Podcast appearances and mentions of hester cant

In this episode, an idea suggested by my conversationalist, clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal, we explore the big, painful emotion of loss.We tend to body swerve feeling or thinking about loss, and who can blame us? It hurts, it's horrible. But loss is essential to growth - think of a snake shedding its skin. In order to go onto the next stage we need to leave the one we're at.But there's normal loss such as leaving school or a job, and traumatic loss where everything comes at once, like an unexpected or early death or devastating news. This takes far longer to process. Note: process not get over.The loss I've noticed most people don't want to talk about is death, dying, illness and the accompanying grief and yet, as Dr B tells us, if it's managed ‘well' post traumatic growth can be rich. But where would loss be without hope? There has to be hope to make loss's losses easier to bear. Have a listen and be kind to yourself if you find this tough.If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a Substacker: https://pocketannalisa.substack.com/. From £5 a month or £50 a year you'll get access to all new podcasts as soon as they are available and before general release and ad-free. Plus subscriber exclusive newsletters.You can also support us by sharing this podcast far and wide, it's available wherever you listen to your podcasts. And leaving a review if you can. Thank you so much.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to episode 2 of Series 9 (Series 9 will be released sporadically). Should We Move?This has always been a question I've been asked a lot via my Guardian column (and in real life) but after the pandemic it was a question that reached, dare I say it, epidemic proportions. It's a simple enough question but the reasoning behind it can really tell us a lot about ourselves. Many people move to get away from problems, not realising that the problems go with them. This is why a few well aimed questions are worth asking of yourself before you move.There are some very boring things to consider, too which we run through in this episode. Look out for anything that makes you feel defensive, either in this episode or when people mention certain things to you - those are the very issues you should be digging down into. I've known people who've maxed out their London homes to stretch themselves to buy a huge country pile - with no financial buffer. People who've moved to the middle of nowhere even though they can't drive. Or not considering schools/transport links/hospitals. These are the things that can make or break a successful move. I**************If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced: https://www.patreon.com/c/annalisabarbieriYou can also support us by sharing this podcast far and wide, it's available wherever you listen to your podcasts. And leaving a review if you can. Thank you so much.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'd been wanting to do this podcast for a while. Professor Alessandra Lemma is one of the most experienced, and insightful, specialists I work with. Every word she shares is a gem. But Pr Lemma's diary is packed and so this took a while to organise. I hope you think it was worth it.The idea for this episode - the first in Series 9 - came to me last year but in reality, it had probably been bubbling away for some years. Alessandra and I were working on a problem for my Guardian column. The problem was from a reader who said that, despite them being an adult, they were still being body shamed by their parents for being overweight, this is sadly by no means an unusual problem to arrive on my desk. In our chat Alessandra said a line which stayed with me all of last year. It was this: you can't delete developmental history it is always there even if you change the surface of the body. From this we went off topic a little, as my chats with my specialists sometimes, to talk about how - with some caveats - people who modified their bodies through things like cosmetic or plastic surgery, often didn't feel happier because whatever developmental history that had led them to be unhappy with themselves, lay within then and beyond the reach of any sort of body modification. It got me thinking about how our body image is arrived at. Do we make it, or do others shape it? Why are so many people unhappy with they way they look? In this episode we look at how our body image is formed, who shapes it and how we can try to change our internal dialogue about it. A very useful listen, also, if you are a parent as we often help shape what our children feel about their bodies. **************If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced: https://www.patreon.com/c/annalisabarbieriYou can also support us by sharing this podcast far and wide, it's available wherever you listen to your podcasts. And leaving a review if you can. Thank you so much.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the last episode, episode six, in Series 8 and in it I talk to UKCP registered family and systemic psychotherapist and John Cavanagh who is also a registered mental health nurse. John specialises in child and adolescent mental health.Often children will manifest with a mental health problem that is indicative of what's going on in the family. We talk about this, what those problems might look like, why it's important to treat children as part of the family unit. John also talks us through the CAMHS system which I know some people find very difficult to navigate. We also talk about common adolescent and child problems and how to manage them if your child comes to you with them. Useful links we talk about in the podcast: YoungMinds | Mental Health Charity For Children And Young People | YoungMinds Information for 11-18 year olds on understanding CAMHS - Mind Stay Alive App: 'a suicide prevention app for the UK, packed full of resources, useful information, and tools to help you stay safe or help someone else'.StayAlive - Essential suicide prevention for everyday life CalmHarm (https://calmharm.co.uk/)DistrACT (https://www.expertselfcare.com/health-apps/distract/) NHS England » NHS Mental Health Apps Library to increase access to psychological therapies and help to improve mental health outcomes www.psychotherapy.org.uk (Registered psychotherapists search by specialism or area) www.aft.org.uk***************If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Very early on in my career as The Guardian's Agony Aunt the letters started coming in about family estrangements - the "should I cut X out of my life" style questions. Back then, cutting a family member out was anathema to me but over the years, i came to understand why some people sought it out. The thing is, cutting someone out is rarely the end of the problem. Sometimes it's only the beginning.In this episode I talk to long-time conversationalist psychotherapist Chris Mills about why some situations become so bad that estrangement seems like the only answer - indeed is it the only answer? What it can mean and how to try to build bridges after an estrangement (maybe one not of your making) if that's what feels right. If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.IG: @annalisabarbieriLinks to further work: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is attachment and how does attachment theory different from the primary real-life attachment we learnt as babies? The two often get confused. In this episode I talk to child, adolescent and adult psychotherapist Dr Graham Music who has been described as "one of the most deep thinking child psychotherapists in the world."We talk about these differences, plus the concept of attachment which is how secure we feel with our primary care given and how our needs were met, and the impact that can have on our later life. Attachment is at the core of every letter I get, ergo every problem I think we come across in our daily lives. How we relate to others can very often lead back to our early attachment figures. Dr Graham Music is registered with the Association of Child Psychotherapists and the UKCP. He is also the author of some amazing books such as Respark, Nurturing Natures and Nurturing children. We talked together in Series 4 on How to Motivate Your Child.You can find out more about Graham from his website: https://nurturingnatures.co.uk/If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.IG: @annalisabarbieriLinks to further work: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Forensic psychotherapy is psychotherapy with people who have committed criminal offences. In this episode I talk with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal who is registered with the British Psychoanalytic Council and has over thirty years experience in treating people. Stephen started his professional life as a clinical psychologist in a secure unit with offenders. Stephen has also written a couple of books on forensic psychotherapy, the latest of which is called Assessing Risk, a Relationship Approach.I was in conversation with Stephen in Series 7, talking about shame, which would make a good companion listen to this one.In this episode we talk about what forensic psychotherapy is, what it can tell us about the person committing the crimes, as well as society in general and why talking groups, such as the one Stephen presides over, can radically diminish re-offending. All crime has a meaning. This would make a particularly interesting listen to those who are fascinated by true crime podcasts.If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.IG: @annalisabarbieriLinks to further work: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that procrastination, risky behaviour, blaming others and even infidelity may be a sign of self-sabotage? There are a host of other symptoms, too. In this, episode 2 or Series 8, I discuss with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-Clarke why we might self sabotage, what it tells us about ourselves and of course, what we can do about it. If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.IG: @annalisabarbieriLinks to further work: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to series 8 of Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri. This episode was Professor Lucy Easthope's idea as it's something she really wanted to talk about and I'm honoured she has trusted me with this delicate subject. In this episode Lucy talks openly about her very personal five baby losses by miscarriage. Lucy is Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the University of Durham and a Professor in Mass Fatalities at the University of Bath. She studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in medicine.Lucy is a UK Expert and advisor on emergency planning and disaster recovery and a world authority on these subjects. She works with governments, emergency services and communities and families who have been affected by disaster. She's advised on almost every major disaster that's happened in the last two decades.She is also the author of the best seller: When the Dust Settles, Searching for Hope after disaster. Her baby losses are talked about candidly throughout the book but in particular in Chapter Seven, Little Losses.Links listeners may find useful:https://www.tommys.org/https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/https://www.sands.org.uk/If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Produced by Hester Cant. Art work by Lo Cole. Music by Toby Dunham.IG: @annalisabarbieriLinks to further work: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the final episode in Series 7. It's about birth trauma and I speak with journalist, author and CEO of The BTA, Kim Thomas.We talk about what birth trauma is, what can cause it (we do not go into graphic detail), how it can manifest and how to get help. We discuss the difference between Post Natal Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder brought on by birth trauma. We also discuss the impact of birth trauma on birthing partners. Some organisations we talk about in the episode:The Birth Trauma Association.Kim Thomas's book on PTSD and Birth Trauma.Masic: https://masic.org.uk/about-masic/Magnolia midwives: https://www.instagram.com/magnoliamidwives/?hl=enDoula UK: https://doula.org.ukTommy's: https://www.tommys.orgNice Guidelines: https://www.nice.org.uk/guidanceRoyal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists: https://www.rcog.org.ukhttps://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/useful-contacts/If you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Interviewing Ryan Bennett-Clarke for my Guardian column - about something else entirely - we got talking about envy. And what he had to say fair blew my mind.What is envy? How does it differ from jealously? Where does it come from and how does it manifest? If you've ever left a person feeling like little bits of you have been taken away, well envy may be the answer. We talk about how envy feels, why people get jealous or envious, how it's on the rise with social media; and we also talk about some nifty ways to 'interrupt' envy. How to answer back to those barbs. I found this one of the most thought-provoking episodes I've ever done and I have to admit I looked at certain people in a different way. Dare I say this is life-changing? I think it might be.Ryan Bennett-Clarke, né Marjoram is a UKCP accredited psychotherapist. He has written two papers for The Journal of Psychodynamic Practice:The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part One - Theoryhttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039880 The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part Two - Clinical Applicationhttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039881 and you can read more about Ryan here:Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Although unresolved grief can hit us at any stage in our lives, this episode specifically talks about childhood bereavement and the impact it can have on adulthood. My guest is UKCP and BACP registered psychotherapist and researcher Mandy Gosling who, as we shall hear, has personal experience of early bereavement.An early bereavement can lodge - if not processed - and be carried into adult hood, manifesting as inability to hold down jobs or relationships, feelings of loneliness or depression (of course you can feel all these things without having been bereaved). Mandy talks about her personal experiences, how they impacted and how we can help children process grief and if that's now you as an adult, what you might consider doing to lighten your psychological load.You can learn more about Mandy and her work here: www.abcgrief.co.uk or www.mandygosling.co.uk Some useful bereavement websites:https://www.winstonswish.orghttps://www.childbereavementuk.orghttps://www.cruse.org.ukLet us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Stephen Blumenthal returns (catch him in Series 2 talking about Intimacy and Trust in Series 5) and this time we're talking about shame. What it is, how it differs to humiliation and embarrassment or even guilt. Shame can make people act differently - either because they are avoiding shame or trying to cover up the shame they already feel. Where does shame come from? And why is some shame useful to society?If you'd like to learn more about Dr Blumenthal and his work you can do so at https://stephenblumenthal.com.Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professor Lucy Easthope is a UK expert and advisor on emergency planning and disaster recover. A world authority on recovery and disaster planning and its aftermath. She's Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the university of Durham and a professor in Mass Fatalities at the university of Bath.Lucy studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in medicine.In 2022 Lucy published a best selling book that talks a lot about her work and a little about her life called When the Dust Settles, Searching for Hope after disaster. It's a must read and one that I recommend to all who will listen. If anyone knows about planning it's Lucy and in this episode we talk about how she takes her incredible experience into every day life. Can we ever plan too much? Why is planning a good idea but how we should also leave a little room for spontaneity. Perhaps. And one of the most important take aways for me - look after the planner in the familyYou can find her website here: http://whatevernext.info/Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Where to die? Not everyone gets that choice but you or a loved one might and that choice may be to go home from a hospice or hospital or care home, or go into one. In this sensitively handled but hugely informative episode, I talk again to Dr Kathryn Mannix, palliative care doctor and author of two excellent books: With the End in Mind and Listen. We talk about what to think about: care, equipment, environment, all things that need to be carefully considered and weighed up. When my own mother was dying and she wanted to go home, I was tortured by what to do and doing the Right Thing. Dr Kathryn Mannix held my hand through this process and lessened some of the pain. Despite the subject matter we end the episode on a really poetic, positive takeaway from Kathryn which should soothe even the most troubled of souls.A few links we refer to and which you may find useful:https://eol-doula.uk/https://www.kathrynmannix.com/Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes. For £5 a month you get them as soon as they are produced.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The in-laws, long the butt of jokes but in reality rich fodder for my Guardian mail bag. Of course, none of us think of ourselves as troublesome in-laws, but maybe we are? In this episode I talk to psychotherapist and CEO of the association for family therapy and systemic practise. Hannah has been a family and couples psychotherapist who has worked in the mental health service for thirty years. She's also an associate professor at the university of exeter and deputy director of a clinical training department called CEDAR - clinical education development and research - that sits within the university's psychology department.We talk about all the usual in-law problems, work out that three things seem to underpin them and I present my own theory.Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Talking about suicide is never easy, yet it's essential. In this difficult episode both Dr Stubley and I bring personal experiences to the conversation in the hope that it might facilitate your own conversations.Dr Jo Stubley is a consultant psychiatrist in psychotherapy and leads the adult section of the trauma service at the NHS Tavistock Centre. Jo is a member of the British Psychoanalytic Society. Regular listeners will recognise that Jo is a returning conversationalist - this is our third episode together. The first one, on trauma in series one, would make a good listening companion piece to this one. If you have suicidal feelings help is available: https://www.papyrus-uk.org and https://www.samaritans.orgLet us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do some people find it so hard to talk about money? And whilst it's not a romantic thing to bring up it's absolutely essential if you're thinking of buying a property with someone or moving in with someone. As Chris says if it's difficult to bring up at the beginning of the relationship it's a whole lot harder to bring up at the end when things may have gone wrong.A lot of the letters I get at the Guardian are about Wills and Will disputes and whilst it's about the money, Chris and I also look into what money can stand in for, what it represents and how it can reflect the value we put (or not) on ourselves.If this episode has tempted you to get a financial advisor the please make sure whomever you deal with is registered with the Financial Conduct Authority https://register.fca.org.uk/s/.Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sibs is a charity which supports children and adults who grow up with a brother or sister with additional needs or a long term health condition. And Linda Owen is the rather brilliant, compassionate and informed (aptly) Information Officer for Sibs.A lot of the advice Linda gives can also be applied in a family which doesn't have a child with these additional needs, and there's a lot to learn here about sibling dynamics. But of course when a child does have additional needs the sibling can often get overlooked and their needs can feel - especially to them - as not important in the scheme of things. Linda talks about how to have conversations with your children, how to get support for them or for yourself. Note: as Linda explains we use the term sibling in this episode to denote the person who doesn't have the additional needs, and the ones that do as brother or sister.A good companion episode to this one, is The Secrets of the Sibling Relationship with psychotherapist Nicole Addis in Series 1.The Sibs website: sibs.org.uk.Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to episode 1 of Series 6A good few years ago, I started becoming aware of a term I'd hitherto not really heard much before, outside of my classics lessons: narcissism. Aside from all the s's making it hard to pronounce, I started to notice that it became a catch-all for anyone who was selfish, self centred or vain. Everyone, it seemed, was being called a narcissist. I'm not a fan of overly labelling behaviours (for one it's so lazy) and I have a natural tendency to avoid terms that everyone else is using, but eventually even I couldn't ignore it any longer. This is when I called UK registered psychotherapist Mark Vahrmeyer in. Mark is writing a book about narcissism and in this episode we talk about what it is, and what it isn't. And how just possibly everyone has some narcissistic traits occasionally, but that doesn't make them a narcissist. Someone with true narcissistic behaviours actually has a wafer-thin self esteem and is very tiring to be around. Who'd be a narcissist? But also what about poor Echo, who often gets forgotten in the tale of Narcissus, typical to air brush a woman out of history.If you'd like to learn more about Mark and his work his website is at brightonandhovepsychotherapy.comLet us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.comIf you'd like to support us you can leave a one off donation here: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieriIf you'd like to listen to this episode, past or future ones, ad free then consider becoming a patron on Patreon, from just £3 a month. You also get early access to episodes.Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.IG: @annalisabarbieriAll links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieriSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's been a year since Chris van Tulleken set his twin brother, Xand, a challenge to help him quit his addiction to junk food. Xand had to eat an 80% ultra-processed food (UPF) diet while learning about its health impact. It worked and by the end Xand rejected all those foods he'd previously adored, including his beloved Chinese dumplings. The experiment had an aversion effect, just as Chris had hoped. But something else happened during the experiment, Chris also had a conversion experience. A podcast about food addiction transformed into a podcast about the twins' relationship and how best to help someone you love. In this episode, the twins reflect on their conversion experiences – are they eating better and more importantly, are they getting on better? Chris speaks to obesity expert Professor Rachel Batterham who tells him how the scientific discourse about UPF has developed since the end of series 1. And the twins go to see philosopher Barry Smith whose professional life has been affected by the twins' experiment and he tells them why he's now refusing to work with major food companies as a sensory consultant. When Xand pops round for tea one evening, Chris's five-year-old daughter shares some home truths about her dad and uncle's relationship and it prompts the twins to consider what else they need to improve in their lives. Presented by Drs Chris and Xand Van Tulleken Production team: Alexandra Quinn, Jo Rowntree, Hester Cant, Dan King and Maia Miller-Lewis A Loftus Media and van Tulleken Brothers Ltd production for BBC Radio 4. With thanks to Voltage TV for use of their archive.

Welcome back to Honey & Co: The Food Talks with Sarit Packer and Itamar Srulovich It's been a year. And what a year. We're back with a revival of the podcast, starting with a MIX TAPE for you. If you're of a certain age you'll know all about mix tapes, an expression of love in compilation form. So from us to you, this is our mix tape for you, featuring our best, tastiest, crispiest, sweetest bits so far from all our previous episodes.  If you're new to the podcast this is an excellent place to start. Featuring Claudia Roden, Michael Rakowitz, Samin Nosrat, Fernando Laposse, Max Halley, Olia Hercules, Andi Oliver and our very own Bridget Fojcik.  If you like what you hear you should definitely delve back further into previous episodes, and look out for our new series coming, which is all about our new book Chasing Smoke. --- Follow us on instagram @honeyandco Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to hear about new events  Visit our website --- With thanks to: Miranda Hinkley our producer Richard Ward for additional production John Scott our sound engineer  Hester Cant who produced some of these episodes Louisa Cornford our comms manager And Daniel Winshall for our new theme music  

In Part 4, our final episode in the Towpath series, we learn what makes Lori and Laura's partnership work, and what it's been like to grow a business together for the last eleven years. Having started Towpath from scratch – with no business plan and no prior experience running their own place – Lori and Laura have had their fair share of adventures, changes and road bumps along the way. Through it all, they have found joy in lessons learned, and relish the community of people that have become part of the Towpath family. One of their dearest regulars is Turner Prize-nominated artist Enrico David, who speaks to Lori about his first grilled cheese sandwich, what attracted him to Towpath, and how he's had to step in on many a busy weekend morning to save the day! Find out more about Enrico David's work here. Pick up their new book Towpath: Recipes & Stories from Bookshop.org or your favourite bookstore. Follow Lori De Mori on insta @towpathlolo and Laura Jackson @towpath_laurajackson. The producer is Hester Cant.

In Part Three Lori and Laura delve into what a season at Towpath looks like, from their opening day in March where everyone bundles up to survive the cold, onto the first warm weekend of spring when customers flock to Towpath to enjoy the long-forgotten sunshine, to the final days in November, where fireworks, dancing and festivities mark the end of the season. Laura is also joined by chef and food writer Olia Hercules to discuss their favourite dishes and the secrets behind some of Towpath's best recipes, including confit garlic and goat's curd, beetroot borani, crispy lamb with hummus, braised cuttlefish and more. They're also joined by the talented photographer Joe Woodhouse, who documented Towpath over the last ten years for their recent book Towpath: Recipes & Stories, alongside photographer Scott MacSween. Pick up their new book Towpath: Recipes & Stories from Bookshop.org or your favourite bookstore. Follow Lori De Mori on insta @towpathlolo and Laura Jackson @towpath_laurajackson. You can find Olia Hercules on insta @oliahercules and Joe Woodhouse @table_top_joe. The producer is Hester Cant.

In Part 2 we hear from Lori and Laura about the beginnings of Towpath, from discovering three kiosks for sale on Regent's Canal to the many lessons learned in those early days of running a new restaurant with no on-site kitchen and no indoor seating. Lori also sits down with the talented wildlife cinematographer Sophie Darlington (who films for the likes of David Attenborough for BBC, Netflix, NatGeo, etc) and is a dear friend and regular of Towpath. Lori and Sophie discuss their careers, how their work has some surprising similarities and why Sophie rushes over to Towpath as soon as she gets back from a work trip, hungry for conversation, friends and Laura's wholesome food. Pick up their new book Towpath: Recipes & Stories directly from Towpath Café, or from Bookshop.org or your favourite bookstore. Follow Lori De Mori on insta @towpathlolo and Laura Jackson @towpath_laurajackson. Sophie Darlington can be found on Insta @sophie_d_wildlife The Producer is Hester Cant

Welcome to Towpath – a restaurant made up of four little kiosks along Regent's Canal in East London. Inspired by their recent cookbook Towpath: Recipes & Stories, founders Lori de Mori and Laura Jackson bring together the voices of Towpath’s dearest friends, loyal regulars, and the team behind the scenes, as well as the sounds of the bustling canal surrounding them. Part 1 delves into how Lori and Laura started their careers in food, and where their inspiration for Towpath began. Laura sits down with chef and food writer Rosie Sykes, who's had a huge influence on the Towpath kitchen, and is the source of some classic Towpath dishes such as their Bacon and Egg Pie with Rhubarb Ketchup. Laura and Rosie look at what the challenges and joys are of working in the Towpath kitchen, and how the food and menu has changed over time. Pick up their new book Towpath: Recipes & Stories directly from Towpath Café, or from Bookshop.org or your favourite bookstore. Follow Lori De Mori on insta @towpathlolo and Laura Jackson @towpath_laurajackson. Rosie Sykes can be found on Insta @Rosiebluebell A huge thanks to Hester Cant for producing this podcast.

A new podcast from London's iconic Towpath Café, capturing the ebb and flow of community, food, and the seasons. A lot has changed since Towpath first rolled up its shutters 10 years ago on the Regent’s Canal in London and everything but the toasted cheese sandwich was cooked from home across the bridge. And a lot hasn’t. With only outdoor seating, no phone or takeaway, and where electronic devices are frowned upon, Towpath is still one of the few places in London where time stands still. Inspired by their recent cookbook Towpath: Recipes & Stories, founders Lori de Mori and Laura Jackson bring together the voices of Towpath’s dearest friends, loyal regulars, and the team behind the scenes, as well as the sounds of the bustling canal surrounding them. Lori and Laura discuss the evolution of their food, and the influences on Towpath’s classic dishes with celebrated chefs like Olia Hercules and Rosie Sykes. They also delve into the importance of community and their commitment to fostering a warm and intimate space, where people can get to know one another. As Kiera Knightly writes, 'Towpath is one of the reasons I live in London. It s a jewel-like, dream of a place. Somewhere to sit and watch the world go by. It's the perfect mix of strength and fragility. A treat for each one of the senses.' Subscribe and look out for the first episode arriving in your feed soon. Although Towpath has had to close due to government restrictions they will be opening again shortly. Check their opening times at Towpathlondon.com. Pick up their new book Towpath: Recipes & Stories directly from Towpath Café, or from Bookshop.org or your favourite bookstore. Follow Lori De Mori on insta @towpathlolo and Laura Jackson @towpath_laurajackson. Find out more about Chelsea Green Publishing visit: www.chelseagreen.com. A huge thanks to Hester Cant for producing this podcast.

This episode is all about audio. “The idea that you can have something completely conjured by just closing your eyes is really special," Hester Cant told me as we talked about why she chose her career path. Hester and I talk about the intersection of food, culture and audio storytelling, and how what you wanted to do when you were 12 years old says a lot about what you should be doing with your life. I also talk with my brother an incredibly talented & successful professional musician, who just happens to be my brother Brian. (He's also the composer of the theme song for this podcast!) Brian shares his experiences as a professional musician, from how he first cast his net in the industry and how he flexes his creative freedom on the bass. Brian is @funkybq on Insta -- he's also on FB Hester is @hestercant on Insta and check out some of the shows she works on: BBC's The Kitchen Cabinet, Honey & Co. podcast and some episodes on Radio Cherry Bombe. And in celebration of a dozen episodes of the pod, I made an Instagram account for it! Follow @keepitquirkypodcast for updates, new episodes, and also favorite quotes from each episode. Thanks for listening!!

Tom Holland and his guests showcase the stories that are making history. Helen Castor heads for Wales and new scientific research telling us much more about what the Romans ate and how far away they had to source their food to feed their armies. Helen's in Newport, not far from Caerleon which was one of only three permanent fortresses in Roman Britain. Here, archaeologists and scientists from Cardiff University are using dental palaeopathology to discover where the animals that were slaughtered for their meat came from. The results suggest that so-called supply chains were as long and involved as they are today. Also, we cross the Bristol Channel for more food history as reporter Hester Cant tastes the city's vibrant street food culture and discovers just how long its been established in the UK. Producer: Nick Patrick A Pier production for BBC Radio 4.

Helen Castor is in the chair for this edition of the long-running history magazine programme. Today, she's joined by the historian of Victorian sex, suffrage and entertainment, Dr Fern Riddell - along with an expert on Victorian and Edwardian humour, Dr Bob Nicholson of Edge Hill University in Lancashire. Making History reporter Hester Cant braves the streets of north London with Fern Riddell to dig into the nasty past of acid attacks on the capital's streets, and a nineteenth century scare that became actor murdering mania. Iszi Lawrence takes to the jiu jitsu mat with historian Naomi Paxton to discover how and why the suffragettes embraced this martial art. Tom Holland has a tale that's hot off the historical presses. And the Cornwall village of Linkinhorne comes under the spotlight when it enters the jeux sans frontières of history competitions, Top Town History. Producer: Nick Patrick A Pier production for BBC Radio 4.

Maxine Thompson does, that’s for sure. The London-based, Australian-born chef and former fashion executive couldn’t find work pants that were appropriate for women so she created her own. Polka Pants have now become a cult favorite among women in restaurants, kitchens, and beyond and Maxine shares her story, spots and all. Amanda Frederickson, meanwhile, tells how she changed careers, went to culinary school, and wound up in the Williams Sonoma test kitchen. Today, she creates videos and recipes to help home cooks sharpen their skills and expand their repertoires. This episode is presented by Le Cordon Bleu and La Brea Bakery. Radio Cherry Bombe is powered by Simplecast

Ukrainian cook Olia Hercules isn’t related to the Roman god, but she’s clearly strong. After the financial crisis of 2008, Olia quit her reporting job in the UK to pursue her dream of cooking for a living. She trained at the renowned Leiths School of Food and Wine, and went on to work for chefs including Yotam Ottolenghi. Her first book Mamushka celebrates her family recipes, from Ukraine and Moldova to Azerbaijan and Uzbekistan. British Bombesquad correspondent Hester Cant interviews Olia about her second cookbook, Kaukasis: A Culinary Journey Through Georgia, Azerbaijan & Beyond. She tells us about joys of Ukrainian watermelons, working as a chef until two weeks before giving birth, and what the term “Motherman” means. Radio Cherry Bombe is powered by Simplecast

Cara Parks and Nathan Thornburgh join us in the studio to talk about their work at Roads & Kingdoms, the independent online journal of food, politics, travel, and culture. Cara is the executive editor of Roads & Kingdoms and previously the executive editor of Modern Farmer magazine and deputy managing editor of Foreign Policy magazine. Nathan spent much of the last decade working at TIME as foreign correspondent and editor before founding Roads & Kingdoms with Matt Goulding. We later hop aboard a floating food forest with our British Bombesquad correspondent, Hester Cant, who interviewed Lindsey Grothkopp and Marisa Prefer of Swale. Swale floats from pier-to-pier in New York City, offering educational programming and welcoming visitors to harvest herbs, fruits and vegetables for free. Radio Cherry Bombe is powered by Simplecast

Zoe Adjonyoh is a fearless force on the British food scene and has hosted supper clubs, served up street food, and even opened a restaurant in a shipping container, all in the name of promoting Ghanaian cuisine. Born to a Ghanaian father and Irish mother, the writer and cook from South-East London deepened her understanding of West African cuisine after a trip to visit her extended family in Ghana. Today she runs Zoe’s Ghana Kitchen, located at Pop Brixton in London, and recently published her first cookbook. Tune in to learn more about the food of Ghana and Zoe’s journey as she talks with Hester Cant, Radio Cherry Bombe’s U.K. correspondent. Radio Cherry Bombe is powered by Simplecast

On this week’s Radio Cherry Bombe, host Kerry Diamond talks with Kristen Beddard, author of Bonjour Kale. When Kristen moved to Paris with her husband, she couldn’t find kale or “chou kale” for sale anywhere. Bonjour Kale is a memoir of how Kristen began “The Kale Project” to bring her beloved vegetable back to the country of croissants and cheese. Also on the show, our British #BombeSquad correspondent, Hester Cant, speaks to one of the stars of The Great British Bake Off, Martha Collison. Martha was the youngest ever contestant at age 17 and made it all the way to the quarter finals. Hester talks to her about success since the show, her new book, and using baking to empower women around the world.

Elettra Wiedemann's had quite the life. She's modeled for the likes of Vogue magazine, earned a master's degree from the London School of Economics, and worked as the food editor of Refinery29. Elettra joins host Kerry Diamond to discuss her latest achievement–Impatient Foodie: 100 Delicious Recipes for a Hectic, Time-Starved World–a fun, lively cookbook for those who want to eat well and not spend all day in the kitchen. Listen in for a lively conversation about food, fashion, and life. And why Elettra hates bananas.

This week we’re joined by the fascinating Kristen Schnepp of the Gringa Dairy in Peckham, London. Kristen left a corporate banking life, to follow her passion and make Mexican cheese. The Gringa Dairy started in April 2013 and she’s never looked back! Kristen is interviewed by our own Elizabeth Hallet about how she made a drastic career change, what it’s like to work under a railway arch and much more. Visit the Gringa Dairy website to find out more: http://gringadairy.com/ Produced by Hester Cant with recording assistance from Hannah-Phoebe Bowen.

Hester Cant from Smoke Radio picks her 'Champion Sound'. Listen live, Thursdays 6pm-7pm on Smoke Radio: http://smokeradio.co.uk/listen/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andybackhouseofficial AudioBoom: https://audioboom.com/AndyBackhouseDJ Twitter: @smoke_radio @andybackhouse This show was produced by Andy Backhouse and Folded Wing, in association with the British Council and the Student Radio Association. This radio show is an SRA-affiliated version of The Selector and NOT the official Selector for The British Council show. To listen to The Selector for The British Council, presented by Goldierocks, please go to http://selector-radio.com