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Where is the line between a good guy and a doormat? Do people with sharp elbows make more money? And why did Angela's mother give away her birthday present?Take the Big Five inventory: freakonomics.com/bigfive SOURCES:Kristen Bell, actor.Jeff Bezos, founder and executive chairman of Amazon.Harry Connick Jr., singer, pianist, and actor.Phyllis Fogelman, children's book publisher.Juli Fraga, psychologist and writer.Adam Grant, professor of management and psychology at the University of Pennsylvania.Allison Sweet Grant, writer.Timothy Judge, chair of the department of Management and Human Resources at The Ohio State University.Frank Jacobs, journalist and columnist at Big Think.Beth Livingston, professor of industrial relations at the University of Iowa.Topher Payne, playwright and screenwriter.Dax Shepard, actor and podcast host. RESOURCES:"Are You a Chronic People-Pleaser? Here's How to Be Kinder to Yourself," by Juli Fraga (The Washington Post, 2023)."Geopsychology: Your Personality Depends on Where You Live," by Frank Jacobs (Big Think, 2023)."We Need to Talk About ‘The Giving Tree,'" by Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant (The New York Times, 2020).The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries, by Topher Payne (2020)."Do as You're Told! Facets of Agreeableness and Early Adult Outcomes for Inner-City Boys," by Margaret Kern, Angela Duckworth, Sergio Urzúa, Rolf Loeber, Magda Stouthamer-Loeber, and Donald Lynam (Journal of Research in Personality, 2013).Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, by Adam Grant (2013)."Do Nice Guys — and Gals — Really Finish Last? The Joint Effects of Sex and Agreeableness on Income," by Timothy Judge and Beth Livingston (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2012). EXTRAS:Big Five Personality Inventory, by No Stupid Questions (2024).“Personality: The Big Five,” series by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Are You Suffering From Burnout?" by No Stupid Questions (2023).

6 Easy Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself

#MentalHealth #Kindness #lifestyle Hi Everyone! Welcome to our second segment on Mental Health, this week. In today's conversation, we are continuing the conversation, sharing expressions and ways to increase the level of kindness that we give to ourselves. Kindness is more than the words we say, it's the actions that we take and the choices that we make, that keep ourselves and our overall well-being, in mind. When we think about how to be more kind to ourselves, it is often the small shifts in our behaviours and values that end up having a large impact. Cultivating a healthy relationship with self, involves treating oneself with kindness. Join the discussion as we offer subtle ways that you can begin to engage and navigate your inner world, with more kindness and compassion. #MentalHealth #Kindness #Kind #SelfWorth #InnerWorld #InnerDialogue #InnerPeace #SelfCare #Relationship #RelationshipGoals #SelfCompassion Do you have any questions regarding our resilience-building workshops? Send us an email: inquiries@spe-projectpurpose.com *RESOURCES* - 52 Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself: https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/52-ways-you-can-be-kinder-to-yourself.html - How to be Kind to Yourself: https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/how-to-be-kind-to-yourself - 17 Ways to be Kind to Yourself -- Daring to Live Fully: https://daringtolivefully.com/how-to-be-kind-to-yourself For all topics related to renewing and rebuilding family, communities and relationships, check out our blogs! We post bi-weekly: https://www.spe-projectpurpose.com/blogs Make sure to come visit us, subscribe to the website, and join our Member's Area for more valuable content: *SOCIALS* Website: www.spe-projectpurpose.com Facebook Page: @ProjectPurposeSPE Instagram: @ProjectPurposeSPE or my personal account @realistrae Twitter: @Purpose_SPE Pinterest: @ProjectPurposeSPE If you'd like to read my research thesis, "ADHD: Is it a Social Construct or does it have a Neurophysiological Basis?" you can find it at the following address: https://rachellerealist.wordpress.com​​. ​ I'm more than happy to answer your questions, feel free to send an email to: inquiries@spe-projectpurpose.com OUR AUTONOMY, SELF-EFFICACY, COMPASSION & SELF-CONCEPT WORKSHOPS ARE AVAILABLE (AGES 4-8, 9-13 & 14-17) BE SURE TO GO TO THE WEBSITE AND MAKE YOUR PURCHASE! Do you like the intro/outro music? Check out the artist on Spotify: Artist Name: Valdii Song Name: I Learn --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/projectpurposespe/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/projectpurposespe/support

Struggling with your confidence? You're not alone. We all striveto have more self-confidence. However, it can be difficult to come by at times. We often hold ourselves to unreasonably high standards, and this can have a negative impact on our self-esteem. However, if you can learn how to leverage and strengthen your self-confidence, you can generate some excellent outcomes. For instance, self-confidence leads to: Healthier relationships. Confidence doesn't just influence how you feel about yourself, but it also helps you to understand and appreciate others better too. Better performance. Rather than constantly worrying you're not good enough, you can devote your energy to reaching your goals. Resilience. When you're confident, you're more likely to open yourself up to new opportunities. At the same time, you're also less likely to take a massive hit if something doesn't go according to plan. Here are some quick ways to improve your self-confidence. Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others The most important thing you can do to strengthen your self-confidence is to avoid comparing yourself to other people. When you're constantly comparing how you look, your job, your home, and other aspects of your life to what other people have, it's much harder to be confident in yourself. Researchers have discovered that people who compare themselves to others are more likely to feel envy, and envy impacts how these people feel about themselves. If you're feeling envious of someone else's life, remember that the image you see of that person might not be as real as it seems. Look After Your Physical Health It's difficult to feel good about yourself when you don't feel good.Practicing good self-care and looking after your body means that you'll be in a healthier position to look after yourself – mind, body, and spirit. Start by looking at your current self-care routine. Where does it most need improvement? For instance, if you're currently eating a lot of fast food to deal with long hours at work, now might be the time to start thinking about how you can add more fruits and vegetables into your routine. If you spend a lot of time sitting in front of a computer at work, then you're going to need to start getting some exercise into your routine, so you can feel your best. It's not just diet and exercise that makes a difference either. Think about how well you sleep. If you're not getting the right amount of sleep, you'll struggle to feel strong enough to handle the everyday challenges you have to face. Be Kinder to Yourself We could all do with a little more self-compassion these days. #Tiger Woods #Motivation #Self-confidence #mindset #inner-Critic #adhd #NBA --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/wayne-weathersby/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/wayne-weathersby/support

Well hello again everyone! I bet you've been wondering where I've been... Well, if you take a listen to this episode, it may give you a GREAT understanding of what kept me away from spreading the kindness via radio waves! Also, what is something that you've been doing to show kindness in the world these past few weeks?!I'd love to hear it! Listen up to this week's episode of Kinder Spirits for more information!Please feel free to reach out to me on all the social media platforms @kinderspiritspodcast!Our Sponsors this week are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

Holy Cow... You all are just not ready for the level of goofs that you're going to hear!Encouraging Words, Anecdotes and even Bathroom Humor... Let's welcome our guest.... the Host of "Hey Rock5tar!": Mr Josafat Emiliano!Hey Rock5tar! can be heard and found here:https://www.facebook.com/HeyRock5tar/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNYLrBaI3y1DejHBw1oVMDQhttps://www.instagram.com/heyrock5tar/

CALLING ALL CARS! CALLING ALL CARS!We need to know Who Your Best Friend is STAT! Hey no but seriously... Let me talk to your best friend for a second... Ok? Cool.Now that I'm talking to them, PLEASE TREAT YOURSELF BETTER! We cover How to Stand Up for yourself, how to relax instead of constantly grinding, and how to tell if you're Superman (Trick Question... you're not!).  Please feel free to reach out to me on all the social media platforms @kinderspiritspodcast!Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

"... BUT ALEX!..." (you may say) "What should I do if I'm burning the candle at more ends than it has?!""Well..."  (I say questioning) "That is a bit of a Paradox... but you should probably Prioritize Your Life to be the most Kind you can!"To find the best opportunity for you to succeed, you need to set yourself up for success... that means... Prioritizing YOU first.Please feel free to reach out to me on all the social media platforms @kinderspiritspodcast!Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

Alright Ladies and Gentlemen!Is there anyone who wants to learn a bit about themselves and learn how to be more kind in the world?Let's open up... and learn a little bit on this week's episode of Kinder Spirits!HUGE thank you to those of you who helped me see where I can grow and be better.If you'd like to help broaden our perspective, I think it would be TREMENDOUSLY helpful.Please feel free to reach out to me on all the social media platforms @kinderspiritspodcast!Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

Sometimes we need to adjust how we show our Aggressive Kindness... That's right... we need to show the level of kindness to what we're given.Don't forget... we need to show kindness as best as the others can receive it.That may seem a bit confusing... but when you realize that Everyone Has An Iceberg... Then you'll know that everyone needs a little bit of kindness with what they're hiding below the surface.This one is kinda heavy... but then again... so are Icebergs!Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

This one was a difficult one to muster, Ladies and Gents... and a lot of my thoughts were just pouring out of me.I really think that this may be a multi-part episode talking about the Strength you need to find... if you're going to be sorry. Let's all Grow together shall we?!Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

Oh Man Oh Man...I know I say this every week... but you all are just NOT ready. You're gonna get a smidge of the following: Blogs, Bands, and BUGS! THAT'S RIGHT! BUGS ARE INCLUDED! (But you don't have to see them... just listen to them...) "Alex are you CRAZY?!" - You, Probably. *Shrug?* I'm so proud of my friends for doing big things with the Call to Action so get together and listen to some amazing Celebrations where we break down barriers! I love you all and am so friggin proud of you.Also, check the links below for our sponsored creators for the Month! Keep Breaking down those H*cking Barriers! (Sorry for my language...)Our Sponsors this Month are the Rock and Roll Revivalists: The Vindys based out of Ohio and ready to ROCK AND ROLL!You can check them all out here: https://www.thevindys.com/I do love the song "Bugs" but I think that there is a MASSIVE opportunity to scream the guitar solos out loud to "Misery"... I'm telling you... it is AWESOME!Also, Jim Garrity's Guide to Living Lean and Eating Clean (Tentative Name that I just came up with) can be found in the link below:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZtbZ1rUPcI0xmCyxILmZ3gYou will want to watch the one of him and his Dad... It had me in STITCHES. hahaAlso, I'm partial to "Onion". IYKYK.#WeWantMoreRocco

HEY! THIS IS A LONG EPISODE, BUT IT IS ONE OF MY FAVORITES THAT I'VE RECORDED! This is the epitome of how I show my aggressive kindness to my friends... and also how they show it to me!Get ready to learn how to make sure that there is always ONE way to encourage someone and make them feel the compliments galore! THATS RIGHT! We're breaking through that glass ceiling!We're not gonna go quietly into that dark.... uhm... thought? NO SIR! We're gonna compliment the h*ck out of our friends Dangit! Also, we've got a new way to do the ad spots in the middle!Want to shout out your friend? WE CAN DO THAT! Send me a message! Finally, the MOMO this week involves some amazing Little Debbie's and a Multi-Lingual pride.Listen up... and... LET ME COMPLIMENT YOU DANGIT!

Alright... Are you ready for some "Aggressive Kindness"? No? Too Much? Whoops... Well we're going to talk about what it takes to be kind in todays world. Also, what in the world is a "MOMO"?! Tune in, Connect, and Be Kinder!

The world is crumbling all around you? Everything seems to be falling apart? Can we achieve meditative states in all of that? And, without meditation frustrations? (00:15) Don't Fetishize Meditation (02:01) How a Moral Philosophy Will Improve Your Life and Meditation (05:28) What to Do if You Find Meditation Distressing? (08:49) Visualization vs Meditation & How Social Media Relay on Content (13:19) Association vs. Dissociation (15:00) How We Are Reliant on 'The Voice-over' (20:34) What You Want is to Come Back to Reality (23:34) The Media Spiking Your Adrenaline and Traumatizing You (27:47) Take Action in This Reality (30:27) We're Worshiping the Idols Themselves (35:23) The Normalized Narcissism and Dissociative Identity in Our Culture (38:26) People Trapped in Materialism (40:28) Recommending the Cure for All of That (45:17) When You Want to Be Kinder to Others //Q&A Section// (47:35) "Reducing the suffering in the world as much as you can" (49:17) "Why do I feel like I'm wasting time if I'm doing nothing?" (50:33) "Can you speak more to your definition of entitlement?" (55:03) "Sometimes being seen is the least/most anyone ever wanted" (57:51) "Is everything in society made to reduce us to our base instincts, so we become more compliant?" (1:01:28) We Haven't Lost Religion, We Reverted to Fetishism (1:04:20) We Just Need to Come Back to Ourselves

We need to pay attention to Mother Earth. Be Kinder. More Loving. Stay Safe

On a wet and windy summer's day Jarvis Cocker takes you to the remote village of Edale and Kinder a landscape he has fallen in love with. He first came across the Peak District while he was a pupil in his native Sheffield and came out on a school trip which he says no–one wanted to go on. However, after two days of exploring he says something happened – something clicked in his head and he didn’t want to admit it but he started to enjoy the landscape. Over the last 40 years it’s a region he has regularly visited and explored and is now truly hooked. To introduce more people to this landscape especially people from the cities, Jarvis along with artist Jeremy Deller and the National Trust who own Kinder Scout has created a trail ‘Be Kinder’. The trail winds its way along a route stretching almost two miles from the tiny railway station in Edale to the foot of the plateau of Kinder Scout to mark the 1932 mass trespass on Kinder Scout. This mass trespass was all about allowing working class people access to the countryside something Jarvis wants to rekindle as he wants everyone to discover the magic and beauty he has found in this landscape. The presenter is Jarvis Cocker and the producer is Perminder Khatkar. Contributors: Jeremy Deller, actress Maxine Peake, Gordon Miller and MEP Magid Magid.

In this episode Natalie introduces you to her Basic Principle Number 4 “Be Kinder to Yourself and Challenge Your Thoughts” this practise is all about managing your inner dialogue in order to rationalise negative thoughts and emotions. To discover more about Living Better London and The Basic Principles please visit: https://livingbetterlondon.com/ or https://www.instagram.com/livingbetterlondon/

This next instalment in our Sex & Relationships Seriesis a stunning episode that brings us into dialogue with some of the most important, yet often-ignored, parts of the human condition. You might not've heard about Chemsex, but it's a growing epidemic that's not only destroying lives, but which also tells us a lotabout how we think, feel and talk about sex. So we went to the man who created the term 'Chemsex' in the first place – David Stuart of the world-renowned 56 Dean Street Clinic. He's an epidemiologist, activist, former addict and drug-dealer who's now invited by healthcare professionals from around the world to advise them on how to tackle Chemsex in their communities. So what is Chemsex? At first Andrea and Jon assumed it simply meant taking drugs in the context of sex, which would surely include alcohol, MDMA, or even psychedelics. But soon they discovered this isn't what the label 'Chemsex' was coined to describe at all. Instead, it describes a specific, widespread and deeply disturbing phenomenon that involves addiction, hook-up culture, self-understanding, social prejudice, internalised homophobia and the profound isolation of modern life. In many ways, Chemsex vividly lays bare the hangups we all experience in relation to finding, having, and understanding sex. This episode certainly isn't specifically or only about gay sex, drug use, or addiction. It's about the fundamental psychology of sex; what it means to be vulnerable; and how we can allowourselves to enjoy who we are and express that sexually with others. Dating apps (check out our episodeon them) have played a major role in the spread of chems and Chemsex, but as with the apps themselves, they arguably reveal our problems rather than creating new ones. So why do people take drugs in the context of sex? There's as many reasons for using drugs as there are fingerprints on the planet – David Stuart Chems make anxiety and insecurity go away. Chems can make you feel like a god with near-limitless energy and have you careening from sex partner to sex party for literally days on end.Chems take away the doubt, the negative voices in your head telling you you're not in good enough shape, or that the person you're with isn't really into you. Or they simply allow you to feel you deservesex or deserveto enjoy pleasure, free from a mind buzzing with questions like 'Am I clean down there? Who's going to be top and bottom? Can I keep it up? Am I doing this right?' What world have you [been living] in that the definition of 'good sex' is 'a performance that manages to avoid any rejection'? But a lot of the guys that I talk to do struggle with the disinhibitions that we deserve to feel when we're having sex. – David Stuart But this isn't a conversation in which we simply assume that drugs are bad; what's important here is to understand what people's relationshipswith particular drugs are, how they fit into their lives, their work, and their sense of self. Our challenge is to do so with compassion and understanding – something David is particularly well-equipped to do. David's own life story means that he's no distant observer of these issues. He's both open and remarkably insightful about his own chem use and HIV status; his history as an escort and a drug dealer; as well as his continuing personal work to move beyond the homophobic attitudes which he internalised growing up. He's been through the fire, but now, tempered by those experiences, he's using what he learnt for the benefit of others. The reason I stopped doing drugs is not because I identified as an addict or they became really problematic for me [...] it was because I had this realisation that some of the people I was playing with... I was damaging them. I think I was playing a role in a journey they were on towards chaos and harm. And I suddenly realised after years of this – way too late – that I wasn't an island. I was impacting other people. And resilient as I might be, others weren't. That was the reason I stopped. – David Stuart The legacy of gay liberation and the AIDS epidemic means that talking about Chemsex at allcan be deeply painful for older gay men, because in the eyes of some commentators, it can make homosexuality seem dangerous and unclean all over again. Many who fought for gay liberation would rather label Chemsex 'a drug problem', but ultimately it's more than that: it's a symptom of a much deeper set of problems. With chems, as David puts it, 'We're trying to medicate something we're finding difficult to manage in our bedrooms or in our intimate lives...'. David's honesty, insight and eloquence bowled us over; we learnt a lot from him, not only in terms of raw information, but about how to approach so many issues around sex with compassion. Being prescriptive and judgemental is not going to help any of us, and David reminds us that we must always leave space for mistakes and not judge ourselves (or others) too harshly when those mistakes inevitably happen. As he puts it, for healthcare providers, We'll always do our jobs better if really understand the humanityof the 'foolish' mistakes we make in bed – David Stuart Jon also shares his own experiences, mistakes, misunderstandings and hard-to-shake prejudices, as well as whether he feels that the history of AIDS and gay liberation is truly 'his' history, when he never had to experience any of it directly. And, in the end, we all agree that 'kindness will solve Chemsex'. Also Including: Internalised homophobia and self-bullying Why is unprotected sex 'cool' again? Insecurities, traumas, and sex When cruelty is a form of coping Drugs and sex cultures around the world New tagline: Be Kinder on Grindr! Find Out More: David's interactive care plan, and his website David's YouTube playlistabout sex, chems and everything in between The Vice documentary, Chemsex Support and information on Chemsex from 56 Dean Street Dr Gabor Maté's work on addiction   Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

Want a Happier Healthier Life? Then ask yourself what would you be prepared to give up in order to have what you really want?   This week’s guest, Nicole van Hattem from “Hot & Healthy, talks with me about what a happier life might be and how you might go about finding it for yourself.  Nicole takes us through how to identify our self-limiting beliefs, the white noise in our heads, and the effect this can have on our life choices, and our experiences of good health.   This is a thought provoking, but fun, conversation about life, the choices we make and how they might change depending on your stage in life.   One of Nicole’s top tips…. Be Kinder to Yourself……