MissPerceived

In this episode of Misperceived, Leah gets honest about her late-night doomscrolling habit and why “just checking your phone” leaves so many women wired, anxious, and exhausted the next day. Drawing from her research and her upcoming book Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More, she explains how constant exposure to heavy news and social media pings our mental load to care, to keep our families safe, and to emotionally support others—draining the limited energy we need for work, parenting, and showing up in the world with any sense of power or hope. You'll learn how to see doomscrolling as a mental load leak instead of a moral obligation, what to do in those 2 a.m. wakeups instead, and how to realign your time, feeds, and attention so you can actually rest and still have capacity to take meaningful action on the things you care about.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Misperceived, Leah pulls back the curtain on a powerful mental load category from her forthcoming book, Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More—dream building. She explains how women's dreams get quietly starved as they carry invisible, boundaryless, and enduring thinking work for their families, workplaces, and communities, and why that's a loss for everyone, not just women. Leah digs into why work and caregiving feel impossible to combine, why so many women are stepping out of the labor market, and how ageism and a rapidly changing, AI-driven economy make it so hard to get back in. You'll hear why you cannot personally fix broken systems, why adaptability is now a core future-of-work skill, and how the Mental Load Audit can help you make small, strategic shifts toward the life you actually want—without burning yourself out trying to “do it all.”Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode Prof Leah breaks down why Valentine's Day can feel less like a celebration and more like a mental load marathon for moms, partners, and singles. She talks about the pressure to plan the “perfect” day, the emotional exhaustion of dating apps, and the hidden expectations women carry around romance, gifts, and feeling seen. You'll hear practical reframes for taking the pressure down, spreading love across all 365 days, and turning February 14th into a day of self-nurturing on your own termsFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode, Leah explores how generational messages have taught women to feel shame about their changing bodies—from tight jeans and bodysuits in the 80s and 90s to today's high-waisted shorts and leggings. She reflects on growing up hyperaware of every outline and curve, and how that discomfort still echoes when she sees her own daughter getting dressed. Through personal stories, a feminist lens on choice and self-expression, and a look at how media and beauty culture have policed women's bodies, Leah asks what it means to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and allow girls and women to exist in their bodies without embarrassment. In the end, she celebrates a new generation that seems less interested in shrinking themselves and more interested in living fully, visibly, and unapologetically in the skin they're in.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone is sick right now—and somehow, you still feel bad for needing to lie down. In this episode of Misperceived, Leah unpacks why so many women feel guilty when they get sick, even when their families are fine, fed, and happily living on Hot Pockets and Uncrustables.Drawing on global stories from the U.S., Australia, and Sweden, she breaks down how culture, capitalism, and the lack of a safety net teach us that illness is a personal failure and rest is something we have to earn. She then connects this to the mental load of motherhood: when you're the keeper of everyone's schedules, prescriptions, and needs, being “out of commission” feels dangerous—like everything might fall apart.Leah offers a different script: letting others step in is not neglect, it's necessary. You are one essential piece of your family, not the only one. You deserve rest in your body and your mind without narrating a guilt spiral the whole time. If you've ever felt anxious under the covers instead of actually recovering, this episode is your permission to be sick, be cared for, and stop apologizing for being human.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

January isn't a fresh start if you're already running on fumes from making everyone else's holidays magical. In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah unpacks why so many women swing from December over-giving straight into “new year, new me” overachieving—launching businesses, overhauling their bodies, and rewriting their whole lives before February even hits.​She breaks down the mental load hangover, why perfectionist resolutions backfire, and how to set goals that are actually aligned with your values, your energy, and your real life. You'll hear why you don't need to shrink, hustle, or “upgrade” yourself to deserve rest, and how to enter 2026 from a place of “I'm already enough” instead of “I am the project.”​​If you're tired of vision boards, bingo-card resolutions, and self-improvement that feels like self-punishment, this one's your permission slip to do less, eat carbs, and build a life that expands you instead of drains you.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feeling like you have to declutter the entire house, redesign your space, and fix consumerism itself… all before the tree is even down? This episode breaks down the post-holiday “mental load hangover” and explains why the pressure to create and then undo all the holiday magic is not a personal failing, but part of the eight types of mental load described in Leah's upcoming book, Drained. Leah dives into magic making, gendered expectations around home and mess, and why your cortisol spikes when your space is chaotic, then offers a way to audit your mental load so you can spend your energy more strategically and give yourself some grace this season.​Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did women suddenly lose their ambition—or did the 2025 Lean In & McKinsey “Women in the Workplace” report give everyone the wrong story about what's actually going on? In this episode, Professor Leah takes a blowtorch to the idea of a so‑called “ambition gap,” arguing that the real problem isn't women's drive, it's burnout, mental load, and structural barriers at work and at home. Leah breaks down why women, who now earn more degrees and participate in the workforce at historically high rates, can still look at the next promotion and think “I literally cannot carry one more thing,” while men are socially rewarded for chasing the top job.​You'll learn:How stats about “wanting a promotion” are being misused to claim women are less ambitious than men—and why that's a myth.The role of mental load, caregiving expectations, and workplace bias in draining women's capacity long before ambition ever disappears.Why reframing this as a burnout and structural problem—not a confidence or personality flaw—is key to closing gender gaps in leadership.​If you've ever been told you're “not ambitious enough” while simultaneously doing everything for everyone, this episode is your permission slip to call bullshit—and to start imagining a version of success that doesn't require you to disappear to achieve it. Keywords: women in the workplace, ambition gap, Lean In report, McKinsey, burnout, mental load, working moms, gender bias, promotions, women's careers.​Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is the clutter in your home actually messing with your health—or are you just “too sensitive”? In this episode of Misperceived, Professor Leah Ruppaner breaks down the science on clutter, stress, and the mental load, including a landmark UCLA study showing that women who describe their homes as cluttered and unfinished have elevated cortisol patterns across the day, while men in the same homes don't show the same spike. Leah unpacks why a messy house hits women harder, how invisible labor and constant “noticing” turn piles of stuff into a 24/7 to‑do list, and why you are not the problem for feeling overwhelmed by dishes, laundry, and half‑done projects.​You'll learn:How clutter, disorganization, and “unfinished” spaces are linked to women's cortisol, mood, and long‑term health.Why gendered expectations around housework and presentation of the home make women feel personally judged by the mess, even when everyone lives in it.Practical ways to lower your mental load without turning yourself into the unpaid project manager of everyone else's stuff—plus how to claim one restorative space that's just for you.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah unpacks what really happens when something goes wrong with your kids and the school, coach, or doctor has to pick up the phone: who do they call first, and why is it almost always mom? Drawing on new research from the Quarterly Journal of Economics and her own mental load interviews, Leah breaks down how schools and other institutions default to mothers as the family “911 call center,” even when parents explicitly ask them to call dad instead. She explains how this constant correspondence quietly reshapes women's careers, health, and relationships, and offers practical ways dads, schools, and couples can push back on these norms so the burden is shared more fairly at homeFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do college besties hit different from every other friendship you've had since? In this episode of Misperceived, Prof Leah breaks down what makes university friendships so intense and enduring, weaving in research on brain development, “self‑authorship,” and how women use friendships to test ideas, build identity, and stay sane in a hostile world. She explains why that 3 a.m. pizza‑and‑life‑chat friend often becomes your lifelong go‑to for truth, comfort, and tough love—and why those bonds set an almost impossibly high bar for adult friendships that get squeezed into work, school pick‑ups, and spin class. This episode doubles as a love letter to your uni bestie and an invitation to notice (and nurture) the people who have walked with you through your biggest growth spurts, even if they didn't happen on a beach campus with epic house parties.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When does keeping your kids safe turn into quietly wrecking their chances to grow up? In this episode, Prof Leah unpacks teen dating—covenants, text surveillance, and all—and asks what happens when parents' fear of the future swallows their kids' present. Drawing on her research on the mental load (and her forthcoming book Drained), she connects helicopter parenting, constant digital surveillance, and perfection pressure to teens' isolation, anxiety, and lack of room to fail, urging parents to back off, drop the impossible standards, and let kids be gloriously imperfect humans.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like your day is just one “Are you kidding me?” moment after another? This week, Prof. Leah breaks down why some meetings should be illegal, how flat tires seem to know when you're at your limit, and why venting to your best friend might actually be the healthiest thing you can do after a week of emotional overload . Drawing on new research from the Journal of Adolescent Health, we look at how teens—and adults—really cope with stress, and why texting a trusted friend trumps doomscrolling or actually sitting with your feelings (no judgment if you still want that bath and a glass of wine) .Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of MissPerceived, Leah flips the script on the mental load, shifting focus from mothers to the evolving experience of dads. Drawing from new research and hundreds of interviews across the US and Australia, Leah unpacks how modern fathers are navigating emotional thinking work-what she calls the “mental load logics”-while managing family, work, and parenting standards that have changed almost overnight. From comparing themselves to their own fathers (as anti-models or “good, but I can do better”) to wrestling with gendered expectations in their partnerships, today's dads face a cognitive challenge that's often overlooked. Leah explores the concept of metaparenting, the self-reflective work of deciding who you want to be as a parent in a society with few clear role models for engaged fatherhood. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode, Professor Leah dives into new research revealing why high-powered, high-earning mothers still can't shake their mental load—no matter how much money, help, or flexibility they gain. Discover the difference between core and episodic mental load, why domestic cognitive labor sticks to women regardless of income or status, and how “gender stickiness” explains persistent burnout among mothers. With insights from over 2,000 parents and fresh findings on fatherhood, this episode gives a validating look into why women can outsource chores but not the relentless task of organizing, remembering, and anticipating every detail of family life.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're digging into the real deal behind that “return to work” moment after having a baby. Have you ever wondered if you're supposed to feel overwhelmed, lost, or suddenly less “yourself” as a mother, or if it's just you? Spoiler: it's not just you, and it's not a flaw. On this episode, Leah breaks down what brand new research tells us about why mothers feel double the time pressure (hint: it's not just diapers and sleepless nights), how cutting back work hours really affects mental health, and why all those stories about “doing it all” are misperceived from the get-go.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's get brutally honest about what really happens when you split up after 40. Professor Leah dives into the latest divorce research (with a little side-eye at bad advice and bad exes). Whether you're thinking of leaving or just hanging on by a thread, you'll get clear-eyed advice about dividing up homes and pensions, what happens when “the kids are grown,” and why being practical (and maybe a little ruthless) matters. Expect global stories, a few laughs, and plenty of “don't be scared, be prepared” truth bombs. This episode is for anyone staring down a midlife divorce and wanting the inside scoop on protecting your heart and your future security.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professor Leah breaks down five everyday phrases women use—“I'm sorry for unloading,” “I don't want to step on toes,” “I'm not that smart,” “I'm not sure, but…,” and “I'm so sorry for…”—and exposes the gender myths that fuel them, from needing to be liked to staying small and humble even when right. Together we'll learn why taking up space, speaking with conviction, and sharing imperfect ideas drive innovation, reduce self-doubt, and build more equitable workplaces and relationships. You'll get practical language shifts to help you own your expertise, stop over-apologizing, and lead with confidence. Perfect for women in leadership, early-career professionals, and allies committed to gender equity, future of work conversations, and culture change.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Discover the realities behind the work-life balance choices facing women. Leah tackles myths about workplace flexibility, exploring why so many women are leaving traditional jobs for the gig economy and digital platform work. This episode unpacks the promises—and pitfalls of becoming your own boss, including the realities of algorithm-driven “digital bosses,” blurred personal boundaries, and the relentless mental load many face at home. If you've ever wondered whether freelancing or platform work truly delivers more autonomy, flexibility, and family time, this episode offers research-backed answers and practical insights.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dive into the mental load crisis as Profrssor Leah uncovers how motherhood leads to burnout and impacts women's political engagement. This episode explores why overburdened mothers are tuning out of politics, the persistent gender gap in civic participation, and the unique ways mothers channel energy into causes like gun violence prevention. Discover the real story behind domestic cognitive labor, the consequences for democracy, and why amplifying mothers' voices could change our communities for the better. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we unpack one of the most enduring cultural beliefs: that women are inherently better multitaskers than men. Drawing on research, cognitive science, and the history of gender roles, we examine whether this assumption is rooted in real performance differences or if it's a product of societal expectations and labor divisions. How much of “multitasking ability” is biological, and how much is the result of women being socialized (and often expected) to juggle domestic, professional, and emotional responsibilities simultaneously? We also discuss what this debate reveals about the value we place on different types of work, and whether the very concept of multitasking undermines our understanding of productivity and fairness in modern life.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this brutally honest episode, Leah exposes how all that work-life juggling isn't just making people tired it's rewiring who they are. Pulling from top research and real stories, she shows how juggling kids, deadlines, and never-ending to-do lists transforms us into more anxious, less fun, slightly pricklier humans (especially if you're a mom). Leah doesn't just talk stats; she dishes out real talk, science-backed validation, and gives doctor's orders for carving out sanity, connection, and a sense of self…even when life feels like a 24/7 circus.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How does it affect families (and gender roles) when women out-earn men? In this eye-opening episode of MissPerceived, sociologist and gender equity leader Leah unpacks the latest research on household income dynamics, challenging the persistent breadwinner myth. Discover what happens behind closed doors when women become primary earners, how traditional norms shape family finances from the U.S. to the UAE, and why women's contributions are still too often invisible or discounted.Leah explores the complex emotions, negotiations, and subtle power shifts that arise when gender expectations clash with financial realities.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do hurricanes with women's names really cause more damage? In this thought-provoking episode of MissPerceived, sociologist and gender equity expert Leah Ner dives deep into the origins of hurricane naming and the science behind the headline-grabbing myth that female-named hurricanes are deadlier. Leah explores the gendered history of hurricane naming, revealing how old traditions and modern stereotypes have shaped public perceptions and fueled persistent gender myths.Discover what the data actually shows about hurricane impact since naming conventions changed, and learn how these myths tie into broader issues of women's anger, societal expectations, and intersectionality. Backed by recent research and powerful sociological insight, this episode challenges you to rethink how subtle biases influence our understanding of both storms and gender.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do blondes really have more fun or just fatter paychecks? We dig into new research on the “beauty premium,” focusing on whether women with blonde hair actually earn more. Using fascinating data from a decades-long national survey, Leah explores why women's physical appearance—especially hair color—may shape their income, career prospects, and even who they marry. Is being blonde an economic advantage, or does it feed into harmful stereotypes and workplace discrimination? What does this say about lasting beauty standards, bias, and double standards for women in professional life? Join us as we explore!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Leah unpacks the deeply ingrained social rules around emotion and gender. Why are women expected to smile constantly at school, at work, even on planes? What does it cost them when they do, or don't? Why are men discouraged from expressing sadness but given a free pass to anger? Drawing from new research and decades of gender studies, Leah explores how cultural norms shape when and where women and men are permitted to show their feelings and why violating those norms can impact everything from workplace authority to family dynamics.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The internet's explosive reaction to Sydney Sweeney's headline-grabbing American Eagle jeans ad set social media alight and reignited debates about “pretty privilege” and the supposed “genetic lottery.” As critics dissect the campaign's tagline—“Sydney Sweeney has great jeans”—for its double entendre and uncomfortable brush with eugenics rhetoric, we ask: What happens when beauty standards meet the politics of who counts as ‘desirable'? We explore how conventions of attractiveness continue to drive hiring, career advancement, and salary in 2025, with new data showing significant workplace bias, and how these standards intersect with issues of race and exclusion. Is the celebration of “good genes” a harmless compliment or a window into social hierarchies and the historic discrimination that persist in modern institutions?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful episode of Misperceived, Leah sits down with Ellie Angell, a trans woman who shares her raw, personal journey toward living as her true self. Diving into gender identity, Ellie discusses the emotional realities of transitioning—gains, losses, and the courage it takes to confront deeply rooted misperceptions. Through heartfelt conversation, Leah and Ellie expose the impact of societal myths on the trans community and challenge listeners to rethink what it means to truly be authentic.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ner tackles the fraught label of “women's work”—and what really happens when men step into these traditionally gendered roles. Leah pulls apart the stubborn myths about who should do what in our homes, communities, and institutions, drawing on her decades of research and candid conversations.You'll hear:• How the phrase “women's work” shapes our assumptions about care, trust, and responsibility—even when men are just as involved.• Why men who take on domestic, emotional, or supportive roles often face stigma, skepticism, or even suspicion.• The hidden harms of closing off these roles to men, including what's overlooked, undervalued, or outright ignored—sometimes with heartbreaking consequences.• What it really takes to untangle deeply held beliefs and build a culture where everyone's contributions are recognized, no matter their gender.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Leah dives into the social construct of breastfeeding and the overwhelming guilt often placed on mothers. Drawing from research and lived experiences, Leh explores how cultural expectations, medical advice, and shifting family structures have created an impossible standard for mothers—one that demands exclusive breastfeeding as proof of being a “good” parent.Leah challenges the narrative that mothers must navigate these pressures alone, highlighting the historical context of communal caregiving and the modern isolation of the nuclear family. She discusses the emotional toll of breastfeeding distress, the pain of inauthenticity, and the disproportionate impact on women from different socioeconomic backgrounds.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder why you're freezing in your office while your male coworkers seem perfectly comfortable? Turns out, the temperature war isn't just personal—it's deeply gendered.In this episode, Professor Leah puts her sociology and gender equity expertise to work: breaking down the science, history, and sexist assumptions behind workplace temperature settings. From menopause and pregnancy - to outdated 1970s standards based on men in business suits, Leah explores how the "ideal office climate" has been built to suit male bodies—leaving women literally out in the cold.Learn how this invisible bias affects women's health, confidence, and productivityFollow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's behind the trending TikTok “tradwife” and 1950s housewife nostalgia? Leah unpacks the myths and realities of traditional homemaking—examining why so many yearn for a past that was far from idyllic for most women. Discover the historical roots of domesticity, the limited rights and resources women actually had, and why today's push for “going back” ignores the progress we've made for gender equity. Leah explores the risks of romanticizing the past, the importance of choice, and how societal constraints still shape women's decisions today. Whether you're curious about gender roles, feminism, or just want to understand the viral “tradwife” trend, this episode is your essential guide to separating fact from fantasy. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcastFollow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it really a red flag if a man is still living with his parents in his late twenties or early thirties? In this episode of MissPerceived, sociologist Leah Ruppanner breaks down the latest research on young men who stay at home longer, exploring what it means for their employment prospects, mental health, and relationships. Drawing on a major new study, Leah reveals why a short stint at home can actually boost a man's career… or maybe not. She unpacks the social and economic factors driving this trend, the cultural differences around leaving the nest, and what it all means for dating today.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah welcomes author Courtney Lund O'Neil to discuss her book, Postmortem: What Survives the John Wayne Gacy Murders. The conversation explores the often-overlooked stories of those living in the shadow of infamous crimes, focusing on the intergenerational impact of trauma, the mental load carried by mothers, and the power of storytelling to reclaim narratives from perpetrators. They address the importance of honoring victims' humanity, breaking gender stereotypes—especially around raising boys—and the unique ways women process and are drawn to true crime.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are men really wired to desire more sex, or have we just been taught to think so? In this episode, Leah dives into the age-old question: do men have higher sex drives? Join us as we unpack the science behind libido, explore how hormones, culture, and social norms shape our desires, and challenge the stereotypes that keep this conversation stuck in the bedroom.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is the workday really over when you leave the office, or does your boss live in your pocket? Join Leah as she explores the growing movement to reclaim life outside of work through the right to disconnect. From late-night emails to weekend pings, we unpack how work culture has blurred the boundaries between on and off—and what it means to reclaim your time in an always-on world.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do razors, deodorants, and even a haircut cost more for women? In this episode, Leah unpacks the so-called pink tax - what it means, where it shows up, and how it quietly shapes our spending. From personal care products to pricing tricks, find out why being a woman can come with a higher price tag (and yes, it's often pink).Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From fierce debates in the '70s to today's OnlyFans era, feminist views on pornography have shifted dramatically. In this episode, Leah traces the complex history of feminist discourse on porn - exploring battles over empowerment vs. exploitation, the rise of feminist porn, and the growing influence of social media and AI on how we create and consume erotic content. What does the future of porn look like in an increasingly digital, decentralised world, and where do feminist values fit in?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is salary transparency the key to closing the pay gap? In this episode, we explore whether we should know each other's salaries, especially among women. Could sharing pay help us understand our worth and spark important conversations about raises? Or is it too much of a social taboo? Listen now for a thought-provoking discussion on pay transparency and its potential impact!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever caught yourself searching for your keys… again? In this episode, Leah explores the truth behind pregnancy brain fog, cognitive changes after childbirth, and how your menstrual cycle might affect your mind. Did you experience brain fog during these times, or is it all just in our heads? Listen now to find out!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is being in a long-distance relationship a recipe for heartbreak or could it be the secret to lasting love? In this episode, Leah unpacks the realities of loving from afar. From immigration to job deployments, we explore why couples live apart, whether distance actually harms relationship quality, and what the research says about staying connected across the miles. Spoiler: it's not all bad.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Haley Swenson (Better Life Lab, New America Foundation) takes over the mic to interview Leah on the invisible weight of the mental load and her upcoming book Drained. How is the mental load talked about in academia versus everyday life? What does the data reveal—and what are we still missing? They unpack why language matters, how gender shapes the conversation, and what real solutions might look like. You can find Haley's work at the New America Foundation through their website https://www.newamerica.org/, or their instagram @newamericaorg.

This week, Leah tacks a question sent in by one of our listeners that's been making the rounds on TikTok and Insta reels: Do mothers who have babies later in life actually live longer? It's a viral claim that's got people talking—but what does the research really say? We dig into the science behind fertility timing and maternal longevity, explore the biological theories, and ask whether social and economic factors are playing a bigger role than we think.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

What does the mental load look like for women with intersectional identities, especially migrant mothers from Southeast Asia? In this episode, Leah and Haley are joined by Mira Gunawansa to dive into her groundbreaking PhD research exploring how the mental load manifests for women of colour and how their unique experiences—navigating visas, cultural assimilation, familial expectations, and racism—are often overlooked in current literature. How are the solutions for these women different and how can we better account for this in the research? Tune in for an eye-opening discussion on how intersectionality shapes the mental load and how we can rethink support for diverse groups of women.You can find Haley's work at the New America Foundation through their website https://www.newamerica.org/, or their instagram @newamericaorg.Connect with Mira Gunawansa through instagram @mgunawansa, and to read her most recent article on the Mental Load of Christmas you can visit the UniMelb website - https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/maybe-just-think-about-whos-carrying-the-mental-load-at-Christmas. 

Do parents secretly prefer their daughters over their sons? In this episode, Leah unpacks the complexities of parental favouritism: Is it about gender, birth order, or a child's personality? And what happens when kids perceive they're treated differently from their siblings? We explore how these dynamics shape identity, self-esteem, and family relationships.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, Leah and Haley chat with Avni Patel Thompson, founder of Milo & Verity Tuck and co-founder of Goldee AI, about how technology can help lighten the mental load of parents. Avni and Verity share how AI and language modeling are streamlining day-to-day tasks, easing the mental burden, and letting parents breathe a little easier. Tune in for real-life stories and practical insights on using tech to help share the load and make parenting a little bit easier!"Download the Milo and Goldee apps to help lighten the load. Find Goldee on Instagram @goldee.ai or visit www.goldee.ai. Connect with Milo on Instagram @join_milo or head to www.joinmilo.com. Use the code "Missperceived25" to start using Milo today!" Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Does having blonde hair make women more successful—or just more stereotyped? In this episode, Leah dives into the “beauty premium” and how looks influence salaries, opportunities, and social treatment. Join us as we unpack the societal impact of beauty standards and whether looking a certain way can lead to better outcomes or reinforce unfair biases.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Leah and Haley are joined by Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, to reframe how we understand the mental load. They explore how men and women conceptualise invisible labour, the systems that uphold these imbalances, and how boundaries and communication can essential to creating more equitable and fair partnerships. Eve shares real-life stories of couples negotiating their mental loads using the Fair Play system—not just as a way to split tasks, but as a tool for reimagining fairness at home.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we challenge the misconception that being a parent makes you a bad employee. We dive into how taking time out for caregiving can be career enhancing, how parenting skills are highly transferable to the workplace, and why these skills are crucial for the future of work. Plus, we introduce the Parenting Work Skills Certificate—our team's initiative to highlight the value of parenting in professional settings. Tune in to discover how the experience of being a parent can enhance your professional journey!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

The mental load isn't just about managing household tasks and mental to-do lists —it's about carrying the weight of everything happening around us. From the rise of AI to the cost-of-living crisis and threats to democracy, our cognitive and emotional burdens are shifting in ways we're only beginning to understand.In this episode, Leah and Haley Swenson from the New America Better Life Lab dive into the meaning of "mental load," who carries it, and whose responsibility it is—individuals, families, organizations, or governments. We also explore how partners share (or don't share) the load and what solutions exist for a more balanced future.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we dive into the sociology of egg freezing—who it's for, how it's marketed, and what it really offers. We unpack the classed experience of this costly procedure, from its strategic targeting of high-income, unmarried women to its role in the ‘economy of hope.' Join Leah as she examines the intersection of assistive reproductive technology, gendered marketing, and the complexities of medically assisted fertility and risk management. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast