You Can Tell Me

We are declaring this summer HEALING GIRL SUMMER! Thank you everyone for joining us on this Season 1 journey! This project is near and dear to my heart, and got me through the worst of times. We are taking a bit of a break this summer to focus some energy on other creative projects, but also to prepare for Season 2 coming in the fall!  In the meantime, listen to all of Season 1 all over again! Or, better yet, leave a review on Apple Podcasts and rate our show! We will miss you

Today's movie is the 2000 classic – Love and Basketball (dir. Gina Prince-Bythewood). This beloved classic tells the story of childhood sweethearts over the course of their lives, and we debunk our famous question: would they still be together if this movie was real life? In this episode we share the mic with the fabulous Julissa & Skittlez from the Ladies Who Bronché podcast and spill the tea on fuckboys, playing (literal) games, and people who use their career as an excuse to end relationships.   Be sure to subscribe, rate and review!

Today we're joined by the fabulous folks from LAB Partners Podcast, discussing How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days starring Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson. Today's topic is pet peeves: the things we really can't stand. We talk about the importance of having aligned lifestyles, work/life balance, and chewing with your mouth CLOSED. Enjoy!

They joined us on ours, we joined them on theirs. The YCTM sat down with Abby and Stacy from Based on a True Fiction to discuss 1998's classic summer romance movie How Stella Got Her Groove Back (dir. Kevin Rodney Sullivan)! We talk about how Angela Bassett invented the concept of having abs, read Letterboxd reviews, and that VERY steamy shower scene with Taye Diggs.   Listen, rate & subscribe!

Today we are joined by Abby and Stacy from the podcast Based on a True Fiction! We discuss one of our all-time favorite romantic comedies My Big Fat Greek Wedding, while sharing stories about meeting our partners' families, and anxiety about cultural differences.  

Today's movie is the 1999 classic Ghost (dir. Jerry Zucker). Ladies Fright Podcast joins the You Can Tell Me team to talk about how hot Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore are, love in the afterlife, and -- of course -- that steamy pottery scene. You know the one.   Rate & subscribe! Follow us on Twitter & Instagram @youcantellmepod

ONLY MOVIES IN MAY! This May, we are releasing five installments of our Movie Monday episodes.

Today's couple on the hot seat: Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts) & Ike Graham (Richard Gere). We are discussing RUNAWAY BRIDE (dir. Garry Marshall), serial dating, knowing yourself before making big commitments, and how we like our eggs. Featuring our friends Julia & Brenda from RAWring Twenties Podcast – check them out!

*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains discussion of addiction and drug use that may be triggering to some. Please listen with caution. If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, consider calling SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357). __________ Long Time Listener shares her experience of dating someone who was using hard drugs and how she had to prioritize taking care of herself, even when it was the hardest thing to do. Survival strategies mentioned in this episode: Accept the ups and downs of ending a relationship as you go through a break-up. Getting back together with your ex is NOT something to be ashamed of. After a breakup: supportive friends only. Period. Twitter: @youcantellmepod Instagram: @youcantellmepod RATE & REVIEW

*EMERGENCY BONUS RECORDING!* When Miss Swift re-records one of her most iconic albums, the You Can Tell Me team had no choice but to create a track-by-track guide. May Taylor Swift score your heartbreak like she does for us

In today's episode of You Can Tell Me, I Think I'm Gay shares how she ended her marriage to her partner of 12 years when she realized she wasn't sexually attracted to men anymore. She discusses the hardship of going through a divorce while also coming to terms with her sexuality.   Survival strategies mentioned in this episode include: Take some space from your ex after your break-up. Space helps. Maintain boundaries with your ex even when it is challenging.   SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW! twitter.com/youcantellmepod instagram.com/youcantellmepod

A Cellist joins us this week to talk about ending her high school relationship when starting college due to massive jealousy issues. Between the clingy texts and the long-distance, there was no chance this musical duo was going to make it work long-term.   Survival strategies mentioned in this episode: Cry for a week, then listen to Lizzo. If you are planning to break up with someone, don’t let it drag out for too long.   Subscribe & follow us! Share with your friends! instagram.com/youcantellmepod twitter.com/youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Introducing a new series: ARE THEY STILL TOGETHER?! Every month, the You Can Tell Me will analyze a famous rom com couple and determine whether or not they are still together, based on the information we know about relationships now. Today's film is When Harry Met Sally (1989) dir. Rob Reiner. The duo discusses whether or not Harry and Sally would still be together if this was IRL, and they try to answer the question of the film: "can men and women be friends without wanting to sleep with one another?"   Follow us & subscribe! @youcantellmepod Email us your breakup stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com!

On today's episode of You Can Tell Me, our guest tells us about an on again, off again relationship that has finally reached its conclusion after her ex's inability to understand what truly connecting really means.   Survival strategies mentioned in this episode include: Journal your feelings while you are having them – keep track of what isn't serving you in the relationship. Be honest and open with your partner – the person who is meant for you is not going to walk away if you are truly being yourself.   Subscribe & follow us! @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Aasha Wells from MTV's Are You The One, Come One Come All joins the You Can Tell Me team to talk about her experience dating on a reality TV show!   Follow us on Twitter & Instagram @youcantellmepod. Email us your breakup stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains detailed discussion of sexual acts. A Reality TV Star recounts the story of her first boyfriend. With model looks and a massive ego, A Reality TV Star's ex had some trouble respecting boundaries which, as we know by now, is a big NO. Be sure to tune in on Thursday for a bonus episode wherein this guest tells all about her experience being on a Reality TV show.   Survival strategies in this episode include: Give your heartbreak time. Time heals all wounds. Trust that you will find someone who won't think your rules are ridiculous.   Follow us & subscribe! @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

At the Bodega tells us about their most recent breakup, and subsequent adventurous night with their ex, and how to stick to your decisions when you know it's best for the long term.   Survival strategies in this episode: Really consider what your decisions will mean for you and your ex before you make them Rely on the people you can truly be yourself with in the aftermath of the break-up Subscribe & follow us @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

The You Can Tell Me team sits down with Lizz and Shayna from You Should Have Ghosted  to discuss scary online dating and red flags to look out for if you are dipping your toes back into dating! Check out our episode on the You Should Have Ghosted feed here. Red flags mentioned in this episode: Meeting up the night you met on the app When someone doesn't have pictures of themself on their dating profile When someone changes up plans last minute When someone doesn't know, appreciate, or admire Judy Greer's work (this was obviously my contribution)   Follow us & subscribe on Instagram and Twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Boss Girl is done with situationships. In this episode, she talks through how her last foray into the gray area of entanglements ended, and the steps she is taking to find that one special someone to be a simp for.   Survival strategy: Anticipate that you will feel tempted to go back to your ex because it was comfortable – know who to turn to in those moments when your ex is simply not the best option.   Follow us & subscribe @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories to youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

The You Can Tell Me team catches up with Hot Girl from Episode 12: Should've, Could've, Would've. She shares a fun relationship update!   Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod.  Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Always introduced as The Friend, this episode's guest discusses his first love with someone who wasn't out of the closet just yet. Despite having noteworthy chemistry, ultimately something had to give when communication broke down between the two of them. A romantic trip to Louisiana would turn into their ultimate demise.   Survival strategies shared in this episode: Nourish and cherish your friendships just as you would your romantic relationships When you enter a relationship, don’t drop your self worth at the door step Don't stop writing your story just because one character doesn't make it into the next chapter   Follow us and subscribe @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

The You Can Tell Me team catches up with A New Yorker in LA from our third episode. She shares how she's been doing since her breakup in March! Follow us on instagram and twitter @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

This week we are featuring a non-traditional break-up story: breaking up with a perceived identity. We talk to Gently Evolving who, after identifying as a lesbian for four years, fell in love with a cisgender man. She discusses the complexities of queer identity, how she still considers herself part of the LGBTQIA+ community, and tips on how to handle tricky coming out situations.   Survival strategies include: Be gentle with yourself Surround yourself with those who will be understanding of your journey Be careful who you come out to   Follow us & subscribe @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com. *ALSO* Last week, the You Can Tell Me team sat down with Julia & Brenda at RAWring Twenties podcast – check out our episode!

The You Can Tell Me team catches up with our very first guest, Resilient Single Dog Mom, six months into her break up with her ex. She shares what has been most helpful to her in her healing journey which includes a rigorous morning routine and cultivating confidence through meditation and affirmations!   Follow us & subscribe: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

A Mystery Musician joins the You Can Tell Me team to tell us about her first love. For the majority of their relationship, they lived over 3,000 miles apart before FaceTime existed – but their summers were akin to the fairytales we love so much. A true heartwarming teenage love story set to a Coldplay album.   Survival strategies include: Give yourself as much mercy as you can. Use your creativity! Keep journals of your time. Remind yourself of your tenacity by looking back on other hardships you have gone through and use that as proof that you can get through this as well. Aside from giving us incredible advice, Mystery Musician also wanted to share her newest album Conscious Control with us!

You Can Tell Me is excited to announce a special series for February: FEBRUARY FOLLOW-UPS! For the next three Fridays, we will be following up with past guests to see how they're doing on their healing journeys. They will share their advice, spill some tea, and remind us that everyone is healing on their own timeline. The YCTM team also shares their plans for Galentine's Day, as well as a special guest spot they are doing on RAWring Twenties Podcast this month.   Follow us on instagram & twitter: @youcantellmepod. Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains discussion of sexual violence. Please listen with caution, and take care of yourself.   Eight years ago, Hot Girl fell in love for the first time. It was film school, he was perfect, and everything was right in the world. That is, until passions ran high, events were misinterpreted, and the relationship came to a dramatic end. In this episode, Hot Girl looks back on this relationship and examines all the things that would be different if only both her and her ex were better at communicating with one another. Survival strategies in this episode include: Trusting that time will help heal the wound Focus on not hurting yourself or others in the wake of the break-up   Follow us & subscribe! Twitter & IG: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Don't believe in ghosts? Think again. In this episode Always Leveling Up spills the tea on the dude who keeps ghosting her and how she's coped with it when it happens.   Survival strategies featured in this episode include: Just focus on the next 24 hours – stay present. The feelings will pass eventually, they are temporary. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love, respect and admiration.   Subscribe & follow us! IG & Twitter – @youcantellmepod Share your survival stories with us at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

*WARNING: This episode includes detailed descriptions of sexual acts.* For those of you who have recently ended a relationship and are feeling guilty about how you ended things – this episode is for you. Guilty No More realized something was up when she... literally never wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. Major red flag. She discusses working up the courage to be honest with her partner and how she learned more about herself in the aftermath of their relationship. Survival strategies shared in this episode include: If you are breaking up with someone and you feel guilty about it, remember the things about the relationship that weren’t working. Don’t feel guilty for wanting to date other people or explore other areas of your sexuality. Lean into learning about yourself post-break-up.   Subscribe & follow us! @youcantellmepod on IG & Twitter Email survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

"I went back so y'all don't have to." Table For One sits down with the You Can Tell Me team to discuss healing after an eight year-long relationship wherein they still had to live with one another after the fact. We talk about taking a pause from dating to date yourself as a means of healing.   Survival Strategies discussed in this episode: Honor your feelings Cultivate a relationship with yourself to better understand what you can give in a relationship Romance yourself! Buy candles... lots of candles.   Subscribe & follow us! Twitter & IG: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories for a possible feature at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

The Perfect Wife was married for 14 years when she realized she was attracted to women. They had what seemed like the perfect suburban life, including two kids and a nice house. But underneath it all, our guest was not being true to herself. We discuss listening to your inner knowing and trusting that it is okay to be who you are because in the end the right people will always be there to catch you. Survival strategies in this episode include: Advocating for yourself and what's best for you Finding the people that you feel safe around Understand that the past is the past   FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE Twitter & IG: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

Good riddance, 2020! We are breaking up! Host & Producer sit down to discuss what we are breaking up with in order to become better versions of ourselves in 2021. Some survival strategies for the new year include: NO TOXIC COMPARISON! Being proud of everything you have accomplished (hint: if you survived 2020, this applies to you.) Being the main character! Follow & Subscribe: IG & Twitter – @youcantellmepod email us your survival strategies at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

A Guy's Guy broke up with his girlfriend after realizing his life was in auto-pilot. In this episode, we discuss the trouble men have with being vulnerable and facing their demons, alcholism, and the emotional labor women end up doing in relationships. Send this episode to at least one straight man you know. Survival strategies featured in this episode: Be honest with yourself about your own toxic patterns Have the courage to seek help Don't count on the bottle in front of you to solve your problems SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW IG & Twitter: @youcantellmepod Email us your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com.

A Really Special Person wrote her ex a letter when she realized that perhaps he was not as committed to the relationship as she was. She breaks down what she wrote in her letter, and shares some of the strategies she used to cope as she came to the realization that her relationship wasn’t going to turn out the way she wanted it to. She also shares her daily mantra: “pain comes from the inability to accept what is.” Strategies Get out of the routine you created around this person Remember the parts of your ex that you actually did not love Don’t try to move faster than the rate of healing

The One Before The One thought she would be The One… despite the fact that soon into the relationship she realized she wasn’t a big fan of his personality… he was just very hot. This guest tells us her journey of coming into her true self post-breakup by determining who she needed to be, and who she needed to surround herself with, in order to heal. Survival Strategies Baking scones (https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/scones-recipe/) Distancing yourself from mutual friends who don’t have your back Establishing a relationship with yourself Avoiding Frank Ocean at all costs

Like two ships in the night, A New Yorker in LA found herself moving back and forth across the country for her long-distance boo. The pandemic presented itself as an opportunity for the two of them to finally lay down roots together... until someone who was always lurking in the shadows found her way into the foreground and plans changed. This guest discusses her ex's narcissistic behavior, career jealousy, and all things long-distance in this episode. Survival strategies featured in this episode: A solid support system that you can turn to Being honest with yourself and what you are feeling Keeping busy SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW US Twitter: @youcantellmepod Instagram: @youcantellmepod Email us with your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com

Three years out from the break-up, Kind of An Intense Person looks back on his experience breaking up with his first love. He goes on to tell us about the importance of being vulnerable with your partner, finding your sense of self after you lost it in a relationship, and revising the narratives of your life so they suit your healing process. And of course, we discuss the final scene of Call Me By Your Name and its direct correlation to healing from a bad split. Survival strategies featured in this episode: Staying busy and keeping your mind occupied Going through it, feeling the feelings Therapy !!! Watching Call Me By Your Name SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW US Twitter: @youcantellmepod Instagram: @youcantellmepod Email us with your survival stories at youcantellmepod@gmail.com

After being together for four years, sharing a home together, and having a dog, Resilient Single Dog Mom thought she was in it for the long run. Turns out her boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) wasn’t on the same page. In fact, maybe he was reading a different book entirely. @youcantellmepod on IG & Twitter; youcantellmepod@gmail.com for survival submissions.

Need help getting over a breakup? Same. We’re talking to people who have gotten over their heartbreak in our new podcast, You Can Tell Me, an anonymous guide to getting over your ex. Everyone’s anonymous, and everyone’s honest, launching on November 23! Subscribe now so you don’t miss a thing. Twitter: @youcantellmepod Instagram: @youcantellmepod Email: youcantellmepod@gmail.com