The Divorce Confidante Podcast - divorce, co-parenting, personal growth, faith-based single mom life

When you're going through a difficult period, recovering from a trauma, dealing with separation or divorce, or healing from grief,  there's a natural instinct to close in and go into a hibernation mode, where you feel comforted and safe.  This can bring you such peace and calm. There is a level of coziness we want to experience during this time of healing or a time when you need to recharge your batteries and find a space just for yourself.  It's an opportunity to practice what the Danish call "hygge".  (HOO-guh)It's creating that atmosphere that works for YOU in your new life after divorce.  It's what makes you feel cozy and what brings you happiness.In today's episode, Joy talks about 4 steps to creating a cozy retreat of your own, including your environment, your mood, your friendships and your thankfulness.And this coziness is focused on the home, but what if you could take it out into other areas of your life?  How would you feel taking it on the road and into your workplace?Referenced Materials:Episode 66:  Create an Evening Routine to sleep better naturallyFREE Sleep workbook Download:  Meik Wiking:  Little Book of HyggeWork with Joy:Discount Code:  Cultivate20% off private 1:1 coaching for 10 sessionsGet Started NOWBook a FREE Consultation Call to learn more.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

When you're going through the hard times of divorce and co-parenting, you can often get "stuck" in the ruts that things won't ever get better -- that you'll be in this place of unhappiness forever.  But even though you can't see it now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it can and WILL get better.But you can't just wait for your life to start, you need to visualize who you want to be and how you want to live.  It's time to create that for yourself.  You need to get past the ruts that have been hard-wired into your brain and create NEW neural pathways.Make new dreams in the 8 areas in the wheel of life:  emotional / occupational / intellectual - personal growth / environmental / financial / social / physical / spiritual.Don't let yourself get hung up in the past, learn how to create your future.  Listen in for the steps to get that journey started, to work through making your dreams a reality and move into the next (and best) version of yourself.Download your free dream journal at www.divorce-confidante.com/dreamsAnd when you're ready to put those dreams into reality -- schedule a free consultation call about how to move from "where you are" to "where you want to be". Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

This year for me is a year to "explore".  And one of the things I'm working on is exploring a deeper relationship and connection with God.  I figure if this is something I'm working on, then maybe it's something you're working on too.  Maybe it's something we can work on together.So as I'm working on my connection, I'm looking to work through the following:Overthinking / WorryNegative Self-TalkPeople PleasingAligning My Friendships to Who I'm BecomingThis is starting out as a year-long process, but it's more of a way to let go, surrender and connect.  It won't really be limited to this year, but more of a process that I can keep peeling back layer after layer and deepening the relationship.If you're on a similar journey, or if you want to start a closer walk with God, listen in and see if any of these can help you find a path for you.References:Overthinking:Philippians 4:6-71 Peter 5:7Tapping:  Ep 72 Tapping to Reduce Stress with Michelle Robinson (on Apple)Find a Labyrinth near you:  labyrinthlocator.comNegative Self-TalkProverbs 18:21People Pleasing:Galations 1:10Aligning Friendships:2 Corinthians 6:141 Corinthians 15:33Friendships:  Ep. 17:  Inner Circle Friendships When You're Divorced (on Apple)Etsy prayer journal, affirmation cards and workbooks at The Confident Faith storefrontConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

Ladies, "divorce fatigue" is a real thing and can wreck your health, your mental clarity, your decision-making, and your emotional balance.On this week's episode, Joy talks about 5 ways to keep yourself mentally and physically healthy to withstand the divorce journey as a marathon and not a sprint,  You don't want to run on empty and give up when you are so close to the finish line of your divorce and let the attorneys / courts decide the fate or your finances, support and custody because you don't have the stamina to be your best advocate.So much is about how you refill your cup, recharge your energy and surround yourself with the proper support system. Don't let your divorce be dictated by others due to divorce fatigue.  Keep your energy at peak levels and avoid Divorce Fatigue.Referenced in the Episode:Isaiah 43:2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.Sleep Checklist on the Divorce Confidante websiteEtsy journals and workbooks at The Confident Faith storefrontConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

A lot of fear and uncertainty in divorce revolves around money -- distribution of assets, retirement accounts, taxes, the house, etc.  It can be absolutely nerve-wracking. Amanda Campbell is a CDFA (certified divorce financial analyst) who is joining me this week for a Divorce Month discussion on financial planning BEFORE making the decision on divorce and how to work through them while in the divorce process.  It's knowing what you own and what you owe! Amanda breaks down some common mistakes and misconceptions that can cost you money at the divorce table:It's understanding that you can divide the assets in unique ways to get to an equitable distribution so as not to compromise your current or future finances.It's understanding tax implications.Do you need a forensic accountant?What is Divorce Fatigue? And what about hidden assets and credit card infidelity?Adding a financial advisor or CDFA to your divorce team can give you valuable information so you can reduce your stress and find financial independence.Connect with Amanda:email:  amanda.campbell@wealthspire.comAmanda's book:  The Health and Wealth Sisters 360 Action PlanConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month, and Rosalind Sedaca joins the podcast this week to talk about how to keep the focus on the kids during the transition of separation and divorce.  It's a time to love your kids more than you hate each other!It's an episode filled with information for moms and dads who want to put their differences aside to allow their kids to thrive during a difficult time.  We talk about the common mistakes parents make in their co-parenting journey, as well as how to be successful as co-parents, being flexible, consistent and cooperative.  Using technology to make it easier -- Co-Parent Hub app.Rosalind talks about how to tell your kids (from toddlers to teens) about the separation, the age-appropriate details to alleviate uncertainty, and how to continue conversations to acknowledge how they feel.   Everybody's feelings matter!  And remember, your kids will call you out when they're adults and hold you accountable regarding how you handled this season of life.SPECIAL for Child-Centered Divorce Month:FREE RESOURCES from a variety of divorce and co-parenting experts to help you along the way:  www.divorcedparentsupport.com/freegiftsConnect with Rosalind Sedacca:Website: www.childcentereddivorce.com Check out the free e-book and and parenting courses!Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

One of the best things you can do to keep yourself on track for your divorce is to have an organizational system in place.From working with clients I find that having a "Divorce Go Bag" is a great way to keep all of your paperwork together and organized.  The Divorce Go Bag is filled with all of the essentials you need to keep your documents together and keep you moving forward, without wasting time, money or energy gathering up all of the loose ends you need for appointments and meetings. You're time is already spent and your stress level is already too high.  Keeping records in a single location allows for easy of use and recovery.Paper and digital records are worthwhile, so be open to utilizing both, if that suits your needs.  But additional care is required for the digital records, so keep them secure.Let's get through divorce, through the healing, and on to the next chapter creating a life you love.References:Ep 24:  Setting an Intention with a Word of the YearItems for the Divorce Go Bag can be found on The Divorce Confidante Amazon site.FREE downloads -- Divorce Checklist and Divorce Budget -- at Divorce Confidante WebsiteConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

There is so much to learn and know in your divorce process, but as a divorce coach, I see these top 10 mistakes made over-and-over again by my clients and friends.These mistakes include legal, financial, co-parenting and emotional issues that can impact the divorce process negatively.  It can drag it out and cost you precious time and money.If you're ready to streamline your divorce process and get on to the next chapter in your life, this may be the perfect episode for you.  Don't forget, I have a free download, a Divorce Checklist, available on The Divorce Confidante wesbite and through Instagram -- links are below.  Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.   

I wanted to bring you a focus on the 4 themes of Advent this Christmas season, so this last week's meditation is on LOVE.God's love is divine, pure and unconditional.  A reminder when we are going through divorce and grief and hard times can give us a much-needed boost to move forward.  Focus on love, receiving and giving God's love, through this hectic holiday season.Christmas is stressful.  Divorce is difficult.  Co-parenting is hard.My hope is that connecting to hope, peace, joy and love this season may bring you comfort and relief.Merry Christmas!Verses Referenced:Ephesians 3:17-19Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in Him.  Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong.  And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.  May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully.  Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.Lyrics:Heaven came down and glory filled my soul.Truly He taught us to love one another, His law is love and His gospel is peace."O Holy Night"DISCLAIMER:  Do not listen while you are driving or doing any type of activity where you need to be awake and present.  This is a relaxation meditation and should only be listened to and engaged with when you are in a safe place for relaxation and internal focus.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy on Social Media:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

Did you know that just finding a new way to breathe can help you reduce stress?  My guest today, Sarah Nye from Althea Breathwork, is a facilitator helping women learn to lower their stress and handle their grief just by changing their breath when they find themselves overwhelmed.Starting this healing journey for herself, it grew into a platform for her to help others through their healing as well.  The breath allows us to bring "soma", the body, into our healing and become more connected with ourselves.  Sarah explains the feminine energy in the breath, the 3 part breath, and the effects it has on our nervous system.Join the conversation in today's episode to learn more about using breathwork to reduce stress -- during divorce, the holidays or any time you feel the anxiety begin to hold you back.Connect with Sarah Nye:Instagram: althea_breathworkWebsite: Althea Breathwork Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

I wanted to bring you a focus on the 4 themes of Advent this Christmas season, so this week's meditation is on JOY.Happiness is circumstantial and superficial, but joy is more deeply ingrained.  Joy is in the heart.  It's connecting with and focusing on the deeper level to understand how that feels in your body, mind and spirit, and to be able to tap into and recall it when you have an unpleasant encounter or just a negative part of your day.Christmas is stressful.  Divorce is difficult.  Co-parenting is hard.My hope is that connecting to hope, peace, joy and love this season may bring you comfort and relief. Merry Christmas!Verses Referenced:Philippians 4:4Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. 4 Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! DISCLAIMER:  Do not listen while you are driving or doing any type of activity where you need to be awake and present.  This is a relaxation meditation and should only be listened to and engaged with when you are in a safe place for relaxation and internal focus.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy on Social Media:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

Are you EXTRA stressed this Christmas season?   It's not surprising if you're dealing with a separation, divorce, co-parenting and single mom life .... on top of everything else.So, let's take a few minutes to unwind and destress with a little gentle movement.Stretching through a brief yoga practice can help you release tension in your body, allow you to think more clearly and find more calm to deal with your kids and daily tasks.  You can bring in mantras or visualization to help you create a peaceful space.  Deeper breaths can help you open the heart and body.  And the movement itself -- the spinal movements and twists -- can help lubricate and detox your body.Listen in to this week's episode where we take a mini-break to do a short practice (min. 11:00) to help you destress through the holidays. Merry Christmas!  References in this episode:The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der KolkEp 72: Tapping / EFT to Reduce Stress with guest Michelle RobinsonVerses:Joshua 1:9Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”Phillipian 4:8Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

I wanted to bring you a focus on the 4 themes of Advent this Christmas season, so this week's meditation is on PEACE.This may be a tough season for you.  One of loneliness or difficult changes.  Take time for yourself --  relax and connect with your body, mind and spirit through the holidays.Verses Referenced:Philippians 4:6-7Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.Luke 2: 13-14Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,  “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”DISCLAIMER:  Do not listen while you are driving or doing any type of activity where you need to be awake and present.  This is a relaxation meditation and should only be listened to and engaged with when you are in a safe place for relaxation and internal focus.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy on Social Media:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

Have you ever tried "tapping" as part of your self-care or stress reduction practice?  Are you ready to regulate your nervous system?My guest today, Michelle Robinson, is teaching us about the tapping / EFT technique and guiding us through a practice to help us reduce our stress as single moms this Christmas season.Tapping, or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), is a modality to help you reduce stress and release negative emotions.  It uses the meridians in the body to help us process those heavy or stuck feelings and move them through our system.  It helps us get out of our fight/flight system, our survival mode, and helps us find relief and safety in our bodies.  It uses a "bottom - up" method of movement to help the healing process, that can be used with "top - down" practices, such as journaling and therapy.Michelle talks about the benefits, the process, the words to use and the pressure points to focus on.  She also does a full guided practice for us to participate in.   (25:08)  ** DISCLAIMER:  Do not participate if you're driving or need to be fully awake/aware.  You can listen, but refrain from practicing until you get into a comfortable and safe place.Connect with Michelle Robinson:Instagram:  @heymichellerobinsonBe on the lookout for her "tapping library" due out in January 2024.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

To follow up on episode 71, Adding More Faith to the Holiday Season, I wanted to bring you bonus episodes this month for Advent.  Each Sunday through the month of December I will be posting a meditation to correspond with the Advent theme of the week.The first week's theme is Hope.Verse referenced:Romans 15:13May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.DISCLAIMER:  Do not listen while you are driving or doing any type of activity where you need to be awake and present.  This is a relaxation meditation and should only be listened to and engaged with when you are in a safe place for relaxation and internal focus.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy on Social Media:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

If your Christmas season has become too busy and chaotic, and the focus has swirled around twinkling lights and mounds of presents, then it may be time to refocus your energy into a more faith-based, slow-paced Christmas season.As a Christian, Joy battles the same struggles to make her kids happy and do ALL of the things during the holidays, as well as balance her need for peace and spiritual connection.  It's the time of year that should be overflowing with carols and nativities, but gets overridden with "stuff".  In this episode, Joy talks about embracing the season of Advent, and practical ways to bring that into the Christmas season -- the hope, peace, joy and love.  She talks about practical ways to connect with the sacred to bring the focus back to faith in Jesus.  She then explores how our culture is hyper-secular, and how other cultures around the world focus more on small gift-giving traditions and bigger family and spiritual practices.Let's dive into changing our holidays to support us, lessen our chaos and bring our focus back to our faith.Check back on Sundays through Advent for weekly meditations on hope, peace, joy and love to help support you through this season.Resources mentioned in the episode:Focus on the Family Advent Journey:  hereWomen Living Well Ministries:  hereFor Spotify members:Song for Advent:  hereAdvent with Sacred Ordinary Days: hereGod's love was revealed among us this way, God sent His one and only Son into the world so that we might live through him.1 John 4:9Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more. 

Are you too eager to fix a problem ..... even if it's not yours to fix?  Do you say "sorry" for things you had nothing to do with?  Or feel responsible for something out of your control?  Well, welcome to the club.As moms, we often feel like it's our job to do more, fix more, say "yes" to more, and we end up trying to "keep the peace" at the expense of our personal peace.  It's a lie to not speak up or find our voice in our co-parenting relationships. But you can take the power back.  You can learn to be flexible for the needs of your children, but allow your co-parent to do his part as a parent, not relying on you to be amenable at the detriment of yourself.Our guest, Mikki Gardner, is a life and conscious parent coach who helps women co-parent with more confidence.  Her approach allows you to protect your well-being and be flexible.  It allows you to speak up, hold boundaries, and create calm.  It's time to reclaim your freedom and become a "recovering" people-pleasing co-parent.In this episode, Mikki dives into the lie of people-pleasing and her framework to create calm from the chaos.  She talks about her 3 step approach and how you can work through them to find your own freedom -- awareness, agency and aligned action.Listen in for co-parenting tools to support you in your post-divorce journey.Connect with Mikki: mikkigardner.comInstagramMikki's new book, The People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well, comes out on December 5th!  Sign up here to be added to the Launch List for a special workbook, freebies and workshops to coincide with the book's release. Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon.Check out Joy's Amazon recommendations at The Divorce Confidante Shop  Everything from books to journaling, yoga to mom's must-haves, and so much more.

Are you always feeling "less than" when you see his social media posts or hear about his trips or great life?Do you feel resentful when the kids come home from Dad's house with great stories of fun activities and amazing trips they did?It can be difficult to hear the comparisons between you and your ex.  And sometimes it may make you feel inferior.  But you can take the control back by switching your perspective.  You can shift how you think, how you respond, and find peace with the differences in your lives.  You can have peace from the drama and create a life you love after divorce.  It takes some healing and some work, but YOU GET TO DECIDE.This episode of the podcast walks you through 3 steps to help you on your way to ditching the comparison trap and feeling inferior, to standing in your own power and allowing you to move forward to your best life.Let's dive into accepting the differences, even celebrating the differences, and being content and happy with the life we are creating.Connect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about working with a divorce coach and learning to heal and recover after divorce,  connect at The Divorce Confidante website and book a free strategy call:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon PinterestFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. 

Do you and the kids always feel frazzled and out of balance?  If so, you're in the right place!This week's guest is parent coach Clair White, who is helping us find whole health balance in 5 areas of our lives.  Since it's not just us moms who get stressed and overwhelmed, this is a family plan for health that balances emotional, mental, physical, relational and spiritual health.This is a great plan to learn and put into place for ourselves.  We can also role model it too for our kids so they can make good decisions for their health.  It's a practice to start early and continue through our lives.As we are coming into full-swing busy and holiday season it's a great time to put healthy routines into our everyday life.Connect with Clair:https://www.clairgoodmanwhite.com/Get the Whole Health Plan HEREWhole Health VIDEOConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon PinterestFind additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. 

If you are struggling to figure out how to make co-parenting work with an ex who constantly undermines you and speaks negatively about you, then you need to listen in to this episode with Vickie Lynn.As the founder of The Survivor Center, Vickie Lynn is a faith-based, personal coach for women who are dealing with an abusive or toxic ex, making the process of co-parenting difficult to navigate.  Vickie Lynn is a divorced mom who has walked this path in her own life and now devotes her time to working with women in this area of divorce and transformation.  It's learning to create and uphold boundaries that give you freedom and confidence.  It's making sure they stick so you can protect your energy, keep your peace and preserve your joy.It's stepping into the woman that God has created you to be for such a time as this.  So you can be the woman and mother that you were intended to be all along.Connect with Vickie Lynn:Website:  The Survivor CenterInstagram:  the_survivor_centerConnect with Joy at The Divorce Confidante:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. 

Sleep is such an integral part of how we manage our emotions, our day, and our relationships.  If you're not sleeping well... If you're not falling asleep easily....Or if you're non staying asleep through the night, it's time to take control of your nighttime routine.Let's create an evening routine that works for you.  We can use natural means to enhance your body's hormones and natural rhythms, utilize holistic means to fight insomnia and stress, and let go of negative components that are holding back the crucial rest you need.The She SLEEPS Well program (TM) is a 6-tiered approach where you can build a routine that works for you.  It's not a one-size-fits-all process, but a customizable routine you create for your time, your interests, and your needs.Sanctuary, Limit Food/Alcohol/Caffeine, Essential Oils / Natural Sleep Aids, Electronic Devices, Peace of Mind, ScheduleDivorce takes so much energy and we need to be more cognizant of our sleep now more than ever.  Let's get your sleep back on track so you can make good decisions and be your best for your family.If you need help creating this routine, managing your emotions through your divorce process, finding clarity on your path or learning to co-parent -- then let's talk.  Schedule a free strategy call and let's connect.  Schedule Here Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest 

There are so many creative options to co-parenting.  And sometimes we get stuck in the traditional models of "50/50" and "every other weekend".  But it doesn't have to be that way.If you and your co-parent are in a stable and respectful place in your co-parenting relationship, it might be worth some discussions around non-traditional custody options.Dawne Christine is a mindset coach and was on this episode to talk about her unique out-of-state parenting plan with her co-parent, how they make it work and how they involve the kids (tweens and teens) into the decision-making process.  She credits the whole family with respect, communication and flexibility to make it a success.If you're looking for a fresh solution to your schedule, listen in.  You may get an idea about a new way to look at your parenting plan.Connect with Dawne Christine:www.dawnechristine.comdawnechristine@gmail.comPurchase a Signature JournalConnect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest 

Resilience isn't a trait we are born with.  It's a skill we can learn and develop, so when we hit a bump in the road we have the shock absorbers ready to smooth out our ride and keep us moving forward.We are constantly bombarded with stressors.  And we need to build more resilience so we don't succumb to these events, but transcend them, bringing in a growth mindset to flourish when we might otherwise wither under the pressure.Today's guest, Monica Bodurka is the co-founder of Leadership Wellness, a best-selling author and an expert in the field of resilience.  In this episode, Monica and Joy talk about creating habits so you can recharge your batteries and build the resilience you need.They talk about everyday and adverse circumstances that impact the central nervous system, along with ways to get it back in sync.  They talk about REAL self-care, how to "bookend" your day with practical morning and evening routines, role-modeling healthy habits for our kids, and the power of breath."It's common sense, it's not common practice"Monica talks about Divine Orchestration and how faith plays a role in how we manage stress in our lives.Join the conversation and put resilience-building exercises into your life!Monica's New Book:  A New Way to Be (on Amazon)Connect with Monica: Website: www.leadershipwellness.caFacebook: @monica.bodurka@LeadershipWellnessInstagram: @monicabodurka@leadership_wellnessLinkedIn: Monica BodurkaThe Leadership Wellness Group  Upcoming Events:THE SINGLE PARENT BUNDLE: Over $2000 worth of free downloads for parents.  The Parent Summit is from 10/10-10/16.  Register for free HERE and get the resources you need!THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION VIRTUAL SUMMIT:October 10th -13th.  Get your free ticket HERE!Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest 

Marriage is complicated and so is divorce.  Likely we've made mistakes in both arenas along the way.  But can we look objectively at the mistakes we've made in our marriage to build better relationships in the future?That's what Joy tackles today.There's a process from taking responsibility for our part of the relationship that didn't work and learning from it so we can grow stronger in all of our relationships, not just romantic ones. We can certainly continue to build better skills that translate into healthier relationships with our kids, co-workers, friends, family and community.Listen to this week's episode to learn and practice the 5 steps to building better skills to better relationships.Upcoming Events:SECOND SATURDAY:The virtual workshop to learn more about the legal, financial and personal aspects of the divorce process will be held on Wed, October 11th from 6-8pm est.  Register HERE!THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION VIRTUAL SUMMIT:October 10th -13th.  Get your free ticket HERE!Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE strategy call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

I'm pretty sure if we take a good look at our spending habits there are some places that we can tighten up our budget.Going through a divorce can create a lot of uncertainty with money and financial stability.  By doing a "no-spend" challenge for a few days or even a few weeks,  it's an opportunity to get back on track, find where some spending leaks may be occurring and help you create a manageable budget.  It may even be a great time to stop emotional spending and develop an appreciation for those things we already have.Doing this challenge with your kids can help teach them how to spend and how to save.  As kids get older, we want to make sure they have a good handle on money. A "no-spend" challenge is a great opportunity to ditch the overwhelm of managing a budget as well as increase your savings and decrease your debts!Join in the money-savings fun!Check out a one-week challenge worksheet at divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Ladies, did you put on a few pounds after divorce?  Were you eating your emotions?  Did Burger King and Wendy become your new best friends?Yeah, you're not alone.  Stress can wreak havoc on your diet.  And putting on a little weight happens.  BUT, you don't have to stay in that place with the extra pounds creeping up the scale.  It may be time and you may be ready to lose the weight and get healthy.My guest, Keatha Landauer is a health and weight loss coach with Optavia.  She's lost over 50 pounds on the program to help her maintain a healthy back.  And she's helped me lose 20 so far!If you're ready to tackle the weight loss issues, from defeating the "Binge Storm" and secret eating, to handling social situations, finding support and setting achievable goals, then you're in the right place.  It's not a process you need to do alone, but once you get started, you'll agree with Keatha, "Nothing feels better than making healthy choices." Divorce can be a great time to reclaim your identity, boost your self-confidence and create the life you love.  And it may start with losing some weight.Connect with Keatha:www.coachkeatha.comThe War on Weight PodcastJoin the Loving Life After Divorce Summit!! This free, live event has divorce professionals ready to help you through the ups and downs with great information and free bonuses.  It starts Monday, September 25th with 5 days of experts ready to help you through divorce.  AND  you can sign up for FREE ......HERE!  To sign up for the free pop-up Facebook group, you can register HERE!  Look forward to seeing you at the summit!Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Did you hold yourself back during your marriage?  Did you "play small"?  Was there never enough time or money to step into a calling or purpose that you felt fully aligned with?Well, now might be the perfect time, during this pivotal life transition, to rekindle those dreams or break out and create new ones.  But how do you even start the process of realizing your dream?  Or identifying your true purpose?  Merritt Onsa helps women find their path and teaches them to trust God and themselves as they move forward with their God-shaped dreams.In this episode, Joy and Merritt talk about identifying YOUR  dreams, determining when you're ready to start and the beautiful transformations that come from living into that authentic purpose. But there are those stumbling blocks that can trip you up along the way.  How fear and imposter syndrome can hold you back from reaching your dreams.  Calling out "the liar" when you feel unworthy, less than, or unprepared and recapturing those thoughts from his grasp.Ladies, this is your time to make your own choices, and your own decisions, and live the life you were called for  Dream big after divorce!References:The Soul of Shame by Curt ThompsonConnect with Merritt Onsa:Merritt's website:  merrittonsa.com17 Quick Win Ideas to get you startedIG: MerrittjoThe Devoted Dreamers PodcastJoin the Loving Life After Divorce Summit!!  This free, live event has divorce professionals ready to help you through the ups and downs with great information and free bonuses.  It's held the week of September 25th and you can sign up for FREE ......HERE!  To sign up for the free pop-up Facebook group, you can register HERE!  Look forward to seeing you at the summit!Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. The Divorce Confidante Links:To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Who do you want to become after your divorce?  How do you want to live?Are you ready to do the work, learn the lessons and make the changes?  If you are, then it's your time.  Kelly says, "a divorce is not a failure, it's just a relationship that has ended." So let's get back to a healthy life - body, mind and spirit - to move forward.It's taking time to detox your life -- physically and mentally -- to get where you want to go.  Physical health and good sleep give you the base to make big changes.  And it's not about doing it all at once or being perfect.  Live the 80/20 rule  to give yourself some wiggle room and not focus on perfection.  Mental detox give you the ability to work around those limiting beliefs you may be holding onto and creating a new identity, new confidence and new life for yourself.And when you're ready, maybe it's time to step out into the dating world.   Have some fun with it and enjoy the journey.  There is someone out there looking for YOU!Join the conversation today with Kelly Bonanno, a life and health coach, who helps women create a life they love after divorce.To further help women going through divorce, Kelly is the host of a free Loving Life After Divorce Summit!!  This free, live event has divorce professional ready to help you through the ups and downs with great information and free bonuses.  It's held the week of September 25th and you can sign up for FREE ......HERE!  To sign up for the free pop-up Facebook group, you can register HERE!  Look forward to seeing you at the summit!   To connect with Kelly:Kelly's website:  kellybonanno.comInstagramLinkedInConnect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Do you ever feel like you're trying to get past old hurts, but you keep getting stuck?  Do you feel like you've plateaued in your healing process?It's completely natural to find that flatline in your healing process.  So if you've found that it hasn't been a smooth path or that you've found dips and valleys along the way, you're not alone. But sometimes you need some help to get "unstuck" in your healing journey.  This week Joy tackles some ways to find renewed momentum and resources to help you start that forward progress again as well as giving yourself grace when you find those valleys.  She talks about keeping positive thoughts by denying the enemy and focusing on what's true, noble, right and pure.  (Phil 4:8)Healing is not a linear process.  Accepting that truth can keep you from becoming frustrated as you walk through the ups and downs of your progress.  Just know that feeling the feels and doing the work will bring you physical and emotional benefits!Episode References:Natalie Baird-King's new book: Forgiving UnforgivableRomans 12:22 Corinthians 10:5Philippians 4:8Connect with Joy:Find additional resources from Joy and other authors in the No-Problem Parenting book, available on Amazon. Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Maybe you grew up in an abusive home or were in an abusive relationship.  Or maybe you had betrayal in your marriage.  Are you holding on to a backpack full of pain, hurt and anger?  Or have you been able to set that heaviness down through forgiveness, releasing it to be free and open your heart to happiness?  You can learn how to forgive even what seems to be unforgivable.Natalie Baird-King is a dedicated Florida attorney/mediator, speaker and author who's new book "Forgiving Unforgivable" details her life as an abuse survivor and advocate.  In this episode, Natalie talks about her journey from abuse in her childhood and adult life to stopping generational cycles of abuse and learning to forgive for her own benefit.We talk about various myths around forgiveness:  forgive-and-forget, forgiveness requires the abuser to change, and forgiveness = reconciliation.Natalie talks about how forgiveness comes about when the timing is right and outlines her 4 Steps to Forgiveness from the book:1) view your times of trauma as an observer2) recall the emotions3) am I willing to release the emotions4) Release emotions and accept forgiveness for yourself.In this freedom from the past, you give yourself empowerment and purpose.Connect with Natalie:hbk@forgivingunforgivable.coGrab a copy of Natalie's new book:Forgiving UnforgivableConnect with Joy:Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

There are so many emotions that are stirred up during divorce -- not only for you but also for your kids.  They don't always know how to process all of the information or verbalize their questions or concerns, and it's up to us Moms to help them through it.It's learning to communicate with them, being open and honest, while learning to listen and keep judgments at bay.  Creating a safe space for your kids to talk can help you make a deeper connection with your children and gain their trust for the future.Since each family is different and their needs are unique, these are some basic tips to help you establish an open dialogue.  Working with a coach or therapist can help you craft messaging and tips to further expand communication opportunities.This is also part of the new No-Problem Parenting 2 book, which is launching next Tuesday, 8/22.  This is a collaborative book with parenting experts from various backgrounds to help as parent resources.  I'm so excited to be a part of this book project and contribute the chapter on having vulnerable conversations with our kids.I would love for you to join our online book launch party, next Tuesday night, 8/22 at 8pm EST.  CLICK HERE to register.To register for information on the book release and get free resources from the authors, CLICK HERE!Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

It's coming up to the big day....D-Day.....Divorce Day!You've taken care of the documentation -- the finances, custody,  monetary support -- and now you're ready to make it final.  You're ready to finally have your day in court. You want to be confident, and you want to show up as the best version of yourself.  But how do you do that?So much of it comes down to how you present yourself that day.  It's about what you wear, your state of mind and your mannerisms.  What's professional and appropriate for court.In this episode, Joy talks about:-what to wear to court-the psychology of colors-hair / nails / makeup -accessories-body language and mannerismsIt's all about presenting a package of confidence and strength while maintaining comfort and control.  So let's talk about your divorce day and what to wear to court!Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Do you need to live with shame and guilt for separating from your spouse?  What about remarriage?  There are so many questions and uncertainties when it comes to divorce and the church.  So this week's guest, Pastor Kevin Baker from Oakdale Church, talks about marriage, counseling and divorce from a biblical perspective.We talk about:The grief of divorceDivorceCare programs in the churchThe shame of being a divorced christianEliminating the context of a 2nd class ChristianThe intimacy and connection of marriageAttachment TheoryBiblical / non-Biblical reasons for divorceKids and divorceStopping the frivolousness of divorceProtecting the sacredness of marriageCounseling to heal a marriageGetting safe from abuseRemarriage, the healing processWaiting on God's timingConnect with Pastor Baker at:Oakdale ChurchGuerilla Discipleship Podcast on SpotifyDiscount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

If you're a mom who's stressed and burnt out, you are not alone!  It may be that you need to create your own Home Ecosystem!My guest, Katie Keene (mom of 5 and home-schooler extraordinaire) joins me this week to talk about how to set up a home ecosystem and family government of your own.  How she creates her simplistic and effective self-care.  How she finds joy in motherhood, connects with her kid's and their interests, and molds them into life-long learners.Resources mentioned in the episode:Francine Rivers  - Lineage of Grace booksImmerse NLT BibleTo connect with Katie:Her Home and Heart PodcastHer Home and Heart WebsiteKatie's LinktreeThe Divorce Confidante Links:Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Have you noticed that your value system is out of sync with who you are?  Who are becoming?If we live out of alignment with our values we can have a lot of conflict -- internally and externally. In this week's episode, Joy talks about the impact of values in our lives and an assessment to find your true values -- not for someone else's values you've superimposed on your life -- but those values that are genuine and authentic to  YOU!Grab the free values assessment guide on The Divorce Confidante websiteReferences: Proverbs 22:6Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.Everybody. Always.Author: Bob Goff(Find on The Divorce Confidante Amazon shop!)The Divorce Confidante Links:Discount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston Facebook

Are you ready to let go of your overstuffed, "drywall palace" to live a bigger life -- a better life -- in a smaller, decluttered home?  Are you ready to create a sanctuary?  Are you ready to make it your own after divorce?If you said "yes", Joy's guest, Judy Granlee Gates, has some tips, tricks and answers to help you declutter and downsize to give you freedom of time, money and emotions while taking care of less. Judy is an author, home builder and small-living advocate.   It's time to clear the clutter from your house and your mind, lift a burden when living with less stuff and create a home that is a place to recharge and rest.  There is a place between minimalism and clutter, so let's find that balance.In this episode, we talk about:* what value does an item really have?* emotional clutter from physical clutter* storage unit dilemmas* clutter is an energy suck* remodel to live, not sell* the emotional connection to your home / stuck on sentimental* are you staying where bad memories live?* benefits of moving* "gamify" it with the kids* moving from "our space" to "my space"* cleansing and freedom found in decluttering* what to do with your ex's stuff w/o being disrespectful* the angry vs rationale response* repurpose and reimagine sentimental items* realist vs minimalist* connecting with Priscilla, the relatable woman from the BibleConnect with Judy:www.judygranleegates.comIG:  Declutter and ResizeFB Group: Declutter and Resize  Get Judy's book on Amazon:  Bigger Living, Smaller SpacesBook mentioned in the episode:  Not So Big HouseThe Divorce Confidante Links: Download your FUN MOM SUMMER GUIDE at www.divorce-confidante.comDiscount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pintereston FacebookLet's make the summer sizzle! 

It's time to let your hair down and have a little fun!So much of life is focused on obligation, and when you add in the stress of divorce, you compound the heaviness and unhappiness exponentially.  To counter all of the stress in your life, schedule in some fun this summer season and beyond.In this week's episode, Joy talks about the benefits of having fun, as well as 6 ways to bring fun into your life -- whether it's with your kids, with your friends or co-workers or with your kids.In this episode Joy talks about:* the benefits of fun (3:40)* bringing fun into your everyday (6:05)* fun on a budget (8:28)* having something scheduled (9:45)* letting people know you're available (13:42)* stepping out of your comfort zone (14:58)Download your FUN MOM SUMMER GUIDE at www.divorce-confidante.comDiscount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comConnect with Joy:on Instagramon LinkedInon PinterestLet's make the summer sizzle!

Are there times you feel that life is on auto-pilot and passing you by?  Do you feel you don't have control? Or that you want to make changes but unsure how?In this episode of The Divorce Confidante Podcast, Joy talks about 7 ways to make your life a masterpiece.  You can create and curate your life to make it spectacular, but it's learning how to make that happen.Listen in for more on learning to:* acknowledge the past and start fresh* develop new habits / skills* set new goals* make time to move forward* know your why / give yourself grace* surround yourself with positive support* look past the imperfectionsReferenced in this episode:libby app - for free e-books and audiobooks through your libraryThe Riviera House by Natasha LesterDiscount Code for $100 off a 6-session coaching package:  SUMMER100The Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits to adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Every divorce is different and comes with its unique challenges.  But whether your divorce is amicable or high-conflict, there can be a solution that is less confrontational and without the need for litigation in a courtroom.  Utilizing a mediator in your divorce can save you time, money, and emotional energy. Cary Jacobson is a family law attorney/mediator who helps people through their divorce, and today talks about the process and benefits.Find out more about:* the mediation process* the mediator as a neutral guide* the benefits: financial and emotional / confidential and flexible* benefits of virtual negotiations* special processes for high-conflict situations* additional resources* overcoming obstacles* benefits to the co-parenting relationshipConnect with Cary:Website:  Jacobson Family LawInstagramFacebookYouTubeTikTokThe Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about the benefits to adding a divorce coach to your team, or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Are you struggling to get a good night's sleep?  Are you fatigued?  Or unable to lose weight the same as when you were younger?  Join the club!Midlife happens to all of us, but changes can be managed to give you the vibrant life you want as you age.  Karen Viesta, founder of The Wellegant Woman,  is a life and health coach that works with women to help them with 5 pillars of life:  nutrition, fitness, detoxification, stress management and sleep.   She helps women learn to be an observer of their bodies and be their own best advocates for health.  And this week she joins the podcast to start the conversation on your personal health goals through midlife, menopause, and beyond.In our episode today, we tackle several health and wellness topics:* body-mind connection* what is "wellegance"?* empowering women as they age:  age does not equal decline* quality nutrition to increase health and reduce inflammation* finding your motivation for success* changing "all or nothing thinking" to give yourself grace* stress and hormonal health* what supplements do you need in midlife (follow your doctor's advice)* better sleep for rest and repair* gut healthConnect with Karen Viesta at:The Wellegant WomanDon't forget to sign up for the Midlife Glow Up!IG:  wellegantwomanFB: Karen ViestaPodcast:  The Wellegant WomanThe Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

If you think co-parenting has to be complicated or chaotic, think again.  It is possible to make life after divorce with kids work well.  Dollnita Winston,  a parent educator and co-parenting coach/facilitator, joins the conversation on changing the focus to become an intentional co-parent.In our conversation, we talk about:* what co-parenting can look like* respecting boundaries to reduce friction* Mom Guilt* finding a support system or mommy mentor* "Red Flashing Railroad Light Syndrome"* previous communication habits and creating new strategies* building resilience and self-esteem in children* co-parent training together* Mary - God's choice of a favored womanConnect with Dollnita:Website: familylifeenhancement.comEmail: coaching@familylifeenhancement.comTo contact Dollnita to speak at your event:  dollnitawinstonspeaks.comThe Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Join me for a great conversation with Juliana Page - master life coach and author.  Even in a time of divorce, it can be a new starting point to connect and partner with God in the current situation and stepping into faith on your journey.  It's a time to connect with your TRUE identity and live out your calling.  Are you ready to answer these 3 questions:  Who am I?  Why am I here?  How can I make a difference?In our chat today, we talk about:* who we are supposed to be vs our authentic self* unlocking your gifts* stepping into faith* "future tripping" (Psalm 112:7)* religion vs relationship:  knowing the formula vs knowing God* God's plan for my life:  Am I willing?  (John 15:5 / Matthew 7:24-27)* choosing joy* what's the theme of your year or season of life* speaking declarations into your life* random ideas may be "God ideas"* inspiration from Esther (accepting the call) and Ruth (blind faith) Connect with Juliana:www.julianapage.comCourage Co - online free communityGod's Vibe Podcast (on Apple)Juliana's Books (on Amazon):God's Vibes MatterStepping Into RoyaltyRule and ReignDeclaration DeckThe Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Having 100% control over your finances after divorce may feel overwhelming.  But there are small steps you can take to make sure you stay on the right path.Kirsten Jacobsen from Revolution Financial Management talks on the show today about increasing confidence and clarity with your money through financial literacy.  In this episode we talk about:- Setting up a budget: knowing your income and expenses- Using a spreadsheet or app to track your money- Building a healthy relationship with money- Credit card debit cycle- Setting financial goals / Using a savings thermometer to track progress- Setting up an emergency fund, short-term savings and mid-term savings- Using high yield banking accounts to grow your money- Releasing instant gratification to get to your goals* Challenge:  What is the most important bill you pay each month?Listen in for the answer!Connect with Kirsten at:213-344-6337 (PST)kirstenj.rfm@gmail.comThe Divorce Confidante Links:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Though I love a good mani-pedi or a deep tissue massage, that only reaches the surface of self-care.  This week's episode with guest Tina Stinson is about deepening our level of self-care that impacts our body, mind and spirit.This deeper self-care is more about boundaries and protecting our energy.  All of the benefits and rewards of being treated well.Tina talks about the "stress loop" and how decluttering our mind, our personal space and our daily processes can reduce stress and create time in our everyday lives.  And we talk about how we can reduce comparison, tune into ourselves and step into our power as women.Age isn't a number, it's a level of accomplishment!  So get ready to do the work and show up differently to create your best self.Connect with Tina Stinson:website for the Ultimate Guide to Getting UnstuckInstagramThe Soul-Aligned Self-Care PodcastThe Divorce Confidante Connections:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a complimentary coaching call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Our guest today is Bridget McGee, a CDLP, who specializes in helping people in the divorce process with refinancing and mortgage options.  As a certified divorce lending professional with over 20 years in the business, Bridget is uniquely qualified to help you decide what to do as far as your home, mortgage and divorce settlement structure are concerned.  Her "out of the box" thinking can help you work through the monetary issues regarding the home."What the expected best option is, is not necessarily the best option!"Bridget talks about:- the sentimental,  the stability and the affordability of staying- when to get pre-approval if you are looking to refinance or move- qualified income for approval to refinance or pre-approval, what are your income sources- tax considerations- how your credit score can be an impactConnect with Bridget McGee,The Maryland Mortgage Mama:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramThe Divorce Confidante LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a complimentary coaching call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Alternative Dispute Resolutions in divorce have become more popular over the past decade.  It has great benefits monetarily and emotionally over the prior litigation-only divorce practice.In this episode divorce attorney and mediator, Regina DeMeo, speaks to the differences between the mediation and collaborative approaches to the divorce process.  The structure, benefits, pace, and confidentiality that come with these processes.To learn more about Regina DeMeo, her practice and her many articles/blogs on divorce, click the links below:www.reginademeo.comrad@reginademeo.comREMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!DRAWING!!!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun self-care goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a complimentary coaching call, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

If you need a little lift -- all puns intended -- then this is the episode for you!Mary Jordan, the owner of the lingerie boutique Bra-La-La, shares her insights into the boost of confidence and feeling of feminity you get from adding well-fitting bras and panties into your everyday attire.  It starts with a professional bra fitting in her store, to sizes and products that are comfortable and flattering.  So if you need to add a little luxury to your life, let your fairy godmothers at Bra-La-La help you uplevel your style, building your wardrobe from the inside out.  Whether it's just you seeing your "special purchase" or not, you deserve to feel empowered and look great every day.  Do it for yourself.***Mention the podcast and receive a $20 discount in-store.Connect with Mary Jordan:online:  www.bralala.comin-store: 8180 Maple Lawn Blvd, Fulton, MD 20759Instagram: @BralalafultonREMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!DRAWING!!!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun self-care goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest

Ladies, are your social circles changing through your divorce?  Are you concerned that you're missing out on important things?  It's completely understandable that you may be feeling left out in this new phase of your life, but that doesn't mean you can't find joy in the present.This week Joy talks about switching out your FOMO for JOMO -- finding that JOY in missing out. And how to bring in a new mindset, new self-care practices and a reconnection to God to bring about new joy into your life.Listen in for 5 steps to create the joy you crave in a busy season of life.REMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!DRAWING!!!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun self-care goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest* To add Kencko to your daily routine to get extra fruits and vegetables to support a healthy lifestyle.  Smoothie packets, treats and meals.  Use the link to get $20 off your first order.

Planning for college isn't just for senior year.  There is planning all through high school, and once you've done the work, it's time too fill out those college applications.  Tonica Johnson is the founder of Cardinal College Planning, and she is sharing her insights in this episode on lots of information all us moms need.  Tonica talks about:* college visits* the common app* college application fees* how many (and which) schools to apply to* deadlines* the dreaded essay* pointy vs well-rounded applicants* do you or don't you submit standardized testing / SAT scores?* and gives advice for under-classman on what to start getting preparedIf you have a rising senior or a child in high school, you'll get plenty of information on this week's episode on college applications!Connect with Tonica Johnson and Cardinal College Planning:Cardinal College PlanningFB: @cardinalcollegeplanningIG: @cardinalcollegeplanningREMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!DRAWING!!!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun self-care goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest* To add Kencko to your daily routine to get extra fruits and vegetables to support a healthy lifestyle.  Smoothie packets, treats and meals.  Use the link to get $20 off your first order.

Are you struggling with your parenting style after divorce?  Has communication with your kids changed?  Do you feel like you're out of sync as a parent?Well, this episode will get you back on track!My guest, Jaci Finneman, a parenting coach and found of No-Problem Parenting, talks about some of the mistakes we make as moms and how to adjust to build better relationships with our kids.In this episode we talk about:* Why your parenting style may not be working* 3 reasons you may feel like you're failing as a parent* How we can be better parents and not damage our relationships with our kids* 3 steps to "no-problem parenting"* Hard conversations * How an apology may strengthen your relationship and open communication.* Make it Right TechniqueDivorce is hard for everyone, but you can build a great relationship with your kids through good parenting!Connect with Jaci Finneman and find her parenting resources at:No Problem Parenting WebsiteThe No-Problem Parenting PodcastFacebookInstagramLinkedInREMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante website:www.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest* To add Kencko to your daily routine to get extra fruits and vegetables to support a healthy lifestyle.  Smoothie packets, treats and meals.  Use the link to get $20 off your first order.

Let's talk today about "Gray Divorce" and some of its specific nuances.  My "wisdom highlights" and laugh lines certainly tell my age.  And going through a  divorce at this stage can bring on different questions and challenges in the process.  In this episode Joy talks about:Why gray divorce is occurring at higher rates.What obstacles you might face through this specific process.Who can help and support you for the best outcome in the final divorce decree.Finding your way after the divorce is complete.REMINDERS:Don't forget to "rate and review"!Reviewers of the podcast from 1/1/23 - 4/30/23 are eligible to be entered for a drawing for free fun goodies from Merle Norman in Olney, Md.  Check them out on Instagram at Merle Norman Olney.LINKS:* To find out more about The Confident Divorce Coaching Program or to book a FREE consultation, connect at The Divorce Confidante websitewww.divorce-confidante.comJoy is found:on Instagramon LinkedInon Pinterest* To add Kencko to your daily routine to get extra fruits and vegetables to support a healthy lifestyle.  Smoothie packets, treats and meals.  Use the link to get $20 off your first order.