharoni walks you through: The different models of handling finances as a couple. The different notions behind each model and how they influence the relationship. The place all of this can be stemming from. What you can do now to make a change (even if you're already having issues with handling money as a couple).   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Why some couples seem to recover after infidelity while others can't?Miami relationship expert Idit Sharoni walks you through the 3 main components that block the healing process after learning about your partner's cheating. Idit offers an extensive explanation that includes a roadmap to healing where she shares the 3-Phase road to healing in the aftermath of infidelity.  Links mentioned in the episode: Click to join Idit's FB Group - It's Okay To Stay Episode 012 Episode 044 Episode 39 Recommended book: After The Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us (no more than 5 sentences) Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

When you feel you're stuck because nothing is positively changing in your relationship, you get discouraged thinking you're in one of those change resistant relationships. This episode is inspired by a couple that told me the following:"This is our last chance before divorce. We either change or we give up on this relationship. We’ve tried it all: talk about it, not talk about it, pray, be nice, be aggressive, you name it, we tried it. Nothing worked."  I talk about why this couple has been so resistant to change so far, and what they (and you) can do differently. To help boost the change, I share the 2 most important components of change in relationships. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us (no more than 5 sentences) Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov discusses the new normal when it comes to dating and that is dating multiple people at once.  Inspired by an email from on of our listeners, together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the do's and dont's as far as early on dating as well as dating after a breakup.  Alina shares 5 essential tips you'd want to keep in mind to avoid potentially hurting yourself and someone else.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares the recipe for how to have an incredible trip that makes everyone happy! Believe it or not, it is possible to have a relaxing, enjoyable, and guilt-free time with your spouse while seeing everyone you want to see back home. Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they explore the necessary steps you and your spouse should take before and during your trip.  Tune in to find out how you can have the vacation of your dreams without feeling the guilt.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

Being broken up with is one of the most devastating feelings. Whether it was expected or not, the heartache is just the same. You feel like your world has been turned upside down.  Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares 6 steps you can begin implementing immediately to help you work through the pain. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the 6 steps along with other recommendations.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

How many times have you heard the piece of advice that many people feel the need to share: "you and your spouse need to go out for date nights." Chances are you've heard or even told someone to do so. Going out on date nights can be a great time, however they are not the solution to marriage problems.  Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares 5 pointers on what you can begin doing now to have a healthier and happier long-term relationship/marriage. Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they explore topics such as unity, individuality, date nights, socializing, and much more! Link to Article: click here  Link to TED talk: click here  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov offers a refreshing and different perspective on staying together for the sake of your children. What kind of relationships do you want your children to have in the future? This very question is what sparked Alina's interest in offering a new perspective. She also shares suggestions on how to stay if you want to work on your relationship.  Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni offers her perspective based on counseling couples on this subject matter.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares why "I'm sorry" doesn't cut it when it comes to affair recovery. Idit shares a 2-part technique for how to effectively be remorseful with your partner after an affair.  Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they discuss what you can say to make your partner see how remorseful you are. Download Idit's freebie below, it is a combination of the specific components of an effective remorse expression and an example of how it may be worded. Link to Freebie: Blueprint of an Effective Remorse To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares the necessary steps to take to recover from a codependent and unhealthy relationship. Alina shares 5 tips you can begin to implement right now. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the importance of self-esteem and how to build it.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni sheds light on common issues that couples are facing, compared with patterns from 10 and 20 years ago.  Common distractions that are affecting couples in 2018 are social media and work/life balance. Stay tuned for more information on privacy, dating, monogamy, and so much more! Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they discuss their suggestions for maintaining a healthy relationship and surviving the new trends couples have to face.    To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov interview their first expert guest! Yael Haklai-Neagu is a therapist who specializes in working with individuals and couples who are affected by any type of relocation. She shares where her passion for working with couples who are relocating came about. Yael also sheds light on the common issues couples face along with many of the personal challenges couples and individuals face and how those changes impact the relationship overall. Links mentioned in this episode:  Meetup.com Yael's website  Yael's Facebook page To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov explains what it feels like to be in a codependent relationship. Sometimes people are unaware they are in one, however know something is not right in the relationship.  Learn what "stereotypical codependents" experience while in the relationship as well as common stereotypes of their partners.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss hope and the many opportunities for codependent recovery as well as resources that are available both online and in-person across the country.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Codependents Anonymous Codependent No More by Melody Beattie To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni explores if the common saying "the truth will set you free" applies to finding out the whole truth about your partner's infidelity.  You will learn what to ask and what not to ask in order to bring you and your partner closer to healing. Also, find out which truth-seeking questions are appropriate for facilitating healing and which ones are not.  Together with breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they discuss questions that address love, sex, commitment, desire, loyalty, loss and many more.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 016: Staying After Infidelity- Mistake #2 To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

You may be surprised to find out the underlying reasons why you feel you want closure. Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov dives deep into the topic of closure on this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated Alina challenges this common misconception that comes up for people post-breakup and also reveals the main reason why people feel they need closure.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they process what closure actually looks like at the end of a relationship and the pros/cons to even seeking it in the first place.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 004: How To Heal After A Breakup  Episode 022: The Difference Between Moving On & Healing  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni enlightens us with a few truth bombs. She also shares the #1 predictor of divorce, based on decades of research conducted by the Gottman Institute.  Together with Breakup Specialist, Alina Gershonov they explore this predictor of divorce, what it looks like in a relationship, where it stems from, and most importantly how it can be avoided. This episode is packed with invaluable information to help your marriage improve immediately and for the long haul. Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 021: Things We Wish Couples With Communication Issues Knew (Part 1)  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com