MissPerceived

Is being in a long-distance relationship a recipe for heartbreak or could it be the secret to lasting love? In this episode, Leah unpacks the realities of loving from afar. From immigration to job deployments, we explore why couples live apart, whether distance actually harms relationship quality, and what the research says about staying connected across the miles. Spoiler: it's not all bad.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Haley Swenson (Better Life Lab, New America Foundation) takes over the mic to interview Leah on the invisible weight of the mental load and her upcoming book Drained. How is the mental load talked about in academia versus everyday life? What does the data reveal—and what are we still missing? They unpack why language matters, how gender shapes the conversation, and what real solutions might look like. You can find Haley's work at the New America Foundation through their website https://www.newamerica.org/, or their instagram @newamericaorg.

This week, Leah tacks a question sent in by one of our listeners that's been making the rounds on TikTok and Insta reels: Do mothers who have babies later in life actually live longer? It's a viral claim that's got people talking—but what does the research really say? We dig into the science behind fertility timing and maternal longevity, explore the biological theories, and ask whether social and economic factors are playing a bigger role than we think.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

What does the mental load look like for women with intersectional identities, especially migrant mothers from Southeast Asia? In this episode, Leah and Haley are joined by Mira Gunawansa to dive into her groundbreaking PhD research exploring how the mental load manifests for women of colour and how their unique experiences—navigating visas, cultural assimilation, familial expectations, and racism—are often overlooked in current literature. How are the solutions for these women different and how can we better account for this in the research? Tune in for an eye-opening discussion on how intersectionality shapes the mental load and how we can rethink support for diverse groups of women.You can find Haley's work at the New America Foundation through their website https://www.newamerica.org/, or their instagram @newamericaorg.Connect with Mira Gunawansa through instagram @mgunawansa, and to read her most recent article on the Mental Load of Christmas you can visit the UniMelb website - https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/maybe-just-think-about-whos-carrying-the-mental-load-at-Christmas. 

Do parents secretly prefer their daughters over their sons? In this episode, Leah unpacks the complexities of parental favouritism: Is it about gender, birth order, or a child's personality? And what happens when kids perceive they're treated differently from their siblings? We explore how these dynamics shape identity, self-esteem, and family relationships.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, Leah and Haley chat with Avni Patel Thompson, founder of Milo & Verity Tuck and co-founder of Goldee AI, about how technology can help lighten the mental load of parents. Avni and Verity share how AI and language modeling are streamlining day-to-day tasks, easing the mental burden, and letting parents breathe a little easier. Tune in for real-life stories and practical insights on using tech to help share the load and make parenting a little bit easier!"Download the Milo and Goldee apps to help lighten the load. Find Goldee on Instagram @goldee.ai or visit www.goldee.ai. Connect with Milo on Instagram @join_milo or head to www.joinmilo.com. Use the code "Missperceived25" to start using Milo today!" Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Does having blonde hair make women more successful—or just more stereotyped? In this episode, Leah dives into the “beauty premium” and how looks influence salaries, opportunities, and social treatment. Join us as we unpack the societal impact of beauty standards and whether looking a certain way can lead to better outcomes or reinforce unfair biases.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Leah and Haley are joined by Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, to reframe how we understand the mental load. They explore how men and women conceptualise invisible labour, the systems that uphold these imbalances, and how boundaries and communication can essential to creating more equitable and fair partnerships. Eve shares real-life stories of couples negotiating their mental loads using the Fair Play system—not just as a way to split tasks, but as a tool for reimagining fairness at home.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we challenge the misconception that being a parent makes you a bad employee. We dive into how taking time out for caregiving can be career enhancing, how parenting skills are highly transferable to the workplace, and why these skills are crucial for the future of work. Plus, we introduce the Parenting Work Skills Certificate—our team's initiative to highlight the value of parenting in professional settings. Tune in to discover how the experience of being a parent can enhance your professional journey!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

The mental load isn't just about managing household tasks and mental to-do lists —it's about carrying the weight of everything happening around us. From the rise of AI to the cost-of-living crisis and threats to democracy, our cognitive and emotional burdens are shifting in ways we're only beginning to understand.In this episode, Leah and Haley Swenson from the New America Better Life Lab dive into the meaning of "mental load," who carries it, and whose responsibility it is—individuals, families, organizations, or governments. We also explore how partners share (or don't share) the load and what solutions exist for a more balanced future.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we dive into the sociology of egg freezing—who it's for, how it's marketed, and what it really offers. We unpack the classed experience of this costly procedure, from its strategic targeting of high-income, unmarried women to its role in the ‘economy of hope.' Join Leah as she examines the intersection of assistive reproductive technology, gendered marketing, and the complexities of medically assisted fertility and risk management. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

This week, join Leah as she delves into how sibling dynamics shift after a parent's passing, from unresolved childhood rivalries to the burden of caregiving and inheritance. When a parent dies, family relationships can change in unexpected ways. What sparks tension—or strengthens bonds—between brothers and sisters in grief? And how do gender roles influence the way sons and daughters navigate loss?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this week's episode, Leah discusses the economics of being single. Ever noticed how flying solo can cost more? We dive into the ‘single tax' - from paying for utilities to groceries alone - to explore economies of scale, the power of shared resources, and why going it alone often comes with a higher price tag. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join us this week as we talk all things International Women's Day! In this episode, Leah takes us through the history of IWD—from its radical socialist roots to its modern-day celebrations—and asks whether we've lost sight of its purpose. More than just a day for hashtags and brunches, IWD should be a call to action. Join us as we unpack what this day really means and why the fight for gender equality is far from over.

Why do people still believe the myth that girls aren't good at maths? In this episode, join Leah as she breaks down the gender stereotypes that hold women back in STEM, unpack the so-called “leaky pipeline,” and talk about what we really wants our daughters and younger generations to know about their educational potential. Because talent isn't gendered—so why are opportunities?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Menopause is a natural transition in life, but should you talk about it at work? In this episode, Leah dives into the latest research on menopause in the workplace, your reproductive rights, and the policies (or lack thereof) supporting women through this stage. How do symptoms impact your career? And what does this mean for your identity at work? Tune in for expert insights on navigating menopause on the job.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Do queer couples break free from traditional gender roles, or do old patterns creep in? In this weeks episode, Leah explores how LGBTQIA+ partners divide housework compared to heterosexual couples. Is the split more equal, or do unseen forces shape who scrubs the dishes and who takes out the trash? Tune in for an academic deep dive into love, labour, and the politics of domestic life!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Love languages say gifts = love, but should we rethink the way we give? Women often take on the emotional and financial labour of gift-giving—planning, making, and wrapping—while men's gifts can sometimes feel like a quick fix for deeper issues. And with rising costs, is the pressure to give even sustainable? In this episode, we unpack the gendered side of gift-giving, the financial weight of presents, and whether it's time to break free from the expectation that love = stuff. Tune in as Leah discusses the politics of presents!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we break down the science of intelligence—cognitive, emotional, and beyond—to challenge outdated stereotypes. Is intelligence a spectrum? How do we measure it? And why do we still equate IQ with superiority? Tune in as we dismantle the myths, explore the biases, and reveal what intelligence really looks like. Who's smarter—men or women? Or is that the wrong question entirely?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Can friendships at work boost connection or blur the lines between professional and personal life? In this episode, we dive into why workplace friendships matter, their impact on productivity, and whether they foster belonging or complicate boundaries. Tune in as Leah explores the surprising role of camaraderie in the workplace!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, Leah explores the research on the power of women's friendships—how they evolve, fade, and transform over time. We delve into why society often undervalues these special bonds in favor of romantic relationships and examine the unique ways friendships sustain and empower women. From moments of shared laughter to unwavering support, discover how these connections help women navigate challenges and celebrate life's milestones.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Do women really gossip more than men, or is that just another stereotype? In this episode, we unpack the loaded word “gossip” and explore its surprising role in strengthening social bonds. Why are women often judged harshly for it, while men seem to get a free pass? And is it even gossip—or just sharing information that matters? Join us for a thought-provoking chat on the power, perception, and potential of a little juicy conversation.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

"Who keeps the family ties from unravelling? From buying gifts to organising holiday dinners, kinkeeping often falls on mothers, stepmothers, aunts, and oldest sisters. But why is it mostly women? In this episode, we dive into the unsung labour of kinkeeping, explore the roles women play in holding families together, and uncover what the research reveals about this invisible work."Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Happy New Year! Join Leah for our first podcast of 2025, where we'll be diving into why resolutions often fail, the difference between bold goals and bite-sized ones, and the strategies that actually work to make your goals stick all year long. If you're ready to ditch the guilt and set yourself up for success, this episode is for you!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

As workplaces evolve, what does the future hold for women? In this episode, we dive into how women are positioned in the changing job market, the skills they'll need to thrive, and whether the future of work is truly equitable. From automation to AI, we unpack the trends shaping women's careers. Don't miss this thought-provoking episode about the challenges, opportunities, and road ahead for women at work.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Is the "man flu" a real thing—or just another parenting myth? This episode unpacks the infamous “man flu” and explore how it stacks up against science. Plus, the facts about why mums might actually get sick more often, exploring the link between caregiving, stress, and immune systems.Tune in for a fun and insightful look at sickness, gender, and the invisible load of caregiving!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Are women really better at handling pain, or is it more complicated than that? In this episode, join Leah as she dives into the fascinating world of pain thresholds, exploring the biological and social factors that shape how men and women experience pain. From hormones to social conditioning, discover what research reveals about gendered perceptions of pain—and why it matters. Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join us for a special live recording of MissPerceived, where Leah explores the complexities of the mental load and examines whether the invisible burdens of daily life contribute to burnout. Join us as we engage with our live audience through interactive polls and thought-provoking questions to investigate how this experience varies among different groups, including women, parents, and caregivers, and uncover the connections between mental load and burnout.

Do men really not see mess, or is there more to it? In this episode, we explore the 'dirtblind' debate—are men just wired differently, or is it all about gender roles and societal expectations? Join us as we unpack the myths, norms, and realities behind housework, cleanliness, and the invisible labor that keeps homes running.

Today we ask: Do more intelligent people struggle to find a partner? And are highly intelligent women more likely to stay single? Join us as we dive into the complex intersection of intelligence, relationships, and the challenges smart women face in love. Can brains really complicate the heart?Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we dive into the shady origins of the Body Mass Index, exposing its gender bias, discriminatory roots, and why it's a flawed measure of health. Discover how a centuries-old equation became mainstream—and why it's time to ditch it for good.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join Leah as we explore why burnout is an epidemic among women. Is it a gender issue, is it all because of the kids, or is something deeper at play? Tune in as we dive into the causes, consequences, and solutions of reclaiming balance in a post pandemic world.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Have you heard of 'maternal gatekeeping'? Join Leah as she dives into how control over parenting decisions can impact the division of labor and whether it perpetuates gender gaps in childcare responsibilities.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this weeks eye-opening episode, we share awkward laughs and blushing moments as we talk about the "orgasm gap"—is it really true that women have fewer orgasms than men? We unpack the facts around gender, age, and even sexual orientation to find out more about the big 'O'. Get ready for a fun, candid conversation that sheds light on a topic people don't talk about nearly enough!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we dive into 5 common phrases women say that are unknowingly holding them back—like "I'm sorry for unloading on you" and "I don't want to step on anyone's toes." We unpack the myths behind these statements, why women need to stop using them, and how ditching them can empower you to own your voice. Get ready for some serious truth bombs and a confidence boost!Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

How Will Woman Vote in 2024?Join us to explore the factors influencing women's voting patterns in 2024 with a focus on the US presidential race and Kamala Harris's candidacy. We delve into the concept of "gender linked fate" and how it varies among different groups of women, challenging the assumption that women automatically vote for female candidates.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

We're delving into the world of politics to explore the challenges and misconceptions surrounding women in office, such as being perceived as less competent or too emotional for high-stakes decision-making. By examining how these misconceptions impact both their campaigns and governance, we shed light on the ongoing struggle for gender equality in politics and celebrate the women who are redefining leadership.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Age gaps in relationships often spark stereotypes and double standards, especially for women. In this episode, we dive into why these biases exist, how they impact couples, and how those in age-gap relationships view themselves versus how the world sees them.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join Leah as she explores the challenges that arise when your boss doesn't quite get you, particularly through the lens of gender differences and diverse family arrangements. We delve into how traditional views on gender roles and family responsibilities can create misunderstandings and impact workplace dynamics.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we delve into the concept of "pretty privilege" and its significant impact on income, hiring practices, and bias in the workplace. We explore how physical appearance can influence career opportunities and salary, and examine how racial bias affects this. Join us for an insightful discussion on how beauty standards affect professional dynamics.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, we tackle the age-old question: Should parents transition to part-time work after having a baby? Join us as we explore the intricacies of work-life balance and the impact of part-time employment on parental stress levels. Discover whether part-time work truly offers a path to reduced stress and greater fulfillment in parenthood or if its all a myth.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Leah explores the fascinating intersection of sleep and society. Is sleep merely biological, or does it hold deeper social significance? Delve into the intricate connections between sleep patterns, societal norms, and gender dynamics. From cultural expectations to physiological differences, we examine how women and men experience sleep differently.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this episode, Leah will delve into the concept of second child syndrome. Are second-born children really less work than their elder siblings? Join us as we explore the dynamics of birth order, societal expectations, and the unique experiences of being a second child.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Are we truly progressing towards gender equality? Join us as we delve into the complexities of generational change, questioning if each era brings us closer to true egalitarianism in this thought-provoking episode.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join us for a hilarious episode as we question whether women are actually hormonally driven to 'nest' before pregnancy, or if this is in fact a myth. Laugh along as we explore the truth behind this gender stereotype and its origins in discussions surrounding mammal nesting habits.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this revealing episode, we tackle the pressing question: 'Did COVID make home and work more difficult for women, or did it simply expose the realities of the working mother?' Explore the profound implications for families as we uncover the challenges, inequalities, and shifting dynamics brought to light by the pandemic.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Join Leah as we explore the nuances and complexities of male friendships. Delve into the societal constructs and emotional barriers that hinder men from forging the same depth of connections as women, in this introspective podcast episode.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

In this eye-opening episode, Leah will unpack the future of household chores and gender equality. Delve into the complexities as we debunk the myth that our daughters will achieve domestic equity with their partners, examining societal norms and the imperative for intentional change in achieving true equity.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Discover the evolution of fatherhood in this enlightening episode, where we explore how modern dads are reshaping masculinity and parenting norms. Join Leah as she celebrates the diverse expressions of fatherhood and the changing landscape of parental roles.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Dive into the debate over finances and relationships with Leah in this revealing episode. We'll explore the often contentious and taboo topic about whether women should maintain a separate bank account or if couples should pool their money. Uncover the implications for trust, independence, and partnership dynamics as we navigate all things financial.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast

Uncover the impact of AI on creating a fairer world in this thought-provoking episode. We delve into the intersection of gender bias, algorithms, and inequality to answer the burning question: 'Does AI truly promote fairness?' Join Leah as she discusses the complexities, challenges, and potential solutions in the quest for equality in the digital age.Follow Leah Ruppanner at https://www.instagram.com/prof.leah/Follow the MissPerceived Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/missperceivedpodcast