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I hope you enjoy my short reflection on the conversation I had with my guest KJ Dell'Antonia, who is known to many from her time as editor of the New York Times “The Motherlode” blog, which later became part of their Well Family section. KJ also started her own podcast, and she's the author of several incredibly popular books, How to Be a Happier Parent, In Her Boots, and the New York Times best seller, The Chicken Sisters. Listen to the full-length episode on your favorite podcast app or watch the full-length episode on YouTube.
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Episode S2E13: Show Notes.Naturopathic medicine, holistic medicine, and functional medicine are all different terms for the same holistic approach to healing the body. Looking at the body as a complete system can change your approach to health and wellness, enabling you to unravel your body's complex systems, get to the root cause of imbalances and support the body's optimal functioning. Today's guest, Swathi Rao, is a functional medicine practitioner who believes in the pillars of eat well, sleep well, move well and poop well to be well. We begin our conversation with Swathi by asking her what lead her to functional medicine after making her start in traditional healthcare, and what it means to her. She tells us about her underlying philosophy for health and touches on what eating well looks like in functional medicine. We talk about the role of healthy movement and why it is so important to get enough sleep every night. Swathi explains the role of the microbiome, the gut-brain connection and the cuddle factor. She tells us where to start to address gut issues and we explore food sensitivities and what causes them. Next, we dive into inflammation, leaky gut and the role of gluten, mindful eating and practicing gratitude towards yourself. We dive into the role of supplements versus medication and where each is appropriate and Swathi shares a bit about her most rewarding work. We hope you join us for a wealth of wisdom on functional medicine and holistic health today. Key Points From This Episode: • What lead Swathi to functional medicine from her time in traditional healthcare.• Why eat well, sleep well, poop well, live well have become the defining factors of how Swathi practices medicine.• What eating well looks like in functional medicine.• Why children need 10 to 12 hours of sleep per night and adults need a full 8.• Enriching the microbiome as the foundation of wellness.• The gut-brain connection and the cuddle factor.• Where to start to address gut issues: adopt a paleo diet.• Food sensitivities and what causes them.• Inflammation, leaky gut and the role of gluten and mindful eating.• The importance of practicing gratitude for yourself and your contribution to the world.• How functional medicine has changed throughout the global pandemic and what has been revealed.• The role of supplements versus medication.• The hardest cases that Swathi deals with and the most rewarding. • The problem of inflammation.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Be Well Family Careifm.orgMom, Slow Down!The Zen Mommy on InstagramThe Zen MommyTMAC Fitness. 20 Minute Home Workouts Beginner and Advanced Workouts. No equipment. Each Workout Ends with a Meditation. BrandSupport the show
In this episode, Brenda Brown and Karen Thrall continue their conversation about the six most common family dynamics; as well as the strengths and weaknesses of these different family types. In part 2, they talk about the final three: childless family, stepfamily and grandparent family. The article that inspired this conversation can be read here:https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/family/there-are-6-different-family-types-and-each-one-has-a-unique-family-dynamic/
In this episode, Brenda Brown and Karen Thrall talk about the six most common family dynamics and the strengths and weaknesses of these different family types. In part 1, they talk about the first three: nuclear, single and extended. How would you describe your upbringing? The article that inspired this conversation can be read here.
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The gang is all here, and boy are they drunk. Bridget Horan, Thad McKee, and Jake Johnson. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/dyke-michaels/support
In this episode, we talk to two of the three co-hosts of the #amwriting podcast. (We are huge fans of that podcast, in case you haven't noticed.) We talk with them about the benefits of having a friendship that is just about writing, about the incredible gift of being able to be open with close friends, and about the relief of finding someone to take writing seriously with. KJ Dell'Antonia wrote and edited the Motherlode blog for the New York Times from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. She is also the author of the author of How to Be a Happier Parent and the forthcoming novel The Chicken Sisters, which will be released June 30th 2020. (KJ was a guest on Marginally in Episode 40.) Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, will be released in April 2021. (Jess was a guest in Episode 36 as well.) *** As always, we'd love for you to take a minute to rate and review us in your podcast app, as this helps other listeners find the show. Find us on Instagram @marginallypodcast. Meghan's occasionally on Twitter @meghanembee, and Olivia’s @roamingolivia Theme music is "It's Time" by Scaricá Ricascá. Have a question you'd like us to try to answer, or a topic you'd love to have us cover? Interested in being a guest? Contact us here. Thanks for listening, and get to work! If you like Marginally, you should check out #amwriting, with Jess and KJ, where two much more experienced writers talk through their processes with each other and celebrated guests.
Speaker: Vince MedranoAs a community of faith we aspire to follow, love and serve. It’s a vision grounded in the Gospel narratives. In all four Gospel accounts Jesus invites people to follow Him, to love God and people, and to live as servants of all. It’s Family Sunday and we’ll be focusing on Serving WellToday’s Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 4:5-7
Want to be a happier parent? Luckily I had a chance to talk to KJ Dell’Antonia about her book, “How To Be A Happier Parent”. I’d really like to be a happier parent, wouldn’t we all? I was so grateful for KJ’s insights and advice. “KJ Dell’Antonia is a writer and a regular contributor to the New York Times, where she wrote and edited the Motherlode blog from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. Continue reading Episode #199 – KJ Dell’Antonia on the site.
Dr. Alexandra Sacks M.D. is a reproductive psychiatrist whose matrescence TED Talk has gone viral. Her coauthored book, What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood can be preordered now, with a due date for April 2019. The Birth of a Mother article by Dr. Sacks was the number one most read piece of 2017 for the “Well Family” section of the New York Times. Episode highlights: Dr. Sacks noticed a pattern where women who thought they had postnatal depression didn't meet the clinical diagnostic criteria, yet they were not feeling well. Dr. Sacks explained that what they were describing was the natural transition to motherhood – sleep deprivation – hormonal shifting, social structures – the changed relationship with their – financial change – professional change after a maternity leave – changes in body/minds. Dana Raphael coined the term matrescence which encompasses all of these things. The transition to motherhood includes a physical, mind and social change. Prefix maternity – mother – sounds like adolescence – not coincidence – the analogy is apt. Women when told about it experienced tremendous relief in Dr. Sacks’ practice. Once they were told it was normal they did not feel as concerned or alone as they realised others mothers were feeling this too. Antidepressants are the most common form of medication for women of reproductive age. Why now for the attention on matrescence? Within medical community doctors treat disease. Not much discussion over what it feels like to be a healthy human – even if uncomfortable. Need to have more of a discussion around this. Not enough discussion on natural prevention and wellness. Binary between postpartum depression or sailing through – grey area transition in between is not talked about – it may be good AND bad – doesn't have to be one or the other. It is easier for the mind to compartmentalise – good mother and bad mother but human experiences are much more in the grey rather than binary. The push and pull of motherhood - feeling ambivalent. The need to take care of your own needs as a mother. When we cut out activities that bring us pleasure we are setting ourselves up for depression – our nervous system needs to experience JOY in order to stay healthy and integrated to tolerate stress – to stay hopeful in times of stress. The difficulty in preserving your own identify as a mother. Mother guilt – something Dr. Sacks talks about everyday. Consequence of push and pull – wish you could be unconditionally giving – society tells us that we should. Children are designed to live in the natural world – not designed to live in a world where all their needs are catered for forever and ever. To mother a healthy child we need to tolerate them having their own independence – this is much more facilitated if you can hold onto your own independence – not healthy for the mother, or the child, for the mother to give up all of her own identity. Self care is not optional – it is not for us to judge if selfish or self preserving – it is not optional. Dr. Sacks noted mothers are human beings not robots. The perfect motherhood is not available to us – we can only strive for “good enough”. Donald Winnicott coined the phrase good-enough mother – human beings are not perfect and we don't have perfect relationships - we have flawed relationships – that is all we need to build a satisfying life. Our children don't need us to be perfect – it is not a good model. The benefits of preparing for postpartum in pregnancy. The social isolation which comes with postpartum body issues. Alison talks about her uterine prolapse and the need to open the conversation around these issues so mothers do not feel alone. matrescence can be different each time you have a new baby whether that be the second or third child as you have never had a baby and an older child before. The power of emotional connection by telling you story - psychotherapy has demonstrated brain changes in neural imaging - central to human experience and opens up conversations where we learn things about other people. Physical injuries - athletes aren’t afraid to talk about shoulder that doesn’t work but women become embarrassed to talk about health issues associated with birth - haemorrhoids, prolapse etc - sense of shame about their bodies. Virgina Monologues started because of an embarrassment of using the word Vagina. Labour and delivery is a marathon just like being an athlete. We need to normalise the language which is used around birth. So women feel less stigma and shame. The benefit of mothers sharing their stories - the reason behind the #motherhoodunfiltered movement which Dr. Sacks started on social media. You can find Dr. Sacks on social media: @AlexandraSacksMD @Alexandra_Sacks @AlexandraSacksMD You can contact Alison here or follow her on Instagram www.instagram.com/alison_barker_ and find details of her nutrition packages at www.alisonbarker.com/work-with-me-3 Please also join the Facebook group Mothering the Mother where we continue the conversation.
“Our kids don't need the burden of our happiness on top of theirs.”KJ Dell'AntoniaAs every parent will attest, it's so easy to sublimate one’s self care for the interest of a child’s needs – it’s basically programmed into our DNA.Intellectually we understand you can’t truly take care of another unless you attend to your own well-being first. But this idea runs counter to every parental instinct, making it very difficult to practice this important principle. It feels selfish. But our selfless intentions, albeit good, can lead us astray. Not only do they undermine our well-being, they're not in our kids' interest either — because an unhappy parent does not a happy child make.This is a solid solid life lesson, whether you have children or not.So let's talk about it. While the vast majority of parenting advice focuses on raising happy children, today's conversation flips the lens to concentrate on the radical, almost verboten subject of how to be a happier parent.To walk us through this hornet's nest is KJ Dell’Antonia, a former New York Times reporter who wrote and edited the Motherlode blog from 2011-2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017.In addition, KJ co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with parenting expert Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure* (and former amazing podcast guest) and recently authored the new, aptly titled book How To Be A Happier Parent*, a delightfully instructive, solution-packed, and research-backed primer aimed at helping parents find more happiness and joy in their day to day lives.This is a very fun conversation loaded with practical advice and easy-to-implement take-aways for the parents among us. But even if you don't have children, there is plenty of wisdom here to mine. The principles discussed are applicable to all, irrespective of your child-rearing status.Because more than anything, this is a discourse on a crucial aspect of happiness we all share: self-care.Specific topics covered include how we can all do more by doing less (something I really need to work on).We discuss the problem spots that cause parents the most grief, with very small and doable steps to create a family life that serves as a pleasurable refuge rather than another stress point.We talk about the importance of promoting self-sovereignty in ourselves and our children so they mature into happy, independent self-regulators.And it’s a conversation about what family is really all about: not just churning out great kids on a success trajectory, but joy.It was a joy spending time with KJ. My hope is that you feel the same and leave this conversation with ample fuel to better the quality of your life and family.For the visually inclined you can watch it all go down here: bit.ly/richandkjPeace + Plants,Portraits by Reece RobinsonListen, Watch & Subscribe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
This week’s episode features an in-depth conversation with writer and podcaster KJ Dell’Antonia. We discuss her incredible new book HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT, the anxiety she felt leaving her editorial position at The New York Times and becoming a freelancer, some tips on dealing with anxious children, and how happier parents lead to happier children. *Support this Podcast* KJ Dell'Antonia is a writer and a regular contributor to The New York Times, where she wrote and edited the Motherlode blog from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. Prior to this, she was one of Slate's XX Factor bloggers and a contributor to Slate, where she covered parenting and a broad range of subjects, from legal issues to pop culture. She is also the co-host of the popular #AmWriting podcast. KJ lives in Lyme, New Hampshire, with her husband and four children. Her latest book is called How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute, and is in stores everywhere on August 21. To grab the audiobook for free (and a 30-day free trial of the Audible service), head over to www.anxietydiariespodcast.com/audible. You can find KJ at www.kjdellantonia.com or at www.howtobeahappierparent.com and follow her on Twitter @kjdellantonia and Instagram @kjda. You can also find her on Facebook right here. You can find the #AmWriting podcast on any of your preferred podcast platforms. Full show notes can be found at: www.anxietydiariespodcast.com/23 The New York Times story that I wrote in 2015 (which KJ edited) is called “I Told the World We’d Raise an Only Child. I Was Wrong.” You can find it here. Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the podcast, please make sure you subscribe and take a moment to rate and review it on Apple Podcasts! You can find the podcast at www.anxietydiariespodcast.com or at imsoanxious.com, on Facebook and Instagram @anxietydiariespodcast and on Twitter @anxietydiarypod.
In Episode 50, I chat with K.J. Dell'Antonia, author of How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. From KJ's website: I believe each of us is responsible for our own happiness. I believe happier parents are better parents and better people. I believe family should be a source of joy and refuge, not another stressor in a busy life. I believe we can be happy even when things aren’t great. We can raise our families, live our lives, and love (almost) every minute of it — if we let go of the idea of parenting as a direct route to a destination: success, and decide to meander along our own merry way. This former New York Times reporter is taking on the rug rat race — join me! I wrote and edited the Motherlode blog for the Times from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. Ten minutes in my kitchen would convince you that, while some parts of my family life are enviably together (the Rice Krispie treats on the counter, the meal in the slow cooker) others are works in progress (the child on the floor, wailing that the homework is “too hard”). “How to Be a Happier Parent” is not a memoir (far from it!). Instead, my research, interviews, and reporting are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. I was fortunate to meet KJ at the Mom 2.0 Conference, read an advanced copy of her book, and interview her for the podcast! To determine what her chapters would be about, K.J. asked parents, "What sucks most?" about parenting. Chores and discipline rose to the top of the list, and those are two of the many topics we discuss in this episode. Order How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute! How to be a Happier Parent description An encouraging guide to helping parents find more happiness in their day-to-day family life, from the former lead editor of the New York Times Motherlode blog. In all the writing and reporting KJ Dell'Antonia has done on families over the years, one topic keeps coming up again and again: parents crave a greater sense of happiness in their daily lives. In this optimistic, solution-packed book, KJ asks: How can we change our family life so that it is full of the joy we'd always hoped for? Drawing from the latest research and interviews with families, KJ discovers that it's possible to do more by doing less and make our family life a refuge and pleasure, rather than another stress point on a hectic day. She focuses on nine common problem spots that cause parents the most grief, explores why they are hard, and offers small, doable, sometimes surprising steps you can take to make them better. Whether it's getting everyone out the door on time in the morning or making sure chores and homework get done without another battle, How to Be a Happier Parent shows that having a family isn't just about raising great kids and churning them out at destination: success. It's about experiencing joy--real joy, the kind you look back on, look forward to and live for--along the way. Resources/Related K.J.'s Website Follow K.J. Ignore It by Catherine Pearlman (mentioned in this episode) Raising Happiness with Christine Carter
“If parents back off the pressure and anxiety over grades and achievement and focus on the bigger picture—a love of learning and independent inquiry—grades will improve and test scores will go up.“Jessica LaheyWe all want what's best for our kids.So we roll up our sleeves and insert ourselves in their education, pitching in on homework and managing school projects. We stimulate them with an endless revolving door of activities. We do what we can to foster good grades, college application-worthy experiences and self-esteem. Along the way, we celebrate victories as if they were our own. And swoop in to protect when things go south.The instinct is laudable: set up our children for success, by any means necessary.But what if we have it all wrong? What if all this hyper-competitive, overly-protective micro-management is doing more harm than good?As a parent of young girls, I desperately want to do everything I can to serve their long-term interests. To learn more, I sat down with educator, writer and speaker Jessica Lahey (@jesslahey). A graduate of the University of Massachusetts with a J.D. concentrating on juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law, Jessica is an an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the “Parent-Teacher Conference” column for the New York Times.She is also the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed* (highly recommend for parents) and if that's not enough, she also explores writing and creativity on #AmWriting, a podcast she co-hosts with KJ Dell'Antonia, a columnist and contributing editor for the New York Times' Well Family.Specific topics discussed include:* the critical difference between grades and learning* differentiating between confidence vs. competence* the perils of “fixed mindsets”* the nature of what motivates true learning* the negative implications of over-parenting, rescuing, enmeshment & hovering; and* effective strategies to cultivate your child's long-term interests* ultimately its about how to best parent your child to maximize their learning and set them up for long term success.If you are a parent, this episode is a must listen. If you don't have kids, you will nonetheless find Jessica's powerful insights on the psychology of motivation and the mechanisms that promote learning absolutely invaluable and applicable to each and every one of us.I sincerely hope you enjoy the exchange.Peace + Plants,Listen & Subscribe on iTunes | Soundcloud | StitcherJoin us for our next retreat in Italy, May 20-27 — for info visit: plantpowerworld.comThanks to this week’s sponsors: See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Today's guest didn't set out to be a writer. But after getting her law degree and being a practicing attorney for six years, she made a discovery: law just wasn't her thing; instead, she found, she was a writer. In the spirit of finding stuff out through writing, KJ Dell'Antonia began freelancing about motherhood; she's written for Slate magazine, Parenting magazine, Parents magazine, and many others. She is now a contributing editor and columnist on the Well Family page at the New York Times, and currently on book leave to write – what else? – a book that's going to help us be happier in our parenting. KJ shares where her research for this as-yet-unnamed parenting book is taking her, and you're going to be thrilled because she's investigating all the problems that you are most likely currently living with! To find out how to handle getting your kids to do more around the house, how to help with homework, and how to be a part of KJ's chores project (i.e.: getting your kids to do more chores) click weturnedoutokay.com/140!
K.J. Dell'Antonia is a columnist and contributing editor for The New York Times' Well Family page, a contributor to the Sunday Review and co-host of the #AmWriting podcast. Currently on book leave, K.J. joins Lee to talk about how she ended up at The New York Times, why it's important to take a professional approach to a creative career, and shares her insight into how to pitch a story in an effective way.
Well Family you all know we are in for a great treat tonight because my mentor, Greg Davis is back with me for a second time on the air and sharing the mic tonight on this broadcast of In Life Now Radio. For those of you who don't know who he is Bishop Greg Davis is a world reknown recognized Radio & Television Personality. Bishop Davis has successfully endured being in this industry for 25+ years and on this episode of In Life Now Radio he is going to be candidly sharing about what "endurance" really means as we build and brand ourselves. He has also redefined himself through living a healthier lifestyle and has lossed well over 100 pounds! "How I Did It" which is the name of his newest book was given life out of this moment.
Well Family hold on to your seats tonight on this live broadcast of In Life Now with Coach TMB because we will be graced to hear from the "soul" R&B singer himself, Mr. Antoine Dunn! Of his music, Antoine States, "Music isn't what I do, it's who I am. I feel it is my professionalism, my uniqueness and commitment to my music that makes me stand-alone. Coming out of a city saturated with rap, I am moved to bring passion and authenticity back to music. I want to make music that all people can be proud of. As for me, my debut single 'Can't Forget' says it all: I can'tkeep waiting for dreams to come true. Give me a chance and I'll take the world by storm-just wait and see." And he is. http://www.iamantoinedunn.com
Well Family! I need all of you to get ready for an inspiring time tonight with our special guest all the way from Atlanta, Georgia in the form of the phenomenal, Mr. Keith L. Brown who has been coined with the title that describes him as, "the motivator of the milennium!" This show is tailor made for everyone who has been labled with he/she can't... or he/she will never... And the biggest one is he/she has... I am excited tonight to have this opportunity to speak with Mr. Brown because he is someone who received labeling from his childhood and through it all with his determination and persistance overcame every label that people and the doctors tried to pronounce him to be. “not impossible- I’M POSSIBLE! The messenger is here. The time has come!!! Early in life, Keith L. Brown, “Motivator of the Millennium,” was identified as a “Special Ed” and “At Risk” student primarily because he talked too much, was too hyper, and wanted to give “all the answers;” ironically, these are a few of the same traits that make him one of the most sought after Professional Speakers, Consultants, and Trainers on the planet. Get ready ladies and gentlemen for businessman, speaker, consultant, and educator Mr. Keith L. Brown!!! http://www.keithlbrown.com
Well Family, the coach is up once again and this time she is starting us out in the month of June! She is going to be sharing somewords of wisdom with you on this broadcast of In Life Now Radio. This show is entitled Set Your Stage because Coach TMB has been given a message to share with all of you to help prepare you and to help you lay the foundation of your life as you begin to put all of the pieces together so that you can see the big picture concerning you and the biggest performance of you have ever done. Before you step to the mic for the performance of your life you must Set Your Stage!
Well Family, I need you to hold on to your seats tonight because all the way from Pensacola, Florida In Life Now with Coach TMB has the honor and priviledge to talk up close and personal with Dr. Sequeda Sutton! We are going to be talking about her life, her ministry, and her new book entitled, Prescriptions For Women-A Practical Guide For Letting Go and Living Now. In this debut book Sutton grabs the reader by establishing relationship through truth and genuine concern for the well-being of her readers. With every prescription you will feel yourself getting stronger, and healthier. This book will encourage you to become who you were destined to be through the power of healing, acceptance and release. In “Prescriptions for Women” you will find applicable tools, simple strategies, keeping it real conversations, and easy to swallow prescriptions that will propel you to come out of hiding, and unveil the beauty of who you really are. It’s time to shine. Start reading it and you will soon see what we are saying! I am telling you we are in for a wonderful treat on this episode of In Life Now with Coach TMB and the awesome, Dr. Sequeda Sutton!